When I was around 10 my mother noticed that I was starting to explore my body, we had a simple talk about how it’s not bad but it should be done in private and if anyone else makes me feel that way I should tell her immediately. I honestly think having that exploration in a private and safe space was extremely beneficial to me. I’m so glad you’re spreading this information.
That's beautiful! Thank you for sharing and kudos to your mom! It's my hope that I can reach more parents with this platform so that the next generation shares stories just like yours! I'm so happy you are here and supporting my channel!
Honestly at 10 I already knew it was a private thing, which is why I loved night time before bed 😅 I started puberty pretty early though so I think that makes a difference
I have a very open relationship with my mom I haven’t verbally said that day you know but I think she has a good idea and I think she knows win not to go without me just even saying it my family is very good at body language Like she knows when I’m acting different and I think she’s called on
My 2 sisters and I were really close growing up. It was me, my 2 sisters and my single mother, so I was raised with 3 women in the house. My mother and my sisters walked around with barely any clothes at all, as if I wasn't even there. Sometimes they were just naked. I didn't care one way or the other but as a male this would arouse me still. To get an idea of how we lived, my sisters and I shared everything since we were young, all the way through our college years. We shared beds, even when we showered we'd be using the bathroom together. At anytime I've seen my mom or my sisters naked blow drying their hair or getting ready to go out, things like that. We lived pretty freely
I'm 65- like most parents in their generation, anything to do do with sex or masturbation was NEVER discussed- ever, except that it was bad. So how did I learn about it all? Like nost men of ny generation- from the street, from my friends. Not the best way though...
most folks, like yourself, learn about these topics through informal education and it's not the best way to get medically-accurate and age-appropriate education.
@@KathleenHemaWould you agree that it is possibly to not necessarily need to give “the talk” or worry about a teen becoming a misogynist porn addict? It kind of shocks me how many mothers act like their teen who is well into puberty needs to be talked to. I would be embarrassed and find her points obvious
It’s unfortunate that had to happen to you because of the lack of education and awareness about this back then. Hopefully we can do better for the next generation.
I think humans have to develop a sense of self control when it comes to things like this. We are not animals. We should honor our bodies like God’s temple and have some self-control.
My son is 9...at what age should I bring up the conversation and is it a good idea to let him watch this very good video you put together as a guide? Or is there a kid friendly video you recommend to better explain to kids about the birds and the bees he can watch with me?
I started exploring myself at the age of 7 I’m almost 15 now and unlike the experience I’ve read I got shamed for exploring and learning about my body in my own way which was due to religion ofc but this reaction can deeply deprive one of being able to be comfortable with themselves during this time
@@KathleenHema It went well. He was very receptive and I feel like he was comfortable talking about it. You really helped a dad out! Thanks again. God bless.
Personally, I would use those words with an older child but if you have used those words in other occasions and your child understands what you mean, then you could include that in your explanation.
Hi! Thanks for reaching out & being a part of this wonderful community of parents! I am in the process of finishing up my website so that parents can get advice and speak with me! I'll let you know once it's launched!
I found my son touching themselves while on their phone when I accidentally walked in, and saw it, he pulled up his sheets and looked nervous and I walked out of the room. I assume he was looking at/ watching pornography, hence he is around the age where they know about that from school, and other things online, and I want to know, if it is normal for him to touch himself to something online.
When I was 8 is when I first started feeling sensation with touching myself and I did it in secret because I was scared I would get in trouble so I did it at night usually and I also felt like I was being a dirty person
I have a question i hear about it that' masterbation break the Hyman so if a girl done mastribation in child hood so it's mean that's she Lost her Hyman?
Helping parents to navigate this behavior and educate their child to learn the appropriate places and when it is acceptable to do is so important! Many primary school teachers tell me that they have to talk to students about how this is inappropriate to do at school and they would prefer parents have that conversation.
We never discussed anything in 60s . When i got an errection i thought i was dying from something. I was told about sex arround 11 by younger kid. I thought something wrong with that kid and warned the other kids not to play with him as he had mental disorder. 😂😂😂.
It can feel awkward for some parents but in the intermediate age, many kids are curious and want to learn about it or need to learn about it. Avoiding talking about it isn't the way to go.
Yes, yes. A child should be taught not to do this, that simple. It is a sin and creates hostility towards God. Why would we teach our kids that this is normal and healthy.
Biblically, priests, pastors and vicars sodomising children is also not ok. Didn’t stop them though. And the fact the kids didn’t even know what was happening to them left them psychologically and emotionally scarred for the rest of their lives. I’d much rather let my child know what’s happening with their body, how to be safe, and that the bible is nothing more than a mis-translated, outdated, old book.
For real, the only thing and rule parents need to say and implement is “don’t do it in public or with other people around”, and that is only IF they ever find out at some point that the child does it. Otherwise, what is the need to embarrass the child if they already do it in private or give them unnecessary ideas that may do more harm than good if they don’t? Let kids be kids.
When I was around 10 my mother noticed that I was starting to explore my body, we had a simple talk about how it’s not bad but it should be done in private and if anyone else makes me feel that way I should tell her immediately. I honestly think having that exploration in a private and safe space was extremely beneficial to me. I’m so glad you’re spreading this information.
That's beautiful! Thank you for sharing and kudos to your mom! It's my hope that I can reach more parents with this platform so that the next generation shares stories just like yours! I'm so happy you are here and supporting my channel!
Beautiful ❤️😇
Honestly at 10 I already knew it was a private thing, which is why I loved night time before bed 😅
I started puberty pretty early though so I think that makes a difference
It should be just simply that the parents say it should be done in private with no one else around. Other than that do it as much as you want.
That’s a good start to convo for sure!
I have a very open relationship with my mom I haven’t verbally said that day you know but I think she has a good idea and I think she knows win not to go without me just even saying it my family is very good at body language Like she knows when I’m acting different and I think she’s called on
My 2 sisters and I were really close growing up. It was me, my 2 sisters and my single mother, so I was raised with 3 women in the house. My mother and my sisters walked around with barely any clothes at all, as if I wasn't even there. Sometimes they were just naked. I didn't care one way or the other but as a male this would arouse me still. To get an idea of how we lived, my sisters and I shared everything since we were young, all the way through our college years. We shared beds, even when we showered we'd be using the bathroom together. At anytime I've seen my mom or my sisters naked blow drying their hair or getting ready to go out, things like that. We lived pretty freely
It must've been difficult not getting aroused in front of them!
I'm 65- like most parents in their generation, anything to do do with sex or masturbation was NEVER discussed- ever, except that it was bad. So how did I learn about it all? Like nost men of ny generation- from the street, from my friends. Not the best way though...
most folks, like yourself, learn about these topics through informal education and it's not the best way to get medically-accurate and age-appropriate education.
@@KathleenHemaWould you agree that it is possibly to not necessarily need to give “the talk” or worry about a teen becoming a misogynist porn addict? It kind of shocks me how many mothers act like their teen who is well into puberty needs to be talked to. I would be embarrassed and find her points obvious
I remember being caught when I was 5 or 6 and I got a beating. This was mid 80's.
It’s unfortunate that had to happen to you because of the lack of education and awareness about this back then. Hopefully we can do better for the next generation.
I think humans have to develop a sense of self control when it comes to things like this. We are not animals. We should honor our bodies like God’s temple and have some self-control.
“We are not animals”
Incorrect
We are very definitely animals.
My son is 9...at what age should I bring up the conversation and is it a good idea to let him watch this very good video you put together as a guide? Or is there a kid friendly video you recommend to better explain to kids about the birds and the bees he can watch with me?
Kathleen any suggestions on my above question? Thanks!
You can take advice from me, I will give you advice, give me your contact number
I started exploring myself at the age of 7 I’m almost 15 now and unlike the experience I’ve read I got shamed for exploring and learning about my body in my own way which was due to religion ofc but this reaction can deeply deprive one of being able to be comfortable with themselves during this time
Thank you! Wish me luck with my son.
How did the talk go? I hope well!!
@@KathleenHema It went well. He was very receptive and I feel like he was comfortable talking about it. You really helped a dad out! Thanks again. God bless.
Masturbation didn't come into my life until at the age of 10 watching porn.
Um me to
Mine 11
Me, 8
Unm same
Is it good to use it for too intense of a disposition, like to soothe and relieve anxiety? Thanks.
Personally, I would use those words with an older child but if you have used those words in other occasions and your child understands what you mean, then you could include that in your explanation.
Is it true that there's concent and if the child touches the mother inappropriate she can say no when it makes her uncomfortable???
Thank you for that: I have a question about my nephew. Is there an email address or place where I could send you my story and perhaps get some advice?
Hi! Thanks for reaching out & being a part of this wonderful community of parents! I am in the process of finishing up my website so that parents can get advice and speak with me! I'll let you know once it's launched!
@@KathleenHema thank you so much. just don't want to be judged for a question I might ask on the open comments. People can be very cruel
interesting subject
Do you masterbate how many times a week ?
I "love" you. Beautiful and smart. Agree all.
Oh ,it’s a matter of compert zone, and trust factor..good night.
Kathleen you look wonderful and I enjoy your videos!
The less they know- the more they want to advise
I found my son touching themselves while on their phone when I accidentally walked in, and saw it, he pulled up his sheets and looked nervous and I walked out of the room. I assume he was looking at/ watching pornography, hence he is around the age where they know about that from school, and other things online, and I want to know, if it is normal for him to touch himself to something online.
When I was 8 is when I first started feeling sensation with touching myself and I did it in secret because I was scared I would get in trouble so I did it at night usually and I also felt like I was being a dirty person
I have a question i hear about it that' masterbation break the Hyman so if a girl done mastribation in child hood so it's mean that's she Lost her Hyman?
What a stunning face!!
I want your full screen vedeos
your dumb you dunt know how to spell videos
My 8 year old son plays dirty that’s what we call it I teach him all thing you speak of thank you and I just let him play I don’t stop him
I like your way 😘
who says to me, don't see a problem where there is none !
Helping parents to navigate this behavior and educate their child to learn the appropriate places and when it is acceptable to do is so important! Many primary school teachers tell me that they have to talk to students about how this is inappropriate to do at school and they would prefer parents have that conversation.
@@KathleenHema 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😅🤮
What’s wrong with doing it at a friends house?
When speaking with children it is important to be clear on boundaries.
It should be done at home
I pray you receive wisdom from God through His Word.
same to you!
which god ? man has invented 4000 so far
Childhood masturbation is still creating a stir? What, are we still in the 1950's?
Times haven’t changed all that much
@@KathleenHema your a sick woman with to mutch free time.
We never discussed anything in 60s . When i got an errection i thought i was dying from something. I was told about sex arround 11 by younger kid. I thought something wrong with that kid and warned the other kids not to play with him as he had mental disorder. 😂😂😂.
Kathleen, I’ve busted a few times this person walks in and walks out. We talk or don’t talk, which is fine
Can we meet up
So you may want to have your manhood your masculinity comes in handy just say that like your going need some of that in you for work loads
For sure for work you're powered on good to go as long as you're on full 🌝
The masterbation talk? Yea I’m glad i never got that one. Some things are better left alone
It can feel awkward for some parents but in the intermediate age, many kids are curious and want to learn about it or need to learn about it. Avoiding talking about it isn't the way to go.
Sooner or later, they will figure it out just fine on their own.
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she don’t know what she’s talking about
@@respectpig3874 u is a simp
@@respectpig3874 ELEAZAR WTH BRO
@@Shouplo ADAM WHY THE HELL ARE YOU WATCHING THIS SHIT
Your completely right.The only thing she is doing ,is confusing the kids already at a verry young age.And she is doing it to get the attention.
This is not ok.. biblically masterbation is a sin..sadly the world says it ok.. the world is sick!
Yes, yes. A child should be taught not to do this, that simple. It is a sin and creates hostility towards God. Why would we teach our kids that this is normal and healthy.
Biblically, priests, pastors and vicars sodomising children is also not ok. Didn’t stop them though. And the fact the kids didn’t even know what was happening to them left them psychologically and emotionally scarred for the rest of their lives. I’d much rather let my child know what’s happening with their body, how to be safe, and that the bible is nothing more than a mis-translated, outdated, old book.
The best is let them and say nothing.they wil discouver their own body without nobody mixing.why people always have to mix themselfs in everything.
For real, the only thing and rule parents need to say and implement is “don’t do it in public or with other people around”, and that is only IF they ever find out at some point that the child does it. Otherwise, what is the need to embarrass the child if they already do it in private or give them unnecessary ideas that may do more harm than good if they don’t? Let kids be kids.
Is it true that there's concent and if the child touches the mother inappropriate she can say no when it makes her uncomfortable???
Uhm yes anyone can revoke consent at ANY time and you must stop or risk turning the situation into a sexual assault
If the child touches the mother?! What?!?