At least this story "swap genders" actually make sense. Make the story more traditional and have guy who had gold digger gf and there would be no need to make so much explanation "dump that b" would be only thing reddit would say
People insisting it may have been a joke: As if that would make it better? Good guys don't think insulting their girlfriend and calling her a "stupid bitch" is a funny joke.
Those defending are the type that make those type of jokes and always write girls off as being "too sensitive " or "crazy" because then they would actually have to take accountability that they were actually the ones causing the pain and strife in thier own relationship. And obviously those type of dudes don't know how to be accountable for anything
The gaslighting is disgusting. I've never seen anyone who genuinely loves their partner talk like that about them. And the macho bravado excuse is just the cherry on the cake. Anyone who denigrates their partner to feel 'macho' must be avoided at all costs. They're toxic af and are the epitome of fragile masculinity.
True you cannot believe some opinions with no leg to stand on. Unless it was the fiance and his gross group. It wasn't a joke. It was a whole conversation that obviously could never take place in front of OP. What else could he say? That he was telling the truth? Really?
I’m really blindsided by the fact that OP is having to defend and explain herself and multiple times at that. She loved this man She wasn’t digging through his phone or going around checking up on him. This man had people over there and got busted for being a gold digging asshole. No matter what the whole 3 more years and I’ll be free was enough. Good for her for getting out of that crap and I hope she finds a better life partner.
I think some people stubbornly don’t believe that rich people can be victims. I am by no means rich but i have met many people who blame people who have life easier than them. People of all walks of life can have troubles and they can all be victims of toxic behavior and/or abuse. I feel bad for OP because she doesn’t deserve to be taken advantage of and have her love life pulled from under her just because of the circumstances she was born into.
I know! It's like the second she said her family was wealthy and she's a trust fund baby, SO many people were determined to hate her and question everything she said and make her the villain, judging her purely because she has money. She's the victim here.
@@katizkool5039 Too many hold the actions of specific very powerful wealthy people against the entire tax bracket. I DO understand the frustrations a lot of people have with the wealthy getting special treatment (via taxes, the 'justice' system, & undue influence in the political realm that is negatively affecting all of us). But just being wealthy or from a wealthy family does not make someone guilty of all the wrongs the wealthy bring to society, & no one should be judged or persecuted for things they didn't do, period. Too many just can't see beyond their own prejudice & resentment.
I am lower middle class and started a degree where I realised I am from by far the poorest family. Seems like everyone I interact with has a family that all went to private school and has at least a couple million in assets. It was very jarring hearing about their holidays or their family drama and I went to a friends house and was blown away by how nice it was. I have another friend who is more wealthy than me but his girlfriend’s family is another financial bracket and he says he can’t keep up with their expenses for gifts and holidays. Crazy to think about.
If he didn't mean it, he wouldn't have been offended by the prenup. This is a standard suggestion for anyone, get a prenup before you get married to protect yourself. If you're in a position where you can possibly make more money than you do today, get a prenup. I don't care if you're a man, a woman or non-binary, gold diggers are gold diggers, protect yourself.
I don't agree with prenups, but I agree that he was *not* joking. What kind of *idiot* jokes like that? Mark and his buddies called OP *stupid.* He said that he was "free" in another three years. That is *not* a joke!
I think the comment “3 years then I’m free” could mean either in three years OP’s trust fund is given to her, or that is how long a marriage in their country has to be before filing for divorce where you can try to get 50/50 (if no prenup exists)
Or if he was truly evil, it could mean that she'd be dead in 3 years. I used to watch all the murder mystery shows with my grandparents, and have seen a lot of real life stories that end that way.
@@kitarrah1422 As a fellow watcher of murder mystery documentaries, I agree. No one goes into a relationship thinking their partner is going to off them (for ANY reason), & yet it happens all the time.
All those Redditers sooooo sorry for poor Mark. Bleech. For all we know, those three years could be what he'd wait to kill her so it wouldn't be suspicious. He was a two-faced monster. Good riddance.
It's really gross that people kept trying to say "it might have been a joke." If someone "joked" about anyone I cared about like that I'd be done with them, the fact that the fiancee was saying it himself is disrespectful & disgusting. I wouldn't want to marry someone who spoke about me like that no matter what their reason was. I'm glad OP has enough self-esteem to not fall for that "it was just macho joking" BS. It is never okay to talk about your S.O in such a manner, not even as a joke.
Seriously!!!! like they weren’t joking they made op THE joke and the joke was she’s stupid that he has fooled. I’m very sarcasm, cheeky and pull “macho like humor” like oh man I have to marry a Victoria secret supermodel oh no my life is sooo horrible. But to “joke” about conning her like man I got her the “stupid bitch” fooled and once I marry them I’ll be set for life and after 3 years I can be free of “trust fund Barbie” which is just degrading like she’s isn’t a person worth being in a relationship with if not for her money. Like that’s her only redeeming quality to brings to the relationship. And calling her stupid because she isn’t doing a prenup, when she wasn’t because she loved and trusted him! It all sounds like a movie villain taking off his disguise and revealing their evil master plan to the hero. Defiantly not the only time he spoken like this and others felt comfortable to join in with him in tearing down her character in doing so. If it was a joke he and them would do it in front of op or like explain it, not hide and deny it and not hide the girls being over! I can’t imagine how poor op felt hearing it all like it would’ve made me feel sick to stomach if I was in her shoes and she was already sick! It’s like he was actually saying I don’t love or value her, yeah what a funny “joke”
@@jenicdarling9425 tbh aside from being a con-man, the fiancees behaviour reads as more than a little bit narcissistic. He didn't seem to get even if he WAS joking it still would be an unbelievably hurtful thing to say & OP would be well within her rights to dump him. The only bright side is OP found out before marrying him, someone like that would likely sabotage birth control if it would get them more money. She'll probably have some trust issues after this, but at least he didn't get what he wanted. Makes me feel very strongly in favour of prenups even though I don't have anything, it seems like a good way of checking if someone is trying to take advantage of you or use you.
@@catT5236 true he is very narcissistic with it always being about him and how he feels. Like him bragging about how he got a “trust fund Barbie” and them calling him the man and congratulating him. And then when she upset about his “joke” never really saw what he did was wrong like why she would be upset and actually apologize to her. He only did after his defense of playing the victim and gas lighting her the bad guy didn’t work, switching to finally apologize but only to stop the fight and shut her up. And saying he “needed to think everything through” and leaving seems like a emotional blackmail or something by threatening to break up with her over how “horrible” SHE was being to him?! It really is all about him I mean going to her sister’s place after in a panic realizing she heard (probably paranoid and panicked about what else they said that night wondering since this isn’t the 1st time they talk about her and like this. Then to react like a spoiled & hormonal teenager in a fight with op like she’s his mom, that after being terribly hurt by this and lost her trust feeling betrayed and conned by him and breaking it off claims she’s spying on him & ruining his life. Like she overheard them because they were so loud. Wtf ruining his life because he’s being evicted from her (I assume) realllllllly nice home he doesn’t pay bills for (I assume because he’s middle class and not advanced in his career) because of how rich she is the prices being out of his range. Her dad is buying him out so he’s ok job wise which he only got because of her. He sounds as narcissistic as he is materialistic, probably though of himself already rich planning on buying things like yachts and such and what a rich life and partying planned out doesn’t even need to work. Yeah Thank god she found out before and did this before marrying but I really wonder like what was his plan once they were married? With a reaction like that on the prenup he didn’t seem to think they would last yet felt he entitled to her family’s money and life! And women should do prenups even if they have nothing because “prenups can also cover other issues like incapacity, death, student debts, estate planning, spousal support, and a myriad of other legal concerns. One primary reason you may choose to sign a prenup is to customize the rules of marriage best suited for you and your partner.” So just because ur getting one doesn’t mean u get nothing with some made where if they have children and don’t work to raise them get X amount amount other things like that!
I think the only ones defending him are mysogynists whom make degrading comments about their female partners all the time so feel threatened when a woman leaves their partner over similar behaviour
In the first story, that guy was not joking. He was on the make. No one jokes like that about someone they truly love. Jokes that attack someone like that are NOT FUNNY.
I tutor on the side, and have taught some kids of wealthy families. Here's the thing, the kids behave based on the way they are raised and the parents own behavior. If the parents spoil them, give them little to no boundaries and use the kids to brag to their friends about what they have given the kids, then the kid suck as much as their parents do. However, if the wealthy parents are decent people who treat others with respect and courtesy, and instill manners in their kids, and set expectations and boundaries for the kids then those kids turn out to be decent people who find their own success in or outside the family business. OP working as a server, dating a regular working guy, and living on her own says a lot about the type of person she is, and the way she was raised. I wish her a lot of happiness in her future.
OP didn't ruin her ex's life. He ruined his own life. Like others here, I can't believe that OP is getting gaslit by the commenters. No one should speak about someone they love like that. There is legit contempt in words like "stupid bitch." Contempt is the biggest red flag there is when it comes to indicators of relationship stability/health. Good for OP for being so resolute on how she should be treated by people in her life. Buying into BS about "jokes" is literally how abusive relationships perpetuate.
Sadly, no one's life was actually ruined. He is educated, debt free, and highly paid. He's just fine. The "you ruined my life" statement was meant to emotionally manipulate. That is all. On the plus side, an asshole like that is rarely capable of true happiness, so at least there's that.
I’ll bet the people calling op a stupid b and saying it was probably a joke would have no issue calling a woman a gold digger if the roles were reversed. Hopefully I’m wrong. Good on op for not falling for his bs. And her text to him was TOO GOOD.
More so than a prenup protecting one partner who has more assets or is in a position to earn much more in the short future, a prenup can stipulate a lot actually and can help *both sides benefit* and stay protected. It’s smart to cover your bases, it’s *wise* to understand that people (including yourself) are not impervious to change, and it’s similar values that make people try to stick together.
A prenup also protects the marriage from turning finance into the reason for continuing it. A marriage held up only by financial commitment is not worth it
My husband and I don't have a pre-nup but that's because we don't have anything to fight over (financially). If one of us had assests, regardless of who, I would have asked for one.
In Germany it is a new concept. My friend asked for one from a female basketball player but she refused. He had asset's... she was obviously more interested what she can own...then his financial safety.
Ignore all the people that are bad mouthing you. You shouldn't have to explain yourself to people who defend someone like your ex . His response to the pre nup told you everything you need to know. Damn proud in the fact that you saw what was happening got more information and then let go of a situation that obviously wasn't Started from a truthful place on his part.
And the people in comments talking his attitude off as 'being macho'? That grossed me out. OP got a mixed bag of beans on Reddit. Props to the one person who suggested she texted him that message lol
@@greenguardian5845 yes. "macho" is a really negative word. You can't compare it to "being masculine" or anything like that because it evolved to a really negative connotation becoming offensive. Calling someone a macho is like calling them a caveman.
The last one is why my school would always call ahead to any places they planned to stop for food/drink with a bus or two of kids. It makes it so much easier when they are prepared. Eg. They told McDonalds they would arrive with 2 large busses about 1pm. When we got there they had a roped off area set up with two employees with ipads to take our orders. They had the extra kitchen staff and had ordered extra food so they wouldn't run out of anything. They got about 100 students and teachers orders out in about 30 minutes. All it took was one phone call and planning an itinerary.
I worked at a place known for our beef sandwiches. Our policy was you had to call ahead to get over 25 sandwiches at once. I loved denying giant orders, one local organization always called ahead and understood. I never denied them and always had their stuff ready when they got there
In our country we have a saying that "80% of the joke is the truth". So if someone tells you "It was just a joke" , or "it's just a prank bro" that person actually meant it 80% , it's not a joke or a prank.
I'm sure the "3 more years" comment had to do with when he could file for divorce and get some of her money if there's no prenup, but I've watched wayyy too much true crime for my mind not to immediately jump to "he's gonna kill her." I'm glad she got the hell out.
In the US, trust funds can never be part of community property, with or without a prenup. That's the point of a trust. A coworker divorced a trust fund baby who was a deadbeat dad. She couldn't even get his court ordered child support from his trust fund when he didn't pay it.
I assumed that once she is of a certain aged that she will have full access to her trust fund and can pull the money out for her use whenever she wants.
I bet those dudes defending it as ‘macho banter’ wouldn’t be too thrilled if their partners ‘girl talk’ involved them calling the dudes ‘simp’, meal tickets, insulting their performance in bed and bemoaning how hard enduring sleeping with them is even for the money
There was aita post for getting prenup. I don't remember the title of post, but OP proposed his fiancé and decide to get prenup which a help of his lawyer. OP's lawyer suggested to add infidelity clause which he agreed it. OP send his draft prenup to his fiancé and suggested to get lawyer if she want to change on the prenup. She got pissed and claimed that OP doesn't trust her.
@@cesaravegah3787 there's a saying I've come across in a few books, when you throw a stone into a pack of dogs, the one that yelps is the one that got hit. I think it describes that exactly.
@@itazuranakisu Prenups are civilian contracts so there is considerable flexibility on how can be writen, I however never heard of a prenup where infedelity clauses only apply to one espouse and not the other.
First story: here's my concern, that 3 ear thing probably was waiting for the trust fund to come in. But, and you hear this all the time, what if in that time he decided half of it wasn't enough? I think she should have concern for her safety. He sounds sick enough to try something fatal.
That's dark, but very interesting. And here I was thinking it would be the time it takes for a divorce in whatever country they're in. 1 year to establish the marriage. 1 year of separation. 1 year to finish the details of the divorce.
Wtf is it with people aggressively insisting that it might have just been a joke? Even if it was a joke, it was uncalled for. You don't just make disparaging remarks about somebody you supposedly love for shits and giggles. Who in their right mind would even think that that was funny, let alone appropriate?
Tell Mark that, after speaking with your family & an attorney, you have decided that a prenup is required after all. Then present him with the prenup-- he gets nothing not even on your death.
I agree totally with Laura Abdullah. She is well rid of this 2 faced demon. I really hate people who are so nice to you but then call and make fun of you behind your back. They are nice when they want something but it is all so false. Those people are not worth the oxygen they breathe
Ew...I can't believe someone would defend the ex and make it out to be a macho joke. If my partner berated me like that, I'd leave in a heartbeat. Good on OP for doing the right thing and leaving.
It's not like Mark will be homeless or anything at all. He's even not even getting a bad reference for his career. I could see feeling sorry for him if he was poor or something.
I would actually be less concerned about “stupid trust fund Barbie” and more concerned about “3 more years and I’ll be free” as well as the fact that these women knew there wasn’t a prenup. That sounds like this was a long con.
When I started reading I thought that maybe one of his friends made a joke about him being a gold digger and he just didn't correct him/her or even laugh in response, and her girlfriend misunderstood his behaviour. That's something that could happen. But then I read more and it turns out he was a slvt 😒
Wow. Having friends who speak disrespectfully of me would be enough to end the relationship, let alone taking part himself. Birds of a feather flocking together, as usual.
Better she know now then later. You don’t joke about your partners like that especially jokes you know would hurt their feelings, are offensive and wouldn’t be taken well by the partner or their family. He was a gold digger that got caught and I can only imagine the “jokes” if she fell for his BS.
Even if it was a "joke" OP is going to spend her life married to this type of man. Welp no one knows the truth but them. Still imagine hearing your love one say those words would surely hurt like hell.
Re: The second story - as soon as I heard 'quiet time from 10pm to 6am', my mind went to the thought that there are probably Karens who would go to whatever head office their campsites in question had, and would probably try to complain about the crickets and frogs being noisy! 🤣 Like, lady - it isn't groundskeeper's job to patrol the grounds saying 'shhhh' to all the night time critters. Go get a hotel room and stop pretending you're 'roughing it' by setting up your glamping tent within a 30 second walk to the toilet block 🙄🙄
Lol, I worked for a golden arches fast food joint in high school & college. Those buses could be awful. We had FIVE loaded buses pull up at the same just after three had left an hour before. For people who don’t know, usually with the buses there are numerous parents in separate cars too because parents also travel to watch the games.
1) So sorry OP that you were with a phoney user, but happy you found out the truth so you can dump that jerk. You do need to tell your family the truth, you are blameless for thinking well of someone who was playing that part. Just ghost this guy after making sure he has no access to any funds of yours. You do not need to be manipulated any further or tell him anything. After edit: Shame on whoever said cut him slack it might have been a joke ... no decent loving partner would joke like that. After update: Happy he can be evicted and out of your life. I love that you (Trust-fund Barbie) used the suggestion of how to give him the kiss-off, LOL. What a complete and total POS he revealed himself to be. Best wishes going forward. 2) Nice you rid yourself of pests. I think it's too bad you didn't tell the worker that tent of strangers was on your site so they could have been made to leave right away, late and in the dark, that would have been fun for them. 3) Very nice way to get your overtime privileges returned.
The gold digger bf - my son was 11 when his father finally left. He said a few weeks later "I realized how bad it was, when I started treating you like he did" he doesn't remember, but I'll never forget that
Alright in my opinion I know there's a first story update to the first story but I'm going to see this I think Opie's parents knew this was going to happen and I think they knew what was going on all along the reason that they chose to accept her husband was due to the fact that sometimes you got to let your children find out the hard way about the person they're choosing the date and settle down with to be their wife or their husband you can always convince them in a normal sense sometimes you have to let them do their own thing and I think he's probably going to get the advice she needs not just from the internet but probably even her parents and what they should do legally going forward my opinion there's so many different forms of advice that people can give her but really it might take a lot more on a physical part in my opinion
Story 1: She should tell her parents and show him a prenup if he won't sign, break it off. Better OP finds out now than after the wedding. Good update. People who get angry when called out for something have something to hide. Story 2: Someone's a novice camper and a narsisist.
I’m glad she’s trying to get some real world experience. But ubering to work because she apparently doesn’t know how to drive …? That’s a bit concerning for an adult woman. No?
1st story: very well done on handling the gold digger, esp. noting the disrespect he demonstrated - no relationship will last when one of the persons disrespects the other. Not fake - I don't usually call out fake, it has to be rather egregious - but I find it funny that YT shadow banned my comment from yesterday's video where I pointed to several things that told me the story was fake. I don't think even LG saw it. :-/ Makes me wonder _why,_ though.
Hi TechnoMage! Did you comment on the scientology video? UA-cam automatically filters out comments with strong/explicit language sometimes that I never get to see :(
@@LostGenre Yes, that one. No such language used. I have noticed where $pecial Interest$ are involved (for example, if you support the orange man), those get filtered out. That's why I find it curious that mine got filtered out on a seemingly no-one-cares-about-that-group topic. For example, I pointed out how that group allegedly "broke into the FBI" to replace documents - really? And they know about it, but apparently no one was caught/prosecuted? As if, if it really was successful, the agents wouldn't recognize their evidence changed? How does that work? Or "control the cops" - last I checked, they don't have any locations in small towns where a determined group could take over cops, just big cities. So much of that post didn't pass the common sense check.
Mark was devious with you and your family. Could he be deceptive at work. Your father could let him go as not needing his part of work anymore or something.
If Mark had actually been joking, he wouldn't have had the big issue with a prenup. If you don't plan on leaving someone a prenup isn't an issue. It would be understandable if he agreed to a prenup, but wanted to read over it and even possibly wanted an adjustment or 2 to it as some items might have been too one-sided. But being completely upset from the prenup and not willing to discuss it shows where his head was
Proof is your testimony. You heard it. Family & atty meet w/him, state what you heard & what you want. He quits, marriage off, no funds to him & non disclosure agreement to walk away & never speak or you will sue
Yeah you know the sales slips would have shown an increase in sales between the hours that the field trips occurred. I guess the business manager didn't know to look at her sales tapes.
I’ll never get the people who need total silence to sleep. I think sometimes a brain can filter out certain unnecessary sounds and only wake for the important ones. At least, that’s how mine works. Rain storm? Snow storm? Tornado before having kids? I can sleep. My kid remotely starting to wake up? Fast as lightening. Haha
Story one- If he really was 'joking' and NOT a gold digger and not split with half of her money in three years then the proof is easy. Sign the Prenup. The fact her dad decided on this test is what I would have done the second he balked proved everything she heard as true.
To story three: even if they didn’t believe in what their employees said, there were the receipts of the cashiers. They are time stamped and are evaluated every week, if you are a good supervisor. And the corporate do this too, to know how are the business running. Even that for 20 years we ere not that connected, there were computers everywhere.
I have camped a Lot! And I have seen some crazy things. Saw a car at the bottom ov a cliff, upside down, about 100+ feet but they never found anyone. This one time me and a friend were camping for a month we watched this older man use a chainsaw to cut down three full grown trees! Two Douglas Fir and one Western Hemlock. Someone got the ranger to come down however and a sheriff came along and he was arrested. Not sure what happened to him. But a crew came a day or two later to take care ov the fallen trees.
Dude was totally in the wrong, but the prenup bit didn't really prove anything. Having that dumped on you without warning, and by your future FIL none the less would be pretty bad. Especially after already being engaged, and (from what I understand) never having said to you that this would be expected.
I mean it’s kinda obvious, you are getting one when you are dating/seeing the son/daughter of someone who has a lot of money. And lots of rich people also do something similar to “test” the waters, specially if there’s a lot of money involved
@@drkatbun8566 I'm not saying a prenup is wrong, but there are proper ways of actually approaching the subject with your partner rather than "give me a prenup right now". And in the case of a prenup being necessary, you'd probably want to work that out before getting this far into a relationship. And even then this prenup would most likely be thrown out and be considered invalid due to the circumstances. There are quite a few things that can actually be require for a prenup to be taken seriously in court.
@@DragonbornMike-ym2er tbh this was just a “I want to see his reaction”, as op said it was just a “template” prenup and her ex didn’t even read it, he just got angry because there had to be one. Idk where op is from but getting a prenup even after you’re engaged is not that uncommon, some people even sign it on their wedding day (obviously read before but signed on their wedding). Usually prenups are discussed before engagement but as op said they never discussed it (getting or not getting one), he assumed he wasn’t getting one from the talks with his friends
The part about the "macro bravdo", or it possible being a joke stopped at "yep just 3 more years, and I am free" remark. He has a plan, and it does not include being you husband, in any form- saying this because deep love is not there or other disparaging lines TO the friends would have been heard. This is most def a long con. Treat this as you are already getting divorced. Look on reddit under may divorce, relationship stories for what was done, and how it succeeded. Maybe throw in some malicious compliance, or some AITA, and if you want to help a low rent version of your situation, after the bad ending, to feel a bit of revenge, there are many types of revenge categories to inspire.
When I was a kid there a saying got started that’s endured to this day: “Be like Barbie, the bitch has everything!” never really believed it till now ... cos now I know Barbie has a trust fund 😂😂😂
Barbie is a hard working lady! She's a chef, an astronaut, a scientist, a ballerina, a mermaid, a fairy, a famous model, an distinguished equestrian, and she's travelled the entire globe. She's really very accomplished! 😂
Gold-digger: While I can accept that talking smack could have been an explanation for his statements, responding by asking to sign a prenup was 100% justified here. Sometimes guys say outrageous and completely untrue things just to entertain themselves, and everyone generally knows when the talk is serious. But getting hyper about the prenup sealed the deal.
Story 1: NTA. I like how OP played things. I feel so badly for her. That must have sucked so badly to realize she got conned. Even if Mark was only being macho/joking around with friends, a decent man would not speak about his fiance that way & would not let his friends talk about her that way. "Trust fund Barbie" was bad enough but "stupid bitch" and the other things? Wow. No respect for her whatsoever. I'm so glad her family was supportive instead of pulling "I told you so". Also kudos to OP for sending the "trust fund Barbie" message to confirm that she didn't just imagine it in a fever dream. She's absolutely right to cut him loose like that. Man, how many toxic idiots were replying to this post to shit on OP for her decisions that she had to keep making all those updates? WTF? He participated in badmouthing her & didn't defend her & bragged about only having to wait 3 years to be "free" and then got mad about a prenup. She listened to her gut. He's the one who acted like an ass, not OP. Lost Genre, thank you for having OP's back in this one. Other people on reddit were not getting it. Story 2: LOL. Complainers couldn't even bother to come out and ask the people to maybe lower their voices please as they were too loud. Or maybe, move farther away... Yeah, idiots. Liked how OP handled it. Story 3: Overtime "privileges". Man, I hate big companies with policies like this. Make people work overtime but then punish them for it. It's like Walmart's policy of writing up employees for leaving for bathroom breaks when no one is there to fill in for them (without scheduling anyone to fill in for them) but also writing them up if they DON'T take that bathroom break. Lose/Lose situation. I would have been petty & refused to do overtime shifts after that, but that's me. I have friends and family who work/worked at Walmart who talk about how they understaff & how managers asked people to work off the clock to avoid having the overtime thing going. When my brother worked at Pizza Hut, his boss would lie to younger employees & tell them if they worked off the clock for a few hours one week, he'd let them take more time off the next week & give them the hours then-- with them not knowing that it was illegal AF & that they would be making overtime pay if they worked on the clock. But, the boss would just go in to the computer and change the hours in the system to claim they worked fewer hours than they actually did if they worked overtime (if they refused to work off the clock) to screw them out of the pay anyway. He also put that he worked hours when he wasn't there to steal even more $.
first story. OP heard what she heard. SO said horrible things. Period. doesn't matter if they were a joke or not, horrible things are giant RED FLAGS regardless. OP needs to do what is right for her and break up with this LOSER. anyone who thinks boys will be boys is just another idiot. OP deserves so much better!!!
I see this is old but want to share that I vaguely remember a similar story on Reddit years ago. Both stories had a woman from a wealthy family with a successful family business; both stories had the wealthy woman having her own ambitions and being engaged to a man whose family made significantly less money but he seemed intelligent and ambitious; both stories the woman’s Dad who owned and ran the business ended up hiring the woman’s fiancé and he excelled at the company and steadily got promoted. Lastly both stories had the woman finding out the man was a gold digger. There was also the concern about how to get rid of the man in the family business. Here’s where the stories were different. In this particular story there was no reason to offer the man a generous payout. This man happened to not only be dishonest in his personal life, he was dishonest in his professional life too. The Dad and other people at the company found proof of some kind of fraud on the gold digging fiancé’s part and were able to legitimately fire him. While hearing this story I wondered if this was the same story and was waiting for that to happen. I wouldn’t be surprised if Mark wasn’t scheming to defraud the company if he hadn’t already. Better for OP and her family to cut their losses.
The fact so many people were defending ops ex. That's gross.
A lot of people around like him unfortunately, you know they were defending him because they were just like him.
Lots of ppl want to pretend that male gold diggers don't exist.
At least this story "swap genders" actually make sense.
Make the story more traditional and have guy who had gold digger gf and there would be no need to make so much explanation "dump that b" would be only thing reddit would say
There's no problem marrying for some degree of financial stability. The problem is treating her like a prize. IMO
I think people were just hoping he wasn’t like that cause it would be sad
People insisting it may have been a joke: As if that would make it better? Good guys don't think insulting their girlfriend and calling her a "stupid bitch" is a funny joke.
Those defending are the type that make those type of jokes and always write girls off as being "too sensitive " or "crazy" because then they would actually have to take accountability that they were actually the ones causing the pain and strife in thier own relationship. And obviously those type of dudes don't know how to be accountable for anything
The gaslighting is disgusting. I've never seen anyone who genuinely loves their partner talk like that about them. And the macho bravado excuse is just the cherry on the cake. Anyone who denigrates their partner to feel 'macho' must be avoided at all costs. They're toxic af and are the epitome of fragile masculinity.
ask them to explain their joke or what's funny about it. Watch em stutter :)
True you cannot believe some opinions with no leg to stand on. Unless it was the fiance and his gross group. It wasn't a joke. It was a whole conversation that obviously could never take place in front of OP. What else could he say? That he was telling the truth? Really?
If it was a joke, OP had the final punchline. C'mon Markie, laugh it up now.
I’m really blindsided by the fact that OP is having to defend and explain herself and multiple times at that. She loved this man She wasn’t digging through his phone or going around checking up on him. This man had people over there and got busted for being a gold digging asshole. No matter what the whole 3 more years and I’ll be free was enough. Good for her for getting out of that crap and I hope she finds a better life partner.
I feel so awful for her, because you know this is going to scar her emotionally, & make it much harder for her to trust someone again.
Because lots of ppl don't want to believe male gold diggers exist
I think some people stubbornly don’t believe that rich people can be victims. I am by no means rich but i have met many people who blame people who have life easier than them. People of all walks of life can have troubles and they can all be victims of toxic behavior and/or abuse. I feel bad for OP because she doesn’t deserve to be taken advantage of and have her love life pulled from under her just because of the circumstances she was born into.
I know! It's like the second she said her family was wealthy and she's a trust fund baby, SO many people were determined to hate her and question everything she said and make her the villain, judging her purely because she has money. She's the victim here.
@@katizkool5039 Too many hold the actions of specific very powerful wealthy people against the entire tax bracket. I DO understand the frustrations a lot of people have with the wealthy getting special treatment (via taxes, the 'justice' system, & undue influence in the political realm that is negatively affecting all of us).
But just being wealthy or from a wealthy family does not make someone guilty of all the wrongs the wealthy bring to society, & no one should be judged or persecuted for things they didn't do, period. Too many just can't see beyond their own prejudice & resentment.
This is why many wealthy people don't typically date people outside of their financial bracket. That jerk got what he deserves.
Shame indeed.
Even rich people pose as even richer people to marry into even richer families, so it must be hard to avoid "adventurers".
it's hard as fuck to avoid gold diggers but that's why prenups exsist in the first place.
@@catherineholt1149 Nah. It's pretty easy. Be poor. Lol
I am lower middle class and started a degree where I realised I am from by far the poorest family. Seems like everyone I interact with has a family that all went to private school and has at least a couple million in assets. It was very jarring hearing about their holidays or their family drama and I went to a friends house and was blown away by how nice it was. I have another friend who is more wealthy than me but his girlfriend’s family is another financial bracket and he says he can’t keep up with their expenses for gifts and holidays. Crazy to think about.
If he didn't mean it, he wouldn't have been offended by the prenup. This is a standard suggestion for anyone, get a prenup before you get married to protect yourself. If you're in a position where you can possibly make more money than you do today, get a prenup. I don't care if you're a man, a woman or non-binary, gold diggers are gold diggers, protect yourself.
Even if you earn less it's a good idea. Imagine your spouse gets into too much debt. With a prenuptial you will protect your assets.
Best comment on here. Real talk.
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I don't agree with prenups, but I agree that he was *not* joking. What kind of *idiot* jokes like that? Mark and his buddies called OP *stupid.* He said that he was "free" in another three years. That is *not* a joke!
I hear that some judges are throwing out prenups because the are supposed to be coercive.
I think the comment “3 years then I’m free” could mean either in three years OP’s trust fund is given to her, or that is how long a marriage in their country has to be before filing for divorce where you can try to get 50/50 (if no prenup exists)
Or if he was truly evil, it could mean that she'd be dead in 3 years. I used to watch all the murder mystery shows with my grandparents, and have seen a lot of real life stories that end that way.
@@kitarrah1422 that escalated quickly 😂.
But you do have a point.
@@kerribottriell-baxter7345 yeah, I know it did. LOL But you never can be too careful with people like that.
@@kitarrah1422 As a fellow watcher of murder mystery documentaries, I agree. No one goes into a relationship thinking their partner is going to off them (for ANY reason), & yet it happens all the time.
Or in her county that’s when they would be a common law couple so without getting married he would be entitled to half of everything
All those Redditers sooooo sorry for poor Mark. Bleech. For all we know, those three years could be what he'd wait to kill her so it wouldn't be suspicious. He was a two-faced monster. Good riddance.
It's really gross that people kept trying to say "it might have been a joke." If someone "joked" about anyone I cared about like that I'd be done with them, the fact that the fiancee was saying it himself is disrespectful & disgusting. I wouldn't want to marry someone who spoke about me like that no matter what their reason was. I'm glad OP has enough self-esteem to not fall for that "it was just macho joking" BS. It is never okay to talk about your S.O in such a manner, not even as a joke.
Seriously!!!! like they weren’t joking they made op THE joke and the joke was she’s stupid that he has fooled. I’m very sarcasm, cheeky and pull “macho like humor” like oh man I have to marry a Victoria secret supermodel oh no my life is sooo horrible. But to “joke” about conning her like man I got her the “stupid bitch” fooled and once I marry them I’ll be set for life and after 3 years I can be free of “trust fund Barbie” which is just degrading like she’s isn’t a person worth being in a relationship with if not for her money. Like that’s her only redeeming quality to brings to the relationship. And calling her stupid because she isn’t doing a prenup, when she wasn’t because she loved and trusted him!
It all sounds like a movie villain taking off his disguise and revealing their evil master plan to the hero. Defiantly not the only time he spoken like this and others felt comfortable to join in with him in tearing down her character in doing so. If it was a joke he and them would do it in front of op or like explain it, not hide and deny it and not hide the girls being over!
I can’t imagine how poor op felt hearing it all like it would’ve made me feel sick to stomach if I was in her shoes and she was already sick! It’s like he was actually saying I don’t love or value her, yeah what a funny “joke”
@@jenicdarling9425 tbh aside from being a con-man, the fiancees behaviour reads as more than a little bit narcissistic. He didn't seem to get even if he WAS joking it still would be an unbelievably hurtful thing to say & OP would be well within her rights to dump him.
The only bright side is OP found out before marrying him, someone like that would likely sabotage birth control if it would get them more money. She'll probably have some trust issues after this, but at least he didn't get what he wanted. Makes me feel very strongly in favour of prenups even though I don't have anything, it seems like a good way of checking if someone is trying to take advantage of you or use you.
@@catT5236 true he is very narcissistic with it always being about him and how he feels. Like him bragging about how he got a “trust fund Barbie” and them calling him the man and congratulating him. And then when she upset about his “joke” never really saw what he did was wrong like why she would be upset and actually apologize to her. He only did after his defense of playing the victim and gas lighting her the bad guy didn’t work, switching to finally apologize but only to stop the fight and shut her up.
And saying he “needed to think everything through” and leaving seems like a emotional blackmail or something by threatening to break up with her over how “horrible” SHE was being to him?! It really is all about him I mean going to her sister’s place after in a panic realizing she heard (probably paranoid and panicked about what else they said that night wondering since this isn’t the 1st time they talk about her and like this.
Then to react like a spoiled & hormonal teenager in a fight with op like she’s his mom, that after being terribly hurt by this and lost her trust feeling betrayed and conned by him and breaking it off claims she’s spying on him & ruining his life. Like she overheard them because they were so loud. Wtf ruining his life because he’s being evicted from her (I assume) realllllllly nice home he doesn’t pay bills for (I assume because he’s middle class and not advanced in his career) because of how rich she is the prices being out of his range. Her dad is buying him out so he’s ok job wise which he only got because of her. He sounds as narcissistic as he is materialistic, probably though of himself already rich planning on buying things like yachts and such and what a rich life and partying planned out doesn’t even need to work.
Yeah Thank god she found out before and did this before marrying but I really wonder like what was his plan once they were married? With a reaction like that on the prenup he didn’t seem to think they would last yet felt he entitled to her family’s money and life!
And women should do prenups even if they have nothing because “prenups can also cover other issues like incapacity, death, student debts, estate planning, spousal support, and a myriad of other legal concerns. One primary reason you may choose to sign a prenup is to customize the rules of marriage best suited for you and your partner.” So just because ur getting one doesn’t mean u get nothing with some made where if they have children and don’t work to raise them get X amount amount other things like that!
I think the only ones defending him are mysogynists whom make degrading comments about their female partners all the time so feel threatened when a woman leaves their partner over similar behaviour
In the first story, that guy was not joking. He was on the make. No one jokes like that about someone they truly love. Jokes that attack someone like that are NOT FUNNY.
I tutor on the side, and have taught some kids of wealthy families. Here's the thing, the kids behave based on the way they are raised and the parents own behavior. If the parents spoil them, give them little to no boundaries and use the kids to brag to their friends about what they have given the kids, then the kid suck as much as their parents do. However, if the wealthy parents are decent people who treat others with respect and courtesy, and instill manners in their kids, and set expectations and boundaries for the kids then those kids turn out to be decent people who find their own success in or outside the family business.
OP working as a server, dating a regular working guy, and living on her own says a lot about the type of person she is, and the way she was raised. I wish her a lot of happiness in her future.
OP didn't ruin her ex's life. He ruined his own life. Like others here, I can't believe that OP is getting gaslit by the commenters. No one should speak about someone they love like that. There is legit contempt in words like "stupid bitch." Contempt is the biggest red flag there is when it comes to indicators of relationship stability/health. Good for OP for being so resolute on how she should be treated by people in her life. Buying into BS about "jokes" is literally how abusive relationships perpetuate.
Sadly, no one's life was actually ruined. He is educated, debt free, and highly paid. He's just fine. The "you ruined my life" statement was meant to emotionally manipulate. That is all. On the plus side, an asshole like that is rarely capable of true happiness, so at least there's that.
Story 1: "You blindsided me" Shame. Sucks doesn't it?
I’ll bet the people calling op a stupid b and saying it was probably a joke would have no issue calling a woman a gold digger if the roles were reversed. Hopefully I’m wrong. Good on op for not falling for his bs. And her text to him was TOO GOOD.
Yep. If a girl does it she's a gold digger
If a guy does it it's a joke. Ya no, miss me with that standard
More so than a prenup protecting one partner who has more assets or is in a position to earn much more in the short future, a prenup can stipulate a lot actually and can help *both sides benefit* and stay protected. It’s smart to cover your bases, it’s *wise* to understand that people (including yourself) are not impervious to change, and it’s similar values that make people try to stick together.
A prenup also protects the marriage from turning finance into the reason for continuing it. A marriage held up only by financial commitment is not worth it
I would say a prenup should be standard, regardless of the amount of assets. Number one on the list should be infidelity.
You cheat, you get nothing.
My husband and I don't have a pre-nup but that's because we don't have anything to fight over (financially).
If one of us had assests, regardless of who, I would have asked for one.
In Germany it is a new concept. My friend asked for one from a female basketball player but she refused. He had asset's... she was obviously more interested what she can own...then his financial safety.
Ignore all the people that are bad mouthing you. You shouldn't have to explain yourself to people who defend someone like your ex . His response to the pre nup told you everything you need to know. Damn proud in the fact that you saw what was happening got more information and then let go of a situation that obviously wasn't Started from a truthful place on his part.
Yeah...i feel bad for the op having to CONSTANTLY say what she did to her ex-fiance
And the people in comments talking his attitude off as 'being macho'? That grossed me out. OP got a mixed bag of beans on Reddit. Props to the one person who suggested she texted him that message lol
@@iasomnium919 wait, his attitude is considered "Macho" Hell no that is Douche Bag Behavior Period
@@greenguardian5845 pretty much the same tho
@@nela3986 Really? Well I learned something new, thanks
@@greenguardian5845 yes. "macho" is a really negative word. You can't compare it to "being masculine" or anything like that because it evolved to a really negative connotation becoming offensive. Calling someone a macho is like calling them a caveman.
Op getting sick was the best thing that ever happened to her
The last one is why my school would always call ahead to any places they planned to stop for food/drink with a bus or two of kids. It makes it so much easier when they are prepared.
Eg. They told McDonalds they would arrive with 2 large busses about 1pm. When we got there they had a roped off area set up with two employees with ipads to take our orders. They had the extra kitchen staff and had ordered extra food so they wouldn't run out of anything. They got about 100 students and teachers orders out in about 30 minutes. All it took was one phone call and planning an itinerary.
I worked at a place known for our beef sandwiches. Our policy was you had to call ahead to get over 25 sandwiches at once. I loved denying giant orders, one local organization always called ahead and understood. I never denied them and always had their stuff ready when they got there
In our country we have a saying that "80% of the joke is the truth". So if someone tells you "It was just a joke" , or "it's just a prank bro" that person actually meant it 80% , it's not a joke or a prank.
Isn't it nice you found out in time? Time to tell him to go literally dig gold; pan for it in a stream.
I'm sure the "3 more years" comment had to do with when he could file for divorce and get some of her money if there's no prenup, but I've watched wayyy too much true crime for my mind not to immediately jump to "he's gonna kill her." I'm glad she got the hell out.
In the US, trust funds can never be part of community property, with or without a prenup.
That's the point of a trust. A coworker divorced a trust fund baby who was a deadbeat dad. She couldn't even get his court ordered child support from his trust fund when he didn't pay it.
I assumed that once she is of a certain aged that she will have full access to her trust fund and can pull the money out for her use whenever she wants.
I bet those dudes defending it as ‘macho banter’ wouldn’t be too thrilled if their partners ‘girl talk’ involved them calling the dudes ‘simp’, meal tickets, insulting their performance in bed and bemoaning how hard enduring sleeping with them is even for the money
There was aita post for getting prenup. I don't remember the title of post, but OP proposed his fiancé and decide to get prenup which a help of his lawyer. OP's lawyer suggested to add infidelity clause which he agreed it. OP send his draft prenup to his fiancé and suggested to get lawyer if she want to change on the prenup. She got pissed and claimed that OP doesn't trust her.
On my experience people who gets ofended when other people don't trust them are always the less trustworthy ones.
@@cesaravegah3787 exactly, you wouldn’t get offended if you weren’t planning on screwing your SO over
I’m not entirely well informed about prenups or that story but the infidelity part was it specifically for her or for both?
@@cesaravegah3787 there's a saying I've come across in a few books, when you throw a stone into a pack of dogs, the one that yelps is the one that got hit. I think it describes that exactly.
@@itazuranakisu Prenups are civilian contracts so there is considerable flexibility on how can be writen, I however never heard of a prenup where infedelity clauses only apply to one espouse and not the other.
First story: here's my concern, that 3 ear thing probably was waiting for the trust fund to come in. But, and you hear this all the time, what if in that time he decided half of it wasn't enough? I think she should have concern for her safety. He sounds sick enough to try something fatal.
That's dark, but very interesting. And here I was thinking it would be the time it takes for a divorce in whatever country they're in. 1 year to establish the marriage. 1 year of separation. 1 year to finish the details of the divorce.
thankfully they broke up so he gets nothing
the jerk ruined his own life bragging about something that wasnt his in the 1st place ....
The fact OP has to justify herself/themself is ridiculous. Enjoy your freedom and ignore the stupid.
Wtf is it with people aggressively insisting that it might have just been a joke? Even if it was a joke, it was uncalled for. You don't just make disparaging remarks about somebody you supposedly love for shits and giggles. Who in their right mind would even think that that was funny, let alone appropriate?
Tell Mark that, after speaking with your family & an attorney, you have decided that a prenup is required after all. Then present him with the prenup-- he gets nothing not even on your death.
I agree totally with Laura Abdullah. She is well rid of this 2 faced demon. I really hate people who are so nice to you but then call and make fun of you behind your back. They are nice when they want something but it is all so false. Those people are not worth the oxygen they breathe
Ew...I can't believe someone would defend the ex and make it out to be a macho joke. If my partner berated me like that, I'd leave in a heartbeat. Good on OP for doing the right thing and leaving.
Other men who behave the same way, and don’t see this as bad info.
How TF would it being a joke even excuse anything? That's a disgusting joke to make about your SO.
It's not like Mark will be homeless or anything at all. He's even not even getting a bad reference for his career. I could see feeling sorry for him if he was poor or something.
I would actually be less concerned about “stupid trust fund Barbie” and more concerned about “3 more years and I’ll be free” as well as the fact that these women knew there wasn’t a prenup. That sounds like this was a long con.
One of those girls is Mark's side piece and his friends are looking forward to hopping on the gravy train.
Bring him a Pre-Nup and sees what he does.
When I started reading I thought that maybe one of his friends made a joke about him being a gold digger and he just didn't correct him/her or even laugh in response, and her girlfriend misunderstood his behaviour. That's something that could happen. But then I read more and it turns out he was a slvt 😒
Wow. Having friends who speak disrespectfully of me would be enough to end the relationship, let alone taking part himself. Birds of a feather flocking together, as usual.
I feel bad for op. It would suck to find out someone you love is only with you for the money.
Better she know now then later. You don’t joke about your partners like that especially jokes you know would hurt their feelings, are offensive and wouldn’t be taken well by the partner or their family. He was a gold digger that got caught and I can only imagine the “jokes” if she fell for his BS.
I just saw something nearly identical to this on the new American Horror Stories series! Glad OP got the last laugh.
Even if it was a "joke" OP is going to spend her life married to this type of man. Welp no one knows the truth but them. Still imagine hearing your love one say those words would surely hurt like hell.
Crap, he really was a gold digging ahole. If he really loved her he would sign the prenup. Why did he fear the prenup thing?
I'd have to loved to seen marks face when he told his friends he isn't going "to make bank" anymore.
This one has been up a while and I've heard it a few times before, but that first story is one of those that never gets old. Classic
Re: The second story - as soon as I heard 'quiet time from 10pm to 6am', my mind went to the thought that there are probably Karens who would go to whatever head office their campsites in question had, and would probably try to complain about the crickets and frogs being noisy! 🤣
Like, lady - it isn't groundskeeper's job to patrol the grounds saying 'shhhh' to all the night time critters.
Go get a hotel room and stop pretending you're 'roughing it' by setting up your glamping tent within a 30 second walk to the toilet block 🙄🙄
Lol, I worked for a golden arches fast food joint in high school & college. Those buses could be awful. We had FIVE loaded buses pull up at the same just after three had left an hour before. For people who don’t know, usually with the buses there are numerous parents in separate cars too because parents also travel to watch the games.
OP, please know, you did NOT ruin Mark's life. He ruined his own life.
Lots of ppl want to pretend that male gold diggers don't exist.
1) So sorry OP that you were with a phoney user, but happy you found out the truth so you can dump that jerk. You do need to tell your family the truth, you are blameless for thinking well of someone who was playing that part. Just ghost this guy after making sure he has no access to any funds of yours. You do not need to be manipulated any further or tell him anything.
After edit: Shame on whoever said cut him slack it might have been a joke ... no decent loving partner would joke like that.
After update: Happy he can be evicted and out of your life. I love that you (Trust-fund Barbie) used the suggestion of how to give him the kiss-off, LOL. What a complete and total POS he revealed himself to be. Best wishes going forward.
2) Nice you rid yourself of pests. I think it's too bad you didn't tell the worker that tent of strangers was on your site so they could have been made to leave right away, late and in the dark, that would have been fun for them.
3) Very nice way to get your overtime privileges returned.
Let's assume it was "just macho bravado." Doesn't matter, you don't want to marry anyone that would disrespect you that way.
It was not a joke he was caught and you need to walk away and walk away quick
Thanks LG. Stay safe. PEACE
The gold digger bf - my son was 11 when his father finally left. He said a few weeks later "I realized how bad it was, when I started treating you like he did" he doesn't remember, but I'll never forget that
Alright in my opinion I know there's a first story update to the first story but I'm going to see this I think Opie's parents knew this was going to happen and I think they knew what was going on all along the reason that they chose to accept her husband was due to the fact that sometimes you got to let your children find out the hard way about the person they're choosing the date and settle down with to be their wife or their husband you can always convince them in a normal sense sometimes you have to let them do their own thing and I think he's probably going to get the advice she needs not just from the internet but probably even her parents and what they should do legally going forward my opinion there's so many different forms of advice that people can give her but really it might take a lot more on a physical part in my opinion
Story 1: She should tell her parents and show him a prenup if he won't sign, break it off. Better OP finds out now than after the wedding. Good update. People who get angry when called out for something have something to hide.
Story 2: Someone's a novice camper and a narsisist.
Can we just take a moment to appreciate the trust fund baby waiting tables.
I’m glad she’s trying to get some real world experience. But ubering to work because she apparently doesn’t know how to drive …? That’s a bit concerning for an adult woman. No?
@@stephanien6237 yes, but, at least she's trying?
@@stephanien6237 How so? Lots of adults who can't drive.
If OPs Ex was a real man, he would have called his friends out for even suggesting those things.
I love your stories! My granddaughter and i listen together. You are our favorite story teller!!!
Thanks for the stories. Appreciate it
Always get a prenup people ALWAYS
I ain’t saying he a gold digger but I’m saying he doesn’t mess with broke people
He's a gold digger.
@@Kayenne54 It's a partial quote from a song. Gold Digger by Kanye West. Only replace he with she and people with a slur.
@@akl2k7 Ah lol okay
S1: Let’s be real here, the defenders only read up to “I’m a trust fund baby” and decided that ex could steal a kidney and still be in the right.
1st story: very well done on handling the gold digger, esp. noting the disrespect he demonstrated - no relationship will last when one of the persons disrespects the other.
Not fake - I don't usually call out fake, it has to be rather egregious - but I find it funny that YT shadow banned my comment from yesterday's video where I pointed to several things that told me the story was fake. I don't think even LG saw it. :-/ Makes me wonder _why,_ though.
Hi TechnoMage! Did you comment on the scientology video? UA-cam automatically filters out comments with strong/explicit language sometimes that I never get to see :(
@@LostGenre Yes, that one. No such language used. I have noticed where $pecial Interest$ are involved (for example, if you support the orange man), those get filtered out. That's why I find it curious that mine got filtered out on a seemingly no-one-cares-about-that-group topic.
For example, I pointed out how that group allegedly "broke into the FBI" to replace documents - really? And they know about it, but apparently no one was caught/prosecuted? As if, if it really was successful, the agents wouldn't recognize their evidence changed? How does that work?
Or "control the cops" - last I checked, they don't have any locations in small towns where a determined group could take over cops, just big cities.
So much of that post didn't pass the common sense check.
Mark was devious with you and your family. Could he be deceptive at work. Your father could let him go as not needing his part of work anymore or something.
Story1: You have all the info you need about your boyfriend. Ghost him.
Why so many people defend a gold digger , man was trying to use OP … she was an act of class tbh
Story of trust fund barbie, good for you!!!I'm proud of you for standing up for yourself👍
Thank god she found out before she married him
If Mark had actually been joking, he wouldn't have had the big issue with a prenup. If you don't plan on leaving someone a prenup isn't an issue. It would be understandable if he agreed to a prenup, but wanted to read over it and even possibly wanted an adjustment or 2 to it as some items might have been too one-sided. But being completely upset from the prenup and not willing to discuss it shows where his head was
Proof is your testimony. You heard it. Family & atty meet w/him, state what you heard & what you want. He quits, marriage off, no funds to him & non disclosure agreement to walk away & never speak or you will sue
I was highly impressed by LG's Opportunity Knox reference.
I hope she will be able to trust someone else now...
Yeah you know the sales slips would have shown an increase in sales between the hours that the field trips occurred. I guess the business manager didn't know to look at her sales tapes.
I’ll never get the people who need total silence to sleep. I think sometimes a brain can filter out certain unnecessary sounds and only wake for the important ones. At least, that’s how mine works. Rain storm? Snow storm? Tornado before having kids? I can sleep. My kid remotely starting to wake up? Fast as lightening. Haha
Story one- If he really was 'joking' and NOT a gold digger and not split with half of her money in three years then the proof is easy. Sign the Prenup. The fact her dad decided on this test is what I would have done the second he balked proved everything she heard as true.
Yay!!! Gracias por el video!!
To story three: even if they didn’t believe in what their employees said, there were the receipts of the cashiers. They are time stamped and are evaluated every week, if you are a good supervisor. And the corporate do this too, to know how are the business running. Even that for 20 years we ere not that connected, there were computers everywhere.
Last story manager should have been able to see the rushes thru the sales receipts. Poor management in several ways.
Tell him you want a Pre-nup and need it before you get married. Have a good laugh at his expense.
For story 1:
Cell: And he cried and he cried.
News reporter: Like a bitch.....
Cell: That's exactly what Frieza said.
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Someone got the ranger to come down however and a sheriff came along and he was arrested. Not sure what happened to him. But a crew came a day or two later to take care ov the fallen trees.
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Dude was totally in the wrong, but the prenup bit didn't really prove anything. Having that dumped on you without warning, and by your future FIL none the less would be pretty bad. Especially after already being engaged, and (from what I understand) never having said to you that this would be expected.
Lol. You have to be kidding me...
I mean it’s kinda obvious, you are getting one when you are dating/seeing the son/daughter of someone who has a lot of money. And lots of rich people also do something similar to “test” the waters, specially if there’s a lot of money involved
@@drkatbun8566 I'm not saying a prenup is wrong, but there are proper ways of actually approaching the subject with your partner rather than "give me a prenup right now". And in the case of a prenup being necessary, you'd probably want to work that out before getting this far into a relationship.
And even then this prenup would most likely be thrown out and be considered invalid due to the circumstances. There are quite a few things that can actually be require for a prenup to be taken seriously in court.
@@nela3986 which part do you disagree with? If you feel so strongly to comment, maybe actually add something to your comment?
@@DragonbornMike-ym2er tbh this was just a “I want to see his reaction”, as op said it was just a “template” prenup and her ex didn’t even read it, he just got angry because there had to be one. Idk where op is from but getting a prenup even after you’re engaged is not that uncommon, some people even sign it on their wedding day (obviously read before but signed on their wedding).
Usually prenups are discussed before engagement but as op said they never discussed it (getting or not getting one), he assumed he wasn’t getting one from the talks with his friends
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S2 NTA your campsite was yours, the intruders complained. Lol shiny spine.
Attn: poor people, lol wealthy family’s do have lawyers who do that stuff within hours lol.
The part about the "macro bravdo", or it possible being a joke stopped at "yep just 3 more years, and I am free" remark.
He has a plan, and it does not include being you husband, in any form- saying this because deep love is not there or other disparaging lines TO the friends would have been heard.
This is most def a long con.
Treat this as you are already getting divorced. Look on reddit under may divorce, relationship stories for what was done, and how it succeeded. Maybe throw in some malicious compliance, or some AITA, and if you want to help a low rent version of your situation, after the bad ending, to feel a bit of revenge, there are many types of revenge categories to inspire.
When I was a kid there a saying got started that’s endured to this day: “Be like Barbie, the bitch has everything!” never really believed it till now ... cos now I know Barbie has a trust fund 😂😂😂
Barbie is a hard working lady! She's a chef, an astronaut, a scientist, a ballerina, a mermaid, a fairy, a famous model, an distinguished equestrian, and she's travelled the entire globe. She's really very accomplished! 😂
smash tastic exactly, she has everything ... except a commitment from Ken 😂😂😂
Set up a cringe prenup and have him read/sign it in front of your family. He will hightail it out of there.
Gold-digger: While I can accept that talking smack could have been an explanation for his statements, responding by asking to sign a prenup was 100% justified here. Sometimes guys say outrageous and completely untrue things just to entertain themselves, and everyone generally knows when the talk is serious. But getting hyper about the prenup sealed the deal.
Story 1: NTA. I like how OP played things. I feel so badly for her. That must have sucked so badly to realize she got conned. Even if Mark was only being macho/joking around with friends, a decent man would not speak about his fiance that way & would not let his friends talk about her that way. "Trust fund Barbie" was bad enough but "stupid bitch" and the other things? Wow. No respect for her whatsoever. I'm so glad her family was supportive instead of pulling "I told you so". Also kudos to OP for sending the "trust fund Barbie" message to confirm that she didn't just imagine it in a fever dream. She's absolutely right to cut him loose like that. Man, how many toxic idiots were replying to this post to shit on OP for her decisions that she had to keep making all those updates? WTF? He participated in badmouthing her & didn't defend her & bragged about only having to wait 3 years to be "free" and then got mad about a prenup. She listened to her gut. He's the one who acted like an ass, not OP. Lost Genre, thank you for having OP's back in this one. Other people on reddit were not getting it.
Story 2: LOL. Complainers couldn't even bother to come out and ask the people to maybe lower their voices please as they were too loud. Or maybe, move farther away... Yeah, idiots. Liked how OP handled it.
Story 3: Overtime "privileges". Man, I hate big companies with policies like this. Make people work overtime but then punish them for it. It's like Walmart's policy of writing up employees for leaving for bathroom breaks when no one is there to fill in for them (without scheduling anyone to fill in for them) but also writing them up if they DON'T take that bathroom break. Lose/Lose situation. I would have been petty & refused to do overtime shifts after that, but that's me. I have friends and family who work/worked at Walmart who talk about how they understaff & how managers asked people to work off the clock to avoid having the overtime thing going. When my brother worked at Pizza Hut, his boss would lie to younger employees & tell them if they worked off the clock for a few hours one week, he'd let them take more time off the next week & give them the hours then-- with them not knowing that it was illegal AF & that they would be making overtime pay if they worked on the clock. But, the boss would just go in to the computer and change the hours in the system to claim they worked fewer hours than they actually did if they worked overtime (if they refused to work off the clock) to screw them out of the pay anyway. He also put that he worked hours when he wasn't there to steal even more $.
first story. OP heard what she heard. SO said horrible things. Period. doesn't matter if they were a joke or not, horrible things are giant RED FLAGS regardless. OP needs to do what is right for her and break up with this LOSER. anyone who thinks boys will be boys is just another idiot. OP deserves so much better!!!
There is no defense for Mark's behavior and comments. He is a gold digger.
That was a nice bonfire. Coulda made smores . . . Or other campfire delicacies . . . LoL . . .
I see this is old but want to share that I vaguely remember a similar story on Reddit years ago. Both stories had a woman from a wealthy family with a successful family business; both stories had the wealthy woman having her own ambitions and being engaged to a man whose family made significantly less money but he seemed intelligent and ambitious; both stories the woman’s Dad who owned and ran the business ended up hiring the woman’s fiancé and he excelled at the company and steadily got promoted. Lastly both stories had the woman finding out the man was a gold digger. There was also the concern about how to get rid of the man in the family business.
Here’s where the stories were different. In this particular story there was no reason to offer the man a generous payout. This man happened to not only be dishonest in his personal life, he was dishonest in his professional life too. The Dad and other people at the company found proof of some kind of fraud on the gold digging fiancé’s part and were able to legitimately fire him.
While hearing this story I wondered if this was the same story and was waiting for that to happen. I wouldn’t be surprised if Mark wasn’t scheming to defraud the company if he hadn’t already. Better for OP and her family to cut their losses.
I would’ve loved to see the holy crap look on his face when he got that text 😂
"Everybody needs a prenup. You got 20 million and she gets half, you ain't starving. But if you have thirty thousand...."
Chris Rock
You go girl you did the best thing
mark was trying to play the long game and lost
I’m really glad that most of your stories have an update because I always want to know what happens.
Op run tell all to your family he also tricked them so help yourself and change the locks or move when he is at work. But Leve him.
Story one: Look at that gold digger go!! ಠ﹏ಠ