I'm in the process of doing progressive desensitization. For now, I'm greeting everyone in public I can at every given chance. Just this alone has been a game changer! Recently progressed to giving compliments afterwards when appropriate. Given them a few times now. I have notice that my voice volume lowers with women I find attractive, so working on that. Just two days ago I felt my throat tightened up just before greeting two girls passing me. Still greeted them fine & the hot one really lit up. It felt good to get a sign I'm on the right track.
I have watched other dating coach videos, and they are flashy and too accurate to be realistic. What you said made sense without looking out of this earth. I have approach anxiety, and either I need to go all in like you say or go step by step. I will join your free course for sure.
I think it would be an awesome idea or even a product for you to consistently have new infield footage I know you said in the past that you don't think infield footage is all that helpful believe me when I tell you as one of your fellow students that it absolutely is because it shows me how you actually approached people the angles the tonality your body posture everything. Please consider maybe even consistently updating verbal game academy or the system with constant new infield footage of you going out under different scenarios approaching multiple groups, you getting rejected, etc. Maybe you could even sell it as an add-on which I'm sure many people will gladly buy. Including myself.
Record audio of yourself. You’ll learn so much more from that than other peoples infields. Also 25 approaches a week for months at a time. Only you can learn through failure and pattern recognition.
Verbal game, angles and tonality videos won’t teach you. You have to be infield constantly testing and experimenting. Verbals and lines are nothing compared to genuine confidence and vibe. When the interaction is strong, the lines flow magically, lines you never even realized you had.
The thing that I don't understand is that I see guys who are in relationships who definitely are not studying game. Did they just get lucky? For instance there is this guy I work with who is the biggest nerd, super awkward, and maybe a 5 out of 10 in attractiveness working a shit job and has no car and his girlfriend comes by to get him each day after work and shes gorgeous. I want to ask him how he ended up with her.
His attitude towards women is not as visible as those external factors, and likewise his girlfriend’s personality is not as visible as her beauty. She could be crazy for all you know.
Its called dumb fucking luck. No rhyme or reason. Or if you’re an optimist, “meant to be”. Most people aren’t but you see the few guys who got lucky and it feels like most guys are doing better. They aren’t. Most people are lonely spendings their days on IG/tik tok/twitter overdosing on narcissism and unrealistic high standards.
Probably he met her on college or something. Most couples are created through friends circle when you are around 20-25yo. The older you get, the harder it is to meet a girl in life and you have to start approaching
Hello, Todd. I’d like to know if Derek Moneyberg was a great help to you during your time with RSD, or if he’s considered a leading figure in the field of dating and relationships. If you’re willing to share your thoughts, I’d be very happy to hear them.
I have serious problems with picking girls to approach, like it's not even that I am super picky about which kind of girls I like, but I look at a girl and my mind fills with doubts whether she is someone I'd like to get to know. Often times I end up approaching girls in places where you have like a couple of moments to consider whether you approach without it appearing super creepy (like train stations), but I lack the spontaneity to see a girl and go "approach" in my mind, remaining anxiety is an additional hurdle to that. Also I have made the best experiences with semi-direct openers that comment on unique pieces of clothing or style, but many girls dress in an utterly boring manner and it's kind of a turn-off and sends me back to considering...😅
Excuses excuses. Approach directly, 25 per week. Find a wing, and stay off UA-cam and game theory. Too much thinking and over analyzing, get in the field
Hello there. I am a 48 yo man from the Netherlands. I am new to all this. This is a real honest question. Am i to old for this? I have begun to work on myself. Working out. Stopped with porn. I don't smoke (i think that is a plus) but sometimes i think it is too late for me. Anyone here in the same situation?
50 y/o here. My biggest fear is I'll be labeled an old pervert. If you're in your 20s and 30s it is expected you'll hit on girls, but at my age society expects you to go take care of your grandkids and if you are not married you do not have the right to even look at young women and you'll be exposed on social media.
Don’t waste your best years on women - there are many regrets in life but one of the biggest is spending years walking up to girls on the street - have a goal don’t just practice
No I think you should make p***y your full time passion. I’m in my late 20s and I just recently became financially retired off of real estate. I have full time and all the time in the world for friends, baddies, and travel. A lot pua dudes don’t grow into social circle game which is one of the best things for you. This year I’m travelling full time Asian and Europe. We’re gonna be throwing private hotel parties (Airbnbs kick you out for funny business) every city we land in. As well as volunteering, hobbies, live events, hostel events, and cold approach
get outta here with this slave morality that you're pushing. loser morality. only losers are afraid of fitness tests and find them ``disrespectful''. winners get worried if the woman if not doing them: that probably means she's a loser, with low standards - and almost an insult to what they have achieved (success) because she'd accept any loser (since she's not testing for loserhood!) - that's repulsive. All good women test. The best test tons.
Insanely helpful - just reiterates and validates deep down what I’ve already known just not implemented fully
I'm in the process of doing progressive desensitization. For now, I'm greeting everyone in public I can at every given chance. Just this alone has been a game changer! Recently progressed to giving compliments afterwards when appropriate. Given them a few times now. I have notice that my voice volume lowers with women I find attractive, so working on that.
Just two days ago I felt my throat tightened up just before greeting two girls passing me. Still greeted them fine & the hot one really lit up. It felt good to get a sign I'm on the right track.
Perfect! Keep it up bro you're definitely on the right track
I have watched other dating coach videos, and they are flashy and too accurate to be realistic.
What you said made sense without looking out of this earth. I have approach anxiety, and either I need to go all in like you say or go step by step.
I will join your free course for sure.
Absolute Legend. Cheers Todd. I hope to do a bootcamp with you some day.
I think it would be an awesome idea or even a product for you to consistently have new infield footage I know you said in the past that you don't think infield footage is all that helpful believe me when I tell you as one of your fellow students that it absolutely is because it shows me how you actually approached people the angles the tonality your body posture everything. Please consider maybe even consistently updating verbal game academy or the system with constant new infield footage of you going out under different scenarios approaching multiple groups, you getting rejected, etc. Maybe you could even sell it as an add-on which I'm sure many people will gladly buy. Including myself.
Record audio of yourself. You’ll learn so much more from that than other peoples infields. Also 25 approaches a week for months at a time. Only you can learn through failure and pattern recognition.
Verbal game, angles and tonality videos won’t teach you. You have to be infield constantly testing and experimenting. Verbals and lines are nothing compared to genuine confidence and vibe. When the interaction is strong, the lines flow magically, lines you never even realized you had.
8:03 You can also practise changing your state everyday so your default level is higher 🕺
The thing that I don't understand is that I see guys who are in relationships who definitely are not studying game. Did they just get lucky? For instance there is this guy I work with who is the biggest nerd, super awkward, and maybe a 5 out of 10 in attractiveness working a shit job and has no car and his girlfriend comes by to get him each day after work and shes gorgeous. I want to ask him how he ended up with her.
Dumb luck response todd has a video of this topic in his course value master class
His attitude towards women is not as visible as those external factors, and likewise his girlfriend’s personality is not as visible as her beauty. She could be crazy for all you know.
Its called dumb fucking luck. No rhyme or reason. Or if you’re an optimist, “meant to be”. Most people aren’t but you see the few guys who got lucky and it feels like most guys are doing better. They aren’t. Most people are lonely spendings their days on IG/tik tok/twitter overdosing on narcissism and unrealistic high standards.
Circumstances, that's it. You just keep practicing and you'll show him up in no time, best part you won't even care when you do
Probably he met her on college or something. Most couples are created through friends circle when you are around 20-25yo. The older you get, the harder it is to meet a girl in life and you have to start approaching
Thats the number one issue, man. Thanks for the video.
Solid stuff Todd
Hello, Todd. I’d like to know if Derek Moneyberg was a great help to you during your time with RSD, or if he’s considered a leading figure in the field of dating and relationships. If you’re willing to share your thoughts, I’d be very happy to hear them.
I have serious problems with picking girls to approach, like it's not even that I am super picky about which kind of girls I like, but I look at a girl and my mind fills with doubts whether she is someone I'd like to get to know. Often times I end up approaching girls in places where you have like a couple of moments to consider whether you approach without it appearing super creepy (like train stations), but I lack the spontaneity to see a girl and go "approach" in my mind, remaining anxiety is an additional hurdle to that. Also I have made the best experiences with semi-direct openers that comment on unique pieces of clothing or style, but many girls dress in an utterly boring manner and it's kind of a turn-off and sends me back to considering...😅
Excuses excuses. Approach directly, 25 per week. Find a wing, and stay off UA-cam and game theory. Too much thinking and over analyzing, get in the field
@@Brendan99349 True😅
Hello there. I am a 48 yo man from the Netherlands. I am new to all this. This is a real honest question. Am i to old for this? I have begun to work on myself. Working out. Stopped with porn. I don't smoke (i think that is a plus) but sometimes i think it is too late for me. Anyone here in the same situation?
50 y/o here. My biggest fear is I'll be labeled an old pervert. If you're in your 20s and 30s it is expected you'll hit on girls, but at my age society expects you to go take care of your grandkids and if you are not married you do not have the right to even look at young women and you'll be exposed on social media.
@narcisolon i feel you bro. Than again. Lot's of younger woman like older man. If i may ask. Are you succesfull with the ladies?
@@gerarduspoppel2831 Not at all, otherwise I would not be watching these videos trying to get some hope or courage.
@narcisolon i guess that is true. Are you American? I do have the feeling dating there is a bit more difficult than here
@@gerarduspoppel2831 I'm from Panamá, which is a more conservative society.
Exposure therapy. It can reduce fear of all types...
❤ like because you Todd
Todd have you ever coached a client who stutters?
Curious case of Todd Valentine 😜
Don’t let women be your main focus.
Don’t waste your best years on women - there are many regrets in life but one of the biggest is spending years walking up to girls on the street - have a goal don’t just practice
why are you watching this video lol
No I think you should make p***y your full time passion. I’m in my late 20s and I just recently became financially retired off of real estate. I have full time and all the time in the world for friends, baddies, and travel. A lot pua dudes don’t grow into social circle game which is one of the best things for you. This year I’m travelling full time Asian and Europe. We’re gonna be throwing private hotel parties (Airbnbs kick you out for funny business) every city we land in. As well as volunteering, hobbies, live events, hostel events, and cold approach
Really solid advice here, especially about getting out of anxious thought loops. Thought this would be clickbait, and it’s not
another couple of tricks:
assume she likes you
only tolerate up to 3 $h!t tests. anymore and she’s being disrespectful, not playful
get outta here with this slave morality that you're pushing. loser morality.
only losers are afraid of fitness tests and find them ``disrespectful''. winners get worried if the woman if not doing them: that probably means she's a loser, with low standards - and almost an insult to what they have achieved (success) because she'd accept any loser (since she's not testing for loserhood!) - that's repulsive. All good women test. The best test tons.