My Unplanned Pregnancy Story: Feeling trapped *Emotional* | Ep. 2
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- Опубліковано 5 жов 2024
- Hey guys! Today's video is a continuation of last week's video about my unplanned pregnancy story. If you missed Episode 1, make sure to check it out here: • My Unplanned Pregnancy...
If you had a similar situation or are going through it right now, I would love to know in the comments. I found it helpful knowing I wasn't alone by hearing others' stories and hoping my story can do the same for you.
Thursday's video will be episode 3... stay tuned!
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I’m so proud of you you’re such a great mother
I've never seen such an honest and balanced portrayal of unplanned pregnancy. The strength you had to have to tell that story.
Amen
Seriously. So well spoken.
yeah, everyone seems to want a baby, I do not, so it's good to hear someone who got pregnant without wanting and went through it.
I feel like this is the most real anyone’s been about their pregnancy stories that I’ve seen very happy you told you’re story♥️
It is.
as a psychology student, and observing many cases of unplanned and even planned pregnancy and how if affects the mental health of the pregnant woman, i have come to notice more and more that the women who are most conscious and worried about not having the right tools to be mothers, are INDEED the ones who would make the best mothers.
😭😭😭😭 this comment.
As someone who is going through a similar situation, I am 27 yrs old and 7 weeks pregnant.. This comment gives me a bit of hope.
I don't have a stable career or job at the moment, I feel financially unprepared. Although I am ready emotionally/mentally prepared and willing to make sacrifices for my baby, I feel that I wouldn't be able to give my baby the life he/she deserves because of the financial circumstances. That is the only factor that scares me the most.
This pregnancy was also unplanned and from an abusive relationship. But I know that I would be an amazing mom, if I decide to keep it. 😥
Thank you
@@ssuareztepox I hope you decide whatever makes you the most comfortable in your body and mind, either by proceeding with the pregnancy or not 💕
I understand your fear of not being up to the job of meeting a child's needs and wants, but your emotional stability and mental preparation to be a mother is more important than whether or not you have a stable career already.
It can even be a journey you both go through, you and your child, of progression and highs and lows where you show them perseverance and effort through your hard work and devotion to job and family. It can be a part of the many things you teach them as they grow, by example and not just by words. (i hope you get my meaning, english isn't my first language and i am kinda trying to explain myself but sometimes it's hard).
Bottom line is: children resonate with love, not money. As long as meeting their basic material needs is guaranteed, then all they need really is love, endless amounts of respect and support and positive intervention in their lives. 💕
i wish you the best of luck in your journey, wherever it takes you
100%. If you're WORRIED about whether or not you're a bad mother, you're already a good mother.
I’m 33 weeks with my little girl and my heart ached every second of this video because it’s exactly how I’ve been feeling. I feel extremely shameful and embarrassed to feel the way I do because I know that there are women that would do anything to be mothers. The day I found out I was pregnant was the worst day of my life. I remember thinking how unattached I will always be from the baby inside me. I’m a senior in college and I wanted so much more for myself. I have no idea how I will afford a baby and learn to be a mother. I considered abortion and adoption, but I couldn’t physically do it. My days are full of sadness and loneliness. I have no friends. No one wants to hang out with the pregnant girl. I have highs and lows as well. I love her, I want what’s best for her, but I don’t know if I can do it. Thank you for sharing your story. I haven’t found another video/story this authentic.
I pray that God strengthens you and you get all the help you need. Your doing amazing ❤
Hello Hannah I hope you are feeling ok :)
Sending you so much love. Follow me on Instagram _samanthalabrake and message me
Take one step at a time, seek help and take care of yourself! Sending lots of love!
you can do this girl
I’m adopted and I could say it’s one the best things that has ever happened to me, I’ve never been so loved.I’m beyond blessed. And it’s crazy to think that the woman who had me is out there somewhere. You are such a strong and brave woman and an inspiration to many other girls who are struggling. You are such an amazing mom. And thank for sharing your story with all of us❤️
Aw I love this!! 💞💞
@@brittanyxavier Thank you so much! Your videos have really shown me to believe in my dreams and that I can succeed in anything, I can’t thank you enough for that. And I can’t wait to be as good of a mother as you are one day💕
i’m adopted too and i can understand you so well because i’m really really thankful for my adoptive parents. they are amazing and i love them so much and honestly i don’t know what would happened to me if i was still in the institution that i was before being adopted. and i’m also really blessed cause i know that a lot of adoption stories don’t go has well as ours are going
I’m adopted too!!! I was born in Romania 🇷🇴 and adopted at 3 !
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Who else is just living for these episodes!!! Im so excited for thursday!!!
Just love seeing how far you've come as a mother!
aww thank you!! 💞
living in an understatement I am in such awe of her journey
I’m a young mom and was so embarrassed of being pregnant and working around older people. I felt so ashamed which late lead to postpartum depression it was a very dark stage for me. Thank you for speaking out about your story
Jesus Loves you, He makes all things new.
The character you've shown at a such a young age, i am truly speechless. Definitely a true inspiration, the inner struggle you were going through, still being driven and determined to make it work. You and your daughter are truly blessed to have each other ❤
I appreciate you showing the side of motherhood that a lot of people don’t mention; the uncertainty and fear. I also appreciate you talking about not feeling those maternal instincts from a young age. All my friends said since they were young they wanted kids and I’m still not sure.
I'm a child from teen pregnancy and watching this just made me so thankful for my mom for what she had to sacrifice at 19. You guys are amazing. I'm 25 now.
Every single day we meet people who are "privately battling" a struggle we know nothing about. That's why it is so important to be KIND and COMPASSIONATE to everyone we meet. Your courage and bravery at such a very young age were commendable. I think you are amazing:-)
I became a mom at 18 and it’s been the best decision of my life. The father decided not to be a part of her life. A man that at the time was 30 years old. She is now 20yrs old and the most amazing independent young woman so kudos to you because I know it’s not easy.
It is incredible to see your transformation from a scared 19 year old, to now sharing your story on UA-cam. God's hand is all over this story and your life. You have so much ahead of you and you are such an encouragement to me
You’re such an inspiration ❤️🥺 you’re truly a phenomenal mother and it shows .
aw wow thank you so much! 💞
@@brittanyxavier you’re very welcome ❤️ any child would be lucky to call you their mom. I am in awe of your journey ❤️
What an amazing doctor to tell you that. “No one has ever came back and told him they regret having their kid.” I love that perspective. Something women don’t hear a lot when faced with an unplanned pregnancy.
so unrealistic!
@Ashley i agree. It sounds biased and makes the patient lean one side in judgement. But maybe it was something he only said when needed
There is data that suggests women don’t regret having abortions either!
@Ashley I agree!
At the end of the day, women need support. Decisions made out of fear are damaging. Brittany had so many signs, as she pointed out in the video, that led her to keeping Jayden. She admitted herself that she did not feel maternal at all, yet here she is today defeating the odds as an amazing mother. Instead of telling women they can’t, we need to start with they absolutely 100% can. We need to empower women with love, not encourage with fear.
A incredible strong mother🤍 Thank you for sharing your story with us.
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That bible verse made me cry😢 Seeing how much you love Jadyn is such a beautiful thing and God knew what he was doing. Can't wait to see part 3 💕💕💕💕💕
Yes he did💕
i love how relied on God and you relationship with Him got stronger through this hard time you were going through💜💜
even after 14 years, talking about it brings out all the hard emotions and makes you cry😔
This was such a rough and emotional thing to experience, but you were honestly so brave to go through with the pregnancy despite knowing how hard it was going to be. God really sent you the signs to make you change your mind and have Jadyn. I admire you so much for this. You had so many fears but you knew what the right thing to do was and you did it. Your story is honestly so powerful, by sharing it you are for sure helping so many other women and i admire you so much for it
Every time in this video when you say "I wont be a good mom" I think about the time you made a whole pumpkin themed dinner for Jadyn. It's something so small but when I saw that video I literally thought "that's the type of mom I want to be" because I could just see how much you loved Jadyn and wanted to create fun experiences for her. I just want to tell 19 year old Brittany how great of a mom she turns out to be. (brb literally crying writing this) You're an amazing mom and that verse you shared describes your story so well. What a man tried to turn evil, God turned into such a beautiful life with your daughter.
Your recounting of this entire experience, and how your perspective shifted as the pregnancy progressed, is astoundingly brave. I admire your strength, decisions and overcoming your fears so much!
I had my baby when I was 16 it was such a dark time for me emotionally, I felt so ashamed and judged by everyone. It was so weird listening to you talk about this because it feels so familiar to me everything you’re saying. I named my son Jayden so even you say your daughters name gives me chills. It’s truly inspiring. My son is 11 now and we have an amazing relationship. Thank you for sharing!
Your story is going to change many young women’s lives and their struggle with an unplanned pregnancy. Sometimes all they need is the courage that they can be a mother and that they are strong enough to do it on their own too. Very happy you posted these videos ❤️
My first baby came about in a similar way to yours and I still feel a lot of guilt for not wanting him then because it was such a dark time for me. We love our children very much and we’re wonderful mothers ❤
As someone who wasn’t raised by their mother the ending of the video- when you describe seeing Jayden- broke me. Hearing you say you wanted to be the best mom is the best gift you could give your child, ever! ❤️
Ive followed this woman years ago, got hella influenced from her fashion sense, her hair and everything. Even cut my hair seeing her hahah. So glad she is so strong and doing so well. Much love xx🥺
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I don't know you personally but as a mother myself of two and trying to have another one at 45, I am VERY touched by your story and also very proud of you and the extraordinary growth and selflessness you've shown throughout your pregnancy journey. I can hear it in your words and see it in your face. You are much wiser beyond your years. Have a child unexpectedly is not a death sentence. Quite the opposite. The journey let you to see who you truly are. You have a beautiful heart and your daughter is blessed to have you as her mother. You both will have a very bright future. Stay happy healthy and strong.
you’re an incredibly strong person!!! And sending you a lot of ❤️ ❤️ you’re doing great and are an amazing mom!!
I have subscribed you just a week or 2 back and I have binged watched all your videos. Absolutely love them.
aww thank you!! 💞
Honestly Seeing you Breakdown, As Heartbreaking as it just makes you feel that much more real and relatable
I’m only 15 so I don’t have this experience but when you see people you look up too show vulnerability and open up, it makes you feel better
I'm in a similar situation...I'm 19 and just found out I'm pregnant and I can't tell you how much I relate to your story and how great it feels to not feel like I'm the only one who's going through this❤️
Oh my gosh, I literally cried when you described your experience seeing her for the first time.
This is so real and reminds me so completely of my first pregnancy. I went through many of the same things and feelings as you during pregnancy.
20 months on with my son now and it is definitely a blessing. It's so challenging looking after a child, but so great and it builds your inner character! Thank you for sharing your story - it will encourage so many people and you are so brave x
Brittany this is beyond inspiring. How empowering to make the best decision for you and your life and not have someone else control that choice. It’s very full circle to feel that loss of control through violence and to take it back through your own choice.
4 secs omg yess go off
You're so unbelievably brave for speaking so openly about this experience. ❤️
seeing this now in a better time in my life, i teared up, not only because of how challenging your situation was, but also in hearing about how supportive your parents were. every parent needs to be ready to aptly handle a situation like this, because despite it potentially being one of the most important decisions in a youth's life, it's where many parents end up distancing themselves the most :( thank you for sharing this, it's powerful for youth & adults alike💛
Wow! Your story is so emotional. You’re so strong, so brave and so honest! Thank you for sharing your story. I was in very abusive relationship, I got married and had a child. When my son was 3 month, I went away from husband and return to my family. For over a year we have court sessions over and over again. It’s very tough and emotionally devastating. Thank you for showing your example. Sending lots of love!
Pregnancy is a beautiful blessing, but I want to say that it’s okay to feel not okay about it. Brittany is a clear example, who’s went through thick and thin. Just remember that Gods with you, even if you don’t believe in a higher power, you are loved. Sending lots of love to everyone, and thankyou for your honesty, Ive never saw something so real and authentic. Welldone for raising up a beautiful daughter, much love ❤️💕
I’m a first time mom with a 10 month old and this resonated with me immensely. I needed this today, thank you.
It’s crazy because when you go through something like that no matter where you are at that stage in your life, all of the memories and feelings take you back to it being so fresh.
Crying watching this and I’ve never even seen you or your channel before. I had my son when I was 18 in 2009 and all these feelings you felt are so real to me. Literally every single one. You are so strong and you’ve done such an amazing job 💕. It’s crazy to look back on now, isn’t it? I thought things were over for me but they were really just beginning. Thanks so much for sharing your story, it’s so brave of you and I know it’s going to help tons of girls out there. 💜💜💜
Hi Brittany, I understand how you feel, I got pregnant at 18 my last year in High School, I decided to keep her, she is now 39 and a beautiful mother. God knows the plans he has and had for us even at a young age. Thank you for sharing.
My mom had a very similar story to yours! I’m 17 and now and I am so thankful for the great relationship we have and I’m sure Jayden feels the same way too!
Same here I was against her until i realize my actual mom was trying to do the best she can for my future and still be with her during holidays she didn’t want to lose me
I always see her as my hero 💜
Wow. God truly sent you the signs to keep her with you. This is such an incredible story
That bible verse hit deeeeepp af!!!!! I cried through out the 1 & 2 episode non stop!! I can’t wait to hear the 3rd! This is a really strong and meaningful message to a lot young girls and about to be mom or moms, too. A women choice & body is never to be judge, PERIODTT! Only God can judge cos he knows our hearts! We go though the most and even the worse but we are so strong and it’s sad we don’t see what God sees in us & his plans he has for us! May God continue to open our eyes, hear our pain and give us strength. & God please forgive us if we sin. Thank you God my lord and Savior! I repent! ✨
Those signs were meant to be Brittany ❤️ I love your family so much! Such a beautiful family, so glad your fam was supportive! ❤️❤️
same! So thankful! 💞
I truly appreciate the raw and real honesty in these episodes. Thank you for telling your story.
I love that verse! God is always so good to us and I love how that verse comforted you through that really hard time. You’re so strong!
It always seems to me that the most “unconventional” or least prepared moms make the best moms. You’re doing a great job and I envy your relationship with your daughter ❤️
Trying to blend my eyeshadow while crying
thank you for sharing your story with us
Thank your for being so honest. It is very inspiring to see how time and perspective changes things. Your family is beautiful :)
This is so emotional🥺 I'm very proud of you, you're so strong and I think your story will help many young moms out there. It can be hard to share things like that, but you are awesome for doing that. Best wishes to you and your family 💖
I was sharing your story with my friends and family and they were like "wow that woman is super strong" and they also wanted to watch your videos. You're very inspirational ❤❤ Congrats on 100K!🌟
Sending you so much love!! This is such an inspiring story 🤍🤍🥺🥺
I’m currently 24 & have been married for 3 years & I still struggle with the thought of being a mom. I think babies are adorable but then I start to think of the responsibility it comes with & it kinda scares me 🥺 I love our freedom & making money. Maybe one day we’ll wake up & just know we are ready.
i’m really sorry you went through all of this thank you for being so brave and sharing your story! sending you and your daughter all the love 💖
The Bible verse 😭 God was seriously watching over you, so so beautiful ❤️
Your story is so inspirational and it’s going to help so many young womens. You are such a strong person! Lots of love from Argentina 🥰💕
This is like the most real anyone has been about their pregnancy and it is amazing that you shared this with us. Ily so much
This story is so inspirational! I’m 100% pro choice. Every woman has a different journey that’s necessary for them. And this was the best choice for you ❤️
although i’m pro life, it’s really nice to see people who are pro choice rejoicing with mothers, who chose life. i’m in no way saying there aren’t other pro choicers like this, it’s just nice the sort of common ground sharing our stories can bring.
your honesty is so refreshing. a lot of those fears and thoughts you experienced are so common
It really is so amazing that you’re willing to open up to us about this really personal experience ❤️
You’re such a strong and inspirational person!
Sending you lots of hugs!
I was crying with you throughout this video.
Love you ❤❤
aww 😭😭
U know every girl needs to hear ur story. UR TRULY AN INSPIRATION and im extremely proud of u 🥺 i aspire to be as strong as u one day❤
early u r such a great mom and so strong🥰
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WOW...the transparency you have for this series is incredibly admirable. You have a strength that is just so unmatched and I hope you truly realize that! I’m also so touched that you spoke on your privilege that you realized you had; I feel like we all have had those thoughts so THANK YOU for reiterating that. Thank you for sharing your amazing story with us ❤️❤️❤️
Couldn’t help but cry, so blessed to hear your testimony. Thank you for sharing it and I don’t know you but I’m so happy for you and you look like an awesome mom! God bless you and your family! 💕🙏🏻
That's a lot to go through in your 20s, it truly made you stronger.
I'm currently watching this because I'm going through an unplanned pregnancy - in a foreign country, and I can't go home because of covid. I already feel like it's the end of the world, but I couldn't possibly imagine going through this while dealing with an abusive ex. You're so amazingly brave and strong.
How are you now?🤍
Wow! This is such an interesting story! Thank you for being so open and personal! This is very different for me as I am 20 years old and in a stable marriage I was married at the age of 18 and struggled with infertility for a year-and-a-half and very much wanted a baby, finally my Miracle boy is on his way! It's nice to hear other people's stories!
Brittany, your story is really moving. You have an amazing sense of fashion, but I didn't feel like I could relate so much to your lifestyle from what I saw in other videos. Now, understanding how far you have come, I can see what an amazingly caring and strong person you are, not just a pretty face. I also became pregnant in awful circumstances at 19, and 6 years later, I have come a long way too. I still aspire to be more stable and grow my family like you when I am a little older. You are a great role model.
I am a new subscriber, after watching episode one! Was waiting all week to hear the second part! Your testimony is so inspiring, Shows how God works in miraculous ways! Blessings to you and your family thanks for sharing! 🥰
This is so honest and human. Thank you.
I had my daughter Rebecka at 19 in 1992 and my friends shunned me she’s now 29 and my best friend God helps me through everything and trust me I need him ❤️🇦🇺
Amen 🙏🏻❤️
What a testimony. Thank you for sharing this. I'm an only child and also raised by a single mom. ❤️
I'm sorry u went through this but look at u now mama ❤️ u r an amazing career woman, and ofc an amazing mother and wife ❤️ and we will always love ur beautiful family ❤️ God bless u always 🙏
omgggg, the Bible verse was just perfect. I´m crying
listen I have 3 kids and I have no idea what im doing. we are all winging it. the fact that you can take a step back and go through all of this and make a decision to keep and fight for her... IS MATERNAL. that is being a GOOD MOM!!!!
Thank you for being so open and honest about your story. You are so courageous.
I’m nowhere near a mother but this story is MOVING. On the edge of my seat for ep. 3 👏🏾 thank you thank you for sharing
I love how strong you are , this just helps alot of people who are going through the same thing ❤
Your an amazing Mom, Your Daughter is so lucky to have you as a Mom.
Thank you for being so honest and raw💗 I really do believe that Jaydn is someone that you needed in your life. I love seeing your mother daughter relationship and the bond that you share. My mom and I are the same and I love how strong she is, as I can see how strong you are as well 💕💕
Crying 😭 the 1st TikTok I seen was your story I also had my son at 19! Pretty young looking back at it!
You are so brave! There’s so much strength in being vulnerable. I loved what you said about God too! ❤️ thank you for sharing your story
I appreciate you and you telling your story so much. I could not relate to someone’s feelings more, just thank you for freeing me from my guilt and isolation ❤️
I’m sure this was extremely hard for you to live & relive now. I’m proud of you for telling your story 🌟🌟
I'm right there with you in all the feels. I had my son when I was 21 and I can very much relate to a lot of these things. Thank you so much for sharing, there is so much comfort in your story for me
I also became unexpectedly pregnant when I was 22 and it was incredibly hard. Luckily it was with my long time partner but he wanted an abortion and I couldn't go through with it. Even though we both loved each other there was a lot of resentment and sadness, and it was really traumatic for both of us. I was also incredibly sick and weak, and it only made me feel more like a burden. I can relate to a lot of your story, and hope to see more people tell theirs. Not enough people realize how immensely painful and confusing this can sometimes be. Thank you so much for sharing and bless you. I hope you're able to continue healing xoxo
I feel you. Stay strong girl! ❤️
@@lifewithlj4202 thank you, you too! 🙏❤️ Just knowing other people relate is so helpful
@@fff5572 we will all come out in this stronger! ❤️
Thank you for sharing. I was a teen mom my entire senior year of high school.
Tbh i really feel ya
When you dislike someone and you trying to get rid of him
Then suddenly seeing you’re having a baby from him is so scary and hard
I’m in tears listening to your story. I love your fashion content, but your insight, resilience, and love for your family is so inspiring ❤️
I've been following you since you were Thrifts and Threads, and...this brought me to tears. I cannot imagine how hard it was to tell this story, but I'm SO glad you did it now...with the following you have. To give hope/understanding/normalizing to women in abusive relationships is invaluable. To give this as a gift to women unsure if they can be young mothers and still achieve their goals... incredibly supportive and uplifting. I love seeing the relationship that you two have, and can only hope to have that with my daughter!! Even though....we are MANY more years apart. Much love to you all! xx. Lauren
I’m so glad to hear about your honest story! I know of a few girls in my life that felt the same way you did about not being maternal or having difficult relationships with their child’s father. Thank you for sharing!!
The fact that a single idiot gives a video like this a thumbs down is beyond me. Thanks so much for sharing ur story. This is so important.
Omg u finally hit 100k, Congrats 🥳 !! Your an inspiration to ur daughter and everyone else ❤️
Crying my eyes out, you are so strong! Lots of love from a mom in sweden ❤️🙏🏽
Such an incredible strong woman! It is unbelievable how much you can influence someone through your story. All the descriptions and the facts are so deep and I’m really proud of your strength. I’m in a bad psychological state with my health for a few weeks now, but those 2 videos have given me strength. Thank you Brittany for sharing your soul 🥺🙏🏽🤍 sending love