Why parents even entertain this? If a teenager approaches me and says he wants a beer I don’t reply, lets see what happens after you have one glass, lets try it! I say NO!!!! Maybe because parents entertain and take seriously this delusion it makes teenagers confused even more.
I was such a tomboy in my teen years that I totally could have been brainwashed into thinking I could be a boy. I used to wear my Jean jacket to hide my changing body and I’m sure I could have been manipulated into thinking what I needed was a breast binder. This is terrifying.
I was the same. I am now 66 and am still a tomboy. But I am 100 percent female. Why is it that females that don't like make-up and girly clothes are said to be in the wrong body? What happened to feminism?
You are absolutely right, Mom!! School is SUPPOSED to work WITH the parents. This is part of their agenda. I pray to God that He exposes all the LIES & groomers & pedophiles in all schools!! School is supposed to be innocent & fun, while learning the basics NOT anything to do with sex. But they know if they can get kids young...
These stories must keep being told. Why do they ignore data like this--where a child they’ve been affirming at school is then trying to hide at home. Imagine the “over affirming” adults at school and fearing disappointmenting them if you don’t really like where it’s going? Some people are so afraid of not affirming that they are actually pushing kids into it-not because they want to be trans or whatever else-but the kids just want to be “seen” and “accepted”. If that means then “playing” the trans role, they’ll do whatever it takes. Heartbreaking.
The parents didn't set any boundaries for this girl until something came along that they decided was too far outside the boundaries they never set? Young adults can explore when they have some reasonable semblance of maturity and understanding of consequences. Kids left to free range sexually are like having them set sail on a boat without a map or compass with no one behind the wheel and expecting them to arrive at a safe destination. Exerting parental authority and setting some reasonable standards and rules is for the well being of the child.
Explore your sexuality? Yeah right! All I hear is "bad parenting" Oh well, you can't give what you don't have ..... By the way, lets stop being fools to our delusions, all the craziness emmit from homosexuality
Parents need to take children out of public schools until they can change the laws and counseling practices. Parents need to guard against toxic peer influences. I can't even imagine people going through life without a secure Christian identity and being influenced by the latest fad.
You don't let small children "just explore" They require consistent rules and boundaries. Allowing your children to be influenced by social media without parental awareness is the root of this issue
What’s terrifying is that this mom allowed her daughter to continue to attend this school and be around those friends. Guarantee she gave her child a smartphone too, which is a gateway drug to all this stuff. Stop giving kid’s smartphones!!
@@puppyloopsy check out Gabb phone! Looks like a smart phone but doesn’t allow internet access- kids are safe from the internet, parents can still get ahold of their child, and it looks like a smartphone so they don’t feel left out or embarrassed. 🙂
Easy for me to say (I don't have kids) but I would try and pull her out of school. Homeschool her in my free time. Most of what they learn in school is just bogus anyway. The school system was designed to make obedient factory workers.
This is where things go off the rails. At a time when kids are struggling to fit in and discover who they are, they’ve got an institution telling them who to be and feeding their confusion. I would home school this girl. I see the demise of public schools due to this stance. Prayers for this family. 🙏💛
Idk why she's holding out so hard for her daughter to "explore" and opt out of this by herself. When someone is sucked into a cult or develops a disorder through social contagion, such as cutting, anorexia, even depression (I went through this last one myself), they don't just snap out of it one day... not before substantial harm has been done. My normal problems were pathologized into "depression", and it took over a decade to disentangle myself from that. In my case, no surgery, hormones, or identity destabilization was necessary. Her daughter's path is SIGNIFICANTLY darker.
I agree. Kids are trying to figure out who they are and about their bodies when they get to the age of puberty or even a bit before that. The thing is, parents are supposed to be the guideposts for children to help them understand who they are and there are certain concrete facts about life, such as male and female. Most kids go through puberty (yes, it's a mess) and their hormones even out and they adjust well to whatever sex they are.
The issue that I'm noticing, is that parents aren't involved enough with their kids. This Mom, she shouldn't just let her daughter figure things out on her own. She needs to help her. Leaving your kids alone to make their own decisions concerning their life, isn't the best way to go about helping them.
We’ve become too indulgent as a society. It’s parents afraid to lay down the law and let their children be ‘equals’ in the marriage. The problem starts long before school and politicians are involved.
Not true. There is an entire transgender empire introducing gender ideology to school children under the guise of anti-bullying programs that wants to cause this confusion.
This is very very dark and scary. This has gone so far that parents need to be on the OFFENSIVE! Stop being polite and nice. Take 100% charge of this situation until they back down.
The school is overstepping their authority and excluding the parents. The same with the therapist in Alaska. This should not be treated as a fad. I hope this family is able to work through this.
Actually, this is a FAD! Unfortunately, unlike growing out your hair after shaving your head the body parts they are lopping off don't grow back. We already see the wrongness in this so many times.
When my teen was having a hard time at school she asked me if she could talk to the school therapist. She said the first thing this therapist asked her was "how do you identify" then the second question was "Do you find yourself comparing your family to happy families". A) I don't like the framing of that question B) the second question... chill out how do you know its the family to blame? That we are not a "happy" family. Who the f is that therapist to put ideas like that in her head or make her compare herself or family to others. Planting seeds is what they are doing... That's it though in therapy a lot of it is pass the buck and plant seeds of doubt, not take accountability. Teens are out of control and can disown their parents these days for simply not letting them do what they want, or using a pronoun they want.
"Dabbling with her sexuality and it was fun. Our response was you can explore and experience"-the Mom That's your problem right there. Your liberal mentality is what led your child down the destructive road. You sit there allowing your kid all kind of nonsense, but you blame everyone else for this mess. My kid can be encouraged to do x,y, and z by adults and friends, but she knows it's wrong because we taught her morals and values at a young age. We weren't stupid to let her "Do what thou wilt" like satanists do to their kids, floundering in ignorance and debauchery.
Kids do what they want. If your child wanted to dabble with sexuality they would just do it without you knowing if you showed any discernment. We need the old standards of practice for trans people. Where they have to have years of extensive counseling and therapy, where a strict criteria needs to be met and above the age of 18 before any medical intervention can be taken. It’s like claiming we should preach abstinence to stop teens from having sex. Never did work in the past and does not work now.
Not always true. My parents were very lenient with letting me get to know myself. I visited different churches, different religions and youth groups. All sorts of different clothing and hair styles. Diverse friends. That freedom was important forming a solid self. My parents also stepped in with a firm boundary that I still had to adhere to the family faith and church activities while exploring other things. I still practice my family of origin faith. My parents do not. That faith has been essential to a healthy life for me. Both/and. Exploring within generous, but firm boundaries.
The problem is transgender activists who have introduced gender ideology to school children under the guise of anti-bullying programs. I highly recommend the book Irreversible Damage by Abigail Shrier that outlines what parents are up against without even knowing it.
Gender identity issues are becoming a norm. It saddens me that so many people appear unhappy with their birth identity. We need to teach kids to really respect and honor themselves as well as others. Teen years are confusing enough - we do not need outside forces reinforcing what may be a kid's temporary decision or feelings. Instead, healthy boundaries, love them, and be open to the possibility of a change in gender identity is what these kids need. POSSIBlLLITY is not a definite. So, schools, social workers, counselors, law enforcement should step back. And not have a say in this over parents. If, the child decides later to make a change that is when society can be of help .
Lord God Almighty please help the children and youth Bring Your righteous Justice Slay the wicked who pervert your truth I believe You are coming very soon
Agree. The mother just acts so helpless. The daughter herself had to tell the mother she didn't want to go to school anymore because the mother didn't have the backbone to realize it and remove her. 😢
These parents are so ridiculous. I’m sorry. My dad was a single father of 3 girls who all were in public school. He was not perfect, but we KNEW he loved us and had our best interest at heart. He would straight up tell us regularly, if you mess around with boys, I will disown you. If you get pregnant, I will disown you. IF I EVER SEE A BOY IN MY HOUSE I WILL KILL YOU! That may seem harsh in today’s delusional society, but we LISTENED! He did NOT let us “explore our sexuality” as minor CHILDREN. That is ludicrous! He loved us, he instilled the fear of God in us and we are all happy and grown and/or married with children! I thank God for my dad! Mothers who over-coddle and baby/spoil their children (and give them SMART PHONES) should be put in jail, it’s nothing short of child abuse! They are raising giant pansies with absolutely no back bone and wonder how they turn out this way.
Your dad didn't have to contend with the transgender empire that has taken over schools - public and private. Activists have refashioned outdated stereotypes into a gender ideology that is pushed on young children by teachers through "anti-bullying" programs. I highly recommend the book Irreversible Damage by Abigail Shrier. Things are much worse than you can imagine. And today your dad would lose custody or at least control of you or your sisters if any one of you declared yourselves transgender and he refused to support.
I find this style of parenting horrifying! Telling a CHILD to "explore their sexuality"? Telling your CHILD who "feels more like a boy" to "explore their sexual identity". How about if your child is angry should she "explore her anger" by shooting people? No wonder this country is screwed.
Parents are giving into this cultural perversion. Just affirm their sex and don’t act like it’s something you can just change : you owe that to kids to not confuse them
A school institution is there to conduct propaganda on your children, not to cooperate with parents or to teach a child something useful for life.I thought everyone knew that by now.
That is terrifying. May God bless everyone here. The LORD JESUS CHRIST❤❤❤ is the only hope for humankind. Please everyone repent of your sins and put all your trust in JESUS and Him alone if you haven´t already done so. May God bless everyone reading this comment!
You are right! The people “taking” over these issues don’t have kids, don’t know our kids, but they want and groom our kids and it’s wrong! Why they don’t mess with an adult? Because a depress adult, going through mental issues might be stronger to believe that it’s “a gender confusion” the problem of their issues! Thank you for speaking out!
Why do all of these videos have so little views? If twitter was guilty of shadow banning people, what is UA-cam doing? Is this entirely an algorithm or is there more to it?
Sounds like the kid never felt comfortable with her mom enough to tell her. After hearing the mom talk, I can tell you the kid will likely cut off all contact with the mom once they turn 18.
I agree... mom is too flakey. She's the type of mom who claims to love her daughter unconditionally, but actually feels intense anxiety about no longer being needed as much as when her daughter was an infant. She's terrified of her daughter leaving her. This results in a household that has no real boundaries when it comes to issues that are in the popular narrative. So mom probably wouldn't allow the kid to exclusively eat sugar... yet because homosexuality and gender are hot issues, shes turned off her brain and blindly follows whatever someone else says is right. This could have been avoided by telling her daughter NO, you are too young to understand sexuality. You don't don't know the difference between friends and boy/girlfriends. Wait a few years.
Interesting video and perspective. What I found missing was the child's perspective - independently of what she is telling her parents. What has SHE shared with the school about what she wants to be called or treated? It's definitely difficult for a child if they feel pressured - by school, friends or PARENTS - to be a certain way. And transgender is a thing - for some people - but not all. Sounds like caring parents and school all need to get on the same page. I don't see the government is bad in this scenario - just a bunch of folks trying to figure out how to support a child.
"4 of the 8 children on the block claimed to be trans" Of course they do, children are monkey see, monkey do. Kids don't know who they are or what they want. They're still growing and developing, hence, why they still need parents to train them up in the way they should go. Unfortunately half the parents these days don't know which way they should go either. 😢
Proof it's all about stereotypes of femininity and masculinity. We've regressed. Horrific.
So much for being unique.
so much for women's rights.
Why parents even entertain this? If a teenager approaches me and says he wants a beer I don’t reply, lets see what happens after you have one glass, lets try it! I say NO!!!! Maybe because parents entertain and take seriously this delusion it makes teenagers confused even more.
I was such a tomboy in my teen years that I totally could have been brainwashed into thinking I could be a boy. I used to wear my Jean jacket to hide my changing body and I’m sure I could have been manipulated into thinking what I needed was a breast binder.
This is terrifying.
I was the same. I am now 66 and am still a tomboy. But I am 100 percent female. Why is it that females that don't like make-up and girly clothes are said to be in the wrong body? What happened to feminism?
It’s a scary world where people affirm feelings but not reality.
You are absolutely right, Mom!! School is SUPPOSED to work WITH the parents. This is part of their agenda. I pray to God that He exposes all the LIES & groomers & pedophiles in all schools!! School is supposed to be innocent & fun, while learning the basics NOT anything to do with sex. But they know if they can get kids young...
These stories must keep being told. Why do they ignore data like this--where a child they’ve been affirming at school is then trying to hide at home. Imagine the “over affirming” adults at school and fearing disappointmenting them if you don’t really like where it’s going? Some people are so afraid of not affirming that they are actually pushing kids into it-not because they want to be trans or whatever else-but the kids just want to be “seen” and “accepted”. If that means then “playing” the trans role, they’ll do whatever it takes.
Heartbreaking.
The parents didn't set any boundaries for this girl until something came along that they decided was too far outside the boundaries they never set? Young adults can explore when they have some reasonable semblance of maturity and understanding of consequences. Kids left to free range sexually are like having them set sail on a boat without a map or compass with no one behind the wheel and expecting them to arrive at a safe destination. Exerting parental authority and setting some reasonable standards and rules is for the well being of the child.
The same things are happening to kids whose parents resisted at the outset.
This destruction of children because of politics has got to stop. 😢
Why go back to the therapists? ......
Explore your sexuality? Yeah right!
All I hear is "bad parenting"
Oh well, you can't give what you don't have .....
By the way, lets stop being fools to our delusions, all the craziness emmit from homosexuality
Exactly! You don’t make moral compromises as a parent! WE NEED GOD in the USA
Parents need to take children out of public schools until they can change the laws and counseling practices. Parents need to guard against toxic peer influences. I can't even imagine people going through life without a secure Christian identity and being influenced by the latest fad.
Mad
You don't let small children "just explore" They require consistent rules and boundaries. Allowing your children to be influenced by social media without parental awareness is the root of this issue
What’s terrifying is that this mom allowed her daughter to continue to attend this school and be around those friends. Guarantee she gave her child a smartphone too, which is a gateway drug to all this stuff. Stop giving kid’s smartphones!!
@@puppyloopsy check out Gabb phone! Looks like a smart phone but doesn’t allow internet access- kids are safe from the internet, parents can still get ahold of their child, and it looks like a smartphone so they don’t feel left out or embarrassed. 🙂
Yep. Mom is at fault too.
There are land lines. You can still set those up. Us an adults phone. Gas station phone. Any buildings phone.
@@puppyloopsy The same ways we all did as kids before smart phones existed...
Yes! And then when they DO start identifying step 1 is TAKE IT AWAY! Then pull them out of schools because this is a social contagion.
Easy for me to say (I don't have kids) but I would try and pull her out of school. Homeschool her in my free time. Most of what they learn in school is just bogus anyway. The school system was designed to make obedient factory workers.
This is where things go off the rails. At a time when kids are struggling to fit in and discover who they are, they’ve got an institution telling them who to be and feeding their confusion. I would home school this girl. I see the demise of public schools due to this stance. Prayers for this family. 🙏💛
Amen! Praying for this family and all the families affected by this type of situation. 🙏
Idk why she's holding out so hard for her daughter to "explore" and opt out of this by herself. When someone is sucked into a cult or develops a disorder through social contagion, such as cutting, anorexia, even depression (I went through this last one myself), they don't just snap out of it one day... not before substantial harm has been done. My normal problems were pathologized into "depression", and it took over a decade to disentangle myself from that.
In my case, no surgery, hormones, or identity destabilization was necessary. Her daughter's path is SIGNIFICANTLY darker.
I agree. Kids are trying to figure out who they are and about their bodies when they get to the age of puberty or even a bit before that. The thing is, parents are supposed to be the guideposts for children to help them understand who they are and there are certain concrete facts about life, such as male and female. Most kids go through puberty (yes, it's a mess) and their hormones even out and they adjust well to whatever sex they are.
The issue that I'm noticing, is that parents aren't involved enough with their kids. This Mom, she shouldn't just let her daughter figure things out on her own. She needs to help her. Leaving your kids alone to make their own decisions concerning their life, isn't the best way to go about helping them.
If a teacher said that to me, I would’ve never sent my child back
Stay out of public schools!
We’ve become too indulgent as a society. It’s parents afraid to lay down the law and let their children be ‘equals’ in the marriage. The problem starts long before school and politicians are involved.
That was her first mistake - telling her daughter she should explore.
Not true. There is an entire transgender empire introducing gender ideology to school children under the guise of anti-bullying programs that wants to cause this confusion.
This is very very dark and scary. This has gone so far that parents need to be on the OFFENSIVE! Stop being polite and nice. Take 100% charge of this situation until they back down.
Yes. It's an epidemic! My niece is now on puberty blockers at 15.😢
This is terrifying
The school is overstepping their authority and excluding the parents. The same with the therapist in Alaska. This should not be treated as a fad. I hope this family is able to work through this.
Actually, this is a FAD! Unfortunately, unlike growing out your hair after shaving your head the body parts they are lopping off don't grow back. We already see the wrongness in this so many times.
We know things have gone crazy when the school overrules the parents. Weird.
Social contagion
When my teen was having a hard time at school she asked me if she could talk to the school therapist. She said the first thing this therapist asked her was "how do you identify" then the second question was "Do you find yourself comparing your family to happy families". A) I don't like the framing of that question B) the second question... chill out how do you know its the family to blame? That we are not a "happy" family. Who the f is that therapist to put ideas like that in her head or make her compare herself or family to others. Planting seeds is what they are doing...
That's it though in therapy a lot of it is pass the buck and plant seeds of doubt, not take accountability. Teens are out of control and can disown their parents these days for simply not letting them do what they want, or using a pronoun they want.
"Dabbling with her sexuality and it was fun. Our response was you can explore and experience"-the Mom
That's your problem right there. Your liberal mentality is what led your child down the destructive road. You sit there allowing your kid all kind of nonsense, but you blame everyone else for this mess. My kid can be encouraged to do x,y, and z by adults and friends, but she knows it's wrong because we taught her morals and values at a young age. We weren't stupid to let her "Do what thou wilt" like satanists do to their kids, floundering in ignorance and debauchery.
Kids do what they want. If your child wanted to dabble with sexuality they would just do it without you knowing if you showed any discernment. We need the old standards of practice for trans people. Where they have to have years of extensive counseling and therapy, where a strict criteria needs to be met and above the age of 18 before any medical intervention can be taken. It’s like claiming we should preach abstinence to stop teens from having sex. Never did work in the past and does not work now.
Not always true. My parents were very lenient with letting me get to know myself. I visited different churches, different religions and youth groups. All sorts of different clothing and hair styles. Diverse friends.
That freedom was important forming a solid self.
My parents also stepped in with a firm boundary that I still had to adhere to the family faith and church activities while exploring other things.
I still practice my family of origin faith. My parents do not. That faith has been essential to a healthy life for me. Both/and. Exploring within generous, but firm boundaries.
The problem is transgender activists who have introduced gender ideology to school children under the guise of anti-bullying programs. I highly recommend the book Irreversible Damage by Abigail Shrier that outlines what parents are up against without even knowing it.
Smh....to live in the USA as parents with children 😢🙏🏾
Gender identity issues are becoming a norm. It saddens me that so many people appear unhappy with their birth identity. We need to teach kids to really respect and honor themselves as well as others.
Teen years are confusing enough - we do not need outside forces
reinforcing what may be a kid's temporary decision or feelings. Instead, healthy boundaries, love them, and be open to the possibility of a change in gender identity is what these kids need. POSSIBlLLITY is not a definite. So, schools, social workers, counselors, law enforcement should step back. And not have a say in this over parents.
If, the child decides later to make a change that is when society can be of help .
Social contagion.
Lord God Almighty please help the children and youth
Bring Your righteous Justice
Slay the wicked who pervert your truth
I believe You are coming very soon
Amen to that.
Amen!
Why in the WORLD is your daughter not getting pulled out of that school and HOMESCHOOLED!? unbelievable.
Agree. The mother just acts so helpless. The daughter herself had to tell the mother she didn't want to go to school anymore because the mother didn't have the backbone to realize it and remove her. 😢
This is disgusting and they say they are not grooming. That they are not trying to corrupt. I am so sad and disgusted by this world.
These parents are so ridiculous. I’m sorry. My dad was a single father of 3 girls who all were in public school. He was not perfect, but we KNEW he loved us and had our best interest at heart. He would straight up tell us regularly, if you mess around with boys, I will disown you. If you get pregnant, I will disown you. IF I EVER SEE A BOY IN MY HOUSE I WILL KILL YOU! That may seem harsh in today’s delusional society, but we LISTENED! He did NOT let us “explore our sexuality” as minor CHILDREN. That is ludicrous! He loved us, he instilled the fear of God in us and we are all happy and grown and/or married with children! I thank God for my dad! Mothers who over-coddle and baby/spoil their children (and give them SMART PHONES) should be put in jail, it’s nothing short of child abuse! They are raising giant pansies with absolutely no back bone and wonder how they turn out this way.
Your dad didn't have to contend with the transgender empire that has taken over schools - public and private. Activists have refashioned outdated stereotypes into a gender ideology that is pushed on young children by teachers through "anti-bullying" programs. I highly recommend the book Irreversible Damage by Abigail Shrier. Things are much worse than you can imagine. And today your dad would lose custody or at least control of you or your sisters if any one of you declared yourselves transgender and he refused to support.
Homeschool
I find this style of parenting horrifying! Telling a CHILD to "explore their sexuality"? Telling your CHILD who "feels more like a boy" to "explore their sexual identity". How about if your child is angry should she "explore her anger" by shooting people? No wonder this country is screwed.
That is so stereotypical to decide a person's gender preference by watching what they like to do.
There’s obviously something in the water.
these individual's pushing this on Children ought to be charged with child abuce, causing harm loss and injury which is a crime!
Good grief, hug your children and tell them being themselves is what makes them unique. Stop this crap infesting our youth
Parents are giving into this cultural perversion. Just affirm their sex and don’t act like it’s something you can just change : you owe that to kids to not confuse them
A school institution is there to conduct propaganda on your children,
not to cooperate with parents or to teach a child something useful for life.I thought everyone knew that by now.
Doctors HAVE FAILED
Homeschool. If you can’t afford it, join a homeschool co-op and each take turns being the person that hosts that day of the week.
That is terrifying. May God bless everyone here. The LORD JESUS CHRIST❤❤❤ is the only hope for humankind. Please everyone repent of your sins and put all your trust in JESUS and Him alone if you haven´t already done so.
May God bless everyone reading this comment!
You are right! The people “taking” over these issues don’t have kids, don’t know our kids, but they want and groom our kids and it’s wrong! Why they don’t mess with an adult? Because a depress adult, going through mental issues might be stronger to believe that it’s “a gender confusion” the problem of their issues! Thank you for speaking out!
Oh, my god school try to educate your children,i do no have children,but nepwes and nieces,evil is in usa
We need to take our children life in our hands … School and don’t have failed dangerously! God bless
TRENDS.
Why do all of these videos have so little views? If twitter was guilty of shadow banning people, what is UA-cam doing? Is this entirely an algorithm or is there more to it?
The America we live in these days.
Jesus will set your daughter free and your family. Call unto His name.
Be strong
thank you for making this
Sounds like the kid never felt comfortable with her mom enough to tell her. After hearing the mom talk, I can tell you the kid will likely cut off all contact with the mom once they turn 18.
You’re unbelievably pretentious to think you can see inside a family and know what’s wrong. Egotistical much ??
I agree... mom is too flakey. She's the type of mom who claims to love her daughter unconditionally, but actually feels intense anxiety about no longer being needed as much as when her daughter was an infant. She's terrified of her daughter leaving her.
This results in a household that has no real boundaries when it comes to issues that are in the popular narrative. So mom probably wouldn't allow the kid to exclusively eat sugar... yet because homosexuality and gender are hot issues, shes turned off her brain and blindly follows whatever someone else says is right.
This could have been avoided by telling her daughter NO, you are too young to understand sexuality. You don't don't know the difference between friends and boy/girlfriends. Wait a few years.
Our school is the same. I’ll be homeschooling my daughter next year.
That is kind of harsh, since you don't really know her. At least she became involved.
Well that's on her daughter too. Your born a girl you are a girl born a boy your a boy. If her daughter was mental before that's evil living in her.
Interesting video and perspective. What I found missing was the child's perspective - independently of what she is telling her parents. What has SHE shared with the school about what she wants to be called or treated? It's definitely difficult for a child if they feel pressured - by school, friends or PARENTS - to be a certain way. And transgender is a thing - for some people - but not all. Sounds like caring parents and school all need to get on the same page. I don't see the government is bad in this scenario - just a bunch of folks trying to figure out how to support a child.
I think she is a child & not old enough to experience being a woman, I see many things wrong with that school, not a sage place
"4 of the 8 children on the block claimed to be trans"
Of course they do, children are monkey see, monkey do. Kids don't know who they are or what they want. They're still growing and developing, hence, why they still need parents to train them up in the way they should go. Unfortunately half the parents these days don't know which way they should go either. 😢