@@mamanursetina have you read the midwives from England research on (CSA/MST) trauma as a cause for "stalled" labor? Their approach reduced Caesarean births.
I didn't want ANYONE to touch me 😂 Hubby tried holding my hand with the second child and I was like nope. Imma bare down on these bed side rails with my hands and maybe my teeth 😂
My partner actually told me how surprised he was that I didn't squeeze his hand harder lol I held his hand and held onto his neck, my mom said he was basically in a headlock while I was laboring lol I just had him close by so I could focus XD my labor went with basically lots of chatting and distractions until I got to transitioning stage where it became all focus and prep lol (I'm very grateful to have some good easy labors, my midwife is always surprised to see Mr chilling and chatting like nothing is going on while I'm just 8 cm dilated)
Wouldn't it be nice if that music sting and **foreshadowing** would pop up whenever we say something that's going to be biting us later? 😂 I need that superpower.
My water broke before my contractions started. It took more than 24 hours to get to 10. Literally nothing changed for hours... and then i got to 6, and things just plataued again. For even longer. And my epidural didnt wirk on the left side. Like, at all. It hurt SO much more than anyone said. I couldn't believe it could hurt that much and have so little a result. (I finally got to the active labor stage and in a mood of solidarity, i guess, my kid decided not to drop down. At all. For hours. Not a millimeter of downward progress. And the back labor by that point. I couldn't physically breathe during the contractions because the back pain was so intense. Id be dizzy and gasping for air by the end of each one, then cry hysterically until they started again. Then scream in agony until i ran out of air. Rinse wash repeat. It was unbelievable to me. And they kept sending nurses in to lecture me about being quiet because i was bothering the women in other rooms. Like, what? How do they not understand? We're all apparently in for hell. I heard lots of screaming while i was not dilating, for hours. I didnt send a nurse to tell THEM to be quiet! It was involuntary anyway. I couldn't be quiet if my life depended on it. After 26 and a half hours my dr came in to check again and i yelled at him the second he stepped in the doorway we needed a new plan. So we elected for a c section. No regrets. Still had multiple complications healing. But no regrets. )
I have pretty much the same story. 29 1/2 before the c-section. The epdidural did not work in one area of my uterus, a window they called it, extreme pain. I don’t think I was told to shush. Unbelievable.
I am so sorry that anybody there had the audacity (or idiocy) to tell you to be quieter during childbirth…like, wtf thinks that’s appropriate or even effective?
It was not a great hospital. It was well known in town you didn't want to go to cape fear unless you had no other choice. (Yes, literally called Cape Fear hospital. I think it was after the local river near by). They also refused my request to not bring students in for the check ins. They asked the first time, I said I'm sorry, I know it's important for them to learn, but this is my first time doing this and I already feel too scared and vulnerable as is. Please no students. They just brought the students anyway and didn't tell me they were until on the way out. The nurses were almost all horrible. They never said anything nice, or in a nice way. I got stuck there for 4 days because I got an infection. I wanted to try and breastfeed. They spent the entire 4 days telling me I couldn't handle breastfeeding and I needed to just give up and do bottles. They also repeatedly told me they didn't think I could handle being a mother because I was freaking out over nothing all the time. They took him away for a day and wouldn't let me see him because his potassium and blood sugar had dropped and the dr wanted him monitored for 24 hours to make sure it raised. They interpreted this to mean I couldn't see him. They didn't even want his dad to go see him (he got temporarily put in the nicu). They tried to tell him he couldn't visit and he asked where that was written in their policy, and asked to see a copy of it for proof and they got mad and took him down to visit but spent the whole time warning him they didn't think I could handle taking the baby home and he would need to watch me closely. I got no sleep the entire 4 days because their blood pressure cuff setting was so tight it felt like it was breaking my arm, and it automatically went off every 10 minutes. All for 4 days. I started hallucinating on day 3 from lack of sleep. That didn't help my credibility in their eyes. I asked for a lactation consult because we were struggling and the only nurse on duty for that just stomped in, yanked my baby into her arms, yanked my boob out of my gown, smashed them together until my baby cried, told me that's how you latch, and stomped out again. That was my extra help. There's more. It was a long, miserable 4 days. And even after the dr cleared me to go home, she nurse who brought the discharge papers tried to get me to fight to stay longer "because you aren't ready to be a mother. Your baby needs to stay here longer" it was insane. The whole experience was so humiliating and soul crushing. But that was the hospital my insurance covered so that was my only choice. We've moved states since then. I'm hoping kid 2s hospital one day will be different but who knows.
This happened with my first. I labored for 6 hard hours, got to the hospital and I wasn’t even 4cm so they were going to send me home. While waiting for midwife to sign off my water broke and baby was crowning 20 mins later.
My labors always looked like they completely stalled, and we were going to be there for hours and hours only for everything to go into overdrive with baby born less than an hour later. Sped up labor also correlated with getting that epidural. I’ll never know if the epidural helped me relax, allowing labor to progress or if I got the epidural right at the time labor had started moving along on its own.
@@MrsWheezer my friend did that. Days in labor, finally got an epidural and baby born an hour later, 2 times. I’ve never had an epidural…I’m terrified of needles!
@@MrsWheezer both of mine I fully dilated within minutes of the epidural, heck, with my second I fully dilated WHILE getting the epidural, big ass needle still in spine and my body bears down on it's own lmao.
This is why I had a hone birth with my 3rd. He came 44 minutes after my water broke. That's how long it took for my midwife to arrive. I would've had him a bit sooner if my partner at the time didn't threaten to call an ambulance if I pushed him out before the midwife arrived lol. Kinda had to refrain from pushing with that pressure pressing down on my cervix, but I did it. He knows I hate hospitals.😂 I've been in a few times and every time almost died from boredom and being tortured by the nurses lol. 😅 They mean well and do an amazing job.❤
I have a 50% success rate making it out of the front door before baby comes...I've had four. And none were planned homebirths. Currently pregnant with the tie breaker
I barely made it to delivery room both times. They argued if they wanted to admit me. Then I couldn’t walk because…. Yes. It was painful. But short. I would have taken drugs if I could. I guess it was good
This makes me SO jealous. I tried a home birth with #4 and 38 hours in I was on my way to the hospital PRAYING the baby would be born on the side of the highway 😂. She wasn’t. 🙄
This happened with my peanut. I labored almost 5 hours (not progressing 1 cm 50% effaced) but contractions strong and fierce. My cervix needed a massage as it was stuck closed! Opened to 5 cm in like 2 seconds. Fullly birthed peanut less than an hour later. My water had to be broken as she was born in sack still. Fun time.
My girl was born in her sack to. It was really wired. The nurse was yelling for the doctor as she stood off to the side with her hand on the water bag as it was coming out. All of a sudden I felt a gush and my daughter was born. My water broke a d she came with the water..
This was kinda my story. I was induced. I had the insert. I had pitocin.. a Folley cath inserted into my cervix to help " move things along. They broke my water to help... I didnt want meds but by the 3rd day and only dilated to a 5. I then got iv meds to help take the edge off.( i didnt want meds but realistically i knew i cant do pain) ended up getting my epidural and then later that night we had a c section.. every labor story is crazy in my opinion. I think its the closest to death we could get. Labor and delivery nurses are heaven sent. Ive gone through some of my most worst moments with them by my side. Thank u to all nurses!
I've heard too many trauma hospital birth stories. My mom had 6 at home. She had so much trauma from the hospital with her first, she had trouble staying in labor with her second. The midwife was amazing, and her births went well. Thank heavens there are more birthing centers and midwives!
My cervix wouldn’t progress either but my contractions were in line with active labor. Ended up being in labor for 4 days because of it. And because I wasn’t dilating, the hospital wouldn’t admit me. Finally got a nurse that literally lied about how dilated I was and got me IV fluids and an epidural which allowed me to rehydrate since I couldn’t keep up with water intake and relax enough to let things move along. They had to wake me up to push. 3 pushes and she was out.
I was sent home twice, contractions going strong but no dilation so I “wasn’t in real labor”. My ex took me back the third time in 12 hours and basically told them he wasn’t taking me home again, if I wasn’t in labor, fine, but SOMETHING was wrong and they needed to figure it out. Queue the dramatic sigh and “fine, let’s check for dialation…” followed quickly by “oh. You’re at 8 centimeters.”
My midwife didn't think I was that far along in labor. She thought my contractions were too short and I was still able to talk too clearly. The first time she checked me, she told me 'oh, I'm really surprised. You're fully dilated, we can't go to the hospital anymore, you're going to give birth at home'.
They put something in my IV during my first super long induced labor. I HATED it. Couldn’t focus anymore and the pain was still really bad. I felt so out of control and started panicking. I’d rather nothing than go through that again. My epidural though was sent from angels on high. 😂
I found the laughing gas okay for a while. Not sure if it lessened the pain, more like I just did not care as much anymore. The epidural was better IMO
This was me!! 36 hours total. Tried to go natural, pain was so awful which i was told was a sign you're getting close, got checked, barely dilated. I gave in and took the fentanyl, which i didn't know would require me to be bed confined. The drugs did nothing and laying just made it so much worse. Gave in and got the epidural😅😭
This was me during my first… I thought for sure the little one was coming any minute and every contraction felt like the end of the world. They checked and I was just barely dilating. 22 hours (with no food) later, Nugget was born and I had the most delicious sandwich and apple of my life, lol. For my second, I was doing laundry, going up and down stairs and I’d just hold onto something when I contractions hit until they were starting to get a little more close and even. When I got to the hospital, they checked and said “wow, you’re ready to go now!” lol.
Yeah, when they tell you the "average" labor is 8-12hrs, they neglect to mention that's time AFTER arriving at the hosp. Total average labor time, for home+hosp, is 12-20hrs.
My latent labor was less than 12 hours. Between about 2pm when things kicked into gear and 5:44pm when I arrived at hospital I was 7cm dilated. First baby born an hour and a half later 😳
Yes! After having 2 natural, alright births, I went into delivery with my 3rd and just at 1cm with excruciating pain I felt like I was at 9cm dilated when comparing to my previous bubs births! Crazy! Bub was struggling, had to have emergency c section at 4cm, I even started to push which I couldn’t control as if I were fully dilated!
My mother was in labor with me for 48+ hours, I was a 10 pound baby, I have no idea how the hell she managed to do that and survive she’s a warrior of a woman
My water broke & was several hours before I had any contractions. Then some reason I couldn’t dilate past 5 cm. I wanted to deliver naturally so badly. Ended up need a emergency c-section cause I wouldn’t dilate enough and my babies heart rate was dramatically dropping. So grateful for todays medical advances, my nurses & obgyn. He delivered both my babies & been going to him since I graduated high school. Im now 40, so that says a lot about his professionalism & how wonderful he treats his patients.
My water broke with my first and I had super mild contractions and thought I had it in the bag. Then... My water broke for real/a second time and his head hit my cervix. I went from almost no pain to more pain then I'd ever felt in my life and thought I might die😂. It was horrible. I was too numb to push because they have me so much meds for the epidural 😅
I was having major contractions for 72 hours was sent home twice. The 3rd time I grabbed the collar of the Dr's shirt and told him I was exhausted, in lots of pain and I am not going anywhere til they get that baby out of me. I had my first kid the next day... 14 more hours later
I was at 1cm for about 2 days with full on contractions, my body had to open at its own pace (and it probably worked from the inside out). Water broke after 57h and baby came on hour 58. 🥰❤️ Lovely homebirth with my first, wish everyone got to have such an empowering and wonderful birth experience no matter where they are. ❤️
Back again! No sounds like my moms so far lol. The nurse was going to send her home cuz she was dilated no more than her pinky. The nurse just got to the door to leave and my mom screamed the baby was comming and bam. My sister was there. My mom had one big contraction and she was fully dilated and my sister was born so fast her eyes were bloodshot
Two weeks early labor and not going anywhere quick blood pressure 250/200,then after spungy sticks to dialate me and then 28hours of vomiting up bial and blood I finally gave birth. I had seven doctors for me, four for my baby and the nurses and my own mom in the room. I nearly died, my mom did a valuable thing by pushing for me from the outside as I had no strength left. Through all this my daughter's shoulders were stuck and tore my cervix from 3 o'clock to 9 o'clock a very traumatic experience.
I was in labor 16 hours on potocin, water broke manually, and only dialated 2cm. I was so sick due to toxicity, and his heartbeat started dropping I got a csection for my birthday still my favorite present
😂😂😂😂 I am a quiet person when in labor. Especially a long labor. I noticed that with my last two were my LONGEST labors. My quickest labors were with my twins and my 11 year old. 15 minutes with the twins... 3cm to 10cm.. my 11 year old was 1/2 hour and almost didn't make it to the hospital. Mind you we literally live 5 minutes away from it. And my oldest 3 were 2hours to 4 hours each. 😂😂😂😂 Very wild different experiences.
I asked the nurses at the hospital for laughing gas. They took 2 hours to bring it, and had no idea how to set it up. Eventually they thought it was working and had me try it. Absolutely nothing. Mind you I knew it wouldn't help all the pain, but I was on pitocin and hadn't moved along at all. Eventually I said, just do an epidural. Changed my life. I had 2 other kids before this and it was a lot. God do I wish I had done the epidural sooner. I was on cloud 9.
Sounds like my first labour experience. When I went in a was only 3cm, and 24 hours later……. Still 3cm. I had been given strong pain relief early, and by the time my waters were broken and I started contracting FAST, (3-10 in 30 minutes) the pain relief wasn’t doing anything. Come my second labour refused all strong pain meds until my waters went and I was dilated more. It went much better for me 😂
I was admitted and induced at 38w3d when my BP spiked out of nowhere. I was having contractions and 1cm dilated when I first got to the hospital. 3 rounds of induction failed to get me anywhere and after 42 hours of labor I had a c-section (20 hours after my water broke and I had started to spike a fever). I only made it to 6cm and at one point I was 100% effaced and then worked backwards to 80%. I didn't know that was possible. Turns out my sons head was so large that the pressure from him attempting to descend caused a bunch of swelling. I am super lucky that he and I were both healthy. Looking back, I should have stuck to my guns about not being induced. By the time I was seen by a doctor in the hospital, my blood pressure had stabilized. We could have waited but honestly they scared the crap out of me and my husband. I couldn't think. Baby #2 is currently loading and this time I am taking time off starting at 36 weeks. Also - my son has grown into his head lol
This happened to me with my first. 18 hours of constant contractions and would not dilate past a 5. Had to have a c-section eventually because my baby’s HR was plummeting.
That was my story. For the most part. Right when the pain could no longer be ignored, a group of interns came in, and all wanted to check me. Then, we also needed an emergency Csection because his heart rate plummeted with every contraction. Turns out, he was breach, and his little butt was stuck in the birth canal. His poor little butt was one giant bruise for a while.
I could never labor for so long. I usually get to the birthing center around 3cm (usually spend the last few weeks dilated around 2-3cm and mostly effaced, but still deliver past my due date every time!). Then I have my baby a few hours later, with my fastest being only 1.5hrs of active labor. I can't imagine being in labor for HOURS 😭 pregnant with my 4th now and please, please let it be another easy delivery ❤
They wouldn't let me in the hospital until I was at least 3 cm. With the first that was 3 days! They finally gave me a shot to calm me down and she was born in an hour! My second daughter was 4 hours of labor and my third was complicated but still short.
Oh my goodness what an ordeal for you!!! Sometimes when the pain is less our body can dilate and relax! We call this magic shot morphine, sometimes it helps in some cases!
@@mamanursetina For me it had a lot to do with fear. I was told so many horror stories about birthing when in reality it was wonderful once I calmed down.
I had three children. My labors were mild abdominal cramping until my water broke. Then, it was a 15-minute, 30-minute, and 35-minute delivery. I warned my doctors on children 2 and 3, and they wouldn't believe me until they were running in to catch the baby. My sister was worse. If her water broke and she wasn't in the hospital, she'd drop that baby where she was.
Lol sounds like my first birth! Over 36 hrs of back labor so painful that I couldn't eat or sleep. Bruises on my back from having my husband apply counter pressure to help with the pain. 3 trips to the hospital and back before they would finally admit me, as I "wasn't dilated enough" to be admitted earlier. Got an epidural and a nap and he was born a few hours later. Most traumatic experience, doctors and nurses telling me they know more than me and I couldn't possibly have been in labor that long or that it hurt that bad. Then they tried to sneak an unconsented non-fda approved medication to me in order to stall my labor and force me to get the c section I previously said no thank you to. Turns out he was sunny side up. Needless to say, I've had 4 homebirths since, and wonderful midwives, so I wouldn't have to set foot in a hospital for birth again.
My mom was in labour with my brother for 7/8 hours. When I was coming she was preparing herself for so long, to get me out in under 20 minutes. The doctor was like: "Guess she was sick of being inside." My mom would always brag how I must've hated it in there to get out so quickly.
Under 20 minutes? That's not really even believable. You mean from the time she was fully dilated and pushing to the actual birth was 20 minutes, right?
@@harringt100it's possible she was effacing and dilating unnoticed, or that she was just doing both simultaneously and quickly. Fast labor like that can be incredibly intense, was if you are compacting all those "normal" hours and painful intensity together into a smaller time frame. My longest(easiest) birth was my first at 4 hours. The other 2 got shorter and shorter. All 3, got to the hospital too late for anything but local anesthetic. Despite the time, I've been amazed at how different each pregnancy, labor and delivery has been, so it doesn't surprise me at all, especially for a second child, that it went so fast.
My first childbirth was 52 hours in labor!!!! My cervix would NOT dilate due to scar tissue and I was at a Catholic hospital and they REALLY didn’t want to call a cesarean. Finally I’d been in labor so long my daughter was trapped in the birth canal and we both started full on dying. My blood pressure tanked, my epidural had time to literally wear off, and once they deemed it a serious emergency and finally passed the on call doctor, he was over an hour away. By the time he got there things were SO bad. They wheeled me into the surgery room and started cutting as the anesthesia was being administered so I felt EVERYTHING. I was losing so much blood and when they finally pulled the baby out she wasn’t breathing. It took a while to revive her and they ended up putting me to sleep. I ended up having to get a large blood transfusion and they had to rush my baby to another hospital with a NICU and since I was in such bad shape I couldn’t go with her. It was terrible!!!!! They wouldn’t clear me to go see her for 3 whole days. I literally had PTDS and postpartum depression after this experience.
Thank you for normalizing slow labors. Mine were 36, 27, 19, and 46 hours. I delivered all four vaginally (EVENTUALLY 😂) and I’m so grateful I had midwives who understood that as long as baby and I were fine we could trust the process. If you don’t WANT to labor for 2 days, you don’t have to. But if you don’t want a c-section and you and baby are handling labor well, you can keep going. It’s exhausting, but at least I didn’t have to have unnecessary (for me, in my case) surgery. The key is to think about all of this BEFORE labor and to be flexible once you’re in labor.
It grinds my gears so much that people make Women feel bad for accepting pain relief when we’re giving birth - I ended up with an emergency c-section after being in active Labour for about 5 hours and trying to push my Son out for about an hour an half with zero progress, he became stuck and was in distress and needed to be whacked in for an emergency c-section. The aftermath of the c-section has been bad, I have so many uterine issues now from the scar tissue and invasion of my uterus - but even after all this, my Sister still tried to make me feel bad by telling me it’s “the easy way out, I had to give birth to all mine naturally!” And my Mum (R.I.P) taunted me about my massively swollen tummy, calling me fat and comparing me to her when she had a c-section with me - even though my tummy was massive because it was actually still very inflamed even over a month afterwards - I still looked pregnant. It was horrible. It gets me so mad. 😡 Come on girls, we need to be supporting each other, not competing with each other - this mentality really encourages Women to not accept pain relief for one of the most painful things they will ever go through in their lives!
@@ac6020 Thankyou! ❤️ I hate so much that we’re made to believe that we can’t really ask for pain relief or else we’ll be “less of a Woman or Mother” somehow just because we want to make the very painful process of birth easier - would they make people feel bad for accepting pain relief for things such as cancer too?! It’s crazy - if we can make our process easier….why the heck wouldn’t we?! lol!
Cervical dilation is so finicky. I will never forget my induction with my first, I was stuck at 4cm for HOURS. My OB came in and said if I didn't progress in the next two hours she was going to "cut the baby out of [me]." ... I had to push before my two hours were up...
Meanwhile with my second I was hanging out at 4cm for two WEEKS and when I decided he needed to be evicted I made the mistake of waiting for the pitocin to kick in before asking for the epidural. Next thing I know the nurse is saying "tell Dr. G to run if she's catching this baby"
My mom had a similar situation with my sister (her first). Her own mother had died 2 weeks prior to her going into labor, her water broke but she didn't dilate at all. They gave her 3 shots of pitocin and nothing. She eventually had to get an emergency C-section. She also didn't end up producing any milk and had extreme postpartum depression. She feels that's why her and my sister never had a strong bond
Number three was like this. I got induced and around I would say 1 o’clock they took the bags out then broke my water. Not even five minutes after the broke my water back labor started. I hadn’t felt any contractions till that point. I was at 3cm till like 5 that morning.
I screamed when they checked my cervix. It was so painful. I’d been in labour for 4 hours having contractions every 4-8minutes. But nothing was doing what it should. I asked for the morphine and a c-section. (It was a day earlier than planned)
My labor from 0 to baby earthside lasted 12 hours. And it was SO INTENSE. I had contractions for 6 hours before i got to the hospital and i was at 5 cm. By the time i got to 7 I was having back to back contractions every minute and threw my natural birth plan in the trash for the epidural
It actually did take me 3 days to dilate enough to have my water broken. And I was being induced the whole time. My body just did not want to go into labor and I never really felt much pain beyond mild discomfort until the day I finally had my baby and I didn't even end up getting an epidural. We had no idea that I'd been in active labor and transition when I was. I got on nitrous oxide pretty early and I'm so glad I got to have my baby all natural like I'd hoped. I was very blessed to have my first child the way that I did. I'm excited to have more kids and hope all of my labors start more easily and go as smoothly. 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
My sister had an "uncooperative" uterus. She was told this with her second child. 1 and 3 were face down. They used a pill, vaginally, to help and its was her largest child/easiest labor. 3 was C-section, GIANT head.
So far sounds like mine lol. We will see what happens in part two. It was funny. I started yelling ahhhhhh o have to push somthing is comming out of me and boom baby was there. The nurses were all like o.o wth.
With my son (my fifth) I knew I was in labor at home around 8:30pm. My folks came over to help with my toddler since my hubby was away (military) and labor got a bit more serious around 11:40/12midnight. I had my son at 5:30am on my hands and knees on pads on the floor. He went straight to my breast. Raoul just turned 3 🥰 my Mr bean
Had my mumma in labour for 2 days and then when I finally decided to grace the world with my presence she started to hemorrhage and almost died. I thank her on all of my birthdays. 😂❤
Omg I just birth and I felt the same way! I was even joking about the baby mama dance and first few checks were finger tip as well! They gave me one of those balloon deals and took some hours to open to a 4. Then progressed to 10 to push and realized that my baby wasn’t in the right place for her to come out risking an injury to her body. So I had to go into to surgery to avoid the injury.. if I would have known I would have wanted a a c- section to begin with because I was trying to do a VBAC after 14 months but f giving birth. But now I am enjoying my little miracle baby ❤
I'm in Canada . I can't tell about all of the doctors and nurses here but I had a very good experience in my birth even though it was complicated . My son was late so my doctor suggested to induce . They put the baloon to help my cervix to open and it open to 4cm . But it not go furter than that all . At the end qgter like 12 hours i had to go for c-section cause my sons heartbeat was dropping. And his head was in my cervix but couldn't come out cause it wasn't open enough and even with epidural it heart like hell . I had two nurses in the delivery room at all times and constantly monitor me . Doctors and nurses were so kind and understanding. They let me know what happening every step of the way and tried to make everything less stressful for me .
I kinda feel that one. I was in labor for 27 hours and my cervix only opened 6 cm. When my doctor told me that we need to do a c-cection, otherwise the baby will get stuck, I was ok wirh that but also jelled ad him: "and you couldn't tell this 10 hours ago?!!!"😅
I went for induced labor for my twins. After 24 hrs I was dialated @ 6. One of the twins was having low heart rate so to the er we went. Thankfully they were born healthy
As someone who was stuck in early labor and at 1cm for 3 weeks before getting induced so I can actually give birth I can vouch just how painful and uncomfortable it is not to mention just the mental exhaustion. I ended up getting therapeutic rest and a few days later got admitted into the hospital.
Awww! I'm so thankful to whichever side of my family (mom or dad) that I got my short labors from! 😅 Didn't make it to the hospital with one! I knew better & knew I should've left sooner! Had his little bum right in the ambulance lol! My last kid's birth - still short - was definitely spicy 🥵! Closed down the shop after that one!😮💨😌
It was like this for me. Barely dilating, then when I finally got to 5 cm it stayed there for hours and hurt SO much. Contractions without a stop and puked from the pain. Then after hours with that I got an epidural. Last time they checked me was 12 pm and I was still 5cm and 2.10 pm my baby was out. Pushed maybe 10-15 minutes at most so that part was easy compared to the pain before. I was induced and now after everything I feel like my body just wasn’t ready and that’s why it hurt SO much. Was in labor for 47 hours so it was definitely tough and honestly traumatizing for ever having another baby if I want to. Really like your content though. Helped me a lot❤
The first 12 hours of my labor sucked. No sleep, started around 9:30pm. I went from the bed, to the recliner, to the couch, to the chair, to the recliner. Haha. All that for 4cm. It would 4 more hours before 6cm, then it wasnt until 5pm i hit 8cm, bed ridden, Nauseous, and then 6pm 10cm. All back labor. 6:32pm my son was out and i tore myself good and broke damn near every blood vessel in my face. 😂 good times! The rocking of the hips helps so much!!!
Nurses have said with both my births "your contractions just aren't strong enough and you aren't progressing fast enough, let's give you pitocin and break your water and get things moving along faster" how about no. I had a 17 hour long excruciating labor with no pain meds and they gave me pitocin and IV antibiotics with my firstborn but I wasn't letting anyone put that in my body during labor again. My second labor was 11 hours long no pitocin or pain meds and the nurse and midwife were angry with me thst I wouldn't hurry up and have a baby so they could bill for the birth on their shift. As soon as they left me alone, I was able to relax and my water broke on its own and my daughter was born within 15 min. I wouldn't have been able to handle the pain without TENS unit between L2-L3. Both times the nurses said it was hospital policy that I had to have continuous monitoring and lay perfectly still on the bed without moving at all. YOU try laying perfectly still for hours while in pain!
I love your content and can't wait for more parts. For me this os similar, I never said it was a blessing but I didn't have alot of the symptoms like no morning sickness or cravings. I was 34 weeks and had my water break in increments then hrs later had contractions. I also was foot breech and did only get 2 almost 3 inches with alot of pain before a c-section. I mentioned about geting meds or something cause the pain started getting intense and eventually went into surgery.
My placenta detouched at midnight, after 18h under ultrasound device with 1' dilatation, the shift changed and the new head of ginecology looked buffled at the leading MD and asked if they were insured enough to pay for the medical error since they didnt get me any antibiotics and the uterus was dry for last 18h and my babies pulse was getting weak. An urgent C-section got me a lovely baby boy, but anyway we needed to remain at the hospital for next 10days in NICU.
My body refused to let me dilate after three days. All the meds and manual opening was not cutting it. I was wore out and got a c sections. Good times. 10/10 loved my epidural. 🎉
Thats how my labor was, i was in so much pain for 48 hrs and barely dilated. I only made it to 3 centimeters (after 48 hours of contractions so bad i couldnt stand) before we had to do an emergency c section.
Those kind of mom’s always end up with every measuring device possible, pitocin, forceps, then a c-section. It never fails. I see a birth plan in the chart and know it’s going to be a long shift w a very stressed family
Can't wait for part 2!
Stalled cervical dilation? Beth’s (untrue) childbirth pt2 #givingbirth #birthstory #laboranddelivery
Where is it??
That voice is disturbing
😅@@mamanursetina
@@mamanursetina have you read the midwives from England research on (CSA/MST) trauma as a cause for "stalled" labor?
Their approach reduced Caesarean births.
“Childbirth is a blessing”
I bet this is her first 😂
Bahahahaha 😂😂💀 for some reason this comment made me choke and then laugh
@@mamanursetina😂😂😂
😂yep
Yeah probably and she's probably shamed some mom's who talked about their pain.
@@pollyhannahestherbriggsthey do like shaming
I didn't want ANYONE to touch me 😂
Hubby tried holding my hand with the second child and I was like nope. Imma bare down on these bed side rails with my hands and maybe my teeth 😂
Haha me 😂
Same 😂
My doula kept offering her hand for me to squeeze. I said “no thank you I will break it” LOL.
My partner actually told me how surprised he was that I didn't squeeze his hand harder lol I held his hand and held onto his neck, my mom said he was basically in a headlock while I was laboring lol I just had him close by so I could focus XD my labor went with basically lots of chatting and distractions until I got to transitioning stage where it became all focus and prep lol (I'm very grateful to have some good easy labors, my midwife is always surprised to see Mr chilling and chatting like nothing is going on while I'm just 8 cm dilated)
Not the teeth 😂
I'm also someone who clenches my jaw, if I ever give birth they'd better give me something to bite.
Wouldn't it be nice if that music sting and **foreshadowing** would pop up whenever we say something that's going to be biting us later? 😂 I need that superpower.
Hahahahaha I want it to be so 😂😂
My water broke before my contractions started. It took more than 24 hours to get to 10. Literally nothing changed for hours... and then i got to 6, and things just plataued again. For even longer. And my epidural didnt wirk on the left side. Like, at all. It hurt SO much more than anyone said. I couldn't believe it could hurt that much and have so little a result.
(I finally got to the active labor stage and in a mood of solidarity, i guess, my kid decided not to drop down. At all. For hours. Not a millimeter of downward progress. And the back labor by that point. I couldn't physically breathe during the contractions because the back pain was so intense. Id be dizzy and gasping for air by the end of each one, then cry hysterically until they started again. Then scream in agony until i ran out of air. Rinse wash repeat. It was unbelievable to me. And they kept sending nurses in to lecture me about being quiet because i was bothering the women in other rooms. Like, what? How do they not understand? We're all apparently in for hell. I heard lots of screaming while i was not dilating, for hours. I didnt send a nurse to tell THEM to be quiet! It was involuntary anyway. I couldn't be quiet if my life depended on it.
After 26 and a half hours my dr came in to check again and i yelled at him the second he stepped in the doorway we needed a new plan. So we elected for a c section. No regrets. Still had multiple complications healing. But no regrets. )
I thought I was the only one the nurses tried to shush... Like are y'all for real?!
I have pretty much the same story. 29 1/2 before the c-section. The epdidural did not work in one area of my uterus, a window they called it, extreme pain. I don’t think I was told to shush. Unbelievable.
I am so sorry that anybody there had the audacity (or idiocy) to tell you to be quieter during childbirth…like, wtf thinks that’s appropriate or even effective?
It was not a great hospital. It was well known in town you didn't want to go to cape fear unless you had no other choice. (Yes, literally called Cape Fear hospital. I think it was after the local river near by).
They also refused my request to not bring students in for the check ins. They asked the first time, I said I'm sorry, I know it's important for them to learn, but this is my first time doing this and I already feel too scared and vulnerable as is. Please no students.
They just brought the students anyway and didn't tell me they were until on the way out.
The nurses were almost all horrible. They never said anything nice, or in a nice way. I got stuck there for 4 days because I got an infection. I wanted to try and breastfeed. They spent the entire 4 days telling me I couldn't handle breastfeeding and I needed to just give up and do bottles. They also repeatedly told me they didn't think I could handle being a mother because I was freaking out over nothing all the time. They took him away for a day and wouldn't let me see him because his potassium and blood sugar had dropped and the dr wanted him monitored for 24 hours to make sure it raised. They interpreted this to mean I couldn't see him. They didn't even want his dad to go see him (he got temporarily put in the nicu). They tried to tell him he couldn't visit and he asked where that was written in their policy, and asked to see a copy of it for proof and they got mad and took him down to visit but spent the whole time warning him they didn't think I could handle taking the baby home and he would need to watch me closely.
I got no sleep the entire 4 days because their blood pressure cuff setting was so tight it felt like it was breaking my arm, and it automatically went off every 10 minutes. All for 4 days. I started hallucinating on day 3 from lack of sleep. That didn't help my credibility in their eyes.
I asked for a lactation consult because we were struggling and the only nurse on duty for that just stomped in, yanked my baby into her arms, yanked my boob out of my gown, smashed them together until my baby cried, told me that's how you latch, and stomped out again. That was my extra help.
There's more. It was a long, miserable 4 days. And even after the dr cleared me to go home, she nurse who brought the discharge papers tried to get me to fight to stay longer "because you aren't ready to be a mother. Your baby needs to stay here longer" it was insane. The whole experience was so humiliating and soul crushing. But that was the hospital my insurance covered so that was my only choice.
We've moved states since then. I'm hoping kid 2s hospital one day will be different but who knows.
Same happened to me. They tried pitocin but i only go like 2cms. So C-section it was.
This happened with my first. I labored for 6 hard hours, got to the hospital and I wasn’t even 4cm so they were going to send me home. While waiting for midwife to sign off my water broke and baby was crowning 20 mins later.
My labors always looked like they completely stalled, and we were going to be there for hours and hours only for everything to go into overdrive with baby born less than an hour later.
Sped up labor also correlated with getting that epidural. I’ll never know if the epidural helped me relax, allowing labor to progress or if I got the epidural right at the time labor had started moving along on its own.
@@MrsWheezer my friend did that. Days in labor, finally got an epidural and baby born an hour later, 2 times. I’ve never had an epidural…I’m terrified of needles!
@@MrsWheezer both of mine I fully dilated within minutes of the epidural, heck, with my second I fully dilated WHILE getting the epidural, big ass needle still in spine and my body bears down on it's own lmao.
This was me during my 1st labor, meanwhile with my 3rd I was just praying I’d get to the hospital on time😂
This is why I had a hone birth with my 3rd. He came 44 minutes after my water broke. That's how long it took for my midwife to arrive. I would've had him a bit sooner if my partner at the time didn't threaten to call an ambulance if I pushed him out before the midwife arrived lol. Kinda had to refrain from pushing with that pressure pressing down on my cervix, but I did it. He knows I hate hospitals.😂 I've been in a few times and every time almost died from boredom and being tortured by the nurses lol. 😅 They mean well and do an amazing job.❤
I have a 50% success rate making it out of the front door before baby comes...I've had four. And none were planned homebirths.
Currently pregnant with the tie breaker
I barely made it to delivery room both times. They argued if they wanted to admit me. Then I couldn’t walk because…. Yes. It was painful. But short. I would have taken drugs if I could. I guess it was good
This makes me SO jealous. I tried a home birth with #4 and 38 hours in I was on my way to the hospital PRAYING the baby would be born on the side of the highway 😂. She wasn’t. 🙄
This happened with my peanut. I labored almost 5 hours (not progressing 1 cm 50% effaced) but contractions strong and fierce. My cervix needed a massage as it was stuck closed! Opened to 5 cm in like 2 seconds. Fullly birthed peanut less than an hour later. My water had to be broken as she was born in sack still. Fun time.
My girl was born in her sack to. It was really wired. The nurse was yelling for the doctor as she stood off to the side with her hand on the water bag as it was coming out. All of a sudden I felt a gush and my daughter was born. My water broke a d she came with the water..
En caul is rare!!! Sounds incredible to wittness. I'm glad you're both safe and sound ❤
Yeah I ran 23 hours on Pitocin and didn’t dilate at all. Emergency C-section 😢
How to massage?
This was kinda my story. I was induced. I had the insert. I had pitocin.. a Folley cath inserted into my cervix to help " move things along. They broke my water to help... I didnt want meds but by the 3rd day and only dilated to a 5. I then got iv meds to help take the edge off.( i didnt want meds but realistically i knew i cant do pain) ended up getting my epidural and then later that night we had a c section.. every labor story is crazy in my opinion. I think its the closest to death we could get. Labor and delivery nurses are heaven sent. Ive gone through some of my most worst moments with them by my side. Thank u to all nurses!
I've heard too many trauma hospital birth stories.
My mom had 6 at home.
She had so much trauma from the hospital with her first, she had trouble staying in labor with her second.
The midwife was amazing, and her births went well.
Thank heavens there are more birthing centers and midwives!
My cervix wouldn’t progress either but my contractions were in line with active labor. Ended up being in labor for 4 days because of it. And because I wasn’t dilating, the hospital wouldn’t admit me. Finally got a nurse that literally lied about how dilated I was and got me IV fluids and an epidural which allowed me to rehydrate since I couldn’t keep up with water intake and relax enough to let things move along. They had to wake me up to push. 3 pushes and she was out.
awh! maybe see if you can buy her a bottle or something else nice (i dont drink sorry just an option lol)
good woman
shitty hospital
I was sent home twice, contractions going strong but no dilation so I “wasn’t in real labor”. My ex took me back the third time in 12 hours and basically told them he wasn’t taking me home again, if I wasn’t in labor, fine, but SOMETHING was wrong and they needed to figure it out. Queue the dramatic sigh and “fine, let’s check for dialation…” followed quickly by “oh. You’re at 8 centimeters.”
My midwife didn't think I was that far along in labor. She thought my contractions were too short and I was still able to talk too clearly.
The first time she checked me, she told me 'oh, I'm really surprised. You're fully dilated, we can't go to the hospital anymore, you're going to give birth at home'.
I wish laughing gas had been available at my hospital! Looking forward to part 2 😄
They put something in my IV during my first super long induced labor. I HATED it. Couldn’t focus anymore and the pain was still really bad. I felt so out of control and started panicking. I’d rather nothing than go through that again.
My epidural though was sent from angels on high. 😂
I found the laughing gas okay for a while. Not sure if it lessened the pain, more like I just did not care as much anymore. The epidural was better IMO
It just made me feel drunk. Hated it. Epidural was glorious, though.
Is laughing gas in labor a thing anywhere besides the U.K. and like ... Australia?
@@harringt100it is offered in a lot of US hospitals too
This was me!! 36 hours total. Tried to go natural, pain was so awful which i was told was a sign you're getting close, got checked, barely dilated. I gave in and took the fentanyl, which i didn't know would require me to be bed confined. The drugs did nothing and laying just made it so much worse. Gave in and got the epidural😅😭
This was me during my first… I thought for sure the little one was coming any minute and every contraction felt like the end of the world. They checked and I was just barely dilating. 22 hours (with no food) later, Nugget was born and I had the most delicious sandwich and apple of my life, lol.
For my second, I was doing laundry, going up and down stairs and I’d just hold onto something when I contractions hit until they were starting to get a little more close and even. When I got to the hospital, they checked and said “wow, you’re ready to go now!” lol.
I was in the hospital for 16 hours and only 3 cm and I was the woman you heard screaming down the hall. The epidural really helped move this a long.
Yeah, when they tell you the "average" labor is 8-12hrs, they neglect to mention that's time AFTER arriving at the hosp. Total average labor time, for home+hosp, is 12-20hrs.
Average, average, average, lol. My labor started September 10th at 4am. And she was born September 13th at 4pm.
My latent labor was less than 12 hours. Between about 2pm when things kicked into gear and 5:44pm when I arrived at hospital I was 7cm dilated. First baby born an hour and a half later 😳
Lmao... her smug sipping of the water. 😂
Yes! After having 2 natural, alright births, I went into delivery with my 3rd and just at 1cm with excruciating pain I felt like I was at 9cm dilated when comparing to my previous bubs births! Crazy! Bub was struggling, had to have emergency c section at 4cm, I even started to push which I couldn’t control as if I were fully dilated!
My mother was in labor with me for 48+ hours, I was a 10 pound baby, I have no idea how the hell she managed to do that and survive she’s a warrior of a woman
My water broke & was several hours before I had any contractions.
Then some reason I couldn’t dilate past 5 cm. I wanted to deliver naturally so badly. Ended up need a emergency c-section cause I wouldn’t dilate enough and my babies heart rate was dramatically dropping. So grateful for todays medical advances, my nurses & obgyn. He delivered both my babies & been going to him since I graduated high school. Im now 40, so that says a lot about his professionalism & how wonderful he treats his patients.
My water broke with my first and I had super mild contractions and thought I had it in the bag. Then... My water broke for real/a second time and his head hit my cervix. I went from almost no pain to more pain then I'd ever felt in my life and thought I might die😂. It was horrible. I was too numb to push because they have me so much meds for the epidural 😅
I was having major contractions for 72 hours was sent home twice. The 3rd time I grabbed the collar of the Dr's shirt and told him I was exhausted, in lots of pain and I am not going anywhere til they get that baby out of me. I had my first kid the next day... 14 more hours later
I was at 1cm for about 2 days with full on contractions, my body had to open at its own pace (and it probably worked from the inside out). Water broke after 57h and baby came on hour 58. 🥰❤️ Lovely homebirth with my first, wish everyone got to have such an empowering and wonderful birth experience no matter where they are. ❤️
Wow! Every story is different.❤
Back again! No sounds like my moms so far lol. The nurse was going to send her home cuz she was dilated no more than her pinky. The nurse just got to the door to leave and my mom screamed the baby was comming and bam. My sister was there. My mom had one big contraction and she was fully dilated and my sister was born so fast her eyes were bloodshot
Two weeks early labor and not going anywhere quick blood pressure 250/200,then after spungy sticks to dialate me and then 28hours of vomiting up bial and blood I finally gave birth. I had seven doctors for me, four for my baby and the nurses and my own mom in the room. I nearly died, my mom did a valuable thing by pushing for me from the outside as I had no strength left. Through all this my daughter's shoulders were stuck and tore my cervix from 3 o'clock to 9 o'clock a very traumatic experience.
I love the foreshadowing law and order type noise😂😂😂😂
I was in labor 16 hours on potocin, water broke manually, and only dialated 2cm. I was so sick due to toxicity, and his heartbeat started dropping I got a csection for my birthday still my favorite present
LAMINARIA!!! Very underrated and underused unfortunately.
😂😂😂😂 I am a quiet person when in labor. Especially a long labor. I noticed that with my last two were my LONGEST labors. My quickest labors were with my twins and my 11 year old. 15 minutes with the twins... 3cm to 10cm.. my 11 year old was 1/2 hour and almost didn't make it to the hospital. Mind you we literally live 5 minutes away from it. And my oldest 3 were 2hours to 4 hours each. 😂😂😂😂 Very wild different experiences.
I asked the nurses at the hospital for laughing gas. They took 2 hours to bring it, and had no idea how to set it up.
Eventually they thought it was working and had me try it.
Absolutely nothing.
Mind you I knew it wouldn't help all the pain, but I was on pitocin and hadn't moved along at all.
Eventually I said, just do an epidural.
Changed my life. I had 2 other kids before this and it was a lot. God do I wish I had done the epidural sooner. I was on cloud 9.
Oh NO!!!!
My doctor was like you will deliver sometime in the morning. 25 minutes later, i was pushing 😂
Awww I want more story
The Dairy of a Midwife is amazing. When she had to work on a hospital, her moms had the best births.
Sounds like my first labour experience. When I went in a was only 3cm, and 24 hours later……. Still 3cm. I had been given strong pain relief early, and by the time my waters were broken and I started contracting FAST, (3-10 in 30 minutes) the pain relief wasn’t doing anything. Come my second labour refused all strong pain meds until my waters went and I was dilated more. It went much better for me 😂
I was admitted and induced at 38w3d when my BP spiked out of nowhere. I was having contractions and 1cm dilated when I first got to the hospital. 3 rounds of induction failed to get me anywhere and after 42 hours of labor I had a c-section (20 hours after my water broke and I had started to spike a fever). I only made it to 6cm and at one point I was 100% effaced and then worked backwards to 80%. I didn't know that was possible. Turns out my sons head was so large that the pressure from him attempting to descend caused a bunch of swelling. I am super lucky that he and I were both healthy. Looking back, I should have stuck to my guns about not being induced. By the time I was seen by a doctor in the hospital, my blood pressure had stabilized. We could have waited but honestly they scared the crap out of me and my husband. I couldn't think. Baby #2 is currently loading and this time I am taking time off starting at 36 weeks. Also - my son has grown into his head lol
I hated getting checked. It hurt so bad. It hurt even during regular exams. Feels like getting punched
Pretending i wasn't in labour was my best earley labour strategy
This happened to me with my first. 18 hours of constant contractions and would not dilate past a 5. Had to have a c-section eventually because my baby’s HR was plummeting.
That was my story. For the most part. Right when the pain could no longer be ignored, a group of interns came in, and all wanted to check me. Then, we also needed an emergency Csection because his heart rate plummeted with every contraction. Turns out, he was breach, and his little butt was stuck in the birth canal. His poor little butt was one giant bruise for a while.
My husband is gonna roast the hell out of me if I get laughing gas. Gon remind me of those wild nights at music festivals 😂
I could never labor for so long. I usually get to the birthing center around 3cm (usually spend the last few weeks dilated around 2-3cm and mostly effaced, but still deliver past my due date every time!). Then I have my baby a few hours later, with my fastest being only 1.5hrs of active labor. I can't imagine being in labor for HOURS 😭 pregnant with my 4th now and please, please let it be another easy delivery ❤
They wouldn't let me in the hospital until I was at least 3 cm. With the first that was 3 days! They finally gave me a shot to calm me down and she was born in an hour! My second daughter was 4 hours of labor and my third was complicated but still short.
Oh my goodness what an ordeal for you!!! Sometimes when the pain is less our body can dilate and relax! We call this magic shot morphine, sometimes it helps in some cases!
@@mamanursetina For me it had a lot to do with fear. I was told so many horror stories about birthing when in reality it was wonderful once I calmed down.
“I’m sure we’ll be fine.”
Narrator: “They, in fact, were not fine.”
Damn. Early for once i usually catch these weeks later and can binge them. Now i have to wait 😂
Part 2!!!!
Plsssss
I had three children. My labors were mild abdominal cramping until my water broke. Then, it was a 15-minute, 30-minute, and 35-minute delivery. I warned my doctors on children 2 and 3, and they wouldn't believe me until they were running in to catch the baby. My sister was worse. If her water broke and she wasn't in the hospital, she'd drop that baby where she was.
This is giving me emergency c-section vibes.
Childbirth is indeed a blessing. A messy, painful, terrible, kind of gross, ultimately wonderful in a way, blessing. Lol
Lol sounds like my first birth! Over 36 hrs of back labor so painful that I couldn't eat or sleep. Bruises on my back from having my husband apply counter pressure to help with the pain. 3 trips to the hospital and back before they would finally admit me, as I "wasn't dilated enough" to be admitted earlier. Got an epidural and a nap and he was born a few hours later. Most traumatic experience, doctors and nurses telling me they know more than me and I couldn't possibly have been in labor that long or that it hurt that bad. Then they tried to sneak an unconsented non-fda approved medication to me in order to stall my labor and force me to get the c section I previously said no thank you to. Turns out he was sunny side up. Needless to say, I've had 4 homebirths since, and wonderful midwives, so I wouldn't have to set foot in a hospital for birth again.
My mom was in labour with my brother for 7/8 hours. When I was coming she was preparing herself for so long, to get me out in under 20 minutes. The doctor was like: "Guess she was sick of being inside." My mom would always brag how I must've hated it in there to get out so quickly.
Under 20 minutes? That's not really even believable. You mean from the time she was fully dilated and pushing to the actual birth was 20 minutes, right?
@@harringt100it's possible she was effacing and dilating unnoticed, or that she was just doing both simultaneously and quickly. Fast labor like that can be incredibly intense, was if you are compacting all those "normal" hours and painful intensity together into a smaller time frame. My longest(easiest) birth was my first at 4 hours. The other 2 got shorter and shorter. All 3, got to the hospital too late for anything but local anesthetic. Despite the time, I've been amazed at how different each pregnancy, labor and delivery has been, so it doesn't surprise me at all, especially for a second child, that it went so fast.
I think the voice thing is hilarious!
I am so grateful my contractions aren’t even on my radar as more than a little squeeze until I am basically in transition and my waters burst.
My first childbirth was 52 hours in labor!!!! My cervix would NOT dilate due to scar tissue and I was at a Catholic hospital and they REALLY didn’t want to call a cesarean. Finally I’d been in labor so long my daughter was trapped in the birth canal and we both started full on dying. My blood pressure tanked, my epidural had time to literally wear off, and once they deemed it a serious emergency and finally passed the on call doctor, he was over an hour away. By the time he got there things were SO bad. They wheeled me into the surgery room and started cutting as the anesthesia was being administered so I felt EVERYTHING. I was losing so much blood and when they finally pulled the baby out she wasn’t breathing. It took a while to revive her and they ended up putting me to sleep. I ended up having to get a large blood transfusion and they had to rush my baby to another hospital with a NICU and since I was in such bad shape I couldn’t go with her. It was terrible!!!!! They wouldn’t clear me to go see her for 3 whole days. I literally had PTDS and postpartum depression after this experience.
I. LOVE. THE. VOICE. CHANGER. ❤❤❤❤❤❤
Thank you for normalizing slow labors. Mine were 36, 27, 19, and 46 hours. I delivered all four vaginally (EVENTUALLY 😂) and I’m so grateful I had midwives who understood that as long as baby and I were fine we could trust the process.
If you don’t WANT to labor for 2 days, you don’t have to. But if you don’t want a c-section and you and baby are handling labor well, you can keep going. It’s exhausting, but at least I didn’t have to have unnecessary (for me, in my case) surgery.
The key is to think about all of this BEFORE labor and to be flexible once you’re in labor.
It grinds my gears so much that people make Women feel bad for accepting pain relief when we’re giving birth - I ended up with an emergency c-section after being in active Labour for about 5 hours and trying to push my Son out for about an hour an half with zero progress, he became stuck and was in distress and needed to be whacked in for an emergency c-section.
The aftermath of the c-section has been bad, I have so many uterine issues now from the scar tissue and invasion of my uterus - but even after all this, my Sister still tried to make me feel bad by telling me it’s “the easy way out, I had to give birth to all mine naturally!” And my Mum (R.I.P) taunted me about my massively swollen tummy, calling me fat and comparing me to her when she had a c-section with me - even though my tummy was massive because it was actually still very inflamed even over a month afterwards - I still looked pregnant. It was horrible.
It gets me so mad. 😡 Come on girls, we need to be supporting each other, not competing with each other - this mentality really encourages Women to not accept pain relief for one of the most painful things they will ever go through in their lives!
I agree. Sorry about your painful birth
@@ac6020 Thankyou! ❤️
I hate so much that we’re made to believe that we can’t really ask for pain relief or else we’ll be “less of a Woman or Mother” somehow just because we want to make the very painful process of birth easier - would they make people feel bad for accepting pain relief for things such as cancer too?! It’s crazy - if we can make our process easier….why the heck wouldn’t we?! lol!
Yesss more stories!!! ❤
Cervical dilation is so finicky. I will never forget my induction with my first, I was stuck at 4cm for HOURS. My OB came in and said if I didn't progress in the next two hours she was going to "cut the baby out of [me]."
... I had to push before my two hours were up...
Ugh inductions can take so long 😣
Meanwhile with my second I was hanging out at 4cm for two WEEKS and when I decided he needed to be evicted I made the mistake of waiting for the pitocin to kick in before asking for the epidural. Next thing I know the nurse is saying "tell Dr. G to run if she's catching this baby"
My mom had a similar situation with my sister (her first). Her own mother had died 2 weeks prior to her going into labor, her water broke but she didn't dilate at all. They gave her 3 shots of pitocin and nothing. She eventually had to get an emergency C-section. She also didn't end up producing any milk and had extreme postpartum depression. She feels that's why her and my sister never had a strong bond
I need all the parts NOWWWW
Number three was like this. I got induced and around I would say 1 o’clock they took the bags out then broke my water. Not even five minutes after the broke my water back labor started. I hadn’t felt any contractions till that point. I was at 3cm till like 5 that morning.
I screamed when they checked my cervix. It was so painful. I’d been in labour for 4 hours having contractions every 4-8minutes. But nothing was doing what it should. I asked for the morphine and a c-section. (It was a day earlier than planned)
This EXACTLY how my labor went... 48hr never went past 1.5cm... needed a c-section
Happy to know I'm not the only one this happened too.
My labor from 0 to baby earthside lasted 12 hours. And it was SO INTENSE. I had contractions for 6 hours before i got to the hospital and i was at 5 cm. By the time i got to 7 I was having back to back contractions every minute and threw my natural birth plan in the trash for the epidural
I appreciate the warning in the beginning/gen
It actually did take me 3 days to dilate enough to have my water broken. And I was being induced the whole time. My body just did not want to go into labor and I never really felt much pain beyond mild discomfort until the day I finally had my baby and I didn't even end up getting an epidural. We had no idea that I'd been in active labor and transition when I was. I got on nitrous oxide pretty early and I'm so glad I got to have my baby all natural like I'd hoped. I was very blessed to have my first child the way that I did. I'm excited to have more kids and hope all of my labors start more easily and go as smoothly. 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
My sister had an "uncooperative" uterus. She was told this with her second child. 1 and 3 were face down. They used a pill, vaginally, to help and its was her largest child/easiest labor.
3 was C-section, GIANT head.
Love these! 😆
When you can't talk during contractions, then you're progressing
So far sounds like mine lol. We will see what happens in part two. It was funny. I started yelling ahhhhhh o have to push somthing is comming out of me and boom baby was there. The nurses were all like o.o wth.
Not me coming back after part three just now figuring out the cervix part
With my son (my fifth) I knew I was in labor at home around 8:30pm. My folks came over to help with my toddler since my hubby was away (military) and labor got a bit more serious around 11:40/12midnight. I had my son at 5:30am on my hands and knees on pads on the floor. He went straight to my breast. Raoul just turned 3 🥰 my Mr bean
Poor Beth..I can sympathize. That was me. 72 hrs of labor 😩
Had my mumma in labour for 2 days and then when I finally decided to grace the world with my presence she started to hemorrhage and almost died. I thank her on all of my birthdays. 😂❤
Omg I just birth and I felt the same way! I was even joking about the baby mama dance and first few checks were finger tip as well! They gave me one of those balloon deals and took some hours to open to a 4. Then progressed to 10 to push and realized that my baby wasn’t in the right place for her to come out risking an injury to her body. So I had to go into to surgery to avoid the injury.. if I would have known I would have wanted a a c- section to begin with because I was trying to do a VBAC after 14 months but f giving birth. But now I am enjoying my little miracle baby ❤
I can’t wait for part three
whenever you say "im sure it will all be fine" in ANY context, things will not be fine
I kept walking. Walking does miracles. Even when I was dying in pain I kept walking. Until it was time.😊🎉👶
I'm in Canada . I can't tell about all of the doctors and nurses here but I had a very good experience in my birth even though it was complicated . My son was late so my doctor suggested to induce . They put the baloon to help my cervix to open and it open to 4cm . But it not go furter than that all . At the end qgter like 12 hours i had to go for c-section cause my sons heartbeat was dropping. And his head was in my cervix but couldn't come out cause it wasn't open enough and even with epidural it heart like hell .
I had two nurses in the delivery room at all times and constantly monitor me . Doctors and nurses were so kind and understanding. They let me know what happening every step of the way and tried to make everything less stressful for me .
I kinda feel that one. I was in labor for 27 hours and my cervix only opened 6 cm. When my doctor told me that we need to do a c-cection, otherwise the baby will get stuck, I was ok wirh that but also jelled ad him: "and you couldn't tell this 10 hours ago?!!!"😅
This was me. My cervix didn't want to budge.
Literally me with my second 😂😂😂
I am nearly 100% effaced and 1.5 cm dilated atm. Hope Baby will come soon 🥹❤️
Maybe the little one has arrived.... Congratulations
I love the voice change 😂😂😂
I went for induced labor for my twins. After 24 hrs I was dialated @ 6. One of the twins was having low heart rate so to the er we went. Thankfully they were born healthy
As someone who was stuck in early labor and at 1cm for 3 weeks before getting induced so I can actually give birth I can vouch just how painful and uncomfortable it is not to mention just the mental exhaustion. I ended up getting therapeutic rest and a few days later got admitted into the hospital.
Awww! I'm so thankful to whichever side of my family (mom or dad) that I got my short labors from! 😅
Didn't make it to the hospital with one! I knew better & knew I should've left sooner! Had his little bum right in the ambulance lol!
My last kid's birth - still short - was definitely spicy 🥵! Closed down the shop after that one!😮💨😌
It was like this for me. Barely dilating, then when I finally got to 5 cm it stayed there for hours and hurt SO much. Contractions without a stop and puked from the pain. Then after hours with that I got an epidural. Last time they checked me was 12 pm and I was still 5cm and 2.10 pm my baby was out. Pushed maybe 10-15 minutes at most so that part was easy compared to the pain before.
I was induced and now after everything I feel like my body just wasn’t ready and that’s why it hurt SO much. Was in labor for 47 hours so it was definitely tough and honestly traumatizing for ever having another baby if I want to.
Really like your content though. Helped me a lot❤
The finger guns in the beginning 😂
The first 12 hours of my labor sucked. No sleep, started around 9:30pm. I went from the bed, to the recliner, to the couch, to the chair, to the recliner. Haha. All that for 4cm. It would 4 more hours before 6cm, then it wasnt until 5pm i hit 8cm, bed ridden, Nauseous, and then 6pm 10cm. All back labor. 6:32pm my son was out and i tore myself good and broke damn near every blood vessel in my face. 😂 good times! The rocking of the hips helps so much!!!
Nurses have said with both my births "your contractions just aren't strong enough and you aren't progressing fast enough, let's give you pitocin and break your water and get things moving along faster" how about no. I had a 17 hour long excruciating labor with no pain meds and they gave me pitocin and IV antibiotics with my firstborn but I wasn't letting anyone put that in my body during labor again. My second labor was 11 hours long no pitocin or pain meds and the nurse and midwife were angry with me thst I wouldn't hurry up and have a baby so they could bill for the birth on their shift. As soon as they left me alone, I was able to relax and my water broke on its own and my daughter was born within 15 min. I wouldn't have been able to handle the pain without TENS unit between L2-L3. Both times the nurses said it was hospital policy that I had to have continuous monitoring and lay perfectly still on the bed without moving at all. YOU try laying perfectly still for hours while in pain!
I love your content and can't wait for more parts.
For me this os similar, I never said it was a blessing but I didn't have alot of the symptoms like no morning sickness or cravings. I was 34 weeks and had my water break in increments then hrs later had contractions. I also was foot breech and did only get 2 almost 3 inches with alot of pain before a c-section. I mentioned about geting meds or something cause the pain started getting intense and eventually went into surgery.
My placenta detouched at midnight, after 18h under ultrasound device with 1' dilatation, the shift changed and the new head of ginecology looked buffled at the leading MD and asked if they were insured enough to pay for the medical error since they didnt get me any antibiotics and the uterus was dry for last 18h and my babies pulse was getting weak.
An urgent C-section got me a lovely baby boy, but anyway we needed to remain at the hospital for next 10days in NICU.
My body refused to let me dilate after three days. All the meds and manual opening was not cutting it. I was wore out and got a c sections. Good times. 10/10 loved my epidural. 🎉
Thats how my labor was, i was in so much pain for 48 hrs and barely dilated. I only made it to 3 centimeters (after 48 hours of contractions so bad i couldnt stand) before we had to do an emergency c section.
My daughter was in distress and aspirated. Her baby had to go to NICU. We had scarring from LEEPS and got no intervention until it was critical...
Those kind of mom’s always end up with every measuring device possible, pitocin, forceps, then a c-section. It never fails. I see a birth plan in the chart and know it’s going to be a long shift w a very stressed family
Love the voice
love the voice
You’re my absolute favorite 🤣🤣🤣 also praying this doesn’t happen to me 😅