valeriesuelove You’re right. He is trying. He is a good person. He’s also trying his best as we all are to keep mentally positive as we know this world will beat us to death if we let it. His wife needs to be more supportive or get out there and find a job too! Complaining is not going to help the situation...
None of these fine people on her should feel degraded or useless. You have alot of talents and a day will come that the tide will change. Blessings and the very best to you all.
And I'm not normally for a Dad leaving. Bless his heart but after that hateful Holiday abandonment I woulda took my kitty cat and left the lot of em. Bah. I woulda took my skills and lived in a one bedroom hovel in Miami with my cat. They all just sucked!
It broke my heart that the kids make him drop them off in the back. My father is 77 years old now & we grew up poor. Broken down cars, beat up shoes, no eating out... you get the picture. My dad struggled finding work, but he took what he could get. I was proud of him no matter what. I could have never made him feel worse by showing how embarrassed I was. That would have broken his heart. Times have changed very much 🥺
I look at an old pic of me, in my living room, as a kid. I can’t believe how poor & bare it looked! I never felt that poverty, when I lived it. We had each other (family) & we were happy. I can’t imagine treating one of my parents like Bob is treated! Family is love, a parent (& spouse) is not an atm, that is worthless, when they can’t dole out money !
It's not uncommon for kids that age to ask their parents to drop them off. Heavens forbid you you may ask for a kiss or a hug. Her attitude was quite disconcerting remarking about the car. Hey, he got you there. I had to walk.
Same here Dad worked in a steel plant, then became a janitor and owned his own cleaning company. He spoiled me with all the love in the world and was wonderful!
For the kids in the first story, you have a mother and a father. You have a roof over your head and food in the fridge. You are driven to school, not in a car as fancy as others but it works. You were not abandoned or abused. You have a father that cares and fixes your lunch every day. What else do you want!???! I wish I had half of that when I was your age!
The thing is they were rich before, and goes from rich to somewhat poor is harder to take esp if they still go to the same school. And looking at the previous lifestyle, nothing prepares them to face such situation
I love your reply and would love to paste it on the Refrigerator of this family where they could read it and maybe allow that message to sink in. However if you were raised in a Bubble, and that's all you are exposed to, than this Video shows the consequences.
This was an amazing story. Not only do I want a follow up on them, I want to know where Lisa is. I've seen her stories before. She does great interviews and stories on real life.
I had a father who left my mother broke and struggling. I would have loved to have a father around, who cared enough to try and provide for us. That family should be grateful that he's as kind and caring as he is.
Spot on. These former privelidged kids should toughen up. Those kids should learn about the real world where industry is lost to chyna and get back to basics. Learning about thrift is hard after living the high? life, but getting readjusted to the situation is what has to happen. Sel-sufficiency is what some do.
My dad lost his job in the crisis as well & has been working as a temp ever since. He’s even worked in a callcenter until he found a compatible job. His commute is almost 4 hours everyday. He’s turning 60 this year. No one can ever tell me anything about that man.
Bob’s daughters need to go to the south side of Chicago and volunteer in a soup kitchen for a few days. Maybe then they will realize and appreciate how good they still have it. Perspective is everything.
Can you imagine them being moved to the projects? 😂 lucky they have rich granny and grandpa to pay half the rent on their very big non basic/modest house as the narrator called it. I think Bob seems a great guy but 6 figures and no savings that’s dumb! He works part time and gets food stamps and rent paid they should be able to manage on this and not have to go to food bank.
They'd figure out how to make a cheap meal!Pancakes for dinner, or rice with one egg thrown in for the whole fam. Find out how the rest of the world eats!
Exactly, Im living in a third world and I've seen worst what poverty and life has to offer. Why can't americans appreciate what they are having right now?
my dad didn't want kids .he tolerated us barely .. And only provided the bare necessities for us . and resented it . didn't ever feel wanted from the get go . at least he's there for his kids and they don't even appreciate it .. He says - see you later sweet heart She says " ughhh i hate this car - slams the car door
Please try to mend things with your father. Do this for yourself so you never have to wonder if you didn’t try hard enough after he is gone. No one wants any form of regret of any kind. Just consider it.
I don’t know if Bob will see my comment but I’ll say Bob is a kind and Wonderful Man. I Love You Bob. Stay Strong 💪🏼 please because you are Loved. Everyone in the comment section let’s keep Bob in our Prayers 🤍🤍🤍
How is it possible that we are measuring a person's worth by how much their paycheck is? Bob seems like one of the best dads out there. Getting laid off can happen to anyone. This same situation happened to my own family when me and my brother were in our teens. We had to get out there and find whatever job was available and contribute to the family. We never blamed our dad for losing his job. We were proud of him and we felt it was our time to help out instead of just always depending on him. That's what a families are supposed to do, help each other in times of hardship. You only have one Dad in your life.
You and your brother were brought up right - it's the parents job to tell his / her kids something so they know what's up. In this story did they ask their oldest daughter to look for a job - no. Would this teen ask to go to work - no. So there you have it.
I agree, I know my parents work so hard..my mum she can’t sit still for nothing..she works everyday and she barely takes a day off but when she does she’s always doing something at home even when the house is clean she will find the smallest thing to do and when there’s nothing else that’s when she will rest..my parents worked very hard to get to where we are now. We are not rich, but my siblings and I do chip in for board and groceries. Once you hit a certain age that’s when you need to find a job and contribute even if you’re still staying with your parents.
I've noticed that people who never had to struggle don't handle financial,job and or health declines well. The coping skills haven't been developed. Poorer people seem always in survival mode and plan multiple ways to combat hardships . The upper middle-class and higher keep looking for their cheese refusing to believe it is gone. If their self worth is tied to their social standing or "image" they refuse to save themselves early on by ditching The "status symbols, expensive homes, materials and debt." Humility and common sense seems harder to attain the wealthier one becomes.
Very true. Poor people don't have to adjust to being poor. It is the middle class to upper middle class that can't adjust because they always had money.
Very true. Poor people are also generally more happy, more generous and more helpful to others, their families and friends. I worked with immigrant farmworkers for years and I have never met more generous, giving, appreciative people.
Yes it made me feel so sorry for him. They acted as if its been going on a life time. Guess they've forgotten about all the years he worked his butt off for them .
You guys don’t seem to understand, it’s Bob’s pride that’s causing the kids to be that way, He trying to hide the truth so he can pretend everything is fine, he raised the kids , the kids did not raise him.
CYnthia Bustamante Kids will only do and say what they KNOW they can get away with. I am not blaming him, but that why discipline is sooo important while raising kids and teaching them to be grateful. If my mom was in the car, and I said that, she would have made me walk the rest of the way. .....and I would've looked back at that moment many years later, and THANKED her for doing that. (lol) : )
It's outrageous that Bob's family deserts him on Christmas and treats him so badly. It's really selfish of them. Unfortunately, it doesn't look good for Bob because of his age. I hope things got better for him.
I hope he had a brain storm and re-branded himself for a self starting career online or elsewhere. Insurance industry means you have computer skills...how about free government sponsored re-training ? I did that at 45. I have recently lost my job, but the skills I learned within 5 years working in a truck and coach apprenticeship are still there. I also have all the tools I aquired and can transfer and adapts all of my new skills set to other work; (work I create myself by advertising for work or just advise online for others to use [you can get paid a sliding scale, depending on how many people click onto you for advice in your field(s)] Bob could, still tape into advising on insurance plans for people, today!!
His family is atrocious! Here's an idea! All the teen children get part time jobs and chip in. Mom gets a job online from home that's flexible with her cancer treatment schedule. Save on electricity by not putting up xmas lights. Have the kids refill their water bottles at the drinking fountain and take reusable bags for lunch. Rent a house without a finished basement, that's cheaper. There's a lot of money being spent that's totally unnecessary! And the kids keeping up appearances? F-that! They can catch a bus to a local public school to save on gas and get over it. I know that's harsh...but families should work together and support one another. Why is this all on Bob???
Kids are just kids. This, unfortunately is a good lesson for them. They will be stronger people..... but if my kids, after everything the family has been through, said “I hate this car” ... I would have stopped the car, got out, and she would have been given a fierce pep talk !
Truth Hurts: I totally agree. I grew up poor and started working part time at age 14. My mom has pancreatic cancer and she worked full time as a secretary until she could retire, despite going for chemo every other week. My dad was a lot like Bob in that after he was laid off he never let his pride interfere with him doing jobs others might find beneath them in order to support our family (night custodian, pumping gas, golf caddy, handyman, etc). I’m super grateful for the family I was blessed to have, despite our financial difficulties. I really hope his kids feel the same way.
I hate it that the children are ashamed of their father. Such ungrateful kids. At least their father is living breathing within reach. How many children are missing fathers who are no longer among the living.
@@redneckblackheart What's really sad is she's old enough to get a part time job. Even one day during the weekend would help, and she'd probably feel better about herself too. I could never sit back while my family suffered like that.
Dederina . My thoughts exactly. The kids are crying for the past, not thinking how they can make things better. Both are old enough to help. But they’re just feeling sorry for what they have lost. I grew up in England after the WW2, we were seven kids in our family, I was four years old, when it ended, my father used to say to us ‘You’re alive! Think lucky’. Poor Bob. He shouldn’t be so hard on himself, just turn his kids into survival mode. ps. My Dad grew most of our food, all organic in those days. We had to paint the chicken house.😂. I could write a book. haha.
@@wanderinggeri8477 yes really. he is doing his best and the family is together because they are all Good Christians. They know family values and the importance of family over material things.
Some people just don't know what struggling looks like if you have food to eat and shelter you are fine. I feel bad for Bob because his family is blaming him for unfortunate events instead of eating humble pie. You do what you have to do until you can do better. Privilege is something else.
Monticelle Scates it’s so sad. How many relationships were damaged and will be during this. Very sad. We matter outside what material we bring to the table or lack there of.
@@samezidrovibes Men should be the new house-husbands, let women work while we stay home raising kids. They are more social anyhow, guys prefer a cave. I'll never take heat from a boss just so I can take heat from a wife for not taking ENOUGH heat from my boss.
Bob's family is the worst. That is not downsizing. They have a huge house, every one has their own bedroom, they have a car, the dad makes them lunches, and they still complain and are ungrateful. My family lived 8 people in a 2 bedroom apartment with 1 bathroom and we kids pitched in by working after school.
Bob should dump his wife and find a woman and family who will appreciate his contribution to the family. He is helping and doing for the family. He’s not responsible for the change in economy or end to his position.
@@longislandartist No, if reads these comments, he can see that he doesn't need to view himself through their eyes as a failure. He should read all these comments and see that everyone is on his side and that he has worth as a human being apart from producing money for them.
The female forklift worker ..this took place in 2012 I think....shame on her she should have owned a home and she admitted to blowing her money......easy she should have at least $100.000.00 in savings or 401K and money in a home that if she had to sell it even she could have made money from that....she is not totally screwed it said that she had had a union job...with most of those jobs at 55 or 60 you can start to collect ur pension.....
Why? People like him caused this whole thing and now they whine about it. They did NOTHING when all was right in their world. The writing was on the wall decades ago when industry shipped production to China. The people could have stopped that but did nothing so too bad Stop crying.
I agree . Life's courses brought me to take control of my dream and family when that last paycheck came and gone I started my own lawn service and got free equipment fixed them up and worked them til I got new
I know so many children out here and mothers out here that would kill for a father/partner like Bob. The ungratefulness of his family hurts my heart. Positive thoughts create positive realities.
What is wrong with these people blaming poor Bob for this robbery. Is he an ATM? So what they only loved him when he was making 6 figures? No wonder our world is so messed up. From the macro level down to the micro level, there is no sympathy
Sympathy? Oh god, no. Haha, except now homelessness is the new normal. Maybe people will be nicer once half the country is on cardboard with their dog, but don't hold your breath.
The daughter saying, "I hate this car", then walk or take the bus. You should feel blessed to have a car. Some don't have one! She looks like she has her own room, they had to downgrade well at least you still have a decent home. Seems like a bunch of ungrateful people in Bob's family. These kids and his wife REALLY don't have a clue! They just want the lavish lifestyle they had!
Marie parker Omg I felt the same way! Some kids walk or ride the bus! Their “modest” home is better than being out in the st. Count your blessings some people don’t have a roof over their heads
We never had a car and were the poorest in our neighborhood - never treated my dad like dad. Once I started working at 16 I gave him money to help with the rent. Paid my own college and now live in a “neighborhood “ but I taught my kids everything could go south anytime and family makes you happy not material stuff
I know ! That really pissed me off. If that was me , I’d drive straight to the front and then beep once they started walking in and yell “ Mommy loves you !!!” 😆 embarrassing your kids is priceless. If they don’t like it , they can walk to school ! I’ve been driving beaters my whole life , so has my parents. I never cared.
I would have never left my dad alone. Once, there was a party, it was going to be a great party I got up very happy that day and had my outfit picked and everything. I learned daddy wasn't going cause he needed to work that day, mom said he had to go cause we needed money, I told her I wasn't going to the party anymore, I put on regular clothes and went to work with dad and participated on whatever I could, I could tell in his face he was so happy and felt so appreciated. I will always love you daddy RIP.
@@ritasf4510 good story. You won by spending that time with him. That memory is far richer than any party. And, as a dad, I can say you made him incredibly proud that day!
They should be so lucky to even have a roof over their head. Better teach them early not to be so materialistic. I had a job in school and if I wanted something I paid for it.
Marie Taylor Looked to me that Bob’s family was living in a very nice home compared to the average American. Her parents paid the rent. Those children could do some type of work as well as going to school. They probably could budget their food expense. Only one doing everything was Bob and he was the only one that looked normal weight. You can save a lot of money if you plan your meals correctly and you don’t add in lots of ready to eat food. Bob is a very devoted spouse and father.
You dont know their marital issues. My moms father died in 2005 and my dad didnt go up north with me, my mom, nd my brother because he was selfish. So sad. He was always jealous of my mothers family.
10:00 Bob, from the Netherlands, in EU, there's someone very proud of you, for the time and these little sweet things you do for your kids. You HAVE a place in heaven. your 'worth' as a father and a husband doesn't even go down a bit in my eyes. You are a wonderful person, even without that ton of cash you could haul with an 'executive' job. Being a janitor, though being sadly underpaid, is an important job. What people would do if no one would tidy up and take the trash out?? we live in a sad world of ungratitude.... I pray for you!!!
Exactly. Seems the wife is a spoiled person. I would never leave my husband home alone for Christmas! Even if we didn't get along. I'd tell mom and dad to ...
hi hippiechick, I don't think he is doing everything possible. He looks for good paying jobs, or jobs he wants, instead of a full time job. And as this was aired back in 2012, he was out of a job for 4 years! I know it was tough on him to loose his job and the strain it caused for himself and his family. Also, I don't know why his in-laws are treating him badly. I can guess though! Was there a follow up on this video, about Bob? Where is he now? I'd like to know, and hope he and his family are doing well.
My husbands first car was a 2003 Nissan Maxima and I remember how happy and grateful we were that we could finally take the kids anywhere they wanted. He took us to the beach for our first trip. You should’ve seen our smiles. We appreciate him so much. Bob deserves better.
America has been declining for years now. The gap between the rich and the poor began getting wider. COVID wasn’t what caused this mess. It was the straw that broke the camels back.
This was 2012, Covid wasn’t even heard of!! This is when the banks turned things upside down and inside out! And the rich bankers still got their bonuses!
This was a result of the financial collapse of 2008, many people including myself lost good jobs which never came back. I was unemployed for 2 years (thankfully I had savings) and I wasn't able to get a job based on my experience so I had no choice but to work for minimum wage at Target. I continued applying for better jobs until I got one which paid a lot more than Target. I still live as if I was making minimum wage and I save/invest 50% of my income. I'm still working but if I had got laid off due to the Coronavirus epidemic I would have been fine.
His daughter is ungrateful, entitled and selfish, and his wife seems like the tree that she fell from. Seems like he’s doing everything possible to recover. Yet, instead of pulling together as a team, all they do is complain. They hate their life compared to what it used to be, but still have much more than many other Americans. When you have this type of family, nothing is ever good enough. He probably ran out of money so quickly because he didn’t manage money wisely and overspent trying to keep his ungrateful family happy, and keep up with the Jones.
Walladah Muhammad you’re right! No one was grateful for anything. Just feeling sorry for themselves. They’re still living in a decent nice home. Over eating and bad diet is not helping. The girls can work now. The wife can encourage and pray for her husband. He’s doing his best. Most of all they should be thankful. It can get worse. No house, no car, he can get sick etc.
They shouldn't have lived in that fancy neighborhood. 6 figure income... should have been saving most of it and living in a modest home in the area. There are more reasonable areas in the NW suburbs than Lake Frikin Bluff
If my kid would told me ,'' I hate this car". I woulda told her, '' you can walk for all I give a damn''. Bob's family is all jacked up. He has an employee mindset that's why their suffering. His wife is a complainer and their kids are weak as hell. If I see my parents hurting financially i'm gonna become entrepreneurial. I would wash cars, cut lawns, cut hair, sell things online. These kids are entitled weak crybabies . Only the strong survive that maxim is stronger today than ever in human history !
Me. It's 24 August 2020. The pendemic CoronaVirus19 is here and may stay till 2022. It's like the Spanish Flu in 1918-1920. Followed by the Great Depression till 1929.
@ummi yep history repeating itself. There's always been trouble in this old world and will continue to be. The more we live plain and simple the better off we'll be.
@@justanotheralmaroad1923 The older I get, I realised it @ 50yo. Husband and I are downsizing our 147m2 unit to a probable 70-90m2 unit soon. We'll have to wait a while. Now's not a good time to sell. Buyers are hard to get.
This poor man. He should drive his children to the front of the school, and refuse to carry such a heavy burden of shame. He provided for his family and the 2009 meltdown wasn't his fault.
I agree but what annoys me is his family's attitude. He stated that this has put a strain on his marriage, his in-laws don't speak to him and his kids are ashamed of the car he drives. Don't they all see that he's doing the best he can under the circumstances? When he was making a telephone number salary, he was the perfect father and provider but once he lost that high-paying job, he is huge failure. Trashy ungrateful family.
his kids and wife are the worst...when they were eating high on the hog they wasnt complaining how 4 years hes down they are turning aganist him smh..I am all about my paper and loyality but this is just wrong smh
He is such a good man, how could he marry that so called wife, and let her raise those kids to be such lowlives, shame on them to make this man feel so small! Unforgivable and disgusting behavior
My heart goes out to these folks, l remember the days when we barely made it. Thank God my husband and sons are all master electricians. We are blessed.
This is a teachable moment. This is why saving is important. Don’t buy a giant house you can’t afford and fill it with stuff you don’t need. He was making great money, the family should have lived cheaper and bought a house they could pay off, a car that was cheaper, save for an emergency. Instead you created spoilt entitled kids and a selfish wife.
Wasteful Hussy very hard for many to save living pay check to pay check. Many citizens cannot save for even a $400 emergency. The system is and has been a failure.
My family and I went through something similar when I was in Highschool. At the time I was selfish and didn’t understand and I’m ashamed on how I acted. Looking back Im SO grateful that my parents did everything they could and we still had food in the table. I was and still am so blessed and in debt to them 🙏🏼
⚡️I hope All the families are doing well and their situations have improved. I pray that God will give each individual the strength and courage needed to face the difficulties and challenges they are going through. May He bless everyone with health, happiness and prosperity! ✨🙏🏽💖
Sure👌 I vaguely remember the timber industry was having difficult times 1990. A few of those lumber towns folded-!!!😳. Remember when Pittsburgh & steel related cities folded-???🤔.
When Bob said he felt like the value of himself was going down when he was unable to continue to providing the same life for his family - that was so sad.
Bob, keep fighting, learn new skills on line, upgrade your resume, go on the interview, when decline ask them for tips to do better on your next interview, don’t give up and family don’t give up on your husband,father.
The United States Congress and State governments need to enforce the age discrimination laws they choose to ignore. It is against the law to discriminate against older people but it happens frequently. Most older people who get laid off, whether in personal or in-mass layoffs, have difficulty getting another job because, if they are over 40, they're considered old by today's employers' and corporations' standards. Loss of homes, unemployment benefits that run out, and homelessness follows. Even worse, older people are forced to take early Social Security at age 62 instead of waiting until 66. When they have no choice but to take early monthly SS checks, they lose at least 25% of SS income for as long as they live. Women, living on SS, are probably the highest numbers living in poverty in the USA. For many decades, businesses have been disloyal when they discriminated against competent, loyal employees in favor of employing younger, less costly and skilled workers. This scenario continues against older workers today. I pray our government will help the elderly who became poor due to being shut out of decent employment opportunities and suffer this terrible loss of SS benefits they were entitled to previously.
However, I do wonder how Bob was when he had all of that money. Was he as empathetic as we are about his situation? Was he kind to the poor or did he turn his nose up and treat them like rodents? Makes you wonder doesn't it?🤔
Madison, you’re 16. If you hate the car so much you can go out and get a part time job and save money to buy your own car. When keeping up with the Joneses goes wrong.
This is hardship for them? My parents lived through the depression. I worked for a year and saved for a car when I was 17. Never expected my parents to pay for anything. Get used to it. It isn't going to get any better.
More and more people might face a tough time in retirement. Low-paying jobs, inflation, and high rents make it hard to save. Now, middle-class Americans find it tough to own a home too, leaving them without a place to retire.
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Wish they could do a follow-up on these families! Would love to hear how their journeys have continued, including how these experiences have shaped these kids who are now young adults.
They are an upgrade family. When he had it all they didn't have a problem. The Little man feels the pain. I think he wants his family to be together. They should appreciate Bob making lunch. There are children who are worse off than them. As long as you keep blaming and not appreciating the blessing you have right now. God will keep you in the struggled
Amina Siffoi or drop you to have a real struggle, they’re living in a nice house and going to the same school. Oh they would feel a worse struggle if I were their parents.
The wfe wonders when the good times are coming... She doesn't realize they have had it. They had experiences that people who are in their economic situation will never have. Even though their life has changed they have family that have them living much better then those without. The father doesn't directly control the job market. The family as a team could create a job or jobs to help.
Poor guy 😥. He seems like a great dad and husband. His family doesn't appreciate him. They should be grateful. I have seen men that have a lot of money and still don't do for their families as much as this guy does.
What do you mean "when does the positive stuff come". Pretty sure it was pretty positive and you wasn't complaining when he was bringing home 6 figures and ya was living in an huge house. Some people are just so unappreciative and ungrateful.
Thank you I was thinking the same thing. Like you had decades and not one person thought to I don't know save not rent a multi million dollars homes and all the jazz. Smh she thought she had the golden egg and now she is like what good are you even though you took care of me for decades.
Her memory is short. They had the positive " stuff" on Jersey. Spoiled and entitled, she should be extremely grateful to have a mate during hardship. There should be a follow up on these cases.
Why is the Wife and her family blaming the Dad. He lost his job , he wasn’t fired and he’s trying his best to do what he can. So the wife loves him when he can provide and when he can’t, then turns her back on him. This guy loves his children and I hope the children realize how lucky they are to have a father like him , who would do anything to support his children. BTW why doesn’t the wife work , and his teenage kids should work too.
That really got up my nose also. It seems as though their love has a dollar value and it can be bought. You can take the trash out of the trailer but they remain trailer trash!
I am seeing this documentary on 2024. Mr. Bob is an excellent person , good father, good husband and is treated so bad. My prayers for him and his children and that today they may have a better situation.
I never resented my husband when he lost his job. It was out of his control. I got a part time job and we managed, he later got a job and it worked out. Bob's family is horrible. They were spoiled and now they're thankless. He deserves better. His family is selfish 😒
It's one thing the kids, but his wife to be so resentful and basically make him sleep in the basement (it was also clear he was hinting they were not intimate) is disgusting. This dude stuck with you while you were sick, and this is how you react? This is the problem of patriarchy alot of people don't want to address, how most women view men only as a side wallet.
Easy to blame. Look with bigger vision JOBs. Jobs. Benefits and pension for retirement?? Where is it. No leaders talk about it. They only talk about Abortion/LGBT/Racism. Real problems are ignored due to Filthy wealthy corporation investors influencing leaders mind.
The wife just needs to be grateful. At least the dad is doing what he can! He is a jewel of a man! At least he has a car! That is a praise! If you have a roof over your head, food in your belly, and clothes on your back, you are blessed! They have a running vehicle - wow! That’s a praise!
I agree. Bob seems a very thoughtful and caring person who does not do any bad/harmful things to him or to his family. His family should be more appreciative to him.
Living poor in a wealthy area inflicts pain on the entire family . That family is trying to live in the past and they are slowly dying. Those kids could have made new friends and taken jobs like other working-class kids with a sense of pride.
The wife, “When is the good stuff gonna come?!” Seriously lady, you had the good stuff. You clearly didn’t appreciate it because it seems like nothing was ever enough. I hope Bob is doing better. Kids are kids. I hope they understand now how hard their dad was trying. I’m really sad for Annette too. She really wanted to do something that was so important. I hope everyone was at least able to do better until Covid 😔
I wish they'd do a follow-up so I could see how my boy Bob is doing. Really rooting for that guy. His wife and in-laws could be living under a bridge for all I care.
Bob is trying, I pray he’s in a better place. I pray they’re all in better places! 🙏🏽 please Lord watch over all of us that are struggling as the world is going through this again in 2020
Bob needs more than Prayer. God helps them who help themselves, He has to take a job doing whatever or retrain at VoTech. Sometomes this retraining is free and businesses have agreements with the school to hire students after graduation.
What an awful attitude to allow this selfish daughter to have - "I hate this car" as she gets out. She sounds like her Mom. It's all about Kylie Jenner and the lifestyle.
I finally got a new (to me car) after driving my other one for 20+ years. I got it cheap on a neighborhood listserv, when the daughter of the seller (a college student) needed a better car. I will take that car gladly, due to low mileage and cheap maintenance and big enough space to be able to live out of the car (if ever necessary). Yes, I always assume paychecks will stop and so I buy my cars with the thought in mind, can I sleep in it with my dog and have space to my essentials. Growing up as poor as I did, I never assume there is money to buy groceries.
Ikr! I don't even have a car because I can't afford the car insurance, gas and maitenance. Me and my 2 girls have to walk almost everywhere we go. So yeah I'd be as happy as a lark to own a vehicle.
This is why even when times were good, we always lived below our means. We never bought new cars or took lavish vacations. I had an old flip phone when people I knew making less money than me were buying the latest and greatest new techy thing.
Experiences yes - lavish? Not important to me - but if you have lots of savings & choose 'lavish' - to each his own. going to unique & fun places with your family can build wonderful memories. how others spend their money is up to them. But only if they have a huge savings account for emergencies.
I slept on the couch of a one bedroom trailer until 7th grade. Then a twin bed in the hallway of a bigger trailer. Never had a room of my own. At 12 years old started babysitting to buy shoes for school. I was blessed I didn't know how poor we were. If I ever said "I hate this car" I would be beaten with a belt. Worked my way through college. Gratitude moves us forwar. These kids had it too good for too long. Remaining in their school with more fortunate friends can't be healthy. Bob and his family have not let go of their old life. I have experienced downsizing and accepting a whole new location, career and lifestyle is beneficial. WE don't know the whole story. I wonder if the wifes family see opportunities for Bob in South Carolina. I pray for Bob and his family. May the church provide counseling and solace for them all.
This is what is truly SAD! They are lucky to have grandparent's to help sustain them! Placing the burden on the husband it totally UNFAIR! If it were possible, those teenager's should be working part-time jobs after school, rather then being upset with dad, because he was FIRED from his job and there was NOTHING he could do about it! Parent's had better start interacting with their children REALITY BASED! Informing them how our government SCREWED us with NAFTA, and other devastating policies AGAINST everyday working Americans! These thoughtless kids better realize, the jobs that their parents had decades ago, they won't even realize, they will probably still be living at home with their Parents! Parent's STOP SPOILING your Children, let them face reality with you, and what they can expect when they become young adults, wanting to SPREAD their wings!
Oh my God, the family is not on the streets unlike some other people, be appreciative for what you have; your mom, dad, sister and family is healthy. The family needs God in their life. God bless you!
because no matter how liberal america looks on the outside, they are still conservative on the inside and one of the ways this shows up is in gender roles: women expect their husbands to always be strong and never fail. the women feel ashamed and resentful if their husbands can't "be a man".
Felicia George Because in the economic crisis it turned out that no one had ever saved. Everyone was leasing cars and had homes and mortgages that were way to expensive
“The damage already has been done “, Lisa ,what is wrong with humans ? My wife and I both lost our jobs .moved to live with my mother for 2 years , we sucked it up and 4 years later we live and are in a better place .Our love is definitely much stronger and have a much fulfilling life as one .Be kind to others
I volunteer once a month at a foodbank that has served as many as 150 families a week. Anyone who makes fun of those who are struggling are horrible people - they just need to wait - their time will come. Because pain and sorrow hits us all at one time or another.
She never loved him truly. My uncle became disabled about 10 years ago due to work injury. My aunt has been supporting the house by herself all of these years because she knows that my uncle cannot work at all. Not once has she complained and she suffers from a cardiovascular condition. They have been together for 38 years.
@WHATS YOURSOC ohh yeah no they are definitely from last century. He is her first and only man so that is real love right there. They are both in their 50's. Nowadays you don't see that type of love often.
I’m so glad I grew up so poor. Today I have a few more dollars than my parents did and in a few more years hope to have my house paid off. I basically had nothing as a kid and committed myself to having something when I grew up. I think thats called perspective.
Same here. My mother was a hard working woman but she struggled like most single parents do. We were evicted multiple times it was humiliating and demeaning. It made me determined not to ever relive that reality again. Being poor as a child gave me perspective and drive.
I grew up so poor we didn't have running water or heating. Gradually, we struggled to get from sheer abject poverty to just poor. I built my house in 1966 and did the work myself. Took forty years to get it completed. Now the property taxes are more than my social security retirement income.
@@jameseverett4976 Agreed, and I've been saying that on my blog for years. Homes are not stocks that should be traded for profit. Home is shelter, constancy, security.
My family went through this in the 80s. Dad lost his job making good money. And we moved into poverty but we managed it fine. We kids worked and helped. It worked out fine
söder bröder I’m Trump supporters. I’m working classes, I work since I was 16, legal immigrant and not depend on government assistance because I have social security to work. Don’t judge people life style because no one know their fortune up or down.
His in-laws made the choice too to pay the rent. Their daughter and grandchildren are family. But, given he is not blood and even with his part time job they look upon him as being nothing. If he is looking for work constantly, what else can they expect from him?
@@jacquelinemcgrathcurtis2787 Welll, maybe.Bob is not exactly a go-getter even in the best of times. At least he stuck with his family when his wife got the big C. I don't know tho, separate beds... That's the second to last stage of a mrg..
Bob should have looked into being a corrections officer. Decent pay, full benefits with a modest pension. He has the face, build, and disposition for it.
This is America. Too superficial and materialistic. You don't hve to be in a new car to get where u need to go. We teach our kids that name brands is a must. God give us wealth to help others.
TundraWoman Says u may never taught them that but do you "correct" them. Most families I'm noticing rarely raise children to understand what's right and wrong that's the problem.
WoW! The lady in Everett Washington sure spent her life and money like it was never going to end! But, she's making it work. Better late than never when you are learning a valuable lesson.. praying for us poor people. ❤
In “Merica”, (I hate that) “1 in 6 people do not know if they will eat today”. When I lost my career I took the year to look for work. I also was on a team that started a free health clinic, volunteered at the food pantry, and prayed... a lot. At the end of that year in my mid fifty’s I took a minimum wage no benefits job working at a plastics plant in the automotive industry. After 20+ years in healthcare this was my new career path. I’ve now been working full time with benefits for the past 7 years. Life has changed, my wife has been with me every step of the way. I keep in mind that just like before nothing in life is guaranteed. Live within your means, stay out of debt, save what you can, and count your blessings.
These children need to stop complaining both of their parents are still able to draw breath ! You should have to live my life and leave what I have gone through ! I have never worked a day in my life and I am in a wheelchair with cerebral palsy . The doctor said I wouldn't be able to live past my first year but I survived by the grace of God . My dad worked for 27 so he can have a house just like that who died before he was able to really enjoy the house that worked his whole life to get. All you have is sit there and make do with what you have, there is nothing wrong with driving around in an old car. The lesson here is be the ant and not the grasshopper! In my book that is a beautiful home so why is everybody being such a snob. Some people just don't know how easy they really have it. At the end of the day all cars and houses are just sheet metal brick and mortar. Would you really need to worry about is how you going to take care of your family in the end of the day! It doesn't matter what it looks like as long as you get you from point A to point B and, you have a safe place to lay your head at the end of the day! We need to get our attraction the glitz and glamour out of our head! All that really matters are the essentials. If you want anything else you got to work for it. The moral of the story is always work to improve but, be grateful for what you have because you can always lose it. how Hard times breed more champions than privilege. 😎
ElijahEjTurbo Russ completely agree! I try and practice mindfulness every day and it helps. Even though I rent and would like to have just a modest home, I don’t and probably won’t. But I’m grateful for the home we do have and the happiness me and my partner share. But I fear things will get much more challenging with Covid and our economic future. Watching this documentary made me shudder about our current future.
I can't say this enough folks, but when times are good, live as far beneath your means as you can and squirrel some money away, for times won't always be good. And stop keeping up with the Jones's, because they're a misstep away from the cliff just like you are.
It's not that easy, when you have a culture that is specifically tailored for the Middle Class. All you have to do is compare the amount of Roads we have. Versus Bike Trails or Passenger Train lines. Saving Money is just a 3-6 month patch. In a long-term Economic issue. A fallacy of "Personal Responsibility." When everyone else won't hold their end of the bargain.
I would never act this way towards my dad or husband when I know he’s trying. They are so ungrateful. This might’ve been the best thing to happen to them to show them how to be humble and see what hard times are like. I hope Bob divorced his wife.
I feel for him but the key is to always live below your means. They did not have to live in the first neighborhood. The job incentivised it but it wasnt mandatory. He created spoiled kids and a spoiled wife by thinking that his whole self worth as a man was to have money and throw it at his family. Had he lived modestly despite his paycheck and saved the excess that he was wasting hed be in a better situation. But you can see the pain in his eyes and it is absolutely heartbreaking. I hope it gets better for him.
@@shayslay3416 Always spend less then you bring in. Save and invest the rest. Its finance and accounting 101. If you don't plan for emergencies your gonna be very very sorry.
Exactly, it’s not his fault that his position was axed and the economy crashed. When he moved from NJ he didn’t think he would end up in the position, they were living a dream that turned nightmare. He immediately tried to find a good job, but the job market is terrible. His wife and her parents blame him for something that’s out of his control?? FOH
He’s a good Papa. I don’t care what his in-laws think, the neighbors think. This man is trying. He’s not giving up. THAT’S what a good father does.
i agree- the family got spoiled and they should be supportive of their father-he is a very good man. It starts with the wife. its not bobs fault
valeriesuelove You’re right. He is trying. He is a good person. He’s also trying his best as we all are to keep mentally positive as we know this world will beat us to death if we let it. His wife needs to be more supportive or get out there and find a job too! Complaining is not going to help the situation...
Aidan is the sweet, most loveliest boy ever.
He has a very good heart.
I wonder how they are doing now.
None of these fine people on her should feel degraded or useless.
You have alot of talents and a day will come that the tide will change.
Blessings and the very best to you all.
And I'm not normally for a Dad leaving. Bless his heart but after that hateful Holiday abandonment I woulda took my kitty cat and left the lot of em. Bah. I woulda took my skills and lived in a one bedroom hovel in Miami with my cat. They all just sucked!
It broke my heart that the kids make him drop them off in the back.
My father is 77 years old now & we grew up poor. Broken down cars, beat up shoes, no eating out... you get the picture. My dad struggled finding work, but he took what he could get. I was proud of him no matter what. I could have never made him feel worse by showing how embarrassed I was. That would have broken his heart. Times have changed very much 🥺
I look at an old pic of me, in my living room, as a kid. I can’t believe how poor & bare it looked! I never felt that poverty, when I lived it. We had each other (family) & we were happy. I can’t imagine treating one of my parents like Bob is treated! Family is love, a parent (& spouse) is not an atm, that is worthless, when they can’t dole out money !
It certainly has😞
It's not uncommon for kids that age to ask their parents to drop them off. Heavens forbid you you may ask for a kiss or a hug. Her attitude was quite disconcerting remarking about the car. Hey, he got you there. I had to walk.
Same here Dad worked in a steel plant, then became a janitor and owned his own cleaning company. He spoiled me with all the love in the world and was wonderful!
Ahh come on its very common for teen girls to feel embarrassed about everything.
For the kids in the first story, you have a mother and a father. You have a roof over your head and food in the fridge. You are driven to school, not in a car as fancy as others but it works. You were not abandoned or abused. You have a father that cares and fixes your lunch every day. What else do you want!???! I wish I had half of that when I was your age!
Fricking lil Karens in the making
The thing is they were rich before, and goes from rich to somewhat poor is harder to take esp if they still go to the same school. And looking at the previous lifestyle, nothing prepares them to face such situation
I love your reply and would love to paste it on the Refrigerator of this family where they could read it and maybe allow that message to sink in. However if you were raised in a Bubble, and that's all you are exposed to, than this Video shows the consequences.
@@Hugo411 Hugo411 Not been taught a sense of Gratitude.
I agree. I think they just moaned bc of the deep fall they had. It was a shock for them that's why they were so sad.
Who’s watching this in 2024?.
I am❤this is sad
And a reminder of our current times sadly
Seems a bit hard to feel sorry for them in 2024 doesnt it?
This is why to pay the mortgage 100%. Paying for property tax and insurance is much cheaper than paying rent.
This was an amazing story. Not only do I want a follow up on them, I want to know where Lisa is. I've seen her stories before. She does great interviews and stories on real life.
I had a father who left my mother broke and struggling. I would have loved to have a father around, who cared enough to try and provide for us. That family should be grateful that he's as kind and caring as he is.
Spot on. These former privelidged kids should toughen up. Those kids should learn about the real world where industry is lost to chyna and get back to basics. Learning about thrift is hard after living the high? life, but getting readjusted to the situation is what has to happen. Sel-sufficiency is what some do.
Amen.
My dad lost his job in the crisis as well & has been working as a temp ever since. He’s even worked in a callcenter until he found a compatible job.
His commute is almost 4 hours everyday. He’s turning 60 this year.
No one can ever tell me anything about that man.
@@linmal2242 got myself a tomato garden & canned foods let alone metals..... not all young gens are privileged.
I relate to you so much I went through something similar too
Bob’s daughters need to go to the south side of Chicago and volunteer in a soup kitchen for a few days. Maybe then they will realize and appreciate how good they still have it. Perspective is everything.
Can you imagine them being moved to the projects? 😂 lucky they have rich granny and grandpa to pay half the rent on their very big non basic/modest house as the narrator called it. I think Bob seems a great guy but 6 figures and no savings that’s dumb! He works part time and gets food stamps and rent paid they should be able to manage on this and not have to go to food bank.
They'd figure out how to make a cheap meal!Pancakes for dinner, or rice with one egg thrown in for the whole fam. Find out how the rest of the world eats!
I agree Daniella. They seem a bit snooty. Getting out of the car saying how much they hate the car. What brats.
Exactly, Im living in a third world and I've seen worst what poverty and life has to offer. Why can't americans appreciate what they are having right now?
I pained when she said she hated the car. I understand life is different for a teenager, but having a working car is a blessing.
I haven't seen my father in over ten years. I have no idea what's like to have a caring and dedicated father as Bob. His family doesn't deserve him
I didn't have a dad growing up. We tried having a relationship a few times but it didn't work.
My father don't ask for me and my kids
my dad didn't want kids .he tolerated us barely .. And only provided the bare necessities for us . and resented it . didn't ever feel wanted from the get go . at least he's there for his kids and they don't even appreciate it .. He says - see you later sweet heart
She says " ughhh i hate this car - slams the car door
Me also
Please try to mend things with your father. Do this for yourself so you never have to wonder if you didn’t try hard enough after he is gone. No one wants any form of regret of any kind. Just consider it.
I don’t know if Bob will see my comment but I’ll say Bob is a kind and Wonderful Man. I Love You Bob. Stay Strong 💪🏼 please because you are Loved. Everyone in the comment section let’s keep Bob in our Prayers 🤍🤍🤍
How is it possible that we are measuring a person's worth by how much their paycheck is? Bob seems like one of the best dads out there. Getting laid off can happen to anyone. This same situation happened to my own family when me and my brother were in our teens. We had to get out there and find whatever job was available and contribute to the family. We never blamed our dad for losing his job. We were proud of him and we felt it was our time to help out instead of just always depending on him. That's what a families are supposed to do, help each other in times of hardship. You only have one Dad in your life.
You and your brother were brought up right - it's the parents job to tell his / her kids something so they know what's up. In this story did they ask their oldest daughter to look for a job - no. Would this teen ask to go to work - no. So there you have it.
Very well said!
I feel so bad for Bob too! He's doing the best he can. They should be grateful!
I agree, I know my parents work so hard..my mum she can’t sit still for nothing..she works everyday and she barely takes a day off but when she does she’s always doing something at home even when the house is clean she will find the smallest thing to do and when there’s nothing else that’s when she will rest..my parents worked very hard to get to where we are now. We are not rich, but my siblings and I do chip in for board and groceries. Once you hit a certain age that’s when you need to find a job and contribute even if you’re still staying with your parents.
Sad but true. Society judges us by our jobs, bank account, whether we are married with children or not.
I've noticed that people who never had to struggle don't handle financial,job and or health declines well. The coping skills haven't been developed. Poorer people seem always in survival mode and plan multiple ways to combat hardships . The upper middle-class and higher keep looking for their cheese refusing to believe it is gone. If their self worth is tied to their social standing or "image" they refuse to save themselves early on by ditching The "status symbols, expensive homes, materials and debt." Humility and common sense seems harder to attain the wealthier one becomes.
Very true. Poor people don't have to adjust to being poor. It is the middle class to upper middle class that can't adjust because they always had money.
Very true. Poor people are also generally more happy, more generous and more helpful to others, their families and friends. I worked with immigrant farmworkers for years and I have never met more generous, giving, appreciative people.
Linda Curry I agree 💯💯💯
This is true. And notice the suicide rate is higher for these people as well.
I swear you said a mouth full.
They treated Bob like crap. Ridiculed the car, not grateful for his job efforts, left him at Christmas. Ungrateful family. Shame.
Spoiled kids you got it. At least you had a car you could have been walking and make your own dam lunch
@@Pamela-jh7sh She needs a part time after school Job.
Yes it made me feel so sorry for him. They acted as if its been going on a life time. Guess they've forgotten about all the years he worked his butt off for them .
Agree, very ungrateful family.
You guys don’t seem to understand, it’s Bob’s pride that’s causing the kids to be that way, He trying to hide the truth so he can pretend everything is fine, he raised the kids , the kids did not raise him.
I would LOVE a follow up video about "Where Are They Now?".
He's a great father. If I told my parents I hate this car. Then their telling me to walk. Wife & kids are kinda ungrateful.
Yup
When the daughter said he hates his car that is very mean
CYnthia Bustamante Kids will only do and say what they KNOW they can get away with. I am not blaming him, but that why discipline is sooo important while raising kids and teaching them to be grateful. If my mom was in the car, and I said that, she would have made me walk the rest of the way. .....and I would've looked back at that moment many years later, and THANKED her for doing that. (lol) : )
if he was great he wouldnt be so poor
@@juanshaftpatel7488 point well taken (lol). (smile).
It's outrageous that Bob's family deserts him on Christmas and treats him so badly. It's really selfish of them. Unfortunately, it doesn't look good for Bob because of his age. I hope things got better for him.
I hope he had a brain storm and re-branded himself for a self starting career online or elsewhere. Insurance industry means you have computer skills...how about free government sponsored re-training ? I did that at 45. I have recently lost my job, but the skills I learned within 5 years working in a truck and coach apprenticeship are still there. I also have all the tools I aquired and can transfer and adapts all of my new skills set to other work; (work I create myself by advertising for work or just advise online for others to use [you can get paid a sliding scale, depending on how many people click onto you for advice in your field(s)] Bob could, still tape into advising on insurance plans for people, today!!
--SELFISH WIFE AND CHILDREN, WERE'S THE LOVE OF FAMILY,.....................................
His family is atrocious! Here's an idea! All the teen children get part time jobs and chip in. Mom gets a job online from home that's flexible with her cancer treatment schedule. Save on electricity by not putting up xmas lights. Have the kids refill their water bottles at the drinking fountain and take reusable bags for lunch. Rent a house without a finished basement, that's cheaper. There's a lot of money being spent that's totally unnecessary! And the kids keeping up appearances? F-that! They can catch a bus to a local public school to save on gas and get over it. I know that's harsh...but families should work together and support one another. Why is this all on Bob???
Kids are just kids. This, unfortunately is a good lesson for them. They will be stronger people..... but if my kids, after everything the family has been through, said “I hate this car” ... I would have stopped the car, got out, and she would have been given a fierce pep talk !
Truth Hurts: I totally agree. I grew up poor and started working part time at age 14. My mom has pancreatic cancer and she worked full time as a secretary until she could retire, despite going for chemo every other week. My dad was a lot like Bob in that after he was laid off he never let his pride interfere with him doing jobs others might find beneath them in order to support our family (night custodian, pumping gas, golf caddy, handyman, etc). I’m super grateful for the family I was blessed to have, despite our financial difficulties. I really hope his kids feel the same way.
I hate it that the children are ashamed of their father. Such ungrateful kids. At least their father is living breathing within reach. How many children are missing fathers who are no longer among the living.
Well you know how it is when there is a bill on the table. Ungrateful brat.
@@redneckblackheart What's really sad is she's old enough to get a part time job. Even one day during the weekend would help, and she'd probably feel better about herself too. I could never sit back while my family suffered like that.
He is doing something that family is trash
Dederina . My thoughts exactly. The kids are crying for the past, not thinking how they can make things better. Both are old enough to help. But they’re just feeling sorry for what they have lost. I grew up in England after the WW2, we were seven kids in our family, I was four years old, when it ended, my father used to say to us ‘You’re alive! Think lucky’. Poor Bob. He shouldn’t be so hard on himself, just turn his kids into survival mode. ps. My Dad grew most of our food, all organic in those days. We had to paint the chicken house.😂. I could write a book. haha.
I wonder how much comes from Mommy, and Grandpa and Grandma...
Bob is doing his best . This is when the family need to let him know he is still the head of the family & he is still needed .show some love ❤️
Is Bob doing his best…Really?
@@wanderinggeri8477 HE COUKD D0ONBETTER, GET A JOB AT WALMART, GET HIS LICENSE AND DRIVE A VUS OR TRUCK. GET REAL ESTATE LIVWNSE SEKL HOMES,
@@wanderinggeri8477 yes really. he is doing his best and the family is together because they are all Good Christians. They know family values and the importance of family over material things.
Wasn't his fault.
Bobs face is so red he must be on the drink.
Some people just don't know what struggling looks like if you have food to eat and shelter you are fine. I feel bad for Bob because his family is blaming him for unfortunate events instead of eating humble pie. You do what you have to do until you can do better. Privilege is something else.
I don't feel bad for him at all. He's soon going to be single and divorced and holy crap is he going to start loving life again.
yup i agree. and why the wife dont work to help her husband? sorry theres no excuse not to work or do something in a side.
Monticelle Scates it’s so sad. How many relationships were damaged and will be during this. Very sad. We matter outside what material we bring to the table or lack there of.
@@samezidrovibes Men should be the new house-husbands, let women work while we stay home raising kids. They are more social anyhow, guys prefer a cave. I'll never take heat from a boss just so I can take heat from a wife for not taking ENOUGH heat from my boss.
Bob's family is the worst. That is not downsizing. They have a huge house, every one has their own bedroom, they have a car, the dad makes them lunches, and they still complain and are ungrateful. My family lived 8 people in a 2 bedroom apartment with 1 bathroom and we kids pitched in by working after school.
Big difference... Y'all had a grateful attitude and worked as a team. That's family !
They are the epitome of ungrateful. Vile, entitled and cold.
Bob should dump his wife and find a woman and family who will appreciate his contribution to the family. He is helping and doing for the family. He’s not responsible for the change in economy or end to his position.
Well now he's depressed, TOO. GOOD JOB, GUYS!!!!
@@longislandartist No, if reads these comments, he can see that he doesn't need to view himself through their eyes as a failure. He should read all these comments and see that everyone is on his side and that he has worth as a human being apart from producing money for them.
Bob was very brave to do that interview. I pray for him and his family.
I applaud him.
Pray for all of US. We are headed to the 1930’s Great Depression
The female forklift worker ..this took place in 2012 I think....shame on her she should have owned a home and she admitted to blowing her money......easy she should have at least $100.000.00 in savings or 401K and money in a home that if she had to sell it even she could have made money from that....she is not totally screwed it said that she had had a union job...with most of those jobs at 55 or 60 you can start to collect ur pension.....
I wondered what happened to them. Did the wife survive. What happened to Bob. I could never do this interview it would be too hard,
What good is praying going to do. Exactly nothing.
I hope Bob is in a better place in 2024 🫶
Amen
Why? People like him caused this whole thing and now they whine about it. They did NOTHING when all was right in their world. The writing was on the wall decades ago when industry shipped production to China. The people could have stopped that but did nothing so too bad Stop crying.
I agree . Life's courses brought me to take control of my dream and family when that last paycheck came and gone I started my own lawn service and got free equipment fixed them up and worked them til I got new
Where's Lisa Ling.
I DONT KNOW WHY HE DIDNT GO GET INSURANCE LICENSE OR REAL ESTATE LICENSE AND SELL HOMES/
I know so many children out here and mothers out here that would kill for a father/partner like Bob. The ungratefulness of his family hurts my heart.
Positive thoughts create positive realities.
Bob hopefully filed for divorce or his wife did. Because being in that family? MISERABLE.
What is wrong with these people blaming poor Bob for this robbery. Is he an ATM? So what they only loved him when he was making 6 figures? No wonder our world is so messed up. From the macro level down to the micro level, there is no sympathy
The Truth Will Set You Free ♥️
Exactly! He is a good man, give him a break smh
Sympathy? Oh god, no. Haha, except now homelessness is the new normal. Maybe people will be nicer once half the country is on cardboard with their dog, but don't hold your breath.
Bob, i hear you. I feel you
I agree 100%, for American people being poor is something to be ashamed of, no money, no worth.
The daughter saying, "I hate this car", then walk or take the bus. You should feel blessed to have a car. Some don't have one! She looks like she has her own room, they had to downgrade well at least you still have a decent home. Seems like a bunch of ungrateful people in Bob's family.
These kids and his wife REALLY don't have a clue! They just want the lavish lifestyle they had!
Marie parker
Omg I felt the same way! Some kids walk or ride the bus! Their “modest” home is better than being out in the st. Count your blessings some people don’t have a roof over their heads
We never had a car and were the poorest in our neighborhood - never treated my dad like dad. Once I started working at 16 I gave him money to help with the rent. Paid my own college and now live in a “neighborhood “ but I taught my kids everything could go south anytime and family makes you happy not material stuff
Take the bus you entitled brat. How dare his daughter.
I know ! That really pissed me off. If that was me , I’d drive straight to the front and then beep once they started walking in and yell “ Mommy loves you !!!” 😆 embarrassing your kids is priceless. If they don’t like it , they can walk to school ! I’ve been driving beaters my whole life , so has my parents. I never cared.
Those kids are so spoiled and selfish ..white privilege at its best .
If my parents don’t want to invite my husband for the holidays I’m not going without him 😔 incredibly sad for Bob 😭
Good
not only as a wife, but also as a child I couldn´t left one parent alone during christmas
I CANNOT BELIEVE SHE WOULD LEAVE HER HUSBAND ALONE FOR CHRISTMAS!!!!!!!! Bob, you need a new wife and a new life!
I would have never left my dad alone. Once, there was a party, it was going to be a great party I got up very happy that day and had my outfit picked and everything. I learned daddy wasn't going cause he needed to work that day, mom said he had to go cause we needed money, I told her I wasn't going to the party anymore, I put on regular clothes and went to work with dad and participated on whatever I could, I could tell in his face he was so happy and felt so appreciated. I will always love you daddy RIP.
@@ritasf4510 good story. You won by spending that time with him. That memory is far richer than any party. And, as a dad, I can say you made him incredibly proud that day!
I REALLY ADMIRE THIS OLD COUPLE IN THE FARM. THEY STICK TOGETHER THRU THICK AND THIN. GOD BLESS THEM BOTH😇
very adaptable ppl. they had some homesteading skills before the fall-out though it looks like. very neat ppl...I like their lifestyle.
Unfortunately, the rich don't know how to be poor. They are not equipped mentally for the fall.
Most of them grew up poor. You don't know what you're talking about.
Rosa Denson Very well said!
80% of millionaires are self made and didnt grow up with wealth.
Too bad, this is what they voted for. Reap what you sowed!
my thoughts exactly...
Shame on Bob's family.
Shame on them.
Bob is doing a great job.
Oh and Hey kids....
Don't like the car? walk.
Walk.
Yes!
Exactly
Damn straight!
They should be so lucky to even have a roof over their head. Better teach them early not to be so materialistic. I had a job in school and if I wanted something I paid for it.
@@zsam8095 that's right!
Bob's case was savage. Material things & keeping up an image means nothing.
A family united in gratitude is what matters most.
What kind of spouse leaves her husband alone for the holidays because her parents have issues with him? I hope Bob is in a better place in 2020!
Marie Taylor Looked to me that Bob’s family was living in a very nice home compared to the average American. Her parents paid the rent. Those children could do some type of work as well as going to school. They probably could budget their food expense. Only one doing everything was Bob and he was the only one that looked normal weight. You can save a lot of money if you plan your meals correctly and you don’t add in lots of ready to eat food. Bob is a very devoted spouse and father.
she wants to leave bob, but shes too old and no one wants her
A_ DissidenT I think they’re referring to financial stability.
Marie Taylor yea I hope Bob himself is doing better but sadly since the pandemic there will be many more situations like this
You dont know their marital issues. My moms father died in 2005 and my dad didnt go up north with me, my mom, nd my brother because he was selfish. So sad. He was always jealous of my mothers family.
10:00 Bob, from the Netherlands, in EU, there's someone very proud of you, for the time and these little sweet things you do for your kids. You HAVE a place in heaven. your 'worth' as a father and a husband doesn't even go down a bit in my eyes. You are a wonderful person, even without that ton of cash you could haul with an 'executive' job. Being a janitor, though being sadly underpaid, is an important job. What people would do if no one would tidy up and take the trash out?? we live in a sad world of ungratitude.... I pray for you!!!
I don’t know why those in-laws are treating this dad so bad. Shame on them, he is doing everything possible.
Exactly. Seems the wife is a spoiled person. I would never leave my husband home alone for Christmas! Even if we didn't get along. I'd tell mom and dad to ...
They probably feel like he is not trying hard enough to find another job. My heart hurts for his family
It's not their responsibility to pay a 55-year old man's bills. Unless, they're billionaires, it's a real problem.
hi hippiechick, I don't think he is doing everything possible. He looks for good paying jobs, or jobs he wants, instead of a full time job. And as this was aired back in 2012, he was out of a job for 4 years! I know it was tough on him to loose his job and the strain it caused for himself and his family. Also, I don't know why his in-laws are treating him badly. I can guess though! Was there a follow up on this video, about Bob? Where is he now? I'd like to know, and hope he and his family are doing well.
Lmao
No he's not
My husbands first car was a 2003 Nissan Maxima and I remember how happy and grateful we were that we could finally take the kids anywhere they wanted. He took us to the beach for our first trip. You should’ve seen our smiles. We appreciate him so much. Bob deserves better.
America has been declining for years now. The gap between the rich and the poor began getting wider. COVID wasn’t what caused this mess. It was the straw that broke the camels back.
So true, yes indeed
Rebecca Philantrope 💯
This was 2012, Covid wasn’t even heard of!! This is when the banks turned things upside down and inside out! And the rich bankers still got their bonuses!
We have never had a lot but have always been grateful for what we have. Life is so much more than big houses and lots of money.
This was a result of the financial collapse of 2008, many people including myself lost good jobs which never came back. I was unemployed for 2 years (thankfully I had savings) and I wasn't able to get a job based on my experience so I had no choice but to work for minimum wage at Target. I continued applying for better jobs until I got one which paid a lot more than Target. I still live as if I was making minimum wage and I save/invest 50% of my income. I'm still working but if I had got laid off due to the Coronavirus epidemic I would have been fine.
Once the paycheck was gone they treated him so bad. I am a bit upset this isn’t talked about more. Family is family. Money or no money. That’s sad.
It shows his wife's true colors. If not for her cancer I'm sure she would have deserted him and the kids and run off with another man.
Pretty sure the wife s parents egg it on and the children are being brainwashed into thinking Dad is not good enough....that s f up!
monica aguilera How can you treat someone so bad when they have been there for you and have reached this point through no fault of his.
@@paulettemorgan9959 I agree tho
At least he is trying to work. His wife should be more understanding.
His daughter is ungrateful, entitled and selfish, and his wife seems like the tree that she fell from. Seems like he’s doing everything possible to recover. Yet, instead of pulling together as a team, all they do is complain. They hate their life compared to what it used to be, but still have much more than many other Americans. When you have this type of family, nothing is ever good enough. He probably ran out of money so quickly because he didn’t manage money wisely and overspent trying to keep his ungrateful family happy, and keep up with the Jones.
Walladah Muhammad That ungrateful family spent this man into bankruptcy far more than the lay-off ever did. He needs to cut them loose.
Walladah Muhammad you’re right! No one was grateful for anything. Just feeling sorry for themselves. They’re still living in a decent nice home. Over eating and bad diet is not helping. The girls can work now. The wife can encourage and pray for her husband. He’s doing his best. Most of all they should be thankful. It can get worse. No house, no car, he can get sick etc.
They shouldn't have lived in that fancy neighborhood. 6 figure income... should have been saving most of it and living in a modest home in the area. There are more reasonable areas in the NW suburbs than Lake Frikin Bluff
If my kid would told me ,'' I hate this car". I woulda told her, '' you can walk for all I give a damn''. Bob's family is all jacked up. He has an employee mindset that's why their suffering. His wife is a complainer and their kids are weak as hell. If I see my parents hurting financially i'm gonna become entrepreneurial. I would wash cars, cut lawns, cut hair, sell things online. These kids are entitled weak crybabies . Only the strong survive that maxim is stronger today than ever in human history !
Lil Lion so true. This is what happens when you raise a family on material things instead of instilling values.
These kids are spoiled. There are way worse off people. Be grateful for what you have, and NEVER be ashamed of your dad for doing the best he can!!!
Moral of the story: Do not live beyond your means, and always save for a rainy day.
And props for that Dad. Shame on that mother and children.
He Bob wasn't living beyond his means!
People always sit in the judgement seat until something bad happens to them.
Shame on his in-laws. Not inviting him to Xmas? That's absolutely cruel.
Let me tell ya you’re only one misfortune away from this and I don’t criticize it because I’ve experienced a little of it and it sucks
U must BE white! YOUr perspective in it BEing that simple IS special. I worked and saved ALL MY LIFE with that exact plan in mind
Who's watching this in 2020 where things are worse than ever & during a pandemic? I pray for everybody struggling right now. 🙏📿🕯️
Me.
It's 24 August 2020.
The pendemic CoronaVirus19 is here and may stay till 2022.
It's like the Spanish Flu in 1918-1920. Followed by the Great Depression till 1929.
@ummi yep history repeating itself. There's always been trouble in this old world and will continue to be. The more we live plain and simple the better off we'll be.
🙏🏻Lord please help Bob and his family. Please help all of us in this COVID19 pandemic.🙏🏻
(He is a great, hard-working DAD!!!)
@@justanotheralmaroad1923
The older I get, I realised it @ 50yo.
Husband and I are downsizing our 147m2 unit to a probable 70-90m2 unit soon. We'll have to wait a while. Now's not a good time to sell. Buyers are hard to get.
all they did was kick the can down the road in 2008 well we caught up to the can on the road and ts gong to be so much this time
This poor man. He should drive his children to the front of the school, and refuse to carry such a heavy burden of shame. He provided for his family and the 2009 meltdown wasn't his fault.
I agree but what annoys me is his family's attitude. He stated that this has put a strain on his marriage, his in-laws don't speak to him and his kids are ashamed of the car he drives. Don't they all see that he's doing the best he can under the circumstances? When he was making a telephone number salary, he was the perfect father and provider but once he lost that high-paying job, he is huge failure. Trashy ungrateful family.
his kids and wife are the worst...when they were eating high on the hog they wasnt complaining how 4 years hes down they are turning aganist him smh..I am all about my paper and loyality but this is just wrong smh
He is such a good man, how could he marry that so called wife, and let her raise those kids to be such lowlives, shame on them to make this man feel so small! Unforgivable and disgusting behavior
Long Live the Septinsular Republic I couldn’t agree with you more, I am so sad for him.
I agree that poor poor man Bob what a family man this is bad news needs to keep praying ✝
My heart goes out to these folks, l remember the days when we barely made it. Thank God my husband and sons are all master electricians. We are blessed.
This is a teachable moment. This is why saving is important. Don’t buy a giant house you can’t afford and fill it with stuff you don’t need. He was making great money, the family should have lived cheaper and bought a house they could pay off, a car that was cheaper, save for an emergency. Instead you created spoilt entitled kids and a selfish wife.
I CAN'T clap ENOUGH! NOTHING but TRUTH.👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏
Yes! 1,000%
Wasteful Hussy very hard for many to save living pay check to pay check. Many citizens cannot save for even a $400 emergency. The system is and has been a failure.
@Kai Wong Exactly, they needed him to play the part.
Yes, be frugal! There is no other way!!!
I started to make my own lunches when I was 12. Breakfast by myself earlier. These kids need to learn how to do things themselves.
Yes. And say "thanks for a ride" instead of "I hate this car."
My family and I went through something similar when I was in Highschool. At the time I was selfish and didn’t understand and I’m ashamed on how I acted. Looking back Im SO grateful that my parents did everything they could and we still had food in the table. I was and still am so blessed and in debt to them 🙏🏼
Who else would like to have a 2024 update on Bob❓
Honestly I'm worried about him. His story is a lot of people's story, and a big contributor to rates of self harm in this country.
I hope he is okay & his family stayed together
HOPEFULLY THEY ARE DOING BETTER NOW AND WIFE IS. HEALED !!
⚡️I hope All the families are doing well and their situations have improved. I pray that God will give each individual the strength and courage needed to face the difficulties and challenges they are going through. May He bless everyone with health, happiness and prosperity! ✨🙏🏽💖
Sure👌 I vaguely remember the timber industry was having difficult times 1990. A few of those lumber towns folded-!!!😳. Remember when Pittsburgh & steel related cities folded-???🤔.
When Bob said he felt like the value of himself was going down when he was unable to continue to providing the same life for his family - that was so sad.
shame on kids and wife really. that's the time family stands together yet they act their ATM machine just broke and cannot live with a broken machine.
Bob, keep fighting, learn new skills on line, upgrade your resume, go on the interview, when decline ask them for tips to do better on your next interview, don’t give up and family don’t give up on your husband,father.
Man. I’m sorry Bob, I don’t think you deserve this treatment.
None of us deserve bad treatment...no matter what!
The United States Congress and State governments need to enforce the age discrimination laws they choose
to ignore. It is against the law to discriminate against older people but it happens frequently. Most older people who get laid off, whether in personal or in-mass layoffs, have difficulty getting another job because, if they are over 40, they're considered old by today's employers' and corporations' standards. Loss of homes, unemployment benefits that run out, and homelessness follows. Even worse, older people are forced to take early Social Security at age 62 instead of waiting until 66. When they have no choice but to take early monthly SS checks, they lose at least 25% of SS income for as long as they live. Women, living on SS, are probably the highest numbers living in poverty in the USA. For many decades, businesses have been disloyal when they discriminated against competent, loyal employees in favor of employing younger, less costly and skilled workers. This scenario continues against older workers today. I pray our government will help the elderly who became poor due to being shut out of decent employment opportunities and suffer this terrible loss of SS benefits they were entitled to previously.
I wonder how Bob and his family are doing now, eight years later? I hope things are better. If he had a Gofundme right now, I’d donate to it.
However, I do wonder how Bob was when he had all of that money. Was he as empathetic as we are about his situation? Was he kind to the poor or did he turn his nose up and treat them like rodents? Makes you wonder doesn't it?🤔
Madison, you’re 16. If you hate the car so much you can go out and get a part time job and save money to buy your own car.
When keeping up with the Joneses goes wrong.
Or take the bus or walk.
She can walk
This is hardship for them? My parents lived through the depression. I worked for a year and saved for a car when I was 17. Never expected my parents to pay for anything. Get used to it.
It isn't going to get any better.
she has to understand that there are people who cannot even afford cars..she should be thankful she even has transportation
@@amydong2586 Four years I had no car as a single mom with 2 boys. Used my bike with a trailer or the bus.
More and more people might face a tough time in retirement. Low-paying jobs, inflation, and high rents make it hard to save. Now, middle-class Americans find it tough to own a home too, leaving them without a place to retire.
This is precisely why I like having a portfolio coach guide my day-to-day market decisions: with their extensive knowledge of going long and short at the same time, using risk for its asymmetrical upside and laying it off as a hedge against the inevitable downward turns, their skillset makes it nearly impossible for them to underperform. I've been utilizing a portfolio coach for more than two years, and I've made over $800,000.
How can I reach this person?
Marisa Michelle Litwinsky’’ is her name. She is regarded as a genius in her area and works for Empower Financial Services. She’s quite known in her field, look-her up.
I checked Marisa up out of curiosity and i must say i am impressed by her Credentials. i emailed her already, waiting on her response.
@@PatrickFitzgerald-cx6ioyou have been reported for your bs
Wish they could do a follow-up on these families! Would love to hear how their journeys have continued, including how these experiences have shaped these kids who are now young adults.
They are an upgrade family. When he had it all they didn't have a problem. The Little man feels the pain. I think he wants his family to be together. They should appreciate Bob making lunch. There are children who are worse off than them. As long as you keep blaming and not appreciating the blessing you have right now. God will keep you in the struggled
Amina Siffoi or drop you to have a real struggle, they’re living in a nice house and going to the same school. Oh they would feel a worse struggle if I were their parents.
The wfe wonders when the good times are coming... She doesn't realize they have had it. They had experiences that people who are in their economic situation will never have. Even though their life has changed they have family that have them living much better then those without. The father doesn't directly control the job market. The family as a team could create a job or jobs to help.
Amen😳😳😳
Amina Siffoi- Amen sister!!
verrryyy verry true
Poor guy 😥. He seems like a great dad and husband. His family doesn't appreciate him. They should be grateful. I have seen men that have a lot of money and still don't do for their families as much as this guy does.
Agree.
Bob, is a father that some kids would give up the money for a loving parent. Bob is a gem. Life will get better.
100%
Heaven will help Bob eventually, I guarantee.
What do you mean "when does the positive stuff come". Pretty sure it was pretty positive and you wasn't complaining when he was bringing home 6 figures and ya was living in an huge house. Some people are just so unappreciative and ungrateful.
Thank you I was thinking the same thing. Like you had decades and not one person thought to I don't know save not rent a multi million dollars homes and all the jazz. Smh she thought she had the golden egg and now she is like what good are you even though you took care of me for decades.
Nadiea Ellison People who have find it more difficult to become people who haven’t!
Karma... ungrateful af
Her memory is short. They had the positive " stuff" on Jersey. Spoiled and entitled, she should be extremely grateful to have a mate during hardship.
There should be a follow up on these cases.
when he was working she wasnt complaining now he down she acting up smh..people go thru ups and down..smh
Why is the Wife and her family blaming the Dad. He lost his job , he wasn’t fired and he’s trying his best to do what he can. So the wife loves him when he can provide and when he can’t, then turns her back on him. This guy loves his children and I hope the children realize how lucky they are to have a father like him , who would do anything to support his children. BTW why doesn’t the wife work , and his teenage kids should work too.
his wife was in a 5 year battle with cancer. hard times either bring us closer together or drive people apart.
Typical Eve character, they want the whole materialistic world.
Yep I said the same when he was strong horse they ride on his bk
That really got up my nose also. It seems as though their love has a dollar value and it can be bought. You can take the trash out of the trailer but they remain trailer trash!
Amen not talking to him how negative stuck up spoiled little b**** that's all that is
“It’s called the American Dream because you have to be asleep to believe it.”
George Carlin
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#FACTS
I wish Georgie Carlin was alive now. 😢
I am seeing this documentary on 2024. Mr. Bob is an excellent person , good father, good husband and is treated so bad. My prayers for him and his children and that today they may have a better situation.
I never resented my husband when he lost his job. It was out of his control. I got a part time job and we managed, he later got a job and it worked out. Bob's family is horrible. They were spoiled and now they're thankless. He deserves better. His family is selfish 😒
It's one thing the kids, but his wife to be so resentful and basically make him sleep in the basement (it was also clear he was hinting they were not intimate) is disgusting. This dude stuck with you while you were sick, and this is how you react? This is the problem of patriarchy alot of people don't want to address, how most women view men only as a side wallet.
Easy to blame. Look with bigger vision JOBs. Jobs. Benefits and pension for retirement?? Where is it. No leaders talk about it. They only talk about Abortion/LGBT/Racism. Real problems are ignored due to Filthy wealthy corporation investors influencing leaders mind.
The wife just needs to be grateful. At least the dad is doing what he can! He is a jewel of a man! At least he has a car! That is a praise! If you have a roof over your head, food in your belly, and clothes on your back, you are blessed! They have a running vehicle - wow! That’s a praise!
8 minutes in and the ungratefulness of his family makes me sick. They have ZERO idea what suffering is.
It's because it's tough being young too; even kids are competitive and cruel. Sad fact in America, so try God / Jesus.
I know that's why my kids are out at 18.
yup, spoiled and entirely self-focused, oh wo is me
i hope the inlaws have an evil death!
Welcome to the USA that’s why marriage is down
Having a father who cares enough, doing his best. Amazing person that means more than "material things"
I agree. Bob seems a very thoughtful and caring person who does not do any bad/harmful things
to him or to his family. His family should be more appreciative to him.
Living poor in a wealthy area inflicts pain on the entire family . That family is trying to live in the past and they are slowly dying. Those kids could have made new friends and taken jobs like other working-class kids with a sense of pride.
Bless this man. He's a man to be admired because he is an honest man.
I will say it over and over, people don't have empathy until it happens to them.
Every person that complains about their job should watch this. Make you appreciate it.
The wife, “When is the good stuff gonna come?!” Seriously lady, you had the good stuff. You clearly didn’t appreciate it because it seems like nothing was ever enough. I hope Bob is doing better. Kids are kids. I hope they understand now how hard their dad was trying. I’m really sad for Annette too. She really wanted to do something that was so important. I hope everyone was at least able to do better until Covid 😔
The good stuff is already there. A husband who will do whatever it takes to support his family.
@@marthasimons7940 Except give up his executive dreams. It's time to look for a different market.
@@rosebud0391 Did you miss the part where they told you he was working as a janitor?
He continues to send redume's.
I was thinking the same thing. You had the good stuff.
I wish they'd do a follow-up so I could see how my boy Bob is doing. Really rooting for that guy. His wife and in-laws could be living under a bridge for all I care.
I really want to know if Bob is okay. This was shot in 2012. I wonder if he is OK. Hope so.
Bob is trying, I pray he’s in a better place. I pray they’re all in better places! 🙏🏽 please Lord watch over all of us that are struggling as the world is going through this again in 2020
Bob needs more than Prayer. God helps them who help themselves, He has to take a job doing whatever or retrain at VoTech. Sometomes this retraining is free and businesses have agreements with the school to hire students after graduation.
Lisa Ling is an American treasure. I remember when she started out on The View, I thought, ‘she’s way too good for this.’ A true journalist.
This series was an amazing journalism.
The older couple is truly an inspiring story wow
They left Bob alone at Christmas?!??? That’s heartbreaking 😢 they’re lucky to have a Father. I hope Bob is doing well now
We don't know what happened...there seems like there was more to it than we were privy to, I think.
@Moogie B seriously?
Moogie B omg! How do you know?
When they got back I would have been gone. It's much easier to take care of yourself then 5 ungrateful people.
I wonder how Bob is doing? He can get a job in Indiana
That so called crappy car is a whole lot better than most people have. Spoiled spoiled kids. They don't know how the average people live.
Bobs kids weren’t spoiled just the daughter. The youngest was crying and the oldest said he will be grateful
What an awful attitude to allow this selfish daughter to have - "I hate this car" as she gets out. She sounds like her Mom. It's all about Kylie Jenner and the lifestyle.
I finally got a new (to me car) after driving my other one for 20+ years. I got it cheap on a neighborhood listserv, when the daughter of the seller (a college student) needed a better car. I will take that car gladly, due to low mileage and cheap maintenance and big enough space to be able to live out of the car (if ever necessary). Yes, I always assume paychecks will stop and so I buy my cars with the thought in mind, can I sleep in it with my dog and have space to my essentials. Growing up as poor as I did, I never assume there is money to buy groceries.
Ikr! I don't even have a car because I can't afford the car insurance, gas and maitenance. Me and my 2 girls have to walk almost everywhere we go. So yeah I'd be as happy as a lark to own a vehicle.
They are the average people. They just can't come to terms with it.
This is why even when times were good, we always lived below our means. We never bought new cars or took lavish vacations. I had an old flip phone when people I knew making less money than me were buying the latest and greatest new techy thing.
Experiences yes - lavish? Not important to me - but if you have lots of savings & choose 'lavish' - to each his own. going to unique & fun places with your family can build wonderful memories. how others spend their money is up to them. But only if they have a huge savings account for emergencies.
My heart is literally breaking for BOB! How can his family be so disgusting to him. ALSO their daughter is 16 she can get a DAMN JOB!
I feel for Bob. Do you think he's reaping what he sowed, with his family?
What do you mean - reaping what he saw? He seems to be a great guy. And they seem to be treating him as less than
Sowed*
She can buy her own car! See how much she can afford
Or his wife???
I slept on the couch of a one bedroom trailer until 7th grade. Then a twin bed in the hallway of a bigger trailer. Never had a room of my own. At 12 years old started babysitting to buy shoes for school. I was blessed I didn't know how poor we were. If I ever said "I hate this car" I would be beaten with a belt. Worked my way through college. Gratitude moves us forwar.
These kids had it too good for too long. Remaining in their school with more fortunate friends can't be healthy.
Bob and his family have not let go of their old life. I have experienced downsizing and accepting a whole new location, career and lifestyle is beneficial.
WE don't know the whole story. I wonder if the wifes family see opportunities for Bob in South Carolina.
I pray for Bob and his family. May the church provide counseling and solace for them all.
Facts: they have a roof over their head, food on the table and 2 parent home. They are crying for missed wealth....nothing more.
yes
This is what is truly SAD! They are lucky to have grandparent's to help sustain them! Placing the burden on the husband it totally UNFAIR! If it were possible, those teenager's should be working part-time jobs after school, rather then being upset with dad, because he was FIRED from his job and there was NOTHING he could do about it!
Parent's had better start interacting with their children REALITY BASED! Informing them how our government SCREWED us with NAFTA, and other devastating policies AGAINST everyday working Americans! These thoughtless kids better realize, the jobs that their parents had decades ago, they won't even realize, they will probably still be living at home with their Parents!
Parent's STOP SPOILING your Children, let them face reality with you, and what they can expect when they become young adults, wanting to SPREAD their wings!
Did I see a roast and mashed potatoes hey it's a car
Troll on Doll Chops
Did she say 1200 a mth.smh
Barb and Tink are truly amazing inspiring souls… love and light ❤
Oh my God, the family is not on the streets unlike some other people, be appreciative for what you have; your mom, dad, sister and family is healthy. The family needs God in their life. God bless you!
If your shopping cart has all 4 wheels and u can drag it down the street with relative ease, you're not doin' too bad at all!.
It wasn’t the husband’s fault that he was laid off. Why is the family taking it out on him?? So not fair.
No there is a lot of unfair going around.
Exactly!!! It could happen to anybody and why were they not saving? For something like this listen nothing in life is guaranteed but death just saying
And now 2020 we in the middle of a "pandemic" smh
because no matter how liberal america looks on the outside, they are still conservative on the inside and one of the ways this shows up is in gender roles: women expect their husbands to always be strong and never fail. the women feel ashamed and resentful if their husbands can't "be a man".
Felicia George Because in the economic crisis it turned out that no one had ever saved. Everyone was leasing cars and had homes and mortgages that were way to expensive
“The damage already has been done “, Lisa ,what is wrong with humans ? My wife and I both lost our jobs .moved to live with my mother for 2 years , we sucked it up and 4 years later we live and are in a better place .Our love is definitely much stronger and have a much fulfilling life as one .Be kind to others
I'm happy for u guys
I volunteer once a month at a foodbank that has served as many as 150 families a week. Anyone who makes fun of those who are struggling are horrible people - they just need to wait - their time will come. Because pain and sorrow hits us all at one time or another.
She never loved him truly. My uncle became disabled about 10 years ago due to work injury. My aunt has been supporting the house by herself all of these years because she knows that my uncle cannot work at all. Not once has she complained and she suffers from a cardiovascular condition. They have been together for 38 years.
@WHATS YOURSOC ohh yeah no they are definitely from last century. He is her first and only man so that is real love right there. They are both in their 50's. Nowadays you don't see that type of love often.
You work, because work is the only way..Work is the American Dream..
That's how my parents did things when my mom was disabled in a car accident. They were really a team
I wish there was a "where are they now" episode for this. I genuinely wish at least some of these good people are struggling a little less now.
I’m so glad I grew up so poor. Today I have a few more dollars than my parents did and in a few more years hope to have my house paid off. I basically had nothing as a kid and committed myself to having something when I grew up. I think thats called perspective.
Same here. My mother was a hard working woman but she struggled like most single parents do. We were evicted multiple times it was humiliating and demeaning. It made me determined not to ever relive that reality again. Being poor as a child gave me perspective and drive.
Second that Don! Because I grew up poor everything is an upgrade for me!
I grew up so poor we didn't have running water or heating. Gradually, we struggled to get from sheer abject poverty to just poor. I built my house in 1966 and did the work myself. Took forty years to get it completed. Now the property taxes are more than my social security retirement income.
@@basspig Property is all owned by the state now, and you just pay rent on it. We need to abolish property tax
@@jameseverett4976 Agreed, and I've been saying that on my blog for years. Homes are not stocks that should be traded for profit. Home is shelter, constancy, security.
My family went through this in the 80s. Dad lost his job making good money. And we moved into poverty but we managed it fine. We kids worked and helped. It worked out fine
Us too.
If you're not a strong family at your best, you're not ready for the strain of the worst
Are they trying to drive Bob into having a heart attack? Frustration, disappointment and worry is understandable. Why place all the blame on Bob.
Is she trying to help Bob? Or is she a heavy weight
You would be surprised what humans do to one another when they are unhappy and demanding.... which is one of the reasons I didn't have kids.
What wife and children leave their DAD alone on Christmas? That’s just poor character, not economics.
@söder bröder - STFU - you really showed your ignorance with such a remark.
@@nunya2954 I just checked out his channel. Bashing Trump is all he does. Unfortunately there's a lot of them out there.
söder bröder I’m Trump supporters. I’m working classes, I work since I was 16, legal immigrant and not depend on government assistance because I have social security to work. Don’t judge people life style because no one know their fortune up or down.
@@divinefeather1 - He/she is apparently comprehension handicapped, this video has nothing to do with Trump. Thus his original comment is ignornant.
In laws are vilifying the father
Bob did his best for 20 years no complains, now he’s struggling they look down on him. Three other people able to get jobs in the household!
Totally agree. I hope he makes it. He must feel all alone
That family should be ashamed of themselves
His in-laws made the choice too to pay the rent. Their daughter and grandchildren are family. But, given he is not blood and even with his part time job they look upon him as being nothing. If he is looking for work constantly, what else can they expect from him?
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Welll, maybe.Bob is not exactly a go-getter even in the best of times. At least he stuck with his family when his wife got the big C. I don't know tho, separate beds... That's the second to last stage of a mrg..
Shell anon he is depressed it seems, so that makes it harder.
This makes me angery, i wish i had a father like bob, hes trying, why dont the teenagers get a part time job, bob you are a great man.🤧🙏🏼🙏🏼
Because the part time jobs are being taken by the unemployed adults.
Or the wife!
God, I pray that you bless Bob with a good job that gives him the pay, dignity, and respect he needs to provide for his family. Amen.
Amen.
Tina and a new wife that appreciates him. (lol)
@@girlygirl1890 Amen.
Bob should have looked into being a corrections officer. Decent pay, full benefits with a modest pension. He has the face, build, and disposition for it.
If my husband is not welcome in my parent's home, then no one is going there for Christmas.
Then your rent wouldn't get paid. You'd have to make sure your kids know that's wrong.
Dita Me
So someone should allow disrespect towards their spouse, all because they’re PAYING THE RENT??
I wish I would....😒😒
I thought the parents just ignored him.
His wife and kids are the ones disrespecting him.
A family should be together for christmas. All or none.
dee jo Exactly!
This is America. Too superficial and materialistic. You don't hve to be in a new car to get where u need to go. We teach our kids that name brands is a must. God give us wealth to help others.
The sadder things is they use a car to go everywhere they go...even in the city. Its weird and unhealthy as fk,
Right. Some people are so poor all they have is money.
I never taught my kids nor my grandkids that. Stop buying into the media’s definition of what everyone else allegedly “does” or “teaches.”
TundraWoman Says u may never taught them that but do you "correct" them. Most families I'm noticing rarely raise children to understand what's right and wrong that's the problem.
over imagination the trains go to Chicago but I didn’t see them talking about driving to the city or do you mean driving to downtown of their suburb?
WoW! The lady in Everett Washington sure spent her life and money like it was never going to end! But, she's making it work. Better late than never when you are learning a valuable lesson.. praying for us poor people. ❤
In “Merica”, (I hate that) “1 in 6 people do not know if they will eat today”. When I lost my career I took the year to look for work. I also was on a team that started a free health clinic, volunteered at the food pantry, and prayed... a lot. At the end of that year in my mid fifty’s I took a minimum wage no benefits job working at a plastics plant in the automotive industry. After 20+ years in healthcare this was my new career path. I’ve now been working full time with benefits for the past 7 years. Life has changed, my wife has been with me every step of the way. I keep in mind that just like before nothing in life is guaranteed. Live within your means, stay out of debt, save what you can, and count your blessings.
So true
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That's a 'modest' house? These people don't know what poor is.
Exactly!
I know right?! Sort of thinking the same thing.
These children need to stop complaining both of their parents are still able to draw breath ! You should have to live my life and leave what I have gone through ! I have never worked a day in my life and I am in a wheelchair with cerebral palsy . The doctor said I wouldn't be able to live past my first year but I survived by the grace of God . My dad worked for 27 so he can have a house just like that who died before he was able to really enjoy the house that worked his whole life to get. All you have is sit there and make do with what you have, there is nothing wrong with driving around in an old car. The lesson here is be the ant and not the grasshopper! In my book that is a beautiful home so why is everybody being such a snob. Some people just don't know how easy they really have it. At the end of the day all cars and houses are just sheet metal brick and mortar. Would you really need to worry about is how you going to take care of your family in the end of the day! It doesn't matter what it looks like as long as you get you from point A to point B and, you have a safe place to lay your head at the end of the day! We need to get our attraction the glitz and glamour out of our head! All that really matters are the essentials. If you want anything else you got to work for it. The moral of the story is always work to improve but, be grateful for what you have because you can always lose it. how Hard times breed more champions than privilege. 😎
ElijahEjTurbo Russ completely agree! I try and practice mindfulness every day and it helps. Even though I rent and would like to have just a modest home, I don’t and probably won’t. But I’m grateful for the home we do have and the happiness me and my partner share. But I fear things will get much more challenging with Covid and our economic future. Watching this documentary made me shudder about our current future.
Modest? They should see my tiny apt. jeez
I can't say this enough folks, but when times are good, live as far beneath your means as you can and squirrel some money away, for times won't always be good.
And stop keeping up with the Jones's, because they're a misstep away from the cliff just like you are.
Bingo
It's not that easy, when you have a culture that is specifically tailored for the Middle Class.
All you have to do is compare the amount of Roads we have. Versus Bike Trails or Passenger Train lines.
Saving Money is just a 3-6 month patch. In a long-term Economic issue.
A fallacy of "Personal Responsibility."
When everyone else won't hold their end of the bargain.
Most people are happy to have that modest home and don't complain
I would never act this way towards my dad or husband when I know he’s trying. They are so ungrateful. This might’ve been the best thing to happen to them to show them how to be humble and see what hard times are like. I hope Bob divorced his wife.
it would be wrong for him to devorce his lovely wife and leave she and those wonderful children to fend for themselves
Ungrateful wife and children. There are homeless families living on the streets. Bob is trying. Barb and Tink are amazing.
is sad to see even the kids dot give the father the respect.not cool
I feel for him but the key is to always live below your means. They did not have to live in the first neighborhood. The job incentivised it but it wasnt mandatory. He created spoiled kids and a spoiled wife by thinking that his whole self worth as a man was to have money and throw it at his family. Had he lived modestly despite his paycheck and saved the excess that he was wasting hed be in a better situation.
But you can see the pain in his eyes and it is absolutely heartbreaking. I hope it gets better for him.
@@shayslay3416 Always spend less then you bring in. Save and invest the rest. Its finance and accounting 101. If you don't plan for emergencies your gonna be very very sorry.
I felt so bad for Bob! So sad
Exactly, it’s not his fault that his position was axed and the economy crashed. When he moved from NJ he didn’t think he would end up in the position, they were living a dream that turned nightmare. He immediately tried to find a good job, but the job market is terrible. His wife and her parents blame him for something that’s out of his control?? FOH
Leaving him alone at xmas, after he provided all those years...shame on you! that's your dad show some loyalty
I’d like a full update on this episode. Praying for everyone