If you're a Single Muslimah, you need to hear this
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- Опубліковано 15 вер 2024
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I hope this video brings you some comfort - trust me sis, I know how it feels and I'm not here to tell you to just marry a random guy because you must do so nor that you should just sit and wait.
Open your heart to the opportunities while still listening to it. Let people around you know what you're looking for in your future spouse without feeling guilty about having certain criteria but remain balanced all the way.
But most importantly, do not let society, culture or your own biases make you feel like you're unworthy of love and that your value resides in whether or not you get married. Allah loves you in ways you can't even imagine and the moment you make Him the center of your life, everything changes.
May Allah grant you a man better than the one you're dreaming of 🤍 Don't lose hope, He knows what you don't know and He listens. Trust Him!
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May Allah swt grant pious, Muttaqi, loving, caring graceful husbands to all of you and to my daughters as well who are unmarried or still young ameen Ya Rabb
Aameennnn....May Allah Accept Your Dua For Me as well....Aameennnnnn
Aameen
Ameen.
Ameen
Aameen
32. single and never been in any relationship. waiting for the best plan from Allah.
may Allah ease everything for all of us
@@ajidigital3191 keeping away from relationship?
I'm not an attractive girl and I'm not that confident to get into a relationship. 🤭
entering 30 series, i just pray that i can spend more time with my mother. pray that i can perform umrah with her. Inshaa Allah
@@ajidigital3191 i am Asian
@@ajidigital3191 i am an asian
Same here Ameen y’a rab
Assalamu alaikum. The decreasing of fertility rate really scares me. What if I face pregnancy complications( which is getting common Now-a- days) after my 30's.
As a married female who git married at 37, i would say that both of single life and marriage life has their own challenges. Both can be unbearable. Only to Allah we can rely on. One thing for sure: whether being single or married, all you need to do is to hold on to your principles in islam and don't ever let toxic people hurt you. Everything will be alright in the end, so long as our vision remains toward akhira
سبحان اللہ، اللہ اکبر، اللہ اکبر ، اللہ اکبر ،
Subhan ALLAH, ALLAH hu Akbar.
سبحان اللہ، اللہ اکبر، اللہ اکبر ، اللہ اکبر ،
Subhan ALLAH, ALLAH hu Akbar.
سبحان اللہ، اللہ اکبر، اللہ اکبر ، اللہ اکبر ،
Subhan ALLAH, ALLAH hu Akbar.
سبحان اللہ، اللہ اکبر، اللہ اکبر ، اللہ اکبر ،
Subhan ALLAH, ALLAH hu Akbar.
سبحان اللہ، اللہ اکبر، اللہ اکبر ، اللہ اکبر ،
Subhan ALLAH, ALLAH hu Akbar.
Single & turning 30 in 2 days. ALLHAMDULILLAH for everything.
I'm single and 39yr old Muslim male... Best thing ever, after 14yrs of trying and being rejected I've had enough 😊
Al-Hamdu-liLLĀH
What were you doing in your early twenties?
@@Freedom_for_Palestina was concentrating on my studies
@@tajwalikhan9995 if you and op belong to the same country you guys could complete each other's deen..
Sorry if I offended either of you but the world is becoming so filthy that good things like doing marriage is extremely difficult and sins like @dultery etc are easier..
Hope you guys get someone before the year ends ❤
I'm a 28 year old guy. Often I feel like my life isn't going as planned but I keep reminding myself that Allah is the best planner. Keep praying and insha'Allah we will get what is meant for us.
Old men in there 50+ are marrying child brides from there villages
You still young pray night prays read the forgiveness duaa and ask ur friends if they have anyone
Action and pray
@@piqueny8872 Your comment is litterally disgusting why are u comparing his situation to pedophilic men ?
@@piqueny8872 child brides r haram buddy
@@kaylin8847 in certain countries they still allow this awful practice
Some elders still believe if A girl has started her period she’s ready for marriage
Even if she only 12 yrs old is the Reason why old men still get easy 2nd 3,4th wives
@@piqueny8872 so why tf are you saying it like it's good
Trust me. Sometimes loneliness doesn't go away even if you are married or have lots of friends.
Toxic are u?
@HK00088 Some people get tested with chemical imbalance. Thank Allah you are not one of them.
@@summera4019 I am one of them , u have no idea what I’m going through mentally
@@HK00088 We’re both the same species. I’m sure we have some similarities in how our chemically imbalanced brains operate. I mean even the simple assumption that I have no idea is something I’d exclaim to others myself. Have a great day sir/ma’am/they
@@summera4019 im straight i don’t have pronouns 👍🏽
I also wanna say, even if that never happens ( marriage) still be grateful, because you have absolutely no idea what evil Allah azza WA Jall has removed from your path, just know that there's wisdom in whatever Allah has chosen for you, with all that said keep on making du'a to him to give you someone deserving of you, and give you steadfastness in sticking to his Deen until we all meet him, if you don't get married here, you will definitely get married in Firdaous Insha'Allah, Alhamdulillah for our beautiful deen, may Allah the Almighty, give you and all my sweet sisters in Islam, good husbands that are good in their Deen and character , that will be your protectors in this dunya and partners in the Aakhirah, Ameen ya RAbb Al Alameen.
Beautiful comment
Ameen!
أمين يا الله
Allahumma Aameen
Aameen Ya Rabbal Aalameen
"And whoever is mindful of Allah, He will make a way out for them, and provide for them from sources they could never imagine. And whoever puts their trust in Allah, then He ˹alone˺ is sufficient for them. Certainly Allah achieves His Will. Allah has already set a destiny for everything." (Surah at-Talaq 2-3)
Wow, these are great aya's
This made me cry, I don't know why. Thank you for this beautiful reminder ❤
MashaAllah,so beautiful ayah
Two steps to get married faster:
1) SOCIALIZE in real life with other women not the internet. They have brothers and sons. Ex. Attending couses , Volunteering in teaching, go to mosque, increase relatives connection, be good to neighbors.
2) HELP people.
That's my exact problem, I know absolutely no families other than my own extended one! I don't go out much, but at the same time I'm in a really small town where everyone knows everyone but not much Muslim families!
I think my solution is to move elsewhere lol
I’m doing all of this since I was at university and still not married! Actually I become “ single pro max” sadly 😂 please pray for me and keep me in ur duaa
You can be an influencer and have community, yet still single in 30s.
@@sanamuhammad97 Preach to Allah. If you think men should do this, then encourage men around you to preach. You will need three things, knowledge, manners and money.
@@sachii452 may you have "close friends control problem"
Im not muslim but i was around and friends with them, islam is so beautiful and even made me rethink my choices as i was searching for love in the wrong places.. I used to show off alot of skin because a previous partner told me i was a prude and not sexy... I felt ashamed and ugly but hearing so many Muslim women take their beauty in a modest form inspired me ❤❤❤❤
never do anything you are not comfortable with. take care:)
this is truly heartwarming, i hope you find answers to all of your questions and that Allah guides your heart to islam 🫶🏻
I am glad to hear Islam had a good impact on you. Dont put yourself through anything that doesn't make you feel good. the true beauty of a person is within them. take care and I hope you find happiness.
Good luck🍀
❤❤❤ God bless u
I got married at 35 I lost so many days thoughts and hours down about not being married yet.Please don’t sisters.There is what you can’t help and there is what you can.Yes feeling lonely at times is normal.Pour any extra emotions,those we subject our selves to into learning something new, pouring into that which you do have, and don’t think life will start the day you get married, no life already started my beloved sister and whilst we have to prepare for every new chapter but not neglect the one we are in,one which you will miss and wish you maximised .And lastly dua dua dua.Allah hears and Allah answers! And he safeguards from you much if only you knew SubhaanaAllah and will bless you with more!So so not regret,and do not fret and most of all do NOT despair because that’s what shaytan wants because after that come loss of hope and with that Eman is truly at risk.Make dua and whilst your one is coming and most likely he is , then make the most of these predacious days.Also sisters stress and worry ages you lol so another reason to not be sad or despondent.May Allah grant you all the coolness of your eyes ameen thumma ameen!
Thank you so much for leaving this comment. Although I told myself the same things so many times, I really needed to hear this from someone else; someone who has the experience. May Allah bless you.
Im so glad and that's exactly what i wanted to be able to do, to just remind those who need it like i did @@codeventure832
I lost my mum 7 months ago. I feel anxiety, sometimes depressed and just want to settle . I want to run away from my loneliness. But after seeing so many people are suffering the same. Ya Allah all of your creations are in need of love and care. Please send hope
@@sheebaahmad4830 I’m sorry sister I know this feeling slightly as my mother is old and unwell and this made things very hard as I felt that there was little hope so please know I know the feeling of anxiety over the future and grief of the present with added sadness of time escaping you.Please know that walahi Allah knows you’re feelings and you can give it to him to heal and to give you that which is better everything is by His time and wisdom.I see so much hikmah in all the trials I had in my late twenties early thirties but now I also see the things Allah sent to give me relief one of which can be marriage as especially when you need it most.What I wanted in a spouse before is so much different after experiencing loss and understanding how short life it and that time with my mother is running out.And perhaps Allah waited for that time to help me choose better.Choose someone I would not choose before but is what I needed especially in terms of confort.Ask Allah the person you want and how you want them to behave and make you feel love I.e someone you feel safe with that brings you comfort etc it’s ok to ask for A lot but be willing to give chances as long nothing major is there to cause concern( lead with sincerity and hope in Allah) I am still navigating but walahi I wish I could tell every younger or even older sister to not be sad because I truly felt sadness and depression and loneliness and fear and panic so many days and nights and morning that I see how much it took the lightness out of my life for a good few years and how much it made me forget Who my Lord was and I wish I spent all that energy on doing good,seeking good and giving.All these things can give you what you seek even more and perhaps faster.Because I saw benefit from the little I did do subhaanaAllah it makes me wonder what kind of blessings I would of had if I had been patient and steadfast and more resilient the times I wasn’t but Allah knows we are human and we are weak so I pray he forgive me.
Beautiful words JazakAllah ❤❤
Christian here. May the Lord/Allah bless you all ❤
Thank you. I pray Allah (God) blesses you and guides you to the straight path 😊
May he bless you as well 🙏❤
❤❤❤❤ you too
Thank you. May God bless you too ❤
Peace be upon u, may Allah guide to to truth
I am a 32 years old Turkish woman living in France and single since forever. At 1st when I was younger my family had always fear me about men, that I have to be far from them and never approach men cause it is haram, I was student at this time. But now they force me to marry and meet someone in order to marry.. the problem is that they put me those barriers before and now they are pushing me to marry...By the way now all the men in my surroundings are married and I dont know any single muslim man. No one is helping me to marry a good muslim man even my family doesnt help to meet someone🤦♀
@Eli_Muwahhid amin🤲🏻
@@si.3107 make an effort yourself like going to Muslim marriage event's
@@DontOpenThisChannel unfortunately I live in a very small city and those kind of events are organized in big cities. My family doesnt accept that I am going outside or stay outside...
Even if your parents are not happy about that move to a big city. Find a new job, attend mosque, make friends and while changing your life in this way, InshaAllah you will meet a righteous man. May the Almighty accept your prayings and send you the best husband!
@@drmurphy4043👍
What is meant for you will reach you even if it's between two mountain 🏔️ and what's not meant for you won't reach you even if it's between your two lips, Subhan Allah. Allah is the best of planners and He alone decides when the timing is right. Sabr and all the hearts desires shall be met, In Sha Allah. 😊
In Sha Allah
43 still single, you plan and Allah plans, and He is the best of planners. Enjoy it and embrace it ladies ❤
It's over for you
No high value man would marry a 40 year old
May Allah give you the best partner Ameen
God bless u with happy married life
Sis i totally understand and feel it 😢
Unfortunately I’ve spent a good part of my 20s ‘waiting’ but if anything this is the time to really thrive . Allah is giving us an opportunity to channel this sadness/loneliness into achieving something great.
Sis may Allah bless you and give you the most amazing husband and life xx
i loved the part where you said that Allah wants us to do something big to avail the opportunity
Ameen and for you too❤
Aameen
Alhamdulillah! When I think about marrige, then I remember Maryam (a.s.) she wasn't married, but she's beloved one by Allah. She was an obedient servant of Allah.
Salam aleykum my dear sisters,
I have converted to Islam in my mid twenties and have only married when i was 30.
I had so much to catch up with learning the religion, arabic and all this in an islamophobic enviroment.
But the memories with my dear sisters in faith are priceless and i offen think of this beautyfull and special time we had togehter.
And the many dua i made , i tried to not miss a situation where the dua is espacially accepted, until my husband found me and we got married very quickly and without any glory and glamour like the traditional marriages.
We didn't expect any worldly things from each other, but Allah gave us allways enough alhamdulillah.
Today my four children are grown up and we love each other very much and i can never thank Allah to much for tge blessings He gave us.
There were hard times , we made hijra and this was really a great test to pass, but i 'm glad to have made it.
What counts is to fullfill the mission we have here on earth, andleave the rest to Allah subhanaHu.
Look ladies there are single men like me at 31 years who prefer ladies that are matured (30 years and above) so be patient please 💕
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Action prays then patience sitting at home won’t get you anywhere
Go to your local masjid ask the imam ask friends
There are vile old men marrying childbrides cuz they got up and did something
Not saying do the. Same but get up and search
@@piqueny8872While I agree with your overall message that is a wild example to name lmao
@@drawingarts3925 makes me sick when I hear dirty old men getting married so easily in that manner and not first marriage but always the 2,3,4th childbride wives they get
And everyone applauds them cuz “wink wink in old age again
And here are god fearing Muslims who can find anyone
I am 31 single too.
I'm 35, separated (she took khula in 5 months cuz we were just incompatible, I didn't force her btw) and I got too picky after that experience. 4 and half years later now, I've found someone I really like but I have yet to see if she will agree to me. Keep me in your prayers. I will pray for you all as well brothers/sisters. May Allah give us all the spouses that we desire, put khair for us in them and make them the coolness of our eyes. Ameen
Ameen, May Allah make it easy for you and may you find comfort in whomever becomes your spouse. Amin
Ameen for you as well@@minarhassan
What's the advice you got'out from. Your last relationship
That girl name is Marwa right ?
no@@sarahkhan3455
I'm in your exact position. I turn 30 on the 21st and that's not how I thought my life would've turn out. But Alhumdullillah Allah has given me perspective I wouldn't have ever believed I'd gain if you told me about it a year ago. This year has been so life changing for me Alhumdullillah. This year held some of my lowest points, only Allah knows exactly how low I've been, but Alhumdullillah, I've never felt so much at peace in my whole life, and its so strange that that happened the same year my life felt like it was in utter turmoil. SubhanAllah, Allah is the best of planners, and I have faith that in due time, me, and all the others patiently waiting will be blessed with the kind of love they never thought existed. InshaAllah soon, we'll all be on the other side of this, and we'll all have the kind of person we've been praying for. May Allah bless you all with righteous spouses who keep you happy and bring you even closer to Him. We're going to be ok my friends, insha'Allah ❤
Al-Hamdu-liLLĀH
In Sha Allah 😢🤲🤲🤲
Insha Allah sister, ❤ I love you for the sake of Allah!
Beautiful for this video to find me at 42 yrs old and single …. Allah indeed has designed this life at the pace that is suitable for growth of my soul 🌷✨🦋✨🌷
33,unmarried and lonely. Sometimes It's really difficult. May Allah ease for me and others too.
Ameen.. Don't worry my sister. Allah SWT has the power to turn the most hopeless situations in life into the most meaningful and beautiful blessings.
I know, waiting for a long time can be hard and seeing fitan all around us is difficult. But your intention to keep it halal and waiting for Allah's will itself is a big sign of how Allah SWT is preparing you for something great and better than your expectations.. These are only mere tests. Once the blessings come in, you'll forget what you had to go through.. Because what you would get, will be beyond beautiful insha Allah.. I'm praying for you.. May Allah bless you and make it easy for you, Ameen.
Love you for the sake of Allah! ❤
I just took my shadhada, and today is my birthday…33…single, never married. I’ve thought a lot and made Du’a about this subject Inshallah, this message hit home and “randomly” popped up on my recommended 😆
Believe me Allah doesn't let anything happen randomly, it's all his plan. Just look at how many people commented that this video popped up exactly when they needed it 😊
InshaAllah sister 💚
Masyaa Allah, I'm happy for you! Btw good luck on your first Ramadan! ❤
may allah make it easy
This is beautiful, MashAllah. Love the visuals and your calming words. I’m 18 but this world is already becoming a draining place, no matter how positive I try to remain. I can’t imagine dealing with the pressure to get married in late 20’s. InshAllah, Allah has the best plans in store for you
@Eli_Muwahhidأمين يا الله
I feel the same idk if I can have the patience to support this duniya and fight against all those fitans but Allah swt will never burden a soul more than what she can support this what is keeping me going it's in the last verse of Surat Al baqara
Soon I'll be turning 19 but when I read and learn about what Islam says about marriage it's something that is beautiful and ofcourse the Hikmah of Allah, but it's something I feel that I can't. I would rather accept celibacy and become more and more closer to Allah than marrying. Seeing other teenagers and even some people in their 20s thinking that after marriage my life will change. But no only yours and Allah's relationship can change your life. May Allah grant ease to everyone Aameen
I am also 30 and single but if I never find someone, I am okay with that. Even though it would be nice to have a partner, being single gives me so much more free time and having no family obligations tying me down to one place lets me travel when and where I want and I am glad for that as I have already experienced a very adventurous and thrilling life.
Are you a brother or sister?
@@insaneyasar that don’t matter
@@AnishaNur-xe2iw "... Having no family obligations tying me down to one place let's me travel when and where"
Haram for a woman to travel without a mahram.
Hope it makes sense why I'm asking now☺️
didn't that terms apply on going hajj or umrah? @@insaneyasar
@@IzzahBatrisyiaNur Even logically that wouldn't make sense. That the only place a woman is stopped from going alone, is a place of great benefit, anywhere else filled with fitnah she can..?
The Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “No woman should travel except with a mahram and no man should enter upon her unless she has a mahram with her.” A man said: O Messenger of Allah, I want to go out with such-and-such an army, but my wife wants to go for Hajj. He said: “Go with her.” Narrated by al-Bukhari, 1862
this video in your algorithm aint not a coincidence,,, its Allah plan 😊 so my beautiful women keep living, Allah with yall.
I will write down your words so that when I feel alone I read them and understand something best is waiting for me. Indeed, Allah is the best of all Planners
Why remember this lady's words when you have Allah's words:
And whoever is mindful of Allah, He will make a way out for them, and provide for them from sources they could never imagine. And whoever puts their trust in Allah, then He ˹alone˺ is sufficient for them. Certainly Allah achieves His Will. Allah has already set a destiny for everything." (Surah at-Talaq 2-3)"
I loved LOVED this Assia😭 This is so wholesome in every way mashaAllah💗 I feel like this issue is not being talked about in our Muslim community even though it’s actually quite a big of a problem most muslim women faces. You worded it perfectly! Keep up the amazing work dear sis🌷 May Allah bless & reward you for this!✨
This life is a test and everything belongs to it is test for us. If you are not getting married it's a test of your patience and maybe it's good for you. Most important thing is that what is the relationship with Allah 💓
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"You just have to trust the one who love you the most"❤❤❤
Ok... I don't usually share my age online like this..but I am 35 and yes, like many other Muslim women, I do think about marriage, and having a family. However, since entering my 30s ( and after going through an overwhelming, soul shattering experience in Egypt during covid in 2020/2021), not only did I have to start again from ground zero, but I realised that you have to know yourself very well first, especially before getting into any sort of intimate/romantic long-term relationship, ultimately marriage.
Yes loneliness is horrible, but on the flip side, solitude can allow you to think about who you are, what you like to do, what your interests are, discover a new hobby...and mostly heal and recover from any unprocessed trauma, and unhealthy mindsets from your upbringing.
It's easier said than done, and it does take time, but enjoy the solitude and time alone. And depending on how practising you are deenwise, just start from where you are, take baby steps, and don't worry about what 'other brothers and sisters' will dictate to you. Solitude really allows you to connect with Allah (SWT), and yes, this has meant that I personally don't always engage with the Muslim community where I am in London (I have friends and acquaintances) because I noticed that it may backfire, and negatively impact my iman with Allah (SWT). I'm not saying to isolate yourself, just choose the people around you carefully, even if they are Muslim - we forget that we are all still strangers to one another, and that having healthy boundaries is really important!
I think Allah is testing our patience & our faith on him. May Allah help us all to go through it rightly & beautifully ameen.
May Allah swt grant us the most amazing mu'min & highest valued man as our spouse. Ameen.
Allah did a bargain with muslims.
He said: I take away everything you have. And leave you with the least you need.
At the end you receive everything you desire.
Ill wish for crazy things if Allah allows me. Because this bargain is ruins
Aameen ya Rabbul Alameen
I just turned 27. All of my friends get married and ı sometimes think about that.And feel unlucky. But these days ı dont care.I just want to live a good life. So whatever happens. I will be grateful to Allah.He knows the best❤
Thank you so much for this. I am turning 29 this year and still unmarried although I didn't had a loving environment growing up I still hold hope as to what is meant for me will find me. But truth be told I struggle sometimes seeing people younger than me getting married and other people talking behind my back or pitying me, reducing me to nothing more than a woman whose unmarried. I really needed this to remind myself to look forward when the times get harder.
You should make more videos like these❤❤
@@JewelsRoyaleWell said
@@JewelsRoyaleThats something i want to hear😢😢 JazakaALlah for posting
We are together sisters ❤
At the age of 32, I am at peace with being single because I firmly believe it is Allah’s will for me until now.
كل شيء بقضاء الله وقدره
Each journey is unique, and I am grateful for the tranquility it brings me.
اللهم اكتب لي ما هو خير لي وأسعدني بما تختار لي
"You just need to trust The One who loves you the most"
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29 and don't want to compromise on companionship and love on marriage, InshAllah. May Allah make it easy to be celibate so one doesnt get desperate enough to marry a random guy for the sake of it. May Allah bless us with good spouses, InshaAllah, or make the journey easier.
I’m struggling so much with celibacy, yet I have immense anxiety over men (what if he will want a second wife, what if he will be aggressive, etc.). Like I crave companionship but I’m also scared. I know someone and I don’t know if he’s the one. I prayed istikhara over him today and this video popped up. I should stop worrying I guess. I will continue to pray istikhara
The best way to get over your fears is to communicate openly with the person you are interested in. Waiting around won't get you anything or solve your anxiety. May Allah ease your way amin♥️
@@drawingarts3925 I received an answer to my istikhara and he’s not the one. I will continue to be patient and work on myself to get rid of anxiety and better myself to not feel like I’m a low-quality woman. As for the loneliness I feel, I will have to find something to fill that gap
Salam alaikum sister... it's good that you prayed istikhara but now it's time to do smthn about it. Talk to someone who can facilitate a halal meeting between you and the guy. Don't sit and wait.
Wallahi I was in your situation just this week. I prayed istikhara over someone and I felt good about him but I hesitated to speak with my parents and by the time that I did tell them, the guy had already went to meet another sister.
If he's not aggressive to his blood sisters he won't be with you, if he gives you your financial rights, doesn't help himself to your money, frees you from working you should let him avail himself to halal enjoyment this polygamy . This is better than a monogamous husband who watches porn or does Zina. Would be a good role model for your sons too
@@amybrown4311 wa alaykoum salaam sister thank you so much for your golden advice. What happened is that shortly after my istikhara I found his Instagram account and he was following many random pretty girls which gave me the ick. I also accidentally watched his stories so he blocked me since I’m a stranger (on my Instagram account it’s not clear who I am since I don’t post pictures of myself). Clearly this man isn’t the one. He seemed like a total different person in real life, even my parents were in awe.
I will continue to wait patiently for “the one” but most important of all is that I better myself as a person and get rid of my anxiety over men.
Jazzakillah khairan ❤ barakallahufiiki. I am 38 years old and still single. I keep praying to Allah Subhanahuwata'ala for giving me the best in everything in dunya and akhirah
Allah is AL-MUQTADIR which means the omniscient.
Allah knows about our struggles and he will not give us burdens we can not bear
even if he may not give us what we want in this dunya we will receive something far greater in the life after in jannah by his will
Just turning 30, 30 days ago and still single. Sometimes feels so lonely, but hold on to Allah. The remembrance of Allah is the key to get through the bad thinking and feeling. Know and remember that He is the best planner and it is for sure will become the most beautiful plan.
Allah Allah 3alik … Masha Allah I will be 30 as well at the end of February like you ….you words are soo wise and comforting Baraka Allah fik may Allah reward you in dunya and al akheera 🤲❤️😍
You,Ladies are going to have your Dunya partner.having a right one is better than 10 wrong ones.
Life isn't perfect i was married briefly ...I think 30 was my panic year. Married someone who was narcissistic and abusive. Had a young daughter who is now 20 Masha'Allah. Still single but able alhamdulillah to provide for myself. Hope InshaAllah that I might meet someone but perhaps thats my time done. Even when married I didnt experience being married if that makes sense. I was looking for that loving caring bond but what I got was the opposite. Im proud to say I walked out. A woman shouldn't put up with abuse. As far as I'm concerned I never have been married. Anyway thought Id share
Throw away all expectations.
Only one that counts is the Iman.
Seek for someone that prays 5x daily and goes to jumuah.
Theres your blessed sheikh at home. Just for you
This is raw and authentic. This is not a set of rules and ‘dos & donts’. This is real life experience and real advice. Thank you
My advice is do lots of astaghfaar. Help people. Tahajjud. Give sadaqa. Work towards your goals. Be positive. Exercise even if its in your room. Be polite. Improve yourself. It will happen.
31 and single. I was a shy girl before, study in all-girls school. Try hard to adapt with mix genders in my college life. Has been in several relationship that doesnt last. Particularly because most of them just want to have fun. Now i focus to invest in myself; health, travel, read lots of books. I am not losing hope, but i just want to rest for a while (dont know until when)
I really know a man with the same issue who fears Allah,
I feel you both are perfect for each other
I dont ever wanna be married rather get my harem of pure men in jannah inshallah.
For sisters that do wanna marry may allah make it easy for you
Why is that so, i mean why don't you want to get married???
@@angelrose4717probably because if she marries a man from earth, then she'll have to be married to him in heaven
Original commenter, girl just do both. Marry here for the reward and pray for your harem, dont make life difficult!
@@ZM-et7zt i see
Harem???
@yusrarana9985 in heaven women get male hoors / ghilman . Ghilman are handsome male servants for the believers pleasure . So I'll have multiple of them
Living in the US/ Canada as a Muslim is really, really tough. Drinking/ smoking/ dating sometimes makes you wanna try them, too. Adultery being the biggest problem imo. But again, if we seek refuge to Allah, it becomes a lot easier to deal with it. I'm thankful for not falling into it, and I pray in hope that you guys won't fall for it either. Remember, love is sacred and wonderful. 😊
I am 24 and starts having the concern of still not being married. But all I know is I have to remind myself that it is okay to feel this way, and I just have to focus on personal growth.
i turned 30 last week and i am single and happy. i have a good job that gives me a stable income and i was not in any rush to be married even till last year but only yesterday my mother said something that deeply hurt me. i know what she said was out of concern and love but it still crushed my spirit and took a huge toll on my self-esteem.
She basically said you are already thirty now, no young man will find you attractive anymore, you will only get proposals from divorced men with children and men in their 40s.
It crushed me and i have been crying in my prayers since then thinking im incapable of love or im just "expired" now that I am thirty. its hurtful how society and social constructs crushes you so much.
May Allah forgive my mother, I know she means well.
Don't worry dear... Parents only show concern for their children because they know what society generally thinks and behaves in certain aspects of life... insha'Allah you'll get the best partner... Keep reciting durud and istighfar... And also listen to the marriage ruqiya... It'll help
And in my own family,,, 2 of my brothers got married to girls who were 34 and 35+ years of age...
Have faith in Allah and trust in His timing.. insha'Allah you'll get the best spouse
Just think about what Allah would say. Your mother is human, which would make mistakes but Allah won't make mistakes. Allah will never say that to you. :)
32 single but as a Muslim i am grateful because i think i won't be able to improve my self spirituality like i am doing now if i was married maybe i am a little bit late i mean i starting to know better at this age but late better then never...i trust Allah's wisdom about everything happening in my life and Iam sure that is good for me Alhamdouliallah
I am 27 years old, and I am right now feeling this phase of wondering why I am still alone? Like why is it so hard for me to find somebody that could be my life partner? Been meeting some guy but most of it just left pain for me. I did not blame anything or even Allah, but sometimes it just felt like "Even is it possible for me to experience that, living with my beloved husband and kids, grow together, learn from each other, protect each other, walk together in Allah's way and support each other to achieve the mercy of Allah". I really dream about that kind of family. Despite this kinda a little hopeless emotion I felt, I know that Allah has the best plan for me. Bismillah, I pray to Allah to strengthen my Imaan and my faith in Him, may Allah always guide me and never leave me. I believe, that one day no matter when or where Allah will help me meet my life partner in the best version of each other. Ya Allah, I am so vulnerable without You, please guide me in every second of my life.
I am 25 ! And already commited to a man 5 yrs ago ... We have maintained the distance ! But somehow our marriage had some or the other kind of obstruction all the time , in the journey of these 5 yrs I have trusted Allah for guidance and our ease and prayed for the better decision to happen ! May Allah guide me and bring what is best for me , your video made me cry ! My eyes got welled with tears I dont know why ! ❤
Sometimes our future spouses are waiting for us in paradise, jannah and they may not be here on this earth. Beautiful video mashallah, i already subscribe, liked and shared cuz u deserve it!! All facts!! Please do more of these, thank u & love from ur indigenous 🇵🇸 Muslim sister from the holy native land of 🇵🇸!!!❤️❤️❤️✨✨✨☝️☝️☝️🇵🇸🇵🇸🇵🇸💯💯💯
Same sis I am 32 and never had imagined I’d be single in this age😇 may Allah help us find righteous souls
Being single isn't only about celibacy. No, it's about finding your dignity in who you are as an individual, instead of this heirarchically patriarchal notion of being someone's partner, mother, grandmother. It's about self-actualization without the imposed cultural obligations by religion and society. Sometimes you want to be devoted to your faith without the demands and needs of someone who expects you to fulfill wifely duties.
I don't want to be a wife or a mother. I have chronic fatigue issues, plus living under my grandfather and his misogynistic demands made me wary of men. Even the kindest husbands that I've met still felt a sense of entitlement over their wives, controlling them in ways that might be seen as "benevolent" or in her "benefit". I noticed even in those "nice" marriages, she doesn't have her own autonomy or her own agency. For me, it's not much of a coin-toss, because even the most progressive guys drop their masks after marriage. My best guarantee is staying single and taking care of my widowed mother into old age. I don't have to worry about kids or have a partner guilt me into not traveling to a friend's wedding overseas.
Or like what happened to my one friend, her partner ended up disabled and with her having to care for him like a toddler. I watched my mom take care of my comatose father. She was worn out, completely lost her spirit. I refuse to let that possibility be my future, that was a massive heartbreak and burden that I wouldn't wish on anyone. But more importantly, I'm legally blind and may one day lose my sight completely. So far, my vision is stable, but I wouldn't want to be anyone's burden either. After my mom leaves this earth, I look forward to eventually living by myself with peace and quiet. I have misophonia and can barely stand my mother's noises lol. I feel guilty for saying that haha, but I have sensory issues. Anyhow, the happiest I've ever been was when I lived alone in my lake-view penthouse.
I would love to travel and see things before losing my sight completely, and I just know very few husbands would allow me to travel alone and for long periods. I do not do well traveling with others, I always have regrets on trips bc the things I'd like to see or do aren't always interesting to my travel companions. I had the best time going to Colombia alone where I got to go to all the museums I wanted to see, joined a chocolate-making class, went to a street art gallery, and ate at vegan restaurants which not many of my friends would've been willing to go to. It turns out life is so much simpler when you're not in the crosshairs of other people, especially if you're a doormat like me. After decades of sacrificing for family and friends, what a liberating choice it was to let go of the pursuit of marriage, and unapologetically choose myself for once.
Beautiful video! Always remember that Allah Subhanahu wa ta'ala knows what's best for us, he's the best planer, and believe in your Qadr. Sabr is always rewarded by the AlMighty!
Thank u, i am 46 became a muslim +-4years ago, still single. I love 1 man but we are not together, Allah knows what is best for both him & for myself💖🤲
Unmarried folks out here, here's a bit of hope for y'all. Recite this dua to get a pious spouse in which we all could find peace in. I pray we all find the missing part of ours soon, In Shaa Allah..
رَبَّنَا هَبْ لَنَا مِنْ أَزْوَاجِنَا وَذُرِّيَّاتِنَا قُرَّةَ أَعْيُنٍ وَاجْعَلْنَا لِلْمُتَّقِينَ إِمَامًا
“Our Lord, grant us from among our pious spouse and offsprings comfort to our eyes and make us an example for the righteous.”
(Surah Furqan :74)
Aameen
Alhamdulillah. This video is timely. I wish I could show this video to my parents cuz whatever the sister narrated in this video were things that I've already thought of. But when I attempted to make my parents understand that I cannot make hasty decisions they just don't seem to understand. May Allah guide them and all of us.
You just made my day,I'm 25m who lives in hostel and my surroundings are so spoiled and everyone in a haram relationship just becos of lust and i often heard sounds of girls from their bf rooms becoming intimate I felt so lonely and all but this video gave me courage to wait and not get in haram relationship even though girls hits on me
Are you talking about Muslim girls sister ?
@@King789. Well I'm a guy,and no they r not Muslims
@@boldcompany9001 even though I am an Indian bro I know the condition of Indian girls that's the reason I am asking you
@@King789. What is it like, anyways keep yrslf protected from fitnah may allha guide u
Salem u3laykoum wa rahmat'Allah wa barakatou, quel magnifique rappel ma sœur, je trouve ça important d'en parler dans le monde d'aujourd'hui où tout le monde est en couple. Beaucoup de jeunes cherchent l'amour à tout prix, alors que nous devrions plutôt tomber d'abord amoureux/se de notre si belle religion, beaucoup veulent aller en rendez vous avec le sexe opposé, mais nous devrions plutôt être à l'heure à chaque rendez vous qu'Allāh azawejel nous donne ! Merci vraiment du rappel ! qu'Allāh te protège, préserve et te fasse miséricorde toi, ta famille et ton entourage ! (Je me suis permise de t'écrire en français car j'ai reconnu nos belles rues parisiennes !😊)
Assalamu'alaikum, may Allah SWT gives what is best for us.. and open the paths to us, insya Allah.. and me too single and turning 35 this year..
Needed this today.Allah bought me to this today 😢😢. Was having real bad day n lonely, seeing younger family cousins getting married 😢
I m turning 32 in 3 months, and still single, but i m thankfull to Allah and very hopefull, Alhamdulillah.
This is so refreshing and beautiful in it's own way. Girl, you are so right .. there are so many muslimahs struggling out there over age , beauty, money and much more forgetting their actual motive in this life . Marriage had become a havoc .. in today's world even after so much growth , there is no growth in this scenario. I pray all of us get pious partners and mostly someone to truly call " better half."
We expect everything from one person before we used to live with all our extended family as a unit. Now we expect our spouses to give us that love fill the position of each missing relative in our lives.
I am divorced with two girls. I am not happy
Allah is always full of surprises. :)
Yes ♥️ Despite how others feel and how we ourselves feel, Allah SWT knows best
I loved this! Jazakhallah Assia for helping me grow in my deen. Your content really inspires me, and it's so peaceful as well ❤
This video put together so well everything I feel and constantly tell myself. Never feel that you are asking for Allah (SWT) for the impossible. He Created everything. All He has to say is Kun.
Observing beautiful patience is by only expressing your worries/sorrow to Allah (SWT) and part of Sabr IS perseverance. So whilst we are waiting for our spouses to arrive, what’s important to establish during this time (and preserve after finding one’s spouse), is a strong connection to Allah (SWT), halal income and hobbies and increasing in knowledge across many fields.
May Allah (SWT) grant us those that are seeking spouses that will be the coolness of our eyes and the calmness of our hearts. Ameen.
Needed to hear this..... Alhamdulillah for everything may Allah swt make it easy for ummah and may Allah swt guide us all on straight path ameen❤
"Remember what is meant for you will never miss you. And everything happens at the right time if it is good for you. You just need to Trust the one who loves you the most, Allah! Make lots of dua nd leave the rest to Him.🥺
Ma Sha Allah, what an eye opening video. I was 28 when I got married but suffered from domestic abuse for 10 years. Finally divorced and here I am still husbandless years later because I choose to take care of my daughter and my elderly mother as my priority. Do I feel lonely? Of course. Sometimes when that loneliness attacks, I cry but I quickly realize this is shaytan trying to make me question Allah about His statement that everything is created in pairs, so I quickly get my dzikr going on. Allah knows my pain, Allah knows my loneliness and sadness and I know Allah only wants what's best for me. My rationale always comes back to what's the point of having a new husband if I'll be busy taking care of him because of his demands but my daughter and my elderly mother get neglected? Perhaps this is Allah's way of having me being a good daughter to my parents, a good mother to my daughter. This is perhaps also to make me a stronger individual who don't always share my problems and everything to everyone and only find comfort in the rememberance of Allah and putting my trust that He will help me in everything needed. Alhamdulillah after I read my dzikr, my lonely heart feels at ease,my mind can accept Allah's choice. And I now believe Allah is the Only One I can trust, the Only One who knows me best and the Only One who truly gives me everything I need to become a better person not everything I Want... Thank you,O Allah for everything ❤❤❤
im seeing this at such a perfect time. valentines day is coming up and all my friends are talking about what they’re going to be doing with their boyfriends. one of their boyfriends even asked me for help picking gifts and sent me options but i declined because I didn’t want to talk to a guy even if its for a friend. but it still made me so envious and sad. even though they’re all muslims these girls regularly sleep at their partners places and spend every waking hour with them. i don’t have a boyfriend, never did and they always question me about it by making comments about how the guys in my course are attractive and i’m dumb for not pursuing something with someone. i always reply saying im not interested and i want to do things the halal way, and they just assume im saying that to not appear lonely because these girls genuinely dont understand the concept of not wanting to be in a relationship. its to the point where this girl dated a guy she didn’t even like only because she wanted someone to call her boyfriend, the she broke it off with him to immediately start dating the guy she liked all along. they’ve all convinced themselves they’re going to get married and it’ll all be forgiven. may allah guide them. its hard being surrounded by literally everyone in a relationship and it makes you question if something’s wrong with you or if you’re undesirable even if you know thats not the case. i pray allah for better company but when you’re living in a foreign country you don’t have much choice, you’re just grateful for the few people you have in your corner.
They're committing a sin. Remember there are consequences for bad deeds. Keep steadfast Sister. Allah knows best.
saya dari Indonesia. Menikah di usia 26 tahun. Cerai, menikah lagi di usia 30 tahun. 2 kali menikah di saat yang tidak mapan. Tetapi saya membangun kemapanan bersama istri. Indah sekali. Semoga Anda semua segera diberi jalan untuk menikah. Ameeen
"You just need trust the one who loves you the most."
♡
I was feeling so sad just now and this vedio popped out of nowhere on my timeline. Allah hu akbar❤
This is one the best random 2 minutes of video that I have come across and ended up listening it 5 times on repeat bcos the message that is delivered in through this is so deep adm meaningful that it actually gives you Hope and Peace ❤
❤❤ rightly said
As they say
There is khayr in every delay
Except if you just sit at home and hope for someone to drop down from the sky. That is not delay from Allah, that is laziness from you
May Allah grant each of us the spouse who brings us closer to Allah
One thing for sure, if it’s meant for us, it will eventually come to us.
I'm turning 30 too! Assalamualaikum, my friend! ☺️
May Allah bless you with happiness, success, and good health. ... May Allah fill your life with endless happy moments, countless wonderful surprises, ... And reward you ameen yaa Rabul alameen ♥️♥️♥️😊
we are in the same age and still also not married but I never give up may allah give us azwaj salihin ya rab🤲
She is a good pious muslim. We appreciate such mumin.
May Allah bless you, me, and the entire Ummah ❤❤
I really needed to hear this today…may Allah rewards you for this post
How do u keep yourself motivated? to do daily chores? To stay away from loneliness? To stay away from fears?
Spending and cherishing my single years until a kind, handsome man appears in my life when Allah thinks I am ready 🤍 and yes, I strongly believe Allah will give you something better you could never imagine with patience, Amin. Because I know that feeling in other areas of my personal life thanks to His mercy alhamdulillah.
it is not abt find the perfect partner in the world , its abt having a babies and feel your purpose in the life, feeling warmed with a small family take care of their little details,
I feel so grateful after watch your video; it's an eye-opening. Your video calms my heart. Thank you so much, sister.
May Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala always protect you, I hope for happiness and tranquility for you.
بارك الله لك في أهلك ومالك.
جزاك الله خيرا.
What a beautiful video mashaAllah, may Allah SWT bless you and all the sister watching immensely!!!! I love you all for the sake of Allah SWT❤
I'm turning 30 in 3 months and single, but Alhamdulillah for everything. May Allah always guide me to the right path to become better Muslim so then I deserve great Muslim man too. May Allah Always keeping me away from any kind of haram relationship Aameen
Thank you so much, sister!!! Your words brought so much comfort and reminder to me. Being the only single in a group of friends often makes me feel lonely and insecure. Plus, I experienced a couple of times being rejected and fooled by man's kindness. I almost lost hope and didn't see my future as a married person. I'm still taking my time to recover and bump into your video, I took it as a message from Allah for me through you. I'll pray that you'll be blessed with his Rahmah and granted for jannah, insyaallah.❤
just a friendly reminder to write in sha' Allah separately for it to give the right meaning, thank u for your nice video
two years ago, I decided to choose Allah. I just want Allah to really unite me with someone with whom Heaven is easier to reach. My life changed. my dreams about the wedding fall. but it was worth the sense of calm I got today.
Sister I love you, for saying what you said. May Allah be pleased with you. ❤️❤️❤️❤️