*it genuinely fascinates me that there are human beings in this world who “do not agree with” love... i believe that everything starts with self-love, so whoever feels this way must lack love within self. my mom has yet to apologize to me for the flat-out evil things she has said to me & i’m living with my parents right now, but i have already accepted that once i move back out, i am perfectly okay with not having a relationship with my mom (or any other homophobic family member). transcending the “fear” of not talking to someone who brings me more toxicity than positivity & replacing it with happiness on my behalf brings me peace* 🕊
I appreciate this video so much Kate. I came out when I was 15, but after the terrible reaction i got and not being allowed to hang out with anyone that was a girl and other things, I felt like I had to pretend I was straight until i went to college just to feel like I was living somewhat normally. I'm a freshman in college right now and before I left, they told me that if they found out i was in any way involved in the "homosexual lifestyle" that they would cut me off and I would have to find a way to support myself on my own. Well I have a girlfriend now and so far it's been okay because they don't know. but like you, I know that they will most likely never be involved or support me when I do "come out" to them again and when you talk about things with your parents I just find so much hope that it will be ok, and that I can live a fulfilling life without their approval. You have really impacted my outlook so much and in a lot of ways i look up to you like a sister ❤️never stop being a light.
bdawg If you think it’s so disgusting then why the hell are you here anyway ?? You obviously just want to start an argument. And to your other comment, I also have better things to do then shit on people because I’m a decent human being. Your life must be hella sad
Thanks for hearing your story again about your parents. You remind me to continue to ignore my father after i learned who he really is just like you and your mother.
@@KateAustinn Thanks for your inspiration. Glad there are people like you who know how difficult it is seeing the true nature of your parents after all these years and left wondering if we can ever have a relationship with them again. Thanks Kate
I am straight, but I have a very conservative family that does not support pre-marital sex and does not believe couples should live together before marriage. I recently made the decision to move with my boyfriend and have been scared to tell my family because I know it won't end well. I know it is a little off topic, but you have helped to give me the courage to do what I believe is right instead of just trying to appease my parents. So thank you.
It truly is astounding that theres this argument and these fights about love? Like, love is love! Life is way too short to be angry about who loves who!! It makes absolutely no sense to me! You and Sara are amazing and your wedding is going to be beautiful! I just came across your channel randomly and I just love how honest and outspoken you are.
My friend growing up, came out to his parents, about a decade ago. We were already in our early 20’s at this point, so we still had so much to learn. Well, they shunned him so horrifically and they accused him of being capable of molesting his little brother. All because they were very religious. My father was a pastor at the time and welcomed him with loving arms. Long story short, he was not so lucky. He committed suicide about 6-months later. I am absolutely appreciative of the fact that you have created a voice that speaks volumes in this world. It supersedes the horrific voices that we hear every day. I wish your channel and others like it, were available to my beautiful friend when he needed it most. However, it can be available to others who need it, now. Thank you for this. 🥰
As someone who lives at home and will live at home for 2 more years until grad school...I think that after another 2 years of being in the closet while hearing them say 'gays should die/go to hell' that cutting off contact might not be that difficult...but it doesn't mean I want to. You're videos really help me though so THANK YOU for them!
kate, you are simply an inspiration! you're incredible! so proud of the way in which you've handle everything. congrats to you and sarah on your engagement!
I can relate so much to your story. I also cut the ties with my parents because of the way they treated me. What made it even more difficult was the fact that we live in the same city and especially at the beginning I was constantly aproched by friends of my parents who tried to make me feel guilty for cutting the ties. You did a courageous and necessary cut. I hope that maybe one day it will change, but anyway, hold on, be strong. You know your worth and how you should be treated. I'm sending you lots of love and ghost hugs from Vienna.
You always talk about your mom, what about your father, does he just go along with whatever your mom says? You are so strong and inspire me to keep going through hardship. 💝
That's the same thing I'm wondering because it almost sounds like her dad may be somewhat accepting he's just trying to digest everything but her mom is one of those old-school people that does not support her lifestyle at all
Choosing yourself and your happiness will always be the right thing. So happy that you have freed yourself and can be genuinely you. Always remember that your feelings are valid. ❤️
this is like dude, it’s so like 😳 to see people that are AGAINST THIS. I’m super lucky to have parents who support the LGBTQ+ community. I’m straight but like dude, I don’t really know why, but I just have SUCH A PROBLEM WITH PEOPLE WHO JUST DON’T UNDERSTAND OR SUPPORT THIS. LIKE I HONESTLY DON’T. keep doing you, because you are special and honestly so beautiful. Sarah was 100% the perfect match for you and I hope you guys have a amazing life together.
Kate, I just completely adore you. I am in the exact same place you were. I was outed to my Mormon parents in January, and a these last four months seem impossible. Your videos have been the only thing giving me hope, because having hope that they’ll change their views just isn’t realistic. I have to accept that if I want to be happy, my relationship with my family can’t continue. Seeing your strength and what you’ve made of your life is what gives me the ability to keep fighting.
Sending you love and strengh! I'm not outed to my parents but they are religious and homophobic too, and I knew that a relationship with them wasn't possible years before I even knew that I was bi, but I'm still stuck with them.
Thank you for sharing you feelings and hardship with us all! I know it has helped me come to terms and realize my emotions are valid and that i should just "be over" having a hard relationship with my parents. i hate showing emotions and dealing with what im feeling so i push it down and just pretend that i dont care and that its not happening, but you've inspired me to try a feel my emotions cause they are valid and they are still there no matter how much i push them down! Forever grateful for you!
I just came across your channel and my heart breaks for you that you had to go thru that. I cannot imagine not supporting my child regardless of who they choose to love. You are amazing and beautiful. I am sure there are many people who would be honorary parents to you. Me included.
My mom did the same. When you do come out, remind her that God does not approve of suicide and if she did kill herself she would go to H**L. Threats of death are a manipulation. As long as you recognize that you can make informed decisions.
I just feel sorry for your parents - knowing they're missing the beautiful life you're living, the thoughtful intelligent woman you've become, and the profound joy you'll have on your wedding day - all because of some nebulous beliefs rooted in dogma. So sad.
Kate wow you are so amazing I love how happy and inspirational you and how vulnerable you are because i think that can be so hard I think you and Sarah are the cutieist couple on the whole internet Kate you are such an incredible human being you are so beautiful I love how you give your fans a voice to speak up. I love you for that.
I can't thank you enough for talking about this openly and with so much strength. I'm still in my parents' home and I'm in school so I just live in fear of losing their support. Your story makes me so hopeful.
Have you watched Lauren and Bryson wedding especially her mother's speech which is long her mother explains how much mud she through at her now her mother is so supportive and wants to help others with Lauren don't know if you have ever seen it worth the watch! Parents can be strange I never really had a relationship with mine that's a long story that I'm over now keep on keeping on you living your best life with Sarah so much happiness and love life ahead with sarah👍👍👍👍👍❤❤❤
I wrote letter to my mom when I came out to her. About a year ago people were calling me gay and making fun of me. I told my mom they were making fun of me and she told me she was fine if I was. Now 1 year later I am and I came out to her because last year she said she was fine with it. I am so sorry to hear that Kate’s parents don’t accept her. My step parents and my real dad would hate me. But thank you to the kids who bullied me because without them I would’ve come out to my mom!
Im in a similar issue with my mom. I was outed as well (by my phone lol) and she has completely blocked off my life. She has prevented me from talking to the people that have helped me and blocked all social media cuz "shes protecting us from society". She takes me shopping to make me more "fem" as guys may like me which makes me super uncomfortable. Its been two years since I came out.... She has threatened to kick me out if i continue this "gay crap" The only thing keeping me by is my incredible support system. My sister, dad, my brother (kinda) and many friends have helped me get by, and even ur videos bring a smile to my face. She is the only person in my life that is disapproving. I have ben reccomended to tell her im straight but I have explained that I cant. I have been hiding who i was for far too long. The way I see it is, why retreat when ur army is bigger than hers. I am only 15, but I don't expect to have a relationship when I move out. Its been hard but its people like u that bring a smile to my face when I'm down. Thank you for sharing your story and helping others get by.
@@bdawg9386 oh well i thought my body was designed to pump blood to my heart, inahle oxygen through my lungs to keep oxygenated blood flowing to my heart, and consume nutrients to keep my body alive...I could be wrong tho
@@bdawg9386 Sir, i saw you're a black man, with everything going on in America right now you have nothing better to do than hate on gay women? Minorities should support each other. How do you feel when you read racist comments? Because what you're doing isn't much different. Don't do what you don't want others do to you. Have a nice day.
@@bdawg9386 women where not created to be for men because a women doesn't need a men to have a happy live and if the price of having a happy live is going to hell then my pleasure
This was really therapeutic to watch..I came out to my parents a couple of days ago and they told me that it was “my choice” if I wasn’t going to be around, but that they never want to meet my girlfriend. It’s been nice that they want to talk to me, but extremely painful that they don’t want to even meet the love of my life. Anyways, thank you for these videos ❤️
I'm sorry you're having to go through this; I hope it does get better. Sounds like you made the right call, though. Your well-being does have to come first.
I can tell this was a hard video to make for you. I am so sorry that this happened. I can tell you are such a positive sweet person and I think its great you can post videos for young LGBT people who are going through the same thing as you. you are amazing!!
Thank you for being such an incredible human being!! You’re one of my biggest inspirations and I hope to meet you one day! You have brought so much happiness into my life and I’m so glad I found your page when I did. Thank you for everything, I LOVE you!!♥️
I appreciate this video so much. I am quarantined with my parents & just came out to my mom for the fourth (!!!) time (as in I have literally told her I am gay 4 times and every time she gives me no reaction & then she pretends it never happened, she never addresses it or talks about my dating life ever, even though she used to when I dated men). This video reminded me that I should not feel ashamed about myself or my girlfriend regardless of my parents’ opinions. I am very lucky in that I don’t think this will lead to me cutting them off or them disowning me, but it’s definitely very depressing when you realize you can’t and probably will never be able to be open with your parents about this huge part of your life. Sending love to you and Sarah
This really struck a chord with me, my parents never cared that I liked girls. But almost 4 years ago my dad basically disowned me and went to be with another family. I’m disabled and he doesn’t want to have to put in any work caring for me. We were once so close but he has said so many hurtful things to me. When he didn’t even message for weeks after my horse died I have cut him from my future wedding. I can’t look at someone who could say the awful stuff he did.
You and your fiancee are blessed 🙏. It's a privilege to know you thru your channel. Much love to you both from a fellow Philadelphian ❤. Continue to stay safe, healthy and always blessed. 🌈🍻💕
I love your videos and I love you. You are such a role model. You keep it real and are so inspiring. I love how you know who you are and that’s that no one can change it. ❤️❤️ so inspiring!
You have all the right to be immensely happy, keep your convictions and strong affirmations that are worthy of having everything that you dream! Thank you for being open, strong, genuine and inspiring. The best wishes for you!
I’m so sorry to hear your story. Love is love. Hopefully it will work out but you have found yourself and who you are and are happy with that and that is what is important. Stay happy and be who you are
Heyyy. I just wanted to say Sarah has been an inspiration to me and you of course. My fiancé has been going through almost exactly what you have been going through for about 3 years now. Her parents aren’t very accepting. Every year they seem to make strides forward then strides back. Her mother finally told us about 2 months ago she won’t be going to our wedding of course that is super painful for my fiancé. My fiancé, just like you, handles this like a champ. Of course it hurts her and makes her sad some days but shes so strong! Her brother also told her that his sons (5&6) won’t be allowed to go to the wedding “because they’re not old enough to understand” also painful. Through the years I would get super upset about it and not handle it in the best way. I’ve gotten better but even now i try to give my fiancé advice and anyway I love the way Sarah handles it and I need to be more like her. She supports you and I know that’s all my fiancé needs.
Hi Kate! I've met your story when you were at Ellen's but didn't know the whole story as you've told it know. I get you, i'm in the same situation ( the difference is that everyone in my family stopped talking to me or have any kind of relationship ...💔). Although i can relate to your feelings (and no judgement intendented), i try to see their side too....Nate Berkus once told his story of his coming out and how his stepdad accepted right away, but his mother struggled. And the thing that inspired me and led me to be tolerant with them (way more than they are with me, trust me) was that he said, that parents (or any other loved one) often have a dream of what's their children's life will look like, and they have to mourn that too....even for them....their expectations and dreams...the same way we did until we've came out to ourselves. We live in two very different countries and cultures but is likely that they might feel the same. I know that you're an Ellen's huge fan and she always says "be kind to one another".....i get you, and i don't want to be rude or unsupportive but i tried to do this for the last year (at my emotional expense, trust me!) But at least i got to be at my dad's side while he was sick and past away earlier this year....💔. Anyway, love watching you guys and good luck with everything! ❤️
My parents are one of those couples who don’t show homophobia but think it’s a “trend” and it sucks cuz I’m gay and I really don’t know what there reaction will be so I’m keeping my expectations super low so when I come out I won’t be disappointed:/
Kate, you are amazing and so so worthy!! Love this video.. I am so proud of you getting away from your parents since they have not been accepting.. You are so right, you did nothing wrong.. You love who you love and have every right to be happy!! You and Sarah are such are a great match.. I can't those negative homophobes either.. They just irritated me a lot.. But I am so happy for you and Sarah!! Can't wait to see more.. Love you all.. Stay sweet and keep on rockin!!
Hi Kate!! I follow you on tik tok and it’s amazing that you respond! You and Sarah are my girlfriend’s and my IDOL! My dad is catholic should I tell him my mom and step dad knows?
My heart sinks everytime I used someone say "I'm glad I could come out and my family was totally accepting 🙃" I get so upset.... I'm too flipping envious😭😭😭
As a parent I could never see myself being angry with one of my children for being in love and finding some one that loved them and made them happy and fulfilled. Life is hard enough and these days finding some one to love and spend the years with that loves you and wants to be with you is not as easy as it used to be, let people love who they love and be happy that they found love and a partner that will bring happiness and joy and a future of happy memories. I always say that nobody told you who to fall in love with so what gives you the right to try and project you ignorance on others. Seems to me that maybe your Mom may have deeper issues she doesn't want to admit or deal with. Just putting this out there but, it has been my experience that those who protest the most and the loudest usually have something they don't want to face or admit. Wouldn't that be irony in its best definition. Wishing you both the best of luck and happiness and a blessed future, and there are lots of us "older" folks out here that see you and accept you and yes love you for just being you.
" those who protest the most and the loudest usually have something they don't want to face or admit", yes obviously, humans are blind/ignorant and hypocritical like that.
Also a lot of people in the church don’t understand what judging is, basically to judge rightly is to judge without hypocrisy…so what some parents or people do shows an example of hypocritical judging which God is actually against and then they beg for things to change (that they themselves destroy with their mouths)
Kate, you're a bona fide role model for us all. Any update on opening up a P.O. box? You briefly mention it a few vlogs ago. I think I speak on behalf of all your supporters, and we want to send you and Sarah a bunch of goodies. 🌈🧸Your awesome and thank you for sharing your authentic heart and soul with us all.
One of the things I remember my parents saying is “this house is Holy” so imagine what that did to my mind making me think I’m dirt although the way they acted is an example of what the Bible talks about before you can judge the speck in your neighbors eye look at the log in your own. This taught me about how many Christian people today don’t even have a right to judge because of their own hypocrisy (dressing up of the outside) saying how they never sin when in reality everyone does some just hide it better and pretend they are so pure in front of God but if your really a Christian you would have mercy on people that you call your neighbor, or a child or even just someone on the street.
You're so beautiful and strong. I'm sorry you've got some shit family... But I'm happy you've found family in other people. Honestly.. when y'all have children i think they'll come around... But either way keep living your best life. You're an inspiration keep doing your thing and stay strong love💕
I'm sure it's not a possibility but if there's any way to talk to you one on one about some personal things I don't feel like sharing with everyone that would be wonderful. Completely understandable if not though, I know you're busy!
I’m one of the lucky ones as my family totally accepted me being gay. I can’t imagine what it must be like to not be accepted. Parents are meant to love unconditionally but unfortunately this doesn’t seem to be the case with a lot of families. One thing I have noticed with most of these stories is that it’s religion and/or god that seems to be the main problem. I didn’t grow up in a particularly religious family so maybe that’s why it was easier for me to be accepted? I know a lot of people say they hope down the line things will improve but honestly I could never forgive a parent for choosing religion/god over their own flesh and blood. I likewise couldn’t remain part of my parents lives if they didn’t accept a sibling as honestly they wouldn’t be people I would want to know. Whilst I appreciate I was lucky when I came out 24 years ago my mum has since passed away and whilst I miss her, our bond and our relationship every single day it’s nice knowing that she not only accepted my lifestyle, she also got to see me marry the love of my life and also had a wonderful relationship with my wife too. ❤️
I don’t know how to describe me but I’m into boys but my bestfriend likes me as in like and I don’t know how to tell I’m not into girls but I wanna be her bestfriend still and I will support her through her journey🤭
I know those people probably are trying to mean well meaning parents who are afraid for their children but when they start acting like tyrants they start partaking from the devils cup and allowing this to aggravate children pushing them away which breaks Gods heart, so Kate Gods heart is broken with you don’t give up and know that you’re not alone.
Note to younger people google your states tenant laws the minute you become a tenant is the min you have RIGHTS im not kidding...I have parents mad to me now in 2020 and im 38(yes im old lol but i do have a PHD in counseling so i hope that counts for something)...bc i would tell my PEERS even if they were aholes(see why i got into social work lol) about this: if your parents try to kick you out and you pay rent and have proof ...they must give you 30 days AND police usually wont get involved if you explain i pay rent and have nowhere else to go. They will say its a civil matter and then tell them to take you to court. Remember ole dude whose parents and him went viral bc he refused to leave his folks house for THREE years. So yea there are laws....ok imma hobble out on my cane lol ....
Hi Kate. You talk about your mom having a problem with accepting you. I'm curious how your dad fits into the picture. Did he have the same issues or did he just go along with his wife out of a sense of obligation. Hugs~ xx
i agree i might need to close of all contact with my imediate familly and anyone else they tell so thats why i am not telling my parrents and im only 13 so though i have money saved i dont want to move out...well i do but i dont want to at the same time expecially at such a young age, so, in the closet as bi for 3 more years
Happy for you cause you have the guts to come out to your parents wether they like it or not and still continue living with your life. Anyways congrats for the both of you..🙂 While me still stock in my closet . I have not yet come out to my parents. Im afraid that this will happen to me too i dont have that guts to come out just like everybody else..and i lowkey had girl crushes rather than boys.
You mostly talk about your mom's issues with you. How does your dad fit into the picture, is he as vitriolic as your mom or do you think she overpowers him with her anger? Thx
I don’t consider myself anything I just love people and fall in love with the person not if they are a guy or a girl. My mom recently found out that me and current girlfriend or dating. She said she will never accept my girlfriend and that we can’t be around her. She said how could I do something like this when I’m a Christian and I always had boyfriends in the past. Certain girls catch my eye but definitely have done things with a female and she said how couldn’t I know this I understand if you were born this way. And I just don’t feel comfortable saying anything or talking about my feelings I recently moved into an apartment with her while going to school. And I just feel like giving up but I recently got 2 jobs that will help me take care of all my bills that she would normally do. And she is just getting into my head feeling more depressed than ever and feel like I can’t make it. But my girlfriend has been so supportive and understanding through this rough time.
I am not commenting your superdope video because I have had the same experience as you...I havent. My parents have accepted me from day one and are so amazing about me being gay. I comment because you are literally one of the only americans I know who doesnt say "like" for every four words they speak. It is so liberating to hear a person who can actually say a full sentence without filling it with "like" all the time... :) Btw, I love the way Sarah supports you...
It's incredibly sad that your own flesh and blood does not accept and love you for you and who you love. Parents should love their children unconditionally. It angers me that they would choose their religion over their child's happiness. I am very thankful that my parents and family support me, but My Fiance's parents aren't as accepting. It breaks my heart to see her cry because her father wont even walk her down the aisle nor participate in our wedding. What also angered me was when her father stated he knew why my fiance was gay, and blamed it on a past traumatic experience she had with a man and believes that is the reason why she is more "comfortable" with a woman. Yeah NO.....that's not how that works. Kate, thank you for sharing your experience. It takes a lot of bravery and strength to cut ties with your parents. I have learned over the years that even though they are blood, that doesn't mean you have to keep them in your life. You don't have to cater to anyone's happiness but your own. Keep staying strong Kate!
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*it genuinely fascinates me that there are human beings in this world who “do not agree with” love... i believe that everything starts with self-love, so whoever feels this way must lack love within self. my mom has yet to apologize to me for the flat-out evil things she has said to me & i’m living with my parents right now, but i have already accepted that once i move back out, i am perfectly okay with not having a relationship with my mom (or any other homophobic family member). transcending the “fear” of not talking to someone who brings me more toxicity than positivity & replacing it with happiness on my behalf brings me peace* 🕊
sending you so much love while you're stuck there!!
@@KateAustinn Would read my post from above.
Shouldn't be living there when you need to then.
Georganne Nelson *i didn’t ask you, george.*
Yeaaaaa, My Mother can burn to the crisp in the deepest darkest pit of Hell.
I appreciate this video so much Kate. I came out when I was 15, but after the terrible reaction i got and not being allowed to hang out with anyone that was a girl and other things, I felt like I had to pretend I was straight until i went to college just to feel like I was living somewhat normally. I'm a freshman in college right now and before I left, they told me that if they found out i was in any way involved in the "homosexual lifestyle" that they would cut me off and I would have to find a way to support myself on my own. Well I have a girlfriend now and so far it's been okay because they don't know. but like you, I know that they will most likely never be involved or support me when I do "come out" to them again and when you talk about things with your parents I just find so much hope that it will be ok, and that I can live a fulfilling life without their approval. You have really impacted my outlook so much and in a lot of ways i look up to you like a sister ❤️never stop being a light.
bdawg If you think it’s so disgusting then why the hell are you here anyway ?? You obviously just want to start an argument. And to your other comment, I also have better things to do then shit on people because I’m a decent human being. Your life must be hella sad
Girl cut them out of their life. You don’t need to depend on other people. If they want to connect with you then it’s either take it or leave it
You are an absolute beauty...inside and out!
Thanks for hearing your story again about your parents. You remind me to continue to ignore my father after i learned who he really is just like you and your mother.
Ugh I know how difficult it is ♥️
@@KateAustinn Thanks for your inspiration. Glad there are people like you who know how difficult it is seeing the true nature of your parents after all these years and left wondering if we can ever have a relationship with them again. Thanks Kate
parent-child love is supposed to be unconditional!!😭this makes me so sad, but i’m really proud of you for choosing yourself, Kate❤️❤️❤️
I am straight, but I have a very conservative family that does not support pre-marital sex and does not believe couples should live together before marriage. I recently made the decision to move with my boyfriend and have been scared to tell my family because I know it won't end well. I know it is a little off topic, but you have helped to give me the courage to do what I believe is right instead of just trying to appease my parents. So thank you.
Thank you for sharing
Yep, that’s kind of a similar issue.
My parents are just like yours.
You are not heterosexual. Stop telling yourself that. Try it and you will see that you will like it.
It truly is astounding that theres this argument and these fights about love? Like, love is love! Life is way too short to be angry about who loves who!! It makes absolutely no sense to me! You and Sara are amazing and your wedding is going to be beautiful! I just came across your channel randomly and I just love how honest and outspoken you are.
My friend growing up, came out to his parents, about a decade ago. We were already in our early 20’s at this point, so we still had so much to learn. Well, they shunned him so horrifically and they accused him of being capable of molesting his little brother. All because they were very religious. My father was a pastor at the time and welcomed him with loving arms. Long story short, he was not so lucky. He committed suicide about 6-months later. I am absolutely appreciative of the fact that you have created a voice that speaks volumes in this world. It supersedes the horrific voices that we hear every day. I wish your channel and others like it, were available to my beautiful friend when he needed it most. However, it can be available to others who need it, now. Thank you for this. 🥰
Melanie B. This hurt my heart. God bless you and your family.
Lex Thank you! 🖤
Omg my heart is bleeding for him
As someone who lives at home and will live at home for 2 more years until grad school...I think that after another 2 years of being in the closet while hearing them say 'gays should die/go to hell' that cutting off contact might not be that difficult...but it doesn't mean I want to.
You're videos really help me though so THANK YOU for them!
kate, you are simply an inspiration! you're incredible! so proud of the way in which you've handle everything. congrats to you and sarah on your engagement!
thank you so much angel!!
I can relate so much to your story. I also cut the ties with my parents because of the way they treated me. What made it even more difficult was the fact that we live in the same city and especially at the beginning I was constantly aproched by friends of my parents who tried to make me feel guilty for cutting the ties.
You did a courageous and necessary cut. I hope that maybe one day it will change, but anyway, hold on, be strong. You know your worth and how you should be treated.
I'm sending you lots of love and ghost hugs from Vienna.
You always talk about your mom, what about your father, does he just go along with whatever your mom says? You are so strong and inspire me to keep going through hardship. 💝
That's the same thing I'm wondering because it almost sounds like her dad may be somewhat accepting he's just trying to digest everything but her mom is one of those old-school people that does not support her lifestyle at all
Choosing yourself and your happiness will always be the right thing. So happy that you have freed yourself and can be genuinely you. Always remember that your feelings are valid. ❤️
this is like dude, it’s so like 😳 to see people that are AGAINST THIS. I’m super lucky to have parents who support the LGBTQ+ community. I’m straight but like dude, I don’t really know why, but I just have SUCH A PROBLEM WITH PEOPLE WHO JUST DON’T UNDERSTAND OR SUPPORT THIS. LIKE I HONESTLY DON’T.
keep doing you, because you are special and honestly so beautiful. Sarah was 100% the perfect match for you and I hope you guys have a amazing life together.
Kate, I just completely adore you. I am in the exact same place you were. I was outed to my Mormon parents in January, and a these last four months seem impossible. Your videos have been the only thing giving me hope, because having hope that they’ll change their views just isn’t realistic. I have to accept that if I want to be happy, my relationship with my family can’t continue. Seeing your strength and what you’ve made of your life is what gives me the ability to keep fighting.
Sending you love and strengh! I'm not outed to my parents but they are religious and homophobic too, and I knew that a relationship with them wasn't possible years before I even knew that I was bi, but I'm still stuck with them.
Thank you for sharing you feelings and hardship with us all! I know it has helped me come to terms and realize my emotions are valid and that i should just "be over" having a hard relationship with my parents. i hate showing emotions and dealing with what im feeling so i push it down and just pretend that i dont care and that its not happening, but you've inspired me to try a feel my emotions cause they are valid and they are still there no matter how much i push them down! Forever grateful for you!
Thanks for sharing your story! ♥️My girlfriend is going through the same thing and it sucks
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I just came across your channel and my heart breaks for you that you had to go thru that. I cannot imagine not supporting my child regardless of who they choose to love. You are amazing and beautiful. I am sure there are many people who would be honorary parents to you. Me included.
My mom has said she would die , if she ever found me being gay or not following what God doesn't like. I keep it hidden from her
I'm really sorry for you.
My mom did the same. When you do come out, remind her that God does not approve of suicide and if she did kill herself she would go to H**L. Threats of death are a manipulation. As long as you recognize that you can make informed decisions.
Watching this video over and over again. You are an inspiration.
I just feel sorry for your parents - knowing they're missing the beautiful life you're living, the thoughtful intelligent woman you've become, and the profound joy you'll have on your wedding day - all because of some nebulous beliefs rooted in dogma. So sad.
Kate wow you are so amazing I love how happy and inspirational you and how vulnerable you are because i think that can be so hard I think you and Sarah are the cutieist couple on the whole internet Kate you are such an incredible human being you are so beautiful I love how you give your fans a voice to speak up. I love you for that.
I can't thank you enough for talking about this openly and with so much strength. I'm still in my parents' home and I'm in school so I just live in fear of losing their support. Your story makes me so hopeful.
Have you watched Lauren and Bryson wedding especially her mother's speech which is long her mother explains how much mud she through at her now her mother is so supportive and wants to help others with Lauren don't know if you have ever seen it worth the watch! Parents can be strange I never really had a relationship with mine that's a long story that I'm over now keep on keeping on you living your best life with Sarah so much happiness and love life ahead with sarah👍👍👍👍👍❤❤❤
Kate, hi I’m a teen in highschool, trying to figure out how to confront my mom that I’m bi, and tips? How should I start the convo ?
If I were to come out all over again, I think I would write a letter to my parents. It's how I best express myself!
It is so scary but don’t worry 😉
Ella F I’m 10 and I know I’m bi
Ella f sure we can be friends
I wrote letter to my mom when I came out to her. About a year ago people were calling me gay and making fun of me. I told my mom they were making fun of me and she told me she was fine if I was. Now 1 year later I am and I came out to her because last year she said she was fine with it. I am so sorry to hear that Kate’s parents don’t accept her. My step parents and my real dad would hate me. But thank you to the kids who bullied me because without them I would’ve come out to my mom!
Im in a similar issue with my mom. I was outed as well (by my phone lol) and she has completely blocked off my life. She has prevented me from talking to the people that have helped me and blocked all social media cuz "shes protecting us from society". She takes me shopping to make me more "fem" as guys may like me which makes me super uncomfortable. Its been two years since I came out.... She has threatened to kick me out if i continue this "gay crap" The only thing keeping me by is my incredible support system. My sister, dad, my brother (kinda) and many friends have helped me get by, and even ur videos bring a smile to my face. She is the only person in my life that is disapproving. I have ben reccomended to tell her im straight but I have explained that I cant. I have been hiding who i was for far too long. The way I see it is, why retreat when ur army is bigger than hers. I am only 15, but I don't expect to have a relationship when I move out. Its been hard but its people like u that bring a smile to my face when I'm down. Thank you for sharing your story and helping others get by.
@@bdawg9386 oh well i thought my body was designed to pump blood to my heart, inahle oxygen through my lungs to keep oxygenated blood flowing to my heart, and consume nutrients to keep my body alive...I could be wrong tho
@@bdawg9386 your exsistence and u spreading hate has so physiological benefits in society either
@@bdawg9386 Sir, i saw you're a black man, with everything going on in America right now you have nothing better to do than hate on gay women? Minorities should support each other. How do you feel when you read racist comments? Because what you're doing isn't much different. Don't do what you don't want others do to you. Have a nice day.
@@bdawg9386 women where not created to be for men because a women doesn't need a men to have a happy live and if the price of having a happy live is going to hell then my pleasure
You are such an inspiration. Thank you for sharing ❤️
This was really therapeutic to watch..I came out to my parents a couple of days ago and they told me that it was “my choice” if I wasn’t going to be around, but that they never want to meet my girlfriend. It’s been nice that they want to talk to me, but extremely painful that they don’t want to even meet the love of my life. Anyways, thank you for these videos ❤️
Sending so much love to you or anyone who goes trough this , i really cant belive that this still happens but it does ...
I'm sorry you're having to go through this; I hope it does get better. Sounds like you made the right call, though. Your well-being does have to come first.
I can tell this was a hard video to make for you. I am so sorry that this happened. I can tell you are such a positive sweet person and I think its great you can post videos for young LGBT people who are going through the same thing as you. you are amazing!!
Thank you for being such an incredible human being!! You’re one of my biggest inspirations and I hope to meet you one day! You have brought so much happiness into my life and I’m so glad I found your page when I did. Thank you for everything, I LOVE you!!♥️
I appreciate this video so much. I am quarantined with my parents & just came out to my mom for the fourth (!!!) time (as in I have literally told her I am gay 4 times and every time she gives me no reaction & then she pretends it never happened, she never addresses it or talks about my dating life ever, even though she used to when I dated men). This video reminded me that I should not feel ashamed about myself or my girlfriend regardless of my parents’ opinions. I am very lucky in that I don’t think this will lead to me cutting them off or them disowning me, but it’s definitely very depressing when you realize you can’t and probably will never be able to be open with your parents about this huge part of your life. Sending love to you and Sarah
bdawg I’m sure your mom sees you as the same!
@@bdawg9386 and I am sure you're mom is disappointed that they created a child who hates people for being in love
This really struck a chord with me, my parents never cared that I liked girls. But almost 4 years ago my dad basically disowned me and went to be with another family. I’m disabled and he doesn’t want to have to put in any work caring for me. We were once so close but he has said so many hurtful things to me. When he didn’t even message for weeks after my horse died I have cut him from my future wedding. I can’t look at someone who could say the awful stuff he did.
You and your fiancee are blessed 🙏. It's a privilege to know you thru your channel. Much love to you both from a fellow Philadelphian ❤. Continue to stay safe, healthy and always blessed. 🌈🍻💕
Also, what a loss for them. Sarah and you are wonderful people, and it’s a huge loss for them.
I love your videos and I love you. You are such a role model. You keep it real and are so inspiring. I love how you know who you are and that’s that no one can change it. ❤️❤️ so inspiring!
You have all the right to be immensely happy, keep your convictions and strong affirmations that are worthy of having everything that you dream! Thank you for being open, strong, genuine and inspiring. The best wishes for you!
I’m so sorry to hear your story. Love is love. Hopefully it will work out but you have found yourself and who you are and are happy with that and that is what is important. Stay happy and be who you are
Heyyy. I just wanted to say Sarah has been an inspiration to me and you of course. My fiancé has been going through almost exactly what you have been going through for about 3 years now. Her parents aren’t very accepting. Every year they seem to make strides forward then strides back. Her mother finally told us about 2 months ago she won’t be going to our wedding of course that is super painful for my fiancé. My fiancé, just like you, handles this like a champ. Of course it hurts her and makes her sad some days but shes so strong! Her brother also told her that his sons (5&6) won’t be allowed to go to the wedding “because they’re not old enough to understand” also painful. Through the years I would get super upset about it and not handle it in the best way. I’ve gotten better but even now i try to give my fiancé advice and anyway I love the way Sarah handles it and I need to be more like her. She supports you and I know that’s all my fiancé needs.
Hi Kate! I've met your story when you were at Ellen's but didn't know the whole story as you've told it know. I get you, i'm in the same situation ( the difference is that everyone in my family stopped talking to me or have any kind of relationship ...💔). Although i can relate to your feelings (and no judgement intendented), i try to see their side too....Nate Berkus once told his story of his coming out and how his stepdad accepted right away, but his mother struggled. And the thing that inspired me and led me to be tolerant with them (way more than they are with me, trust me) was that he said, that parents (or any other loved one) often have a dream of what's their children's life will look like, and they have to mourn that too....even for them....their expectations and dreams...the same way we did until we've came out to ourselves. We live in two very different countries and cultures but is likely that they might feel the same. I know that you're an Ellen's huge fan and she always says "be kind to one another".....i get you, and i don't want to be rude or unsupportive but i tried to do this for the last year (at my emotional expense, trust me!) But at least i got to be at my dad's side while he was sick and past away earlier this year....💔. Anyway, love watching you guys and good luck with everything! ❤️
Kate your channel is so special to me
You are amazing. So strong! Such a difficult situation and you seem so healthy. Good for you!
I love how pure and honest you are Kate...keep doing what u doing❤️😄
Thank you for sharing your story! You continue to to be an inspiration to me ♥
My parents are one of those couples who don’t show homophobia but think it’s a “trend” and it sucks cuz I’m gay and I really don’t know what there reaction will be so I’m keeping my expectations super low so when I come out I won’t be disappointed:/
i’m so happy you made this video 🥺
Kate, you are amazing and so so worthy!! Love this video.. I am so proud of you getting away from your parents since they have not been accepting.. You are so right, you did nothing wrong.. You love who you love and have every right to be happy!! You and Sarah are such are a great match.. I can't those negative homophobes either.. They just irritated me a lot.. But I am so happy for you and Sarah!! Can't wait to see more.. Love you all.. Stay sweet and keep on rockin!!
You’re so amazing. So proud of the example you set. Thank you for sharing your story ❤️❤️
Tanks love you so much ❤❤❤
love you!!
Hi Kate!! I follow you on tik tok and it’s amazing that you respond! You and Sarah are my girlfriend’s and my IDOL! My dad is catholic should I tell him my mom and step dad knows?
So strong love you so much Kate!
thank you so much for making this video😩 like u have know idea how much just simply watching a youtube video can help. like frfr i appreciate u🥺💙❤️💚
My heart sinks everytime I used someone say "I'm glad I could come out and my family was totally accepting 🙃"
I get so upset.... I'm too flipping envious😭😭😭
You did the right thing Kate xx much love to you and Sarah xx
You’re super strong for walking away! I expected a bad reaction and in the end it wasn’t as bad as i thought it would be. ❤️
*kate austin posts a video*
me: *drops everything to watch asap*
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I love you ♥️
Kate Austin ❤️❤️❤️
"Sarah's pooping💩! and i can't film while she poops." 🤣🤣🤣
Its a brave decision to walk away from your parents, you don't deserve them. I feel parents should support thier kids.
As a parent I could never see myself being angry with one of my children for being in love and finding some one that loved them and made them happy and fulfilled. Life is hard enough and these days finding some one to love and spend the years with that loves you and wants to be with you is not as easy as it used to be, let people love who they love and be happy that they found love and a partner that will bring happiness and joy and a future of happy memories. I always say that nobody told you who to fall in love with so what gives you the right to try and project you ignorance on others. Seems to me that maybe your Mom may have deeper issues she doesn't want to admit or deal with. Just putting this out there but, it has been my experience that those who protest the most and the loudest usually have something they don't want to face or admit. Wouldn't that be irony in its best definition. Wishing you both the best of luck and happiness and a blessed future, and there are lots of us "older" folks out here that see you and accept you and yes love you for just being you.
" those who protest the most and the loudest usually have something they don't want to face or admit", yes obviously, humans are blind/ignorant and hypocritical like that.
Also a lot of people in the church don’t understand what judging is, basically to judge rightly is to judge without hypocrisy…so what some parents or people do shows an example of hypocritical judging which God is actually against and then they beg for things to change (that they themselves destroy with their mouths)
Keep being You!!! Keep being Happy!!
Kate, you're a bona fide role model for us all. Any update on opening up a P.O. box? You briefly mention it a few vlogs ago. I think I speak on behalf of all your supporters, and we want to send you and Sarah a bunch of goodies. 🌈🧸Your awesome and thank you for sharing your authentic heart and soul with us all.
Ily Kate!
I also have a video suggestion if you doing a live playing animal crossings 😁😁😁
you explain all the questions very well, you are awesome
Love you Kate
One of the things I remember my parents saying is “this house is Holy” so imagine what that did to my mind making me think I’m dirt although the way they acted is an example of what the Bible talks about before you can judge the speck in your neighbors eye look at the log in your own. This taught me about how many Christian people today don’t even have a right to judge because of their own hypocrisy (dressing up of the outside) saying how they never sin when in reality everyone does some just hide it better and pretend they are so pure in front of God but if your really a Christian you would have mercy on people that you call your neighbor, or a child or even just someone on the street.
You're so beautiful and strong. I'm sorry you've got some shit family... But I'm happy you've found family in other people. Honestly.. when y'all have children i think they'll come around... But either way keep living your best life. You're an inspiration keep doing your thing and stay strong love💕
I'm sure it's not a possibility but if there's any way to talk to you one on one about some personal things I don't feel like sharing with everyone that would be wonderful. Completely understandable if not though, I know you're busy!
imagine thinking that who someone else loves has anything to do with YOU
Thank you for awnsering my question I really needed this advice!
i love ur hair!
i love you so muchhhh thx for this video
Where is your shirt from I’m obsessed !!! Also all my love to you 💖
such an inspiration always 🤍
You always look so perfect. 💅
You give me so much hope for my future ❤️
I am in the exact same situation on the precipice of making the decision you made, thank you so much for making this video
I’m one of the lucky ones as my family totally accepted me being gay. I can’t imagine what it must be like to not be accepted. Parents are meant to love unconditionally but unfortunately this doesn’t seem to be the case with a lot of families. One thing I have noticed with most of these stories is that it’s religion and/or god that seems to be the main problem. I didn’t grow up in a particularly religious family so maybe that’s why it was easier for me to be accepted? I know a lot of people say they hope down the line things will improve but honestly I could never forgive a parent for choosing religion/god over their own flesh and blood. I likewise couldn’t remain part of my parents lives if they didn’t accept a sibling as honestly they wouldn’t be people I would want to know. Whilst I appreciate I was lucky when I came out 24 years ago my mum has since passed away and whilst I miss her, our bond and our relationship every single day it’s nice knowing that she not only accepted my lifestyle, she also got to see me marry the love of my life and also had a wonderful relationship with my wife too. ❤️
I don’t know how to describe me but I’m into boys but my bestfriend likes me as in like and I don’t know how to tell I’m not into girls but I wanna be her bestfriend still and I will support her through her journey🤭
Jodi I’m scared to lose her as my bestfriend😭
We lov u 2
I know those people probably are trying to mean well meaning parents who are afraid for their children but when they start acting like tyrants they start partaking from the devils cup and allowing this to aggravate children pushing them away which breaks Gods heart, so Kate Gods heart is broken with you don’t give up and know that you’re not alone.
Note to younger people google your states tenant laws the minute you become a tenant is the min you have RIGHTS im not kidding...I have parents mad to me now in 2020 and im 38(yes im old lol but i do have a PHD in counseling so i hope that counts for something)...bc i would tell my PEERS even if they were aholes(see why i got into social work lol) about this: if your parents try to kick you out and you pay rent and have proof ...they must give you 30 days AND police usually wont get involved if you explain i pay rent and have nowhere else to go. They will say its a civil matter and then tell them to take you to court. Remember ole dude whose parents and him went viral bc he refused to leave his folks house for THREE years. So yea there are laws....ok imma hobble out on my cane lol ....
I loveeee Sarah
Hi Kate. You talk about your mom having a problem with accepting you. I'm curious how your dad fits into the picture. Did he have the same issues or did he just go along with his wife out of a sense of obligation. Hugs~ xx
That's Bry
i agree i might need to close of all contact with my imediate familly and anyone else they tell so thats why i am not telling my parrents and im only 13 so though i have money saved i dont want to move out...well i do but i dont want to at the same time expecially at such a young age, so, in the closet as bi for 3 more years
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I love your channel! Your so inspiring and I love how supportive you are! LGBT LOVE!
Happy for you cause you have the guts to come out to your parents wether they like it or not and still continue living with your life. Anyways congrats for the both of you..🙂
While me still stock in my closet . I have not yet come out to my parents. Im afraid that this will happen to me too i dont have that guts to come out just like everybody else..and i lowkey had girl crushes rather than boys.
You mostly talk about your mom's issues with you. How does your dad fit into the picture, is he as vitriolic as your mom or do you think she overpowers him with her anger? Thx
We love u kate❤
I’m not gay I have a gay friend and I just don’t care love is love
I don’t consider myself anything I just love people and fall in love with the person not if they are a guy or a girl. My mom recently found out that me and current girlfriend or dating. She said she will never accept my girlfriend and that we can’t be around her. She said how could I do something like this when I’m a Christian and I always had boyfriends in the past. Certain girls catch my eye but definitely have done things with a female and she said how couldn’t I know this I understand if you were born this way. And I just don’t feel comfortable saying anything or talking about my feelings I recently moved into an apartment with her while going to school. And I just feel like giving up but I recently got 2 jobs that will help me take care of all my bills that she would normally do. And she is just getting into my head feeling more depressed than ever and feel like I can’t make it. But my girlfriend has been so supportive and understanding through this rough time.
Miss you and I hope everything is ok with you guys
I am not commenting your superdope video because I have had the same experience as you...I havent. My parents have accepted me from day one and are so amazing about me being gay. I comment because you are literally one of the only americans I know who doesnt say "like" for every four words they speak. It is so liberating to hear a person who can actually say a full sentence without filling it with "like" all the time... :) Btw, I love the way Sarah supports you...
Her parents sound really difficult.
It's incredibly sad that your own flesh and blood does not accept and love you for you and who you love. Parents should love their children unconditionally. It angers me that they would choose their religion over their child's happiness. I am very thankful that my parents and family support me, but My Fiance's parents aren't as accepting. It breaks my heart to see her cry because her father wont even walk her down the aisle nor participate in our wedding. What also angered me was when her father stated he knew why my fiance was gay, and blamed it on a past traumatic experience she had with a man and believes that is the reason why she is more "comfortable" with a woman. Yeah NO.....that's not how that works.
Kate, thank you for sharing your experience. It takes a lot of bravery and strength to cut ties with your parents. I have learned over the years that even though they are blood, that doesn't mean you have to keep them in your life. You don't have to cater to anyone's happiness but your own. Keep staying strong Kate!
Hey, miss you bunches your old tumbling/cheer coach would love to catch up with you. J money.... lol Love how you became this strong independent woman love ya.
Justin Rancher