the video is so helpful, i sent it to my best friend and it really made her think again. btw i like it when you said the guy should wait with the girl, not wait for the girl. thank you so much Jason!
Excellent talk. Realistic examples. Also good explanation of how arousal differs in women vs. men without making women feel bad (like saying they're being a tease). Talking about boundaries BEFORE a date is such an important point but also making sure how you meet and settings you put yourself in match what you say. For instance, I don't think meeting from any dating app is a good idea because they're usually used for sex. Also if you say ok to being alone with a guy in a car or a home it sets up expectations for sex to some guys so it's best to avoid it.
Me and my girlfriend have been dating for a little more than a year. We are both Church going Catholics. We only started kissing each other recently and eventually we found ourselves making out in the back of one of our cars. today I looked up if making out was a sin and I found that it was. Now I'm a stubborn POS so even today I had continued this streak but then eventually found myself giving into imaginative lust losing custody over my eyes. I looked up through the window and asked "4 years?" (She said I couldn't propose until the end of College. She was at first a bit annoyed that I brought up the amount of time before I could propose. But then I asked "do you really think we can keep doing this and be pure 'can man hold fire in his bosom and his clothes not be burned?'" since i finally manned up and had an important conversation we now have a perminant boundary set. I will be going to confession tomorrow morning.
hi Jason... where can a 39-year old Catholic woman find these good men? It's been 6 years since I left my abusive ex-husband and a very high percentage of men fall into the first 2 categories... is God proud of me for being true to Him even if that means ending up alone? What if God never rewards my purity and He never sends me a good man?
I am so happy for you that you got away from that abusive relationship. Remember, there is nothing you can do to make God love you less, that being said what you do matters and I think that the fact you are holding out for a guy who respects your dignity is awesome! With this time of being single, continue building a relationship with him and growing in holiness so that you can be who he is calling you to be. Who knows, he might have a different plan that you weren't expecting. One last thing to think about, God doesn't owe anyone anything but he gives because he is so good, which may not be something we want, but something we need. I will be praying for your continued strength and for your search for another husband if that is God's will!
Thanks Jason! Some very good points you have discussed! That girl was very brave to stand up for her beliefs and how she valued her body and her future husband. Where do I find the full podcasts of these little clips?
Truth is most of you need to cool it down and learn impulse control. Women tend to be more sensitive emotionally...you can for sure push too hard and pressure a woman into sex. For you it isnt a big deal. For a woman its hurtful.
I feel really sad for a lot of the people in these comments. If your faith is making you feel guilt, manipulation, or remorse for having consensual safe sex, it may be time to reconsider your options. The Christian faith uses shame, guilt, manipulation, disgust, and judgement to justify hating our bodies and sexuality. If you want a healthy relationship with sex with your partner, its time to take a look at how the relationship with God defines and conditionalizes that.
We love our bodies so much we want to give them with a permanent partner who respects us and is willing to sacrifice for us. You dont sound like you know much about catholicism. I advise you to check John Paul II theology of the body.
the video is so helpful, i sent it to my best friend and it really made her think again.
btw i like it when you said the guy should wait with the girl, not wait for the girl. thank you so much Jason!
Excellent talk. Realistic examples. Also good explanation of how arousal differs in women vs. men without making women feel bad (like saying they're being a tease). Talking about boundaries BEFORE a date is such an important point but also making sure how you meet and settings you put yourself in match what you say. For instance, I don't think meeting from any dating app is a good idea because they're usually used for sex. Also if you say ok to being alone with a guy in a car or a home it sets up expectations for sex to some guys so it's best to avoid it.
Me and my girlfriend have been dating for a little more than a year. We are both Church going Catholics. We only started kissing each other recently and eventually we found ourselves making out in the back of one of our cars. today I looked up if making out was a sin and I found that it was. Now I'm a stubborn POS so even today I had continued this streak but then eventually found myself giving into imaginative lust losing custody over my eyes. I looked up through the window and asked "4 years?" (She said I couldn't propose until the end of College. She was at first a bit annoyed that I brought up the amount of time before I could propose. But then I asked "do you really think we can keep doing this and be pure 'can man hold fire in his bosom and his clothes not be burned?'" since i finally manned up and had an important conversation we now have a perminant boundary set. I will be going to confession tomorrow morning.
Thanks Jason! I love your videos. They have really helped me to see, even more, the beauty of man and woman, as God has created us.
Thank you
hi Jason... where can a 39-year old Catholic woman find these good men? It's been 6 years since I left my abusive ex-husband and a very high percentage of men fall into the first 2 categories... is God proud of me for being true to Him even if that means ending up alone? What if God never rewards my purity and He never sends me a good man?
I am so happy for you that you got away from that abusive relationship. Remember, there is nothing you can do to make God love you less, that being said what you do matters and I think that the fact you are holding out for a guy who respects your dignity is awesome! With this time of being single, continue building a relationship with him and growing in holiness so that you can be who he is calling you to be. Who knows, he might have a different plan that you weren't expecting. One last thing to think about, God doesn't owe anyone anything but he gives because he is so good, which may not be something we want, but something we need.
I will be praying for your continued strength and for your search for another husband if that is God's will!
Most men don't want to have any kinds of boundaries.
Many thankssssssssss
Such an amazing video, thanks so much Jason!
Thanks Jason! Some very good points you have discussed! That girl was very brave to stand up for her beliefs and how she valued her body and her future husband. Where do I find the full podcasts of these little clips?
Thanks! You can get them at ua-cam.com/users/jasonevert or chastity.com/podcast
@@Chastityproject thank you so much! God bless you!
Thanks Jason 😊💖🧚♀️🙏
CATHOLICS... assemble.
I need a fishbowl, said no goldfish ever. Goldfish need a river to thrive.
Well... seems a bit like shaming men's sexuality a bit
Truth is most of you need to cool it down and learn impulse control. Women tend to be more sensitive emotionally...you can for sure push too hard and pressure a woman into sex. For you it isnt a big deal. For a woman its hurtful.
I feel really sad for a lot of the people in these comments. If your faith is making you feel guilt, manipulation, or remorse for having consensual safe sex, it may be time to reconsider your options. The Christian faith uses shame, guilt, manipulation, disgust, and judgement to justify hating our bodies and sexuality. If you want a healthy relationship with sex with your partner, its time to take a look at how the relationship with God defines and conditionalizes that.
We love our bodies so much we want to give them with a permanent partner who respects us and is willing to sacrifice for us. You dont sound like you know much about catholicism. I advise you to check John Paul II theology of the body.