My Coming Out Story | Getting Kicked Out | LGBTQ+ | Kate Austin
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- Опубліковано 27 січ 2020
- Hi friends! It's been five years since I recorded this so I figured I would rerecord for my new channel. Sending my love to any of you facing the fears of coming out, especially if it's to family that is similar to mine. I love you all so much.
My old coming out video: • My Coming Out Story | ...
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Kate's mother: "You know I love you no matter what"
Also Kate's mother: "You no longer live here, you're disgusting..."
This is so INFURIATING.
She practically TRICKED her daughter into coming out to her by giving her the impression it was safe to do so, only to make her find out that it was not safe at all. As if the daughter was a prey to be trapped. Even worse than those parents that at least don't pretend it's safe to come out to them.
Classic parents
That’s what my mom did...
thats what my mum did but i dont even bother to be sad about it
i’m scared if i come out that’ll happen to me :(
@@frostcupissailing2920 don't even care about it, if she's that evil she doesn't even deserve to be your mom
“Girl couldn’t be gay, she was HOLY ✌🏼✌🏼” 😂😂
"Your girl couldn't be gay, she was", *smacking lips, showing peace signs* "holy" best part
This is the most relatable coming out story I've seen so far.
This makes my heart so happy to know that you can find comfort in my story but so sad you have experienced something similar. Sending you all my love ♥️
Same I can relate so much to what you experienced
I am a closeted lesbian and my girlfriend's name is Sarah... watching this was kinda trippy. But yeah, 25 and still not out :/
Jeym Sy agreed
Kate Austin or
I know this is a small detail but I'm a lesbian and I know so many other lesbians who are uncomfortable with the word "lesbian" it's had such bad connotations and been so sexualized and I know a lot of women feel more comfortable saying "gay" or "queer" (which of course are both fine) but I just wanted to say I love how proudly you use the word :) it really makes my heart full and I had a similar coming out story and now I'm so proud to be a lesbian!!! Hope you stay happy and healthy
awe this was so sweet!! thank you!
I also really liked how she keeps saying “lesbian” with pride. I personally say “gay” more often than I do “lesbian” because “gay” is faster to say since it only has one syllable lol
@@anaa9245 lmao I say "gay" Instead of "lesbian" Or "big" Because 1) right now I'm declaring myself "gay" Because "gay" Just means liking the opposite gender and i don't really know what I am and 2) the word just makes me uncomfortable
@@weirdo9622 yeah just say gay, it's literally the same thing, we both like the same gender
@@emojee6289 right lol
*shoutout to all the GAYS hehe (myself included)* 🏳️🌈
SKYY LOVE ❤️❤️❤️
Me too
We’re the gay we’re the gays we’re the gays
Raven Arsall sameee
"'ahh noo I'm just young!'...yeah, no. I'm gay as s***." This is an anthem🤣
hahahah a mood
My mind is blown at the synchronicity of our stories. My mom was screaming at me while I sat on the floor of my closet (ironic, I know). Yelling things like, “you’re not normal”, “god did not make you this way, it is your choice”, “you’re disgusting”, etc. I am still not prepared to make the decision that you have. But I am definitely working on getting there because like you said, no one should be allowed to talk to or treat me the way my mother has. Thank you for sharing this story!
Wishing you so much luck and love on your journey.
@@bdawg9386 stop replying to so many comments jeez
bdawg you piss off. Don’t you have something better to do than to reply to some comment. Ignorant pig
bdawg useless
@@bdawg9386 lol you're a troll. You're literally subbed to Kate, why are you doing this man? You okay? I'm asking genuinely.
Thats weird that she coaxed you in a positive way to be honest with her and then when u are she gets mad.. 🤷🏻♀️ so many feelings, so much confusion lol
lmao yeah tell me about it!
My mom did the same thing
Thats abusive. Destroys any trust and ability to be honest, from people you really ought to be able to take as granted that they love you no matter what. Thank f#$% you had good friends. If I'd realised and been out when I still depended on parents and they'd acted like that (and one of them might have wanted to throw me out, doubt the other would let them) I don't know if I'd still be here. So glad you made it and are a stronger person. Being outed by brother sucks too, noone should do that without permission l, particularly in such a dangerous environment for it.
That was my thought too!! I’m like wait do you used “I love you” as bait so you could berate your child? YIKES
Fr 😑 the plot twist though
I'm a Christian and I have no problem with gay people. Love is love.
so true I am the same way
you're amazing, thankyou :)
Amen
Amy Lynn Ruegsegger lol I am a gay Christian lmao
you are so wronge.this is not love,are you born again.if you are you can not agree with this.i lived a gay life .you have to repent and ask jesus into your heart.
As a mother myself.. I cannot understand a parent treating their child like this.
As soon as my son was placed in my arms I knew instantly I would be there for him no matter what..... some people don’t deserve to be parents. Good on you for moving forward with your life in such a positive way.
Way too many parents sadly.
My adopted parents were terrible:
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So u would be there if he was a school sh**ter? And moms are nicer to their sons clearly
Exactly! How in the world? I often ask, "What have we done, as Christians, to this generation?"
Cutting negative people out of your life is always hard, especially when they’re family. I’m glad you’ve found your happiness while staying true to yourself. Everyone deserves that ♡
Everyone has there own journey. No journey is the same. Do what’s best for you. Proud of you.
Thank you
It's an amazing story, you're amazing!
As a parent, I really regret that some parents think they can control their children's lives and minds in this way.
Before my kids hit puberty, I made sure that they knew I would be totally supportive if they didn't turn out to be straight.
Michael Andersson We need more parents like you 🙏🏽
Michael Andersson. You’re an awesome example of a perfect parent. If I ever have kids, I will also be very supportive, and if I push them away because their sexuality is the way they feel like is best for them and I don’t approve, I would wake up feeling like the most pathetic asshole every day
@@abel_valenz There is no such thing as a "perfect parent (no such thing as a perfect anything). And loving and respecting ones child is the bare minimum that is sadly too much to ask to way too many parents on this planet.
You are an amazing parent!
Wow. What an amazing parent
“Yo girl couldn’t be gay....she was holy” 😂😂😂😂
Thanks for the video. The things your mother told you made me really sad. I don't understand how a mother, who should unconditionally love her child, tell it that she wishes it wasn't born.
I totally feel for you. I had to stop all contacts with my parents and my sister because my girlfriend had the "wrong" religion. I hid her for 6 months before I told them and received the answer "at least you're not gay". My father passed away without ever meeting his only grandson.
Btw. I came out as pansexual last May to close friends.
♥️ ♥️ I'm so sorry to hear that you have experienced similar pain but proud that you were able to still find the courage to be you.
That part about “when it happens you know and it hits different” that hit different 😭 thank you for sharing my mum is kinda the same still in the closet cause I need a roof on me head. Hope to live as my authentic self as soon as possible, thank you 🙏❤️
All things in time ♥️
"especially back in 2014 there was f*ckin nobody" cracked me up 😂
lmaoooo truth hurts
Love this! Can you do a video with tips about how you coped living with your parents for that year while you tried to save money before you moved in with Sarah. I'd love some tips on how you got through! ❤️
Yeah, totally!!
Hey I just want to say you are really awesome and if you want to share pics of your hot action with me I am for that.
@@coolboy5428 Fuck off!
@@bdawg9386 I was going to write a sassy response but we don't need any more negativity right now. I hope you find peace and happiness in your life ❤️
@@bdawg9386 arrogant men disgust me
I am transgender male to female and I’m very proud of you stepping out and being who you really are and yeah as one of the members of LGBTQ plus I am glad because I came out about four years ago
It’s so awesome how now a days there are people like you to tell the world stories like these and help people realize that family is not always the most comprehensive but that there are other people that have gone through it and have come out great, inspiring and successful people like you!! Btw love the new version it’s a whole lot more mature and just love it 💕💕
Ok I'm crying!! Thank you for this and thank you for watching
I was falling for someone I had known for 15 minutes .......
Ya had to call me out like 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
lmao too relatable
Haha BAHAhA haven’t we all been there? 😂
*gay panic* haha
Your parents are whacko. We would be privileged to be your parents.
As soon as you said you weren't allowed to watch That's So Raven or read Harry Potter, I was like "Me! Girl, you're me!"
Was she even allowed to watch or read anything fun!
i came out to my pastor dad and he said "oh no you're not" HAHAHAH
Shout out from Minnesota! Don’t worry...I’m not “the” girl. 🙂
You are such a strong and brave and beautiful woman! Lots of happiness to you and Sarah!🏳️🌈
Thank you angel!!!
Even though I can’t relate to your situation with me being straight- I can relate to not willing to let people treat you that way! Thanks for your words of wisdom! ♥️
Yessss!! Such an important lesson ♥️
I got a plan:
*Once im soon going to move out I tell my parents that I am part of the Lgbtq+ community because I am Bisexual but I would have a place ready and if they kick me out I'm already out the door. If they ever wanna consider me as their daughter and not a goddamn disappointment then I would love them back. But if it doesn't happen I don't wanna turn it into a toxic relationship between me and my parents, so I would rather stay away..*
Lol my plan was to my parents and go to my girlfriends house 😂
@@redrebels7071 same
Thank you so much for sharing, so many coming out videos on UA-cam are with happy and accepting parents, which is great but unfortunately not realistic for everyone. Videos like this are sooo helpful
always always!!
I never watch UA-cam videos but I came across this today and I just want to say that I have been following you & Sarah since you proposed in Paris and your coming out story reminds me so much of my own. I currently am not speaking to my parents either for all the same reasons and I can't say that I have ever watched a video that I resonate with so much and I am so appreciative towards you and thankful for your story. You in particular have been a huge reason I have been able to accept the things in my life that have happened since being outed and kicked out by my parents. I feel like this is all blubber and doesn't make sense so I just want to end with this; Thank you Kate, so much
5:00 "We think you're gay." LOL!!
I’m so proud of you!! You did such a great job. Everyone has their own journey and their own destination. You are absolutely killing it!!! Keep being you and be the best version of yourself. You are so beautiful and amazing. You are loved by Sara and all of your friends. Love you Kate ❤️❤️
I relate to your story so much. I was "asked to leave" the house at 19 after I came out. I was no where near ready to be on my own, crashed on a friends couch for a month and lived in a motel 6 for a couple weeks before finding a studio to live in with two others. It was a very difficult year, and now 10 years later I'm just dealing with it through therapy and hearing stories like yours. Thank you for your honestly and vulnerability and pride. Love this!! :)
What about your aunt and brothers though??
I’m sorry your mom and presumably dad have treated you this way. It’s so hard to cut off toxic family members!
❤️🧡💛💚💙💜
My aunt is great and so are my brothers! ♥️
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Thank you for posting this. My fam is extremely homophobic and will probably never change. I've accepted that but it's a shame they will never really accept me.
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im so glad you started youtube again. you cant even imagine how much you're helping us. thank you so much Kate
So proud of you Kate. I’ve been following you and Sarah since the early days (circa prime tumblr days). You have come such a far way and done so amazing. I’m sorry you don’t have your parents and it’s not the same but just know so many of us random people in the internet are proud of you. Truly you inspire so many of us strangers. Sending you guys all the love.
Honestly one of my favorite coming out videos. You have the strength that so many in the world need.
I remember watching your coming out video in 2015 and it helping me come out in 2016. We later had a conversation about how similar our situations were on Tumblr. It’s so amazing to see how far you have come growing within yourself and your relationship, and you continue to inspire me to do the same. I’m afraid that I may come to the same conclusion about my relationship with my parents when I have the chance to, but I’m slowly coming to terms with it. Thank you for continuing to be the light at the end of the tunnel for my situation, and for helping many others as well 💕
I've watched so many coming out stories but none hit the same yours do. It's so relatable it gives hope to people like us that don't have easy going parents that we can be loved and accepted regardless and we will get to the place we want to like you xx
I was crying the whole time watching this. How can you be so light hearted sharing these stories. My family is so conservative i could never come. I wish i have your courage. Btw this is the first video i watched of you. I thought 24 mins? I wont finish this but i was drawn to your story. Thanks for sharing.
I watch this video whenever I need to feel confident and loved for who I am. You've made such an impact on my life, Kate. I thank you for it more than you could know. Thank you so much,
I came out publicly to my friends a family yesterday and it was the scariest thing I’ve ever done. I’ve been really lucky so far because I’ve had nothing but love and support from my people. I’m sorry for what you went through to with your parents but you seem genuinely happy with who you are. Your so right about there being a family waiting to welcome all of us and I’m so proud to be part of that family. Love always wins in the end!
i have never related so much to your story and i admire you for being so strong and I appreciate all that you do for others that are struggling in their family relationships since coming out and i wish you knew how much your story means to me !!
I'm so happy you can find comfort here ❤️❤️❤️
love you so much ❤️ thank you for this video :)
i just came out to one of my friends today and she was super supportive, and i know i’ll find light even if my parents don’t accept me in the future and your videos help me so much with that too
Omg I'm so proud of you!! I know how scary it can be!! Surround yourself with chosen family and they'll be your legs to stand on!!
You’re so inspirational Kate I love you’re channel so freaking muchh. I’m so glad that you shared you’re story, an inspiration to all.
Im so proud of you girls 😇💘💘💘 keep going strong. I’m sorry for your roughy past but I’m glad your still focused on the positive. I hope that one day you get that closure with your parents.
everyone has their own journey!!! i am a new follower of both you and sarah and you two have inspired me so much and helped me through a break up of my own. so thankyou so much!!! 🤍 x
What an awesome coming out video and it DOES feel SO DIFFERENT the first time!!
Genuinely the first time I have really thought about how many other people have experienced the same feelings so thank you! Because it is a really weird time where you don’t know what things mean, why you feel them and you don’t sometimes know if anyone is feeling the same.
Thank you, you are amazing and can’t wait for the next video 🤍
I have so much respect for you Kate! you truly are an inspiration to so many in the community! keep up the great work!!! also you and Sarah’s relationship makes my heart mushy ❤️😂
♥️ thank you so so so much
Fast forward years later, and you two are engaged (not to mention double-proposed) and you two met muthaf**kin’ ELLEN!
thank you for this video, i was needed an honest coming out story, because personally i afraid to be myself. so i really happy listening to someone's story. you're really brave person!!!
I really needed this, this is a very similar situation to me. my dad immediately disowned me, said I killed him and my mum threatens to abandon me whilst saying its because she loves me and I chose this. it helps so much hearing your story, it gave me strength
aethereale I’m sorry hun, I hope you are happy now at least💛
What your parents did to you was not love at all. It's called tough love.
I hope you're feeling better nowadays...
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the fact that are people like you talking about this things just make me feel so happy and so proud of myself. stay strong, you deserve being happy. thank you! 🇦🇷♥️
I’m so happy you are surrounded by people who love you for you. Keeping focusing on those who love you. You are so strong!❤️❤️❤️
You exude light. Thank you for always being so genuine and sharing your story. Glad you found happiness.
THANK YOU! At 31, it’s still a tough road. Still looking for my chosen family. But, I’m so damn proud that you came out the other side happy and loved!
Good for you!!! We don’t get to pick our family, but we do get to pick how we treat others. You’re so wonderful! I wish the best for you and Sara!
Love how strong you are !! Such an inspiration to us all! YOU GO GIRL
love you ♥️
I’m so happy to see a relatable coming out story. It’s like everytime someone on tv comes out it’s always this sunshine and rainbows experience. With everyone being so accepting and supportive. But in real life it’s not always that easy. Some of us have bad coming out experiences
Thanks for sharing this. I'm sorry that your parents were /are so unbelievably hurtful. Being much older & conforming, I have the toxic parent reaction too. We are the same person we were before, it's hurtful but you have done the right thing to be healthy for you, your relationship and your life. So grateful you shared something so painful. Xx
Aw you’re so strong! Can’t believe parents could ever do or say something like that to their own children... it’s sad but so good that you walked away from that toxicity ❤️
Keep doing what you’re doing! You’re changing and impacting so many lives :)
ugh my heart
I love how you are I’m sorry you had to go through any of that!! ❤️❤️
Everything happens for a reason :) ♥️
I just wanted to say thank you for this video. As I think a lot of the comments have said, majority of the people seem to have really loving and accepting families (which is wonderful), however it’s kind of helpful to see this side of things. I am so incredibly sorry that you had to go through that, but I am so happy for you and Sarah.p! I remember the first time I saw you was on Ellen and I cried because it was so cute. I cried again watching this, because I am in a similar situation. My friends keep asking what my parents would do if they found out, and I reply “probably kick me out”, and they find that so surprising. I’m still trying to work up the courage and strength and money to be able to come out and move out after uni. I’d kinda already realised that I was going to have to cut off my parents, but I’m realising more and more that I’m also going to be cutting off extended family and family friends, so I am genuinely terrified. Have you had any experience with this? Anyway, I am so sorry for the ginormous paragraph. Thank you for being an amazing human. Keep shining your bright light 💛
Good for you!! Coming out is never easy, especially with parents. So happy you are happy, proud of yourself and in love! Congratulations on your marriage! You rock! And, yes, your chosen family is your real family!
This was so fucking encouraging! Me and my girlfriend both have a lot of issues with our parents and it is so so so encouraging to to hear that you can cut family off and still live a happy life with your family of choice. Thank you so so so much for putting this up!
Your sweet, so glad all turned out for you, sad you had to give up on your parents, but you have found your love and know who you are, Best of luck to you and Sara!!!
Thank you so much ♥️
I have to say, I’ve been a fan for sooooo long!!! I’m super proud of your success man
Thank you so muchhhhh ♥️ ♥️ ♥️ ♥️ ♥️
you are a wonderful honest person an inspiration to us all. I think you done the right thing by getting away from your parents because in this day and age their attitude is completely wrong. I hope you and your girlfriend live a very happy and peaceful life together when you get married. Lots of love and best wishes to you both. xxx
It’s refreshing to watch this how confident and strong Kate talks about her experience and I’m so happy for her to have found the one she loves and get married to. I hope you gone post more and give a lot of girls/women the strength to be as they feel. I know there is a lot of homophobia in the USA and think it is connected with how religious the USA is compare to Europe. I also lost have of my relatives but I never feel sorry because there is nothing to be a shamed of for who or how you are as long it is yourself.
Hi Kate. New subscriber here from the B-Team. Thanks so much for the story and great message on self-care. That's really important for people to hear who so frequently come from troubled relationships. Congratulations on the engagement! So badly want to hand you a safety pin ;)
Dude I just wanna hug you this is so sad I respect your story but I’m so glad you can be you now. This is the first video I’ve ever seen by you and you have the greatest personality i really vibe with your thoughts and views on life. lol your just cool as hell not having parents is a terrible thing to have to go through tho cause I know people like that and it fucks them up forever.. but making you stronger then you even thought you could be.~
Kate -- thanks so much for sharing your story & allowing us into a vulnerable place. You have made difficult decisions & I so greatly admire your strength in standing up for yourself & living YOUR life! Keep on doing 'you' because it's pretty fucking awesome!
Much love to you & Sarah & warmest wishes for a lifetime of happiness, joy & love together. ♥️🙂👍💖
this is literally the only coming out story i can relate to, every other coming out story is all bubbly and happy but this one is my favourite one and i‘ve watched probably about 100
Honestly this video just saved my life, my parents keep dropping hurtful comments towards me and I think it’s time to tell them you need to respect me or I’m not gonna respect you! Great Video👍🔥
you are such an inspiration for those of us in the lgbtq community that feel unaccepted by their families -- thank you for all that you do!
always, always, always ♥️ ♥️
Thank you for sharing your story! I’m new to your channel but I love y’all and can’t wait for what the future has for y’all - spoiler I think it’s going to be amazing ❤️❤️❤️
The thing I admire about you most is just how positive you are. I myself am not gay, but following you and seeing how amazing and strong you are is truly inspiring.
PS I love your sweater, where did you get it?
This makes me so happy! I believe the sweater is BlankNYC
🎖🦋💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕 i love the way you got things around for you ! i'm so inspired and trilled to know you better ! thank you !
This is exactly what I needed to hear to make my final decision for whether to cut off my mom or not, thank you for everything you do and post
as long as it's what you feel is right in your heart ❤️
@@KateAustinn that's the most Christian thing I've ever read
I love watching coming out stories it makes me feel hopeful for when I am comfortable enough and secure enough to come out myself.
You are so brave for standing up to your parents and living your best life! Sending good vibes to you💜❤️🧡💛💚
My literal hero💓 I love you so much Kate, you make everything better!
I love you so much
I read “hetero” and I was like what?? And then I read it again and it’s hero, omg I’m so dumb
Wow.. thank you so much for sharing this. This is very similar to my upbringing, and my story. I have been dealing with some things with my dad and it really helped me to hear your story! Thank you so much! ♥️
You're amazing. I admire you and am really proud of you.
Thank you, this wold doesn't deserve you but is really honored to have you.
OMG STOP!! I don't deserve you all ♥️
I don't know why it took me so long to watch this but I finally did and omg! Our coming out stories are SOOOOOO similar. Religious household, rocky relationship with mom, and basically putting my foot down and not letting her control my life. Anyways! Love your videos! My girlfriend and I love watching you guys!
You are so strong and way more confident than me with standing up for yourself! I am trans and have strained relationships with people I used to consider friends upon my coming out. Thanks for sharing your story! Peace & Love!
You are so strong!! You go girl!
You are such a strong, positive and loving person, this is inspiring 💖
❤️❤️❤️ thank you so much
Amazing message you're sending. My coming out was a positive one but I still find it is so encouraging to see those who came out to negativity thriving and living their true, best lives. Thank you for sharing.
P.S. It's almost 2021 and Ohio still has slim pickings. The dating pool seems to be a drying puddle in the Cincinnati area!
Thank you ❤️ I watched this video in preparation to come out to my family and this made me feel so much better and less anxious
Coming out in a midwestern and religious family...relatable! Took me waaaay back
I relate to this story so much. My mother is on the praise team of my church as is like half my family. I was raised also with not a lot of LGBT positive influences and my mother always told us she’d love us no matter what but the first thing she said to me when I came out to her was “does this mean your going to hell?” And it’s been really hard. Hearing your story and knowing that despite my parents animosity and continual attempts to change me that it is possible for me to have a happy life as you have created for yourself is so inspiring! Thank you sooo much!!!
You are just the cutest! Thank you for sharing your story! ❤
Wow, that's so awesome! You go, girl! Thanks for this video its SO inspirational!!
I cut off my dad and his mess when I was 10 years old. It’s always hard and I hope that your family comes around!
How funny! I am watching this on Easter Sunday!🐰 So glad you're happy now! Sometimes we have to create families-of-our-own choosing.💓🧡💛💚💙💜🖤🤍
Wow i can relate so much, not about your religious stuff but about all your feelings trying so hard to push it away 😭
I came out to my whole family the day before christmas since i couldt keep my relationship with my girlfriend a secret anymore, it was too hard and i just wanted to share my happiness with the world and luckily they supported me and just wanted me to be happy ! 😍 best desicion of my life! Love is love! 🌈 im so sorry your parents didnt accept you when you came out, im glad you found good support and other people who love you ! ❤ im proud of you that you stood up for yourself!
Omg thank you so much! I loved this video! My mom is Christian and goes to church twice a week which means I do to. This video really helped me realized the decisions I can make when I do decide I’m ready to come out. 💗