I was always an introverted kid and my parents was ok with it. They were supportive and caring. It wasn’t til my early 20’s and I entered the “adult world” and I started struggling. Since then I have tried to find where my piece fits in the puzzle. Every day is a struggle to not just give up. I’m now 43. I’m married since 15 years ago, I have two kids, a dog, a Volvo, a house, no loans, a small business…and I’m alone. I’ve heard things like: “I’m the most important person in my world”, “My needs are most important”. In theory yes. In reality, an utopia.
After a realisation that the memories that had been playing over and over (for years) showed that my mum never really cared about me. I was numb for a day. But then all of a sudden there was a MASSIVE shift and I feel free. I was liberated of not feeling good enough, of not feeling enough etc. Id believed a lie that was right in front of my face for soo many years (cos it was part of the furniture almost), the memories kept it going, and my lack of self worth came from that. Now i've become conscious of what happened and I accepted it, I feel more whole than I've ever felt. 🙂
Yay, this video really helped me stop my body shaming of myself - my mother used to do this a lot and I guess I absorbed it into my internal dialogue. Thanks for the great videos!! I always find them so helpful 😊
Candace you are so talented at explaining this stuff to us. I feel these things and then you put them into words. I hope more of the world gets to hear you..💫
One of your most effective videos, Candace, among many great ones. I just wonder if lack of proper mirroring is connected to living in your head and having difficulty understanding feelings and emotions.
I always believed that our occidental society is the worst in emotional intelligence, although our states might be different but I feel that you encompass them as well ❤
Wow just reading the video title. Today I sat in front of a mirror, I forced myself do it.. But I just see an ugly old man/creature (I’m female) Yet last week I just had another experience of a gorgeous guy hitting on me and I don’t get it. I’m literally staring in this mirror eugh .. I just don’t get what he saw in me??!! I come out awful in pictures, maybe because I’ve such self-hate? But somehow I get hit on alot. It’s really confusing, because I look horrible in photos and the mirror, but not in men’s eyes.
I was always an introverted kid and my parents was ok with it. They were supportive and caring. It wasn’t til my early 20’s and I entered the “adult world” and I started struggling. Since then I have tried to find where my piece fits in the puzzle. Every day is a struggle to not just give up. I’m now 43. I’m married since 15 years ago, I have two kids, a dog, a Volvo, a house, no loans, a small business…and I’m alone. I’ve heard things like: “I’m the most important person in my world”, “My needs are most important”. In theory yes. In reality, an utopia.
I’m sorry… I shouldn’t complain and then post it
I just saw a video about building intimacy on another channel. maybe that's also something you struggle with as an introvert?
It’s good that you posted! ❤ there’s a lot of us that are similar! I read comments like this and just know we’re not alone
Well, it seem you did well at least in the material world, maybe you just gotta work on the emotional and intimacy, as someone else said.
After a realisation that the memories that had been playing over and over (for years) showed that my mum never really cared about me. I was numb for a day. But then all of a sudden there was a MASSIVE shift and I feel free. I was liberated of not feeling good enough, of not feeling enough etc.
Id believed a lie that was right in front of my face for soo many years (cos it was part of the furniture almost), the memories kept it going, and my lack of self worth came from that. Now i've become conscious of what happened and I accepted it, I feel more whole than I've ever felt. 🙂
YES!!!!!!!!!
Yay, this video really helped me stop my body shaming of myself - my mother used to do this a lot and I guess I absorbed it into my internal dialogue. Thanks for the great videos!! I always find them so helpful 😊
Awww thank you so much!! That was your emotional imprint and you just upgraded it!!! Amazing
Candace you are so talented at explaining this stuff to us. I feel these things and then you put them into words. I hope more of the world gets to hear you..💫
Thank you so much 🫶🏻🫶🏻🫶🏻
I’ve just found out your channel and I’m loving it.
Yay!! Welcome 🤗
One of your most effective videos, Candace, among many great ones. I just wonder if lack of proper mirroring is connected to living in your head and having difficulty understanding feelings and emotions.
I had a huge depressive episode when I found out I’m mirroring and I dont know who I am 😮! It took me so many years to find myself
You the continuous work very wel perfect week for your this moment starting new earth 2 I thing.
I always believed that our occidental society is the worst in emotional intelligence, although our states might be different but I feel that you encompass them as well ❤
This is a review of Narcissistic abuse 101. This is exactly what needs to be reviewed to stay grounded in the path to healing. Thanks
YES!!!!
@@CandacevanDell You need to cut it with the lengthy replies. I don't have all day!! lol!
Thank you 🙏🏽
5:00 That's so true!!!
I can see how the way my parents were treated in their families affected me.
Absolutely!
You looks so happy
Awww thank you! I am 😄
Thank you so much for this Candace ❤
It is my pleasure
I CANNOT STOP SELF SABOTAGING- CAREER, FRIENDHSIP, HEALTH, RELATIONSHIP. CAN YOU PLEASE HELP ME?
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Wow just reading the video title.
Today I sat in front of a mirror, I forced myself do it..
But I just see an ugly old man/creature (I’m female)
Yet last week I just had another experience of a gorgeous guy hitting on me and I don’t get it. I’m literally staring in this mirror eugh .. I just don’t get what he saw in me??!!
I come out awful in pictures, maybe because I’ve such self-hate? But somehow I get hit on alot. It’s really confusing, because I look horrible in photos and the mirror, but not in men’s eyes.
You are seeing through the eyes of a hurt inner child my friend. To heal this we need to address the little on not the current you.
🙏🏻 thank you
For some reason I never made that connection??.. even after watching your video, I didn’t make the link!
Much appreciated 💖
@@annastone5624 it is my pleasure!