Seriously imagine a whole community telling you to leave them alone and you make videos telling them why they should want you. Jesus, males. Date each other.
Men do get that question more in their personal life. If you're asking why that question isn't asked in general or online as much, it's simply because women are not interested in men as much as men are interested in women.
@@joeydoherty368Bull. Men are only interested in using and abusing women, not in women themselves. And no one calls men selfish for choosing not to marry or be CF. All throughout the 2000s marriage was marketed as a trap aimed at men, so I see no reason why these men should care about women not caring about being enslaved.
Plan b is continue to be a full grown independent adult. Access what my life goals are and in my particular situation go to a fertility clinic and get artificially inseminated because I realized I was more interested in being a mother than I was a wife.
because its accepted for men to be forever bachelors....think back to the days of george clooney and now leonardo who is now this gens george clooney...men love that these men were running around banging different women...they turned on george when he married alma.....so they are now propping up leonardo even tho hes giving off pedo vibes lol so yea they wont ask men society gave women a free pass to never get married while they are dragging women
The red pill say it all the time actually lol. Basically They say it's no benefit to getting married as women don't do traditional anymore. They also claim women get more in divorces. Some say to get your passport and leave to find love and the others say we all a lost cause 😂😂😂😂
😂😂 But tbh it’s probably because they use marriage as a bargaining chip. They dangle the promise of marriage when they try to manipulate women into relationship dynamics that aren’t in their best interest. That’s how we see the end results of baby mamas, forever girlfriends, and the foundation of struggle love. If women aren’t chasing marriage or in a rush to get married, they can’t future fake her the promise of a fulfilling relationship while being a present shitty partner. They’d actually have to showcase and prove to her he’s a viable marriage candidate and in a certain amount of time(up to her) actually propose. And they don’t want to do that.
Because their Plan A was to waste womens' time until they fell right into the grave, and marriage was their plan B. But, increasingly, it's harder for low-value men to do either.
Control. As long as black women are obsessed with marriage, then black men have all the power in the dating market. Black men don't have enough intrinsic value in the global dating market because they lack the wealth and power of other races of men. Their way of protecting themselves and avoiding actual competition with other men is by keeping black women obsessed with the idea of getting "chose" by a black man. It's like dangling a carrot in front of a hungry rabbit and knowing you will never give that rabbit the carrot...that's how black men treat black women. Once black women stop caring about marriage or open our dating options to other races of men, black men will lose ALL of their power on the dating scene. And I men ALL of it. Black men need for black women to stay desperate for marriage because it keeps our standards low. They don't want to be better men so they rather emotionally manipulate us into choosing them.
@@JasonFlake-op1ll Who's supposed to be that? 'Cause it's definitely not the one who never set a foot in that land. And has absolutely no interest in doing so. Ever.
I’m living it and now I’m walking away from a 8 year marriage,it’s not fulfilling to me and I would rather be single and in peace then stay in this miserable marriage with this ungrateful unappreciated man✌🏽 marriage benefits a man more in my opinion
@@spirals73 hehehe, I just imagined a Tafiki sized, middle aged lady looking down at toy soldiers, whacking their spears together and at Her toes. It tickles, I bet 😂
He's a relationship coach, so he profits on making women anxious about being married. As someone who purports himself to "look out" for women, he should encourage women not to seek value outside of themselves, especially if it's something that is unattainable for many.
Before women had the right to vote, become educated, work outside the home, amass income, have a credit card or purchase a home, marriage was the ONLY way for them to obtain these things. Marriage is no long a necessity. In my case I’m single, CF, pet free and dust free. I own my home on a one-acre plot. With the investments I’ve made and by being very frugal, I was able to leave my job this past December. I’m in the planning stages of my garden so I’m good.
Their goal is just to be taken care of. I have an older male friend who is a lifelong bachelor, he told his friend that I’m going to take care of him as he gets older. I told him I’ll come visit him in a nursing home… lol. Men do not want to get married for the right reasons, they want a caregiver/surrogate mother.
Why is he concerned about women? Fifty-one (51%) of BM have never married. The overall marriage rate, in America, is less than 50% according to the recent census. Women initiate most divorces. There's an epidemic of male loneliness in America. What about men? What is their plan B? Why just ask the women?
Because men DONT HAVE a PLAN B. ITS EITHER become successful enough to survive... OR DIE. BECOME ECONOMICALLY successful to raise a family... or be single and run thru hoes.
Times have drastically changed. Marriage, family, kids are no longer a woman’s plan A anymore. That question would’ve been valid maybe 10 or more years ago. Marriage is no longer something to aspire to
@@JasonFlake-op1ll everybody is not a 304. Women no longer need men to have access to money which is power. Only a small percent of men are desirable & most of them are already married. The rest are just trying to guilt trip you into settling for them.
@@JasonFlake-op1ll not everyone. The small percent of desirable men are already married & not on the internet complaining about women. & the rest are out here trying to guilt you into settling for them
@elijahmorris6534 That's not at all true. Marriage is technically and historically a business transaction. The only reason it got tangled up with religion was so the church could have more power and control over their flock. Also, church-going people get divorced everyday.
This is a ridiculous question because we are no longer living in the time when women had to depend on men and marriage to survive. My plan A-Z is ME, MYSELF, AND I. To me, a man is an optional companion for a good time, but not a requirement in my life for any kind of fulfillment or happiness. He should be asking this question to MEN, who far outnumber women statistically when it comes to dying alone.
@@HaleyJo1992 I mean... Context clues will tell you that men have a long history of sermonizing women and moreso online. If men are talking specifically to men, they usually say so. As women, we find his delivery to be concern trolling.
A lot of women do still have marriage as a main life goal though. I think his intention was to warn people against centering their lives around marriage because it can go so wrong for some people, especially women.
To answer his question, I plan to be (B) fabulous and free. Side note: Not interested in marriage. He should be specific as to whom this question is geared towards.
I'm confused. Didn't he say he was talking to people who want to be married? I've rewatched it a couple times and he just said people who want to be married.
There are hundreds of videos online on "why modern men stopped dating", "why men are choosing not to marry" "modern women are mad men are going their own way". So men don't care if we're married or not, right? Gee, I wonder why they're so obssessed then 🤔😂
My marriage was a miserable experience and I'm so thankful God released me from it. I have 3 beautiful children and could care less if I ever get married again. I'm financially stable and living my best life without a care in the world.
Lord, have mercy. I wish these men would address men. Men need to address the issues that men struggle with. They always need to ask women these questions. When women get an education or business, they call us too independent. Just leave women alone. We know how to manage our own lives, single or married.
Right. Talk to the men. If there were more quality and desirable men, more of us would want to get married. I can't tell you how many men I have dated who threatened to put hands on me, or attempted to stalk after getting my phone number. And the downlow men. Thank God I dont tell men where I live. They refuse to acknowledge that THEY are often the problem. So much deception, pretending to be someone they're not, and lying about stuff they don't even need to lie about.
If you are one of those women that didn't get married you definitely dodged a bullet. Please don't lay around being depressed. There's more to life than a man or 5 children in the house.
Marriage is great, but doesn't equal fulfillment. This you must know. It is also very important to know that there is nothing like a perfect marriage or relationship. I However learnt that in everything there is always a solution, 5 years ago my wife and I were on the brink of a divorce because we were having some difficulties in our marriage but we are back together ,it was a really bad phase but we got through it..
There is a lot of sense in what you just said and I hope mine works the same way too, we are currently separated but I cant live without her, I love her so much. wish I can get her back I can do anything to have her back, we have tried therapy amongst other things
always difficult to let someone you love go, but in my case I had the help of a spiritual adviser who saved my marriage from collapsing her name is Suzanne Ann Walters...
The plan was always to never have kids and to never get married. The plan was always to do things "my way". Always went against the grain. They couldn't sell me on the life "they" said I was supposed to "want". 54 years later and I have absolutely no regrets. What I do have is peace and that was the plan all along 🧘🏾♀️
My mother married a malignant narcissist and was dead at 37 years old. That man was such a awful demon. The stress he brought into that woman’s life was unreal. The abuse was non stop. I know not all marriages are bad but be careful when picking your person, cause your life depends on it, literally. Peace ✌🏾
To play devils advocate here, like Sis at 5:25 pointed out...there are still a LOOOOOT of women out here, especially Black women, who still have every intention of putting all their eggs in the marriage basket. Their mindset is very much "either I'm going to get wifed up or life has no meaning and I'll never learn to be happy again". I think a lot of women DO need to consider the reality that it is possible to have a "happy ending" without having a spouse.
I’m glad you said something. I stopped the video about 3mins in because I felt like the people responding were not his intended audience or the people who he meant that message for.
This implies that marriage was plan A. There is no plan b. I'll just live my life the way I want to. The happiest I've ever been is being completely single - no man in my life to trauma dump on me and my child grew up and left for college. Now, I can focus on myself.
@@JasonFlake-op1ll lol- no my dad taught me to never rely on the government or a man to take care of me. He told me get my education, follow my dreams, achieve my goals and everything else will fall into place. He was right on that point.
@@RebelNutts-gg1xf lol, someone’s a little triggered. I own my own finance business, and art. Both sides of my brain work. You ok? lol. How is lil me getting you so upset that I’m not choosing marriage or a man. Guessing your mad women are passing you by. Major~ Finance Minor ~ economics Aa- HCC ba- Harvard business school My art is a natural gift - never studied or took classes but have won many awards and recognition (that’s my fun money)
😂😂😂😂dude….😂😂😂😂women have plans A to Z,😂😂😂they keep thinking women NEED them. No sir, we want you…sometimes. We will call when we feel you needed. 🤷🏽♀️🤣🤣one thing women do well is organize. He made me laugh so hard. They so desperate now. 😂😂😂
Celibacy is biblically a good thing (1 corinthians 7) For me marriage is like military service: it's more a duty and a responsibility than a thing for our own benefit (that's what men don't understand). It take two whole people to build the society of tomorrow but that's not what we see when we look at couples in general. It's better to stay single than marrying wrong, because the consequences really go beyond the life of two people
Well said. A lot of Christians cherry-pick passages of the Bible to suit the narrative that they want to tell. They like to cherry-pick the passages about getting married and having children, yet there are many passages in the Bible that mention that being single and childless is acceptable in the eyes of G-d.
Stay single indefinitely as I have been 13 years enjoying my life, peace of mind, cats, and surrounding myself around other women. 🎉❤ Marriage is slavery and I'm not giving up my freedom, space, and time for that!
My plan A is to get my law degree and to continue getting promoted in the work place . The majority of marriages are trash. I feel really embarrassed for married women,they look desperate.
👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 you got this! And you’re right! Marriage has never been desirable to me due to the selection of men today and how they think and operate. Very fickle.
That is a very judgmental comment. Why would you tear down other women because they’re married? It’s embarrassing to hear this from another woman. We are our own worst enemies women against women.
Plan B? *Not* getting married is plan A right now. My health is crap and my patience for bullshit from het men is none existant. I plan to turn into a surburban bisexual spinster-witch who makes briquettes for her wood burning stove in her attic library out of spam mail and publications I take a dislike to. I will work three days a week, and spend the other four cackling, growing my own food, and doing very rude things on a semi casual basis if Im able to find someone I can get on with in that sense. Men... are not an important feature of this.
I thought the “Plan A” was to be a productive member of society, regardless. Lol they forgot this is the society that is full of baby mommas, that have to figure out how to make a way regardless. 🤷🏽♀️
And a lot of "single mothers" used to be in committed relationships including marriages. When the relationship ends women are often left holding the bag while he goes off to start over!
Getting married and having kids is NOT every woman's ultimate goal. Every body is not destined to have a marriage ministry. Happiness comes from within. If a woman or man is relying on their partners or prospective partners to grant them happiness, they are in for soul-crushing heart break. Be sure to be healed and a whole person whether you are seeking a partner or not. Choose peace. ❤
It’s actually fun that they will do anything but do better. Become someone you aspire to share your life with….most women now have their money and security and this men don’t know what to do, but gaslight and try to scare us into settling. “I don’t want to have your kids or need your money now what?”
Exactly. I manuever in life with the mentality of being the type of person I’d want to date. But I come across quite a few men who will have a whole list of things they ‘require’ of a partner that they don’t reflect in themselves. These men, whether they admit it or not, are realizing that as our standards are rising they will be left behind and alone with whomever they’re dependent on till they die. And yet even in the face of that, they don’t even want to do better for themselves.
It’s very sad most of this men are manipulative and are abusive behind closed doors, the podcast is exposing them and I am here for it, free speech yourself out of the way. We see you and your toxic waste ways…Personally I don’t decenter men I let them close and hear them speak, they expose themselves “tell on yourself sir. They want you silly and desperate to settle.
My plan A is prioritizing me. Anything and everything else comes second. That includes marriage. As another commenter said I am glad he asked this bc people (men) should really think about that.
My plan b is not getting cheated on, not wasting my money, definitely going on vacations, taking care of animals, tending my spiritual life, buying a house, opening a cosmetics company.
Plan A of being single is the default considering marriage isn't guaranteed, required or even desired by many. Plan B is marriage. Honestly, you need a Plan C for when/if marriage falls apart.
I'm really confused why people are mad - btw I absolutely do not want to be married ever - I've watched the clip several times. He never once said he was talking about women. He said people whose lives revolve around marriage. He was literally saying to NOT make marriage the ultimate goal, the ultimate happiness, because life can do crazy things. I think this is an overreaction, and I was so ready to be mad.
A man is not a plan , thats what i learned ✅ a man will not hesitate to give u not even one day to pack ALL your belongings and have u on yhe street. Luckily for me i had family residing in that same state so i was able to stay with them for 3 months until i got my own apartment 🙏🏻 A man is not a plan 💯🎯✅
I’ve been married over 30 years. My plan A was my education, career, travel, hobbies, pets, friends, family and kids (alone, if I really wanted them). I figured it would be nice if I met a partner along the way to share these things, but it wasn’t necessary- none of my plan A depended on marriage. While living my plan A, I did meet and marry my partner, who was living his plan A. I do know some men and women who had marriage as plan A, but not that many.
Women have a community and they can always have roommates lol but men don’t have one ……also nobody has a picket fence anymore….people can’t even afford an apartment sir….
I'd love to live with my friends and family for life! Men obvi don't want male roommates, that's so gross. They can't stand themselves, there's no way they can stand each other for that long.
😂😂😂 my aunt not married! Her plan A& B was to get rich and enjoy traveling with her nieces and nephews! She has a huge house and her and my oldest daughter are traveling to Portugal later this year! She has NEVER wanted a husband! 😂😂😂😂😂 she laughs about it and said she always knew she didn’t want to take care of a man!
I am screaming 😂😂😂 He even did the eye squinty thing and everything lol! This weekend I’m planning on sleeping in, making a light brunch and driving out to our beautiful lake, enjoying the view and my PEACE.
I was thinking about either driving all the way around our local lake or driving to another. We have a lot of lakes here. Also I think a pedicure is in order.
Why are people acting like women haven't been able to sustain themselves, with out marriage for a good few years now. Ummm, I'll keep living life, thanks, lol
My Plan B was if I got married lol. Since I was a kid I just wanted to live my life. Even when I was a senior in high school, my "Life" plan was something like graduate from college become a doctor maybe a adopt two kids. Then I think my teacher is asked me what about if you get married and I only added it as an alternate universe lol.
This is the perfect way to make YOUR Happiness contingent on a Man and whether he chooses to cooperate and be a team player. I simply cannot subscribe. It’s not even my Plan Z 😂
U can tell he's a Derrick Jackson type. He needs his woman to love him more than he loves her and he needs her to have a certain level of desperation for marriage. His ego couldn't survive a woman who doesn't truly need him.
"Zip the lips, fiddle the walnuts" 🤣🤣🤣 And she's not wrong. A colleague was recently asked how she's been married for so long and she deadazz said "you have to know when to talk and when to be quiet. Be okay with letting things slide qnd just believe your man loves you". 🤯
I don’t think he meant any harm with his question. I think what he was trying to say is for “ the women who do idolize marriage”what’s your plan B if it doesn’t happen? A lot of women never cared and now no longer care for it as we saw in the stitches but sadly some are still consumed by the idea. Some of the responses were a bit angry for no reason because to me there was no ill intent behind the question
Why does a woman’s happiness have to be predicated by marriage?!? Why is the assumption that the pinnacle of a woman’s success and happiness is marriage?!?
Alot of people did get married and it was a shit show. Thank God women are learning that this is a terrible way to find happiness. That women can have a happy fulfilling life with out marriage. I CHOOSE ME😊😊😊😊😊😊
He seems very invested in the answer. My plan A was making money, becoming a homeowner at 23, and continuing to travel. Plan b is whatever I choose for me because I'm whole.
1:10 Um…isn’t the goal to already find and have happiness within me? And not just for women but for everyone. These hot takes really confuse me because the men I come across also try that whole ‘what if you don’t get married’ scare tactic. But in the same breathe none of those men want to get married either. Make it make sense. It’s as if it is in fact a scare tactic to use on women to get them to settle into situationships, struggle love and single motherhood out of the ‘fear’ of being alone. But history and the internet have shown that the women who settled are MISERABLE. And end up alone in separation or death. Case studies have shown we’d literally be happier solo. Men should be concerned what happens if no one wants to be with them. I feel like they’re just beginning to enter their find out season.
Being in a relationship is not the default. Being alone is the default. That's Plan A, that's the base model. It's very important that you learn how to be comfortable in your own presence and, more, happy. Relationships aren't a given. 😊
If God and the universe didn’t ordain for you to end up in a long lasting and happy marriage it doesn’t matter how many times you re-marry it’s never going to happen for u in this lifetime. Find other things and a different purpose to fuel your mission on this earth. Everyone’s path is different!
Hi Priscilla, I would love for you to do a video (or another video) about women who are in healthy relationships, who have found exceptionally amazing guys, chivalrous gentlemen, even if they seem rare. I am single, never married, no children, enjoying my single life. I am not excited about marriage or dating, it feels like some men destroyed marriage, with the cheating, abuse, not helping with parenthood and all the sad things we have seen. But I still want to hope, so it's my humble request if a video or two is still possible
@@monimuppet6132I think they mean men, who are already capable of respecting only other men, are homoromantic, if it's also homoseggsual, then they're really just with women playing them for social appearance and the labour that women provide.
@@ashleyarielle1699that would make them a liar. You don't want a liar. The flaw you should have mention was lying. Since not all bisexual people are liars, you're linking the two moronically. If you consider it a character flaw, say that, but don't justify your conflation with an explanation that doesn't make sense.
I went to school with him! I’m glad he understands that being partnered up is not the be all and end all in life 🙌🏾 I almost thought he was trying to say something slick before I listened!
How about leaving women ALONE.
The obsession is cringy.
😂😂😂
Seriously imagine a whole community telling you to leave them alone and you make videos telling them why they should want you. Jesus, males. Date each other.
Honestly the second hand embarrassment is painful 😂😂😂😂 like bruvvvvv men are so embarrassing
Right leave us alone... if we want to be "unhappily" single thats our choice... mind ya business
It's all projection. Cause WE DO NOT CARE 😂.
Marriage was never my plan A. Plan A was to be single. Nailed it 🙌
Same.
🎯
Lol Me too.
Sounds like we chose peace and are reveling in it. 😂
🕊️ yes 🕊️
Why don’t ppl ever ask men this question of why they don’t ever get married?
Men do get that question more in their personal life. If you're asking why that question isn't asked in general or online as much, it's simply because women are not interested in men as much as men are interested in women.
@@joeydoherty368Bull. Men are only interested in using and abusing women, not in women themselves. And no one calls men selfish for choosing not to marry or be CF. All throughout the 2000s marriage was marketed as a trap aimed at men, so I see no reason why these men should care about women not caring about being enslaved.
Plan b is continue to be a full grown independent adult. Access what my life goals are and in my particular situation go to a fertility clinic and get artificially inseminated because I realized I was more interested in being a mother than I was a wife.
because its accepted for men to be forever bachelors....think back to the days of george clooney and now leonardo who is now this gens george clooney...men love that these men were running around banging different women...they turned on george when he married alma.....so they are now propping up leonardo even tho hes giving off pedo vibes lol so yea they wont ask men society gave women a free pass to never get married while they are dragging women
The red pill say it all the time actually lol. Basically They say it's no benefit to getting married as women don't do traditional anymore. They also claim women get more in divorces. Some say to get your passport and leave to find love and the others say we all a lost cause 😂😂😂😂
Men got it twisted. Men are not the prize.
At all
And they never will be 😂 biologically women are simply more valuable, period.
Are women the prize? All they do is consume resources
He’s assuming that marriage is our Plan A. Many women are getting careers and businesses as plan A
@@somebodycomelistentothispo7217 right he has a prehistoric mindset what a stagnant way to be it's an indirect way to dry beg 🍷
Why is the only demographic of men that are least likely to propose so worried about marriage?🤣🤣
😂😂 But tbh it’s probably because they use marriage as a bargaining chip. They dangle the promise of marriage when they try to manipulate women into relationship dynamics that aren’t in their best interest. That’s how we see the end results of baby mamas, forever girlfriends, and the foundation of struggle love.
If women aren’t chasing marriage or in a rush to get married, they can’t future fake her the promise of a fulfilling relationship while being a present shitty partner. They’d actually have to showcase and prove to her he’s a viable marriage candidate and in a certain amount of time(up to her) actually propose.
And they don’t want to do that.
They like to weaponize marriage to manipulate women. They never actually intend on doing it 😂. However, that tactic isn't working for them anymore.
Because their Plan A was to waste womens' time until they fell right into the grave, and marriage was their plan B.
But, increasingly, it's harder for low-value men to do either.
Yup
Control. As long as black women are obsessed with marriage, then black men have all the power in the dating market. Black men don't have enough intrinsic value in the global dating market because they lack the wealth and power of other races of men. Their way of protecting themselves and avoiding actual competition with other men is by keeping black women obsessed with the idea of getting "chose" by a black man. It's like dangling a carrot in front of a hungry rabbit and knowing you will never give that rabbit the carrot...that's how black men treat black women. Once black women stop caring about marriage or open our dating options to other races of men, black men will lose ALL of their power on the dating scene. And I men ALL of it. Black men need for black women to stay desperate for marriage because it keeps our standards low. They don't want to be better men so they rather emotionally manipulate us into choosing them.
Fools really out here thinking everyone is interested in marriage.
Now that’s the gag!
Ain't nobody want you tuby.
& their special ED offspring 😂
@elijahmorris6534facts 😂 & they use religion to justify their bull
I think he asked because it was seen as a common practice in society that many people seem to follow
The hilarious thing is him thinking that marriage is most women's plan A in this day and age. Hysterical!
Delusional.
I think they all comedians in there after life or something
@@ebonyeverything2751that too
Uncle sam's little girl
@@JasonFlake-op1ll Who's supposed to be that? 'Cause it's definitely not the one who never set a foot in that land. And has absolutely no interest in doing so. Ever.
Why are men so concerned about women not getting married 😂. It’s screaming obsession!
Marriage often limits a woman's growth, creativity and freedom.
Singlehood is peaceful.
But why does he care?? It won't affect him!
Yeah, I thought they were going their own way?
This was him begging for a wife yall😂. He NEEDS a woman to think he's her best option in life otherwise he knows HE'LL be alone.
That part
@@ebonyeverything2751 He's actually married. He might be begging for his male comrades. They need it, lol.😅
Right especially if he's married
Men, marriage, motherhood was NEVER plan A for me.
Men, Marriage, Motherhood, MakeOut makes 4M, this is the American women version of 4B
The end.
I want a relationship, I would be open to marriage but I’m not having anymore children out of my body.
I’m living it and now I’m walking away from a 8 year marriage,it’s not fulfilling to me and I would rather be single and in peace then stay in this miserable marriage with this ungrateful unappreciated man✌🏽 marriage benefits a man more in my opinion
@@Prettyv23 Stand Strong!
"...if nobody marries you?" Do you hear the implied insult there?
I noticed that too. They also always talk so condescendingly to us. Trying to chip away at our self esteem. And with that smug smile.
@@Lilzkiall while pretending to be helpful. Just patronizing. Weirdo
Yup, and I reject it out of hand. I'm 50. These dudes are silly children playing about my feet at this point.
@@spirals73 hehehe, I just imagined a Tafiki sized, middle aged lady looking down at toy soldiers, whacking their spears together and at Her toes. It tickles, I bet 😂
marriage is for people who are already happy fufilled and complete its not for broken people
This comment should be pinned!!!
That part!!!
Only if broken people knew this.
Unfortunately the most broken ones are the ones running down the altar
Unfortunately, most marriages are made up of people in the first group you mentioned. That's why so many kids end up screwed up.
He’s acting like marriage is most womens Plan A… as if Plan A isn’t taking care of ourselves mentally, financially, educationally and physically first
He's a relationship coach, so he profits on making women anxious about being married. As someone who purports himself to "look out" for women, he should encourage women not to seek value outside of themselves, especially if it's something that is unattainable for many.
Bingo!!!!!
Before women had the right to vote, become educated, work outside the home, amass income, have a credit card or purchase a home, marriage was the ONLY way for them to obtain these things. Marriage is no long a necessity. In my case I’m single, CF, pet free and dust free. I own my home on a one-acre plot. With the investments I’ve made and by being very frugal, I was able to leave my job this past December. I’m in the planning stages of my garden so I’m good.
Sounds so peaceful ❤
Love that!
Whew its giving ✨peace and tranquility✨😁
Marriage is the man’s ultimate goal. What is your plan B sir?
Find another fool 😂
Their plan b is to waste a woman’s time and use her
Their goal is just to be taken care of. I have an older male friend who is a lifelong bachelor, he told his friend that I’m going to take care of him as he gets older. I told him I’ll come visit him in a nursing home… lol. Men do not want to get married for the right reasons, they want a caregiver/surrogate mother.
@@MelaniaRoseAnd they’ll end up cheating on her anyway.
That's their plan from A to Z @@MelaniaRose
Marriage is like plan c, d, or e. Lol
Doing my own thing and enjoying my life is plan A.
Z
This
@@BP_Excellentzzzz!
@@BP_Excellentwasn't even in the alphabet of my plans
Exactly. If you want to get married do that. If your happiness is you, do that!
He equates marriage to happiness and that's the issue.
Lots of people do though so he’s not entirely incorrect
Why is he concerned about women? Fifty-one (51%) of BM have never married. The overall marriage rate, in America, is less than 50% according to the recent census. Women initiate most divorces. There's an epidemic of male loneliness in America. What about men? What is their plan B? Why just ask the women?
Because men DONT HAVE a PLAN B.
ITS EITHER become successful enough to survive... OR DIE.
BECOME ECONOMICALLY successful to raise a family... or be single and run thru hoes.
Times have drastically changed. Marriage, family, kids are no longer a woman’s plan A anymore. That question would’ve been valid maybe 10 or more years ago. Marriage is no longer something to aspire to
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@@JasonFlake-op1ll everybody is not a 304. Women no longer need men to have access to money which is power. Only a small percent of men are desirable & most of them are already married. The rest are just trying to guilt trip you into settling for them.
@@JasonFlake-op1ll not everyone. The small percent of desirable men are already married & not on the internet complaining about women. & the rest are out here trying to guilt you into settling for them
@@Risha-Rene No the rest are like you celebrating guys dying left and right on UA-cam.
@@JasonFlake-op1llGood riddance.
I think we've all got the fact that marriage doesn't make women happy. Don't worry about it dude, we'll be just fine.
Marriage doesn't always equal happiness though! Has he heard of people who've been divorced? Smh 🙄
@rachel THANK YOU
Exactly
And people die.
Like your parents?
@elijahmorris6534 That's not at all true. Marriage is technically and historically a business transaction. The only reason it got tangled up with religion was so the church could have more power and control over their flock. Also, church-going people get divorced everyday.
This is a ridiculous question because we are no longer living in the time when women had to depend on men and marriage to survive.
My plan A-Z is ME, MYSELF, AND I. To me, a man is an optional companion for a good time, but not a requirement in my life for any kind of fulfillment or happiness. He should be asking this question to MEN, who far outnumber women statistically when it comes to dying alone.
This man is talking out loud about his anxiety. It's not about women. It's about men's anxiety.
He didn't say women, though. He said people. Are there tags to the original video that show it was directed at just women? I don't have tictok
@@HaleyJo1992 I mean... Context clues will tell you that men have a long history of sermonizing women and moreso online.
If men are talking specifically to men, they usually say so.
As women, we find his delivery to be concern trolling.
A lot of women do still have marriage as a main life goal though. I think his intention was to warn people against centering their lives around marriage because it can go so wrong for some people, especially women.
@@rachecology I will hope that he is speaking from a place of care. ❤️
@humancapital5196 I hope so too, although I tend to be a bit too optimistic about other people's intentions 😣
He must be talking about himself and the rest of the incels and pick Mes 😂
Right. Deflecting because they have no plan A,B or C 🤦🏾♀️
To answer his question, I plan to be (B) fabulous and free. Side note: Not interested in marriage. He should be specific as to whom this question is geared towards.
I'm confused. Didn't he say he was talking to people who want to be married? I've rewatched it a couple times and he just said people who want to be married.
There are hundreds of videos online on "why modern men stopped dating", "why men are choosing not to marry" "modern women are mad men are going their own way".
So men don't care if we're married or not, right? Gee, I wonder why they're so obssessed then 🤔😂
Yet have you noticed these red pill podcast men never responded...they intentionally just keep digging at "modern men"
@@JasonFlake-op1llbetter to be uncle sam's "woe" than being a man's mule
@@JasonFlake-op1llWhy do you keep mentioning Uncle Sam? The women here are not on welfare.
@@Childfree_Forever yes they are you dead brain.
The nerve of this man to get on here talking in front of a grass wall 😂
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My marriage was a miserable experience and I'm so thankful God released me from it. I have 3 beautiful children and could care less if I ever get married again. I'm financially stable and living my best life without a care in the world.
Lord, have mercy. I wish these men would address men. Men need to address the issues that men struggle with. They always need to ask women these questions. When women get an education or business, they call us too independent. Just leave women alone. We know how to manage our own lives, single or married.
Right. Talk to the men. If there were more quality and desirable men, more of us would want to get married. I can't tell you how many men I have dated who threatened to put hands on me, or attempted to stalk after getting my phone number. And the downlow men. Thank God I dont tell men where I live. They refuse to acknowledge that THEY are often the problem. So much deception, pretending to be someone they're not, and lying about stuff they don't even need to lie about.
If you are one of those women that didn't get married you definitely dodged a bullet. Please don't lay around being depressed. There's more to life than a man or 5 children in the house.
Marriage is great, but doesn't equal fulfillment. This you must know. It is also very important to know that there is nothing like a perfect marriage or relationship. I However learnt that in everything there is always a solution, 5 years ago my wife and I were on the brink of a divorce because we were having some difficulties in our marriage but we are back together ,it was a really bad phase but we got through it..
There is a lot of sense in what you just said and I hope mine works the same way too, we are currently separated but I cant live without her, I love her so much. wish I can get her back I can do anything to have her back, we have tried therapy amongst other things
always difficult to let someone you love go, but in my case I had the help of a spiritual adviser who saved my marriage from collapsing her name is Suzanne Ann Walters...
I will look her up online right now.... I hope this works for me too...Thank You
My substance.
My value.
My worth.
Isn't tied to a man.
The plan was always to never have kids and to never get married. The plan was always to do things "my way". Always went against the grain. They couldn't sell me on the life "they" said I was supposed to "want". 54 years later and I have absolutely no regrets. What I do have is peace and that was the plan all along 🧘🏾♀️
My mother married a malignant narcissist and was dead at 37 years old. That man was such a awful demon. The stress he brought into that woman’s life was unreal. The abuse was non stop. I know not all marriages are bad but be careful when picking your person, cause your life depends on it, literally. Peace ✌🏾
Bless you sis, sorry you had your experience this .
From what I've heard, men don't want to get married, so if this guy is aiming his message at women only, he's not really addressing the issue.
Marriage is not the ultimate goal 😂😂😂😂😂
Being single and serving God as best as I can. 💖
Amen sis , best comment on UA-cam.
To play devils advocate here, like Sis at 5:25 pointed out...there are still a LOOOOOT of women out here, especially Black women, who still have every intention of putting all their eggs in the marriage basket. Their mindset is very much "either I'm going to get wifed up or life has no meaning and I'll never learn to be happy again".
I think a lot of women DO need to consider the reality that it is possible to have a "happy ending" without having a spouse.
This right here, this right here ☝️
I’m glad you said something. I stopped the video about 3mins in because I felt like the people responding were not his intended audience or the people who he meant that message for.
Sir, marriage is my plan B. Probably my plan F if I'm keeping it💯 . A bad marriage will literally end your life one way or another.
This implies that marriage was plan A. There is no plan b. I'll just live my life the way I want to. The happiest I've ever been is being completely single - no man in my life to trauma dump on me and my child grew up and left for college. Now, I can focus on myself.
No marriage has ALWAYS been my plan A. That why I turned down 3 proposals and keep Turing down ppl who want a relationship. This guy is delulu.
Uncle sam's little girl
@@JasonFlake-op1ll lol- no my dad taught me to never rely on the government or a man to take care of me. He told me get my education, follow my dreams, achieve my goals and everything else will fall into place.
He was right on that point.
@@masixchell Most likely an degree in art as you dated a loser drug dealer to piss him off.
@@masixchell Bull probably lives off of him as you date some drug dealer to get him made.
@@RebelNutts-gg1xf lol, someone’s a little triggered.
I own my own finance business, and art. Both sides of my brain work.
You ok? lol. How is lil me getting you so upset that I’m not choosing marriage or a man. Guessing your mad women are passing you by.
Major~ Finance
Minor ~ economics
Aa- HCC ba- Harvard business school
My art is a natural gift - never studied or took classes but have won many awards and recognition (that’s my fun money)
😂😂😂😂dude….😂😂😂😂women have plans A to Z,😂😂😂they keep thinking women NEED them. No sir, we want you…sometimes. We will call when we feel you needed. 🤷🏽♀️🤣🤣one thing women do well is organize. He made me laugh so hard. They so desperate now. 😂😂😂
Celibacy is biblically a good thing (1 corinthians 7)
For me marriage is like military service: it's more a duty and a responsibility than a thing for our own benefit (that's what men don't understand).
It take two whole people to build the society of tomorrow but that's not what we see when we look at couples in general.
It's better to stay single than marrying wrong, because the consequences really go beyond the life of two people
Well said.
A lot of Christians cherry-pick passages of the Bible to suit the narrative that they want to tell. They like to cherry-pick the passages about getting married and having children, yet there are many passages in the Bible that mention that being single and childless is acceptable in the eyes of G-d.
Stay single indefinitely as I have been 13 years enjoying my life, peace of mind, cats, and surrounding myself around other women. 🎉❤ Marriage is slavery and I'm not giving up my freedom, space, and time for that!
My plan A is to get my law degree and to continue getting promoted in the work place . The majority of marriages are trash. I feel really embarrassed for married women,they look desperate.
👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 you got this! And you’re right! Marriage has never been desirable to me due to the selection of men today and how they think and operate. Very fickle.
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Stick to your plan and get that law degree and you’re right. I have yet to see 1 admirable marriage from people I know personally, especially women.
Best wishes for law school! 👩🏽🎓💝
That is a very judgmental comment. Why would you tear down other women because they’re married? It’s embarrassing to hear this from another woman. We are our own worst enemies women against women.
Plan B? *Not* getting married is plan A right now. My health is crap and my patience for bullshit from het men is none existant.
I plan to turn into a surburban bisexual spinster-witch who makes briquettes for her wood burning stove in her attic library out of spam mail and publications I take a dislike to.
I will work three days a week, and spend the other four cackling, growing my own food, and doing very rude things on a semi casual basis if Im able to find someone I can get on with in that sense. Men... are not an important feature of this.
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I’m kool! My plan B is me. I make me happy💯💯💯💯💯💯
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Talk truth nuh man
Girl....mic drop!
Right and A and C
@@shaypope4732you are a Jamaican 😂
“Fiddle the LIPS AND ZIP THE WALNUTS, but guess what, I’m not ready”😂😂😂😂 a Mf WORD!!!!!!!!!
I thought the “Plan A” was to be a productive member of society, regardless. Lol they forgot this is the society that is full of baby mommas, that have to figure out how to make a way regardless. 🤷🏽♀️
And a lot of "single mothers" used to be in committed relationships including marriages. When the relationship ends women are often left holding the bag while he goes off to start over!
Getting married and having kids is NOT every woman's ultimate goal. Every body is not destined to have a marriage ministry. Happiness comes from within. If a woman or man is relying on their partners or prospective partners to grant them happiness, they are in for soul-crushing heart break. Be sure to be healed and a whole person whether you are seeking a partner or not. Choose peace. ❤
Lol, it's so funny that they think they are plan A. 😂😂😂 No, willingly signing up to be "submissive" is definitely not my plan . A,B,C orD.
Then I just won't marry. And I don't want any children anyways.
Same 💜
It’s actually fun that they will do anything but do better. Become someone you aspire to share your life with….most women now have their money and security and this men don’t know what to do, but gaslight and try to scare us into settling. “I don’t want to have your kids or need your money now what?”
Exactly.
I manuever in life with the mentality of being the type of person I’d want to date. But I come across quite a few men who will have a whole list of things they ‘require’ of a partner that they don’t reflect in themselves. These men, whether they admit it or not, are realizing that as our standards are rising they will be left behind and alone with whomever they’re dependent on till they die.
And yet even in the face of that, they don’t even want to do better for themselves.
It’s very sad most of this men are manipulative and are abusive behind closed doors, the podcast is exposing them and I am here for it, free speech yourself out of the way. We see you and your toxic waste ways…Personally I don’t decenter men I let them close and hear them speak, they expose themselves “tell on yourself sir. They want you silly and desperate to settle.
My plan A is prioritizing me. Anything and everything else comes second. That includes marriage. As another commenter said I am glad he asked this bc people (men) should really think about that.
Hope you're listening and paying attention ladies. When men show you how out of touch with reality they are, BELIEVE THEM! They're crazy ah.
My plan b is not getting cheated on, not wasting my money, definitely going on vacations, taking care of animals, tending my spiritual life, buying a house, opening a cosmetics company.
Plan A of being single is the default considering marriage isn't guaranteed, required or even desired by many. Plan B is marriage. Honestly, you need a Plan C for when/if marriage falls apart.
I'm really confused why people are mad - btw I absolutely do not want to be married ever - I've watched the clip several times. He never once said he was talking about women. He said people whose lives revolve around marriage. He was literally saying to NOT make marriage the ultimate goal, the ultimate happiness, because life can do crazy things. I think this is an overreaction, and I was so ready to be mad.
“Marriage is something people do & not everyone is good at it”…I love this take.
A man is not a plan , thats what i learned ✅ a man will not hesitate to give u not even one day to pack ALL your belongings and have u on yhe street. Luckily for me i had family residing in that same state so i was able to stay with them for 3 months until i got my own apartment 🙏🏻
A man is not a plan 💯🎯✅
I’ve been married over 30 years. My plan A was my education, career, travel, hobbies, pets, friends, family and kids (alone, if I really wanted them). I figured it would be nice if I met a partner along the way to share these things, but it wasn’t necessary- none of my plan A depended on marriage. While living my plan A, I did meet and marry my partner, who was living his plan A. I do know some men and women who had marriage as plan A, but not that many.
All my divorced girlfriends would laugh this man to oblivion.
Women have a community and they can always have roommates lol but men don’t have one ……also nobody has a picket fence anymore….people can’t even afford an apartment sir….
Exactly, I wouldn't mind living with women !
Having a Golden Girls roommate situation would be a dream retirement plan.
I'd love to live with my friends and family for life!
Men obvi don't want male roommates, that's so gross. They can't stand themselves, there's no way they can stand each other for that long.
😂😂😂 my aunt not married! Her plan A& B was to get rich and enjoy traveling with her nieces and nephews! She has a huge house and her and my oldest daughter are traveling to Portugal later this year! She has NEVER wanted a husband! 😂😂😂😂😂 she laughs about it and said she always knew she didn’t want to take care of a man!
I am screaming 😂😂😂
He even did the eye squinty thing and everything lol!
This weekend I’m planning on sleeping in, making a light brunch and driving out to our beautiful lake, enjoying the view and my PEACE.
I was thinking about either driving all the way around our local lake or driving to another. We have a lot of lakes here. Also I think a pedicure is in order.
Why are people acting like women haven't been able to sustain themselves, with out marriage for a good few years now. Ummm, I'll keep living life, thanks, lol
First off, a man is not a plan
My Plan B was if I got married lol. Since I was a kid I just wanted to live my life. Even when I was a senior in high school, my "Life" plan was something like graduate from college become a doctor maybe a adopt two kids. Then I think my teacher is asked me what about if you get married and I only added it as an alternate universe lol.
He keeps asking about Plan B and over 1 min in he is still asking the bloody question 😂
Some of them are sooo slow 😂😂😂
This is the perfect way to make YOUR Happiness contingent on a Man and whether he chooses to cooperate and be a team player. I simply cannot subscribe. It’s not even my Plan Z 😂
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U can tell he's a Derrick Jackson type. He needs his woman to love him more than he loves her and he needs her to have a certain level of desperation for marriage. His ego couldn't survive a woman who doesn't truly need him.
@@ebonyeverything2751exactly
"Zip the lips, fiddle the walnuts" 🤣🤣🤣 And she's not wrong. A colleague was recently asked how she's been married for so long and she deadazz said "you have to know when to talk and when to be quiet. Be okay with letting things slide qnd just believe your man loves you". 🤯
Yeah that's not good enough for me, no thanks.
That's sounds so, so tiring to deal with everyday. JuSt BeLiEvE yOuR MaN lOvEs YoU 😂
@@BlackRaven000😂😂😂😂lmao
Being single forever is my plan A. And B. And C! 😂
I thought they were getting their passports and leaving??? Why care what women here are doing. They should go get the women who "want" them.
I don’t think he meant any harm with his question. I think what he was trying to say is for “ the women who do idolize marriage”what’s your plan B if it doesn’t happen? A lot of women never cared and now no longer care for it as we saw in the stitches but sadly some are still consumed by the idea. Some of the responses were a bit angry for no reason because to me there was no ill intent behind the question
Why does a woman’s happiness have to be predicated by marriage?!? Why is the assumption that the pinnacle of a woman’s success and happiness is marriage?!?
En l'entendant, je me suis également posée la même question...
Why is marriage the ultimate goal? I've been married now, divorced, and l am living my best life. Plan A staying single, plan b, still staying single.
Why does that guy think repeating himself 15 times over and over again is content?
"You just need to Zip the lips and fiddle the walnuts.. I AIN'T READY!" 😂😂😂 SIS me either 😂
Alot of people did get married and it was a shit show. Thank God women are learning that this is a terrible way to find happiness. That women can have a happy fulfilling life with out marriage. I CHOOSE ME😊😊😊😊😊😊
My plan A was never wanting to be married. So my plan B is to get me another kitten. 😂😂😂
Same here sis . Cats are where it's at.
He seems very invested in the answer. My plan A was making money, becoming a homeowner at 23, and continuing to travel. Plan b is whatever I choose for me because I'm whole.
Plan A is living my life as its currently projected 😂. These men are off their rocker...
If you gotta rely on another person for your own personal happiness then you’re doing it wrong.
Fiddling with walnuts 😂
1:10 Um…isn’t the goal to already find and have happiness within me? And not just for women but for everyone.
These hot takes really confuse me because the men I come across also try that whole ‘what if you don’t get married’ scare tactic. But in the same breathe none of those men want to get married either. Make it make sense.
It’s as if it is in fact a scare tactic to use on women to get them to settle into situationships, struggle love and single motherhood out of the ‘fear’ of being alone.
But history and the internet have shown that the women who settled are MISERABLE. And end up alone in separation or death. Case studies have shown we’d literally be happier solo.
Men should be concerned what happens if no one wants to be with them. I feel like they’re just beginning to enter their find out season.
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Do me! That's the plan B..
Being in a relationship is not the default. Being alone is the default. That's Plan A, that's the base model. It's very important that you learn how to be comfortable in your own presence and, more, happy. Relationships aren't a given. 😊
If God and the universe didn’t ordain for you to end up in a long lasting and happy marriage it doesn’t matter how many times you re-marry it’s never going to happen for u in this lifetime. Find other things and a different purpose to fuel your mission on this earth. Everyone’s path is different!
I did a whole post but you said it better.
It's not my path.
And I do have a mission far and away above marriage.
The universe is God's creation, just like you and me. It is not in charge of anything concerning our lives.
Since marriage and children was never plan A, all is well. But thanks for asking 😊
Hi Priscilla, I would love for you to do a video (or another video) about women who are in healthy relationships, who have found exceptionally amazing guys, chivalrous gentlemen, even if they seem rare. I am single, never married, no children, enjoying my single life. I am not excited about marriage or dating, it feels like some men destroyed marriage, with the cheating, abuse, not helping with parenthood and all the sad things we have seen. But I still want to hope, so it's my humble request if a video or two is still possible
I hope you love this thanks for commenting ❤️
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I AM MY PLAN A!!! No need for a plan B. These men need to stop it
The only way to get over marriage is to get married. You’ll be angry at how overrated it is.
Marriage is not the ultimate goal nowadays. Who wants to marry an abuser, narcissist, bisexual or controlling man? Not me...
I don't know why bisexuals has to be in it. That's not a character flaw.
@@monimuppet6132Them not disclosing their sexuality before marriage is the character flaw.
@@monimuppet6132I think they mean men, who are already capable of respecting only other men, are homoromantic, if it's also homoseggsual, then they're really just with women playing them for social appearance and the labour that women provide.
@@ashleyarielle1699that would make them a liar. You don't want a liar. The flaw you should have mention was lying. Since not all bisexual people are liars, you're linking the two moronically. If you consider it a character flaw, say that, but don't justify your conflation with an explanation that doesn't make sense.
@@ashleyarielle1699 Then that falls under deception, not bisexual.
My plan b is to have casual hook ups then have kids😊.
Those fairytales we read as children really screwed a lot of us , glad we woke up and choosing ourselves as opposed to going with the narrative.
The responses are so spot on. Thank you for sharing these stitches. Realest ish I’ve ever heard as a grown woman. Wish I had this wisdom growing up.
I went to school with him! I’m glad he understands that being partnered up is not the be all and end all in life 🙌🏾 I almost thought he was trying to say something slick before I listened!
Why is the man that least likely to marry asking this question?
Thank you Priscilla
Welcome sis hope all is well ❤️