Thank you for the openness and acceptance in your discussion, not just for the non-monogamous but those of us that are monogamous. Growing up in the ‘70s I became a big fan of Robert Heinlein’s science fiction. In many of his books from the ‘60s and ‘70s his characters were in non traditional marriages. Not as the point of the story, it was just part of the story, part of his characters. I didn’t realize until years later how much that openness and normalcy (for those characters) impacted me and my acceptance of others. I’ve been married (heterosexual) for 48 years to a wonderful woman. She survived childhood trauma that has impacted our physical relationship. For most of the last 35 years that trauma and not being able to heal from it has been very difficult for both of us. I have to reassure her that being with her, even without the physical part, is better than not being with her. I guess my point is that loving relationships do not have to be sexual, but that it is wonderful when they can be that too. To me the importance and strength lies in the commitment between the people involved. Regarding polyamory, I feel most comfortable with the idea of a kitchen table, committed marriage between the parties, but as long as there is open communication and respect for how their partner(s) and children are treated I think that falls in the ethical side. It is not my place to call judgment on how others are living their lives, for those living in secretive ways where someone is likely to get hurt (especially children) I have less respect. Their choices are between them and God. I hope all that made sense.
If it is consensual it doesn't mean it is "ethical". From the beggining it was - man and woman. Later man and women and again man and woman and reversing it again due to a culture, different religion types, adulteries and so on. But every other option is not normal. That I say not as a fanatic but as a "tiny stupid" guy.
This video is going to make the tiny-little minds of the right-wing explode! I would say more, but I'm too overcome with enjoyment. Shine on, Kathleen!
Thank you for the openness and acceptance in your discussion, not just for the non-monogamous but those of us that are monogamous. Growing up in the ‘70s I became a big fan of Robert Heinlein’s science fiction. In many of his books from the ‘60s and ‘70s his characters were in non traditional marriages. Not as the point of the story, it was just part of the story, part of his characters. I didn’t realize until years later how much that openness and normalcy (for those characters) impacted me and my acceptance of others. I’ve been married (heterosexual) for 48 years to a wonderful woman. She survived childhood trauma that has impacted our physical relationship. For most of the last 35 years that trauma and not being able to heal from it has been very difficult for both of us. I have to reassure her that being with her, even without the physical part, is better than not being with her.
I guess my point is that loving relationships do not have to be sexual, but that it is wonderful when they can be that too. To me the importance and strength lies in the commitment between the people involved. Regarding polyamory, I feel most comfortable with the idea of a kitchen table, committed marriage between the parties, but as long as there is open communication and respect for how their partner(s) and children are treated I think that falls in the ethical side. It is not my place to call judgment on how others are living their lives, for those living in secretive ways where someone is likely to get hurt (especially children) I have less respect. Their choices are between them and God.
I hope all that made sense.
If it is consensual it doesn't mean it is "ethical". From the beggining it was - man and woman. Later man and women and again man and woman and reversing it again due to a culture, different religion types, adulteries and so on. But every other option is not normal. That I say not as a fanatic but as a "tiny stupid" guy.
This video is going to make the tiny-little minds of the right-wing explode! I would say more, but I'm too overcome with enjoyment. Shine on, Kathleen!
Thanks for being here. Helping parents have these talks is what I’m here to do!