Same here, There's a friend that I cut off recently..I notice more and more as I talk to that person its like they love throwing stuff about me in my face, They put words in my mouth saying stuff that I never once said to them & Its like every time I have a discussion with this person, They are quick to respond with "thats not me" or "I wouldn't do that" or "I hope I'm not one of those people" and I'm not even referring to this person and I keep telling them I'm not. Idk what the heck that stems from but its annoying.
You aren’t wrong about that! I let it happened then and I blame myself for it. I’m still working on myself not to be gullible and respecting others that can’t do the exact same thing for me 💪🏾 🙋🏾♀️
Iv`e had to cut so many people out of my life in the past to save my sanity. I didn`t bother to tell them why because they were too stupid to understand.
I have realized that these people already know why you are cutting them off, they are fully aware of how they have been treating you. They want an explanation when you decide to cut them off, why? because they want to see if you have figured them out, they want to see if you are not a dummy. They want to see if you are onto them and how they are treating you. They just want to keep you arguing with them and then they will just deny how they have been treating you as if you are a dummy and don't realize that they are treating you wrong. They want you to put up with their dysfunction. You aint gotta deal with that foolishness. puh lease
At this point in my life, I don’t hesitate to cut someone off, especially if my peace is being compromised. With that being said, I do it without explanation because that person knows exactly what he or she did.
I got tired of people using me, I got tired of people talking about me behind my back, acting funny in front of new people that come around, always calling me for something but I can't call them for nothing. These were 20-30 yr friends (so I thought). I had to step back and reevaluate every single person in my circle and realized they wasn't as loyal n supportive as I have been to them. I prayed for the Higher Power to give me strength to separate myself from people and I did. I'm kinda lonely now but the peace I have found is beautiful.
Exactly!! Life is too short to have people around you that clearly do not care about you. Once you seem starting to act funny towards you then it is time to start heading for the hills!!🏃💯
Baby girl there's only one way from down and that's back up. So pick yourself back up and fuck em all of and live live for you. Only ever have ppl in your life that serve you purpose for the path that has been laid out for you. Other ppl hold you back. Never go back on yourself. Good luck x
I always cut people without warning ⚠️ Guys this method works, Tyler you are saying the truth. Whenever I do this,they try coming back crawling 🤦🏾♀️ knowing they've been exposed🤣...
BlackIsthe Color. You are right it does work because there is a major conviction that happens and they begin to think. Some of them try and come back due to thinking why! Peace and blessings to you.
Had to cut my own mother off. The energy is so dark and evil...I had to make a decision in order to have peace. Took a long time to learn, but I'm glad I did. Great video!
It’ll crush you when they die.. my mom was the same way and very abusive but when she died this year 2020 i has many -and still have any conflicting emotions.. my mom was evil tho I tried to stay in touch but the whole family condemned me cause she raised demons thankfully I’m the black sheep. I saw through the bs.. I still miss her tho , only mom I knew .. n my real mom is a piece of work. I’m adopted.
Im known for cutting people off (since high school). They always get mad and start talking a lot of mess about you, BUT really get hurt when you find a better person to replace them.
Danielle M. You are so right for what you spoke! Yes a lot of get hurt when you cut them off without warning, even if you expose them they get mad and upset. Peace and blessings to you.
@@TylerJTII know I am late to the party, but I am happy to vent about my experience. Eiether way they are vindictive, which suggest that they are unworthy of your time, effort and energy. I am going through this as you speak. This individual used me as a free, unpaid therapist to relieve herself of personal issues. I got tired and started feeling emotionally and physically drained when talking to her. The straw that broke the camel's back was when she repeated what I said about someone to them. Interestingly, I never informed or questioned her about it. I thought why should I when already knows. I thought I could trust her and never did I repeat what she said about that individual or others for that matter. My biggest fear is guilt and not wanting to hurt their feelings. It's like carrying their load instead of what's in my best interest. Thanks, Tyler
Wow! I was told to change my phone number on some people ... it’s great seeing someone who did and the outcome .... you deserve your peace I’m really considering doing it but I’m trying to give (my family members a chance ) cause I’m not the type of person to treat people like that
These people are called narcissists and Psychopaths they are not your friends because if you stay around them long enough to mass usually slip off and you really see that they are not your friends you look up and be like oh my God who is that
Yup! 90 % of my family and friends were psychopaths and narcs. I notice they all had similar negative behaviors that all fit the narc or psychopath profile.
I just cut off almost my whole family and all my friends. They were never happy for me, always tried to find ways to treat me like an outsider, talk about me, anything bad happened to me they told anyone. I was abused, even threatened when I said I deserve equal respect. They destroyed my health and made me have a break down. They were hurting me so bad, I could barely take care of myself. I am now alone, and refuse to speak to any of them unless there is real accountability which I know will never happen.
Me too. Have I seen my family running to me, banging on my door,nope. They where devaluing because I wasnt giving in. I know my worth, and I know they are not part of it. Amen, blessed be. Xx
Thank you for posting this. This is where I’m at right now. Everyone is calling me a bad mom because I’m too depressed from the abuse to get out of bed. Barely taking care of myself.. and I’ve had enough. Going to my grandmas funeral. She was the only peace I had. Then I’ll never see anyone from that side of my family again. Maybe my Aunt. That’s about it. Hope you’re doing better and that you’re well on your healing journey. Try to get therapy if you haven’t.
Me either. I never knew, some1 who look better than u, endowed than u, convincing tactic than u, have more money than u can hate u JUST ONLY bcus u r always happi nd u have a plan. I think fake Friends and narcissist did not arrive from heaven.
I was in a job filled with negative people for 4 years. The job was miserable and brought the worst out of all of us. I recently started a new job and the positive attitudes of the people who work there actually struck me as strange. I've felt weird when people smile at me or compliment me. My old job really took something from me. It changed me. Im not as angry or depressed. I feel like I'm becoming myself again. It's slow and gradual but positivity is contagious..just like negativity.
@@PatriciaJonesLJ Hey Patricia you can just start your own business, I'm sure God has put this desire in your heart. Sometimes God allows situations to arise on the job because He is calling us higher and he is trying to push you out of there. Don't settle for less, God doesn't want us to be unhappy putting up with toxic environments. So step out on faith and start your own business you are gifted and that is why you are under attack on your job. I feel this for you prophetically. You are a CEO. Follow your heart, Follow your dreams, Follow God, God is speaking to you and don't second guess God go with how you feel about things. When we are going through a lot on a job it is usually an indicator that God is speaking to you through how you feel about the situation. Do not ignore how you feel. Just start working on a get out plan and don't tell nobody what you are planning on doing.
I had to cut a 15+ year friend off the other day. Dark entities has hijacked our connection and i just cant do it anymore. the hardest thing i ever had to do because i really do love her. I wish her nothing but the best and i know that she will be succesful in life. no hard feelings. truly
Unfortunately a lot of women aren't enthusiastic when their female friends achieve something. When I tell about my achievements or simply good news, my male friends are happy for me, but female friends are somehow critical. I can tolerate negative behavior for a certain time, but when it's too much of it and the situation doesn't change, then I just break the contact, once and forever. You are 100% right.
Females are messy when if you still apologize to them they get mad like why you haven't talken to me so long but than you still like my pictures on social media for no reason without saying no word to me. This is why I cut her off due to fact of this .. because deep down I know wassup . Block and delete number .. when you see me I will treat you as a stranger
Natalia Valieva The opposite applies to me. My female friends don't have a need to compete with me. When they notice good happening in my life they warmly congratulate me. A lot of my "bros"? Wow. I've witnessed jealousy so intense it was almost comical
@Tray Ross That's right! I agree 100%! Fuck those people, they don't know what the Hell is going on with the person who is constantly under attack dealing with these narcissist who are manipulative toxic two-face using childish tactics and using false guilt as well. Family are the worse than these M.F.'s out here in society. Who is ready to get over and take advantage. Most people are your enemy in general. Especially when money comes into the picture. A person can't grow in peace being surrounded by negative toxic energy vampires.
I've cut off so many people without warning. I saw they weren't really for me and I figured it was best to depart from them peacefully. I'm at so much peace now
Right, and it is usually directed at non relatives which is a no brainier. Most harm are the result of relatives. Counselors and therapists rarely if ever discuss cutting off family members, but instead try to find ways to keep them together regardless of the damage.
Because they're a bunch of suck-ups who like to intermittently THROW their siblings under the bus even though they own houses (and that sibling is a broke person who doesn't at least steal shit like the other ones or act like a interfering drama queen for like like my ex sister)
I agree. Just had to exclude couple of people but after the warning. Boundaries are beautiful. They show self love in fact. Self respect. Thank you very much 😉
Tyler JTI you know what I like about you, is that you do reply to comments. I believe because you take what you do seriously. Reciprocity is so important. Blessing to you!
PREACH! I have cut people off with NO warning and it was the best thing I ever did for my peace and self-value! You are on point. Not everyone needs to understand why you have walked out. Some need to feel the fire and deal with it alone. Those that you have described are jealous energies that hold us back from purpose and authenticity. Thank you.
That's exactly what I did, I have no time for fake friends and people who only want to talk when somthing is in it for them and when I need someone to talk to, they're no where's no be found. I've given up so long ago on people like that!
Very well put. I have a very narcissistic friend who is into having toxic relationships with the wrong men. I feel like she is my friend when we hang out, that there is a real connection there, but then she ignores my messages until she is ready to hang out again and talk about her disaster of a life with some time waster. Done.
Hit the nail on the head... bulls eye! You were so right when you said to not even bother telling these folks that they're being chopped, and why. In my experience, all they'll try to do is (1) deny what they did, (2) try to con you into remaining friends with them, or (3) blame YOU for whatever went wrong (narcissists)! It's funny when after I give them the boot, they try to crawl back: buttering me up to try to back into my good graces. Nope--not worth it to me. When true colors come out, I never forget. They know what they did. Great message! 💯
My best “buddy” treated me this way. Never there for me then when I got a mortgage he came at me looking for free rent. I cut him off without any explanation and the same thing with a girl I know. When id message her to talk she would read my messages and ignore them. Then she’d come back days later when convenient for her and ignore the content of my previous messages but just talk about herself. I cut her off too. So happy to be free of these people.
This is speaking to me fr. I love the way you think. I cut my mom and sisters off 7 years ago and i had to see them at funerals but i didn't even look at those energy sucking witches. As a matter of fact my great aunt's funeral is tomorrow and I will go to the viewing for 30 minutes then I'm out. I have not time for messy, fake, users who drain the life from me.
@@FinishTheRaceVL7 I've even had to see them in the past 2 years and God showed me that I made the right decision. They have a lot of work to do on themselves and I want peace in my life so that's what I chose.
@@TheSuperbeauty24 Some women are literal witches. Secretly practicing witchcraft behind closed doors. Not to be off topic, but this very well could relate to how you described your mom and sisters. That demonic stuff can be generational. Jesus can destroy their works
Just went through this with a family member. Could never count on him to do what he was supposed to do. Always blowing me off, never having time, only squeezing me in when it was most convenient for him. Wanted to control everything all the time, wouldn't respond to texts, wanted me to listen to his problems but felt burdened to listen to mine. I'd had enough. I'm too old for this shit. Either you're in or you're out. No half stepping.
I have a Hard time cutting my family off because they are All I’ve known since birth. I wanna tell you guys something everything he’s saying is true if you don’t cutt them off you will feel bad about yourself People who can’t follow simple instructions on how to treat u don’t deserve you to be around
I needed to hear this. I’m in a toxic relationship and I have to cut her off. Built a house, she was not happy. Started my own business, she was not happy, everything I have accomplished in the past three years has upset her. I have to let her go.
I’ve encountered soooo much people like this in my life!!! I’ve cut like almost everybody off and I’m so at peace!!!!! NO DRAINAGE round hurrrr I’m only open to genuine and loving people like myself!!! And people who know how to reciprocate and pour back into you!!!! I love how you express TRUTH
PREACH PREACH!! I got tired of explaining what they did wrong to me and they knew they were. There was no shows, cold shoulders, ignorant comments, talking behind my back, back stabbings, frontin and two faced. I got totally drained coming to them about it, and happidly ROLLED.
It's best to cut certain people off who are doing wrong without warning or explanation? Those type of breed of people bring unnecessary stress that is toxic and will you high and dry. It's best to leave them high and dry for a change. Flip the script. But if it's someone who has always been kind and nice to you? Don't cut them off. Even, if they overstep their boundaries just being themselves. Try to reason with them without hurting their feelings. But if it's conceited person with no heart and soul of being good. Cut those jerks off. They're not worthy of your friendship or you as a person. Tyler, you're right on it again. Great video. Pure genius.
Cool4rocknroll You are so right because it will make them think then they will try and come back most of them why because the conviction inside of them but their pride don't want them to apologize nor to acknowledge!Peace and blessings to you.
You're not only one @brenme35. I know the feeling. It's a living Hell. All I can say is? Stay on guard at all times. Don't let fear or other people's way of passive aggressive way of thinking change of how you really see things. Even if you have to stay low key. You can still win. Don't give up. You're not alone in this. We all go through this Shit. Yeah I hate it too. We as people must stick together and stay serious minded. Take Care. REPLY
Yes, good people who have been trying their best (and you can tell the difference) are people who you need to work with to keep in your life and not throw away over minor things. It's the people who don't give a damn that you need to cut off. What's crazy sometimes is when YOU are the person who was nice and tried your best to be a friend to a person and they still disappear and cut you off. That's a strange feeling. Even stranger when you see them in public and they act like nothing happened. I don't know how to explain that one, but it's happened to me a number of times. I've disciplined myself not to ask why the person cut me when I showed them love and respect, but it's still an awkward situation.
Some of my friends act like they're still in high school with all the drama and gossip, like they have to decide whether to let you in their little group. I want to say "grow the eff up, I don't need you to validate me by letting me hang out with all of you". They all drink too much any way.
I realized my substance abusing friends were too immature to keep dealing with. I'd been trying to affect personal growth for a long time and the quitting of an addiction on my end helped me see clearly that it was time to move on.
You are 100% right! That's why I don't look for any of my past friends or go to any of my high school reunions. I got a few of my childhood and high school friends that hit me up on FB I did not and REFUSE to accept their friends request even though I was very close to a few of them at the time the way I look at it is if we were such close friends at the time why didn't they stay in touch with me all these years but all of the sudden hit me up now? I tried everything I could at the time to keep in touch with them but they didn't seem to care so why should I? True we didn't have social media at the time but it still really wasn't that hard to stay in touch I get it over the years our lives change people get busy, move away, go in different directions in life, and so on but if you really want to keep those friends you will find a way to stay and keep in touch with them it's not that hard even b4 social media people do it all the time especially with familes and relatives so why not friends? Especially the close ones it's all about priority if you wanna stay in touch with that person if that friend even mean anything to you or worthy for you to keep in touch with.
I lost 60lbs twice after having 2 kids and I’ve been so happy I posted before & after pictures on my Snapchat, this girl I’ve known for years that I considered my friend she goes and says “but I liked you better like this(my before picture) “ I told her I was miserable because I was over weight she then laughed at me. Meanwhile everyone else was praising my transformation and asking me how I lost weight that when I realized I need to cut her off that’s weird thing to say to someone you call your “friend”
Oh the weight loss really hurts them. I’m gaining weight, I’m sure they are elated... but guess what, Sis, I got my gear on now- I won’t give my lower self OR these haters the satisfaction. I used to be 210. Loss weight and it exposed many people! Had a kid, and loss weight again... mind you, I had eyes and negative imaginations on my ability to snap back. I did. I just fell off for a couple months... again wit the eyes. Mmhmm! Do you & AMAZING job!
That's exactly it brother! Their pride refuses to acknowledge their conviction! And I'm getting too old for their childish behaviors and being stuck in a go nowhere drama while the good that God has given us goes on by..... Well, no more! Enough is enough already! Kick these folks out and make room for some truly grateful friends that will be there for you in return, friends that build up instead of tear you down. Thank you, For a good word!
I had to CUT Off my daughter. My sister. My past friendships and my brother. I am continuing to distance/ cut off everyone else. I am so done. I left my old job and there is no social media to find me.
100% RIGHT! I have already done what you are saying Tyler, now I'm left without many friends now, but happy in my decision in doing so. Cutting off people without warning makes them think about all the shit they have put you through, why you cut them off and they will miss you in the end, especially when they see your success without them! Definitely too old to tell people and argue about the truth of situations, frustrating shit, we gotta keep it moving.
DJ. Diva Dee. I am glad that you have done this and I am proud of you, I know that you have peace inwardly and around you. You are right. Thank you so much for your comment. Peace and blessings to you.
I'm the king of cutting people off/ ghosting them and not telling them why. They already know why so why waste the energy on it just to give them the ammo to change their ways to get back on your good side just to get back on your bad side again down the road. Don't make it easier for people to cover their tracks to get back in your circle. At the end of the day people won't ever change. They'll just try harder to hide their true intentions until they get comfortable and revert back to their bad ways.
I have not spoken my to brother and sister for at least the past 10 years. All of a sudden they appeared in front of my door. No apologies for the past wrong they did to me. They left the same day and and later e-mailed me informing me that they are coming back in 3 months because they saw how well I'm doing. I stopped them cold. I felt so much better after that. Thank you for the insight. Asian families can be notorious if they see that you are doing better than them financially. I don't care or give a hoot about their problems anymore.
You don't know what going on in their life , so you can't judge them . If someone apologize to you for the reason why they have stopped talking to you accept .. maybe they got family Prombles or kids and others things going on with their life. Just to be careful what you do.. because you or I don't know someone situation is .
@Sigma Blade I apology to someone that I stopped talking too due to family emergency for the past 6 months. Iv been busy working 2 jobs and started my career.. but honestly people get offended when you don't talk to them.. some people just don't know how to communicate with one another.. I did my part. But odd reason she would always like my pictures on Instagram without speaking to me . Unfortunately now it's going on a week or so. I decided to block her and delete her number, I haven't heard from her for a week going on 2 week now.. but we live in the same city like 5 mins away from each other. Honestly I don't have nothing to say.. but my mind my business. I realized that alot of us have our phones in our hands everyday
yes you are so right, cut the contact without warning and leave him for god, dont look back because it is not healthy for you to know what will happen with that person. leave him in his own learning process, whatever it looks like
I was feeling sorry for an oldschool friend with cancer. He is an abusive relationship and shows lack of integrity. He will not leave her..so I am leaving him to his karma.
Ditto, I played the fool for 30 years and finally cut them off after all the mental drama and emotional abuse. It's my mama, the ring leader and sisters that do all of the above. 🤡 🙈 🙊 🙉. Bye Felicias!
I’d like to add that especially if these people are over the age of 25-30 they’re probably good with who they are and won’t change. If their actions start to match their words, the relationship might be salvageable. Otherwise, just run.
I don't have any friends either a old friend of mine I used to buy him birthday gifts and when my birthday came around I don't get anything used to make him buy me things not even a card!!!
I used to have a "friend" like that - she wasn't the worst narcissist I've come across, by far not, but - she was a friend of my stalker's. My stalker later murdered my cat! This "friend" and my stalker conducted many years of an extensive smear campaign against me, whereby the stalker is still busy doing that (for over 17 years now) resulting from which nobody in my city even speaks to me. Whether the "friend" is still alive is unknown to me, both are very old people. My stalker is about 90. So, when I was still friends with this "friend", I used to give her and her husband really expensive gifts for Christmas or birthdays. The sort of gifts that, even though they were very well off, would still get appreciated, ie really good quality things. When it was my birthday or Christmas, she used to give me - old, second hand and clearly worn out cups and wallets from thrift stores!!! She also sold me an unroadworthy car, which I didn't realize as I was a brandnew driver and didn't know anyone who could have had a look at the car for me. Another set of "friends", highly manipulative and abusive people who also tried to kill my cat and who tried to drive me to insanity, and to whom I also gave expensive gifts on Christmas or birthdays, gave me - cheap chocolates filled with liquor. I don't drink alcohol! None of these people are still in my life, though the stalker is still stalking me because police protect him due to him being a wealthy celebrity.
I cut off my lying brother and sister who bought and lost their palatial houses they really could not afford to pay with their income. Wanting to move in with me, I told them right out I have a full house. No room for them. Why should I go through living with them. I want peace and order. No further explanation needed.
I cut off my whole family im saving up to move i still stay with them for the moment but i dont speak to them or hang around them i be to myself i stay prayed up for good changes to come in my life im the only person changing and growing while everyone around me stuck on stupid
I really needed this video I almost cried, cause I always get treated like dirt. For years I been trying to help people and got treated harshly for no reason but I can finally say I'm at peace removing everyone out my life.
This is such an amazing topic, thanks for doing it. I have learned 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽I let people go like it's nothing now in days...I sooo tired of being kind, now it's just me time...
Tyler this message is so good! And it's so true! This is exactly what I've recently dealt with. Thanks for confirming that I don't have to give warnings to people who have violated me. They are cut off...The End! 👏
Thank You Tyler, for the re-enforcement. Your right I'm getting too old for these situations. They spell help U-S-E. This is not just for friends but family too. One has to cut them off for the sake of your own sanity. Again, Thank You.
I had to do this to my father and brother recently. I always wondered what the heck was wrong with them. I started to realize they were narcissists and educated myself about that subject. Within a few weeks I went NO CONTACT. I learned enough about it that like you're saying I did do it without warning and without explanation. It's going on 4 months. I'm never turning back or breaking the no contact. I have plenty of things going for me and plenty of friends - a beautiful fiancee and the beautiful memory of my late wife who died suddenly 3 years ago. Their reactions to the sudden loss of my wife and to my dating again 2 years later and my recent engagement made it clear that they have no empathy. They're both toxic. I wish them no ill but I know I could never have a normal or supportive relationship with them. Well I could, but it would never be reciprocal. They're diordered.
Same here! This video gave me a lot of strength and I got people out of my life recently. But I had gotten them out before but gave in to myself rationalizing another chance of limited contact or full contact or whatever) This video gives me the strength to move forward and ways that all these other anti-narc videos don't
this video is very timely to me... because I am planning cut off my friends that are happiness suckers...I am always ready to listen to their drama but they are not willing to listen to mine and they are so judgemental and negative... I am more happy being alone than being with them
It's my own family members and my mother that use me put me down I never hear from them unless they want something iv had this for over 30 years it has impacted on my life so much I'm done with them I'd rather be alone than with them putting me down I'm done. I no I'm a good person
That is so true and not just friends , family as well,. In my situation it's mainly family. I have gotten to the point where I just don't care no more.
Preach brother! Sometimes you just got to do it unfortunately. I don't need any toxic people around me so I try to make the best decisions and keep it moving. 🤷🏼♂️
Over the past 6 years...I have cut off so many friends. Some were judgemental. Others weren't there for me when I needed them. And the last few were users. I cut em off cold Turkey without an explanation. They tried to reach out to me but I never responded...they were blocked!!! I have so much peace in my life and new friends who are genuine❤❤❤
That just happen to me but I cut her off completely now.. I was done with her totally now.. I block her on Instagram and delete her number . But she is so quick to like my photos on Instagram without speaking to me. But when I apology as a adult for the reason why I stopped talking to her due to fact of my family emergency that's has been happening since 6 months. But she didn't show no care .. I knew she wasn't a real friend though.. I got attached to someone who wasn't deserving my time.. but unfortunately we live in the same city
Sometimes when one tells someone how they have offended u, they might over talk u & not let u talk . Facebook post said if someone won't let u talk, don't talk.
I did that and the narcissist wanted to work it out when you really cut them off even if you think they don’t care they actually do they feed off you they need you ! So the best thing to do is don’t conversate or react when they say unnecessary things it’ll make them think what they said and back track to the reason why your not fighting and trying to prove a point just let them be and watch how they tuck their tail because silence is really powerful.
I had a Pisces friend who manipulates situations into her favor. She talks about friends behind each other's back this in turn causes conflict among the friends. This person only calls when they have something to brag about. Only helps when it benefits her. She causes drama and doesn't own up to it.
You're correct. I recently had a conversation with her I asked her to stop calling me B@tch, She justified it by telling me that she calls her sister that. Then she told me that I'm just in my feelings.
I agree. We had a conversation I expressed to her that I don't like being called b@tch. She justified it by saying that is what she calls her sisters, and that I must be in my feelings. I don't need that negativity.
miss le Not sure why you mentioned Pisces since usually people under that sign are supposed to be very considerate of others. She seems like not a nice person in general you don't have to talk to her.
M1234 I mentioned her sign because from my experience they seem sincere but play for both sides. It is a manipulative sign and those who aren't aware get played .
miss le As a Pisces who behaves like a real friend and a real person I implore you to judge someone based on their actions, not by their astrological sign? There are good and bad people in each sign and people often do what you expect them to based on preconceived notions, in my experience and my opinion.
Once I notice disloyalty in you it's over immediately no matter the person.
Same here, There's a friend that I cut off recently..I notice more and more as I talk to that person its like they love throwing stuff about me in my face, They put words in my mouth saying stuff that I never once said to them & Its like every time I have a discussion with this person, They are quick to respond with "thats not me" or "I wouldn't do that" or "I hope I'm not one of those people" and I'm not even referring to this person and I keep telling them I'm not. Idk what the heck that stems from but its annoying.
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It ain’t about that, it’s the fakery, if you don’t fwm, they stop checking on a man fool . Simple, if you DONT FWM THEN DONT FWM
People be handing me the scissors all the time.
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I cut people off with them Hot and Cold personalities, they take your availability for weakness
I love ur quote
Hot and Cold = No
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Yep!
Precisely 🌎✌️👌
When you respect yourself too much to be taken advantage of, you have to be comfortable being alone.
You are absolutely correct
Yep I adore my own company!
Yes!
Yes!! Being comfortable alone is better than being in bad company
You aren’t wrong about that! I let it happened then and I blame myself for it. I’m still working on myself not to be gullible and respecting others that can’t do the exact same thing for me 💪🏾 🙋🏾♀️
Family is usually worse than friends. I’m personally on a zero tolerance zone. I’m okay with being by myself and Netflix and prime lol
Lol I just suggested that Netflix movie pop corn shit just enjoy life 4 real 4 real
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Thank you, that's why im getting divorced
@@accountcompromised2166 Nothing like fresh air! Enjoy!
When people show you who they are the first time believe them!!!!!
And then get rid of them!!! FOR GOOD
If they are rude to you, it’s not you. It them and it shows you their true colors.
CUT them off without warning I tried it and now I have inward peace ..no more energy drainers in my life
Iv`e had to cut so many people out of my life in the past to save my sanity. I didn`t bother to tell them why because they were too stupid to understand.
catherine birch 😂😂😂😂
LOL... you got that right! No point in wasting your breath trying to reason with the stupid.
Sometimes they already know, but they choose to play dumb. They don’t want to be accountable for their actions.
Absolutely
So stupid to understand
I have realized that these people already know why you are cutting them off, they are fully aware of how they have been treating you. They want an explanation when you decide to cut them off, why? because they want to see if you have figured them out, they want to see if you are not a dummy. They want to see if you are onto them and how they are treating you. They just want to keep you arguing with them and then they will just deny how they have been treating you as if you are a dummy and don't realize that they are treating you wrong. They want you to put up with their dysfunction. You aint gotta deal with that foolishness. puh lease
Exactl! U nailed it
Amazing comment!❤
I just cut my upstairs neighbors off
Damn you too smart and 1million% right
Narcissistic behaviour at its finest 😐
At this point in my life, I don’t hesitate to cut someone off, especially if my peace is being compromised. With that being said, I do it without explanation because that person knows exactly what he or she did.
Facts
Yes this is it! Same here! 💯✂️
That’s right!!!!
I got tired of people using me, I got tired of people talking about me behind my back, acting funny in front of new people that come around, always calling me for something but I can't call them for nothing. These were 20-30 yr friends (so I thought). I had to step back and reevaluate every single person in my circle and realized they wasn't as loyal n supportive as I have been to them. I prayed for the Higher Power to give me strength to separate myself from people and I did. I'm kinda lonely now but the peace I have found is beautiful.
GOD KNOWS HOW TO HANDLE OUR MATTERS BECAUSE HE IS CONCERNED ABOUT THOSE THINGS THAT CONCERN US
@@sabrinaalston1243 period
I know exactly how you feel!
Amen to that!!
Your alone not lonely god is love he does not change a very present help true friend who never lies and will help you❤️☮️✌️👌☮️
Cut ppl off without warning or explanation. So thankful I never struggled with the gift of goodbye. Excellent video King!
Exactly!! Life is too short to have people around you that clearly do not care about you. Once you seem starting to act funny towards you then it is time to start heading for the hills!!🏃💯
****once you see them is what I meant to say
Being alone. ...
And being lonely. ..
Are two completely different states of mind 😎 ✌ ❤ 777
Alone and lonely are two different things but both are capable of suiting me well. ✌🏿✌🏿💪🏿💪🏿
I’m 51
"I am alone but not lonely" A friend.
i used to feel lonely but i worked through that feeling, now i love being alone. i love my own company
@@theconsciousentrepreneurs198 Live for yourself. It's more peaceful.
Some people just want a front row seat to see you fall on your face..I went through this already, everything your saying is true ❤️
❤ ppl are so cold.
WORDZ 😎
They expect failure from u. Envious jealousy. Don't wanna see u succeed.
Baby girl there's only one way from down and that's back up. So pick yourself back up and fuck em all of and live live for you. Only ever have ppl in your life that serve you purpose for the path that has been laid out for you. Other ppl hold you back. Never go back on yourself.
Good luck x
I had a friend or should I say classmate that secretly like to see me fail! I just had to cut her off!!!!
Exactly! My cutoff game strong. I got tired of one sided relationships ! My key word is reciprocation.
Facts!!!!!
I had to let toxic people go, just negative, manipulating, bacstabbers.
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Some of “these people are Mom, dad, brothers, sisters, aunties, uncles and cousins
“These people” are not just “ friends “
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They are the worst fake family no thanks
Yet sapose to be loyal and confind into them then people who are not blood and they do the worst fuckery sneaky shit.
Miss Deatus Dang you just name every person on my list
I’ve distanced myself and stopped reaching out, focused on me, doing my thing etc. . Now people won’t stop trying to get back in with me.
I always cut people without warning ⚠️ Guys this method works, Tyler you are saying the truth. Whenever I do this,they try coming back crawling 🤦🏾♀️ knowing they've been exposed🤣...
BlackIsthe Color. You are right it does work because there is a major conviction that happens and they begin to think. Some of them try and come back due to thinking why! Peace and blessings to you.
Exposure is The Word!
Lol
Had to cut my own mother off. The energy is so dark and evil...I had to make a decision in order to have peace. Took a long time to learn, but I'm glad I did. Great video!
God bless you, I wish you happiness and peace in the future
Much love to you!❤
It’ll crush you when they die.. my mom was the same way and very abusive but when she died this year 2020 i has many -and still have any conflicting emotions.. my mom was evil tho I tried to stay in touch but the whole family condemned me cause she raised demons thankfully I’m the black sheep. I saw through the bs.. I still miss her tho , only mom I knew .. n my real mom is a piece of work. I’m adopted.
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You might be interested in Toxic Parents and Mothers Who Can't Love by Susan Forward and It's Not Your Fault by Beverly Engel
They always want an explanation when you've explained it so many times. They know, but don't want to accept it
They need your feedback to help them up their game. Dont fall for it.
Gabby L, u r on point.
@@godissogreat4u learned the hard way. Thx
@@gabbyl2960 Giving you a shout out for telling the TRUTH !!!!!!!
I agree with you 💯 percent !!!!
This made me cry because this is nothing but the TRUTH
The truth will set you free
@@blondebombshellharris2447 yeah but oftentimes the truth is very ugly.
@@calebproductions5970 It's way better to be set free with the ugly truth
Im known for cutting people off (since high school). They always get mad and start talking a lot of mess about you, BUT really get hurt when you find a better person to replace them.
Danielle M. You are so right for what you spoke! Yes a lot of get hurt when you cut them off without warning, even if you expose them they get mad and upset. Peace and blessings to you.
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@@TylerJTII know I am late to the party, but I am happy to vent about my experience. Eiether way they are vindictive, which suggest that they are unworthy of your time, effort and energy. I am going through this as you speak. This individual used me as a free, unpaid therapist to relieve herself of personal issues. I got tired and started feeling emotionally and physically drained when talking to her. The straw that broke the camel's back was when she repeated what I said about someone to them. Interestingly, I never informed or questioned her about it. I thought why should I when already knows. I thought I could trust her and never did I repeat what she said about that individual or others for that matter. My biggest fear is guilt and not wanting to hurt their feelings. It's like carrying their load instead of what's in my best interest. Thanks, Tyler
Truth!!! 💯💯💯.
Can I get a Amen?
This applies to family *just as much* , probably even more, trust me.
I totally trust what you said and believe you 💯
It's more, trust me.
@@pantherman8719 my family is my biggest team of haters.
@@SynterraSteen damn...
& some people don’t mean you any harm but they don’t mean you any good either ❤️
Right!
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Summed up 1,000 page book in one sentence. Agreed!
I just recently cut some negative family members of mine off without warning!! I changed my phone number and address and it feels great!!!!!!
Wow that was a power move !!!!! Good job
@Tray Ross That's a long time not to keep in touch with family!!!
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That's her personal choice
@@feefee8627 maybe they don't deserve to know what's going on.
Wow! I was told to change my phone number on some people ... it’s great seeing someone who did and the outcome .... you deserve your peace I’m really considering doing it but I’m trying to give (my family members a chance ) cause I’m not the type of person to treat people like that
Negativity, pettiness,ignorance and immaturity run rampant where I work..even from people in 50's 60's and 70's!
I work with some of the old ass critters too. They so damn childish.
These people are called narcissists and Psychopaths they are not your friends because if you stay around them long enough to mass usually slip off and you really see that they are not your friends you look up and be like oh my God who is that
Thanks so much your comment is 100%% right
Yup! 90 % of my family and friends were psychopaths and narcs. I notice they all had similar negative behaviors that all fit the narc or psychopath profile.
I just cut off almost my whole family and all my friends. They were never happy for me, always tried to find ways to treat me like an outsider, talk about me, anything bad happened to me they told anyone. I was abused, even threatened when I said I deserve equal respect. They destroyed my health and made me have a break down. They were hurting me so bad, I could barely take care of myself. I am now alone, and refuse to speak to any of them unless there is real accountability which I know will never happen.
Aww hugs sis, I'm going through the same🫂 You did the right thing I hope you are doing better.
Going through this right now!!! Cut Some family off & some so-called Friends everything you described has happened!!
Me too. Have I seen my family running to me, banging on my door,nope. They where devaluing because I wasnt giving in. I know my worth, and I know they are not part of it. Amen, blessed be. Xx
@@pamelathomas2294 wow! I hope you are doing better now and found peace. I haven't gone back and never will.
Thank you for posting this. This is where I’m at right now. Everyone is calling me a bad mom because I’m too depressed from the abuse to get out of bed. Barely taking care of myself.. and I’ve had enough. Going to my grandmas funeral. She was the only peace I had. Then I’ll never see anyone from that side of my family again. Maybe my Aunt. That’s about it. Hope you’re doing better and that you’re well on your healing journey. Try to get therapy if you haven’t.
Preach! I never understood jealousy.
Me either. I never knew, some1 who look better than u, endowed than u, convincing tactic than u, have more money than u can hate u JUST ONLY bcus u r always happi nd u have a plan. I think fake Friends and narcissist did not arrive from heaven.
@@godissogreat4u I love this comment, it hits CLOUD 9🤔 because it's so darn true Tim😏
I was in a job filled with negative people for 4 years. The job was miserable and brought the worst out of all of us. I recently started a new job and the positive attitudes of the people who work there actually struck me as strange. I've felt weird when people smile at me or compliment me. My old job really took something from me. It changed me. Im not as angry or depressed. I feel like I'm becoming myself again. It's slow and gradual but positivity is contagious..just like negativity.
Amen
I was in a similar situation by God’s grace, I was able to leave. Now when I see these old coworkers I act like I don’t know them lol.
Pray for me that is where I am. Even my bosses!
@@PatriciaJonesLJ Hey Patricia you can just start your own business, I'm sure God has put this desire in your heart. Sometimes God allows situations to arise on the job because He is calling us higher and he is trying to push you out of there. Don't settle for less, God doesn't want us to be unhappy putting up with toxic environments. So step out on faith and start your own business you are gifted and that is why you are under attack on your job. I feel this for you prophetically. You are a CEO. Follow your heart, Follow your dreams, Follow God, God is speaking to you and don't second guess God go with how you feel about things. When we are going through a lot on a job it is usually an indicator that God is speaking to you through how you feel about the situation. Do not ignore how you feel. Just start working on a get out plan and don't tell nobody what you are planning on doing.
@@karinal75 Negative people don't exist to me. They are of no value.
I needed this I am going to cut people off now! No warnings
Do This some people are not going to have a positive impact in your life.
@BlackHawk 66 then the feeling is mutual because I won't miss them either.
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You’re prettieeee
Good message for ones too sweet & get hurt by negative people
Yndia Dallas. So true in what you have spoken here. Peace and blessings to you.
I'm such a sweet person who is always kind to others who always tear me down which makes it hard for me to tell him or her about themselves.
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I had to cut a 15+ year friend off the other day. Dark entities has hijacked our connection and i just cant do it anymore. the hardest thing i ever had to do because i really do love her. I wish her nothing but the best and i know that she will be succesful in life. no hard feelings. truly
Unfortunately a lot of women aren't enthusiastic when their female friends achieve something. When I tell about my achievements or simply good news, my male friends are happy for me, but female friends are somehow critical. I can tolerate negative behavior for a certain time, but when it's too much of it and the situation doesn't change, then I just break the contact, once and forever. You are 100% right.
Natalia V Yes I’ve had that happen on many occasions and you know when someone is happy for you and when they are not!
Natalia Valieva You DO know that men want to always sleep with you right? Lol They make sure to stay on your good side. That’s game!
That's why I keep my female friends/ associates to a minimum because of petty shit
Females are messy when if you still apologize to them they get mad like why you haven't talken to me so long but than you still like my pictures on social media for no reason without saying no word to me. This is why I cut her off due to fact of this .. because deep down I know wassup . Block and delete number .. when you see me I will treat you as a stranger
Natalia Valieva The opposite applies to me. My female friends don't have a need to compete with me. When they notice good happening in my life they warmly congratulate me. A lot of my "bros"? Wow. I've witnessed jealousy so intense it was almost comical
Cut my Family off a long time ago.
They was hating on my technology startup.
Most think it is unfathomable to cut off family, but I don't
@Tray Ross That's right! I agree 100%! Fuck those people, they don't know what the Hell is going on with the person who is constantly under attack dealing with these narcissist who are manipulative toxic two-face using childish tactics and using false guilt as well. Family are the worse than these M.F.'s out here in society. Who is ready to get over and take advantage. Most people are your enemy in general. Especially when money comes into the picture. A person can't grow in peace being surrounded by negative toxic energy vampires.
Why would they hate on that?? That don't make no sense. =/
Fam be the main ones .... some can be very in supportive & jealous
Family be the biggest haters unfortunately.
I always keep negative people out of my life.
I've cut off so many people without warning. I saw they weren't really for me and I figured it was best to depart from them peacefully. I'm at so much peace now
Some of these people are family members too, but seems like not too many people want to talk about that
Right, and it is usually directed at non relatives which is a no brainier. Most harm are the result of relatives. Counselors and therapists rarely if ever discuss cutting off family members, but instead try to find ways to keep them together regardless of the damage.
" Some " is an understatement for me
Because they're a bunch of suck-ups who like to intermittently THROW their siblings under the bus even though they own houses (and that sibling is a broke person who doesn't at least steal shit like the other ones or act like a interfering drama queen for like like my ex sister)
Being able to do this is what seperates successful people from unsuccessful ones aka people pleasers. Trust your instints. Energy does not lie.
Yeah....
Yes yes yes! Cut cut cut them off.
I agree. Just had to exclude couple of people but after the warning. Boundaries are beautiful. They show self love in fact. Self respect. Thank you very much 😉
Maya Krasikova. You are so right. Thank you so much for your comment. peace and blessings to you.
Tyler JTI you know what I like about you, is that you do reply to comments. I believe because you take what you do seriously. Reciprocity is so important. Blessing to you!
I've been forced to do this recently.
Miss Le. Thank you so much for your comment .Peace and blessings t oyou.
PREACH! I have cut people off with NO warning and it was the best thing I ever did for my peace and self-value! You are on point. Not everyone needs to understand why you have walked out. Some need to feel the fire and deal with it alone. Those that you have described are jealous energies that hold us back from purpose and authenticity. Thank you.
i rather be alone than around fake people life is too short for nonsense
That's exactly what I did, I have no time for fake friends and people who only want to talk when somthing is in it for them and when I need someone to talk to, they're no where's no be found. I've given up so long ago on people like that!
Very well put. I have a very narcissistic friend who is into having toxic relationships with the wrong men. I feel like she is my friend when we hang out, that there is a real connection there, but then she ignores my messages until she is ready to hang out again and talk about her disaster of a life with some time waster. Done.
Hit the nail on the head... bulls eye! You were so right when you said to not even bother telling these folks that they're being chopped, and why. In my experience, all they'll try to do is (1) deny what they did, (2) try to con you into remaining friends with them, or (3) blame YOU for whatever went wrong (narcissists)! It's funny when after I give them the boot, they try to crawl back: buttering me up to try to back into my good graces. Nope--not worth it to me. When true colors come out, I never forget. They know what they did. Great message! 💯
Shay4YourMind81. Thank you so much for your comment. Peace and blessings to you.
100% facts
My best “buddy” treated me this way. Never there for me then when I got a mortgage he came at me looking for free rent. I cut him off without any explanation and the same thing with a girl I know. When id message her to talk she would read my messages and ignore them. Then she’d come back days later when convenient for her and ignore the content of my previous messages but just talk about herself. I cut her off too. So happy to be free of these people.
Wooow How fake of her to do that!
This is speaking to me fr. I love the way you think. I cut my mom and sisters off 7 years ago and i had to see them at funerals but i didn't even look at those energy sucking witches. As a matter of fact my great aunt's funeral is tomorrow and I will go to the viewing for 30 minutes then I'm out. I have not time for messy, fake, users who drain the life from me.
Good for you! Life is too true to be used, drained, disrespected and controlled!
Katie Your comment is 100%%%%%%%%% right
I did the same 2 years ago both Mom/Sister. Best decision I have ever made.
@@FinishTheRaceVL7 I've even had to see them in the past 2 years and God showed me that I made the right decision. They have a lot of work to do on themselves and I want peace in my life so that's what I chose.
@@TheSuperbeauty24 Some women are literal witches. Secretly practicing witchcraft behind closed doors. Not to be off topic, but this very well could relate to how you described your mom and sisters. That demonic stuff can be generational. Jesus can destroy their works
"stand strong on your standard" - best quote of this vid
Had to cut my family off a few months ago. Everything been going smooth ever since 💯
Just went through this with a family member. Could never count on him to do what he was supposed to do. Always blowing me off, never having time, only squeezing me in when it was most convenient for him. Wanted to control everything all the time, wouldn't respond to texts, wanted me to listen to his problems but felt burdened to listen to mine. I'd had enough. I'm too old for this shit. Either you're in or you're out. No half stepping.
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Great info. I've cut soooo many people off my scissors are dull. Now they are asking what have they done?
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Yesss it ain't nothing to cut a bih off.
Halle-Taylor Kendricks. I know how good it feels though haaa. Thank you so much for your comment .Peace and blessings to you.
ITS TIME...
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REAL QUICK!!!
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I have a Hard time cutting my family off because they are All I’ve known since birth.
I wanna tell you guys something everything he’s saying is true if you don’t cutt them off you will feel bad about yourself
People who can’t follow simple instructions on how to treat u don’t deserve you to be around
I needed to hear this. I’m in a toxic relationship and I have to cut her off. Built a house, she was not happy. Started my own business, she was not happy, everything I have accomplished in the past three years has upset her. I have to let her go.
Wtf
Bruh like yesterday … She’s attached to your souls sucking it .. Please run …
@@coldhardtruth333 watch mr.keepitsimple come and join the team . Peace&Prosperity
@@coldhardtruth333 -Dat Shxt Hurt My Soul . Lawwwd
Take out the trash!
I’ve encountered soooo much people like this in my life!!!
I’ve cut like almost everybody off and I’m so at peace!!!!! NO DRAINAGE round hurrrr
I’m only open to genuine and loving people like myself!!! And people who know how to reciprocate and pour back into you!!!!
I love how you express TRUTH
Perfect... the sentiments of my own soul
PREACH PREACH!! I got tired of explaining what they did wrong to me and they knew they were. There was no shows, cold shoulders, ignorant comments, talking behind my back, back stabbings, frontin and two faced. I got totally drained coming to them about it, and happidly ROLLED.
I just learned to cut toxic people off immediately. They will destroy you and embarrass you. I couldn’t afford it. Just left.
I been chopping heads and cutting ties! This is living. Ive also learned there are several ways to cut em
It's best to cut certain people off who are doing wrong without warning or explanation? Those type of breed of people bring unnecessary stress that is toxic and will you high and dry. It's best to leave them high and dry for a change. Flip the script. But if it's someone who has always been kind and nice to you? Don't cut them off. Even, if they overstep their boundaries just being themselves. Try to reason with them without hurting their feelings. But if it's conceited person with no heart and soul of being good. Cut those jerks off. They're not worthy of your friendship or you as a person. Tyler, you're right on it again. Great video. Pure genius.
Cool4rocknroll You are so right because it will make them think then they will try and come back most of them why because the conviction inside of them but their pride don't want them to apologize nor to acknowledge!Peace and blessings to you.
Bingo! That's correct!
cool4rocknroll I go through this all this all the Time
You're not only one @brenme35. I know the feeling. It's a living Hell. All I can say is? Stay on guard at all times. Don't let fear or other people's way of passive aggressive way of thinking change of how you really see things. Even if you have to stay low key. You can still win. Don't give up. You're not alone in this. We all go through this Shit. Yeah I hate it too. We as people must stick together and stay serious minded. Take Care.
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Yes, good people who have been trying their best (and you can tell the difference) are people who you need to work with to keep in your life and not throw away over minor things. It's the people who don't give a damn that you need to cut off.
What's crazy sometimes is when YOU are the person who was nice and tried your best to be a friend to a person and they still disappear and cut you off. That's a strange feeling. Even stranger when you see them in public and they act like nothing happened. I don't know how to explain that one, but it's happened to me a number of times. I've disciplined myself not to ask why the person cut me when I showed them love and respect, but it's still an awkward situation.
Some of my friends act like they're still in high school with all the drama and gossip, like they have to decide whether to let you in their little group. I want to say "grow the eff up, I don't need you to validate me by letting me hang out with all of you". They all drink too much any way.
Bonnie Irvin. You are right for cutting those type of people off in your life. Peace and blessings to you.
I realized my substance abusing friends were too immature to keep dealing with. I'd been trying to affect personal growth for a long time and the quitting of an addiction on my end helped me see clearly that it was time to move on.
You are 100% right! That's why I don't look for any of my past friends or go to any of my high school reunions. I got a few of my childhood and high school friends that hit me up on FB I did not and REFUSE to accept their friends request even though I was very close to a few of them at the time the way I look at it is if we were such close friends at the time why didn't they stay in touch with me all these years but all of the sudden hit me up now? I tried everything I could at the time to keep in touch with them but they didn't seem to care so why should I? True we didn't have social media at the time but it still really wasn't that hard to stay in touch I get it over the years our lives change people get busy, move away, go in different directions in life, and so on but if you really want to keep those friends you will find a way to stay and keep in touch with them it's not that hard even b4 social media people do it all the time especially with familes and relatives so why not friends? Especially the close ones it's all about priority if you wanna stay in touch with that person if that friend even mean anything to you or worthy for you to keep in touch with.
I lost 60lbs twice after having 2 kids and I’ve been so happy I posted before & after pictures on my Snapchat, this girl I’ve known for years that I considered my friend she goes and says “but I liked you better like this(my before picture) “ I told her I was miserable because I was over weight she then laughed at me. Meanwhile everyone else was praising my transformation and asking me how I lost weight that when I realized I need to cut her off that’s weird thing to say to someone you call your “friend”
She was always envious. Good for you beautiful! 💜
Good job with your transformation and just smile because at the end of the day you going to keep winning
Congratulations!! I'm happy for you and I dont even know you.
Oh the weight loss really hurts them. I’m gaining weight, I’m sure they are elated... but guess what, Sis, I got my gear on now- I won’t give my lower self OR these haters the satisfaction. I used to be 210. Loss weight and it exposed many people! Had a kid, and loss weight again... mind you, I had eyes and negative imaginations on my ability to snap back. I did. I just fell off for a couple months... again wit the eyes. Mmhmm! Do you & AMAZING job!
Congrats on your Transformation! There’s always a Unhappy Bitch that doesn’t deserve you as a Friend!
That's exactly it brother! Their pride refuses to acknowledge their conviction! And I'm getting too old for their childish behaviors and being stuck in a go nowhere drama while the good that God has given us goes on by..... Well, no more! Enough is enough already! Kick these folks out and make room for some truly grateful friends that will be there for you in return, friends that build up instead of tear you down. Thank you, For a good word!
I had to CUT Off my daughter. My sister. My past friendships and my brother. I am continuing to distance/ cut off everyone else. I am so done. I left my old job and there is no social media to find me.
100% RIGHT! I have already done what you are saying Tyler, now I'm left without many friends now, but happy in my decision in doing so.
Cutting off people without warning makes them think about all the shit they have put you through, why you cut them off and they will miss you in the end, especially when they see your success without them! Definitely too old to tell people and argue about the truth of situations, frustrating shit, we gotta keep it moving.
DJ. Diva Dee. I am glad that you have done this and I am proud of you, I know that you have peace inwardly and around you. You are right. Thank you so much for your comment. Peace and blessings to you.
DJ Diva Dee
I left mines also. It would not have been possible for me to be
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You have the upper hand & you don't need friends like that
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I'm the king of cutting people off/ ghosting them and not telling them why. They already know why so why waste the energy on it just to give them the ammo to change their ways to get back on your good side just to get back on your bad side again down the road. Don't make it easier for people to cover their tracks to get back in your circle. At the end of the day people won't ever change. They'll just try harder to hide their true intentions until they get comfortable and revert back to their bad ways.
They do not have a subconscious.
Wow- They don’t- Like the Devils 👿 Workers
I have not spoken my to brother and sister for at least the past 10 years. All of a sudden they appeared in front of my door. No apologies for the past wrong they did to me. They left the same day and and later e-mailed me informing me that they are coming back in 3 months because they saw how well I'm doing. I stopped them cold. I felt so much better after that. Thank you for the insight. Asian families can be notorious if they see that you are doing better than them financially. I don't care or give a hoot about their problems anymore.
Wow Sis juat be sure to forgive them
You don't know what going on in their life , so you can't judge them . If someone apologize to you for the reason why they have stopped talking to you accept .. maybe they got family Prombles or kids and others things going on with their life. Just to be careful what you do.. because you or I don't know someone situation is .
@Sigma Blade I apology to someone that I stopped talking too due to family emergency for the past 6 months. Iv been busy working 2 jobs and started my career.. but honestly people get offended when you don't talk to them.. some people just don't know how to communicate with one another.. I did my part. But odd reason she would always like my pictures on Instagram without speaking to me . Unfortunately now it's going on a week or so. I decided to block her and delete her number, I haven't heard from her for a week going on 2 week now.. but we live in the same city like 5 mins away from each other. Honestly I don't have nothing to say.. but my mind my business. I realized that alot of us have our phones in our hands everyday
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yes you are so right, cut the contact without warning and leave him for god, dont look back because it is not healthy for you to know what will happen with that person. leave him in his own learning process, whatever it looks like
I was feeling sorry for an oldschool friend with cancer. He is an abusive relationship and shows lack of integrity. He will not leave her..so I am leaving him to his karma.
Ditto, I played the fool for 30 years and finally cut them off after all the mental drama and emotional abuse. It's my mama, the ring leader and sisters that do all of the above. 🤡 🙈 🙊 🙉. Bye Felicias!
I'm ready to let go and when I do good things will come!
I’d like to add that especially if these people are over the age of 25-30 they’re probably good with who they are and won’t change. If their actions start to match their words, the relationship might be salvageable. Otherwise, just run.
My family is like this and I've had enough. I'm going to cut them off as soon as I have the financial means. Can't take it anymore.
Good for you! Stay strong!
Yes cut them off ✌
I don't have any friends either a old friend of mine I used to buy him birthday gifts and when my birthday came around I don't get anything used to make him buy me things not even a card!!!
I used to have a "friend" like that - she wasn't the worst narcissist I've come across, by far not, but - she was a friend of my stalker's. My stalker later murdered my cat!
This "friend" and my stalker conducted many years of an extensive smear campaign against me, whereby the stalker is still busy doing that (for over 17 years now) resulting from which nobody in my city even speaks to me. Whether the "friend" is still alive is unknown to me, both are very old people. My stalker is about 90.
So, when I was still friends with this "friend", I used to give her and her husband really expensive gifts for Christmas or birthdays. The sort of gifts that, even though they were very well off, would still get appreciated, ie really good quality things.
When it was my birthday or Christmas, she used to give me - old, second hand and clearly worn out cups and wallets from thrift stores!!!
She also sold me an unroadworthy car, which I didn't realize as I was a brandnew driver and didn't know anyone who could have had a look at the car for me.
Another set of "friends", highly manipulative and abusive people who also tried to kill my cat and who tried to drive me to insanity, and to whom I also gave expensive gifts on Christmas or birthdays, gave me - cheap chocolates filled with liquor. I don't drink alcohol!
None of these people are still in my life, though the stalker is still stalking me because police protect him due to him being a wealthy celebrity.
They love to flip things back on you , such as playing the victim, a true definition of a narcissist
Yes 🙌🏾
I cut off my lying brother and sister who bought and lost their palatial houses they really could not afford to pay with their income. Wanting to move in with me, I told them right out I have a full house. No room for them. Why should I go through living with them. I want peace and order. No further explanation needed.
I cut off my whole family im saving up to move i still stay with them for the moment but i dont speak to them or hang around them i be to myself i stay prayed up for good changes to come in my life im the only person changing and growing while everyone around me stuck on stupid
Wishing you all the best Kannon.
pray for me I got a toxic family too I want to leave.
I have to do this with the majority of people I meet now days.
nothing wrong with that
I really needed this video I almost cried, cause I always get treated like dirt. For years I been trying to help people and got treated harshly for no reason but I can finally say I'm at peace removing everyone out my life.
Such a peaceful feeling when you cut off toxic people. It’s like your energy can finally thrive again!
This is such an amazing topic, thanks for doing it. I have learned 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽I let people go like it's nothing now in days...I sooo tired of being kind, now it's just me time...
Sunday Ocean. Thank you so much for your comment. Peace and blessings to you.
Tyler JTI You're very much welcome! Keep up the great work!! Blessed messages!!
Sunday Ocean same here
Still relevant in 2022. Great video Tyler, and real facts, 'Cut them off without warning' 👏
Tyler this message is so good! And it's so true! This is exactly what I've recently dealt with. Thanks for confirming that I don't have to give warnings to people who have violated me. They are cut off...The End! 👏
Candy Girl. Thank you so much for your comment. Peace and blessings to you!
They’re cut off right after this video thanks man honestly I needed this.
Thank You Tyler, for the re-enforcement. Your right I'm getting too old for these situations. They spell help U-S-E. This is not just for friends but family too. One has to cut them off for the sake of your own sanity. Again, Thank You.
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I had to do this to my father and brother recently. I always wondered what the heck was wrong with them. I started to realize they were narcissists and educated myself about that subject. Within a few weeks I went NO CONTACT. I learned enough about it that like you're saying I did do it without warning and without explanation. It's going on 4 months. I'm never turning back or breaking the no contact. I have plenty of things going for me and plenty of friends - a beautiful fiancee and the beautiful memory of my late wife who died suddenly 3 years ago. Their reactions to the sudden loss of my wife and to my dating again 2 years later and my recent engagement made it clear that they have no empathy. They're both toxic. I wish them no ill but I know I could never have a normal or supportive relationship with them. Well I could, but it would never be reciprocal. They're diordered.
Congratulations Scott. Keep doing your thing. You deserve the best. 💪🏻💪🏻👆🏻😎🤓
Never failed when I reached an accomplishment. The haters are usually the people closest and someone you wouldn’t in a million years betray you.
Same here! This video gave me a lot of strength and I got people out of my life recently. But I had gotten them out before but gave in to myself rationalizing another chance of limited contact or full contact or whatever) This video gives me the strength to move forward and ways that all these other anti-narc videos don't
Woooow!
What the fuck man, this video is celestial fire. This video is gonna go viral, mark these words. THIS WILL GO VIRAL.
this video is very timely to me... because I am planning cut off my friends that are happiness suckers...I am always ready to listen to their drama but they are not willing to listen to mine and they are so judgemental and negative... I am more happy being alone than being with them
Please! Do a video on people thar are tight lipped about themseleves but want to know everything about you.
Claudia fabia. please send your video request so that I wont forget it. to my email address tjlwriter32@gmail.com. peace and blessings to you.
Yes....i dont sew many videos on this
Lol that’s a Scorpio for you
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@@seattleraisedme don’t get it twisted Scorpios still elite
It's my own family members and my mother that use me put me down I never hear from them unless they want something iv had this for over 30 years it has impacted on my life so much I'm done with them I'd rather be alone than with them putting me down I'm done. I no I'm a good person
That is so true and not just friends , family as well,. In my situation it's mainly family. I have gotten to the point where I just don't care no more.
I haven't spoken to my dad's side of the family in over 4 years
Preach brother! Sometimes you just got to do it unfortunately. I don't need any toxic people around me so I try to make the best decisions and keep it moving. 🤷🏼♂️
Over the past 6 years...I have cut off so many friends. Some were judgemental. Others weren't there for me when I needed them. And the last few were users. I cut em off cold Turkey without an explanation. They tried to reach out to me but I never responded...they were blocked!!! I have so much peace in my life and new friends who are genuine❤❤❤
Happy that you have new genuine friends be good to one another
That just happen to me but I cut her off completely now.. I was done with her totally now.. I block her on Instagram and delete her number . But she is so quick to like my photos on Instagram without speaking to me. But when I apology as a adult for the reason why I stopped talking to her due to fact of my family emergency that's has been happening since 6 months. But she didn't show no care .. I knew she wasn't a real friend though.. I got attached to someone who wasn't deserving my time.. but unfortunately we live in the same city
@@mrs.camillewarrenempress3115 She was no friend to begin with. Keep your head up and keep it movin!!!
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Preaching the truth! Cut the cord, no explanation!! DONE!!
YOUR AWESOME ! Thanks I'm hurt tho, but now I can have my positive energy back!
Miss Zola. Thank you so much for your comment .Peace and blessings to you.
Sometimes when one tells someone how they have offended u, they might over talk u & not let u talk . Facebook post said if someone won't let u talk, don't talk.
This happened to me 3 days ago its true, they really can't take being exposed😂
I did that and the narcissist wanted to work it out when you really cut them off even if you think they don’t care they actually do they feed off you they need you ! So the best thing to do is don’t conversate or react when they say unnecessary things it’ll make them think what they said and back track to the reason why your not fighting and trying to prove a point just let them be and watch how they tuck their tail because silence is really powerful.
I had a Pisces friend who manipulates situations into her favor. She talks about friends behind each other's back this in turn causes conflict among the friends. This person only calls when they have something to brag about. Only helps when it benefits her. She causes drama and doesn't own up to it.
You're correct. I recently had a conversation with her I asked her to stop calling me B@tch, She justified it by telling me that she calls her sister that. Then she told me that I'm just in my feelings.
I agree. We had a conversation I expressed to her that I don't like being called b@tch. She justified it by saying that is what she calls her sisters, and that I must be in my feelings. I don't need that negativity.
miss le Not sure why you mentioned Pisces since usually people under that sign are supposed to be very considerate of others. She seems like not a nice person in general you don't have to talk to her.
M1234 I mentioned her sign because from my experience they seem sincere but play for both sides. It is a manipulative sign and those who aren't aware get played .
miss le As a Pisces who behaves like a real friend and a real person I implore you to judge someone based on their actions, not by their astrological sign? There are good and bad people in each sign and people often do what you expect them to based on preconceived notions, in my experience and my opinion.