It took me probably a decade or more to figure out that my oldest sister isn't an alcoholic, but a binge drinker. She seemed to drink when she was upset about something. She could go a long time (it seems?) and not drink alcohol. That was when I began to realize that people who self-harm don't just use one method, they can use a variety of methods of harming themselves, including staying in abusive relationships, having risky sex, driving recklessly, and even being a shopaholic.
OK you're not far off in my opinion, Me 48 year old bpd recoverer, The binge drink was self medication, Cos I dint know how to manage my emotional self
@BrendaGarcia-ty2ml it may be termed alcohol misuse , But self medictaing is the reality of the misuse , I would binge when my emotions where challenged too deeply as in relationship break ups or family shit , To which point I'd black out and become someone else
So happy people are having this conversation. My emotional disregulation and distress, I would use excessive shopping, excessive drinking, and disordered eating as a balm. I was having up to five botytles a night at my worst, and followed the path of harm reduction to stop drinking (it is going really well) and shop less (it's a bumpy road but I'm infusing much more learning and creativity in my shopping) while eating and smoking cannabis to cope. I've gaind some size, and now at a point where I want to try and tackle it in a much healthier way than I've done before.. The path of success for me personally has been to allow all the little decisions in my day to day to be goverened by where I wish to go, one building. block at a time. Blessings to everyone on this journey, it is challenging but we are up to the task.
One more argument for harm reduction is, in my case, the addiction will shape-shift. Once I quit smoking pot for example new addictive habits would develop, that might or might not develop into full blown addictions. I have quit several addictions, some decades ago, but the addiction remains active in a way. It is like Hydra's heads, if one head is chopped off more will grow back and obscure what I feel and am so desperately trying to avoid. Maybe harm reduction is not the right term and is it about sticking with the habit until you get to the bottom of the behavioral pattern as a whole. Still, catching this monkey is a challenge.
Weed - now legal around parts of the USA if being used to deal with a mental disorder can be used frequently but if unable to take periods of sobriety may mean you have an issue with addiction too - totally agree
Good presentation. But one question here is for each individual, who drinks or engage in a similar behavior that may have been self-destructive at one time, is can I live without it? If I don't engage in this behavior, does it at least considerably reduce my quality of living? Can I replace it with another behavior that isn't' as risky? In my experience, for many of us, it is very easy to see our actions as harmless or at least not harmful to others. I just think it gets very complicated and each provider has to have a way of asking questions to learn more about these potential difficulties in each patient. Keep these very informative videos coming.
Wow she's so much more functional than I am with the drinking- one bottle of wine is like pre-gaming to me. A fifth of vodka a day spread out currently lmao. I would love to talk with Rebbie since I have Anti Social personality disorder comorbidity with the Borderline= very destructive with no future plans laid out for me at the moment.
Hello I am 53 years old and I am and do have BPD and a major addiction to methamphetamines I just can't seem to get away from the drug it somehow makes me feel better and it somehow makes it possible for me to feel all my severe emotions which yes qualifies me as being dual diagnosis I do want to quit I don't know how I depend on it way too much can you help
Idk what she meant by dying not by suicide. Girl! 2 years therapy and that's NOT factual. Show me than but you can't. That's your opinion and thats taking away the VALIDITY of other sufferers
The opposite of addiction is not sobriety. The opposite of addiction is connection.
This is a really beautiful statement
The opposite to isolation is connection...... the opposite to ADDICTION ..... I suspect is community ..... imo peace
Connecting is very difficult for people with BPD. Studies show even when they are connected to people they feel rejected.
It took me probably a decade or more to figure out that my oldest sister isn't an alcoholic, but a binge drinker. She seemed to drink when she was upset about something. She could go a long time (it seems?) and not drink alcohol. That was when I began to realize that people who self-harm don't just use one method, they can use a variety of methods of harming themselves, including staying in abusive relationships, having risky sex, driving recklessly, and even being a shopaholic.
OK you're not far off in my opinion, Me 48 year old bpd recoverer, The binge drink was self medication, Cos I dint know how to manage my emotional self
That’s still alcohol misuse disorder area, no? “Alcoholic” is an outdated term for everyone.
@BrendaGarcia-ty2ml it may be termed alcohol misuse , But self medictaing is the reality of the misuse , I would binge when my emotions where challenged too deeply as in relationship break ups or family shit , To which point I'd black out and become someone else
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So happy people are having this conversation. My emotional disregulation and distress, I would use excessive shopping, excessive drinking, and disordered eating as a balm. I was having up to five botytles a night at my worst, and followed the path of harm reduction to stop drinking (it is going really well) and shop less (it's a bumpy road but I'm infusing much more learning and creativity in my shopping) while eating and smoking cannabis to cope. I've gaind some size, and now at a point where I want to try and tackle it in a much healthier way than I've done before.. The path of success for me personally has been to allow all the little decisions in my day to day to be goverened by where I wish to go, one building. block at a time. Blessings to everyone on this journey, it is challenging but we are up to the task.
Hey Rebbie! I’m thankful for the new uploads and updates throughout the years!
One more argument for harm reduction is, in my case, the addiction will shape-shift. Once I quit smoking pot for example new addictive habits would develop, that might or might not develop into full blown addictions. I have quit several addictions, some decades ago, but the addiction remains active in a way. It is like Hydra's heads, if one head is chopped off more will grow back and obscure what I feel and am so desperately trying to avoid. Maybe harm reduction is not the right term and is it about sticking with the habit until you get to the bottom of the behavioral pattern as a whole. Still, catching this monkey is a challenge.
Thank you
Guidelines also classify no more than 7 drinks in a week for women, so while 3 drinks a day might sound fine, you can see how quickly that adds up.
Weed - now legal around parts of the USA if being used to deal with a mental disorder can be used frequently but if unable to take periods of sobriety may mean you have an issue with addiction too - totally agree
Awesome content!!!! ❤
Good presentation. But one question here is for each individual, who drinks or engage in a similar behavior that may have been self-destructive at one time, is can I live without it? If I don't engage in this behavior, does it at least considerably reduce my quality of living? Can I replace it with another behavior that isn't' as risky? In my experience, for many of us, it is very easy to see our actions as harmless or at least not harmful to others. I just think it gets very complicated and each provider has to have a way of asking questions to learn more about these potential difficulties in each patient. Keep these very informative videos coming.
I've spent all my savings (well into the 10 thousands) because I didn’t know I had bpd. And I have nothing to show for it!
Just a comment to feed the algorithm!
Wow she's so much more functional than I am with the drinking- one bottle of wine is like pre-gaming to me. A fifth of vodka a day spread out currently lmao. I would love to talk with Rebbie since I have Anti Social personality disorder comorbidity with the Borderline= very destructive with no future plans laid out for me at the moment.
Hello I am 53 years old and I am and do have BPD and a major addiction to methamphetamines I just can't seem to get away from the drug it somehow makes me feel better and it somehow makes it possible for me to feel all my severe emotions which yes qualifies me as being dual diagnosis I do want to quit I don't know how I depend on it way too much can you help
I'm so glad you got it figured out but the easier option is Oblivion. Tell me otherwise
Idk what she meant by dying not by suicide. Girl! 2 years therapy and that's NOT factual. Show me than but you can't. That's your opinion and thats taking away the VALIDITY of other sufferers
OK! Sorry but the Bipolar 1 people are more stable? I am going to that party then. Cheers!