How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie | Animated Book Review
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This book's advices can be summarised in one word: Empathy.
Nope.
Uhm, yes.
literally lmao, just think bout others man literal human nature, how are we not intrigued by how the brain works that we don’t wonder what others are thinking
Personally I'd say sympathy
I’d say manipulation at its best
The magical trick is genuinely caring
Casper G consider people friends by heart..if u really want to be friends
Majic is deception and manipulation, and those tricks involve caring about succeeding in the craft, not caring other than about achieving the desired outcome of the deception/trick.
Like a comedian seeks to be perceived as funny. They get better the more they fail.
Those are completely the opposite reference words for your actual point about genuinely caring.
Not that I don't get your point but the good thing by risking to make your point and failing is, that you can literally grow from mistakes. I appreciate your effort. It only gets better and making mistakes is part of growth.
Lesson anology/cliche- don't try to put a square peg in a round hole because you want the square peg to fit. Find the circle shape and then use that instead. I get it that majic is pumped in our psyche/subconscious through the Occultists propaganda machine/tv mind programming system, The craft of the witches/worlocks/wizards Hollywood industry, and thrrough all aspects of so called entertainment since disney as a lil kid. It's only natural you'd want to regurgitate it as its romanticized even though its utterly evil to its core. They love manipulating us to be led to lift up their religious ideals while pushing the Antichrist programming.
And man are those mindslayers great at their job. They invest billions to market their faith and make it mainstream for kids on every level provided at this time on the BIBLICAL PROPHECY UNFOLDING as we are led to speak timeline for a reason.
Hope this helps plant a seed. You've been manipulated and forced indoctrinated by evil ones since birth, it's definitely not (y)our fault falling for the deep programming of the craft AGENDA. They only can victimize us through our lack of knowledge. And the propaganda programming is so effective they get you to think you thought it on your own. Manipulation social engineering are very extremely effective tools.
Hope something in this helps. If not a seed planted. Muchluv2u
@@carpejkdiem 😯😮
The author expresses this concept properly in the book! 🙂
Most people think the trick is not caring. That's how we get 'em lol
It works man, my Architecture professor in China whom is well known for his sternness and military method based teaching is despised among students in my class. One day, my friend told me that aside from teaching us, he has a job as a small time architect. The next time when he criticized my project with profanities, I didn't let it get to me, I started to think from his point of view, he must be tired from his job as an architect and he has to teach us and correct our mistakes after his long day of work. So I just listened, I didn't complain or cut him, and in the end I told him "Thank you for your time, it must've been a long day from work". He then smiled, and said "Nah, it's nothing". After that the profanities started to decrease, and he even tried to start a conversation with me
Jesus, that's a good one!
Great to hear. Carnegie's book is filled with everyday examples like yours and I enjoyed reading how the book has benefited you!
Thx for the likes guys, I hope the book will benefit u guys as much as me. Now I've graduated, it will be one story I'll cherish. I hope him ,other teachers, and you guys are safe from coronavirus
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sounds like cowardice to me
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I’ve been practicing these skills in the workplace for several years now and I can attest that they work. People will like you more when you genuinely care. People will defend your mistakes when you own them. Unfortunately most all other people will not behave this way and that will be very frustrating. Some people, often those in power, will take advantage of your empathy and compassion; shamelessly. It will disgust you and leave you despondent.
Yes, in the end for most people it all comes down to what you can do for someone else, what you can make them feel. Can you provide them with something, anything, and can you continue to do so.(this guy makes me laugh, this guy makes me feel good about myself, this guy makes me feel powerful, this guy reinforces my views, etc) Stop providing them what they expect, and they will toss you away, metaphorically speaking. Realizing this is hard. I've yet found a way to balance enjoying others while understanding I'm only as useful as the purpose I serve to them.
Would be better if people could just be, and not have to only serve a purpose, only fulfill some subconscious expectation.
It's very true, at my work a customer came in wearing the local gyms uniform and as soon as asked what the gym was like he said come by tomorrow and I'll show you.
So I did, he then offered me a deal that ended up saving me around 100 dollars compared to the deals advertised outside the gyms front doors, he trained me for free and gave me a free workout plan, we are now relatively good friends.
It is truly incredible what one sentence, spoken genuinely and with confidence can acheive
Part One Fundamental Techniques in Handling People: Talk to people about themselves. Put yourself in their perspective. Don't criticize, condemn or complain. See it through their eyes. Show appreciation. See what it is that they want and try to align it with what _you_ want. This is the principle of _arousing an eager want_ in the other person.
Part Two Six Way to Make People Like You: Become genuinely interested in other people. Ask them about their profession, what they've accomplished, where they came from, what they aspire to, what they've endured. Understand that people often live as though we are the star our own life movie and it is the _only_ movie.
Part Three How to Win People to Your Way of Thinking: If you made a mistake, don't defend yourself. _Own_ the mistake. Admit that you were wrong and do it emphatically. State how terrible the mistake was, how you could be punished or what repercussions there could be. Do so so that you deflate the other person's anger. This puts them in a position that they'll actually may defend you.
Part Four How to Change People Without Giving Offence or Arousing Resentment: Talk about your own mistakes first.
Thanks for summarizing it
Thank you! Just ordered my copy! 🤗
my social iq was that of a cabbage before reading this book, now that I'm half way through, I'm already as charismatic as a Chicken! it's truly worth the read
are you reading the original (first) version?
I too was completely dumb. I thought of myself as empathetic and emotionally intelligent, but I was not at all.
cool comment
so chicken are charismatic?
@@fhdhejeh63 Definitely more charismatic than cabbages.
These kind of books summaries are gold, in 10 minutes you can get much of the gold from a book that would have taken hours to read. There are some books like this for example that is completely worth the read, but if you can't find time and motivation to do it then these videos is a 100 times better than not reading at all. I want to thank you for the time and effort you have put into this video, I couldn't have explained it better!
+p3wdi3pie666 Check the contents, some titles are self explanatory!
Read this 6 years ago, and dismissed it as basic and generic! Now after 6 years I came back and honestly this is by far the most important and powerful book, hands down!
Since I've seen a bunch of summaries highlighting random rules from the book, I thought I'd give my take after reading it 3 times:
This whole book is based upon 3 fundamental principles;
1. Don't criticize, condemn or complain (think of other ways, such as asking in a friendly way)
2. Make people feel important, do it sincerely through honest appreciation (This is the most recurring theme within the book)
3. Arouse in people in an eagar want (If you want them to do something)
Rules/Tips/Guides Based on Principle 1;
a) Avoid arguments
b) Never say 'You're wrong'
c) Try to see things from the other persons perspective
d) Be sympathetic with others ideas & desires
e) Call attention to others mistakes indirectly
f) Talk about your own mistakes first before critiquing
g) Ask questions instead of giving orders
Rules/Tips/Guides Based on Principle 2;
a) Become genuinely interested in other people
b) Remeber peoples names
c) Be a good listener (encourage others to talk about themselves)
d) Make the other person feel important - sincerely
e) let the other person feel the idea was his/hers
f) Begin in a friendly way
g) Let the other person do the talking
h) Begin with praise and honest appreciation
I) Praise the slightest improvement & praise every improvement
j) use encouragement - make the fault seem easy to correct
Rules/Tips/Guides Based on Principle 3;
a) Talk in terms of the other persons interests
b) Appeal to his/her nobler motives
c) Give the other person a fine reputation to live upto
d) Make the other person happy about doing the thing you suggest
Other ideas/suggestions which are worth knowing;
a) Smile
b) If you are wrong, admit it quickly
c) Get the other person saying 'Yes, Yes' immediately (Amazing to think how many sales books & scripts are based off this 1 chapter, which is around 5 pages long)
d) Dramatise your ideas (Used often in copywriting with 3D mail, etc)
e) Throw down a challenge (Used to improve productivity with workers)
Hope that helps atleast some people out! Highly recommend reading the book for the examples given.
Thank you so much!!!
Thanks you help a lot
People need to realize that listening is the most important skill when it comes to communication. You can learn so much of a person and their emotional state when you listen and pay attention to them genuinely.
I hope you are not a monarch programmer because that is Satanic. I know because I met some during human trafficking.
I've been doing this all my life and on one point, I just have to stop. I feel like I phony, doing the opposite of what I feel and what I think.
At the end of the day, I was able to get along with everybody, but I wasn't able to build deep friendship, as I haven't shared my true feelings, I always act considering others before mine.
What I learned is you don't need to please everyone, be yourself and you'll find the right people who can accept who you are
What you've said was what was important before this book and the information of its contents spread throughout society. Nowadays it's not about being humble. Unfortunate.
Yea, but it does seem like the principles in the book dictates you lick everyone balls you think is important for you. Riuzaki seemed to have lived this principle and has pointed to its fundamental flaw.
It works for me and plenty of others, you just have to be patient and GENUINE!
Yeah, I do this and people are nice to me. People tell me how much they appreciate what I do for them, but they never do any of this kind of thing back to me. I'm always the one asking questions in the conversation. No one shows any interest in what's happening in my life. .This is a great way of getting people to be nice to you, which is vital in a business setting, but I don't think this is useful for making casual friends. I think that's more to do with wit, positivity, attractiveness, initiative and confidence.
@@insertname485 Stop befriending people who are only receivers. You shouldn't be in a relationship where u give and they receive everything just as u shouldn't be in a relationship where they give and u recoeve everything.
Not all people will defend you when you choose to become the victim
His point is not to become the victim. It is to show that you've recognized your mistake.
Yea maybe dont exxagarate that hard but own your mistake
I certainly won't. I have a roommate who's like that and I'm pissed off realizing that this manipulative shit is what he's been doing his whole fucking life. He fucks shit up and then starts whining about how bad of a person he is, but then a day later he does the same fucking shit.
@@insertname485 Everyone deserves second chance, but no one third.
I agree with this, naturally I'm pretty submissive, but after being crapped on for so long I felt I had to grow a backbone. Not to bring gender into it but as a woman working in a predominantly male field I just noticed some things, like how I could do math 5x to ensure my answers were right only for someone else to do it once and very confidently tell me how wrong I was, even in front of my manager, when I knew I was right actually. Now I ain't about that, if you tell me I'm wrong you better bring the stats to back you up... I don't want to be combative in the work place, I'd rather have a friendly interaction but if you must go down that road..
A consequence of showing interest in other people's 'movies' may be that they endlessly talk about themselves and you never get the opportunity to share your own life or 'movie'. If everyone you know is interested in only telling you about their day (because they know you'll listen), the relationship can start to become very one-sided.
muskndusk if that's a problem for you then you aren't genuinely interested. Also, those people don't necessarily have to be the people you choose for your close circle of friends. You can curate your close circle to include people who are genuinely interested in you as well
yes, all these suggestions are garbage, the final suggestion should be. Take all this and consdier always, is it truly what you want? Do you really want to listen endlessly to stories they wont make a difference in your life? Or always take the fault of mistakes just to play the victim? Or make yourself agriable to others who in reality are just parasites and petty persons?
Oh but it's a great way to know whether you want to spend more time with them or not, don't you think? ... Give some time to anyone and you can see exactly what is their relationship with the outside world.. This book actually helped me gauge the degree of narcissism in anyone :)
@@annepaulus8939 I find that older people are generally less narcissistic than younger people. I conclude it has to do with the young people being brought up during the Tech Era.
You’re right, this is true
When I was schooled in "Project Management" this book was on the "must read" list... coupled with "Win Win Negotiating" definitely enhanced my people skills and management style...
I think I've realized that I genuinely just don't give a shit about most people. I have a habit of caring about them and their lives, and sometimes, I genuinely am interested in others, but generally, I'm pretty self-centered.
This is a solid book that helped me so much on my journey to being a better version of myself just by applying these concepts in real social situations. Awesome video!! Keep it up.
So I read this book in high school and it totally changed how I talk to people. I would get them to like me by listening to whatever they wanted to tell me but it started to really bother me because I was generally not interested. Now I get them to talk about things that I'm actually interested in and the truth is there is a lot to learn from people. With my new way of doing this I do find people that I really don't feel like I learn anything from and don't care much for and that's ok. I'm much happier this way. In a nutshell, as was said above, it has to be genuine
What I'm saying is don't feel like you have to be everyone's phycologist. That was what I was essentially doing. Phycologists get paid good money for a reason.
Awesome job on the description, the animation kept me engaged. Thanks for sharing.
I love these illustrations, work really well with the content
Thank you for the summary. This is one of the books that I should add onto my reading list. 📖
I have taken the course long ago and worked as a graduate assistant a few times. The principles have been used again and again by many authors since the first book was written. In essence, when we change our focus from "me" to others, life changes and good things will come your way.
6:00 What if the boss just escalates the punishment even further, the original plan is to have you pay 40$ dollars (x2 the ammount) and then yiu immediately barge in with the offer of x4 . So he realises he might be able to negotiate you up and have you pay x16 the ammount and you are also fired just because you gave him the idea , you made it out to be a big deal so the boss is just taking your word for it.
Maybe because he knows the tactic and now despises you for trying to manipulate him or in a less extreme scenario just because he realises he can make more money by asking you x4 times instead of the original x2 , maybe even push the scale to x6 and some overtime.
Yeah it’s kinda bad advice it puts you in a position to be a punching bag. Just admit the mistake and that’s all you really can do
Not really tbh. Most humans aren't sociopaths and atleast some sort of moral compass. Admitting ones mistake and taking ownership is a respected quality that most bosses would respect and understand.
I am reading this book. I admit, I've been having some trouble with the antiquated language, and some of the out-dated ideas and examples it makes. But I am eager to grasp and absorb the over-all massage. Thank you for this helpful video.
Life changing advice! Extremely important words to live by: Genuinely care for others as you would for yourself. Admit imperfections. So brilliant yet simple!
This was amazing. I was in a bad car accident which caused my short term memory to be shot but somehow I was able to listen and remember everything you said. I think maybe it was the illustration of the steps and how to approach them.
wishing you a speedy recovery. All the best to you
Bong Gnostic thank you
Realy? How are you doing now?
Short term memory is still shot but I'm able to absorb the important stuff for a long time. Actually forgot most of this video but a couple stuck in my head. Other than that I'm alright compared to a lot of people right now.
This was a wonderful presentation. Thank you for making this possible. I read this book a few times, but I keep having to read it over because I keep forgetting these concepts. You have some key points to walk away with. I applied one of those techniques immediately.
This was so wonderfully done! Thank you for posting.
You know what I liked about this book? The storytelling and how each stories are based on true events. If all the books are like this then maybe most of us will not be confused about our future.
I read this book many years ago. Thanks for the animation cliff notes. Much appreciated.
Happy New Year & Thank you! What a Beautiful Summation of a Legendary Read!
I came across your channel for the first time and I am absolutely in love with the content! The book summaries are amazing and very helpful.. Thank you!! I'm a fan
Great Job on the animation man! I was watching how many transitions you did through this. It must have taken some time to sync and complete. Great book review!
Read this book in 2016 and it changed my life 100 times over. Even something simple like using people's name more often improved my relationships
Great job of summarizing Dale Carnegie's concepts pictorially!
What a great video, beautifully illustrated. Thank you!
I would love to see more reviews, this was great.
Good video! This book is such a classic, it seems like everyone is making vidoes talking about it/summarising it!
This is great even after you've read the book. There is so much in this book that is basically a social life hack in the real world. I love it! Thanks for the video
Excellent summary of the book. Thank you. This is presented in a way that a teenager would profit easily.
I love Carnegies book and the focus on other peoples needs. The only thing I disagree with is the 100% rules like "Never criticize, condemn and complain" there are times for these things even if they shouldn't be the default mode of communication
+Collinge Communication Institute but you see... those pesky little rational annalyses of yours... will be swept under the carpet, if the social naviagative ideas in this book really take of. if your wondering why my channel name is called what it is, it is due to "things" such as this.
So you are saying that there are not times to criticize condemn and complain?
There are times where condemning someone else is justified. But there are never times when it is useful. Anyone you condemn is going to be set even harder against you. You need to be as empathetic with them as with everyone else, don’t think about it as “condemning” them but as trying to guide them in a better direction
The way you summarised with animation is really good.
Thank you so much!! Your great art work was a little distracting at times, but the concepts were terrifically explained! Thanks again!
That was such a great summation of such a great book!
It all comes down to time, place, and the people around you. If you know the people around you are people that you know you can openly talk about things with, then you will feel less vulnerable and less at risk of making yourself look weak. If you're around people that you think/know aren't very open people and you don't think you can openly say "shit my mistake, won't happen again" then really get to know the people around you so that you can get a feel for them and figure out when making that mistake and saying "shit my bad, won't happen again" won't make you look and sound "weak" ". Build yourself higher around other people so that you feel less at risk when the time of a mistake comes around to feel vulnerable and maybe even weak.
Great video, Keep them coming, I had to comment. Thanks
This bestseller book is a real milestone for the self improvement topic. Some of the concepts in this books are principles that will have an evergreen value!
A classic book, I like your spin on it.
Awesome animation. I love the way you presented...
i really liked this! very creative way to review a book
Thank you so much
Explained the concept so well and easy
I love your illustration buddy!
Just finished the book! I love it! My favorite! Dale Carnegie is the GOAT!
Thank you for your in detail explanation.
I really loved this video. I learnt a lot within these 90 minutes.
your music choise is perfect!
im reading thins right now. I love it so far...anyways very nice job explaining the book
Thank you for this summary
Thanks for the summary. Now I have to read it! I didn't realize it was written in 1936. That just makes it even more interesting.
Thank you so much for your content ❤️💖💖
thank you so much for sharing , it was amazing . thanks for ur effort :)
wow really nice Video
the background music, the animation and especially your choices of words is what i like most
there is a channel called fightmediocrity which does the exact same thing, but your voice is calm and you seem to be way More mature
keep up the good work, i appreciate it
great stuff - really need to re-read this one, its been a while..
This is dope thanks for the info
How does admitting your mistakes work with someone who’s a jerk
I guess there are some things that are not likely to happen...
DeAndre Hudson exactly and if you emphatically cop to a mistake and it happens again or a similar mistake happens, then you have already played the pity card and would start to look pathetic if you tried it again.
he'll use it against you over and over again
DeAndre... You better get jerks out of your life ASAP. This book is on how to win friends and influence people. It's not talking about jerks and toxic people. Jerks need another kind of "care".
There are other strategies and they have to be interconnected. If you want to escape a huge punishment for a mistake first build a good relationship with your boss, walk the extra mile and make them shine. Then be humble when admitting a mistake (but never compromise so much that this boss has you on a tight tight leash). For practical examples please refer to house of cards season 1-2 🤣 and the 48 laws of power.
Great videos you have taught me so much
One of the most essential book which will benefits anyone whom wants to improve their life skills. Thank You for summarizing the book. Enjoy your video
Can youconceptualize the whole book as similar as this video ? I would very much appriciate because this is so helpful
As I applied these principles, I encountered people that will genuinely appreciate my company and another group that started to overvalue their worth as they became arrogant with ego. I used to have extremely poor listening skills and over the years I realize the person that does the genuine listening is the wiser person most of the time, not the one who speaks more. Most people don't realize this.. that is why I say this has mixed results, they enjoy talking to you because only a few people have good listening skills.. as this happens either or both happens appreciation for your skill and time or arrogance and ego inflation.
"Even the most mundane jobs... Like an accountant, can have interesting stories"
accountants: we are RIP.
The disrespect to us accountants man... But it's true tho hahah
you are great, Im buying the book right now!
Thank you for the great video! I really like the animations.
I think a personal CRM manager like Dex can be super helpful in building stronger relationships by synchronizing all your social media accounts! :)
Very well explained thanks
Awesome stuff, keep em coming :)
you probably dont care but does someone know a way to get back into an Instagram account..?
I was stupid lost the login password. I love any tips you can give me!
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This is a very good book I’m interested in reading. Another really good book is the 48 Laws of Power, as you mention in the end. I must say that we must be careful because that book encourages some behaviors I wouldn’t recommend. But read it at your own risk
Thanks for the video!
This book is too popular. They'll know what I'm trying to do.
excellent point.
The principles in this book are as old as the hills - the book isn't too popular, humans socialising is. This book is as applicable now as it would've been 500 years ago. if you're genuine then you're all good. If you're a faker then you're just wasting everyone's time including your own, and yes people will 'know what you're trying to do'.
They forget when you flatter them.
Well if you think about it, actually there is 7 billion people in the world, 4 billion probably cant afford the book. the other 2.5 billion will lead a very stupid life. and the other .5 smart people probably .1 of them will actually read it, and .002 of them will actually take action! XD
not; everyone thinks alike. Otherwise this clip would be so ; high rated:)>
Really enjoyed the video
Great job!
Its a great book of timeless principles!!!
great example & visualizations
This surely helps when I have to share with them about a book. I start by sharing a link. A big thank you!! Please do suggest us more books. We will keep suggesting your review to friends and family.
Love the video! 👌
Amazing !
I need to learn how to do this because my teachers love getting on to me so imma start articulating myself properly
Nice video! I'm going to look at creating the whiteboard type pics over one of my reviews. Which software/site do you use?
Golden content new sub here. Keep up the great content! ✨
Nicely done, thank you.
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why dont you make more content like these? Its great value
I have read 3 times. Everytime in a different language, now time to start my fourth time. It is my Bible. Everytime things start going wrong on my mind. i go back to this book and it helps my entire existence.
Inspiring...TY
thanks for this vid I would definitely get the book and add it to my collection lol
this video is awesome the content the visuals is thumbs up ! wish i had to learn that also how to make videolikethat
It really is life changing.
Thank you so much for this review! I just avoided buying a book in which I already practise the content. Need something on a higher level of people who work in corporate business. Thanks.
I liked the way you explained the part 3 of the grocery store. 😂👌 I'm a sales assistant n I know how it feels.
This Carnegie book surely is great. But you know what, this video is too great..! animation thing is so intriguing. thanks +AchievingConcepts
This changed my business within days.
Is this video make by hand drawing? Or which kind of app? Nice video