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+ :1:3:4:7:7:6:9:0:0:5:6 whatzpp him I was like this be'fore I know who can he:lp you out text him now he can solve your problem:: don't waste your time here
Thank you Doctor. I finally understood what I was up against. I tolerated so much but eventually fought back and all the feeling I had for him, was long gone. . I knew how to trigger rage tantrums and silent treatments. I found it so easy, he's behaviors were always limited and predictable. And then I left. A year later, the grandiose, has been sending, regular, victim hood texts. I have pushed his buttons a few times via text, I needed payback, I really did. The emotional games and temper, really got worse. I fell in love with an illusion, not a man, I was duped . it was easy to stop my feelings, my shutters came down . and I had a good laugh at his usual predictable responses. Thank you for educating me. I will spot a narcissist from a mile away. Knowledge really is power. Its so interesting they walk amongst us, but I never thought I'd ever get ensnared with one! Xxx🇬🇧
Many people who have been with, or were raised by, narcissistic folks get what we call "narcissist fleas." They take on the behaviors of the narcissist at their own moments when they are most desperate to be heard. Don't worry. When you get help after distancing yourself from those Hijackals, you will slowly realize that you no longer have need of the "fleas!" As far as ADHD, I'd need to know more about the situations and relationships.
My fiances mother in law reminds me of the communal narcissist. She always wants to be seen as this mother of everyone. So giving ect ect. I believed this until she would do things for me, just to please her son. But then would complain the entire time and make me feel bad for her helping me. Then the cherry on top was when I helped her pay for a wedding gift, I paid for half of her entire gift that she couldn't afford herself (she asked me for help btw) and she didn't even put my name on the card or acknowledge that I helped pay for it. And my biggest question was during the whole thing, why did she want to buy the most expensive gift on the registry? Now I know why, for her image. It was the biggest slap in the face.
Great insight, Carly, and such a sad way to achieve it. My question, though, is how did your fiance respond to this? That will tell you much about who he is.
@@ForRelationshipHelp my fiance was understanding and he sympathized with me being upset. He offered to tell the bride and groom that I also had chipped in and that his mother forgot to put me on the card. He even offered to talk to his mom for me.. But I felt like it would have seemed weird of me to make a big deal so I told him not to say anything because I felt it wouldn't change anything and she would find other passive aggressive ways to get back at me or twist it around like it was my fault. I guess I should have not have felt so defeated on it, but overall he was very supportive of me.
Thank you for taking the time to put this content out there into the world for people it is so helpful, it’s easy to get caught up in emotions and knowing the definitions of these things and the nuances is helpful. I am dealing with some narcissistic traits and a significant other, thankfully I don’t believe that it is anything full-blown at all it really only pertains to one aspect of our relationship. But if I bring up anything that hurt me or I was confused about, if I am upset about something it is as if I’ve done something to slide him. He fights it, and then he makes it about himself. And then he says that he’s not allowed to talk about his feelings. But he only ever brings up his feelings to divert from me bringing up mine. I can’t get them to listen. I don’t know what to do, I am trying so hard and I’m being so logical and so calm.
I’ve got a question. My wife …I directly asked her about when I should schedule my surgery because I knew her daughter was having a c section same week. I asked her if she wanted me to wait until March (January is when doc wanted to schedule). She told me she wouldn’t ask me to do that. I asked if she was sure since I wouldn’t have a problem with waiting. She said she to do wha t I needed to do. So I scheduled suregery. Months later she told me she was upset cuz even though I asked her about scheduling surgery, that I still should have rescheduled for her on my own 🥴 past couple of years has been all about what she was lacking in our relationship even though I was the one diagnosed with bipolar. She also takes on everyone’s chaos and then complains that she is so stressed out. Is this a type of narcissist? Thank you
Just amazing! Thank you Doctor Shaler!
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You're welcome! If you subscribe to my UA-cam channel and hit the notification button, you'll know early what the topic for each Monday evening at 7 pm Pacific will be.
+ :1:3:4:7:7:6:9:0:0:5:6 whatzpp him I was like this be'fore I know who can he:lp you out text him now he can solve your problem:: don't waste your time here
Thank you Doctor. I finally understood what I was up against. I tolerated so much but eventually fought back and all the feeling I had for him, was long gone. . I knew how to trigger rage tantrums and silent treatments. I found it so easy, he's behaviors were always limited and predictable. And then I left. A year later, the grandiose, has been sending, regular, victim hood texts. I have pushed his buttons a few times via text, I needed payback, I really did. The emotional games and temper, really got worse. I fell in love with an illusion, not a man, I was duped . it was easy to stop my feelings, my shutters came down . and I had a good laugh at his usual predictable responses. Thank you for educating me. I will spot a narcissist from a mile away. Knowledge really is power. Its so interesting they walk amongst us, but I never thought I'd ever get ensnared with one! Xxx🇬🇧
So easy to get ensnare by one, sadly! They truly are the wolves in sheeps clothing. I'm glad you have uncovered your situation and learned from it.
Your channel is giving me the strength to do what I need to do. 💜💜💜
I'm so glad to hear that. I wish you all the strength you need to create the peace, joy, and love you desire.
+:1:3:4:7:7:6:9:0:0:5:6 whatzzp him for help..
This. NPD is definitely generational .. the crazy behavior my mother inlaw would do .. I see my husband and his brothers doing it too
I hate that I can show signs of narcissism yet also feel that I suffer from narcissistic abuse! Is it ADHD, narcissism, or something else?
Many people who have been with, or were raised by, narcissistic folks get what we call "narcissist fleas." They take on the behaviors of the narcissist at their own moments when they are most desperate to be heard.
Don't worry. When you get help after distancing yourself from those Hijackals, you will slowly realize that you no longer have need of the "fleas!"
As far as ADHD, I'd need to know more about the situations and relationships.
Narcs want to bring out the worst in you .. they like thinking there somebody worse than them so I’m better
My fiances mother in law reminds me of the communal narcissist. She always wants to be seen as this mother of everyone. So giving ect ect. I believed this until she would do things for me, just to please her son. But then would complain the entire time and make me feel bad for her helping me. Then the cherry on top was when I helped her pay for a wedding gift, I paid for half of her entire gift that she couldn't afford herself (she asked me for help btw) and she didn't even put my name on the card or acknowledge that I helped pay for it. And my biggest question was during the whole thing, why did she want to buy the most expensive gift on the registry? Now I know why, for her image. It was the biggest slap in the face.
Great insight, Carly, and such a sad way to achieve it.
My question, though, is how did your fiance respond to this? That will tell you much about who he is.
@@ForRelationshipHelp my fiance was understanding and he sympathized with me being upset. He offered to tell the bride and groom that I also had chipped in and that his mother forgot to put me on the card. He even offered to talk to his mom for me.. But I felt like it would have seemed weird of me to make a big deal so I told him not to say anything because I felt it wouldn't change anything and she would find other passive aggressive ways to get back at me or twist it around like it was my fault. I guess I should have not have felt so defeated on it, but overall he was very supportive of me.
I wish I caught this one live!
Thank you for taking the time to put this content out there into the world for people it is so helpful, it’s easy to get caught up in emotions and knowing the definitions of these things and the nuances is helpful. I am dealing with some narcissistic traits and a significant other, thankfully I don’t believe that it is anything full-blown at all it really only pertains to one aspect of our relationship. But if I bring up anything that hurt me or I was confused about, if I am upset about something it is as if I’ve done something to slide him. He fights it, and then he makes it about himself. And then he says that he’s not allowed to talk about his feelings. But he only ever brings up his feelings to divert from me bringing up mine. I can’t get them to listen. I don’t know what to do, I am trying so hard and I’m being so logical and so calm.
So good! Thank you for sharing
I’ve got a question. My wife …I directly asked her about when I should schedule my surgery because I knew her daughter was having a c section same week. I asked her if she wanted me to wait until March (January is when doc wanted to schedule). She told me she wouldn’t ask me to do that. I asked if she was sure since I wouldn’t have a problem with waiting. She said she to do wha t I needed to do. So I scheduled suregery. Months later she told me she was upset cuz even though I asked her about scheduling surgery, that I still should have rescheduled for her on my own 🥴 past couple of years has been all about what she was lacking in our relationship even though I was the one diagnosed with bipolar. She also takes on everyone’s chaos and then complains that she is so stressed out. Is this a type of narcissist? Thank you
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