Excellent video, wow 🤩 not being skilled at hints does take time to build I think for most folks especially when women are feeling much more free to express themselves and take more pride in initiating and generally, overall, showing assertiveness towards and for the opposite sex. Like you mentioned, back in the day times were different and it’s important to reflect back, apply to present day as well. We all need to stay relevant ☺️ and honestly, sometimes I do miss things by accident too not intentionally, but because I need time to process sometimes, which I think we can all relate to. It would be helpful haha 😂 complimenting your man is how you keep the desire going, the 🔥 fire 🔥 so to speak between the two of you! Like for example, when you watch your man and you can see his strong arms, 💪 and thick upper body, his broad shoulders - his solid chest, especially through his shirt, you can see his outline of his whole body, it is AmAzInG 😻 it’s almost as if you are undressing him with your eyes 👀 and is such a turn on in anything he wears as long as you can see him and all the hard work he’s put into himself. One of the best things in the world to know is that he knows you see HIM and how much you are attracted to him. It’s like you can feel the passion while you watch him move or do anything really. It’s like you constantly desire him AND he must know that just like you must know it from him too 🥰 Haha 😂 I love that just because men want to hang out with their boys doesn’t mean they don’t love you 😍 it is two different vibes, same thing for women. Both sexes need an identity beyond their roles as husband and wife and need to breathe a bit I call it. Get out of the house 🏡 thank you for bringing up the issue that can bring up the need to have or seek balance. I’m close with all of my cousins. I love these guys, they are super loving and protective in the best way just like my brother and sister, etc. 🙏🏻 For me, I am of the mind that as long as his behavior is a blessing to he and I and he comes home to me I am happy. If it were reversed I think it would be the same. There are lines snd boundaries in a relationship you don’t cross and then double cross too. We are all adults and know right from wrong is my opinion 🥰 Restricting ourselves from what we really want only intensifies the desire for it. Just like our every day eating habits. Again, for me, I crave balance in all things and compartmentalize where I need to to manage the day to day sometimes especially in busier seasons with family, events, and things. Some foods aren’t meant to be every day, but only on occasion as well so that you can develop and sustain your healthy efforts you have going or want to maintain and grow in areas of your life. That study is incredible! And eat an insightful comment about men and women regarding heartbreaks. Wow (let me sit down for this) Funny, the man I’m interested in and talking to right now made a comment about “Mrs. Nicole” and the first thought I had was (I think there is a rule somewhere where women don’t need to tell tell their partner every little thought they have it’s what we have girlfriends for 👯♀️, but I’m willing to wager on this thought for a moment) “oh yeah? you want to make me YOUR Mrs?” And then I think it came up again a few days ago and my second thought was “I want to marry you” - so crazy right?? For me, I want my man to feel my warmth while listens to my heartbeat inside my chest. That is a happy space for me with him. 😍 And it’s so true, what you think about you being about, so when you say “if you think men don’t want to commit, then you will settle for ones who won’t want to give it”. There was a time years ago where a man brought up marriage to me and I wasn’t ready, then years after that with a second man I was seeing I realized he was marriage focused with me from jump street, yet this time around I wanted marriage, but I had just started getting to know him so I needed more time to discover he and I and if we were a good fit. We didn’t work out ultimately, which worked best for us both, but it goes to show you how important it is to understand yourself, where you are in life, and with who. I’m wanting a special marriage in my life that is fruitful of the spirits of God where he and I make each other happy with an alignment in values, lifestyle, and emotional maturity. So important to me and I want it to be important to him too 🥰 Cute ☺️ we really do think you’re beautiful without all that makeup on 💄 for me I am pretty calm, cool, and casual although I like to have my staple dress up moments, my everyday baseline if you will plus my dress up moments too. I can feel beautiful and turn myself on sometimes if I can be honest 🤭 but it’s true!! We have to love ourselves before one can love another. We can always be practicing this and evolving and I pray that each of us are. Even in the moments we are struggling to feel some way about ourselves. We have to remove the critic inside snd welcome the en racing out our “whole” person mind, body & spirit. We have to respect ourselves, pay attention to ourselves, and honor ourselves in all we do. For me? I enjoy being natural, but it’s also my element to be desired for my beauty, which I think is true for all of us women. We are all beautiful because of what we possess inside, but because all shapes and sizes are beautiful too. I do think we should always pay attention to what we think about ourselves, our appearance of you will yes, if we don’t desire ourselves how can we expect a man to desire us? I mean this with so much love because there was a time where I didn’t know how to desire myself, but I had to find it. And I found it through my walk with God, encouragement from those around me, and healing ❤️🩹 early on in my life. Be fun and fancy free with yourself! You’re cute, let your skin breathe it’s good for you, I’ll remember that one ☺️ I agree with needing to process things and not knowing how you feel all the time. That is okay! I think it’s hard to be human sometimes, but all that means is that you are trying and there is comfort in knowing you are progressing towards something meaningful! Don’t give up until you find it, in Jesus name amen 🙏🏻 sometimes I’m like dang it, I just figured it out and the moment has passed. But I think too if you take time to process things it’s okay too, and not because I’m seeking a pass either, but because I think when we take time to process things until the picture becomes clearer for us we can move forward and do what is best to make the world keep turning. What’s the saying “when you do the next right thing then it’s gives permissions or others to do the next right thing too” something like that. And thank you for clarifying the fees yin’s struggle. Sometimes we need our own space yes haha goodness I crave and recharge my batteries independently sometimes. 💯 and there is a differ between being alone and isolating so we need to understand the difference there too, that’s important. “For there is a season for each thing under the sun ☀️ “ 🙏🏻 amen Watching porn is not a big deal to all men-I agree. I agree with the negative impacts that you mentioned. I think there is a difference between a problem(emotional unavailability with your spouse because of it) and the occasional soft cinematic pleasure to enhance the fire 🔥 and bond between two people ♥️. It’s important to make sure that there is no conflict there and it’s discussed in the relationship so there is an understanding of expectation and desire with your partner. And yes, it can cause a lot of damage to the non-practicing partner if not handled correctly, and really, handled appropriately. 📼 Thank you for saying that men like to see women initiate too. There is nothing wrong with showing your man your desire for him. He needs to know, and so do you, let’s be honest!! Us women need to know our men are turned on by us too!! I am of the mind we all bleed the same and we all have this mind to be desired, wanted, and loved. With what we can do, we must do. Make the effort. What is the worst thing that can happen if you initiate, he isn’t in the mood, etc or he might just be? Desire is everything from touching his chest, putting your hands on his strong pecks 🤩 and kissing his nose softly to watching him from across the room putting something together that he literally had no idea you were quietly watching him out together (sooo hot btw) to letting him know you can’t wait to see him later tonight for a movie 🎥 🍿, etc. I believe these are where all the little things matter and buildup to a healthy, and happy union with a man. We need space to be ourselves and not be in a cage like Stephan says, but come together as one flesh too for the love we share with each other. Really nice video today Stephan 🥰
I am a awful Husband. I am awful in relationships, i self sabotage them. I cause so much pain. If women knew how i truly am they would never give me the time of day. My 1st marriage i ruined that. The marriage I'm in now i basically Over, i have ruined that as well......
I feel like you're the only one who breaks down relationship from a man's perspective without putting down women. You talk about both genders' flaws and perspectives without attacking.
When a man is ASKING you for clarity on what YOU want/need to be happy/aroused/satisfied…..that IS because he cares, not because he’s stupid or lazy 🤦🏻♀️
bingo, men pretend to act dumb when they don’t care. when they do care they are pretty switched on most of the time. having said that.. they still do need guidance from women.
A narcissist will ask you those same questions but their goal is to learn you to use it later to tear you down vs a normal man who is asking those questions. But his goal is to also learn you but his goal is to use all he knows to build you up.
I like that you make videos like this because honestly it’s not all about us women! Yes I’ve heard the term “happy wife, happy life” but a man’s happiness matters too. They have feelings just like we do. So I’m glad you make videos like this, it helps me to be more understanding. I’m Im not perfect I still think it’s my world sometimes lol but these videos open up my eyes so thank you!❤️❤️
On #3, yes, PLEASE go out with the homies. Have your hobbies, have your friends, have your LIFE, because I most certainly will have mine! Yes, as Stephan said, balance is key (i.e. Don't be out every night), but I think we're all ultimately better partners when we have space to develop and enjoy life apart from one another. Lil ole me can't ball with you at the park or talk about some of the challenges you're facing in the same way that the bros can. Honestly, #6 is something I'm learning to have more patience with. For me, listening to a guy talk about his feelings and providing a judgment-free space is a way to show love, so if he hits me with the "I don't wanna talk about it" and then just plays video games or something, I will admit my first reaction is to take it personally, as if I'm robbed of an opportunity to be supportive. I've had to learn that it's not about me (shout out to Don Miguel Ruiz) and understand that sometimes guys just have to deal with stuff in their own way.
OMG yes!!!! I've been hinting to my long distance boyfriend to call me more and he just hasn't been doing it. Finally I just said "stop being such a stranger, it's really nice to hear from you every day" and BAM!!! Now he calls me every day!! Like magic ✨ And YES! I have been contradicting myself by pulling away when I don't hear from him.
If someone truly wants you, they will show it through actions, how effective their communication is, their vibe, body language and how they treat you. If you have to constantly ask yourself if someone is into you or not, they act hot and cold towards you, then most likely, they're not! 💙UA-camr That Helps People Overcome Toxic Relationships
@@nolajones366 Excuse me, I am single and very happy. I no longer have to put up with the BS of a bad relationship. I absolutely do not consider myself weak by any means. It takes a strong woman to leave an abusive/bad relationship and not settle for less. Mark my words, the majority of people in a relationship are not all that happy and are settling.
I just LOVE all these "hard truth" vids. It's what we all need to hear in order to understand how to have healthy relationships. Stephan, you nail it every time. No sugar coating, just real truth. Thank you sooooo much!
I don’t wear makeup a lot at all maybe a couple times a month. It takes 10 minutes max I don’t do much; when I do wear a little make up, my fiancé said “no you don’t have to do all that, your beautiful without it.” It’s a feeling I can’t express but it means so much to me ❤️ Thank you for your dedication to health relationships it has led me to my significant other. I learned how to carry myself to attract the right man, also how to treat him and support him, etc. I appreciate how you explain both sides it is very helpful.
I love how detailed and thorough you are in explaining and breaking down different aspects of relationships and the differences between man and women. I wish you were around decades ago when I was a young adult, the knowledge would have been so valuable.
@@MeetStephanSpeaks Yes I"ve shared some of your videos with my daughter who's 23. I'll definitely share them with my 27 yr old son as well it will help him out throughout his journey of dating and understanding the dynamics of relationships. Your coaching is such a blessing!
Women need to know what men want, how to respond, and communicate more effectively. I am beginning to understand that those sometimes uncomfortable talks are necessary until they become comfortable. Communication is key and it doesn't matter so much who initiates it. Most people come from experiences where feelings , needs, and wants were not talk about or normalize which all are necessary for healing and healthy relationships. I have gotten better expressing myself, although still is scary at times. I know I have to do different or better to get the results I want and deserve. I am not giving up on love or men. I didn't have a lot of the things I needed growing up, no ones fault. So Grateful for Stephan Speaks!! I love learning how I can improve. I am very hopeful and optimistic!!! Thanks so much!!!❤❤❤
Yes, to me it makes complete sense that many men would desire marriage & commitment so strongly because that’s really how they were created & wired- they need their helpmate, their ‘rib’ so to speak- it’s at the centre of their being. Great video ❤️
I've just begun watching you and I love your knowledge. ..that said, 2 points here. 1. My man worked hard all of his life. Not enough space to go into our history. We have both been caregivers to our parents. When he was working (we're both retired ), every year, he looked forward to his week long time away camping in the wilderness/dessert by himself to decompress. The peak time was always April due to after that, it's too hot. This March, I planted the seed that it's been too many years since he's been able to have that experience. I told him that April will come and go. .he was quiet, didn't really comment. A few weeks later, he told me he was going to go camping 💜. My heart was happy, and better yet, he thanked me for that gift of planting that seed. I recognized how much he needed that time away. 2. Porn - Just NO! NO "excuses" or "reasons" whether it's habit, or his needs, etc. IT STILL PERPETUATES VERY DISRESPECTFUL SEXUALIZATION OF WOMEN. Yes, women are responsible for performance and participation in Porn, and shouldn't disrespect themselves and keep perpetuating it. I'm 65, and trust me, the serious relationships I've had, the men had a problem with Porn, and their behaviors from it spilled over into extremely disrespectful, abusive results into our real life dynamics. I'm happy to fulfill my man's fantasies together to "take his mind off of things". Thank you for your insights ✌💜
I thank God for you Stephan. I’m thankful that you found your gift and that you use it to reach people in the way that is NEEDED. Your tone and deliverance is amazing! You speak to us women without tearing us down and you break things down very well coming from a man’s perspective and most of all I Love how you include God! Kudos you you! Keep up the good work ❤️💪🏽
Thank you for your insights on various relationships...I totally agree with you. I have shared some of your videos with my granddaughter and my 50+ year old niece. My husband and I have been married for over I guess 40+ years. The strangest thing tho...we were born July 1, 1951...graduated from the same high school...although we graduated the same year, we barely knew each other during high school. It was a year or so later but anyway...it takes work in a relationship to finally get to the finish line...btw...I am a natural girl as much as possible even at age 70+. You are doing a Great job...keep up the great work. We need this and I will continue to share your information. Thank you...
Wanting marriage and being willing to work at a successful marriage are two different things. Most people want a pretty picture, but don’t do what it takes to build a happy marriage. I’d rather be happy alone than to be married and miserable.
This is very much needed! I’ve always been the one looking in at other relationships like you’ve explained! I’m different! I’m compassionate! I care and ask questions! I listen to understand! Love is always the best answer! I thank GOD I’m different!💯🙌🏽❤️ I grew up seeing my parents miserableness in their marriage! Neither were ready! They needed to heal first!
Ok for the clarity Stephan🙌🏾💪🏾 ....I was telling my friend that men can’t read our minds and sometimes we do have make sure we speak more clear and it’s ok to make sure he understands and vise versa because we’re all humans and sometimes we need clarity 🤷🏾♀️
I'm so glad my coworker sent me this because this clarified A LOT! I was confused about a couple of things but this was like a breath of fresh air,thanks for this 👍🏾
A women's perception of a man and their behaviors on how they move becomes the reality of a desired outcome because that's what you're reaching for. Very much like what you said, a self-fulfilling prophecy. There are plenty of good men out there that they want to be cared for too. These are seeds that need to watered. We are all going to be scholars after watching your videos. Blessings up.
New subscriber here. Please give women more of those simple feminine tips. I took your advice about wearing a flower in my hair and found it’s like kryptonite to men . Thank you!!
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Feminine tips?? There are women who are out here with whole channels about femininity. That would be like a man asking me for masculine tips. Get for real! Tf.
C'mon ladies.. let's not be mean. She truly might not know. What comes easy to most can still be hard for another... I don't know her personally, but from my childhood my mother was not loving and adorning. She was mean hateful and flat out just ugly inside and out. I had to rely on my grandma, stepmom, aunts, n friends to find out what my role as a woman should be. I'm not hating on anyone or trying to be rude I'm simply presenting a different perspective. I hope you understand.
You are the truth ! Never watched any man that knows relationships better than u ! :) seriously. I watch u Daily and u are so genuine and real :) Ty so much ;) your wife is so Lucky honestly I could listen to u For Days ! U are helping soooo many women understand men
I believe the study bkuz I know so many women that are celibate & have given up on relationships. So I do believe there are more men that want to get married. I've met many men that are older than me 10+ years who thought they wanted the bachelor life & now they are 40+ looking for a wife. & all the women are having a hot girl summer 🤣🤣! its sad but at the same time they kind of did it to themselves.
I learned giving praise/compliments fr my boss and now I do the same. There’s such fulfillment in encouraging others which creates more connection, man or woman.
You really have a calming nature in the way you speak and your style of explaining the way men think, makes your videos always something to look forward to watching.
Stephen, you are truly a GEM in this generation. I am learning a lot about the “wants” and “needs” of a man and things I can improve on as a woman to fulfill him. But if I may, I would like to share some insight as far as the topic of porn goes. I know everyone isn’t Christian and for those that aren’t maybe I am not speaking directly to you , however , the following still applies. Though many men believe it stays at a strictly “entertainment” level, or for arousal purposes, porn is spiritual and opens you up to the demonic. There is no such thing as a harmless amount, any amount of porn will open you up to demonic portals that in some shape or form will come and haunt you in your personal life. Not to mention the incubus and succubus spirits that come along with it. I was delivered by God from porn and masturbation addiction after being accidentally introduced to it as a child. The fact that women watch porn as well is more taboo I guess but it happens within our community tho it’s more popular to talk about with the men. You are most definitely a good communicator and have so much insight that can help both men and women navigate relationships properly. I am always open to learning and understanding what a man needs are and you cover so many different topics that many times is eye-opening. I just wanted to add a little pointer to those trying to practice Christianity and want to make those aware of how the demonic works against us. Keep doing what you do brother , blessings !
Me and my fiance have been together for 4yrs and this pandemic has brought us closer and has strengthened our relationship we have been engaged for 6months now and your channel came up in my suggestions and I'm loving your videos they are so detailed and understanding do u do one on one marriage counseling cause u are so professional and keep it 💯💞
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I do have a question. Most times, men would say I’m not looking for anything serious or I’m not trying to get in a relationship right now. 1- When is it appropriate to ask if they are just not looking for those things with you specifically ? 2-During the talking/getting to know you stages, how quickly does a man realize she’s not the one, yet decides to make her a placeholder? I ask because you made the analogy of a man would say one thing to the lady they’re dating but they break up and he’s married or engaged in under a year.
i think they know very fast (like in a week or even faster) whether or not the women they’re talking to is a women they want for a longterm relationship. but some may be not looking for that as in.. they want just the physical sensual things in a woman and are maybe scared or dont believe in real love. and thats okay, if a man says that he’s not looking for that than it must be a hint for you to just forget him, look the other way and accept that he is not meant for you.
I enjoy the way you unpack each point in a casual flow, it’s therapeutic to listen to. I only associated “stroking an ego” with basically using compliments in a transactional manner. Wtf is wrong with ppl, don’t we compliment anyone else based on what truly fascinates us?
Excellent!!!! Thank you, Stephan ❤️. This video is loaded with insightful and practical information that is bound to enhance relationships, bring clarity, understanding, and create deep and meaningful interaction among couples. 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
I really appreciate this video along with the advice coming from a man's perspective. Unfortunately, I and alot of women have taken some unhealthy advice about men and their relationships from other women. The key in every relationship is to.communicate often and honestly. Work is required in order to maintain a relationship, including respect, honesty, trust, commitment, and communication.
Being a woman I can say it’s hard to “ tell” a man what to do, because you lose the attraction to the thing your requesting .. tip. Write it to him, ( he’ll probably enjoy reading your dirty thoughts) it takes away that embarrassment and the feeling of telling him what to do.. and the woman still feels like it’s fresh and not a request. Some woman feel like the magic is gone when you have to tell your man what you want ..
Be careful when you say out loud fantasies. It gets super messy and it’s a slippery slope to teasing the man into moves that extend and extend until they need more than you and his love to make the magic. Not a good move.
@@jesusthewaytruthandlight7558 here’s the thing, when you are in love and you have desires, if the man or woman is not accepting of that, then you obviously are not ready to accept someone as being human, or your just not into it. Whatever the case if your living in denial of your wants because your afraid of what another would think or say, then I would suggest getting to know that person better or moving on to someone that your comfortable with sharing and exploring each other.. often women have this fantasy but it’s just that an idea, and having the thought alone normally works.. exploring the idea can be exciting in it’s self..
@@jesusthewaytruthandlight7558 just to add, if a man is wanting to go explore further than I would question one if that could actually attain that and if he is going to be satisfied in other areas of his life.. relationships are more than just sex and sexual desires.. and if your meeting each other’s other needs and are able to express your desires, then Chances are that gout isn’t going anywhere if your fulfilling the desires, and meeting the needs.. and then again you must be actually comfortable doing or exploring said desires.. if not move on..
I believe the stats are true because there are also countless studies that show that marriage is more beneficial to men than women, and in general married men are healthier than single men. Also, Married women often perform more duties in the home then of course single women do.. So ultimately in an age when women make make equal or more money than many men marriage is more beneficial for men...Especially after a certain age. So yes I do believe the stats.
Omg. As soon as you said “we arent good with hints” i was laughing so hard I had to pause the video. U might as well have said the sky is blue 😂. You speak TRUTH
Concerning the point about complimenting men, a lot of us women refrain from complimenting men because we don't want them to think there's more to it than a simple compliment. Like, they hear the compliment and they think we're flirting with them or hitting on them. Sometimes a compliment is just a compliment. And as a woman, I don't typically give men compliments because I never want to inadvertently lead a man on and have him think I like him when I'm not interested in him that way. And if I can tell a man likes me when I am not interested in him, I will absolutely NOT compliment him because I don't want to even give one iota of hope that anything will happen when I know it won't. On the rare occasion that I do compliment a man, I am very careful about how and when I do it. For one thing, I watch him to be sure he isn't interested in me. When I can see that he isn't interested in me, if I see there's something to compliment him on, I try to word it as platonically as possible. Now, there are some qualities of a man that cannot be platonically complimented no matter how it's worded, so I don't. Like if he has pretty eyes, etc. Compliments of his body of any kind, no matter how platonically stated, may give the impression that I'm romantically interested in him when I'm not. And I will not give him any leeway to think that way if I'm not interested. However, if it's a guy I like and am romantically interested, and he's not attached to anyone, I won't mind being a little forward in my compliment so he knows I'm checking him out. But, I read his reaction to my compliment to see how he's feeling about it. If I catch that it made him uncomfortable, I back off. Clearly he's not interested if my forward compliment made him uncomfortable. And I'm fine with that.
In a nutshell one should list all pertinent questions down to ask the person they are interested in/dating to have an idea of their mindset before rushing into a commitment or marriage. Although an individual can say one thing and then do the absolute opposite because of indecisiveness or a lack of self control (temptation/lust) I believe that a relationship doesn't have to be complicated or full of hardships once both parties are guided by the bible and they have proper ethics, morals and values... If by any chance there are any minor/ little differences it should just be handled with special care, transparency, authenticity in love (words, thoughts and deeds)
@@MeetStephanSpeaks Maybe you should have a dating service since you are qualified /have the expertise. If an individual is ready for a relationship and they go on the website and include their information. You can vet them and possible pair people off..
I ticked every box in my last relationship. It ended with him ending things with me telling me I'm "his soulmate", "the love of his life", he will never "love anyone else like he loves me", I am "the most incredible woman", and that he is not "worthy of me", and that's apparently why we can't be together. 😒
Omg that would piss me off so bad hahaha. Even if he genuinely felt like he "didn't deserve me" I would think he's just trying to make up some lie to break up with me that would hopefully *not* make me mad at him haha
Girl, trust him when he tells you that. We go Thru the wanting what you can’t have and the chase is on. My husband told me he was a flirt. I never saw him flirt or even really give a second look to another woman. I was always the focus of his attention. Until after we got married. It’s a sore spot with me. Believe them! Go on to find someone who would have the ability to commit. On YOUR level. And you on theirs.
Well that's because he's been with you so long. You're new to the other men...which they'll eventually stop doing too after so long. Remember to keep it at compliments your husband is the one who takes cares of you, they won't.
“Him wanting commitment too….” as Stephan said it, I was shaking my head no. Stephan, “I know y’all are shaking your head…”. LMBO. You are right! Makeup: The best compliment I ever received was “You look beautiful.” This was first thing in the morning. No makeup and no mouthwash. 🤷🏽♀️ IJS.
Maybe the key is to think like a man, but keep your feminine qualities. It is a fine line to walk.. At the end of the day women think differently then men.
Stephan, I feel my fingers typing the following for innumerable women and myself. We must be invisible to men for unfathomable reasons. There are many of us who are waiting to be seen and responded to by the men you've described. Thank you for sharing reason eight and your incredible insights. The early adoption of the habit makes perfect sense to me. Congratulations on delivering a clear and thorough explanation. I accept it entirely. Thank you.
That is how I dated my partner I made the first move towards him, And told him how manly masculine he is…. And how he walks with a swagger I told him the truth from what I saw in him😍 So you’re actually right sometimes you have to make a move to something you see and desire, We’ve been together nearly a year now…. He told me that it was a great turn on for him because I’ve been first woman to ever say that, in his life so I felt so proud of myself thank you for your confirmation my dear…☺️👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾🙌🏾😍
I agree men do want a commitment. They want love and a partner to. A man can tell a woman he's not ready for a relationship with you but a few months later end up in a relationship with someone else and even have a family or marriage down the line with that person. I'm a female this has happened to me and I have witness this happen to other women. It doesn't necessarily mean anything is wrong with you. It just means you and the guy were not a good fit together. So don't get discouraged just continue to date knowing you can find a man who wants the same things as you. But please date realistically lol
Lol it was the “Dude do you see her lipstick!?? Oooh mann!” for me 😭😭😭💀 Thank you so much for this ! It’s very helpful & also nice to know coming from a man himself.
I gave a compliment and he got stand offish....he felt like I was being funny...I was genuine I don't use compliments as sarcasm....he definitely stumped me. I never played with him like that
I really appreciate how you explain things. This is supreme knowledge. You're so good at communicating what can be confusing to some. Thank you for the guidance.
Me saying yes to everything since finding the good one who God just sort of brought to me. Men really need the things we want as well and just as much as I like how he makes me happy, I like to reciprocate
Steven I love watching your videos and your insights on men psychology. You pinpoint things about men exactly what I need to learn and be aware of them . Gives a a great perspective on how I would deal with them when I am dating. .., I love love your knowledge and perspective and the spiritual aspect you combine with… You’re one of my favorite dating coaches.
Stephan, you are super informative and super hilarious! You cracked me up so much in this video lol. Thank you for all the inside info about men, I appreciate you.
Yes give your men compliments! I had this conversation with my brother on how I give my bf compliments and he doesn’t take them well and my brother said woman don’t give men compliments if they do it’s very rare. I was in shock, I’ve been out of the dating scene for a while till I meet my bf so I had no idea women didn’t do this.
I have a question about the first point, you're saying guys don't catch the hints we're dropping. But, what if the man is actually interested in a woman and really likes her, would he notice any nuances in her behavior towards him then, or would he still be oblivious?
Hi Stephan: Please give us some insight as to why some men change up and play for both teams and under what circumstances a previously stable male-female relationship can survive this discovery.
I believe what U said about the number 4! I unfortunatly see around me more women (who wanted to commit) alone than men (prefer staying alone)...So would like to meet the guy who really would like to commit and donhis work the same as I do...I'm there and ready, eyes open...👀👀👀
Stephen one day I'll meet you and thank you. One day that's a dream I need to fulfil. I've got free therapy listening to you. I've become a better listener and actualizing your advise has made my life so easy. Oh boy how do I thank you...
Hi Stephan, great topic! On the hanging out with friends thing. What if he purposefully makes the time every week for his friends, but does not purposefully plan time to spend time with his woman alleviating to the excuse that "she doesn't have time" but doesn't inquire on what time she could make to spend time with him and instead just pops up on same day texts?
I love the videos because most men are non verbal and I’m no mind reader I’ve tried and fail so this gives us women a lil better insight and by going by your videos I’m told I’m a lil BOSS I am in tune with them….lol I don’t let them know your my secret 😘
Hello Stephan! Greetings from the Philippines! 🇵🇭 I would just like to ask if you could make a relationship advice video on how to deal with a partner who just doesn't know how to start or manage to have long deep conversation.. I'm an old soul and a lover of deep conversations, however, my partner, he's just different (but not in a negative way).. and it's probably cus he's just not as emotional as I am.. he's more of a logical person and tends to prefer a smooth casual conversation. i observed him get deep into conversations especially when we are fixing our little arguments, so i knew that he can be in those situations. I already brought that up and I saw how he's trying to get himself be better in communication, me too as I try to match his types of conversation. I know he loves me and i want to deepen our connection further and I understand that having deep connection through conversations is one great way to spark that. We're just a new couple (more than a year), are we just in the early stages yet? what can we do better so we can meet halfway?
A wise man (King Solomon) said "Above all else, guard your heart, for out of it is the wellspring of life"... Question: Should people who are dating be partially closed off whilst still connecting?
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Excellent video, wow 🤩 not being skilled at hints does take time to build I think for most folks especially when women are feeling much more free to express themselves and take more pride in initiating and generally, overall, showing assertiveness towards and for the opposite sex. Like you mentioned, back in the day times were different and it’s important to reflect back, apply to present day as well. We all need to stay relevant ☺️ and honestly, sometimes I do miss things by accident too not intentionally, but because I need time to process sometimes, which I think we can all relate to. It would be helpful haha 😂 complimenting your man is how you keep the desire going, the 🔥 fire 🔥 so to speak between the two of you! Like for example, when you watch your man and you can see his strong arms, 💪 and thick upper body, his broad shoulders - his solid chest, especially through his shirt, you can see his outline of his whole body, it is AmAzInG 😻 it’s almost as if you are undressing him with your eyes 👀 and is such a turn on in anything he wears as long as you can see him and all the hard work he’s put into himself. One of the best things in the world to know is that he knows you see HIM and how much you are attracted to him. It’s like you can feel the passion while you watch him move or do anything really. It’s like you constantly desire him AND he must know that just like you must know it from him too 🥰
Haha 😂 I love that just because men want to hang out with their boys doesn’t mean they don’t love you 😍 it is two different vibes, same thing for women. Both sexes need an identity beyond their roles as husband and wife and need to breathe a bit I call it. Get out of the house 🏡 thank you for bringing up the issue that can bring up the need to have or seek balance. I’m close with all of my cousins. I love these guys, they are super loving and protective in the best way just like my brother and sister, etc. 🙏🏻 For me, I am of the mind that as long as his behavior is a blessing to he and I and he comes home to me I am happy. If it were reversed I think it would be the same. There are lines snd boundaries in a relationship you don’t cross and then double cross too. We are all adults and know right from wrong is my opinion 🥰
Restricting ourselves from what we really want only intensifies the desire for it. Just like our every day eating habits. Again, for me, I crave balance in all things and compartmentalize where I need to to manage the day to day sometimes especially in busier seasons with family, events, and things. Some foods aren’t meant to be every day, but only on occasion as well so that you can develop and sustain your healthy efforts you have going or want to maintain and grow in areas of your life.
That study is incredible! And eat an insightful comment about men and women regarding heartbreaks. Wow (let me sit down for this) Funny, the man I’m interested in and talking to right now made a comment about “Mrs. Nicole” and the first thought I had was (I think there is a rule somewhere where women don’t need to tell tell their partner every little thought they have it’s what we have girlfriends for 👯♀️, but I’m willing to wager on this thought for a moment) “oh yeah? you want to make me YOUR Mrs?” And then I think it came up again a few days ago and my second thought was “I want to marry you” - so crazy right?? For me, I want my man to feel my warmth while listens to my heartbeat inside my chest. That is a happy space for me with him. 😍
And it’s so true, what you think about you being about, so when you say “if you think men don’t want to commit, then you will settle for ones who won’t want to give it”. There was a time years ago where a man brought up marriage to me and I wasn’t ready, then years after that with a second man I was seeing I realized he was marriage focused with me from jump street, yet this time around I wanted marriage, but I had just started getting to know him so I needed more time to discover he and I and if we were a good fit. We didn’t work out ultimately, which worked best for us both, but it goes to show you how important it is to understand yourself, where you are in life, and with who. I’m wanting a special marriage in my life that is fruitful of the spirits of God where he and I make each other happy with an alignment in values, lifestyle, and emotional maturity. So important to me and I want it to be important to him too 🥰
Cute ☺️ we really do think you’re beautiful without all that makeup on 💄 for me I am pretty calm, cool, and casual although I like to have my staple dress up moments, my everyday baseline if you will plus my dress up moments too. I can feel beautiful and turn myself on sometimes if I can be honest 🤭 but it’s true!! We have to love ourselves before one can love another. We can always be practicing this and evolving and I pray that each of us are. Even in the moments we are struggling to feel some way about ourselves. We have to remove the critic inside snd welcome the en racing out our “whole” person mind, body & spirit. We have to respect ourselves, pay attention to ourselves, and honor ourselves in all we do. For me? I enjoy being natural, but it’s also my element to be desired for my beauty, which I think is true for all of us women. We are all beautiful because of what we possess inside, but because all shapes and sizes are beautiful too. I do think we should always pay attention to what we think about ourselves, our appearance of you will yes, if we don’t desire ourselves how can we expect a man to desire us? I mean this with so much love because there was a time where I didn’t know how to desire myself, but I had to find it. And I found it through my walk with God, encouragement from those around me, and healing ❤️🩹 early on in my life. Be fun and fancy free with yourself! You’re cute, let your skin breathe it’s good for you, I’ll remember that one ☺️
I agree with needing to process things and not knowing how you feel all the time. That is okay! I think it’s hard to be human sometimes, but all that means is that you are trying and there is comfort in knowing you are progressing towards something meaningful! Don’t give up until you find it, in Jesus name amen 🙏🏻 sometimes I’m like dang it, I just figured it out and the moment has passed. But I think too if you take time to process things it’s okay too, and not because I’m seeking a pass either, but because I think when we take time to process things until the picture becomes clearer for us we can move forward and do what is best to make the world keep turning. What’s the saying “when you do the next right thing then it’s gives permissions or others to do the next right thing too” something like that.
And thank you for clarifying the fees yin’s struggle. Sometimes we need our own space yes haha goodness I crave and recharge my batteries independently sometimes. 💯 and there is a differ between being alone and isolating so we need to understand the difference there too, that’s important. “For there is a season for each thing under the sun ☀️ “ 🙏🏻 amen
Watching porn is not a big deal to all men-I agree. I agree with the negative impacts that you mentioned. I think there is a difference between a problem(emotional unavailability with your spouse because of it) and the occasional soft cinematic pleasure to enhance the fire 🔥 and bond between two people ♥️. It’s important to make sure that there is no conflict there and it’s discussed in the relationship so there is an understanding of expectation and desire with your partner. And yes, it can cause a lot of damage to the non-practicing partner if not handled correctly, and really, handled appropriately. 📼
Thank you for saying that men like to see women initiate too. There is nothing wrong with showing your man your desire for him. He needs to know, and so do you, let’s be honest!! Us women need to know our men are turned on by us too!! I am of the mind we all bleed the same and we all have this mind to be desired, wanted, and loved. With what we can do, we must do. Make the effort. What is the worst thing that can happen if you initiate, he isn’t in the mood, etc or he might just be? Desire is everything from touching his chest, putting your hands on his strong pecks 🤩 and kissing his nose softly to watching him from across the room putting something together that he literally had no idea you were quietly watching him out together (sooo hot btw) to letting him know you can’t wait to see him later tonight for a movie 🎥 🍿, etc. I believe these are where all the little things matter and buildup to a healthy, and happy union with a man. We need space to be ourselves and not be in a cage like Stephan says, but come together as one flesh too for the love we share with each other. Really nice video today Stephan 🥰
I am a awful Husband. I am awful in relationships, i self sabotage them. I cause so much pain. If women knew how i truly am they would never give me the time of day. My 1st marriage i ruined that. The marriage I'm in now i basically Over, i have ruined that as well......
Hey Stephan! I love your content and pls lemme know when we can link up, I'm in Uganda and I am supposed to be Mrs.Labossiere🤩 ...
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@StephanSpeaks I appreciate you so much,your content and all please don't be creeped out by my love bombing
Success on your your Tour Stephen 😊
I feel like you're the only one who breaks down relationship from a man's perspective without putting down women. You talk about both genders' flaws and perspectives without attacking.
Glad to hear that, thank you for your response!
Tony gasking too 😊 they are both my fav coaches !
Isn’t he amazing !!
He’s literally the only one !!!
What about man like porn so much, and prefer porn then have intimacy with wife???
When a man is ASKING you for clarity on what YOU want/need to be happy/aroused/satisfied…..that IS because he cares, not because he’s stupid or lazy 🤦🏻♀️
I agree with you. Thank you for sharing!
Exactly! ❤️
bingo, men pretend to act dumb when they don’t care. when they do care they are pretty switched on most of the time. having said that.. they still do need guidance from women.
Yes, resist the urge to play games
A narcissist will ask you those same questions but their goal is to learn you to use it later to tear you down vs a normal man who is asking those questions. But his goal is to also learn you but his goal is to use all he knows to build you up.
My Bae says, “A closed mouth won’t get fed. You better speak up” 😂 He will absolutely provide ❤️
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I like that you make videos like this because honestly it’s not all about us women! Yes I’ve heard the term “happy wife, happy life” but a man’s happiness matters too. They have feelings just like we do. So I’m glad you make videos like this, it helps me to be more understanding. I’m Im not perfect I still think it’s my world sometimes lol but these videos open up my eyes so thank you!❤️❤️
I'm happy this has been helpful to you 🙏
"Happy Spouse, Happy House" 🎯
Absolutely agree!💯
Indeed! I 58th that emotion!!!!
Say it sistah! You are spot on.
I like this man's spirit so much!!! I could listen to him day in and day out. Thank you for adding all this positivity to my life! 🙏🏽😊❤️💃🏽
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On #3, yes, PLEASE go out with the homies. Have your hobbies, have your friends, have your LIFE, because I most certainly will have mine! Yes, as Stephan said, balance is key (i.e. Don't be out every night), but I think we're all ultimately better partners when we have space to develop and enjoy life apart from one another. Lil ole me can't ball with you at the park or talk about some of the challenges you're facing in the same way that the bros can.
Honestly, #6 is something I'm learning to have more patience with. For me, listening to a guy talk about his feelings and providing a judgment-free space is a way to show love, so if he hits me with the "I don't wanna talk about it" and then just plays video games or something, I will admit my first reaction is to take it personally, as if I'm robbed of an opportunity to be supportive. I've had to learn that it's not about me (shout out to Don Miguel Ruiz) and understand that sometimes guys just have to deal with stuff in their own way.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️
OMG yes!!!! I've been hinting to my long distance boyfriend to call me more and he just hasn't been doing it. Finally I just said "stop being such a stranger, it's really nice to hear from you every day" and BAM!!! Now he calls me every day!! Like magic ✨ And YES! I have been contradicting myself by pulling away when I don't hear from him.
If someone truly wants you, they will show it through actions, how effective their communication is, their vibe, body language and how they treat you. If you have to constantly ask yourself if someone is into you or not, they act hot and cold towards you, then most likely, they're not!
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You're absolutely right, actions speak louder than words! Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤
Being in relationships is not for the faint at heart.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts I appreciate your feedback!
Only the strong survive an the weak perish
@@nolajones366 Excuse me, I am single and very happy. I no longer have to put up with the BS of a bad relationship. I absolutely do not consider myself weak by any means. It takes a strong woman to leave an abusive/bad relationship and not settle for less. Mark my words, the majority of people in a relationship are not all that happy and are settling.
I just LOVE all these "hard truth" vids. It's what we all need to hear in order to understand how to have healthy relationships.
Stephan, you nail it every time. No sugar coating, just real truth. Thank you sooooo much!
My pleasure ❤️
All facts sis🙏🏽❤️💯
I don’t wear makeup a lot at all maybe a couple times a month. It takes 10 minutes max I don’t do much; when I do wear a little make up, my fiancé said “no you don’t have to do all that, your beautiful without it.” It’s a feeling I can’t express but it means so much to me ❤️ Thank you for your dedication to health relationships it has led me to my significant other. I learned how to carry myself to attract the right man, also how to treat him and support him, etc. I appreciate how you explain both sides it is very helpful.
I love how detailed and thorough you are in explaining and breaking down different aspects of relationships and the differences between man and women. I wish you were around decades ago when I was a young adult, the knowledge would have been so valuable.
I'm happy that you find this to be helpful, don't forget to share so that others can receive love and healing ❤ 🙏
@@MeetStephanSpeaks Yes I"ve shared some of your videos with my daughter who's 23. I'll definitely share them with my 27 yr old son as well it will help him out throughout his journey of dating and understanding the dynamics of relationships. Your coaching is such a blessing!
Thank you very much I appreciate your support ❤
Yes me too
Women need to know what men want, how to respond, and communicate more effectively. I am beginning to understand that those sometimes uncomfortable talks are necessary until they become comfortable. Communication is key and it doesn't matter so much who initiates it. Most people come from experiences where feelings , needs, and wants were not talk about or normalize which all are necessary for healing and healthy relationships. I have gotten better expressing myself, although still is scary at times. I know I have to do different or better to get the results I want and deserve. I am not giving up on love or men. I didn't have a lot of the things I needed growing up, no ones fault. So Grateful for Stephan Speaks!! I love learning how I can improve. I am very hopeful and optimistic!!!
Thanks so much!!!❤❤❤
Yes, to me it makes complete sense that many men would desire marriage & commitment so strongly because that’s really how they were created & wired- they need their helpmate, their ‘rib’ so to speak- it’s at the centre of their being. Great video ❤️
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Amen 🙏🏻
I've just begun watching you and I love your knowledge. ..that said, 2 points here. 1. My man worked hard all of his life. Not enough space to go into our history. We have both been caregivers to our parents. When he was working (we're both retired ), every year, he looked forward to his week long time away camping in the wilderness/dessert by himself to decompress. The peak time was always April due to after that, it's too hot. This March, I planted the seed that it's been too many years since he's been able to have that experience. I told him that April will come and go. .he was quiet, didn't really comment. A few weeks later, he told me he was going to go camping 💜. My heart was happy, and better yet, he thanked me for that gift of planting that seed. I recognized how much he needed that time away.
2. Porn - Just NO! NO "excuses" or "reasons" whether it's habit, or his needs, etc. IT STILL PERPETUATES VERY DISRESPECTFUL SEXUALIZATION OF WOMEN. Yes, women are responsible for performance and participation in Porn, and shouldn't disrespect themselves and keep perpetuating it. I'm 65, and trust me, the serious relationships I've had, the men had a problem with Porn, and their behaviors from it spilled over into extremely disrespectful, abusive results into our real life dynamics.
I'm happy to fulfill my man's fantasies together to "take his mind off of things".
Thank you for your insights ✌💜
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I thank God for you Stephan. I’m thankful that you found your gift and that you use it to reach people in the way that is NEEDED. Your tone and deliverance is amazing! You speak to us women without tearing us down and you break things down very well coming from a man’s perspective and most of all I Love how you include God! Kudos you you! Keep up the good work ❤️💪🏽
#8 - every addict thinks their addiction is no big deal.
Love this video. This is how you tell women what men want to say. No negative talking
Thank you very much I'm happy to hear that 🙌
Sis, a wink, smile, and a compliment goes a long way! Him hanging with his friend equate to “me time” for me. Please and thank you sir.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️
I believe we should build our men up. They should feel appreciated and loved also.
You're absolutely right!
Build them up if they are building you up as well. Black women don't need to be out here building men up like they are Build-A-Bear workshops.
We already do, they NEED TO DO THAT FOR US!! THEY DON'T!!
yes I look forward to my future husband I can honor and respect free flowin😍😘
no more struggle lust/love...
Thank you for your insights on various relationships...I totally agree with you. I have shared some of your videos with my granddaughter and my 50+ year old niece. My husband and I have been married for over I guess 40+ years. The strangest thing tho...we were born July 1, 1951...graduated from the same high school...although we graduated the same year, we barely knew each other during high school. It was a year or so later but anyway...it takes work in a relationship to finally get to the finish line...btw...I am a natural girl as much as possible even at age 70+. You are doing a Great job...keep up the great work. We need this and I will continue to share your information. Thank you...
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your support!
Wanting marriage and being willing to work at a successful marriage are two different things. Most people want a pretty picture, but don’t do what it takes to build a happy marriage. I’d rather be happy alone than to be married and miserable.
I would love a video on " signs he's giving the bare minimum " thank you for your content , you're really making a difference ❤❤
Great suggestion, I will add it to my list to get it done!
Don't you already know the answer? If you have to ask, then he IS!
This is very much needed!
I’ve always been the one looking in at other relationships like you’ve explained! I’m different! I’m compassionate! I care and ask questions! I listen to understand! Love is always the best answer! I thank GOD I’m different!💯🙌🏽❤️
I grew up seeing my parents miserableness in their marriage! Neither were ready! They needed to heal first!
I'm happy this has been helpful to you and I pray that you heal all you have been through 🙏
@@MeetStephanSpeaks, Thank you!❤
Ok for the clarity Stephan🙌🏾💪🏾 ....I was telling my friend that men can’t read our minds and sometimes we do have make sure we speak more clear and it’s ok to make sure he understands and vise versa because we’re all humans and sometimes we need clarity 🤷🏾♀️
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I'm so glad my coworker sent me this because this clarified A LOT! I was confused about a couple of things but this was like a breath of fresh air,thanks for this 👍🏾
A women's perception of a man and their behaviors on how they move becomes the reality of a desired outcome because that's what you're reaching for. Very much like what you said, a self-fulfilling prophecy. There are plenty of good men out there that they want to be cared for too. These are seeds that need to watered. We are all going to be scholars after watching your videos. Blessings up.
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New subscriber here. Please give women more of those simple feminine tips. I took your advice about wearing a flower in my hair and found it’s like kryptonite to men . Thank you!!
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Feminine tips?? There are women who are out here with whole channels about femininity. That would be like a man asking me for masculine tips. Get for real! Tf.
C'mon ladies.. let's not be mean. She truly might not know. What comes easy to most can still be hard for another... I don't know her personally, but from my childhood my mother was not loving and adorning. She was mean hateful and flat out just ugly inside and out. I had to rely on my grandma, stepmom, aunts, n friends to find out what my role as a woman should be. I'm not hating on anyone or trying to be rude I'm simply presenting a different perspective. I hope you understand.
I do agree...men are simple. I say this with love. It's a part of what makes them wonderful
You're absolutely right! Thank you for sharing.
I totally agree we women are difficult most of the time
You are the truth ! Never watched any man that knows relationships better than u ! :) seriously. I watch u Daily and u are so genuine and real :) Ty so much ;) your wife is so Lucky honestly
I could listen to u For Days ! U are helping soooo many women understand men
Yes...TRUST is a Must on both parties
💯 Yes!
I believe the study bkuz I know so many women that are celibate & have given up on relationships. So I do believe there are more men that want to get married. I've met many men that are older than me 10+ years who thought they wanted the bachelor life & now they are 40+ looking for a wife. & all the women are having a hot girl summer 🤣🤣! its sad but at the same time they kind of did it to themselves.
True men start to get desperate 35+
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️
I learned giving praise/compliments fr my boss and now I do the same. There’s such fulfillment in encouraging others which creates more connection, man or woman.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️
You really have a calming nature in the way you speak and your style of explaining the way men think, makes your videos always something to look forward to watching.
Glad to hear that, thank you for your response!
Well said Stephan. By bringing perspectives from both sides makes the advice easier to digest and understand.
Stephen, you are truly a GEM in this generation. I am learning a lot about the “wants” and “needs” of a man and things I can improve on as a woman to fulfill him. But if I may, I would like to share some insight as far as the topic of porn goes. I know everyone isn’t Christian and for those that aren’t maybe I am not speaking directly to you , however , the following still applies. Though many men believe it stays at a strictly “entertainment” level, or for arousal purposes, porn is spiritual and opens you up to the demonic. There is no such thing as a harmless amount, any amount of porn will open you up to demonic portals that in some shape or form will come and haunt you in your personal life. Not to mention the incubus and succubus spirits that come along with it. I was delivered by God from porn and masturbation addiction after being accidentally introduced to it as a child. The fact that women watch porn as well is more taboo I guess but it happens within our community tho it’s more popular to talk about with the men. You are most definitely a good communicator and have so much insight that can help both men and women navigate relationships properly. I am always open to learning and understanding what a man needs are and you cover so many different topics that many times is eye-opening. I just wanted to add a little pointer to those trying to practice Christianity and want to make those aware of how the demonic works against us. Keep doing what you do brother , blessings !
I will. Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️
My guy LOVVVESSS when I tell him how strong he is when he gives me big hugs and I really do. 🥰
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I do have a question. Most times, men would say I’m not looking for anything serious or I’m not trying to get in a relationship right now.
1- When is it appropriate to ask if they are just not looking for those things with you specifically ?
2-During the talking/getting to know you stages, how quickly does a man realize she’s not the one, yet decides to make her a placeholder?
I ask because you made the analogy of a man would say one thing to the lady they’re dating but they break up and he’s married or engaged in under a year.
i think they know very fast (like in a week or even faster) whether or not the women they’re talking to is a women they want for a longterm relationship.
but some may be not looking for that as in.. they want just the physical sensual things in a woman and are maybe scared or dont believe in real love. and thats okay, if a man says that he’s not looking for that than it must be a hint for you to just forget him, look the other way and accept that he is not meant for you.
@@Noom13 thanks for the insight.
@@elsf with pleasure
He made a video about why he said he's not ready for a relationship 6
@@jhica5718 thank you. I saw the video about a week ago. Thanks 🙏🏾
Thank you for walking in your calling and being a Blessing to us.
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I enjoy the way you unpack each point in a casual flow, it’s therapeutic to listen to.
I only associated “stroking an ego” with basically using compliments in a transactional manner. Wtf is wrong with ppl, don’t we compliment anyone else based on what truly fascinates us?
Excellent!!!! Thank you, Stephan ❤️. This video is loaded with insightful and practical information that is bound to enhance relationships, bring clarity, understanding, and create deep and meaningful interaction among couples. 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
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I really appreciate this video along with the advice coming from a man's perspective. Unfortunately, I and alot of women have taken some unhealthy advice about men and their relationships from other women. The key in every relationship is to.communicate often and honestly. Work is required in order to maintain a relationship, including respect, honesty, trust, commitment, and communication.
Communication is definitely key. Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback ❤ 🙏
You sir, helped me to get the man of my dreams. I still cannot believe it, THANK YOU.
Same I would get Compliments from so many men except the 1 I wanted a compliment from. Made me feel like my eyes should look elsewhere...
Sorry to hear that, I hope he reaches the point of truly doing what is best 🙏
Being a woman I can say it’s hard to “ tell” a man what to do, because you lose the attraction to the thing your requesting .. tip. Write it to him, ( he’ll probably enjoy reading your dirty thoughts) it takes away that embarrassment and the feeling of telling him what to do.. and the woman still feels like it’s fresh and not a request.
Some woman feel like the magic is gone when you have to tell your man what you want ..
Stephan pls reply to this
Be careful when you say out loud fantasies. It gets super messy and it’s a slippery slope to teasing the man into moves that extend and extend until they need more than you and his love to make the magic. Not a good move.
@@jesusthewaytruthandlight7558 here’s the thing, when you are in love and you have desires, if the man or woman is not accepting of that, then you obviously are not ready to accept someone as being human, or your just not into it. Whatever the case if your living in denial of your wants because your afraid of what another would think or say, then I would suggest getting to know that person better or moving on to someone that your comfortable with sharing and exploring each other.. often women have this fantasy but it’s just that an idea, and having the thought alone normally works.. exploring the idea can be exciting in it’s self..
@@jesusthewaytruthandlight7558 just to add, if a man is wanting to go explore further than I would question one if that could actually attain that and if he is going to be satisfied in other areas of his life.. relationships are more than just sex and sexual desires.. and if your meeting each other’s other needs and are able to express your desires, then Chances are that gout isn’t going anywhere if your fulfilling the desires, and meeting the needs.. and then again you must be actually comfortable doing or exploring said desires.. if not move on..
I believe the stats are true because there are also countless studies that show that marriage is more beneficial to men than women, and in general married men are healthier than single men. Also, Married women often perform more duties in the home then of course single women do.. So ultimately in an age when women make make equal or more money than many men marriage is more beneficial for men...Especially after a certain age. So yes I do believe the stats.
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Omg. As soon as you said “we arent good with hints” i was laughing so hard I had to pause the video. U might as well have said the sky is blue 😂. You speak TRUTH
Concerning the point about complimenting men, a lot of us women refrain from complimenting men because we don't want them to think there's more to it than a simple compliment. Like, they hear the compliment and they think we're flirting with them or hitting on them. Sometimes a compliment is just a compliment. And as a woman, I don't typically give men compliments because I never want to inadvertently lead a man on and have him think I like him when I'm not interested in him that way. And if I can tell a man likes me when I am not interested in him, I will absolutely NOT compliment him because I don't want to even give one iota of hope that anything will happen when I know it won't.
On the rare occasion that I do compliment a man, I am very careful about how and when I do it. For one thing, I watch him to be sure he isn't interested in me. When I can see that he isn't interested in me, if I see there's something to compliment him on, I try to word it as platonically as possible. Now, there are some qualities of a man that cannot be platonically complimented no matter how it's worded, so I don't. Like if he has pretty eyes, etc. Compliments of his body of any kind, no matter how platonically stated, may give the impression that I'm romantically interested in him when I'm not. And I will not give him any leeway to think that way if I'm not interested.
However, if it's a guy I like and am romantically interested, and he's not attached to anyone, I won't mind being a little forward in my compliment so he knows I'm checking him out. But, I read his reaction to my compliment to see how he's feeling about it. If I catch that it made him uncomfortable, I back off. Clearly he's not interested if my forward compliment made him uncomfortable. And I'm fine with that.
It really helps when we embrace that. Thank you for sharing ❤
Your English is great,makes it easier for "us" non native speakers to understand you...thank you for that! All the way from Tanzania 🇹🇿
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In a nutshell one should list all pertinent questions down to ask the person they are interested in/dating to have an idea of their mindset before rushing into a commitment or marriage. Although an individual can say one thing and then do the absolute opposite because of indecisiveness or a lack of self control (temptation/lust)
I believe that a relationship doesn't have to be complicated or full of hardships once both parties are guided by the bible and they have proper ethics, morals and values...
If by any chance there are any minor/ little differences it should just be handled with special care, transparency, authenticity in love (words, thoughts and deeds)
Indeed, it really helps when couples embrace that.
@@MeetStephanSpeaks Maybe you should have a dating service since you are qualified /have the expertise.
If an individual is ready for a relationship and they go on the website and include their information. You can vet them and possible pair people off..
But some people are good pretenders.
@@jennifermagee7750 Indeed...
U always send me videos I’m going thru at the right time! Keep letting God use u! I love u
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Yessss i feel the exact same way. God moves in His will and when we step into His light, His will, all will ALWAYS be well.
God bless you dear.
I ticked every box in my last relationship. It ended with him ending things with me telling me I'm "his soulmate", "the love of his life", he will never "love anyone else like he loves me", I am "the most incredible woman", and that he is not "worthy of me", and that's apparently why we can't be together. 😒
Hmmmm.....
Omg that would piss me off so bad hahaha. Even if he genuinely felt like he "didn't deserve me" I would think he's just trying to make up some lie to break up with me that would hopefully *not* make me mad at him haha
I remember when my ex from several years ago told me that. Months later he proposed to another woman. 😏
Girl, trust him when he tells you that. We go Thru the wanting what you can’t have and the chase is on.
My husband told me he was a flirt.
I never saw him flirt or even really give a second look to another woman. I was always the focus of his attention.
Until after we got married.
It’s a sore spot with me.
Believe them! Go on to find someone who would have the ability to commit. On YOUR level. And you on theirs.
Thats some BS right there
I love when he's with his friends cause it gives him a reason to miss me more😊
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Negotiating love making with your husband is nuts...it should be understood every day night in bed out of bed..etc...best part of marriage!!!!
Most definitely!
I always give my husband compliments or praise him, but he never compliments me.I have to get compliments outside of my home.
🙏 I hope he reaches the point of truly doing what is best.
Awww.... he's always been like that?
Well that's because he's been with you so long. You're new to the other men...which they'll eventually stop doing too after so long. Remember to keep it at compliments your husband is the one who takes cares of you, they won't.
“Him wanting commitment too….” as Stephan said it, I was shaking my head no. Stephan, “I know y’all are shaking your head…”. LMBO. You are right!
Makeup: The best compliment I ever received was “You look beautiful.” This was first thing in the morning. No makeup and no mouthwash. 🤷🏽♀️ IJS.
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Maybe the key is to think like a man, but keep your feminine qualities. It is a fine line to walk.. At the end of the day women think differently then men.
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Stephan, I feel my fingers typing the following for innumerable women and myself. We must be invisible to men for unfathomable reasons. There are many of us who are waiting to be seen and responded to by the men you've described.
Thank you for sharing reason eight and your incredible insights. The early adoption of the habit makes perfect sense to me. Congratulations on delivering a clear and thorough explanation. I accept it entirely. Thank you.
I totally agree with that cdc survey but where are the tons of men who want relationships tho, where?
That is how I dated my partner I made the first move towards him, And told him how manly masculine he is…. And how he walks with a swagger I told him the truth from what I saw in him😍 So you’re actually right sometimes you have to make a move to something you see and desire, We’ve been together nearly a year now…. He told me that it was a great turn on for him because I’ve been first woman to ever say that, in his life so I felt so proud of myself thank you for your confirmation my dear…☺️👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾🙌🏾😍
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It’s the truth…. If a lot of women apply this wisdom….
@@MeetStephanSpeaks Yes definitely, that’s my purpose of putting it there… Confirm what you are saying it’s real
I have watch different videos on relationship and you do make more sense than the others that are putting videos out so thank you for being honest
I agree men do want a commitment. They want love and a partner to. A man can tell a woman he's not ready for a relationship with you but a few months later end up in a relationship with someone else and even have a family or marriage down the line with that person. I'm a female this has happened to me and I have witness this happen to other women. It doesn't necessarily mean anything is wrong with you. It just means you and the guy were not a good fit together. So don't get discouraged just continue to date knowing you can find a man who wants the same things as you. But please date realistically lol
He couldn't see a life with you.
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Lol it was the “Dude do you see her lipstick!?? Oooh mann!” for me 😭😭😭💀
Thank you so much for this ! It’s very helpful & also nice to know coming from a man himself.
I gave a compliment and he got stand offish....he felt like I was being funny...I was genuine I don't use compliments as sarcasm....he definitely stumped me. I never played with him like that
Am here to listen Mr Stephen so I can understand my fiancé better
Glad I could help 🙏
So many "wows" and "mhmm's" 😂 it ALL makes sense. Thank you for your teachings, Stephan!
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21:36-22:36 is everything some of us women need to hear! Go where the energy is matched!
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I really appreciate how you explain things. This is supreme knowledge. You're so good at communicating what can be confusing to some. Thank you for the guidance.
I appreciate that ❤ 🙏
Me saying yes to everything since finding the good one who God just sort of brought to me. Men really need the things we want as well and just as much as I like how he makes me happy, I like to reciprocate
Hello I'm so excited my relationship was fixed
back again my ex is back to me we live happily
together now, I got help from #dralieaotor
Steven I love watching your videos and your insights on men psychology. You pinpoint things about men exactly what I need to learn and be aware of them . Gives a a great perspective on how I would deal with them when I am dating. .., I love love your knowledge and perspective and the spiritual aspect you combine with… You’re one of my favorite dating coaches.
Stephan, you are super informative and super hilarious! You cracked me up so much in this video lol. Thank you for all the inside info about men, I appreciate you.
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Yes give your men compliments! I had this conversation with my brother on how I give my bf compliments and he doesn’t take them well and my brother said woman don’t give men compliments if they do it’s very rare. I was in shock, I’ve been out of the dating scene for a while till I meet my bf so I had no idea women didn’t do this.
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You said she would walk by and drop her handkerchief tell me why I started doing the bend and snap from legally blonde right away. Lol.
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Stephan, you are a fabulous communicator. Thank you for all of your videos and topics. We need this so much! 🤜🤛 💕💓💞
I’m making the first move, let’s go out Mr. Labossiere!? 👀 lol
lol, 🙂 thank you!
@@MeetStephanSpeaks you’re welcome! I’ll be waiting on that date in the meantime! 😏 😘
Good points StephanSpeaks keep it straight to the point❤️Thank-you!!!
I am a new found listener I love how you make it about all of us thank you I honestly learned about myself as well
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Thank you for explaining so well all those things you spoke about. I am amazed by the way you fo it, I cannot find anyone else who do it so well.
Thank you for this video and for all the information.
Stephan you have a sharp mind and I love the way you share your heart with us! Of course for Gods glory!
OMG Stephan I was just about to confront my boyfriend of 5 months about him and his boys. Thank God I watched this video.
Women don’t have time for men who are not emotionally mature. 🙄🙄 we are not their mothers or their therapists.
RIGHT ON! 🙏❤️
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I have a question about the first point, you're saying guys don't catch the hints we're dropping. But, what if the man is actually interested in a woman and really likes her, would he notice any nuances in her behavior towards him then, or would he still be oblivious?
Hi Stephan: Please give us some insight as to why some men change up and play for both teams and under what circumstances a previously stable male-female relationship can survive this discovery.
Great suggestion, I will add it to my list to get it done!
I believe what U said about the number 4! I unfortunatly see around me more women (who wanted to commit) alone than men (prefer staying alone)...So would like to meet the guy who really would like to commit and donhis work the same as I do...I'm there and ready, eyes open...👀👀👀
I pray that you receive the man who is truly best for you, the man God has for you🙏
Stephen one day I'll meet you and thank you. One day that's a dream I need to fulfil. I've got free therapy listening to you. I've become a better listener and actualizing your advise has made my life so easy. Oh boy how do I thank you...
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I am learning so much from you about relationships
Hi Stephan, great topic! On the hanging out with friends thing. What if he purposefully makes the time every week for his friends, but does not purposefully plan time to spend time with his woman alleviating to the excuse that "she doesn't have time" but doesn't inquire on what time she could make to spend time with him and instead just pops up on same day texts?
Love praising my man 😍😍😍 he ain’t mine yet but yeah I love tht 😂
Glad to hear that, thank you for your response!
Good & informative information. Appreciate you sharing with us.
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I love the videos because most men are non verbal and I’m no mind reader I’ve tried and fail so this gives us women a lil better insight and by going by your videos I’m told I’m a lil BOSS I am in tune with them….lol I don’t let them know your my secret 😘
Glad I could help 🙏
Hello Stephan! Greetings from the Philippines! 🇵🇭 I would just like to ask if you could make a relationship advice video on how to deal with a partner who just doesn't know how to start or manage to have long deep conversation.. I'm an old soul and a lover of deep conversations, however, my partner, he's just different (but not in a negative way).. and it's probably cus he's just not as emotional as I am.. he's more of a logical person and tends to prefer a smooth casual conversation. i observed him get deep into conversations especially when we are fixing our little arguments, so i knew that he can be in those situations. I already brought that up and I saw how he's trying to get himself be better in communication, me too as I try to match his types of conversation. I know he loves me and i want to deepen our connection further and I understand that having deep connection through conversations is one great way to spark that. We're just a new couple (more than a year), are we just in the early stages yet? what can we do better so we can meet halfway?
Great suggestion, I will add it to my list to get it done!
Thank you for all of your great videos. I have learn so much from you.
I'm happy this has been helpful to you and I pray that you heal all you have been through 🙏
A wise man (King Solomon) said "Above all else, guard your heart, for out of it is the wellspring of life"...
Question: Should people who are dating be partially closed off whilst still connecting?
Yes. They should vet the other person out before they get burned.
Yeah I feel like certain part of our lives and heart should be experienced by people who deserve it.
Your videos are always so on point and helpful! I love this! I’m grateful for you and what you do!
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Compliment your man. Show them you appreciate them as much as you want to be appreciated. Turn about is fair play. The golden rule, and all that.
I just discovered this guy through watching Lisa, you now have a new subscriber here! :)
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I love this video! It's so on point it's hilarious 🤣
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