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Diane
Приєднався 9 лис 2023
My name is Diane Chew. I'm a certified life coach and full time caregiver for my husband, Ben, who is living with Lewy body dementia. I coach caregivers as they navigate through the daily challenges of taking care of a loved one at home, addressing their needs on all levels: physical, emotional, mental and spiritual. In our videos, I offer dementia tips and encouragement for caregivers as we share our love story through the challenges of dementia.
Practicing self compassion, even when we feel like a hot mess!
Self compassion takes practice, especially when we’re feeling like a hot mess. Caregiving can BE a hot mess on any given day but just remember that we’re doing the best we can and we are absolutely Rockstars! #dementiacaregiver #caregiver #selfcompassion #dementia #dementiacaregiver dianechew
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How to feel F.I.N.E. as a caregiver
Переглядів 94 години тому
Feeling “fine” as a caregiver can mean many things. Sometimes it can stand for feeling “frantic, irrational, neurotic, and emotional.” But other times it can mean a mixture of both comfortable and uncomfortable emotions. Welcoming all parts of ourselves instead of resisting the uncomfortable feelings can help reduce stress and increase peace. And maybe on some days we can find that fine stands ...
Preparation and prayer make car rides a joy in dementia care!
Переглядів 199 годин тому
Preparation and prayers for peace have turned our car rides into the best experience we share together. If your loved one is living with dementia, it may take some experimentation to find what helps them stay calm. Taking short, experimental trips and staying close to home can help them get used to the safety and pleasure of a ride together. Just do whatever it takes to keep your own cool even...
How to practice self compassion as a stressed out caregiver.
Переглядів 5314 годин тому
Falling into the judgment pit can happen all too often when our expectations of ourselves are too high. Self compassion is always a good practice but can be hard to access as a stressed out caregiver when our to do list is always feels impossible to achieve. It can help to remind ourselves that we’re never alone and it’s normal to feel the way we do. We’re doing the best we can in any given mom...
How to take care of your nervous system in dementia care
Переглядів 5919 годин тому
Taking care of our nervous systems with simple measures like aromatherapy, deep breathing and consistent hydration can reduce our stress as caregivers and positively affect our loved ones at the same time. Taking 100% responsibility for our nervous system regulation puts the power back where it belongs, in our own hands vs. feeling constantly challenged by external circumstances. Not always eas...
How to shift your perspective in dementia care for more inner peace. 🙏🏽
Переглядів 25День тому
How do we handle things when the behaviors of our loved ones living with dementia make no sense to us? Being willing to see things from another perspective can help not only in dementia care but in all our relationships. People say and do things for a reason. It might not be our reason, but it makes sense to them. And sometimes seeing things from their point of view can broaden our own perspect...
How to prioritize tasks and make room for peace 
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Trying to fit more than is possible into each moment is a common challenge for caregivers since there’s always so much to do. Taking a moment to slow down and get clear on the tasks in front of us in terms of what is “important” vs. what just feels “urgent” can help us to prioritize and create space for activities with our loved ones that are peaceful and fun. We need it for our sanity! #caregi...
Practicality and prayer in dementia care.
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The 36 Hour Day is a wonderful guide for dementia care with many practical tips. The challenge for me is finding time to read it. That’s when I resort to prayer. I often have to pray for wisdom and guidance to take the next best step in caring for my husband who’s living with Lewy body dementia. I often have to cry out to God and say, “I don’t know, but you do,” and trust what comes to me. #dem...
Don’t let your fears pop you out of the present moment!
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our control. Taking the time to breathe and question our fearful thoughts is a good way to assess if we need to take action right away in order to stay safe or whether we’d be better off releasing our fears, calming down and accessing divine guidance for the next best thing to do! #dementiacaregiver #dementia #caregiver #dianechew #fear
Pray for peace when your prayer list is a mile long!
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St. Theresa’s prayer for peace is helpful when you don’t know what else to pray for! #dementiacaregiver #dementia #prayer #caregiver #dianechew
How stressful events can lead to the next best step!
Переглядів 3828 днів тому
Caregivers live through a lot of eventful experiences, but sometimes they can lead us to the next best step. Accessing guidance through prayer can help us stay calm and make wise choices for our loved ones.Hospice care looks like the next best step for us! #dementiacaregiver #dementia #caregiver #hospice #dianechew
How to practice positive positivity as a stressed out caregiver!
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Choosing positive thoughts as a stressed out caregiver can feel almost impossible on some mornings. But all we need to do is be willing to create some space in our minds and ask God to help us choose our thoughts. When we release the tendency to overthink and analyze, we can return to a more peaceful and positive mindset, helping us to make better choices for ourselves and our loved ones. #deme...
How to deal with incontinence as a dementia caregiver! 
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Incontinence is one of the biggest challenges for caregivers and especially for dementia caregivers. Wearing two disposable briefs at a time, using incontinence pads, and easy access to commodes can help both the caregiver and their loved one. Some individuals can even get on an “elimination schedule” if the caregiver is willing to repeatedly ask if they have to go to the bathroom at a certain ...
Experiment to engage in dementia care!
Переглядів 24Місяць тому
As dementia caregivers, it’s important to keep experimenting with different activities to keep our loved ones engaged and give them a chance to continue to have social interactions. They may be more sensitive to sound, light, and activity, however. Simple things like hearing protection, sunglasses, and hats can protect them from the elements and help them to have a more relaxed experience, even...
How to practice “beingness” vs. “doingness”
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How to practice “beingness” vs. “doingness”
How to release your addiction to overthinking when challenges arise!
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How to release your addiction to overthinking when challenges arise!
How to make peace with repetition in dementia care.
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How to make peace with repetition in dementia care.
How to improve your ability to respond when life throws you curveballs! 
Переглядів 41Місяць тому
How to improve your ability to respond when life throws you curveballs! 
How to reduce overwhelm for both caregivers and loved ones living with dementia. 
Переглядів 15Місяць тому
How to reduce overwhelm for both caregivers and loved ones living with dementia. 
Flip the switch from overthinking to intuition to access more peace and better answers!
Переглядів 38Місяць тому
Flip the switch from overthinking to intuition to access more peace and better answers!
Laughing at the absurdity of life can help caregiver stress levels!
Переглядів 98Місяць тому
Laughing at the absurdity of life can help caregiver stress levels!
Prayer for dementia caregivers feeling like they’re in a foxhole.
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Prayer for dementia caregivers feeling like they’re in a foxhole.
Don’t assume anything in dementia care!
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Don’t assume anything in dementia care!
A sense of humor is the best medicine for stressed out caregivers!
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A sense of humor is the best medicine for stressed out caregivers!
How to enjoy holidays, despite your caregiving role. 
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How to enjoy holidays, despite your caregiving role. 
Use humor to speed caregiver “recovery” time 😂
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Use humor to speed caregiver “recovery” time 😂
Don’t let anybody who hasn’t walked in your shoes tell you how to tie your laces! 
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Don’t let anybody who hasn’t walked in your shoes tell you how to tie your laces! 
Plan for emergencies to take the stress out of dementiacaregiving.
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Plan for emergencies to take the stress out of dementiacaregiving.
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Such a great message.
Your honesty and sharing what so many of us are experiencing really does help us not feel alone
Hi I’m a good friend of your sister Janice! I was just on the phone with her. Yes! GOD IS HERE FOR US ALL! Keep praying and you are in our prayers! 🌸🌸🙁🙏🙏🙏
She is so inspiring and encouraging to me. All of her videos are so good
Thank you for being a part of this community Mary. And your encouragement means a lot to me. Of course there days when I don’t know what I’m doing or why and then I remember that there’s a higher purpose and everything we do. What we see we will find. Sending love and gratitude. Thanks for connecting!
Love this prayer ❤
All the prayers and positive thoughts for you and Ben. ❤️
Thank you so much. Every prayer is powerful. And I really appreciate you taking the time to connect and comment. I don’t always have the time to engage with the community as much as I want, but please know how grateful I am that you’re out there cheering us on!! ❤❤❤
@@Dementiacoachdiane ❤️
For the last 14 years of the 20 I safety supervised my mother but in those last 14 years with tbi alz and dementia she spent every Oct thru winter to mid spring she would wonder every day 3.30 to 10 I would be after her with oxygen cables untangling from furniture I see in Australia its opposite
I’m so very glad it was helpful. This has been such an intense journey and it sounds like you can relate. But moment by moment, God is helping me to follow his lead and make the most loving choices I can…sending prayers your way!
Thank you so much, thus helps me alot.
I’m glad it helped. I really have to practice every day. But thank you for weighing in and letting me know that I’m not alone! ❤❤❤
I’m praying for God to send you the answers and the help you need to take care of Ben and yourself ❤ I stress about things that are in the future. I always feel like I need a plan for everything . This was so needed today. Thank you 🙏 ❤
I am smiling while I’m watching this video. The love you have for each other is so evident. Thank you for sharing your intimate moments.
Thank you for watching and sharing with us! You just never know what’s going to come out of Ben’s mouth. I was so grateful that I caught it for myself and to share! A Joy shared is truly doubled, a grief Shared is cut in half:) ❤
Thank you for being so honest and letting us into your life
Thanks for commenting and encouraging me..it makes a world of difference and helps me to keep going! ❤❤❤
OMGGGGG....THATS EXACTLY WHAT I DO...I DO A RUN THE DAY BEFORE OR ILL LEAVE LIKE 40 MINUTES EARLY AND IF I GET THERE A LIL EARLY I SEEM TO FIND THAT THEY LIKE IT WHEN IM THERE A LITTLE EARLIER....HAVE A GREAT DAY...I LOVE U 2... PLEASE LET ME KNOW IF YOU EVER GET A PO BOX.....
When I was a 24/7 caretaker for my grandmother I wrote anything and everything down in one folder digital and on paper. And generally double and triple checked everything. And if I was wasn't directly with her or at night I always had her on the babyphone with me.
If you go to my website, there’s a way to contact me. It’s www.dementiacoachdiane.com. It’s in the email newsletter. (If you don’t mind signing up.) just make sure that you click the link that comes in the welcome email confirming that you want to hear from me and then when you get the newsletter scroll to the bottom and there’s a way to contact me. Thank you for connecting with us and I’m delighted to know that we share some of the same brilliant thoughts!! ❤❤❤
@@Nem01 I hear you. We have a to go bag for Ben that has all of his important information and medication’s. I have it listed on the door and I want to make sure he’s always well taken care of. It takes a mental village to take care of my guy, but we’re hanging in!
My absurd happening was I got run over by the tire of our car and fell down while I was unpacking the backseat without the driver knowing it.
wow Diane, what a powerful prayer. One of the greatest benefits of talking with the all powerful Creator, and the lover of our souls is that as we express our needs, we are able to then receive the filling of those needs from a Father who is always ready to do immeasurably more than we can think or ask
Praying for you ❤
How are you and Ben today? You have been in my thoughts and prayers.
Thank you so much. It’s a few days since I posted this video and I had to take a little break to just regroup. Ben seems a little better though I think we’re going to opt for palliative care to get some additional resources. Thank you so much for your support and your prayers. Each one is powerful and we are so grateful!
Thank you so very much. Your prayers and your caring for us means so much to me. He’s actually doing better. We saw his neurologist and got some guidance for how to distinguish between back pain and neurological changes. Of course, as always as one moment at a time, but we seem to be beyond the mini crises we were in for a few weeks at least for now. So once again, thank you so much for connecting, commenting, and caring!!
Praying for you.
Much love and prayers.
Such wise advice so grateful for your encouraging and grateful attitude.
Oh my dear sister, holding you in my heart since my arms are across the country!! Thank you for your clear emotion and sharing from your gut. I just returned from a brief but most needed respite away to see grandkids. Stepping back on the treadmill today..... soooo reluctantly.
Oh Cynthia, I’m so glad that you got a break and got to see your beloved grandchildren. It would be a blessing if we had children and grandchildren, but so hard to not be able to see them as often as I wanted. And I understand the reluctant return to your current circumstances. I can feel that way every time I wake up in the morning. It’s taking some practice, but it helps so much for me to focus on the sparks of joy that we have in each day right now, despite the challenges. I find that the blessings are mixed right in with the stress, but if I seek them, I will find them! ❤❤❤
Vent-----it's good for the soul.
Early stage of Parkinson’s for husband. He has mobility issues due to nerve pain in legs so uses a scooter outside. He used it yesterday to putter around outside. Long story short, he fell off the scooter several times and it was increasingly hard to get him up each time. I begged him to go inside but he wouldn’t. Finally, he fell and couldn’t get up for over an hour. We used all our tricks for getting him up but nothing worked. He was weak and tired and just could not do what he normally does. I was just about ready to call EMS when we got him up. He was too weak to operate his scooter so I had to get it and him back to the ramp and onto the porch and into the house. He was filthy from being on the ground so into the shower he went, after which he passed out on the bed from exhaustion. In addition to being exhausted myself, I was eaten up by mosquito bites from being outside without proper protection. I am hyper-reactive and so was miserably trying to treat those while trying to deal with my husband. None of this needed to happen. He should have gone in the house after puttering around for a while. He later agreed with me about that but I can assure you that he will do this again. Because he slept after his shower he was awake until 4am. So, while he sleeps this morning, I’m exhausted and itchy and fearful of what lies ahead. Thanks for your timely message. As always, you are a wonderful, faith-based resource for those of us on this journey.
Thank you so much for sharing that experience Dottie. I’m sorry it took me so long to get back to you. But wow, I could feel every moment of frustration and every itchy mosquito bite. I’m really hypersensitive to those as well. They can drive me nuts. I just ordered a gait 2:16 belt for Ben because things are shifting and I can’t lift him by myself. I’m hoping some of these devices help because wow, it’s such a daunting journey to try to do on our own. Big hugs and prayers coming out to you. Maybe taking a picture of him the next time he falls on the ground could help to convince him that he doesn’t want to do that again. I try things like that with Ben, doesn’t always work, but once in a while, it helps, we don’t want to shame them, just keep them safe! ❤❤❤
Diane, you should consider re-posting this poem. It's powerful. People need to hear that it's okay to 'Just Let Go'. Keep up the great work you do daily.
God bless you both
Great ideas, plan ahead. ❤
Absolutely found this to be true with my mother. I slow down., don't give too many choices, and am affectionate in everything I say. I hold her hand and rub her back sometimes. Non verbal stuff sooo important. First time to your site. Thank you and God bless you and your husband.
Good for you! 😄
Thank you, Diane! Very good information!
You are so welcome! So glad it was helpful. Thank you for letting me know!
Awesome prayer. Thanks for sharing and for the pacing. ☮️ 🙏🏽🙏🏻🙏🏼♥️
Just starting this journey with my husband. A cognitive decline not yet diagnosed. Thank you so much for sharing your experience and inspiration with all of us . Many prayers and hugs 🥰
I am so very sorry to hear that. But I’m glad that you found us. It’s been an intense experience, but filled with many miracles as well. Big hugs coming your way!!
@@Dementiacoachdiane ❤️
What a lovely, joyful walk!😊
Yes it was! ❤️❤️❤️
Florida and it's nasty hot
I hear you. I have a beloved sister in Florida that I would love to be closer to, but don’t think I could handle the heat. Hang in there. Hope you have access to a pool on the ocean!!
Go for it and have a greatttt day ....I LOVE YOU 2.....GOD BLESS YOU AND YOUR FAMILY
I walked in the rain with a friend this morning. It was great
It’s so lovely to do, isn’t it? And I always say I’m not sweet enough to melt so bring on the rain!! ❤❤❤
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Just entering the stage where he doesn't recognize the master bathroom . Great advice❤
Peeps have no idea what you go through! So sorry you are dealing with this. Try to see if there is Respite Care or Dementia Day Care locally. Don't know about cost, insurance coverage, outta pocket costs. 😒 Sending 🫂 🤗! That's the best I got.
Thank you, Victoria, you are so kind to comment and to Care. I’ve looked into all of that. I’m going to work with private caregivers to get some help right now and trust that there will be a way to work out financially. One step at a time! ❤❤❤
Respite Care ❤
❤❤ same here for my granny! Hope you’re having time to recharge and refill your own cup too 🥰
IT SEEMS LIKE HE SHOULD BE EXHAUSTED...LOL...
I TOTALLYYYYYYYYYYYYYY RESPECT U 100 %YOU ARE SOOOOO KIND AND LOVING TO YOUR HUSBAND ...MAY I ASK HOW LONG HAVE Y'ALL BEEN MARRIED?.
It’s taking me some time to figure it out, but doing my best to listen to God’s guidance so that I can stay healthy for the long-haul!! Thank you for caring! ❤❤❤
@@user-gy9fo9zb1x you are so kind and encouraging. It really helps a lot!! Ben and I met over 50 years ago and have been married for 40. He is truly my angel and God has given me patience beyond belief. For that I am so grateful, and I know that we are both in God’s hands!
@@user-gy9fo9zb1x you think he would tie out right? Not so much. 🥴 But for now I’m just grateful that he’s got energy and can walk because that will keep him healthier in the long run.
What a positive, loving , dedicated wife you are. And full of some amazing wisdom. ❤
you are amazing❤
Thanks ❤
Wonderful! 🎉
Keep laughing....u make me smile and laugh...
I ADORE U.....I LOVE HOW U MAKE LIGHT OF EVERYTHING...IM NOT IN THE SAME PLACE AS U BUT I GOT COVID SAT .AND IM SO SICK WHEN I GOT OUT OF THE SHOWER I PUT MY PJS BACK ON INSTEAD OF MY SCRUBS THEN WHEN I NOTICED I PUT MY WORK SHIRT ON BACK WARDS....
Oh thank you, your feedback is very encouraging. I’m so sorry to hear you got sick. And pretty funny about your shirt on backwards ..it’s understandable, when we don’t feel well, our own brains go haywire!! 😂
Have a blessed day!
Hi Diane, I saw the videos on your channel. Your video content is excellent. To grow & increase the view of your channel you need to optimize your videos. SEO Score is very low. The title, Description, and Tags are not SEO-friendly. Videos are not shared on Social Media platforms and many other problems are found on your UA-cam Channel. If your channel is optimized a little and if the videos are SEO friendly then your channel will rank very fast and your channel will grow. So immediately need SEO for your Videos & UA-cam channel. Do you want to improve those problems and grow your UA-cam Channel?
Hi, thank you so much for your input. Yes I would. I’ve been focusing a little more on Instagram since that’s where all my action is right now, but of course I’d like to grow on UA-cam as well.
@@Dementiacoachdiane To start work I would like to arrange a Google meeting at your convenience.
@@Dementiacoachdiane how do I communicate to start the work.
@@Seodejohn you can email me at diane@dementiacoachdiane.com. I’d like to hear more about what you do and what it costs. Thank you!
@@Dementiacoachdiane i have replied you.
Hi Diane, I saw the videos on your channel. Your video content is excellent. To grow & increase the view of your channel you need to optimize your videos. SEO Score is very low. The title, Description, and Tags are not SEO-friendly. Videos are not shared on Social Media platforms and many other problems are found on your UA-cam Channel. If your channel is optimized a little and if the videos are SEO friendly then your channel will rank very fast and your channel will grow. So immediately need SEO for your Videos & UA-cam channel. Do you want to improve those problems and grow your UA-cam Channel?