OCPD: Stop making excuses! (Part 1 of 2)
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- Опубліковано 5 чер 2018
- OCPD: Stop making excuses! (Part 1 of 2) Episode 018
Excuses, excuses, excuses! I'm tired of them. Are you? Every journey begins with a single step and that step for us today is to move past our own mental roadblocks. If we believe we are always right and everyone else is always wrong, why are things not going better for us? Well they can and they will if we decide we are worth it. So let's start talking some positivity. Thanks for coming along.
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OCPD: My Life In Debris is a channel dedicated to helping sufferers of obsessive compulsive personality disorder and those dealing with the people in their life that are afflicted with this personality disorder. We will delve into topics covering detailed explanations of the disorder, exploring treatment options, interviews with sufferers, how to live with the disorder, interviews with those that have people in their life with OCPD, and talks with treatment professionals. In addition, we will explore personality disorders and mental health disorders and how to navigate the world when these are a part of your daily life.
最近、日本でパーソナリティ障害クラスターC 群がますます増えてきている点で、私注意 を引きました。こようなことが起きている理由を説明する困難ですが、日本文化がそ 一端を担っていると考える不自然でないでしょう。チャネルアナリティクスを確認し てみると、私コンテンツにアジア、特に日本から関心が寄せられていることがわかりま す。こチャンネル目的、できるだけ多く人にメッセージを届け、役に立ててもらうことな で、動画を日本語字幕付きで提供することにしました。コンテンツ、特に「強迫性パーソナ リティ障害」をテーマにしています。強迫性パーソナリティ障害、日本でも多く見られる強迫 性障害と別疾患です。強迫性パーソナリティ障害、略して OCPD と呼れており、また 文献上で強迫性パーソナリティ障害 (Anankastic personality disorder (APD)) とも呼れて います。OCPD 、白か黒か思考と完璧主義的な特徴を持つ障害です。実際特徴、 るかに複雑ですが、それを説明するために動画を用意しました。内容がお役に立てれ、ある い少なくとも情報として参考にしていただけれ幸いです。ご覧いただきありがとうございま した。また、以下にお気軽にコメントをお寄せください。
用語説明
強迫性パーソナリティ障害
強迫性
完璧
完璧主義者
完璧な
完璧主義
メンタルヘルス
うつ病
不安
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#ocpd
#perfectionism
#depression
#anxiety
#obsessivecompulsivepersonalitydisorder
#ocd
“You don’t need an inspirational quote “ lmao
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My husband has this! We’ve been married four years and lived together for one year. Since we’ve been married, I’ve become depressed, paranoid, suicidal and gained weight. No matter how much therapy I’m in, I’ll never feel normal as long as I live with someone who berates, belittles, bullies and disregards my needs. He won’t get help…I miss who I used to be. His own mother warned me before we got married!
Joan Crawford I am so very sorry that you find yourself in this situation. I hope that through therapy you are able to choose a path forward that is in the best interest of your own mental health. Therapy can be a fantastic provider of new perspectives. And from those new points of view you can grow the power to make difficult decisions to better your own life. I would suggest looking into support groups as well and please feel free to ask any questions you may have. Thank you for sharing.
I have another challenge for people with OCPD that starts the same way yours does but then goes a different direction lol:
You don't like being wrong, do you? But if you are wrong, whether you accept it or not doesn't change whether you _are_ or _aren't_ wrong. Refusing to openly and deeply pursue the truth is keeping you away from being right much more so than admitting when you aren't. Admitting when you aren't right brings you closer to being right. Accepting that being right is a process that takes time and finding peace within that process makes you much more efficient in pursuing and achieving being right.
And my personal encouragement: the way you think, be it plagued by OCPD or not, is genuinely a world of wonder and value and beauty. But even gold has to be cleansed through fire. Seeing the wrong within the huge, complex, beautiful picture doesn't make it (or you, or your way of thinking) worthless or overall wrong. It just opens one more door toward refinement and you are so, so worthy of that. I realize this probably is very difficult for someone with OCPD to agree with, but I hope it can at least be helpful food for thought!
I wish you all the best.
essennagerry thank you so much for sharing another example of how someone can challenge themselves. Being open to being wrong is an important character trait that leads to openness, sociability and kindness. Also, it's not just about being wrong, it's about allowing there to be multiple right answers to problems. Most people want the same things, but there are many different paths a person can take to end up at the same destination. I wish you all the best as well.
Love your bird curtains and good to see you. Looking forward to more. I'm diagnosed with OCD but I feel I have OCPD. I start assessment for autism at The end of the week. My life is upside down big time but I hope it can get better. Thanks for the encouragement.
RedRock Asrama you're welcome for the encouragement. Thank you so much for leaving a comment. I think I need to make a video addressing the autism comparison as well. It's common knowledge amongst us with OCPD that OCD and OCPD are conflated often, but it seems more and more that this is happening with autism as well. I hope that you are able to get your life back the right way up soon!
OCPD: My Life In Debris that would be great. Thanks!
I like the curtains too.
I’m new to your channel but have found it insightful. You are honest and direct which is how my therapist is. And though I am defensive and a jerk with my therapist and find myself defensive when I watch any video about OCPD I know I benefit from directness. It’s a fact. And I’m all about facts tbh.
Dude! This video is so intense! I have decided to watch your videos from the beginning. You pack so much information in each one I have watched so far so I know I need to take time to listen and watch to really get all I can from them. But starting from the first video is what I have decided to do.
But you give me hope.
There has been information about OCPD I have come across that was harmful and hurtful to me. I began to believe i couldn’t change and that was very depressing to me. I’m trying to get back on my feet. I am getting emotional because I don’t talk much about what I am going through so I will stop sharing my situation and continue with my point. So i have 2 questions for you.
1. Would you consider making a video about how people with a PD CAN change? Perhaps you already have one about this. Perhaps you say this. But if you haven’t made one specifically about this hopeless view people have about PD, it would do a world of good for many. And maybe it would be good to not just mention OCPD but PD in general.
2. Would you be interested in taking a look at some of this information that’s so hopeless and making videos about that? I have found this diagnosis so hard to understand because of conflicting or unkind information. One woman wrote an article about OCPD and I truly think she absolutely hated the disorder and any client she had with the diagnosis. It was such a horrible article!
Chlink Ink I'll leave a second comment with a link to a video that might cover what you're looking for. However, if it doesn't, let me know and I'll see what I can do to cover a topic that delves more into what you were hoping to hear about.
For your second question, I'm open to all sorts of suggestions for video topics. Do you already have some links you can share with me so that I have something to start out with for research purposes?
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OCPD: My Life In Debris I will find the links to the information soon. Thanks.
OCPD: My Life In Debris I have to be honest. There is so much more information out there about OCPD than there was a few years back. At least I think that is the case. I’m actually having trouble finding the specific articles that came off as hopeless. But I will continue to look for them because I just feel that if anyone else came across the information it would discourage them as it discouraged me. And it would be great if you wanted to make a video about the information. There’s some myths out there, I believe. Not just about OCPD but about all PD. I have noticed there’s been a positive change among many therapists. But there’s such a stigma about having PD. People often think you’re crazy, can’t change and have no empathy. These are things I’d like to see disappear out of societal perception! The only thing I think can be done is for those who work in this field or has a PD diagnosis that have a platform to is to talk more about it.
i'm looking at these videos for solidarity. I very easily blame myself personally for behaviours that are actually shared, and that helps me to not give in to the extreme conclusion of being a lost cause.
im19ice3 you definitely have solidarity. That is one of the primary purposes of the channel. I want a community surrounding me that can lift each other up.
immediately added your vid to my "f thinking" playlist just from your intro thx bud
crazystemlady that's fantastic. Thank you so much for watching!
I would like to thank you for taking the time to make theses video's. I had girlfriend whom I'm no longer with because of the way she acted. I'm no Doctor but can tell you OCPD describes her to a T I mean everything. She really hurt me in some of the things she said and did and now I have better understanding of why she acted like she did. The way she was acting I'm sure she would never admit she has a problem. You've gave me a better understanding of what was going on.
jimmy Peterson you're very welcome. I'm sorry to hear about all you went through with your ex-girlfriend. I'm sure she is struggling, but it's no excuse for some of the things that us with OCPD put those closest to us through. I have some videos filmed that I'm now in the process of editing and they'll be uploaded soon. They're a little more focused and have some more in-depth info in them. Thanks for stopping by!
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Thanks Darryl just hope she can be as strong as you someday and realize she has a problem. She did tell me some of her friends did comment on the way she acted sometimes. I hope she'll wake up and smell the Roses someday and help make life for her and everyone around her alot happier.
Good seeing you again.
christine van kammen it's good to be seen. Thanks for watching.
Really good video thanks, you look really well and much more upbeat and in a much better mood. Just got my pregabalin from my doctors and I feel so much more relaxed and am happy that you seem to be doing much better. People with ocpd struggle with insight and that's something that you seem to have got to grips with really well.
Mark Wilson I'm glad you had those feelings from watching the video. I feel like I've turned a corner and I want to talk about all the things that helped me to get to this point. So happy for you that the medication continues to work and that you have access to it. Thanks for watching.
Mark Wilson what is pregabalin?
@@chlinkink7433 www.webmd.com/drugs/2/drug-93954-1903/pregabalin-oral/pregabalin-extended-release-oral/details
@@chlinkink7433 Hello Chlink ink, it's a medication used for a number of things, social anxiety, epilepsy, general anxiety, fibromyalgia (which I also have) i'm not in a great mood without it. :) I don't even know if I have OCPD or maybe aspergers lately x
Love your little dance at the end! 🤣🤣🤣🤣
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Glad to see you back! 😀
Ryan Liberty / Mental Health thank you so much friend. Funny thing is I never stopped recording. Just been too crazy to edit and upload. Great job on your upload schedule by the way and the quality of your videos.
There's a bit of a contradiction here for me though. I have a personal mission in the work that I do, and I'm trying to do my part to make the world a better place. So, when I find myself in conflicts with the people in my life, its not because their thoughts or beliefs are aesthetically displeasing to my ego. Its because the *actions* that result from this person's beliefs cause them to engage in behaviours that would hinder me from reaching the full potential of my project. So, it's not so simple for me to just tolerate these people's thoughts. I have a choice. I either look out for the feelings of some rich douchebag who wants to exploit me and the people I'm trying to help, or I continue defending the cause. I just can't see my obsession as being entirely unhealthy. It has led to very big opportunities with work. And there's more big things on the horizon. I just need to be more tactful so that I don't go too far. The real problem is my inability to delegate, and the paranoia that comes from my traumas
Amaravi there's no doubt that there can be aspects to our personality disorders that can help us get ahead in life, accomplish certain goals and even in cases such as you describe, help other people. It's that the evidence suggests we must be willing to let go of all of the parts if we want to heal. Really examine all of our motivations under a microscope. It doesn't even mean that we won't retain some of the beneficial personality traits. We just have to be willing to risk them in the goal of overcoming a disorder that can seriously negatively impact our interpersonal relationships. Thanks for the comment and the insight.
So this guy i know with co morbbid personality disorders, he insists on paying his cellphone bill in increments of $100 , he even calls the help desk to talk ro them about it and tells them for 24 years hes done this etc.....his bill is 121.43, i suggested he pay the whole thing and he freaked out and said hed never ever do that, he was horrified and anxious i even brought up the idea as a theruputic excercise. He wont even look at the river let alone cross it.
Jumbo Shrimp can he explain to you the rationale behind paying in $100 increments?
@@OCPD_support I asked him and he said he feels comfortable doing it this way, he has been doing it for 22 years every month and keeping track of it because when its "finally over" he wants to easily know in whole and round numbers what he spent on his cellphone bill. Its bad he won't change, his co morbid Narc traits wont allow him to admit any faults or change his thinking because hes always right.
@@jumboshrimp2885 that's a pretty lame reason and his reaction is a surefire sign that therapy is going to be the only way he can see how silly his action are and how frustrating his stubbornness is.
@@OCPD_support ...It is frustrating...he says his #1 priority is becoming his "true self" but wont consider any behavioral modification or change thinking or try to change emotion with self talk. His only hope is to change his behavior, thinking or emotions. Blames genes, looks for external help, like b.s. new life patches, easy gimmicks, medication, symptom relief for anxiety, depression. His comorbid narcissistic traits wont allow any changes because thats admitting his thinking is not perfect. I feel like jerry mcguire yelling " Help me Help You".
@@jumboshrimp2885 this sounds like a difficult friendship. Make sure you're setting boundaries and checking in on whether or not this relationship is damaging any part of your mental health. At this point I'm more concerned about you. And yes, I understand better than anyone how insanely frustrating your situation is.
great video, you look well
No1superjuicey thanks a lot. Two more videos in the works as well :)
hope you wil be back soon for patt 2!
No1superjuicey I will. The filming is done. I just need to find a spot with a fast enough internet connection to upload it.
I have been diagnosed with OCPD just last year & I’m certainly open to discussing it with anyone. I understand I can be very rigid & people have called me a dictator for acting within my leadership roles. I consider myself to be very open minded & non-judgmental, yet I find it difficult to find others who accept me & my own flaws.
G A Aspros Figueroa thanks for sharing part of your story. If you are interested in discussing your OCPD with others, there is a fantastic private group on Facebook that might be encouraging to join.