What a great step!!! This is an improvement over doing nothing. I taught my kids myself but fully realize that not everyone can. We concentrate so much on what’s right for little kids but not much on the critical teen “launch” period. That transition time took more out of me than toddlerhood hands down. Doing it for the last time with my 5th who is 15. Already planning for helping with my 1 year old granddaughter!
My school had a dating violence mandatory program - Sophomore year, I think? They had all genders in one room, and it was really jarring some of the reactions. Unsurprisingly, a lot of the fem demographic were pretty quiet and most of the mascs were joking/distracting. Note: the course was hetero relationships exclusive, showed manipulation/emotional abuse from both a girl & boy abuser, violence and sexual violence from a boy abuser. I can’t remember if they showed a girl physically hurting her boyfriend, but def not any sexual violence perpetrated by a girl.
@@racheljackson4428what a disgusting thing to say. Get TF off these videos if you’re just going to be a dick to families who have had their loved ones violently ripped from their lives.
“She will never be called mom or mommy again” broke me. Lauren’s parents are absolutely amazing for advocating towards prevention and helping others. Lauren’s memory will live on. What a selfish disgusting human being he is for taking that beautiful girl full of potential and a whole life ahead of her away from the world. Hugging my child extra tight.
As a mom to one child, hearing Lauren’s mom say she will never be called mom or mommy again BROKE ME. I will 1000% be educating my daughter and whoever she dates on this topic. I was never taught this and it never even crossed my mind. Even coming from a physically violent relationship at a young age, it never crossed my mind how important this is. Thank you for sharing her story.
His mom asking Lauren to talk to him is so wildly in appropriate. No matter what's happening to your child, it's not another kids responsibility to help them.
I agree. My son is now 21 years old. I can’t even imagine doing such. Dealing will breakups , bad news etc is part of life. I’ve done my best to prepare my son for these times.
That’s true, I wholeheartedly agree, but we don’t know if maybe she was close to his Mother (the fact that his Mother went o visit her to request that, shows how Lauren was compassionate and caring, his Mom understood that and grasped at anything she could do to not see her son is pain. I think it came from a parent’s desperate plea to attempt to “fix” the situation to make her son feel better. He prob moped around besides the drinking and smoking. Lauren had a big enough heart to go over to his house. My son visited his ex gf in the hospital after a car accident and I could tell she was trying to manipulate him into getting back together but luckily he stayed strong and didn’t go backwards. Now he’s a detective & swat crisis negotiator for situations like this where ppl are desperate and attempt to kill themselves or others. This was Nathan’s choice and poor Lauren became a casualty of his inability to cope. Awful. Absolutely awful.
@@stephaniepapaleo9001 It doesn't matter if Lauren was close to his mother. The fact that the mom had to take Nathan to a PSYCHIATRIST over this breakup is all the more reason to never ask a teenage girl to go talk to her son.
@amanda6566 .... When I was a teen, there was a song that said one line I always kept in my mind, when my heart was broken in half by my First Love, right before our Senior Prom. It said "Got along without you before I met you, gonna get along without you now". Though my heart was so broken, I DID get along. But the one song that truly kept me sane & strong, was the song "Only The Strong Survive" by Jerry Butler. That song saw me through the untimely deaths, all immediate family members, each four months apart, within one year. I have played the words in my head EVER since.
THANK YOU!! I really need this rn - not for me, my friend just gone through a breakup and had been suicidal, uttering "I don't think I can live wihout him". I hope I can use this to comfort her and bring her back to her sense.
"Approximately 75% of women who are killed by their batterers are murdered when they attempt to leave or after they have left an abusive relationship." With numbers like that it's ASTONISHING that all schools are not educating our youth on this subject.
Depends on what school you go to. We had to take a psychology class. I had a higher fear of abuse relationship because of a personality test I took. With my high level of people pleasing and low of the things that was said from it that I was more likely to be in an abusive relationship and stay. Remember learning about at least a few red flags in that class.
Parents need to be better at teaching their sons to accept rejection. It's been disturbing over the years seeing a lot of cases of young men murdering someone because they were told no
There’s also a lot of cases, though in which women have killed ex-boyfriend for the same reason I feel like it’s just a common motive for murder in general
@@TJ-1234 definitely teaching my sons but this happened to my cousin. He broke up with a girl who (turns out has a history of going nuts on exes) who thought they were going to get married right out of high school and even manipulated her dad into running my cousin off the dang road. Luckily he's alive but just a perspective.
This happened to my high school friend. Shortly after graduation, she broke up with her boyfriend. She went missing. Her mother was reaching out to everyone trying to find her. Eventually, someone sent her a news link. The police found a body with her tattoo and she needed to be identified. He killed her, put her in the trunk of her own car for days using her cards and spending her money before dumping her like she was nothing. Her name is Laura Hunt. Plant City, Florida.
I’m a teacher in Ma. and have not heard of this case. I’m definitely going to reach out to her parents/foundation and bring this program to my daughter’s high school !
i’m a student in boston. thank you. throughout my years in school the toxicity i see and have experienced from middle school and high school relationships is scary. there needs to be time in school taken to discuss relationships and how to go about them healthily. even friendships. i’ve experienced extremely almost insane toxic friendships throughout my school years, specifically in middle school. with social media romanticizing behaviors in relationships and friendships that are unhealthy for both parties and extremely harmful,toxic, and dangerous and some children having no guide at home on how to communicate with your friends or partner in a healthy manner children don’t know how to go about the relationships in their lives and as they get older worse situations can occur because of this. so i really appreciate and commend you for helping your students by bringing the program to your school. it really will make such a difference in their lives if they know how to communicate and be in touch with their emotions and knowing how to cope with their negative
I brought my roommate with me to break up with an ex in college. He tried to make me feel bad about it but I felt more comfortable with her there. It’s stories like this that make me glad I did
My cousin was one of her close friends and was waiting for her to come and hang out on the night she was killed. It’s still a hard day for their group of friends. She ended up becoming a lawyer in Boston because of what happened to Lauren
The fact that Lauren's parents are thinking about his parents & other victims during the worst chapter of their lives is so inspiring. Thanks for speaking on domestic & breakup violence.
Sometimes people complain about girls/women being too guarded and standoffish when it comes to men and dating but this is why. When womens biggest threat is their own partner, we HAVE to be guarded. And even then, once you trust someone, you never know. Those who don't understand will probably understand once they have teenage daughters.
Tbf most people's biggest threat is their partner, statistically. Regardless of gender, if you're murdered, it's likely to be by your partner or family.
And maybe the harm of THAT rhetoric will be understood when they have teenage sons. Hearing they’re dangerous and aren’t to be trusted SURELY doesn’t affect THEIR state of mind.
@@GenXfrom75 I don’t think boys are necessarily told that they are dangerous and not to be trusted. Clearly they aren’t inherently bad. Women being cautious about men isn’t an attack on all men, it’s to try to protect themselves. What’s the solution in your opinion? Ignoring the dangers of dating and domestic violence?
My HS age daughter came in while I was watching and said that they just went over breakup violence in her Teen Issues class a few days ago. In listening a little longer it turns out they watched a video of Lauren's parents speaking. ❤
The amount of empathy in her father…the fact that his programme not only educates potential victims about warning signs, but it also provides support to would-be perpetrators and attempts to show them compassion, so they don’t turn disillusioned and go on to commit violence. It’s truly inspiring and I’m not sure I could be as gracious as he’s been
I too was so impressed with this dad. He truly sees this as a huge problem for women/girls, but he talks with compassion towards all these emotionally unequiped kids. He is so much more focused on providing solutions to the problem than fuming at people. It really is so impressive and humbling to see that!
I was 18, he was 28. I tried to break up. I was stabbed. 25-life for murder. He was sentenced to 21. It's so scary. I walked away with my life and bald spots, scars, trauma, no skin on my back, black eyes, broken bones. It's no joke
I watched this case years ago. Although I don’t remember everything, I remember Lauren’s compassion, which she probably got from her dad. The absolute grace of that man to console the parents of his daughter’s killer and to view it as them losing their child too. I have no words.
While the Fujita family got the better deal (their son is alive, at least they can visit him in prison), Lauren's father was acknowledging both young lives were ruined. I can't help but admire him.
My first break up in high school was literally a period of grief for me. I couldn’t talk to anyone about it without crying. Looking back I don’t know why I was so affected by it but it affects people differently and we aren’t prepared for it as teenagers. Kudos to her parents for seeing this gap in our society
Sameee. Failed a whole semester and had to take after school classes to graduate. I talk to my teenagers about that experience so if it happens to them, they'll handle it better than I did. It wasn't the end of the world but it sure felt like it then
Idk I smoke weed everyday. I have definitely been high and “wanted to hurt someone” but that’s isn’t because I’m high. It’s because I was already upset or angry. It’s definitely a cop out. But people can smoke weed and be violent if they are a violent person. Weed isn’t the evil for sure 😊
@@oliviasimone9872 period. I agree with this completely. That was really my point. The anger is within you, not the weed. But to me if you smoke weed and it doesn’t help you relax I don’t understand why you’re smoking it. A nice rolled joint on a stressful day makes me go “ fuck those problems” but it also helps I don’t want to hurt anyone as well. No one’s going to bring me out of character. Thank God.
It's like alcohol where it can release your inhibitions & make you reveal who you are on the inside, why people become violent or loving while drunk af, they're like that before, just hiding it behind a mask.
I’ve two sons and I tell them, “if someone dumps you, leave them alone!” and other things that are more in-depth but I really hope that sticks. Being in either parent’s position is the worst nightmare. Rest in peace Lauren. She looked like an incredible person and I’m sure the tragedy of losing her has helped her parents save other lives throughout the years. Thanks for the donation, generous Kendall 💜
That’s exactly what needs to be taught. It sucks but you will get over it and you never chase someone who doesn’t want you. That opens the door to abuse.
my ex recently tried to unalive me when i tried to leave. they stole my phone, broke my ipad in half, then proceeded to suffocate me. they told the police i attacked them with 0 evidence and i was arrested and charged for something i didn’t do. i reported the assault and the police did nothing. people like this are very very very scary.
Lauren’s father said in an interview that he feels the senior year of summer can be dangerous as couples can face break ups at that time. (Going off to college or university.) A very frightening thought & it is so sad that any relationship can end like this, but a high school one at that.
I just wished that teens had the capacity to see that the first 18 years of life, while extremely important, are just that...the FIRST 18 years. There is so much more out there if you can get through the lumps and bumps that everyone goes through. I personally cannot imagine being THAT devastated about a break up at that age but maybe that is become my brain is fully formed...what a sad situation.
I have 3 children. A son, and 2 daughters. My husband and I have always taught them that "no, means no;" no matter the circumstance. If "No" or " leave me be" is implied, spoken, or shown at all, then thats what you do. Rejection is a normal part of human life, adult life, and it how we handle it.
“Never be called Mom again.” That hurts me. My son is now 18 and is about to graduate. Like them, I only have one child. I could only ever have one. I can’t even fathom him being taken from this world and never hearing that word again. I can’t even imagine that pain.
It never ceases to amaze me when parents lose a child and go on to turn their pain and grief into something so important and helpful to society. That type of strength is one I hope I’ll never have to experience.
I vividly remember the fear and anguish I felt when I left my ab*sive ex boyfriend. I kept thinking he knew where I lived, where I studied, my friends homes. I spent months scared to come home at night. Women all over the world unfortunately experience this at least once in their lives and it makes me sick to my stomach. Rip baby girl, we are all thinking of you.
As much as I agree with your sentiment these sort of dramatic generalisations don’t help the cause. I don’t know any woman that has been in a situation as you describe. I know it happens and I myself had to weed out a few guys in my day but let’s not make this into a pity party and let’s teach instead girls about red flags and how to protect themselves if they end up with a bad boy.
That Nathan's Mom only valued Lauren as a path to alleviating her son's hurt feelings, is telling. And Nathan being royally pissed off & feeling epicly sorry for himself are not medical conditions.
@@MrAbdomanHow so? Bad things happen to everyone, enabled or otherwise, because life isn't fair and it's not about being good or bad. Being a good person is absolutely key, but it's not a shield against evil.
thank you for this. i went through domestic abuse/teen dating violence while I was in high school and its so taboo and stigmatized. if domestic violence in marriage is already taboo, its even more when you’re in high school because people think high school relationships are so shallow and unserious without any “real” reasons to keep a victim with their abuser. its more common than people think and should be more talked about especially in schools at least starting in middle school.
I was a pageant girl and I remember one year one of my fellow contestants used our competition to bring awareness to teen dating violence! It’s so important but as you said, not discussed enough! I hope you’re doing better now!
I went through the same thing at 14-15. At the time I thought no one else my age was going through something like that. Some of my friends would notice the bruises or see him acting weird towards me but we were KIDS so they probably had no idea what was really happening. I agree stuff like this should be taught in middle and high school. Educate people and hopefully it will happen less often in adulthood. I wouldnt wish what I went through on my worst enemy, no one deserves that. And I’m sorry you had to go through that! It truly has altered me forever.
I'm so sorry that happenend to you, I never been in this situation but I remember when I was 15 my best friend broke up with a guy and he started to follow her down the street and we (her friends) never left her alone because we were scared something would happen to her. I don't even think we ever thought about talking to adults because we were so young and nobody talked about this situations
thank you to everyone for all the sweet replies and anecdotes. It goes to show how common it actually is. I believe this topic is especially important because our teens/high school years are already such a transformative time and we are so impressionable at that age it can really make or break a person. In my experience I was diagnosed with chronic PTSD as a result and will probably have to live with it for the rest of my life. While others, like this poor girl, got it much worse and lost their life. I hope Kendall touches more on this topic and brings more awareness in future videos!
Very true. They forget how intense teen feelings are. They are written off as shallow or puppy-love but in the moment they are so very intense for them.
They should never be allowed to create a retroactive law to protect a grown person. You are legally an adult at 18, you know murder is illegal. My kids are 9&11 and know this
For real. Its true that you may have poorer decision making skills and impulse control aged under 25, but you know not to KILL someone. I guess the logic is the liklihood of reoffending is lower if your crime was committed before your brain fully developed, but also the penalty is meant to be a punishment. He was old enough to understand the consequences of his actions, and very deliberately did it anyway. I don't really feel that is deserving of a second chance.
I was a victim of breakup violence right after high school. My ex kidnapped me in my own car and told me he’d be taking me to a hiking trail and throwing me off a cliff where no one would find me. Luckily we ran out of gas and he left the keys in the ignition and I was able to get away. But this needs to be talked about more often. My condolences to her family ♥️
I was also the victim of break up violence. I had to run and lock myself in the bathroom to try to get away. I actually called his mom to get him and help. Her response was he's just in a bad mood. Let him calm down before I leave the bathroom. He nearly killed me multiple times, but somehow no one believed me when I was telling them I needed help.
So grateful you’re okay! I was driving a male friend home in HS and he made a “joke” about overpowering me and hijacking my car to kidnap me while on a back road. I laughed (panicking) and said “that’s freaking crazy.” he didn’t do anything, but he didn’t laugh either.. we stopped being friends soon after…
I firmly believe that if you take someone’s life on purpose for any reason outside of self defense you should be in prison for the rest of your life. I don’t care that he was 18 when he did. She was 18. Her mother is right if she doesn’t get to live her life anymore he shouldn’t get to either
My high school boyfriend when I was 17 was mentally and emotionally abusing me to the point that I had panic attacks and stomach ulcers from anxiety. I was being belittled and talked down to all the time and no one knew. This is very important to bring awareness.
We need to start talking about domestic abuse not just domestic violence. Domestic abuse is worse because it’s silent. People don’t know and they don’t believe you. The behaviors of the abuser is there but we have not educated society about it so others don’t see it. The abuser does everything to silence and isolate the victim and then blame them.
Never thought about how traumatizing a first break up is. So true. Educating everyone about how to handle the process would only be beneficial for everyone
This Breakup Violence happened more often. Just last year in November I attended the memorial service of a 19 yr college age girl who was murdered by her Ex on the night she agreed to meet him alone at night. Only difference is that her Ex had the help of his best friend to help kills and hide her body. Her body was found in a almond orchard
Since you’ve had your Daughter it’s changed how you report these cases. You’ve always been sincere & heartfelt but there’s an additional heart wrenching tone to your voice. Thank you for continuing to share the stories of these victims & their families.
This truly needs to be talked about WAY more! Thanks for this one Kendall! You havd such a big audience and this video is very needed for our young ladies to hear!
I hadn’t heard the term “breakup violence” before, but I agree it is so important to talk about. We often hear about how the most dangerous time in an abusive relationship is when you are leaving, but it looks like the same can be true even in non-abusive relationships.
As a woman that has been sa'd at 14 and r*ped at 19 I'm genuinely so heartbroken and tired of the constant violence we have to endure from men. I myself knew women who lost their lives by the hands of their bf/ spouse. I'm just so tired. Sometimes this makes me spiral into a deep depression, I feel like the violence it's only getting worse and I have very little hope for the future. I'm sending all my love and thoughts on this poor girl's family as well as the ones of every single woman who lost their lives because of a man.
i hope not a single person replies to you saying that women hurt men too. we know. everyone hurts everyone. women hurt women. women hurt men. men hurt men so on and so forth. but men hurt women at a staggering rate. even men are more at risk of being killed by another man. anyone who brings that up after a woman brings up the violence she’s experienced at the hands of men they feel the need to say that ignorant bs. you’re so beautiful strong 🫶
You don’t have to, though. Not if you’re in America, anyway. I was groomed by a grown man at 14, r@ped, as well as childhood @buse. As soon as I was of age, I learned defense and became knowledgeable in firearms and a legal carrier. I live life aware but not scared. I can and will protect myself. By any means necessary, as well as protecting my family.
The worst part is because people don’t understand the manipulation of the abuser and people don’t believe you. I think this part is worse. If abused people knew there was somewhere safe to go and be believed there would be a lot less violence. We have to educate on the behaviors of manipulation. For example, the mother’s behavior in this story is a huge clue to the entitlement taught to him. She taught him that no one says no to him.
My gosh, this is SO incredibly heartbreaking. I lost it when the mom stated she would never be called mom again. What amazing people they are to help others. Thank you Kendall for sharing Lauren's story.
The strength of Lauren’s dad is absolutely beautiful. Goes to show where Lauren got her beautiful soul from. She was an absolute BEAUTIFUL girl inside and out. I feel so bad for her family. I hope they can find peace.
Same i dont understand why people do this shit like killing domone for brekaing up with them like really. Its things lile this is why people dont date much anymore.
Oh thank you for covering sweet Lauren’s story. I watched her 48 hours episode and seeing her sweet dad just hurt my heart so much. He is the sweetest. Her family did not deserve this pain. Rest in Peace Lauren.
This really hit home, as a survivor of breakup violence and stalking. There really needs to be more awareness brought to this. I have donated! I wish them to continue educating and helping others 💚
what’s wild to me is how strong her parents are. after everything they’ve gone through, they’re working their asses off to HELP people like the man that killed their daughter. they are an inspiration.
I broke up with my ex in 2013. After months of physical and emotional abuse. He not only stalked me, drive past and sit outside my house, he would also constantly try to contact me. Each time I blocked his number he got a new one. The one morning I woke up to 93 missed calls and over 60 voicemails. My parents stepped in and we got a restraining order. Which helped slightly. To this day he still try’s to contact me, and I still have fears he will eventually find me. Honestly has changed my life
You have a right to defend yourself should it ever come to that. Learn how to get comfortable with tools that can do this. UA-cam is so anti defend yourself that I can’t type what I mean but I pray you learn what you need, and practice so that you can be comfortable with using it should you need to. I pray you get the peace you deserve. Love and prayers my friend.
I have experienced something similar. Unfortunately it isn’t easy to do restraining orders in my area. Like the other person said, the best thing to do is learn self defense and also practice and have a conceal permit. For your own safety. I’ve taken a class and it help me feel a little better. It’s unfortunate people can’t move on and constantly have to reach out to make our lives hell.
the mom going to her work trying to get her to talk to the ex, GTFOH. Accept that this chick doesnt want anything to do with your fragile little man child of a son. My heart breaks for Lauren's family.
Him punching the tent, showing up at that party threatening the other guy at the dance, and i'm sure he did other things. So to me he was violent, lets not down play it.
Yep and that’s why I partially blame his mother because there is absolutely NO way she didn’t know most/the full extent of his issues. He hates women and I don’t believe that he never did anything to his mom/that she didn’t really see the signs. She got this girl killed all over her precious son’s ego. She knew her son was dangerous at the very least, and still sent that young girl over. She probably just didn’t want to deal with his emotions, so she begged Lauren to come over and “fix” it. She failed as a parent and as a protector
Lauren's father hugging Nathan's parents... Wow. As a mother, I don't think I could be that strong. My heart absolutely breaks for her mother, realizing she won't be called Mommy again.
Can teaching our kids about breakup violence early enough also affect the our DV situations later?? So grateful for the work Malcolm and Mary are doing in honor of Lauren❤ My daughter turns 18 and graduates next month and I couldn’t imagine 💔
My first boyfriend became super toxic and when i broke up with him he sent me letter with his blood and said he cut himself because of me making it my fault, worst part was my mom loved him cuz obviously she only knew the nice side of him and i distance myself from my mom and him and i always wonder what else would he have done if i didnt run from there. Ive seen him a couple time and he still says i caused him pain and because of me his marriage failed but all i know is im not at fault
Jfc, the fragile ego and entitlement 🙄🙄🙄 I'm glad you could get away, but sorry you had to, especially that your mother essentially sided with him over your safety and well-being. These things go way deeper than just teenage angst about heartbreak.
This is the tragic outcome of a monster not being taught he is not owed anything he wants. We need to teach boys, no is a complete sentence and to listen to that no.
I once had to break up with someone who became very hostile to me afterwards. She stalked and harassed me and my friends for months. I was 16-17 and it was such a miserable and scary experience. Breakups really aren't avoidable. I still believe that if there's any remaining goodwill between you and your partner, you have a responsibility to be forthcoming and empathetic towards them early in the transition. You don't need to play therapist or go out of your way to mend the damage, but you did cause the damage and were once deeply close to one another. If they're still confused or lost, a text exchange would work or maybe a phone call. Even if you're ok with meeting up, do it in public during the day so the conversation doesn't spiral into something volatile. Lauren didn't deserve what happened to her. I wish her ex continued with therapy and welcomed support from his loved ones. I wish there was a reality where both of them overcame this and moved on to live happy lives. Rest in peace, Lauren
It is devastating she got taken in that way. Here in my city of Dunedin New Zealand, there was the same thing, her name was Sophie Elliot. although he came to her house not the other way around. Her mother was there and he locked Sophie’s bedroom door and stabbed sophie, while her mother was on the other side of the door. That mother fought so hard for awareness to try and save other young people from violent ends like this.
Am in Dunedin too, and I came to mention Sophie too and the similar circumstances, and to say how her Mother did that too, advocated as well similar to Lauren's parents. So sad!!!
I just want to say that I love how your most recent episodes have been DV based. I am a Prevention Educator for Human Options (a domestic violence agency in Irvine, CA) and DV/TDV not just as a survivor but as an educator, is SO IMPORTANT to talk about. I thank you for sharing awareness on these victims’ stories!
My younger brother was also murdered at a young age. The pain my parents deal with is unbearable. My heart breaks for her parents. I can’t imagine the pain they feel to lose their only child. may God grant them patience.
I’m so tired of hearing mental illness as an excuse to why somebody shouldn’t be locked away and held accountable for their actions. I understand it affects people differently but it’s in no way an excuse to take someone’s life.
I have major respect for parents, siblings, etc. who create an organization in the name of their loved one. I know that is NOT easy when you are dealing with grief everyday. There is something so admirable about it.
I’m in tears and have never been so impressed by grieving parents in my life. Her parents are incredible not only for the incredible foundation and efforts to educate on breakup violence but also the immense empathy her father was able to show her ex boyfriends parents in the courtroom. I will be donating.
This is such a heartbreaking case! That mother is horrible for telling her to meet with him!! Parents of Boys you need to be teaching your sons how to handle rejection not putting the responsibility on to the young women in the lives of these boys. Its sick! When i was 18 i was stalked by a 23yr old after he had asked me out & i said i wasnt interested & at the time i just thought it was akward & annoying but i never really knew how dangerous that situation could have been for me! Also the fact no one thought he was violent even after his violent outburst at the party shows just how normalized violence & a lack of emotional control is for young men. RIP to this young women, this is so heartbreaking for her family & friends 💔
@@Felbicky1 yes it really does! I understand being worried about your child, but the ex partner is NEVER responsible for helping an ex manage their emotions. This was so senseless!
@@merimasviland8006Well, getting stalked isn't nothing, but it's certainly not murder. I think they're just relating to the general discussion in the comments about women and girls being at risk of abuse during a break up/rejection.
Her parents are incredible to dedicate their time to education and compassion for other people that could potentially be like his daughter. What he had to say about young love and breakups was truly so important and so kind. What a beautiful set of parents - my heart breaks for them.
When I think of the acts committed against me in toxic/abusive relationships, my heart aches thinking my daughter or son could ever experience anything like it. I’m trying to raise them to be strong and to be kind, in a perfect world they’ll feel like they can come to me with anything I hope
Wow, cool. I never knew I was born evil. Also, I've tried the whole fragile masculinity thing. The only thing it got me was betrayal. Ppl need to be strong, not fragile. Having the capability of violence is key, but even more so is self control wich the boy clearly lacked
@@sword_racer185Fragile masculinity isn't about men being evil or weak inherently, it's about men reacting with violence towards girls and women when their egos are hurt. Society enables this behaviour. You're angry about feeling mislabeled, fair enough. But no one is directly calling you evil. Lauren was brutally murdered, I'm angry about that. Being strong isn't about violence nor is being kind about being weak.
I see how Lauren is such a good person. Apple doesn't fall from the tree. She got this from her parents. Especially when her father showed so much compassion and hugged Nathan's parents. Lauren and her father are beautiful people. I know she's dead but she is still beautiful even after death. May she rest in peace and her family one day find peace.
As someone who was the victim of breakup violence at 18/19, I want to commend Lauren’s family and you for sharing Lauren’s story. There is no telling how many lives you will save, how many ripples this creates, how many dominoes this will knock over, because y’all shared. It’ll make a parent think differently as they parent their child. It’ll make someone see the situation they’re in differently. I’m really thankful. Because once you’re in it, it’s hard to get out. But naming it, and education, make all the difference.
I remember hearing about this case a couple years ago, and it was stated that Nathan admitted that he freaked out because her body started making noises in the backseat of his car and started to smell while he was driving her body to the marsh and stabbed her again because he thought she was still alive.
We have to teach our kids to practice accepting rejection when they’re little and keep reinforcing that. My daughter was in preschool when we started talking to her about boundaries and personal space. And if she lost a friend, offer support and comfort but also explain that everyone has choices and we have to let people go even when we don’t want to We can love from a distance and know that we will make new friends
I remember when my boyfriend broke up with me when I was in high school. I felt like my life was over. I went into deep depression. Now I’m in my 40s but I remember the feelings so clearly
Hi Kendall watching all the way from Puerto Rico 🇵🇷!!!! Also I am learning Norwegian!! Fluent in Italian , Spanish and American Sign Language 🤟 I’m half Italian and Puertorrican and I love your Channel !!!!
I literally just want to give Lauren's parents a hug. 🥺 They've shown great strength in losing their only child who had so much promise. It's a pain I can't imagine. You can tell the nature of the people by the children they raise and Lauren seemed a lovely young lady. I hope they find comfort in their memories of her and the legacy of her tragedy x
This was truly heartbreaking, this poor girl did not deserve this at all. 18 is no age!! Lauren's mum and dad are absolutely amazing and what they are doing is remarkable. I do think Nathan should stay in prison, he knew what he did and like Lauren's mum said why should he get to live a regular life when her daughter can't!! So so sad 😢
I always wanted you to do this story, Lauren was a beautiful gifted young girl who was taken at such a young age. And Nate threw his whole life away and he too was a gifted athlete. Sad story all around!! When I watched her story on 48 hours, man the interviews with her dad absolutely killed me, poor guy.
Perhaps if this education took place as teens, it could also prevent post-divorce/separation violence when they become adults. I will definitely have better conversations with my daughter thanks to this episode.
My daughter’s high school had a program about dating and break up violence. So happy they offered that to the students!
That is great! I wish all jr high and high schools would offer this program! It is a super important topic!
What a great step!!! This is an improvement over doing nothing. I taught my kids myself but fully realize that not everyone can. We concentrate so much on what’s right for little kids but not much on the critical teen “launch” period. That transition time took more out of me than toddlerhood hands down. Doing it for the last time with my 5th who is 15. Already planning for helping with my 1 year old granddaughter!
That is so so awesome!!!
My school had a dating violence mandatory program - Sophomore year, I think? They had all genders in one room, and it was really jarring some of the reactions. Unsurprisingly, a lot of the fem demographic were pretty quiet and most of the mascs were joking/distracting. Note: the course was hetero relationships exclusive, showed manipulation/emotional abuse from both a girl & boy abuser, violence and sexual violence from a boy abuser. I can’t remember if they showed a girl physically hurting her boyfriend, but def not any sexual violence perpetrated by a girl.
@@nobodysc oh interesting. That doesn’t sound like my daughter’s experience but she is in school currently so I’m sure it’s updated now.
Her dad giving his parents a hug, broke me. What a human.
Lauren's Dad's a chad.
100% ❤
@@racheljackson4428what a disgusting thing to say.
Get TF off these videos if you’re just going to be a dick to families who have had their loved ones violently ripped from their lives.
“She will never be called mom or mommy again” broke me. Lauren’s parents are absolutely amazing for advocating towards prevention and helping others. Lauren’s memory will live on. What a selfish disgusting human being he is for taking that beautiful girl full of potential and a whole life ahead of her away from the world. Hugging my child extra tight.
Yeah it may be the last time you see her 💀lol
@@penelopephelangetime and place bruh
@@penelopephelange true, just like this may be the last comment you make. Get treatment.
@@jammidraws Nah cause the voices in my head are my only friends 💅 they have the darkest humor ❤
@@penelopephelange you're so pathetic it's sad
As a mom to one child, hearing Lauren’s mom say she will never be called mom or mommy again BROKE ME. I will 1000% be educating my daughter and whoever she dates on this topic. I was never taught this and it never even crossed my mind. Even coming from a physically violent relationship at a young age, it never crossed my mind how important this is. Thank you for sharing her story.
I’ve been diagnosed clinical depressed since the age of 12, depression does not make you commit murder
It does affect people in different ways with homicidal and suicidal thoughts
which is why he is in jail for the rest of his life.
@@Voloxityas if that’s an excuse. How pathetic
@@Slachelle1123 it’s not an excuse but it might have contributed to her murder that anger combined with homicidal thoughts isn’t good
That's you. Means nothing here
His mom asking Lauren to talk to him is so wildly in appropriate. No matter what's happening to your child, it's not another kids responsibility to help them.
So true. Like he’s about to go off to college. Is she gonna call those girls too?
Smacks of pampered mummy's boy. Let him get therapy, it wasn't his ex girlfriend's responsibility to fix him.
I agree. My son is now 21 years old. I can’t even imagine doing such. Dealing will breakups , bad news etc is part of life. I’ve done my best to prepare my son for these times.
That’s true, I wholeheartedly agree, but we don’t know if maybe she was close to his Mother (the fact that his Mother went o visit her to request that, shows how Lauren was compassionate and caring, his Mom understood that and grasped at anything she could do to not see her son is pain. I think it came from a parent’s desperate plea to attempt to “fix” the situation to make her son feel better. He prob moped around besides the drinking and smoking.
Lauren had a big enough heart to go over to his house. My son visited his ex gf in the hospital after a car accident and I could tell she was trying to manipulate him into getting back together but luckily he stayed strong and didn’t go backwards. Now he’s a detective & swat crisis negotiator for situations like this where ppl are desperate and attempt to kill themselves or others. This was Nathan’s choice and poor Lauren became a casualty of his inability to cope. Awful. Absolutely awful.
@@stephaniepapaleo9001 It doesn't matter if Lauren was close to his mother. The fact that the mom had to take Nathan to a PSYCHIATRIST over this breakup is all the more reason to never ask a teenage girl to go talk to her son.
What stuck with me since I was a teen was: When you think ‘I can’t live without you’, remember you were living before you met them..
@amanda6566 ....
When I was a teen, there was a song that said one line I always kept in my mind, when my heart was broken in half by my First Love, right before our Senior Prom. It said "Got along without you before I met you, gonna get along without you now". Though my heart was so broken, I DID get along. But the one song that truly kept me sane & strong, was the song "Only The Strong Survive" by Jerry Butler. That song saw me through the untimely deaths, all immediate family members, each four months apart, within one year. I have played the words in my head EVER since.
THANK YOU!! I really need this rn - not for me, my friend just gone through a breakup and had been suicidal, uttering "I don't think I can live wihout him".
I hope I can use this to comfort her and bring her back to her sense.
I was a depressed wreck before him...just knowing im going back to a life of patheticness is so depressing
Exactly! Horomones are CRAZY in teens, period. Being equipped to handle them currently/futurity is vital
"Approximately 75% of women who are killed by their batterers are murdered when they attempt to leave or after they have left an abusive relationship." With numbers like that it's ASTONISHING that all schools are not educating our youth on this subject.
And the first thing people ask is “why don’t you just leave?” Smh
They don't teach us about the real world, so I wouldn't expect this to be taught sadly. Not to mention the parents that would boycott it.
Feminists love fake statistics.
Depends on what school you go to. We had to take a psychology class. I had a higher fear of abuse relationship because of a personality test I took. With my high level of people pleasing and low of the things that was said from it that I was more likely to be in an abusive relationship and stay. Remember learning about at least a few red flags in that class.
Parents need to be better at teaching their sons to accept rejection. It's been disturbing over the years seeing a lot of cases of young men murdering someone because they were told no
This is something I’m working on with my boys. No means no.
There’s also a lot of cases, though in which women have killed ex-boyfriend for the same reason I feel like it’s just a common motive for murder in general
@@margigannon1748 ok cool but theres way way more the other way around. lets focus on the boys for once..
@@margigannon1748 men kill women way more than women do, facts don't care about your feelings
@@TJ-1234 definitely teaching my sons but this happened to my cousin. He broke up with a girl who (turns out has a history of going nuts on exes) who thought they were going to get married right out of high school and even manipulated her dad into running my cousin off the dang road. Luckily he's alive but just a perspective.
This happened to my high school friend. Shortly after graduation, she broke up with her boyfriend. She went missing. Her mother was reaching out to everyone trying to find her. Eventually, someone sent her a news link.
The police found a body with her tattoo and she needed to be identified.
He killed her, put her in the trunk of her own car for days using her cards and spending her money before dumping her like she was nothing.
Her name is Laura Hunt. Plant City, Florida.
What a terrible tragedy. I’m so sorry for the loss of your friend, Laura. Heartbreaking and senseless.
Wow ong 😢
Omg I’m so sorry bout ur friend😢😢😢…
I’m so sorry. Sounds like the same sort of mentality as this guy driving off celebrating with the tunes cranked up. 😢
so sorry about that
I’m a teacher in Ma. and have not heard of this case. I’m definitely going to reach out to her parents/foundation and bring this program to my daughter’s high school !
i’m a student in boston. thank you. throughout my years in school the toxicity i see and have experienced from middle school and high school relationships is scary. there needs to be time in school taken to discuss relationships and how to go about them healthily. even friendships. i’ve experienced extremely almost insane toxic friendships throughout my school years, specifically in middle school. with social media romanticizing behaviors in relationships and friendships that are unhealthy for both parties and extremely harmful,toxic, and dangerous and some children having no guide at home on how to communicate with your friends or partner in a healthy manner children don’t know how to go about the relationships in their lives and as they get older worse situations can occur because of this. so i really appreciate and commend you for helping your students by bringing the program to your school. it really will make such a difference in their lives if they know how to communicate and be in touch with their emotions and knowing how to cope with their negative
what city/town in ma. do you teach?
@@kimdelgado651 for privacy reasons I’d rather not say the exact town/district ,but its in southeastern Mass. !
I knew Nathan
I brought my roommate with me to break up with an ex in college. He tried to make me feel bad about it but I felt more comfortable with her there. It’s stories like this that make me glad I did
You’re such a baby when you’re finishing high school. No one’s life should end when it’s only just beginning.
It’s so true….
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My cousin was one of her close friends and was waiting for her to come and hang out on the night she was killed. It’s still a hard day for their group of friends. She ended up becoming a lawyer in Boston because of what happened to Lauren
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The fact that Lauren's parents are thinking about his parents & other victims during the worst chapter of their lives is so inspiring. Thanks for speaking on domestic & breakup violence.
I'm the mom of a middle school girl. She's my only child. This scenario is my absolute worst nightmare and my heart breaks in half for her parents.
Sometimes people complain about girls/women being too guarded and standoffish when it comes to men and dating but this is why. When womens biggest threat is their own partner, we HAVE to be guarded. And even then, once you trust someone, you never know. Those who don't understand will probably understand once they have teenage daughters.
I think those that understand don’t complain. Those that complain are either naive or part of the reason girls/women are guarded around boys/men.
This ☝🏻
Tbf most people's biggest threat is their partner, statistically. Regardless of gender, if you're murdered, it's likely to be by your partner or family.
And maybe the harm of THAT rhetoric will be understood when they have teenage sons. Hearing they’re dangerous and aren’t to be trusted SURELY doesn’t affect THEIR state of mind.
@@GenXfrom75 I don’t think boys are necessarily told that they are dangerous and not to be trusted. Clearly they aren’t inherently bad. Women being cautious about men isn’t an attack on all men, it’s to try to protect themselves. What’s the solution in your opinion? Ignoring the dangers of dating and domestic violence?
My HS age daughter came in while I was watching and said that they just went over breakup violence in her Teen Issues class a few days ago. In listening a little longer it turns out they watched a video of Lauren's parents speaking. ❤
Oh my
The amount of empathy in her father…the fact that his programme not only educates potential victims about warning signs, but it also provides support to would-be perpetrators and attempts to show them compassion, so they don’t turn disillusioned and go on to commit violence. It’s truly inspiring and I’m not sure I could be as gracious as he’s been
I too was so impressed with this dad. He truly sees this as a huge problem for women/girls, but he talks with compassion towards all these emotionally unequiped kids. He is so much more focused on providing solutions to the problem than fuming at people. It really is so impressive and humbling to see that!
Nathan's mom probably feels guilty for asking Lauren to talk to her son because it got an innocent girl killed.
@@catspaw3092she should feel guilty
I was 18, he was 28. I tried to break up. I was stabbed. 25-life for murder. He was sentenced to 21. It's so scary. I walked away with my life and bald spots, scars, trauma, no skin on my back, black eyes, broken bones. It's no joke
Uhhh, the age difference alone is a bunch of red flags! It sounds terrifying, glad you got away and I hope you can heal ❤
So sorry
I’m SO sorry that happened to you. I pray that you are doing well these days. 🫶🏻 hugs.
I love you and I pray you heal
I watched this case years ago. Although I don’t remember everything, I remember Lauren’s compassion, which she probably got from her dad. The absolute grace of that man to console the parents of his daughter’s killer and to view it as them losing their child too. I have no words.
While the Fujita family got the better deal (their son is alive, at least they can visit him in prison), Lauren's father was acknowledging both young lives were ruined. I can't help but admire him.
I admire Lauren's parents too.
My first break up in high school was literally a period of grief for me. I couldn’t talk to anyone about it without crying. Looking back I don’t know why I was so affected by it but it affects people differently and we aren’t prepared for it as teenagers. Kudos to her parents for seeing this gap in our society
Sameee. Failed a whole semester and had to take after school classes to graduate. I talk to my teenagers about that experience so if it happens to them, they'll handle it better than I did. It wasn't the end of the world but it sure felt like it then
"Men are afraid women will laugh at them. Women are afraid men will kill them." - Margaret Atwood
This is true.
We aren't afraid of women laughing at us. It's 2024, we're afraid of being falsely accused by women and paternity fraud.
@tohitAC0 and still, women are afraid of men killing them.
You don't get it, and judging by your response you don't even want to understand. @@tohitAC0
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I think both are true. It happens a lot that men are falsely accused. It goes both ways and more. People do crazy things
I smoke weed everyday. I’ve been mad on weed. I’ve been sad on weed. I have never wanted to hurt anyone on weed.
Idk I smoke weed everyday. I have definitely been high and “wanted to hurt someone” but that’s isn’t because I’m high. It’s because I was already upset or angry. It’s definitely a cop out. But people can smoke weed and be violent if they are a violent person. Weed isn’t the evil for sure 😊
Pot affects everyone differently. I’ve definitely met people in my life that have become very aggressive from just smoking pot. It’s insane.
@@oliviasimone9872 period. I agree with this completely. That was really my point. The anger is within you, not the weed. But to me if you smoke weed and it doesn’t help you relax I don’t understand why you’re smoking it. A nice rolled joint on a stressful day makes me go “ fuck those problems” but it also helps I don’t want to hurt anyone as well. No one’s going to bring me out of character. Thank God.
Just stop the flipping weed woman😅😅😅😅
It's like alcohol where it can release your inhibitions & make you reveal who you are on the inside, why people become violent or loving while drunk af, they're like that before, just hiding it behind a mask.
I’ve two sons and I tell them, “if someone dumps you, leave them alone!” and other things that are more in-depth but I really hope that sticks. Being in either parent’s position is the worst nightmare. Rest in peace Lauren. She looked like an incredible person and I’m sure the tragedy of losing her has helped her parents save other lives throughout the years.
Thanks for the donation, generous Kendall 💜
That's already so much better than parents saying "don't take no for an answer" ❤
Very well said.
@@veryverteor “boys will be boys” umm no boys will be held accountable
Also, I hope they have a strong father figure in their lives
That’s exactly what needs to be taught. It sucks but you will get over it and you never chase someone who doesn’t want you. That opens the door to abuse.
my ex recently tried to unalive me when i tried to leave. they stole my phone, broke my ipad in half, then proceeded to suffocate me. they told the police i attacked them with 0 evidence and i was arrested and charged for something i didn’t do. i reported the assault and the police did nothing. people like this are very very very scary.
Take this to court please
Lauren’s father said in an interview that he feels the senior year of summer can be dangerous as couples can face break ups at that time. (Going off to college or university.) A very frightening thought & it is so sad that any relationship can end like this, but a high school one at that.
I just wished that teens had the capacity to see that the first 18 years of life, while extremely important, are just that...the FIRST 18 years. There is so much more out there if you can get through the lumps and bumps that everyone goes through. I personally cannot imagine being THAT devastated about a break up at that age but maybe that is become my brain is fully formed...what a sad situation.
I have 3 children. A son, and 2 daughters. My husband and I have always taught them that "no, means no;" no matter the circumstance. If "No" or " leave me be" is implied, spoken, or shown at all, then thats what you do. Rejection is a normal part of human life, adult life, and it how we handle it.
I wish more parents taught there kids this
“Never be called Mom again.”
That hurts me.
My son is now 18 and is about to graduate. Like them, I only have one child. I could only ever have one. I can’t even fathom him being taken from this world and never hearing that word again. I can’t even imagine that pain.
Same. I have an 18 yr old son graduating in May and my only kid. This hurt my heart so bad
Same. Maybe mine is not yet a teen. But is still my only. I was only Blessed with one. I can’t imagine their pain. My heart hurts for them 😢
same,19yrs old girl. She's my only child ,thinking about loosing her breaks my heart into pieces 💔 😢 🤧 😔
It never ceases to amaze me when parents lose a child and go on to turn their pain and grief into something so important and helpful to society. That type of strength is one I hope I’ll never have to experience.
I vividly remember the fear and anguish I felt when I left my ab*sive ex boyfriend. I kept thinking he knew where I lived, where I studied, my friends homes. I spent months scared to come home at night.
Women all over the world unfortunately experience this at least once in their lives and it makes me sick to my stomach.
Rip baby girl, we are all thinking of you.
As much as I agree with your sentiment these sort of dramatic generalisations don’t help the cause. I don’t know any woman that has been in a situation as you describe. I know it happens and I myself had to weed out a few guys in my day but let’s not make this into a pity party and let’s teach instead girls about red flags and how to protect themselves if they end up with a bad boy.
That Nathan's Mom only valued Lauren as a path to alleviating her son's hurt feelings, is telling.
And Nathan being royally pissed off & feeling epicly sorry for himself are not medical conditions.
I got chills when you said her father went and hugged the other parents. He is a good man. I don’t understand why bad things happen to good people.
Because good people enable evil actions
"Bad things" happen to ALL people. We just tend to think it's more tragic when they happen to "good" people.....
@@MrAbdomanHow so?
Bad things happen to everyone, enabled or otherwise, because life isn't fair and it's not about being good or bad.
Being a good person is absolutely key, but it's not a shield against evil.
Where I live in Germany we were told to never go alone to a break up and do it in a public place and really avoid seeing the other person alone after.
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thank you for this. i went through domestic abuse/teen dating violence while I was in high school and its so taboo and stigmatized. if domestic violence in marriage is already taboo, its even more when you’re in high school because people think high school relationships are so shallow and unserious without any “real” reasons to keep a victim with their abuser. its more common than people think and should be more talked about especially in schools at least starting in middle school.
I was a pageant girl and I remember one year one of my fellow contestants used our competition to bring awareness to teen dating violence! It’s so important but as you said, not discussed enough! I hope you’re doing better now!
I went through the same thing at 14-15. At the time I thought no one else my age was going through something like that. Some of my friends would notice the bruises or see him acting weird towards me but we were KIDS so they probably had no idea what was really happening. I agree stuff like this should be taught in middle and high school. Educate people and hopefully it will happen less often in adulthood. I wouldnt wish what I went through on my worst enemy, no one deserves that. And I’m sorry you had to go through that! It truly has altered me forever.
I'm so sorry that happenend to you, I never been in this situation but I remember when I was 15 my best friend broke up with a guy and he started to follow her down the street and we (her friends) never left her alone because we were scared something would happen to her. I don't even think we ever thought about talking to adults because we were so young and nobody talked about this situations
thank you to everyone for all the sweet replies and anecdotes. It goes to show how common it actually is. I believe this topic is especially important because our teens/high school years are already such a transformative time and we are so impressionable at that age it can really make or break a person. In my experience I was diagnosed with chronic PTSD as a result and will probably have to live with it for the rest of my life. While others, like this poor girl, got it much worse and lost their life. I hope Kendall touches more on this topic and brings more awareness in future videos!
Very true. They forget how intense teen feelings are. They are written off as shallow or puppy-love but in the moment they are so very intense for them.
They should never be allowed to create a retroactive law to protect a grown person. You are legally an adult at 18, you know murder is illegal. My kids are 9&11 and know this
For real. Its true that you may have poorer decision making skills and impulse control aged under 25, but you know not to KILL someone. I guess the logic is the liklihood of reoffending is lower if your crime was committed before your brain fully developed, but also the penalty is meant to be a punishment. He was old enough to understand the consequences of his actions, and very deliberately did it anyway. I don't really feel that is deserving of a second chance.
I was a victim of breakup violence right after high school. My ex kidnapped me in my own car and told me he’d be taking me to a hiking trail and throwing me off a cliff where no one would find me. Luckily we ran out of gas and he left the keys in the ignition and I was able to get away. But this needs to be talked about more often. My condolences to her family ♥️
Omg I’m so glad ur ok!! That’s so freaking scary
I was also the victim of break up violence. I had to run and lock myself in the bathroom to try to get away. I actually called his mom to get him and help. Her response was he's just in a bad mood. Let him calm down before I leave the bathroom. He nearly killed me multiple times, but somehow no one believed me when I was telling them I needed help.
@@jenn209 im so sorry you had to go through that, but im glad you’re here still 💕
So grateful you’re okay! I was driving a male friend home in HS and he made a “joke” about overpowering me and hijacking my car to kidnap me while on a back road. I laughed (panicking) and said “that’s freaking crazy.” he didn’t do anything, but he didn’t laugh either.. we stopped being friends soon after…
@phanie209 thank you. I am glad you're still here, too.
I firmly believe that if you take someone’s life on purpose for any reason outside of self defense you should be in prison for the rest of your life. I don’t care that he was 18 when he did. She was 18. Her mother is right if she doesn’t get to live her life anymore he shouldn’t get to either
Yes nothing to do with 'teen violence' this is a clear case of premeditated murder, age has nothing to do with it
It may sound heartless, but I agree.
My high school boyfriend when I was 17 was mentally and emotionally abusing me to the point that I had panic attacks and stomach ulcers from anxiety. I was being belittled and talked down to all the time and no one knew. This is very important to bring awareness.
😢 so sad to hear
We need to start talking about domestic abuse not just domestic violence. Domestic abuse is worse because it’s silent. People don’t know and they don’t believe you. The behaviors of the abuser is there but we have not educated society about it so others don’t see it. The abuser does everything to silence and isolate the victim and then blame them.
I'm so glad that you're still here with us today. I'm very sorry you went through that
I had a similar story too.
Im tired of all these girls getting beatdowns and taking it and staying what do u think is going to happen.
Never thought about how traumatizing a first break up is. So true. Educating everyone about how to handle the process would only be beneficial for everyone
This Breakup Violence happened more often. Just last year in November I attended the memorial service of a 19 yr college age girl who was murdered by her Ex on the night she agreed to meet him alone at night. Only difference is that her Ex had the help of his best friend to help kills and hide her body. Her body was found in a almond orchard
Where did that happen? So heartbreaking
@@EM-mj3uy happen in the Central Valley of California , close to a town called Madera
Since you’ve had your Daughter it’s changed how you report these cases. You’ve always been sincere & heartfelt but there’s an additional heart wrenching tone to your voice. Thank you for continuing to share the stories of these victims & their families.
This truly needs to be talked about WAY more! Thanks for this one Kendall! You havd such a big audience and this video is very needed for our young ladies to hear!
And way, way more important four our young boys to hear
I hadn’t heard the term “breakup violence” before, but I agree it is so important to talk about. We often hear about how the most dangerous time in an abusive relationship is when you are leaving, but it looks like the same can be true even in non-abusive relationships.
As a woman that has been sa'd at 14 and r*ped at 19 I'm genuinely so heartbroken and tired of the constant violence we have to endure from men. I myself knew women who lost their lives by the hands of their bf/ spouse. I'm just so tired. Sometimes this makes me spiral into a deep depression, I feel like the violence it's only getting worse and I have very little hope for the future.
I'm sending all my love and thoughts on this poor girl's family as well as the ones of every single woman who lost their lives because of a man.
i hope not a single person replies to you saying that women hurt men too. we know. everyone hurts everyone. women hurt women. women hurt men. men hurt men so on and so forth. but men hurt women at a staggering rate. even men are more at risk of being killed by another man. anyone who brings that up after a woman brings up the violence she’s experienced at the hands of men they feel the need to say that ignorant bs. you’re so beautiful strong 🫶
I’m sorry you had to experience that :(
You don’t have to, though. Not if you’re in America, anyway. I was groomed by a grown man at 14, r@ped, as well as childhood @buse. As soon as I was of age, I learned defense and became knowledgeable in firearms and a legal carrier. I live life aware but not scared. I can and will protect myself. By any means necessary, as well as protecting my family.
@@tianalee4126 what you wrote its so important, I truly wish more men would understand this!
Thank you so much ❤
The worst part is because people don’t understand the manipulation of the abuser and people don’t believe you. I think this part is worse. If abused people knew there was somewhere safe to go and be believed there would be a lot less violence. We have to educate on the behaviors of manipulation. For example, the mother’s behavior in this story is a huge clue to the entitlement taught to him. She taught him that no one says no to him.
My son is 12 but I will be showing him the Healthy relationships video, thank you for sharing resources for parents!
My gosh, this is SO incredibly heartbreaking. I lost it when the mom stated she would never be called mom again. What amazing people they are to help others. Thank you Kendall for sharing Lauren's story.
Me too, that broke me. 😭
The strength of Lauren’s dad is absolutely beautiful. Goes to show where Lauren got her beautiful soul from. She was an absolute BEAUTIFUL girl inside and out. I feel so bad for her family. I hope they can find peace.
Same i dont understand why people do this shit like killing domone for brekaing up with them like really. Its things lile this is why people dont date much anymore.
Oh thank you for covering sweet Lauren’s story. I watched her 48 hours episode and seeing her sweet dad just hurt my heart so much. He is the sweetest. Her family did not deserve this pain. Rest in Peace Lauren.
My dad passed away on Sunday and he loved ur stories he was 85 years old I miss him alot but when come on it like he with me bless u kendall rae
I'm sorry for your loss 🌻
So sorry for your loss!!
So sorry for your loss ❤
Am so sorry for your loss. My dad passed at the end of last year.
This really hit home, as a survivor of breakup violence and stalking. There really needs to be more awareness brought to this.
I have donated! I wish them to continue educating and helping others 💚
Yea i wish police would actually take stalking more seriously they dont even take death threats seriously anynore.
The dad giving Nathan’s parents a hug damn near made me cry god bless his soul
what’s wild to me is how strong her parents are. after everything they’ve gone through, they’re working their asses off to HELP people like the man that killed their daughter. they are an inspiration.
I broke up with my ex in 2013. After months of physical and emotional abuse. He not only stalked me, drive past and sit outside my house, he would also constantly try to contact me. Each time I blocked his number he got a new one. The one morning I woke up to 93 missed calls and over 60 voicemails. My parents stepped in and we got a restraining order. Which helped slightly. To this day he still try’s to contact me, and I still have fears he will eventually find me. Honestly has changed my life
You have a right to defend yourself should it ever come to that. Learn how to get comfortable with tools that can do this. UA-cam is so anti defend yourself that I can’t type what I mean but I pray you learn what you need, and practice so that you can be comfortable with using it should you need to. I pray you get the peace you deserve. Love and prayers my friend.
I have experienced something similar. Unfortunately it isn’t easy to do restraining orders in my area. Like the other person said, the best thing to do is learn self defense and also practice and have a conceal permit. For your own safety. I’ve taken a class and it help me feel a little better. It’s unfortunate people can’t move on and constantly have to reach out to make our lives hell.
Thank you both for your comments! I am healing, but the trauma still shows itself some days 💖
i’m so sorry you going through this. You are a strong person. I hope you are with people who will keep you safe!!! prayers ❤
the mom going to her work trying to get her to talk to the ex, GTFOH. Accept that this chick doesnt want anything to do with your fragile little man child of a son. My heart breaks for Lauren's family.
100%
Boy moms can be really weird, in my experience. I cant be the only one
Ik she was just trying to help him but that’s what therapy is for not your sons ex 🥲
Him punching the tent, showing up at that party threatening the other guy at the dance, and i'm sure he did other things. So to me he was violent, lets not down play it.
Yep and that’s why I partially blame his mother because there is absolutely NO way she didn’t know most/the full extent of his issues. He hates women and I don’t believe that he never did anything to his mom/that she didn’t really see the signs. She got this girl killed all over her precious son’s ego. She knew her son was dangerous at the very least, and still sent that young girl over. She probably just didn’t want to deal with his emotions, so she begged Lauren to come over and “fix” it. She failed as a parent and as a protector
Lauren's father hugging Nathan's parents... Wow. As a mother, I don't think I could be that strong. My heart absolutely breaks for her mother, realizing she won't be called Mommy again.
Can teaching our kids about breakup violence early enough also affect the our DV situations later??
So grateful for the work Malcolm and Mary are doing in honor of Lauren❤
My daughter turns 18 and graduates next month and I couldn’t imagine 💔
My first boyfriend became super toxic and when i broke up with him he sent me letter with his blood and said he cut himself because of me making it my fault, worst part was my mom loved him cuz obviously she only knew the nice side of him and i distance myself from my mom and him and i always wonder what else would he have done if i didnt run from there. Ive seen him a couple time and he still says i caused him pain and because of me his marriage failed but all i know is im not at fault
Jfc, the fragile ego and entitlement 🙄🙄🙄 I'm glad you could get away, but sorry you had to, especially that your mother essentially sided with him over your safety and well-being. These things go way deeper than just teenage angst about heartbreak.
This is the tragic outcome of a monster not being taught he is not owed anything he wants. We need to teach boys, no is a complete sentence and to listen to that no.
THIS!!!
I once had to break up with someone who became very hostile to me afterwards. She stalked and harassed me and my friends for months. I was 16-17 and it was such a miserable and scary experience.
Breakups really aren't avoidable. I still believe that if there's any remaining goodwill between you and your partner, you have a responsibility to be forthcoming and empathetic towards them early in the transition. You don't need to play therapist or go out of your way to mend the damage, but you did cause the damage and were once deeply close to one another. If they're still confused or lost, a text exchange would work or maybe a phone call. Even if you're ok with meeting up, do it in public during the day so the conversation doesn't spiral into something volatile.
Lauren didn't deserve what happened to her. I wish her ex continued with therapy and welcomed support from his loved ones. I wish there was a reality where both of them overcame this and moved on to live happy lives. Rest in peace, Lauren
i have a son and never thought about having the break up talk. such a sad lesson to learn/about 😢
It is devastating she got taken in that way. Here in my city of Dunedin New Zealand, there was the same thing, her name was Sophie Elliot. although he came to her house not the other way around. Her mother was there and he locked Sophie’s bedroom door and stabbed sophie, while her mother was on the other side of the door. That mother fought so hard for awareness to try and save other young people from violent ends like this.
It’s called the Sophie Elliot Foundation
My aunt was training her as a junior midwife. She's never been the same.
Am in Dunedin too, and I came to mention Sophie too and the similar circumstances, and to say how her Mother did that too, advocated as well similar to Lauren's parents. So sad!!!
I just want to say that I love how your most recent episodes have been DV based. I am a Prevention Educator for Human Options (a domestic violence agency in Irvine, CA) and DV/TDV not just as a survivor but as an educator, is SO IMPORTANT to talk about. I thank you for sharing awareness on these victims’ stories!
Love how much thought and care Kendall puts into these videos. Such a sad tragedy. She was so young. 💔
My younger brother was also murdered at a young age. The pain my parents deal with is unbearable. My heart breaks for her parents. I can’t imagine the pain they feel to lose their only child. may God grant them patience.
I’m sorry for your family lost I’m praying for your strength
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This breaks my heart. That poor girl. She looked like such a kind soul. 😭
I’m so tired of hearing mental illness as an excuse to why somebody shouldn’t be locked away and held accountable for their actions. I understand it affects people differently but it’s in no way an excuse to take someone’s life.
I couldn’t agree more.
people are so selfish. it’s either them or no one. truly disgusting
I have major respect for parents, siblings, etc. who create an organization in the name of their loved one. I know that is NOT easy when you are dealing with grief everyday. There is something so admirable about it.
The example the parents show off how a pair can behave after a breakup of a long term relationship is lovely. My heart goes to each of them.
Leaving an abusive relationship is also the most dangerous time of the relationship, statistically.
It’s wild that an 18 year old is capable of this. Did he really think he’d get away with it?!
I’m in tears and have never been so impressed by grieving parents in my life. Her parents are incredible not only for the incredible foundation and efforts to educate on breakup violence but also the immense empathy her father was able to show her ex boyfriends parents in the courtroom. I will be donating.
This is such a heartbreaking case! That mother is horrible for telling her to meet with him!! Parents of Boys you need to be teaching your sons how to handle rejection not putting the responsibility on to the young women in the lives of these boys. Its sick! When i was 18 i was stalked by a 23yr old after he had asked me out & i said i wasnt interested & at the time i just thought it was akward & annoying but i never really knew how dangerous that situation could have been for me!
Also the fact no one thought he was violent even after his violent outburst at the party shows just how normalized violence & a lack of emotional control is for young men.
RIP to this young women, this is so heartbreaking for her family & friends 💔
His mum did that ? Somehow this makes it all the more horrific 😭
Rip Lauren 💔
@@Felbicky1 yes it really does! I understand being worried about your child, but the ex partner is NEVER responsible for helping an ex manage their emotions. This was so senseless!
Ok. Dont make this about you, NOTHING happened to you
@@merimasviland8006Well, getting stalked isn't nothing, but it's certainly not murder. I think they're just relating to the general discussion in the comments about women and girls being at risk of abuse during a break up/rejection.
Her parents are incredible to dedicate their time to education and compassion for other people that could potentially be like his daughter. What he had to say about young love and breakups was truly so important and so kind. What a beautiful set of parents - my heart breaks for them.
this story is so devastating, thank you for sharing.
When I think of the acts committed against me in toxic/abusive relationships, my heart aches thinking my daughter or son could ever experience anything like it. I’m trying to raise them to be strong and to be kind, in a perfect world they’ll feel like they can come to me with anything I hope
It was definitely clear how hard this one was for you Kendall. ❤ you’re doing such amazing work in this world and I’m grateful. ❤
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The danger of “breakup violence” is something that individuals of ALL ages should become knowledgeable about!!
Apparently he was concerned more about his mum finding out than he was about being arrested …he knew what he was doing. 😭
Rip Lauren 💔
Fragile masculinity is insidious. Parents need to teach their sons to be better.
Wow, cool. I never knew I was born evil. Also, I've tried the whole fragile masculinity thing. The only thing it got me was betrayal. Ppl need to be strong, not fragile. Having the capability of violence is key, but even more so is self control wich the boy clearly lacked
@@sword_racer185 that’s the most fragile male comment I’ve ever seen
@Clo_Dub I'm not fragile, just angry
@@sword_racer185Fragile masculinity isn't about men being evil or weak inherently, it's about men reacting with violence towards girls and women when their egos are hurt. Society enables this behaviour.
You're angry about feeling mislabeled, fair enough. But no one is directly calling you evil.
Lauren was brutally murdered, I'm angry about that.
Being strong isn't about violence nor is being kind about being weak.
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I see how Lauren is such a good person. Apple doesn't fall from the tree. She got this from her parents. Especially when her father showed so much compassion and hugged Nathan's parents. Lauren and her father are beautiful people. I know she's dead but she is still beautiful even after death. May she rest in peace and her family one day find peace.
As someone who was the victim of breakup violence at 18/19, I want to commend Lauren’s family and you for sharing Lauren’s story. There is no telling how many lives you will save, how many ripples this creates, how many dominoes this will knock over, because y’all shared. It’ll make a parent think differently as they parent their child. It’ll make someone see the situation they’re in differently. I’m really thankful. Because once you’re in it, it’s hard to get out. But naming it, and education, make all the difference.
I remember hearing about this case a couple years ago, and it was stated that Nathan admitted that he freaked out because her body started making noises in the backseat of his car and started to smell while he was driving her body to the marsh and stabbed her again because he thought she was still alive.
We have to teach our kids to practice accepting rejection when they’re little and keep reinforcing that.
My daughter was in preschool when we started talking to her about boundaries and personal space. And if she lost a friend, offer support and comfort but also explain that everyone has choices and we have to let people go even when we don’t want to
We can love from a distance and know that we will make new friends
I remember when my boyfriend broke up with me when I was in high school. I felt like my life was over. I went into deep depression. Now I’m in my 40s but I remember the feelings so clearly
I know this is off topic, but I would love to hang out with your cat, they look so sweet and snuggly and chill in the background...
I think this too 😊
Hi Kendall watching all the way from Puerto Rico 🇵🇷!!!! Also I am learning Norwegian!! Fluent in Italian , Spanish and American Sign Language 🤟 I’m half Italian and Puertorrican and I love your Channel !!!!
I literally just want to give Lauren's parents a hug. 🥺 They've shown great strength in losing their only child who had so much promise. It's a pain I can't imagine.
You can tell the nature of the people by the children they raise and Lauren seemed a lovely young lady. I hope they find comfort in their memories of her and the legacy of her tragedy x
ah eleanor neale and kendall rae upload today, you two are single handedly getting me through finals
Eleanor & Christina uploaded the same story today
Hahah so we all watch Christina and Kendall and Eleanor 😂
@raeli2229her accent is too much for me sometimes I totally get it 😅
I can’t get thru just a few seconds of Elenor’s videos 😫 the accent sounds too fakish.
kimberleigha is soooo slept on
The mothers statement about not being called mom ever again broke my heart. 😭😭
This was truly heartbreaking, this poor girl did not deserve this at all. 18 is no age!! Lauren's mum and dad are absolutely amazing and what they are doing is remarkable. I do think Nathan should stay in prison, he knew what he did and like Lauren's mum said why should he get to live a regular life when her daughter can't!! So so sad 😢
My first boyfriend (who was older than he should have been) attacked me after I broke up with him around 18 years old...terrifying how common this is.
I always wanted you to do this story, Lauren was a beautiful gifted young girl who was taken at such a young age. And Nate threw his whole life away and he too was a gifted athlete. Sad story all around!! When I watched her story on 48 hours, man the interviews with her dad absolutely killed me, poor guy.
Perhaps if this education took place as teens, it could also prevent post-divorce/separation violence when they become adults. I will definitely have better conversations with my daughter thanks to this episode.
This is such a sad story. I can tell how hard this story was to tell but I am amazed at the strength her parents have shown… Thank you Kendal ❤️
This happened very local to me. Thank you so much for covering this case Kendall you never fail to disappoint. Love your videos ❤
I’m a Spanish native speaker watching and listening your true crime vids to practice my english😊 I’ve learned a lot, thank you Kendall❤😊
Thank you for sharing Lauren's story. Thank you for bringing awareness to break up violence.