I've witnessed one of my friends defending his academic thesis, and every time he was asked a question, he took a look downwards, paused, and then went on with his answer. I've found it a brilliant way to control his train of thought and make up an articulate answer. Stayed with me all this time as an example of a well-used pause.
as it shows you should start making your sentences more unpredictable and stop following your rythm and people will listen in an complete new way to you
"Still the madness in my mind" - Does everyone have to do this, or just over thinkers? Or just really anyone excited about a topic? Slowing down is indeed powerful. Love your videos man!!!
Great 3 tips to articulate better and have a more effective communication: 1. Pause 2. Slow down your rate of speech 3. Use the 3 magic words ("THE ONE THING" is ...) before answering, so you filter the mind's madness and focus on the vital thing to say. Thanks Vinh
I tried slowing down... My dipshit cousins and family members cut me off of my sentence and i get ignored ALOT to no matter what i do. Edit: the people in the replies are more considerate than my family members, thx guys.
Communicate exactly that to them. That’s probably the best thing you can do. Just say "hey you interrupted me, let me finish my sentence." and hopefully they’ll interrupt you less after some time. You’ll just probably have to interrupt them to say that😅
Oh boy, those are 3 thing one can never do when talking with my mom. If you pause you'll get hit with "why are you thinking so slow?", if you slow down rate of speech she'll lose interest immediately and begin asking additional questions louder than you speak, and if you dare say "the one thing" she'll think you forgot a word and immediately begin a speech about how important it is to read a lot of books, as it makes talking easier. I believe that articulating your thoughts to those kind of people is best handled with written letters, not talking to them.
sounds like talking to her less is a viable alternative, however I would also advise you to take a step back and properly analyse her when you interact with her. View the interaction in the third person and don't personally get involved if that makes sense. Once you think you've figured her out, you can start saying the right things to her which shut down/stop or otherwise deny her that kind of behaviour when you're interacting. I had to do this with my mum who's a highly anxious person prone to flying off the handle at you when she's not happy for whatever reason.
This is great for articulating complex stuff! You can even turn it into an exercise by answering random questions with “The one thing is…” statements-even if it means losing some nuance. It can help get the critical caveat or concern out there and possibly build curiosity about the rest. Then you can elaborate more slowly as necessary.
Guys, this wont work in everyday life. Especially in work environment (unless you are the boss), why? Everybody is in a hurry these days. This will work only if you chill out with family/friends, you film yourself for youtube or people must listen to you because thay paid for your seminar. My advice is to train for deeper voce, talk with normal speed and give clear and basic information. People who wants to know more will ask more and than again give them basic info. Everytime i think they want to know more they give up, dont be fool like me.
I second this. It isn't bad advice per se, it's just not applicable in everyday life. I worked as a loan collection agent and let me tell you, people ain't got time for you to slow down. One thing I've learnt that helps is increasing knowledge and just talking more. Sure slowing down a bit can help but in some cases, you still gotta be fast enough.
He emphasizes on "complex" in the beginning. Should probably slow down a bit for more complex and/or important topic, but otherwise i agree that this wont usually work in everyday life. Especially due to lack of attention span and the inability to actually listen. Instead people just wait for their turn to speak.
I struggle with ADHD and my brain constantly feels like it's darting in every other direction a lot of the time during conversations. Fighting an impulse not to interrupt people and what not. Imagine setting up a game of snooker - my mind is the table and everything is nice and calm, and then we break and every ball shoots off in every direction. These are great tips and I'm trying to get better at this though but my god I frustrate myself hah
Sir, the problem is we want to talk confidently and loudly when there is only complex question. Rest of the time obviously we will be confident and loud.
When I was young, I wasn't able to think fast. I thought that I needed to slow my speech down to give myself time to get my words right before I spoke. I've now slowed myself so much that I'm boring to listen to. How do I speed up?!
But when I slow down to think during my speech and the pause goes quite long I just feel the person on the other end is slowly losing the attention and later I can't even come up with the one word or the point I wanted to make 😐
Sir English is my second language and for learning that i used to talk to myself and now i couldn't even have 5 min of conversation in English with others that fluently like i talk to myself and i don't remember the words faster
I remember in primary when they aaked us the multiplication chart everyone went "ummmm" and gave the answer so i started repeating the question while i thought and gave it. At which point the teacher told me to give the answer straight away.
Okay I don't know if you answer this, but I stammer since childhood for like 20yrs, I want to know how to just speak In a way people can hear my words and voice and understand what is say, because when I speak my words are odd or off Beat
It was the way Ben Carson would answer his public questions like on debates and was criticized for being too slow…they implied he couldn’t cut it….lol….like he was slow or something….he was as a side note a pediatric neurosurgeon….why America pushed Ben Carson aside I’ll never understand
When I'm speaking at a meeting of over 20 audience, and the hall is quiet with only my voice echoing, I get double the nerves, voice shakes and subsequently go blank. How can I overcome this and be comfortable with hearing just my voice
I’ve tried this, but when I take a pause, during the pause I have already forgotten my answer and/or the question to the answer. So I think I really need to work on my listening skills and do something about my memory.
what if when I pause. my brain actually stopped thinking. thought empty. then i even forgot what the question or what i was talking about... i always have this problem.
Whenever I paused, my brain is just empty and cannot convey the message and after the other start to talk then i remember the topic that were discussed 😂
I have this problem where i sound really articulate when i speak to myself or rehearse something with no one around, but when there's an actual audience listening i can feel myself sound like articulate, is there a way to fix that?
Hey if you see this my problem is I'm only around one person who if I pause it's really mad when I start talking again because he has already started talking😂😂😂😂 but for real help for that would be great tysm
The problem is that when I slow down to articulate my thoughts, I lose my train of thought and forget what I was going to say in the first place. So it ends up in a long, awkward silence. ...any advice on how to fix that? :c
Slowing down your rate of speaking will help you not fall victim to speaking at too fast a rate? Truly, Li Bai could not have articulated a more circuitous way of speaking...
How can someone with ADHD slow down the thoughts? Cuz I think super fast and my mouth says the world extremely slow, so I'm always in the middle of something and just forget what I was saying because my brain just thought everything and finished the talk while I'm still saying the first phase.
you're a nice teacher but saying the third one is good one , made me think. This doesn't really works out. Those who want some piece of knowledge they will just take a stop and listen otherwise they will pass anyway.
Imagine you were out till late at night and your father caught you coming late . He ask for anwer,you be like : the one thing is.. And your father be like🩴🩴
I've witnessed one of my friends defending his academic thesis, and every time he was asked a question, he took a look downwards, paused, and then went on with his answer. I've found it a brilliant way to control his train of thought and make up an articulate answer. Stayed with me all this time as an example of a well-used pause.
Every time I slow down people start finishing my sentences 😅
Aaaaah I Hate it
as it shows you should start making your sentences more unpredictable and stop following your rythm and people will listen in an complete new way to you
😂😂😂
It's me, I finish your sentence 😅
😅😅😅
I prefer ‘The key thing is…’.
Because there undoubtedly many many things, but this is the most important one…
Question: What is the squar root of 2684?
Answer: *The one thing*
The one thing is….. * pull out calculator *
The one thing is... The number might end with either 2 or 8 if it was a perfect square number...
@@blazing_heat19214woah you smarty pants😂
Either 56 or 58 if it's a perfect square
Either 52 or 58 if it's a perfect square
"Still the madness in my mind" - Does everyone have to do this, or just over thinkers? Or just really anyone excited about a topic? Slowing down is indeed powerful. Love your videos man!!!
Yea when I'm excited to talk about something I automatically speak very fast and I have a hard time catching breath 😅
I don't think anyone has to do it, but I found it helpful. Even if you don't overthink, sorting out your few thoughts is still good, am I right?
@@davitharutyunyan875 I think you are ! Most of the time we may feel the pressure of answering right away, when a short pause can help
Just you.
Great 3 tips to articulate better and have a more effective communication:
1. Pause
2. Slow down your rate of speech
3. Use the 3 magic words ("THE ONE THING" is ...) before answering, so you filter the mind's madness and focus on the vital thing to say.
Thanks Vinh
It gives the impression of being in control of the situation.
I tried slowing down...
My dipshit cousins and family members cut me off of my sentence and i get ignored ALOT to no matter what i do.
Edit: the people in the replies are more considerate than my family members, thx guys.
Communicate exactly that to them. That’s probably the best thing you can do. Just say "hey you interrupted me, let me finish my sentence." and hopefully they’ll interrupt you less after some time. You’ll just probably have to interrupt them to say that😅
Keep talking, and act like the don't exist
Thx guys
pull a I'M SPEAKING NOW
@@radfaraf lol
You're super amazing communication teacher ❤❤❤✨✨✨✨✨
I tend to talk too fast some times, so these tips are fantastic! Thanks Vinh!
Oh boy, those are 3 thing one can never do when talking with my mom. If you pause you'll get hit with "why are you thinking so slow?", if you slow down rate of speech she'll lose interest immediately and begin asking additional questions louder than you speak, and if you dare say "the one thing" she'll think you forgot a word and immediately begin a speech about how important it is to read a lot of books, as it makes talking easier.
I believe that articulating your thoughts to those kind of people is best handled with written letters, not talking to them.
sounds like talking to her less is a viable alternative, however I would also advise you to take a step back and properly analyse her when you interact with her. View the interaction in the third person and don't personally get involved if that makes sense. Once you think you've figured her out, you can start saying the right things to her which shut down/stop or otherwise deny her that kind of behaviour when you're interacting. I had to do this with my mum who's a highly anxious person prone to flying off the handle at you when she's not happy for whatever reason.
This is great for articulating complex stuff! You can even turn it into an exercise by answering random questions with “The one thing is…” statements-even if it means losing some nuance. It can help get the critical caveat or concern out there and possibly build curiosity about the rest. Then you can elaborate more slowly as necessary.
Guys, this wont work in everyday life. Especially in work environment (unless you are the boss), why? Everybody is in a hurry these days.
This will work only if you chill out with family/friends, you film yourself for youtube or people must listen to you because thay paid for your seminar.
My advice is to train for deeper voce, talk with normal speed and give clear and basic information. People who wants to know more will ask more and than again give them basic info. Everytime i think they want to know more they give up, dont be fool like me.
I second this. It isn't bad advice per se, it's just not applicable in everyday life. I worked as a loan collection agent and let me tell you, people ain't got time for you to slow down. One thing I've learnt that helps is increasing knowledge and just talking more. Sure slowing down a bit can help but in some cases, you still gotta be fast enough.
He emphasizes on "complex" in the beginning. Should probably slow down a bit for more complex and/or important topic, but otherwise i agree that this wont usually work in everyday life. Especially due to lack of attention span and the inability to actually listen.
Instead people just wait for their turn to speak.
You are excellent...Sir
So much to learn,
Love to listen to you.❤❤❤
I struggle with ADHD and my brain constantly feels like it's darting in every other direction a lot of the time during conversations. Fighting an impulse not to interrupt people and what not. Imagine setting up a game of snooker - my mind is the table and everything is nice and calm, and then we break and every ball shoots off in every direction. These are great tips and I'm trying to get better at this though but my god I frustrate myself hah
So it's like framing your own mind?
That's so cool! Need to try!
Not when the customer is yelling at you for an answer lol
I like your advice. I want to learn how to communicate. Do you have any books to recommend for me to read and learn. I strugle too much to talk.
the problem is that when i pause, three people have already jumped in with something witty to say
Your tips is gonna carry my google slides presentation tomorrow wish me luck
Really good video Vinh, congrats seriously hits all the spots as a content creator working with his art and sharing it with others!
Thank you
Thank you! I am preparing for professional debates, your videos are really helpful
Thanks for advice Brother!
Sir, the problem is we want to talk confidently and loudly when there is only complex question. Rest of the time obviously we will be confident and loud.
Prompt engineering yourself. I like it.
Love your insights man🫡🫡🫡🙏🏽🙏🏽
Give thatta go!!!!😂 ❤this
Wow 🤯 Thank you! This is very insightful!!!
Yes! Thank you!
I need avoid the temptation to say the first thing that came into my head😅
Thank You Vinh❤
Smart advice.
Excellent work
When I was young, I wasn't able to think fast. I thought that I needed to slow my speech down to give myself time to get my words right before I spoke. I've now slowed myself so much that I'm boring to listen to. How do I speed up?!
Great advice! Thank you
It's a good advice; however, we live in an era where anxiety and immediate gratification will not allow it.
GREAT 🙌🏼🤯😱😍👍🏼
For me it’s not about thinking what to say, but more of knowing what to say without being disrespectful😂
Impressive, Love.
I respect him.
But when I slow down to think during my speech and the pause goes quite long I just feel the person on the other end is slowly losing the attention and later I can't even come up with the one word or the point I wanted to make 😐
Oh wow THIS IS GOLD
Sir English is my second language and for learning that i used to talk to myself and now i couldn't even have 5 min of conversation in English with others that fluently like i talk to myself and i don't remember the words faster
I remember in primary when they aaked us the multiplication chart everyone went "ummmm" and gave the answer so i started repeating the question while i thought and gave it. At which point the teacher told me to give the answer straight away.
1. Pause
2. Slow rate of speech
3. Repeat the question(?) eg “the one thing is “
Okay I don't know if you answer this, but I stammer since childhood for like 20yrs, I want to know how to just speak In a way people can hear my words and voice and understand what is say, because when I speak my words are odd or off Beat
ông người Việt này giỏi quá 🎉
Thank you ✨️ sir ✨️
It was the way Ben Carson would answer his public questions like on debates and was criticized for being too slow…they implied he couldn’t cut it….lol….like he was slow or something….he was as a side note a pediatric neurosurgeon….why America pushed Ben Carson aside I’ll never understand
Thank you!
Thanks dude
When I'm speaking at a meeting of over 20 audience, and the hall is quiet with only my voice echoing, I get double the nerves, voice shakes and subsequently go blank. How can I overcome this and be comfortable with hearing just my voice
This only works in 1 on 1s or if you're a speaker. In a work meeting 3 people would start yapping while you're pausing
Don't use the "the last one will blow your mind" trick. You have great content. You don't need gimmicks.
That's all well and good, but it doesn't help much when you're constantly surrounded by people who jump in and interrupt the moment you pause.
He has tips for this too, use this in conjunction with establishing your time to speak uninterrupted before you actually start speaking
I've done this sometimes, Then other times not at all, Then I would think to myself:
"What's wrong with me, It was so easy to talk to them before!"
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When I pause mind panics about what to ay next and freezes. I need. To be on a role in these situations, it's all or nothing! 😅
I’ve tried this, but when I take a pause, during the pause I have already forgotten my answer and/or the question to the answer.
So I think I really need to work on my listening skills and do something about my memory.
“And one more thing” Jackie Chan adventures
Everytime i paused my brain stop thinking too😂
The first and second are good tips, I don't like the 3rd one. People don't care and would simply ignore it if they're not interested.
Why would they ask if they weren't interested?
Alternate start: "My philosophy is basically this, and this is something I live by:"
I usually say "let me tell you something, let me tell you something"
How can I double-like this?😇
Interesting
Needed this so bad. Thanks
ONE WORD FOR YOU "MASTER"😊
Helpful
I did take pause during Gd and then before I say anything imp..my time gets stop.😅 It does not work always.
Better be a timed pause because this doesn’t fly in interviews!
People: what’s your name?
Brain:🤯
Me: the one thing is…
They may think I might have a tongue tied
The guru
what if when I pause. my brain actually stopped thinking. thought empty. then i even forgot what the question or what i was talking about... i always have this problem.
I ask the Holy spirit to help me articulate myself
Whenever I paused, my brain is just empty and cannot convey the message and after the other start to talk then i remember the topic that were discussed 😂
It’s interesting how we can trick our brain! But wait, we use our brain to play tricks on our brain? I’m outttt!!!!
I have this problem where i sound really articulate when i speak to myself or rehearse something with no one around, but when there's an actual audience listening i can feel myself sound like articulate, is there a way to fix that?
Hey if you see this my problem is I'm only around one person who if I pause it's really mad when I start talking again because he has already started talking😂😂😂😂 but for real help for that would be great tysm
🙏🙏🙏🙏❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
if i get asked this my brain goes empty
Oh my god, and I go like " the thing is that" and boom...
Have you an frensh equivalent for "the one things is..." ?
Pausing is good. But other people take over the conversation when I pause i fear
The problem is that when I slow down to articulate my thoughts, I lose my train of thought and forget what I was going to say in the first place. So it ends up in a long, awkward silence. ...any advice on how to fix that? :c
Slowing down your rate of speaking will help you not fall victim to speaking at too fast a rate? Truly, Li Bai could not have articulated a more circuitous way of speaking...
You can practice your articulation by shadowing UA-camrs with the tool I built and playing it back
How can someone with ADHD slow down the thoughts? Cuz I think super fast and my mouth says the world extremely slow, so I'm always in the middle of something and just forget what I was saying because my brain just thought everything and finished the talk while I'm still saying the first phase.
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The one thing
you're a nice teacher but saying the third one is good one , made me think. This doesn't really works out. Those who want some piece of knowledge they will just take a stop and listen otherwise they will pass anyway.
I second this
The one thing is
How do I stop saying "um" all the time?
Imagine you were out till late at night and your father caught you coming late . He ask for anwer,you be like : the one thing is..
And your father be like🩴🩴
I already pause but I think people lose interest in what I am saying bc I take too long 😅
But what is the one thing?
🙏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌💪