Story 1: contrary to what the ex believess, in the US if one spouse wants a divorce, you're getting divorced, signature or no signature. And the prenup should make it a pretty quick process. This dude stuff his own grave
Depends where they are at, some countries have the “both parties need to agree”, “if one of them wants to work on the relationship”, “you need to be separated for x months”. Hopefully op gets the divorce and also I’m pretty sure ops hopefully ex husband has already cheated so it might help in the divorce (I’m basing this on the fact that he threw the “I’m getting a younger woman”, and he kept his gambling addiction/investments from op
@@drkatbun8566 Even in the US there are some places like that. But this commenter is just pointing out that unlike in some countries, they can't try and force the person who wants out to stay like other places will.
@@drkatbun8566 I remember a story where the ex wanted OP to pay for his and his mistress' baby. His friends, family, and the courts was on the ex's side. This was because the ex kept forcing reconciliation and courts consider that an effort to prolong the divorce.
@@kitsumekat I remember that story, I would have been tempted to get a lover out of spite in that scenario since having multiple partners in the cheating husband’s family was seen as normal
First story: I'd laugh in his face too. NTA. He wanted the pre-nup to be greedy, and now wants it gone because he realizes he'd benefit more without it. He's a gold-digger.
Exactly. Even if he’d approached it honestly and stated “I’m a greedy gold-digger, would you indulge me pls?” she would have had every right to laugh in his face, whether she was up for it or not. The way he talked about merging their finances like it was just a natural evolution of the relationship and had no ulterior motives, though? At that point she was standing in front of this guy 🤡🚩instead of a husband.
Yes. But I must say the first red flag for me was that he took No interest in her getting a new car before he saw it... That "get whatever you want", (and can afford, without his help, I guess,) showed he really did not have any interest in her life, wellbeing and security, whatsoever.
As a Man, I got a big laugh out of the husband who wanted the prenup. He finds out your earning ability and NOW wants to change the terms? What a bum! Sounds like the current deal was, is and will be fair in the future. Don't let ANY Man, or Woman, drag you down financially! Good Luck!
Sounds like he did have money when she was in school and had property, but gamblers loose big time and sound's like between that and bad investment's, he's broke
Right. Like, I'm ALL for a prenup, especially when it's fair and equally protects all parties, but deciding you want to drop it because a spouse now makes more? Nope. That proves the prenup was 100% so OP would be screwed in a divorce, and now HE wants to cash in.
Also gambling, saying he deserves a better woman, him being broke and in debt, him saying her out earning him was unnatural, him going to complain and lie to mommy, he say he will refuse to divorce, somehow he's under the delusion that she can't leave him if he refuses. He is right she should be immensely grateful. Should say : " you were right all along ! Thanks from the bottom of my heart for the prenup loser ! Couldn't have left or divorced you that easily without it Lol'' What a moron 😂
@@califdad4 I don't think he's broke he just wants to change it so if they divorce he gets her money and also share in it now. His family was probably all for the pre nup ,now they have a problem with it??
Story 1: Wait. So he had the woman sign a prenup so that he could keep his finances separate, but now he wants access to her money because she makes more than him? Now I'm laughing at him! You don't get it both ways. And if "it's unnatural" for a woman to make more than him, then it stands to reason that his ass has to Buck up and get to work.
My SO was a social worker and he didn't make very much money. At the time, I was making pretty good wages after being at my organization for years and made more than him. Neither of us cared. He's a good man with a huge heart and that's what matters to me.
On top of which he had the nerve to say he won't sign divorce papers and that she is stuck with him? My response.....okay dude but do you realize that insects sometimes get stuck in a spider's web and can get eaten alive....just a thought
And his dream is to be a "professional gambler". ... She needs to kick his ass to the curb before the jackass takes out a bunch of loans in her name to cover his gambling addiction, yeh.
Also gambling, saying he deserves a better woman, him being broke and in debt, him saying her out earning him was unnatural, him going to complain and lie to mommy, he say he will refuse to divorce, somehow he's under the delusion that she can't leave him if he refuses. He is right she should be immensely grateful. Should say : " you were right all along ! Thanks from the bottom of my heart for the prenup loser ! Couldn't have left or divorced you that easily without it Lol'' What a moron 😂
Story 1- Supporting someone through college and paying your half of the rent are two different things. People that find a roommate through the school in college have a similar experience, yet nobody credits their roommate for their degree because the roommate paid rent on time. In fact, if they did, people would think it was weird....
Oookay - after reading OP's final update, I will say this: She married a self-centered, delusional narcissist who thinks he can gamble his way to wealth while using HER money, since he already lost all of his. His comment about kids just means he thinks that would somehow make her dependent on him. He's a total loser and she needs to get shut of him ASAP - which should be much easier since the prenup is there. Also, is there a state in the union where you can't get a divorce if you want one? Anybody?
@@nitka711 When the gal mentioned Nebraska without designating the US, I got the impression they were both living in the States. That's why I wondered if there was still an American state where one party alone cannot sue for divorce. Anybody?
@@rickraber1249 I don't know if there is. But plenty of Americans "move" to Nevada for six weeks, just long enough to establish residency, so they can get a quickie divorce. I am not a lawyer, especially in Nevada, but I believe that if you can serve the papers to the guy, you can get the divorce. If he doesn't answer, then it's like a default thing, and the judge just says, "I guess he doesn't care about who gets what," and makes the award based on the person suing for divorce. But if you want to fight it, you have to actually go into the court, and I think at that point, all you can really do is say, "I want my stuff!" I don't think you can actually DENY the dissolution of marriage in Nevada. But again, I am not a lawyer, and I could be wrong. Still, it would be worth it to take a leave of absence long enough to "move" there, wouldn't it?
As someone who went through a recent divorce in GA, US. If there's no contest, then things are usually fast tracked, papers get signed, each keep own debt, and split items equally. Contested(meaning the other party went I don't agree to this), the lawyers do discovery(collecting information from both parties about finances, etc), communicated with lawyer of other party if they have one. If the contesting party doesn't have one, there is a mandatory wait time to allow them to collect information and submit it. If after the mandatory time, they still don't communicate then a judge can compel them(pm saying this is your last chance to get your side in), followed by more mandatory time. After said mandatory time, then a court date is set, and both parties are notified with via email, and snail mail. If you fail to show up to the court hearing, then the party that shows up is pretty much guaranteed to get what they want. It takes a bit longer, yet still yields results. In her case, she has a prenup and, with a good divorce lawyer, can probably make him pay for any court and attorney fees that she may accrue in the course of the process.
Story 1: NTA sounds like husband has a case of “what’s yours is mine and what’s mine is mine too”. When my husband made more money he paid for more things but always gave me access to his money; I would always ask if I wanted to make a large purchase that wasn’t for groceries or household expenses. The tables have since turned and now I’m the breadwinner and I send him money when he needs it and he will ask me when there is a large purchase to make. This is how a marriage is supposed to work.
This is how a marriage is supposed to work. Exactly. My dad quit his job as a teacher because the system wanted to separate our family (corrupt greedy manipulative perverts were trying to 'snatch' my mum). My mum transferred to another school, but she's still and has always been government employed. She's been the major breadwinner in the family ever since. My dad works. He has always worked very hard, but being self employed has so many challenges. But I've learned from them the meaning of a real committed marriage. Sometimes they gripe at each other as is normal, but there's so many ways that people today trivialize a real marriage by refusing to be really and truly supportive of each other. It's so sad to see. Two are better than one and a strong marriage is the best chance people have to fight through life. Humans have just become so selfish and narrow sighted.
@@dragb9284 Like the fact that the asshole headmaster at the school tried to get my dad moved to another school in a different district,...to break up the family... Coz my Mum would have been left teaching in the same school, under his mercy and authority? Or that he tried to make the Service Commission sue my father for refusing to kowtow to his wishes? Yeah,.. a lot
Sadly I personally watched almost the exact same thing happen to my youngest brother. Only his wife and her family asked him to sign the prenup. At the time he was a Captain in the U.S. Army and his wife to be was a medical receptionist. So he agreed and signed the prenup. Separate finances with the home finances divided between them, 50/50. Dutch or 50/50 split on all out of home activities. The owners of the vehicles paid for everything related to that vehicle. I suppose her family didn’t know that Officers have college degrees in diverse fields. Well now even most enlisted do as well. 25 years later, he retired as a Major and immediately crossed over to work the civilian side. For some reason the fact that he had a PHD and worked as a psychiatrist while in the Army never came up. Evidently his parents loved to tell everyone in their family and anyone who showed up at family gatherings, that he was just a moron that was in the Army who jumped out of perfectly good airplanes and helicopters and that his two older brother were just as stupid because the only job we could get was in the Army and everyone knows the military only takes stupid people that can’t make it on the outside. I always thought her parents were stupid, and she was nice but really had no interest in what my brother actually did in the Army. He would always ask her if she wanted to go to meals and other office related functions but she wasn’t interested, since she had to go to hers. Both our second brother and I were there when he graduated from Airborne School, Air Assault School. In fact he used my pins to get his blood wings (as did our 2nd brother) Basically they just thought he was some kind of grunt and did not find out that he was a Doctor of Psychiatry until his wife told her parents that he had a job already and started work as a Doctor at one of the hospitals in San Antonio. I mean that’s pretty much what they said, he can’t do anything on the outside because there are no jobs that require jumping out of airplanes and helicopters that pays really well. Boy were they all surprised when he retired and immediately started pulling in some really excellent cash. His wife had asked if they would be okay now that he was only going to get a retired Major’s income. He told her that she didn’t need to worry, that he already had a job and he told her where and how much. He did also teach part time at a local college and a few on line colleges mostly towards the end of his military career for extra money. I never really figured out what their problem was, but once I found out that they wanted him to help fund them in their old age. I asked him if he was going to do it and he said no. He was responsible for his wife and their two dogs and would not be giving or loaning one darn dime to his in-laws ever. I will admit I poke them every chance I get about the prenup and the division of finances and property. It’s not like I don’t live dangerously at home, I love to poke at my wife. Sometimes you poke the bear and sometime the bear mauls you. We have been married over 40 years and dated for three years before she asked me to marry her. (A whole different story). I love my brothers a lot. His wife is nice enough and is always friendly and it is evident that she truly loves my youngest brother, but her folks, well let just say we have a hate/hate relationship and I won’t have to sleep on the couch if I make them mad or their daughter, which I might add surprisingly has never happened. Although she has apologized for their behavior multiple times. I finally told her that she should not apologize for grown adults who act shamelessly. I love sticking it to them absolutely every chance I get. My wife gets mad and goes straight to the slapping the back of my head, and warns me not to cause trouble when we visit. We went to a shooting range, one that caters to the long range shooters. Let’s just say he dropped close to $30,000.00usd on a really really nice rifle setup. Like everything in the world brand names matter. All three of us pretty much have the same types of rifles, just different manufacturers. When we pulled up to his house I immediately noticed their car in his driveway. My care o’ meter broke upon seeing that they had parked in the middle of his two car driveway. Basically blocked anyone else from being able to use it. So we grabbed our gear, and made our way inside. My wife, his wife and her parents were talking about how hard it was to make ends meet on just a retirement check and Social Security. While they were extremely grateful that their only child tried to help them out, more should be done My wife looked at me and gave me the patented don’t do it look. So I just told my brother, man that was a sweet setup. What did you drop on that? $20,000.00usd on the rifle. So I asked what about the scope, bi pod and all the other things. He said about another $10,000.00 or so maybe a bit more. I earned the butt chewing my wife gave me for talking money like that in front of his wife’s parents. My wife told me can you imagine how they feel after telling us how hard it was to make ends meet and you get your brother to talking about dropping $30,000.00usd on a toy? My response was well it sucks to be them, they forced him to sign a prenup because they owned a 1950’s mobile home and 3 whole acres, and us dumb Army grunts are to stupid to make it in the real world. Heck he had a three bedroom home and 5 acres before they got married. Granted one room is his office/storage/storage. Yet they were worried about him taking their daughters earnings and going after their family property. They are still married, her parents are still alive and still asking for her to get him to give them money. Not happy with the meager amount they can get from their daughter. I should point out that neither of them wanted to have children, which is another bone of contention. Especially when I heard her parents tell her that it was her job to help carry on the family name. Hmmmm, she has our last name, and things may have changed lately but isn’t it the male of the family that Carrie’s on the bloodline and family name? My brother asked us and our other brother along with our son to come to his house to discuss his will, and to give us all copies. Her parents showed up and I thought it would be out off until they went back home (but it has become a “thing”, when they find out that any of his brothers or his niece or nephew are visiting they show up to make sure to beg for money or try to go out to eat with us or join in on the free food because we all grill or cook and provide the food and beer. Anyway turns out that other than a few items that are war marked for me and 2nd brother everything is going to our son, and I mean everything. Truck, Harleys and just about every darn thing in his office. He did ask that our grandchildren (if they grow up to be good people) that our son share some of the firearms with them. My two brothers both have no children, and all our wills are close in nature. My wife does not care about my firearms or motorcycles, so my will stipulates that my son gets all of the firearms and motorcycles, other than some that are earmarked for my brothers and the same clause about my grandchildren. However my wife and I have always had combined incomes, while both my second and fourth brother do not. They both have their money and their wives have their money. I almost stroked out, I couldn’t stop laughing at the look on his in-laws faces. It looked like they actually forgot how to suck air in and out. Even when I left the room my wife said they could still hear me laughing. We are talking full on manically. Even some years later I still start laughing just thinking about it. I wish I would have had a camera running to snap a picture. On a side note later on my wife popped me in the back of the head and called me a Jackass….probably because she had to go out back and make me stop laughing. Worse every time I went inside I would look at them and they would glare at me and I would start laughing and pointing at them again. Then got sent back outside (by my wife) until I could control myself. Now none of us are what we would consider to be rich, but we are in the high middle class, and are not hurting for money. The Army used to like to give out some serious bonuses every time we re-enlisted, then count in tax free military retirement with wives that also work, you can bank some serious cash by not spending your retirement. My wife was in the Air Force, so she receives a retirement (most of it is non taxable and I was in the Army and the civil service, then retired as a GS-11. My 2nd brother owned his own business and banked his retirement. We don’t live at our means, but below it. Anyway, sorry for the long story, I just couldn’t help it since it was close to what had happened to my brother. Take care and stay safe, wish a better life and much happiness to OP in the future. However our children, my 2nd and 4th brother and their wives though it was hilarious. Evidently (at that time I was 60 years old) adults don’t act that way, or some such nonsense. According to my wife, she gave up on telling me that I embarrassed her, okay in all honesty on multiple occasions throughout our 40 years together.
STBX thinks it’s unnatural for the wife to make more money than the husband, yet he’d be perfectly unashamed with sitting on his ass gambling OP’s money away while she worked? What a putz.
yeah, like, you can be a professional poker player. that involves understanding all the ins and outs of that particular game so you stand a chance of winning enough to not always be broke at the end of the day. also, big-name professionals can get other people to pay the buy-in for them so don't always even play with their own money. just hanging out at a casino every day is not being a professional, it's feeding an addiction.
The second he asked to void the prenup, I'd be gone. When he then said he wanted to quit his job to be a professional gambler while in debt, that would bolster my decision.
I find it funny that whenever whoever wants the pre-nup to “protect their assets” always assume they make more money than when the learn they make a lot less then spouse
So true. There was a story about a woman who wanted a prenup since she made more than her fiancé (OP) but when it came out that he had quite a lot of money, she quickly changed her mind and actually became quite angry when he insisted, calling him names, completely ignoring she was the one who proposed it in the first place. I think he ended their relationship.
It's already ridiculous for him to ask for a prenup just for his income and an appartement who belonged to him before the marriage (and which he sold anyway) and she wouldn't have gotten in a divorce anyways.
"He told me we should void the prenup" I let out a very loud HA! at that moment. ALSO: What's wrong with those grown-ass adults running to mommy and daddy with their problems? I understand it in an I-don't-feel-safe kind of situation, but beyond that, it baffles me.
I want your money! If you won't give it to me, I'll tell my mommy and daddy! BTW, you're SO lucky to have me and I could do SO much better than you! Does that sum it up?
I had a manager like that. He would never pay attention to emails, so I would request holidays and he would never get around to reading them so I would take the holiday. I didn't care we were having an all team compulsory meeting. He would have to explain. In my book a lack of no equals a yes.
Story 3: If he had thought of it, my late husband would TOTALLY have done something similar to me. 🤣And he would have kept the lie up for years with a completely straight face. The man had an inscrutable poker face!
The first story is absolutely hilarious...I like how OP is assertive and I also like the pettiness. She should really divorce the idiot no doubt...I love the last story so much. OP is a hoot and I am glad his wife knows so... 😄 thanks LG!
I read a Chicken Soup story where a prankster brother in law called up and said he was from the phone company, and they were going to blow the dust out of the phone lines that day, so she needed to put a paper bag over the phone headset and tape it down so the dust wouldn't blow all over the room when they got around to her phone. Poor harassed mother of 2 babies bought that one and never lived it down. Same as sending your wife to the auto parts store for muffler bearings or headlight fluid. All good fun. Just probably makes you a little less gullible next time. (Snort!)
She needs to get an updated will, living will and remove him from contacts in case of any emergency asap. Remove his rights in her life and care as much as possible before the divorce is final.
Story 1: So loser hubby thinks OP can’t get a divorce if he doesn’t sign the papers? Jog on sucker! It might take longer, but OP can do it without his say-so. At least she’s consulting a divorce lawyer. Professional gambler, indeed.
Right? His family calling her and berating her? My response would have been “no, he didn’t support me through college and NONE OF THIS is any of your business”!
Story 1- If he was happy to have you sign a pre nup, he should be happy with the money he makes. He is trying to convince her it’s a good idea now cause she can buy a car in cash. Story 2- good job! Be able to stand up for what you will take or not. Last story- 😂 never lie it’ll always get you!!
Gotta say nta.while a prenup is not bad, the fact hubby feels his money is his,his wife's money is hers.they can split everything right down the middle.does hubby realize to void a prenup,he would need a lawyer?
His attitude is My Money Is Mine, and Your Money is Mine. She's NTA and she should have obscured the fact of a "cash buy" (hindsight of course). But they obviously don't know each other well. She is going to have an expensive divorce shortly. P.S. I read on, and yes, divorce proceedings forthwith. Also as he's in software engineering she should guard her electronic passwords/devices with her life, or he'll do something which only bitchy IT guys seem to do. Sabotage and suck their victims dry.
Agreed, however it's usually the other way around, now she knows what it's like for a large portion of men. Regardless of gender no one should foot the bill for lazy spouse. He's a colossal ass & I'm glad she's filing, play stupid games win stupid prizes & he's earned his bobbie prize
The first time I seen that, I lost attraction for someone. It is easier to break up with a momma's boy than divorce though. So I'm thankful for red flags
Story 1: I could feel the smugness of him asking for the prenup because he thought he made more than OP and thought she would be a gold digger or something only to suddenly backtrack and want to void it because he found out his wife makes more, thus revealing it's actually _him_ whose essentially a gold digger and would take all the money if given the opportunity 🤔🤭
I don't think he thought she would be a gold digger. I think he just wanted to hang on to what was "his", like a little kid hanging onto his favorite toy. Probably never occurred to a narcissist like him that a mere woman would ever make more $$ than his exalted self. Here's an idea, pal - ask your parents to bankroll your gambling addiction and see what THEY say!
Story 1: "A thief judges others by his condition", aka if someone calls you a gold digger, they are the ones who would exploit someone for money. Story 1 is proof of that saying.
I'm not a gold-digger, but I'm pretty sure that if I say, "That OP's husband is a gold-digger," I am still not a gold-digger. Because he is SUCH a gold-digger. But, yeah, he totally would have called her a gold-digger, if she didn't accept the original pre-nup, I'm sure.
@@AuntLoopy123 I mean people who accuse others inside their relationships. Plenty of guys out there claim every single woman is after their 100k salary as if it's some big fucking deal lol
@@SilverstreamPJ28 it’s always the broke boys that barely make enough to buy their own underwear and pay their car note that complain about “gold diggers” being after them lmao
Story 1: OP did good by dumping her greedy husband. Plus that misogynistic comment about how unnatural it is for a woman to earn more than her husband and that she should be having children.......just no. Definitely NOT husband material! 😰 Story 2: Nicely done OP! You did yourself and your wife a favor by leaving that crappy job. And it's nice to see that you and your wife are still married! ❤
Yeah, I suspected that if he hadn't been forced to show his cards so soon, it would've been a matter of time before he started harping on OP to quit her job, be a stay at home mommy and make herself totally dependent... while he pissed away all of his income on gambling and bad investments instead of supporting his family. It's a good thing it never got to that point, because that's how women become trapped.
Exactly. I don't buy this story at all. If it's true, this is an AWFUL MARRIAGE. Why wouldn't he be helping her send out resumes, and get her jobs? Why wouldn't she be doing the same? They both should converse and know each other. They both should understand each other's finances. It's a big red-flag right there. What do they actually DO as a married couple? If they don't know each other even as friends. Gotta be a lot of cheating in this relationship. And, like, he never knew until the one day she bought a super-expensive car? Like she's living like a college pauper all these years after college? Huh? She didn't buy an expensive phone, or ANYTHING except a car? And that's a horrible decision on her part to pay cash for a super expensive car. This whole thing is unbelievable. Made up by some woman who wants a 'horrible man gets owned' story.
@@kissit012 I'm you separate your finances, that's one very likely kiss-of-death for a relationship. You can't be penny-pinching while your spouse goes out and buys luxury items. The other problem is when money IS pooled together, where one partner way outspends the other. There should be a 50/50 split of combined income. And DISCUSSION about big purchases. If I find my wife bought a super expensive car without consulting me, ummmmm... no. We can't afford that, and that financially hits our entire family.
@@dagmarbubolz7999 Never took out a mortgage for a house? I hope you have credit cards, because many places now don't take cash - like amusement parks and sports arenas. We have credit cards for that purpose. We always pay them off at the end of the month though, so we don't pay interest.
Story 1: OP definitely made the right call to file for divorce. Her STXH is gonna drag her down with him, with this gambling addiction he obviously has.
She literally laughed all the way to the bank. Good for her! I think prenups are good when it has a clause for cheating, and I'd get one myself to protect me and my future partner so that he isn't paying an assload post divorce if it happens (it wouldn't be fair to either of us). It's funny how he wanted to void it after so much time though.
I loved the last story and can so relate. I come from a long line of story tellers. We don't really lie, most of the stories have the basic facts and truth, but given that we have a way with words, do sound effects, and have a slightly twisted sense of humor it is possible for us to take a pretty straight forward, ho-hum story and have people think it is an adventure. When I married my ex, my two daughters were fairly young and we started some of our own holiday traditions because we were living away from the extended family and both my husband and I did not feel a need to bring all of our old traditions into the new family. One of the first things we ditched was the tradition of turkey for Thanksgiving. We decided to go with Cornish game hens since neither of us wanted to deal with trying to bake a hugh turkey and all the left overs, along with have 2 girls that were not fond of turkey. So, let the new tradition begin. On Thanksgiving we bake the birds and each of us gets a beautiful little game hen with all the rest of the regular Thanksgiving side. Two little girls look at this miniture turkey and declare that they do like turkey, so we tell them it isn't turkey. My youngest starts to tear up and than tells us she doesn't want to eat the chicken baby. So I tell her it is not a chicken baby it is actually a pigmy chicken and we were in fact saving regular chickens for the attacts of these vicious little chickens. So, my Husband, see that the girls are now actually interested in eating this new food on their plates joins me in the tales of the pigmy chicken and why it is actually the perfect food to celebrate Thanksgiving. We tell them about how pigmy chickens live in forests and raid the chicken coops and torment regular chickens, so we are doing a favor for the chickens. It went on for a while, with pigmy chickens becoming the go to, super fancy dinner for family celebrations like birthdays and good report cards. So, about the time the girls were 12 and 11, we found ourselves back in the hometown and once again had extended family to deal with at holiday time. I had shared the pigmy chicken story with my mom, who was the storyteller and she loved it. I had really not shared the story with my mother-in-law because although she was a very nice MIL and we got along, she did not always understand my sense of humor. She tended to be very no nonsense and in some ways sort of let me know that I wasn't quite what she expected her son to marry. Well come the Holidays and my MIL wanted us to come to her house for Thanksgiving. That was fine with me because my father, and my brothers too worked law enforcement and holidays tended to be on a very flexible schedule with my family. And because it was the first holiday we would be with MIL she asked my girls if they wanted Ham, Turkey or roast beef because she wanted to fix them whatever they like best. So, they tell her that anything she cooks would be fine, but their favorite was Pigmy Chicken. Oops. So, MIL is trying to figure out just exactly what pigmy chicken is and my girls start relating the whole Pigmy Chicken lore as told to them by Mom and Dad. She is so confused and so are the girls. It takes a while for MIL to finally realize it is Cornish game hen, and now she is getting some idea of just how strange I am, and how much I have twisted her son. It caused a bit of tension because she felt the whole story amounted to us lying to the kids. We had a discussion that Pigmy Chickens were sort of like our Santa Claus and she had been fine with the Santa story. We even sat the girls down and actually cleared up the Pigmy Chicken myth so they would not go ordering it in a restaurant. But my girls are now in their 40's and have families of their own. I am no longer married, and their step dad, although great while they were growing up has been out of their lives (his choice) for a long time. But we still have Pigmy Chickens and the myth lives on in our family. And, even long after my girls learned about Cornish Hens they will still order Pigmy Chickens from restaurants and sharing the story with waitresses.
Ah, the myth lives on. When our kids were little and saw their first black and white photo, we told them that it was because color hadn't been invented til recently, and that the whole world used to be just black and white. And weren't things much prettier now? Also, remember McDonalds used to have ball pits in their play areas? Well, we were taking them out to dinner one night, and they asked where we were going. We told them, The Liver And Onions Palace. There was a moment of silence from the back seat, and then one little voice asked if they had a play area. We said yes, they had a quicksand pit and a nettle patch. (Figgered that would be an appropriate play area for a restaurant with a name like that.) More dead silence, til we had mercy and told them the truth. PS It was a sad day when they both reached The Age of Skepticism. Sigh. BUT - now we have a whole new generation of ready victims: Grandchildren!
PS 2 - must give credit to Bill Watterson, the creator of Calvin and Hobbs, for the black and white story. Calvin's dad told him that one. I was so impressed, I felt I just HAD to lay that one on our kids. Thanks, Mr. Watterson. You are obviously a comic genius. And most likely a dad, too.
Ah c'mon, Megan. I thought he said he told the whopper and then forgot about it for 15 years. (Plus if she's smart she'll make him pay: a nice pair of diamond earrings she can flash every time she has to fess up to believing his whopper.)
First story about the prenup: how immature is this guy, that is he jealous of your income AND THEN RUN TO HIS FAMILY to cry about it? Tell him to stay away until he grows up.
1st story. Seen this before, but yeah LMAO. Thanks hon for the prenup.! OP should be seriously considering if she can upgrade her partner, because her current one just reeks of entitlement, IE he is thinking "what's mine is mine, and what's yours belongs to me as well"
"And mommy and daddy say so!". Yup, definitely needs an upgrade. BTW, before you marry somebody, take a close hard look at their family, because you're marrying all of them or at least the values they instilled in their offspring.
I laughed at the last story. My husband is a master BS'er too, as is my FiL. It takes a few years, but they have tells where you can clue in that they are spinning one of their tall tales.
He should never have stooped so low as to even suggest voiding a pre- nup he invoked! One that, he no longer wanted after finding out that you payed cash for a car. Pitiful, pitiful, pitiful
A Google search would tell anyone this isn't true, did nobody ever correct her over the years?? She probably said she hated it when it came on, and somebody would have asked her why, then told her the truth, seriously Jack Frost is mentioned in more than that song and she doesn't know who he is??
Story 1 You made the rules, I'll enforce them. 😂 And here he thought he was the one more financially strong. Play stupid game my boy, you win stupid prizes.
I love that last story.. made my day. Reminds me of when my nephew used to tease his girlfriends sister or friend but can't remember who after 20+ years by telling them they were out of blinker fluid when taking about their car 🤣 Also had a friend that'd shout at people "Jesus is sugar free" from the back of my truck occasionally 🤦♀️
Story 1 lmao OP should thank the deadbeat after the divorce for that awesome text Now Op can paint it as an abusive marriage, and his signature is no longer required.
Last story! LOLOL 'Jack Frost as the nose biter-eater! OMG that totally cracked me up! It it believeable considering that so many fairy tales have dark hidden meanings. Makes me think first of the song 'Ring Around The Rosy'. That for sure isnt a happy children's song!
1st story totally cracks me up. Isn't really strange how many men will expect or demand a prenup? But then turn right around and after finding out that wifey ends up better off financially and then want to throw out the prenup or ignore it. (nut keep it in the background until they feel the need again to bring it up. Usually they want to ignore it when the wife comes into a surprise inheritance, windfall or lottery. Then according to them it's all for one and one for all. LOL 2nd story/update. Oops just finished the update and now the truth is out! Talk about being an AH!! Apparently he didn't think about what would happen to her if his gambling debts came and bit him in the ass that she too could have been liable for those debts. She could have lost out big time! What a scummy AH!!! Good that she's getting a divorce!!! Hope she has a Barracuda for divorce lawyer.
BWAAAAHAHAHAHAHAHAAAA! Oh, that second story! That boss was SUCH an idiot. When you have a subordinate who does most of your work and lets you take the credit, and get away with "client golf meetings," because they are covering for you, you should absolutely, always and forever, read THEIR emails, even if you don't read anyone else's. ALSO, DO NOT tick off the person upon whose shoulders your are relaxing when you should be working. If the boss had approved the vacation for three weeks, he probably would have had several more years of his lazy golf-playing "with cause" "work" and good pay and benefits. Now, he has to look for another job, where they will probably MAKE HIM WORK. So, yeah. He had a good thing, and he lost it, because the ONE email he actually bothered to read was a request he decided to deny, JUST to flex his power and stick it to the underling. And I bet the OP got paid for those 5 weeks of accumulated vacation, right? Because HR and Payroll weren't assholes who decide to screw their employees and break labor laws? Oh, this story was soooooo good. Thanks, LG!
Last story reminded of when I was telling my daughter about the different glands and what they did. So...I added that a hyperactive Farticulatory Gland causes people to be excessively gassy. She was aghast and asked why so we even have that. Said she'd get hers removed when she's a grownup. I told her it was a joke the same day. We still laugh about hyperactive Farticulatory Glands.
Well, yes, that's what I think...(!) If you have pulled someone's leg, you tell them shortly... Then it can be fun for all..! But to let it be for 15 years..? And derogate the one who trusted you enough to not go around double checking your words, by calling her stupid..? That to me is being an arrogant ass... OP's wife have forgiven him, though, and seems ok with it, so good on them, but I agree with someone else's comment, that he should buy some great Christmas presents for a few years... 😏
Story 1: Absolutely NTA!!! In a world where women in general make less than men in similar professions, and women in general are in more vulnerable positions career-wise and money-wise if they have children, she should guard her money, 100%! What's good for the goose is good for the gander, and he should realize the prenup always went both ways. :) It's obvious his attitude was belittling of her if he thought he was protecting only himself with that prenup, lol! Also, in the eventual divorce, you don't want to get stuck paying alimony to this a-hole because you were the major earner and he persuaded you to act against your interest in opening up the prenup. EDIT: Yeah, he wants your money for his gambling habit. :/ You didn't over-react. Divorce him ASAP.
Story 1 husband really showed his true colors. Gambling dept but somehow thinks he could go pro- yikes. Saying "you're lucky I haven't left you for a younger woman" textbook abuser phrase. She is lucky they signed a prenup or he may have drained her savings as well.
Wow story 1 is insane. I make more than my hubby and he is cool with it (he was making more than me until this year because after the lockdowns I was able to start working.) And we combine money from the moment we got married and equal since day one. That is what we do, we are equal.
He may not have realized how much qualified nurses make these days, especially in certain fields. Years ago nurses didn't make crap for paychecks but were heavily depended upon. Thankfully that has changed over the years and besides the much needed pay increases nurses have been given more (and higher) responsibilities in the medical field. Probably also made the mistake because OP is a contractor nurse meaning she is not employed by any one hospital/institution. Since nurses are needed everywhere she can make good money that way.
story 1 - cannot access the atm because he shut out his atm then lies to his family time to yeet out of this fiasco and lawyer up asap...turns out hubby is a poor gambler wanting to be a pro gambler YIKES run op run
Story 1. All these so called adults who run to mommy and family like children every time they dont get their own way get on my last nerve. Nta ur $. Tell everyone the real truth!!!
Some in-laws are even worse. I know a gal whose ex-MIL actually set her darling baby boy up with his high school girlfriend, while he was married, 20 years after high school. He dumped my friend (biggest favor ever!) and married the HS sweetheart (?) who also dumped her hubby to form the new liaison. Always felt kind of sorry for her, knowing the guy she married, who was also a narcissist with some not-great addictions.
Take a 6 week nursing assignment to Las Vegas or Reno so you will be considered a citizen of Nevada. THEN file for divorce there. His agreement wont be a factor and you will be granted your divorce with minimal effort. You can even give him a token $10 a month "support" if necessary.
Story 1: So the dude who has a gambling problem and appears to not be even really good at it want's to go professional. That's like saying people who OD are professional drug user's. Also TIFU I know for a fact Google and Wikipedia were a thing 15 years ago, people will say untrue things, it's your fault you believe them if a quick search nowadays can disprove it.
But they are professional! Right up to their dying day./s They don't care when it breaks their mind and their families, that's just collateral. I speak from experience in the "collateral" perspective, and doubt gamblers are very different to druggies.
15 years old alot of folks are also not proficient online either..... Please stop being so judgemental. Oh wait! It's the internet. it's also the prerequisite these days.
Telling his family about a financial discussion he had with his wife is a bigger slight than trying to cancel the current income arrangement. That’s manchild territory.
Omg that last one…dude is like a real world version of Loki from the Avengers (apparently with Tom Hiddleston’s dance moves) who WOULDN’T want to marry that? 😂👍🖤
Story One - If OP agrees to void the prenup - and (may god forbid!) open a joint account so her husband gas access to her money - she will be as much a gambler as he is.
Story 1: contrary to what the ex believess, in the US if one spouse wants a divorce, you're getting divorced, signature or no signature. And the prenup should make it a pretty quick process. This dude stuff his own grave
Depends where they are at, some countries have the “both parties need to agree”, “if one of them wants to work on the relationship”, “you need to be separated for x months”. Hopefully op gets the divorce and also I’m pretty sure ops hopefully ex husband has already cheated so it might help in the divorce (I’m basing this on the fact that he threw the “I’m getting a younger woman”, and he kept his gambling addiction/investments from op
@@drkatbun8566 Even in the US there are some places like that. But this commenter is just pointing out that unlike in some countries, they can't try and force the person who wants out to stay like other places will.
@@drkatbun8566 I remember a story where the ex wanted OP to pay for his and his mistress' baby. His friends, family, and the courts was on the ex's side. This was because the ex kept forcing reconciliation and courts consider that an effort to prolong the divorce.
@@kitsumekat I remember that story, I would have been tempted to get a lover out of spite in that scenario since having multiple partners in the cheating husband’s family was seen as normal
@@noxiouschocolate9644 you may be up to something. If she does that, it'll be a war with the possibility of divorce.
Story one:the wife needs to have a t-shirt made, and wear it all the time-"thanks for the pre-nup, hun"
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First story: I'd laugh in his face too. NTA. He wanted the pre-nup to be greedy, and now wants it gone because he realizes he'd benefit more without it. He's a gold-digger.
Exactly. Even if he’d approached it honestly and stated “I’m a greedy gold-digger, would you indulge me pls?” she would have had every right to laugh in his face, whether she was up for it or not. The way he talked about merging their finances like it was just a natural evolution of the relationship and had no ulterior motives, though? At that point she was standing in front of this guy 🤡🚩instead of a husband.
Yes. But I must say the first red flag for me was that he took No interest in her getting a new car before he saw it... That "get whatever you want", (and can afford, without his help, I guess,) showed he really did not have any interest in her life, wellbeing and security, whatsoever.
As a Man, I got a big laugh out of the husband who wanted the prenup. He finds out your earning ability and NOW wants to change the terms? What a bum! Sounds like the current deal was, is and will be fair in the future. Don't let ANY Man, or Woman, drag you down financially! Good Luck!
Sounds like he did have money when she was in school and had property, but gamblers loose big time and sound's like between that and bad investment's, he's broke
Right. Like, I'm ALL for a prenup, especially when it's fair and equally protects all parties, but deciding you want to drop it because a spouse now makes more? Nope. That proves the prenup was 100% so OP would be screwed in a divorce, and now HE wants to cash in.
Also gambling, saying he deserves a better woman, him being broke and in debt, him saying her out earning him was unnatural, him going to complain and lie to mommy, he say he will refuse to divorce, somehow he's under the delusion that she can't leave him if he refuses.
He is right she should be immensely grateful.
Should say : " you were right all along ! Thanks from the bottom of my heart for the prenup loser ! Couldn't have left or divorced you that easily without it Lol''
What a moron 😂
@@califdad4 I don't think he's broke he just wants to change it so if they divorce he gets her money and also share in it now. His family was probably all for the pre nup ,now they have a problem with it??
Who makes $175 an hour??
Story 1: Wait. So he had the woman sign a prenup so that he could keep his finances separate, but now he wants access to her money because she makes more than him? Now I'm laughing at him! You don't get it both ways. And if "it's unnatural" for a woman to make more than him, then it stands to reason that his ass has to Buck up and get to work.
Some men are just salty that us women are on an equal playing field nowadays
@@HackiePuffs I think this particular man is just salty that the world doesn’t revolve around him and his gambling dreams.
My SO was a social worker and he didn't make very much money. At the time, I was making pretty good wages after being at my organization for years and made more than him. Neither of us cared. He's a good man with a huge heart and that's what matters to me.
@@phoenixsky6124 if he was a successful gambler, he wouldn't need her money.
On top of which he had the nerve to say he won't sign divorce papers and that she is stuck with him? My response.....okay dude but do you realize that insects sometimes get stuck in a spider's web and can get eaten alive....just a thought
Gambling debt? Yeah, divorce was smart. Good move on OP.
And his dream is to be a "professional gambler".
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She needs to kick his ass to the curb before the jackass takes out a bunch of loans in her name to cover his gambling addiction, yeh.
His gambling debt is really small compared to the debt he will get in the future
Also gambling, saying he deserves a better woman, him being broke and in debt, him saying her out earning him was unnatural, him going to complain and lie to mommy, he say he will refuse to divorce, somehow he's under the delusion that she can't leave him if he refuses.
He is right she should be immensely grateful.
Should say : " you were right all along ! Thanks from the bottom of my heart for the prenup loser ! Couldn't have left or divorced you that easily without it Lol''
What a moron 😂
Story 1- Supporting someone through college and paying your half of the rent are two different things. People that find a roommate through the school in college have a similar experience, yet nobody credits their roommate for their degree because the roommate paid rent on time. In fact, if they did, people would think it was weird....
Oookay - after reading OP's final update, I will say this: She married a self-centered, delusional narcissist who thinks he can gamble his way to wealth while using HER money, since he already lost all of his. His comment about kids just means he thinks that would somehow make her dependent on him. He's a total loser and she needs to get shut of him ASAP - which should be much easier since the prenup is there. Also, is there a state in the union where you can't get a divorce if you want one? Anybody?
Aparantly, there are countries where both have to agree or they cannot get a divorce.
@@nitka711 When the gal mentioned Nebraska without designating the US, I got the impression they were both living in the States. That's why I wondered if there was still an American state where one party alone cannot sue for divorce. Anybody?
@@rickraber1249 I don't know if there is. But plenty of Americans "move" to Nevada for six weeks, just long enough to establish residency, so they can get a quickie divorce.
I am not a lawyer, especially in Nevada, but I believe that if you can serve the papers to the guy, you can get the divorce. If he doesn't answer, then it's like a default thing, and the judge just says, "I guess he doesn't care about who gets what," and makes the award based on the person suing for divorce. But if you want to fight it, you have to actually go into the court, and I think at that point, all you can really do is say, "I want my stuff!"
I don't think you can actually DENY the dissolution of marriage in Nevada.
But again, I am not a lawyer, and I could be wrong.
Still, it would be worth it to take a leave of absence long enough to "move" there, wouldn't it?
@@AuntLoopy123 Yes, it would be worth it, depending on how bad the marriage is. And this one is very bad.
As someone who went through a recent divorce in GA, US. If there's no contest, then things are usually fast tracked, papers get signed, each keep own debt, and split items equally. Contested(meaning the other party went I don't agree to this), the lawyers do discovery(collecting information from both parties about finances, etc), communicated with lawyer of other party if they have one. If the contesting party doesn't have one, there is a mandatory wait time to allow them to collect information and submit it. If after the mandatory time, they still don't communicate then a judge can compel them(pm saying this is your last chance to get your side in), followed by more mandatory time. After said mandatory time, then a court date is set, and both parties are notified with via email, and snail mail. If you fail to show up to the court hearing, then the party that shows up is pretty much guaranteed to get what they want.
It takes a bit longer, yet still yields results. In her case, she has a prenup and, with a good divorce lawyer, can probably make him pay for any court and attorney fees that she may accrue in the course of the process.
Story 1: NTA sounds like husband has a case of “what’s yours is mine and what’s mine is mine too”. When my husband made more money he paid for more things but always gave me access to his money; I would always ask if I wanted to make a large purchase that wasn’t for groceries or household expenses. The tables have since turned and now I’m the breadwinner and I send him money when he needs it and he will ask me when there is a large purchase to make. This is how a marriage is supposed to work.
This is how a marriage is supposed to work. Exactly. My dad quit his job as a teacher because the system wanted to separate our family (corrupt greedy manipulative perverts were trying to 'snatch' my mum). My mum transferred to another school, but she's still and has always been government employed. She's been the major breadwinner in the family ever since.
My dad works. He has always worked very hard, but being self employed has so many challenges.
But I've learned from them the meaning of a real committed marriage.
Sometimes they gripe at each other as is normal, but there's so many ways that people today trivialize a real marriage by refusing to be really and truly supportive of each other.
It's so sad to see.
Two are better than one and a strong marriage is the best chance people have to fight through life. Humans have just become so selfish and narrow sighted.
That's how it's supposed to work. My ex hubby played fast and loose with our savings. I should never have had a joint savings with him.
@@audreymusk sound alike theres a lot to this story your leaving out
@@dragb9284 Like the fact that the asshole headmaster at the school tried to get my dad moved to another school in a different district,...to break up the family... Coz my Mum would have been left teaching in the same school, under his mercy and authority? Or that he tried to make the Service Commission sue my father for refusing to kowtow to his wishes? Yeah,.. a lot
Sadly I personally watched almost the exact same thing happen to my youngest brother. Only his wife and her family asked him to sign the prenup.
At the time he was a Captain in the U.S. Army and his wife to be was a medical receptionist.
So he agreed and signed the prenup.
Separate finances with the home finances divided between them, 50/50.
Dutch or 50/50 split on all out of home activities. The owners of the vehicles paid for everything related to that vehicle.
I suppose her family didn’t know that Officers have college degrees in diverse fields. Well now even most enlisted do as well.
25 years later, he retired as a Major and immediately crossed over to work the civilian side.
For some reason the fact that he had a PHD and worked as a psychiatrist while in the Army never came up.
Evidently his parents loved to tell everyone in their family and anyone who showed up at family gatherings, that he was just a moron that was in the Army who jumped out of perfectly good airplanes and helicopters and that his two older brother were just as stupid because the only job we could get was in the Army and everyone knows the military only takes stupid people that can’t make it on the outside.
I always thought her parents were stupid, and she was nice but really had no interest in what my brother actually did in the Army. He would always ask her if she wanted to go to meals and other office related functions but she wasn’t interested, since she had to go to hers.
Both our second brother and I were there when he graduated from Airborne School, Air Assault School. In fact he used my pins to get his blood wings (as did our 2nd brother)
Basically they just thought he was some kind of grunt and did not find out that he was a Doctor of Psychiatry until his wife told her parents that he had a job already and started work as a Doctor at one of the hospitals in San Antonio.
I mean that’s pretty much what they said, he can’t do anything on the outside because there are no jobs that require jumping out of airplanes and helicopters that pays really well.
Boy were they all surprised when he retired and immediately started pulling in some really excellent cash. His wife had asked if they would be okay now that he was only going to get a retired Major’s income. He told her that she didn’t need to worry, that he already had a job and he told her where and how much.
He did also teach part time at a local college and a few on line colleges mostly towards the end of his military career for extra money.
I never really figured out what their problem was, but once I found out that they wanted him to help fund them in their old age. I asked him if he was going to do it and he said no. He was responsible for his wife and their two dogs and would not be giving or loaning one darn dime to his in-laws ever.
I will admit I poke them every chance I get about the prenup and the division of finances and property. It’s not like I don’t live dangerously at home, I love to poke at my wife. Sometimes you poke the bear and sometime the bear mauls you. We have been married over 40 years and dated for three years before she asked me to marry her. (A whole different story).
I love my brothers a lot. His wife is nice enough and is always friendly and it is evident that she truly loves my youngest brother, but her folks, well let just say we have a hate/hate relationship and I won’t have to sleep on the couch if I make them mad or their daughter, which I might add surprisingly has never happened. Although she has apologized for their behavior multiple times. I finally told her that she should not apologize for grown adults who act shamelessly.
I love sticking it to them absolutely every chance I get.
My wife gets mad and goes straight to the slapping the back of my head, and warns me not to cause trouble when we visit.
We went to a shooting range, one that caters to the long range shooters.
Let’s just say he dropped close to $30,000.00usd on a really really nice rifle setup. Like everything in the world brand names matter. All three of us pretty much have the same types of rifles, just different manufacturers.
When we pulled up to his house I immediately noticed their car in his driveway. My care o’ meter broke upon seeing that they had parked in the middle of his two car driveway. Basically blocked anyone else from being able to use it.
So we grabbed our gear, and made our way inside.
My wife, his wife and her parents were talking about how hard it was to make ends meet on just a retirement check and Social Security. While they were extremely grateful that their only child tried to help them out, more should be done
My wife looked at me and gave me the patented don’t do it look.
So I just told my brother, man that was a sweet setup. What did you drop on that? $20,000.00usd on the rifle. So I asked what about the scope, bi pod and all the other things.
He said about another $10,000.00 or so maybe a bit more.
I earned the butt chewing my wife gave me for talking money like that in front of his wife’s parents.
My wife told me can you imagine how they feel after telling us how hard it was to make ends meet and you get your brother to talking about dropping $30,000.00usd on a toy?
My response was well it sucks to be them, they forced him to sign a prenup because they owned a 1950’s mobile home and 3 whole acres, and us dumb Army grunts are to stupid to make it in the real world.
Heck he had a three bedroom home and 5 acres before they got married.
Granted one room is his office/storage/storage.
Yet they were worried about him taking their daughters earnings and going after their family property.
They are still married, her parents are still alive and still asking for her to get him to give them money. Not happy with the meager amount they can get from their daughter.
I should point out that neither of them wanted to have children, which is another bone of contention. Especially when I heard her parents tell her that it was her job to help carry on the family name. Hmmmm, she has our last name, and things may have changed lately but isn’t it the male of the family that Carrie’s on the bloodline and family name?
My brother asked us and our other brother along with our son to come to his house to discuss his will, and to give us all copies.
Her parents showed up and I thought it would be out off until they went back home (but it has become a “thing”, when they find out that any of his brothers or his niece or nephew are visiting they show up to make sure to beg for money or try to go out to eat with us or join in on the free food because we all grill or cook and provide the food and beer.
Anyway turns out that other than a few items that are war marked for me and 2nd brother everything is going to our son, and I mean everything. Truck, Harleys and just about every darn thing in his office.
He did ask that our grandchildren (if they grow up to be good people) that our son share some of the firearms with them.
My two brothers both have no children, and all our wills are close in nature. My wife does not care about my firearms or motorcycles, so my will stipulates that my son gets all of the firearms and motorcycles, other than some that are earmarked for my brothers and the same clause about my grandchildren.
However my wife and I have always had combined incomes, while both my second and fourth brother do not. They both have their money and their wives have their money.
I almost stroked out, I couldn’t stop laughing at the look on his in-laws faces. It looked like they actually forgot how to suck air in and out.
Even when I left the room my wife said they could still hear me laughing. We are talking full on manically. Even some years later I still start laughing just thinking about it.
I wish I would have had a camera running to snap a picture.
On a side note later on my wife popped me in the back of the head and called me a Jackass….probably because she had to go out back and make me stop laughing. Worse every time I went inside I would look at them and they would glare at me and I would start laughing and pointing at them again. Then got sent back outside (by my wife) until I could control myself.
Now none of us are what we would consider to be rich, but we are in the high middle class, and are not hurting for money.
The Army used to like to give out some serious bonuses every time we re-enlisted, then count in tax free military retirement with wives that also work, you can bank some serious cash by not spending your retirement.
My wife was in the Air Force, so she receives a retirement (most of it is non taxable and I was in the Army and the civil service, then retired as a GS-11.
My 2nd brother owned his own business and banked his retirement.
We don’t live at our means, but below it.
Anyway, sorry for the long story, I just couldn’t help it since it was close to what had happened to my brother.
Take care and stay safe, wish a better life and much happiness to OP in the future.
However our children, my 2nd and 4th brother and their wives though it was hilarious.
Evidently (at that time I was 60 years old) adults don’t act that way, or some such nonsense. According to my wife, she gave up on telling me that I embarrassed her, okay in all honesty on multiple occasions throughout our 40 years together.
STBX thinks it’s unnatural for the wife to make more money than the husband, yet he’d be perfectly unashamed with sitting on his ass gambling OP’s money away while she worked? What a putz.
An actual clown 🤡
There are no professional gamblers, there are professional PLAYERS, there's a difference
yeah, like, you can be a professional poker player. that involves understanding all the ins and outs of that particular game so you stand a chance of winning enough to not always be broke at the end of the day. also, big-name professionals can get other people to pay the buy-in for them so don't always even play with their own money. just hanging out at a casino every day is not being a professional, it's feeding an addiction.
Oh, and by the way, the actual pro's are good at what they do. That's why most of them don't have some poor woman bankrolling them.
He lost his money to gambling and he thinks its a good idea to make OP finance his dream of continuing to lose money? LOL
He wants to be a professional gambler, but he has been losing all his money.
The second he asked to void the prenup, I'd be gone. When he then said he wanted to quit his job to be a professional gambler while in debt, that would bolster my decision.
Then the “unnatural to make more than me” line. Like she didn’t jump the gun. He has a lot of weird thoughts that she was totally unaware of.
I find it funny that whenever whoever wants the pre-nup to “protect their assets” always assume they make more money than when the learn they make a lot less then spouse
So true. There was a story about a woman who wanted a prenup since she made more than her fiancé (OP) but when it came out that he had quite a lot of money, she quickly changed her mind and actually became quite angry when he insisted, calling him names, completely ignoring she was the one who proposed it in the first place. I think he ended their relationship.
Greedy bastards,lol
@@elalogar7340 I remember that one ,how silly
It's already ridiculous for him to ask for a prenup just for his income and an appartement who belonged to him before the marriage (and which he sold anyway) and she wouldn't have gotten in a divorce anyways.
"He told me we should void the prenup" I let out a very loud HA! at that moment.
ALSO: What's wrong with those grown-ass adults running to mommy and daddy with their problems? I understand it in an I-don't-feel-safe kind of situation, but beyond that, it baffles me.
I want your money! If you won't give it to me, I'll tell my mommy and daddy! BTW, you're SO lucky to have me and I could do SO much better than you! Does that sum it up?
I had a manager like that. He would never pay attention to emails, so I would request holidays and he would never get around to reading them so I would take the holiday. I didn't care we were having an all team compulsory meeting. He would have to explain. In my book a lack of no equals a yes.
Story 3: If he had thought of it, my late husband would TOTALLY have done something similar to me. 🤣And he would have kept the lie up for years with a completely straight face. The man had an inscrutable poker face!
The first story is absolutely hilarious...I like how OP is assertive and I also like the pettiness. She should really divorce the idiot no doubt...I love the last story so much. OP is a hoot and I am glad his wife knows so... 😄 thanks LG!
I read a Chicken Soup story where a prankster brother in law called up and said he was from the phone company, and they were going to blow the dust out of the phone lines that day, so she needed to put a paper bag over the phone headset and tape it down so the dust wouldn't blow all over the room when they got around to her phone. Poor harassed mother of 2 babies bought that one and never lived it down. Same as sending your wife to the auto parts store for muffler bearings or headlight fluid. All good fun. Just probably makes you a little less gullible next time. (Snort!)
She needs to get an updated will, living will and remove him from contacts in case of any emergency asap. Remove his rights in her life and care as much as possible before the divorce is final.
Story 1: So loser hubby thinks OP can’t get a divorce if he doesn’t sign the papers? Jog on sucker! It might take longer, but OP can do it without his say-so. At least she’s consulting a divorce lawyer. Professional gambler, indeed.
These guys who always go crying to mommy and daddy after a fight with the wife/ girlfriend crack me up.
Just in general grown adults going to their parents to bitch about their partner clearly aren't matured yet
Right? His family calling her and berating her? My response would have been “no, he didn’t support me through college and NONE OF THIS is any of your business”!
Aaaaand Mommy calls wife...
Story 1- If he was happy to have you sign a pre nup, he should be happy with the money he makes. He is trying to convince her it’s a good idea now cause she can buy a car in cash.
Story 2- good job! Be able to stand up for what you will take or not.
Last story- 😂 never lie it’ll always get you!!
Gotta say nta.while a prenup is not bad, the fact hubby feels his money is his,his wife's money is hers.they can split everything right down the middle.does hubby realize to void a prenup,he would need a lawyer?
His attitude is My Money Is Mine, and Your Money is Mine. She's NTA and she should have obscured the fact of a "cash buy" (hindsight of course). But they obviously don't know each other well. She is going to have an expensive divorce shortly. P.S. I read on, and yes, divorce proceedings forthwith. Also as he's in software engineering she should guard her electronic passwords/devices with her life, or he'll do something which only bitchy IT guys seem to do. Sabotage and suck their victims dry.
Agreed, however it's usually the other way around, now she knows what it's like for a large portion of men. Regardless of gender no one should foot the bill for lazy spouse. He's a colossal ass & I'm glad she's filing, play stupid games win stupid prizes & he's earned his bobbie prize
I love my husband almost as much as I love our children, but he has ONE chance to call me names and not come home.🤷🏿♀️
1. LOL, NTA. Btw what is it with adults running home and crying to their parents about their spouses?
Yea...I really wonder about that.
disturbingly common
The first time I seen that, I lost attraction for someone. It is easier to break up with a momma's boy than divorce though. So I'm thankful for red flags
Yeah I'd understand if you are like 18-19, because you are teen but the dude is closer to 40 than 30.
I think people only sic the flying monkeys because they know they're wrong. If they were right they wouldn't *need* flying monkeys.
The TIFU... 😂😂😂... he should get her many awesome Christmas presents for a few years.
What??? She already has a real prize in him! (Yes, I do agree with you about the gifts, though.)
Story 1: I could feel the smugness of him asking for the prenup because he thought he made more than OP and thought she would be a gold digger or something only to suddenly backtrack and want to void it because he found out his wife makes more, thus revealing it's actually _him_ whose essentially a gold digger and would take all the money if given the opportunity 🤔🤭
I don't think he thought she would be a gold digger. I think he just wanted to hang on to what was "his", like a little kid hanging onto his favorite toy. Probably never occurred to a narcissist like him that a mere woman would ever make more $$ than his exalted self. Here's an idea, pal - ask your parents to bankroll your gambling addiction and see what THEY say!
So he had her sign a pre-nup, which she signed. That's where it ends... *CUZ THAT'S KINDA WHAT A FREAKIN PRE-NUP IS!!!*
Yeah, true.
Story 1: "A thief judges others by his condition", aka if someone calls you a gold digger, they are the ones who would exploit someone for money. Story 1 is proof of that saying.
I'm not a gold-digger, but I'm pretty sure that if I say, "That OP's husband is a gold-digger," I am still not a gold-digger. Because he is SUCH a gold-digger.
But, yeah, he totally would have called her a gold-digger, if she didn't accept the original pre-nup, I'm sure.
@@AuntLoopy123 I mean people who accuse others inside their relationships. Plenty of guys out there claim every single woman is after their 100k salary as if it's some big fucking deal lol
@@SilverstreamPJ28 it’s always the broke boys that barely make enough to buy their own underwear and pay their car note that complain about “gold diggers” being after them lmao
He asked for the prenup. Now he needs to live with it. 😂
Lol. He thinks that if he doesn’t sign, she’s gonna be forced to remain married? So he’s broke AND dumb.
Story 1: OP did good by dumping her greedy husband. Plus that misogynistic comment about how unnatural it is for a woman to earn more than her husband and that she should be having children.......just no. Definitely NOT husband material! 😰
Story 2: Nicely done OP! You did yourself and your wife a favor by leaving that crappy job. And it's nice to see that you and your wife are still married! ❤
Yeah, I suspected that if he hadn't been forced to show his cards so soon, it would've been a matter of time before he started harping on OP to quit her job, be a stay at home mommy and make herself totally dependent... while he pissed away all of his income on gambling and bad investments instead of supporting his family.
It's a good thing it never got to that point, because that's how women become trapped.
Madam you didn't rush divorce. This guy was dropping red flags as if they grow on trees.
The fact that they're married and don't talk about their work or finances is sooo friggin weird. 🤷🏻♀️
Exactly. I don't buy this story at all. If it's true, this is an AWFUL MARRIAGE. Why wouldn't he be helping her send out resumes, and get her jobs? Why wouldn't she be doing the same? They both should converse and know each other. They both should understand each other's finances. It's a big red-flag right there. What do they actually DO as a married couple? If they don't know each other even as friends. Gotta be a lot of cheating in this relationship. And, like, he never knew until the one day she bought a super-expensive car? Like she's living like a college pauper all these years after college? Huh? She didn't buy an expensive phone, or ANYTHING except a car? And that's a horrible decision on her part to pay cash for a super expensive car. This whole thing is unbelievable. Made up by some woman who wants a 'horrible man gets owned' story.
@@brooksfire9580 this is a regular occurrence by many people. Hence why divorce rates are so high and most are because of money.
@@kissit012 I'm you separate your finances, that's one very likely kiss-of-death for a relationship. You can't be penny-pinching while your spouse goes out and buys luxury items. The other problem is when money IS pooled together, where one partner way outspends the other. There should be a 50/50 split of combined income. And DISCUSSION about big purchases. If I find my wife bought a super expensive car without consulting me, ummmmm... no. We can't afford that, and that financially hits our entire family.
@@brooksfire9580 we always bought everything in our family on cash, not one cent of debt was made, if we cannot buy in cash, we simply don't buy.
@@dagmarbubolz7999 Never took out a mortgage for a house? I hope you have credit cards, because many places now don't take cash - like amusement parks and sports arenas. We have credit cards for that purpose. We always pay them off at the end of the month though, so we don't pay interest.
Story 1: OP definitely made the right call to file for divorce. Her STXH is gonna drag her down with him, with this gambling addiction he obviously has.
Op keep that pre nup. Hubby thinks his money is his and now he wants yours.
She literally laughed all the way to the bank. Good for her! I think prenups are good when it has a clause for cheating, and I'd get one myself to protect me and my future partner so that he isn't paying an assload post divorce if it happens (it wouldn't be fair to either of us). It's funny how he wanted to void it after so much time though.
That last story is golden! What a story to tell the family for years to come!
Laughing in his face is NOT an AH move! I would have laughed in his face, too!!
🤣 I died laughing at Jack Frost eating faces and biting off noses
I hope you let his family know how far in debt he is, including why. Protect yourself OP because he may try to make you pay him spousal support.
how is that possible when they have a prenuptial.
I loved the last story and can so relate. I come from a long line of story tellers. We don't really lie, most of the stories have the basic facts and truth, but given that we have a way with words, do sound effects, and have a slightly twisted sense of humor it is possible for us to take a pretty straight forward, ho-hum story and have people think it is an adventure.
When I married my ex, my two daughters were fairly young and we started some of our own holiday traditions because we were living away from the extended family and both my husband and I did not feel a need to bring all of our old traditions into the new family. One of the first things we ditched was the tradition of turkey for Thanksgiving. We decided to go with Cornish game hens since neither of us wanted to deal with trying to bake a hugh turkey and all the left overs, along with have 2 girls that were not fond of turkey. So, let the new tradition begin.
On Thanksgiving we bake the birds and each of us gets a beautiful little game hen with all the rest of the regular Thanksgiving side. Two little girls look at this miniture turkey and declare that they do like turkey, so we tell them it isn't turkey. My youngest starts to tear up and than tells us she doesn't want to eat the chicken baby. So I tell her it is not a chicken baby it is actually a pigmy chicken and we were in fact saving regular chickens for the attacts of these vicious little chickens. So, my Husband, see that the girls are now actually interested in eating this new food on their plates joins me in the tales of the pigmy chicken and why it is actually the perfect food to celebrate Thanksgiving. We tell them about how pigmy chickens live in forests and raid the chicken coops and torment regular chickens, so we are doing a favor for the chickens.
It went on for a while, with pigmy chickens becoming the go to, super fancy dinner for family celebrations like birthdays and good report cards. So, about the time the girls were 12 and 11, we found ourselves back in the hometown and once again had extended family to deal with at holiday time. I had shared the pigmy chicken story with my mom, who was the storyteller and she loved it. I had really not shared the story with my mother-in-law because although she was a very nice MIL and we got along, she did not always understand my sense of humor. She tended to be very no nonsense and in some ways sort of let me know that I wasn't quite what she expected her son to marry. Well come the Holidays and my MIL wanted us to come to her house for Thanksgiving. That was fine with me because my father, and my brothers too worked law enforcement and holidays tended to be on a very flexible schedule with my family. And because it was the first holiday we would be with MIL she asked my girls if they wanted Ham, Turkey or roast beef because she wanted to fix them whatever they like best. So, they tell her that anything she cooks would be fine, but their favorite was Pigmy Chicken. Oops. So, MIL is trying to figure out just exactly what pigmy chicken is and my girls start relating the whole Pigmy Chicken lore as told to them by Mom and Dad. She is so confused and so are the girls. It takes a while for MIL to finally realize it is Cornish game hen, and now she is getting some idea of just how strange I am, and how much I have twisted her son.
It caused a bit of tension because she felt the whole story amounted to us lying to the kids. We had a discussion that Pigmy Chickens were sort of like our Santa Claus and she had been fine with the Santa story. We even sat the girls down and actually cleared up the Pigmy Chicken myth so they would not go ordering it in a restaurant. But my girls are now in their 40's and have families of their own. I am no longer married, and their step dad, although great while they were growing up has been out of their lives (his choice) for a long time. But we still have Pigmy Chickens and the myth lives on in our family. And, even long after my girls learned about Cornish Hens they will still order Pigmy Chickens from restaurants and sharing the story with waitresses.
Omg! HAHAHA 😆 😂 😆! I LOVE the story of the Pygmy Chickens!! I gotta tell my fiance this story, this is right up our alley kinda sense of humor!
Ah, the myth lives on. When our kids were little and saw their first black and white photo, we told them that it was because color hadn't been invented til recently, and that the whole world used to be just black and white. And weren't things much prettier now? Also, remember McDonalds used to have ball pits in their play areas? Well, we were taking them out to dinner one night, and they asked where we were going. We told them, The Liver And Onions Palace. There was a moment of silence from the back seat, and then one little voice asked if they had a play area. We said yes, they had a quicksand pit and a nettle patch. (Figgered that would be an appropriate play area for a restaurant with a name like that.) More dead silence, til we had mercy and told them the truth. PS It was a sad day when they both reached The Age of Skepticism. Sigh. BUT - now we have a whole new generation of ready victims: Grandchildren!
PS 2 - must give credit to Bill Watterson, the creator of Calvin and Hobbs, for the black and white story. Calvin's dad told him that one. I was so impressed, I felt I just HAD to lay that one on our kids. Thanks, Mr. Watterson. You are obviously a comic genius. And most likely a dad, too.
There's a pre-nup that HE WANTED. Screw his request to void it. I'd divorce the asshole immediately. 🤷🏽♀️
when he said dumped for a younger woman what he really meant was dumped OP for a woman he could manipulate easier LOL
That lie was really messed up, especially perpetuated over so many years.
Ah c'mon, Megan. I thought he said he told the whopper and then forgot about it for 15 years. (Plus if she's smart she'll make him pay: a nice pair of diamond earrings she can flash every time she has to fess up to believing his whopper.)
Definitely DO NOT void it now. He showed his colors and will simply divorce and get half.
First story about the prenup: how immature is this guy, that is he jealous of your income AND THEN RUN TO HIS FAMILY to cry about it? Tell him to stay away until he grows up.
Story 1... He went straight to his family and lied about supporting OP to get his flying monkeys on op's back... Lol
1st story. Seen this before, but yeah LMAO. Thanks hon for the prenup.!
OP should be seriously considering if she can upgrade her partner, because her current one just reeks of entitlement, IE he is thinking "what's mine is mine, and what's yours belongs to me as well"
"And mommy and daddy say so!". Yup, definitely needs an upgrade. BTW, before you marry somebody, take a close hard look at their family, because you're marrying all of them or at least the values they instilled in their offspring.
I laughed at the last story. My husband is a master BS'er too, as is my FiL. It takes a few years, but they have tells where you can clue in that they are spinning one of their tall tales.
He should never have stooped so low as to even suggest voiding a pre- nup he invoked! One that, he no longer wanted after finding out that you payed cash for a car. Pitiful, pitiful, pitiful
Story 1. I'm dying 🤣 🤣🤣🤣🤣 screw that guy. 2nd story....heck yeah!!!
That "nose biter" story had me rolling with laughter. Hahahaha. Glad she still loves him.
I love the jack frost story. I'm thinking of trying to get that "fact" going in my family. Just to fuck with them.
A Google search would tell anyone this isn't true, did nobody ever correct her over the years?? She probably said she hated it when it came on, and somebody would have asked her why, then told her the truth, seriously Jack Frost is mentioned in more than that song and she doesn't know who he is??
Story 1
You made the rules, I'll enforce them. 😂
And here he thought he was the one more financially strong.
Play stupid game my boy, you win stupid prizes.
I’m so proud of OP 1 she understood her self-worth and recognized all the 🚩
Husband demanded a prenup because he assumed his wife would turn out to be a gold digger.
Turns out _he's_ the gold digger. The irony.
I love that last story.. made my day. Reminds me of when my nephew used to tease his girlfriends sister or friend but can't remember who after 20+ years by telling them they were out of blinker fluid when taking about their car 🤣
Also had a friend that'd shout at people "Jesus is sugar free" from the back of my truck occasionally 🤦♀️
😂 that Jack Frost story was hilarious.
Loved that last story. It was a wholesome story that made me laugh.
Currently in da doctor's appointment and now in da waiting room
That last story was hilarious, it’s something my husband would do 🤣
Story 1 lmao OP should thank the deadbeat after the divorce for that awesome text
Now Op can paint it as an abusive marriage, and his signature is no longer required.
Last story! LOLOL 'Jack Frost as the nose biter-eater! OMG that totally cracked me up! It it believeable considering that so many fairy tales have dark hidden meanings. Makes me think first of the song 'Ring Around The Rosy'. That for sure isnt a happy children's song!
1st story totally cracks me up. Isn't really strange how many men will expect or demand a prenup? But then turn right around and after finding out that wifey ends up better off financially and then want to throw out the prenup or ignore it. (nut keep it in the background until they feel the need again to bring it up. Usually they want to ignore it when the wife comes into a surprise inheritance, windfall or lottery. Then according to them it's all for one and one for all. LOL
2nd story/update. Oops just finished the update and now the truth is out! Talk about being an AH!! Apparently he didn't think about what would happen to her if his gambling debts came and bit him in the ass that she too could have been liable for those debts. She could have lost out big time! What a scummy AH!!! Good that she's getting a divorce!!! Hope she has a Barracuda for divorce lawyer.
BWAAAAHAHAHAHAHAHAAAA! Oh, that second story! That boss was SUCH an idiot.
When you have a subordinate who does most of your work and lets you take the credit, and get away with "client golf meetings," because they are covering for you, you should absolutely, always and forever, read THEIR emails, even if you don't read anyone else's. ALSO, DO NOT tick off the person upon whose shoulders your are relaxing when you should be working. If the boss had approved the vacation for three weeks, he probably would have had several more years of his lazy golf-playing "with cause" "work" and good pay and benefits.
Now, he has to look for another job, where they will probably MAKE HIM WORK. So, yeah. He had a good thing, and he lost it, because the ONE email he actually bothered to read was a request he decided to deny, JUST to flex his power and stick it to the underling.
And I bet the OP got paid for those 5 weeks of accumulated vacation, right? Because HR and Payroll weren't assholes who decide to screw their employees and break labor laws?
Oh, this story was soooooo good. Thanks, LG!
I'm wondering how he's going to find another job without a reference from the company that fired him.
Last story reminded of when I was telling my daughter about the different glands and what they did. So...I added that a hyperactive Farticulatory Gland causes people to be excessively gassy. She was aghast and asked why so we even have that. Said she'd get hers removed when she's a grownup. I told her it was a joke the same day. We still laugh about hyperactive Farticulatory Glands.
Well, yes, that's what I think...(!) If you have pulled someone's leg, you tell them shortly... Then it can be fun for all..!
But to let it be for 15 years..? And derogate the one who trusted you enough to not go around double checking your words, by calling her stupid..? That to me is being an arrogant ass... OP's wife have forgiven him, though, and seems ok with it, so good on them, but I agree with someone else's comment, that he should buy some great Christmas presents for a few years... 😏
Wait! Don't all guys have one of those? Maybe more than one? Some even have their own names - like "Ralph, the pet duck."
He was wants to void the prenup cause he was going to leave. If you void and he leaves, you will have to pay HIM alimony. Run to the nearest exit.
Congratulations. He played himself 🤣
Story 1: Absolutely NTA!!! In a world where women in general make less than men in similar professions, and women in general are in more vulnerable positions career-wise and money-wise if they have children, she should guard her money, 100%! What's good for the goose is good for the gander, and he should realize the prenup always went both ways. :) It's obvious his attitude was belittling of her if he thought he was protecting only himself with that prenup, lol! Also, in the eventual divorce, you don't want to get stuck paying alimony to this a-hole because you were the major earner and he persuaded you to act against your interest in opening up the prenup.
EDIT: Yeah, he wants your money for his gambling habit. :/ You didn't over-react. Divorce him ASAP.
I would never see the Christmas Song the same again. That was hilarious.
Story 1 husband really showed his true colors. Gambling dept but somehow thinks he could go pro- yikes. Saying "you're lucky I haven't left you for a younger woman" textbook abuser phrase.
She is lucky they signed a prenup or he may have drained her savings as well.
That last story sounds like something my brothers would do to their wives 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
s1: OPs response at the end is the best I have heard. Perfect story.
Wow story 1 is insane. I make more than my hubby and he is cool with it (he was making more than me until this year because after the lockdowns I was able to start working.) And we combine money from the moment we got married and equal since day one. That is what we do, we are equal.
Story 1 - he must have known that once she finished grad school that she would most likely end up with a high paying job, right?
He may not have realized how much qualified nurses make these days, especially in certain fields. Years ago nurses didn't make crap for paychecks but were heavily depended upon. Thankfully that has changed over the years and besides the much needed pay increases nurses have been given more (and higher) responsibilities in the medical field. Probably also made the mistake because OP is a contractor nurse meaning she is not employed by any one hospital/institution. Since nurses are needed everywhere she can make good money that way.
that last story almost had me in tears that is hilarious. I hope the wife thinks so now lol
Story one: I would've laughed at him too, I'm laughing right now. 🤣🤣🤣
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So it’s unnatural for her to be making more but he wants her to work and let him use her money?
Lol the jack frost story is hilarious. I kind of wish were a true story about the song I like dark creepy things.
Laughed in his face
I'd laugh in his face too and said "Aw, nice joke honey..." ;)
Professional gamblers are mathematicians who play the odds in the same way a a Bookie does. They aren’t people who chase big wins for a dopamine rush.
story 1 - cannot access the atm because he shut out his atm then lies to his family time to yeet out of this fiasco and lawyer up asap...turns out hubby is a poor gambler wanting to be a pro gambler YIKES run op run
Story 1: He’s trash. Good move on the divorce. Stay strong!
Story 1. All these so called adults who run to mommy and family like children every time they dont get their own way get on my last nerve. Nta ur $. Tell everyone the real truth!!!
Some in-laws are even worse. I know a gal whose ex-MIL actually set her darling baby boy up with his high school girlfriend, while he was married, 20 years after high school. He dumped my friend (biggest favor ever!) and married the HS sweetheart (?) who also dumped her hubby to form the new liaison. Always felt kind of sorry for her, knowing the guy she married, who was also a narcissist with some not-great addictions.
I really need a second Update on the first Story.
The last story! 😂😂 I lol’d.
04:54 - "What happened to his love?"
Sort 1: he goes running to mommy and daddy? Calling you names? No, no, no, no.
Take a 6 week nursing assignment to Las Vegas or Reno so you will be considered a citizen of Nevada. THEN file for divorce there. His agreement wont be a factor and you will be granted your divorce with minimal effort. You can even give him a token $10 a month "support" if necessary.
Story 1: So the dude who has a gambling problem and appears to not be even really good at it want's to go professional. That's like saying people who OD are professional drug user's.
Also TIFU I know for a fact Google and Wikipedia were a thing 15 years ago, people will say untrue things, it's your fault you believe them if a quick search nowadays can disprove it.
But they are professional! Right up to their dying day./s
They don't care when it breaks their mind and their families, that's just collateral. I speak from experience in the "collateral" perspective, and doubt gamblers are very different to druggies.
Yes , he wants her to fund him as pro, which he would likely loose there too
15 years old alot of folks are also not proficient online either..... Please stop being so judgemental. Oh wait! It's the internet. it's also the prerequisite these days.
The last story was hilarious 😂
I love prenups they don't just help one person but both
Its funny how he was all for the prenup but now he knows you have more money he wants to tear up prenup. Do not tear it up
Telling his family about a financial discussion he had with his wife is a bigger slight than trying to cancel the current income arrangement. That’s manchild territory.
Omg that last one…dude is like a real world version of Loki from the Avengers (apparently with Tom Hiddleston’s dance moves) who WOULDN’T want to marry that? 😂👍🖤
Story One - If OP agrees to void the prenup - and (may god forbid!) open a joint account so her husband gas access to her money - she will be as much a gambler as he is.