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I can't place the memory but I can very clearly imagine the sensation of biting into that kinda soft wood. Lol with hula hoops I was absolutely worthless, never worked it out. I did / do also like to spin things, particularly things I can put around my finger. I have this small squeaky stuff toy dog (no bigger than my hand) which has a tag on its end, and I'd always put my finger through that tag and spin it around for ages. We also had a swing set when I was growing up and I miss it dearly. There's on in a fenced off playground nearby but I've only gone and lightly swung on it a couple of times after like 11pm. Trampolines were also a big one; our neighbour also had one, as did my dad's family (those large ones like 3m across). I think this kinda stimming affecting the whole body is called vestibular stimming (the vestibular system dealing with the sense of balance and spatial orientation), and I believe I read somewhere that it's one of the most effective regulating ways of stimming. So when feeling very dysregulated, reaching for one of those "larger" stims is meant to be very effective in calming down. If I'm especially jittery around bedtime or so I've found assuming wonky upside down positions in bed like literally sticking my legs and tors up as much as possible to be quite effective for example. ... I wish someone would publish a catalog of stimming ideas for neurodivergent people. There's so many good ones to try out.

I had loads of things like that as a child but the ones that came to mind first were I had a football and I was an only child so I’d kick the ball against the wall, and I could do that for literal hours. Something about the repetitive nature of it and the sound the ball made as it hit the wall and the kicking movement… so good. I also loved swinging and we had a pair of crutches that I’d “steal” when my parents weren’t looking and I’d run across the house swinging from those crutches. Similarly we had a kitchen isle next to a massive set of kitchen shelves/cupboards etc with a ledge that was level with the surface of the isle so I’d put on hand on each and lift myself up and swing my legs in the air… very physical but oh so satisfying 🤩

Ice was mine. Every day, I made myself a big tub of ice and when I got home from school I'd eat the whole thing with a spoon. Sometimes I'd get creative and throw some raisins in there. When my teeth got too sore (from all the ice) I'd crunch it through a clean towel and suck the water 😂

Swinging is a great stim. I had to stop using the swings in kids playgrounds when I hit puberty & my hips grew - the metal chains dig in so it hurts! I also used to love roller skating & the feel of the wheels going over different surfaces, along with the sound they made. 💚

Really glad i found your vids. i started watching a week or so ago and am just catching up on some of your first ones. thanks for posting! 🙂

I spent half my childhood in a swing/hammock kinda thing in our living room. There was also a wood bar holding the fabric which i used as an exercise bar. Versatile thing.

Your apple-milk story was really awesome, lol, hadn't thought of using an apple as a dipping agent before! It made me wonder if there's some apple-flavoured, milk-based dessert that combines those flavours? Some kind of apple custard? It wouldn't be the same I suppose, the sensory element is missing. Maybe you could bake hollowed-out apples filled with cream. Damn, now I need to try apple-in-milk dipping... Oh, I recall that you can use a syringe to fill apples with liquid, might be worth a try.

I always make a note of never saying yes when I am first asked. I will say I'll let you know them give it good thought. If it's a same day thing I'll say no as it's short notice.

Media autistic over here 🎉

Imagining yourself in media isnt normal? Wth

I think stimming is something I feel a lot of shame about so hearing you talking about your stims made me happy. Even when you thought the whole neighborhood was judging you for jumping up and down on the trampoline for hours you still did it. I hope I can one day become more accepting of my own need to self regulate trough stimming.

I loved swing as a child. I had one in my back garden. I had a trampoline in my living room as a child. I loved parks too. I loved crazy smells as a child.

After diagnosed. It all makes sense now, there is no mystery , the puzzles in place , Stand there with pride now no need to hide now, it's time to embrace

Hi, I'm Aspie with adhd, girl you should write a book. You have a way with words, I've just been diagnosed at age 65. I would read your book. You could really help people. You've You've knack of taking my thoughts and putting them into words. Thank you x

White paint was the nastiest thing, artsy-curious to try to taste. Now hating plain white walls. If marble like a mini crystal ball and at least a smaller one, I would put it in my mouth and swirl it around enough to get me to sleep. Accidentally swallowed one, didn't choke but slightly worried. Cause a teacher saw, i was slowly dipping a bracelet to my mouth and gave me a surgery horror though warning. But I was clearly left to much alone. Just having the ends of a sausage and swirl it around cause it was the texture of it - not my most proudest cause I'm happier as vegan Just watching cartoons/anime/animation = happiest cause I like smart people talking or what led to such wonderful inspiring motivating characters to help guide me in life!!!!!!! Just repeat most beautiful distinctly personal perfect mantra like, trance-hynotic songs - cause those distinct set of stansas so true to me i can only be warmed, finally!!!!!!

My biggest RIP for sensory seeking is when I started to take testosterone (woo trans joy), my voice dropped. I looovee telling people ‘I used to be a soprano’. I used to squeak and squawk and whine and meow. I can’t do that no more! I just gotta rely on basic humming and hawing for any polyvagal stimulation. I want to relearn singing, but I don’t even know my range or how to use it wuff…. Plus my dad would tell me ‘I look crazy’ when I indulged in a mix of rocking and laughing to myself. A real dampener of joy. Now I try to find new stims. I definitely enjoy squeezing things, rocking, swinging my arms, bouncing, spinny fidgets (spinner rings and fidget spinners). Glitter bottles have been big on my wishlist for a long time and I’ve now made like SIXTEEN on my own time so I’m certainly indulging. I bought a weighted blanket only to find I did not like it, but at least my roommate has taken to it eagerly! Clicking my nails together was something I used to do with my mom’s nails before I stopped chewing mine. I’d just grab her hands and click her thumb nails together. I can do it myself now woo! I looveee sweet scents. Candles and body spray. I’ve got cotton Candy & cupcake body sprays baby that’s MY JAM. Part of me doesn’t wanna but has to include picking at my beard as a stim. Cause it’s soooo good to just, pull and pinch your beard. Even if it occasionally plucks hairs wheuf,,, I love a Bumpy Texture when I can find it. Don’t think I’ve got any Stim items for that yet. Maybe I could make one out of clay….

swings were the best that was the only thing I did during recess, and I would get so mad if the other kids would take the swings first.

You brought me back to my very similar bed that I also chewed. lol this is crazy

Pressing my teeth into wood is so relatable. I had completely forgoten that I used to that

Oh I really appreciate you sharing this info. So helpful to others! I was also professionally assessed and I think helping to share this info to those undiagnosed and curious is invaluable. Good on you for being open to share!

I really had a hard time with the jump ball string and hula hoops, but i really liked skipping rope, and i had a pogo stick and i would spend hours on it. In france there were very few swings for some reason, so it was so special when there was one. Trampolines were also a rare treat. I also really liked peeling old paint (we lived in an old house) so my mom bought me play do and a small archaeology kit so i could dig "dinosaur bones" instead. I also would keep the wax i peeled from my babybels (my favorite snack) and mold the wax into little cubes. Thanks for sharing! 😊

Even as an adult, I like to keep tubes of scented hand cream at my desk so I can just smell them when my brain feels fuzzy. It feels like my brain gets re-centered and I can focus again I loved skipping rope as a kid, especially because it could be a solitary activity. I always found running to be really painful on my body, so I tried to convince my PE teacher to just let me skip rope for an hour as our final exam, instead of running the mile (he said no, so I finished the mile in 12 minutes, and my lungs and ankles felt like they were gonna explode 😅)

Omg i loooooooooved my skip it!!!!!

I agree with the SWING! Went round to my friends house and they were busy getting ready, so i went on their swinging bench and lost two hours sitting outside. They came and checked on me but I completely forgot about everything and was completely immersed in the movement and calm of it all.

I also loved sniffing erasers and certain pens. I'd totally forgotten about that, thanks, Dana.

I love swings and trampolines. When there is no one about I will have a go on swings. I've had a rebounder trampoline for a year now, its the best £80 quid I ever spent. I was worried about hitting my head on the ceiling but not a problem. Much better value than any gym membership.

I loved swings as a kid too, and even in my teen years and earlier adult life I still went on the bouncy castles any time my cousins got em. Getting mental block thinking of stims but pen mustash was always a fun one, rotating things in my hands, like a coin or something. Biting end of pens, but was never to break or bite into them just for sensory things. I know there was a bunch more but mind blocked xD. Also Dana is a beaver confirmed XD

the scent thing is such a huuuge thing for me!! i have many essential oils. love having a bath with them or diffusing them into my house. as well as apply it to hats scarfs and coats when i go out for comfort in spaces where it will smell like "human". the apple thing is very intruiging!! i can definitely see why that's a sensory thing !!!

we have a porch swing hanging from a tree in the yard that seats two people.

I did the same thing with my bed but with my nails instead of my teeth 😂

OMG we have a few phobias in common lol (uncanny valley chimps, tooth loss, causing illness or death if I don't see someone when I "should" ). Not to add to your confusion at all (and this is certainly not me saying you should push for a diagnosis), but I do in fact have OCD as well as Autism (although I have been in remission from OCD for years). While some distorted thoughts and fears still exist, my compulsions are gone. For example, I used to believe that I had to say goodbye to people in a certain way or they'd die before I saw them again. For me, OCD thoughts also accompany a specific sensation in my body that's markedly different from my "overactive" Autistic brain simply trying to understand the root of a fear. Parsing out the two has gotten easier with time, but truthfully, I still think they blur together quite a bit. They're cousins!

This is a fantastic video!! 🌻🫧🌻🦋🌼💕 I'm an autistic teen and I started making videos a bit ago because I didn't think there's enough autistic teenagers like me on the internet Love your channel ❤ keep doing what you're doing, ur awesome

And yes, the food issue is a big one. I still don’t recognise or remember that I cannot function without eating because when I’m stressed I can’t eat. Now if I know I’m going to have to go somewhere stressful, I try to remember to have something but it’s tough!

Yep, I disassociate when I’m around people I don’t know. I can mask for so long but at the first opportunity, I’m gone! There’s definitely something about ‘talking it out’ though. And being heard. I can be feeling awful, overwhelmed and burnt out but if I can talk it out with someone and feel heard, I’m sooo much better for it! If it helps to do these ‘debriefs’ then that’s fine😬 It’s better to try and figure out your stuff than bury it! Therapy is spendy🫢 ❤

Wow! Some of my best memories from childhood are sitting under the dining room table alone or with my cousin and sitting in the big cardboard blanket box in the hall closet with the door shut. Lights could be on or off. Family members would sometimes open the closet door to ask me where certain people were & I usually knew. 😮

It might be an amygdala hijacking. Have you ever heard of From Surviving to Thriving by Pete Walker? Great read. I wish you the best. Coming out of burnout is a complicated and slow process.

Oh yeah-I forget Original Halifax is in the UK somewhere. I'm in the USA, so I think of Halifax in Canada😅.

There are my favorite style. We connect so much by sharing those struggles we thought we were alone in. ❤❤❤ thank you!!!!😊

I went vegan too, are you stalking me? Yeah weight shredded off of me everyday but I now I'm at the same weight I've been for awhile so.. but I wonder how much skinny people eat though like what if I could record their day.

You just described my experience every time I have to meet people outside my home!!! 💚

All the quizzes tell me im NT but i know im not.. it might just be bc i also have adhd and they mask each other

I don’t have many coping mechanisms but my big two at the minute have been journaling, pacing the kitchen. Sometimes you just need to articulate the feelings to yourself, like you do in this video, for the feeling to start to dissipate or even to find the occasional ‘solution’. And if that doesn’t work, moving around at whatever speed feels right is good! Or hugging something tight for the sensory compression.

I disassociate a lot. It is generally better for both my health and relationships than meltdowns, but I do find I don't remember much of my life very well and I've been exploring better ways to cope. Mostly this has involved finding more empathetic people to be friends with and work with, so that I'm not bullied and triggered so often. Best of luck to you and other viewers who struggle with this! 😊

hardcore relateable af. You spit facts and acknowledge actual bullshit rather than fluffing it up to make the allistics feel comfortable. (So many allistic people need therapy, holy shit. Feel your feelings or they will possess you, ffs.)

I'd take it, my meltdowns are physically agonizing, and people who've seen them are terribly judgemental about something I have no control over and try to hide. I often have nail prints dug into my palms. I clench my teeth so hard I fractured one of my molars and developed life-threatening sepsis. A win is a win.

thank you for posting this!! coping mechanisms that work are very hard to capture and apply. i like decompressin after overwhelming moments by talking into a voicenote, or sometimes have a friend call me to talk me through the qetions i have abou =t the tate im in, specifically when dissociation comes into play. good job on marking your boundaries and not overstepping them ! take care, progress isnt linear so its okay to have moments where keeping up with a 'productive' routine and lifestyle gets exhausting, take as much time to rest as you feel you need, and pla in advance things you would like to pursue oce you fel better, thats what i do usually! very proud of you dana!!

You’re so relatable and remind me so much of myself. I wish we lived in the same country so we could be friends

I always feel like People just have to CHILL THE FUK DOWN. Why are People bothered so much? Someone forgot to wash their hair, someone forgot to dry their hair after Washing? And am i disabled for not being a judging ashole against others and myself? What is this society? 😂

in my "back of head" dissociated mode, i don't feel physically far from myself but i do go on autopilot like you described. i still see everything from my own perspective but i don't interpret my surroundings how i normally do, i focus on whatever i'm doing or need to do in that moment before i can go home and really zone out. i wouldn't necessarily call it amnesia but i do find that ignoring my sense of sight makes time pass quicker and i don't remember things or notice them as much as i normally would. it kind of feels like being on a long train journey where i'm staring at the floor or dozing off.

It’s nice hearing the struggles of another “average” disabled person. It seems almost impossible to get non-disabled people to understand. For example, as a visually impaired person I find grocery shopping extremely difficult. I wear sunglasses sometimes for the bright light in the store which hurts my eyes. I have trouble finding things, as well as reading the prices. I have to arrange for someone to drive me (family, friend or neighbor) because I don’t live near public transit. And because I only go grocery shopping 3-4 times a month, I have to plan most of my meals around pantry ingredients (dry pasta, dried beans, canned vegetables) whether I want to or not. Also, I have to plan 7-10 days of meals at a time because I can’t just run to the store. It is hard to convey to people with normal vision just how much work it is.