I was in a Toxic Relationship for Five Years. Here's What I Learned.
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- I was in a Toxic Relationship for Five Years. Here's What I Learned.
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The comment section of this video is the most positive thing I've ever seen. Hello 👋 to you beautiful Queens and handsome Kings, work on your dreams and goals and let love grow organically❤️ I'm happy you made me a part of your life😀🎉❤️
Thank you for making this video💟
Wait. How do I respond to this video If I'm the similar kind of guy as your ex-bf. I also do this to my gf (except abusive part) , I don't let her talk to anyone. How should I improve and What should I do now @Helly .....
Loved it ❤ much relatable. God bless you girl! Keep growing n keep loving yourself!
@@thechessnoob9667 I know you didn't ask for my help at all, so take this advice with a grain of salt. As a girl, I know I wouldn't like it if my boyfriend/husband/fiancé didn't let me talk to anyone. I would advise you to have faith in her and her other relationships, just as she would to you. If she doesn't stay true to you, if that's what you're afraid of by not letting her talk with anyone, then she isn't deserving of your attention. You need to love her regardless of any obstacles, and she needs to love you the same. You can't just keep hiding all the obstacles from her forever. Hope this helped! :)
@@crescenthaven8969 Thanks a lot for the advice, I really appreciate it. For me, the problem has always been my jealousy, I know it but I just can't help it. Although I know She isn't a cheater or anything of that sort, but the fact that she is being too frank and open or being friends with some other guy, hurts me a lot and more often than not, I get angry on her for this. Once I saw her laughing and joking and playing around with another guy, and I was really mad at her and I didn't talk to her for 2 days.. I just don't know how to control these feelings and be better at this :( :( :( I'd really appreciate if you could give your piece of advice on this issue as well as a girl :( :(
Bitter ending is better than endless bitterness.
@@Witcher29895 I agree with your comment.
Absolutely
Ok
It remind me of thinking suicide once!!
So true!
Ambitious women either need a highly supportive partner or a no partner at all.
Proud of you girl. ♥️
True
The same goes for guys too👍
Ok
Just thinking what reaction we will get if we swap the genders in your comment. Lol !
@Bilkees Javaid
And your point is ?
Every break-up in love is a wake-up in life.
Well said
@@JaiSitaRam10 you mean well copied?
@@reallybro1289 😂😂
True
So how many times you waked .,🥱
On a new year, I finally let go and blocked my toxic ex with whom I once have pictured the future. I am proud of myself to take this step. Power and strength to all! Happy New Year.
Kya toxic nature tha uska?
Proud of you 🎉
How are you doing now?
How you move on 😢?
Not only relationships, even friendships are bitter.
Both hurt different but leave endless wounds within us
@@shilpiroy4 lol your profile picture
@@ar4bhplays 😂
@@shilpiroy4 are u an Indian otaku.
@@ar4bhplays haha yeah, used to be
The worst mistake what we do is to think ..."the person will gonna change " .. let's tolerate it .. but it never happens ... 😊.
So true
Words bro!
Truth has been spoken. I think one chance is okay but over that....no.
💯
@@thehellyblog All the stories are not same...
Today’s breakup is better than tomorrow’s divorce
Soo true🤐🤐
Ur totally right
Normalize divorce
@@MoonLightt57 that’s not the point lmfao
@@highwithoutweed4361 ik just saying keeping in mind the society we live in
"Love is something that makes u better nd if it's making u feel suffocated nd trapped;it's not love"
I totally agree with it💜
Actually it's not a toxic relationship it's actually Stockholm syndrome which is most common mental disease in girls and women
@@prophetmohammed1491 bro it's so true 💓 and literally kuch nehi bolna he 😊
@@zoologyoptional3955 💗💗💗🌹😘
@@prophetmohammed1491 didi ne to toxic relationship bolke khudka priority lvl increase kora rehi hee....aur wo kabhi kisi ke sath khush nehi reh sakta🤣🤣Mera ek binomro onurudh he sob ladke log ko ki galti se unko biyah mot karwa Lena🤣
@@zoologyoptional3955 great work 🙈🙈🙈🙈🙈🙈🙈🙈🙈🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹
From the age of 20 to 28, which means till a month ago, I was in a toxic + abusive relationship with a person who was / and still is ready to kill me at any moment. A psychopath who took out everything from me. My academic life, my professional life, my money, my love for him which got destroyed by his cheating, beating, abusive words over and over again. I never talked about it anywhere. Suffering from anxiety & depression has its own lethal consequences. You are AFRAID to be alone. You are AFRAID to fail. You are AFRAID that you will not live without that person so you keep on continuing with that person, forgiving their every mistake and torture, thinking it will get BETTER.
It DOESN'T.
If it happens once, it will happen till the end of your life and then you die. THE END.
So RUN as fast as you can from that worthless bastard.
For whoever is going through the same situation -
YOU WILL LIVE. YOU HAVE TO LIVE. YOU ARE STRONG.
Don't let anyone take ADVANTAGE of your FEAR. Don't let anyone tell you that you are not capable. People are toxic. People need entertainment. They don't know about your heart, soul, struggles. Nothing. Stay strong and live your life.
Can I get ur whatsapp no.?
Same here sister
@@bhavaniadduri4749 if u can come out from it..pls come...blv me it'll become Ur excellent step ...live happy .
Happy that you got out of that..more power and love to you.
@@eshabhadauria8598 karega kya leke ?🙄
Relationships are not always fairytales, sometimes they are nightmares...
Every first love is a fairytale which would turn into a nightmare anyway.
@@adhumon55 right
@@tsinghrajput galat.
Relationships are not always nightmares, sometimes the are fairytales.
Relationships are fairytale only if you are extremely lucky.
The Biggest addiction in this World is "Human addiction"..
Its actually phone addiction
Actually 🙊
its actually not true
It's a girl addiction bhai
Ma***ubation
Being single is the key. Now some people will say that I'm wrong but accept it buddy it is far better than in relationships. 👍
Relationship is also good just the thing is your partner should be loyal towards you and if your partner loves and supports you then your life changes.
Being single is a gift. People tend to get possessive eventually and when it doesn't happen according to any party the relationship gets affected. Pehle kuch ban jao taaki ek stable mindset rahe and you would more likely to select a better partner.
@@dhruvpratapsingh3389 depends
@@aishwaryapathak2927 yes on many factors.
@@dhruvpratapsingh3389 yeah and everyone has their own perspective
Free Relationship advice here :: teenagers pls don’t get a relationship until you have a career. Maturity comes with a price you will obv won’t make any sensible decision at this age anyways .....
Umm thanks for the heart. Thats was a bit unexpected tbh
Great tip ,but no one will listen until unless ,they personally learnt this lesson by themselves...
@@_01_Neha you are right but hey we are always here for people who are seeking help. We can’t say all people are same.
Katne ke baad sab aise hi bolte h 😊
Relationship meh jo maje h wo toh le lete ho aur fir gyan chodte ho 😂
@@iitian8961 Now that's what i call IITian vibe 😂😂
Its easier to get rid of a toxic person when he is in the role of boyfriend. But its way too hard to get rid of a toxic person when they are one of your family and in blood relations..
😭😭😭why so on point girl ? I am kinda stuck in my mother's toxicity
@@ashwinipandey8498 😔 my whole family
@@riyaannthomas1065 I think you should start living apart from your family . I also live apart but in covid time I had no choice left . But for now , ignore everyone and just focus on things you love to do. And please do workout too. And I am saying all this because I literally do these things to make my soul happy.
Hey please all of you take care... It'll be alright
Yes
I just wish you find someone who hugs you at night and tells you that it's okay whenever you're scared thinking about those incidents🧡
I found them- but it's kind of an LDR now ahahahaha
You are sweet :)
@@thehellyblog Happy for you, that you have found one:)
Hahaha😃😃😃
... Me tooo in a LDR now.... Happy😌😌😌
This is bold confession. Appreciate it! Gives courage
“My daring it’s not love” much respect to you Helly!
God!! This reminded me , my toxic relation !! Same thing.
Girls suffer more, because man's ego is the most fragile thing and they can't handle a strong woman!
Yup😂
Exactly true
💯
Yeah
I am really in this phase right now.......What can I do??... I love him so much but I just want to take revenge.....but I love him.....what can I do??
Trust me Saheli, I realised very soon that I was in a Toxic Relationship and quit the relationship after being in it for one year. I thank God that I knew it soon. And it's been 7 months I am experiencing the best of LIFE....
GOD BLESS YOU SAHELI.
AND I PRAY FOR EVERYONE THAT THEY GET A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP- NOT A TOXIC ONE. 💖💖
Yes...true...
@@thehellyblogmujy bat karni h aap se dear m be bahut jyda डिप्रेशन में थी 😢
I could relate to every part of this video. I am glad there are girls like you who really know when to let go and finally chooses to focus on our goals. All the best and keep shining!
Actually it's not a toxic relationship it's actually Stockholm syndrome which is most common mental disease in girls and women
I have known you since we were in school together. You are a bundle of joy and you deserve the world.
Love you and I'm so happy for you.
Awww hey babe
Even i was in a toxic relationship since 2014 to 2020. And that just ended yesterday. And i am glad it did got over. May be it will take time to heal but i defintely will heal. 😇
Stay strong.. Need any friend talk to me.. i know it's really tuff time.
Are you heald now or not ?
Medidate and do things make you happy and have self love.
I have started meditation and doing yoga that has created some positive vibes within. I am much more happier than before. 😌
@@sanjanamarndi369 keep doing it will Take time...
I am.also suffering from depression but still trying to give motivation to others.
I am a boy and I'm new to this relationship thing .. sometimes I think that I'm toxic as well...I always tell her to share her feelings and he honest..I'm still trying to work on myself..I've shared this video to her and let her know about this...thank you so much for this video
I wish all the Kabir Singh fans would understand something from this
How? Why? Kabir singh went on the path of self harming, not women harming, if you think slap is the problem then trust me, you don't believe in equality, try to look at the slap subjectively
People fight. Lovers hit each other still come back together. It depends on person to person. Kabir singh was self harming n delusional. Moreover its fiction. No boy like kabir singh exists who is a surgeon nd behaves like an uncivilized man.
@@trilokyamohanchakra6351 Slapping anyone is a problem its a toxic movie no matter wat u say
@@dysplasiaanaplasia4128 Harming each other is nt luv bro
@@gowri8946 its not. I didnt say harm. I said hurt. People fight when they love each other. You cnt just deny that but the way both of them handle the fight is important.
I connect this character to kabir singh. But in the movie everybody liked him but in real life these kind of guys are really toxic. This is where our society lacks that they admires these characters in movies and make them their heros.
@Paritosh Jadhav just pray that u will never get into touch with the character like kabir singh in real life. Otherwise u would understand that how much toxic that character was. The relationship between kabir and preeti was not love but possession. Hope people like u would understand this soon.
@Paritosh Jadhav good for u.
@@Witcher29895 In the movie obviously boy possessed the girl. But in reality either boy or girl, anyone possess the other, that relationship cannot be love. It's not about boy or girl but that thinking that if a person loves me, I have all the Right over that person.
Kabir singh fought for the girl he did not force the girl he was single he kept on thinking about her... He truly cared about her..... He never forced as such
His name just popped into my mind when i heard this incident of Helly .
"Love is to be given and to be received, but no to be taken" He was extracting you for his happiness. Love is to be given and to nurture the person to experience his or her life in the fullest way.
Am i the only one who was never involve in a relationship and will never be in a relationship and still listening carefully just to make sure no one can hurt me.😆😆😆
Bro i am 23 still single 😂😂
Same bro😂😂😂
Same here😂🤣🤣
Aap mahfooz ho. Naam hi kaafi hai 😂🙏
Oh God me too🤣🤣🤣
I just broke up from a very toxic relationship. Some of the abuse you faced in your relationship are familiar to mine...its just been a month since we broke up and because of all this i ended up losing my self esteem, i lost my self along the way and now i am really working hard to be the girl i was before the relationship. your video made me realise that i am not alone in this battle
staying away from toxic people is the best thing i've learned till now💯
Few cents from my side, don't love anyone more than yourself. We always get hurt from that person only. It is bitter truth of life 😌😓😓
There comes a situation during teenage that you are attracted to something or someone. You can not stop yourself until you know the toxicity or side effect of that and up to that moment, you will see your world in that. The moment you will realize something is wrong, you will be attacked by several thoughts, and analyzing those thoughts will create more thoughts. It is natural.
In short, the problem will be solved when you know who you are and what you want from your life.
In my opinion:-
Before established career,any kind of relationship is complete waste of time, especially when you have bigger goal to reach,I may be wrong 🤷💁if you contradict my opinion,Please enlighten me🙏🙏🙏
I think the same but these kinds of things are really tough to get out from. it sometimes really takes a lot of efforts to get out of the feelings.
Just telling, I've never been into a relationship because the exact same thing you said.
I partially agree with you , career should be the foremost priority. However love is an emotion you can't resist to. We need to create a balance between love and career. I have had 2 relationship which never impacted by career in any possible manner
Got screwed trying to balance my career and relationship.
@@tuskytriy5127 I understand..in this case you must take care of yourself. And be selfish
We don't do this type of things its just a feeljngs which dont see time or place....
Ones it develops we just go with the flow.......
We can't control it.
I was in a similar kind of toxic relationship few years back. It continued for almost 4yrs. That boy was literally body shaming, abusing, cursing and threatening me. Honestly I'm a bit skinny. But he used to tell me every single day that how much skinny i am. How my thighs are so unattractive, how other girls have fleshy thighs that he wanna grab ....I didn't care about them much because I was young and careless about that... I remember when we had our 1st kiss... You know how it is so special for everyone... we kissed each other and then came back home.... And we started discussing how magical it was... Then he asked me "were u wearing lipstick?" And I said no it was just a lipbalm.... And he said eewwwww I felt like vomiting when I kissed you!! You know how it felt...I can literally feel that same day same moment right now while writing all this... When we were in a relationship, inspite of living in the same city, he never met me after our 12th was over...we went to different streams and different colleges...He stopped calling and all...we used to talk for a short time daily on whatsapp.... But when I decided to break up, he started blabbering that he is drinking and smoking and not eating properly and that he's sick...all that happened I don't know how I managed to came out of that...but i was blessed to get out of that bad phase....and aa helly said...i was set free after a very long time!!
You must've got to know that he's not a right person
,a right person will never ever compare you with any other girls, no matter how skinny you are etc,
Same.
Sometimes its not easy to get over someone with whom you have shared your time. Just give yourself that time. Think about it that whether this will work or not. I know it's not easy to part your ways with someone you love but trust me people at last what stays with you is just you.
♥️♥️
That's what happens when u start finding partner urself. It's karma baby. And u expect a nice partner, hahaha
After watching the whole video .. I realized that I am blessed with the best boyfriend❣️... It's been more than 9 years of our relationship .. last December we even got engaged💍 .... U are such a strong girl dear ... So glad u came out from tht darkness ..may the almighty give more power to you .. 😘❤️
shadi ke baad dekho ..kya hota hai
Congratulations and wish that you feel blessed even after marriage.
Congratulations
@@vimalsingh8627 😅 mere sath hua ye...7 saal ke relation ke bad shadi hui aur banda change ho gya...now divorcing him
@@inspired4780 kyu kya hua tha. .divorce bhi ab majak ho gya hai. .
Many of you Boys and Girls Texted me In Instagram that your Girlfriend/Boyfriend is suffocating you-
But you don't leave them because they 'Love' You.
Watch this video to understand why Love and Feeling Trapped can't exist together.
I understand- we are all lonely people on a lonesome planet- but somethings need to be spoken about.
In case things get out of hand- always seek help from elders or adults you can trust.
Life is really precious, you lovely Soul. 🌸💜
Main purpose of relationship is to stay happy and enjoying each other company...not suffocating or holding or get out of loneliness...
I've never been in a relationship so I cant relate, especially due to the fact that it's impossible to think how can any guy be such a collosal d***head.
And not listening to him and keeping the UA-cam channel was a great decision, and putting the message across to your viewers was a really brave thing to do.
Its must have been really scary to go through all this during the already hectic nature of school.
Stay strong Helly Akka!
Edit: Autocorrect had made Helly into Kelly.
True “Love” means “Be with the person the way she is...not the way you want her & always be next to her...not behind her...☺️🙏🏻” - My Quote
You're so brave, putting all this out is not easy. And you're on a new journey to love your self. Kuddos gyi the free you❤️
Hi di, consider me as your brother.. I think you should start working out.. I know you look too good but you will feel more good.. You always keep Saying that you are lazy.. So I think you must change this..just kidding.. Have a good day. I m much younger to you and I really want to be like you.. I want to work with you.. And very soon I will😁😁.. Lots of love from a younger brother.. And start working out 😂😂.. You are gaining 🤣🤣🤣
"At the one point in the relationships you have to admit that understanding between each other is better than love."
A word from a guy who never been a relationship.
not letting talk to other boys/girls , taking ur social media passwords should be red flags for any1 .
Insecure person will go to any lengths to stop u from enjoying other's company ,ur life ,ur hobbies .
Because they know simple truth " u deserve better than his/her shitty personality"
Has someone been in a toxic relationship where even after breaking up..the person catches with people who you hang around with...abuses and blckmail those people so tht all my connections are cut down nd i ll be left alone!
This is something toxicating to another level..
suggest me something this is really destroying nd bothering me!
@@gurleenkoursaluja91 You should complain to authority figure, for eg: if you're in school, go complain to the Principal Or if you're an adult you should definitely file a complaint in police for harrassment or something of that sort. Stay safe!
In that logic, most women are red flags 😂
It was so good seeing you share your vulnerability with us because that's how we are, often vulnerable at several points and we need each other in those times. I've been in a similar situation also, hopefully mine just lasted for half a year. I'm happily single now. Wish you a great future ahead. And keep those book suggestion videos coming. And more power to you, You're a strong lady.
Its like Im looking at a mirror . And me talking to myself 😭♥️🖤 im glad we both survived
Thanks dear- proud of you
Me too🙂
Me too🙄
Me too
Same here 🙂
If someone starts self-harming in a relationship get out of that relationship. That person is not stable and he is using his body to blackmail or hurt you
Yes- I hope more people see your analysis :)
No it's not true. If he's self harming and threatening you together then it's a toxic relationship.
If he's not harming you and harming himself only then it can be love. Cause you're safe with him maybe he's not safe with you. This can be toxic relationship for him I guess.
Hope you get it
@@silentknight-jai9084 but even if the relationship is toxic for him, you should still leave him, right? It'd be better for him in the long term not to be with someone who makes him want to harm himself. And you won't feel responsible for making someone else miserable. Basically, you shouldn't be in a relationship with someone who's self-harming because of that relationship.
@@zetaforever4953 I agree and disagree both! If you know he's self harming but not harming you and always give you that love n care you deserve then you should understand him not to harm himself. If this understanding him doesn't work out then you can leave this relationship. If it's really a true relationship then he would definitely understand but if not then you can leave.
@@silentknight-jai9084 yes of course you shouldn't just leave someone without talking to them and trying to make them understand you point of view.
I felt like you're telling my story! I have been in a toxic relationship for 4years. It's been 5 years now but still I have so much to work on myself. I have to rebuild myself. I can still see the effects that toxic relationship left on me. I honestly am proud pf myself that I was able to get out of that relationship. I am proud of how far I have come.
@@khushbusingh1014 hii khushBu
I went through the same during my 11 and 12th class ,now its over and i am Happy now.....Happy bachelor's life..
Same here brother !
That shit hurts bro....
Same here😊
I'm so happy for you bro 😊
It feels great when someone talks about this!
@@indramohannegi2757 very true. At least it makes the real sense to our minds
The fact is, most of the teenager gets into a toxic relationship because they are not mature enough
I think it's not true. Its due to lack of emotional intelligence. Even adults get into these toxic relationships. people behave abusively due to enviousness and they think they've the power to control someone. people should know that treating someone badly even if the "someone" is stranger is really not acceptable.
@@uditidas you said it absolutely right, and by the way i was telling about mental matuarity.
If a person is not mentally mature then they will end up having insecurities and possessive upon others.
@@sudhanshusingh9393 yeah you're right 😊 I kinda believe it. Emotional maturity plays an important role. Even if a teen acts immature and rubbish can be less rubbish in his adulthood. It doesn't mean he's mature and responsible. He/she is just trained his/her emotions like this since beginning of their life. And sometimes they can't get out of it. Coz either they're used to it or nobody raise voices against them.
@@uditidas great thinking 👏👏, i really enjoyed the conversation with you
And some of girls elope and then regret lifetime.
Why is this in my recommendations I never even had relationship. 😂😂😂
😂😂
Same with me
God giving you future protection
अरे चिंता मत कर. और है तुम्हारे जैसे 😂 🙋♂️
just an example there are people out there like this
Same
MORAL OF THE STORY : IF You have someone like this in ur life
Simply say : " NIKAL LAUDE/ LAUDI PEHLI FURSAT ME NIKAL " 🙄
Hindustani bhau Rocks🤘🤘
What does it mean?
@@thinmyatlwin7378 you need to know about memes to understand this:D
I don't understand India
@@thinmyatlwin7378 oh foreign audience.
I was in toxic relationship too for 2 year. But after break up, i feel so confident, so happy, so free like a bird is out of a cage
He used to say that i should not do makeup bcoz he didn't want other boys to see me and he was afraid that i will leave him.
I used to cry every night..i forgot who am I....
he would ask me whom i was talking and to send him screenshots of chats and call details. He just made my life hell
He used to abuse me ,call me names. Back then i started feeling so useless. I remember that day when i cut my hair short, i sent him pic and he said if you will go like that with open hair people will call you slut.
When i told me i was going to study in Delhi University. He said me you will make new boyfriend there and you will forget me.
There are endless such incidents which really broke me..i never expected all these from that person whom i love.
Arrey yaar, dekho usko koi cheat kiya ki nahin. He is insecure and afraid that you will leave him, uska past experience aisa bana diya usko. aur woh jaldi jaldi relationship mein aagaye. Isliye tumhare saath fully insecured hoke aaye. Pat bohat khatarnak hai yaar, usko judge maat karon but ye accha hua ki tum nikal aayi. But doosra koi relationship se jaane se pehle, khud ko heal karon. Tumhare bhi insecurity aayenge. isko hatana hai before getting into another relationship
Listen vo bura ta ok ek relationship trust p hota h agr yrust ni to dafa ho jao ok hum apni life hell ki trh thode jeena chahte ek kaidi bnkr jeena ni h hme😕😕
Pyar possessiveness apni jgh h aur apni life apni jgh sb ek m lkr why we live like a hell😑bhai kuch v bolne se phle socho agr vo sch m loving hpta to vo aise ni krta use freedom deta jeene ki aur haan ek ldki agr riste m khus rhegi to vo jarur apke sath rhegi vo khus ni h tvi to vo apse door hona chahti
@@poojachand4717 Yaar insecurity jab hote hai na, bohot hote hai. bohut saari ladkiya ke bhi rehte hain. isne accha kiya ki chali aayi, but usko bura maat bol. Uski past tujhe nahi pata, judge mat kar. Dua kar uske liye ki woh thik ho jaaye, use bhi khushiya mile.
Well, maine bhi ye sab mere ek friend ke sath kis tha...hum abhi bhi friends hain lekin wo wali bonding nhi rhi abhi....abhi bhi bohot guilt feel hota hain ye sochney se....kashh time mein piche jake ye sab galtiya thik kar pata🙂
This is why elders say "Don't take any serious decisions in life until you become matured"
People who are 30 get in toxic relationships too
@@user-qx8pr3qf5b Haha age is just a number and I call these people as immatured still
@@muralidharanv9634 these people aren't immature. Please stop blaming the people who have gone through something bad , nobody would want to go through this. Toxic people are called so because they truly know how to play with your heart, when you might not even realise it. It's not about 'maturity'
@@user-qx8pr3qf5b You say people who are 30 get into toxic relationship. I say there are also people who don't fall for these traps no matter their age. It's our life, our accountability, our responsibility. Consuming slow poison for 5 years and blaming the poison doesn't make any sense. I say it's all about maturity, maturity comes through experience and learnings, this experience is what which has made Helly more matured now when she says she's not that type of girl anymore who she used to be. She might not have gotten stronger if she hadn't gone through this. I'm not blaming these victims, I just feel sorry for her that she had to learn this the hard way. Would you stay in a relationship with someone for 5 years who breaks your bangles and beats the shit out of you? I say grow up please. It's your call. Your life is always what you make out of it. Being wise enough in knowing if someone truly loves you or not is what I'm referring to as maturity here. It's not a walk in the park but this skill is mandate if you decide to step into a relationship. Again, it's your call!
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*I was in a toxic relationship for 6.5 years*
_I couldn't afford a psychiatrist at that point_
Then I took help of UA-cam.
*Lisa Nichols, Oprah Winfrey are some of them, whose words (interviews) saved me* . 🙏🏼
It's amazing you took care of yourself
That's a great idea
Psych2go
Google the holistic psychologist
@@ashwinigautam7282 Ah! She's amazing. I follow her.
A 20 years old giving golden life advice!
Thank you for this beautiful message!
Kudos to you!
The moment you start loving yourself , you will surely get your way out of any problem. So take decisions which makes you happy.
There is a point in such relationship where you know its over I'm done with it but then again some part of you still cares and loves that person so you stay though you know how its gonna end.
I honestly love the comments section! So proud and happy to see people uplifting strangers by posting these amazing things.
I just came across your channel and I'm so proud of you, getting out of it was your first step, everything else will be so much easier. You just have to make a decision, that's the first step to recovery.
Thank you so much for sharing your story, you have no idea how much it helps.
❤
I'm very impressed with you after watching this video. Congratulations.
Has someone been in a toxic relationship where even after breaking up..the person catches with people who you hang around with...abuses and blckmail those people so tht all my connections are cut down nd i ll be left alone!
This is something toxicating to another level..
Can someone suggest me something this is really destroying nd bothering me!
Hats off to your courage for confronting this on social media. Even when you were in this kind of relationship you are able to do very good in your life. Respect !!!
I was in toxic relationship for over 2 years.I remember the sensation of ' being the bad guy ', and 'walking on the eggs'. After literally losing my identity. The point where you just stop growing, rather you fight everyday to protect your identity... I can't tell you how much I relate to this, Specially living in the fear.... But finally, I gathered the courage to end it.
And it's been over 2 weeks and I must admit.... The effort of confrontation worth it. And yo anyone who is still in that kind of situation,I'd say one thing:-
If you are only investing your self in something for the only reason that you've done that for so long...
Then it's not worth it
Has someone been in a toxic relationship where even after breaking up..the person catches with people who you hang around with...abuses and blckmail those people so tht all my connections are cut down nd i ll be left alone!
This is something toxicating to another level..
Can someone suggest me something this is really destroying nd bothering me!
I also want to breakup with my boyfriend and I do so but the day I broke up with him I was crying a lot and kind of strat blaming myself because he is too toxic with me but he is always been loyal to me that's why I can't do it I felt so lonely that I couldnt even stop crying I cried the whole night and that was so scary that I have to pathch up with him and also I thought that what he will think about me that after so much promises and all the commitments I made with him I left him alone all this things can't let me leave him ..what to do I am dying here into this I want to get out of this..
@@gurleenkoursaluja91 It's been a long time since you commented. I am in the same boat, do you have some advice to deal with a person like that? I hope you are doing well now!!
@@moonchildarmybts1425gather courage and leave him, ese insaan k sath zindagi nhi bitaya jaa skta
I appreciate that you have the guts to share your toxic love life in UA-cam. It's really commendable that you accepted your mistakes & moved on. You faced your fear head on, that is the most challenging part. May God bless you & stay happy sis.
I have never been in a toxic relationship so far. But i feel so weird listening to yours. I am so happy you have come out of it💜💜
This video should be shared in every platform because many teenagers are stucked in abusive relationships and there's no one to tell them that they are in wrong place. Thanks for sharing ❤️
Relationships with yourself would always be Bestest !!
Exactlyyyyy! Zero tension of drama's and all that.
The only thing that is important is LOVE YOURSELF🌻 Loving someone else more than yourself, gives them a chance to control on you.
This is YOUR life, the only person that should have control over it is YOU! We should start learning to be HAPPY ALONE! Loneliness leads to finding somone to fill the space, you let anyone enter it just to get rid of lonely feeling. The point you start prioritising your happiness & learning to stay happy alone, you will never allow anyone to hurt you! I am happy you got rid of it. STAY HAPPY AND ALWAYS SMILING🌻
Well said!
@@pragyasingh592 Thankyou 🌼
@@vedantimadhav7241 ☺
I love what you said in the end.because a lot of women who are married think their husband loves them, even though they abuse. The same idea is given to young girls as well. So, yeah love can never be abusive, it may be trauma bonding, codependency or something. Love is a beautiful feeling. Yes!
My toxic relationship damaged me to such an extent that I can never believe in love again 💀
Which means you need to change your circle or see happy well balanced mature couples. It could be on UA-cam as well, it ll surely help change your perspective- doesn't mean you have to be in a relationship but just a difffy perspective
@@kanvaarchana I've seen them but somehow I think it's not meant for me
Anyways thanks for help❤
Me too
Same here
Same here
I've never been in a relationship but Saheli's video makes me feel good about myself as I used to like my classmate who never loved me back it was just one sided. I never went to force her and made her understand the fact that I didn't deserve her so that she doesn't feel guilty for not accepting. I'm genuinely great full for my act. This video made me realise those things.
Thank you helly!
We need more men like you!
@@thehellyblog Thanks helly❤🤗
DITTO. I can't believe i have been in the same kind of relationship in the same time of my life. I have experienced the SAME THINGS, ALL OF IT. big hug to you.
Thanks a lot
I am suffring from that toxic relationship
But now I will quit. Thanks a lot❤
Plzzz do it I have wasted my life
Such an honest disclosure. More power to you. You are one of the most genuine people on you tube.
I can relate. At a point I could not even recognize myself. Wasted 4.5 years of my life for the sake of a toxic relationship. After moving on life is at its best terms now for me.
So happy for you dear. Love from Bangladesh ❤
Abuse is abuse. There is no point in trying to gauge how big or small the abuse you have been subjected to is.
There are things you deserve and there are things you don't deserve.
No one deserves abuse in love.
What about harvey Weinstein?
@@lampad4549 really don't see how Harvey Weinstein is related to what I said.
@@Witcher29895 Shut up....It seems like you are so much interested in supporting toxic men.. Get a life lady...
You will never know how it feels like to be in a toxic relationship ..Nobody has any right to abuse their partner ( mentally or physically)...You got it...
@@Witcher29895 A partner is not a parent. No one is supposed to physically abuse in a relationship.
@@Witcher29895 if holding their hand tightly causes a pain and even then that person dosen't give a shit then yes it is abuse.
"every pain give a lesson and every lesson change a person"
Saheli, You went through a lot. As children we tend to ignore talking about things to others thinking that it would hurt them, but as you said even I realised it pretty late that, people will get hurt no matter what. Just making space for ourselves in this world is all that maters. I am so sorry you went through this, I wouldn't say I had a toxic relationship outside, but sometimes your own people hurt you, which makes the situation worse. I am so grateful you came out that situation. More power to you and yes more respect to you. ❤
It takes a strong person to articulate their vulnerability. You are one of the strongest, authentic and hard working individual I have encountered. Thank you for being you. :)
2 things
1. Why is the relationship considered cool among teens
2. How can someone be that toxic
1) fear of missing out
2) toxic is where two people don't align in thoughts and mindset. Mismatches go to that level where it's effecting a person's life in a non positive way.
Bollywood effect😂
Hormones bro
@@bharatsurakod6293 exactly😅
1. It's just due to hormonal changes. As during teenage , puberty hits and due to that hormonal imbalance and all you feel attracted towards opposite gender and hence "relationship" comes into existence.
2. A person just not become toxic in a fraction of second. A person absorbs everything from it's surroundings. Mostly toxic people have seen such things in their families, friends and especially society or they are a bit mentally unstable (I guess) , so they think that it's just normal🤷🏻♀️.
He was Narcissistic, this happens with most of the people and they don't even know that the other person could go to that extent to hurt you, even when they claim that they love you.
Proud of U that u took a right decision in relationship & also for sharing experience without fear... which many of them wont dare to do...All the best for your future
Recently I had my breakup. It was also of 5 years long, full of emotional traumas, crying, and pampering him all the time.All I want to say that time teaches us everything. I was doing so wrong to myself which I ignore for 5years. I'm regretting it definitely, but I feel every suffering has it's meaning. And time is the best teacher one can learn from.
I was truly picturing myself in this video. I can relate to each and every clip of your past you shared. I was in a relationship for 5 years and back then I was so mad in "LOVE" that I ignored all signs of toxicity. Thankfully I am out of it and leading a better life. However, I still don't have the courage to bring out my story to people and my reasons for breaking up with that guy. Because even today I am been questioned that how can I break a 5years long relationship just like that and move on.. It was me and only me who understood what I was actually going through. Thank you so much for giving me the courage to at least speak out it here..
I totally feel you!
But babe u don't need to xpln any1 anything....just be happy md do wht makes u happy..bless u
@@poojasunshine2970 Yes , I know that now. SelfLove is Important than anything else.. Thank you ❣️
💕 You did the right thing to your soul.
@@lakshmis696 I think so ❣
Been there.4 years of toxic relationship and it gave me so much anxiety and changed me as a person totally which i never want to be. Thanks for sharing
Proud of You . When you dont care about someone anymore you feel an extremely level of freedom. And that mindset is the best thing that can happen in ones life. Keep loving yourself and Have a blast
"Wisdom comes from experience and failures", they say.
Now the time is 8:08AM ,i got up now and thinking about her how she treated , betrayed, used and i was in depression from 7days. After listening your word i felt ilght better and you would not believe mam mine story is too same..💔
The most worst feeling is when you moved on... But those memories comes into your mind everynight or whenever you see the persons related to them...
Uhhh... I want to ignore my past but why I am not being able to do that?? 😖😖😖😖😖
Same here
It is a process...and there is no set time for anyone to get over something that mattered so much to them. But when your clock finally ticks..you will be the best version of you.
Every fucking morning for 6 months straight.
Memories never fade....
You probably haven't moved on yet.....forgive yourself and forgive him...but don't let anyone like him come and ruin ur mental peace... Love yourself more....it's gonna feel amazing once you've moved on... Those things wouldn't hurt you no more...remember that you are what you are because of what you've gone through 💕 good luck...
Proud of you.
Really need courage to speak this...!!!
Inspiration for many girls!!!!!
You : breathing
He : Don't breathe for next 30 days
Chaaaa gye😂
😂😂😂
Lol 🤣
Ha
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I think that incident made you stronger. It's good to see a strong Helly.
i wonder how come each word of urs resonates mine... i can clrly undrstnd through what a girl has to go down in tht stage... am proud of u... am proud of me n every single fellow who has fought with such toxicity n has risen like pheonix
much love saheli ❤️❤️
You're so strong!!
I'm so proud of youu
I have been through this for like a yearr... and it felt too much...
Ah, I remember the Saheli that had just started out and the enthusiasm that came with it was huge! :)
Didn't have the slightest idea that you went through this - your posts were always so kind towards 'him' - but I am glad you've turned out to be a force larger than life. Keep progressing, Helly! More power to you.
when u said ” helly ”
what i hear - seheli
Me too 😅
Yes
She is saying saheli u didn't heard wrong
Seheli is once a week birth control pill
Source : Std:Xll Bio ncert....😌😌😌😌
What!!! Age:15
I'm 27 and still single. After listening you, I feel better being single.
🤣🤣🤣
Not every relationship is like that.
Update Now I'm 28😂😂
@@CrazyfactsbyArun oh god😂😂
😂😂😂
I am with you😂😂😂😂
I was in a toxic relationship for 1.5 year. Since the very starting I didnt wanted to be there But people around me told me i am giving up. So i stayed. Gradually I started sharing everything with him. We started working in the same office. We got no time for fights. But soon things changed. He changed completely . He didn't like me talking to people of opposite gender. He threatened people around me. Did Gaslighning. I thought may be in some time things will be fine. But nothing changed. He mentally abused me,, tortured me , approached my family. And forced me to kill myself. I used to cry day and night. But the fear of being alone kept the relationship going. But after this I took the step. Talked about it with my family. Told them the truth
They supported me. He's no longer a part of my life. I am happy now. I am focusing on myself and my goals. Have no space for negativity
Few months back I found someone who loves me unconditionaly and I am happy with him.
"You are stronger than you think"
JAI HINND
Kudos to you. Leaving a a Narcissistic Relationship is extremely difficult.
You'll never know why this comment got so many likes 😪 🤣
You are😂😂😂😂
lol you are
Congratulations
Hayee londe chhaa gaye😂😂
10G speed man🔥😂
Sanchita sahu:- Happy Teachers Day. You always been my teacher. And truly speaking, you are a very good teacher...
yess stay away from toxic people- an incident a phase actually happened to me like this and i really get you! Thank you for saying all this... its a great message which has been posted after a long time for this topic
I've been in a similar relationship and I could relate to everything. I'm so glad you are out of it and you are doing so fine. Thanks for reassuring everyone who must be going through this!
Bkwas krwalo tumse behudgi ki bhi hadd hoti h khoob pta h saamne guu pda h fir bhi usme ghusoge to tumse bekar koi nhi
I just got married a year ago to the person I've been in relationship with for the last 8 years so it's kind of good for me by God's grace but I can understand how does it feel to be in your shoes because I'd gone through that very phase of being bullied and humiliated when I was kid.. I must say you're quite a strong person to listen to.❤️
I am really happy and proud of you that you shared your most personal and vulnerable story.
Love you Helly di😘
Sharing is healing 🙂
@@delightredefined9416 Also depends on who you share it with. People have tendency to make it much worse.
@@sachet7 that's true...we can confide in closest or trustworthy people only when it comes to such personal matters...but it's important to be able to share... sometimes when we can't find the opportunity to connect with someone at that level, journaling can help as well 🙂
I could literally relate with you. A 7 years of toxic relationship. Which I didn't even realise until the limits where crossed. Forgiving till the limits of letting me completely down. But at the end making mind get out of the horror past and trusting and loving a man again is too difficult mentally.
I have also suffered for 7 years yrr.still I am in trauma 😢
I m never fallen in a relationship but I've seen many of my friends what must impotent is you'll never find love in surrounding you'll find it inside you. ❤
There will be moments when you fall to the ground but you're stronger than you feel you're now. Life is better when you open your heart so just be as you are. Peace.
The day you decided to tell us this, you've already started moving on and I respect you for that. Now that everything is sorted in this matter I hope you work hard for yourself and never give up. Our support is always there. We are a community. Peace, Love
At the age of 15:- Teens getting in relationships
Me at the age of 15:- Maxed out TH9
town hall in COC😩❤️
Omg thts literally me i uninstalled coc at th 9 max😂😂
Mee too 😁😁
lmao samee
That's me ded xD😹💯
Wtf how that same 😅😅😅😅 literally
All strength to you Helly! You are going to achieve a lot.