That could be product on the childs hair, blk kids hair is like that depending on the texture, at the site it can look rough, touching it may be very soft/detangled. This help white people in schools to implement rules on our kids hair, using the word "unkept" pshh🙄
@@kpj2224 I don't know if she's blk or not, " keep ur hands out of other people kids head, without permission" . Not all blk women have natural hair, nor do they all know what to do with natural hair. She don't know if the child is allergic to certain products either, its a issue for me as well considering the rules in certain school districts, that are trying to strip the culture of our hair styles claiming its unkept.
When I was 5 my mom was diagnosed with severe R.A and had her first episode where she was in hellacious pain. My mom always kept my hair in beautiful elaborate styles, but while she was in the hospital my dad had to do my hair and he couldn’t even manage a ponytail. I went to school feeling horrible, my homeroom teacher saw me and asked, “what happened to your hair!”. I did my best to explain the situation, but I burst into tears. She went to her purse and pulled out a brush and fixed my hair. I’ll never forget that, I felt amazing and was so grateful.
I loved your story. It doesn’t take a lot to help someone. I believe if you see a genuine need then you should help if you have the means and ability to do so.
@@ProfitPower13 Clearly she was 5... Styling our hair takes wayyy more finesse than others.. Never seen a 5 year old being able to evenly part, plat, braid or blush their hair into a neat ponytail especially if their hair is in its natural state.
I remember I gave a child a hat. He was clearly freezing. His mom got mad and made him give it back. So I would put it in a bag on my porch. He would get it, wear it to school, and put It back everyday..
This happened to me when my daughter was 2. Me and her mom were separated and I was doing the single parent thing and I had no idea how to do anything more than an ugly ponytail. Then one day this older black lady asked if she could do her hair for me, and I almost cried I was so thankful. She even taught me how to do some simple braids and other hairstyles.
Sent my daughter to school with 2 cute afro puffs..while in gym one of her scrunchies popped... so grateful that her teacher didn't leave her like that and instead gave her 2 cornrows and called to tell me what happened ... Small blessings ❤️
I had those little hair ties with balls on the end and they'd pop on occasion so usually one of the girls in my class would try to braid my hair or something to get it back together. it looked a mess but at least they tried lol
It takes the Father and Mother to raise a child. Not anyone and everyone. But the problem is either the child doesn’t have a supportive, loving dad/mom or the child is missing parents due to negligence.
@@reneek.2375 nah, it does take a village, EVERYone in the child's environment contributes to the child's growth as a person. You can't grow into a fully emotionally developed individual without a health community. Parents may be the cornerstone, but they are certainly not the full pie.
@@reneek.2375 your right... it takes a village, no disrespect to them but thats probably the dumbest shit i ever heard... dont let the streets or society raise your children... thats why so many kids and young adults are confused
Teachers "teach" more than just academics. They teach self-esteem and aspiration. This little girl probably went home feeling like a million bucks. Parents should swallow their pride and express gratitude for a dedicated teacher.
Why can't the girl have self esteem while her hair is in a messy afro? True self esteem is not dependent on looks, so the fact we're assuming this boosted herself esteem...it could have created shame of her original hair style where she had no shame originally. This is why so many black women cover their hair. We're taught from childhood it's only acceptable when "done."
@@AmyThrash what do you mean by 'true self esteem'? You don't get to decide that as everyone's self esteem journey is different, it sounds hypocritical. There's nothing wrong with leaving your afro out but theres a difference between the parent clearly being lazy and actually making it look decent. Besides you said it yourself 'messy', it can be left out without looking messy.
@@AmyThrash Obviously you weren't paying attention to the video because the girl had matted hair as in, it was never detangled and barely taken care of.
@@AmyThrash No a natural black girls hair isn't a messy afro it's a detangle and taken care of Afro her afro wasn't taken care of at all it wasn't properly moisturized, detangled, combed or a brush. If you think letting your hair be messy is the definition of natural then that is wrong my sister, natural hair is also looked after and that afro clearly wasn't being looked after.
exactly. kids health and safety as well as emotional wellbeing and support are just as important if not MORE important than education. i helped many kids and families by doing free hair and nail filings etc. where i saw a need, i helped as i could bc i care about the kids.
Did the little girl like having it done? Was she a little sad at seeing her friends cute hair when hers was just doing its own thing? Did her eyes light up when the teacher offered to do it?. I feel like she is the most important one in this story, so her thoughts and feelings matter most to me. ...
ISH ISH well maybe the girl wanted a hairstyle. Not for it to run wild. We need to stop accepting unconditioned natural hair as acceptable. Even white people condition. That called being a lazy parent.
I think if it was an isolated situation it's fine. Maybe it rained on her hair from the bus stop or walking into school and the teacher said, come here let me fix that right quick. Perhaps she emailed the teacher or not, but it was thoughtful, if it was a one time thing.
I'm a teacher and I've put kids hair up or even wrapped it in scarfs when they play in the sandbox and then wrapped mine up too so kids wouldn't make fun of the kids with scarfs on their heads but I've never full on done a hairdo. If the teacher did this she either had a good relationship with the parent and knew it would be appreciated or she was just tired of the child possibly getting teased (kids can be mean) and decided she would just deal with the parent afterwards because the child is most important. Im really curious what the outcome was of this.
You wear a scarf so the child won't get bullied too??? You are such a wonderful person! God bless you! Those children are so blessed to have a teacher like you.
Jennie Smythe The teacher would be so sorry if she put her hands in my child’s hair. Some ppl don’t believe in so much tension being put on their hair so young. Blk ppl need to stop hating their hair texture. Why does it have to appear straight or pulled taut to be considered neat or done?
When my daughter was in 1st grade I nearly died. I was in the ICU, and my husband was overwhelmed with the kids, work and worrying about me. On top of that he had no clue how to do my youngest daughters hair. I remember her teacher sending me a text telling me not to worry, that she would take care of my daughters hair for me while I was in the hospital because she know my husband “did his best”, but that it wasn’t what my daughter was used to and didn’t want her to feel bad. I was extremely grateful and so was my husband. Sure, this could be a case of a neglectful parent. But it could also be something much more going on in that child’s life. We just don’t know. I think the teacher did the right thing. The child’s self esteem is so much more important than any potential blowback from the parents.
Old thread, but I remember my mom was labor with me having complication and my sis hair look crazy when she came home...btw my mom aways bring that story up about giving birth with multiple children at home🤦🏾♀️
The child's self-esteem is everything, she is around other childrens who could make her life hell. Parents life is not being tormented daily like this child at school. Social media posting, photos, teasing etc. Parent will have to get over it.
I knew a dad who took his daughters to the cafeteria lady before school started because he was raising his girls by himself. We never know what’s going on at home. Kudos to the teacher for helping out.
@@desireedickson2057 how do you know she hadn't called the parents multiple times telling them please take care if your childs hair and they get the mind yours business response? And you the teacher get fed up seeing the child being bullied wouldn't you be upset doing the bare minimum and letting her be bullied?
If the parents got mad it’s because they were embarrassed. You can tell that little girls hair had been matted, uncombed or washed for a while. And after the teach seeing her come into class everyday like that she probably just wanted to do something nice and it probably made the little girl feel really special. I bet the little girl will remember that for the rest of her life. I think it’s great.
I grew up really really poor. Like out of 3 kids me and my brother didnt have jackets. (I'm tearing up ☝) my brother was in High school and I being in 6th grade I was more worried that mean kids would make fun of him. So during class and outside playtime I stayed in the bathroom under the hand dryer. Eventually my teacher caught on and bought me a hoodie and I wouldn't take it. I stood there lying with blue lips and goosebumps saying "oh no thank u I'm not cold." I started bringing a towel to school and I was made fun of and then stopped bringing it. I hated school because I had to wear clothes on a Friday that I wore on Monday. I now am a talented designer and at one point I was stylist for the music video industry. I make sure any kids I know personally don't go through that feeling.
Nah hun. Imma have to disagree. "Villages" don't feel it necessary to POST BEFORE & AFTER PICS ON THE INTERNET. THEY JUST DO THE DEED WITHOUT THE NEED FOR ACCOLADES. The fact that she did a "BEFORE PIC" shows that she had an ulterior motive. If that's something she felt NEEDED TO BE DONE, she should've just done it & kept it between her, the child & mother. Furthermore, that is not within her scope of being an educator to take it upon herself & start styling the hair of one of her students. If she was concerned about the child's personal hygiene/or grooming, she should've CONTACTED THE PARENT *FIRST* before playing beauty shop & reaching for compliments. There's a difference between a "village" & reaching for recognition. Clearly, this teacher wanted to be NOTICED AS THE MARTYR. What other reason would she broadcast this PUBLICLY for the entire world to see, violating both the child & mother's private issues? And of course, we have the gullible ones who see only one side (the teacher's) & automatically begin bashing the mother's parenting. I'm not sure where she got her training, but she should've been reprimanded for this stunt. Social media & your underage students are *OFF LIMITS* . That was a PRIVATE MATTER & should've been handled accordingly. If I worked for the school board & this got back to me, she would've been placed on probation expeditiously followed by an apology to the child's mother. This was BEYOND UNPROFESSIONAL.
@@latimoreshenii3334 ok, u know what, I must admit that I saw the video & gave the teacher all these kudos & somewhat trashed the mother, & although my opinion still stands about there being no excuse for sending your child to school with their hair that way, WE still don't know the core of the problem inside of that child's home. There was absolutely no reason for this teacher to publicize their business like u stated. I agree 100%. That was not the teachers place to reveal that to the world of social media without the mom knowing about it. That was poorly handled by the educator.
Organizing our hair is a cultural tradition. I am a teacher and I have aided my students with their hair. They know I have gel, conditioner, and bands! Daily. My students are older they usually have their own brush. If not, just hands. I push hair up and band it. I remind them about etiquette, you cannot do your hair during class. What would I look like combing my hair at my desk? Nope. I have no problem hooking them up after class, before school, or on my lunch break. I call it village work.😊
Cultural Traditions ! Period👏🏾 on 👏🏾the 👏🏾Daily🙌🏾🧡🧡 thank you for doing the village work and the Lord’s work! May he continue to highly favor you and bless you amen Amennn 🙏🏾
My mother is a teacher and she has done this a few times over the years for different students. My mom did ask the parents for permission before doing so and one girl was in special ed, she was graduating the 5th grade and that was her graduation gift to her student. She actually braided her hair...like going to the shop spend $160-$200 braids (my mom is very talented) and both mother and daughter cried when her mom came to pick her up. So, with permission, yes I think this kind of act is perfectly fine and pretty awesome ☺️
People have no pride when it comes to accepting food and housing assistance, and clothing donations for their kids, but they want to have pride when someone does their kids' hair? Yeah okay, gtfoh.
My opinion is this... There shouldn't be pride issues behind favors. If I was to have a daughter and the teacher fixed her hair, I would be the most grateful. Same thing if I had a son, and one of his teachers gave him a haircut. I would thank that teacher greatly. I feel if you get upset about a favor like that, then you are considering you pride over your child's appearance, and that to me is kinda selfish.
Yeah that's true but no one asked you to do it either so yeah I kind of get what you're saying and it sit there and say you doing it over your child for parents but no one asked you to do my child's hair so I can kind of understand what someone would be upset over that
I seen this plenty of times, as I work in childcare. There are some that come in and the teacher has to do their hair because of the mother not being of the same race as the father she was not able to do it properly, So sometimes it is much needed.
@Iretha Johnson So just let the black child walk around with nappy hair because black women shouldnt have to take care of their own? Sounds like your contempt for white women is greater than your love for black children
I love that the teacher did her hair. The child may have felt unable to concentrate on her work and insecure. The teacher understood how necessary it is for a child's self esteem to be in tact in order to have a progressive day. Parents who would get mad about that are selfish and stuck in their egos. They should feel proud, grateful and appreciative to have teachers who still care deeply and are proactive enough to make positive change where needed. Beautiful act of kindness
The teacher is a hero. I was sent to school with my hair looking awful almost every day. I had kinky, very short hair and my mother didn't know what to do with it. She didn't know how to care for my hair. Needless to say I was teased mercilessly by the other children. I wish my teachers had been this decent and combed my hair. There are still residual feelings behind this today. I would have done something to help this beautiful child too.
@@muadhnate my daughter wears her afro to school lots of time. Kids pick when it's in an afro or braids because it isn't straight. Should a parent perm the child's hair because other kids think only straight hair is ok? My moto is "keep your hands out of my child's hair". (By the way, you can pick out 4c hair and when a child gets done rolling around playing, it will look just like the picture).
As a teacher, I always comb my student's hair. Parents usually thank me for it, due to their busy morning or child being stubborn not wanting to get out of bed. Many mornings, dads have given me hair products asking me to "tame" their child's hair(white and black parents). As a parent, I am appreciative when the teacher thinks of my child enough to make sure they are clean and neat when they return. I could not stand picking my child up from preschool seeing milk and food was still all over their face. Their clothes and hair looked as though they rolled in dirt. I know what I expect so I keep my students neat. Pride would cause someone to be angry. We need teachers that love our children and not just tolerate our children.
Baby girl has lint in her hair and y’all are talking like “that’s just the way her hair grows out of her scalp” like kindly get off the soap box and exit stage left.
I'm glad someone finally mentioned it! Natural afro hairstyle is fine as long as it's well kept, which this girl's hair was not. It had a bunch of little pieces stuck in and looked dirty.
Can anyone help me please! My daughter has beautiful, curly hair down her back. I have poker straight hair and I love her hair but she hates it tied up and whenever I brush it, it goes frizzy, bushy and her curls lose all definition. So I'd rather not brush but if i dont it gets matted so quick and when she was little it'd get lint in it too if I didnt brush it. Is there a way to stop it without brushing her gorgeous curls out? Shes not black but I'm guessing black ppl gotta know about curly hair right?? NO ONE on my side has curly hair, her hair is thick, (dad's middle eastern,) I just want a way to not brush it all the time yet keep it less tangly. I hear curly girls say they dont brush so is there a way? Am i asking the impossible? Thanks in advance if anyone can help!
I’ve had a situation when I was in elementary school, i wore a hat because my hair wasn’t done because of certain circumstances I was under my hair wasn’t done often and I often dressed myself. Instead of having a caring teacher reach out and do my hair, they instead put me in in-school suspension for wearing a hat in the cafeteria and refusing to remove it because my hair wasn’t done. They said they didn’t care and it was disrespectful to wear a hat inside. Made me feel so bad but the shame of having to remove it was even worse when I had to do it the next time.
When I was a single dad I could not do anything with my daughter's hair. I tried. After that, I was like Kev's mom, whatever the cost, I'll pay it, and I did. My little girl's happiness was all that mattered, and peace is happiness.
Honestly, if she's the teacher that means she's been seeing that poor baby's hair like that, so if i was her mother my ego would have probably been hurt like I can't look after my child properly but at the same time i would be grateful too because clearly i didn't have the time or maybe even the skills to do it i guess. So I would gift the teacher a box of chocolates to say thank you. I think it's a nice gesture and it shows she cares for my baby too. 🥰
Yeah when my aunt was treating my like crap and my teachers , counselors and principle was helping me get to work , get ready for college etc etc My aunt called the school and cussed out everybody when she found out a counselor drove me to the community college (ON SENIOR SKIP DAY) to sign up for class . So then she kicked me out two weeks before graduation. Honestly that was the best thing she could’ve did for me cause God start pouring blessings on me ! She was so mad that “strangers” was easily willing to help a student get ready for the real world cause she wasn’t . So yeah , bad parents/guardians get offended when they get reminded they trash lol
I probably would’ve asked first. Just because I know how parents can be. And I’m also a parent who wouldn’t want anyone touching my kids’ hair without my permission. I also wouldn’t let my kids go to school without attempting to do something to their hair. So it’s a tricky situation.
I mean, I think kids should be able to tell people to change what they want, its your child's hair too, that is connected to their OWN head, not yours. Well, maybe it's because I'm 15 and this girl in the video is like 4.
there's a video out there where a dad went and had his child hair done and the mother was so enraged she cut the brains out of the child's hair and said nobody touches her child's hair but her! #crazyfolks
@@msgc74c55 Oh yeah I seen it her prideful ass did that because the fathers new girl did the hair and they didn't like her so they cut the child's braids off and recorded it, people are just messed up.
I have always had a good relationship with my daughter and my granddaughters. So I wouldn't mind. I would send a set of hair supplies to the teacher. But you need to remember other children might have been teasing this child.
I was looking for this comment. This happened to me with my daughter. Her hair was always done but the daycare worker use to do her hair sometimes at the end of the day because she would get sand in her hair. I use to watch her on the camera. I finally just started bringing a comb and brush to school. My daughter has a lot of hair and played pretty ruff. I really appreciate her for caring about my daughters hair.
i did some kids hair having worked in childcare for years, but i always asked the parent if it was ok first. they always said yes and appreciated the extra time and effort we spent helping out.
You know what worked for me in these types of situations? Allowing another student in class who enjoys or knows how to do hair to fix her classmates hair. They bond, the child's hair gets done and the parent isn't offended because it was done by a peer. Trust me this strategy works! 💜
Her teacher showed her love because she was showing the child her worth in the eyes of God! It doesn’t make sense to claim pride because you don’t know what is going on in the child’s life! I had a friend who was a class aide who did that for several of her children who were residents of a shelter and the shelter had a waiting list! If you didn’t make it fast enough then they would pay fare and sleep on the train! A child asked if she could do her hair because she wanted to be like the other kids! And she asked her why! The child told her that she knew they had a place to live because if they slept on the train she just had to come as is and it was no better at the shelter because families were required to leave by 5:30 am! If their families had time enough to do their hair then they had a place that they could be in all day! The more intricate styles can run to hours to do! You don’t carry anything excessive since depending on the rules you can only stay a week or a month the entire year! So many wouldn’t carry comb, brushes, beads, shampoo etc! Blessed be the teacher who realizes teaching involves more than teaching one plus one! It also includes building self esteem and pride in yourself!
But did you post it on social media? I'm not saying what you did was wrong, but some people feel the need to "show" what they do for people. I think the mom was upset about that. Especially since we/that teacher (probably) don't know what's going on inside the home. Lastly, I understand why people post pictures of other people's kids.
A lot of parents like mine have drug problems/ are alcoholics or addicts and all the money goes to that. 🤷♀️ it’s not that hard of a concept to grasp it’s how I grew up but now I hate drugs/alcohol so there’s a bright side to it I guess
The fact that you can indeed wear curly hair down, just shows this was a nice gesture. Her previous hair was matted with lint. You can do wash and go’s with natural hair and they don’t look disheveled like that. I think it was pretty nice.
When my Son was in daycare, he (who was born with a full head of hair) would never let me braid his entire head even in his sleep so I would do half and his teacher would do the other half. She helped me and I was extremely grateful for this lady!!! Why be mad???
I would have thanked the teacher hugged her and appreciated her kind gesture! The parent being upset was obviously out of pride but when it comes to my baby girls my pride goes out the window 💕
As a former daycare teacher I have done this numerous times to the point where parents have actually asked me to do this on a regular basis, some moms just cant do their kids hair and also some kids don't allow their parents to. My worst head was a student who refused to allow her mom to brush or comb her hair, mom was Caucasian and she was Biracial so her hair texture was very curly and got matted easily, I did her hair monthly and sure enough I would have to take out the same style i put in every time. I have had times where I had to wash kids hair because it was so nasty and Im talking about 1yrs olds and all. Some parents are out here struggling. I hope this one was appreciative.
This happened to me as a child but my mom thought it was funny cause she was intentionally sending me with an Afro bc she didn’t know how to do my hair
Thankful for this teacher.💕 She probably asked the little girl if she wanted her to fix her hair. I guarantee you it boosted her self esteem! Not sure what's going on at home but the teacher saw a need & met it. Now if she had put chemicals in the child's hair, it would be an issue. To me, this was done in good taste. Thanks Teach!🍎📚❤
As much as I would like to do it I would only do it if the parent gave express permission. It is really sad but some people will have a problem and not leave it there
My mom and some aunts are teachers they said if the child came to school smelling good and dressed well and the only thing unkempt was the hair then they would call the parent and say may I touch your childs hair and put in in pig tails they said sometimes parents fall short you do not want it to feel disrespectful and condescending my mom said most of the time in a situation like this she called the parents first and they would explain their situation and once they felt heard they would apologize for being SLACK and give permission for her to comb their kids hair and would be grateful and from there on out they would make a great effort to do better a little understanding and tolerance goes a long way on both sides!!!
I'm grateful to the teacher!!! Teachers most often go above and beyond the call of duty.... the girl can now focus on being a child and learn.. peers can be hateful... please set your kids for success as much as possible. If you can't do hair get a friend, teen, salon to do it!
If it was certain type of teacher they could have called CPS instead. Then that’s a whole different story. So lend a helping hand OR lend a hand that may investigate an take your child!! 🤷🏾♂️ I’m sure the teacher didn’t want to give that parent that type of problem so she helped.
From my experience my cousin had a call from his teacher about his dreads. They weren’t retwisted (normal new growth of dreads). My cousins mom cursed the teacher out an moved him out her class... which why I said what I said some ppl just want to worry about things instead of teaching hence why I said “Certain teacher” . It’s definitely moments that happen ijs
@@Mrs.Adrian that's not a normal afro I hope you're not saying that's natural hair because that's bs her hair had lint, was dry and tangled up and before you say anything yes I have 4c hair and my sisters do too. Even if they go a week without combing it doesn't look this bad her parents clearly don't really so her hair.
I had three of my primary school teachers do my hair, it happened a few times but I loved it. It wasn't that embarrassing. My mum wasn't able to do my hair properly anymore due to sight loss and she's a diabetic. She used to sleep a lot and didn't have much energy. I vividly remember all three of them standing around little me, making me feel really good with my hair plaited up nicely and beautiful golden beads that made a lovely sound everytime I shook it. I was so so happy with them, I couldn't stop beaming from ear to ear. My mum was very thankful too. They really looked after me as if I was their own child.
That parent should of been ashamed ASF, she should know how kids treat each other in school. Kid's are straight ruthless, they'll make fun of everything, a kid's clothes, shoes, and yes hair. I would of shook that teachers hand for sure.
Unfortunately, someone is going to be offended regardless. No matter the intentions or situation. - If it was a male teacher doing her hair, big problem - Female teacher doing her hair, big problem - Teacher addressing parent about student's hair, problem (it'll either be "mind ya business" or "don't tell me how to care for my child") - If the teacher minds their business, problem ("how you see the child coming to school everyday like that & not say/do anything!") Can't win wit ya niggas P.S. don't know why I'm getting this 5 yr old video recommended Now
I would be upset but greatful. Upset that you touched my kids hair and said that my kids hair was “un-kept” but greatful that instead of sending her home or bashing her, you helped out and did what you can to help.
The teacher should have asked, though. We teachers get a backlash for EVERYTHING! So, to protect herself and to not get the child caught in the middle of the backlash, she should have asked. Not all parents like us looking out for their children beyond the classroom and at the end of the day, they're their children. I learned this lesson the hard way.
I always did my students' hair. It eventually became a thing where their parents left it to me and/or their children said they wanted me to do it. Once I had a child who had completely matted hair that my coworker and I worked hard to comb out. Her grandmother was grateful... but then weeks later she just shaved it off because she couldn't manage it. Yea so in a nutshell, my students' parents were always grateful for the help.
3rd grade my mom stopped doing my hair and had to start working. She would only do my hair if she had to go somewhere with me and even then sometimes I’d just wear a scarf. She’d tell everyone I wouldn’t do my hair. I used to tell my teachers I didn’t know how and they’d question me about my mom. I didn’t realize how odd it was until honestly the last couple of years. I don’t know why some mothers are so comfortable with their kid not being taken care of COMPLETELY. I’ll always be baffled by it. There’s no excuse.
That was a nice thought for the teacher but people that arent doing what should be done for their children get an attitude when someone else does. So hopefully this didn't cause a problem between the parent and teacher. But maybe she didn't care and saw how the little girl felt everyday not having her hairstyles. Thumbs up to this teacher.
I’m a kindergarten teacher and I’ve done this numerous times. Being a teacher isn’t just about teaching academics, it’s also about caring for your students when they’re not being cared for.
Same thing happened to My daughter too, her teacher did her hair, I thank her for it too, I didn’t have the time, dealing with everything working at the hospital, having son that had mental problems, helping them with homework cleaning cooking ironing clothes etc...I be burnt out about everyday, now, they are older and things gotten way better.
I wonder was it matted and unkempt or was it just an afro? When children play around, their hair becomes messy, doesn't matter, she should not have done her hair without the caregivers consent.
@@lovelyred30 I'm wondering why people can't see it either. Her hair is dirty AND matted. You can't even tell she has a head FULL of gorgeous long hair bc it's a mess in 1st pic. That's not 1 or 2 days of not combing.
Miss Charms our hair especially kids with natural hair tends to attract lint .. that doesn’t mean it’s dirty she’s a kid she probably was rolling on the floor at school and her hair probably drys out fast which makes it looks dry n matted smh if you don’t know much about natural hair stop judging
nurse Majola You clearly didn’t read the above comment. It’s possible that the parent did send the child out with clean, lint-free hair, but kids do countless things at school, many of which are bound to mess up someone’s hair. Every other race and hair texture is allowed to mess up their hair but let a 4c black person do it, and it’s a problem.
As a parent, I’d be thankful because I would love my child enough to let her teacher know that I’m struggling and I appreciate her help. I’d feel bad about myself but good for my daughter.
I did one of my preschool students hair. Her hair was very short and she was very girly. Baby girl was so happy, how did her mom respond??? She put a bag of hair bows and products in her cubby lol. She said she just couldn't figure out how to do her short hair, she didn't want to bother me but whenever I had free time she would appreciate if I would work magic for her. Nor the first time I crossed the line on behalf of a child, I once pulled a tooth of one of my autistic students. He didn't trust anyone but me to do it and his father understood why I did it.
I did this once for a little girl in my school. The little girl was happy and the parents never said anything about it. I remember the principal came into the office, stopped, looked at me, I looked at him and he kept about his business.
Hard to answer because I'm not sending my child to school without a decent hairstyle. Even if it's just an afro with a headband they better not touch it.
We are living in a different time now. Parents do not want you to do anything for their kids without getting their permission first. In spite of the teacher’s good intentions, she should have run this matter by the parent first. She was hired to teach not to do the kid’s hair, and if the parent complains, she could get suspended and/or lose her job over doing something that is not in line with her job description. Again people do not take kindly to anything that makes them look like a bad parent.
In this day and age it’s offensive to do this , however when I was growing up it would’ve been appreciated, you can’t really involve yourself in people’s kids lives you don’t know if this is a cultural thing or a spiritual practice etc.. if you feel as the teacher this happens too often then contact CYF to do a well child check that’s the best way, no one wants to lose their job behind having a big heart and caring how a kid looks.
You know what would have made me mad? That she took a before and after photo. Like, who was she showing these photos to? Other than that I wouldn't have minded her combing my child's hair.
@@adenikekeyara8831 It was probably to show what the parents aren’t doing. Sometimes if a child comes to school in a messy situation, they may have to record evidence. This is probably not the first time her hair has shown up matted, or she knows that the parents aren’t taking care of her. In an instance something could probably have happened in that household for her to have her hair like that. That’s easily child neglect. So a photo is important sometimes.
This is a true story. When we were foster parents we had a 7 year old girl placed in our home( I'll call her Sandra). Sandra had " issued" to say the least and she would have violent outbursts at time. She would physically attack other children and adults at times. This little girl had a head full of hair and didn't like to get it combed. One day she refused to let me comb her hair before going to school. I pulled it back into one big puffy ponytail and took her to school. When i picked her up from school her teacher had combed and nicely braided her hair. The teacher and i had a good relationship and she knew Sandra' s behavior issues. I was thankful the teacher did Sandra's hair.
This Monday I had to send my 9 months old daughter to daycare with her hair undone. I washed her hair on Sunday, put it in little pigtails so it wouldn’t get all knotted. Monday morning we woke up and her hair was everywhere and she has a lot of it. For some reason, that particular day, she absolutely refuses to let me do her hair. She cried, fussed, rolled every time I touched the hair. After 30 minutes, we gave up because dad was running late for work and he had to drop her. When I picked her up in the afternoon, her daycare provider did her hair. She told me as soon as she saw with her hair all messy, she knew something was up at home because she is usually well put together. I appreciated the fact that she cared enough about my daughter to do her hair.
I have 5 kods...main thing with touching my kiss hair (even out of a positive feeling to help) ... just call and ask, problem solved... I'd be good with a decent haircut that I didn't pay for this week.
If I was the parent and I really had an issue with it, I would make sure her hair is done next time... and yes to the comments that asked how the little girl felt about it, how the classroom situation was and how the home situation was. Those are important!
I use to be like the schools mom. At the door I would tie shoes, fix clothes, do hair, I'll buy extra winter stuff and give it out. When a kid in my son's class would fail I would help them with projects. People asked to take pictures of me or start a group but I didn't want any obligation like that. Everyday I think someone should do something nice for someone else.
One thing about black hair is it don't just drop and hang low naturally...the child's hair is clearly heathy...but like you said either pride or gratefulness on the mothers part...teacher took pictures which makes me think about.
Thank you for this video! When I’m in a lot of pain, my daughter’s Teacher braids or styles her hair. I appreciate her so much. It’s more hard, because my daughter has sensory issues due to Autism. I’m very thankful to those that help. 🥲💙💯
‘Unkept’.. The black community need to stop this obsession with ‘done’’ hair. Her hair is exactly as God intended. Reminds me of when people were dragging Beyoncé for ‘not doing’ Blue Ivy’s hair when she was younger and at 8 years old her hair is flourishing and healthy. All these tight styles, create tension on the hair line etc. These little girls should not have so much value placed on their hairstyles. Her hairs probably looking a little ‘unkept’ after a long day at school, doing exactly what children do. This teacher is out of order, I would be highly offended. How I chose to present my child to the world is my choice as a parent. As long as they are clean, healthy and fed, their appearance is none of your business. If it were a white child this would not have occurred.
Regardless of textur,hair needs to be maintained which means combing it and keeping it clean. Having hair mold is a real thing and happens more times then some like to admit. So it's not just asthetic but also for health reasons.
I send my daughter to school with an afro everyday. Throughout the day it does get tangled and dry. It was a nice gesture, but reach out to the parents first.
She combed that hair knowing that it wasn't going to get combed for days. It's moisturized and lint free. She hooked her up.
Seriously! Baby got hooked up for real! ❤❤
That could be product on the childs hair, blk kids hair is like that depending on the texture, at the site it can look rough, touching it may be very soft/detangled. This help white people in schools to implement rules on our kids hair, using the word "unkept" pshh🙄
@@ShugerCookieNStacccckkedd she’s black with black hair. I’m pretty sure she knows pretty damn well how black hair is.
@@kpj2224 I don't know if she's blk or not, " keep ur hands out of other people kids head, without permission" . Not all blk women have natural hair, nor do they all know what to do with natural hair. She don't know if the child is allergic to certain products either, its a issue for me as well considering the rules in certain school districts, that are trying to strip the culture of our hair styles claiming its unkept.
Yes oh
She really did 🤪😜
When I was 5 my mom was diagnosed with severe R.A and had her first episode where she was in hellacious pain. My mom always kept my hair in beautiful elaborate styles, but while she was in the hospital my dad had to do my hair and he couldn’t even manage a ponytail. I went to school feeling horrible, my homeroom teacher saw me and asked, “what happened to your hair!”. I did my best to explain the situation, but I burst into tears. She went to her purse and pulled out a brush and fixed my hair. I’ll never forget that, I felt amazing and was so grateful.
That is so sweet!
I loved your story. It doesn’t take a lot to help someone. I believe if you see a genuine need then you should help if you have the means and ability to do so.
Aww, your real mom couldn't even manage to show you how to manage your hair. I'm sorry.
Props to your teacher for showing you love.
@@ProfitPower13 Clearly she was 5... Styling our hair takes wayyy more finesse than others.. Never seen a 5 year old being able to evenly part, plat, braid or blush their hair into a neat ponytail especially if their hair is in its natural state.
I remember I gave a child a hat. He was clearly freezing. His mom got mad and made him give it back. So I would put it in a bag on my porch. He would get it, wear it to school, and put It back everyday..
That's so sweet 😊
Good person and good kid! Bet he’ll remember your gesture for life.🙌🙏🌹
Lol clever! Glad you didn't give up on it...
You good person, you.🙂❤️
why would that mom get mad? is she embarrased? odd that she thinks getting free hat is embarrasing yet not caring her child properly isnt.
This happened to me when my daughter was 2. Me and her mom were separated and I was doing the single parent thing and I had no idea how to do anything more than an ugly ponytail. Then one day this older black lady asked if she could do her hair for me, and I almost cried I was so thankful. She even taught me how to do some simple braids and other hairstyles.
That's beautiful 🕶️💜
❤️❤️❤️
That's amazing man
Sounds like a black Rom-Com😂👍🏾 Did y’all get married?
Thankful for the elders in the community 🙏🏾
Sent my daughter to school with 2 cute afro puffs..while in gym one of her scrunchies popped... so grateful that her teacher didn't leave her like that and instead gave her 2 cornrows and called to tell me what happened ... Small blessings ❤️
thats so sweet
I had those little hair ties with balls on the end and they'd pop on occasion so usually one of the girls in my class would try to braid my hair or something to get it back together. it looked a mess but at least they tried lol
@@alexamarie4648 those hurt when they pop
It takes a village to raise a child so the parents should be grateful not being consume with pride.
It takes the Father and Mother to raise a child. Not anyone and everyone. But the problem is either the child doesn’t have a supportive, loving dad/mom or the child is missing parents due to negligence.
The teacher went beyond the call of duty
@@reneek.2375 nah, it does take a village, EVERYone in the child's environment contributes to the child's growth as a person. You can't grow into a fully emotionally developed individual without a health community. Parents may be the cornerstone, but they are certainly not the full pie.
I agree, it takes a village and we are a better society when we do this. Put pride aside, every parent has an off day.
@@reneek.2375 your right... it takes a village, no disrespect to them but thats probably the dumbest shit i ever heard... dont let the streets or society raise your children... thats why so many kids and young adults are confused
Teachers "teach" more than just academics. They teach self-esteem and aspiration. This little girl probably went home feeling like a million bucks. Parents should swallow their pride and express gratitude for a dedicated teacher.
Why can't the girl have self esteem while her hair is in a messy afro? True self esteem is not dependent on looks, so the fact we're assuming this boosted herself esteem...it could have created shame of her original hair style where she had no shame originally.
This is why so many black women cover their hair. We're taught from childhood it's only acceptable when "done."
@@AmyThrash what do you mean by 'true self esteem'? You don't get to decide that as everyone's self esteem journey is different, it sounds hypocritical. There's nothing wrong with leaving your afro out but theres a difference between the parent clearly being lazy and actually making it look decent. Besides you said it yourself 'messy', it can be left out without looking messy.
@@AmyThrash Obviously you weren't paying attention to the video because the girl had matted hair as in, it was never detangled and barely taken care of.
@@AmyThrash No a natural black girls hair isn't a messy afro it's a detangle and taken care of Afro her afro wasn't taken care of at all it wasn't properly moisturized, detangled, combed or a brush. If you think letting your hair be messy is the definition of natural then that is wrong my sister, natural hair is also looked after and that afro clearly wasn't being looked after.
exactly. kids health and safety as well as emotional wellbeing and support are just as important if not MORE important than education. i helped many kids and families by doing free hair and nail filings etc. where i saw a need, i helped as i could bc i care about the kids.
I love how the quarantine has everyone watching a 5 year old video and commenting like it's current
Oml bro this is all i do is watch old ass videos 😂😂😂😂
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Yep lol
🤣😂
Well damn 🤣
Did the little girl like having it done? Was she a little sad at seeing her friends cute hair when hers was just doing its own thing? Did her eyes light up when the teacher offered to do it?. I feel like she is the most important one in this story, so her thoughts and feelings matter most to me. ...
Exactly!
Her hair was beautiful before 💔
Word to the wise keep ur hands off of other people children. U don't have rights unless the parent has given u permission
ISH ISH well maybe the girl wanted a hairstyle. Not for it to run wild. We need to stop accepting unconditioned natural hair as acceptable. Even white people condition. That called being a lazy parent.
I think if it was an isolated situation it's fine. Maybe it rained on her hair from the bus stop or walking into school and the teacher said, come here let me fix that right quick. Perhaps she emailed the teacher or not, but it was thoughtful, if it was a one time thing.
I'm a teacher and I've put kids hair up or even wrapped it in scarfs when they play in the sandbox and then wrapped mine up too so kids wouldn't make fun of the kids with scarfs on their heads but I've never full on done a hairdo. If the teacher did this she either had a good relationship with the parent and knew it would be appreciated or she was just tired of the child possibly getting teased (kids can be mean) and decided she would just deal with the parent afterwards because the child is most important. Im really curious what the outcome was of this.
You wear a scarf so the child won't get bullied too??? You are such a wonderful person! God bless you! Those children are so blessed to have a teacher like you.
Youre a teacher? You are a god?!!!
I hope ypu take the scarves homes and wash them. I would not like a teacher to wrap a scarf around my childs head. No thank you mam
No matter the intentions, someone is always gonna feel offended
Jennie Smythe The teacher would be so sorry if she put her hands in my child’s hair. Some ppl don’t believe in so much tension being put on their hair so young. Blk ppl need to stop hating their hair texture. Why does it have to appear straight or pulled taut to be considered neat or done?
When my daughter was in 1st grade I nearly died. I was in the ICU, and my husband was overwhelmed with the kids, work and worrying about me. On top of that he had no clue how to do my youngest daughters hair. I remember her teacher sending me a text telling me not to worry, that she would take care of my daughters hair for me while I was in the hospital because she know my husband “did his best”, but that it wasn’t what my daughter was used to and didn’t want her to feel bad. I was extremely grateful and so was my husband.
Sure, this could be a case of a neglectful parent. But it could also be something much more going on in that child’s life. We just don’t know. I think the teacher did the right thing. The child’s self esteem is so much more important than any potential blowback from the parents.
Old thread, but I remember my mom was labor with me having complication and my sis hair look crazy when she came home...btw my mom aways bring that story up about giving birth with multiple children at home🤦🏾♀️
The child's self-esteem is everything, she is around other childrens who could make her life hell. Parents life is not being tormented daily like this child at school. Social media posting, photos, teasing etc. Parent will have to get over it.
If the mother was getting dragged about the things she was doing on social media she would pay attention
I agree
I knew a dad who took his daughters to the cafeteria lady before school started because he was raising his girls by himself. We never know what’s going on at home. Kudos to the teacher for helping out.
The cafeteria last had permission. That's the difference.
@@desireedickson2057 how do you know she hadn't called the parents multiple times telling them please take care if your childs hair and they get the mind yours business response? And you the teacher get fed up seeing the child being bullied wouldn't you be upset doing the bare minimum and letting her be bullied?
If the parents got mad it’s because they were embarrassed. You can tell that little girls hair had been matted, uncombed or washed for a while. And after the teach seeing her come into class everyday like that she probably just wanted to do something nice and it probably made the little girl feel really special. I bet the little girl will remember that for the rest of her life. I think it’s great.
I grew up really really poor. Like out of 3 kids me and my brother didnt have jackets. (I'm tearing up ☝) my brother was in High school and I being in 6th grade I was more worried that mean kids would make fun of him. So during class and outside playtime I stayed in the bathroom under the hand dryer. Eventually my teacher caught on and bought me a hoodie and I wouldn't take it. I stood there lying with blue lips and goosebumps saying "oh no thank u I'm not cold." I started bringing a towel to school and I was made fun of and then stopped bringing it. I hated school because I had to wear clothes on a Friday that I wore on Monday.
I now am a talented designer and at one point I was stylist for the music video industry. I make sure any kids I know personally don't go through that feeling.
You were a good sister worrying about your brother, I would have too
omg....so sorry that happened to you. do you speak to your parents today?
fiend me on Facebook 💜☹☺
God bless love. He brought u thru that so u can be genuine when u bless others. I pray we ALL learn to be more willing to not only give, but receive.
You are beautiful for that
As a mother I would be ashamed but humble enough to be thankful.
For every Mom whose mad there is some who wished thier daughter had a "village"😔
This. 👌🏽
I would have been so grateful.
Nah hun. Imma have to disagree. "Villages" don't feel it necessary to POST BEFORE & AFTER PICS ON THE INTERNET. THEY JUST DO THE DEED WITHOUT THE NEED FOR ACCOLADES. The fact that she did a "BEFORE PIC" shows that she had an ulterior motive. If that's something she felt NEEDED TO BE DONE, she should've just done it & kept it between her, the child & mother. Furthermore, that is not within her scope of being an educator to take it upon herself & start styling the hair of one of her students. If she was concerned about the child's personal hygiene/or grooming, she should've CONTACTED THE PARENT *FIRST* before playing beauty shop & reaching for compliments. There's a difference between a "village" & reaching for recognition. Clearly, this teacher wanted to be NOTICED AS THE MARTYR. What other reason would she broadcast this PUBLICLY for the entire world to see, violating both the child & mother's private issues? And of course, we have the gullible ones who see only one side (the teacher's) & automatically begin bashing the mother's parenting. I'm not sure where she got her training, but she should've been reprimanded for this stunt. Social media & your underage students are *OFF LIMITS* . That was a PRIVATE MATTER & should've been handled accordingly. If I worked for the school board & this got back to me, she would've been placed on probation expeditiously followed by an apology to the child's mother. This was BEYOND UNPROFESSIONAL.
@@latimoreshenii3334 ok, u know what, I must admit that I saw the video & gave the teacher all these kudos & somewhat trashed the mother, & although my opinion still stands about there being no excuse for sending your child to school with their hair that way, WE still don't know the core of the problem inside of that child's home. There was absolutely no reason for this teacher to publicize their business like u stated. I agree 100%. That was not the teachers place to reveal that to the world of social media without the mom knowing about it. That was poorly handled by the educator.
@@wouldntyoulike2know51 thank u hun. That's all I'm tryna say.
Organizing our hair is a cultural tradition. I am a teacher and I have aided my students with their hair. They know I have gel, conditioner, and bands! Daily. My students are older they usually have their own brush. If not, just hands. I push hair up and band it. I remind them about etiquette, you cannot do your hair during class. What would I look like combing my hair at my desk? Nope. I have no problem hooking them up after class, before school, or on my lunch break. I call it village work.😊
Exactly. My cabinet had many “essentials” for my students. Not just for the hair either.
Thank you... These were the type of teachers I had. Although, I have been out of school since the late 80’s.😃
Thank you for actually being a good teacher most teachers would've done the bare minimum.
People helped me when I needed it most. Bare minimum is not acceptable to me. Let's pass it on.
Cultural Traditions ! Period👏🏾 on 👏🏾the 👏🏾Daily🙌🏾🧡🧡 thank you for doing the village work and the Lord’s work! May he continue to highly favor you and bless you amen Amennn 🙏🏾
My mother is a teacher and she has done this a few times over the years for different students. My mom did ask the parents for permission before doing so and one girl was in special ed, she was graduating the 5th grade and that was her graduation gift to her student. She actually braided her hair...like going to the shop spend $160-$200 braids (my mom is very talented) and both mother and daughter cried when her mom came to pick her up. So, with permission, yes I think this kind of act is perfectly fine and pretty awesome ☺️
Braids don't cost that much your mom a con artist
@@handsomest1 Braiders definitely do cost that much to do in my state.
Handsome With The Handgun You are clueless. Braids cost that much and more. Please don’t speak on our culture.
Also she meant that was the type of braids she did not that she charged for them. It was a gift, read people. 🤦🏾♀️
The point of kindness is that it is done without permission....just saying
Sometimes in life you should just humble yourself. The only response to should be thank you.
People have no pride when it comes to accepting food and housing assistance, and clothing donations for their kids, but they want to have pride when someone does their kids' hair? Yeah okay, gtfoh.
Thank you!
Society influence
Facts
Exactly!
Period 👏🏽
My opinion is this... There shouldn't be pride issues behind favors. If I was to have a daughter and the teacher fixed her hair, I would be the most grateful. Same thing if I had a son, and one of his teachers gave him a haircut. I would thank that teacher greatly. I feel if you get upset about a favor like that, then you are considering you pride over your child's appearance, and that to me is kinda selfish.
Very selfish
People seem to forget it's takes a village to raise a child.
Umm no sir. If I do not ask please do not touch my child’s hair.
Joey Jackson true but permission is needed to do certain things at least for me anyway lol
Yeah that's true but no one asked you to do it either so yeah I kind of get what you're saying and it sit there and say you doing it over your child for parents but no one asked you to do my child's hair so I can kind of understand what someone would be upset over that
I watch the older ones for the song at the end
Me too! I miss the song!! 😆🙁😆
Me too
Me too
Bring it back!
Right, I forgot about this song 🤗
My teen at that time hooked me on to Kev. The song reminded me of the Proud Family.
I seen this plenty of times, as I work in childcare. There are some that come in and the teacher has to do their hair because of the mother not being of the same race as the father she was not able to do it properly, So sometimes it is much needed.
Yes and usually parents are grateful!
@Iretha Johnson you are right, but it's not that child's fault either. I will not let that child be clowned for something that's out of their control.
@Iretha Johnson So just let the black child walk around with nappy hair because black women shouldnt have to take care of their own? Sounds like your contempt for white women is greater than your love for black children
@nsm151 Your point?
chilliecheesecake that is the mf point.
Reach one, teach one, love on one. This child will remember this for the rest of her life.
I love that the teacher did her hair. The child may have felt unable to concentrate on her work and insecure. The teacher understood how necessary it is for a child's self esteem to be in tact in order to have a progressive day. Parents who would get mad about that are selfish and stuck in their egos. They should feel proud, grateful and appreciative to have teachers who still care deeply and are proactive enough to make positive change where needed. Beautiful act of kindness
The teacher is a hero. I was sent to school with my hair looking awful almost every day. I had kinky, very short hair and my mother didn't know what to do with it. She didn't know how to care for my hair. Needless to say I was teased mercilessly by the other children. I wish my teachers had been this decent and combed my hair. There are still residual feelings behind this today. I would have done something to help this beautiful child too.
Maybe, possibly give the mom a call and ask?. Just a thought.
It is not the teacher's place to do her child hair. It's the teacher's job to teach. If she wanted to do it, she should have asked the parent.
mariesa scott well then parents should keep their child up. If you’re sending your child to school like that you don’t need a child. That’s not fair
mariesa scott she braided it. She didn’t cut it or perm it, she braided it.
NYC_All_Stars still, teachers are not allowed to touch a child’s hair. I’m glad she did it but she is obligated to ask the parent for permission.
@@muadhnate my daughter wears her afro to school lots of time. Kids pick when it's in an afro or braids because it isn't straight. Should a parent perm the child's hair because other kids think only straight hair is ok? My moto is "keep your hands out of my child's hair". (By the way, you can pick out 4c hair and when a child gets done rolling around playing, it will look just like the picture).
As a teacher, I always comb my student's hair. Parents usually thank me for it, due to their busy morning or child being stubborn not wanting to get out of bed. Many mornings, dads have given me hair products asking me to "tame" their child's hair(white and black parents). As a parent, I am appreciative when the teacher thinks of my child enough to make sure they are clean and neat when they return. I could not stand picking my child up from preschool seeing milk and food was still all over their face. Their clothes and hair looked as though they rolled in dirt. I know what I expect so I keep my students neat. Pride would cause someone to be angry. We need teachers that love our children and not just tolerate our children.
It's okay to be embarrassed realizing you're not doing the best for your child. But then turn that embarrassment into strength to do better.
Baby girl has lint in her hair and y’all are talking like “that’s just the way her hair grows out of her scalp” like kindly get off the soap box and exit stage left.
I'm glad someone finally mentioned it! Natural afro hairstyle is fine as long as it's well kept, which this girl's hair was not. It had a bunch of little pieces stuck in and looked dirty.
Thank youuuuu
Exactly
Can anyone help me please! My daughter has beautiful, curly hair down her back. I have poker straight hair and I love her hair but she hates it tied up and whenever I brush it, it goes frizzy, bushy and her curls lose all definition. So I'd rather not brush but if i dont it gets matted so quick and when she was little it'd get lint in it too if I didnt brush it. Is there a way to stop it without brushing her gorgeous curls out? Shes not black but I'm guessing black ppl gotta know about curly hair right?? NO ONE on my side has curly hair, her hair is thick, (dad's middle eastern,) I just want a way to not brush it all the time yet keep it less tangly. I hear curly girls say they dont brush so is there a way? Am i asking the impossible? Thanks in advance if anyone can help!
@@littleboots9800
Maybe try a wet brush? Also moisturize her hair. Definitely try looking at some youtube tutorials for wavy/curly hair.
I’ve had a situation when I was in elementary school, i wore a hat because my hair wasn’t done because of certain circumstances I was under my hair wasn’t done often and I often dressed myself. Instead of having a caring teacher reach out and do my hair, they instead put me in in-school suspension for wearing a hat in the cafeteria and refusing to remove it because my hair wasn’t done. They said they didn’t care and it was disrespectful to wear a hat inside. Made me feel so bad but the shame of having to remove it was even worse when I had to do it the next time.
oh my :(
When I was a single dad I could not do anything with my daughter's hair. I tried. After that, I was like Kev's mom, whatever the cost, I'll pay it, and I did. My little girl's happiness was all that mattered, and peace is happiness.
Honestly, if she's the teacher that means she's been seeing that poor baby's hair like that, so if i was her mother my ego would have probably been hurt like I can't look after my child properly but at the same time i would be grateful too because clearly i didn't have the time or maybe even the skills to do it i guess. So I would gift the teacher a box of chocolates to say thank you. I think it's a nice gesture and it shows she cares for my baby too. 🥰
Yeah when my aunt was treating my like crap and my teachers , counselors and principle was helping me get to work , get ready for college etc etc
My aunt called the school and cussed out everybody when she found out a counselor drove me to the community college (ON SENIOR SKIP DAY) to sign up for class . So then she kicked me out two weeks before graduation. Honestly that was the best thing she could’ve did for me cause God start pouring blessings on me !
She was so mad that “strangers” was easily willing to help a student get ready for the real world cause she wasn’t . So yeah , bad parents/guardians get offended when they get reminded they trash lol
I wish you much success and soar high❤️
She gave this girl some confidence. Maybe she felt left out cuz her hair was never done
I probably would’ve asked first. Just because I know how parents can be. And I’m also a parent who wouldn’t want anyone touching my kids’ hair without my permission. I also wouldn’t let my kids go to school without attempting to do something to their hair. So it’s a tricky situation.
I appreciate him pointing out that our hair looks a certain way natural but if matted then yes.
I'd be mad if I sent my child to school with a natural fro and the teacher didn't like that and changed it.
I mean, I think kids should be able to tell people to change what they want, its your child's hair too, that is connected to their OWN head, not yours. Well, maybe it's because I'm 15 and this girl in the video is like 4.
One of my teachers back when I was in grade school did my hair! Awesome teacher!
Idk why but i can imagine when the mother seen this, she got offended.
there's a video out there where a dad went and had his child hair done and the mother was so enraged she cut the brains out of the child's hair and said nobody touches her child's hair but her! #crazyfolks
@@msgc74c55 Oh yeah I seen it her prideful ass did that because the fathers new girl did the hair and they didn't like her so they cut the child's braids off and recorded it, people are just messed up.
I have always had a good relationship with my daughter and my granddaughters. So I wouldn't mind. I would send a set of hair supplies to the teacher. But you need to remember other children might have been teasing this child.
I would only be mad because I don't know where the comb and brush came from. Other than that, Thanks teacher!
Same here
I was looking for this comment. This happened to me with my daughter. Her hair was always done but the daycare worker use to do her hair sometimes at the end of the day because she would get sand in her hair. I use to watch her on the camera. I finally just started bringing a comb and brush to school. My daughter has a lot of hair and played pretty ruff. I really appreciate her for caring about my daughters hair.
i did some kids hair having worked in childcare for years, but i always asked the parent if it was ok first. they always said yes and appreciated the extra time and effort we spent helping out.
You know what worked for me in these types of situations? Allowing another student in class who enjoys or knows how to do hair to fix her classmates hair. They bond, the child's hair gets done and the parent isn't offended because it was done by a peer. Trust me this strategy works! 💜
Her teacher showed her love because she was showing the child her worth in the eyes of God! It doesn’t make sense to claim pride because you don’t know what is going on in the child’s life! I had a friend who was a class aide who did that for several of her children who were residents of a shelter and the shelter had a waiting list! If you didn’t make it fast enough then they would pay fare and sleep on the train! A child asked if she could do her hair because she wanted to be like the other kids! And she asked her why! The child told her that she knew they had a place to live because if they slept on the train she just had to come as is and it was no better at the shelter because families were required to leave by 5:30 am! If their families had time enough to do their hair then they had a place that they could be in all day! The more intricate styles can run to hours to do! You don’t carry anything excessive since depending on the rules you can only stay a week or a month the entire year! So many wouldn’t carry comb, brushes, beads, shampoo etc! Blessed be the teacher who realizes teaching involves more than teaching one plus one! It also includes building self esteem and pride in yourself!
I have bought kids lunch, socks, etc it amazes me how some kids are neglected
But did you post it on social media? I'm not saying what you did was wrong, but some people feel the need to "show" what they do for people. I think the mom was upset about that. Especially since we/that teacher (probably) don't know what's going on inside the home. Lastly, I understand why people post pictures of other people's kids.
A lot of parents like mine have drug problems/ are alcoholics or addicts and all the money goes to that. 🤷♀️ it’s not that hard of a concept to grasp it’s how I grew up but now I hate drugs/alcohol so there’s a bright side to it I guess
Both picture of the baby girls hair look good to me. I love that the teacher knew how to do this and that she did do it!!
The fact that you can indeed wear curly hair down, just shows this was a nice gesture. Her previous hair was matted with lint. You can do wash and go’s with natural hair and they don’t look disheveled like that. I think it was pretty nice.
I wouldn't be mad. I'd be sooooooo thankful.
When my Son was in daycare, he (who was born with a full head of hair) would never let me braid his entire head even in his sleep so I would do half and his teacher would do the other half. She helped me and I was extremely grateful for this lady!!! Why be mad???
This was how I was when I was a baby , my mum tell this story all the time , I am a girl tho.
I would have thanked the teacher hugged her and appreciated her kind gesture! The parent being upset was obviously out of pride but when it comes to my baby girls my pride goes out the window 💕
Why is UA-cam sending me stuff like this, also
It's important to ask parents before you do anything with their child's hair
As a former daycare teacher I have done this numerous times to the point where parents have actually asked me to do this on a regular basis, some moms just cant do their kids hair and also some kids don't allow their parents to. My worst head was a student who refused to allow her mom to brush or comb her hair, mom was Caucasian and she was Biracial so her hair texture was very curly and got matted easily, I did her hair monthly and sure enough I would have to take out the same style i put in every time. I have had times where I had to wash kids hair because it was so nasty and Im talking about 1yrs olds and all. Some parents are out here struggling. I hope this one was appreciative.
This happened to me as a child but my mom thought it was funny cause she was intentionally sending me with an Afro bc she didn’t know how to do my hair
LOL I'm pretty sure a couple of my students' parents did this to me...
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What is wrong with an afro ? I don't get why people think our natural hair has to constantly be tied up ?
.just asking
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@@Pippinghottea101 nothing is wrong with and afro, but styling it on occasions is also good. Afro's can be bad for a person whose hair mats easily.
Anyone who would get upset would be a FOOL of a parent and deserve to be outed and shamed.
That hairstyle was done with love!!!!
Thankful for this teacher.💕 She probably asked the little girl if she wanted her to fix her hair. I guarantee you it boosted her self esteem! Not sure what's going on at home but the teacher saw a need & met it. Now if she had put chemicals in the child's hair, it would be an issue. To me, this was done in good taste. Thanks Teach!🍎📚❤
As much as I would like to do it I would only do it if the parent gave express permission. It is really sad but some people will have a problem and not leave it there
Such beautiful hair. Love that the teacher took the time to do such a pretty heart style for her. So very pretty.
My mom and some aunts are teachers they said if the child came to school smelling good and dressed well and the only thing unkempt was the hair then they would call the parent and say may I touch your childs hair and put in in pig tails they said sometimes parents fall short you do not want it to feel disrespectful and condescending my mom said most of the time in a situation like this she called the parents first and they would explain their situation and once they felt heard they would apologize for being SLACK and give permission for her to comb their kids hair and would be grateful and from there on out they would make a great effort to do better a little understanding and tolerance goes a long way on both sides!!!
I'm grateful to the teacher!!! Teachers most often go above and beyond the call of duty.... the girl can now focus on being a child and learn.. peers can be hateful... please set your kids for success as much as possible. If you can't do hair get a friend, teen, salon to do it!
If it was certain type of teacher they could have called CPS instead. Then that’s a whole different story. So lend a helping hand OR lend a hand that may investigate an take your child!! 🤷🏾♂️ I’m sure the teacher didn’t want to give that parent that type of problem so she helped.
From my experience they don't care about unkept hair. They barely care if a child gets a bath.
CPS because the child is wearing an afro??? That’s too much
From my experience my cousin had a call from his teacher about his dreads. They weren’t retwisted (normal new growth of dreads). My cousins mom cursed the teacher out an moved him out her class... which why I said what I said some ppl just want to worry about things instead of teaching hence why I said “Certain teacher” . It’s definitely moments that happen ijs
@@Mrs.Adrian that's not a normal afro I hope you're not saying that's natural hair because that's bs her hair had lint, was dry and tangled up and before you say anything yes I have 4c hair and my sisters do too. Even if they go a week without combing it doesn't look this bad her parents clearly don't really so her hair.
@@Soulglo222 because the way the child looked seem as if her parents weren't taking care of her hair at all
I had three of my primary school teachers do my hair, it happened a few times but I loved it. It wasn't that embarrassing. My mum wasn't able to do my hair properly anymore due to sight loss and she's a diabetic. She used to sleep a lot and didn't have much energy.
I vividly remember all three of them standing around little me, making me feel really good with my hair plaited up nicely and beautiful golden beads that made a lovely sound everytime I shook it. I was so so happy with them, I couldn't stop beaming from ear to ear. My mum was very thankful too. They really looked after me as if I was their own child.
That parent should of been ashamed ASF, she should know how kids treat each other in school. Kid's are straight ruthless, they'll make fun of everything, a kid's clothes, shoes, and yes hair. I would of shook that teachers hand for sure.
It looks great. Vulnerability is the name of the day. Be grateful for the assistance.
Unfortunately, someone is going to be offended regardless. No matter the intentions or situation.
- If it was a male teacher doing her hair, big problem
- Female teacher doing her hair, big problem
- Teacher addressing parent about student's hair, problem (it'll either be "mind ya business" or "don't tell me how to care for my child")
- If the teacher minds their business, problem ("how you see the child coming to school everyday like that & not say/do anything!")
Can't win wit ya niggas
P.S. don't know why I'm getting this 5 yr old video recommended Now
Exactly
The child probably was very very happy.
You're telling me that you're gonna teach my children and do their hair. Where do I sign. 😁😁
I would be upset but greatful. Upset that you touched my kids hair and said that my kids hair was “un-kept” but greatful that instead of sending her home or bashing her, you helped out and did what you can to help.
The teacher should have asked, though. We teachers get a backlash for EVERYTHING! So, to protect herself and to not get the child caught in the middle of the backlash, she should have asked. Not all parents like us looking out for their children beyond the classroom and at the end of the day, they're their children. I learned this lesson the hard way.
I always did my students' hair. It eventually became a thing where their parents left it to me and/or their children said they wanted me to do it. Once I had a child who had completely matted hair that my coworker and I worked hard to comb out. Her grandmother was grateful... but then weeks later she just shaved it off because she couldn't manage it. Yea so in a nutshell, my students' parents were always grateful for the help.
3rd grade my mom stopped doing my hair and had to start working. She would only do my hair if she had to go somewhere with me and even then sometimes I’d just wear a scarf. She’d tell everyone I wouldn’t do my hair. I used to tell my teachers I didn’t know how and they’d question me about my mom. I didn’t realize how odd it was until honestly the last couple of years. I don’t know why some mothers are so comfortable with their kid not being taken care of COMPLETELY. I’ll always be baffled by it. There’s no excuse.
Her hair look really nice. I'm more than sure her mother appreciated it, as well as the little girl.
That was a nice thought for the teacher but people that arent doing what should be done for their children get an attitude when someone else does. So hopefully this didn't cause a problem between the parent and teacher. But maybe she didn't care and saw how the little girl felt everyday not having her hairstyles. Thumbs up to this teacher.
I’m a kindergarten teacher and I’ve done this numerous times. Being a teacher isn’t just about teaching academics, it’s also about caring for your students when they’re not being cared for.
I need a background story.
Same thing happened to My daughter too, her teacher did her hair, I thank her for it too, I didn’t have the time, dealing with everything working at the hospital, having son that had mental problems, helping them with homework cleaning cooking ironing clothes etc...I be burnt out about everyday, now, they are older and things gotten way better.
I wonder was it matted and unkempt or was it just an afro? When children play around, their hair becomes messy, doesn't matter, she should not have done her hair without the caregivers consent.
looking at that picture it looks like her hair is dirty
@@lovelyred30 I'm wondering why people can't see it either. Her hair is dirty AND matted. You can't even tell she has a head FULL of gorgeous long hair bc it's a mess in 1st pic. That's not 1 or 2 days of not combing.
C Johnson Right.
Miss Charms our hair especially kids with natural hair tends to attract lint .. that doesn’t mean it’s dirty she’s a kid she probably was rolling on the floor at school and her hair probably drys out fast which makes it looks dry n matted smh if you don’t know much about natural hair stop judging
nurse Majola You clearly didn’t read the above comment. It’s possible that the parent did send the child out with clean, lint-free hair, but kids do countless things at school, many of which are bound to mess up someone’s hair. Every other race and hair texture is allowed to mess up their hair but let a 4c black person do it, and it’s a problem.
As a parent, I’d be thankful because I would love my child enough to let her teacher know that I’m struggling and I appreciate her help. I’d feel bad about myself but good for my daughter.
Him as a parent: "Her doing my daughter's hair makes me look lik I don't keep my daughter up."
Me: but you don't
Dude. I'm subscribing because you were honest. "Out of sheer pride, I'd be mad." Honesty! Love it.
I did one of my preschool students hair. Her hair was very short and she was very girly. Baby girl was so happy, how did her mom respond??? She put a bag of hair bows and products in her cubby lol. She said she just couldn't figure out how to do her short hair, she didn't want to bother me but whenever I had free time she would appreciate if I would work magic for her. Nor the first time I crossed the line on behalf of a child, I once pulled a tooth of one of my autistic students. He didn't trust anyone but me to do it and his father understood why I did it.
I did this once for a little girl in my school. The little girl was happy and the parents never said anything about it. I remember the principal came into the office, stopped, looked at me, I looked at him and he kept about his business.
Hard to answer because I'm not sending my child to school without a decent hairstyle. Even if it's just an afro with a headband they better not touch it.
Her hair was a mess I’d be glad if the teacher did my daughters hair if it looked like that (which I would never let happen)
@@Defnotjolie exactly. It won't be a problem if the parents do what they are supposed to do
Exactly! Do not touch it. They’re children, they don’t need to look presentable at all times
@@samariam3043 right. I use to look a mess after recess 😭😭.
I think it was so sweet of the Teacher to put her hair in a protective style.
We are living in a different time now. Parents do not want you to do anything for their kids without getting their permission first. In spite of the teacher’s good intentions, she should have run this matter by the parent first. She was hired to teach not to do the kid’s hair, and if the parent complains, she could get suspended and/or lose her job over doing something that is not in line with her job description. Again people do not take kindly to anything that makes them look like a bad parent.
I am a living witness, that as a young lady her self-esteem was boosted 💯%! I was that little girl. Thank you Mrs. (Officer) Hardy! ❤️🤍❤️🤍
In this day and age it’s offensive to do this , however when I was growing up it would’ve been appreciated, you can’t really involve yourself in people’s kids lives you don’t know if this is a cultural thing or a spiritual practice etc.. if you feel as the teacher this happens too often then contact CYF to do a well child check that’s the best way, no one wants to lose their job behind having a big heart and caring how a kid looks.
The mama should have thanked the teacher
You know what would have made me mad? That she took a before and after photo. Like, who was she showing these photos to? Other than that I wouldn't have minded her combing my child's hair.
She just took the pictures to take a before and after. Simple as that
Right. Her doing Babygirl hair isn't the problem. It's the pics posted on social media by said teacher which gives me pause.
@@adenikekeyara8831 It was probably to show what the parents aren’t doing. Sometimes if a child comes to school in a messy situation, they may have to record evidence. This is probably not the first time her hair has shown up matted, or she knows that the parents aren’t taking care of her. In an instance something could probably have happened in that household for her to have her hair like that. That’s easily child neglect. So a photo is important sometimes.
This is a true story. When we were foster parents we had a 7 year old girl placed in our home( I'll call her Sandra). Sandra had " issued" to say the least and she would have violent outbursts at time. She would physically attack other children and adults at times. This little girl had a head full of hair and didn't like to get it combed. One day she refused to let me comb her hair before going to school. I pulled it back into one big puffy ponytail and took her to school. When i picked her up from school her teacher had combed and nicely braided her hair. The teacher and i had a good relationship and she knew
Sandra' s behavior issues. I was thankful the teacher did Sandra's hair.
The teacher has a good heart
This Monday I had to send my 9 months old daughter to daycare with her hair undone. I washed her hair on Sunday, put it in little pigtails so it wouldn’t get all knotted. Monday morning we woke up and her hair was everywhere and she has a lot of it.
For some reason, that particular day, she absolutely refuses to let me do her hair. She cried, fussed, rolled every time I touched the hair. After 30 minutes, we gave up because dad was running late for work and he had to drop her.
When I picked her up in the afternoon, her daycare provider did her hair. She told me as soon as she saw with her hair all messy, she knew something was up at home because she is usually well put together. I appreciated the fact that she cared enough about my daughter to do her hair.
I have 5 kods...main thing with touching my kiss hair (even out of a positive feeling to help) ... just call and ask, problem solved... I'd be good with a decent haircut that I didn't pay for this week.
If I was the parent and I really had an issue with it, I would make sure her hair is done next time... and yes to the comments that asked how the little girl felt about it, how the classroom situation was and how the home situation was. Those are important!
As a parent id get kinda pissed to know someone did my kids hair without my permission.
I use to be like the schools mom. At the door I would tie shoes, fix clothes, do hair, I'll buy extra winter stuff and give it out. When a kid in my son's class would fail I would help them with projects. People asked to take pictures of me or start a group but I didn't want any obligation like that. Everyday I think someone should do something nice for someone else.
One thing about black hair is it don't just drop and hang low naturally...the child's hair is clearly heathy...but like you said either pride or gratefulness on the mothers part...teacher took pictures which makes me think about.
Thank you for this video! When I’m in a lot of pain, my daughter’s Teacher braids or styles her hair. I appreciate her so much.
It’s more hard, because my daughter has sensory issues due to Autism. I’m very thankful to those that help. 🥲💙💯
‘Unkept’.. The black community need to stop this obsession with ‘done’’ hair. Her hair is exactly as God intended. Reminds me of when people were dragging Beyoncé for ‘not doing’ Blue Ivy’s hair when she was younger and at 8 years old her hair is flourishing and healthy. All these tight styles, create tension on the hair line etc. These little girls should not have so much value placed on their hairstyles. Her hairs probably looking a little ‘unkept’ after a long day at school, doing exactly what children do. This teacher is out of order, I would be highly offended. How I chose to present my child to the world is my choice as a parent. As long as they are clean, healthy and fed, their appearance is none of your business. If it were a white child this would not have occurred.
Look at this idiot here
Regardless of textur,hair needs to be maintained which means combing it and keeping it clean. Having hair mold is a real thing and happens more times then some like to admit. So it's not just asthetic but also for health reasons.
I send my daughter to school with an afro everyday. Throughout the day it does get tangled and dry. It was a nice gesture, but reach out to the parents first.
Tekashi 96 says the person with such a user name. You bought nothing to the discussion. God bless you 😩
At least she didn't relax it. That's completely different. She helped the little girl.