The Dark Tetrad: Exploring the depths of Sadism
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- Опубліковано 16 тра 2024
- The Dark Tetrad is a psychological concept that refers to the combination of four personality traits: narcissism, Machiavellianism, psychopathy, and sadism.
This podcast looks at the trait of sadism and the different ways it manifests when co-morbid with the other traits.
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Interesting breakdown, there is definitely overlap and often, a combination of all four tetrads. The toxic sadistic types I encountered are usually very impulsive, yet calculating (seeking to maximize situations to their advantage at the expense of others), rageful at the smallest perceived imperfection of others, especially service staff, enjoying the chaos caused by the threat of being fired due to the sadist's complaints, but also quietly smirking and expressing schadenfreude when witnessing the bullying and distress of others. The cruel smirk is the best tell. They are also narcissistic, selfish, entitled and unable to empathize except superficially. What would be most helpful is a summary of strategies to deal with the tetrads and the chaos they intentionally cause, besides gray rock and not contact. Its true though, that once identified, its best not to have anything to do with these toxic people. Run, don't walk.
That was really interesting, very much so. My experience is with what I thought was a borderline personality disordered sibling who hasn’t been diagnosed with anything. I always saw a lot of sadism in their behaviour and no empathy or compassion, lots of self pity though! I learnt a lot then, thank you.
This describes a lot of people in my life.
me too... having malignant mother, covert father, covert husband, overt sibling.. everyday i walk on eggshells
@@penijoni1316, I feel for you. I'm in an environment I don't belong to; a black sheep of my family. Sometimes I feel like I'm the only one sane and with common sense in it. I'd leave them all behind if I could and never look back.
Darren this was very good and succinct. Can you please do more on the dark tetrad ? Thank you.
Will do 👍
A lot of that going on in our wider culture at the moment.
Youve convinced me, my mother is a sadist. She fits all the qualifications
Yes, please do more on this topic. Narcissism is the word of the day, but it doesn't quite cut the mustard for what so many of us are experiencing. Mine is really into sleep deprivation. Don't dare mess with his sleep, but he targets mine like it is his job. He doesn't work, so maybe he thinks it is? He destroyed so many things for me by keeping me in a constant state of sleep deprivation (a free ride to graduate school for one) - but denying he had anything to do with me not getting enough sleep (all lies). This sick behavior has destroyed our marriage, and so he ramped it up to be even more abusive to my sleep, but he won't take an ounce of responsibility for it. If I were to confront him, he would intimidate and rage at me, and then claim victim hood as well for me daring to call him out. This sleep deprivation stuff is definitely Spineless Sadism, because there are fewer things more spineless and cowardly than targeting and bullying a woman when she is most vulnerable and defenseless - when she is asleep. Can a person be anymore of a coward than this? If you talk about the sleep deprivation, please, please make certain to emphasis the cowardly side of doing something like this because these abusers think they are being real men when they steal sleep from us, something just as important to life as food and water. Many would rain fury down on someone being so abusive to their mothers or sisters, but bloat up on the sick power of being able to do it to us. Mine has also done lots of other cowardly and secretive things to me - hacking into my devices and putting spyware on them, hidden cameras in the house, etc. Just straight up twisted stuff. But then, there are the other sadist types, too, that he qualifies under. He is not just a cowardly sadist, he can also be very rageful, etc. He can be a pretty toxic mix of the other types. I loved this man so much, and I trusted him completely. Which was a total, huge, mistake! He presented himself as so gentle, sweet, and vulnerable, and that is who I fell in love with, and who could still show up, but there is a whole 'nother side to him as well when he is bored, irked, doesn't get his way, etc., and he sleep deprived me, intimidated, bullied, and controlled me, and turned my world upside down. No one needs to tell me to get out. We've fizzled out as I began to figure things out, and began building stronger walls. I am still here as I try to plan for my future, but he now is looking for a new target.
Similar situation here… I almost had a breakdown due to my husband’s sleep deprivation tactics. He, too, was unemployed at that point, and woe betide any of the family who interrupted his naps, siestas and nights.
I also had several instances of waking up fighting to breathe; he was always there, watching me, which made me suspicious, but I had no proof.
My biological mother was actually harassing me and gaslighting me. She’s not a victim.
And we are not the same or doing things that are similar.
This was fascinating, and we'd love to learn more.
Thank you Darren. You have just described quite a few people I have known and knew. Spot on.
You are describing my colleagues.
To: Dr. D Magee ............. Thanks For Talking To Us .................🎉🎉🎉
That was amazing! This is one area I've never understood at all,but have seen areas that made me frown if nothing else in my relationship.
My ex is extremely sadistic
Creating chaos from a distance & watching it unfold also leaves an opening for the sadist to then swoop in & befriend/support the victim, a dichotomy of being both the instigator & the rescuer.
#2 I think that this type of behaviour (not turning up) is because hedonism is the utmost priority, over anyone or anything else.
Take away from this video topic; confirmed that both parents are sadists. Both tick the 4 boxes, however present totally differently.
On a documentary about Morrissey, the singer, I remember that one of the interviewees said that in order to be friends with Morrissey one had to, as soon as someone left the room, immediately start finding fault with that person and picking them to pieces. I had a mother who did the same thing, and at the time I thought it was normal to be that bitchy.
This was very helpful and easy to understand - thanks Darren.
Very useful, thank you.
Thank you…
Thanks!
Thank you so much for your kindness and I’m glad you found it interesting
They’re insecure demons i only dealt with terror and horror
So, what is the solution to these beasts?
in short, they are
one nasty trick ponies
What does tetrad mean?
A group or set of four.
That's my family ur talking about. They are evil
What you're really exploring is the depths of satan.
2 Tim 3:12,13 Yea, and all that will live godly in Christ Jesus shall suffer persecution. ¹³ But evil men and seducers shall wax worse and worse, deceiving, and being deceived.
Ps 1:6 For the LORD knoweth the way of the righteous: but the way of the ungodly shall perish.
Prov 11:31 Behold, the righteous shall be recompensed in the earth: much more the wicked and the sinner.
Prov 11:19,21 As righteousness tendeth to life: so he that pursueth evil pursueth it to his own death. ²¹ Though hand join in hand, the wicked shall not be unpunished: but the seed of the righteous shall be delivered.
Religious narcissism. Is a thing. Research it.