Gabor Maté M.D - The Biology of Loss and Recovery
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- Опубліковано 13 тра 2016
- Stress Resilience Conference
In this presentation Dr. Gabor Maté discusses the impact of early childhood stress on the individual and societal levels, he also explores how to foster resilience. Q&A follows presentation.
Gabor Maté M.D is a physician and best-selling author whose books have been published in twenty languages internationally. His interests include child development, the mind-body unity in health and illness, and the treatment of addictions. Gabor has worked in palliative care and as a family physician, and for fourteen years practiced addiction medicine in Vancouver's Downtown Eastside.
As a speaker he regularly addresses professional and lay audiences throughout North America. Dr. Mate is the co-founder of Compassion for Addiction and on the advisory board of Drugs over Dinner. He is the recipient of a number of awards, including a Simon Fraser University Outstanding Alumnus Award and an honorary degree from the University of Northern British Columbia. His most recent book, In The Realm of Hungry Ghosts: Close Encounters With Addiction, won the Hubert Evans Prize for literary nonfiction. He is Adjunct Professor in the Faculty of Criminology, Simon Fraser University. drgabormate.com/
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Dr. Gabor Mate deserves a Nobel Prize. Period.
The sound of Gabor Mate’s voice is healing and soothing.
Soooo true. I’m ADDICTED to it.
Is that bad? I don’t think so.
You have an addiction😅...no, it's not bad!
Gabor should be head of the international board of mental health, advising the planet. Legend.
now you are talking
Too true. He is the master of all mental diseases.
@@TomTom-df9ph I too come from the world he did, WW2, I've been in healing mode ever since , i'Ve been in healing mode ever since, no matter what i went through, because i couldn't go on until i figured it out
music has been the therapist . . to without a word, melt the PSTD from our being, with wondress results
@@HamOnCan Beautiful! What music have you found to be the most healing?
@@ilovejesus7000 music that touches our heart, music that lifts our spirits, some one's voice, songs that give us the goosebumps. . . or Passes the Canada Goose Bump Peace Keepers Test, suck up into Funkle Fest, now it all so coming together, and so i will share it with you here.
*"As hard as it is to fathom, even the parents who abuse their kids, love their kids; they just don't know how else to love them, because they're acting out their own childhood programming."*
That is heavy, truth often is.
Yes, and sometimes the adult children of these abusers end up killing themselves directly or indirectly (via drugs and/or alcohol).. That’s what happened to a friend of mine. She died not even two months ago of liver failure due to alcohol abuse.
I miss her so much
@@suesjoy Sorry about your friend. It is very hard to lose someone that we love.
This is why it's extremely important to get therapy and heal from your trauma, especially so if you decide to have kids. Break the cycle. I'm glad that it seems like way more people are aware of their childhood traumas these days and more people are choosing not to have children or to have them later in life when they're less stressed/ more able to deal with being a parent. The issue is that there are some people who don't recognise their trauma and perpetuate the cycle of abuse.
I'm sad to say it but no, my experience is that not all parents love their children.
When I was a child I would sit on my mother's lap. I asked her if I would get to big to sit on her lap, no she said. I still remember that.
I'm sorry ey
You know a lot would take what you are saying very light but this is very deep. I am touched, that made you feel unsafe ever since that time. When I have kids I will make sure I make them. Thank you ❤️
My daughter committed suicide.
I wish i had paid more attention to how sensitive she really was. This was an enlightening talk. For me, too late, but for many others, a Chance.......
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Sending so much love 🤍🌟🤍
Thank you for your vulnerability, it can’t be easy to say. Losing a child, my heart beats with yours.
Strength and love be with you dear lady.
😥💔
That is horrific, just horrific! I am so sorry for your loss!
As a teacher, I always see a child who has an ‘oppositional defiant’ condition as a child who is acting out his buried anger and frustration to triggers they experience in the classroom or with other children. For them, this is a ‘safer’ place to let these emotions go. I try to make time to sit quietly with the child to process and validate their feelings and help them find positive solutions to any problem (usually being able to listen and talk with the other).
Listening to Gabor Maté, I now see that I became a teacher to be loved by children because I did not feel attached to my own parents, who loved me but didn’t know what I needed.
Thank you wish more like you.❤
Thank you for sharing
This brought tears to my eyes.What this man is saying is so simple and insighful..How did we all miss this.
We didn’t…. We knew this but the medical community silenced those of us who intuitively knew this. I KNEW this when I was a child.
I cry also....and I rewatch ,monthly.
@@evyandonch553 🌿🤍🌿
"The personality that we develop is not who we are. It's largely an adaptation."
@Beeblebrox One Carl Jung..(The Collective Unconsious Mind)....Freud (Ego States)..Adler (Family dynamics)...Maslow (Hierarchy of Needs)....Karl Abraham (Oject Relations).....Melani Klein..(Child Analysis)...Donald Winnicott / John Bowlby..(Ego Splitting)(Mother/Child Relationship - "attachment theory)..Eric Berne (Transactional Analysis)....
Then...........Eckhart Tolle....
Enjoy your reseach
@@lynkent677 Great list, though I think I'd just start with Eckhart Tolle. :)
@@lynkent677 Piaget (early childhood development)?
And they wonder why people get sick, when they never can be themselves. So much for years of research what every one should be able to feel within themselves.
@@lynkent677 Dr. Rick Malter (The Judge)
I think he's the only person capable of saving me from myself.
He too has suffered, as did his parents. This must be why his wisdom is so deep.
I feel exactly the same , his voice is so compassionate and he literally keeps me understanding my own addiction.
Dr. Mate has been called the "Saint of Vancouver"; his retirement from practicing medicine, while a huge loss for Vancouver, is truly a blessing to the rest of the world. Thank you Dr. Mate, and thank you Niroga Institute for sharing this with the world!
You are most welcome! We love Dr Mate!
the saint of Vancouver! waw I like the sound of that. these people need to be known recognized and remembered . he deserves the title.
His work is nothing but truly profound and short of genius!!!!
Only true narcissists would accept a title such as Saint...
The man does great work, has great insight, aswell as intelligence and is in dire need to undo cultural mistakes
Gabor Maté does not need a Jordan-Petersonesque quasi-religous following to get his point across the globe @@narimafanficfan
What a beautiful soul! We need more of Gabor Maté in this world.
Yes I love Gabor
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Totally!!! I love this man!!!!!!!
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Hypersensitivity is everywhere
How brave of Dr. Gabor Maté to share his own abandonment memories with us. It's his sublime emphatic connectivity to humanity, that motivates me to overcome my fear and strengthens my own healing journey.
Mozart aurias
Amen to that.
I can listen to him a thousand times and every time I learn something new 👌🏼
Amazing! ♥️
Me too ❤
This man made me so happy!!! Having a childhood with lots of anger and abuse. Diagnosed with AD(H)D and an immune disease. I finally have the feeling somebody understands me, Thank you dr. Mate and Niroga Institute!!!
You’re not alone, friend.
so what?!!! he understands u, so what?!! it doesn't resolve the love u never had
Boy so helpful and affirming.🙄😑
@@shahilagh the rest I have to do myself, that's how it works in life.
This has got to be one of the smartest doctors I've ever heard in my entire life honestly and I really do mean that❤💯
trauma like his will do it every time. . . mine are similar , same war, different circumstancess. . . no education to speak of but the intuitve take on life could like wise add to his body of knowledge
Grateful to have fallen upon this could one write to this doctor and if so where to
This is same person again it's important please reply thankyou it's for you.
@@annbyrne3186 check his website , i did from there
Yes...and not arrogant! Refreshing
Gabor and his peers should and will go down in history as a genius in this field in the same way Einstein & Newton went down in history for science & laws of the universe.
Just for laws of human emotions and the attachments to psychical illness.
The man is a godsend.
Coming from a wealthy Narcissitic family, I'm the last out of 6 kids alive and the baby at 54. I didn't have any idea till a Narc moved in with me 6 years ago I found out what a Narc was and w.t.f. happened in my family. My brother and sister chked out at 28 and 31. To have all this come out in 48 hours changed the world forever. I dissociated till 12 years old and still do when I need to. I am addicted to C. Meth and I have tried to stop but I want to feel and I'm numb without it. I know I'm killing my body but before Meth I haven't cried in 30 years I'm serious. Also have ADHD .and P.t.s.d. Thank you so much for your wisom. Is there anyone who might share your wisom ? I'm done with therapy they have no clue . Lov
You will do fine. You have the tools to reason this out. Transcend.
Don’t expect any change in US policy or practice anytime soon. Move to Canada where his clinic is. No progressive addiction therapy here, only pharmaceutical support.
You need to love yourself more. Prayers darling
Honestly LL, I would check out the work of Melanie Tonia Evans who uses Quantum tools to shift energy from the body. I have found it to be the most effective trauma therapy there is. Even after years of abuse and addiction, this works. In the case of severe substance abuse- you will most likely need additional support- but these tools are incredibly effective at getting you back in your body tending to your emotions. Look her up on the internet. xoxoxo
@@totostamopo thank you
This is the year of a Mr. Rogers in Hollywood. This is the year of Gabor Mate on youtube. Seems like I’m meeting several people lately who are listening to Dr. Mate. The more of him, The better. Could it be we are trading out the negative vanity of certain people for kind and wise others?
I hope so. 2020 has been a nightmare on so many levels of Social Disfunction..
I wish somebody had given Gabor a drink of water! what a wise man. thank you
Yep, but what do you expect from mindless organizers and a mindless audience. Way to go!
"how do you compensate for not being wanted, by being needed" I've always done this by being a people pleaser.. I was abused as a child, mentally physically and sexually.. I agree mindfulness (to use the term in general) has been the only thing that's helped really. I've been on 5 medications at various times since 13. I haven't taken anything in 3 years and the fog has finally lifted.
He should be on a bull horn all over the world. Share this with everyone who will listen
This man is a gift to humanity.
I truly believe God led me to this man. He is amazing!!! I’m going to watch every seminar he gives and read every book he has written and recommends!!! . So lucky to have found him at this time in my life!!! Eileen A. Me…….
I could sit at this man's feet and listen for hourz,pure genius snd beautiful spirit, Thank you
Yeah me too. He has a calming voice. And it’s the truth. He is a beautiful person. Very helpful. Unlike the doctors in the US especially. He is a humanitarian!! ❤️😁
He would help you up to sit on a chair too
His perspective is in itself healing on so many levels. He is a blessing.
Gabor Mate is the greatest.
He is a gift to us all!
I love this guy! I am fan, and he is the greatest rock star, lol, ever
Niroga Institute I felt as if you were talking directly to me, and understand my addiction problems on a whole new level. thank you
Agree but i always get the feeling I'm listening to Harry Dean Stanton
yes
I learned all that in dance and movement therapy school, which by the way is a great form of recovery because one can affect the brain by moving the body to new feelings. You, Gabor, als a physician, explain all that on a fairly deep level from the sight of a doctor. I thank you for your courage to step out of the common medicine pot and share your view and your story. That was a great talk! I feel stronger to teach now. So thank you very much. You are a blessing.
Dr. Gabor you will save human kind from human kind, being the first and only doctor or person who very much so does care for all man kind. Our leadership need to take note or just step aside! I love you for being the best person to know and describe why I am the way I was. Just in these couple of days of finding you on UA-cam I can honestly tell you that for the first time in all my addict years I don't feel the way I did couple of days ago. In just listening to you through the UA-cam I feel a sense of comfort and relief that I'm not to blame or be ashamed of myself because of my addiction. Forever you will have a special place in my heart and soul, thank you so very much Dr. Gabor much love, respect and gratitude sent your way.
Your the bestest estest you know this!
When he said the name of Eckhart I began to cry ... Because all of these people tell the problems I experienced but don't tell me what to do .. But Eckhart touched my heart by telling me what to do ...
I thank my lucky stars I found your work. I now see how the people I have gravitated towards for self help on this platform have been impacted by your work. Thank you for your selfless acts of teaching.
The whole point is not to be selfless.
Word do not describe this brilliance
We think so too.
yes
let's use several words instead.
Integrity!
Life changing information. I wish I knew this years ago...
Gabor Maté is my addiction recently! But where was his glass of water? I thought it was quite clear he needed a little lubrication, and he said in his talk that he had such a need to feel wanted, that he could never say no! So he kept on talking without interrupting his delivery to ask for one. Well that was three and a half years ago as I write this, and I know from his more recent videos that he's had a drink since then!🥴😑
@26:51. All you need to know! "The necessary condition[s] for optimal development, which is so rarely available in North America, are parents who are [1] emotionally available, [2] consistently available, [3] non-stressed, [4] non-depressed, and [5] mutually responsive or attuned to the child."
Having children was both my impetus and my excuse to figure out how to be a calm, happy person. It did take a little work. Thankfully, somehow I knew this was a critical part of being a responsible parent. Thank you for doing the work and spreading this critical message, Gabor Mate!
This mans mind is a beautiful universe itself & its hypnotizing to watch and listen, with how much dignity & humility he passes on his vision.
Love makes the world go round ...
Dr. Mate is beyond brilliant..these are so complex issues I have to re listen to absorb it all..that’s a good thing! thank you God for creating such a contributor..
FAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAANTASTIC INSIGHTS AND WORK!!!! DEEEEEP DEEEEEP GRATITUDE to you, Dr Gabor!!!!!!🙏🙏🙏From Belgium
I used to be often sick as a child...what an insight!
I came to this conclusion trying to understand my three adopted girls behavior from their early trauma. Society does not understand and this of lack of comprehension creates an abusive environment for those of us trying to heal from the original traumas and the grief from the losses. The common social responses are tragic in my opinion, I pray people begin to understand. Thank you so so much for your work. I think this is the single most important issue facing humanity today. God bless you 💦🙏🏼💦
thank you for all you said, especially at min 31 it resonates! and yes: it is not genetic!!! it IS multigenerational trauma. thank you for making this point!
It is awesome that what he proves biologically what "new agers" has talked about for 100 years and what hinduism has spoken about for 5000 years or so. We live in an age when science and religion meet each other without hostility.
The way this man substantiates astute and sensitive observations with first-hand experience of the biological consequences, makes him utterly compelling to listen to. I have to keep pausing the clips to take in what is being said in all its depth and enormity.
Gabor, you are a legend xxx
After going through a narcissistic experience, this elevates the awareness that almost everything revolves around dopomine & cortisol levels for both the aggressor and the target.
Stress. The root of it all.
environmental stress caused by disconnection from our environment (powerlessness)
Thank you for explaining the sensitivity I was born sensitive and also abused and that’s why I have trouble more so than less sensitive types people have judged me for how long it can take for me to heal it’s my sensitivity that makes me have trouble because I give too much and I’m very sensitive I see and feel things to the fullest so it affects my resilience and I’m interested in reputation or careers and I get judged I’m happiest with creativity and just being myself I love nature and do notice things most people ignore or don’t see
I love you, Gabor! Keep perpetuating that radical honest love and keep the spirit of R.D. Laing alive! You are the best we have now.
Yes The Internet- I have never forgotten how 'The Divided Self' by RD Laing impacted me. I have come to these exact conclusions based upon my own life experiences and dealing with the myopia of the mental health system that is so afraid to unite thinking and feeling with their treatment of individuals that it should be criminal. They push outmoded partial compartmentalized views of the Self, physiology, psychology, biology and society culrure etc...as the complete truth- when taken apart- are just incomplete snap shots at best.
Dr. Gabor is making some important claims and can back this up by his unique work and life experiences. His honesty and willingness to be self reflective is a gift to us all.
Thank you God for helping the world by giving this man what it takes to heal!
Gabor Mate, you are truly a gift from God. Thank you universe for this amazing man 👌👌👌👌
This is one of the channels that gave me the courage to start my UA-cam channel 10 months ago about self development. Now I have 1,969 subs and > 2k hours of watch time. I know it’s not comparable with others but I’m still proud I started because I’ve been learning so many lessons that I could haven’t learned without getting started in the 1st place.
This man is a genius!
Someone once said to, “ Value others as much as we value ourselves in relationships “ called Caring !
I suffer from clinical depression, GAD and ptsd. I told my primary care physician that I scored a 9 on the ACE and she didn't even know what it was. At age 32 I had stage 4 hypertension, then I had a premature ovarian failure and now suffer from osteoporosis. I kept telling her I was extremely stressed and she would not prescribe hormones because she said I was too young. The side effect from no hormones is osteoporosis. Thank you Dr. Mate for giving me insight! Your advice has helped tremendously with my healing process!
He is so amazing at what he does and he actually gave me I will purpose for a living I’m not I am not crazy for having all these emotions and resentments from childhood. He’s a miracle worker I wish there were more of them
Love listening to this man!
I also love how people refer to trump as a narcissist but won’t call Obama one although the amount of unconstitutional over reach by a president was far greater with Obama. He stated plainly if congress wouldn’t give him what he wanted he would do it anyway, and people cheered. HE would fundamentally transform the face of America, and people cheered. There will be those who love or hate this comment but I defy them to factually prove me wrong. I am a firm constitutionalist and judge all power by that supreme law of the land.
I've skipped AA and listening to gabor mate let's me hear the TRUTH which is more important than "sobriety".
John Jakle are you still sober? Curious
Are you sober? curious as well
The sharing of this video is kindly appreciated. Kind Regards to Gabor and supporting fellow healers from South Africa
Love how he mixes psychology medicine and Buddhism all together. Well done
I think indigenous approach as well.
Absolutely 🙏 Namaste Gabor matè is absolutely the most compassionate knowledgeable LEGEND for the whole world. I listen and learn from him daily to be a better person. I'm an addict at rehab and I am so so grateful to have been shown Gabor whenever I feel the pull to use (which is actually the thoughts, isnt it) I listen to 1 of his talks, I get so into it i forget the addict telling me to use. He's a blessing to me he is a blessing to ALL. Ive even sent a few of his talks to addicts i care about.... and they didn't even get peeved at me Thankgod. THANK YOU GABOR MATÈ
We do need more people like him he’s wonderful
Such a brilliant fellow with a beautiful mind and humility pouring out. If only the whole world could hear him and put his knowledge to use. May the Lord richly bless him!
Absolutely agree , Social media can be a platform. Amen 🙏
I am memorized by this man - I have learned so much from him - he has become my guru
I so want to work for him, to meet him
Dr. Mate is the most brilliant Dr I’ve seen. Grateful for his work and the fact that he is sharing his wisdom on the many videos and interviews.thank you 🙏❤️
I think he's the only person capable of saving me from myself.
I wish the organizer had prepared a bottle of water, or at least, took the hint and sent someone out to fetch at least a glass of water for Dr. Gabor. He was trying his best not to cough and to keep his voice halfway through the event. Poor one.
Did you notice what he was talking about when it happened? I would interpret it as a reaction to adressing a early big trauma. Coughing, loss of voice can be a sign of touching something painful.
Gabor Mate is a man who would ask for help, as in asking for water.
You are brilliant. I’m an alcoholic and I am working at understanding why. It is painful and shameful ..You have offered me some good understanding. Thank You . And no My MD doesn’t know shit about the connection Of the body and mind.
all addictions are sensitive people having to much pain in this unsensitive system where everyone is stressed and caring is difficult in stressfull conditions where people are struggling to be a rat in the ratrace
Hi @Domesticdiva10 Addiction, the alcohol, the drugs, gambling, eating, etc... is just a symptom of our dis-ease. If people stopped the stigma and had more compassion and love maybe we would have more insight on how to function and deal with our dis-eases more gracefully. God bless. Hope you're doing well, today!💜🙏🏼
"The more sensitive the child, the less has to happen for that child to be in pain."
Humans & musical instruments require frequent tuning. Gabor offers a new way to tune.
Makes me cry. So much I can relate to. So much poignant valuable insights. Such a humanitarian approach to health care. So important!
This happens with me too with all his videos. Maybe a good thing to release our negative emotions. The tears just pour out a few minutes into all his videos.
Dr Gabor Mate, Dr Patrick Carnes, Dr Drew Pinsky, modern day Prophets. God bless these gifted souls. Thanks for posting Niroga, the cost of abuse in the US in dollars alone according to the CDC is up to $585 Bn a year, higher than the cost of diabetes and stroke cases. 1% less than defense expenditure, this is an epidemic beyond comprehension, only a spiritual insight, personal experience or an explanation by the likes of Mate, can verbalize the issue and solution.
There are no such things as prophets.
@@carmenismyname he is right. Prophets. The role of a prophet is to speak truth, often to a people with ears stopped up and allergically reactive to truth. Prophets are inconvenient. So of course we have to say they do not exist.
I just discovered him today! I feel as though I am already more mentally sound, smarter and happier.
@wtnomad yes & yourself? Perhaps yr info can reform my oblivion, or explain what it triggered.
@wtnomad i dunno but as a philosophy & English teacher i can say your vocab/lexicon is, in one paragraph, more diverse than that of 99.99999% of Americans today, very refreshing. If you're a writer, send link to your stuff.
And YES, humans are doing a lot of people worship/sacrificial-cult stuff today, unaware it's a primeval instinct, thinking ourselves rational & evolved. Maybe uncertain times exaccerbate it. French guy named Rene Girard wrote much about that in his stuff on "mimetic desire" & human rivalry. Prez Trump very good at rousing that scapegoating fervor at rallies & via tweet, a powerful bonding mechanism Girard said, like when they'd toss maidens off a cliff or kill children or teens for spring rituals in ancient societies. Shirley Jackson's story "the Lottery" displays it, & Frank O'connor's "Guests of the Nation " Quite disturbing.
Gabor Maté is a name written in gold in the book of world history
he has solved the inner world of every child, every adult, and also by proxy, society. because it is also devastating though, to get a better following he needs a solution that has as much truth, hope, certainty, willingness behind it as his explanation of the cause.
one solution could be to work teaching medical doctors, psychologists, all parents, and teachers this truth about trauma. which they will be extremely offensive to hear because they will realize that it has damaged them too. socially, when you meet people, accept their chronic 'problems' as adaptations that changed their brains during the course of their lives. be very nice, knowing that at the source of this they feel unconscious pain. don't engage it though. try to only respond to the person's healthy self.
remove the stigma around mental health. people can then feel naturally invited to unravel 'what they think is wrong with them' and 'why' they act that way. with the hope that they can consciously reverse it. it will take a long time, a year or two of really focusing on personal growth, but they can.
Deep
I love Gabor, his voice is so relaxing and his slight accent I could listen to him forever and he has so much to say . He is so interesting also .
Makes allot of sense to me now..an adopted child from an instutiion left a different imprint than most biological children and their parents like my children..I am grateful that my intuition as a parent was attachment with them physical and emotional five minutes after they were born..thankfully modeled that intuition raising them..god shined on me..they are not perfect..but their “inner souls” are good and honored..strength courage to all. I spent 13 past months in self exploration spirituality and spirituality..WoW an amazing healing transformation..thank you for further enlightenment..
Legend !!!!!👍👍👍👏👏👏👏👏👏👏❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Thank you so much for this lecture. It opened my mind, and made me cry a lot. I realized how much certain life episodes shaped me as I am today.
Ditto
I know it's a trivial point but I love that he asked them to turn the projector off. Gabor mate has Adhd and I think that he would have found that distracting. This was a great example to me of how to just be assertive and ask for what you need, instead of being distracted and then feeling bad about it afterwards.
I am So Feeling Gratitude & Inspiration from Dr Gabor Reflections & Teachings 💚
I respect The Honestly
God bless dr. Mate, he is so penetrating and helpful
Gabor I could listen to you all day. 🙏🙏🙏
Mine also
I'm grateful dr mate spoke about Palestinians rights too🙏🏽
Dr Ganor Maté is brilliant and what he says is so obvious that I don’t understand how the world didn’t see it yet.
Thank you with all my heart , Dr. Gabor Mate’, you are the first man who expresses what I am feeling my whole live. 🙏❤️🩹
Getting to the root cause 🙏🏻
Thank you for these wonderful insights into what it is to be human.
I SAW A REALLY GOOD PSYCHOLOGIST BACK IN THE DAY, AND SHE WAS THE FIRST PERSON TO INTRODUCE ME TO THE CONCEPT AND INSIGHT INTO EARLY CHILDHOOD ABANDONMENT AND ABUSE. YES, ANGER….IS A VERY MISUNDERSTOOD…TABOO EMOTION IN OUR SOCIETY. ESP FOR WOMEN!!!!!! WE ARE EXPECTED TO BE PLEASANT….NICE…GOOD PEOPLE ALL THE TIME TO APPEASE OTHERS AROUND US. EXTEME ANGER EXPRESSES RAW TRUTHFUL FEELINGS OF LOSS…GRIEF…..TRAUMA…DISEMPOWERMENT…..DEPRIVATION!!!!! A BIG ONE!
I’m healing because of this man. My mom always hated me and i didn’t know shyest. I was molested by 3 of her brothers and she knew. She was always abusing me because she didn’t know what else to do because she went through the same thing. But when i became a mother i was doing everything i could not to be like her but my kids ended up being molested as well. I have struggled to this day to understand how to make sense of this but now i just have live and do what is best for my children. And the truth of the matter is that it still affected them. I still have love for my mom but she is still horrible to me. And it affects the way i raised my children. It tus so messed e
I just lost a friend- she was only 43 and died from liver failure to die her alcoholism. Her mother abused her physically as a child, and mentally as an adult. I met her in AA. She tried many times to get sober via many rehab stints. She just didn’t take to AA. She never got over her mother abusing her. She died on 12/29/19- not even two months ago. I tried so hard to help her. I knew she was in a bad way, but it is still a shock (I live in Taiwan,where I met her, but she moved back to the States a few years ago). When she moved back (near her mother), she just got worse and worse. I miss her so much. I can’t believe she’s fine. I’m so sorry to hear about your abuse and your children also being molested. How sad. Keep watching Gabor. Bless you and your children. 💕🙏💕
I just realize I am engaging in addicted behavior to Gabor Mate. I found his compassionate way of speaking so self soothing that I listened to all day with headphones on. Ok put that Gabor Mate Pipe down girl. You are a addict. 😂
Excellent!! I am buying all your books!
I have always believed that the world got much worse pertaining to behavior. Addictions, depression, anxiety.
I believe in the 60’s when women’s lib started to evolve and mothers began working etc
When strangers began babysitting and really not carrying a lot of problems have developed.
I am a woman but I have believed this for years.
Thank you for verifying what I thought for years
This is very eye-opening for me..I lost the affection and availabilty of my mother at age five. My mother had been recently diagnosed with MS.
I am now also diagnosed with the same illness. Stress, loss and abandonment are the key triggers in my life.
Wow, MS has usually no family history...must be environmental.
Thank you Gabor for putting so much of our emotions, thoughts and actions into words that simplify in such a way it is easy to understand, where your words bring clarity and peace to so many of us.
Very deep truth.
Inspiring way to consider how the level of parenting impacts our children°•♡
I am grateful to you for sharing this, Dr. Gabor Maté. I think he’s brilliant.
this man.... such a beautiful soul.
Such a powerful and profound talk! Thank you Dr Mate. I am looking at people and myself through new eyes now... Someone complained about a alcoholic staff member to me the other day... I listened without commenting. But now I would attempt to explain the reasoning behind why people behave like the way they do and not just be quiet. So much hurt out there.. We need a more holistic approach to health care. Very difficult in countries such as mine. Jhb, South Africa
👍💖Thank you so very much for sharing this wonderful understanding of the connections between emotional trauma and physical illness. I can attest to the fact of genetic predisposition of an illness compounded with repeated medical failure to address the severity of traumatic impact on top of the presenting illness. Gabor Mate you are a gift to this world.
THANK YOU SO MUCH DR. MATÉ🕊️
If I couldn’t love and respect Dr Mate any more, he had to talk about social activism and how he feels about the Palestinian genocide as a Jew whose family escaped persecution themselves. Mr Mate my respect for you has grown a thousand fold. You are honest, you are full of courage, you say things some of the most powerful men on earth wouldn’t have the courage to. I can tell you I was shaking in awe when you spoke those words. And there were so many moments during the talk that brought me to tears. Thankyou for bringing so much clarity to my life. I am grateful to the universe for having found you!
Thanks Sankatmochan for making me special Beautiful healthy long living with your love 💓🙏💓🙏
Absolutely fantastic description of the mechanics of health and disease, the adapted ego and what follows in terms of individual character formation and the implications for social behaviours and structures. War, what it is, the biology of loss......
At 59.44 he begins a description of the motivation for sociopolitical activism, it's an understanding I've come to in myself, but never heard articulated openly before. It behooves us all to pay attention to this. Be crystal clear about why we want to help others and to effect change in the world. He beautifully explains the difference between being driven by personal rage to address a perceived social wrong -which may be inappropriate- and a sense of outrage -which is a healthy manifestation of compassion, for the persecution of fellow creatures.