Understanding Aspergers In Adults - My Life with Aspergers Daniel Wendler at TEDxUniversityofArizona
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Understanding Asperger’s In Adults - Published on Jun 17, 2013 by TEDxTalks
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I loved this !!! Thank you so much for sharing this. Very hopeful video.
My dear friend is aspergers. I am a hardcore dyslexic. I am very much in love with this man. Yet, he needs freedom. I watch him and admire the beauty of his inner soul. He is the only man I have ever met, that eyes water up when he speaks to me. I believe I am also asberger's . I love to watch my friend , the most intelligent man I ever met and a mathematician. For me he represents a light worker. He has no idea how I feel. When we are together in any situation where others may be as well...we seem to only truly focus on each other, finishing each others sentences . I would never wish for him to change. When we hug, it is funny. I care deeply for this man, and as I said I would not wish him to be any other way. He is beautiful.
+Michelle Hlnds you have low self esteem
This video pretty much describes me. Autism is no joke. I was diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome (a mild form of Autism) at age 15. Socializing with others may be easy for most people, but it's a chore for me. It's possible for me to make and keep friends, but it's unpleasant. Having a girlfriend is even harder (though not impossible).
I wish more people would be aware and educated about Autism. The vast majority of us are pacifists with interesting personalities.
+Jack H Im 20 and I just suddenly realized how most of my Social problems, Childhood problems, being an outcast, having a keen interest in something and not caring as much as everything else, hating specific things to a maddening point, speech problems, talking very fast, keeping friends, having a girlfriend, and all the actions I had, while for me it seemed like just my personality I realized it all went back to this, this was suggested to me by my brother, that I need to be examined because of how likely it is that I have Asperger. It's hard, but i' m starting to accept it, starting to understand why I have issues processing certain things while others can do so easily, without realizing I have made it possible to understand emotions and what not from other people, I grew up trying to cope with this myself and while I did a good job, I have a long way to go, a lot of emotions for me, don't come natural, it's a chore, I dont like it, I can't say I love you to a family member, while others can do so easily, it's something that can't be described, it's something uncomfortable to do, Asperger so far from what i've seen seems to have it's generic traits, but people are affected differently, some can do things more easily than others. I can stand up to a crowd and talk, but close and personal, I dont like it, it feels weird. Naturally, it makes me a loner.
I havent been diagnosed yet, but I need to, it's starting to affect my actions at my job and I dont know what to do.
Jack H I started to understand that we just process things differently, maybe some things slower. But, we're not so different.
Yeah, I guess
I'm 15 and was diagnosed at 14, however only now at 15 am I really understanding myself, I too feel similar in response to the video
Well that explains a lot! Thanks for sharing
when I was little, I used to hit my head against the wall. people wouldn't stop bothering me, and so I actually started roaring and growling at people. I just wanted to be left alone but was so lonely and i dunno, I'm so awkward, I guess. is there more there?
I've always felt like I was being punished
I have been diagnosed just about 3 days ago (by a psychiatrist) and I have 19 old, now it have all more sense to me, but I do not know why the psychologist did not see it before , I felt like he even did not like me, just when I change of psychologist she told me about it and encourage me to go to a psychiatrist.
you all aspergers that as been diagnosed from child
have some advice for me please?
(sorry, English is not my first language)
what do you want to know?
How do you learned to interact with other people, people dislike me
I don't know if this works overall but I will tell you what I did.
I spent a ton of time learning everything about sports, hockey, baseball, basketball. So by having all of that knowledge I was able to use it as an "in" to talk to people because I had something to contribute and then people would ask me questions and stuff because I knew more then they did.
I am not saying become an expert in something but figure out what people are interested in and learn about that and that gives you an in.
Castant, I know you resent it not being picked up in early childhood, I think as soon as you get to a more conscious age it will become harder to deal with.
But if I can offer some form of help, it would be to say thank yourself lucky you still got many years ahead of you to come to terms with this and you still have time to find some kind of direction to take in your life. You're 20 years luckier than me, so I hope that one day you can get some comfort from this.
I just got diagnosed last week also, but I'm 38. I had been screaming out for help for the last 20 years with autism not even being considered by myself or anyone else throughout it all. Depression, or BPD, yet after watching videos of others recently, I can see now that all the red flags were there all the time.
It just goes to show how little understanding or awareness there is on all this. Its so sad, as the numbers are increasing at alarming rates. Gets me sad just thinking about it all :(
Castant B I was diagnosed with Asperger's at age of 16... but my psychologist and my mom decided not to tell me until I was 22 years old. In my opinion, this was a horrible mistake from them. I wish I had known this earlier. It would have been a lot different for me and I would have understand myself better.
sounds much more of just the same mimicry we are supposed to feed others with...
is he Jewish?
you don't have aspergers!
+Josh Bond lol
***** yes spock
If you saw this video and this is your comment, then you are definitely not qualified to use the word Aspergers itself, because you do not understand it.
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This is so amazingly worded and inspirational. Aspergers or not everyone can learn something from this.
I've been struggling with social behaviour my entire life and only when i was temple grandin did i suspect i may be autistic.. but this video feels like you're describing me.. time to see a psychologist or a psychiatrist?
Yes. I cannot believe no one has responded to you. My son went to docs every other year from the time he was 3, and was not diagnosed until he was 20. We moved forward from there.
Storm Clouds Gathering and Leonard Ulrich expose corruption in their yt videos...
I have Asperger's (I was only diagnosed when I was in my mid twenties) and I would describe it akin to being colour-blind. I see everything that everyone else sees, I just can't see bits of it.
I suppose everyone has their own analogies.
I have been diagnosed just about 3 days ago (by a psychiatrist) and I have 19 old, now it have all more sense to me, but I do not know why the psychologist did not see it before
Daniel, you are absolutely wonderful!!! If only the world were full of people with Aspergers, it would be a wonderful world
I was diagnosed with Aspergers Syndrome earlier today, I keep watching various videos and looking at different sites to try and learn more about how this will affect me throughout my life. (Other than the obvious of course; social shyness, lack of empathy etc.)
What a truly remarkable and young man. It is both inspiring and encouraging to listen to this young man who presents himself as a confident and capable young man having to learn all the skills we take for granted. I have a young son aged 10 with Aspergers Syndrome.
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i scored 39.. on a side note! if this video is for aspies. did you fucking purposely let the sound make a background reverb because holy fuck! honestly.!
I was diagnosed when I was about 8. My coaches in reading body language and social skills were my parents and siblings. I still tend to ramble on and on. And the sensory overload, hyperactivity, and talking too much are still there although not as bad as it was in my early adolescence. Oh and my fixation is on flags so yay for that.
I understand what Daniel is talking about. I can relate, to a point.
Maybe I'm hopeless though. When he starts talking about overcoming social handicaps ... compensating for them, and making friends ...
I'm just not sure I want to do this. I'm 62 years old. Change is scary sometimes. I think it's just too late for me. I don't think I can be social at this point.
I'll be your friend
+smart451cab I am 22 and have aspergers. After high school I became a recluse, but I didn't give up. I've been trying really hard and I am starting to make friends again, people who give me a chance....
My stepdad is also in his 60's and has aspergers. He works on it everyday. It is definitely not easy, but you only have one version of yourself, so it is always worth it to work towards a better version of you. I am going to try Dan's program and hope that you can find something to help you become who you want to be.Feel free to PM me if you need another socially awkward person to talk to =)
Thank you so much for this video. My son (11) has Aspergers. When did you start to "change"? I hate to say it like that, but I don't know any other way to say it. The pics you showed of yourself in your youth, especially the one where you're wearing the tie-dye, remind me of my son. There are times where he acts his age, but other times it's like he's 6 or 7. I want to help him, but I don't know how.
***** Thank you for the information. I hope to be able to use it to help my son. For me personally, it made me wonder if I'm Aspie because I've also struggled with full time employment. People who've know me since I was a child have watched me & my son together. They've privately told me that I had some of the same traits when I was as young & younger than my son. I'm 51 now and I'm a very social person...and I have been since high school. That fact alone makes me doubt that I'm a full-fledged Aspie. One thing is for sure: I understand my son, more than anyone else in his life. Sometimes I almost feel what he feels. I definitely feel a bond with him that I don't have with my daughter. I wish I could talk to someone my age who's a diagnosed Aspie. But that's not likely because when I was young there wasn't a lot of awareness like there is now. Well, thanks again...God bless.
I have Aspergers and was diagnosed in 2002 at age 21.
Jeffrey Harris Hope is always there, I will pray for your son.
MrDiffusser Thank you. God bless you...
انما بعثت لاتمم مكارم الاخلاق Thanks, but I'm already on top of everything. And btw, he's 11½, so it would be a little late to start the training. We've been "training" him for years.
thank for the insight into aspergers in adults :)
lucky you had caring parents
Daniel you are awesome!
Very intriguing. Thank you so much for this upload.
Dear brother; I just turn 50 and was recently diagnosed in the spectrum. I also have 2 small children in the spectrum. This is how I learn and it explains it all in my live. One who cant speak and is far into the spectrum and another one who is an Aspi. waiting for official diagnosis. I think I have Asperger's...as a kid I started talking at 5 years of age.
i've had to learn just like you
I know...pretty amazing stuff :)
First a HUGE thank you for this video!!! This pretty much sums up my social life, childhood adulthood!!! :) I couldn't help but laugh because it was soooo very true to life.
Thank you for the sandwich idea, I've been using it with my husband who has aspergers, but says he doesn't, but he does. Anyway, its really helped him not to get so frustrated with me. He dominates the conversation and when I interject, he says I'm interrupting him. He has a hard time have a two way conversation.
i once was told to do an essay like a cheeseburger and it made me think... if you think of language as a food; than youre always talking with your mouth full. and also im not sharing a sandwich with anyone, you cant make me lol
I would love to listen to this but i can't stand that sound echo/reverberation. I had to stop at 18 seconds, it was driving me crazy. I've self-diagnosed with aspergers' but will probably go for a professional diagnosis just for peace of mind. Is there any way at all to change the sound settings to kill the echo?
lol second time today I noticed a person with AS finish without any ceremony or protocol - just walks off. Classic. Seriously though great talk, very inspiring.
What a brilliant lecture
And I wind up with a score of 42 on the test. Not a shock at this point (though as a Douglas Adams fan it does make me smile).
Great video, awesome message, coulda used some better sound quality though
Great video!
he stays by spiderman's rule with great power comes great responsibilities it is great to just be the great person you are
47 here
cool
Very nice talk, Daniel. Touching too.
I was such a social hit as a child and teen. It doesnt make sense now.
I just took the test you linked below and i got a 34.
Really makes u think. What an awesome talk.
I still don't know how to have a conversation. I'm simply not interested in chit chat.
+Vyas Chady The weird thing is normatives aren't really interested in chit chat so much either. The way I understand it it's like a metaphor. When people say things like "I really like that dress you're wearing" what they are actually saying is "You have a concrete sense of value." People give compliments like that because they themselves are feeling insecure and need to be complimented. So it's almost like they're stating their own needs in a way that doesn't simultaneously reveal their vulnerability or suggest dependency on you. So someone with low cognitive empathy will think, "Well duh, this dress is rocking, that's why I'm wearing it", that's actually an answer to the superficial statement, not the implied transaction behind the metaphor. It really helps to think of conversation as a trade, or even a gift you're giving someone. Whatever a person says, think about what they actually want and then do your best to give it to them. Then when you need something they'll be more inclined to give it to you in return. Of course it can still be really difficult puzzling out the meaning behind unrelated sentences, so it can take time to build up a 'translation dictionary'.
I think my friend of 10 years has this. Countless times I would get annoyed by her, but I always felt the issue was deeper. I tried to stop being her friend, because being around her was draining. Every "conversation" was her talking and never allowing me talk. She could never read social cues and things of the like. You can never disagree with her. She must always be right. I just thought she lacked common sense, but I knew it was not normal. I was her only friend, so she would not let me go. I was her best friend, but she was not mine. I know this sounds harsh, but I know she will never get tested. She is very intelligent and graduated cum laude, but her social skills are still lacking. I feel like the only way I can free myself from her is if I move to another state.
What is this guy`s website?
fantastic video :)
What an achievement!...Well done and congratulations.
Thank you Daniel, you have opened up a whole new world for me!
sad
Awww I wanna hug him