I was a magnet for BPD female friends. I realized this pattern & where this came from, bc I was raised ALWAYS having to please & sooth my Mother, bc I was her scapegoat. It is HELL being a favourite person to a BPD. They shredded me while I felt it was my job to pander to their relentless bullshit. Healed now & I don't attract them anymore.
The same thing happened to me, but then I saw the enterprise be get sucked into the Nexus. But I didn't fully end the relationship until she forced me to leave my body....
I'm really sorry to hear that you're feeling this way. BPD can be incredibly challenging, but remember that you're not alone. There are communities and resources out there that can help.
@DrDanielFox fear of abandonment and insecure attachment issues, difficulty trusting others or myself...30 years of abuse by my mother and only came to realize that 3 years ago. I feel horrible that I am so insecurely attached to my amazing psychologist who has helped me climb out of the pit. Is it okay if therapy takes 3 or more years?
@@matturso2224 if you still need it then yes, good therapy shouldn't take several years sure but if regardless what you still need therapy then it's okay to keep going just as long as you do truly need it
I have a hard time separating myself from living my life around my FP. BPD has driven me to be single and despite this I think it’s for the best. I now am in therapy to learn to love myself and become a person in which I am still able to be myself in my future relationships
I had a spiritual awakening last year, it was strange, scary and beautiful. I started going to Church more and praying more, I feel a little better now.
As a former BPD sufferer, I recommend all external people detach and use strong boundaries. It can force the person to experience ego death which is the way through to healing. Say "no" and work on the feeling of guilt that results.
The main issue is that there are so many codependent people out there! I enabled my friend with BPD until in the end I couldn't cope. I started putting boundaries in place and started doing half the work to maintain a friendship. She was very angry with me. But has since reached out for DBT therapy. She's high functioning so has slipped through the net. By chance, a brand new service is opening in our region and she is set to start long term group therapy. She's still very resentful that I was "right" (in her mind). We're still friends, but thankfully I'm no longer a favourite person
He has one already I think about how to deal with losing your favorite person... try searching dr fox favorite person maybe 🤔 I just watched it the other day but it's not new
I like listening to these to better understand my girlfriend. I’m her “favorite person”, and it has been really rough for the relationship. I want to get better at forgiving her or helping her learn to manage it
As someone with cPTSD (same symptoms as BPD for the most part), I can tell you it takes a really fine balance between having firm boundaries, but also being kind, never lying to her, and making time for her. Learning the validation skill in DBT will help you both. Good luck, friend!
I know this so well, but it's getting a lot better lately. What helps me most is getting really familiar with the pattern and knowing triggers.. Notice signs as early as possible and do opposite action. But I think it's most important to be with people with safe boundaries. I try to remind me everyday of how important it is to work on it for the long term reward of having a meaningful relationship. It's still hard and I fall into the trap once in a while but I feel like it's getting a bit easier to understand every time.
The level of entitlement felt with messages, especially FB messages, or text messages, fed into my recent isolation. It does seem to be everyone, if they don't get an answer in a certain timeframe, they assume something is wrong or youre intentionally ignoring them. I felt like any message was another piece of pressure and another person placing expectations onto me, that i just couldn't meet. I stopped responding to the majority of people for a few years. I developed panic attacks each time i tried to get through my inbox. I'm working on coming out of isolating now. Making and keeping friends is important when times are both rough and smooth.
My BPD ex misinterpreted every single text...she would then throw a fit, cut me off from all forms of communication...thankfully I ended the relationship after a year and a half of chaos.
Aaron doughty pedestal video helped me recognize when it was happening. Usually when I trust too early in the connection and lose my healthy boundaries...often after some love bombing or too fast attachment....turning off my notifications for texts helped with my patience for expecting fast responses.... remembered they might be busy &or HUMAN error....ect....but if it happens too often and they know its hurting me unapologetically or not warning me they do it often with everyone & its not just me....i have self respect & cut ties...
My therapist is my favorite person, I think. Not sure if it's the same because I am pretty aware and well behaved in person. Also, I don't actually feel better when I am there with him, it's more like when I am alone really feeling this pain and dread that's always there, I long for him to soothe me. It feels like another person can make me feel better but then in person I feel completely disconnected or terrified from anyone, even him, which makes it feel a bit hopeless.
What if the therapist would approach you and soothe you? Would that feel better or worst? I am asking because I have a friend that sends mixed signals, I see the terror when I get close, but feel the fear when I try to pull back. I don’t know how to help? I feel like it’s shear terror and it breaks my heart
@@wheelofhands thank you so much for responding. I wish you all the best on your journey to healing..I always try to send comforting vibes from far hoping it would reach my friend… I know he finds me comforting but through music he lets me know that he can’t get close but that just my presence comforts
I feel like I’ve outwardly seemed pretty reasonable with not expecting too much texting, even if I do find it stressful. But being with an inconsistent partner who promises to check in just once per day while on a trip and not coming through really flared things up bad. And I feel like I also keep many of my doubts and neurotic signs of things falling apart to myself, but they actually end up being spot-on regularly. It’s hard to know if I should really be talking myself down from these thoughts or not when they actually end up true
I hear you! If they're not checking in --> they're checking out. Everyone is different and I give a three strikes and you're out policy (give the other person three chances to change behaviour). If no phone call when they promised to ring me then they're out, bye bye, see ya later if it happens three times. They are just not interested in me. I have a "do not message me" policy for romantic partners I ask them from the get go to never text me, send emojis I prefer phone calls --like it was in my younger days -- as I noticed a pattern of feeling unappreciated and disrespected when they did not send a text in a timely courteous manner. This has relieved a humungous tremendous massive amount of anxiety and stress from myself.
Well could it also be that these things come true because your beliefs come out in subtle/not so subtle ways? I was with someone with what I strongly suspect to be quiet bpd and he told me often how he holds himself back - but it still came out in subtle ways in our conversations which was extremely stressful for me...
I'm screaming inside. When I'm in distressed i shut down and don't talk to my husband. He comes across that he knows everything about my disability but yet he will put me down over and over again. He doesn't see that it is harmful to my thinking. I want to go outside and scream and at times it helps but i have leaned to shut down and just think. I get busy doing things around the house and also stay quiet. I am trying to take care of me but my husband's mood swings are so difficult to deal with. I can't afford a therapist. Thank you for your help
I am very independent when not in a relationship, however once I am in one I can feel very much abandoned, disrespected and unappreciated due to slow texting, SMS, messaging back to me --- this form of communication is the worst invention if a response is not forthcoming in a timely manner. I now say (at the start of any relationship) I hate words, I hate messaging but I love phone calls and I love verbal conversation. This is my boundary/expectation now. Do NOT text me ever!! Not sure if I have BPD or favorite person but I know this works for me. A delay in a message response is not neutral for me. Is this BPD or just a average normal response/coping mechanism? In the old days (1990s!!!) we had fixed phones. Now we have cell phones. No excuse to not talk and hear someones voice. #ILoatheMessaging
My favourite person is my wife, and I have managed my BPD for a long time now. She hardly ever replies to my texts right away ( sometimes hours later) but it doesn’t bother me.
Favorite person: The down side, BPD;;s see only in black and white, favorite= white,then when the bpd turns you black, they will be keying your car tomorrow like a 10 year old,
Why is my FP always my therapist? I have bounced around from therapist to therapist trying to connect with someone, but the only time I have ever had an FP, it has been with a special therapist that i really connected with. Why? Why not a friend?
because your therapists were always the people you would dump your problems to and they would help you try and manage the problem as is part of therapy, if not friends is probably because they can't provide the same, in my experience my therapist isn't my FP but my fiancé is and I'm his FP mutually, we've both had horrible hurdles and amazing highs and are mutually working on each other and ourselves
It's completely normal to feel that way sometimes. Connection is important, and it can be tough when you're missing that presence. Have you talked to her about how you feel?
I have recently discovered i have BPD. I build a life for my favorite person, i told him i will take care of him. Once i realize what this was, i decided to leave him to understand bpd and how can i manage these maladaptive patterns. I also have a question. Can i become my own favorite person?
Yes, research shows that BPD symptoms tend to improve as we get older. It may be that we gain insight and get better at managing symptoms like impulsivity and managing emotions. I think our willingness to work on things and not give up might contribute to that, too. Things can get better. Best wishes.
Sometimes through life experiences and getting beat down a little it causes you to find the real root of your issues. It's hard to get to the root when you don't have much life experience and are still figuring it out. Age, Wisdom, changes to your physiology all play a part in it getting easier over time.
@ I find that to be true...except the fact that when i do finally spiral like in a rage or depression it feels soooo much extreme and lasting....idk tho i have a whole lot going on really...34 dx at 12/13 so i have expeirence ugh
My current favorite person was my heartless therapist Nicole. She hurt me deeply! Thinking back throughout my childhood and teen years, those people who were my favorite person hurt me in the end. One way or another my experiences with these favorite people have ended dramatically and painfully. I feel like I'm doomed to be isolated and unloved by someone outside my family.
BPD is Trauma...developmental trauma..ADD...a deficient dopamine disorder because they didn't get the attention as young children to form the dopamine correctness... Anyways, I think I got rid of my BPD...through inner healing...but now have ADHD Or Whatever...
I get what you're saying but this is both true and false ADHD starts in early childhood, if you have it recently diagnosed then you were diagnosed late as for BPD you cannot cure BPD, you "getting rid" of it isn't that you cured it, but you learning to manage it over time I'm at that stage where I'm typically really good at controlling it compared to a few years ago, and can hold a relationship now, but when stress gets really bad it will rear it's ugly head again, and that's okay, because we now have the skills to manage when that happens also ADHD is a major contributor to the development of BPD and there is a lot of evidence to back this up too /info
I have a weird situation. My favorite person is the facilitator at NAMI group. I got real upset that he spent more time on someone else today. But, instead of taking over group to get his attention, I'm pulling away say I'm Never going to group therapy again.
At least you recognise it. Maybe this gives you space to take a deep breath and try to respond more skillfully? Maybe you need more groups or outlets to develop that space between yourself and your FP?
BPD stands for Borderline Personality Disorder, and 'BPD and family' refers to how this condition can impact family dynamics and relationships. It's a complex topic, but it’s important to understand!
@DrDanielFox thank you. I was diagnosed with BPD 4 years ago. Your videos are quite helpful in understanding what I experience (suffer from!). Thank you so much!
How do you know if your being manipulated by your partner or weather it's all in your head? I'm struggling to not fight with him but I really feel he's doing it
@DrDanielFox I may not be able to self diagnose but if my diagnosis would be bpd which I severely understand to be of the quiet type, I should try to get the fix regardless because everyshould try communicating better in relationships anyway 😇 But I am indeed the only one suffering from my mind being this way at the end of the day and it's a real struggle regardless 😔
UGHHHHHHH I HATE your insistence on using AI-generated thumbnails, it is just insulting to real hard working Artists that this lazy lame program steal from
Being a pwbpd's favourite person is hell as they become wholly emotionally dependent upon you. No wonder they repeatedly attract co-dependents (such as myself 😭). Great video as always Dr. Fox. 👏
i actually was diagnosed as a teen (will be 27 this year) and i recently was cheated on. this sorta opened my eyes a bit but i still have questions.. can you have more than 1 fp? is it common to 'Play the role" of a chill partner while brewing inside? and finally; is there any hope romantically for people like i?
A coworker at my job has chosen the manager to be her favorite person. The manager is a narcissist. This is not going to end well. I pray that I won't be around when this house of cards fall. Because sooner or later the narcissist will discard the borderline and the petulant borderline will snap 🫢. Think Single White Female.
I was a magnet for BPD female friends. I realized this pattern & where this came from, bc
I was raised ALWAYS having to please & sooth my Mother, bc I was her scapegoat.
It is HELL being a favourite person to a BPD.
They shredded me while I felt it was my job to pander to their relentless bullshit.
Healed now & I don't attract them anymore.
The same thing happened to me, but then I saw the enterprise be get sucked into the Nexus. But I didn't fully end the relationship until she forced me to leave my body....
My “favorite person” is always the person I’m in a relationship with.
It's hell in my head with BPD
I'm really sorry to hear that you're feeling this way. BPD can be incredibly challenging, but remember that you're not alone. There are communities and resources out there that can help.
@DrDanielFox fear of abandonment and insecure attachment issues, difficulty trusting others or myself...30 years of abuse by my mother and only came to realize that 3 years ago.
I feel horrible that I am so insecurely attached to my amazing psychologist who has helped me climb out of the pit.
Is it okay if therapy takes 3 or more years?
_"black hole"_ for real 😢
@@matturso2224 if you still need it then yes, good therapy shouldn't take several years sure but if regardless what you still need therapy then it's okay to keep going
just as long as you do truly need it
I feel the same way. Like Hiroshima is exploding in my head and soul. Also that i am drowning and can't breathe under the weight of emotions.
I have a hard time separating myself from living my life around my FP. BPD has driven me to be single and despite this I think it’s for the best. I now am in therapy to learn to love myself and become a person in which I am still able to be myself in my future relationships
The isolation of BPD to avoid abandonment can lead to a spiritual awakening.
..... painful as it is ..... 2 things will take you further...if you don't do them already.
I had a spiritual awakening last year, it was strange, scary and beautiful. I started going to Church more and praying more, I feel a little better now.
@belle3055 that's not a spiritual awakening.....
As a former BPD sufferer, I recommend all external people detach and use strong boundaries. It can force the person to experience ego death which is the way through to healing. Say "no" and work on the feeling of guilt that results.
Thank you for sharing your perspective! Setting strong boundaries is definitely a crucial step in the healing process for everyone involved.
The main issue is that there are so many codependent people out there! I enabled my friend with BPD until in the end I couldn't cope. I started putting boundaries in place and started doing half the work to maintain a friendship. She was very angry with me. But has since reached out for DBT therapy. She's high functioning so has slipped through the net. By chance, a brand new service is opening in our region and she is set to start long term group therapy. She's still very resentful that I was "right" (in her mind). We're still friends, but thankfully I'm no longer a favourite person
Could you possibly create a video discussing the emotional impact of a breakup or divorce on someone with BPD?
He has one already I think about how to deal with losing your favorite person... try searching dr fox favorite person maybe 🤔 I just watched it the other day but it's not new
I like listening to these to better understand my girlfriend. I’m her “favorite person”, and it has been really rough for the relationship. I want to get better at forgiving her or helping her learn to manage it
I understand man.
As someone with cPTSD (same symptoms as BPD for the most part), I can tell you it takes a really fine balance between having firm boundaries, but also being kind, never lying to her, and making time for her. Learning the validation skill in DBT will help you both. Good luck, friend!
You aren’t responsible for her, her actions, thoughts, or emotions. You need to focus on boundary setting. SHE is the ONLY ONE who can heal herself.
@@jamiesexton2522cPTSD and BPD have radically different symptoms.
I know this so well, but it's getting a lot better lately. What helps me most is getting really familiar with the pattern and knowing triggers.. Notice signs as early as possible and do opposite action. But I think it's most important to be with people with safe boundaries. I try to remind me everyday of how important it is to work on it for the long term reward of having a meaningful relationship. It's still hard and I fall into the trap once in a while but I feel like it's getting a bit easier to understand every time.
The level of entitlement felt with messages, especially FB messages, or text messages, fed into my recent isolation. It does seem to be everyone, if they don't get an answer in a certain timeframe, they assume something is wrong or youre intentionally ignoring them. I felt like any message was another piece of pressure and another person placing expectations onto me, that i just couldn't meet. I stopped responding to the majority of people for a few years. I developed panic attacks each time i tried to get through my inbox.
I'm working on coming out of isolating now. Making and keeping friends is important when times are both rough and smooth.
You are an excellent reference point to those with BPD and those of us who try to assist. Thank you. Your efforts are appreciated.
My BPD ex misinterpreted every single text...she would then throw a fit, cut me off from all forms of communication...thankfully I ended the relationship after a year and a half of chaos.
Bullets dodged.
"you're quicky becoming my favorite person" .... RUN
I'm so glad this video was helpful for you. I wish you well.
Aaron doughty pedestal video helped me recognize when it was happening. Usually when I trust too early in the connection and lose my healthy boundaries...often after some love bombing or too fast attachment....turning off my notifications for texts helped with my patience for expecting fast responses.... remembered they might be busy &or HUMAN error....ect....but if it happens too often and they know its hurting me unapologetically or not warning me they do it often with everyone & its not just me....i have self respect & cut ties...
This is me.. hopping from one friend, one work colleague and one crush to the next and the next and next.. Its exhausting.
My therapist is my favorite person, I think. Not sure if it's the same because I am pretty aware and well behaved in person. Also, I don't actually feel better when I am there with him, it's more like when I am alone really feeling this pain and dread that's always there, I long for him to soothe me. It feels like another person can make me feel better but then in person I feel completely disconnected or terrified from anyone, even him, which makes it feel a bit hopeless.
What if the therapist would approach you and soothe you? Would that feel better or worst? I am asking because I have a friend that sends mixed signals, I see the terror when I get close, but feel the fear when I try to pull back. I don’t know how to help? I feel like it’s shear terror and it breaks my heart
I feel same way with my psychiatrist.
@@User2426-g5dpersonally, that hasn't and wouldn't currently help me. Not sure if that can change. Remember everyone is different
@@wheelofhands thank you so much for responding. I wish you all the best on your journey to healing..I always try to send comforting vibes from far hoping it would reach my friend… I know he finds me comforting but through music he lets me know that he can’t get close but that just my presence comforts
My FP leaving is what caused the series of events that led to me starting therapy and being diagnosed...I hate it...
I feel like I’ve outwardly seemed pretty reasonable with not expecting too much texting, even if I do find it stressful. But being with an inconsistent partner who promises to check in just once per day while on a trip and not coming through really flared things up bad. And I feel like I also keep many of my doubts and neurotic signs of things falling apart to myself, but they actually end up being spot-on regularly. It’s hard to know if I should really be talking myself down from these thoughts or not when they actually end up true
I hear you!
If they're not checking in --> they're checking out.
Everyone is different and I give a three strikes and you're out policy (give the other person three chances to change behaviour). If no phone call when they promised to ring me then they're out, bye bye, see ya later if it happens three times. They are just not interested in me.
I have a "do not message me" policy for romantic partners I ask them from the get go to never text me, send emojis I prefer phone calls --like it was in my younger days -- as I noticed a pattern of feeling unappreciated and disrespected when they did not send a text in a timely courteous manner. This has relieved a humungous tremendous massive amount of anxiety and stress from myself.
Well could it also be that these things come true because your beliefs come out in subtle/not so subtle ways? I was with someone with what I strongly suspect to be quiet bpd and he told me often how he holds himself back - but it still came out in subtle ways in our conversations which was extremely stressful for me...
My only favorite person was my cat Charley Brown who saved my life & after 20 years he got me home finally 😇
??? Charley is on the other side?
Then you do not have bpd and It is nice but thats not exactly the point 😅
It's impossible to find a doc or psych in my area who understands BPD. I hate the stigma that's often attached to it.
Yeah I'm in az and unfortunately the more conservative states focus less on the liberal social arts. 😢
And I like the word “activate” so much more than some other words that could be chosen. So I bite for “activate” as the word of choice. 💪🏼👍🏼
I'm screaming inside. When I'm in distressed i shut down and don't talk to my husband. He comes across that he knows everything about my disability but yet he will put me down over and over again. He doesn't see that it is harmful to my thinking. I want to go outside and scream and at times it helps but i have leaned to shut down and just think. I get busy doing things around the house and also stay quiet. I am trying to take care of me but my husband's mood swings are so difficult to deal with. I can't afford a therapist. Thank you for your help
You don't deserve to be put down, Hopefully you can at least find a talking group and build a wider support network
Excellent content and presentation and applicable solutions. 🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟
I'm so glad this video was helpful for you. I wish you well.
I am very independent when not in a relationship, however once I am in one I can feel very much abandoned, disrespected and unappreciated due to slow texting, SMS, messaging back to me --- this form of communication is the worst invention if a response is not forthcoming in a timely manner. I now say (at the start of any relationship) I hate words, I hate messaging but I love phone calls and I love verbal conversation. This is my boundary/expectation now. Do NOT text me ever!! Not sure if I have BPD or favorite person but I know this works for me. A delay in a message response is not neutral for me. Is this BPD or just a average normal response/coping mechanism? In the old days (1990s!!!) we had fixed phones. Now we have cell phones. No excuse to not talk and hear someones voice. #ILoatheMessaging
Thank you for this video Dr fox. It was helpful.
Really useful video. I feel that the FP has been the key component of my troubles. There's lots of practical advice, here, so thanks
I'm so glad this video was helpful for you. I wish you well.
My favourite person is my wife, and I have managed my BPD for a long time now. She hardly ever replies to my texts right away ( sometimes hours later) but it doesn’t bother me.
Favorite person: The down side, BPD;;s see only in black and white, favorite= white,then when the bpd turns you black, they will be keying your car tomorrow like a 10 year old,
Why is my FP always my therapist? I have bounced around from therapist to therapist trying to connect with someone, but the only time I have ever had an FP, it has been with a special therapist that i really connected with. Why? Why not a friend?
because your therapists were always the people you would dump your problems to and they would help you try and manage the problem as is part of therapy, if not friends is probably because they can't provide the same, in my experience
my therapist isn't my FP but my fiancé is and I'm his FP mutually, we've both had horrible hurdles and amazing highs and are mutually working on each other and ourselves
Oh my gosh! You just have ne the answer to my life !!!!!!! Thank you
My favourite person is my therapist
Could the favourite person be a therapist?
Yes. Happens a lot
Yes
I don't see why not!
I feel abandoned and empty when my gf goes to bed before me 🙈
It's completely normal to feel that way sometimes. Connection is important, and it can be tough when you're missing that presence. Have you talked to her about how you feel?
I have recently discovered i have BPD. I build a life for my favorite person, i told him i will take care of him. Once i realize what this was, i decided to leave him to understand bpd and how can i manage these maladaptive patterns. I also have a question. Can i become my own favorite person?
Thank you
You're very welcome. I'm glad the video was helpful. Be well.
hey doctor your mic sometimes makes weird noises while recording your video
Is the stereo type that BPD gets "easier" to manage as we age, is that because we tend to "un-alive"?
Yes, research shows that BPD symptoms tend to improve as we get older. It may be that we gain insight and get better at managing symptoms like impulsivity and managing emotions. I think our willingness to work on things and not give up might contribute to that, too. Things can get better. Best wishes.
Sometimes through life experiences and getting beat down a little it causes you to find the real root of your issues. It's hard to get to the root when you don't have much life experience and are still figuring it out. Age, Wisdom, changes to your physiology all play a part in it getting easier over time.
@ I find that to be true...except the fact that when i do finally spiral like in a rage or depression it feels soooo much extreme and lasting....idk tho i have a whole lot going on really...34 dx at 12/13 so i have expeirence ugh
Since it is a failure to adult, makes sense.
I had more problems with the narcissistic father of my BPD friend than herself.
My current favorite person was my heartless therapist Nicole. She hurt me deeply! Thinking back throughout my childhood and teen years, those people who were my favorite person hurt me in the end. One way or another my experiences with these favorite people have ended dramatically and painfully. I feel like I'm doomed to be isolated and unloved by someone outside my family.
BPD is Trauma...developmental trauma..ADD...a deficient dopamine disorder because they didn't get the attention as young children to form the dopamine correctness...
Anyways, I think I got rid of my BPD...through inner healing...but now have ADHD Or Whatever...
I get what you're saying but this is both true and false
ADHD starts in early childhood, if you have it recently diagnosed then you were diagnosed late
as for BPD you cannot cure BPD, you "getting rid" of it isn't that you cured it, but you learning to manage it over time
I'm at that stage where I'm typically really good at controlling it compared to a few years ago, and can hold a relationship now, but when stress gets really bad it will rear it's ugly head again, and that's okay, because we now have the skills to manage when that happens
also ADHD is a major contributor to the development of BPD and there is a lot of evidence to back this up too /info
Stop calling lack of hugs "trauma".
@@31minutesagowow
I preferred the thumbnails being just you, without the ai stuff
It’s been around 7months of constant work and I still get this fav person thing out of me ! It’s really really hard ! Like really !
people without sufficient logical reasoning skills loop this way
I have a weird situation. My favorite person is the facilitator at NAMI group. I got real upset that he spent more time on someone else today. But, instead of taking over group to get his attention, I'm pulling away say I'm Never going to group therapy again.
At least you recognise it. Maybe this gives you space to take a deep breath and try to respond more skillfully? Maybe you need more groups or outlets to develop that space between yourself and your FP?
What is 'BPD and family'?
BPD stands for Borderline Personality Disorder, and 'BPD and family' refers to how this condition can impact family dynamics and relationships. It's a complex topic, but it’s important to understand!
@DrDanielFox thank you. I was diagnosed with BPD 4 years ago. Your videos are quite helpful in understanding what I experience (suffer from!). Thank you so much!
I can't imagine idealzing someone. I guess being an atheist makes it impossible for me to think another being is wondrous.
✋😐 yep that’s me the favorite person
How do you know if your being manipulated by your partner or weather it's all in your head? I'm struggling to not fight with him but I really feel he's doing it
neutral third party can help figure it out, too
*whether
Idk what’s wrong with me but it’s something😮
My favorite person has had my number blocked for 2 years. 💔 Probably my fault but hard to know for sure since she just ghosted me.
I don't want to type a whole paragraph about my life it's pointless.
I hate my mind more than anything else in the world
That’s a split and it’s BPD amplifying your sense of rejection and isolation. Treatment can help.
@DrDanielFox I may not be able to self diagnose but if my diagnosis would be bpd which I severely understand to be of the quiet type, I should try to get the fix regardless because everyshould try communicating better in relationships anyway 😇
But I am indeed the only one suffering from my mind being this way at the end of the day and it's a real struggle regardless 😔
You can't spell PFA without FP.
UGHHHHHHH I HATE your insistence on using AI-generated thumbnails, it is just insulting to real hard working Artists that this lazy lame program steal from
I think you’re right. I don’t usually. I was trying it but I agree.
Being a pwbpd's favourite person is hell as they become wholly emotionally dependent upon you. No wonder they repeatedly attract co-dependents (such as myself 😭). Great video as always Dr. Fox. 👏
i actually was diagnosed as a teen (will be 27 this year) and i recently was cheated on.
this sorta opened my eyes a bit but i still have questions..
can you have more than 1 fp?
is it common to 'Play the role" of a chill partner while brewing inside?
and finally; is there any hope romantically for people like i?
A coworker at my job has chosen the manager to be her favorite person. The manager is a narcissist. This is not going to end well. I pray that I won't be around when this house of cards fall. Because sooner or later the narcissist will discard the borderline and the petulant borderline will snap 🫢. Think Single White Female.