6 Signs You're Emotionally Mature

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    Emotional maturity is something most have to learn because chances are you were raised and primarily influenced by those who weren't. Becoming more emotionally mature can be challenging at first because it goes against many of our learned patterns of reactions and behaviours, but once we become more aware of how those automatic reactions are not serving us or our relationships we can learn to make changes that help us feel, live and interact better.
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  • @TakeBackYourMind997
    @TakeBackYourMind997 Рік тому +27

    Being able to step back and mindfully observe your emotions and their sources instead of just being reactive to them is a great sign of emotional maturity.

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  • @antonboludo8886
    @antonboludo8886 Рік тому +28

    Emotional maturity is a lifelong learning process. You can regress as well.
    Some older people I have met are still very infantile. They are not older and wiser, they are just old.
    The thoughts of any given individual are that person's own business.

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  • @melissasue3328
    @melissasue3328 Рік тому +12

    Watching this made me realize how far I've come. Still growing and improving but my emotional maturity has definitely improved in the last few years

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  • @jaylaw.7660
    @jaylaw.7660 Рік тому +3

    1 thing: being clear about what I want.

  • @chrisdigitalartist
    @chrisdigitalartist Рік тому +10

    Hi Julia! Senior Shifter Chris here!
    I was not expecting a video dropped today. =)
    Thank for these tips! I want to continue to work on my healthy self-talk and self-compassion helps that.
    My Notes:
    • Your level of emotional maturity only has to do with the skills you were taught (usually a younger age) and nothing to do with your worth and value.
    • Learning these skills make you feel better.
    6 Signs:
    1. To start getting curious.
    2. To get okay with not being right.
    3. To learn how to breath.
    4. Try to understand multiple realities.
    5. To develop your healthy self-talk.
    6. Learning how to ask for what you want or what you need in a clean, clear and classy way.

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  • @lttlod1
    @lttlod1 Рік тому +5

    I have a newly built house. My 25 year old cousin and his sister came to visit me over the holidays. They were here for aproximately 48 hrs and the 25 year old complained about how he didn't like my fireplace, design of my refrigerator water/ice dispenser and the dinner we went out for the night they came in. He ate every last bite but it was "meh." He then had no patience when I was making them lunch that I bought. Also made them breakfast and dinner the night before which I purchased. He constantly interrupted me while talking. They are loud talkers too and I had to take Advil twice. I was proud of myself for keeping my cool but will have no problem telling my cousin the next time we talk that he was rude and needs to work on his social skills. It's one thing to have a different opinion about my stuff, and then there's just being kind of a prick.
    They won't be getting an invite back because boundaries : )

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  • @jamesmurphy3219
    @jamesmurphy3219 Рік тому +5

    Great talk! The biggest takeaway is emotional maturity isn't something that you're born with. It's something you have to learn. And how you'll grow as a person, the more emotionally mature you become.

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  • @ssphtnetzero
    @ssphtnetzero Рік тому +1

    Learning to ask for what I need in a clear, assertive, confident, non-passive aggressive way

  • @Cowface
    @Cowface Рік тому +3

    Being emotionally mature does make you a better person, and a more valuable person too, IMO. They key is, if you find that you’re immature, work on maturing and don’t give in to toxic shame. You can improve!

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  • @theresajeffries3262
    @theresajeffries3262 Рік тому +1

    12:24 The other person can definitely have their thoughts that are different from yours but they do not have the right to speak disrespectfully to you about something you obviously love so much

  • @audreygrace6464
    @audreygrace6464 Рік тому +3

    Also, chronic toxic stress causes people to loose their ability to manage emotions
    As our society continues to unravel we will see more people becoming more emotionally unstable

    • @gloriavis
      @gloriavis Рік тому

      Yes

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  • @TR-nh7xf
    @TR-nh7xf Рік тому +6

    This stems from arrested development i.e., the body grows up, but the mind doesn't and poor parental guidance

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  • @favianalopez12
    @favianalopez12 Місяць тому

    I love your videos Julia, they have been extremely helpful to me, this in particular reminded me a lot about Daniel Goleman's Emotional Intelligence book. I think your give a really well summary of some of the ideas he shares about how to manage interpersonal relationships. I'm currently working on my emotional intelligence and the video was really useful, it's like hearing things I've heard before in a more digested and straightforward way, I'll start to apply this in my life, thank you!

  • @emily-rivendell
    @emily-rivendell Рік тому +5

    Hi Julia! Your videos have helped me recognize and put a stop to my self-defeating, anxiety-producing thought patterns. THANK YOU for all you do!

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  • @mgeo1234
    @mgeo1234 Рік тому

    I need this so much. Thank you!!

  • @ahall8958
    @ahall8958 Рік тому

    Just watched a couple of these and I’m loving it! Thank you! 😊

  • @vanshikajain1280
    @vanshikajain1280 Рік тому

    Thank you so much for this video. Really helped me.

  • @kristendowning1696
    @kristendowning1696 10 місяців тому

    Thank you. I had never thought of or understood these concepts. I am hopeful now.

  • @innerauthority
    @innerauthority Рік тому

    Fantastic content 🎉

  • @looking4rubi
    @looking4rubi 10 місяців тому

    Thank you. Thank you. Thank you! I so needed this and the previous video right now. I am very grateful for all of your wonderful videos that are full of heart and straightforward insights…in a kind way! Keep it up my dear. ✌🏼💓🙏🏼

  • @eduardomusic8560
    @eduardomusic8560 Рік тому

    Hello everybody, good morning 🌅! Great speech and topic that Julia Kristina addressed. I think this is her best video in this year 2023. Great passion and intensity to express her ideas. I like her so much 💕 🤗 🙏. Happy Monday and start of the week!!

  • @anonymousanonymous9797
    @anonymousanonymous9797 Рік тому +4

    Sending love and support to all.xx

  • @jenifercabreraukulele
    @jenifercabreraukulele Рік тому

    I'm from Brazil! Thank you so much for your channel!!! Thank you! God bless you!!!!🇧🇷🙏

  • @jaylaw.7660
    @jaylaw.7660 Рік тому +2

    You’re so beautiful and sweet, Julia. I’m really so grateful to be able to have access to your content. I’m 22.
    Love,
    Jayla😩🥰👍💕👍🙂

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  • @kennethspencer1044
    @kennethspencer1044 Рік тому

    thank you

  • @laughingmadmen
    @laughingmadmen Рік тому

    Great talk Julia, I'm guilty in many of these things! I've made great strides over past 2 yrs following u. Thank u!

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  • @angelamossucco2190
    @angelamossucco2190 Рік тому

    Beautiful work❤

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  • @BevRNurse
    @BevRNurse Рік тому +1

    Thanks Julia! This was excellent and ties into the impostor syndrome feelings that a lot of people have.

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  • @yvonnestolk528
    @yvonnestolk528 Рік тому

    Hi Christina Thank you for sharing 😊very well explained and helpful for me and gives me strength to keep following my own path and believe in myself and respect others and take my own responsibility for my actions and responses all from my believe in unconditional love ❤Wish you all the best greetings and big 🤗 from the Netherlands 🇳🇱

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  • @valeriebaldwin3312
    @valeriebaldwin3312 8 місяців тому

    Brilliant

  • @taraelmegreen5527
    @taraelmegreen5527 Рік тому +1

    Thank u Julia! You're fantastic, have beautiful delivery and I appreciate your dedication to mankind....may God bless u! P.s. LOVE the hair! Happiness to u from Oklahoma!

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  • @queenbiera
    @queenbiera Рік тому

    Hi my name is Bre’Iera. I am here to learn how to be more emotionally mature.

  • @stevecatanio8532
    @stevecatanio8532 Рік тому

    This is me. Love the channel And life is tough but it can be better and you help. You're cool. 🔥.

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  • @thenebraskan6977
    @thenebraskan6977 Рік тому +1

    Hello Julia! Thanks so much for the awesome video. I started to use the one where you get curious about the other person. Realizing that we all have different upbringings, role models in our formative years, life experience and goals to name a few things. I liked your comment about the medal and cookie 🍪. I had an older brother who is now deceased. Who was four years older than me. He would use the phrase “ You want a medal ? “ whenever I would comment about about something I had accomplished or did. Make it a great day!!

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  • @hatice4935
    @hatice4935 Рік тому

    Julia 😊💛

  • @CharlieBass5
    @CharlieBass5 9 місяців тому

    No destination is CRAZY!!! I would really like to get there. My mind is so screwed up I'll never get fixed. Yes I know Psychology isn't concerned with the destination but the journey, something that has not end. No I haven't accepted this idea, to me it sucks, I can't tell if I'm making progress, if I'm doing this right, or shouldn't that matter?

  • @patriciaconlon7604
    @patriciaconlon7604 Рік тому

    Be good to yourself and be good to those around you. I enjoyed all the points you made. From my last comment you can tell I got very triggered by your family members comment. I guess I have to work on why I got so triggered.

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  • @aaronrs2002
    @aaronrs2002 Рік тому +2

    If somebody decided to go out of their way to insult my home purchase, that would be the last time I dealt with them. These kind of comments are not a "one off." That was strategic.
    I would love to snap back by saying, "If I valued your opinion, I would be upset about your rude comment."
    However, this would just widen the problem. A good clean cut off is needed here.

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  • @lesliengo8347
    @lesliengo8347 Рік тому +1

    Mines would be to notice what thoughts and feelings are coming up instead of letting it control me.

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  • @CharlieBass5
    @CharlieBass5 9 місяців тому

    I tried to KILL off my emotions when Star Trek came out, Mr. Spock was my HERO!!! At 17 I was willing to go to Vietnam to either be killed or cured of emotions. I hated being fearful, inferior, and inadequate. I didn't go and it pissed me off, I was stuck being the person I was.

  • @ssphtnetzero
    @ssphtnetzero Рік тому

    Also, I’m interested in the live room program. I can’t member the key word that you used.

  • @stevecatanio8532
    @stevecatanio8532 Рік тому

    I get it.

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  • @raymondmedina3244
    @raymondmedina3244 Рік тому +5

    It's crazy because as a grown man i think I'm a child trapped in a man's body

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  • @TP-jt2cm
    @TP-jt2cm Рік тому

    Defensiveness and reactiveness are strongly related with your sense of self worth. If you feel good you see the world from a different perspective than when you have very low self esteem. In the latter case you quickly feel attacked by tactless comments. It takes a few years to build self worth, gain self consciousness and consequently emotional maturity. Yet there are people with naturally more explosive temperaments and short fuses that simply boil with less water and have a more difficult time learning that.

  • @cherylanderson9126
    @cherylanderson9126 Рік тому +2

    Like your hairstyle.

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  • @tommykaira8775
    @tommykaira8775 Рік тому +1

    The first reaction in my brain about being offended for the comment of your new place: you must be fun at parties 😂
    Jokes aside it’s natural for us to be offended. It takes effort to take a step back and mentally assess and evaluate the situation, and it always come at the worst time where you never expect it, usually when you’re tired physically or emotionally or mentally which causes you to snap.
    Excuses or reasons aside, it’s still an issue hence the more awareness and to prepare for the most unexpected is utmost required

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  • @dominickfiorenza1203
    @dominickfiorenza1203 Рік тому +1

    Julia, how can I manage being around a person that is emotionally immature and needs help to not get stressed out?

  • @TwoJointsOneFilm
    @TwoJointsOneFilm Рік тому +2

    We (husband and I) not take things personal and not speak badly of ourselves to ourselves and catch it for each other when we notice it ❤❤❤❤

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  • @josesantos-yb7qi
    @josesantos-yb7qi Рік тому

    You shoulda seen us with tasers

  • @fairygurl9269
    @fairygurl9269 Рік тому

    🤗

  • @poetensalvador5849
    @poetensalvador5849 Рік тому

    I would like in make my selftalk better. The problem ist hat I'm totally in my feelings, I feel my thoughts and my will, so II can"t tell what I am saying to myself. Could intuition be the solution?

    • @sunbeam9222
      @sunbeam9222 Рік тому

      Emotions come and go ( take 90 seconds to show up and disappear) let them be. Feel the sensation but don't think it . Productive thinking comes from a place of peace and calmness. I personally don't give any power to my thoughts when they come with high emotions. I wait to return to feeling peace before I engage in thought process.

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  • @artemisaalmaguer992
    @artemisaalmaguer992 Рік тому

    I struggle with not being reactive when under stress. Is there any tools That may help?

    • @artemisaalmaguer992
      @artemisaalmaguer992 Рік тому

      Breathing. Walking away. Are good tools. I am aware of both theses tools to practice not being reactive. I am still struggling in stressful moments.

  • @chrishorbatt3504
    @chrishorbatt3504 Рік тому

    The person that said that about your place was outright rude. Probable jealous of what you have!

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  • @spicole2937
    @spicole2937 Рік тому

    Exactly and not use lqw to make u see it that way either huh i qgree

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  • @ag49521
    @ag49521 Рік тому +3

    I had something similar happen to me. My brother came from out of state to stay with me over Christmas break. I made on and off comments about how much more his house cost than mine, is in a better neighborhood, and in general trying to prove something to me. I just kept my mouth shut and just thought to myself, what is this guy doing...

    • @ianmcnally8501
      @ianmcnally8501 Рік тому

      @ ag49521 did you mean he was commenting on his home being better? Is it sibling rivalry?

    • @ag49521
      @ag49521 Рік тому +1

      @@ianmcnally8501 Yea, typo. *He* made comments. I don't have rivalry on my part, but he subtly has issues with that, which at times I'm able to pick up.

    • @ianmcnally8501
      @ianmcnally8501 Рік тому

      I have similar experience with my sister. She always has to be on top, I think insecure 🤔

  • @CharlieBass5
    @CharlieBass5 9 місяців тому

    I don't understand the idea of being there for me.

  • @yvonnestolk528
    @yvonnestolk528 Рік тому

    Ps sorry I spelt your name wrong omg of course I meant Julia Christina 😅 nice practice already for me 😉❤

  • @stevecatanio8532
    @stevecatanio8532 Рік тому +1

    I would have kicked everyone out. Lol

  • @patriciaconlon7604
    @patriciaconlon7604 Рік тому

    My feeling is the comment your family member made was rude and disrespectful. So sure it doesn't change your opinion of you lovely home. You do deserve respect. We are accepting people's disrespect now a days. It will encourages negative behavior. That person didn't have to give you glowing acolated they could have just focused on your visit and saying they enjoyed being with you.

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    @ebbenielsen7 Рік тому

    Nice with your "new" hair. Now you are not tossing that much with your head. And that is nice.

  • @michelledirelle
    @michelledirelle Рік тому +1

    But still the comment of the family member was crap.. and of course: it's always about ourselves but still everybody has the right being mad if a loser is telling an option if it was not asked at all... (if it was out of the blue and nobody really asked at all..)

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