Why successful men use escorts: what the rich and the beautiful have in common
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- This is the first episode of a three-part series on why successful men use escorts. It turns out that the rich and the beautiful have something in common when it comes to the game of mating and dating: they can both inadvertently price themselves out of the sexual marketplace. By understanding how traditional dating becomes increasingly expensive as a function of a man's success, women can better position themselves to target successful men for relationships, if they so choose.
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When is part 2 coming up?
My dear Dr. Orion, the effort to date successfully is the same effort to close a good deal. Good deal makers can efficiently reduce the time to have sex after the date.
Will your book be available with narration on Audible? I’d love to listen to it when it becomes available.
Yes, audio please:). I second that request😂. Just pre ordered and looking forward to it.
I kinda think this series is why you'd deleted my comment from last week...
"I dont pay them for sex. I pay them to leave." - Charlie "Carlito" Sheen
Ahh the timeless wisdom of uncle Charlie.
Yep, the best moment in an intimate date with a woman is when she finally leaves.
I remember something Kevin Samuels said,
" We pay our wives and girlfriends to stay after hooking up with them and we pay escorts, mistresses, concubines etc to leave after hooking up with them "
@@ArmyWolves RIP, Godfather !
it's much easier to hide female beauty than it is male wealth. I once dated a mildly attractive, down-to-earth woman who never wore makeup or anything revealing. One night, I was flipping through her photo album from high school (3 years prior) and was blown away. She was beyond stunning, and had been homecoming queen. there was no way she could have been as approachable as she was if she continued to look like that. Which is, of course, why she chose not to.
Dating in this era feels like a job, a job that you pay to work
Wrong emphasis. I like camping. It takes a lot of time and money. Is that a 'job'?
No. Women, unless they are a wife, are a HOBBY, and sometimes an expensive one.
(A wife is an investment. She might be an Amazon or she might be a WorldCom. Sometimes both in the course of the relationship)
Basically. It’s a sunken cost fallacy the moment it starts for a lot of us, men.
There are exceptions, but they are just that, exceptions.
Yeeh
because everyone has access to a whole lot of prospective partners not to mention desensitized by all the p*rn
just like every other era
Two reasons: 1) Busy men don't have the time to date, 2) Rich men are worried about getting caught by gold diggers.
There you go. And 3) Celebrities want anonymity while minimizing the chance of extortion.
Short and sweet.
@rayrwyr Not just rich men. ANY man runs the risk. Not paying child support is a felony. A friend did months in jail for refusing to pay.
@@nunyabidness117 And yet women who refuse the fathers of their children to let him see them even when courts ordered it are never jailed. Another 'privilege' no feminist will ever point out.
Rich men are not worried about gold diggers
@Burrburrcloud They should be worried about gold diggers. An intelligent but far-left mental patient of a woman I know here in flyover country managed to buy a nice house after an affluent attorney knocked her up. The sad part is she had numerous abortions in the past but decided to keep this one..Down's Syndrome girl..I'm guessing because she doesn't want to abort her pay day. P.S. She is an appallingly lousy parent.
One more reason for an attractive, highly successful man to use escorts is that it’s hard to find the woman he’d want to have a long term relationship with. He’d rather pay the woman to leave than deal with the breakup.
I can shed some light on this. Having worked around successful men, they don't actually use escorts for sex most of the time. They use them because they show up on time and have a good attitude as well as other factors. This is something even wives of these types men will rarely even make an effort to do.
High Five!
Why they snort the coke a lot?
Also, sometimes, a man has to show up to an event and it interferes with his networking, if he shows up alone. She is literally a woman hired to ESCORT him while he's at the event.
delusional
Make sense. They want recurring costumers, so it behooves them to respect their time and money.
This is why prostitution/escorting is "illegal". Average Women lose their bargaining power.
That and in the past, women would end up pregnant, and now the society has to stabilize a single mother who can't raise a kid properly. Also, men would settle down even less.
I've been trying to formulate my thoughts on this for a long time, and I have come up with exactly that. It isn't perfect, but it mostly explains the situation while making the fewest assumptions. I like to phrase it like this:
Prostitution is not illegal because it's offensive and immoral that women's bodies can be bought. Prostitution is illegal because it's offensive and immoral that women's bodies can be bought for so little.
Where are you? Prostitution is not illegal - it is mainstream since the internet. They make documentaries about it in the UK. Here's a video on youtube What's It REALLY Like Being an Escort in the UK? | Full Documentary | OMG Stories
@@six-gunIt’s 2-20 years jail time and an up to 10K fine here if you are found guilty. Good luck finding someone who isn’t an undercover officer.
@@literalvampirepotbellygobl5629yes also why traditional arrangements made their bodies priceless and the cost was marriage due to the exclusivity factor but that’s because they have the relationship value for families. But now that’s all gone it’s just more expensive version of being a professional.
Escorts vs dating....upfront pricing and no hidden fees.
“She doesn’t just show up to make his life easier” 🤣🙏🏽
It’s basically just the whole “the least expensive women are the ones you pay for” joke
So long as you don't pick up an STD, otherwise the price can skyrocket. The exact reason I don't do it.
@@johnroberts3824 This is the 21st century. Prophylactics exist.
@@Nickelodeon81 True, but does the benefit outweigh the potential risk? A few moments of pleasure vs. a potentially incurable disease? Some risks are better left not taken. Obviously not everyone uses my rule book.
This is why men lose. Why would women be inherently more valuable that they have to be paid for in some manner?
@@marcusmcgraw3519 To be paid doesn't imply being more valuable. It implies simply having value. Precisely what V stands for in SMV.
Another common misconception when it comes to celebrities using escorts is the service they pay for. It's not sex, it's anonymity.
Yes, and it also lessens the risk of extortion attempts. It’s no accident that some hangout in European countries where it’s legal & embraced.
Can’t they just use contracts to silence them and it be free a lot of the times
Good point. Stay tuned for the next two parts.
@@nathantrujillo471 Guess.
@@nathantrujillo471 contracts require lawyers to draft and enforce in a public court. Sex is never free for men
I don't think it takes 11 mins to say successful men use escorts because it costs less financially, emotionally and time-wise and you still get exactly what conventional route gives, if not better. Successful men being good capitalists and analysts, it makes sense why they would take this route.
No it doesn’t take 11 minutes but you need at least a 10-minute UA-cam video in order for ads to kick in 😉
F**k Capitalism and everyone whom supports it.
Capitalist bootlickers.
Selective hearing, I like how he goes into details about the WHY behind it, why do you just want to hear facts being thrown at you like a low iq monkey?
I'm not a top-tier lawyer. Nor have I ever used the services of an escort. But even a moderately successful man can understand the motivation. A large percentage of the women whom I would be likely to be able to take out on a date would also be likely to want a commitment from me ASAP or lose interest in me ASAP. I am looking forward to your next video in this series.
Orion brought up on past videos how women shoot themselves in the foot by telling men they want a “commitment” or a “long-term relationship” and then wonder why men head to the nearest exit LOL.
alot of men dont get that because they are not even moderately successful.
all men pay for it
some pay and still don't get any
Yeap... that's exactly how I see it!
Fk that was dark
And on the flip side all women charge for it.
Truest statement on the subject. Yes it is sad, but here we are.
Why would men pay when they don’t have to? I’ve never had to spend money on a girl for her to find me attractive
Frank Sinatra once said, I'm paraphrasing, "It's not that you're paying them for sex per se, it's that you're paying them to go away after the session."
like a micro alimony... instead of the bank
@@mohdmohtashim9841lol i like that one
He and Charly Sheen (whoever said that first) was a chauvinist of the worst sort. Thank God, women don't admire such men like they used to...
I wondered who that quote came from 😂
Good....😎....also ,fotunately , most men dont want to Marry and later divorce- modern - HIGH maintenance American women...........thank Gawd....😎😎@@perieven6357
I'm not a corporate lawyer but when I've started ecsortmaxxing the only thing I regretted is that I didn't start doing that ten years earlier.
Word.
This is an issue I will never have to deal with. LOL
It still astonishes me that you have to explain to women that in order to have a better chance with a high value man they should make the dating process EASIER for him than more difficult.
JaySmith-pv2mw....I really don't understand where so many of you guys are ending up in bad marriages or difficulties with dating. What is your problem? You have control as much as the women you choose. Own your own stuff, you guys. Oh I forgot, projection is name of game here and Orion is actively teaching it. He knows exactly what he's doing...is my guess.
@@csmith9699 This is a non-sequitur as it does not address what my comment was about i.e. women's approach to dating high value men. For the record, I am attempting to improve myself for my benefit as I am not pursuing a relationship. While I am not projecting you are engaging in "What Aboutism."
@@csmith9699Because women hyper focus on super successful men nowadays, they offer little to no feminine qualities, and women deceive men _constantly_ and the law is on their side even if they are in the wrong or caused the divorce/breakup.
Men commit, women are opportunistic, and men are hurt so much more by breaking of the pair bonding.
In my country what s"x studies show is that men are the same and women have drastically changed their behavior and values within the past 70 years. They seem loveless and angry.
Women think that by making themselves hard to want it somehow makes them more desirable
@@csmith9699 Communication is often the key here. Women are terrible at this and will often complain about it. When the men attempt to fix the issue, they often hit a wall. There are plenty of episodes by Orion and other psychologist who go into more details. Marriage counselors often complain about the women not getting their way and then when held accountable will drop the counselor's services to find one that validates them. Dating difficulties are often in the same realm. Women become narcissistic and believe they have more relationship value than they actually do. They confuse the ease of getting sex with the ability to form long lasting relationships. Lack of accountability is a regular issue.
Another key point: Escorts are much less likely to have a child and ruin their “career“ because they can make $1 million a year cash so having a child can cost them several million dollars. So a high value man is not nearly as worried that she will try to get pregnant. Whereas the school teacher making 48k has every incentive.
No high value man is raw dogging an escort 😅 that’s just common sense 🤦🏻♂️
Spot on
A child is priceless. What kind of thinking is that? Has US-Capitalism morphed some brains?
You don`t know anything but eager to smartass. Lol.
@@perieven6357 Context is key, ruckin3 was talking about people who Impregnate themselves without your consent. For example a escort poking holes in your condom without you knowing. .. And then asking for child support. THAT will cost millions
Don't forget the "end of relationship fee". At $1.3/k hour, your friend will make $2-2.8 million/year. Should the relationship go wrong, he will easily lose a few million dollars, custody payments, and half of his assets. By comparison, even the most expensive escort in New Jersey is a bargain ... with a "satisfaction guaranteed" warranty.
1300 an hour is excellent....minus the 45% overhead, and 1800 billable hours....still worth paying for sex (more like 1.3 million before tax)
@@barry4848 Thanks for the laugh; I have an MS in Accounting and one in Applied Business Analytics, so I appreciated your approach insofar as how you made your point. Good job, good job. However, if the thinking is along those lines, there is also the argument to be made that masturbation is free, and while it may not be as much fun, it comes with far fewer potential downsides, and you can still pay escorts to handle outings insofar as social occasions.
You mean marriage and having children, not relationship.
1) S3x with escort is not much fun like it is with a mistress/gf/wife. You must practice safe s3x else you will catch STI. You must protect your d*ck with cond*m during the entire time. You cannot kiss as you can catch some STI just from kissing. You cannot go down on her, else you can catch some STI. She cannot go down on you unless your d*ck is protected with cond*m.
2) Also the escort charges for her time by the minutes/hours and so if you want some cuddling and chatting time, and then you get recharged and you want to go another round, you have to pay for that extra time at the same high rate. Even if you are rich enough to afford that, the quality of s3x is not great because you cannot even kiss without worrying about catching STI.
3) Also it is illegal to pay for s3x and so you have to worry about getting caught and going to jail and getting your life completely destroyed.
The satisfaction part.Most could care less if you're satisfied.Unless they really want something from you-your salvation,I mean money. They want sponsors. Without promising anything in return. Think how many talks with women include "So what do you do,where do you work?"
An escort will NEVER be in a position to take half of everything you own.
in reality, they end up taking much, much more, only many men do not realize it until later on or for most men, I suspect not at all
An escort will also never provide anything worth living-or dying-for.
You are made for more, men. To hell with this garbage.
Explain please.
@@JustinColletti Only thing worth dying for in most LTRs and marriages I would know of are the children. Most if not every thing worth living for besides the aforementioned kids does happen outside the average marriage, be it interesting, satisfying, diverting s*x, be it hobbies like off shore sailing, long distance motorcycling, restoring and competitively racing vintage sportscars, rebuilding and actually long distance flying antique airplanes ..... all things my fellow afficionados do without any wife visible, ever.
@@manfredschmalbach9023 Kids and family are the whole point of marriage. So that’s exactly what we’re talking about.
Spot on again. And this is why prostitution will never be legalized in all 50 states. Modern women would be screwed. Pun intended.
If it is legalized in many European countries such as the Netherlands, Germany, Denmark, and in Australia, New Zealand, then it is only a matter of time before it will be legalized in the U.S. Men just need to get together to form a lobby group to put political pressure on the state politicians. The barrier blocking the path to the legalization of the oldest profession is the self-serving simps and women who will virtue signal and shame and guilt-trip any males who advocate for the legalization of this business.
Idk, it's legal here in Germany and I don't have any problems with it as a modern woman.
@@user-wm6hn5bn7cwho do you think prevents all this from happening? Men. Yes other men, the Bidens and the Trumps
not if we get a libertarian republican on the ticket to run and make it legal.
I have met alot of millionaires that are married and they all says the samething.
That if you want kids get married to someone from equal setting, relagion and believes from equal background with her own money.
If you want sex get an escort or a mistress.
If you want someone to cook and clean get a maid.
If you want your clothes clean go to the dry cleaners.
He said that women are just there to have kids with and that is it.
Join a social group if you need someone to talk to.
Leave women alone.
Cold blooded truth
If the wives knew what these millionaires think about them, they would have to say bye bye to half of their money in no time. So you have to add: He has to lie from 7 am to 12 pm each and every day of his life. That sounds fun...
@@perieven6357 have you tried lying to women? It's ridiculously easy, if you're rich and/or good-looking. They WANT to believe anything you say, true or false. Put it on repeat/loop "...from 7am-12pm." Not remotely hard. "No, you dont look fat. My secretary is ugly. The meeting in Hawaii is going to be boring. The nurses are irritating. I cant wait to see you. That boob job is gross. You're the only one for me. You're my soul mate. You're the best. Spitting is fine." Done.
@@perieven6357excellent observation…. Most of these “high value” men are pure born simps and need money to receive the appearance of another wanting them. This is the cold, harsh truth.
Marriage used be about productivity.: safety, food on the table, health, progeny.
Now marriage is more about romance and pleasure. From productivity to service. We want our partner to be reliable and stable but at the same time erotic and stimulating. We want it all and here we are.
Men realize that the house always wins, so don’t bet the whole kit on one woman. She will fail you.
As an escort connoisseur myself, I agree with your general take that it's the easiest, cheapest, most convenient way to get down and dirty with hot girls. It's way cheaper to pay directly than try to impress your way into a girl's panties. The only disagreement I have with you here: there's no need for the "successful" qualifier, unless you're adding it because you're afraid to sound too controversial for your audience by saying that it applies to many, if not most men, when it in fact does. You don't have to earn six or seven figures to qualify, as long as you got your ish together and value your money, energy and time above female validation and narcissistic supply you will find this to be true.
By emphasizing money, he is highlighting the opportunity costs. Take a man making $1500.00 per hour. If he spends 6 hours per week pursuing dating instead of working, he lost the opportunity to make $9,000. If he only spent 1 hour on an escort and paid her $500, he would have only lost $2,000. The difference is $7,000. On the other hand, if a guy is only making $25 per hour and he spends $500 on an escort, his total loss is $525. $500 on the escort and an hour of his time. If he used the 21 hours on trying to date a girl, he may have spent less than the $525.00.
@@trembly8789 the problem with that logic is that a guy making $1500 per hour can be more wasteful with money than a guy making $25 anyway. It doesn't invalidate what I said, and Orion could've made it a more general message if he wanted to really deliver a knockout blow to the femoids. It's a convenient solution even for guys with average income. Because at the end of the day, you could spend all of that time trying to date and still get nothing for it. With an escort you know where you stand. Also, an average guy is unlikely to get a girl that's as hot as an escort anyway, while a top earner probably can get her through dating. It's more complicated than just saying "this guy lost X amount of money, the other guy lost Y amount of money"
yes but isnt the sex empty? theres no seduction involved. that's a big turn on for me
@@trembly8789 the guy making $1500 has more money to waste than a guy making $25. He's also in the same situation when it comes to potentially wasting time without getting anything in return. On top of that, he's less likely to score with an equally hot woman. All other things being equal of course.
@@ashwinkrishnanpc7555 Depends on the pro, your attractiveness level and your bedroom skills. There can be chemistry even in that "forced" situation. I once had s$x with a 19 y.o. Brazilian esc0rt who I'd rate 8/10 and later that same night with a 6/10 college student I met in a night club. The pro was the best time ever, the college student just lay there like a starfish and it sucked. So there you have it..
I was taught by very good friends from very early on - escorts are awesome, a great escort is gold - every man needs a good doctor, a good lawyer and a good escort
Good doctor, accountant, lawyer, wh0re. All are good to have.
and a good job
At least with good working girl you're getting honesty. Both know what to expect nothing more.
I think you need a new definition of what good friends are.
true.
$1M per year income for a man gives him enough money to pay for private detectives and good marital lawyers.
if women experienced half of the challenge these men do they'd quit entirely.
if women experienced the male life most of them would quit
@@marcouimet9498they cry over doing dishes and not getting constant attention and compliments. They’d be done for if they even had the thought of having to take care of themselves plus another adult plus children and keep them physically safe, they would probably faint.
They are in the dating world now, sorry were not interested.
Well, like the feminist to decide to live like a man and experiment… They probably would off themselves after they realized just how hard men’s lives are.
@@marcouimet9498didn’t you know a transperson (female to male) committed suicide shortly after becoming a man…look it up
I am saying this as a STRICTLY heterosexual male.
I love you Dr Taraban. It takes balls to discuss this
That it does... of titanium i must add. not of your regular iron or steel.
STRICTLY heterosexual? Have you ever seen a twenty dollar bill?
"It takes balls to discuss this" - seems like you - american man are spiritually castraped!
@@SolomonMagnus819 twenty dollar bill ... why???
Some big heavy balls, probably. I'm also straight
Thank you💁🏽♂️. Kevin’s Samuels already explained this but he only reached a certain demographic! Happy you are relaying the same message! Reality bites, in all realms!
Yes he told a story about bringing one to a dinner party as a way to network with other business owners.
@@Gman2002 correct brotha!✊🏽
No drama, no commitment, no danger of losing half or more of one’s assets make it a safe, honest transaction.
Smart men don't pay escorts, call-girls, whatever you choose to label them as to SHOW UP... they pay them to GO AWAY after the 'transaction' is complete. They are not necessarily paying for sex, they are paying to avoid drama.
a micro alimony it should be called
Do you REALLY think that call girs want emotionall connection? They are in job. Men only want sex and women only want money.
Nah, they are paying for sex. Whatever cope they’re using to avoid the stigma doesn’t take away from what they’re paying for.
@SolorockinOne and what exactly is wrong with that
@@meeep9099 if you can’t walk outside and have a woman attracted to you then it is what it is just S.A.D excuses sound best to those who make them
I am a 34 years old man, upper middle class and have been seeing a lot of escorts for 5-6 years now because in Greece its relatively cheap and i dont regret it. It gave me a lot of experience and confidence and i also have my successes with women. It also gives me an abundance mentality because its very easy to have sex with a harem of women of my choosing. I am currently looking for a long term relationship but i am very picky with my emotions and it will probably take a lot of time to find a good partner. Dating and relationships are very expensive so having casual sex with sex workers is much easier and cheaper. I have developed a very warm relationship with some of them and even have free sex occasionaly due to that. In the meantime i focus on myself, my job, my workouts, hobbies and education in order to become the best version of myself.And sex is a basic need for a man , one that i am not willing to sacrifice because its hard to find a girlfriend. So its worth it. Great video as always Orion !!
As good as this is for people to hear. I recommend you amend it to " a friend of mine". Protect yourself at all times brother
This is a beautiful example of shadow integration.
@@aalvarez305 Charlie Sheen's quote " don't pay em for sex, I pay em to leave" is by far the top example of shad integ
What kind of cost range in Greece are we talking about? Most of the Western world has suffered from a lot of inflation in the last few years
@@aalvarez305care to expand?
They arent paid to be with them. They are paid to leave and not mention it.
@@sole__doubt That was my first thought, the video spells it out more, discretion is key.
You aren't socially successful if you have to buy your friends' time. You aren't sexually or romantically successful if you have to buy a woman's time. Financial success is one of thousands of facets of success and it's a waste of your life to only pursue that one.
These men might be more willing to make these sacrifices if attractive women hadn't been with 20 guys by the time they're 20. But at a certain body count, it starts to feel like the only difference between the date and an escort is at least the escort is a sure thing.
Exactly. Whoredom is a scourge on society.
Factual.
FACTS!!!! Most modern women are more expensive than escorts and marriage is essentially legalized prostitution.
Exactly 💯
Hook up culture is a direct response to men’s sexual values not women’s. Women have been molding themselves to appeal to men. Ask yourself who is always the most interested in having sex without commitment. Typically it is men it always has been.
Pron is the average guys version of escort for all the reasons you applied to the billionair
What's with this silly notion that you have to be rich to visit escorts? It's not expensive to have a go every once in a while even with an average salary.
You could say its an adult version of porn. Pure lust nothing else.
@@AlaricsFather-in-Law-em8kz So true. Even the poorest of dudes can save for a luxury escort over a 3-4 month period. An average prostitute is affordable with minimum wage salary. I quit watching porn years ago but those dudes who still watch it tell me that they pay for premium membership on Corn Hub. So how's that a better deal than just getting an escort?
Don't think that's true, really.
Having a super attractive gf/wife is like owning a Porsche.
Having an average, but useful gf/wife is like owning an F-150.
An escort is a rental, whether it's a Porsche or an F-150.
Pron is like roller skates.
Yes, they all have wheels and you can use any of them to get from point a to point b...but a dude with access to either a Porsche or an F-150 is taking that rather than putting on roller skates.
p*rn is the best..without there is little meaning to life
There is a fine line between 'dating' and 'hooking'. There is a value exchange in both scenarios.
In my 20's I was constantly hounded by rich successful men. Not once did i consider dating/ marrying one. For one i made good money on my own. For another, I knew how extremely superficial most of them were, and when i got older there woild be a good chance I would be tossed aside for a younger model.
I married a man in the same income/ age bracket and while not perfect it's been a very good, solid marriage.
My advice to ALL young women is to establish yourself first. Pursue a degree or trade that will be lucrative enough for you to thrive on your own. Being Arm Candy isnt sustainable in the long run. .
It is interesting that women and men with fewer options (that is mostly all of us when we are younger) use judgement, shaming, and laws to fight against escorts and prostitution. They seek to level a playing field that they are not able to successfully compete on. Most people miss that it is the most honest transaction exchanging resources for sex. It is ironic that at the top level, the pool of suitable mates is so small that the struggle is parallel to those at the lower tier. Simple risk/reward. The game is the same, the stakes are just much higher.
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Not quite. I top tier dude could always date down a bit. In fact, they mostly do. Someone who has ultra high value may have particular issues but by no means are they as pernicious as the ones facing the men at the bottom of the social strata.
One word:
EFFICIENCY!
Ohhh and VARIETY! 😊
and quick turn around time. its like a gourmet meal delivery service
Yes fam😅
i wouldn't risk variety with sex workers. that's insane. you get one that is good quality you keep seeing her and don't play games. men are equally greed as women in my estimation.
@@FazeParticles that is a good point.
Yes... The red head, the cute blond, The intellect, The loose cannon, The misunderstood, the list goes on and on.. Then at the end of the night I get to say my favorite command. Alexa turn off the lights..!!!!! Darkness followed by sweet silence...
The whole "men want sex, women want relationships" theme underlying this channel is a bit flawed. Lots of men want to figure out if they can trust a women (in many ways) so that they can eventually let their guard down and just be themselves. They see the initial sexual encounters as early progress milestones, and use them to assess the rate at which the relationship is developing.
You're not paying her for sex; you're paying her to leave when the sex is over.
great line it opened eyes
A nice, polite way of telling women that they are a pain to approach and date. Maybe they should do something about that if they want a rich guy (or just an upper middle class guy). Escorts are usually cheaper than paying for an actual date, unless it is a coffee date (something most women hate), or she agrees to go Dutch (which many women also hate), and setting up a meeting with an escort is usually less time consuming and more convenient than convincing a woman to go out with you.
Sounds like so many of you guys look in all the wrong places for women...or attract the wrong type of women to begin with. Many women have same problem with guys.
Most people don't know themselves, or want to, unfortunately
@@csmith9699did she pick you yet bud? Or are you hoping that your feminist mindset will land that septum pierced cow of a human you pedestalise so greatly
@@csmith9699 -- You are a woman and so it is harder for you to understand men's problems. As soon as a woman thinks a man is worth pursuing for relationship she wants to make him wait for several dates before putting out. After that she tries to take over his life by demanding all his free time to be dedicated to her. That makes the dating process impossibly expensive for men who want to be/remain successful.
@@csmith9699you are all a liability not an asset.
@@rayrwyr I am a woman with a lifetime experience with men. That means I have some understanding of men. I also have 2 grown sons.
Your answer is so negatively stereotyped to be bizarre. It also comes across as arrogant as if you know about "all" women. I realize you know about the dynamics (which include your own dynamics equally) of the women you've been involved with. Not smart to lump all women as the same just as not smart to do the same with men. I'm sorry you and so many men on this channel have not figured out how to have fulfilling relationships with interesting, smart, sexy women. Don't project that problem onto all women please. Own your own part of what makes your relationships you choose and have chosen with women not work. Good luck and wise decisions
Every man pays. Either upfront or at the end. Whether been a beloved husband, boyfriend or a "John". Be it a pimp, a simp or a trick; the honey always costs M.E.A.T (Money, Energy, Attention and Time).
Quote of this century ❤
The MEAT ain't free
No money, no honey.
There are no hassles with escorts. They are paid to be nice and interact intelligently.
You got fun, the escort gets paid. Everyone wins.
It’s amazing how different women act when a paycheck is on the line 😂
1) S3x with escort is not much fun like it is with a mistress/gf/wife. You must practice safe s3x else you will catch STI. You must protect your d*ck with cond*m during the entire time. You cannot kiss as you can catch some STI just from kissing. You cannot go down on her, else you can catch some STI. She cannot go down on you unless your d*ck is protected with cond*m.
2) Also the escort charges for her time by the minutes/hours and so if you want some cuddling and chatting time, and then you get recharged and you want to go another round, you have to pay for that extra time at the same high rate. Even if you are rich enough to afford that, the quality of s3x is not great because you cannot even kiss without worrying about catching STI.
3) Also it is illegal to pay for s3x and so you have to worry about getting caught and going to jail and getting your life completely destroyed.
@@darbyoharaThey won't submit to a husband who loves them but will do for their boss who expects work.
@edheldude
This is because we Western husbands have been taught from the cradle that girls are naturally sweet and delicate and nice, and must be respected at all times no matter what and when we get older, we’re told that any kind of natural masculine leadership tendencies are toxic and abusive. Societal feminist indoctrination has gradually demonized every last masculine tendency as evil and toxic.
But the real crazy thing is a certain degree of patriarchy is the natural order and women actually preferred that way, even though they protest not. Women because they are more sensitive to things like hierarchy and dominance, Need a supreme figure to base there after actions on, and to get afformation from, and in a healthy life, should be their husband. A woman without a husband to center her is like a kid running from distraction to distraction or a dog without a master taking every impulse that strikes its fancy.
I was quite the beta for a long time, even in my own marriage, I was fine with letting my wife do most of the decisions and setting the rules. Then there came a time when she was unemployed, and I was the sole breadwinner so to keep herself busy, and because she felt bad about that she started being a lot more domestic. So we went from always been a mess in the house and often times either scrounging up or getting carry out to her having a hot meal every day and cleaning at least one room. That wasn’t all as she made herself into my partner servant and I as the one with the big picture financial view, who had to take care of us all in the leadership roll, The way she looked at me and responded to me changed for the better. Attraction and reverence that had been missing for years came back, and she became more obedient. It even helped her with her mental state from going from feeling basically lost and pointless after having the kids, and now that with them in school to having direction and focus again because she was serving somebody and had a point in life beyond herself.
Maybe our ancestors had a point when they settled on patriarchy.
All women are escorts and all men are Johns. Us men always pay in time and money. And professional escorts become attached and emotional and dramatic just like the amateur ones.
If you show them to much validation and are very regular , they can, but if you don't and check them, they will stop after testing you...
@@davida138 I’m not certain that applies to men with large appendages. Women (often married) Ofer them money, trips, home cooked meals, time, attention and just about whatever else they want.
Correct, time, attention, dates, money etc, whether they think they are or not, directly or indirectly, and mostly indirectly EVERY man pays for 🐱. It is what it is.
"We" men...
@@DeshaunDamon I have one of those and still pay one way or the other if she is attractive.
I've held a similar opinion to said subject.
Another reason is family courts and no fault divorce. I would've love to have a family.
"you don't pay them for sex, you pay them to leave" this is the quote that come to mind before I even watch the video
Cliche. We've all heard it. It even popped into my head.
Its both. No one with confidence and common sense is going to pay money just to hang out with an attractive air head.
Thanks for another one Doc. Same, I used to look down on this practice. As time goes on, it seems like a great second option to finding a truly worthwhile woman.
This video was a gentle way of saying: "you are likely to be a piece of work for the successful men you want!"
Actually I think a lot of women understand why men use escorts, the issue is a lot of men who don't, have unrealistic attitudes towards those men that do. Men are very judgemental about this.
Pretty sure most men with at least two braincells understand why some men do this, they just don't approve of it.
In most cases, just like when it comes to most things, it's just pure envy. Men with a lot of money can have sex with a variety of 20 something hotties by using their money, even when they are old decrepit mummies. The rest can't afford it and are salty about it. That's all it is.
Men being judgemental towards other men. It's a tale as old as time itself.
Yes, just as women are judgmental of other women. In their case, it’s how they go about their hustle. For us, it’s based on how we consume/spend our resources.
It’s mostly a USA problem and perhaps countries similar to the USA
Clearly we pay for it. Whether we want to admit it or not. I’ve been close to making this choice and your part 1 resonates with me. I’ll look for your next vid
As an entrepreneur, what deters me from the traditional dating is the time. Time is expensive. Not just monetary but existentially. Is there anything wrong with avoiding wasting time? On the flip side, this is a hidden reason why arranged marriages exist.
And yet here you are, spending your time leaving comments on UA-cam.
@@Sergio-dh5qh Spending 15 minutes to watch a UA-cam video and leaving a comment while taking a shit is not the same as hundreds of hours of time for a gamble at some pussy.
@@Sergio-dh5qh It took 10 sec to write it.
@@nowhereman7413 plus 11 minutes from the video plus few more minutes to find this video
@@Sergio-dh5qh It's not like he was watching an irrelevant video.
I make $250/hr and work 16 hour days, and I came to the same conclusion, I'm losing money trying to date. Also, I realized trying to date in a western country is pointless because of the obesity rates and entitlement of the women. I also realized, the more I date in the west, the more money I lose, which means the harder it will be financially to relocate to a non-western country. So to simplify, the more I date western women in the west, the longer I have to stay here, missing out on moving to another country where dating is far more enjoyable for men because they do not have a massive obesity problem. So far no escorts, I'm only here for another 6 months, I think I can hold out. But if I get stuck here, I will definitely be hitting up a university girl for a weekend of fun for $500. This is spot on though. To me a date costs me $1000, an hour to get ready and drive to meet her, 2 hours to talk, 1 hour to drive home and get settled. Usually I'm disappointed in the west, the obesity here is just awful, one thing I find repulsive.
It only (actually) costs you that in dollar terms if you lose 4hrs of billable work because of it. Otherwise it doesn't.
I'm not saying you're wrong to be critical of dating, I'm just saying Dr Taraban's costings are nonsense.
The lawyer example he uses, is flawed in two ways;
1. For the reason I explained above.
2. $1300 per hour isn't what they're paid in any event. It's the rate their employer charges them out at.
this right here... gospel.
@@sammyb1651 Not really. Sure, it's not going to equal exactly a billable hour, but people of that caliber of earning potential, their time is worth more than others. Someone who is making $1300 an hour, they aren't going to do their taxes by themselves, they're not going to shop for groceries, they're not going to mow their own lawn. There is only so many hours in a day, and only so much energy. They are way better off paying someone else to do it. That's why housekeeping is even a profession. Only wealthy people pay for that.
@@sammyb1651 I agree with your points, although I will point out that some people make ridiculous hours at work if they don't have anything of personal importance to do and so point 1 wouldn't apply to them. In fact, free time is valueless when you have nothing to do, and extremely valuable when you have very little of it. As with anything in life...
yeah ... nah ...
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“Does this fit with your own experience?” Absolutely not hahahahaha
Damn you really hit the nail on the head when it comes to the time, money and energy it takes to date nowadays that’s why so many of us opt out
That breakdown was brilliant 👏🏽
Best statement “dating is a job where men must pay to work!” 😂😂😂
True af.
The downsides of using escorts (no relationship) is having no partner for anything, you enjoy life much better with a girlfriend: cooking, going to the movies, playing some sport, travelling, anything you do together is better. The thing is that it´s all an illusion and generally doesn´t last long, and you end up with a very expensive bill.
I am doing this with the same girl since I was 17. Now I am 48. No money can buy a 30 years old relationship.
They are not there to support u, they are just waiting at the finish line thinking themselves to prize when many like them are available for 200 dollars an hour
@@LoSkiBumyou might be the few of the lucky ones nowadays. I getting attention of single mothers from everywhere lol.
Sometimes I wonder do men value women as human beings and not just secondary citizens or if is it just the benefit (sex/companionship/kids) that they’re getting from women that they value. Well maybe there are still good men out there but dang being exposed to this side of the world seems disappointing. Seems like women can’t win 🤷🏻♀️
We all pay for sex with women...you just don't see it ! With escorts is a more fair game
Never got laid as much as I did in college… With women who enjoyed sex as me (no strings attached).
So, I guess the REAL question is, why do women a few years later stop enjoying, or deriving pleasure from sex, when men don’t..?
they grow up and realize sex is emotional and if their needs aren’t meant they either become celibate or sell it.
@@VanessaKiara Interesting point….
So, for men, sex remains a lifelong source of physical pleasure.
But for women, sex changes from physical to emotional pleasure, somewhere in their twenties?
Even though the female orgasm is stronger and longer lasting than men’s.
@@humlakullen and once a man earns a woman’s trust and love he should absolutely get all the sex he needs. women who deprive their husbands of that ruins it for the rest of us who know how a divine union should run. we each have obligations to our partners.
@@VanessaKiara Then I guess there are a lot of women who would say that there’s nothing divine about carnal pleasures;-).
@@VanessaKiaraso do escorts just turn off that emotion? What about GB girls? So basically wahmen of the night are better at controlling their emotions?
Can't wait to part 2 and 3.
Great 👍🏾💯 work
It's hard to keep these conversations on topic, well done with the message.
Love to hear the "No, we are talking about this right now we can talk about the other after we finish here."
The quality of your relationships (not intimate ones only) determines the quality of your life. No amount of extra money can compensate their lack. Ask anyone on their death bed. So much for this wise video. You are welcome 😅
Experiences and your own happiness mean more. We all die and we all are forgotten, so as long as you are happy doing whatever that may be - relationships and how good they were won't matter. Not everyone values relationships in the same way and are just as happy in the end if they followed their pursuits
@@karmasutra4774 experience is inevitable, i.e everyone gets it even without trying. That is the fabric of life. Your own happiness comes from following your internal guiding system. Being able to bridge that illusion of separation and grasp the truth of life, i.e. we are all a manifestation of one poured into different bodies is what we are here to attaint. I find it funny how limited is people's view on themselves and their own happiness. It is not all that complicated but our egos cannot bare to accept the simplicity of it. None has a purpose of their own without the planetary context they are in. Your experiences and pursuits mean nothing if you cannot relay, share, impact through them. Ultimately you would have no purpose if you were the only being on the planet.
Yes!!! 🙌, I'm so excited about your book. I'm definitely in line to pick it up. 👏 (Online)😅
Absolutely correct- and I have multiple vantage points to confirm your analysis 😊
Ok my man, you got my attention. I bought your book. Let’s see what you got. I have read several books about dating, I’m a licensed therapist and I wrote a book myself (totally different topic). I look forward to hearing what you have to say.
Waiting for parts 2 and 3, Orion! Cheers from México 🇲🇽
Did the best psychologist on UA-cam just use the word “RIZZ” in his talk?! 🙌😂
Perspective and semantics. What is the true measure of "Successful Men". It's a trap the mentally/morally lazy minds will fall prey to.
“A man's character is his fate.” - Heraclitus
My brother, you hit it right on the spot. I could have never put this out the way you did emotionally. This is exactly what I have been feeling. I’m too busy chasing what I said out to do for myself and a family if I won, they have one but dating is too much right now for me. I lose a lot of money doing it everything you said you are 100% right thanks brother keep up the good work. can’t wait for the next episode.❤❤
love this channel.
interesting analysis.
no dumbnails.
bravo.
I appreciate your honesty and bluntness in your videos. Sometimes I get the feeling that you're a bit bitter about women. I can understand the struggles of rich and successful men, because as a woman who has to work hard to earn and maintain some level of comfortable living, it has become increasingly hard to actually go out there and meet men, not to mention to even start and build a relationship. But why does it all have to revolve around sleeping with women? There's so much more to a relationship between two people than just sleeping with each other. I understand that a man like that has to waste so much of his time and money to meet a woman, so what he can do is try to properly vet her in advance through a few calls or conversations before actually going out there to meet her. Someone's presence, good company and conversation, that human connection is worth more than just getting into their pants. And let's please stop normalizing that. Sex is something precious that should be honoured and kept for a long-term relationship, not something you try to buy and then get bitter about not getting.
Look, Taraban, someway a brilliant mind, just is selling himself out to the dumb Red Pill market. Thats sad.
I make well over 6 figures and primarily see escorts and/or sugar babies even though I get plenty of attention from women my own age. It's simply too much of a hassle to deal with women normally. I would rather pay to not have to jump through all the hoops I have to deal with in vanilla dating.
I’m in the same boat. No sugar babies for me yet though. Saving that for when I enter my 40’s.
No one plays financial and relationship hardball harder than a woman much poorer than you and around your age. Avoid.
I've never paid for one, but that doesn't mean I never would. It's definitely cheaper than marriage, and usually cheaper than dating too, unless you're in the top 10% of physical attractiveness
Not even that is true.
You still have to put in the effort to convince her.
The only difference is, you get the chance to convince her.
The problem is men don’t want just sex. They want that stupid thing called companionship.
Yeah they still make even Chad, Brad and Tyrone jump through hoops because they don't want to feel like cheap hoors. Everyone pays.
Congratulations on your new book release! 💯👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 I just got the audiobook. Listening now.
This is very true however it ignores the emotional need that men also require not just physical.
All men pay
Not all, only betas.
@@axl1002 - time, money, attention - all
@@axl1002- all
All - time, money and / or attention
@@globalnomad1221 If you did enjoy the time, then it is not a payment ;)
I told you so! I’m undefeated once again.
The quality of the information and your delivery made me subscribe to your channel. Thank you!
A good way to test your empathy is by being able to understand and relate to the pain of people, regardless of their wealth or appearance.
Thank you for the great video!
I've always kind of understood the struggles of a very rich man or a very beautiful woman and can empathize. But it's weird because most people can't get past their envy to even remotely understand. It's almost an animalistic response.
In my opinion going the escort route is ESPECIALLY important for men who are financially savvy but not very physically attractive, this is coming from an attractive dude who has many average looking wealthy friends.
I tell my guys all the time, “These women crave me so much because of my looks charm, your money isn’t going to get you that treatment. Everything they do will be more far more transactional and not out pure sexual desire. Relationships are off the table. Pay the upfront cost and fee to get your needs met, you can afford it. You don’t have to try to play the game the way I do to get the same results. Far less time consuming and far more effective.”💯
Women barely care about looks. Its 80% behavior that will get you laid.
A lot of married men use escorts too.
That's what the redpill men don't get. If you're physically unattractive and old past a certain point women will be with you only for money. And they'll treat sex like a chore. You make sense.
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Regardless of whether one is physically attractive or not, paying for sex is the swiftest and least expensive way to get it. One cute to the chase right away. So if one can afford it and one desires it, many decide to just go that route. One is likely to get good service in return. Many physically attractive men care not that they are able to attract the sort of women that they want based on their looks. Many physically attractive men do not want relationships. They do not want emotional attachments. They just want sex. So they cut to the chase and pay for it.
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to move on, I really loved her so much i can’t stop thinking about her and the memories we shared. I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail. I’m frustrated, and i don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts, but i can’t. I don’t know why I’m saying this here, but i really miss her and i wish i could get her back.
I have been in such a situation. My relationship ended about three years ago, but i could not let her go. So i had to do all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual adviser who helped me bring her back. We are back together, and i must say i am enjoying every moment
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach one?
I think you raise valid points. It is what it is, up to each person to choose how they approach this conundrum.
Thank you for sharing!! It genuinely shifted my perception of HVM dating 🙏
Goddess lmao
There was a NY Times (or similar) interview with a high-class escort out of NYC who have had clients that are billionaires, famous men (even some women or couples), to normal folks etc. On the topic as a whole: "Married men love their wives!"
NONSENSE!
@@JosephERICFisk don’t see what her motivation would be to lie, but ok.
She's obviously correct it's the wives who don't love their husbands and thus the extracurricular activity
@@user-of2co3ke5pwhat if your woman says the same😮
@@saranghenchmanas a woman love chocolate icecream, can definitely have a few other flavors as well. Especially after eating chocolate ice cream only for years. But men can’t stand when women feel the same as they do.
You either pay on the front end or the backend in court!
I guess people who make $2000/hr. wake up after eight hours of sleep and say, “Dang! I just wasted $16,000.” I can’t remember ever thinking of time with my loved ones as lost billable hours.
I learn so much for this guy. Everything he says resonates with me.
Coach Greg Adams talks about protecting your MEAT
Money
Energy
Attention
Time
Once you appreciate and value those, it makes the dating reality much much harder.
Shout out to the coach gang
Bingo.
You also need to protect your meat using a cond*m.
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Absolutely. At my current level of success, I would never consider wasting time and mental energy on dating again. That is probably a big reason why men are not looking. It is just too much trouble. Even historically, this may have been why the family arranged the marriage.
not even that, its that women are by nature not supposed to have mating choice to offset the sexual attraction asymetry.
Thank u. Eagerly awaiting next episode.
First video of yours Ive seen, now im gonna have to subscribe so I can catch the next part.
Banger a video per usual 🔥!
WAY too logical for women to understand but, as an owner of multiple businesses, I get it completely and love it.
You don’t pay a woman for the company, you pay them to leave.
This explains why in the past wealthy families were heavily involved in courtship and dating of their sons and daughters. Barriers were put up to limit the number of people that they would have access to and effectively screening them for suitability in marriage. It's one reason for private clubs, country clubs provided barriers to entry based on wealth and social standing. Another barrier was higher education. In past the high cost of college education limited those from low economic standing from being able to attend. And only those with the potential to rise above their low station given scholarships to continuslly reinvigorate the elite class with "new blood."
Newcomers to this position financially lack the understanding of how these systems work and even the desire to participate in them. Putting them in a position without the support structure. The need for matchmaking is not gone. A screening service if you will.
Basically, no man is immune to the costs of dating. These costs tend to go up as the man makes more money.
Great video, looking for part 2.
Incredibly relevant indeed. It takes a lot of time and work to get the job done with positive results in the dating game. Time is a precious commodity these days more than ever.