5 Things a Daughter Needs From Her Father | Father Daughter Relationship
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- Опубліковано 2 сер 2019
- Visit 👉 www.StephanSpeaksShop.com - 5 things a Daughter Needs From Her Father is a father-daughter relationship advice video where I will discuss how a father can create an understanding and a good relationship with her daughter. A father should be her daughter’s first love, therefore, it is important as a dad to be a good father because it will help in creating a healthy father-daughter relationship.
Fathers have a unique role to fill in the lives of their daughters and as a good father, you should ensure your daughter is free with you. You need to have a better understanding of your daughter and learn how to pour into her. There are some things that a daughter needs from her father so that the father-daughter relationship will be strong and this relationship advice video will help you understand them.
Below are the 5 things a daughter needs from her father that I discuss in this relationship advice video.
1. Your attention 1:55
As a father, you need to be there for your daughter not only physically but most importantly be there for her emotionally. Show her attention, go out with her, and initiate conversations when you are with your daughter. Your daughter needs more than providing for her, always give her total attention as a dad.
2. She can come and talk to you 3:24
Fathers may be present but have shallow conversations with their daughters and on such occasions, your daughter cannot open up to you, be transparent, and seek your guidance in challenging situations. When your daughter finds emotional safety with you, the father-daughter relationship will strengthen and it will make her not entertain men who are not worthy of her.
3. She needs you to show the example of the type of men she should be with 5:07
As a dad, you are the first love for your daughter, therefore, you need to set a good example of what type of men your daughter will choose. How you treat her mother and women will be a reflection on how your daughter will see love. If want to set an example to your daughter you must set a healthy relationship and environment to your daughter by treating women around you with care and love.
4. She needs your positive reinforcement and encouragement 7:37
As a father, make sure you are pouring positive reinforcements and encouraging your daughter for the great things she is doing. Let your daughter know that you are happy with what she is doing and you are proud of the woman she is becoming. Pouring onto your daughter pushes her to do the right things and ensures she stays on the right track always.
5. She needs to know you love her 10:44
Loving your daughter must be a priority if you want your father-daughter relationship to grow. Actions alone do not tell how much you love your daughter express it by saying you love your daughter because it gives her more motivation and encouragement. You need to show and say to her that you love her as it will create a healthy father-daughter relationship.
As a life coach, dating coach, and relationship coach for men and women, I want to make dating and relationships easier for you. I pray that you find this video helpful and if you are asking yourself the following questions;
- Things a daughter needs from her father
- Father daughter relationship
- Things that a daughter from her dad
- How to improve the father daughter relationship
- How a dad should treat his daughter
- Being a good dad
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Well, I believe this dating and relationship advice video will give you the clarity you need.
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My father disowned me so....
Yes, it’s very important. Many women who are dealing with trash men or sleeping around did not have a good father figure. It correlates.
When you feel rejected by your father you seek validation in other people. You also have abandonment issues.
We men have to push ourselves to be the man we want our daughters to meet.
Amen
Thank you for saying this. I also think that if men build up healthy communities amongst each other just for you guys to vent, to cry to uplift one another visa ve IG pages, Facebook groups etc. that would not only be very healing for men but it would allow you guys to be true leaders in our society because we follow you. It’s definitely a fact that if you take care of yourself and raise your energy and vibes then you can be that much better for those around you. We need this so badly, please 💔
Amen
Shouldn't have to push, maybe we already lived it and want other people to respect boundaries and take responsability so we can be love and not be a sales service! No disrespect!
I was fortunate enough to grow up with a father who did/does all these things! He's an amazing man, and I married a man very similar.
That's beautiful!!!
Am happy for you
Blessed!
That's cool
Good for you
In the part of Africa where I grew up, Fathers tend to place themselves in a very strict and authoritative position, making it difficult for the children to express themselves to their Fathers. As a child when I needed anything I always went to my Mother to speak on my behalf to my Father , because I was so scared to tell my Father about my needs. Most Fathers think their role is limited to just paying bills,providing food and shelter. My Father's unavailability in my social and emotional life really affected me negatively . So I believe it is really important for a Father to be present in every aspect of his daughters life. If you have no Father, atleast a Mentor or trustworthy Father figure i.e Pastor,Uncle, etc... should be sufficient. And it is important to know that every child needs their Father's blessings.
Totally agree!!!
Thats good! As a father Ive always struggled with the emotional & social support#still growing!
This is exactly what I'm doing wrong. I feel so bad and hope I can change my relationship. Im so selfish..
True i feel your dad has to be the first example of a good men in a daughters life in order for her to seek a good men
My father has always been a positive, providing, presence in my life. He still is. I am not attracted to toxic, abusive, emotionally unavailable, or indecisive men. I do not suffer the foolishness. Nor do I feel as if I require any man to be happy. My happiness comes from inside of me, and its portable. I am thankful for my dad and his impartation of love in my life then and now.
@@sovereigncreative9987 yes your right i agree with you☺
What if the father is a cheater and he doesn’t know that I’m aware of it ?😢
I just had this on my heart today. My mom passed when she was young, so my dad raised me and my sisters. He always showed up for us. Always. My ex husband does not play an active role in our daughter's life. She is 19 now but still yearns for him. He thinks sending her money will fix her problems, but he never visits. This has left her with an extremely low self esteem that I just cannot fix 💔
Its very important to have a father in household who is emotionally mature.
BAYBEE THIS IS WHERE I'M AT RIGHT NOW. I'm continually telling and reminding myself what kind of father I want my children to have, and this is the kind of man I want for them.
I didnt grow up with my father and it has affected my life in a way that essentially caused me to search for the love of a man any man at that. I became very sexual at a young age and had no clue about self worth, self respect. Very very sad position to be in. Now i have a daughter and my biggest fear is that she will walk in my footsteps. Thank you for this message!!!
ebony martinez my poor daughter is living this situation now.... I think. I don’t really know what she goes through but my mommy gut tells me that she is not well. I would often ask her father why he would let her live with a boy at 19 years old. Hurt my soul. Hurts my soul to this day to see how she navigates her life.
I wanna hug you. So many of us experience this. It shows how strong you are to realize and say it.
@@trafficcontrol2420 thank you, im now in my 30's and looking back i wish i could of had guidance. So many relationships or should i say£***ships just to get the attention from a man now im completely embarrassed and ashamed not to mention the trust issues,attachment issues that have now followed me into adulthood.
@@marquita3058 so heartbreaking!!! Would be nice if the fathers that arent doing so good would match our parenting style. I mean i remember when i found out i was pregnant my whole outlook on life changed from that day. Women began to walk in a different light because it no longer about self. I knw plenty of moms who have sacrificed self for their children without regrets.
@@ebonykofi When I read what you said it hit hard. Me and my two sisters dealt with the absence of our fathers differently but the best thing we did was talk about it so we could start healing from it together and we did. Talking to someone we trust and seeking counseling helped us tremendously.
I had my daddy until I was 8 years old. And then again in my late 20's. He passed away when I was 33. My dad was my protector. We did a lot together. He taught me about finances and how to cook. Unfortunately, he also showed me who not to be with. He was very verbally and physically abusive to my mom. He was a liar. I met the other woman myself. I always recognize the negative aspects of my dad in men and that's when I walk away. Regardless of this, I do miss him. My sister doesn't understand this, but he and I had a different relationship. I have to be with someone who wants to protect me or it will not work.
As a teenage daughter, I feel like it is very important for a father to be in his daughter’s life. The failure of having an emotional security or is not what a daughter needs. If the daughter feels like she can’t talk to you she will go and find someone else to give her that sense of emotional security.
I never knew my father, which created many issues in my life, but I'm happy to say that Father God has more than make up for all of that and he continues to heal me. He is the best FATHER a girl could ever ask for!!!
Amen
It is very important! I met my Dad when I was 18. And I do think him not being there caused me to search for love in all the wrong places.
So let's fast forward to 30 years old. For the past 15 years of dating. I've realized I chase men who are emotionally unavailable, always busy, I'm always begging for there attention or to love me. Never ask them for money , will go hungry before I ask, because of rejection from my father when asking him for money.... The more sad truth is any guy I date that has a little daughter, I reconsider because I dont want to share, I know he will love his daughter more than my father loved me. I have a man now he has a 12 year old son. But he long to have a daughter, and want me to have her. I'm not fulfilled, and I won't be in competition with my daughter ... Thanks Dad. (He passed in 2007 btw ).
Vania Thomas this is so heartbreaking to hear. I pray God heals your wounds & restores your heart to where it should be before you were hurt so deeply. God bless you. xx
Never heard that before "A daughters first love should be her father" what wise words.
My father was in my life but not in the house. Sure my mom would let him stay til
He got on his feet but once he got going he’d go live off a girlfriend of his. This has been present in my life in the way of me bending to help my children’s father to my detriment and I seek validation due to not being celebrated
Your mom was the problem and you continued her cycle. I'm willing to bet your mom was a young mother around your age when you had children.
Yes hi i
Yes it's very important to have a good relationship with your father, mine was just a body in the house and it affected all three girls because he was not there for us
My dad never protected me or spent time with me. I can't talk to him either.. All he does is yell at me and puts me down..
I feel you about that.
😥😥
That's a deficiency in him not you. I'm sorry.
When would he yell at you or put you down ?
I feel you
It's sad that this is even a conversation but parenting does not come with a guidebook so many parents are clueless and just repeat the toxic behavior they experienced with their parents.
FACTS 100
Traffic Control totally agree
Are they really clueless or just extremely selfish?
Watching this video had me in tears because I'm 25 years old and I still crave a relationship with my father ,he was around when I was growing up we both lived in the same house but I don't feel like he was actually there, father-daughter relationships are one of the most important.
As a women who never had a father figure, I now struggle with having a daughter who’s father has decided that if he and I can’t be together he won’t be there for her. I hope I do an amazing job at being there for her.
Wah gwaan
I too going threw the same keep the faith don't worry about him God gonna deal with him just focus on being the best mum for your daughter
Yes I have that bond with my Father! In fact I was born on His Birthday :) I And my Sisters grew up knowing our Father was our first Love. Even until this present day he calls us and we have family meeting & gatherings to keep our bond in tact. This is A Great video I pray it goes viral.
Good for you
Do a video on mother relationship to son ✔️
That will be a great topic!
Yes, please do. I'm working on a project dealing with this very same topic and a video on this subject will help a great deal.
Yes I would love to learn how to be a better mother, I have the best son ever but sometimes I think my ptsd sometimes gets in the way. What do you think?
I had a father in the household who was a provider but nothing else. In saying that I knew that I was loved and protected.. He is retired now and spends months with me and it’s being a time of learning who he is as an individual.. our relationship now is so much better.
Father daughter relationship is absolutely important. I personally did not have my father in my life as he had another family of his own. So I never really got to have a daughter relationship with him as I should have. And I can say that this has definitely damaged me in a sense because I never got to experience his love and be protected by him. And thus, I've made terrible decisions in the selection of men in the past, but my heavenly Father's Love has been what I've fallen back on over the years and so, I'm thankful for this Love. But yes, father daughter relationship is very crucial👌
I grew up with my dad. He gave me a wonderful example of a good man. To this day I can go to him about anything. I am an only girl and my dad has shown me how a man is supposed to treat a woman. My dad has poured so much love into me. I’m blessed to have Johnny Lee Willis as my dad. He tells me a lot how much he loves me and how proud of me that he is. I am blessed.
Thank you for your advice. I’m a single father and have my 4 year old girl 3x a week for 8 hours. I hug her as much as possible and tell her that I love her. Your words of advice are Golden !
My pleasure man, and that is great to hear. Keep up the good work!
Respect to you bro for sticking around for your little one! My fiancé is pregnant right now we just found out it’s a girl today!
Amen!!! So true! I had stepfathers not my biological around. The stepfather did the best they could I learned alot from them. I learned from grandfather what love looks like. If alot of women had this Father and Daughter relationship. Everything you learn about a man is through your father. A Father plays an important part in a daughter's life, how she sees herself and what she needs in a man. Through you she knows how she suppose to be loved. Speak it, Stephan! This is why people don't have healthy relationship.
Is being a stepfather a waste??
I tell my child father these thing, especially point number 5. I am going to show him this video.
I send it to mine too!!!
The things that Stephan says in this video are so true. I grew up with a physically abusive drug addicted alcoholic father. He was in the household but he never said or told me that he loved me. He had no connection with me and he even denied that I was his daughter because I didn't look like him. If it hadn't been for GOD I would have ended up in a relationship where I wanted the guy to be the father I never had instead of a husband. For women that were not blessed with a loving father your healing is so important for yourself, your future husband and your children. I am praying for you.
It is extremely important for daughters to have their fathers in their lives. The thing I celebrate about My dad The most is that he Always provided for us and he never made excuses. He gave expectations on how we were to conduct ourselves and he wanted us to reach our highest potential and not be unlearned
My father has been dead for about 10 years and i am thankful i was raised in the household with him, he even walked me down the aisle, i love when my dad hugged me i can smell his cologne and fresh scent to this day❤
I wish my dad gave a damn about me but never did. So that's why when it comes to me dating I need to choose the best man to father my future daughter; giving her what I never had
I did not grow up with my father. I didn’t know who my father was until I was twenty five years old. I had a good step father but he died when I was 27 years old.
My biological father moved back to my hometown when I was thirty years and I had an opportunity to spend 32 years with him before he passed.
Even though I spent many years with him later in life it was not the same as growing up with a father. I often wondered what it would have been like growing up with him. Being there with me when I was child and hear him say Erma I love you.
My mom never told him he was my father because they were both married when I was conceived. My father’s finally told me and my confirmed it.
So if there are any mom’s out there who hasn’t told your child who their father is please do it today because no matter what the situation was please tell your child the truth. They deserve to know.
My father wanted me call him daddy but for some reason I never could call him daddy. I called by his first name until he died. I can call him daddy now but it is to late. Love your father!!!!
Fathers are extremely important. My parents were teens and my biological father was absent and extremely self absorbed. That hurt me growing up. On the bright side, my stepdad raised me and stepped up to the challenge. He loved me and was there for me. This was the best dad I could ever ask for. He wasn’t perfect but I had a great father figure. My issues regarding my absent biological father did affect me greatly. So, it is extremely vital for fathers to be there and set the tone for his kids.
I agree 100% what you are saying about that relationship that fathers need to have with their daughters. My father is a strong provider and protector but he was not emotionally available for my sister and I growing up. We didn't have that relationship that father daughters need growing up and even as adults we still don't have it because he is just emotional unavailable. I realized that the bad choices in men that my sister and have made its because we didn't have an emotional available father in our lives. I now know that I have to work on healing that relationship with my dad and its the reason I enjoyed your coaching program because I can't making the same mistakes over and over again, the healing needs to start so I can receive that man God has for me.
The most beautiful thing that you said, “ your daughters gonna see you how you treat their mother.
My father was in my life physically. Growing up all i wanted was his approval of me, yet in my late teenage years I stopped caring about anything and wanted to not be alive. Now, almost 10 years later I feel ALOT better and have tried to set up a better connection with my father. It probably will never be a close bond because of what all has happened, but I thankfully can say I love my dad and forgive his past arrogance. To all dads out there, please please PLEASE treat your daughters with kindness and attentiveness so they will not suffer as much for the rest of their lives. God bless!❤
It is very important for fathers to be in the lives of their children. I am blessed to have my father in my life but I’m sad that my daughters don’t have their father because he is deceased.
Agreed. It takes two people to make children for a reason. It's a lifetime job.
Wish I had a normal relationship with the bio guy but he stole innocence. I now have a step father that has shown me what a daughter father relationship looks like.
I Am So Immensely Blessed I had a father who was present, active, and the best example of a God-fearing head of the household man. Now that he's gone to Glory and I'm fully grown, I've been able to avoid many traps and snares that could have caused my life a whole lotta grief.
This is such a powerful topic. I am very close with my father. He showed up for my important moments. Even after my parents divorced. He always made me feel special. We don’t live in the same state anymore, but we have weekly phone dates to connect.
I was blessed to have a father who was present both physically and emotionally for me!!
It is very important that your dad be in his daughters life 💕
I dated someone who treated his daughter and son completely opposite and I never understood why do people feel daughters need their fathers more than sons. I’m from Baltimore and believe they both equally need their father but the way these young men are killing everyone has led me to believe sons need their fathers more.
He is not even saying that. You are missing the entire point.
I didn’t miss anything clearly u did. My statement was why are people always talking about how much daughters need their fathers when they both need them equally!
It is extremely important for a father to be engaged in his daughters life. My father has always been my hero. I knew I was loved because he made sure we heard it from him often. I knew I was beautiful because he told me I was, I knew I was smart because he constantly encouraged me to do my best. His encouragement follows me to this day, and I know I can face anything because I have his support! #daddysgirl
It's sad I was in foster care but you have to keep the faith and know you are a daughter of the most high God ! And all things will line up
I grew up with my father actively in the household. My father is and has been a solid figure in my life. The roles he has filled over the years have been numerous. He has developed a solid foundation for open communication. Actively provided counseling and a harsh guidance when necessary. I can honestly say he was truly my first love.
Good for you
I believe it's very important to have both Parents active in their life
Having a father who’s present in their daughters life is very important and can set the direction for them and their choices of men in their lives. Great video Stephan, healing thru all of this ❤️
It is very important for a father to be in his daughter’s life. I think it’s good that Stephan mentioned, you cannot just be in the home, you must be present! Have a relationship! Also, how you treat women. When I was a child I did take notice to how my father was treating women.
You said a word. Have a father but we don’t really have an emotional connection we just have an understanding of each other.
I didn’t grow up with my father in the home. When I was younger I used to believe if I had grown up with him life would have been better. However looking at life from an adult perspective depending on the type of man he is, having a father in the home can be just as detrimental as not having one in the home.
Rasheda B That’s very true.
I am very Blessed!!!!! My Beanut (Daughter) is the best Daughter in the world. She values my opinion and knows the difference between good men and trash men. I love my Beanut!!!!!!
I’m going to adore my two future daughters London and Francine
1. Attention
My father was there but wasnt there. He only showed me a attention when he needed me to run errands for him.
2. Be able to talk to him
My father was always busy and worried about his business and money.
3. Show an example of the type of man she needs
My mom and dad always argued and faught. He never took me anywhere or gave me money for icecream.
4. Positive reinforcement
He talk to me after I would mess up . He told me he love me a few times. Was he proud of me for anything, no, I never done anything if it wasnt for him.
5. Needs to know you love her.
My father said it a few times. I can count maybe on one hand. Him expressing it. He never did.
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Sounds like a narcissist. My father is like that. He has NPD.
Yes its very important for a father to be in a girls life. I grew up with my father because my mother wasnt able to care for me, and my father was my everything. He showed me how to be a caring young lady, and how to take care of myself even if Im single or not. He tought me how to be strong and when i feel he had my back. He loved me unconditionally at all times regardless through the good and bad.
My parents were married up until my moms passing. I’m very grateful I had my dad in my life i can always call him talk to him about anything and if I need anything if I can’t call anyone else I know I can call him and he’ll be right there. I’m 31 and my dad still refers to me as his baby lol
I was locked up for 2 years and I take responsibility for my actions and acknowledge that my choices may have broken something beyond repair,that being my relationship with my daughter.I tried everything and I'll never give up but it hits like nothing else
I had my father growing up in the house but did not connect with me nor my brother. He is an only child and he felt like we took his wife away from him. He well know in the community to helping under privileged children but rejected his own.
I feel it’s important. I remember all the things me&my dad use to do when i was young. I remember him helping me out with homework and i quickly glared up to him and thought to myself “i want a nice man like my dad”. I remember him taking us to the park and afterwards going to get an Icee. I remember him going fishing(his hobby) and us tagging along. I remember him doing my little sister hair so she can come to the park…as i got older things changed but I’ll always remember how i felt when i was a young girl.
I grew up with a father, but he didn't do any of the things you mentioned, nor he was physically around much as he was working very hard. I never felt loved or that I could go to him for anything, and he was always very toxic and emotionally abusing my mother, my sister and me. It was definitely very tough but moving to a different country helped me heal a lot, learning how to set healthy boundaries for me and that improved our relationship quite a lot. I still find it hard to be around him whenever I go to visit because now I'm even more aware of the toxicity in the household, but I try to talk to him and make him understand how wrong his behaviour is to everyone who's around him.
I wish I had everything you said about a father daughter relationship. However, my dad had a traumatic life and never learned how to be a dad except to be a provider. Thank you for doing this for today dad's. Hopefully, they will learn and put it to practice. God Bless you.
Oh my God Yes! It makes a world of difference. Especially with girls, I can't even imagine a life without a father. I can remember from the time I was young my dad would say to me and my sister's ... that we were all princesses. I grew up believing this to an extent lol. because of his love & speaking life into us... I feel blessed to have had both parents in my world. I regularly allow my daughters to go around both sides of their grandparents house so they can see what a normal relationship looks like... I maynot be able to ever show that to them through the looking lens of my life at least their grandparents are alive to show that to them. I'm honored to have my dad pour wisdom & love into my two daughters. Despite personal hick-ups we are close. I will move a mountain for my dad plain and simple.
It is very crucial and important for a woman to grow up with a FATHER. On a scale of one to ten the importance rating is 1000.
Yup you're right
Thank you for posting this video. I have a sister who has a teenage daughter and I have told her how important it is to get the father involved in her kid's life. She doesn't believe it is important for our dad was physically present but was never involved. Throughout the years I have noticed how important it is to have a good relationship with your father; it sets the standard when you are trying to find a partner. I believe that the man you have chosen as a partner reflects the relationship you have with your dad.
My siblings and I grew up with our Dad and life happens he was no longer at home!! At that point he’s been disconnected ever since! That’s was 15yrs+ yrs ago!! I appreciate this video I so relate!!!! Thanks for speaking the Truth
But this summarises the relationship a dad should have with just any of his kids.
This video brought me to tears and that's rare.. I'm so grateful for your journey that you share with the world.. 💙💙💙💙💙🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥my biological father was not in my life often but I knew him. I had a stepfather that was awful so I thought as a kid. But as I got grown I ask God to show me his heart. When I became a parent and a wife I understand how grown ups we look up to can and will fail us as children.. my kids are grown now and they come at me everyday about all adults as they gathered their opinion about how to be a successful parent. All I have to say is that I tried all that I know and I trusted God.. each experience is different .. my father wasn't there but because he wasn't there it made me a different woman that didn't find myself in anyone else but me.. God taught me who I was then and who I am now..alll I'm saying at some point we are responsible at a certain age for our own choices in life.. that's where real healing comes in true self healing..
Yes me and my dad had a very great father daughter relationship
All makes sense and explains a lot. As a 44 year old woman who was raised by her great grandmother, I can see where not having those relationships with either of my parents have affected me. Although I continue to try, it’s hard for me in relationships. Thanks for the video.
Yes, I totally agree with you 100%!!! I agree that all of the points are very important!! I really didn't have my father in my life!! I really needed my father to teach me a lot of things!!! I still don't have a relationship with my father!!! I have tried to reach out to my father many times!!! It is extremely important to have a father in a daughter's life!!! I love my dad very much!! Thank you very much Stephane for this wonderful video and I love it!!! God Bless you always Stephan!!! I would love to meet you soon!!😇😇😇😇😇😇🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏💥💥💥💥💥💥⭐⭐⭐⭐👍👍👍👍👍👍😊😊😊😊😊🌻🌻🌻🌻🌻🌻💕💕
This is a fact filled video💕 I'm a daughter, whose her Father's treasure. He did all the things said in this video a Father should do. He made all the difference in my life. All parents, guardians. Should listen to this video multiple times!!! My sons are my motivators💕
One of the greatest area of challenge in healing for me has been related to my relationship with my father...it truly affects EVERY aspect of your life as a woman. It makes so much sense the whatever relationship the Father has with the mother and the children really creates the foundation, be it stable or not, for the family as a whole. Yet, it has just as much of an impact on each individual member as well. I grew up with 2 different step fathers and my father all of whom were not consistent throughout my life, but i gained so much from each, positive and negative.
Yes my father was in my life even though he & my Mom divorced when I was 5 years old. I think it is extremely important for a father to be in their children's lives. I am 🙏 that when I do have children their father will be in their lives as well!!!😀
I didn't have a father growing up. It is imperative a daughter has a father in her life to help her understand males and unconditional love. Great topic! and information!!!
Thanks so much!
LOVED THIS, I do this with my girls, but just hearing it is refreshing and puts you in check 2 make sure you keep doing this.
How powerful and humbling to think that the man you are is the type of man your daughter will aspire to be with. I applaud all of you men who are here to learn to be the best father they can be.
Remember as well, your daughters watching how you act to strangers, to their mother, etc.
Never even heard of your channel before I just stumbled across it tonight searching for general videos on the topic. You definitely got another sub. I have a daughter but I didn't have a dad so I don't really even know how to be one and I tell her all the time that I am learning along the way just as much as she is and I'll never claim to be perfect but I will always promise to do my best to be everything she needs
My Dad was only in my life for 9!years . He did not involve himself with me or my sisters and brothers. He did not treat my mother respectfully. The lesson I learned is I created boundaries and confidence in my value of myself and a relationship with a man. Now I can give back and pay it forward to my community, for daughters and woman lifting them up and building confidence. I appreciate all your ideas and advice Stephan you are one of a kind and an amazing person. What a blessing you have found Yourself and your relationship with God first it’s amazing to witness and be a part of your. daily journey! So, thank you for making such a wonderful difference in my life!!
I had my dad growing up he always been present in my life and my siblings life. But he never really show me or my sister how guys are supposed to treat us or had a father and daughter close relationship. But I still love my dad at the end of the day
Daughters really need their fathers. My father was never really in my life and I wish I had the privilege of having him in my life and a good/ or healthy relationship. I did attend his funeral and the most weird thing is before he died I actually dreamt about him giving me a hug and asking me to visit him and my grandpa. I guess that was God's way of showing me some things and sending me a message. Im thankful though because for all of it and the things I got genetically from him. My identity, I wouldn't change that for anything.
Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️
Having fathers in my life helped me fall in love with my Heavenly Father.
I am BLESSED! My father provided all 5 things for me. He still does even as an adult. I am SUCH a Daddy’s Girl due to His Love. 🥰 Yet, I find it hard to date because men don’t meet the standards I have due to experiencing the true love of a father.
Wait for the right one dont settle for less
Thank you for making that clear Stephan
I had my Dad in my life from the beginning, he named me and was my first loving male relationship. He was a fun Dad when I was young and a protective one as I grew older and understood his role in life. He wasn't perfect but he was always fully present in my life, teaching me how I should be treated as a woman by example with my Mom. He set the bar really high for the men who I look to have relationships with now. I miss my Dad all the time.
I must say, I didn't grow up with my biological father in my life but I did have father figures in my life, my grandfather and pastor stood in the gap of my father absence. So I knew growing up into a young woman how I was supposed to be respected, treated, and loved because I watched how my grandfather treated my grandmother and how my pastor treated his wife but most importantly I learned about God and how my heavenly father was always there with me at a young age. However, I do believe that having your father or father figures is important in the lives of young girls who will become an amazing lady.
Since my father was absent in my life, my only desire is to be married to the Man-God has for me and have a daughter or son were their father is active in his or her life because it’s important for the child to know and to see that they have their parents love and support every step of the way.
Great Video, Stephan!
In my world I think I got The Perfect that we are so close unbelievable my father is 89 years old and I cannot remember a time when he was not in my life we used to take long walks together and talk about all kinds of things but today because he is 89 we just sit down and talk about all the things we used to do when I was young I enjoy my dad everyday all day
I did not grow up with an active father growing up. I knew him spent time with him but never connected with him the way I wanted to. That’s why I’m here now trying to find fatherly advice and see what I may have missed growing up that I need to know now 😭
I agree 💯❤️.
I needed to hear this because I'm failing. Im so caught up in paying bills teaching discipline. My wife and I have talks but I just haven't done my best. Thanks brother.
I’m 27 & I struggle my whole life I’m angry that the ppl who were suppose to protect me were the ones who hurt me.
I grew up with my father but he passed away when I was 19. He showed me so much love without saying I love you but I didn’t have a problem with it. But we never got a chance to have any boy talks. However, my four brothers played that father figured role. But they made me too aggressive with boys growing up...especially when your from the hood 😩. But I love them dearly and will always love my dad. It’s just unfortunate I never got to have those talks with my dad...😔
This video is amazing! Exactly how I feel being a dad to a daughter
This is really deep! I’m learning how to be a great step dad it’s not easy but thank you for the information in this video as well as all the comments they where also heartfelt and helpful ❤️
Thank you good sir!.. coming from a 51yr old man who grew up fatherless and a father to a 22yr old female,I am still trying to do the best I can and your tips are very reassuring to me and hopefully I can apply this to being a good dad!✌️💛🤘
Wow... I’m 20 and I struggled growing up having a biological dad and a step dad who had addictions to alcohol. Both of them were absent emotionally, the only difference is my step dad was physically present. He was functional, he provided, paid bills, yadda yadda. I lacked all of these things in both my actual dad and my step dad. It hurts even more sometimes because I feel as though I was failed not once, but twice. I’m still learning how to navigate the void and not internalize the loss of an actual father as a reflection to what I’m worth as I grow into the woman I’m meant to be if that makes sense. I always felt like (and still feel like) I had / have to fend for myself, but I guess it just makes me stronger and more aware as a woman. In a way, I am able to flip it and think of it as a blessing because I can set the stage and foundation for myself as to what my relationships look like, feel like, and how they contribute to me and my life. Everyone has to do it inevitably, but I think it’s a privilege to have your parents set an example for you early on. I wish I had that. It’s very hard sometimes having to be your own anchor, your own best friend, your own parent.. but I trust God so the sufferings of the present time are not worth comparing to the glory that is to be revealed to us! 🦋🕊✨💙
You weren’t failed, you were shown how not to act towards your kids, and now you have the chance to raise your kids better than your parents raised you! Hope all is well
@Stephenspeaks It is no coincidence that you just posted this video. I’ve been wrestling with how much I should allow my children to communicate with their father out of protection for them and their well being. God knows I want what’s best for them and only want to protect them from any harm. I believe God is speaking to me and bringing some insight I needed. Thank you and keep walking in your purpose. 🙏🏽💛