To my fellow young men: Marriage is no shackle, because you choose your wife. The weight of expecting to marry is that you are driven to seek the *right* woman with all your might, because you know that you can have no one else in the end. In this sense, the "burden" of commitment is just what we need to understand the gravity/sanctity of the bond you share with your wife.
Here's the problem, only the guy REALLY has to commit, he's the only one held accountable. The current marriage laws are satanic. It's no more Biblical than gay marriage. Imagine asking women to sign a prenup that says, he can leave her for any reason, cheat on her, get tired of her, bored with her, lose attraction to her and she gets nothing. He walks away with everything, including the kids, if he wants them and has zero responsibility to pay child support or alimony. Not one person in their right mind would support such a thing. Yet, the prenup men sign is actually worse, as she is allowed to leave for all of those frivolous reasons, and he doesn't just LOSE half if stuff, he has to pay 40% of his future income for her to take his kids and live with some other guy. Just marry the right woman? Good luck with that, as society has bred unbridled narcissism in women. They are now raised with the expectation that life should be tingles and fairytales until the day they die, and if a man can't provide that, then she NEEDS to find someone better. And since she's awarded cash and prizes, she has all the incentive in the world to leave. There are A LOT of guys who thought they married the right girl, only to lose everything by the one they love. But you're right, marriage isn't a shackle, it's a suicide pact. Fix the laws.
Well said! As a young woman, it is so disheartening to me to see many conservative comments sections _filled_ with black-pilled men who are rejecting marriage entirely, because its current state is flawed, and it comes with heavy commitment. Please keep spreading this wisdom as far as you can.
yes you chose a wife. But you have no control over what that person might do. - And even in good Christian marriages people cheat - Or 3 , 4 kids later the wife, and plus some yrs of resentment built-up against her husband, so she decides that sex isn't a priority as much anymore - basically killing all intimacy in the marriage. Now just roommate's that raise kids, pay bills together. - At the present you have the 800 lb gorilla in the room, sucking all the air out of it. ( sex in marriage is about 20% when its regular of a good marriage, but if not, its 80% of it) John Gottman proved that 69% of all marriage issues will never be resolved in life of a marriage. With that given the happiness of the marriage will determine its long term prognosis?
This is so cool, because a Swedish man recently published a big study about the effects of marriage, on health, economy, and lots of other things. He came to basically the same result as you. Thank you for your great work!
@@yulinng Den goda familjen. It means ”The Good Family”. It was published by the Clapham Institute. I don’t know if there is a translation though, but worth investigating.
My dad had 3 women he impregnated and sadly he had a hard life. Always had barely enough money . Juggled between women and kids and didn’t have a good relationship w a majority of his kids. He ended up dying early not realising his career 😢dreams . RIP dad. He was a good dad in the beginning until his lusts controlled him and he began chasing women.
I see men like this where I live because it is full of retired people. A lot of the women who are old and alone are so because their husband died. But I have noticed a lot of the single retired men are still full of lust and ruminate in dating all the women. They are alone and annoying to be around. This is quite literally where Red Pill men are headed.
God sent me my now wife when I was at my lowest point, and I had no one. I had turned my back to him, I had no friends, and neither of my divorced parents were of any help. He sent this most incredible woman into my life to love me and support me and give me the strength to not only pick myself back up but also give me a drive to be better than before so that I may serve both her and the LORD... and I could never give that up for another woman
I wholeheartedly agree!!! I've been married to my best friend for 41 years. We married young, grew up together, struggled through many hard, unhappy times, raised 4 wonderful kids who followed in our footsteps (giving us 12 grandchildren) and we are sooooooo happy and blessed. There's nothing so satisfying, deep and wonderful than to fight for and achieve a happy marriage and family. It's hard work for sure, but so worth it! God's ways are good❤
My sister used to fight with me and say I had unrealistic expectations, she assured me prince charming was not coming. I held out, I kept staying home playing video games while she and other young women went out to party and get used up looking for some dude they could put up with. She is now divorced 4 times, and I am still married to the guy I met on a video game one night way back then. Stay strong, you will find her when you least expect it.
Same. I remember one night I was grocery shopping with my mom (I was 4 years into my relationship with my now husband, who proposed to me the very next year) and she asks me what I wanted to do with my life. I said, "My main goal is to get married and start a family with (boyfriend)." Silence from the carpark all the way back to my condo. Seriously, mom?
@@lucacuradossi1040 No. I have been friends with so many poly couples and they are not happy. They also don't wanna be friends anymore when they find out they can't get you into their bed. They need help.
@@lucacuradossi1040It’s not about "satisfying society", but about choosing a way of life with the best proven outcomes for everyone (you included). Unfortunately, you will only realize rejecting this advice was a mistake when it's too late. Nest of luck.
@@celestialmorpho Don’t listen to the “make Jesus your spouse” nonsense because it is since marriage does not exist in Heaven but brought to completion there. You are a traditional woman then who wants family over a job or big career or maybe even after obtaining success. A Christian marriage is what you seek as there are plenty of Bible verses showing what a healthy marriage looks like and masculinity with Jesus and femininity with Mary, Mother of God.
Promiscuity is widely supported by mass media and is very powerful destructive force, but so does purity and monogamy both exists one more than the other but sanctity has never been outdated
Yes! Promiscuity is horrible. It is destroying society. No morals. No values. Just do what you want whenever you want to and No consequences. It's bad. It destroys your ability to pair bond, it destroys people's emotions their lives, their minds. That isnt even starting on the damage it does to ones body. Get married and be faithful. Have many children and live happy lives
her happiness is HER OWN JOB and best built on a foundation oF GRATITUDE... no man and not even God can make a woman happy w/o her cooperation ... thats why the enemy of human happiness has so skewed women against their families and get them expecting men to just "make me happy"
@@skylinefever Other people's sins don't discourage me from God's beauty. Just because someone decides to destroy a beautiful field of flowers doesn't mean the flowers aren't beautiful and worth growing for yourself.
@@skylinefeververy true, I’m one of those christpillers who’s wife was once a very anointed worship leader decided to become a lesbian.. and of course I’m divorced….
Be careful of what you perceive on the internet. I hope to God she is too but we never know what happens behind closed doors. remember, people never show the bad parts of their lives on social media. be careful to put people you see online on a pedestal
I wish I was still married. But it feels like marriage has no meaning what so ever. It's really sad. I wish my kids had never had their mother left them.
As much as I agree with this message, monogamous marriage is a tough sell in today’s social climate, especially for men. Our culture is exceptionally gynocentric. As a married man myself, I can clearly see how modern social, political, and familial systems disproportionately favor women over men. Men have to “earn” women, to prove themselves worthy of them; women simply have to show up. And, when they do show up, many of them are old, overweight, and “used up” (for lack of a better term); a growing number of them already have children from other men. What exactly do men gain? Around 20% of marriages are “sexless,” and women have abandoned traditional feminine roles altogether. The most common reason for divorce is “no fault” (or irreconcilable differences), almost always filed by women, and men lose their homes, assets, and even children in divorces all the time. Marriage is a wonderful thing when you find the right spouse, but in today’s society, there’s simply too much risk and not enough reward.
Marriage can be a great thing or the worst - and it seems to come and go in most marriage - and honesty I think sexless marriages higher than that- John gottman in a interview talked with him and his wife doing research and therapy for more than 40 years - thought that in his opinion it was over 30%. And the biggest indicator for a man to file for divorce was a sexless marriage, close to the same percentages as sexless marriages.
Good points. In the past women were expected to obey their husband. This was part of the female wedding vow. Also, divorce was almost impossible. Nowadays, divorce is very easy to get by and women don’t feel bad for being bossy. Not an attractive deal for a man.
How do you do tradition roles and live semi comfortably when the 100k is the new. 50k a yr? - the middle class is getting squeezed more and more Most people don't realize this but economics and family cohesion are coexistent and the growing economy is where the standards of living go up jobs stable wages are increasing and inflation is low But now having stagnant wages, increased inflation and debt burdens. People are being stretched to the Limit they have to work longer and harder and sometimes they need to juggle multiple jobs just to keep up. It's a frustrating State of Affairs. People are struggling to make ends meet slowly at first only to be accelerated by the pandemic. Today it's a constant fight to stay in the disappearing middle class all across the world and an increasing number of people are taking up second jobs. Most young people are working but still can't afford rent or buy a home and it's getting too expensive to go out and then with that the time the money and energy for socializing isn't worth it.
@@sitka49 You're raising a very important point. 70 years ago you could get a stable job after graduating from High School. With that salary one could by a house, a car and maintain a family. No wonder they had more children.
@@XavierY828 As example my dad's brother worker in one of the rust belt cities back in the early 60's. He owned his own home , had a car and they could afford to go on a family vacation a year in the summer , and him and his wife raised 6 kids they put them all through college ( without a student loan ) and all on him making 6k a yr , and his wife was a Sahw.
I whole heartedly believe in monogamous relationship/marriage and my next husband will be my 2nd one and He will be an amazing Passionate Godly man!!! And until God brings my future 2nd husband into my life in His perfect timing:) I’m staying extremely extremely 100% Single :)@Live Action
Thank you, Lila, for another well thought out and cogently argued presentation on how much our society has gone wayward with regards to our sexual mores. Its sad that videos like this have to be made, but it is absolutely necessary given how much of society has deviated from monogamous relationships. Our society's willingness to condone polyamory robs the world of the only institution that most consistently produce healthy, intelligent, well adjusted kids - monogamous marriage. Moreover, such permissive attitudes towards promiscuity has also reduced those who participate in polyamorous systems into objects of pleasure, robbing those individuals of their dignity.
Let this message ring loud and proud. Society has decayed so much & gone away from Gods truth to the point where we have to reeducate the truth & simplicity of how God created us to thrive on earth. Don't stop Lila ! Many families have kicked out God in their lifestyle. Thank you for spreading awareness of what America stands for... Americas foundation is on the very word of God that bought our forefathers to this country. Speak truth! ❤❤❤
I'm all for the "happy wife, happy life" thing, but let's also remeber the Bible says, "wives obey your husbands in everything as unto the Lord," which is also an important key to a healthy marriage.
Also remember the next verse: "Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it." (Ephesians: 5:25). Many men like to selectively quote verse 22-24, and conveniently leave out verse 25. A husband's love must be so sacrificial so as to mirror the abnegation of Christ. Without including verse 25, it makes it appear as if the Biblical exhortation is one-sided, with the man having no obligations. That would be wrong. If a man is to be deserving of a wife's submission to his authority, he must act with the self-sacrificial love of Christ.
@@alphacause I am aware that many men have used that verse as a club,which is wrong, but it is still there for a reason. Of course husbands are to love their wives as Christ loved the church, but a wife who is loved should also be obedient to her husband in all things as unto the Lord. Both apply, and both are needful for a healthy marriage. I'm all for "happy wife, happy life," but scripturally speaking there is much to be said for "obedient wife, happy life" as well.
@@GodSoLoved.Yeshua Unless your marriage is arranged, you choose your spouse. The criteria, standards, morals, values, past trauma, perceived self-worth vary from person to person but they definitely play a role.
Thank you for not only explaining the logical reasoning for monogamy, but also providing all the studies! I'm saving this for future reference. It's also _invaluable_ to me that you presented it without bringing the Bible into it. Now, I'm a fervent Bible-believing Christian... but if you bring that into a political or economical debate, you very often _completely_ lose the person you're arguing with. We need to first show that our stances are _reasonable,_ and _then_ be able to say "See how reasonable the parameters of the Bible are?" Also, "The best things are the WORST things _when they are abused"_ is the perfect comeback to all the feminists who say "Well if marriage is the only thing that keeps men from being violent school shooters, why would I want to marry them? They're awful!!" No, their _best traits_ can BECOME their worst traits IF they are abused. Their aggression is one of their best traits when it's healthy. So obviously, logically, it will be the worst when it is abused. It's no different for women. Take our feminine beauty and charm and sway over men. It is the most _beautiful_ thing when it is used correctly! And it completely _destroys_ lives -- and very often whole families and CHILDREN -- when it is abused. Same thing.
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i think social media/dating apps have taught us that women will happily share a higher value man than settle for someone their level, so I wouldn't be so quick to conclude that poligamy benefits men more; when there are 'no rules' men an women settle into this anyway, by their own choice, both male and female - it's just not good for society at all, so we created monogamy. these days monogamy increasingly seems to be chosen only by backpedalling, regretful women in their 30's.
In the past women were expected to obey their husband. This was part of the female wedding vow. Also, divorce was almost impossible. Nowadays, divorce is very easy to get by and women don’t feel bad for being bossy. Not an attractive proposition for a man.
@@tryphenarose384Why did every society have restrictions on women, even America, until now? Weird correlation, why do we not see a lot of these problems on nearly as big of a scale as we do now compared to back when we had more restrictions on women?
@@natescorner Is someone truly submissive when they have no choice but to submit? See what you want is mass governmental control and mental enslavement of women. If you actually knew your history, the majority of human history was terrible for women. Their role was meant solely to fulfil the man's desires, hence why there was so much polygamy. Most women don't want to compete with other women for one man, only a small few do or don't mind it because of the culture they were born into. Women had no rights to divorce, no rights over property or children, even in cases of abuse (I mean real abuse), what was a woman to do? Look at the middle east today. The picture of the patriarchal past. Men can beat their women bloody, and the woman can't get any protection even from the government. She has no support if she chooses to flee and escape the situation. She's all alone. What you describe is a man's paradise and a woman's hell. I'm not saying I'm advocating for radical feminism, which hates all men and cries about a patriarchy when our society isn't even patriarchal. But I can't stand those who think women should be reduced to a man's property - where she has no right to think, speak, believe what she will, as long as a man is over her. I am a submissive woman, btw. Stay at home mom, raising 3 children I've birthed back-to-back. Don't nag my husband and hardly argue for my way. But I will never believe what people like you say is right, because I actually had a choice in the matter. And recognize I still do.
I remember when I was in high school, I always assumed I'd get married. But now that I'm in my 40s and I think back on the relationships I've had with several women, I'm thankful I never married any of them. Most of them are either divorced, obese, or have illegitimate children of their own. There's much to be said for simply being responsible and content on one's own.
Having multiple partners is gluttony. The more you have, the more you want. When you are with your one and only true partner, there is no desire to have otherwise.
Some of the things that correlate with marriage, like long life, at about 8:00, may not necessarily be caused by marriage, but possibly correspond with something that enables marriage.
Why can't you ask people why they don't want kids? What are you supposed to do, lie that pregnancy feels awesome, and diapers feel good to change? Lie that children are a sure ROI in an industrialized economy?
Pray. Keep your standards, values, and priorities. Seek shared love for Christ and Biblical truth. Maybe look for a woman that likes traditional and simple living. Not super common, but we do exist. She probably has a couple Pinterest boards dreaming about vintage life lol. But my advice is probably pretty basic and what you've already heard. I'm also praying for a godly husband. There's a guy around my age that I like at church, but I would still need to interact with him more to see if he's interested. It's not easy in this generation. You're not alone in the struggle. God bless you. I hope you can have a happy marriage and family one day! :)
Is this sarcasm? If not, re-read the Bible, you are clearly missing all the drama between Rachel, Leah and the handmaids. He was not that happy after all...
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this lady went on a podcast and told a successful guy, that can ACTUALLY hold down multiple women, that he is wrong. On what basis can you tell successful / powerful men not to have multiple women Lila?
@@Primordial_Synapse dude was definitely triggered. but it still stands, polygyny for those dudes that can hold down their women. not any man can simply do that.
It is wrong, he was talking about having children with multiple women. This is so damaging to the children. They need structure, normally a foundation. Especially Jesus✝️♥️ Besides a woman feels secure and safe with a man she can trust. You can't trust a man with multiple women.
@@GodSoLoved.Yeshua Come to terms with what your bible says. It gives special privileges to those who have a certain appendage between their legs. Women weren't called throughout biblical history to have trust, but to be obedient, shut up in the church and listen to the man as they would listen to God. God really knows the hearts of women.
1. Multiple major Old Testament figures/patriarchs/kings had multiple wives. Not one was considered wicked or immoral on the basis of having multiple wives. (It was in fact considered an aspect of their virtue and obedience to God that they had multiple wives and dealt justly with them). There is a strict delineation drawn within the scriptures and Christian/Jewish religious doctrine between King David having a dozen-plus wives and him lusting after Bathsheba specifically, because she was an already married woman. This indicates that sexual fidelity is considered the proper moral principle rather than monogamy (marriage-divorce-and-remarriage or remarrying after becoming a widow(er) is just serial polygamy functionally), and chastity more than virginity/celibacy. Opposition to polygyny (the form of polygamy in which one man has two or more wives) is not Christian, Jewish, or Scriptural in origin. It's principally pagan Germanic in origin, because that is the culture in the West from which an objection to multiple wives came. 2. Following the successful mapping of the human genome, biologists have found that on average, each human being has twice as many female ancestors than male ones. This may seem weird/impossible, until you consider the combination of two simple facts: that while a human female in only capable of being impregnated by a single male at a time, a single human male can impregnate multiple females in rapid succession/concurrently, so that successful long-term human survival can operate on sex-imbalanced reproduction where there are fewer males than females, and that historically (and even into the modern era), men had a higher mortality rate before reproducing (principally due to war but also due to accident and harm while working out of the home). When combined with the female tendency for hypergamy (a natural inclination of human females to favor pair-bonding/marrying up with males of higher social/economic status/condition than them, which seems instinctually based and derived from the fact that mammalian reproduction places high time, energy, and resource costs on the female, thus incentivizing seeking a mate who can demonstrate access to large quantities of resources, often coupled with a wiliness to share that mate with other females of similar/lower social class), it isn't that surprising that on average, a noticeable plurality of human ancestry is composed of one male having two or more female partners. It is notable enough that over 16 million men alive in Eurasia are descendants of Genghis Khan (who had over 300 wives/concubines), meaning that about one in every two-hundred men alive on the planet are related to him.
The part you mentioned about pagan Germanic opposition to polygyny is fascinating. I recall reading that Tacitus wrote about that topic in his book Germania.
Every human being has the exact same number of male ancestors and female ancestors. They're may be twice as many women that reproduced as men that have, but I definitely don't have more great grandma's than great grandpa's
Sir, the gender ratio tends to be 1:1 unless people are murdering their female babies or sending men to war. Your gluttony for multiple women is not godly or righteous. God gave Adam one wife despite the fact they could have reproduced faster if Adam had multiple women. It is very hard for one man to be a husband to multiple women let alone a father to large numbers of children. The amount of chaos that Jacob and David suffered in their family lives should be some evidence to you that polygamy causes competition and animosity between multiple wives and half siblings. Polygamy may have been a better option to women resulting to prostitution or starving to death, but it is not the ideal situation. Jesus doesn't have multiple brides. He has one bride, the Church. Polygamous men miss out on knowing what it is like to be deeply loved by one woman. They seek after quantity over quality. You can look for technicalities in the Bible and make excuses for your fleshly desires, but you will miss out on God's greatest blessings. Maybe you feel no guilt about the idea that you would be taking the opportunity for another man to have one wife whom he can build a happy and fulfilled life with. You may feel no guilt for causing other men misery. Polygamy is gluttony. You cannot have multiple women without stabbing other men in the back. Remember that.
@natescorner Not sure who you're talking about. Sharing emotion is good, specifically sharing what is going on with you. This actually creates a bond..
@@GodSoLoved.Yeshua Alright, do you really want to hear how horrid my Middle School experience was? How I was falsely accused of being a Nazi in front of my entire class. Dragged out of the room by security over a complete lie, the school only laid off after my parents threatened legal action. How all that still keeps me up at night sometimes 5.5 years later? How I’ve dealt with depression since 4th grade? No? See my point?
@natescorner Sounds like it's created the person you are today and talking about it can bring healing, that I can see you need. You are loved ❤️✝️ Jesus gave His life for you. You're not alone.
I want Monogamy in my life. Yet my generation is highly impacted by polygamy. All the affects of polygamy, has drawn societal norms that make it tough for me to date/marry. And it's tough for me to find marriage.
Woah. You tied in mass shootings, but what about the male suicide epidemic? Is it also correlated here? I never even thought about connecting these things, interesting stuff.
Well, maybe they can find another source of meaning. The Christ pill isn't an insurance policy on having meaning. Some just go from "Life sucks for no reason" to "Life sucks because the holy one is a narcissist."
You cannot remove a child from a women who decided not to go through having an abortion. Unless they place their baby up for adoption, we cannot adopt them. I am looking to adopt a baby but the majority of babies in foster care are not adoptable because their parents and relatives are fighting to keep them and the purpose of foster care is reunification.
Sorry but unless you keep faith as front and center and know that love with one person is really a choice..and willing to sacrifice for your spouse..chances are slim of staying together..speaking as a married woman of 22yrs..
Facts: 1. The single motherhood rate among African Americans is 50 percent in 2021 2. The single motherhood rate among Asians is 16 percent Which race has the highest rate of incarceration and murder? Answer: African Americans. Which race scores the highest on academic achievement and upward economic mobility? Answer: Asians. While there are other factors at play that explain some of these outcomes, you would have to be in denial not to admit that much of this disparity can be explained by how intact families are in Asian households compared to African American households.
@@skylinefever Yes. The question is what is contributing to those low IQ scores? People don't want to ask the hard questions, for fear of being offensive. However, if these disparities are not addressed they just fester.
@@skylinefever Exactly. Stable households, with two loving parents dedicated to the nurturing and disciplining of children, can engender children to reach as close to their genetically limited intellectual ceiling as possible. The great tragedy, particularly in the American Black community, is so many children are closer to the floor, never achieving anything close to their genetically defined intellectual potential because of their fractured families.
Despite the graph at 4:43, very few incels are actually violent, fewer than expected. Some explain that by saying men are sedated with video games and porn. Not sure i agree, but it's possible.
Few of them are violent, but their incessant whining gives me a headache. No man can be an incel unless he works each and every day of his life to maintain that status.
@@kenofken9458 What? Being an incel is what takes no work. Most are probably not in any incel groups; you just don't hear from them at all. It takes work to get a relationship
Its way more than 2 percent if you include everyone having 1 or more sexual partners before marriage 🤮 you aren't monogamous at that point and cursed with soul ties making you a terrible person and bad partner 🤮
It's funny I actually am somewhat surrounded by religious extremists trying to bring back polygamy and they act like that is the superior way. Monogamy is a lot harder. No escaping to your next wife when you have problems. The women and the men are happier in monogamy but the lusts of these people make them keep pushing polygamy as a "legal" way to satisfy themselves. It's pretty sick.
I would say faithful and Biblical Nicene Christianity got this right. There are Protestants and Orthodox that affirm these basic Biblical truths as well. I'm an Evangelical Anglican personally.
I'd look at whether men who commit violent acts have a functional family with a mother and father before I'd say it's because they can't find a wife. I bet ones that have the first, but not the second are not violent. "Dangerous incel," is basically used as a slur to shut up men who disagree with progressive sexual values like you are doing. The perceived "danger" is that they're speaking against modern sexual values, and for traditional ones.
Polyamory is wrong. It should be polygyny or multiamory. Mixing your Greek and Latin roots is wrong! Also the whole multiple partners thing is degenerate
I grew up in a Christian family and went to Christian church and Christian School. In many instances, I, and others, were condemned for wanting to get married and commanded us to hate each other. Yes, they were married with kids, but they made it clear that we were not allowed to even be in a friendship with the other gender.
Make a video about: How you plan to put everyone involved in abortion in prison for life. How you plan on criminalizing masturbation and the punishment for engaging in that act. How you plan on criminalizing sex outside of marriage and the punishment for engaging in that act. How you plan on criminalizing contraception and the punishment for using it. How you currently say there is forgiveness and healing for women who have had abortions but how they are going to go to prison for life once you get your abortion ban laws enacted.... But I guess that goes with the first one. Think about the (Unintended?) consequences of what you are trying to do.....
I love everything that was said in this video and what I would add is that another crucial element to creating more monogamy would be more male masculinity. Most men in churches will talk all day about the Bible but they’re fat. They can discuss theology but couldn’t handle themselves in a fist fight. Without question women hate hookup culture, however, they will tolerate being an option to a man that is a physical stud over being the one and only to a coward. This needs to be emphasized. THANKYOU for helping me change my mind on monogamy.
The underlying narrative coming from Lila and similar voices (Louise Perry, for example) is solid except for one glaring contradiction: women allegedly want monogamy, yet only swipe right on the top 10% of most attractive men on Bumble. This doesn’t compute. If women want commitment and LTR’s so badly, why are they only chasing the Tiger Woods and Ryan Goslings of the world and ignoring the bottom 80% of men? "I want a stable, committed boyfriend, but am only willing to talk to men who already have 5 girlfriends."
The issue is the place or site. Some places attract the type of woman you described. It’s like saying, “All the women I meet at the club or bar are not interested in marriage”. Good men and women hang out in decent places.
My wife and I met in high school, never dated anyone else. We're now grandparents. Been happily married 45 years. What a blessing monogamy has been.
I don't know if you have any idea how lucky you are, but obv you got the skills to do it not just luck haha good luck for the rest of us tho Dx
I wish I could have had that life. God bless you and your family 🙏🏼
How beautiful ❤️
If only people were truly honest...
That’s AMAZING 🤩
To my fellow young men: Marriage is no shackle, because you choose your wife. The weight of expecting to marry is that you are driven to seek the *right* woman with all your might, because you know that you can have no one else in the end. In this sense, the "burden" of commitment is just what we need to understand the gravity/sanctity of the bond you share with your wife.
YES! My husband and I met on Runescape. We share hobbies and interests and we choose to be together every day, for 17 years now.
@@NiaLaLa_V daum thats a dream for Runescape player xD
Here's the problem, only the guy REALLY has to commit, he's the only one held accountable.
The current marriage laws are satanic. It's no more Biblical than gay marriage.
Imagine asking women to sign a prenup that says, he can leave her for any reason, cheat on her, get tired of her, bored with her, lose attraction to her and she gets nothing. He walks away with everything, including the kids, if he wants them and has zero responsibility to pay child support or alimony.
Not one person in their right mind would support such a thing. Yet, the prenup men sign is actually worse, as she is allowed to leave for all of those frivolous reasons, and he doesn't just LOSE half if stuff, he has to pay 40% of his future income for her to take his kids and live with some other guy.
Just marry the right woman? Good luck with that, as society has bred unbridled narcissism in women. They are now raised with the expectation that life should be tingles and fairytales until the day they die, and if a man can't provide that, then she NEEDS to find someone better. And since she's awarded cash and prizes, she has all the incentive in the world to leave.
There are A LOT of guys who thought they married the right girl, only to lose everything by the one they love.
But you're right, marriage isn't a shackle, it's a suicide pact.
Fix the laws.
Well said! As a young woman, it is so disheartening to me to see many conservative comments sections _filled_ with black-pilled men who are rejecting marriage entirely, because its current state is flawed, and it comes with heavy commitment. Please keep spreading this wisdom as far as you can.
yes you chose a wife. But you have no control over what that person might do. - And even in good Christian marriages people cheat - Or 3 , 4 kids later the wife, and plus some yrs of resentment built-up against her husband, so she decides that sex isn't a priority as much anymore - basically killing all intimacy in the marriage.
Now just roommate's that raise kids, pay bills together. - At the present you have the 800 lb gorilla in the room, sucking all the air out of it. ( sex in marriage is about 20% when its regular of a good marriage, but if not, its 80% of it) John Gottman proved that 69% of all marriage issues will never be resolved in life of a marriage. With that given the happiness of the marriage will determine its long term prognosis?
This is so cool, because a Swedish man recently published a big study about the effects of marriage, on health, economy, and lots of other things. He came to basically the same result as you. Thank you for your great work!
Cool! Can you post the reference?
Ooo what is the name of this study?
@@yulinng Den goda familjen. It means ”The Good Family”. It was published by the Clapham Institute. I don’t know if there is a translation though, but worth investigating.
My dad had 3 women he impregnated and sadly he had a hard life. Always had barely enough money . Juggled between women and kids and didn’t have a good relationship w a majority of his kids. He ended up dying early not realising his career 😢dreams . RIP dad. He was a good dad in the beginning until his lusts controlled him and he began chasing women.
I see men like this where I live because it is full of retired people. A lot of the women who are old and alone are so because their husband died. But I have noticed a lot of the single retired men are still full of lust and ruminate in dating all the women. They are alone and annoying to be around. This is quite literally where Red Pill men are headed.
God sent me my now wife when I was at my lowest point, and I had no one. I had turned my back to him, I had no friends, and neither of my divorced parents were of any help.
He sent this most incredible woman into my life to love me and support me and give me the strength to not only pick myself back up but also give me a drive to be better than before so that I may serve both her and the LORD... and I could never give that up for another woman
She's very lucky to have a man who believes such a thing. Not every woman is as fortunate.
@@tryphenarose384 I'm the lucky one... lol
I wholeheartedly agree!!! I've been married to my best friend for 41 years. We married young, grew up together, struggled through many hard, unhappy times, raised 4 wonderful kids who followed in our footsteps (giving us 12 grandchildren) and we are sooooooo happy and blessed. There's nothing so satisfying, deep and wonderful than to fight for and achieve a happy marriage and family. It's hard work for sure, but so worth it! God's ways are good❤
People are surprised when I say marriage is my main goal in life. Everything else is instrumental.
My sister used to fight with me and say I had unrealistic expectations, she assured me prince charming was not coming. I held out, I kept staying home playing video games while she and other young women went out to party and get used up looking for some dude they could put up with. She is now divorced 4 times, and I am still married to the guy I met on a video game one night way back then. Stay strong, you will find her when you least expect it.
Same. I remember one night I was grocery shopping with my mom (I was 4 years into my relationship with my now husband, who proposed to me the very next year) and she asks me what I wanted to do with my life. I said, "My main goal is to get married and start a family with (boyfriend)." Silence from the carpark all the way back to my condo. Seriously, mom?
You are doing your part to better society.👍
@@NiaLaLa_Vthat is absolutely epic, oh my lord 😂
Same here brother!
Disgusted by modern serial polygamy
Calm down.
I'm more disgusted by permissible biblical polygamy, where the woman was seen as property, passed from father to husband for literal money.
Why?
Get married and grow old together. Obviously better for all of us than the alternative of polygamy.
People should do what they want. You only have one life, don't waste it trying to satisfy society
"People should do what they want." Our desires often mislead us. Many of our desires do not lead to our health and happiness.
@@lucacuradossi1040 No. I have been friends with so many poly couples and they are not happy. They also don't wanna be friends anymore when they find out they can't get you into their bed. They need help.
@@lucacuradossi1040 I wonder if someone with nukes in their belt should hear you.
@@lucacuradossi1040It’s not about "satisfying society", but about choosing a way of life with the best proven outcomes for everyone (you included).
Unfortunately, you will only realize rejecting this advice was a mistake when it's too late. Nest of luck.
Monogamy creates prosperity, stability and expansion
We should have a video on how to date and what we should learn before marriage to be ready. I’m a young woman and I feel so lost.
Are you looking for a modern marriage or a true lifelong partner and relationship?
If you are still a minor, I highly recommend finding a cotillion program near you!
@@Justyouraverageguy172 I’ve never been i a. relationship and just want to be married and have 8 kids. I don’t think that’s modern.
Seek Jesus✝️♥️
No one can compare to Him👑
You are loved by a king, He gave His life for you. 🥳
Have a blessed day.
@@celestialmorpho Don’t listen to the “make Jesus your spouse” nonsense because it is since marriage does not exist in Heaven but brought to completion there. You are a traditional woman then who wants family over a job or big career or maybe even after obtaining success. A Christian marriage is what you seek as there are plenty of Bible verses showing what a healthy marriage looks like and masculinity with Jesus and femininity with Mary, Mother of God.
Great work here. I will present this to my 14 and 11 year old daughters this week. Thank you.
Promiscuity is widely supported by mass media and is very powerful destructive force, but so does purity and monogamy both exists one more than the other but sanctity has never been outdated
Yes! Promiscuity is horrible. It is destroying society. No morals. No values. Just do what you want whenever you want to and No consequences. It's bad. It destroys your ability to pair bond, it destroys people's emotions their lives, their minds. That isnt even starting on the damage it does to ones body. Get married and be faithful. Have many children and live happy lives
her happiness
is HER OWN JOB and
best built on a foundation
oF GRATITUDE... no man
and not even God can
make a woman happy
w/o her cooperation
... thats why the enemy
of human happiness has
so skewed women against
their families and get them
expecting men to just
"make me happy"
I often think about how many people can only fibd happiness in some chemical substances.
Ok I am watching this with my sons. Thank you so much.
I love how this woman is single handedly countering Red Pill poison.
Some redpillers existed because the Christpillers ended up divorced anyway.
@@skylinefever Other people's sins don't discourage me from God's beauty. Just because someone decides to destroy a beautiful field of flowers doesn't mean the flowers aren't beautiful and worth growing for yourself.
@@Ana_Cecilia615 It shows redpillers that the Christpill is not guaranteed to work. Christpill salesmen say it works every time.
@@skylinefeververy true, I’m one of those christpillers who’s wife was once a very anointed worship leader decided to become a lesbian.. and of course I’m divorced….
Excuse me! Red pill or MGTOW thinking/culture came about largely because of Feminist nonsense.
Lila is such a great representation of monogamy.
She's a great representation of feminism and why women shouldn't lead. COMPLETELY FEMALE FOCUSED AND IGNORES THE PLIGHT OF MEN.
Be careful of what you perceive on the internet. I hope to God she is too but we never know what happens behind closed doors. remember, people never show the bad parts of their lives on social media. be careful to put people you see online on a pedestal
@@CoachOlali Dude, shut up 🤐 😂
Wow great video! Loved this.
Just celebrated 28 years of marriage so can support this message.
Lila, you are so pretty and aspiring. I wish I had found you before feminism 😭😭😭
I wish I was still married. But it feels like marriage has no meaning what so ever. It's really sad. I wish my kids had never had their mother left them.
Superb marshalling of data and persuasive arguments. I very much hope that many people see this, and I will push it as I can.
As much as I agree with this message, monogamous marriage is a tough sell in today’s social climate, especially for men. Our culture is exceptionally gynocentric. As a married man myself, I can clearly see how modern social, political, and familial systems disproportionately favor women over men. Men have to “earn” women, to prove themselves worthy of them; women simply have to show up. And, when they do show up, many of them are old, overweight, and “used up” (for lack of a better term); a growing number of them already have children from other men. What exactly do men gain? Around 20% of marriages are “sexless,” and women have abandoned traditional feminine roles altogether. The most common reason for divorce is “no fault” (or irreconcilable differences), almost always filed by women, and men lose their homes, assets, and even children in divorces all the time. Marriage is a wonderful thing when you find the right spouse, but in today’s society, there’s simply too much risk and not enough reward.
Marriage can be a great thing or the worst - and it seems to come and go in most marriage - and honesty I think sexless marriages higher than that- John gottman in a interview talked with him and his wife doing research and therapy for more than 40 years - thought that in his opinion it was over 30%. And the biggest indicator for a man to file for divorce was a sexless marriage, close to the same percentages as sexless marriages.
Good points. In the past women were expected to obey their husband. This was part of the female wedding vow. Also, divorce was almost impossible. Nowadays, divorce is very easy to get by and women don’t feel bad for being bossy. Not an attractive deal for a man.
How do you do tradition roles and live semi comfortably when the 100k is the new. 50k a yr? - the middle class is getting squeezed more and more Most people don't realize this but economics and family cohesion are coexistent and the growing economy is where the standards of living go up jobs stable wages are increasing and inflation is low
But now having stagnant wages, increased inflation and debt burdens. People are being stretched to the Limit they have to work longer and harder and sometimes they need to juggle multiple jobs just to keep up. It's a frustrating State of Affairs. People are struggling to make ends meet slowly at first only to be accelerated by the pandemic. Today it's a constant fight to stay in the disappearing middle class all across the world and an increasing number of people are taking up second jobs.
Most young people are working but still can't afford rent or buy a home and it's getting too expensive to go out and then with that the time the money and energy for socializing isn't worth it.
@@sitka49
You're raising a very important point. 70 years ago you could get a stable job after graduating from High School. With that salary one could by a house, a car and maintain a family. No wonder they had more children.
@@XavierY828 As example my dad's brother worker in one of the rust belt cities back in the early 60's. He owned his own home , had a car and they could afford to go on a family vacation a year in the summer , and him and his wife raised 6 kids they put them all through college ( without a student loan ) and all on him making 6k a yr , and his wife was a Sahw.
This is great and critical information. Thanks for putting this together Lila!
"A man is a faithful as his options." - Chris Rock
"A woman is as faithful as the options she thinks you have." - My Dad
a committed marriage is the key to life and success.
Amen! Halleluyah! A God willed marriage is like heaven on earth,
JWaller’s punching the air, right now
I whole heartedly believe in monogamous relationship/marriage and my next husband will be my 2nd one and He will be an amazing Passionate Godly man!!! And until God brings my future 2nd husband into my life in His perfect timing:) I’m staying extremely extremely 100% Single :)@Live Action
Marriage is beautiful!
Thank you, Lila, for another well thought out and cogently argued presentation on how much our society has gone wayward with regards to our sexual mores. Its sad that videos like this have to be made, but it is absolutely necessary given how much of society has deviated from monogamous relationships. Our society's willingness to condone polyamory robs the world of the only institution that most consistently produce healthy, intelligent, well adjusted kids - monogamous marriage. Moreover, such permissive attitudes towards promiscuity has also reduced those who participate in polyamorous systems into objects of pleasure, robbing those individuals of their dignity.
Let this message ring loud and proud. Society has decayed so much & gone away from Gods truth to the point where we have to reeducate the truth & simplicity of how God created us to thrive on earth. Don't stop Lila ! Many families have kicked out God in their lifestyle. Thank you for spreading awareness of what America stands for... Americas foundation is on the very word of God that bought our forefathers to this country. Speak truth! ❤❤❤
I'm all for the "happy wife, happy life" thing, but let's also remeber the Bible says, "wives obey your husbands in everything as unto the Lord," which is also an important key to a healthy marriage.
Also remember the next verse: "Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it." (Ephesians: 5:25). Many men like to selectively quote verse 22-24, and conveniently leave out verse 25. A husband's love must be so sacrificial so as to mirror the abnegation of Christ. Without including verse 25, it makes it appear as if the Biblical exhortation is one-sided, with the man having no obligations. That would be wrong. If a man is to be deserving of a wife's submission to his authority, he must act with the self-sacrificial love of Christ.
@@alphacause I am aware that many men have used that verse as a club,which is wrong, but it is still there for a reason. Of course husbands are to love their wives as Christ loved the church, but a wife who is loved should also be obedient to her husband in all things as unto the Lord. Both apply, and both are needful for a healthy marriage. I'm all for "happy wife, happy life," but scripturally speaking there is much to be said for "obedient wife, happy life" as well.
We get to choose our spouse, so pick a good one.
@user-ks3qr5fk6m
Not really, we choose by what we think we deserve, subconsciously.
@@GodSoLoved.Yeshua Unless your marriage is arranged, you choose your spouse. The criteria, standards, morals, values, past trauma, perceived self-worth vary from person to person but they definitely play a role.
Thank you for not only explaining the logical reasoning for monogamy, but also providing all the studies! I'm saving this for future reference. It's also _invaluable_ to me that you presented it without bringing the Bible into it. Now, I'm a fervent Bible-believing Christian... but if you bring that into a political or economical debate, you very often _completely_ lose the person you're arguing with. We need to first show that our stances are _reasonable,_ and _then_ be able to say "See how reasonable the parameters of the Bible are?"
Also, "The best things are the WORST things _when they are abused"_ is the perfect comeback to all the feminists who say "Well if marriage is the only thing that keeps men from being violent school shooters, why would I want to marry them? They're awful!!"
No, their _best traits_ can BECOME their worst traits IF they are abused. Their aggression is one of their best traits when it's healthy. So obviously, logically, it will be the worst when it is abused.
It's no different for women. Take our feminine beauty and charm and sway over men. It is the most _beautiful_ thing when it is used correctly! And it completely _destroys_ lives -- and very often whole families and CHILDREN -- when it is abused. Same thing.
Nice explanation.
Justin Waller hates this video
Lol I know! Lila made him look like a fool on the Whatever podcast
Very enlightening. I loved this
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Fantastic video, and I love the fact that you cited your sources at the bottom of the screen. Keep up the good work!
Pro-monogmy for life!
I recommend reading The Meaning of Marriage by Timothy Keller. Great book.
Thanks for this!
i think social media/dating apps have taught us that women will happily share a higher value man than settle for someone their level, so I wouldn't be so quick to conclude that poligamy benefits men more; when there are 'no rules' men an women settle into this anyway, by their own choice, both male and female - it's just not good for society at all, so we created monogamy. these days monogamy increasingly seems to be chosen only by backpedalling, regretful women in their 30's.
I figured that out a long time ago and so I have worked to become that higher value man worth sharing.
Alright, where do I sign up for this thing called “marriage”?
Lila you're doing God's work, all the bless to you, your family and your team
In the past women were expected to obey their husband. This was part of the female wedding vow. Also, divorce was almost impossible. Nowadays, divorce is very easy to get by and women don’t feel bad for being bossy. Not an attractive proposition for a man.
In the past, women were also taken as sl - ave wives. Guess things change.
@@tryphenarose384Why did every society have restrictions on women, even America, until now? Weird correlation, why do we not see a lot of these problems on nearly as big of a scale as we do now compared to back when we had more restrictions on women?
@@tryphenarose384Not saying women are slaves, nor should they be. But women do need to be submissive.
@@natescorner Is someone truly submissive when they have no choice but to submit? See what you want is mass governmental control and mental enslavement of women. If you actually knew your history, the majority of human history was terrible for women. Their role was meant solely to fulfil the man's desires, hence why there was so much polygamy. Most women don't want to compete with other women for one man, only a small few do or don't mind it because of the culture they were born into. Women had no rights to divorce, no rights over property or children, even in cases of abuse (I mean real abuse), what was a woman to do? Look at the middle east today. The picture of the patriarchal past. Men can beat their women bloody, and the woman can't get any protection even from the government. She has no support if she chooses to flee and escape the situation. She's all alone. What you describe is a man's paradise and a woman's hell.
I'm not saying I'm advocating for radical feminism, which hates all men and cries about a patriarchy when our society isn't even patriarchal. But I can't stand those who think women should be reduced to a man's property - where she has no right to think, speak, believe what she will, as long as a man is over her.
I am a submissive woman, btw. Stay at home mom, raising 3 children I've birthed back-to-back. Don't nag my husband and hardly argue for my way. But I will never believe what people like you say is right, because I actually had a choice in the matter. And recognize I still do.
I remember when I was in high school, I always assumed I'd get married. But now that I'm in my 40s and I think back on the relationships I've had with several women, I'm thankful I never married any of them. Most of them are either divorced, obese, or have illegitimate children of their own. There's much to be said for simply being responsible and content on one's own.
What can single parents do especially if circumstances were out of our control?
Seek Jesus♥️✝️
That's it. He's alive, it's true.
The qualities under faithful husband is the epitome of my husband. So thankful for him! Praise God for my husband ❤❤❤
Having multiple partners is gluttony. The more you have, the more you want. When you are with your one and only true partner, there is no desire to have otherwise.
I love this comment so much!!! 😭🥰
Some of the things that correlate with marriage, like long life, at about 8:00, may not necessarily be caused by marriage, but possibly correspond with something that enables marriage.
Exactly
Blackpillers often joke about height and marriage and joke that guys should get married to stop being short.
I keep dating these Christian women who don't want kids. What up with that?
Why can't you ask people why they don't want kids? What are you supposed to do, lie that pregnancy feels awesome, and diapers feel good to change? Lie that children are a sure ROI in an industrialized economy?
Pray. Keep your standards, values, and priorities. Seek shared love for Christ and Biblical truth. Maybe look for a woman that likes traditional and simple living. Not super common, but we do exist. She probably has a couple Pinterest boards dreaming about vintage life lol.
But my advice is probably pretty basic and what you've already heard. I'm also praying for a godly husband. There's a guy around my age that I like at church, but I would still need to interact with him more to see if he's interested. It's not easy in this generation. You're not alone in the struggle. God bless you. I hope you can have a happy marriage and family one day! :)
They aren't christian then
this woman is an angel to the culture. For real. Keep up the great work. I'm greatly inspired
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Jacob from Genesis had 2 wives and their 2 handmaid's. Heard he was pretty darned happy.
Is this sarcasm? If not, re-read the Bible, you are clearly missing all the drama between Rachel, Leah and the handmaids. He was not that happy after all...
Haha, I hope this was a joke... It was funny.
Don't mind me; I just stopped in to say that you're very beautiful, and you seem to be a lovely, kind woman.
Carry on.
They wonder why marriages aren’t lasting yet support everything that is shown to destroy marriage
What's truly sad about all of this is EVERTYHING she's saying was common sense just a few generations ago.
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Monogamous marriage is the besssttttt
this lady went on a podcast and told a successful guy, that can ACTUALLY hold down multiple women, that he is wrong.
On what basis can you tell successful / powerful men not to have multiple women Lila?
Did you watch the video? Should give you your answer.
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I watched that exchange myself and to be honest, he looked like he needed an exorcist the entire time.
@@Primordial_Synapse dude was definitely triggered.
but it still stands, polygyny for those dudes that can hold down their women. not any man can simply do that.
It is wrong, he was talking about having children with multiple women. This is so damaging to the children. They need structure, normally a foundation. Especially Jesus✝️♥️
Besides a woman feels secure and safe with a man she can trust. You can't trust a man with multiple women.
@@GodSoLoved.Yeshua Come to terms with what your bible says. It gives special privileges to those who have a certain appendage between their legs. Women weren't called throughout biblical history to have trust, but to be obedient, shut up in the church and listen to the man as they would listen to God. God really knows the hearts of women.
I gave up monogamy in my mid 20s and never going back. If it works for others, I wish them all the best of it.
Lol. So a relationship with one person is hard, but a relationship with multiple is easier? Make it make sense. 😂
@@tryphenarose384 I never said it was easier. Only that it's better for some of us.
Great content. 96% agreement with her. I dont need church to be a faithful husband, but alot of young couples should see this. 💯
Thank you Lila for pointing out the obvious. ❤ Sincerely, A Man as old as Christ Crucified still waiting for his 👰♀️.
Can we have links to sources to back up the claims made in the video to make it more credible
Footnotes are in the bottom left of the video! If you need further guidance, let us know.
@@LiveActionFilmsThey’re barely visible in the bottom left hand corner. Can you put them in the description?
Keep these videos coming!
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Thank you for the content
WRONG!!!
It's Happy House HAPPY SPOUCE!
I love you Lila. Such mom energy!! I look up to you ❤
1. Multiple major Old Testament figures/patriarchs/kings had multiple wives. Not one was considered wicked or immoral on the basis of having multiple wives. (It was in fact considered an aspect of their virtue and obedience to God that they had multiple wives and dealt justly with them). There is a strict delineation drawn within the scriptures and Christian/Jewish religious doctrine between King David having a dozen-plus wives and him lusting after Bathsheba specifically, because she was an already married woman.
This indicates that sexual fidelity is considered the proper moral principle rather than monogamy (marriage-divorce-and-remarriage or remarrying after becoming a widow(er) is just serial polygamy functionally), and chastity more than virginity/celibacy.
Opposition to polygyny (the form of polygamy in which one man has two or more wives) is not Christian, Jewish, or Scriptural in origin. It's principally pagan Germanic in origin, because that is the culture in the West from which an objection to multiple wives came.
2. Following the successful mapping of the human genome, biologists have found that on average, each human being has twice as many female ancestors than male ones.
This may seem weird/impossible, until you consider the combination of two simple facts: that while a human female in only capable of being impregnated by a single male at a time, a single human male can impregnate multiple females in rapid succession/concurrently, so that successful long-term human survival can operate on sex-imbalanced reproduction where there are fewer males than females, and that historically (and even into the modern era), men had a higher mortality rate before reproducing (principally due to war but also due to accident and harm while working out of the home).
When combined with the female tendency for hypergamy (a natural inclination of human females to favor pair-bonding/marrying up with males of higher social/economic status/condition than them, which seems instinctually based and derived from the fact that mammalian reproduction places high time, energy, and resource costs on the female, thus incentivizing seeking a mate who can demonstrate access to large quantities of resources, often coupled with a wiliness to share that mate with other females of similar/lower social class), it isn't that surprising that on average, a noticeable plurality of human ancestry is composed of one male having two or more female partners. It is notable enough that over 16 million men alive in Eurasia are descendants of Genghis Khan (who had over 300 wives/concubines), meaning that about one in every two-hundred men alive on the planet are related to him.
The part you mentioned about pagan Germanic opposition to polygyny is fascinating. I recall reading that Tacitus wrote about that topic in his book Germania.
A man's paradise. A woman's prison. I'm sure you believe taking a sl - ave wife is also ok, because your holy book tells you so.
Every human being has the exact same number of male ancestors and female ancestors. They're may be twice as many women that reproduced as men that have, but I definitely don't have more great grandma's than great grandpa's
Sir, the gender ratio tends to be 1:1 unless people are murdering their female babies or sending men to war. Your gluttony for multiple women is not godly or righteous. God gave Adam one wife despite the fact they could have reproduced faster if Adam had multiple women. It is very hard for one man to be a husband to multiple women let alone a father to large numbers of children. The amount of chaos that Jacob and David suffered in their family lives should be some evidence to you that polygamy causes competition and animosity between multiple wives and half siblings. Polygamy may have been a better option to women resulting to prostitution or starving to death, but it is not the ideal situation. Jesus doesn't have multiple brides. He has one bride, the Church. Polygamous men miss out on knowing what it is like to be deeply loved by one woman. They seek after quantity over quality.
You can look for technicalities in the Bible and make excuses for your fleshly desires, but you will miss out on God's greatest blessings. Maybe you feel no guilt about the idea that you would be taking the opportunity for another man to have one wife whom he can build a happy and fulfilled life with. You may feel no guilt for causing other men misery. Polygamy is gluttony. You cannot have multiple women without stabbing other men in the back. Remember that.
Can we talk about how husbands aren’t allowed to talk about their emotions to their wives because it’s “unattractive”?
Who told you that?
@@GodSoLoved.YeshuaEvery woman who gets turned off by actually showing emotions.
@natescorner
Not sure who you're talking about. Sharing emotion is good, specifically sharing what is going on with you.
This actually creates a bond..
@@GodSoLoved.Yeshua Alright, do you really want to hear how horrid my Middle School experience was? How I was falsely accused of being a Nazi in front of my entire class. Dragged out of the room by security over a complete lie, the school only laid off after my parents threatened legal action. How all that still keeps me up at night sometimes 5.5 years later? How I’ve dealt with depression since 4th grade? No? See my point?
@natescorner
Sounds like it's created the person you are today and talking about it can bring healing, that I can see you need.
You are loved ❤️✝️ Jesus gave His life for you. You're not alone.
I want Monogamy in my life. Yet my generation is highly impacted by polygamy. All the affects of polygamy, has drawn societal norms that make it tough for me to date/marry. And it's tough for me to find marriage.
Woah. You tied in mass shootings, but what about the male suicide epidemic? Is it also correlated here? I never even thought about connecting these things, interesting stuff.
Oh yes, very much connected. You have young men that know they are supposed to be needed feeling purposeless
I think because they're lonely and don't have meaning ang purpose in life. Marriage give men a sense of direction
lol you think they care about male suicide when they’re causing it?
Well, maybe they can find another source of meaning. The Christ pill isn't an insurance policy on having meaning. Some just go from "Life sucks for no reason" to "Life sucks because the holy one is a narcissist."
Christ pill?
15:10; instead of having your own children, how about ADOPTING babies saved from abortion?!??!!
You cannot remove a child from a women who decided not to go through having an abortion. Unless they place their baby up for adoption, we cannot adopt them. I am looking to adopt a baby but the majority of babies in foster care are not adoptable because their parents and relatives are fighting to keep them and the purpose of foster care is reunification.
1. What does free exactly mean?
"A couple must be allowed to marry." What would be restrictions for marriage?
A previous marriage that was not annulled
so good! Thanks be to God for your work !
Love it
Love the sentiment but the reality .
Marriage is so important
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Sorry but unless you keep faith as front and center and know that love with one person is really a choice..and willing to sacrifice for your spouse..chances are slim of staying together..speaking as a married woman of 22yrs..
The problem is choosing the right spouse, choosing the wrong spouse is hell on earth
Based
Facts:
1. The single motherhood rate among African Americans is 50 percent in 2021
2. The single motherhood rate among Asians is 16 percent
Which race has the highest rate of incarceration and murder? Answer: African Americans. Which race scores the highest on academic achievement and upward economic mobility? Answer: Asians. While there are other factors at play that explain some of these outcomes, you would have to be in denial not to admit that much of this disparity can be explained by how intact families are in Asian households compared to African American households.
I think about the taboo of IQ scores.
@@skylinefever Yes. The question is what is contributing to those low IQ scores? People don't want to ask the hard questions, for fear of being offensive. However, if these disparities are not addressed they just fester.
@@alphacause Genetics and life experiences affect IQ. Genetics set the ceiling, life experience sets the floor.
@@skylinefever Exactly. Stable households, with two loving parents dedicated to the nurturing and disciplining of children, can engender children to reach as close to their genetically limited intellectual ceiling as possible. The great tragedy, particularly in the American Black community, is so many children are closer to the floor, never achieving anything close to their genetically defined intellectual potential because of their fractured families.
Despite the graph at 4:43, very few incels are actually violent, fewer than expected. Some explain that by saying men are sedated with video games and porn. Not sure i agree, but it's possible.
Few of them are violent, but their incessant whining gives me a headache.
No man can be an incel unless he works each and every day of his life to maintain that status.
@@kenofken9458 What? Being an incel is what takes no work. Most are probably not in any incel groups; you just don't hear from them at all. It takes work to get a relationship
Its way more than 2 percent if you include everyone having 1 or more sexual partners before marriage 🤮 you aren't monogamous at that point and cursed with soul ties making you a terrible person and bad partner 🤮
Hebrews 4: 12 - 13
1 Corinthians 13
can't get married lol don't have money 😷
It's funny I actually am somewhat surrounded by religious extremists trying to bring back polygamy and they act like that is the superior way. Monogamy is a lot harder. No escaping to your next wife when you have problems. The women and the men are happier in monogamy but the lusts of these people make them keep pushing polygamy as a "legal" way to satisfy themselves. It's pretty sick.
Where were you when Joseph Smith started the mormon cult?
I'm just curious where homosexuality fits in with all this
I’ll take the Catholic Church is right about everything for $500, Alex!
You got it! lol! Rest in peace, Alex Trebek
Does the Catholic Church Pascal's Wager kids with hellfire and brimstone until they are paranoid?
Catholic church is right on everything
I would say faithful and Biblical Nicene Christianity got this right. There are Protestants and Orthodox that affirm these basic Biblical truths as well. I'm an Evangelical Anglican personally.
Praise YAH.
Most Prophets of God had multiple wives. If monogamy was ideal, Prophets of God, who were guided by God on every decision, would have married once.
I don’t think every decision they made was guided by God though…Christ is the one who we believe in. nor is that a valid argument.
Isaiah had one wife, Hosea had one wife, Samuel had one wife, Eli had one wife , I can go on and on . Keep reading for the truth :)
Which prophets had more than one wife? Show me which scripture you are talking about
I'd look at whether men who commit violent acts have a functional family with a mother and father before I'd say it's because they can't find a wife. I bet ones that have the first, but not the second are not violent. "Dangerous incel," is basically used as a slur to shut up men who disagree with progressive sexual values like you are doing. The perceived "danger" is that they're speaking against modern sexual values, and for traditional ones.
I like how St Thomas Aquinas dealth with those guys. He argued that the worlds oldest profession must be tolerated.
Polyamory is wrong. It should be polygyny or multiamory. Mixing your Greek and Latin roots is wrong! Also the whole multiple partners thing is degenerate
I grew up in a Christian family and went to Christian church and Christian School. In many instances, I, and others, were condemned for wanting to get married and commanded us to hate each other. Yes, they were married with kids, but they made it clear that we were not allowed to even be in a friendship with the other gender.
“The worst things are the best things when they are abused” 14:15 - this is a grammatical error right?
The best things, when abused, become the worst things.
Make a video about:
How you plan to put everyone involved in abortion in prison for life.
How you plan on criminalizing masturbation and the punishment for engaging in that act.
How you plan on criminalizing sex outside of marriage and the punishment for engaging in that act.
How you plan on criminalizing contraception and the punishment for using it.
How you currently say there is forgiveness and healing for women who have had abortions but how they are going to go to prison for life once you get your abortion ban laws enacted.... But I guess that goes with the first one.
Think about the (Unintended?) consequences of what you are trying to do.....
Indeed. I also think of how this sort of thing exists in parts of the MENA region, and how much good it did for them.
@@skylinefever The MENA region is one of the most repressive places to live in the world! No thanks.
Summary of obstacle 6 to monogamy: Go touch some grass
I love everything that was said in this video and what I would add is that another crucial element to creating more monogamy would be more male masculinity. Most men in churches will talk all day about the Bible but they’re fat. They can discuss theology but couldn’t handle themselves in a fist fight. Without question women hate hookup culture, however, they will tolerate being an option to a man that is a physical stud over being the one and only to a coward. This needs to be emphasized. THANKYOU for helping me change my mind on monogamy.
It’s always dudes that talk like you that are the first ones taken out in a fight tho
Most women aren't attracted to most men, so monogamy is impossible, i wish women were not like that, but that is there nature it is what it is
The underlying narrative coming from Lila and similar voices (Louise Perry, for example) is solid except for one glaring contradiction: women allegedly want monogamy, yet only swipe right on the top 10% of most attractive men on Bumble. This doesn’t compute. If women want commitment and LTR’s so badly, why are they only chasing the Tiger Woods and Ryan Goslings of the world and ignoring the bottom 80% of men? "I want a stable, committed boyfriend, but am only willing to talk to men who already have 5 girlfriends."
The issue is the place or site. Some places attract the type of woman you described. It’s like saying, “All the women I meet at the club or bar are not interested in marriage”. Good men and women hang out in decent places.
Almost 80% of people on dating aps are men.
Let’s be honest Tate became a Muslim only because of the polygamy privilege