The loneliness epidemic also goes hand in hand with the rise of social media, online dating and onlyfans…it’s wild to me. People are more connected, yet so lonely.
The issue is people have 1 million dating preferences based on what they stare at online rather than actually talking to people. It's ridiculous lol There's that and the fact that most people just want a sex partner rather than a relationship.
People need to stop confusing “I didn’t pay attention to something until social media made me aware” with “It did not exist until social media.” Social media has helped people be less lonely. It’s unfortunately backfired in that sometimes it’s helped social pariahs and sociopaths find other people like them to help them torment others.
Not social media. Social media is a tool. Like money is tool. Money amplifies who you are. Social media provides a platform to showcase who you are. Common denominator and problem is = people
You can still find relationships. Can still find people with similar interests.I think it's a bit arrogant to not want to relate with others. Loneliness is not good . Man is a social creature.
I agree. I enjoy being alone. No drama, no BS, not arguments, no living up to people's expectations, no need to fit it. I enjoy my own company so much that when someone wants to hang around with me, I get anxious. Love being alone. I accomplished more too. Wish I had been a loner sooner.
After a near fatal accident that left me permanently disabled after years of surgeries and severe isolation with very little contact with other people I lost the ability to speak in more than one syllable statements. I had forgotten when my birthday was because no one had asked or celebrated it in many years. I lived in hospitals for 2 yrs straight and then was allowed to go home for short breaks before going back in again. And no, nurses do not talk with you. I'm fine with being by myself and being in my own head. But that doesn't mean it doesn't take a toll on your brain. I had to learn to talk again and it's not a fast process
I wish people would shut up in the comments about loving being alone. Good for you. Most humans need intimacy and interaction. Somethings wrong with you to judge that.
Have you ever considered that there are many, many introverts in society? In fact, I believe the ratio is higher in introverts who gain their energy with solitude versus extroverts who thrive with the consistency of having people always around them. There are also people who have suffered immense trauma, abuse, and betrayals from whom they once considered their closest. Many of these people are now on a life time journey of healing, in which they need alone time often enough to regain themselves, find their true identity that was stolen from them by their abusers. If you are a Christian, than you already know that Jesus Christ Himself, often left His very own disciples, (closest companions) to go into solitude, to reconnect to God, His father, and to restore His energy to continue His mission of healing and teaching. I hope this helps you to understand more clearly when others speak about their need to be alone.🙏 🕊 ✨️ ❤
I had a coworker hug me a few days ago, and it was the first hug I've had in over 2 years since my mother passed away.....I had a late response hours later and cried. only true lonely people will understand just how Vital human interaction is needed, especially non-romantic human touch. if I could afford cuddle therapy, I would absolutely go for it.
When someone asks for your instagram, instead of your phone number. There is something mentally wrong with them. I've never been on instagram, and never will.
@CrystalM1917 the problem there is i don't need your social media to talk to you whereas all those other things equated to actual communication. I learn nothing from getting a girls social media as 90% of social media is a facade. I wanna know her not who she portrays to be. You only learn that by talking not looking at pictures and being nosy
It's not about that. We were made to be social. Alone time us good but if you have too much alone time, it will make you mentally and physiologically ill.
As someone who struggles with loneliness, I understand. I've live in my home for 6 years. We still don't have neighborhood friends. We've lived in our city for 7.5 years. We still don't have friends in the city.
@@dkg_gdk the whole thing is nonsense,first of all loneliness isn't all about touch, it's about connection, I think taking measures like going to coffee mornings/groups or swimming ect, to stay connected which can help prevent loneliness and isolation which is what I do to prevent isolation and loneliness in my life situation,but the crap in this video is all about touch, why not just go for a back massage or something, the message in this video is blurry and sloppy,also is affection the same if its systematic?I dont think so,i wouldn't see that as real affection either, its silly
@@silkwave5200 A massage therapist is working out the knots and the tightness of your muscles and relieving you of the physical stress and strain. Much like a doctor would. There's no intimacy involved.
The price humanity will to sustain modernity is disconnect. Friends, community, family used to just happen organically, now most don’t even know how to do it anymore.
Christian communities are a driving force for marriages. A number of people I know who are married met their partner at church. Problem for me is, I am agnostic and don't want to be preached at about something I don't believe in, much less be made to be a mouthpiece for something I don't believe in. What alternatives there are out there I have no idea.
@cryora Get a hobby. Join a sports club. Volunteer. Take a dance class. Learn another language and join a group or class to speak with. Join a walking or running club.
My 17 yo cousin is autistic and graduating HS soon. I spent some time with him yesterday. His sisters are busy working.... his mom unfortunately became disabled due to a stroke. So his outlets for social interactions are closing as he approaches 18.
Younger people: Social Media is awesome; it connects us all!!! News: We are the loneliest we have ever been as a culture. ... I don't think that Social Media is doing what you think it is doing...
I enjoy being alone, but during my bachelor days, I was definitely lonely. I’m now married, and I can honestly say that I don’t feel lonely very much anymore. Of course, one can and likely will experience moments or even times of loneliness even in marriage.
In today’s modern era, people stab you in theback get what they can from you betray you and screw you over every time I get lonely, but I prefer that to being hurt
People always sucked, but social media turned on the lights. It created echo chambers for toxic people to easily interact with other toxic people, and be told they're right, and that being a pos is fine. Fast forward a few years and now you can see clear as day how horrible and insufferable people truly are because of that light. Birth rates are plummeting across the planet now. This may truly be the end.
Figures, in the U.S. we turn EVERYTHING into a business! Let’s start a business cuddling people and take their money bc they’re lonely… The irony is that this capitalist, extremely individualistic society has led to this loneliness epidemic bc we’ve prioritized making money, greed, consumption, material things, competitiveness over people, community, relationships and connection… goodness, our society is really broken 🙁 I’m happy to see women and men are creating groups and being creative in seeking friendships & connections, but making ppl pay for connection is not ok.
This is what happens when you remove religion from capitalism. How many ppl went to church and had a family of more than 2 in the 50s more than 80% and today less than 45%
I am a licensed Massage Therapist and professional cuddling looks like real easy work for me. At the same time the client may confuse the professional relationship and boundaries.
I’d rather be withOUT people period, than be within talking/walking distance of people like at work but not be included in a conversation or being talked about behind my back….that is a lonely feeling. I e been happier retired and alone at home because now no one can talk about me behind my back and I hear them. They don’t have me to talk about any longer.
I can talk down, look down and befriend myself these days eventhough others do it to me on rare occasion. Decrepitus, fragile, and imperfect I might well be, so here I am within internet community.
This was an issue for people on the autism spectrum way before the internet and social media was a thing, but nobody cared or cared to notice back then.
Bingo. I was born in 1990 and right before the internet, I also had the same trouble connecting with others. People just said suck it up and bullied you for their satisfaction. Ironically, when I do try to connect, people are glued to their phones. I have learned overtime to enjoy being alone. Now it is something that needs to be fixed, even though I was told to play by myself most of my childhood.
There’s a lot of safety in being alone nowadays! All it takes is one interaction with the wrong person with the wrong energy and you start losing your peace and freedom! Social media has created too many demon possessed weirdos out there!
↪️They said it: the pandemic, social media, working from home and working too much, killed in person interactions. ↪️Loved how ppl create their own group ↪️ Cuddlers are already well established in Asia
Loneliness is a condition of the heart. It's when one's relationship with God isn't at a calibre where it fills one. Jesus Christ says, ' come to me all you who labour and are heavy ladden and I will give you rest'. Free. ❤
I’m from New Orleans. I live alone but in general I feel like you can’t be “lonely” here unless you try. I feel like it’s definitely a big city problem. The South is a little different in terms of community.
This epidemic will only continue to get worse. I would say this year as well. Being a 23 year old living in Toronto quality of life in Canada has also went down drastically! Everyone here is lonely and depressed but we’re good at hiding it. It’s why Ontario introduced Bell let’s talk day a couple years ago and now we even have hospitals that have to set up programs for the elderly to connect and meet online because they’re depressed and lonely when people don’t have hope things get scary.
I AM A BUSINESS MAN AND HAVE BEEN SINGLE SINCE 2013..I AM NOT LONELY ANYMORE I GOT USED TO IT. I RUN WORK OUT AND I RATHER BE ALONE THAN BEING IN TOXIC RELATIONSHIP WITH IMMATURE WOMEN WHO THINK BEEN RESPONSIBLE AND AN ADULT MAKES ME BORING.
I’m alright with being alone most of the time. In fact, I prefer it. But I do sometimes get lonely…not just for another human being but for a human being that I genuinely like and want to grow with.
I struggle to feel sorry for these people. The studies are conclusive: social media increases feelings of loneliness and depression. Yet, for some reason, all of these adults are willing participants and users of social media. You people are quite literally doing this to yourselves. Not everyone is built for the internet, and we are clearly seeing people start to crack. If you feel lonely or depressed, GET OFF SOCIAL MEDIA! Stop making these weirdo excuses like "its how I talk to my friends from high school" when you can just pick up the phone and CALL THEM! We are living in a dysfunctional time where adults have an inability to control themselves and knowingly suffer negative consequences as a result.
I’m an introvert INFJ and have never felt lonely. Always preferred to play by myself as a kids. Making friends makes me feel uncomfortable, like I know I’ll ghost people, and I don’t want them to feel rejected. Just would prefer to be alone. I enjoy kids company, to laugh and watch them play. I like people, just not too close to me.
I voted for Biden in 2020 and used to dislike Trump. It’s been 2 years since I’ve become a republican. You probably don’t live in a sanctuary city. If Kamala wins the migrants will get to you and you may wish Trump was running the country. I tried dropping of donations at a policy station where many of them were camping and someone opened my purse. They tried stealing from me when I was trying to help them. Give them a hand and they will take your arm.
As someone who is asexual-aromantic and HATES to be touched, I'm not sure what ‘loneliness’ feels like. More importantly, I'm not sure why that's anyone else's problem to fix. I know what severe depression, anxiety and severe PTSD and chronic pain feels like but I don't understand how people conflate ‘lonliness’ with ‘alone.’ A person could be at a concert and feel lonely. A person can be happily single and childfree with their phone or a cat, running errands, coming back to a clean home like they left it and feel fulfilled. When COVID hit and everyone was told to social distance, I was cool with it. 🤷 I didn't have any issues with it. I'm NOT family oriented, I like dogs and cats more than people, I utterly despise people as is and when appointments became tele-health, that new implementation became a little bit more convenient for those that didn't have transportation or didn't feel like coming in or maybe was sick, etc., which was also a good thing.
It's not anyone else's problem because saying it is is one step away from state mandated love interests and friends and that's madness, but acknowledging that doesn't make the problem go away in people. I'm a pretty romantic person so I can't relate to your aromanticism, but I had a similar reaction to the pandemic keeping us inside. It was a complicated mix of emotions though: I'm okay with lots of solitude, it's kind of the default for me as a shut-in introvert, but that's just the thing. When solitude isn't something you're choosing and is instead the default, it means less. This isn't about not loving being alone enough, but aloneness being *all you're being subjected to, day in, and day out*. If that's just too unrelatable a problem to you, just imagine that your dogs and cats were just....gone. You were alone with yourself, well and truly. How would you feel? How would you feel if your internet connection was gone, and you couldn't express thoughts like this to anyone? Just an echo chamber party of one. Appealing? I doubt it.
@bespectacledheroine7292 Well, as much as I love dogs and cats (🐶🐱💕), unfortunately, I don't have any. I like dogs and cats more than I do people. I'm childfree (*I can't stand kids!*) but I know I'm not in position to care for a cat or dog which is why I don't have one. Plus, with the trauma I have, I feel like I'd benefit from a service dog (🐕🦺) but I'm not sure how all that works with insurance and pet food, vet bills, etc. With that said, if someone's internet went out and they wanted an outlet, people can do the mundane suggestions they suggest to everyone else: meditate, write in a diary, go to the gym and go for a walk. That's the BS so-called "coping mechanisms" people love to suggest to people as if that BS works for everyone when it doesn't! For me, I'd probably watch basic cable, DVD's or listen to music I have downloaded. 🤷
@@marissa._ I guess I'd alter my thought experiment to, imagine you die without ever having a service dog. If that makes you at least middlingly sad, you get loneliness somewhat. I relate to you in some key ways though, I work with dogs for a living because I find them infinitely preferable to working with people, and I'm childfree too (Not because I can't stand them, I love my nephew to pieces, I'm just too much a creature of habit living for myself to be the dependable parent a child deserves). I've also passed a lot of time pretty happily just consuming movies/shows/music/books. But, I guess I dislike not sharing my opinions on those with anyone or hearing theirs? My opinions aren't that interesting to sustain a one way relationship with myself LOL, but I guess you find yours so? That's pretty enviable, but I'm not sure entirely achievable for the lonely lot. Even as an animal lover I get pretty uncomfortable when people say, "Just get a pet if you're lonely!" It's demanding a lot of an animal to take on the companionship another human traditionally fills. I sometimes wonder if they get smothered? Sounds silly, but I do!
@bespectacledheroine7292 Well, the same way you feel dislike when a person says, "just get a pet if you're lonely!", is the same way I feel when people demand other people to have kids. Its trauma to the body and demanding a lot of a small, helpless little human that got no say in their existence or choice in who their parents are. Its not their job/responsibility to "fill a void" someone feels. If I were to pass away without a service animal then I just pass away. 🤷 Lol. I mean, it's not like I was born with a service pet. Everyone passes away the same way they're born: alone. I don't think it'll make me lonely if I never get the chance to have a pet. I actually like NOT having to take care of another living thing outside of myself. I think it would be selfish and inconsiderate for me to bring another living thing into my life that I don't need, don't want, don't have the patience for, won't clean up after and can't take care of to begin with. I don't believe it'll make me "lonely" to not have those things, as I don't coincide "lonely" with "alone." Those are two different things to me. While I know I said earlier that I feel like I'd benefit from a service pet/emotional support animal, the animals feelings and wellness also have to be considered. They can't do for me if they're not good themselves. As far as opinions, I can understand if someone is extroverted and wanted to share those opinions with like-minded people. 🤷 As someone once said, "opinions are like a-holes. Everyone has one." Now, do I feel the need to share EVERY opinion I have out loud? No. Sometimes I do and people either agree or disagree. 🤷 I'm indifferent when it comes to sharing my opinion but if it's something I find confusing, silly, asinine or triggering or outright WRONG or something attacking my demographic (*childfree, single, celibate, asexual, disabled,*), I'm probably gonna say something. Nonetheless, I can see sharing introspective opinions and thoughts with like-minded people.
@@ManChan-w5p well with a full body massage someone is touching you the entire time through massage techniques. This cuddling services like a professional massage is not a $exual service so if the idea is close touch then a massage would do it and they will be relaxed at the same time.
Everywhere there profesional massage, is very comfortable relaxing, get ride of estress, elimine headaches, muscle tension, a ful body massage is the best you will sleep like a baby.
Paying a professional cuddler is no different than paying a sex worker. Both are transactional relationships that only temporarily address the problem. Once you stop paying, you're back to square one of being lonely.
I think this issue comes from people never really having to sit with themselves and learn to appreciate who they are. Our culture seems to imply that you should always be surrounded by others, and if you’re not, it must mean something is wrong. Beyond that, our society pushes the idea that we need all these things-new cars, big houses, endless material possessions-as if they’re supposed to soothe the loneliness. But all this ‘stuff’ often distracts from the real work of finding comfort within ourselves.
Loneliness is an epidemic in America. It seems to be a common thread in many western societies which I think has a lot to do with white culture vs others. Whites tend to view themselves as individualist and as members of the societies they’ve built, the only foundation was our own families and getting married to create a new family. Since so many of us have opted out for various reasons, we are left with nothing to hold onto as the individualistic lifestyle persists. I’ve been raised in the US and have been gifted rights and freedom. I don’t have to be subjugated to oppression in a relationship. Finding a suitor seems to be a daunting task for someone like me. So I’m just trucking along in my loneliness as it is the safest option.
This might seem weird in today's world but being so connected nowadays makes me desire alone time, some of the best times I've had recently is when there's no one in my house for an entire day and I can exist without hearing another soul. Even my family is overbearing, if I go too many days without talking to my parents or brothers someone will be knocking on my door or calling my wife or kids to see where I am. I'm lowkey jealous of so called lonely people, you have no idea how good you have it not being obligated to anyone else and you can do or go where you choose without anyone asking where your going or what you're doing.
I thought about going to a professional cuddler, but with my luck I'd be laying there and getting relaxed and then I'd accidentally rip a fart and it would be over. Nobody deserves that kind of horror.
At first glance, I was like this is the dumbest thing ever. But then I realized the core issue of all the problems we have in the world today as to why greed is the primary driver of the global narrative. *WE LACK HUMANITY*
I do everything I can to interact with people, but these companies keep giving me automated phone systems and self-checkout aisles. I can’t seem to win.
There is no such thing as a "Professional" cuddler. She made up a job and somehow earns some cash, but in no way is it professional. Give me a break...
I've been really needing to cuddle but anytime I look at the pictures of people offering cuddles, they just give me the creeps. I wish I could ask someone I know but there would be consequences for asking someone I know 😔
It's probably because they've dealt with disgusting attitudes like yours that made them turn towards things like this, though. While I wouldn't do this personally, I understand that to do this situation, a person has endured a LOT of hatred and abuse to become so scared of touch. Pathetic would be choosing to ignore their humanity. May these people find the peace they deserve, yourself included.
the bigger issue is that nothing is organic anymore everything has become transactional .The internet destroyed the world.
Corona did.
I agree
EXACTLY SIR!!
@@RJHW13nah corona just sped it up
@@RJHW13no, it just sped up the inevitable.
I don't think people understand that loneliness is different than wanting to be alone.
After accepting Jesus Christ i don't feel alone anymore
@winning3329 you found him while you were lonely?
@@AE-sy1pnokay 😂 it seems like people only lean on religion when things aren’t going for them
I'm one of those who doesn't understand the difference😂. I never feel lonely, and I love being alone doing things I like doing.
@@lifelessonswithnoma same here. wtf is a loneliness ? do I have to be touching somebody
The loneliness epidemic also goes hand in hand with the rise of social media, online dating and onlyfans…it’s wild to me. People are more connected, yet so lonely.
Mostly a lack of community I feel like people aren't getting together in real life and making true social interactions
The issue is people have 1 million dating preferences based on what they stare at online rather than actually talking to people. It's ridiculous lol There's that and the fact that most people just want a sex partner rather than a relationship.
People need to stop confusing “I didn’t pay attention to something until social media made me aware” with “It did not exist until social media.”
Social media has helped people be less lonely. It’s unfortunately backfired in that sometimes it’s helped social pariahs and sociopaths find other people like them to help them torment others.
@@FatHeadEnterprises spot on 💯
Not social media. Social media is a tool. Like money is tool.
Money amplifies who you are.
Social media provides a platform to showcase who you are.
Common denominator and problem is = people
Being alone is better than being with people that make you feel alone.😂
Being alone is better than being with the same gender.
I am alone but not lonely, because Jesus Christ lives in me. So if you think about it, I am not alone at all.
@qubaliclife4666 How about within you? Not in the physical sense.
You can still find relationships. Can still find people with similar interests.I think it's a bit arrogant to not want to relate with others. Loneliness is not good . Man is a social creature.
I agree. I enjoy being alone. No drama, no BS, not arguments, no living up to people's expectations, no need to fit it. I enjoy my own company so much that when someone wants to hang around with me, I get anxious. Love being alone. I accomplished more too. Wish I had been a loner sooner.
After a near fatal accident that left me permanently disabled after years of surgeries and severe isolation with very little contact with other people I lost the ability to speak in more than one syllable statements. I had forgotten when my birthday was because no one had asked or celebrated it in many years. I lived in hospitals for 2 yrs straight and then was allowed to go home for short breaks before going back in again. And no, nurses do not talk with you. I'm fine with being by myself and being in my own head. But that doesn't mean it doesn't take a toll on your brain. I had to learn to talk again and it's not a fast process
Thanks for sharing your story. Continue to be strong
Oh wow……praying you are in a better place today 🙏🏽
Are you ready to change That And meet new Friends?
I wish people would shut up in the comments about loving being alone. Good for you. Most humans need intimacy and interaction. Somethings wrong with you to judge that.
ABSOLUTELY...Humans Were Never meant to Be alone SOCIETY As Mess Up Your BRAINS.
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Have you ever considered that there are many, many introverts in society? In fact, I believe the ratio is higher in introverts who gain their energy with solitude versus extroverts who thrive with the consistency of having people always around them. There are also people who have suffered immense trauma, abuse, and betrayals from whom they once considered their closest. Many of these people are now on a life time journey of healing, in which they need alone time often enough to regain themselves, find their true identity that was stolen from them by their abusers. If you are a Christian, than you already know that Jesus Christ Himself, often left His very own disciples, (closest companions) to go into solitude, to reconnect to God, His father, and to restore His energy to continue His mission of healing and teaching. I hope this helps you to understand more clearly when others speak about their need to be alone.🙏 🕊 ✨️ ❤
Professional Cuddler? Wheww I seriously need to re think my career
🤣🤣🤣🤣
How about a sex surrogate for the disabled? Hooker to the paralysis.
same!!
It is the world's oldest profession.
I was gonna make this exact comment! LOL 😂
This isn’t weird, do you know how people are depressed and are alone, it’s actually sad , hugging someone helps
i get it but i will feel really wretched if i had to pay someone to touch me
That's a reality for most of us men. @@arvyarvy4242
I had a coworker hug me a few days ago, and it was the first hug I've had in over 2 years since my mother passed away.....I had a late response hours later and cried. only true lonely people will understand just how Vital human interaction is needed, especially non-romantic human touch. if I could afford cuddle therapy, I would absolutely go for it.
@TheboyCashhhhhh
Naw...if you don't think this is weird then you were probably born after the creation of the cell phone
It is weird and it is cope. I wonder how many female clients she has i bet it is zero.
When someone asks for your instagram, instead of your phone number. There is something mentally wrong with them. I've never been on instagram, and never will.
its how most young ppl date now
That's pretty much how time works. It used to be address (to send a letter) then, home phone, then pager, then email, then cell, now its socials....
@CrystalM1917 the problem there is i don't need your social media to talk to you whereas all those other things equated to actual communication. I learn nothing from getting a girls social media as 90% of social media is a facade. I wanna know her not who she portrays to be. You only learn that by talking not looking at pictures and being nosy
@@CrystalM1917 no
@sistacoin no.
You call it loneliness, I call it PEACE and SAFETY
You cannot be lonely if you enjoy being alone.
Makes perfect sense.@@truthseek3017
hahah smart
@@AvecPoesie i enjoy being alone but damn 🙄 .. winter is coming
Ppl really gonna be alone during civil war.
People should learn to be comfortable with and by themselves. You can’t be around someone 24/7. I love being alone, and I’m not lonely.
There needs to be balance.
Exactly. If anything people annoy me so being alone is a stress reliever.
Being alone isn’t the same as being lonely.
@@nicadavelifethat was the point,
It's not about that. We were made to be social. Alone time us good but if you have too much alone time, it will make you mentally and physiologically ill.
If a person suffers from depression, they probably shouldn't be alone. Although its miles better than being in an abusive relationship.
My cuddle therapy is my dog. She gives me all the cuddles and snuggles ❤
As someone who struggles with loneliness, I understand. I've live in my home for 6 years. We still don't have neighborhood friends. We've lived in our city for 7.5 years. We still don't have friends in the city.
Who is we? Doesn't sound like you are alone, unless you're Morla
@@na7845 exactly, who is we?
who is we?
Lots of oui oui there😂
@@na7845 they said they were lonely not alone.
Thats a very dangerous "job".
Good point,you could actually end up being exposed to some
Really obsessive clingy even stalky people,or more
I agree!
That's my only thing.... seems like asking to be violated
@@dkg_gdk the whole thing is nonsense,first of all loneliness isn't all about touch, it's about connection, I think taking measures like going to coffee mornings/groups or swimming ect, to stay connected which can help prevent loneliness and isolation which is what I do to prevent isolation and loneliness in my life situation,but the crap in this video is all about touch, why not just go for a back massage or something, the message in this video is blurry and sloppy,also is affection the same if its systematic?I dont think so,i wouldn't see that as real affection either, its silly
It’s soft prostitution
America complaining about low wages, high rents, inflation and here we have people paying for hugs.
When you're lonely, logically you have money to spend because you don't have many friends to share activities.
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
😂😂😂
😂😂😂😂😂 oh America I remember when we partied like it's 1999 lol
There is something profoundly wrong with American society. i spend months outside the country and every time i come back i feel it.
Finally, a loneliness video that focuses on the positive solutions and shared examples. Thank you ABC!!🎉🎉
Feeling lonely is one thing. But having a stranger get intimately close to you in that manner is creepy and cringy. Sorry but not for me.
I agree. A professional massage is okay but cuddling and forced intimacy is cringe. Nah, I'll pass.
@@josebro352 Whats the difference? Besides social stigma
@@silkwave5200 A massage therapist is working out the knots and the tightness of your muscles and relieving you of the physical stress and strain. Much like a doctor would. There's no intimacy involved.
@@josebro352 cuddling is fulfilling a physical need for human contact for nervous system co-regulation
people have no problem hooking up up with a stranger. how is this different
The price humanity will to sustain modernity is disconnect. Friends, community, family used to just happen organically, now most don’t even know how to do it anymore.
This part. I’m an extroverted introvert but still struggle with community as I live far from my family and struggle with making friends.
Correction...you don't know how to do it. Stop speaking for everyone else
So true. People need in-person communities to feel connected and not to become so self-absorbed.
Christian communities are a driving force for marriages. A number of people I know who are married met their partner at church. Problem for me is, I am agnostic and don't want to be preached at about something I don't believe in, much less be made to be a mouthpiece for something I don't believe in. What alternatives there are out there I have no idea.
@cryora Get a hobby. Join a sports club. Volunteer. Take a dance class. Learn another language and join a group or class to speak with. Join a walking or running club.
This story is very similar to stories that occur in Japan.
Yes young people living in nursing homes ..wow
@@andyroach420 - First World problems...
@sistacoin seems to be American culture now as well.
Western women
I'm autistic and very lonely. But I will say, I would love to have a professional cuddler.
I am not autistic and I have the exact same needs.
Have you thought of joining social groups? I know it is not easy
@@katarinaspies3387It’s become increasingly challenging to find actual genuine friends even in social groups nowadays
@katarinaspies3387 Sometimes it can be very difficult to find connection through that (sometimes)
My 17 yo cousin is autistic and graduating HS soon. I spent some time with him yesterday.
His sisters are busy working.... his mom unfortunately became disabled due to a stroke. So his outlets for social interactions are closing as he approaches 18.
Younger people: Social Media is awesome; it connects us all!!!
News: We are the loneliest we have ever been as a culture.
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I don't think that Social Media is doing what you think it is doing...
We can thank the internet and social media popularity.
The internet and social media is worldwide, why is this not a "lonliness" pandemic?
@@Lex-g7cit kind of is a correlation in other countries with high technology use as well like South Korea, Japan, China, and Australia.
@@oluomau.7489 exactly. And there is also a correlation between these phenomenon and low birth rates
You cannot be lonely if you enjoy being alone. I never feel lonely. Yet, my heart is heavy for all those who are.
I enjoy being alone, but during my bachelor days, I was definitely lonely. I’m now married, and I can honestly say that I don’t feel lonely very much anymore. Of course, one can and likely will experience moments or even times of loneliness even in marriage.
Good for you.
"Cuddle bot" coming soon from Tesla.
It's already in Japan
What if it malfunctions and squeezes you with 2000 psi of pressure and stays locked like that?
Nothing compares to the human touch.
@StevenSantaCruz-ix9is It's Tesla. That will likely happen, and the customer will be blamed.
@joedonamarabangali9934 I wouldn't want to be one of the first customers, though. That thing might tie you into a pretzel 🥨...
Introverted people will be fine. This is an extroverted issue being around people is exhausting. I even need a break from my husband sometimes. 🤔
I'm introverted but still yearn for love and intimacy
So introverts never get lonely....hmm yeah no lol they are human too
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@@randomdude8892yup me too.. I have no friends, no BF/husband or kids.. plus I never see my co workers in person 😟
That might be a problem with your marriage.
People suck. Thats why nobody has friends.
In today’s modern era, people stab you in theback get what they can from you betray you and screw you over every time I get lonely, but I prefer that to being hurt
America divided its own citizens
@@whatsamatteryou791 agreed. the jewish system
This was not how people felt before summer 2007 (1st iPhone)
People always sucked, but social media turned on the lights. It created echo chambers for toxic people to easily interact with other toxic people, and be told they're right, and that being a pos is fine. Fast forward a few years and now you can see clear as day how horrible and insufferable people truly are because of that light. Birth rates are plummeting across the planet now. This may truly be the end.
Figures, in the U.S. we turn EVERYTHING into a business! Let’s start a business cuddling people and take their money bc they’re lonely… The irony is that this capitalist, extremely individualistic society has led to this loneliness epidemic bc we’ve prioritized making money, greed, consumption, material things, competitiveness over people, community, relationships and connection… goodness, our society is really broken 🙁 I’m happy to see women and men are creating groups and being creative in seeking friendships & connections, but making ppl pay for connection is not ok.
That's how Karl Marx understood capitalism...it turns all products and activities into things for sale.
This is what happens when you remove religion from capitalism. How many ppl went to church and had a family of more than 2 in the 50s more than 80% and today less than 45%
I am a licensed Massage Therapist and professional cuddling looks like real easy work for me.
At the same time the client may confuse the professional relationship and boundaries.
I’d rather be withOUT people period, than be within talking/walking distance of people like at work but not be included in a conversation or being talked about behind my back….that is a lonely feeling. I e been happier retired and alone at home because now no one can talk about me behind my back and I hear them. They don’t have me to talk about any longer.
I can talk down, look down and befriend myself these days eventhough others do it to me on rare occasion.
Decrepitus, fragile, and imperfect I might well be, so here I am within internet community.
Ppl gossiping is part of life.
They talked about u before u were born
They'll talk about u after u are dead
And the whole time in-between
I'm talking about u right now
U shouldn't care or worry about talk. It's a waste of time.
Me to😂😂😂😂@@cutthechicken194
This was an issue for people on the autism spectrum way before the internet and social media was a thing, but nobody cared or cared to notice back then.
Bingo. I was born in 1990 and right before the internet, I also had the same trouble connecting with others. People just said suck it up and bullied you for their satisfaction. Ironically, when I do try to connect, people are glued to their phones. I have learned overtime to enjoy being alone. Now it is something that needs to be fixed, even though I was told to play by myself most of my childhood.
@@Drstrange3000I'm 29 I had similar issues as a young man.
It still is. What do you mean was ?
There’s a lot of safety in being alone nowadays! All it takes is one interaction with the wrong person with the wrong energy and you start losing your peace and freedom! Social media has created too many demon possessed weirdos out there!
This is where we’re at folks
I need this. This would help so much with my sleep issues.
↪️They said it: the pandemic, social media, working from home and working too much, killed in person interactions.
↪️Loved how ppl create their own group
↪️ Cuddlers are already well established in Asia
Many people just need a hug fr
Social media is the number 1 cause of loneliness
It's done on purpose and noticed people don't want to stop
Loneliness is a condition of the heart. It's when one's relationship with God isn't at a calibre where it fills one. Jesus Christ says, ' come to me all you who labour and are heavy ladden and I will give you rest'. Free. ❤
I love the Lord and I’m a strong believer but as a man it’s not good for me to be alone. Thankfully God agrees with me.
I’m from New Orleans. I live alone but in general I feel like you can’t be “lonely” here unless you try. I feel like it’s definitely a big city problem. The South is a little different in terms of community.
Loneliness has been an epidemic for years this is nothing new
God's lonely man.
@@truthseek3017😂😂😂😂😂
@@truthseek3017 have you been in a bar lately? It’s a ego fest
@@truthseek3017 If he's thirsty. I don't drink because I am not that thirsty.
This is the stupidist thing i every heard of. You get free hugs at end of church services.
lol 😂😂😂😂
I got a good chuckle out of this!! 😭
People don't go to church any longer
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This can all be solved by going to your local church
lol
Americans make a hustle out any bullshit. Its ridiculous.
True
lol true…professional cuddler! 😂
lol we gotta pay the bills it’s not hurting anyone
Asia doing this firs . Wake up😂
This epidemic will only continue to get worse. I would say this year as well. Being a 23 year old living in Toronto quality of life in Canada has also went down drastically! Everyone here is lonely and depressed but we’re good at hiding it. It’s why Ontario introduced Bell let’s talk day a couple years ago and now we even have hospitals that have to set up programs for the elderly to connect and meet online because they’re depressed and lonely when people don’t have hope things get scary.
I don't trust people. Hence I am lonely.
Most people with trust issues are usually jealous of seeing people in healthy friendships and relationships
@thenewjord50 I've gotten used to it. Whatever.
The chosen ones don't have friends
Wow. That's sad. People sell touch now.
Sad and funny at the same time
That's one of the most sweetest and adorable jobs. That must take a very empathetic soul.
Nah. It s for money.
I AM A BUSINESS MAN AND HAVE BEEN SINGLE SINCE 2013..I AM NOT LONELY ANYMORE I GOT USED TO IT. I RUN WORK OUT AND I RATHER BE ALONE THAN BEING IN TOXIC RELATIONSHIP WITH IMMATURE WOMEN WHO THINK BEEN RESPONSIBLE AND AN ADULT MAKES ME BORING.
It's hard finding new friends, but just any friends good friends.
I’m alright with being alone most of the time. In fact, I prefer it.
But I do sometimes get lonely…not just for another human being but for a human being that I genuinely like and want to grow with.
My uber driver in LA asked for a hug once. This was right after pandemic and he was really nice. Sometimes people are touch starved.
I struggle to feel sorry for these people. The studies are conclusive: social media increases feelings of loneliness and depression. Yet, for some reason, all of these adults are willing participants and users of social media. You people are quite literally doing this to yourselves. Not everyone is built for the internet, and we are clearly seeing people start to crack. If you feel lonely or depressed, GET OFF SOCIAL MEDIA! Stop making these weirdo excuses like "its how I talk to my friends from high school" when you can just pick up the phone and CALL THEM! We are living in a dysfunctional time where adults have an inability to control themselves and knowingly suffer negative consequences as a result.
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Whatever makes a dollar.
I’m an introvert INFJ and have never felt lonely. Always preferred to play by myself as a kids. Making friends makes me feel uncomfortable, like I know I’ll ghost people, and I don’t want them to feel rejected. Just would prefer to be alone. I enjoy kids company, to laugh and watch them play. I like people, just not too close to me.
That's me, but I am a Male INFP
Maybe that ridiculous hat you’re wearing has something to do with it.
I like your hat.
Trump #1 for America 😊 🇺🇸
@@QuanPookie
That hat is beautiful. 😊
I voted for Biden in 2020 and used to dislike Trump. It’s been 2 years since I’ve become a republican. You probably don’t live in a sanctuary city. If Kamala wins the migrants will get to you and you may wish Trump was running the country. I tried dropping of donations at a policy station where many of them were camping and someone opened my purse. They tried stealing from me when I was trying to help them. Give them a hand and they will take your arm.
When this first started years ago I thought it was stupid, but honestly humans need this. Especially men struggling with dating.
Heck no this is dumb beyond words can describe. If you have to pay for it then there is something seriously wrong that person
This is sad
being alone is way better then missing being alone, I'm in one of those marriage that I can never be alone. sucks
It kinda sucks that this has to even be a thing.
I’m a 30yr old kissless virgin, and even I wouldn’t want to hire a professional cuddler
Makes sense.
W the stds out here, that I’ve heard about as a healthcare worker you are missing nothing
As someone who is asexual-aromantic and HATES to be touched, I'm not sure what ‘loneliness’ feels like. More importantly, I'm not sure why that's anyone else's problem to fix. I know what severe depression, anxiety and severe PTSD and chronic pain feels like but I don't understand how people conflate ‘lonliness’ with ‘alone.’
A person could be at a concert and feel lonely.
A person can be happily single and childfree with their phone or a cat, running errands, coming back to a clean home like they left it and feel fulfilled.
When COVID hit and everyone was told to social distance, I was cool with it. 🤷
I didn't have any issues with it. I'm NOT family oriented, I like dogs and cats more than people, I utterly despise people as is and when appointments became tele-health, that new implementation became a little bit more convenient for those that didn't have transportation or didn't feel like coming in or maybe was sick, etc., which was also a good thing.
It's not anyone else's problem because saying it is is one step away from state mandated love interests and friends and that's madness, but acknowledging that doesn't make the problem go away in people. I'm a pretty romantic person so I can't relate to your aromanticism, but I had a similar reaction to the pandemic keeping us inside. It was a complicated mix of emotions though: I'm okay with lots of solitude, it's kind of the default for me as a shut-in introvert, but that's just the thing. When solitude isn't something you're choosing and is instead the default, it means less.
This isn't about not loving being alone enough, but aloneness being *all you're being subjected to, day in, and day out*. If that's just too unrelatable a problem to you, just imagine that your dogs and cats were just....gone. You were alone with yourself, well and truly. How would you feel? How would you feel if your internet connection was gone, and you couldn't express thoughts like this to anyone? Just an echo chamber party of one. Appealing? I doubt it.
@bespectacledheroine7292
Well, as much as I love dogs and cats (🐶🐱💕), unfortunately, I don't have any. I like dogs and cats more than I do people. I'm childfree (*I can't stand kids!*) but I know I'm not in position to care for a cat or dog which is why I don't have one. Plus, with the trauma I have, I feel like I'd benefit from a service dog (🐕🦺) but I'm not sure how all that works with insurance and pet food, vet bills, etc.
With that said, if someone's internet went out and they wanted an outlet, people can do the mundane suggestions they suggest to everyone else: meditate, write in a diary, go to the gym and go for a walk. That's the BS so-called "coping mechanisms" people love to suggest to people as if that BS works for everyone when it doesn't!
For me, I'd probably watch basic cable, DVD's or listen to music I have downloaded. 🤷
@@marissa._ I guess I'd alter my thought experiment to, imagine you die without ever having a service dog. If that makes you at least middlingly sad, you get loneliness somewhat. I relate to you in some key ways though, I work with dogs for a living because I find them infinitely preferable to working with people, and I'm childfree too (Not because I can't stand them, I love my nephew to pieces, I'm just too much a creature of habit living for myself to be the dependable parent a child deserves).
I've also passed a lot of time pretty happily just consuming movies/shows/music/books. But, I guess I dislike not sharing my opinions on those with anyone or hearing theirs? My opinions aren't that interesting to sustain a one way relationship with myself LOL, but I guess you find yours so? That's pretty enviable, but I'm not sure entirely achievable for the lonely lot. Even as an animal lover I get pretty uncomfortable when people say, "Just get a pet if you're lonely!" It's demanding a lot of an animal to take on the companionship another human traditionally fills. I sometimes wonder if they get smothered? Sounds silly, but I do!
@bespectacledheroine7292
Well, the same way you feel dislike when a person says, "just get a pet if you're lonely!", is the same way I feel when people demand other people to have kids. Its trauma to the body and demanding a lot of a small, helpless little human that got no say in their existence or choice in who their parents are. Its not their job/responsibility to "fill a void" someone feels.
If I were to pass away without a service animal then I just pass away. 🤷 Lol.
I mean, it's not like I was born with a service pet. Everyone passes away the same way they're born: alone. I don't think it'll make me lonely if I never get the chance to have a pet. I actually like NOT having to take care of another living thing outside of myself. I think it would be selfish and inconsiderate for me to bring another living thing into my life that I don't need, don't want, don't have the patience for, won't clean up after and can't take care of to begin with. I don't believe it'll make me "lonely" to not have those things, as I don't coincide "lonely" with "alone." Those are two different things to me. While I know I said earlier that I feel like I'd benefit from a service pet/emotional support animal, the animals feelings and wellness also have to be considered. They can't do for me if they're not good themselves.
As far as opinions, I can understand if someone is extroverted and wanted to share those opinions with like-minded people. 🤷
As someone once said, "opinions are like a-holes. Everyone has one."
Now, do I feel the need to share EVERY opinion I have out loud? No. Sometimes I do and people either agree or disagree. 🤷
I'm indifferent when it comes to sharing my opinion but if it's something I find confusing, silly, asinine or triggering or outright WRONG or something attacking my demographic (*childfree, single, celibate, asexual, disabled,*), I'm probably gonna say something. Nonetheless, I can see sharing introspective opinions and thoughts with like-minded people.
@@marissa._I’m not trying to be offensive but I’m trying to understand how ppl can love dogs but hate kids
I don’t get that
Just trying to understand
This is STRANGE!
Fake people, smartphones, and a terrible economy.
I'm tired of loneliness.
😢 Unfortunately my friend unalived himself because he moved to a new city and had no friends there.
Sorry for your loss😢
I'm sorry for your loss too bro❤
Ive been lonely for 32 years AND? Its better honestly
Wouldn’t a full body massage fulfill the same purpose?
No, because these people want be babied. Like how parents cuddle with their small children
That's a good point. 💯
I never had that and my back is stiff and sore.
@@ManChan-w5p well with a full body massage someone is touching you the entire time through massage techniques. This cuddling services like a professional massage is not a $exual service so if the idea is close touch then a massage would do it and they will be relaxed at the same time.
Everywhere there profesional massage, is very comfortable relaxing, get ride of estress, elimine headaches, muscle tension, a ful body massage is the best you will sleep like a baby.
Paying a professional cuddler is no different than paying a sex worker. Both are transactional relationships that only temporarily address the problem. Once you stop paying, you're back to square one of being lonely.
Y e s
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Well don’t stop paying
This is corny as heck, i go through bouts of loneliness, but never would i ever pay someone to touch me.
This would make me feel worse
Professional cuddler? Where do I sign up❤
Awwwwww that’s so sweet to share your energy and use it for mental peace of others 😊❤😊I LOVE IT 😊❤😊
Sometimes, a person just needs a hug. Comfort and not feeling alone respectful friendship.
I think this issue comes from people never really having to sit with themselves and learn to appreciate who they are. Our culture seems to imply that you should always be surrounded by others, and if you’re not, it must mean something is wrong. Beyond that, our society pushes the idea that we need all these things-new cars, big houses, endless material possessions-as if they’re supposed to soothe the loneliness. But all this ‘stuff’ often distracts from the real work of finding comfort within ourselves.
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This is amazing ❤
Almost shed tears watching this
The Devil tells ppl they’re lonely it’s a spiritual World My Father God is always with us and whoever is his children!
Loneliness is an epidemic in America. It seems to be a common thread in many western societies which I think has a lot to do with white culture vs others. Whites tend to view themselves as individualist and as members of the societies they’ve built, the only foundation was our own families and getting married to create a new family. Since so many of us have opted out for various reasons, we are left with nothing to hold onto as the individualistic lifestyle persists. I’ve been raised in the US and have been gifted rights and freedom. I don’t have to be subjugated to oppression in a relationship. Finding a suitor seems to be a daunting task for someone like me. So I’m just trucking along in my loneliness as it is the safest option.
It looks like you can complete some required forms or just become a citizen of another country.
Touch is important.
That's why I go to a massage therapist every Monday. $39 (plus tip) for a one hour massage. You can't beat it. It's so relaxing!! Peace.
C0rn and social media are free...
It’s cheaper than divorce and child support.
This might seem weird in today's world but being so connected nowadays makes me desire alone time, some of the best times I've had recently is when there's no one in my house for an entire day and I can exist without hearing another soul.
Even my family is overbearing, if I go too many days without talking to my parents or brothers someone will be knocking on my door or calling my wife or kids to see where I am.
I'm lowkey jealous of so called lonely people, you have no idea how good you have it not being obligated to anyone else and you can do or go where you choose without anyone asking where your going or what you're doing.
I thought about going to a professional cuddler, but with my luck I'd be laying there and getting relaxed and then I'd accidentally rip a fart and it would be over. Nobody deserves that kind of horror.
At first glance, I was like this is the dumbest thing ever. But then I realized the core issue of all the problems we have in the world today as to why greed is the primary driver of the global narrative. *WE LACK HUMANITY*
I do everything I can to interact with people, but these companies keep giving me automated phone systems and self-checkout aisles. I can’t seem to win.
I wish that there was a group of girls like that when I was in my 20s.
People gonna capitalize on loneliness
There is no such thing as a "Professional" cuddler. She made up a job and somehow earns some cash, but in no way is it professional. Give me a break...
Professional cuddler sounds like a way to get easy money from lonely people.
The power of touch! And also Oxytocin 💙
This is pathetic. Loneliness might be the result of cause and effect. Ask yourself why you've found yourself by yourself?
I've been really needing to cuddle but anytime I look at the pictures of people offering cuddles, they just give me the creeps. I wish I could ask someone I know but there would be consequences for asking someone I know 😔
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not gonna happen, who wants you
I felt the same way years ago when I considered signing up on a website for professional cuddlers. I was concerned about safety.
They're called hugs. I'm hug ambivalent and don't turn down people I know and trust a decent amount.
I feel like this would make me feel even more alone but maybe thats just me.
Elliot is playing the long game. Hang in there brother!
Underrated comment 😂
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Bro bout to be broke lol
It is over for Elliot
Sooo How does one find a professional cuddler? I’m asking for a friend.
Get a massage. Get a real therapist. This is complete bullshit.
Only in your warped imagination!
Not a good idea.
Heard this first from Japan, then 5 years later in Europe. Now 3 ;years from that now in Maryland. It's the necessary commodity of our time now.
What if I don’t feel lonely though?
I cuddle those that bring me joy.
My cat, my skis, my mountain bike, my Porsche.
We’re turning into Japan.
This is a new low...smh...
Wamen now wanting money from low smv men through onlyfools and cuddling.
This is seriously so sad.If you have to pay someone to touch you or spend time with you I mean you really should feel pretty pathetic
It's probably because they've dealt with disgusting attitudes like yours that made them turn towards things like this, though. While I wouldn't do this personally, I understand that to do this situation, a person has endured a LOT of hatred and abuse to become so scared of touch. Pathetic would be choosing to ignore their humanity. May these people find the peace they deserve, yourself included.
@@anotherhealingjourneybegins you’re absolutely right. I appreciate you.
Meanwhile I’m like I need more alone time lmao