Women are a roll of the dice: the fundamental rule of gambling
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- Not matter the amount of due diligence a man conducts in the courtship process, women will always remain a role of the dice. So it's important to approach relationships like one would approach gambling. And the fundamental rule of gambling is never to bet with more than you can afford to lose. This is essential to keep in mind when dealing with women not only because all relationships eventually end but because they typically don't end equally. Over a long enough time line, the house always wins. Smart gamblers prepare against this eventuality.
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I've always said dating/relationships are the only gamble where you lose over and over and over, but people will still tell you to keep trying.
You've obviously never played counterstrike
@@meeep9099 Lmao I thought about Dark Souls too😂
You’ve “always” said that? Uh huh 😂
Because you want love right? Ultimately
@@coimbralaw Semantics. If you're a somewhat intelligent adult, you know I don't mean literally always.
"it's important to protect your heart". Absolutely spot on.
This is why the "good guy" after a few bad relationships will eventually become the "bad guy". And yet women ask: "where have all the good men gone."
Being a bad guy is a revenge not protection
@@user-hv3ln3rk8i
I'll put it this way instead: you move from being anxiously attached to avoidant. As far as women are concerned reserved commitment (i.e. avoidant) amounts to a negative man, so negative or revenge; take your pick.
@@user-hv3ln3rk8i Nope.
men want lower body count, you could say that women want the same thing - just mentally. they want a man whose heart hasn't been ran into the ground by other women.
yet.
@@user-hv3ln3rk8i "bad guy" Is rhetorical here as not being a nice guy simp = "bad guy"
Women give their best to "bad guys" (see Dr. O's video "Women do the right things with the wrong men..") so any nice guy who has been repeatedly run over would be a fool not to re-tool himself to emulate that.
Orion: "You should approach women like you approach gambling".
Me: I don't do gambling. Got it.
Hah.
"The only way to win is not to play."
😢🤣🤣🤣🤣
lol I only gamble with my life, never my money or sanity
😂😂😂
"Know when to walk away. Know when to run."
Kenny Rogers?
Yes. Applicable.
you never spend your money, when they say they are the table. there'll be time enough for spendin, when the simpin's done
Know when to fold 😅
That song is the 1st thing I thought of.
First part of the tsunami joke is “when they come, they’re wet and wild”
Brilliant advice sir
I like the Hurricane one: “at first there’s a lot of blowing and then you lose your house”.
😂😂😂
How is a tornado like a divorce in Arkansas?
Either way, someone’s losing a trailer.
Al Bundy said to Steve "You're a married man, we all gamble".
but Ted Bundy said something completely different
@@cassidydeano5554 Enlighten us.
"Women are like a game that's hard to win, and men, like fools, never get tired of playing" - a Brazilian song =)
What a comment 😂😂🔥👏🏾
Facts..........
"She's not yours, it's only your turn." ,― chinese cookie
@@Zebielie😊...explains why some say women are loyal..."to thier feelings". So, I guess that translates to taking thier words or verbal commitments with a pinch of salt for the most part.
I got tired of playing, personally.
Gents , remember to take the trash out when it starts to smell.
better to do it right before it starts to smell! ^_^
And never go through the trash after you have taken it to the curb. It's messy, the neighbors see you do it, and whatever you were looking for is never worth it.
@@anisenkrill6179 and never bring it back in.
And don't eat cold pizza from it
@@stayfree6115I ate the pizza
Getting into a relationship has always been a gamble. What changed is that stakes went WAY up. Especially with modern anti-family courts. The most sadistic of rapists in modern society sit in these courtrooms and they're neither in prosecution nor defense.
not just with courts also her behaviour women trying to get man you know what, and also using violence and yes they do they know u cant knock them out or hit them hard without bringing to much damage going all out so they use this gap to commit violence its not just the courts its your whole well being as in health psyche fysical etc its a huge roll of the dice
@@skillsphere9245 You can hit her in such a way that nobody can ever prove anything, silly! ^_^
You could make her life in to hell if you yourself are no pussy! ;))
you could just sit there and take it, or you can fight back! Especially if you americans have guns!
My ex destroyed my business and friendships. Two years I received an 11 page apology letter. Doesn't help with the financial damages - or deep psychological wounds.
@@edheldude -- why did she apologize unless she wanted you to take her back?
@@edheldude I'm sorry man. You deserve better than this. I know at least two guys, one of whom was a very close friend of mine who took their own lives after vicious divorce rapes, because they saw no meaning in slaving all day every day just to pay for exes lavish lifestyle in perpetuity.
WOW!!!
As a professional Gambler - I would like to say - This is 100% CORRECT!
i never got into gambling because it looked stupid and had no appeal.
but now i realize that pursuing women has so much appeal that it is difficult to recognize the conditions under which it is stupid. thankfully, the minimum wager to play keeps me out of trouble.
As a "retail wall street investor", I concur.
Men gamble their own kids, their kid's futures and other people's money. Then they walk
Everyone is a gambler. The only difference is the stakes.
"Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it." (Proverbs 4:23)
That doesn't mean being a less loving person. Basically everything Yeshua says in the Christian cannon is about being a more loving being to everyone, not just your family.
@@-whackd True, as well.
I've always found casinos to be a waste of my time and resources. Thanks for putting things into perspective.
Yes, I refuse to gamble,hate Vegas. It's stupid to throw money away.
Casinos are where fools go to have fun while losing their money.
PvP is the only way to win. PvC is just throwing money away.
@0000FFzexactly
Number one rule of gambling… never risk something you can’t afford to lose.
Never gamble
@@P.I.M.P.720 -- stock market is a casino.
Women have always been a gamble, the issue is that the rewards are no longer worth the risk.
Its this, and also, the cost to pull the lever is more than ever for a man.
The rewards have gone way down, and the risks have gone way up
You know marriage is a bad prospect for men when some women are even telling men not to get married.
Kids are the new shakedown
I still want a family and kids of my own and I’m not going to do that outside of marriage🧐
Don’t marry a western woman is the rule of thumb
@@CodyseusRexaddicted gambler spotted 😂
@@CodyseusRexThen you need an anonymous trust to protect your assets. It won't protect your heart, mental health or social networks though.
Patrice O'Neal said something similar years ago. If you give 100% and she leaves you are left with/at 0 so you have to hold 10% back. So you have something to build on moving forward.
He also told his girl that his mom was first, then his career and she was fighting for the 3rd place with his exotic fish 🤣🤣🤣
@@nikeisagreekgoddess4135I love my fish too!!! So watch your step!
Hold 90% back.
This quote from CS Lewis might not directly contradict you, but it's on quite a different note:
"There is no safe investment. To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything, and your heart will certainly be wrung and possibly be broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact, you must give your heart to no one, not even to an animal. Wrap it carefully round with hobbies and little luxuries; avoid all entanglements; lock it up safe in the casket or coffin of your selfishness. But in that casket - safe, dark, motionless, airless - it will change. It will not be broken; it will become unbreakable, impenetrable, irredeemable. The alternative to tragedy, or at least to the risk of tragedy, is damnation. The only place outside Heaven where you can be perfectly safe from all the dangers and perturbations of love is Hell."
I've been looking for your comment, sir
Nailed it.
C S Lewis never really got “popular” in other countries where adultery, divorce and certainly taking the house and the kids away from the man do not happen. Iam thinking of countries where people may get stoned as a punishment for committing the above mentioned. 🫣
As Orion mentioned elsewhere :love is not -and has never been- something that has to be “blessed” by marriage or the state or any kind of legality.
CS Lewis was talking mostly on a religious level. One can even argue about loving everything and everyone unconditionally. Spread the love. Why not?
As for the heart: it becomes hardened when closed in a casket. And wounded- sometimes multiple times- when it’s out in the open.
So damned if you, damned if you don’t….
Don't love. Gotcha.
Over time, the casino will always win.
Wife is the casino... the daughter is the pit boss
Then don't play.
Nah, it is not a good analogy, because casino games are intentionally constructed that your reward possibility is mathematically always lower than your risk input (a wager).
Relationships are not mathematically constructed to make you lose. There is no rule in biology/sociology that male always loses.
@@Hollowed2wiz But you don't get the trills a woman and your own children will bring and then you will be sad. Both ways you will be sad in the long run.
@@Hollowed2wiz *The juice isn't worth the squeeze!!*
Man here. I have gone emotionally "all in" twice, and let me tell you, you really do have a finite reserve for that. Not only does the end of the relationship devastate you and mess up your life for a year or more, it can cause more or less permanent changes in the way you view relationships, and it makes it harder to ever commit in the future. Personally, I feel like I have one more full commit in me and do not think I would be even be physically capable of fully committing again beyond that if it didn't work out. A safer bet is to find someone you LIKE who is also stable and REASONABLE. Love is great while it's there, but the fallout can be permanently damaging.
That's kind of the whole point of emotionally all in - it will break you. Guaranteed.
The question is, why to do it?
The answer is, to go beyond yourself.
If you rearrange your values and your life you can break yourself over and over without limit...
It's only the hanging onto the past or "what might have been" or fear of the future that causes the damage.
Not saying there is a right way, saying that there is a cause and effect here that can be understood.
Look at it like this, you can lose sooner (breakup) or you can lose later (death). Either way you lose. If you want your love to transcend death and endings, then break yourself over and over until you stop resisting and fall into the endless abyss ... Or forgettaboutit.
You seem not to have learnt any lessons from what Orion said here still.
Listen to the video again, this time intently.
Dont take a bet on love, take a bet on her principles. A good woman comes with good principles, and with success of marriage, love will blossom later. Love is like seasons, not permanent, they ebb and flow.
Fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me; fool me three times... wonder how that phrase ends
Im out of full commits. My dream girl who listened to me, talked with me for hours, was knockout gorgeous, and a demon in the sack dumped/ghosted me after a year when I got Covid with zero explanation for what I did wrong. I will never get over it. I've had relationships since, but I know that women are women and they will be chaotic and ditch me if I show any weakness so its pointless to waste effort, also, they dont really bond with men anymore
Orion has the best analogies for every teaching. Love this man!
You get a lot of fun memories and lot of s3x and a couple of children out a marriage, even if it ends in divorce after 10-20 years. Gambling gives just a lose/win of money. Gambling does not leave any lasting memory of fun and no critically important product like children. So the gambling analogy is ok but not that great.
the three laws of thermodynamics for gamblers:
1. you can't win
2. you can't break even
3. you can't stop playing the game (unless you start out at absolute zero)
I’m confused by #3 and how it applies?
If we start dating women, we can’t stop therefore best to not start?
@@kevinkurgansky4479 i guess the analogy breaks down at #3. it's easy to stop, especially if your default state is invisible.
listen to Michael Jackson's "you can't win" from the WIZ soundtrack - he says these exact words.
12 months?? In my experience crazy can hide out at least 2 years..
Try 5 years. Then married. Crazy really ramped up
4 years for me. It’s working out for me
The 7 year itch.
12 months is enough if a man pays close attention.
CRAZY can hide out a long, long time! Usually comes out soon after the marriage contract is signed or the child is born.
As a professional gambler, I attest that you are spot on!
More likely to win on a longshot horse than a longshot husband.
Stock market day trader?
100% agree. In Mexico, where i lived as a child and teen, they used to say "a las mujeres, ni todos el amor, ni todo el dinero" (transl: to women, neither all the love nor all the money"). I followed this advice in my early 30's, and I can tell you, it is accurate as per my life experience and that of my mates with what has happened in our relationships. I wish i had heeded it earlier, yet i am now still in one piece and in peace now nearing my 50's. Nowadays, I have no desire at all to have a woman around or orbiting. Once the hunger of the instinct is under control, there are very few upsides to be closely associated with a woman. I live quite content alone.
Entonces ya no tienes pareja o no planeas tener ?
@@jorgerocha6912la verdad que la única pareja que un hombre necesita es la manuela 😂
Are you saying even sweet Mexican girls must be gamed? We're all screwed bro 😂
This is a real case for not taking women seriously.😂
well… taking them seriously implies to not take them more closely than at min. arms‘ length at all. and ‚love‘ is delusional void, positively put.
Wait until you’ve taken each other down from that pedestal.
Boy howdy when those rose tinted glasses come off, it’s like removing makeup from a pig 😂😂😂😂
It takes 12-18 months.
@@baffinsansterreHmm.. only took me 6 months! 😔 Then, I realized I had married a devil in disguise!
@@mrquick6775 ain’t no way bro married someone within 6 months
@@GyatRizzler69-of3wl my uncle did it. he's still married to her. has never missed a chance to tell me not to do that.
'A person can go all-in emotionally a few times in their life' ... isn't that the truth. But there are necessary lessons to be learned in every failure... to become the person you were meant to be. I am most grateful to those women who helped me discover myself. Great video!!
I'm still feeling it 2 years after the break up. Miss her too much
@@tuphdc8779 wait till u get to the 15 year mark, lol. The pain will strengthen your insides. You will be strong from the inside-out. But the test of a man is to endure. Stay strong and weather the storm... it will pass. Ride it thru and pleasant waters are up ahead... endure.
@@tuphdc8779 Happened to me too, but it gets easier.
Go find something to keep yourself occupied, preferably in a capacity where you can be of service to others.
This is such a good analogy, but once You are emotionally involved it's hard to SEE the relationship objectively
💯
Yup
Seriously. I think you probably have to have a big loss as a gambler to keep perspective too. But after that you hopefully grow some armor.
It is/was a roll of the dice for both of us. I went all in with 100K and my husband-to-be went all in with 100K. Bought a house. Had a kid. I stayed in my lane. He stayed in his lane. But always moving together in the same direction. Best roll of the dice ever.
You didn't roll any dice. You played a safe bet. If things went awry you were at least guaranteed your stake or even a better outcome. Don't try to compare your situation to what men stand to lose. It is nowhere near the same. You're the house, you barely lose.
@@richien8472 I disagree. Women put themselves in a vulnerable position when they have a child.
@@INTJ.softy-be4ll -- the more children, the more child support and she gets the majority custody usually. Many women make tons of money from child support.
@@INTJ.softy-be4ll A vulnerable position that is still to their benefit. She gets custody 90% of the time. Vulnerable for your benefit. Tell me how the vulnerability benefits the man when or if loses custody he only sends money without having the warmth of his children. Marriage is a thankless sacrifice for men.
@@richien8472 That's one way of looking at it and I don't disagree. However, someone has to look after the kids and it's usually the woman. I have 3 degrees (teacher) but my husband (CEO) makes way more money than me. It made sense that I stayed home to take care of the kids. Loss of income, work experience/advancement, re-entering workforce after years at home, etc.. puts women at a disadvantage if the relationship doesn't work out long term. Yes, assets get split, however that's very short term and there's lots of life to live from that point on. There's great risk for both parties. Choose your partner wisely.
Best advice I've heard, especially regarding acceptable loss.
It is not about having disagreements it is how adult/emotionally mature you are to handle the differences. yes, everything changes. if you constantly suspect your loved one then you will bring on exactly what you fear the most. and, yes, relationships end. love lasts forever.
This video might be the best general advice I’ve heard in my life, am 39 with a lot of experience
Don't get too carried away. The gambling analogy is ok but not that great. You get a lot of fun memories and lot of reliable s3x and a couple of children out of a marriage, even if it ends in divorce after 10-20 years. Gambling gives you just a lose/win of money. Gambling does not leave any lasting like memory of fun and critically important product like children.
@@rayrwyrI can't wait to see what's going to happen later. Hope your memories will makes you happy.
6:06 "Trust me, you don't have unlimited emotional resources. it's very difficult. If not functionally impossible to go all in emotionally more than a few times in your life." wow... You blew my mind.
So true.
I went all in on my first relationship and 10years later i say it was the most traumatic thing i experienced in my life. When my parents go , i don’t know if it will destroy me as much as
Nothing prepares you for losing a parent or child. The worst pains
@@KnightyKnightDepends on the parents.
@@KnightyKnight Ive had computers break that upset me more than the news of my father's death 😂
@@airthrowDBT That's true
That’s also the first rule of investing and one of the most true statements to ever be made
The house always wins... Then she took the house
when you're learning how to gamble it helps to keep monks in mind. this lets you think "oh, right. there are men that are perfectly happy not playing games with women."
YEA BUT I have been a MONK and we pray and meditate to GOD >>> CONSTANTLY
The trick is semen retention. Unblocks chakras. Fills the heart with happiness and love❤🔥
It's also important to keep the poorest people in mind. "oh right. There are people doing just fine with almost zero money". This let's you think "this line of reasoning is dumb as fuck".
@@Frodo1000000 i actually like your analogy, too. you tried to disparage my claim but you only ended up supporting it. contentedness is key to enjoying life.
I'm all set on feeling the feelings. I've gone all in to many times. Wish I heard this advice decades ago. I'll never go all in again
Pookie and ray ray are tireless 😊
😂
Damn! Orion's analogies are freakingly amazing! Never gonna forget this one!
There definitely is a way around: when you treat relationships not only as merely transactional but also creatively (two people growing together). Then the other party stops to be a roll of dice but rather your relationship becomes a shared project, say garden. You're still not 100% sure of the outcomes but you may influence them to a high extent. Also, you can continuously reassess what portion of yields (all coming ON TOP of what you had) is reinvested as seeds, what is consumed and what is divided. Consequently, the vetting is rather for the ability to share and grow rather than to fulfill the evolving needs, which indeed is foolish.
This is assuming both parties have the same mindset.
Women are almost never good faith actors so this ideal of yours fails before it starts
@philaman1972 And assumption makes this whole ordeal a chance. Hence, it's back to gambling debate.
Once she sees that your growth possibilities are maxed out, it’s time for her to cash out with the divorce to collect the money and prizes.
Women rarely act in good faith, so this is entirely naive and unrealistic drivel
The pain that you feel is the love that you withhold.
I can vouch for the truth in the emotional loss. I needed this advice as a kid. I already knew this, the hard way.
Speaking of my experience after forty years of marriage- true knowledge of your spouse is impossible, and you can end up, in her affections, rather far down the queue, after family and even best friends. Marriage has its limits.
You are just the mule pulling her gynocentric wagon down the road to a dead end.
Truth. Preach.
I know, right? Personally, I probably should have taken the hint when my wife put a picture of our cat on her keychain tab. 😅
If the husband is not her #1, that means the wife sees him as a provider of services such as utility (like electric company) and ATM.
One of the biggest reasons I ended my second marriage was she was a teacher. So her family, old friends, and a million kids came before me in our marriage, and I was living as if she was my #1. Nope.
All men and women in every state should be required to pass a test in order to receive a “marriage” license BEFORE they can legally marry. That test should include the financial repercussions of divorce(alimony/child support), exactly how it is calculated, and how the law treats child custody. AT THE MINIMUM.
This is a GREAT idea!
I love this idea. Adding they should know things like what the other expect in regards to chores and stuff like that. And then a quiz to see if you are your partner are on the same page. None of the shotgun wedding bullshit.
Yeah, I was blessed with that understanding about "Protecting your heart" in my teen years!
I had a girlfriend and abviously i went AAALLLL IN, emotionally!!! And then, abviously, she left... and my heart was broken!
I noticed, that I gave her some little peace of my heart that I CAN'T GET BACK!!! Time doesn't heal shit...
If before that girl i had 100% of my heart belonging to me, now I only have like 98%... and that 2% never coming back.
If you have like 3 or 4 long term partners and you gave each of them a peace of your heart - you'll be devestated, heartless and bitter by the end of the day! o_O
U simp
I get that, I have felt that, and I agree, time may not heal yiur heart... but you can heal your heart. It's all about bringing yourself the love you were trying to get from others. As an adult you can be the father to your inner child you never had, you can care for yourself in ways that no one ever can or will. Then, you will have your heart back to 100%. It's possible!
@GreatRetro U simp
@@patrickjreid Unfortunately, no. You are born with one head, two hands, one body and 2 lages. Yes, you can inrich your body, you can make it muscular and agile, or you can make it fat. but. If you loose your hand, it doesn't matter how enriched your body is - you still can't have your hand back. So, with Heart it's the same I feel. I can make tre remaining 98% more alive, so to say, but I'm not getting those 2% back...
R-e-d pill healed my heart after my ex divorced me after 27 years. I became rp-ed as f*ck. Now I go into relationship with 10% heart and I take whatever happens stoically.
This is why, even though it hurts being lonely at times, I’ve refused every opportunity for even a casual relationship that’s come my way. After looking everything over I can never seem to justify the potential rewards over the extremely high risk, especially with the way the world is today.
Male here. I love love, kindness, acts of service, sex, etc and I believe that relationships can achieve a level beyond this mortal coil and weather storms of great magnitude but unfortunately, this “gambling” parable in regards to relationships is very accurate and it’s very sad that the level of difficulty to get to that type of relationship goes up and up and up with all the influences around that constantly degrade relationships that otherwise could be wholesome and unbreakable.
Really appreciate this gambling analogy as it is spot on. Unfortunately, for most good men, the standard of keeping a commitment found in the pledge of " for better or worse" is the trap that takes men into living lives of disturbing desperation. It binds us to our word, our bond, even though coals of fire are heaped upon us. We're it not for the pain, we would feel nothing. Therein lies the trap. If we undo the bond, we move to a new level of pain that eventually drains any aspect of what we once possessed.
Marriage is rubbish for a man.
Oh, that is a good point! Men don't leave. Hell, I bet a lot, if not most men who cheat, don't even leave the relationship emotionally, they probably just get what they are missing and stay faithful in every other way (I have no idea if that is true or not, just speculation).
@@patrickjreid -- that is true. A man's cheating is very different from woman's cheating. When a woman cheats, she has emotionally and commitment-wise completely checked out. But when a man cheats (unless it is an emotional affair), he just got a release that means nothing to him. He still can be loyal and take a bullet for his wife.
The other rule of gambling is "pick the bets where the odds are in your favour but appear to be the other way around" - i.e. a "sucker bet".
How can we as men apply the same principles and pick a “bet” / woman where the odds are in our favor?
What are the internal / external qualities and circumstances to look for?
Let’s start to formulate this for the betterment of the male collective.. I’ll go first (see below)
External: prenup and/or not getting the state involved ideally in a formal marriage
Internal qualities/characteristics: kindness, receptivity, submissiveness, loyalty, duty, responsibility/accountability, compassion, patience. Non-promiscuous, non-easily bored. Not needing to be constantly entertained and validated by others and social media chasing attention and likes.
There’s gotta be more than this though
Anyone care to build on this for the betterment of the male collective?
@@kevinkurgansky4479for external have your assets under someone else's name. Like your mom for example. The problem with internal is that these traits can be faked. Often after marriage and/or pregnancy a woman can reveal their true self and trap a man.
@@kevinkurgansky4479An even disposition. Strong reactions to emotions may be charming at first, but points to the child woman you don’t want.
@@kevinkurgansky4479What people don't talk about enough is that prenup might not work, and there's other even better ways for maximal asset protection like anonymous trusts. They can't take assets you don't own and they can't find.
This way you can seemingly bet a large fortune but in reality there's nothing for the thief to get.
Better to pick a longshot horse than a longshot husband. - also a good rule in gambling.
Banger. Dealing with women is EXACTLY like gambling
The thing about 'Going All In', yes it took me more than 7 years to get back on my feet from that, the damage is just too damn much, now i am strong Enough to go all in again, the low was so low, but it makes me cherish the highs more, and i ask myself "isn't this what makes life beautiful, like michael scott says I'm ready to get hurt again? ", but i don't think it is worth it if it effect everything i do and everything that is around me.
The biggest risk in a long-term relationship is the other person changing in a way you don't like. My experience is the clues are there early, even while you're dating. But the volume is turned down so low you can barely perceive them.
Never commit to a creature that can legally destroy you on a whim.
Every word spoken here is pure GOLD, a BIG thank you to Dr Orion for your service to Mankind
“There’s only so many times you can go all in”
I needed to hear that, as I walk shoulders high out of a 2nd divorce. The poet in me may not have any more lines to ink on the paper of life.
Keep the “kitty” separate. Truest pun ever.
I tend to be "all or nothing" in most of the things I do.
I've been heartbroken a couple of times. Tend to hold back more these days. Especially in a world where women have all the options.
The more attracted you are, the more your perception becomes distorted.
Very true - for women and life in general.
And all you have to lose is absolutely everything material, spiritual, emotional and psychological.
High risk high reward
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No. Just no
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They also try to destroy you morally and drag you to their depths in the pits of hell.
Where the devil can't reach personally, he'll send a w"man.
@@edheldude very true. Women are to be avoided, but my inclination is to strike hard and make women an asset to man. One way or the other
Start early with diversified investments in stocks, bonds, and real estate. Maximize contributions to tax-advantaged accounts like 401(k)s and IRAs. Regularly review and adjust your strategy to ensure security.
People dont understand that the prices of things are never going back down. This inflation is deeper than we think. Those buying groceries are well aware that the real inflation is much over 10%. The increments dont match our income, yet certain investors still earn over $365,000 in stocks and assets. Wish I could accomplish that.
Very possible! especially at this moment. Profits can be made in many different ways, but such intricate transactions should only be handled by seasoned market professionals.
Some persons think inves'tin is all about buying stocks; I think going into the stock market without a good experience is a big risk, that's why I'm lucky to have seen someone like mr Brian C Nelson.
Finding yourself a good broker is as same as finding a good wife, which you go less stress, you get just enough with so much little effort at things
Brian demonstrates an excellent understanding of market trends, making well informed decisions that leads to consistent profit
the moment he introduced his explanation, to treat dating like gambling, the thoughts is: like a vice? to be avoided to remain virtuous?
Avoidance of vices is not enough to be virtuous but it's a good start. May you find a virtuous w"man.
This is an amazing perspective on that. I've always "felt the 12 months" rule in my gut just because you have to go through all the holidays/family dynamics to be sure, but you really lay it out in excellent logical fashion here. 100% agree with the cautionary approach. Also it struck me on the "one can only go all in emotionally a few times" in their life - that hit home, because I'm really on the fence on going all in ever again because that's about where I'm at but - maybe that's a GOOD thing this time.
Only one rule that matters.
DONT GAMBLE.
Exactly. Please do not marry ever.
Having a child is a gamble, so don't have children and become extinct?
Running a business is a gamble, so never open anything and rely on the state?
As usual doc is on point....
I'm one of those "all in" kind of guys. It is about chasing an emotional high, he's absolutely right. You want to feel "whole" or "complete". Would probably explain my string of toxic relationships
Damn this was good. You gotta know when to hold em… yall know the lyrics. I appreciated this throughly. Thank you
You'd be right about emotion. I never thought of it like that. Kudos
The first rule of gambling: do not gamble.
Investing is gamble
What an awesome video. So much wisdom packed into 10 minutes. So true to guard your heart as a man. One of Orions other videos on how players are born shows what happens when you don’t guard your emotions as a man.
Vetting is extremely important but in the end it is the roll of the dice. My wife and I just celebrated our 25 year anniversary and looking back of course there are moments when either one of us could have called it quits. Fortunately we continued to grow together and that was because of our committment. Vet her family. Make sure you like them and they like you. Extremely important. Maybe early on or if you have a conflict with her family it can validate you if she picks you over her family but long term that is a disaster. One of the things that will help keep the 2 of you together is if you and her both think again about quitting the relationship because of how much their family will be disappointed to lose you, etc. The family and community rooting for and protecting your relationship is key long term.
You got to know when to hold 'em, know when to fold 'em. Know when to walk away, and know when to run.
Probably the best video you have made. Thankyou.
Great advice, especially the emotional component!
"You've got to know when to hold 'em
Know when to fold 'em
Know when to walk away
And know when to run"
The Gambler
Song by Kenny Rogers
So much knowledge dropped in this video. I think just me reframing dating as a hiring process alone has completely changed my perspective on dating. That fact will help me stay in my authenticity and really figure out if they're meeting my needs before giving them too much. Thanks, Dr. Orion.
I don’t think only dating women is a gamble… I think any and every romantic relationship is a gamble for both sides!!!!
Which is why the patriarchy had been set up long ago to protect women from that risk, to some extent, but women insisted on dismantling that...
To be clear, the patriarchy does not mean men are in charge of society, it means fathers are in charge... That is what the root word "patri" stands for...
Who else would have a better vested interest in choosing the "best man" for the women of a society than fathers, given that an honorable one would have most likely had to take on the responsibility of raising children produced by a man chosen poorly by or for his daughter...
It was this way that societies of old reduced the risk of their societies "degenerating" into what our modern world is becoming...
There are many things protecting women from that risk and there's not one damn thing protecting men.
I CANNOT WAIT TO READ YOUR BOOK
Another masterpiece from Orion. Thumbs up
In my experience, the second a woman detects anything other than stoicism, they bolt. They like the challenge of getting an emotional rise. Once achieved, the game (the job?) is no longer interesting.
Also failing to achieve will make them bolt. Stoic or not, they will do whatever they want.
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Typo in the thumbnail. Great episode as always!
Wisdom. Attend.
Thank you. Always great looking forward your book.
With a few minor edits, I think Kenny Rogers had it nailed....
You don’t know anything about women until you have been cheated on AND you’ve been the other guy.
Why don't I hire Orion? Because when I hang up the phone I'm still going to be me
I've given both of my exes everything and I'm glad I did. I was able to take care of the women I love and help them... and that's a good thing.
the best advice anywhere.....the gamble analogue is spot on....
I believe marriage is more akin to investing than gambling. While gambling is a zero-sum game, investing our resources wisely creates compounding value for all stakeholders. A poor investment with questionable people can lead to disaster. Similarly, investing well in your marriage and family creates lasting value that can be passed down through generations. Choose your investments wisely.
Exactly…. Married men have more resources than single men. Building together with the right person can yield wealth and emotional security.
Marriage rate: 6/1000 nice try
Investments is gambling.
Would still be the same lesson, if you're an investor you can't lose the money you invest
Having breakfast while listening to this episode ✨☕👌
This is also same when my daughter told me about investment. She said mama invest in what you can afford to loose 😊. The most courageous thought of a young woman who just starting in digital games that was year 2021 .
Great talk, one of the best I've heard!
I’m coming to the realization that even though it’s a gamble and, yes I’m going to pay dearly, I’ve still got two children out of the deal which are priceless. You could argue they will turn out to be this way and that, but I’ll tell you they’ll be better off with me when they discover who their mother really is -when they’re old enough to see the evidence.
If the mother has indoctrinated them from an early age they will most likely always see only her side. Thats why the government wants kids in the public schools as early and as long as possible.
Amen to that. I am in a similar boat but with only one child.
@@filsed Patience endures brother 🙏
As a woman… a man is a gamble too…. Who is he really? How do you know he is not a jerk…. A long term relationship is a gamble or a leap of faith…. I was recently married…. But before marriage…. I told him point blank…. I if he turned into an asshole, I’d be done. Just treat me well…. Support me emotionally…. And work. I am the more financially secure in this relationship… and I insisted on a prenup to protect both of us…. So far we are great! And initially he was the adorer…. But I believe I am now his adorer…. It changed…. And leaves me a bit more vulnerable…. But so far he is worth it.
That's good. Man should never be adorers otherwise women will never respect them. And women can't feel attracted to men they don't respect 👆
Don't be too quick to lay your hands down and reveal what you have.
Always be wise and hold that ace of spades.
When I was younger, I remember this friend of mine told me the way to get a man to do anything for you is to flatter him. Work on his ego, she said.
She says the more you butter him up, the more you tell him he's so great ,he'll do anything for you, and she says even if you have to lie.
I was shocked. I said to her, "How dishonest is that!!
But she didn't seem to care.
I just couldn't do that because it wasn't my personality.
My aunt always told me to marry a rich man , not worry about love. I thought that was crazy and so she married a rich man and she had the worst marriage ever. They constantly fought every single day, but yet he made tons of money working for the government.
Very good and true analogy! I have not heard it described like this before.
I agree with 12 mo. rule for both parties.
She can probably fake it for 12 months to get the right simp.
@@marktapley7571 Yeah - 12 months is nowhere near enough time. Also - 12 months to find out "what", exactly? What are you "vetting" for? For what? You already know that she wants your money and will leave you as soon as you don't do what she wants and will probably cheat on you. So what are you "vetting" for? Just to assess whether or not you are willing to go through all that, with the specific woman in front of you? Just to assess that it will "probably" be 5 years before she does all that - instead of 3 years? Or 12 years? Define what you are "vetting" for. Unfortunately no woman I've ever been with has been different - they all ended up the same - and started to fight with me over the same issues: getting bored, not getting enough attention or not getting enough money from me. It never seems to change.
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Oh really?
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In one vide he said 6 months. I guess 12 is more good.
There is a saying "Love lives for 3 years" so making some kind of proposals before that time is just stupid!!! Duringthese 3 years time she will show you everything you need to know to make a smart decision!
Wow, this seems to address some question(s) from an earlier video. Much appreciated, and well timed sir.
Excellent video as always! Thanks!