Відео

Friends who do this stuff were not the people you thought they were afterall... you miss the person you thought they were not the real them.....recategorise them, and then put them outside of the castle gates... 🏰

She’s a narcissist.

Sometimes you have to trim the roster.

My best friend was killed in a car accident 33 years ago. Never had another, it devastated me. She left 2 small children. Broke my heart. I'm fine on my own. I do have family, a small circle of friends and I'm fine with all of that. Two grown up daughters.

Wow! That's a tough lesson even though she came out of the situation better off. The evil in people flaws me

Extremely wise advice!!

Best friends I’ve had ..always were easy to talk to, I felt equal with and we trusted each other…we ea had our own activities and other friends and we respected each others’ independence, we ea lived our own lives, if we didn’t hear from ea other we always knew we were best friends and we could always pick up on our friendship.

Good words..working their way in across your boundaries, they hone in etc

On the surface friendly neighbor…she sees you just enough to get just enough of your information..one way communication.. love bomber at first, then not available unless she wants to know the latest news of your life.

My closest friends are the ones I grew up with. I don't have any interest in trying to get close to people now. It's much harder to trust people.

So happy I found your channel. I gave up on friends a decade ago 🤗

Laura, I feel exactly like you do; and I have learned not to share too much either. Just safer that way.

I often meet people in a store or garden centre and we hit it off have a wonderful sharing and then I think to myself how I would have liked to meet up again but is that weird? Meeting like minded people who share your passion for decor or gardening or where ever you connect seems so natural to me. I just don't want rejection but I often wonder if I should have offered to meet for coffee or shared more.

How sad, there is nothing like betrayal, it hurts deeply. I'm glad this woman has turned her life again and kudos for not falling apart.

I have to be aware of how much time I spend with these type of women because I’m easily influenced and I’ll start acting the same….

I sure needed to hear this today. Thanks.

I know a few close people but one true friend/supprter, However, I don't want to overwhelm her so I intentionally limit our conversations to avoid exhausting her. The others are those you discussed. Truly, I limit those. Happy new year!

God is great, beer is good and people are crazy! Friend IQ is uncommon. Everyone walks through this life with their own story and for many, they can't tell the difference between their own thoughts and others behavior motivations. It's partly projection, partly delusion, insecurities, envies... grown children all fighting for the cookies and punch and the implications on our existence if we don't get what we think should be our fair portion. Peace is found in embracing the truth of our true worth and in forgiveness. Jesus showed us all this.

I met a woman at church a little over a year ago. She acted like a good friend but every time I suggested we have coffee she had an excuse or would say ok and then not follow through. I think people who do this don’t care that it comes across as no integrity because they think they are so important that they can’t fit us into their schedule. At 61 I have better things to do than play mind games with superficial people.

The bomber is scary. Just had a bad experience with someone who actually started hanging around my road after I blocked them as they knew my routine and didn't like being snubbed. Don't be afraid to cut people right out of your life.

I loved everything about this video.The awesome cookies and the beautiful cross stitch ornaments and the nutcracker collection.All of which I enjoy doing too.Thank you so much Laura and I hope 2025 is the best year ever for you for blessings and good things❤

I thought just this week I was prepared to be around the “jabbers”, but in the end I wasn’t. I reacted instead of pausing. I’m going to practice the pausing with my granddaughter whom I care for regularly. This will then get me ready and prepared for the next time I’m around the jabbers.

I have a friend who always says lets do lunch. I have know here since high school. But I am always the one who has to set up the lunch. In 2025, I am not doing this anymore with anyone. I find friendships for me to be so one sided. It's been this way for me my whole life. My sister loves to entertain and socialize and likes to make me feel like I should be doing this too. I stress out when I entertain. I am more of a one on one person. I enjoy entertaining family. Big groups take the fun out of it. However I have organized almost all of our family reunions. I like to keep our family connected. I do enjoy doing things alone or with my husband. I always feel like I am the one that has to take the first step in communicating with friends or even family for that matter. If I had children, I would probably be busier with them. I think friends come and go. If you can't stay in sync it just doesn't last. Or if someone moves away.

How do you identify a real friend??

Most of what you say I agree with. But the statement: “Success has nothing to do with money” is blatantly not true. Sure, personal success may not be measured by how many dollars one brings home, but there still needs to be sufficient funds to keep a roof over our heads and food on the table. Plus other basics. For a person struggling with subsistence living, success is directly related to money.

You pretty much described most of the women I know. No wonder I don’t have any women friends. Years ago, it occurred to me that my positive outlook was not welcome by most people, especially women. So my life is pretty solitary, by personal choice.

I am new here, but I loved this; because it is so true. At my age, I have found that it is hard to find real friends. Thank you for your advice. Have a Happy New Year! Connie

As an empath I think I attract all these types of friends. 😩😔

👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏

Hello Laura 😊 Ohhhhhhhhj the nr 2 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 ohhhhh yes !!!!!!!! So TRUE. The nr 3 happens daily in my store 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 and its exausting. 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏 Standing Ovation for nr 4 😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅! With the exception of nr 3 thats part of my job sort of as a store owner the other ones i just send them to F### O## 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉

I worked with a competitor. Over the years it became obvious that she was deeply insecure, and her one upmanshipp was a desperate attempt to overcome this. 😢

Can you do a video on the types of friends you plan to spend time with? There are a lot of negative people in the world and it’s good to recognize them. But what constitutes a good friend? How can I recognize them without being paranoid about a hidden agenda (or some such negative trait)? The longer I live, the more I see all people as broken. Including myself. So how can we find those people who bring us up, in spite of our shortcomings? It’s all too easy to label someone. And the messaging I have been hearing from the “Let them” movement is to walk away from them. But at what point do we lift each other up instead of only looking for someone to lift me up? And is that good enough for a friendship to work? I don’t want to be alone and cynical in my old age, and I see so many reasons to reject people because of this or that reason. It would be good to find someone, who in spite of their shortcomings is willing to be lifted up every bit as much as I need to be lifted. Just looking to see what ideas you have for nurturing a friendship and what that person looks like to you.

Excellent advice

Thanks for having your channel. So many relatable topics. You make me amile!

i dont have any women friends i wish i did it just doesnt happen

The worst women in my life have always been boy crazy, desperate for male validation even if it means throwing their friends under the bus.

First off, Happy New Year! Thank you for your videos. When someone tries to force a "friendship" it is a red flag that it will be toxic. The gossiper is another one to steer clear off as much as possible. If they gossip to you, they will gossip about you. The controlling person is yet another one. I have learned to set better boundaries and spot the red flags. It avoids a lot of trouble. At first, it may make tick off that person but who wants to deal with all that mess? It is exhausting.

This is such awesome information; thank you for sharing this!

Great video!

Growing up my mom always told me that friends weren’t good to have. I thought she was negative and ridiculous, lol. It turns out, I’m my own best friend. My only competition is myself. I’m not into social climbers, braggers, phonies, or judgmental people. My daughter is truly my best friend. I’m content.❤

It’s not just friendships, but relationships as well…..

When they come across as loud and fake it’s usually because they are.

I dislike calculating, narcissistic people. They cause all the problems and blame them on others.

I'm so sorry you have been injured. Are you positive they intended to embarrass and hurt you? I'm only asking you because sometimes I internalize things that have nothing to do with me. However, if this is not the case for you, I'm sorry this happened to you. You didn't do anything wrong. You were vibrating at a higher frequency than your friend. You did nothing wrong.

Boy I understand this conceit. Yes, I use to always want a best friend first. Now that I'm almost 60, I have many more friends and they are all unique and different. I generally do not mix them together either. I don't think I consciously search out a best friend either. I agree with so much you are saying. You are helping me process my own experiences better. I appreciate you!

And it goes on throughout your entire life. It exists as much at 60 as 30.

I see your points on all these "types", but I really think we should be careful not to be so quick to label someone. If we take our time to get to know someone and not rush connections, that's a much healthier approach. I can see how you feel this way, based on your past experiences with women, I've been they're too, but we'll miss out on good friendships if we label others so quickly.

Your channel has been a tremendous comfort to me, as I have had one bad friend after the next. Now I am learning to enjoy my own company. Your channel is helping me learn from my mistakes. Thank you so much❤

Amen!🙏❤️✝️

#5 The friend who could never follow through or keep their promises. There's no real reason for them doing this and they come up with the most lame excuses/lies to avoid keeping their word. If they do this twice, I take it as a sign they aren't really a friend...and I haven't been proven wrong yet.