Has fear of future regret ever held you back from fully embracing the childfree life? Subscribe to our Podcast here: www.buzzsprout.com/2136053/share Also, what topics would you like us to cover in future episodes?
I love this episode just like all other episodes. As far as people who end up having kids, even though they didn’t want kids, I have some statistics to share actually. The other day, I was thinking about all the stories of parents that ended up as parents, even though they didn’t wanna be. There was a total of 23 such people. Out of that., 21 regretted having children and wished they had stuck to their gut. Two out of 23 did not have regrets. So to do the math, that means 91% of those people regretted not sticking to the gut and only 9% didn’t have regrets. So that’s very telling and it shows that the 9% are the exception rather than the rule. So my point is., if someone tries to convince you to have kids just because they know someone who didn’t want them, but ended up happy, don’t listen to them. Take that with a grain of salt. Nobody knows you better than you.
We weren't able to have children but adore this channel...so refreshing and real....I really enjoy u both...its like spending time with good friends...really like that u don't come across as this loved up perfect couple...xxxxx
I'm 57, retired, single and childfree, and I don't regret it in the slightest bit!!! Why should I regret something that I never wanted to do in the first place?? I wish people would leave childfree people alone and let us live in peace!!!
Looking at all the misbehaved children and miserable parents: Nah, I'll be fine! I don't like children and interacting with them is so draining for me, I don't see how that could change in the futurr. Plus I am young and I defenetely going to enjoy my youth. The world is getting worse and worse while each generation says that their children will turn things around. I am not a child anymore so people can hope for Gen Alpha while I go to University and be the stereotype of a hot Partygirl. Plus I do professional dressage and motherhood would just ruin that. You can't train with a big womb and recovering after the traumatic experiences of birth can take many months. And I am 100% sure that the traumatic pain causes the postpartum depression. Nope, my passion hobbies and interests are more important than giving Elon Musk new customers and workslaves. Looking at my superhappy childfree aunt, I know I will be happy without pregnancy damage, premature aging due to lack of sleep and money just for myself without doing childcare and household work most of the time. I am to selfish to always put someone else's needs first.
Glad to hear your perspective and I'm actually glad you are able to admit you are to selfish to put someone else's needs before yours. Motherhood does involve putting others first sometimes so I can understand why it's off-putting, but personally it is a blessing. Mom of 4+
"I am too selfish to always put someone else's needs first." I think it is a funny assumption that people who don’t want kids are selfish. I would like to argue it is a selfless choice. Why? Children require a lot of money and resources. A lot of people struggle to feed their kids because they don’t have enough money or time to dedicate to those kids. I believe it is more selfish to have kids in that regard - knowing you can’t afford them or provide them with enough attention, but having them anyway. If you are already on food stamps, struggle to make ends meet, or have any sort of addictions/issues that make even taking care of yourself difficult - then having a child you cannot care for is purely selfish.
I was also going to mention, "this childfree people really do need to seriously invest to afford high-quality care when they are elderly as there will be no family alternative." As the previous person said, forgot to add it in.
Has fear of future regret ever held you back from fully embracing the childfree life?
Subscribe to our Podcast here: www.buzzsprout.com/2136053/share Also, what topics would you like us to cover in future episodes?
I love this episode just like all other episodes. As far as people who end up having kids, even though they didn’t want kids, I have some statistics to share actually. The other day, I was thinking about all the stories of parents that ended up as parents, even though they didn’t wanna be. There was a total of 23 such people. Out of that., 21 regretted having children and wished they had stuck to their gut. Two out of 23 did not have regrets. So to do the math, that means 91% of those people regretted not sticking to the gut and only 9% didn’t have regrets. So that’s very telling and it shows that the 9% are the exception rather than the rule. So my point is., if someone tries to convince you to have kids just because they know someone who didn’t want them, but ended up happy, don’t listen to them. Take that with a grain of salt. Nobody knows you better than you.
We weren't able to have children but adore this channel...so refreshing and real....I really enjoy u both...its like spending time with good friends...really like that u don't come across as this loved up perfect couple...xxxxx
Far from perfect! Thanks so much for hanging with us 💗💗
I am really enjoying these podcasts. These topics deserve a long length of time to dive into.
I know, so much to discuss! Thanks for listening! 😍
I love your podcasts! You guys literally look the same, lol!! :D
I’m 44. No regurts. Well, this coming from a neurodivergent person… keep up the good work!
Happy for you and thank you!
I'm 57, retired, single and childfree, and I don't regret it in the slightest bit!!! Why should I regret something that I never wanted to do in the first place?? I wish people would leave childfree people alone and let us live in peace!!!
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Everybody who is sitting in a max. security prison right now is somebody's kid. Just saying. Nobody wants think about their kid being a total disaster
It's a hard thing to imagine for parents but yes, absolutely possible.
Looking at all the misbehaved children and miserable parents:
Nah, I'll be fine!
I don't like children and interacting with them is so draining for me, I don't see how that could change in the futurr.
Plus I am young and I defenetely going to enjoy my youth. The world is getting worse and worse while each generation says that their children will turn things around.
I am not a child anymore so people can hope for Gen Alpha while I go to University and be the stereotype of a hot Partygirl. Plus I do professional dressage and motherhood would just ruin that. You can't train with a big womb and recovering after the traumatic experiences of birth can take many months. And I am 100% sure that the traumatic pain causes the postpartum depression. Nope, my passion hobbies and interests are more important than giving Elon Musk new customers and workslaves.
Looking at my superhappy childfree aunt, I know I will be happy without pregnancy damage, premature aging due to lack of sleep and money just for myself without doing childcare and household work most of the time.
I am to selfish to always put someone else's needs first.
Glad to hear your perspective and I'm actually glad you are able to admit you are to selfish to put someone else's needs before yours.
Motherhood does involve putting others first sometimes so I can understand why it's off-putting, but personally it is a blessing. Mom of 4+
"I am too selfish to always put someone else's needs first."
I think it is a funny assumption that people who don’t want kids are selfish. I would like to argue it is a selfless choice. Why?
Children require a lot of money and resources. A lot of people struggle to feed their kids because they don’t have enough money or time to dedicate to those kids. I believe it is more selfish to have kids in that regard - knowing you can’t afford them or provide them with enough attention, but having them anyway.
If you are already on food stamps, struggle to make ends meet, or have any sort of addictions/issues that make even taking care of yourself difficult - then having a child you cannot care for is purely selfish.
I was also going to mention, "this childfree people really do need to seriously invest to afford high-quality care when they are elderly as there will be no family alternative."
As the previous person said, forgot to add it in.