A very personal Q&A: divorce, debt, my business… and more! | Melissa Soldera
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A long awaited Q&A! As always kept it real but also respectful. Did I answer your questions? Are you shocked by any answers? Hope you enjoyed it! Xo
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I agree with standing on your own two feet. I have been married for 25 years. I stepped back from work over 24 years ago to raise our three kids because we live far away from our families. It made sense for us for me to stay home and take care of the kids instead of paying someone else. I take care of our kids, home, his paperwork, and all the rentals we own. But, he said to me not too long ago, "You are not making any money, so what are you going to do?" It really hit me hard when he said that. I did not stay home and eat bonbons or sit on my ass and do nothing. I am a 24/7 mom and wife and rental owner and his personal secretary, therapist, and doctor. You know what I mean if you are a wife and a mom. I am a hands-on mom with all of their activities, and when they are sick, I am up every hour to check on them. I felt like everything I've done meant nothing and was not appreciated because I did not have proof of income like he did. So, I am in my 40's, trying to build my career. It is never too late, but it is more challenging as you age.
I’m sorry he said that to you. That had to hurt. Being a wife and mother def is more important than any career you could have had. It’s sad when men don’t appreciate all the work it takes to raise children. Yet love to show off the grown children like they did it lol. If you don’t tell him that hurt you you may get resentful. Take care.
As much as it hurts you to hear him say that, know that he doesn’t have a full 360 view on reality. Your income - you’ve invested your soul into your house so it can become a home and in your children so they can develop in the adults they are meant to be - That’s priceless! Build your career woman! Don’t give up. You’ve raised children and taken care of your home, you can tackle more than you think you can!
The number one thing entrepreneurs fail to realize about businesses is... A business is a reflection of a person. Unlike your typical 9-5 jobs, starting ones own business is like an artist painting on blank canvas. The entrepreneur has the power to create their vision/dream business. A business will emotionally, mentally, spiritually, and physically challenge a person no 9-5 job can offer. With challenge comes growth, and ALL entrepreneurs want better for themselves. Start a new chapter today... Thanks Melissa!
100% agree with making sure you have your own money. Of people get upset it’s because they know they don’t. You have to. Ladies, you just do. Even if you need to save money from groceries, or work from home on a side hustle. I adore you! 🖤
I can’t believe I’ve been following for over 10 years now. 😮 I don’t usually comment, just watch. But you’re an inspiration, Melissa!
Meet too! I remember Honda Mel and when she was always at the club and never cooked. Loved watching her evolve!
Same here!😄
Same!! You’re glowing Mel. Glad to see you happy and killing it❤️✨
Yes!!!
Same! I started with the bag collection videos! And I love how transparent and her sharing, and that she genuinely wants to share to help someone! Why am I just seeing this?!
I literally woke up one day and said "that's it". After spending half my life and never thinking I would/could do it, I did.
i really loved how open and vulnerable you were! you’re in a much better place than 18 months ago and i’m so happy for you!
As a mom of 3 daughters, I could not agree more with your promotion of financial independence!!!! Strong, independent and empowered women. I LOVE THIS!!! :) YOU GO GIRL!! This video was amazing!! Thank you for sharing!!
This is probably the best Q&A that I’ve seen. Very open, honest and raw. You are inspirational! Best wishes to you 🥰
Im just so proud of you.
I recently came out of a 7 year relationship. I agree financial independence is so important!!!
I went through a difficult 9 year separation, and I can relate to just knowing when it's over. It's not that I no longer accounted for the past 9 years, but I knew couldn't deal with another 9 years of the same struggle. So I chose myself. In the end, I thought I would be much more of an anxious wreck post-separation, but I think because I've been doing mental gymnastics all throughout the relationship that when it's over, you find that you have been at peace with the end more than you originally thought.
COMPLETELY AGREE!! I am big on being financially independent. Both sides come together and contribute to the household/relationship. If you are not careful, the one who controls the money, can control the relationship. If they love and respect you great, however, if that person does not..........it can be VERY DAMAGING and DETRIMENTAL to the one who is on the dependent side.
Wow! This is the most transparent I have ever seen you Mel and I have been following you for YEARS! Thank you for opening up about your life and bringing some light to your current context. You are a strong and inspiring person. Sending hugs!
Omg yes to the fine jewelry collection!! 👏👏
Fun Q&A. Make best use of your capacities now, I am 8 years older and can no longer run on little sleep…You seem very self-reflective which is key to self growth. Success comes in many shapes and sizes.
Long time viewer - you have grown from a girl to an incredible woman, amazing businesswoman and and fierce and loving mother - I will always be in your corner - bravissimo👏👏👏👏👏👏 The pain of staying is worse than the pain of going - financial independence is key. When I divorced my husband and he didn’t want to sign the papers - I gave him a better settlement- I can always make more money but years are irreplaceable. Xoxo
Good for you Girl. 👍🏽 ✌🏾
Positivity and happiness is a choice you actively make ❤️
I genuinely adore you and everything about you! You are the definition of a strong beautiful women & mother!
Your love for Luca brought tears to my eyes. Your advice about being independent made so much sense. Thank you for being so raw. Love and respect to you, Mel.
You handled this Q&A with incredible grace. A lot of people would not have entertained some of these intrusive questions. This channel is fantastic!
I've watched you for years now and totally respect and admire you from your career to being a mom. You're amazing. Yes, we need to be able to stand on our own two feet as a woman. 100% agree with this!
You are an inspiration Mel. Normally a silent viewer but I need to show support for you being so open, honest, and authentically you. Thank you for all that you do!
Mel, being a mom is difficult and being a single mom is even more difficult and challenging … you have all my support to you , hope everything will be just great. Sending lots of love to you from Hong Kong❤️❤️🙏🏻🙏🏻😊😊
So incredibly inspired by you. Celebrating your courage and resilience from afar ❤️
I’m halfway through your video and I completely agree with a woman being financially independent. I grew up with a single parent who struggled to raise 2 kids on a lower income and I told myself I can’t ever go through that when I grow up. From the get go I’ve always known I need to make my own way in this life and never feel stuck if a relationship doesn’t work out. I’ve gotten further in life I feel because of this mentality and I separated with a baby and a 6 year old, bought a house shortly thereafter and have been in the best place in life now for the last 8 years. Lucas lucky to have such a strong independent mom to look up to. Happy you guys are doing well.
❤️ being vulnerable is so helpful for our society and our kids!thank you for sharing and making us feel like buddies along for the ride with you 😘
This was a great Q&A. As far as the advice for young women and financial independence...I 100% agree. I teach my son and daughters this. It is more difficult to depend on another person. People can disagree, but that's what I've learned in my 42 years.
Thank you so much for sharing your heart in this video. I recently experienced very early term miscarriage and it was awful, to say the least. 💔I agree that you have to heal before moving forward. I’ve been a silent follower for the longest time but just wanted to send hugs 🤗 to you and Luca. Your relationship with her is so adorable and full of love and it goes through the screen
Literally best Q&A ..you are the absolute COOLEST mom! I always admire how well behaved Luca is and I know it’s a combo of her being a great kid BUT also your parenting. Would love to see a parenting tip video! I know every kid is different but as a toddler mom wow this is hard LOL
Omg Mel I love you girl! I admire you, I admire your independence your strength and just how great you are with Luca! I’m struggling with my marriage and to be honest I’m scared of the change. You definitely give me hope. Thank you for sharing your experience. I need to figure out how I can be financially stable to reach that independence I desperately need.
I’ve also recently suffered a miscarriage 😢 wishing you strength and hoping for better days ahead for you in all areas of your life 💙
your inner light was very apparent in this video! XO
Yes have your own!!!! Even if you work part time it’s always nice to have your own money!
I have to say you are one of the most realist UA-camr out there. You literally are such a fresh breathe of air. Thank you for being you and please continue to be you. You are an amazing mother and inspiration thank you seriously thank you!
Thank you for being so open and sharing. I subscribed for your amazing vintage handbag collection, and stayed for your authentic and vibrant personality. Wishing you peace, success and happiness.
I've been watching you for almost a decade - from the days of your Balenciaga City reviews in front of that red and black painting lol. I've so enjoyed getting to 'know' you over the years- it's like watching one of my sorority sisters become so much more cool and chic than me.
Thank you for your vulnerability and sharing your life with us- best wishes for you and Luca ❤️
Well said Talia! 😊
I love your stance on building your own empire. It's okay to have something that you did on your own & be proud of it. There's nothing wrong with wanting to have your own personal successes in life. Also thank you for allowing yourself to be vulnerable. You didn't owe this to us but you chose to share this part of your life & I'm certain someone is watching this, resonating with your story. That takes courage & I commend you for that. Keep making that progress for you & Luca.
Loved this, thank you for being so transparent and real. My parents were happily married til they passed and my mom always told me to have my own means financially :)
I appreciate you being so honest, specially because they are so many people in your position.
Also I believe in „one true love“ or whatever you wanna call it, because I’ve seen it everyday with my parents. So I believe in sharing everything, there is no mine and there is no his. Money is just a way to get around for me.
I'm so glad you mentioned therapy😌...
I think people underestimate it's importance for growth through good AND bad times...the amount of bravery you have to even be THIS OPEN is amazing being an Introvert privacy is my creed 😅😅😅 SO i get it...as a longtime subscriber you have been rocking it and it's inspiring.❤❤❤
So proud of you, I’ve truly enjoyed watching you grow, as a mom. Your a prowess house, thank you for being so honest.
U r such a strong positive woman n Luca is lucky to have u as a mom. ❤️ Thank u for sharing with all ur viewers to be financially independent as a female my lady. 🙏🏼😘😘😘Sandy
Thanks for being so vulnerable & transparent Mel. I’ve been watching you since before Luca. Back when you posted a review on your black B35. You’ve come so so far and have always had so much wisdom and kindness to share with us, your supporters, I’m so proud of your growth, your strength and your determination. One chapter closes to propel you to the next one. You’re truly doing a wonderful job as a woman and a mom! I pray that God gives you the desire of your heart to be a wife again. In the meantime, you are doing amazing sweetie & you deserve all the happiness in the world! 💕💕💕💕
Thank you for being so honest Mel. It’s beautiful to see your change.I have been watching you since I gave birth to my first, which was almost 9 years ago. I watch you so much that my daughter knows who you are, just by looking at you. Lol. I love how genuine you are. I wish you continued success, love, happiness, and blessings.
I teared up when you talked about pregnancy loss. Your sincerity towards others really touched me. Watched you for years and rarely comment but I really enjoy the person you are.
You're an AMAZING, WISE, AND STRONG WOMAN AND MAMA! I loved this Q&A!!
You are very inspiring Melissa! You are such a great mom, daughter and business woman.
You are simply awesome. I so enjoy following you daily. You are my escape. Thank you all the fashion tips and your wisdom.
you're such a catch someone is going to scoop you up ASAP!! What a boss babe!
Ain't that the truth!!😉
I want to see the fine jewelry collection video!!! And also, just want to say that you're such a inspiration for juggling life and work together so well
Raise your hand if you remember Honda Mel that didn’t cook😂🙋🏾♀️ love youuuuuuu
TYFS! I am divorced too. Hardest thing that kept me from being able to file for divorce, was lack of financial stability. Lesson learned. Like you, I was married, but was technically a single mom, cause he was always gone. So real easy on my daughter. It has always been just my daughter and I. One thing I have taught her is to be financially independent. She just graduated high school and already on her independent self sufficient way. I have taught her to have her own things her own money, to be independent at all times. The worst feeling, is to feel stuck; whether on a relationship or job, etc. I also knew, when it was over, because I knew I was done! I've been watching you both here and insta for years, but never say much! Thnx to you, I have some amazing luxury vintage pieces, which I got at a great price, like several Fendi baguettes. #melsolderamademedoit XOXO
My ex & I started dating when I was 23yrs old and we had our daughter when I was 33yr after suffering an ectopic pregnancy…by the time she was 4yrs old we ended our relationship…we were never married but I know single mom life very well…she’s now 17yrs and I’m in a relationship with a great guy…all I want to say the road is not going to be easy but you got this and your second chance at love is out there…just continue to be you & God will bless you ❤️
I Love You Mel 💗💗💗💗 You’re so strong and such an inspiration - definitely an Italian thing, I’ve had to learn to be more communicative, and now I can’t shut up 💀 xx
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Yes I 100% agree, you NEED to have your own career/money. If not, you need to have an agreement with your spouse in case you separate as a stay at home mom. It's all about your own security/well being as a woman/ mother. Also consider if something happened to your spouse what would you do? Just have a good plan that's all I am saying. As a married woman, I have had to learn this lesson the hard way.
Absolutely loved this Q&A - it was so honest and a fab update of how you are doing. Loved that you shared that you went to therapy - I am currently doing therapy and I was the same as you in that I didn't think it was for me. Now I think everyone should do it when they need it. Ps - I remember Honda Melissa
This was so open and vulnerable, which helps others feel connected. It’s a big transition to single parenting, but it does get easier with time and creates a unique experience for bonding with our children. Financial independence is invaluable.
Melissa! I loved this talk. We are a new generation of women that have to deal with different scenarios in a new limitless way!! I come to you to feel limitless and fabulous!
Melissa whatever you’re doing as a mother you’re doing well.❤️👏🏻Luca is a very smart, happy and beautiful little girl.🥰🥰🥰
A true inspiration. Your energy is amazing and your truly a genuine soul. I wish you all the best that life has in store for you.
Totally understand you not posing your trip. Smart move ! Respect that
Yes please do a fine jewelry collection video!!
yes definitely would love to see a fine jewellery collection video
I started following you on my personal channel back in 2011. I have always enjoyed your content and style. I am proud of you as a fellow Gemini, woman, human, and businesswoman. You are such an inspiration. I learned how to be innovative and stylish from you. I also learned how to be chic while making smart money moves. I am sorry to hear about your divorce. However, I am so proud of you for choosing you.
Best wishes and much love to you.
I have followed you from humble beginnings. I remember so very well during the period of you loosing your baby. I had the same history and you were kind enough to respond to me. You are such a great mum, that is obvious to everyone. Love your channel and Wish you all the very best. Thank you for daring the Q&A.
So inspiring 😍☺️ Love you girl,keep doing what you do!!🤗🤗
Thank you Melissa for sharing so much of yourself! You are a beautiful and amazing person. I am glad you are happy! 🥰
Thank you for being so amazing and so open! You truly are so inspiring! Can’t wait to see what life has in store for you! Sending so much love❤️
Thank you for your honesty and vulnerability melissa! I've learned so much about you and even myself.
Super cool you guys loved your trip to Disney … I was wondering how the experience was for you guys! ❤️
Lovely, thank you so brave. I loved Disney at five with my son. You’ve always been my favorite down to earth you tuber. You love the stuff I love but you’re no-nonsense. You look for a good deal, are into vintage and keep it real.
Financial independence is the best advice! My Mom gave me the same.
You are a class act with chic style and the most perfect daughter. I adore you!!!❤❤❤❤❤
Mel! I love this video. Thank you for your honesty and WISDOM. As a longtime viewer, I am rooting for you and Miss Luca! I am so excited for all the good things that the future holds! You got this!!!!
Hahaha "she doesn't need to know that I have a life" sent me 🤣
Hi doll! I've taken a break off social media for some time so I had missed the updates that you and Mo had separated. Im so sorry that you went through that but you are absolutely glowing this video and look so happy. You're such an incredible mom - keep on shining babe!
I just admire and respect you so much ! Stay strong and beautiful 🥰🥰🥰🥰
Yes please to fine jewelry collection video!!!
Yes!! Agreed would love to see fine jewelry collection video
Love how real and genuine you are!
So happy for you Melissa. Keep growing your real estate portfolio. Montreal needs more local investors with family values 💕.
Good for you! Modern woman at her best!
Thanks for the sharing. I’m a long time follower and am so happy for you and your current life season. 😘
Sending blessings on your new journey! You are an amazing woman and a wonderful mother. I love how you put your daughter first.
I applaud your honesty and willingness to be so open with us.❤️👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 I think for couples who have spent so many years together it must make you think about the time you’ve invested in the relationship. I would just question if you’ve been unhappy for a while do you want to get to a point later down the road when you’re still unhappy and questions this again? Life is short and if things aren’t going to get better you deserve to be happy NOW.
♥️♥️♥️ And so your Disney trip should be something for you and Luca xxx so lovely to see your pics on Insta do thank you xxx what an amazing memory for Luca. She is a lucky kid ♥️♥️
I think you’re very brave and such a great mum. God bless x
Awww love this kind of videos of yours!!! Such a honest answer and very inspiring!!! Ohhhh Im such an OG!!! Oh myyy I know Honda Melissa + taking your dog to the vet 🤣🤣🤣
So proud of you for putting yourself out there.
Thank you for sharing this update with us. I have been following you for almost a decade here on UA-cam and Instagram and I’m so proud of everything you’ve accomplished. (I remember OG Honda Melissa 🙂).
Having the strength to end something when it’s no longer making you happy is difficult. It is really commendable that you were able to do it.
I hope that you and Luca have happiness and health always. ❤️
You answered my question 🥰
Thanks for being so open and authentic all the time! You are so inspiring.
Thank you for being so open about your life. You are such an admirable woman 💗 Luca is so lucky to have such a loving, strong, independent mommy 🌟
Can’t wait to see what the future holds for you.
Muchas bendiciones 🌟
My good friend who was a single mother with a very small child once said "He can date me, ghost me, break up with me. Whatever. I am an adult and I can deal with it. He cannot breakup with my son. So if he ever meets my son and my son bonds with him, he better know that is not a relationship that will end any time soon. If he can't understand this, then he doesn't meet my son. Full stop."
Yayyy!! Loved it. This was amazing and super fun. 🥰🥰🥰
You are amazing!!!! Love how happy you always are. Xoxo
Such an inspiring video. It really gave me a lift.
Yes fine jewlery collection video!
Really enjoyed this! Nice to get to know you better and glad you’re doing well.
You are inspiring :)
Omg youve been together for more than 20 years
Your brows = Perfection! Please share :) I remember Honda Melissa lol, OG subscriber over here. Happy for you; it's good to see you and Luca thriving! Thanks for the tips on self-doubt, I needed to hear that! Cheers Mel xo
Yessss Mel! You’re awesome!!!!❤️
Stand on your own two feet 🙌🏻