Homicidal Babysitter Pretends Victim is Alive and Returns Him to Mother | Marissa Tietsort Analysis

Поділитися
Вставка
  • Опубліковано 20 вер 2024
  • This video answers the question: Can I analyze case of Marissa Tietsort?
    Support Dr. Grande on Patreon: / drgrande
    Subscribe to the Bella Grande Media Podcast: / @bellagrandemedia
    Dr. Grande’s book Harm Reduction:
    www.amazon.com...
    Dr. Grande's book Psychology of Notorious Serial Killers: www.amazon.com...
    Check out Dr. Grande’s merchandise at: teespring.com/...
    References:
    gray-arc-conte...
    www.wausaudail...
    www.wsaw.com/2...
    www.waow.com/n...
    www.fox6now.co...
    www.dailymail....
    www.wausaudail...
    www.wausaudail...

КОМЕНТАРІ • 883

  • @jdd3786
    @jdd3786 Рік тому +479

    She ate dinner at McDonald's while sitting next to a child's corpse. This is the stuff of nightmares.

    • @irelandishsac13
      @irelandishsac13 Рік тому +37

      Worse than horrible. It is pure evil.

    • @kirbygene
      @kirbygene Рік тому +7

      Agree.

    • @esteemedmortal5917
      @esteemedmortal5917 Рік тому

      Stone cold sociopath

    • @jdd3786
      @jdd3786 Рік тому +3

      @FredCarpenter-pm8bf Yea. Your head on a plate?

    • @EnglishTimewithMrChris
      @EnglishTimewithMrChris Рік тому +19

      I worked at Subway restaurants when I was a teen. It is hard to imagine how I would have felt and reacted if I later learned that during one of my work shifts that a customer had brought a dead child into the restaurant and then ate a sandwich I made for them while they sat with the dead child. It honestly would probably have been about as traumatizing as if someone came into the restaurant to rob the place and shot my coworkers to death in front of me.

  • @cybermandan1960
    @cybermandan1960 Рік тому +275

    This monster injures a 3 month old, then an 8 month old, leaves her own kids in a hot car, has 4 out of 5 kids taken away from her and her friend STILL gets her to babysit?

    • @TCB690
      @TCB690 Рік тому +12

      😵‍💫🥴

    • @DavianSinner
      @DavianSinner Рік тому +22

      I cannot find the last name of the child or this supposed mother, "Heather". I wanted to get a look at the piece of work I am sure she is.

    • @LDiamondz
      @LDiamondz Рік тому +11

      The friend didn't know about any of this. None of it. She trusted her friend, who babysat for her kids before.

    • @roxannelefebvre5723
      @roxannelefebvre5723 Рік тому +34

      ​@@LDiamondzShe sent her a link to an article about the previous charges and asked her to keep quiet about babysitting Benson

    • @lisajean228
      @lisajean228 Рік тому +12

      Beyond idiocy…

  • @BadmintonBombshell
    @BadmintonBombshell Рік тому +543

    I know some people are in desperate situations and have little choice - but I'm shocked that her friend opted to leave her two sons with someone who had lost custody of four of their children. She proved time after time that she was not someone who was trustworthy or responsible or safe for kids to be around. So tragic. RIP Benson

    • @vickinoeske1154
      @vickinoeske1154 Рік тому +72

      You took the words out of my mouth. Who in their right mind would leave their children with someone who was in trouble for abusing children?

    • @texasrefugee7888
      @texasrefugee7888 Рік тому +55

      Surely she lied and minimized that to the poor victim's mother

    • @texasrefugee7888
      @texasrefugee7888 Рік тому +15

      Oh she did know she was child abuser holy mole. She was laughing about that also. That is the killer.

    • @gRinchY-op5vr
      @gRinchY-op5vr Рік тому +78

      I have neighbours who have lost custody of their children, who are every now and then offering to babysit my son...I politely decline because frankly I don't know how they lost custody nor do I want to find out and regret it later.

    • @DottieMinerva
      @DottieMinerva Рік тому +51

      @@texasrefugee7888didn’t dr. Grande say Marissa sent the mom a link to an article about her charge? I would’ve floored it over there at that second

  • @Phosphene_Dream
    @Phosphene_Dream Рік тому +125

    When I was a kid I had a seasoned homicide detective tell me something that I’ve since observed throughout my life to be really very true, he said, the guilty always sleep.

    • @tron.44
      @tron.44 Рік тому +22

      Damn. That's right, but it feels wrong. Life is crazy.

    • @leobabe72
      @leobabe72 Рік тому +16

      So true.
      People try to hide it or suppress it, but no matter what, guilt is an exhausting burden to carry, and sleep is a form of escapism.

    • @Phosphene_Dream
      @Phosphene_Dream Рік тому +8

      @@leobabe72 exactly, that and if you’re in the interrogation room and you know that you’re innocent, you’re not sleeping, you’re either freaking out because they think you might’ve done something that you know you didn’t do and or you’re actively thinking about exactly how you’re gonna explain yourself and get yourself out of this and you’re genuinely worried about the outcome. And then I also think that the guilty often think something along the lines of “I’m in here being questioned about committing a murder and I wanna appear innocent, so I’m just gonna act so relaxed and not worried about them thinking I did it that I could just go to sleep”

    • @ehrgeiz0
      @ehrgeiz0 5 місяців тому +2

      Don't the innocent sometimes sleep, too?

    • @cebruthius
      @cebruthius 5 місяців тому

      Wonderful, so we can stop investigating anything ans save so much of the taxpayer's money 🤡

  • @maureeningleston1501
    @maureeningleston1501 Рік тому +364

    It makes my skin crawl knowing that people like this exist on our planet.

    • @kevinc809
      @kevinc809 Рік тому +9

      Yep, it makes one wonder who spawns these things. It's a cycle that gets worse with each generation they spawn.

    • @phoenixmerridian9119
      @phoenixmerridian9119 Рік тому +4

      Thing is a lot of us have experience with someone like this growing up, we just normalize it/brush it off because we are too poor for our parents to be bothered

    • @deshon3523
      @deshon3523 Рік тому +2

      What a cowardly monstrous woman.

    • @scottmatznick3140
      @scottmatznick3140 Рік тому

      They don't have to.

    • @marytalbott5738
      @marytalbott5738 5 місяців тому

      Yes, and unfortunately there are MANY of them out there...

  • @lysawoolley9008
    @lysawoolley9008 Рік тому +237

    I always wonder why some children are taken away by social services while the other children remain with the parents.

    • @jordie1234
      @jordie1234 Рік тому +20

      I was wondering the same thing.

    • @RockyDaTherapist
      @RockyDaTherapist Рік тому +27

      In my experience working in community mental health it’s sadly subjective and depends on the social worker assigned to investigate.

    • @oneminuteofmyday
      @oneminuteofmyday Рік тому +33

      I looked it up because I was wondering the same thing. It looks like the four children were removed from her custody before the fifth one was born; social services did not know about the youngest child.

    • @rogerwilco8146
      @rogerwilco8146 Рік тому +9

      Sometimes taking the child away will mess the child up cause they are trauma bonded .. it takes time to get a kid into a healthier mindspace to then remove the child with the least amount of damage. its traumatizing to be separated from parents at some ages for life.

    • @asalindstrom6652
      @asalindstrom6652 Рік тому +6

      Yes me too. I cant understand that!!!!!!!!!!

  • @saneman751
    @saneman751 Рік тому +96

    my mother was like that. She had little tolerance for the children though she always claimed that she was the best caregiver ever. Not as violent as Maryssa but still beatings out of anger were part of our daily lives. Over 85 now she is still wondering why her children are not fond of her. I think the word tolerance is the key. The perception of children being so intolerable creatures only skilled people like herself can put up with them, therefore they are supposed to be admired and appreciated for having so much "tolerance".

    • @love_reka_8877
      @love_reka_8877 Рік тому +16

      The black and brown community advocates for whoopings and “spare the rod spoil the child mentality “ the lines are blurred when it comes to beatings versus discipline by spanking. I truly believe it’s time to get rid of it in our community altogether so there’s no question. Hitting a child is wrong PERIOD. There are many ways to discipline without force Or creating trauma. I’m sorry for what you went through growing up. ❤

    • @basbleupeaunoire
      @basbleupeaunoire Рік тому +5

      @@love_reka_8877 And we treat that trauma like a joke. It's so sad. I'm encouraged that more of us are rejecting it. When I was younger, NO ONE voiced what you and I are posting here. So, I have hope for the future.

    • @susiem44
      @susiem44 10 місяців тому +3

      Oh Honey, My heart is broken for you. ♥️😢♥️.
      My mom was cruel verbally, so I know a little of what you went through.
      I'm completely sure that when you go to Heaven, you will be in an especially high level. ♥️♥️

    • @loriegosnell9355
      @loriegosnell9355 3 місяці тому +1

      Yes my mom was very loving but then at same time very brutal… confusing. She kept us fed well and clean but I still remember the switchings. It was extremely painful and left me with stripes everywhere because you instinctively writhe around furiously and put your arm out but she’d be holding one arm and swinging that switch ( bush branch without leaves) which was just bendy enough to feel like a stinging whip. It was nightmare fuel.

  • @cybermandan1960
    @cybermandan1960 Рік тому +176

    05:38 This image of her carrying her own child while handcuffed for murdering someone else's is sick beyond words.

    • @jeanlee1911
      @jeanlee1911 Рік тому +6

      was she pregnant again? unbelievable were all her kids in foster care now?

    • @annettemoolman6504
      @annettemoolman6504 Рік тому +13

      Some people should never be allowed near children. Especially those who abuse drugs and alcohol. Psycho psychology should immediately be established before any prengnancy is allowed. Sounds cruel but it might save a lot of people from abusing children. 😢

    • @gr6373
      @gr6373 Рік тому

      ​@@annettemoolman6504lol unhinged and unfeasible

    • @karinababy6557
      @karinababy6557 Рік тому

      ​@annettemoolman6504 she isn't allowed near them when she gets out of prison she will be supervised she is a piece of poop

  • @Kai...999
    @Kai...999 Рік тому +925

    I firmly believe some children are screwed from the beginning simply because their parents are trash. Thats why I have a deep respect for people that give their kids up for adoption knowing they'll have a fair chance at life that way. Its sad af man, kids are defenseless.

    • @whosaidthat9265
      @whosaidthat9265 Рік тому +19

      Absolutely

    • @blowitoutyourcunt7675
      @blowitoutyourcunt7675 Рік тому +4

      Don't kid yourself, adoption has its horror stories on both sides of the equation - no one helps these women grieve after they've given up their babies and not all children go to happy/healthy homes.
      The end result would be different because different choices were made but don't fool yourself that different magically makes it better.
      *Mum (bio&foster) and career Nanny

    • @anablackwood6141
      @anablackwood6141 Рік тому +1

      My biological mother was not a good mother. She knew she couldn't care for me so she gave me to my grandparents, then spent her entire life alleging that they kidnapped me. she's a raging alcoholic/druggie. Giving me up was the only mature decision she ever made in her entire life.

    • @matrixglitch4664
      @matrixglitch4664 Рік тому +33

      so are animals.. see it as karma maybe.
      amazing how people can feel so sorry for the innocence of a child (and rightly so. don't get me wrong) but .. the same people who care so much about the innocence of a child.. will pay others to abuse torture enslave oppress and rape. and mutilate innocent baby animals..
      bacon for example.. is no grown pig who had a full life.. it's a baby.
      so when these things happen.. people should ask themselves.. why does this occur? is it simply the evil of a sick human?
      OR does it go far deeper? karma perhaps?

    • @DottieMinerva
      @DottieMinerva Рік тому +84

      A lot of kids are abused in the system too. We need better forms of birth control and access to reproductive healthcare.

  • @da4441
    @da4441 Рік тому +18

    Hiring a babysitter who has had 4 of her 5 children taken away from her by the courts or child protective services is insane.

  • @deckerstirek9213
    @deckerstirek9213 Рік тому +254

    She “put him down too hard”. With all those injuries, she would’ve had to have thrown him. Disgusting.

    • @skreemqueen7520
      @skreemqueen7520 Рік тому +33

      I watched this case on another channel and in her interview with the detective when they first tell her all of Benson’s injuries she blurts out ,” I didn’t throw him!” The detective is like 😳😳 “ Excuse me ? “ Why would you bring up that word , throw ?”
      After she admitted she did indeed throw him.

  • @marilynmcmahon5932
    @marilynmcmahon5932 Рік тому +358

    This a tragic case. I don’t know why Benson’s mother would leave her baby with this dangerous woman.

    • @who__cares__
      @who__cares__ Рік тому

      Dope heads do dumb thing duh

    • @evelynwaugh4053
      @evelynwaugh4053 Рік тому +55

      Yes. It wasn't a flaw in reporting child abusers so that the public could be on guard that led to this sad situation. The mother knew but disregarded critical information.

    • @LynnAgain83
      @LynnAgain83 Рік тому +44

      Imo mother is just as guilty!!!!

    • @jesurenbnb
      @jesurenbnb Рік тому +3

      Maybe she trusts her

    • @Ms_Mary69
      @Ms_Mary69 Рік тому +2

      She has five kids, you’d think she must live children, c’ mon that’s deep!

  • @peggypeggy4137
    @peggypeggy4137 Рік тому +11

    This woman was 28 & pregnant with her 6th child by the time she came to court. The only good thing about this horrible story is that she won't be able to babysit, make anymore babies and raise her kids.

  • @kirbygene
    @kirbygene Рік тому +26

    She ate fast food with a dead baby in her vehicle sitting in a car seat. Then later she disguised the fact that he was dead so that the mother would have to stumble onto this fact at some point that evening. How could a human being be that de-personalized? This story sickens me, literally. And my heart breaks for that poor child being tortured to death.

  • @thelocalmaladroit8873
    @thelocalmaladroit8873 Рік тому +101

    And this woman had five children and was expecting another!
    My heart aches for Benson

    • @friedrichjunzt
      @friedrichjunzt Рік тому +3

      At least in prison she wont be able to get a 7th one... (as long as there is no new Demi Minor who impregnated several female inmates).

    • @I_love_all_the_animals
      @I_love_all_the_animals Рік тому +7

      I feel bad for all the children she had and and came into contact with.🙁

  • @deedk
    @deedk Рік тому +42

    I watched this on a crime show and she was nuts! She laughed when talking about the child dying!

  • @joea9222
    @joea9222 Рік тому +89

    How traumatizing for the mom and her sister to know they carried around the baby for hours without even realizing he was gone. Poor family.

    • @elgordo687
      @elgordo687 Рік тому +24

      How could they not notice???

    • @joea9222
      @joea9222 Рік тому +18

      @elgordo687 probably just thought he was sleeping. I'm sure death is the last thing anyone thinks when the nanny drops them off. They were at the laundry mat, so I'm guessing they didn't disturb him so they can get their errands finished. It's not their fault...

    • @rubyoro0
      @rubyoro0 Рік тому +8

      Why are you saying hours?

    • @OneBadAssMoMo
      @OneBadAssMoMo Рік тому +13

      It was barely 25 minutes. They picked him up and drove to the laundromat.

    • @angeleyes3386
      @angeleyes3386 Рік тому +33

      @@OneBadAssMoMoEvery mother I know checks their baby upon getting them. Readjust them, embrace them, something…. I just don’t understand this

  • @blkcat93
    @blkcat93 Рік тому +50

    Wait. Bensons mother finds out that the woman she left him with has a charge for child abuse and she leaves the child there??

    • @nomanejane5766
      @nomanejane5766 Рік тому +2

      I wonder if she knew, the babysitter was her sister's friend

    • @lizgates7850
      @lizgates7850 11 місяців тому +2

      She did NOT kno until THAT DAY her son was killed 😔

    • @trevorbungie5649
      @trevorbungie5649 10 місяців тому

      the baby passed around 4:30 the babysitter told her about the abuse after the baby was already dead

  • @castorkat4868
    @castorkat4868 Рік тому +13

    why was she NOT CHARGED so many times ? Judges who let people go who later KILL need to be held accountable

  • @aleisterlilywhite1109
    @aleisterlilywhite1109 Рік тому +39

    I recognized very early on that I didn’t like children and got myself a tubal ligation. Too bad she couldn’t realize the same thing.

    • @TiktokIsTheNewWelfare
      @TiktokIsTheNewWelfare Рік тому +2

      At least you’re honest

    • @Boss-Possum
      @Boss-Possum Рік тому +4

      In my country they make you wait until something like 5 kids or 35 years old.

    • @aleisterlilywhite1109
      @aleisterlilywhite1109 Рік тому +3

      @@Boss-Possum same here for a lot of places. I was 37 when I had it done after years of begging

    • @onelonelypickle
      @onelonelypickle 8 місяців тому +1

      That's very sad to hear. Can I assume your own mother was not very loving to you or kids in general?

    • @aleisterlilywhite1109
      @aleisterlilywhite1109 8 місяців тому +8

      @@onelonelypickle No, my mom is awesome. I’ve just never liked being around kids, even as one. I just don’t know how to interact with them or really care to. There are plenty of people out there that don’t. It’s not a big deal.

  • @deeliciousgrapes
    @deeliciousgrapes Рік тому +102

    She knew she was a child abuser and didn't leave right then to get her kids. She even kept the baby in the car seat, went to the laundry mat and it took her that long to check on her baby. Sorry parent too

    • @LynnAgain83
      @LynnAgain83 Рік тому +22

      Right!!!!! This is why I have never left my kids with anybody besides my mother. She's the only person I trust. These "mothers" didn't seem to mind leaving their NEW baby with this VERY clearly unstable girl. Wtf is wrong with ppl? 🤦‍♀️🙄

    • @cassy420blaze
      @cassy420blaze Рік тому +18

      Agreed. That struck me as odd how long it took her to find her baby like that.

    • @KimberlyLetsGo
      @KimberlyLetsGo Рік тому +12

      @@LynnAgain83 I have to think that the mother was either high or drunk. It's just unimaginable.

    • @cmthomas07
      @cmthomas07 Рік тому +13

      @@KimberlyLetsGoSeems odd to me, I’m just another old lady who has raised 8 children, but 🤷‍♀️. From the comments that I’ve read, not many people mention the mothers strange behavior.

    • @sugarspice7768
      @sugarspice7768 Рік тому +11

      Right. What kind of mom leaves her child with someone who tells they "I'm not suppose to be around children."

  • @ferdiecassel3697
    @ferdiecassel3697 Рік тому +46

    There are no words. Some people shouldn't be breathing air. Condolences to Benson's family.

  • @ericdravenX00X
    @ericdravenX00X Рік тому +69

    I watched this abhorrant individual talk with detectives in the hotel she ran to, after she killed baby Benson. Such a sad case.. RIP Benson. Thanks Dr.Grande..

  • @jenanne31
    @jenanne31 Рік тому +63

    What a terrible case. Obviously, some people should not take care of children, or anyone else. Thanks for your content, Dr. Grande!

  • @storm4515
    @storm4515 Рік тому +31

    So scary there’s people out there like this among us.

  • @always_b_natural703
    @always_b_natural703 Рік тому +61

    A parent must be pretty oblivious to hand their child over to a sitter that has had their children taken away from them.
    What a sad case.

    • @phoenixmerridian9119
      @phoenixmerridian9119 Рік тому +10

      The average parent is too poor and overworked and under educated

    • @gossamer9966
      @gossamer9966 Рік тому

      @@phoenixmerridian9119 True, and it seems like the more dumb and poor they are the more kids they crap out.

    • @kcar8974
      @kcar8974 Рік тому +3

      Yeah, that baby is better off for sure. Sad how he had to go

    • @melistasy
      @melistasy Рік тому +5

      Not only oblivious, the baby killer texted the mother to tell her not to tell anyone she was watching the kids because she wasn't supposed to be around kids because of her previous reckless behavior. I mean how much warning do you need? 🤦🏾‍♀️

    • @carnifaxx
      @carnifaxx Рік тому +1

      @@melistasy maybe the mother might have thought that if there is this situation, it may be actually safer - like if you are suspect of something, you don't immediately go and do it again...
      But I think she simply had no better option where to get babysitting when she needed to work.

  • @crazycampers5655
    @crazycampers5655 Рік тому +40

    I dont care if she had a bad childhood, herself! Law abiding people need to be protected from people like that and heather should have rescued her children immediately! She was just as guilty!

    • @simonw1313
      @simonw1313 Рік тому +6

      Maybe if someone cares she was being abused as a child when she was a child and intervened then Benson would still be alive.

    • @jodybrown4956
      @jodybrown4956 Рік тому

      Imagine substance abuse common denominater amongst self absorbed peaple leading to peaple taking lives of other vulnerable peaple impulsive desires lead to destructive behavior victims ultimately of selfish desire to flee reality consume mind altering substances. Do drugs shake hands with the devil .

    • @tanikokishimoto1604
      @tanikokishimoto1604 Рік тому +1

      Heather was not guilty.

    • @mynameispeaches
      @mynameispeaches Рік тому +2

      Me either. There is only so much society can be expected to forgive based on the perpetrator’s childhood. Either way she is a menace who shouldn’t be among us.

  • @einienj3281
    @einienj3281 Рік тому +20

    She has 6 kids! Oh man.. I wonder what those kids have gone through..

    • @veganandlovingit
      @veganandlovingit Рік тому +5

      these types always pop them out like rabbits. They are not thinking about whether they can provide for their children or care for them. The children are just an irritating means to an end.

  • @clarkmay4819
    @clarkmay4819 Рік тому +27

    I used to have a neighbor who has 8 kids at the age of 27 with 5 different fathers between them. Her first pregnancy occurred when she was 13 and she dropped out of school in 9th grade. She has no job and no driver's license, but she still has a car and drives it anyway. They live in a disgusting mobile home and her last ex-boyfriend is in jail for molesting her six year old daughter. Can we please start sterilizing these people? They only cause pain and chaos for everyone they come in contact with. Her kids will probably be just like she is too.

    • @BretteC
      @BretteC Рік тому

      Yes! Those men should be given vasectomies!

    • @KayosHybrid
      @KayosHybrid Рік тому +3

      Do you mean the 13yo being sexually abused or the sexual abuser for sterilisation because it matters which one you think deserves to have their right to have kids taken away. Insane if you could possibly for a second consider the child who was repeatedly raped and impregnated.

    • @clarkmay4819
      @clarkmay4819 Рік тому +3

      @KayosHybrid We could do both and fix two problems! She had the majority of her kids as an adult.

    • @ameliadeshane9192
      @ameliadeshane9192 Місяць тому +2

      ​@@clarkmay4819 maybe you could be a good neighbor, see a need, make SMALL changes in your everyday life to make a bigger impact and positive change to those around you. People are capable of impacting childrens lives in the smallest way. Dont remain bitter and critical of a situation you cant change. Alter your attitude or remain on your pedestal. Its up to you.

    • @clarkmay4819
      @clarkmay4819 Місяць тому

      @ameliadeshane9192 I did try to help her out when I could. I helped her fix her porch, her shed door, and even offered to help her get her drivers license, but she didn't want to try. She would drive without a license with her kids in the back. I tried to give some good advice, but it never seemed to make a difference.

  • @rejaneoliveira5019
    @rejaneoliveira5019 Рік тому +69

    It’s very hard to hear stories of cruelty against children. This woman is a monster, so callousness has no bounds.
    Great analysis, Dr. Grande.❤

    • @billflipper1130
      @billflipper1130 Рік тому +7

      Some of the videos with kids I gotta skip especially being a parent.

    • @Ms_Mary69
      @Ms_Mary69 Рік тому +4

      And she has five kids!!!!

  • @shameronstar7220
    @shameronstar7220 Рік тому +25

    Her kids were riding around in a car with a dead baby and didn’t even know it. That’s so creepy!

  • @christilynfranklin100
    @christilynfranklin100 Рік тому +39

    I'm glad Dr. Grande covered this story. I watched story/ interrogation about a month ago. I find myself on this channel trying to see what Dr. Grande has to say about these stories I find on UA-cam.

  • @aaronmann4809
    @aaronmann4809 Рік тому +14

    So many lives destroyed by this cold-hearted and callous woman, including her own children. Hopefully they are able to find loving homes.

  • @Whitericeinmysalad
    @Whitericeinmysalad Рік тому +31

    So sad 😞. So grateful I had a kind trustworthy day care for my boys.

    • @glauvie
      @glauvie Рік тому +8

      You were blessed to find good people. I’m a grandma who would love to care for a working mom’s kids in my home, but the hoops to jump through on both sides are hard on the wallet.

    • @LynnAgain83
      @LynnAgain83 Рік тому +4

      I only ever trusted my mom thank Goodness she was able to. I trust NO ONE!

    • @Whitericeinmysalad
      @Whitericeinmysalad Рік тому +4

      @@LynnAgain83I was also lucky with my second son. He never had to go to daycare like my oldest. By the time he was born my mom was able to baby sit. 🙏🏽 and in the summer she watched my oldest also. She loved having them.

  • @wendyhart134
    @wendyhart134 Рік тому +9

    What a beautiful baby. Its tragic that all the adults around him were so unconcered about protecting his precious life.

  • @dissidentfairy4264
    @dissidentfairy4264 Рік тому +63

    This is sickening! Benson was so cute. This is very upsetting! Marissa laughed during the reenactment? What an evil woman. She had no business having children of her own let alone watching anyone else's. Parents need to be so careful when entrusting their children's care to babysitters.

  • @Strype13
    @Strype13 Рік тому +10

    A couple weeks back, I watched Marissa's interrogation footage regarding this incident. It was akin to watching the police interrogate a toddler. Suffice it to say, it was extremely hard to watch. This woman has and/or had no business being near ANY children considering her mental capacity appears to be on par with a 4-year-old.

  • @jimcronin2043
    @jimcronin2043 Рік тому +5

    WHY would a judge remove four children from her custody and leave one behind?

    • @AnnabelRoss6789
      @AnnabelRoss6789 Місяць тому

      I bet you she had that child a county away and just never reported it to the current social worker.

  • @dlc5166
    @dlc5166 Рік тому +12

    What do you think the chances are that a person such as Marissa would have the insight to seek out counseling to deal with her traumatic childhood and what messaging would actually reach her to get her to go into counseling? Where would she go for treatment? What kind of success rate can be expected? Or, does counseling/treatment typically come as a result of a criminal charge? I'm personally overwhelmed with the number of horrific murders happening in the world.

  • @skreemqueen7520
    @skreemqueen7520 Рік тому +4

    I think I’m most confused on why anyone would leave their child with someone who had kids of their own removed from their care. Yes, I realize sometimes there are not many options but ……. This seems outrageous.

  • @renee1961
    @renee1961 Рік тому +35

    That Poor Little Baby!🥀🥀🥀🕊️🕊️🕊️🙏🙏🙏

    • @Viewer92136
      @Viewer92136 Рік тому +3

      Completely agree. What a sad case. I couldn't even smile at Dr. Grande's dry wit on this one because it is just too sad of a case. RIP Benson, and I hope all the other children associated with these two mothers are doing fine. Makes me sad. :(

    • @renee1961
      @renee1961 Рік тому +1

      @@Viewer92136 hello. Isn't she just Heartless?

    • @Viewer92136
      @Viewer92136 Рік тому +1

      @@renee1961 Yes, I wonder what happened to her own children? I hope they are with someone that truly loves them and is taking care of them. This entire case is so sad. Also, I can not even imagine the trauma this caused for Benson's brother that was in her care and witnessed the events at the laundromat.

  • @FenrirsBite77
    @FenrirsBite77 Рік тому +2

    People who harm kids, elderly or those who cannot defend themselves, should get the capital penalty.

  • @In_swedish_the_jam_means_sylt
    @In_swedish_the_jam_means_sylt Рік тому +10

    Long time listener first time caller. LOVE THE SHOW!

  • @sophiaisabelle01
    @sophiaisabelle01 Рік тому +28

    We appreciate your analysis. Keep up the good work as always.

  • @Pailers
    @Pailers Рік тому +2

    The body cam footage of the police talking to Marissa is absolutely stomach turning. She jokes and laughs... it's awful. That poor baby deserved so much better.

  • @JacobC479
    @JacobC479 Рік тому +10

    Thanks for consistently uploading Dr! You should look into doing a video on Debra Jeter. She took her two daughters to an abandoned house and cut their throats but one of them was still alive and begging for help so she called 911. The 911 call is insane.

  • @susanburns276
    @susanburns276 Рік тому +10

    Thank you Dr Grande, these stories are so difficult to hear as these women make my blood run cold, I couldn't even watch movie's if a child was hurt after having my first baby. My Mum was a troubled alcoholic and it NEVER made me anything but the total opposite as a mother.❤
    This dear little baby 😢, I just can't get these awful monster's 😪🙏🇭🇲
    Also, was truly lovely seeing you and your wife 💕

  • @rheverend
    @rheverend Рік тому +11

    Ok at some point the parents bear responsibility for not looking into the person they hire to babysit

  • @leobabe72
    @leobabe72 Рік тому +3

    Her mugshot....she looks like an evil villain from a horror movie.

  • @who__cares__
    @who__cares__ Рік тому +7

    The parents are at fault also
    They looked at her and thought "yeah my baby is in good hands" 🙄

  • @kyu2o337
    @kyu2o337 4 місяці тому +1

    2 months old. I can't even imagine the state of mind you'd have to be in to have homicidal rage toward someone so innocent and defenseless. People can be so monstrous.

  • @justcody85
    @justcody85 Рік тому +14

    So happy to have a new Dr.Grande video:) you just made my day ❤ your the best!!!

  • @Grawlix_Jungle
    @Grawlix_Jungle Рік тому +3

    I cannot overstate how genuinely creepy and unnerving it is watching the footage of her during her arrest and interrogation. Her presentation and affect, to get clinical, just lack any ability to conform to the situation around her

  • @iyalove9383
    @iyalove9383 Рік тому +7

    So... she's unfit to keep her own kids. However, people trust her to keep their children... Make it make sense, Dr. Grande.. What is wrong with people? Lordt...

  • @gaybrandenburg7087
    @gaybrandenburg7087 Рік тому +2

    She lived just down the road from me. Thank God I never met this person so filled with evil.

  • @renee1961
    @renee1961 Рік тому +8

    Oh, my God! Babies aren't Safe around her!! How did she avoid Charges??

  • @littlethuggie
    @littlethuggie Рік тому +2

    How dumb are the friends though? She's lost custody of 4 kids (that's an amazing, almost impossible feat for a woman), and injured every kid she's seen. What would make you let her watch your kid?

  • @farmcat3198
    @farmcat3198 Рік тому +7

    She had 5 children. How may different fathers?

  • @hughjaboner775
    @hughjaboner775 Рік тому +3

    Just finished watching the explore with us video on her and then 2 minutes later dr. Grande uploads this 😂

  • @videoettaceo8900
    @videoettaceo8900 Рік тому +3

    This case is new to me. Thanks, Dr. Grande.

  • @helpyourcattodrive
    @helpyourcattodrive Рік тому +3

    So many stories, so little time.🎉 Thanks for offering your pov and analysis, Dr. Grande. We appreciate your work.❤

  • @myfavoritecolorisrage
    @myfavoritecolorisrage Рік тому +2

    Boy oh boy,. As a parent of a larger than average family, it's astounding these serial abusers still try to use the "oh the kid fell off the chair, the couch, or down the stairs" excuse. Kids are pretty durable against normal knocks, bumps, and trips. Not so much when they are attacked by a maniac. More likely Benson was colicky, hungry, may have been fed something that upset his tummy, was uncomfortable, or just needed to be changed and the murder-sitter decided her previously well-established habit of beating children's heads would resolve the situation. And who allows a brain damaged woman, who lost custody of her own children, to become the neighborhood daycare?!? This whole story is a symphony of horrible decisions.

  • @michelleloveday6929
    @michelleloveday6929 Рік тому +2

    This is one of the saddest stories ive ever heard. Shes só mean.

  • @danielcook4918
    @danielcook4918 Рік тому +3

    I can't even. I am crying and searching for answers. Why does stuff like this happen? It's so not fair.

  • @nyreekrikorian
    @nyreekrikorian Рік тому +2

    What a beautiful baby! Rest in peace, Sweet Angel!

  • @DEPARTMENTOFREDUNDANCYDEPT
    @DEPARTMENTOFREDUNDANCYDEPT Рік тому +2

    The most dangerous people we encounter are the ones with zero empathy and zero impulsivity control like Marissa Tietsort .

  • @martyal
    @martyal Рік тому +1

    I just read an article written by a daycare owner/worker who said that she would not receive sleeping children into her care for reasons similar to this case. No matter how young the child is, no matter how early in the morning-the child must be awakened and observed before she signs them in for the day.
    I worked with a woman who was called during the day about her son and had to take him to the doctor only to find that his arm was broken. Thing is, she had already told me that he had cried all morning before he was dropped off and I think she was trying to pass the blame onto someone else.

  • @BrianVonClick
    @BrianVonClick Рік тому +1

    Here’s to 2 million subs in your near future. I first watched you when you were under 100k. Such a delight!

  • @Flamsterette
    @Flamsterette Рік тому +1

    Thanks for the upload, Dr. Grande!

  • @AbeBSea
    @AbeBSea Рік тому

    every now and then I hit the back button on one of these videos. This is one of them

  • @michellewoods116
    @michellewoods116 Рік тому +1

    This is so heartbreaking and horrifying. This person carrying another child makes my skin crawl. She should never be anywhere near a child. Appreciate you doing a video on these subjects.

  • @tripledair
    @tripledair Рік тому +2

    Yooo, the title of this alone is unbelievable!

  • @PrissyHippie
    @PrissyHippie Рік тому +34

    So the mom didn't notice her baby was deceased for all that time? She doesn't sound like she was a very attentive mother... besides why would you leave your child in the care of someone who told you they had been in trouble for mistreating a child? That should have been her sign!!! Poor baby 😥😢😭😭😭

    • @who__cares__
      @who__cares__ Рік тому +11

      I'm sure the mom is on something, either way she's at fault also

    • @rubyoro0
      @rubyoro0 Рік тому +4

      It was only 25 minutes.

    • @latinbeautymaria
      @latinbeautymaria Рік тому +7

      There’s video footage of when they discovered the baby. The mom and her sister took the kids to the laundromat after picking up the kids. It’s very sad to see the footage and the 911 call.

  • @renee1961
    @renee1961 Рік тому +2

    Good evening, Dr. Grande! How are you doing? Great, I like to think! Thank You!

  • @AltClev37
    @AltClev37 Рік тому +1

    The “justice system” failed all of those kids who where ever in her care.

  • @LILAC2CARB
    @LILAC2CARB Рік тому +24

    A very concerning being, no matter what happened in your past there is no excuse for harming our innocent children, she seems very calculated and very aware of her actions, she’s disgusting😠 unfortunately the domino effect of her dysfunctional family, this is just so sad but there is no excuse for this…. Prison is where she belongs !

    • @simonw1313
      @simonw1313 Рік тому

      The last thing she seems is calculating.

  • @TheRealSeeJ
    @TheRealSeeJ Рік тому +2

    How you let someone who lost custody of 4/5 kids babysit? ON MULTIPLE OCCASIONS

  • @lostaurorax7102
    @lostaurorax7102 Рік тому +3

    Thank you so much for your analysis and insight on this case! I’d only heard of it a couple weeks ago and was completely shocked by this crime. I was going back and forth on whether she was intentionally murdering every child in her care or whether this was impulsive behavior r/t her own hx of abuse and cognitive disabilities (perhaps FASD- she does have some physical features indicative of FASD). Your analysis and the additional background information you provided clarified this issue and made sense of the events leading up to this horrific crime.

  • @barrythomas2357
    @barrythomas2357 Рік тому +1

    Why is she smirking on her mugshot ?? Does she not understand that the murder part will put her in prison for a long time , in prison with hundreds of women that HATE baby killers. Or does she quite simply not care about it ?
    Great analysis from the good doctor Grande , thank you !

  • @rufusd4615
    @rufusd4615 Рік тому +2

    As an Abuse Victem myself i still can find no empathy for someone who continous the Circle of Abuse.
    I could never do to someone else what has been done to me and i can not understand how this is even possible.
    I still feel helpless, how can someone forgett this feeling and become the same that once broke them?

  • @carnifaxx
    @carnifaxx Рік тому +11

    Aside from the actual crime, what was really terrifying was that the call operator basically forced the mother to perform CPR, even though she repeatedly said to her that the child is cold (and obviously dead for a longer time and beyond saving).

    • @who__cares__
      @who__cares__ Рік тому +3

      It's what the mom gets, she's just as at fault as the babysitter
      Her punishment is having to give her cold dead baby CPR 🤷

    • @carnifaxx
      @carnifaxx Рік тому +8

      @@who__cares__ I don't know if we should really blame her that much. I mean - if the USA system is that bad that she had to work with such small baby and the only option was to give her child to this babysitter, what else what she supposed to do...

    • @dubaiedge
      @dubaiedge Рік тому +10

      @@carnifaxx find another option? Stop all activity because the child is the first priority? Don't leave the infant with a known child abuser?

    • @evelynwaugh4053
      @evelynwaugh4053 Рік тому +7

      ​@@carnifaxxUse birth control and delay having kids until her life is stable enough and she achieves a reasonable level of financial security?

    • @carnifaxx
      @carnifaxx Рік тому +2

      @@dubaiedge I don't know, if being a priority gets well with losing probably the only source of income.
      I don't agree with her choice, either, but if we are shifting the blame, why don't continue to the actual system in general :D

  • @sunshinefalls1086
    @sunshinefalls1086 Рік тому

    Thankyou for your perspective Dr Grande. I watched the footage of Benson's Mum discovering him dead, the 911 call, the police body cam video & subsequent police interviews with her. I found it so harrowing. Your take on what could have been happening Dr Grande was good, it helped explain her behaviour & possible reasons for it. Thankyou.

  • @jdanisse
    @jdanisse Рік тому +1

    Thank you for explaining this. This case is horrifying, but now I understand how something like this could happen.

  • @emghee2510
    @emghee2510 Рік тому +2

    Wtf would the mom leave a 2 month old baby with a woman who'd lost custody of her kids for being negligent? Why? Seriously what the actual fuxk! She's just as guilty in my opinion.

  • @dubaiedge
    @dubaiedge Рік тому +8

    Shaving 25% off for how you act behind bars is so wrong & has nothing to do with the crime they committed before they go to prison. Slap in the face to both victims & society. It's a while different life behind bars & has zero bearing on what they're going to do when they get let out anyway.

    • @irelandishsac13
      @irelandishsac13 Рік тому

      If she makes it out.

    • @dubaiedge
      @dubaiedge Рік тому

      @@irelandishsac13 she probably will. From what little I've read, men are far harder on other men for child abuse than women are on other women. Hopefully I'm wrong. She's a stone cold psychopath.

  • @karinababy6557
    @karinababy6557 Рік тому +2

    She is in jail currently using her baby, whom she is pregnant with as collateral. She is vile may the guards constantly give her a hard time. No compassion to her ever. 💔 she is evil

  • @whosaidthat9265
    @whosaidthat9265 Рік тому +8

    One of many stories that make me PETRIFIED to leave my kids with a babysitter. If you injure my child it’s going to be a big problem before the cops can get involved. If you murder my child there’s going to be two murders. I have more than one child so I have my others to worry about which would give me pause to do what needs to be done but if my only child were a victim of such an atrocity….lock me up and throw away the key because there would be no stopping me.

    • @LynnAgain83
      @LynnAgain83 Рік тому

      THIS! I couldn't imagine!!!! 😢

  • @sarabrant723
    @sarabrant723 Рік тому +2

    I love your videos! You put so much work into it and we get so much more out of each video bc you are a doc..i love how you have the best jokes to make the videos not so dark.

  • @KarrierBag
    @KarrierBag Рік тому +4

    So sad, poor family having to suffer this and by a 'human' who takes no responsibility, she doesn't care because of her upbringing sadly.

  • @lettymartinez9463
    @lettymartinez9463 4 місяці тому +1

    😢Rest in peace baby Benson.So sad .How can someone do this !!!

  • @chetyoubetya8565
    @chetyoubetya8565 10 місяців тому +2

    Okay, so she was accused of abuse months before this, and her own children were removed from her care so other parents still let her babysit?? I mean look at her eyes you can see in 5 seconds something isn't right about her.

  • @renee1961
    @renee1961 Рік тому +15

    Her behavior is Very Disturbing!!

  • @josephhuang7292
    @josephhuang7292 Місяць тому +1

    I believe Marissa should never be released from prison.

  • @OLDSKOOLNYC1
    @OLDSKOOLNYC1 Рік тому +1

    As Dr. Hibbert once said, "Diagnosis, bad babysitting!"

  • @real_fjcalabrese
    @real_fjcalabrese Рік тому +1

    Some folks do not belong in society.

  • @arealtexashome
    @arealtexashome Рік тому

    Dr. Grande I look forward to your content and value your opinion. I believe that you not only help viewers understand the psychological aspect of these crimes but the way you describe it is useful.

  • @tiffanya4113
    @tiffanya4113 Місяць тому +1

    Just because someone has a lot of children does NOT mean they will be a great babysitter.

  • @ZombieMiezz
    @ZombieMiezz Рік тому +2

    There should be a law allowing for sterilization if the mother has one ore more children in CPS custody. She is deeply disgusting.

  • @meladeekunkel5880
    @meladeekunkel5880 Рік тому +2

    I remember this case. I believe she took the lifeless baby to his mother, then went to Mc Donald's to eat and acted like nothing happened. So disgusting and sad. She should spend the rest of her life in prison. She's a predator and should never come near children again.

  • @phylisandrews9237
    @phylisandrews9237 Рік тому

    What makes a person who was damaged by their own childhood choose to surround herself with children? Even unfeeling people have some capacity to think.