Carrie never took time to heal from a breakup, she just jumped from one relationship to another. She would rebound with men, then go running back to Mr. Big. Carrie was so obsessed with this unavailable man, that she accepted the breadcrumbs he gave her. It's a 🚩🚩when a man doesn't think you're good enough to meet his mother & friends.
She also was just a bad person who used all her romantic partners and friends as tools to further her own self interests despite their best interest She never had anyone’s best interests at heart
Big made it pretty clear they weren't in "meet my mother" territory. And yet she forced her way into meeting her anyway. Oddly enough, she avoided meeting Aidan's parents when he *invited* her to meet them!
Im actually not mad that he admitted that he wasnt the one to send the bouquet and that it was infact his secretary. To me that just showed that he didnt care and that she wasnt a thought to him.
I've always felt that Big used Carrie as a placeholder. That's why even up to their wedding, he kept being dismissive, procrastinating, questioning their relationship. He never really wanted Carrie. Big had already experienced poor relationships prior, yet he was still looking for "the one." He never found "the one," so he settled for Carrie. Unfortunately, there are men & women like this in real life. Who can't seem to find "the one" for themselves, so they settle with someone they consider 2nd or 3rd best
I barely saw SATC. Listening to the story told it sounds like a tragic drama, rather than in any way romantic. Hurting someone who is clearly in love with you so often is soo cruel. And she centering a man all of the time, over everybody is tragic.
I've seen every episode at least 5 times!😊 I actually loved the show! But Carrie was like a lot of women of her time, now and before! Getting "that man" was a goal in life but she didn't let him stop her career or interfere with her close friendships! Big, for the most part or whatever relationship she was in was a big issue for her and extremely important! It was really a great and funny comedy with a little drama, some great fashions and some really great shoes! 😊
I love your analysis of Sex and the City. The show can be both groundbreaking and harmful to girls and women. It also promoted expensive lifestyles that's not obtainable for many women. Carrie definitely went in and out of relationships without taking time to process and heal. Males like Mr. Big want to control women they don't want or care for. That's another level of abuse.
I love that you point out how he keeps making jokes during serious conversations. I have been accused of being too serious by men when I am trying to have a serious conversation. And the worst thing is I let these guys in because they make me laugh, but they refuse to turn it off.
Crazy how watching the show back as an older and wiser woman, I was actually second embarrassed for Carrie in so many moments (in her relationship with Big). Crazy how I was so aligned with her and enamored with her character as a younger woman. LIVING and LEARNING.
This is such a Gen X man thing to do. (I saw a few other comments in the thread sadly acknowledging this as well) Growing up as a Gen X woman you are correct. Many guys I dated were given certain allowances that you wouldn’t dare let your girlfriends get away with then. It was so toxic! I’m encouraged by Millennials and Gen Z. Though embarrassed and sometimes angry women, and myself, used to excuse so much. Don’t let a partner ever, for any reason, treat you like an option instead of a priority. No excuses.
The reason I didn't watch this towards the end of the original run (when I was an appropriate age to start watching it) was because all I saw at the time was excessive money spending and mostly just to please men OR to heal from men. And I was hearing from advertising that it was about "embracing" their own power and sexuality but it felt like it was about them giving their time and lives to men. To just freshly 18 year old me it didn't feel like it to me. I actually shop as a trauma response and a response to decision. And I know it's unhealthy. But it's ok as entertainment for adults who are settled into their self. I'm an almost 40 year old woman that could watch this separate from my own feelings but I do think that if navy people watch this as a 16-22 year old it could affect the way I think relationships think should be.
You sort of skipped over Big’s intention for going to that wedding. He only wants to attend because he wants to witness Carrie be embarrassed or humiliated by her poem, which is diabolical!! 😩
Carrie and Big are an example of two highly self absorbed, self centered (in an attached way to their false narrative), and extremely entitled. She treats her friends like crap. She’s not a good friend at all. Total pickmesha. Desperate for love but unable to love herself. Big is just an overt psychopath. He’s high enough level to pretend to be human well enough and isn’t the kind who goes around taking lives in a killer kind of sense, but he ruins lives everywhere he goes because he doesn’t feel anything really, he just pretends to feel things really well. Aiden was a “nice guy” kind of guy, doing good with the entitlement that it earns him the life he believes he wants. He’s in the step down position with Carrie where Big is in the power step up position with Carrie. Carrie has superficial self insight, she doesn’t grow and change in positive ways she just continues doing the same broken patterns that make her life miserable. She needed therapy, but instead she slept with Bon Jovi. 😂 absolutely none of the characters in this show are well adjusted mature adults. They are all wounded children playing the role of adult. I was hoping after Big dies in the new series that they’d send Carrie to grief counseling and get her some therapy. Now that would make a much more interesting show. But alas she carries on being Carrie doing the Carrie pattern.
As a woman who dated in the 80’s and 90’s I and a lot of friends 💯 made excuses for when men would act badly or make up totally unbelievable reasons why they may have done the thing. It wasn’t until the book -He’s Just Not That Into You-that was made into a really cute movie with Justin Long, Jen Aniston and other good stars, that we finally started to wake up to the fact that we are worth more, that we shouldn’t try to be like men and to stop making excuses for them. Of course we didn’t stop completely but it really was the first time it had been portrayed that I remember, where we saw we didn’t have to accept this bare minimum. I wish I hadn’t wasted a lot of my young woman life accepting it and making excuses. Thank you for showing and explaining this to the new generation.
Thank you so much for this breakdown. I’m so glad I let go of my “Mr. Big” and healed from him. Oh goodness how I strived to be “good enough” and how codependent I was. Hearing this breakdown almost makes me want to cry for the girl in me who was like Carrie and for accepting CRUMBS while trying to convince myself I was FULL. Sorry to the girl in me who desperately wanted to be loved. And to the healed woman in me, welcome home.
He doesn't want to sign the card and is paranoid about his name, Carrie's stuff being in his place because this whole time he is with Natasha. Carrie is the side chick.
Yes Samantha had some issues and trauma’s to be worked out as well. But I will not be doing a series on Samantha bc I don’t think everything needs to be psychoanalyzed
I know we like to think that Samantha was that girl, but I think she was deeply traumatized. She often times engaged in self deprecating smex to cover for the fact that she was deeply hurt by her heartbreak with Richard. She may have cared for Jared, but I don’t really think she truly loved him.
I cannot wait to hear your venomous take on Steve. 😂 Also, your views are very thoughtful and insightful. I hate that you had to give a disclaimer at the beginning of the video. Keep up the great work! 🎉🎉🎉🎉
You are SO ARTICULATE AND I LOVE THIS COMMENTARY! Please keep it coming you rock. Carrie was always a character as a trans woman I used to navigate my femininity through the early 90s/2000’s as a kid with my little sister. It ABSOLUTELY played into our way of approaching men unfortunately. It took me such a long time to u learn these habits. Now I watch at 30 for like the 8th time I finally see how easy it is to be trapped in ‘situationships’. I’m grateful to have something that stayed the same, but allowed my perception to grow, thereby changing the series every time I watch it. Ty for this series
When this first aired I was of a similar age and living in NYC, so I watched a few episodes and hated it. I kept thinking how are these beautiful, intelligent and fairly successful ladies still behaving like 15 year olds. I had no interest in watching grown women revolve their entire beings around men who don’t give an F about them. I found myself shouting at the TV “what is wrong with you!” Had to stop watching.
here's the thing, Carrie isn't a fictional character. she's the alias of Candace bushnell. she's a real person and i still have no sympathy because i can't stand a cheater. Also Candace didn't end up with Big, she ended up with the Russian.
That's why I loved Samantha, even though she clearly had some issues getting close to one person, still, she didn't let a man walk all over her. Even Richard, he cheated on her but she still cut him off. Miranda was way too negative for me! Always complaining and never happy!
I have come to appreciate Samantha and Charlotte more as I've gotten older. They both have massive flaws of their own (Samantha's emotional unavailability, Charlotte's obsession with appearances/status) but I think they ended up with the best two male partners in Smith and Harry. ETA: ESPECIALLY Charlotte and Harry.
I see when he took the phone call as he was showing interest in her and going to the wedding to show support, but then when it came down to the moment he didn't actually care about her enough to support her and watch it. Doing just enough to keep giving her hope for the type of relationship she wants, but ultimately hurting her deeply.
Your a great story teller i swear this recap is better than the show. Great Job. ❤I watched the series as a teenager and i feel like it may have warped my perspect of adult relationships just a bit. I would like to watch it as an adult to see what not to do.
When men come back they always take it up a little notch on the effort to make you let down your guard again. Introducing Carrie to some friends or whatnot meant nothing to Big, it was just another ploy.
I never watched it, so thanks for the synopsis. I always found it problematic with the Mr. Big storyline and her chasing after what seemed to be an illusion.
Steve was a total “dusty” as SheraSeven would say. The only good thing is that when Big died she got all his money but I agree she spent too much time on him in her youth. But it fits with how she grew up, total abandonment trauma/issues.
Steve wasn't that bad. Even though he was broke initially,he showed signs of growth and actually loved Miranda. He later collaborated with Aidan to own a bar.He went from bar attender to owner. He never cheated on Miranda. He's not a total dusty.
Steve was too good for Miranda. He didn't have much money in the beginning but he became a successful business owner. He was a genuinely good guy who made a mistake by cheating.
@@mignalyortiz4589Exactly. Steve was an honest hard working class man. He went from working in a bar to owning one with Aiden. He never once leeched off of Miranda. Do you remember when she tried to buy him that $900 suit? He wasn’t having it. He didn’t want her paying for stuff for him AND he wasn’t intimidated by her success. He also really loved her. He cheated because they had a dead bedroom (not excusable but understandable). 😆 Y’all gotta stop listening to SheraSeven. She is going lead you all astray. If you aren’t born into wealth and have a trust fund, you will meet men who are working to be upwardly mobile. And in order to do that you have to start somewhere. That is the reality. The finished product type of men you all want have worked hard to get to where they are. But they all started from somewhere.
Steve was and still is a hobosexual & broke. Women like Miranda need more than sitting on the sofa watching TV. Her social class takes trips to Europe or the Maldives to break up the monotony. Steve is too working class for her.
I really appreciate your take on this whole topic. (I don't agree with every point but we don't need to agree for me to appreciate your insights and learn from them. ) ❤Welcome❤
Ahhhh i always forget that Samantha was older! I always wondered why I relate to her personality so much even though her and i didn’t have that much in common i am more of a charlotte but i feel like a Samantha sometimes im older than all my friends as well im just young for my age maybe its my adhd! Wouldn’t be surprised if Samantha had adhd as well, but “women didn’t get adhd back then” they said 🙄 but that gives me a whole lot to think about about things that me and Samantha have in common and that’s a big one. I feel so much younger than i am.
The more I watch the series, the more it's clear to me, It's just a male fantasy played through a female main character. A two-dimensional stereotypical woman pines for One special man, even through all her sexcapades. All of this is framed as something worth emulating.
Also keep in mind the producer of the show originally wrote it for 4 gay men living in NYC navigating the dating world. This whole show is a fever dream😂
Back in the early 2000s my older cousins used to watch this at the age of 11-13 so yea. Also I watch mean girls back in 2004 when I was 7-8 and I got the message but I was influenced and enjoyed it. I love the movie but looking back now I wouldn’t let my kid watch it until their much older perhaps
I’ve only seen a couple of episodes of this and I’m sooooo glad that was all! Carrie was AWFUL. SJP did a great job as an actress, which is why this character feels so real. But it’s such a horrible character! What an awful male centered friend and she’s just so selfish and juvenile. The Financial Diet did a wonderful episode on her. That would be a great collab BTW! Both of you talk about financial education and empowerment for women, especially during divorces.
I need to go back and watch this series with my 33 year old eyes because it would hit differently. I want to weigh in, but I need more information. every point you’ve made in the previous videos made TOTAL sense to me though…didn’t sense any shame at all ESPECIALLY since I am the same age as Carrie in the show. big yikes.
As much as I was there with Carrie all through the series with the ups and downs with Big… I get it. We don’t always make smart choices when we are smitten, but I HATE that they ended up together living “happily ever after”. That was such unbelievable BS. What we’ve learned through the whole series is that you CANT change a man. He treated her as an after thought and side chick their whole relationship. Then left her at the fricken alter. THAT guy is suddenly going to get married and become this perfect little doting husband?? FoH! Please! I loved the show so much. But I hated the first movie, didn’t bother watching the 2nd movie or the AJLT nonsense. Apparently, I like the characters Candace Bushnell wrote… Beyond that, it doesn’t make sense.
Carrie had abandonment issues from her dad which she never made peace or seek therapy for it what you dont heal you repeat. Trust me therapy works no man gives you worth ever ! I wish they made the characters strong high self-esteem and hypergamous. They failed that era
I absolutely HATED the Miranda Steve pairing!!! So happy they're divorcing in the reboot series cause that never should've happened frfr. Miranda always gave future late in life lesbian.
Then there's the fact that she was so smug through the whole relationship like somehow that she was able to maintain this man's interest for so long even through marriages and other relationships that she was the one that he wanted to a certain extent and would always call back I think she took it as somehow a compliment she tamed the wild stallion but he dragged her everywhere but to her happiness
If I were Carrie, and that irresistible over him, and once I noticed Big playing those games, I would have used him for money and became his sugar baby. Might as well get something out of it!
You know the odd thing Charlotte was very honest about her goals...though it backfired then she got Harry [too good for her I felt for a long time...] but atleast you KNEW EXACTLY WHAT CHARLOTTE WANTED and she went about it llike a JOB 😂😂 . Carrie took bullshit -drop, bullshit -crawling back repeatedly. Gen X no matter the race/ethnicity was taught "love" had to be a struggle . ALL THE WAY TO THE ALTER he drop kicked her...dayuum
Samantha was the goat on that show. She handled relationships , her career, lifestyle how women should do it. Miranda was a close second, but she got swept up by her hobosexual 😂. Carrie and Charlotte got on my ever lasting nerves on the show 😂!
Yes, I felt like Steve ambushed Miranda's life and frankly her friends enabled it. It was always the most important thing that there was a man in your life and it's just not
Steve went from bar attender to bar owner and loved Miranda unlike Big who's rich aka 'not a dusty' yet treats Carrie like trash. I think Big is the dusty.
@@BurbNBougie Well, she didn't do it that much, but she was prioritizing a newer relationship for her girls, whom she knew she could count on! The women in the show often put their friendship over family because Carrie's mother and father were deceased, and Amanda stated in one episode that she didn't like her family! When she found out her mother died, she was devastated, and during the funeral procession, she was walking alone, crying and falling apart. She really needed support, and Carrie jumped up, grabbed her hand, and walked with her! No words were spoken but the look she gave Carrie was pure gratitude and love! Sometimes, a woman in love, at first, may drop her friends for the guy for a period of thime but real friends come back together! The show was definitely a show about friendship, but they were always cheering each other on when their romantic relationships were good or if they some of the relationships were problematic they would let each other know but also be supportive if things went south!😊
So there's a blk woman on tik tok named Cecil who has been doing Sex in the City break downs for years. I'm assuming this woman was inspired by Cecil. I'm wondering if she gave credit to Cecil because this was clearly her work.
Cecilia Regina? Yes I love her and Mel Hamlett’s video’s on pop culture so they did inspire me but to say it’s her work is false. I’m actively rewatching the series and breaking it down episode by episode . We might have similar points bc we’re talking about the same show and issues represented on the show, but I’m using Burb’s talking points and my own life experience to analyze the show. So to say that it’s clearly her work is false and insulting
I was insulted for you. There have been so many people that do reviews. Are you supposed to credit every person that has come before and done a review on a series? It's a ridiculous assertion
@@BurbNBougie we don't. Hating the character Steve Brady is foolishness to me. Hating the character Steve Brady is valid to others. The two opinions exist simultaneously.
This show screwed up Gen x and millennials relationships. I was always looking for “Mr. Big”. And I dated a lot of Mr. Bigs. I’m so glad I broke the habit and found the one for me.
Carrie never took time to heal from a breakup, she just jumped from one relationship to another. She would rebound with men, then go running back to Mr. Big. Carrie was so obsessed with this unavailable man, that she accepted the breadcrumbs he gave her. It's a 🚩🚩when a man doesn't think you're good enough to meet his mother & friends.
She also was just a bad person who used all her romantic partners and friends as tools to further her own self interests despite their best interest
She never had anyone’s best interests at heart
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Big made it pretty clear they weren't in "meet my mother" territory. And yet she forced her way into meeting her anyway. Oddly enough, she avoided meeting Aidan's parents when he *invited* her to meet them!
@@ShadyLadyxxexactly!
Im actually not mad that he admitted that he wasnt the one to send the bouquet and that it was infact his secretary. To me that just showed that he didnt care and that she wasnt a thought to him.
Yeah, and imagine how many other women got flowers sent to them? Big never gave that monogamous vibe.
Yeah, and that should have been a huge sign to her!
💯 don’t ditch plans with your friends for a man! Roles reversed they would never for you.
Yup
Facts
I've always felt that Big used Carrie as a placeholder. That's why even up to their wedding, he kept being dismissive, procrastinating, questioning their relationship. He never really wanted Carrie. Big had already experienced poor relationships prior, yet he was still looking for "the one." He never found "the one," so he settled for Carrie. Unfortunately, there are men & women like this in real life. Who can't seem to find "the one" for themselves, so they settle with someone they consider 2nd or 3rd best
If this was real, he wouldn't marry her
Big was a narcissist. He just wanted her to love him and that is how these men will always be.
Big dragged Carrie thru the mud for years
And she allowed it.
Carrie let Big lead her on even though time after time he showed her that he wasn’t serious about her.
Even in death he embarrassed her😅
You wrote "Carrie ALLOWED Mr. Big to drag her through the mud for years" wrong. 😂
I barely saw SATC. Listening to the story told it sounds like a tragic drama, rather than in any way romantic. Hurting someone who is clearly in love with you so often is soo cruel. And she centering a man all of the time, over everybody is tragic.
It's mostly just comedy.. I've seen every episode
I've seen every episode at least 5 times!😊 I actually loved the show! But Carrie was like a lot of women of her time, now and before! Getting "that man" was a goal in life but she didn't let him stop her career or interfere with her close friendships! Big, for the most part or whatever relationship she was in was a big issue for her and extremely important! It was really a great and funny comedy with a little drama, some great fashions and some really great shoes! 😊
I love your analysis of Sex and the City. The show can be both groundbreaking and harmful to girls and women. It also promoted expensive lifestyles that's not obtainable for many women.
Carrie definitely went in and out of relationships without taking time to process and heal. Males like Mr. Big want to control women they don't want or care for. That's another level of abuse.
I love that you point out how he keeps making jokes during serious conversations. I have been accused of being too serious by men when I am trying to have a serious conversation. And the worst thing is I let these guys in because they make me laugh, but they refuse to turn it off.
Crazy how watching the show back as an older and wiser woman, I was actually second embarrassed for Carrie in so many moments (in her relationship with Big). Crazy how I was so aligned with her and enamored with her character as a younger woman. LIVING and LEARNING.
This is such a Gen X man thing to do. (I saw a few other comments in the thread sadly acknowledging this as well)
Growing up as a Gen X woman you are correct. Many guys I dated were given certain allowances that you wouldn’t dare let your girlfriends get away with then. It was so toxic! I’m encouraged by Millennials and Gen Z. Though embarrassed and sometimes angry women, and myself, used to excuse so much.
Don’t let a partner ever, for any reason, treat you like an option instead of a priority. No excuses.
Your intern is so darn cool! Love her!
The reason I didn't watch this towards the end of the original run (when I was an appropriate age to start watching it) was because all I saw at the time was excessive money spending and mostly just to please men OR to heal from men. And I was hearing from advertising that it was about "embracing" their own power and sexuality but it felt like it was about them giving their time and lives to men. To just freshly 18 year old me it didn't feel like it to me.
I actually shop as a trauma response and a response to decision. And I know it's unhealthy.
But it's ok as entertainment for adults who are settled into their self. I'm an almost 40 year old woman that could watch this separate from my own feelings but I do think that if navy people watch this as a 16-22 year old it could affect the way I think relationships think should be.
Yup, giving yourself to men cheap and free isn't empowering.
You sort of skipped over Big’s intention for going to that wedding. He only wants to attend because he wants to witness Carrie be embarrassed or humiliated by her poem, which is diabolical!! 😩
Carrie and Big are an example of two highly self absorbed, self centered (in an attached way to their false narrative), and extremely entitled. She treats her friends like crap. She’s not a good friend at all. Total pickmesha. Desperate for love but unable to love herself. Big is just an overt psychopath. He’s high enough level to pretend to be human well enough and isn’t the kind who goes around taking lives in a killer kind of sense, but he ruins lives everywhere he goes because he doesn’t feel anything really, he just pretends to feel things really well. Aiden was a “nice guy” kind of guy, doing good with the entitlement that it earns him the life he believes he wants. He’s in the step down position with Carrie where Big is in the power step up position with Carrie. Carrie has superficial self insight, she doesn’t grow and change in positive ways she just continues doing the same broken patterns that make her life miserable. She needed therapy, but instead she slept with Bon Jovi. 😂 absolutely none of the characters in this show are well adjusted mature adults. They are all wounded children playing the role of adult. I was hoping after Big dies in the new series that they’d send Carrie to grief counseling and get her some therapy. Now that would make a much more interesting show. But alas she carries on being Carrie doing the Carrie pattern.
Very well said 🙌
As a woman who dated in the 80’s and 90’s I and a lot of friends 💯 made excuses for when men would act badly or make up totally unbelievable reasons why they may have done the thing.
It wasn’t until the book -He’s Just Not That Into You-that was made into a really cute movie with Justin Long, Jen Aniston and other good stars, that we finally started to wake up to the fact that we are worth more, that we shouldn’t try to be like men and to stop making excuses for them. Of course we didn’t stop completely but it really was the first time it had been portrayed that I remember, where we saw we didn’t have to accept this bare minimum. I wish I hadn’t wasted a lot of my young woman life accepting it and making excuses. Thank you for showing and explaining this to the new generation.
Thank you so much for this breakdown. I’m so glad I let go of my “Mr. Big” and healed from him. Oh goodness how I strived to be “good enough” and how codependent I was.
Hearing this breakdown almost makes me want to cry for the girl in me who was like Carrie and for accepting CRUMBS while trying to convince myself I was FULL.
Sorry to the girl in me who desperately wanted to be loved. And to the healed woman in me, welcome home.
He doesn't want to sign the card and is paranoid about his name, Carrie's stuff being in his place because this whole time he is with Natasha. Carrie is the side chick.
Can we also talk about how Samantha was a cautionary tale as well? Let us not forget that Samantha had a full crash out over Richard.
But she came to her senses and fell in love with that gorgeous Smith!😊
Was she? Yeah she fell in love and it didn’t work out but what is the lesson to be learned?
Yes Samantha had some issues and trauma’s to be worked out as well. But I will not be doing a series on Samantha bc I don’t think everything needs to be psychoanalyzed
I know we like to think that Samantha was that girl, but I think she was deeply traumatized. She often times engaged in self deprecating smex to cover for the fact that she was deeply hurt by her heartbreak with Richard. She may have cared for Jared, but I don’t really think she truly loved him.
@@QueenLaCheefa So why was she sleeping around before Richard
I cannot wait to hear your venomous take on Steve. 😂
Also, your views are very thoughtful and insightful. I hate that you had to give a disclaimer at the beginning of the video. Keep up the great work! 🎉🎉🎉🎉
OMG yes, she needs to do a video about him for sure.
You are SO ARTICULATE AND I LOVE THIS COMMENTARY! Please keep it coming you rock. Carrie was always a character as a trans woman I used to navigate my femininity through the early 90s/2000’s as a kid with my little sister. It ABSOLUTELY played into our way of approaching men unfortunately. It took me such a long time to u learn these habits. Now I watch at 30 for like the 8th time I finally see how easy it is to be trapped in ‘situationships’. I’m grateful to have something that stayed the same, but allowed my perception to grow, thereby changing the series every time I watch it. Ty for this series
When this first aired I was of a similar age and living in NYC, so I watched a few episodes and hated it. I kept thinking how are these beautiful, intelligent and fairly successful ladies still behaving like 15 year olds. I had no interest in watching grown women revolve their entire beings around men who don’t give an F about them. I found myself shouting at the TV “what is wrong with you!” Had to stop watching.
here's the thing, Carrie isn't a fictional character. she's the alias of Candace bushnell. she's a real person and i still have no sympathy because i can't stand a cheater. Also Candace didn't end up with Big, she ended up with the Russian.
I hate Steve too!!!! You are NOT alone!!! We are out here!! Miranda deserved so much better!
Miranda deserved better 😂😂😂😂.
That's why I loved Samantha, even though she clearly had some issues getting close to one person, still, she didn't let a man walk all over her. Even Richard, he cheated on her but she still cut him off. Miranda was way too negative for me! Always complaining and never happy!
I have come to appreciate Samantha and Charlotte more as I've gotten older. They both have massive flaws of their own (Samantha's emotional unavailability, Charlotte's obsession with appearances/status) but I think they ended up with the best two male partners in Smith and Harry.
ETA: ESPECIALLY Charlotte and Harry.
I like that many UA-camrs, psychologist and dating/life coaches are talking and analyzing SATC aka Carrie's approach to romantic relationships!!!
I see when he took the phone call as he was showing interest in her and going to the wedding to show support, but then when it came down to the moment he didn't actually care about her enough to support her and watch it. Doing just enough to keep giving her hope for the type of relationship she wants, but ultimately hurting her deeply.
Your a great story teller i swear this recap is better than the show. Great Job. ❤I watched the series as a teenager and i feel like it may have warped my perspect of adult relationships just a bit. I would like to watch it as an adult to see what not to do.
Can you please put these SATC video break downs in a playlist of its own?
Thank you ladies for doing GOD’s work ladies ❤
Yes. I will
When men come back they always take it up a little notch on the effort to make you let down your guard again. Introducing Carrie to some friends or whatnot meant nothing to Big, it was just another ploy.
I never watched it, so thanks for the synopsis. I always found it problematic with the Mr. Big storyline and her chasing after what seemed to be an illusion.
I am so here for these breakdowns as someone that has watched the entire series (so many times over via box dvd set)
Steve was a total “dusty” as SheraSeven would say. The only good thing is that when Big died she got all his money but I agree she spent too much time on him in her youth. But it fits with how she grew up, total abandonment trauma/issues.
Steve wasn't that bad. Even though he was broke initially,he showed signs of growth and actually loved Miranda.
He later collaborated with Aidan to own a bar.He went from bar attender to owner.
He never cheated on Miranda.
He's not a total dusty.
@@aluochireneSteve cheated. I think it was in first movie but whenever it happened doesn’t matter. He did cheat.
Steve was too good for Miranda. He didn't have much money in the beginning but he became a successful business owner. He was a genuinely good guy who made a mistake by cheating.
@@mignalyortiz4589Exactly. Steve was an honest hard working class man. He went from working in a bar to owning one with Aiden. He never once leeched off of Miranda. Do you remember when she tried to buy him that $900 suit? He wasn’t having it. He didn’t want her paying for stuff for him AND he wasn’t intimidated by her success. He also really loved her. He cheated because they had a dead bedroom (not excusable but understandable). 😆 Y’all gotta stop listening to SheraSeven. She is going lead you all astray. If you aren’t born into wealth and have a trust fund, you will meet men who are working to be upwardly mobile. And in order to do that you have to start somewhere. That is the reality. The finished product type of men you all want have worked hard to get to where they are. But they all started from somewhere.
@@mignalyortiz4589 Miranda definitely didn't deserve Steve Brady. He was a nice guy and he truly loved her.
The Steve hate was such a curveball lol
Haha I have to keep you guys on your toes! Check out my new series “Beware of the Hobosexual” ft. Miranda and Steve
So loving this series and I hope you do all the seasons and movies!
I love this! This show definitely didn’t age well
It's more like a cautionary tale and it speaks to relationships of that time.
Don’t worry I hated Steve and Miranda relationship too.
I actually liked their relationship! It made more sense as it related to the real world!
Steve was and still is a hobosexual & broke. Women like Miranda need more than sitting on the sofa watching TV. Her social class takes trips to Europe or the Maldives to break up the monotony. Steve is too working class for her.
I always felt like he was one odd job away from being a homosexual or as I we called it in the olden days a bum
@cindychristian1700 Exactly. The real world where women are stuck taking care of useless men and being shamed throughout the process.
As much as I hate Mr. Big(It's a lot) I hate Steve more than even that.
🤣 this was a great breakdown!
She handled this
Steve and Miranda were my favorite!
Great breakdown!
I really appreciate your take on this whole topic. (I don't agree with every point but we don't need to agree for me to appreciate your insights and learn from them. )
❤Welcome❤
Ahhhh i always forget that Samantha was older! I always wondered why I relate to her personality so much even though her and i didn’t have that much in common i am more of a charlotte but i feel like a Samantha sometimes im older than all my friends as well im just young for my age maybe its my adhd! Wouldn’t be surprised if Samantha had adhd as well, but “women didn’t get adhd back then” they said 🙄 but that gives me a whole lot to think about about things that me and Samantha have in common and that’s a big one. I feel so much younger than i am.
The more I watch the series, the more it's clear to me, It's just a male fantasy played through a female main character. A two-dimensional stereotypical woman pines for One special man, even through all her sexcapades. All of this is framed as something worth emulating.
Also keep in mind the producer of the show originally wrote it for 4 gay men living in NYC navigating the dating world. This whole show is a fever dream😂
Back in the early 2000s my older cousins used to watch this at the age of 11-13 so yea.
Also I watch mean girls back in 2004 when I was 7-8 and I got the message but I was influenced and enjoyed it.
I love the movie but looking back now I wouldn’t let my kid watch it until their much older perhaps
I’ve only seen a couple of episodes of this and I’m sooooo glad that was all! Carrie was AWFUL. SJP did a great job as an actress, which is why this character feels so real. But it’s such a horrible character! What an awful male centered friend and she’s just so selfish and juvenile. The Financial Diet did a wonderful episode on her. That would be a great collab BTW! Both of you talk about financial education and empowerment for women, especially during divorces.
I need to go back and watch this series with my 33 year old eyes because it would hit differently. I want to weigh in, but I need more information.
every point you’ve made in the previous videos made TOTAL sense to me though…didn’t sense any shame at all ESPECIALLY since I am the same age as Carrie in the show. big yikes.
Her entire relationship with big was for validation
I need to watch this show
New subscriber . I love this series and enjoy your videos
Welcome aboard!
As much as I was there with Carrie all through the series with the ups and downs with Big… I get it. We don’t always make smart choices when we are smitten, but I HATE that they ended up together living “happily ever after”. That was such unbelievable BS. What we’ve learned through the whole series is that you CANT change a man. He treated her as an after thought and side chick their whole relationship. Then left her at the fricken alter. THAT guy is suddenly going to get married and become this perfect little doting husband?? FoH! Please!
I loved the show so much. But I hated the first movie, didn’t bother watching the 2nd movie or the AJLT nonsense. Apparently, I like the characters Candace Bushnell wrote… Beyond that, it doesn’t make sense.
Carrie had abandonment issues from her dad which she never made peace or seek therapy for it what you dont heal you repeat. Trust me therapy works no man gives you worth ever ! I wish they made the characters strong high self-esteem and hypergamous. They failed that era
We all need an Aunty who will hold us by the shoulders and shake us.
I absolutely HATED the Miranda Steve pairing!!! So happy they're divorcing in the reboot series cause that never should've happened frfr. Miranda always gave future late in life lesbian.
Then there's the fact that she was so smug through the whole relationship like somehow that she was able to maintain this man's interest for so long even through marriages and other relationships that she was the one that he wanted to a certain extent and would always call back I think she took it as somehow a compliment she tamed the wild stallion but he dragged her everywhere but to her happiness
If I were Carrie, and that irresistible over him, and once I noticed Big playing those games, I would have used him for money and became his sugar baby. Might as well get something out of it!
At the time I watched 1 or 2 episodes of SATC, hated it... and went right back to watch Gilmore Girls.
Will be looking forward to hating on Steve with you because I really hate that character too.
I 💕 Steve 🤷
You know the odd thing Charlotte was very honest about her goals...though it backfired then she got Harry [too good for her I felt for a long time...] but atleast you KNEW EXACTLY WHAT CHARLOTTE WANTED and she went about it llike a JOB 😂😂 . Carrie took bullshit -drop, bullshit -crawling back repeatedly. Gen X no matter the race/ethnicity was taught "love" had to be a struggle . ALL THE WAY TO THE ALTER he drop kicked her...dayuum
Samantha was the goat on that show. She handled relationships , her career, lifestyle how women should do it.
Miranda was a close second, but she got swept up by her hobosexual 😂.
Carrie and Charlotte got on my ever lasting nerves on the show 😂!
Yes, I felt like Steve ambushed Miranda's life and frankly her friends enabled it. It was always the most important thing that there was a man in your life and it's just not
ewwww, girl no. Samantha was gross.
Samantha was beautiful, bright and career driven but sleeping around? No. It's dangerous. Physically, emotionally and spiritually.
@@danilaroche1156 still gross
Nobody wants to be like Samantha, be real.
Carrie had daddy issues as well
I liked Steve; but he was a dusty.
Steve went from bar attender to bar owner and loved Miranda unlike Big who's rich aka 'not a dusty' yet treats Carrie like trash.
I think Big is the dusty.
@@aluochirenetell the whole story like him screwing someone else while he couch surfed on Miranda's couch.. that was dusty disrespectful behavior.
@@tigerlilly9038 haven't seen the movie and it wasn't in the series
No show is perfect! But it did show 4 grown beautiful women living independently with successful careers and close friendships!
Did you think that Carrie was a good friend the way she was blowing people off for Big?
@@BurbNBougie Well, she didn't do it that much, but she was prioritizing a newer relationship for her girls, whom she knew she could count on! The women in the show often put their friendship over family because Carrie's mother and father were deceased, and Amanda stated in one episode that she didn't like her family! When she found out her mother died, she was devastated, and during the funeral procession, she was walking alone, crying and falling apart. She really needed support, and Carrie jumped up, grabbed her hand, and walked with her! No words were spoken but the look she gave Carrie was pure gratitude and love! Sometimes, a woman in love, at first, may drop her friends for the guy for a period of thime but real friends come back together! The show was definitely a show about friendship, but they were always cheering each other on when their romantic relationships were good or if they some of the relationships were problematic they would let each other know but also be supportive if things went south!😊
Does she have a TikTok account?
She's creating this on the second BurbNBougie page
Carry is the antithesis of strong independent woman. She’s kinda weak imo.
I could never get into the show. Too cringey for me.
Why do you hate Steve??????
Click the SATC playlist I’m doing a Miranda and Steve breakdown too
So there's a blk woman on tik tok named Cecil who has been doing Sex in the City break downs for years. I'm assuming this woman was inspired by Cecil. I'm wondering if she gave credit to Cecil because this was clearly her work.
You assuming something doesn't make it truth. SATC came to Netflix and Udea wanted to analyze it. I'm sure Cecilia isn't the only one to analyze SATC.
Cecilia Regina? Yes I love her and Mel Hamlett’s video’s on pop culture so they did inspire me but to say it’s her work is false. I’m actively rewatching the series and breaking it down episode by episode . We might have similar points bc we’re talking about the same show and issues represented on the show, but I’m using Burb’s talking points and my own life experience to analyze the show. So to say that it’s clearly her work is false and insulting
I was insulted for you. There have been so many people that do reviews. Are you supposed to credit every person that has come before and done a review on a series? It's a ridiculous assertion
Hating Steve Brady is pure foolishness.
It's wild that having a difference of opinion is foolishness. I guess we all got to get on the same page
@@BurbNBougie we don't. Hating the character Steve Brady is foolishness to me. Hating the character Steve Brady is valid to others. The two opinions exist simultaneously.
I know I can’t change your mind but I think you would be really intrigued by my series “Beware of the hobosexual” which focuses on Steve and Miranda
Calling us woman guys is doing exactly what you're trying to teach woman not to do😔
Can you reread your comment and edit? I'm not sure what you're saying here
This show screwed up Gen x and millennials relationships. I was always looking for “Mr. Big”. And I dated a lot of Mr. Bigs. I’m so glad I broke the habit and found the one for me.