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Not to be rude, but..there is a very big difference in being poor in a 1st world country versus living in poverty in a 2nd or 3 world country. The only people who live in poverty in 1st world countries are homeless people and even then they have programs to help them. Where as my parents grew up in a place where there was no help, they only had 2 pairs of underwear, 3 pairs of clothing, would go without meals, would sometimes eat hard, moldy bread. Couldnt afford to go to school after the age of 10. And mental health care was non existent. Living in this kind of poverty causes food hoarding and other kinds of not so well seen hoarding. This is seen in families from many other countries as well as survivors of war and survivors of the Holocaust
We didn’t have much growing up. I had no idea because we had so much love in the home. We looked out for each other. My grandma had very creative ways, good relationships with people in the community that fixed things and kept food in the house. My mom was very creative and skillful. As a hairdresser, she kept us looking good. I shared clothes with my sister. We kept everything clean and learned to mix and match. People never knew, nor did we know as children just how financially stressed we were. Poverty has many faces. Mindset over the matter has made a world of a difference in how we view life and living.
You were healthy. Health can cist you everything. Also, you only mentioned women in your house. They were carrying the burden while males were happily f off.
You have a very empowering story! It’s inspiring how love, creativity, and community can make such a difference, even when resources are limited. It’s true that sometimes, in places where material things are scarce, we find strength in focusing on what truly matters-family, relationships, and resilience. Your mindset really shows how much perspective can shape how we live and view the world. Thank you for sharing!
This is BEAUTIFUL and INSPIRING. If only more families and communities were so loving. Being there for each other in a GENUINE way makes a world of difference. Money cannot buy togetherness and compassion.🙏🏾❤️
Not having enough money to live without being scared of becoming homeless in case something bad and unexpected happened is nightmare, neverending stress affecting entire body
What affected me the most as a child growing up in poverty was lack of food and the violence. I was very soft hearted but growing up in the hood is almost synonymous with having to tussle.
I grew up dirt poor. I didn't even have diapers. I had old tshirts with clothes pins used as a diaper. I missed out on a lot of happy times because of being poor. I'm still poor even today in this overinflated inflation and all my family is dead. Poverty from a kid to adulthood can definitely lead to chronic depression and being stuck in a fast world.
I am also dirt broke with no family to lean on in this difficult economy. I can't help but envy those who can move back in with family for support. Poverty takes many shapes and forms besides money.
@@NaomiTCOOKIES Me too, no money and no living relatives left or available to seek help from let alone speak to. Years of poverty, violence, and homelessness has destroyed my family. It's a miracle I was able to get enough grants student loans to get into community college, now I just need to finish 3 years of university and I'll have 50k in debt. Though I've been working since I was legally allowed to at 15 just to pay for school supplies and afford to pitch in with bills as a teen. 50k in debt is circling over my head and I'm screwed if I don't get hired immediately after school, even then that's no guarantee I'll be okay. Interest rates are over 6% and I've got an estimate for $250 a month, and that's for the loans I owe now which isn't even half of 50k. I've never been able to afford a car and I have to split rent with roommates in the hood just to get by, and if I mess up a single class I have to drop out and start paying the 22k I already owe since classes are offered in a specific order one semester a year. There's no playbook, no one tells you how to survive let alone escape poverty. I haven't been able to get a job in eight months and I have to cough up enough money to move to a bigger town with more job opportunities, but I don't know how to do that when minimum wage is still $7.25 where I live. I hope it works out for all of us, this world ain't cheap and no one is here to help you get by, not for free and certainly not for cheap.
It is fast friend. Change is tough for a lot of us. I know lack of funds prevents lots of activities. Still, connection is what makes us healthy, and that is available, especially as a volunteer. We grew up poor, I was teased for it, but by insecure fools, enjoying the intensity of dominance. Anyway, hope you find connection. Everybody needs that, and I'm sure there's enough to go around.
Man, I'm so sorry to hear that. I really hope things get better for you. Life can change for the better in a heartbeat, and I pray that it happens for you, brother.
I was raised in a fairly normal middle class household, but I wouldn't say I got all that much support growing into adulthood. I found poverty as an adult after failing to find work with my useless degree, and once you're in it, it's extremely hard to break out since solutions like going back to school for another degree cost money I don't have. Now I'm making the financially irresponsible decision of going back to school anyway. Worst case I bankrupt myself, but honestly would that be much worse than being poor with no future prospects anyway? What sucks most is that all the money does indeed to to basic living expenses. Even going out to meet friends is a expensive luxury because public transportation costs money, not to mention if they want to do something else that costs money, like eat out, participate in entertainment, sports, any activities other than just existing. Poverty in a consumer society can promote social isolation.
Money may not directly give you happiness, but it can afford your needs to attain happiness. my familys' financial state has been in a painful downhill ever since covid, depths of debt, being barely able to eat twice a day, it makes me question if we're able to even get out of this state of misery, being sick or depressed is bad enough, being poor is even worse, both is devastating.
I’m really sorry to hear you’re going through such a tough time. You’re absolutely right-money may not directly bring happiness, but having your basic needs met can make a huge difference. It’s incredibly hard to face both financial and emotional struggles at the same time, but know that your strength through these challenges is powerful. Don’t lose hope, even though it feels overwhelming right now. Taking small steps, reaching out for support, and staying resilient can help you move forward, one day at a time.
I think one of the most thought-provoking things I learnt in an engineering module at uni was that you can generally split things into two categories within management: Hygiene (Things that are needed for appropriate functioning) and Incentives (Things that motivate you to take things to the next level). Incentives don’t work if not all hygiene factors are met. For instance, you can throw all the pizza parties you want to boost morale (incentive), but that won’t improve the work output if you don’t get enough sleep due to constant overtime (hygiene). The interesting thing here, is that we had a brief discussion on where to put wages. In the end, the professor expressed that wages are hygiene factors, as you need enough money to sustain yourself (a living wage), and one that accurately reflects the value of your work, before you can be incentivised to do more. Doesn’t matter how many benefits you get by working overtime, if you can’t afford missing a shift at your second job. A bonus for hard work would be an incentive, but basic wages should rarely be considered it. Money is a basic need.
This is such a thoughtful point! The distinction between hygiene factors and incentives is really insightful, especially in the context of poverty. Wages as a basic need (hygiene) makes total sense-without financial stability, it's hard to be motivated by any additional incentives. The psychological effects of growing up in poverty highlight this too, as it shapes how we view security and well-being. No matter how many “extras” are offered, the foundation needs to be secure first. Thanks for sharing your perspective-it adds so much to this discussion!
Overtly hoarding parents. The struggle to throw anything away. No quality time with parents, too busy working Sensitive and overly emotional parents due to stress
It sounds like you're describing some really difficult dynamics that can come from living under constant stress. The struggle with hoarding, lack of quality time, and heightened emotions are all very real impacts. While it's important to recognize how these behaviors can stem from poverty and stress, it’s also key to remember that parents, even when stressed, can still find moments for connection. It might help to explore how these habits could shift, even in small ways, with emotional support and open communication.
I have experienced poverty. I have had very long periods of time with no food or close to no food. That time is over but the effects is that when I try to fast, it triggers the starvation time in my soul and the anxiety level goes through the roof. It's like I would be doing to myself what circumstances had done to me previously.😢
I grew up in poverty. It made me way more financially aware, responsible, and an extremely hard worker. I joined the Army as a way to get a college degree, and it worked out great because I WANTED to learn. I did have the feeling of hopelessness at times struggling paycheck to paycheck. I doesn't work that way for most people, but don't ever give up! I finally made it to middle class. :D I'm glad I grew up in poverty because I appreciate what I have now. Only bad habit I still have from growing up in poverty is the habit of eating one meal a day, I can afford more now but my body is so used to it that I usually dont.
@javierpacheco8234 I'm not being rude, but if you are in a situation where you can't pay your EMI's and rent. Sure, your mind will be messed up in those situations.
@@Chick0714 of course Becuase I will be worried on not having the money to pay the rent and if I didn't have a job, I will most likely stea and become a criminall. For me, the concept of money is the origin of evil. I hate the existence of money and the "economy" since those are made up things.
@@javierpacheco8234 if you were looking at an eviction notice, you would not be so happy about the thought of spending cold nights outside or couchsurfing if you're lucky to have good friends who don't have this issue
@javierpacheco8234 try nature when it's-40 out and you're in a sleeping bag and tent, hoping someone from a charity brings you hot soup, coffee, and a sandwich
Love how you started it by saying that for most of us here, it's only just about survival and affording the most basic needs whereas the more privileged people can go beyond that with resources at their disposal. Some people just can't seem to understand this.
@@Psych2go hey I need your help I haven’t went in vacation for 7 years and I have very bad stage of envy,everyone I trust went in vacation and left me with their bad community you are the only trust I have in life. I need to know what to do
@@q3-7 I’m really sorry to hear you’re feeling like this. It’s tough when you’re stuck in one place while others are moving on. Sometimes, finding small ways to treat yourself, even if it’s not a vacation, can help. Maybe plan a mini getaway or something fun that you can control, even locally. You deserve moments of peace and joy too, and I believe you’ll find a way through this stage. We have a community here so if you have any challenges, others can also chime in to help as well.
I cried watching the entire video because I'm never getting out of poverty and my life only revolves around money, bills, work, and at home. I never live a normal life for myself, just once in awhile. I also never went to college for this reason AND I never got the proper, official treatment and diagnosis I could've had as 4 year old that would've helped me as I got older.
As someone who was poor as a child, I can relate to all this. Even though my dad successfully lifted us out of poverty, I can still feel the pain to poor people like its my own
It’s incredible how those early experiences can stay with you, even after things improve. Your empathy for those still struggling shows how deeply you understand what it's like. That connection and compassion are powerful-thank you for sharing your story.
Guys I am telling you, if you have been working at a company for a long time, don't be afraid to ask for a raise. More than likely he/she will give it, and worst case they say no. Companies are not your friends so don't expect your boss to give a raise if he/she doesn't have to. I just asked just today and got one and I am so so happy. Be brave guys and gals. I trust in you.
It’s actually better to leave a company that you’ve been with. Get the experience and apply for other places with that experience. Staying loyal to one business can actually be a bad thing these days unfortunately
Once I worked at a startup company for 10days they been giving work lots even made me doing work at my hostel and not even given offer letter for the job and even kept company sim in my personal phone for work even though my phone is not dual sim. I resigned then. I feel guilt being unemployed and also not.
It also sucks in the dating world, especially if you're still "catching up." It's like by a certain age, people expect you to have certain things like making 6 figures and be fully promoted in your career and you must have your own place/not live with your parents as a "pre-requisite" (especially for straight men where they're "expected to pay for everything" and it saddens me whenever I see fellow women my age who have that mindset). Another one is if you don't travel, you're perceived as "boring" too. 🙄 Can extend to even just friendships/trying to meet people IRL and miss out on social opportunities just because you're not willing to drop money (however much that may be) all the time.
Somebody who actually understands how it feels and is with the dating world too!! Its super unrealistic what people want in the dating world now. Do you feel most of dating this generation is impossible?
Not just that, the pain men feel when they don't even attempt to pursue a relationship because they couldn't provide for their partner adds a whole new layer of shame and self-hatred. I'd know.
@@MedievalTrap Ugh, right?! I definitely do feel like it gets worse the older you get and that it's indeed pretty much impossible to find a serious relationship nowadays, at least from a millennial perspective.
+Psych2GoTv *Thanks for the shortlist:* 0:45 *Thoughts on the Future* 1:31 *Short-sighted Economic Decisions* 3:14 *Self-Perception* 4:08 *Adaptability* 5:15 *Education* 6:10 *Access to Mental Health*
I think it was hardest growing up without parents who were interested in investing time, money, ect into trying to find out what there children good at or not being able to afford to have a hobby. Not going on vacation and my dad was terrible with money and would buy lottery tickets as to think he had a chance at winning but instead just spent money we didn't have. The clothes he wore were embarrassing and mine really were because I had my sister's out of style hand me down clothes we were six years apart. I also was made to feel bad by other kids in school because I didn't have the name brands like they did. I still have self worth and feeling as if I'm always seen as poor girl!
Before I had a relationship, I had a decent financial standing, but I was very socially inept. Because of that, I thought if I had a girlfriend or wife, it would fix most of my problems. Fast forward to now, I have a wife, but now my finances are a mess because of the pandemic. I'm feeling depressed like I was before then. Money doesn't buy you happiness, and relationships don't either, but I personally believe that a balance of both gives you access to the building blocks you need for a fulfilling life.
Totally get that feeling. It’s amazing how many problems seem tied to financial stress, and having enough money can provide the stability to focus on other parts of life. While money doesn’t solve everything, it definitely takes care of the basic needs that can cause so much worry.
My fear is returning to a poverty state and finding myself homeless or food insecure. I have a high focus on saving and helping my loved ones who are still less fortunate than I. I still live w a mindset of scarcity and are overtly cautious about spending money. Childhood and poverty, traumatic effects in the immigrant community, my next paper to write. Thanks for this great video.
severe chronic pain to the point that I cannot work - the pain started when I was 3 & the decisions made about it by everyone just made it all worse. Having money back then would maybe not have solved my chronic pain but I could have gotten the care & diagnoses I needed that I couldn't get till I was in my 20s when the pain was much more severe. Right now money would mean I could afford everything I need to take care of myself since I can't work & have to rely on disability. It's very lonely too.
Your discussion about adaptability and resilience really highlights the survivorship bias-we often only hear about the few who 'made it' out of poverty, but we overlook the many who continue to struggle because of systemic challenges. I had a coworker who was incredibly resourceful after growing up with very little, but despite their resilience, there were still so many barriers that weren't easy to overcome. You’ve captured this complex reality perfectly. Well done!
I experienced poverty first-hand once I moved out to live on my own. I thought I had a decent grasp on budgeting, but I had to struggle my first 3 years, with rent, bills and food. Currently living in student loan debts, I've had to learn how to say no to certain luxuries, learn to cook for myself and prioritize "survival" over luxuries. I may have overdone myself as nowadays even if I could afford something, I often refuse to buy it because it's just luxury that might make me happy for only a day. The day my student loans are paid off for good, I look forward to it.
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!
Yes,steve porassss. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
I wish they were readily available in my place. Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac. He's constantly talking about killing someone. He's violent. Anyone reading this Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.
I am 65 years old my husband left me high and dry 6 years ago I have been reeling from this trying to make ends meet and now I'm retirement and unable to work physically I am mentally have gone downhill the last few years I am so sick of stressing all the time about money😢
To be honest, I wasn't raised in poverty as my family was a part of the "middle class," so we had a pretty comfortable life without the need to be rich. But now, money is something I'd need for my education because I can't afford even buying a normal amount of stationary just to be able to learn. Altho I do have a couple of notebooks and binders, it's still not enough for all of the classes I have. I just hope I'll get over this stage of my life quicker than I can notice.
It sounds like you're going through a tough phase right now. Balancing education with financial stress is really challenging, but it’s clear you’re determined to push through. Hang in there-this stage won’t last forever, and better days are ahead!
It’s definitely true that poverty can limit opportunities and add so many obstacles. But it's also important to remember that there are ways to push back, even in small steps. Support systems, education, and mental health resources can help improve things over time. Everyone’s journey looks different, but there’s hope in finding ways to rise above those challenges, even when it feels like the odds are stacked.
Living paycheck to paycheck without health insurance meant that I couldn't afford the medicine I needed to treat my kidney infection. My mom helped me get the meds while her husband is fighting cancer and Medicare won't cover it. This is so messed up
This relates well with me, but I don't consider myself in poverty although that's debatable. Growing up, my dad made it very aware that we could lose the house and didn't have enough money for food and that we're poor. Truth, we could've had more money to help us but we weren't poor. Yes, we could still lose the house but we didn't. I remember feeling so guilty for costing my parents money, that I never ordered anything in restaurants and gave my dad the few pennies I saved up. As an adult, I'm very scared I'll lose my house. Not because of money, but getting kicked out or something. Just paranoia. So money does truly affect mental health and is important.
@rose5602: Not paranoia, the problem is real. Where my parent's house in El Sereno(5 miles east of LOs Angeles, near CSULA), my down the street neighbors lost their house because the dad lost his job; their neighbors were kind enough to let them park their car in their driveway for a long time, but over time they had to leave. Those folks lived in their house for >20 years. This was 5 years ago, I don't know what happened to the family, but I feel for them, they had daughter that was the same age as my little sis. This is a story that I personally know off, but I am sure that this story has been repeat over, and over again, and again. In Los Angeles there is a huge homeless population,
I lost my house when I was near the end of high school, it was foreclosed on end of 2010 and some homeless moved in when we moved out and became squatters. At the end of the day, you will be able to move on, few things in life last forever but remember the good when you have while you have it. I had some family sell us a house later on many years later so my family was lucky. I just want to say it's not the end of the world if you lose it, you may get another opportunity in the future if you get lucky. Though I know with every generation it can certainly be rougher.
literally all i want is just $5000. with that i could cover my own medical costs myself so my mom doesn't have to do it for me help my parents pay some of our taxes buy a PC so i can do digital art or get a work-at-home job and still have enough left over to maybe go on at least one trip out of state.
You didn't specify anything about you. I suggest: - finding a job - changing jobs (never quit job01 before you get job02, never!!!) - take courses to improve or to get in a new domain that's better paid - go to another country/state/city that offers better pay (be careful, some places may be more expensive) - don't take loans for anything in this world, if you can couch surf or live in your car for some time, do that
Money can’t buy you happiness, but, because of our viewpoints, money can buy things or even pets that lead to feelings of satisfaction, achievement and enjoyment, making us at least think we’re happier…
@@adamantiuscloudcat1799 Yeah, it could perhaps be hard for those without mental health issues but, on second thoughts, it is possible to have nothing to want for in the entire world and still have anxiety issues and other mental health issues, because it depends on our personal viewpoints and who we are, etc.
@@adamantiuscloudcat1799 A sense of belonging and fulfillment. Money can't replace all human needs, worse, money can sap one of humanity if human history is any indicator. Excessive wealth is basically empty calories for the soul - it won't satisfy.
Starting in college and getting credit cards began a spiral of debt that grew worse when i got a full-time job. I had to make up for all of what i couldn't have growing up. After incurring debt too great to repay, I had to file bankruptcy. I'd lived on a budget of sorts since being on my own at 18, but that plastic allowed me to live well beyond my means. Bankruptcy really helped me to mature into a person who understands that healing the childhood trauma of growning up poor takes more than stuff. The hurt is more emotional and can be dealt with, in part, by buying small treats when i can afford them, not satisfying every desire like a child would, and getting into debt. Growing up poor isn't something to be ashamed of. Learning from what things contributed to it by our parent(s) and not continuing that unhealthy behavior is key to breaking the cycle of poverty. I own my home, car is paid off, and I've a little money in the bank. Sure, I couldn't do so much of what others did, but i did some. I have fun in my own ways. Financial security is what matters to me nowadays.
As a disabled person that didn't have healthcare upon diagnosis (almost immediately the second of two deaths in the family) I grew up silently aware that my health was the reason my little brother and sister were hungry and and the reason my dad worked different jobs and was never home. And growing up we couldn't afford normal heat in winter, which used to be bad when northern New York had snow. So I'd often layer up clothes for 50 degree nights inside. And at meals I'd always wait to eat until everyone else did, and lied that I wasn't that hungry because of meds. I am now a seven month pregnant woman who weighs 126.8 and am 5'8". My son thank goodness is big healthy and chubby for his age, but I still have to fight urges like food rationing and ignoring hunger. Any time we eat out I save half for later by habit still, and still order water for my drink. I still sleep in clothes and under all blankets at night even though my apartment is cozy. I still penny pinch to the point where it's a laughing point amongst my family how stingy I am. Luckily everyone has better jobs, and everything is more stable. But I still panic buying anything because "do I really need this food and piece of clothing/toiletry, or is it just a want I'm justifying?"
This video actually helps a lot surprisingly 😅 I just realized I have a habit of spending money fast because growing up whenever I tried to save money I got from doing jobs it'd be 'borrowed' from me to pay for stuff lol
Heh I have over attachment to my stuff, I get depressed for weeks when I lose it. It's thanks to my mom, she gave away my Gameboy to some kid, thinking it was okay because "I wasn't using it" Never thinking bout why I wasn't interested either...
@@Psych2goI have a question about the bad and hard side of being really smart while also being a psychopath and a dark empath. I’ve had complex ideas since I was about three years old things like space, science, history and more were easy. My IQ tests often scored above 160, some 200+ etc I learned and watched documentary that even adults couldn't understand I even was part of a project wher they teach kids hard stuff first then easy stuff, I was given stuff that adults could not understand high complex equations etc (taught myself writing and speaking Englisch from watching a kid play with toys took me a day to speack english and some time to write), but as I grew older, I struggled more with understanding and connecting with people emotionally. After scoring a 40 on the PCL-R test and getting a brain scan (had a injury and had to be operated), I learned that I was a psychopath and a dark empath (more of that later on). Growing up was pretty tough. I ended up learning to manipulate others just to cope with social situations (was born after a war wher our economy was low and kinda bad was bron in a powerful family tho what just made others expect more from me). I just asket about your opinion because I allways wonder what others think and your the expert here. Is being different really such a bad thing. At some points its just annoying like I unintentionally manipulate others to do stuff for me and more its just smth that you can't explain.
When I was growing up, I didn't receive a yearly physical, eye exams, dental care, etc. I had emotional problems and social anxiety but my parents left me to try to figure things out myself. I think they were too wrapped up in their own problems.... like worrying about the bills, putting food on the table
Some of the most kindest most considerate people are those that have been without and continue to be without homeless people have a kindness that is rarely shown in the media what's truly important is how one is raised what one learns and being poor offers more lessons in humanity than being wealthy being born wealthy isn't a leg up not really because seldom do these people have the work ethic and appreciation for what they have that being said if someone is raised in a wealthy home the best thing for them is to not spend money on them restrict the benefits of wealth to teach appreciation and a proper work ethic
When I fell on hard times a few years ago, friends who don't have a pot to piss in, stuck by me and helped me out. Meanwhile, two friends of mine who are quite well off, totally ghosted me.
It doesn't buy you happiness but let's you live in comfort. Many nowadays are too entitled or assume many live like they do and should be on their level... Or you're gaslighted and shunned.
This outlook is only for those trying to live in “first world” standards. Changing my mindframe simply changed my life. Now I raise my own food, and forage it like our ancestors did. We have no idea how close we are to our “needs.” It’s much easier to meet your needs when you understand how and where and why. I eat quality steak, the best eggs, and top quality pork almost every day. I’m healthier than ever, I work my ass off and I feel great. Mindframe plays a huge role. Once we stop trying to live up to North American ideals, we are substantially happier.
the thing about loans, my mom has and still is juggling different loans from different places, sometimes taking out loans to pay off bigger ones fortunately she has alot of understanding people in her life, so friends or family gives a handful now and then to help pay off the occasional bailiff and while she hasnt explicitly said this, i feel a sense of responsibility, like i need to get a high paying job to help out i just want her one to wake up not worrying about how much food is in the house 🙁
Don’t forget the possible generational trauma, Neurodiversities, &/or even abuse present within impoverished homes as one grows up. Especially as it’s damn near impossible to pull oneself’s (invisible) bootsraps out of said poverty. Also, there was no mention about being a POC/Person of Color. Nor the intentional gate keeping by the rich & powerful over higher education since the Anti-Vietnam Protests. Side note: It’s always been a class war first, & a “race” war second; that’s how the rich have divided & conquered over the centuries.
The reason why POC and classicism wasn't mentined is because it's a political subject, which psych2go doesn't and shouldn't talk about. Firstly because this channel focuses on psychology and all our psychology is the same regardless of skin colour. Secondly, political subject are always very subjective, what you may think is the "truth" would immediately be brought in to question by anyone with an opposing view, straying from what the goal is, to bring comfort and understanding to mental struggles. There are many outlets for these types of subjects, especially nowadays, please use those.
Being POC, doesnt equall to poverty. Even some European countries have poverty. Its a cultural and government problem and has nothing to do with skin color
Its not just the wealthier countries who colonized other countries. What about Arab slavery, Mongolian slavery, African slave trade etc... Its more on a human problem than skin color since your skin is just an organ that protects your insides
I don't even have the words for my response, but this video hits home. It just made me think of a quote (not sure if it's accurate or not: "The measure of a man is what he does with power." ~Plato~
One point that you made was significant to me. I didn't discover that I had both ADHD and PDD, with a large amount of anxiety until I was 23 years old. I'm still in poverty, and I'm unable to treat these. But knowing at least helps, a lot.
insecurity... I am not an insecure person. But the thought of lack of money and having debt gives me anxiety and panic attacks. And not being able to escape a situation at "home" because I don't have money to rent alone.
Nothing in life worth doing is ever easy! Do rich people have it easy though? They face great adversity through judgement and jealousy and toxic family dynamics.
@@andrewscotney7644okay? And they have the money to put restraining orders on all of them? Or hell move to another area anytime? I much rather have it easy then be forced to choose weather to not eat for 3 days or keeping my lights on... In a studio apparment... Well working 3 jobs and having 140 hours per 2 weeks. 💀 Like dude i just want a house(nothing fancy ofc) and the ability to not worry if my health takes a dive I'll be homeless and being able to buy food.
@@andrewscotney7644also i had a super toxic family dynamic, CSA, abuse, drugs and much more were done to me at the start of 4... Went into fostercare at 10 aged out the system and now i have no one.
Wonderful as always! I have an MA and worked in education for over 30 years. I have had the pleasure of working with all types of clients from uber rich to very poor, from many parts of the world. I want to say I would take a less advantaged client over a rich one any time ! The wealthy clients mostly were into themselves, already knew everything, and thought they could just throw money at something to fix it! Less advantage families showed gratitude and respect!
I grew up in poverty and dire circumstances. I've come a long way since my humble upbringing. The past almost 2 years have been draining. First time being broke, not finding a job and having to be careful with money. I can't remember when I was content. I've got career aspirations but I can't afford the education for it despite my potential. Feeling pretty hopeless and lowkey gave up on my dreams 😢
I have been raised in a mid-low income family. Despite my disadvantaged circumstances, I have always been studying at school. I worked abroad for a few years after high school thanks to my English language proficiency and mental resilience. After that, I moved back to my home country (Italy) and I managed to attend a very good university where I am going to graduate this year. I believe that mental strength is the key to success in life. If you are really determined to improve your life circumstances, you are going to find a way out to escape from poverty, no matter what. Of course, this situation could be much more doable for people who don’t live in a extreme poor country. However, if I did it (as a girl from a low income family) you can do it too! I see the light at the end of the tunnel now, thanks to my current job and bachelor’s degree.
No. The game is rigged already. Few are able to change their financial strata without a spectacular stroke of luck, a contact in another strata, or an excess of talent, no amount of work or effort will change anything. You just end up more tired.
@@Bookwyrm86 I understand how you feel. However, if we don’t make the move to change our situation, we will end up even more miserable. “Luck”, “destiny” are just words. Sure, bad things, or even tragic events, can happen but we have to find the courage to take the risk. When I was 20, I took the courage to leave my family and home country to move abroad with little money in my pockets, which mostly came from my part time job when I was a student in high school. At the end, I figured to have well paid and safe jobs and I was able to save money to live in Italy after four years of living abroad. Everything happened because of my skills to network with the right people in terms of of work along with planning my goals. I admit that I lived in a wealthy country in Europe so social conditions are not rough there. However, determination and mental strength are essential to keep going.
I grew up in a sort of poverty. Because of my body shape, I was blamed for the lack of money in the house. I grew used to making myself small, even when it comes to eating. I am trying to fix it now. I am still deep in debt, about to face foreclosure. My utilities are shut off. Yet, I am still hopeful. Thank you for the video.
I'm really sad reading this Hippie. I hope this time of challenge passes quickly. I can empathize. I developed stage iv brain cancer and just totally detached from the world around me. I lost my home. I'm living in my city's worst homeless shelter, trying to get into housing. I'm terrified that I'll never have housing again and I'm gonna die in this place.
This video made me cry. I've always felt shame for ever thinking I've missed opportunity because my family was poor. I thought that wasn't a justifiable excuse for failing at so much in life. Even now i struggle admitting it despite everything brought up in this video.
Male poverty sucks. I am not in poverty but some family members of mine that are male experience this, They said they had a low paying job and wet dreams. Even after poverty some wet dreams. But now it’s rarely.
I thought for some time in living off grid, not because of ecological or social ideals, just to escape the need of producing money in order to sustain a stressfull and non rewarding lifestyle. In the end, I couldn't, as much as it sounds great to spend my days making a house in a remote area, or a garden, bigger ideias I want to achieve are just not possible in that sort of life.
Basic Living should not be this difficult to afford here in the US. (I love my country) but It feels like no matter what we do, it doesn't matter, you'll barely be able to afford your rent, you feel worthless, it has gotten so out of control. ~Serious question: HOW was our country allowed to get THIS bad? How is Nothing being done about it? It's not being talked about, it's not being addressed. This is the most crucial issue that needs to be addressed right now if we want to keep our society from collapsing. This obsession with achieving Perpetual growth is impossible. Yet our country acts like perpetual growth is a completely reasonable goal. There is no way anything can function like that. A huge majority of the population is struggling to even afford Rent.. All of this of course also affects small town businesses because the rent on these shops has increased too. Our country is pretty much requiring everyone to find ways to increase their income but our country isn't providing any options for a huge % of our population. Remember this is just so people could keep up with the increased cost of basic living. With the way our society is structured all of this is completely impossible. It's not possible for us to live in a system where everybody can be wealthy. So lots of store fronts are becoming vacant. Average people cannot afford basic rent. There is absolutely no help for our citizens who are now stuck in poverty.. (and worst of all, we have to wake up everyday and see that our country is completely ignoring that any of this is happening. The media just acts like none of this is going on. They just continue to show us clips on the news and statistics in the media about "How much our economy is thriving")
Thanks for sharing this! I'm writing a novel in which one of the secondary characters used to be poor (her father was a compulsive gambler and lost all of the family's savings at the casino), so this will definitely help me make her character more realistic!
I know I am not alone here...I grew up in a difficult situation...and I have worked my fingers to the bone, still do. I have made over six figures without a college degree in my twenties, and even though I am riding out a low right now, I am on my way back there. Money really doesn't give you happiness, but it does give you security...shouldn't have partied all that money away...but I DID have a blast lol
I grew up in the middle class, but in recent years, I've fallen further and further away from that. Money doesn't guarantee success, but it definitely increases your chances. An increasingly difficult financial landscape feels like a black hole on your soul and wallet. It's very difficult to pull away from that.
That's a great video. Well, I can't complain much about my childhood. I actually had a normal childhood. We didn't have much money, but I took dance lessons, then swimming lessons, and my brother took soccer lessons, and we went out a lot; they weren't expensive trips, but just outings in my own city, so I can't complain about the childhood I had. But, throughout my adolescence, our standard of living declined a lot and we spent years and years struggling financially. Sometimes we didn't even have enough money to buy a loaf of bread at the bakery; it was only enough to pay, for better or worse, our bills and our food. It was only last year that our life started to improve a little financially, but we lived on very little for more than ten years, I think. And I really agree that money doesn't bring happiness, but that only happens to those who have already achieved everything they wanted to buy and already have lots of it. There really does come a point where it no longer fulfills us. But for mere mortals like most of us who live on budget, we know the value of money. On the one hand, this is good, because it makes us more humble, it make us stronger, but on the other hand, it causes a lot of shame and pain, both physically and mentally. I wish that no one in the world had to go through poverty, especially extreme poverty. Of course, I don't think that everyone should be a billionaire, since there is a lot of inequality in this world, but what I mean is that everyone should have a decent life, without having to worry about what they're going to eat tomorrow.
I think the social component is a major one. It starts at school, I often felt isolated because I couldn't share the same experiences almost everybody else had, like going on vacations. Now I'm in mit mid 30s, but still feel like I missed out on life. People love sharing experiences of their youth like going out, travelling, going to concerts, you name it. I haven't been able to experience these things in my youth and often people don't understand that at all and give you the "weird person" look. As for dating, I felt not worthy of starting a family if I couldn't provide for them, so that didn't happen. Most people my age reached all of that goals already so I feel like I really missed out on life itself. I just recently managed to improve my situation due to hard work and much luck with a new job, so I'm trying to catch up. But it is really weird and embarassing when people start talking about their experiences and you either just sit their and smile or think back about that black hole that is your past. It really affects self worth in my case. We weren't extremely poor, but hardly got by.
Money solves financial issues. Money pays your rent/mortgage, electricity bill and buys you adequate food and clothing. You may go for a massage to ease some nevk, shoulder/ back tensions/pains. These are a few pros of having money. If food and adequate shelter were somehow free, Money would not be so important in our daily lives.
Being raised in poverty, there was always a lot of violence. I feel like I’ve experienced violence since I was a child. The first memories I have of my mom and dad they were already divorced before I was old enough to ever know what was going on every time they were around each other they would get in a fight, sometimes partially physical. It scared the crap out of me as a child. I had no clue what to do. I’ve watched generation after generation of poverty, just fall apart, just slowly constantly falling apart until there’s nothing left. and adapting you have to adapt or you’ll die also being poor you have to learn to do most of your own stuff so a lot of times you have to be your own mechanic your own plumber your carpenter basically you have to learn most things because you can’t afford to pay people to do them for you. And it does become to where all we’re doing and all we’ve been doing for a long time is just surviving. We’re not living. We’re just surviving and that is barely hanging on by threads.
I related to the effects of undiagnosed ADHD part very much. The understanding of ADHD was very weak where I grew upp. Growing up without an explanation for why I could not do things like all the other kids in school was hard. I was called lazy and dumb even I called me that.
I live with my family and we're doing fine all things considered, but with my own perspective, even graduating as a Valedictorian, I am quick on my feet aka resourceful, fiercely independent, I can make things happen when my mind is set on it, ect ect. Even with all that I at most times feel like a loser, because I want to become great, not for myself, but make sure people around me can have a better tomorrow even if I never experience peace myself. As of right now, I always fear of being left behind and I half-kill myself just so I don't fall behind and most of the time I have to put on a mask showing that it looks like I feel ok, only the reality being that it hurts so much all the time to maintain that look.
A good friend of mine started working at 11 or 12 years old, earning a loaf of bread a day to bring home to his crippled mother and younger sister. That was their dinner every single day. On Easter or Christmas, they might have had some meat as well. *Hardships build character.* I believe he's now grateful for his past, as it molded him into the man he is today. With that growth, he strives to give his family the very best.
Making an honest living and seeing the beauty in the struggle should definitely keep you optimistic. Creativity and doing things that don’t cost a lot of money also helps. The thing is even wealthy people don’t flash their money. They invest and save. It’s all about managing your priorities and making sacrifices. It’s not easy in such a judgmental society that is super capitalistic (in the west) but you need to see past all of that. Create a goal for yourself and be humble while getting there. God will always bless those that maintain this humility ❤
Friendship. I used to only mix around only with friends who haven't figured out their finance system, and snub rich people. This is of cos counterproductive and kept me in the vicious cycle of staying poor. The lack of access to proper mental health services and well-being education is so real. Luckily, UA-cam is increasingly become a leveller, providing free access for self-awareness. Please know that your content is absolutely useful.
For me it was a huge struggle trying to get started with hobbies and passions. Whilst many others could still live at home in their 20s and put any money they earned into fulfilling and progressing their hobbies - I had to leave home, work twice as much to keep up with rent and had minimal spare income to finance my real pleasures in life. It was hard to come to terms with that and to grow without feeling bitter resentment towards others in a better place because that helps no one, especially yourself :)
A lot of people fail to understand that having a support system, food security, safe housing, receiving medical care, job stability and financial wealth are privileges. Despite these things being human rights they’re considered “privileges” because not everyone has access to them. Growing up and living in poverty is traumatic. Money can’t buy happiness but it creates financial stability and provides options. I’ve been struggling with finances while constantly facing the threat of homelessness while trying to evade abusive relatives and my covert narcissist ex. I’ve grown up and am still living in poverty but regularly volunteering at pantries in my community and others, cultivating safety networks with virtual support groups and continuously educating myself are 3 of few things that help my struggle somewhat tolerable.
Both of my parents grew up on poverty in the 60s in Europe. Growing up, I didn't realize that the reason we always had a lot of food in our fridge was because my parents were food hoarding. It explains why a friend of mines jaw dropped when he saw inside our fridge. It explains why my dad has never gotten rid of any of his jackets and shirts and why my mom has 40, yes 40 serving trays, multiple service ware, and refuses to part with her insane amount of Christmas decorations. Everything thing is saved, reused, and throwing out food is a sin.
What effects me the most is how it seems like the simple things I want, like being able to go places, or learn a new skill to better myself, always seem just out of reach. Like the universe is saying: "No, these things aren't for you. Suffering, hardship, and lack are for you." It is stressful to feel like the only way to survive is to work yourself into am early grave. With life's goalposts always changing, there is a real strong "What's the point?" Vibe going through my life at times. It's not even about comparing myself to social media. Its about my views of where i want to be on my personal journey versus the reality of it, due to bills, and the outside idea that everything should be geared to survival, and that is it.
I didn’t grow up in poverty but my father did and his self-limiting and constantly worrying behavior had an impact on my upbringing. Sometimes it is frustrating to see him using broken stuffs because they can still serve the function (barely). Even though his modest lifestyle helped me understand the value of money in early age, it affected his children in different ways: my brother is super strict with money to the point of neglecting his health, my sister and I exhibit behaviors of what the video says ‘short-sighted economical decision’. At times when I see people from wealthier background who travel the world and look seemingly more resourceful, confident, and knowledgable than I am, I wonder had my parents invested in other educational means outside of school for us, would I have been more successful today…
One of the best videos I've watched on the subject,ever!!! Thank you so much for putting in perspective,many things that one couldn't figure out at the time!
The fact that all people that come from a stable financial support system fail to understand the struggles and the time it takes to get out of the poverty fence is painful. They still continue to exploit nepotism that reduces the chances further of a reasonably knowledgeable person coming from poverty to setup a solid financial support system.
I could relate much to the vid. I grew up gaslighted "at least you have a house". But with barely having food, not having anything to use much in school and an allowance just enough to go to school and back home, my childhood isn't pretty. I still have problems trying to buy something very very necessary because it reaches a certain amount (and from where I am from we don't buy big packs or wholesale packs for groceries) and still go back to buying the smallest possible amount of what I can use every day, even if it's more expensive in the long run.
For me it’s the time you spend with those you care about. Money to me at least never meant anything since you can’t get time back so I try to make the time they spend with me worth it.
Been teetering along the poverty line. Met someone living in poverty...helped them a bit but damn man I almost got pulled down, it's not a one person job that's for sure and it's a very heavy lift but they thankfully seem to be doing a lot better now.
I have extreme difficulty saving money, I spend it very carelessly. My brother tho, is the complete opposite. Saves every penny as it is possible, and it seems like he has it all together, but now I see it must come from anxiety over instability
I grew up poor as a rat in a dirty rich family including my father. They made my mother and me feel that we were failures, that we never were going to get what we deserve. My mother, I knew her always with deep depression with drinking problems. In the other hand, I'm in survival mode 24/7, with anxiety disorder. The worst of everything is that my mother had a English literature degree and I'm a veterinarian but unemployed that I want is a big windfall to get out of where I am and go to the UK to get a career opportunity and feel free 💖🙏🏼💪
Money definitely plays a big part in life, but it’s also important to remember that other things like health, relationships, and purpose can be just as vital. Balancing it all is the real key!
This one hurts... To this day I still feel like I'm trying to make it to the basic stable household in the financial sense. Every step I take is the wrong one in my own mind even when it's in fact a positive one because more often than not it is a long game type investment ( ie education, potential self business, etc). No matter what my brain goes "are we going to need to scrounge the garbage for food or not?" While I have, and will continue to, push forward I will never shake that.
Way more opportunities for people with access to money or financial knowledge. Growing up poor leads to insecurity, anxiety, feelings of worthlessness. Now, as an adult… the thought of spending money on a vacation or something nice leads to thoughts of “what if something happens and I need that money for something more important?” And as we know… things happen all the time. Growing up poor carries on in adult life, even if we’re better off now and not considered poor. That fear of poverty is always present
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Not to be rude, but..there is a very big difference in being poor in a 1st world country versus living in poverty in a 2nd or 3 world country. The only people who live in poverty in 1st world countries are homeless people and even then they have programs to help them. Where as my parents grew up in a place where there was no help, they only had 2 pairs of underwear, 3 pairs of clothing, would go without meals, would sometimes eat hard, moldy bread. Couldnt afford to go to school after the age of 10. And mental health care was non existent.
Living in this kind of poverty causes food hoarding and other kinds of not so well seen hoarding. This is seen in families from many other countries as well as survivors of war and survivors of the Holocaust
We didn’t have much growing up. I had no idea because we had so much love in the home. We looked out for each other. My grandma had very creative ways, good relationships with people in the community that fixed things and kept food in the house. My mom was very creative and skillful. As a hairdresser, she kept us looking good. I shared clothes with my sister. We kept everything clean and learned to mix and match. People never knew, nor did we know as children just how financially stressed we were. Poverty has many faces. Mindset over the matter has made a world of a difference in how we view life and living.
Atleast life wasn't so bad with such a good family
You were healthy. Health can cist you everything.
Also, you only mentioned women in your house. They were carrying the burden while males were happily f off.
You have a very empowering story! It’s inspiring how love, creativity, and community can make such a difference, even when resources are limited. It’s true that sometimes, in places where material things are scarce, we find strength in focusing on what truly matters-family, relationships, and resilience. Your mindset really shows how much perspective can shape how we live and view the world. Thank you for sharing!
And that, is PRICELESS!!@vasko27-l4r
This is BEAUTIFUL and INSPIRING. If only more families and communities were so loving. Being there for each other in a GENUINE way makes a world of difference. Money cannot buy togetherness and compassion.🙏🏾❤️
Not having enough money to live without being scared of becoming homeless in case something bad and unexpected happened is nightmare, neverending stress affecting entire body
What affected me the most as a child growing up in poverty was lack of food and the violence. I was very soft hearted but growing up in the hood is almost synonymous with having to tussle.
Add 2 that ur black then female. Y even truly try?
I grew up dirt poor. I didn't even have diapers. I had old tshirts with clothes pins used as a diaper. I missed out on a lot of happy times because of being poor. I'm still poor even today in this overinflated inflation and all my family is dead. Poverty from a kid to adulthood can definitely lead to chronic depression and being stuck in a fast world.
I hate hearing that I wish things could be different everything sucks today can't afford nothing if you're not rich absolutely nothing
I am also dirt broke with no family to lean on in this difficult economy. I can't help but envy those who can move back in with family for support. Poverty takes many shapes and forms besides money.
@@NaomiTCOOKIES Me too, no money and no living relatives left or available to seek help from let alone speak to. Years of poverty, violence, and homelessness has destroyed my family. It's a miracle I was able to get enough grants student loans to get into community college, now I just need to finish 3 years of university and I'll have 50k in debt. Though I've been working since I was legally allowed to at 15 just to pay for school supplies and afford to pitch in with bills as a teen. 50k in debt is circling over my head and I'm screwed if I don't get hired immediately after school, even then that's no guarantee I'll be okay. Interest rates are over 6% and I've got an estimate for $250 a month, and that's for the loans I owe now which isn't even half of 50k. I've never been able to afford a car and I have to split rent with roommates in the hood just to get by, and if I mess up a single class I have to drop out and start paying the 22k I already owe since classes are offered in a specific order one semester a year. There's no playbook, no one tells you how to survive let alone escape poverty. I haven't been able to get a job in eight months and I have to cough up enough money to move to a bigger town with more job opportunities, but I don't know how to do that when minimum wage is still $7.25 where I live. I hope it works out for all of us, this world ain't cheap and no one is here to help you get by, not for free and certainly not for cheap.
It is fast friend. Change is tough for a lot of us. I know lack of funds prevents lots of activities. Still, connection is what makes us healthy, and that is available, especially as a volunteer.
We grew up poor, I was teased for it, but by insecure fools, enjoying the intensity of dominance.
Anyway, hope you find connection. Everybody needs that, and I'm sure there's enough to go around.
Man, I'm so sorry to hear that. I really hope things get better for you. Life can change for the better in a heartbeat, and I pray that it happens for you, brother.
I sometimes hate the fact that my existence solely revolves around what's in my wallet.
It's the American way! 😊
Its not your actions or your kindness or race
Its money
The race one actually used to exist
My mailbox has one purpose. When I'm doing well, it's full of ads. When I'm doing badly, it's full of bills. That's all it ever does.
Same here 😮
Me too.
I was raised in a fairly normal middle class household, but I wouldn't say I got all that much support growing into adulthood. I found poverty as an adult after failing to find work with my useless degree, and once you're in it, it's extremely hard to break out since solutions like going back to school for another degree cost money I don't have. Now I'm making the financially irresponsible decision of going back to school anyway. Worst case I bankrupt myself, but honestly would that be much worse than being poor with no future prospects anyway?
What sucks most is that all the money does indeed to to basic living expenses. Even going out to meet friends is a expensive luxury because public transportation costs money, not to mention if they want to do something else that costs money, like eat out, participate in entertainment, sports, any activities other than just existing. Poverty in a consumer society can promote social isolation.
Money may not directly give you happiness, but it can afford your needs to attain happiness.
my familys' financial state has been in a painful downhill ever since covid, depths of debt, being barely able to eat twice a day, it makes me question if we're able to even get out of this state of misery, being sick or depressed is bad enough, being poor is even worse, both is devastating.
Yup. That survival mode can make people really desperate and they end up pulling people in with them. It's very difficult to get out
I’m really sorry to hear you’re going through such a tough time. You’re absolutely right-money may not directly bring happiness, but having your basic needs met can make a huge difference. It’s incredibly hard to face both financial and emotional struggles at the same time, but know that your strength through these challenges is powerful. Don’t lose hope, even though it feels overwhelming right now. Taking small steps, reaching out for support, and staying resilient can help you move forward, one day at a time.
I think one of the most thought-provoking things I learnt in an engineering module at uni was that you can generally split things into two categories within management: Hygiene (Things that are needed for appropriate functioning) and Incentives (Things that motivate you to take things to the next level). Incentives don’t work if not all hygiene factors are met. For instance, you can throw all the pizza parties you want to boost morale (incentive), but that won’t improve the work output if you don’t get enough sleep due to constant overtime (hygiene).
The interesting thing here, is that we had a brief discussion on where to put wages. In the end, the professor expressed that wages are hygiene factors, as you need enough money to sustain yourself (a living wage), and one that accurately reflects the value of your work, before you can be incentivised to do more. Doesn’t matter how many benefits you get by working overtime, if you can’t afford missing a shift at your second job. A bonus for hard work would be an incentive, but basic wages should rarely be considered it.
Money is a basic need.
This is such a thoughtful point! The distinction between hygiene factors and incentives is really insightful, especially in the context of poverty. Wages as a basic need (hygiene) makes total sense-without financial stability, it's hard to be motivated by any additional incentives. The psychological effects of growing up in poverty highlight this too, as it shapes how we view security and well-being. No matter how many “extras” are offered, the foundation needs to be secure first. Thanks for sharing your perspective-it adds so much to this discussion!
It really did! @@Psych2go
Overtly hoarding parents. The struggle to throw anything away.
No quality time with parents, too busy working
Sensitive and overly emotional parents due to stress
It sounds like you're describing some really difficult dynamics that can come from living under constant stress. The struggle with hoarding, lack of quality time, and heightened emotions are all very real impacts. While it's important to recognize how these behaviors can stem from poverty and stress, it’s also key to remember that parents, even when stressed, can still find moments for connection. It might help to explore how these habits could shift, even in small ways, with emotional support and open communication.
I have experienced poverty. I have had very long periods of time with no food or close to no food. That time is over but the effects is that when I try to fast, it triggers the starvation time in my soul and the anxiety level goes through the roof. It's like I would be doing to myself what circumstances had done to me previously.😢
That time might be over for how...but it's always waiting around a corner. We are mostly just one disaster away from poverty.
I grew up in poverty. It made me way more financially aware, responsible, and an extremely hard worker. I joined the Army as a way to get a college degree, and it worked out great because I WANTED to learn. I did have the feeling of hopelessness at times struggling paycheck to paycheck. I doesn't work that way for most people, but don't ever give up! I finally made it to middle class. :D I'm glad I grew up in poverty because I appreciate what I have now.
Only bad habit I still have from growing up in poverty is the habit of eating one meal a day, I can afford more now but my body is so used to it that I usually dont.
money buys you peace of mind
I disagree for me, nature and love bring me peace of mind.
@javierpacheco8234 I'm not being rude, but if you are in a situation where you can't pay your EMI's and rent. Sure, your mind will be messed up in those situations.
@@Chick0714 of course Becuase I will be worried on not having the money to pay the rent and if I didn't have a job, I will most likely stea and become a criminall. For me, the concept of money is the origin of evil. I hate the existence of money and the "economy" since those are made up things.
@@javierpacheco8234 if you were looking at an eviction notice, you would not be so happy about the thought of spending cold nights outside or couchsurfing if you're lucky to have good friends who don't have this issue
@javierpacheco8234 try nature when it's-40 out and you're in a sleeping bag and tent, hoping someone from a charity brings you hot soup, coffee, and a sandwich
Love how you started it by saying that for most of us here, it's only just about survival and affording the most basic needs whereas the more privileged people can go beyond that with resources at their disposal. Some people just can't seem to understand this.
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@@Psych2go hey I need your help
I haven’t went in vacation for 7 years and I have very bad stage of envy,everyone I trust went in vacation and left me with their bad community
you are the only trust I have in life.
I need to know what to do
@@q3-7 I’m really sorry to hear you’re feeling like this. It’s tough when you’re stuck in one place while others are moving on. Sometimes, finding small ways to treat yourself, even if it’s not a vacation, can help. Maybe plan a mini getaway or something fun that you can control, even locally. You deserve moments of peace and joy too, and I believe you’ll find a way through this stage. We have a community here so if you have any challenges, others can also chime in to help as well.
@@Psych2go yea but I’m also trapped at home
@@Psych2go my family controls me :(,nice try though:)
I cried watching the entire video because I'm never getting out of poverty and my life only revolves around money, bills, work, and at home. I never live a normal life for myself, just once in awhile. I also never went to college for this reason AND I never got the proper, official treatment and diagnosis I could've had as 4 year old that would've helped me as I got older.
As someone who was poor as a child, I can relate to all this. Even though my dad successfully lifted us out of poverty, I can still feel the pain to poor people like its my own
It’s incredible how those early experiences can stay with you, even after things improve. Your empathy for those still struggling shows how deeply you understand what it's like. That connection and compassion are powerful-thank you for sharing your story.
Guys I am telling you, if you have been working at a company for a long time, don't be afraid to ask for a raise. More than likely he/she will give it, and worst case they say no.
Companies are not your friends so don't expect your boss to give a raise if he/she doesn't have to.
I just asked just today and got one and I am so so happy. Be brave guys and gals. I trust in you.
The worst thing they can do is to fire you for asking for a raise.
It’s actually better to leave a company that you’ve been with. Get the experience and apply for other places with that experience. Staying loyal to one business can actually be a bad thing these days unfortunately
Once I worked at a startup company for 10days they been giving work lots even made me doing work at my hostel and not even given offer letter for the job and even kept company sim in my personal phone for work even though my phone is not dual sim. I resigned then. I feel guilt being unemployed and also not.
It also sucks in the dating world, especially if you're still "catching up." It's like by a certain age, people expect you to have certain things like making 6 figures and be fully promoted in your career and you must have your own place/not live with your parents as a "pre-requisite" (especially for straight men where they're "expected to pay for everything" and it saddens me whenever I see fellow women my age who have that mindset). Another one is if you don't travel, you're perceived as "boring" too. 🙄
Can extend to even just friendships/trying to meet people IRL and miss out on social opportunities just because you're not willing to drop money (however much that may be) all the time.
Somebody who actually understands how it feels and is with the dating world too!! Its super unrealistic what people want in the dating world now. Do you feel most of dating this generation is impossible?
Not just that, the pain men feel when they don't even attempt to pursue a relationship because they couldn't provide for their partner adds a whole new layer of shame and self-hatred. I'd know.
I make 48K a year, which I find solid and I think, I couldn't simply afford a girlfriend.
@@MedievalTrap Ugh, right?! I definitely do feel like it gets worse the older you get and that it's indeed pretty much impossible to find a serious relationship nowadays, at least from a millennial perspective.
@@Auricerise would you like to be friends? And talk more about it
+Psych2GoTv *Thanks for the shortlist:*
0:45 *Thoughts on the Future*
1:31 *Short-sighted Economic Decisions*
3:14 *Self-Perception*
4:08 *Adaptability*
5:15 *Education*
6:10 *Access to Mental Health*
I think it was hardest growing up without parents who were interested in investing time, money, ect into trying to find out what there children good at or not being able to afford to have a hobby. Not going on vacation and my dad was terrible with money and would buy lottery tickets as to think he had a chance at winning but instead just spent money we didn't have. The clothes he wore were embarrassing and mine really were because I had my sister's out of style hand me down clothes we were six years apart. I also was made to feel bad by other kids in school because I didn't have the name brands like they did. I still have self worth and feeling as if I'm always seen as poor girl!
Having money would’ve solved 99% of my problems
Totally 100% true in my life also
and for the other 1% of problems you hire other people to make them go away
Me too
Before I had a relationship, I had a decent financial standing, but I was very socially inept.
Because of that, I thought if I had a girlfriend or wife, it would fix most of my problems.
Fast forward to now, I have a wife, but now my finances are a mess because of the pandemic. I'm feeling depressed like I was before then.
Money doesn't buy you happiness, and relationships don't either, but I personally believe that a balance of both gives you access to the building blocks you need for a fulfilling life.
Totally get that feeling. It’s amazing how many problems seem tied to financial stress, and having enough money can provide the stability to focus on other parts of life. While money doesn’t solve everything, it definitely takes care of the basic needs that can cause so much worry.
My fear is returning to a poverty state and finding myself homeless or food insecure. I have a high focus on saving and helping my loved ones who are still less fortunate than I. I still live w a mindset of scarcity and are overtly cautious about spending money. Childhood and poverty, traumatic effects in the immigrant community, my next paper to write. Thanks for this great video.
severe chronic pain to the point that I cannot work - the pain started when I was 3 & the decisions made about it by everyone just made it all worse. Having money back then would maybe not have solved my chronic pain but I could have gotten the care & diagnoses I needed that I couldn't get till I was in my 20s when the pain was much more severe. Right now money would mean I could afford everything I need to take care of myself since I can't work & have to rely on disability. It's very lonely too.
Having a heavy savings brings less stress, which makes me very happy
Having heavy savings is like wearing a comfy weighted blanket-just enough pressure to keep things cozy but not enough to make you sweat! 😄
Money resolves almost everything. Even health can be brought with money. It can give you time which gives you freedom.
Your discussion about adaptability and resilience really highlights the survivorship bias-we often only hear about the few who 'made it' out of poverty, but we overlook the many who continue to struggle because of systemic challenges. I had a coworker who was incredibly resourceful after growing up with very little, but despite their resilience, there were still so many barriers that weren't easy to overcome. You’ve captured this complex reality perfectly. Well done!
I experienced poverty first-hand once I moved out to live on my own. I thought I had a decent grasp on budgeting, but I had to struggle my first 3 years, with rent, bills and food. Currently living in student loan debts, I've had to learn how to say no to certain luxuries, learn to cook for myself and prioritize "survival" over luxuries. I may have overdone myself as nowadays even if I could afford something, I often refuse to buy it because it's just luxury that might make me happy for only a day.
The day my student loans are paid off for good, I look forward to it.
They won't be. Rates will rise, fees will be added, taxes will drain, and nothing will change.
This is so very true! I grew up in poverty and it fits me to a T. I never thought how much it effected my life until this last year. 😢
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!
Yes,steve porassss. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
I wish they were readily available in my place.
Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac.
He's constantly talking about killing someone.
He's violent. Anyone reading this
Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.
Is he on instagram?
Yes he is Steve_porassss
I am 65 years old my husband left me high and dry 6 years ago I have been reeling from this trying to make ends meet and now I'm retirement and unable to work physically I am mentally have gone downhill the last few years I am so sick of stressing all the time about money😢
Thank you, been saying this for years
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To be honest, I wasn't raised in poverty as my family was a part of the "middle class," so we had a pretty comfortable life without the need to be rich. But now, money is something I'd need for my education because I can't afford even buying a normal amount of stationary just to be able to learn. Altho I do have a couple of notebooks and binders, it's still not enough for all of the classes I have. I just hope I'll get over this stage of my life quicker than I can notice.
It sounds like you're going through a tough phase right now. Balancing education with financial stress is really challenging, but it’s clear you’re determined to push through. Hang in there-this stage won’t last forever, and better days are ahead!
I know this comment won't really do anything but good luck, hope you get s life u've dreamt of. Btw stationery*
@@Psych2go alright, I'll try...
@semi_dott thanks for your wish and for correcting my mistake !
@@sonakhechyan9129 no problem⍢⃝
I really want to thank my father for everything what he did for us 😭
Yep, poverty is quite the a bummer🥺/ cuts your chances at life way to close to the nail.
It’s definitely true that poverty can limit opportunities and add so many obstacles. But it's also important to remember that there are ways to push back, even in small steps. Support systems, education, and mental health resources can help improve things over time. Everyone’s journey looks different, but there’s hope in finding ways to rise above those challenges, even when it feels like the odds are stacked.
Living paycheck to paycheck without health insurance meant that I couldn't afford the medicine I needed to treat my kidney infection. My mom helped me get the meds while her husband is fighting cancer and Medicare won't cover it. This is so messed up
This relates well with me, but I don't consider myself in poverty although that's debatable. Growing up, my dad made it very aware that we could lose the house and didn't have enough money for food and that we're poor. Truth, we could've had more money to help us but we weren't poor. Yes, we could still lose the house but we didn't. I remember feeling so guilty for costing my parents money, that I never ordered anything in restaurants and gave my dad the few pennies I saved up. As an adult, I'm very scared I'll lose my house. Not because of money, but getting kicked out or something. Just paranoia. So money does truly affect mental health and is important.
@rose5602: Not paranoia, the problem is real. Where my parent's house in El Sereno(5 miles east of LOs Angeles, near CSULA), my down the street neighbors lost their house because the dad lost his job; their neighbors were kind enough to let them park their car in their driveway for a long time, but over time they had to leave. Those folks lived in their house for >20 years. This was 5 years ago, I don't know what happened to the family, but I feel for them, they had daughter that was the same age as my little sis. This is a story that I personally know off, but I am sure that this story has been repeat over, and over again, and again. In Los Angeles there is a huge homeless population,
I lost my house when I was near the end of high school, it was foreclosed on end of 2010 and some homeless moved in when we moved out and became squatters. At the end of the day, you will be able to move on, few things in life last forever but remember the good when you have while you have it. I had some family sell us a house later on many years later so my family was lucky. I just want to say it's not the end of the world if you lose it, you may get another opportunity in the future if you get lucky. Though I know with every generation it can certainly be rougher.
literally all i want is just $5000.
with that i could cover my own medical costs myself so my mom doesn't have to do it for me
help my parents pay some of our taxes
buy a PC so i can do digital art or get a work-at-home job
and still have enough left over to maybe go on at least one trip out of state.
You didn't specify anything about you. I suggest:
- finding a job
- changing jobs (never quit job01 before you get job02, never!!!)
- take courses to improve or to get in a new domain that's better paid
- go to another country/state/city that offers better pay (be careful, some places may be more expensive)
- don't take loans for anything in this world, if you can couch surf or live in your car for some time, do that
Money can’t buy you happiness, but, because of our viewpoints, money can buy things or even pets that lead to feelings of satisfaction, achievement and enjoyment, making us at least think we’re happier…
Curious thing is that I often find extreme unhappiness in rich people. They are often resented and full of envy.
They have everything except....
@@adamantiuscloudcat1799 Yeah, it could perhaps be hard for those without mental health issues but, on second thoughts, it is possible to have nothing to want for in the entire world and still have anxiety issues and other mental health issues, because it depends on our personal viewpoints and who we are, etc.
@@adamantiuscloudcat1799 A sense of belonging and fulfillment. Money can't replace all human needs, worse, money can sap one of humanity if human history is any indicator. Excessive wealth is basically empty calories for the soul - it won't satisfy.
Some people just want balance. They're not asking to buy everything.
@adamantiuscloudcat1799 How many rich people do you know? Or you only know poor people who're badmouthing on rich people?
Starting in college and getting credit cards began a spiral of debt that grew worse when i got a full-time job. I had to make up for all of what i couldn't have growing up. After incurring debt too great to repay, I had to file bankruptcy. I'd lived on a budget of sorts since being on my own at 18, but that plastic allowed me to live well beyond my means. Bankruptcy really helped me to mature into a person who understands that healing the childhood trauma of growning up poor takes more than stuff. The hurt is more emotional and can be dealt with, in part, by buying small treats when i can afford them, not satisfying every desire like a child would, and getting into debt.
Growing up poor isn't something to be ashamed of. Learning from what things contributed to it by our parent(s) and not continuing that unhealthy behavior is key to breaking the cycle of poverty.
I own my home, car is paid off, and I've a little money in the bank. Sure, I couldn't do so much of what others did, but i did some. I have fun in my own ways. Financial security is what matters to me nowadays.
As a disabled person that didn't have healthcare upon diagnosis (almost immediately the second of two deaths in the family) I grew up silently aware that my health was the reason my little brother and sister were hungry and and the reason my dad worked different jobs and was never home. And growing up we couldn't afford normal heat in winter, which used to be bad when northern New York had snow. So I'd often layer up clothes for 50 degree nights inside. And at meals I'd always wait to eat until everyone else did, and lied that I wasn't that hungry because of meds. I am now a seven month pregnant woman who weighs 126.8 and am 5'8". My son thank goodness is big healthy and chubby for his age, but I still have to fight urges like food rationing and ignoring hunger. Any time we eat out I save half for later by habit still, and still order water for my drink. I still sleep in clothes and under all blankets at night even though my apartment is cozy. I still penny pinch to the point where it's a laughing point amongst my family how stingy I am. Luckily everyone has better jobs, and everything is more stable. But I still panic buying anything because "do I really need this food and piece of clothing/toiletry, or is it just a want I'm justifying?"
This video actually helps a lot surprisingly 😅
I just realized I have a habit of spending money fast because growing up whenever I tried to save money I got from doing jobs it'd be 'borrowed' from me to pay for stuff lol
Yeah, man 🥺🥹. I feel you. I'm still going through it right now TBH 😭.
Heh I have over attachment to my stuff, I get depressed for weeks when I lose it. It's thanks to my mom, she gave away my Gameboy to some kid, thinking it was okay because "I wasn't using it"
Never thinking bout why I wasn't interested either...
Glad this helps and thanks for sharing your experience! What do you plan to do next after this realization?
@@Psych2go I'm probably gonna ask my friend to help me save lol 😅
I trust her more than I trust myself 😅
@@Psych2goI have a question about the bad and hard side of being really smart while also being a psychopath and a dark empath. I’ve had complex ideas since I was about three years old things like space, science, history and more were easy. My IQ tests often scored above 160, some 200+ etc I learned and watched documentary that even adults couldn't understand I even was part of a project wher they teach kids hard stuff first then easy stuff, I was given stuff that adults could not understand high complex equations etc (taught myself writing and speaking Englisch from watching a kid play with toys took me a day to speack english and some time to write), but as I grew older, I struggled more with understanding and connecting with people emotionally. After scoring a 40 on the PCL-R test and getting a brain scan (had a injury and had to be operated), I learned that I was a psychopath and a dark empath (more of that later on).
Growing up was pretty tough. I ended up learning to manipulate others just to cope with social situations (was born after a war wher our economy was low and kinda bad was bron in a powerful family tho what just made others expect more from me). I just asket about your opinion because I allways wonder what others think and your the expert here. Is being different really such a bad thing. At some points its just annoying like I unintentionally manipulate others to do stuff for me and more its just smth that you can't explain.
When I was growing up, I didn't receive a yearly physical, eye exams, dental care, etc. I had emotional problems and social anxiety but my parents left me to try to figure things out myself. I think they were too wrapped up in their own problems.... like worrying about the bills, putting food on the table
Some of the most kindest most considerate people are those that have been without and continue to be without homeless people have a kindness that is rarely shown in the media what's truly important is how one is raised what one learns and being poor offers more lessons in humanity than being wealthy being born wealthy isn't a leg up not really because seldom do these people have the work ethic and appreciation for what they have that being said if someone is raised in a wealthy home the best thing for them is to not spend money on them restrict the benefits of wealth to teach appreciation and a proper work ethic
When I fell on hard times a few years ago, friends who don't have a pot to piss in, stuck by me and helped me out. Meanwhile, two friends of mine who are quite well off, totally ghosted me.
It doesn't buy you happiness but let's you live in comfort.
Many nowadays are too entitled or assume many live like they do and should be on their level...
Or you're gaslighted and shunned.
As Eminem eloquently put it: "Money doesn't buy happiness. It buys crazy-ass happiness."
This outlook is only for those trying to live in “first world” standards. Changing my mindframe simply changed my life.
Now I raise my own food, and forage it like our ancestors did. We have no idea how close we are to our “needs.” It’s much easier to meet your needs when you understand how and where and why.
I eat quality steak, the best eggs, and top quality pork almost every day. I’m healthier than ever, I work my ass off and I feel great.
Mindframe plays a huge role. Once we stop trying to live up to North American ideals, we are substantially happier.
I was born poor and still poor in adulthood and I relate to everything said in this video 100%
the thing about loans, my mom has and still is juggling different loans from different places, sometimes taking out loans to pay off bigger ones
fortunately she has alot of understanding people in her life, so friends or family gives a handful now and then to help pay off the occasional bailiff
and while she hasnt explicitly said this, i feel a sense of responsibility, like i need to get a high paying job to help out
i just want her one to wake up not worrying about how much food is in the house 🙁
Don’t forget the possible generational trauma, Neurodiversities, &/or even abuse present within impoverished homes as one grows up. Especially as it’s damn near impossible to pull oneself’s (invisible) bootsraps out of said poverty.
Also, there was no mention about being a POC/Person of Color. Nor the intentional gate keeping by the rich & powerful over higher education since the Anti-Vietnam Protests.
Side note: It’s always been a class war first, & a “race” war second; that’s how the rich have divided & conquered over the centuries.
The reason why POC and classicism wasn't mentined is because it's a political subject, which psych2go doesn't and shouldn't talk about. Firstly because this channel focuses on psychology and all our psychology is the same regardless of skin colour. Secondly, political subject are always very subjective, what you may think is the "truth" would immediately be brought in to question by anyone with an opposing view, straying from what the goal is, to bring comfort and understanding to mental struggles. There are many outlets for these types of subjects, especially nowadays, please use those.
Being POC, doesnt equall to poverty. Even some European countries have poverty. Its a cultural and government problem and has nothing to do with skin color
Its not just the wealthier countries who colonized other countries. What about Arab slavery, Mongolian slavery, African slave trade etc... Its more on a human problem than skin color since your skin is just an organ that protects your insides
I don't even have the words for my response, but this video hits home. It just made me think of a quote (not sure if it's accurate or not:
"The measure of a man is what he does with power."
~Plato~
One point that you made was significant to me. I didn't discover that I had both ADHD and PDD, with a large amount of anxiety until I was 23 years old. I'm still in poverty, and I'm unable to treat these. But knowing at least helps, a lot.
money can't buy you happiness, but it buys you resources, options, and stability
insecurity... I am not an insecure person. But the thought of lack of money and having debt gives me anxiety and panic attacks. And not being able to escape a situation at "home" because I don't have money to rent alone.
Rich people have it way way way way way easier.
Nothing in life worth doing is ever easy! Do rich people have it easy though? They face great adversity through judgement and jealousy and toxic family dynamics.
Yes. They do have it easy 👏@@andrewscotney7644
@@andrewscotney7644okay? And they have the money to put restraining orders on all of them? Or hell move to another area anytime? I much rather have it easy then be forced to choose weather to not eat for 3 days or keeping my lights on... In a studio apparment... Well working 3 jobs and having 140 hours per 2 weeks. 💀 Like dude i just want a house(nothing fancy ofc) and the ability to not worry if my health takes a dive I'll be homeless and being able to buy food.
@@andrewscotney7644also i had a super toxic family dynamic, CSA, abuse, drugs and much more were done to me at the start of 4... Went into fostercare at 10 aged out the system and now i have no one.
True
Wonderful as always! I have an MA and worked in education for over 30 years. I have had the pleasure of working with all types of clients from uber rich to very poor, from many parts of the world. I want to say I would take a less advantaged client over a rich one any time ! The wealthy clients mostly were into themselves, already knew everything, and thought they could just throw money at something to fix it! Less advantage families showed gratitude and respect!
Congrats. Very well covered topic. Excellent work
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I was raised in poverty and I still don’t have a lot of money but it’s better. I have healthcare as an adult. I still don’t own a home but I do hope
I grew up in poverty and dire circumstances. I've come a long way since my humble upbringing. The past almost 2 years have been draining. First time being broke, not finding a job and having to be careful with money. I can't remember when I was content. I've got career aspirations but I can't afford the education for it despite my potential. Feeling pretty hopeless and lowkey gave up on my dreams 😢
Proverty definitely has a lot effects of your well being I am a victim of it that's for sure!! Thanks for another great video 🙏❤️
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I have been raised in a mid-low income family. Despite my disadvantaged circumstances, I have always been studying at school. I worked abroad for a few years after high school thanks to my English language proficiency and mental resilience. After that, I moved back to my home country (Italy) and I managed to attend a very good university where I am going to graduate this year.
I believe that mental strength is the key to success in life. If you are really determined to improve your life circumstances, you are going to find a way out to escape from poverty, no matter what. Of course, this situation could be much more doable for people who don’t live in a extreme poor country. However, if I did it (as a girl from a low income family) you can do it too! I see the light at the end of the tunnel now, thanks to my current job and bachelor’s degree.
No. The game is rigged already. Few are able to change their financial strata without a spectacular stroke of luck, a contact in another strata, or an excess of talent, no amount of work or effort will change anything. You just end up more tired.
@@Bookwyrm86 I understand how you feel. However, if we don’t make the move to change our situation, we will end up even more miserable. “Luck”, “destiny” are just words. Sure, bad things, or even tragic events, can happen but we have to find the courage to take the risk. When I was 20, I took the courage to leave my family and home country to move abroad with little money in my pockets, which mostly came from my part time job when I was a student in high school. At the end, I figured to have well paid and safe jobs and I was able to save money to live in Italy after four years of living abroad. Everything happened because of my skills to network with the right people in terms of of work along with planning my goals. I admit that I lived in a wealthy country in Europe so social conditions are not rough there. However, determination and mental strength are essential to keep going.
I grew up in a sort of poverty. Because of my body shape, I was blamed for the lack of money in the house. I grew used to making myself small, even when it comes to eating. I am trying to fix it now. I am still deep in debt, about to face foreclosure. My utilities are shut off. Yet, I am still hopeful. Thank you for the video.
I'm really sad reading this Hippie. I hope this time of challenge passes quickly.
I can empathize. I developed stage iv brain cancer and just totally detached from the world around me. I lost my home. I'm living in my city's worst homeless shelter, trying to get into housing. I'm terrified that I'll never have housing again and I'm gonna die in this place.
This video made me cry. I've always felt shame for ever thinking I've missed opportunity because my family was poor. I thought that wasn't a justifiable excuse for failing at so much in life. Even now i struggle admitting it despite everything brought up in this video.
Virtual hugs, friend
Male poverty sucks. I am not in poverty but some family members of mine that are male experience this, They said they had a low paying job and wet dreams. Even after poverty some wet dreams. But now it’s rarely.
I thought for some time in living off grid, not because of ecological or social ideals, just to escape the need of producing money in order to sustain a stressfull and non rewarding lifestyle. In the end, I couldn't, as much as it sounds great to spend my days making a house in a remote area, or a garden, bigger ideias I want to achieve are just not possible in that sort of life.
My brother: "Overly cautious with money and lacks generosity", Me: "Spends money too easily" - it can really vary within the family
Basic Living should not be this difficult to afford here in the US. (I love my country) but It feels like no matter what we do, it doesn't matter, you'll barely be able to afford your rent, you feel worthless, it has gotten so out of control. ~Serious question: HOW was our country allowed to get THIS bad? How is Nothing being done about it? It's not being talked about, it's not being addressed. This is the most crucial issue that needs to be addressed right now if we want to keep our society from collapsing. This obsession with achieving Perpetual growth is impossible. Yet our country acts like perpetual growth is a completely reasonable goal. There is no way anything can function like that. A huge majority of the population is struggling to even afford Rent.. All of this of course also affects small town businesses because the rent on these shops has increased too. Our country is pretty much requiring everyone to find ways to increase their income but our country isn't providing any options for a huge % of our population. Remember this is just so people could keep up with the increased cost of basic living. With the way our society is structured all of this is completely impossible. It's not possible for us to live in a system where everybody can be wealthy. So lots of store fronts are becoming vacant. Average people cannot afford basic rent. There is absolutely no help for our citizens who are now stuck in poverty.. (and worst of all, we have to wake up everyday and see that our country is completely ignoring that any of this is happening. The media just acts like none of this is going on. They just continue to show us clips on the news and statistics in the media about "How much our economy is thriving")
Thanks for sharing this! I'm writing a novel in which one of the secondary characters used to be poor (her father was a compulsive gambler and lost all of the family's savings at the casino), so this will definitely help me make her character more realistic!
I know I am not alone here...I grew up in a difficult situation...and I have worked my fingers to the bone, still do. I have made over six figures without a college degree in my twenties, and even though I am riding out a low right now, I am on my way back there. Money really doesn't give you happiness, but it does give you security...shouldn't have partied all that money away...but I DID have a blast lol
I grew up in the middle class, but in recent years, I've fallen further and further away from that.
Money doesn't guarantee success, but it definitely increases your chances.
An increasingly difficult financial landscape feels like a black hole on your soul and wallet. It's very difficult to pull away from that.
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That's a great video. Well, I can't complain much about my childhood. I actually had a normal childhood. We didn't have much money, but I took dance lessons, then swimming lessons, and my brother took soccer lessons, and we went out a lot; they weren't expensive trips, but just outings in my own city, so I can't complain about the childhood I had. But, throughout my adolescence, our standard of living declined a lot and we spent years and years struggling financially. Sometimes we didn't even have enough money to buy a loaf of bread at the bakery; it was only enough to pay, for better or worse, our bills and our food. It was only last year that our life started to improve a little financially, but we lived on very little for more than ten years, I think. And I really agree that money doesn't bring happiness, but that only happens to those who have already achieved everything they wanted to buy and already have lots of it. There really does come a point where it no longer fulfills us. But for mere mortals like most of us who live on budget, we know the value of money. On the one hand, this is good, because it makes us more humble, it make us stronger, but on the other hand, it causes a lot of shame and pain, both physically and mentally. I wish that no one in the world had to go through poverty, especially extreme poverty. Of course, I don't think that everyone should be a billionaire, since there is a lot of inequality in this world, but what I mean is that everyone should have a decent life, without having to worry about what they're going to eat tomorrow.
I think the social component is a major one. It starts at school, I often felt isolated because I couldn't share the same experiences almost everybody else had, like going on vacations. Now I'm in mit mid 30s, but still feel like I missed out on life. People love sharing experiences of their youth like going out, travelling, going to concerts, you name it. I haven't been able to experience these things in my youth and often people don't understand that at all and give you the "weird person" look. As for dating, I felt not worthy of starting a family if I couldn't provide for them, so that didn't happen. Most people my age reached all of that goals already so I feel like I really missed out on life itself. I just recently managed to improve my situation due to hard work and much luck with a new job, so I'm trying to catch up. But it is really weird and embarassing when people start talking about their experiences and you either just sit their and smile or think back about that black hole that is your past. It really affects self worth in my case. We weren't extremely poor, but hardly got by.
Money solves financial issues. Money pays your rent/mortgage, electricity bill and buys you adequate food and clothing. You may go for a massage to ease some nevk, shoulder/ back tensions/pains. These are a few pros of having money. If food and adequate shelter were somehow free, Money would not be so important in our daily lives.
Being raised in poverty, there was always a lot of violence. I feel like I’ve experienced violence since I was a child. The first memories I have of my mom and dad they were already divorced before I was old enough to ever know what was going on every time they were around each other they would get in a fight, sometimes partially physical. It scared the crap out of me as a child. I had no clue what to do. I’ve watched generation after generation of poverty, just fall apart, just slowly constantly falling apart until there’s nothing left. and adapting you have to adapt or you’ll die also being poor you have to learn to do most of your own stuff so a lot of times you have to be your own mechanic your own plumber your carpenter basically you have to learn most things because you can’t afford to pay people to do them for you. And it does become to where all we’re doing and all we’ve been doing for a long time is just surviving. We’re not living. We’re just surviving and that is barely hanging on by threads.
I related to the effects of undiagnosed ADHD part very much. The understanding of ADHD was very weak where I grew upp. Growing up without an explanation for why I could not do things like all the other kids in school was hard. I was called lazy and dumb even I called me that.
I live with my family and we're doing fine all things considered, but with my own perspective, even graduating as a Valedictorian, I am quick on my feet aka resourceful, fiercely independent, I can make things happen when my mind is set on it, ect ect. Even with all that I at most times feel like a loser, because I want to become great, not for myself, but make sure people around me can have a better tomorrow even if I never experience peace myself. As of right now, I always fear of being left behind and I half-kill myself just so I don't fall behind and most of the time I have to put on a mask showing that it looks like I feel ok, only the reality being that it hurts so much all the time to maintain that look.
A good friend of mine started working at 11 or 12 years old, earning a loaf of bread a day to bring home to his crippled mother and younger sister.
That was their dinner every single day. On Easter or Christmas, they might have had some meat as well.
*Hardships build character.* I believe he's now grateful for his past, as it molded him into the man he is today. With that growth, he strives to give his family the very best.
Making an honest living and seeing the beauty in the struggle should definitely keep you optimistic. Creativity and doing things that don’t cost a lot of money also helps. The thing is even wealthy people don’t flash their money. They invest and save. It’s all about managing your priorities and making sacrifices. It’s not easy in such a judgmental society that is super capitalistic (in the west) but you need to see past all of that. Create a goal for yourself and be humble while getting there. God will always bless those that maintain this humility ❤
Friendship. I used to only mix around only with friends who haven't figured out their finance system, and snub rich people. This is of cos counterproductive and kept me in the vicious cycle of staying poor.
The lack of access to proper mental health services and well-being education is so real. Luckily, UA-cam is increasingly become a leveller, providing free access for self-awareness.
Please know that your content is absolutely useful.
there is one book you can understand better this "scarcity: why having less means so much" it is very good
For me it was a huge struggle trying to get started with hobbies and passions. Whilst many others could still live at home in their 20s and put any money they earned into fulfilling and progressing their hobbies - I had to leave home, work twice as much to keep up with rent and had minimal spare income to finance my real pleasures in life. It was hard to come to terms with that and to grow without feeling bitter resentment towards others in a better place because that helps no one, especially yourself :)
A lot of people fail to understand that having a support system, food security, safe housing, receiving medical care, job stability and financial wealth are privileges. Despite these things being human rights they’re considered “privileges” because not everyone has access to them.
Growing up and living in poverty is traumatic. Money can’t buy happiness but it creates financial stability and provides options. I’ve been struggling with finances while constantly facing the threat of homelessness while trying to evade abusive relatives and my covert narcissist ex.
I’ve grown up and am still living in poverty but regularly volunteering at pantries in my community and others, cultivating safety networks with virtual support groups and continuously educating myself are 3 of few things that help my struggle somewhat tolerable.
Both of my parents grew up on poverty in the 60s in Europe. Growing up, I didn't realize that the reason we always had a lot of food in our fridge was because my parents were food hoarding. It explains why a friend of mines jaw dropped when he saw inside our fridge. It explains why my dad has never gotten rid of any of his jackets and shirts and why my mom has 40, yes 40 serving trays, multiple service ware, and refuses to part with her insane amount of Christmas decorations. Everything thing is saved, reused, and throwing out food is a sin.
What effects me the most is how it seems like the simple things I want, like being able to go places, or learn a new skill to better myself, always seem just out of reach.
Like the universe is saying: "No, these things aren't for you. Suffering, hardship, and lack are for you."
It is stressful to feel like the only way to survive is to work yourself into am early grave. With life's goalposts always changing, there is a real strong "What's the point?" Vibe going through my life at times. It's not even about comparing myself to social media. Its about my views of where i want to be on my personal journey versus the reality of it, due to bills, and the outside idea that everything should be geared to survival, and that is it.
I have to prepare for this...
I've been thinking A LOT about poverty trauma and it's consequences lately. Such a timely video - thanks!
I didn’t grow up in poverty but my father did and his self-limiting and constantly worrying behavior had an impact on my upbringing. Sometimes it is frustrating to see him using broken stuffs because they can still serve the function (barely).
Even though his modest lifestyle helped me understand the value of money in early age, it affected his children in different ways: my brother is super strict with money to the point of neglecting his health, my sister and I exhibit behaviors of what the video says ‘short-sighted economical decision’.
At times when I see people from wealthier background who travel the world and look seemingly more resourceful, confident, and knowledgable than I am,
I wonder had my parents invested in other educational means outside of school for us, would I have been more successful today…
One of the best videos I've watched on the subject,ever!!! Thank you so much for putting in perspective,many things that one couldn't figure out at the time!
And poverty buys you nothing. But pain and suffering for life.
The fact that all people that come from a stable financial support system fail to understand the struggles and the time it takes to get out of the poverty fence is painful. They still continue to exploit nepotism that reduces the chances further of a reasonably knowledgeable person coming from poverty to setup a solid financial support system.
I could relate much to the vid. I grew up gaslighted "at least you have a house". But with barely having food, not having anything to use much in school and an allowance just enough to go to school and back home, my childhood isn't pretty.
I still have problems trying to buy something very very necessary because it reaches a certain amount (and from where I am from we don't buy big packs or wholesale packs for groceries) and still go back to buying the smallest possible amount of what I can use every day, even if it's more expensive in the long run.
Off topic and on the lighter side, but he’s absolutely rocking that pink sweater and scarf combo 😮💨 Drip 💯🔥
For me it’s the time you spend with those you care about. Money to me at least never meant anything since you can’t get time back so I try to make the time they spend with me worth it.
Been teetering along the poverty line. Met someone living in poverty...helped them a bit but damn man I almost got pulled down, it's not a one person job that's for sure and it's a very heavy lift but they thankfully seem to be doing a lot better now.
I have extreme difficulty saving money, I spend it very carelessly. My brother tho, is the complete opposite. Saves every penny as it is possible, and it seems like he has it all together, but now I see it must come from anxiety over instability
I grew up poor as a rat in a dirty rich family including my father. They made my mother and me feel that we were failures, that we never were going to get what we deserve. My mother, I knew her always with deep depression with drinking problems. In the other hand, I'm in survival mode 24/7, with anxiety disorder. The worst of everything is that my mother had a English literature degree and I'm a veterinarian but unemployed that I want is a big windfall to get out of where I am and go to the UK to get a career opportunity and feel free 💖🙏🏼💪
Money is life.
Money definitely plays a big part in life, but it’s also important to remember that other things like health, relationships, and purpose can be just as vital. Balancing it all is the real key!
Wow, that hit hard.
Hope this video helped you in some way!! What are your thoughts on this video?
This one hurts... To this day I still feel like I'm trying to make it to the basic stable household in the financial sense. Every step I take is the wrong one in my own mind even when it's in fact a positive one because more often than not it is a long game type investment ( ie education, potential self business, etc). No matter what my brain goes "are we going to need to scrounge the garbage for food or not?" While I have, and will continue to, push forward I will never shake that.
Way more opportunities for people with access to money or financial knowledge.
Growing up poor leads to insecurity, anxiety, feelings of worthlessness. Now, as an adult… the thought of spending money on a vacation or something nice leads to thoughts of “what if something happens and I need that money for something more important?” And as we know… things happen all the time. Growing up poor carries on in adult life, even if we’re better off now and not considered poor. That fear of poverty is always present