It’s so crazy how it goes back deeply rooted in childhood. I’m an anxious attachment style and my husband is an avoidant. Unfortunately we’ve been navigating a lot of problems especially because these two attract each other. And while I’m trying to work to become secure, it feels like it’s best to avoid the avoidant and it’s scary. I don’t want a failed marriage over him failing to do the work, but I guess it is what it is.
I was researching this for a while. I found myself in the disorganized category. From a past experience, I get off the anxiety of pursuing and I interpret that as love. Once I have what I want, it's avoidant and wanting that sense of liberation. I messed up on this one. But Allah has decreed and he does what he wills. And, like you said, it's part of the human experience we have to accept about ourselves. May Allah grant those looking a righteous spouse and strengthen the marriage of those already married.
2:17 THISSSS!! I was/am in the same position. But I realised when it came serious situation like to know me in a halal way I was still avoiding relationships 😢 the religion thing was more an excuse
Do you think it has something to do with the attachement to the individials parents, or do you think that a persons attachement to its parents and partner can be completely different?
Yes! The whole attachment theory stems from a study done btwn babies and their parents which helped to shape their attachment style, highly recommend looking up the study inshallah
I was struggling with this whole attachement thing and opened yt and this video showed up.
Thank you sister for talking about it
It’s so crazy how it goes back deeply rooted in childhood. I’m an anxious attachment style and my husband is an avoidant. Unfortunately we’ve been navigating a lot of problems especially because these two attract each other. And while I’m trying to work to become secure, it feels like it’s best to avoid the avoidant and it’s scary. I don’t want a failed marriage over him failing to do the work, but I guess it is what it is.
It’s so complicated 😢 may allah subh. helps u❤
@ aameen thank you ❤️
I will pray for your marriage sister🫶
@@sapok4925 awe may Allah bless your soul
@@sapok4925 may Allah bless your soul sis ❤️
I was researching this for a while. I found myself in the disorganized category. From a past experience, I get off the anxiety of pursuing and I interpret that as love. Once I have what I want, it's avoidant and wanting that sense of liberation. I messed up on this one. But Allah has decreed and he does what he wills. And, like you said, it's part of the human experience we have to accept about ourselves. May Allah grant those looking a righteous spouse and strengthen the marriage of those already married.
The girl have the anxious attachement and I have the avoidment attachment and it ended in the most tragic way
Thanks, great content
Thank you
Amazing and correct explanations
God Bless you
2:17 THISSSS!! I was/am in the same position. But I realised when it came serious situation like to know me in a halal way I was still avoiding relationships 😢 the religion thing was more an excuse
How to get secure?
What is book name?
Is it online coaching? How can join?
OMG THANK YOU SO MUCHHHHHH
after knowing this... i think i will have a hard time to find a spouse..😅
InshAllah Allah SWT makes it easy for u💗
@@aminahkeftaro7846 shukran sister😁
Do you think it has something to do with the attachement to the individials parents, or do you think that a persons attachement to its parents and partner can be completely different?
Yes! The whole attachment theory stems from a study done btwn babies and their parents which helped to shape their attachment style, highly recommend looking up the study inshallah
Im a preschool teacher, so I know the theory 😊 but I just wonder what she thinks about that. Thank you for the recommendation.
lmoa the relationship counsellors/coaches are becoming more than the relationships them selves