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This is me as well. When I want to sleep😴 I sleep. When I want to go out, nothing holding me back. What I want to spend my money on, that's what I do. No shade to mothers because I honestly could not do what they do. I can't carry another human being inside my body for 9 months. I could not go through childbirth. I couldn't have the constant crying, noise, mess, chaos, and over stimulation in my home. I can not conceive of having to consider the implications on someone else's life with every decision I make. I would never be able to deal with a special needs or sick child. That is why I deviated from the norm. I know me and know I would make an awful mother. I just couldn't do it.
No. My To Do list is very long and I must get at least 120 at perfect health to do everything I want to do. Boring people will always be bored, and they confuse Stress with something they could really enjoy. I can't imagine being bored, I don't know that feeling. Bored people might lack the feeling of always knowing what to do and they project it on others.
I have always worked part time hours as like spending more time off with husband friends and dogs...colleagues in work who have kids can't understand how I an work part time with no kids...as if u can only work part time if you have kids...but they will ask ne am I not bored on my time off...Nooooo....no kids never bored
I remember Mr and Mrs Dink from Doug. I didn't get it until a few years ago. I remember seeing a few reactions from the We're DINKS and of course they said "They're selfish, will never know love or whatnot" it's just silly because they're often imposing their worldview and experiences over mine
I genuinely feel sad for adult human beings who can't dream up a single way to stave off boredom EXCEPT to have kids. And as you said, having a kid sounds incredibly boring! Watching the same movie for the millionth time, spending hours in traffic as you chauffeur your kid to activities, listening to irrelevant teenage drama...I'll pass. Re: the DINK backlash, a while ago my city had a vote to change the zoning of an area in order to allow multi-family housing, and the talking point of the people against it was "our schools will be too full!" I guarantee those are the same people who criticize DINKs for not contributing any children to society.
@@kjetternthere has never been a good time to have children. Name any era you want and i will give you 5 reasons why having children would be a terrible idea. Even if the world was 100% perfect it would be pointless. We aren't working towards some ultimate goal. We are just unwilling NPCs in the worst videogame ever created.
@@kjetternseem is the keyword. Go to the regretful parent subreddit. It's very taboo to admit you regret becoming a parent so of course parents will defend that position. An alcoholic will defend being an alcoholic, that doesn't make it right.
@@kjettern But he asked a legitimate question. WHY does the human race need to continue? So we can have continous wars, continuous violence, continuous racism/sexism/hatred, so humans can continue destroying each other and this planet? So the 1% can continue having wage slaves to feed capitalism and their pockets? So more kids can be raised by a TV and electronic devices? There is way more bad than good in this world, but you natalists continue to ignore and justify it. You people can't even maintain healthy relationships for the most part to bring up happy and well adjusted children, but you want to keep this sh*t show going? That is one thing all parents have in common: the ability to gaslight themselves and try to do it to those who live differently than them. As soon as you have babies, your empathy and tolerance go right out the window.
Your channel has been so helpful. I am approaching 30 and my partner and I are considering our decision to have a child or be childfree. We both would love to have a child but we are waiting to see as I have mental illness and I don't feel ready yet. Thank you for sharing all of this comforting information
Have friends who have adult children in their 20s still living at home....one word...nitemare...they will have to keep working to 70 at least no hope of retirement
Not at all. Not even in my old age. I think I would need 7 lives to pursue all my dreams, passions and interests. Also to expand my horizons, meeting new people and voluntering. This world needs a lot of love and beauty. I have seen a lot of inspiring childfree people changing this world for the better because of their unconditional love for people beyond their own bloodlines. And it is also healthy to enjoy alone time, have a good rest, do nothing and replenish.
If you think about it, many people with kids are bored, especially the ones who really didn't want kids in the first place. The amount of neglect I see at my job on a daily basis would nake you lose faith in humanity. In any case, I would rather be bored than over stimulated, frustrated, sleep deprived, struggling financially, and living my life for other people. There is too much to do in this world for childfree people to be bored. 😂
I'm wondering if you could have a conversation about long term life without children. I have a couple neighbors who are child free. One is an elderly couple, one is middle age couple. One is a middle aged man, lives alone. We see the struggles of the elderly couple that come with age. We help when we can, we can see they are in need of help. I would gladly send my own boys to help with the heavy lifting, but yet there are still too young. For sure our boys will able to help the child free couple and the man who lives alone as they get older. Could you talk about the long term child free life and the struggles that come with it. They are not family, but do feel a sense of responsibility to care for those around us.
People can build lasting relationships which seems to be easier when you are childfree and have thought about that in your youth. My childfree aunt is 55 and she is super active and builds friendships with people of all ages. She lives by herself because she enjoys the peace after long days of work and socializing and hobbies where she is with other people. I don't think she will be alone in 10, 20, or 30 years. My grandgrandmother outlive my grandgrandfather but she was always very social and now, at 104, she gives free lessons in englisch, frech, Russland and math for the grandgrandchildren of friends and aqquintences. In her appartement. She lives alone to and she enjoys the peace after the kids and young adults go home. She will go to a nersuery home but she will give free lessons till she cant. It's about planning and thinking of the future. Which everyone should do.
This OP sounds the usual bingo of "have kids so you have help and caretakers when you get old." How many people did just that, including my own parents, then found out they played themselves? My parents had 5 of us. None of us were around to take care of them in old age. They both also died alone. We were too busy traveling and going about our lives to bother caring for them. That is what paid caregivers are for. 🤷🏾
Personally it's a ridiculous statement to say parents have children to help them as they age. When my spouse and I have children, we don't think yeah sure we could use some help when we get old. It's quite the contrary. We want to grow our family. It's really that simple. We see children as a blessing.
@@GodSoLoved.Yeshua Then you need to clarify because, as childfree people, that is the statement that we hear 99.9% of the time from people telling us why we need to have children. They say NOTHING about blessings, nothing about love, nothing about the kids. It's always "WHO IS GOING TO TAKE CARE OF YOU WHEN YOU ARE OLD?" I guess you are an exception, but the RULE is people having children to benefit themselves. The kids don't matter. From where I'm standing, parenthood looks like a total nightmare. The few feel good and cuddly moments there are just does not cancel out the disadvantages for us childfree. No thanks.
She should not even be with him. No ultimatum, just leave. He’s shown to be a selfish liar and isn’t thinking of her at all. Why would you stay married to someone like that? She’s digging her own grave by staying and I foresee an unhappy marriage ahead
Hi Mary- Thanks for watching! Yes, we bounce around. We are new at this and are working our way through how to best host these podcasts. At this point, we just go with what feels organic so we'll see if we focus more on one topic as time goes. We'll see!
Are you concerned about being bored in the future?
Subscribe to our Podcast here: www.buzzsprout.com/2136053/share Also, what topics would you like us to cover in future episodes?
Nope. Kids are too busy and I just want to do what I want, sometimes it's nothing.
Love it! 🎉
This is me as well. When I want to sleep😴 I sleep. When I want to go out, nothing holding me back. What I want to spend my money on, that's what I do.
No shade to mothers because I honestly could not do what they do. I can't carry another human being inside my body for 9 months. I could not go through childbirth. I couldn't have the constant crying, noise, mess, chaos, and over stimulation in my home. I can not conceive of having to consider the implications on someone else's life with every decision I make. I would never be able to deal with a special needs or sick child. That is why I deviated from the norm. I know me and know I would make an awful mother. I just couldn't do it.
how dare you to enjoy your life. lol
No.
My To Do list is very long and I must get at least 120 at perfect health to do everything I want to do.
Boring people will always be bored, and they confuse Stress with something they could really enjoy.
I can't imagine being bored, I don't know that feeling.
Bored people might lack the feeling of always knowing what to do and they project it on others.
Yes, I do agree! I love that you have a lengthy To Do list as well. There is so much opportunity for us! 🧡
Happy Birthday Rick! Glad you had a wonderful birthday celebration!
Thank you soo much! 🧡🧡
I have always worked part time hours as like spending more time off with husband friends and dogs...colleagues in work who have kids can't understand how I an work part time with no kids...as if u can only work part time if you have kids...but they will ask ne am I not bored on my time off...Nooooo....no kids never bored
Happy to hear!!
So funny when Rick was like: “ya it also sounds awful” 34:46
😂😂
I remember Mr and Mrs Dink from Doug. I didn't get it until a few years ago.
I remember seeing a few reactions from the We're DINKS and of course they said "They're selfish, will never know love or whatnot" it's just silly because they're often imposing their worldview and experiences over mine
Which is why we should all do what is best for each of us.
The DINK but not childfree actually frustrates me because they capitalize the market with vitality but yet aren’t even childfree 😅
I understand!
Nope
I genuinely feel sad for adult human beings who can't dream up a single way to stave off boredom EXCEPT to have kids. And as you said, having a kid sounds incredibly boring! Watching the same movie for the millionth time, spending hours in traffic as you chauffeur your kid to activities, listening to irrelevant teenage drama...I'll pass.
Re: the DINK backlash, a while ago my city had a vote to change the zoning of an area in order to allow multi-family housing, and the talking point of the people against it was "our schools will be too full!" I guarantee those are the same people who criticize DINKs for not contributing any children to society.
interesting!
I would much rather be bored not having kids than to be riddled with a lifetime of guilt for bringing a life into this awful world.
@@kjetternthere has never been a good time to have children. Name any era you want and i will give you 5 reasons why having children would be a terrible idea. Even if the world was 100% perfect it would be pointless. We aren't working towards some ultimate goal. We are just unwilling NPCs in the worst videogame ever created.
@@kjetternseem is the keyword. Go to the regretful parent subreddit. It's very taboo to admit you regret becoming a parent so of course parents will defend that position. An alcoholic will defend being an alcoholic, that doesn't make it right.
@@kjetternwhy does the human race need to continue?
@@kjettern But he asked a legitimate question. WHY does the human race need to continue? So we can have continous wars, continuous violence, continuous racism/sexism/hatred, so humans can continue destroying each other and this planet? So the 1% can continue having wage slaves to feed capitalism and their pockets? So more kids can be raised by a TV and electronic devices? There is way more bad than good in this world, but you natalists continue to ignore and justify it. You people can't even maintain healthy relationships for the most part to bring up happy and well adjusted children, but you want to keep this sh*t show going? That is one thing all parents have in common: the ability to gaslight themselves and try to do it to those who live differently than them. As soon as you have babies, your empathy and tolerance go right out the window.
@@kjetternsimply answer the question.
Your channel has been so helpful. I am approaching 30 and my partner and I are considering our decision to have a child or be childfree. We both would love to have a child but we are waiting to see as I have mental illness and I don't feel ready yet. Thank you for sharing all of this comforting information
Have friends who have adult children in their 20s still living at home....one word...nitemare...they will have to keep working to 70 at least no hope of retirement
Yikes! We hear this a lot unfortunately.
Not at all. Not even in my old age. I think I would need 7 lives to pursue all my dreams, passions and interests. Also to expand my horizons, meeting new people and voluntering. This world needs a lot of love and beauty. I have seen a lot of inspiring childfree people changing this world for the better because of their unconditional love for people beyond their own bloodlines. And it is also healthy to enjoy alone time, have a good rest, do nothing and replenish.
If you think about it, many people with kids are bored, especially the ones who really didn't want kids in the first place. The amount of neglect I see at my job on a daily basis would nake you lose faith in humanity.
In any case, I would rather be bored than over stimulated, frustrated, sleep deprived, struggling financially, and living my life for other people. There is too much to do in this world for childfree people to be bored. 😂
Yes, it is absolutely our choice to do as we please.
I'm wondering if you could have a conversation about long term life without children.
I have a couple neighbors who are child free. One is an elderly couple, one is middle age couple. One is a middle aged man, lives alone.
We see the struggles of the elderly couple that come with age.
We help when we can, we can see they are in need of help.
I would gladly send my own boys to help with the heavy lifting, but yet there are still too young.
For sure our boys will able to help the child free couple and the man who lives alone as they get older.
Could you talk about the long term child free life and the struggles that come with it.
They are not family, but do feel a sense of responsibility to care for those around us.
People can build lasting relationships which seems to be easier when you are childfree and have thought about that in your youth.
My childfree aunt is 55 and she is super active and builds friendships with people of all ages.
She lives by herself because she enjoys the peace after long days of work and socializing and hobbies where she is with other people. I don't think she will be alone in 10, 20, or 30 years.
My grandgrandmother outlive my grandgrandfather but she was always very social and now, at 104, she gives free lessons in englisch, frech, Russland and math for the grandgrandchildren of friends and aqquintences. In her appartement. She lives alone to and she enjoys the peace after the kids and young adults go home. She will go to a nersuery home but she will give free lessons till she cant.
It's about planning and thinking of the future. Which everyone should do.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts!
My point was a topic idea for a future video.
This OP sounds the usual bingo of "have kids so you have help and caretakers when you get old." How many people did just that, including my own parents, then found out they played themselves?
My parents had 5 of us. None of us were around to take care of them in old age. They both also died alone. We were too busy traveling and going about our lives to bother caring for them. That is what paid caregivers are for. 🤷🏾
Personally it's a ridiculous statement to say parents have children to help them as they age.
When my spouse and I have children, we don't think yeah sure we could use some help when we get old.
It's quite the contrary. We want to grow our family.
It's really that simple. We see children as a blessing.
@@GodSoLoved.Yeshua Then you need to clarify because, as childfree people, that is the statement that we hear 99.9% of the time from people telling us why we need to have children. They say NOTHING about blessings, nothing about love, nothing about the kids. It's always "WHO IS GOING TO TAKE CARE OF YOU WHEN YOU ARE OLD?"
I guess you are an exception, but the RULE is people having children to benefit themselves. The kids don't matter. From where I'm standing, parenthood looks like a total nightmare. The few feel good and cuddly moments there are just does not cancel out the disadvantages for us childfree. No thanks.
Nope 😊
She should not even be with him. No ultimatum, just leave. He’s shown to be a selfish liar and isn’t thinking of her at all. Why would you stay married to someone like that? She’s digging her own grave by staying and I foresee an unhappy marriage ahead
Hopefully it works out somehow!
I’m sink….single income no kids
Most of the time you are talking about something else than it’s in the topic. That’s in every single episode.
Hi Mary- Thanks for watching! Yes, we bounce around. We are new at this and are working our way through how to best host these podcasts. At this point, we just go with what feels organic so we'll see if we focus more on one topic as time goes. We'll see!