Thank you for saying this. This type of judgment and criticism has been beyond frustrating and downright hurtful when people keep telling you to do things you simply can't but want to with all your heart!😢
I can't stop blaming myself even though I know I shouldn't. I am stuck between thinking I am blameless and helpless and thinking I am to blame but that means I can change.
I have found, Judging or comparing others to myself just leads me to more self destruction. I am the hardest critic of myself. It’s a vicious cycle. I need to stop.
Unfortunately it is close ones blaming you for everything and if you hear it often enough and experience rejection / abandonment enough times when they are not even interested in discussing problems or learning about depression. It's hard to withstand thus barrage and over time you begin to think it's not possible statistically that I am the only one right and everyone else else wrong so you begin to view yourself through their eyes and you become the lover, lose all self-esteme and confidence in yourself. You go down into that back pit and can't rise again after so many years.😢
You are definitely not a loser. You help a lot of people to understand themselves . Knowing why something happens is the first step in regaining control of your life.
Spot on, Dr. Scott! So true and logical too for the haters. I love your passion about this. You've been there. You have days like this too. Thank you for what you do to empower us. ❤
I'm crying as I hear this. I have been climbing out of a pit for almost ten years, and one of the most important parts of this journey is how much or how little I blame myself. I truly wish it were as simple as flipping a light switch, but it feels more like a continual process of remembering. It's a journey from self-blame to self-love, and it isn’t easy. There are no guarantees, but it is always better than the years lost to self-hatred and blame.
Very well said! I went through architecture school plus grad school riding on the manic high from the all-nighters at studio. I was married to a Dr and very conservative. My mental illness eventually prohibited my motivation and energy. Once I got Rx wellbutrin, Risperdal, prozac, with occasional trazidone for sleep....I became unstoppable!! I ❤ life!!
I didn't get diagnosed with bipolar II until I was in my 40s, my family was quite disappointed in me, and are finally understanding that mental illness is real!! Horribly destructive disease robbing one's motivation and happiness 😢
@@susanallene5553👋 Susan, I understand what Bipolar is & not good. Im back in u.k.yet 4 years they didnt av skill sets to diagnose it, so they used to lock ppl up in Psych. Institutions💔 It only changed wen experts we're brought here from u.s.a.to train them👎 Ive ova a decade complex ptsd that aint understood here. I know it wasn't my fault yet treatment I need personally they won't pay. Got back ere 5yrs ago 2 care 4 elderly parents who refuse to accept the severity of my Debilitating symptoms & throw it in my face. I've endured their Verbal, Emotional, & Physical abuse. Now I realize all this behavior is childhood experiences I'd blocked out. Now facing all this I'm mid life is beyond my tolerance. My Condition's so Debilitating I can't make life decisions & can't live alone. Now I'm physically sick & health care won't help w/this either. I'm alone, no help, no hope & cant think straight cos my condition's severity is life altering & life threatening in some cases 💔
Jesus loves y'all! He's with you despite it all. Wishin y'all healing! You can get through this! If you can't do it anymore, Jesus is with you. He'll be your strength!
You are right, the moment you stop blaming yourself, you start healing👍👍
Thank you for saying this. This type of judgment and criticism has been beyond frustrating and downright hurtful when people keep telling you to do things you simply can't but want to with all your heart!😢
I can't stop blaming myself even though I know I shouldn't. I am stuck between thinking I am blameless and helpless and thinking I am to blame but that means I can change.
I have found, Judging or comparing others to myself just leads me to more self destruction. I am the hardest critic of myself. It’s a vicious cycle. I need to stop.
Unfortunately it is close ones blaming you for everything and if you hear it often enough and experience rejection / abandonment enough times when they are not even interested in discussing problems or learning about depression.
It's hard to withstand thus barrage and over time you begin to think it's not possible statistically that I am the only one right and everyone else else wrong so you begin to view yourself through their eyes and you become the lover, lose all self-esteme and confidence in yourself. You go down into that back pit and can't rise again after so many years.😢
Thank you! No arguments here.
I am working on self-acceptance and recognizing that this is a journey, not a sprint. Your video is spot on. Thank you.
OMG YOU HIT THE NAIL ON THE HEAD WITH THIS ONE! THANK YOU!!🙏🏻 ❤
You are definitely not a loser. You help a lot of people to understand themselves . Knowing why something happens is the first step in regaining control of your life.
Spot on, Dr. Scott! So true and logical too for the haters. I love your passion about this. You've been there. You have days like this too. Thank you for what you do to empower us. ❤
I'm crying as I hear this. I have been climbing out of a pit for almost ten years, and one of the most important parts of this journey is how much or how little I blame myself. I truly wish it were as simple as flipping a light switch, but it feels more like a continual process of remembering. It's a journey from self-blame to self-love, and it isn’t easy. There are no guarantees, but it is always better than the years lost to self-hatred and blame.
Excellent point!! Thanks!
Also removing expectations from other helped me immensely!
These videos are so helpful. I appreciate that you’ve actually been down the black hole of depression. I can relate to what you’re saying. Thx 🖤
Very well said! I went through architecture school plus grad school riding on the manic high from the all-nighters at studio. I was married to a Dr and very conservative. My mental illness eventually prohibited my motivation and energy. Once I got Rx wellbutrin, Risperdal, prozac, with occasional trazidone for sleep....I became unstoppable!! I ❤ life!!
I didn't get diagnosed with bipolar II until I was in my 40s, my family was quite disappointed in me, and are finally understanding that mental illness is real!! Horribly destructive disease robbing one's motivation and happiness 😢
@@susanallene5553👋 Susan, I understand what Bipolar is & not good. Im back in u.k.yet 4 years they didnt av skill sets to diagnose it, so they used to lock ppl up in Psych. Institutions💔 It only changed wen experts we're brought here from u.s.a.to train them👎
Ive ova a decade complex ptsd that aint understood here. I know it wasn't my fault yet treatment I need personally they won't pay.
Got back ere 5yrs ago 2 care 4 elderly parents who refuse to accept the severity of my Debilitating symptoms & throw it in my face. I've endured their Verbal, Emotional, & Physical abuse. Now I realize all this behavior is childhood experiences I'd blocked out.
Now facing all this I'm mid life is beyond my tolerance.
My Condition's so Debilitating I can't make life decisions & can't live alone. Now I'm physically sick & health care won't help w/this either.
I'm alone, no help, no hope & cant think straight cos my condition's severity is life altering & life threatening in some cases 💔
Yes! Yes! I feel this....
That’s fair. Thank you.
Struggling to heal. Something called me to this page. 😢
Thank you
This is great encouragement. I am having a rough start at a really good new job.
Timely & spot on - just what I needed to hear - thank you 🙏
Thank you so much.
❤❤ thank you ❤❤
Wise one.
I just love you dude. Just see myself in you
Thank you 🙏🏼
Thank you man, thank you. I need to write that on my arm so i will always remember it
You are amazing! You make me think and give me hope! Thank you for all you do, Dr. Scott ❤
Jesus loves y'all! He's with you despite it all. Wishin y'all healing! You can get through this! If you can't do it anymore, Jesus is with you. He'll be your strength!
Yes true. Thank you.
I needed to hear this today. Thank you, Dr. Scott.
Thank you...
Thank you, trying to get my head through going to work today
Wonderful message
❤
You’re my favorite ❤️
❤❤
Sometimes i think that maybe im happy and content with my life, and that's why I can't find reasons to be in this rat race anymore.
This ❤
"This thing that happens to you sometimes" what does it include? cause i dont know what it is that has destroyed my emotions