Pathological Lying Vs Normal Lying? How To Tell the Difference
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- Опубліковано 28 сер 2024
- There isn’t an established, official definition of pathological lying because it’s not considered a mental disorder. Instead it’s observed as a behavioral disturbance that is present inside other disorders like some personality disorders like antisocial personality disorder and some brain disorders like Korsakoff syndrome which is brain damage from alcohol.
Lying is defined as the deliberate attempt to get someone to believe something you know is not true. There are 3 types of lying: normal lying, prolific lying and pathological lying.
Pathological lying is still seen as a different entity that takes lying to a different level. But normal lying and prolific lying were considered behaviors that were non-pathological.
Normal lying was defined as telling less than 5 lies a day. This video discusses the differences between normal, prolific and pathological.
References
Serota KB, Levine TR, Boster FJ: The prevalence of lying in America: three studies of self-reported lies. Hum Commun Res 2010; 36:2-25
Serota KB, Levine TR: A few prolific liars: variation in the prevalence of lying. J Lang Soc Psychol 2015; 34:138-157
Drew A. Curtis and Christian L. Hart, Pathological Lying: Theoretical and Empirical Support for a Diagnostic Entity. Psychiatric Research and Clinical Practice 22 June 2020
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As a recovered pathological liar I used it as a defense mechanism. I lied to everyone up to and including myself on the daily. Looking back I realize just how much it took out of me to keep everything in order and the stress of someone possibly finding out the truth was unbearable.
Im just starting to face this in counselling I hope I can recover like you one day
Or are you lying to yourself that you are recovered?
What did you do? I think I understand what you mean by defense mechanism. I utilize it as a way to prevent people from seeing the real me but I also believe there's a bit of perfectionism complex involved with my personality that has this need to lie. I try my best to stop, and sometimes it works, but there are just these moments where im dishonest with myself and others. A simple act of leaving things out or allowing people to see only what I want them to see.
@@juliusdv6657 More or less what you said here. Put on a show and no one can hurt you.
What's with lying with no apparent reason for lying? just for the sake of it? no one gains or loses anything with it? Or insisting on a lie when it clearly has been proven and shown that it's a fact, and that fact still will cause no harm or good.
Unless to the other person who will start to feel fed up.
I honestly believe this behavior comes from people who were never told that lying was bad or experienced consequences for lying, actually they've been encouraged to lying and even get benefits and praising from it.
I realized this in chinese culture. While i came from a catholic background where "kids who lie go to hell" and "God sees and watches everything" and big punishment would come if ever caught lying, it was like a capital sin.
But chinese kids aren't taught that lying is wrong, actually they are taught that if they have to lie and deceive to get better advantage they should and they watch their parents do this. Kids do something wrong and instead of getting punishment parents will come and say "my kid never did that right" and make the kid agree with the lie, so kid learns that lying is always safe.
They turn into patholigical liars in adults, lie, deceive, scam and will have no remorse or guilt associated with it. Also they will lie for the sake of lying like it's their second language..no big deal.
I've noticed this behavior in russians too but for them it was more like adding up to stories, making them bigger, more fantastic.
One western case is Casey Anthony, she never experienced consequences for her lying so she killed her own daughter, told nothing but lies from beginning to the end and still was considered innocent.
this is embarrasing but yikes, this is me. like I DONT HAVE ANY REASON TO LIE but i still do it, even before realizing what i'm doing
Then stop.
@@kjsfl386 not how it works..
@@aidenbradford4440 Adult people can monitor the words they say. If you begin to speak an untrue word...stop and just be quiet. We can Restrain and reteach ourselves
@@kjsfl386 bruh as someone who legit lies for no reason it’s not that easy. its literally natural for me and i hate that but it’s not as easy as you’d think it is. i don’t lie to hurt people but it happens sometimes and I’m assuming you don’t lie constantly you wouldn’t know how hard it is to stop 🤦🏽
@@user-nt6gt6yf9l I’m sorry you are compelled to lie. You must be a special person to admit your fault and that you want to stop. I can only encourage you to ask God to help you. You seem to have a strong conscience and a type of honesty of self to build on. You can change. We all have things we need to work on. 😊
My sister pathologically lies all the time but shes also a very genuinely caring person at the same time. Call her out on an obvious lie and she will spin it until you give up. People are weird. Just make sure you avoid the ones that use lies to harm you for their pleasure. Ive met a few of those in my life
I know a pathological liar who is now on a "I'm depressed" kick. Nothing annoys me more than some depressed loser posting repeatedly about mental illness on social media. Jesus Christ. There is real harm in that too because of the risks of a self-imposed self-fulfilling prophecy.... It makes her insufferable though. I have no clue how any guy would deal with her crap. That stuff wears thin on me real quick.
She’s probably either very insecure or a ppl pleaser. She sounds like me. I lied all the time bc I was a ppl pleaser and hated saying no to ppl but didn’t want to go at the same time so I’d lie
Same , my half siblings are like that
My ex lies all the time and wants to be back in my life. She told me that she’d lie to keep me around: sick!
It’s for good reason… did she give you the gotta protect brother at party story? @@meritorioustechnate9455
Regular lying is when you catch them in it and they come clean to what they've done.
Pathological lying is when you are holding *proof* via pictures and texts in front of them only to have them say that it's *inaccurate* oof
Kind of like that song that goes 'It wasn't me'. lol. My mother lied to everyone for years about a) that my brother was born 7 months into my parent's marriage like nobody knew how to subtract 7 from 9 and b) that she smoked pot on a daily basis. She even had the nerve to get angry at my father for smoking it on rare occasions. She brought my dog down to the dog licensing office and somehow convinced the clerks there that it was, indeed, her dog and registered my dog under her name. Unbelievable. The damage it does to a child with a pathological liar as a parent is immense. We tend to not develop an internal lie detector and so attract conmen and liars throughout our lives. It's not that we are stupid or even gullible, it's that we ignore FACTS even at our own peril because our entire childhood was a lie.
Been there!
@@LisaMaryification You were trained to believe lies
My brother. he does such obvious and unimportant lies for no reason, it always feels like an insult. He thinks I'll believe them like I'm stupid. Lying sucks.
Dude! Been there.
People, if you have this problem... please get help for it. Pathological lying is scary. I have a sibling that is a pathological liar and they have hurt so many people by doing this... even ruined a life. It isn't right, this is a problem that needs to be addressed more often in our society.
How? How do I get help for my partner? It seems to me this is a trait that will never change, and I need to keep my walls way way up.
@millhouse313 I'm so sorry that you're dealing with this, especially with a partner. It must be very difficult. The best option for pathological liars due to some sort of underlying mental illness is psychotherapy, but the therapist must be good and qualified for the job. However, it is not always one of the symptoms of a mental illness. Some people just lie because they're awful, and the lying helps them get to where they want to be. In that case, you have to decide what is best for your own well-being. I wish you the best either way.
I would call my husband on lies and he would say, “What difference does it make?”. It made a lot of difference to me.
I have an ex like this I tried to reconnect with him for old time sakes and I started to feel like he was using me to spring all his lies on. I wasn’t looking for a romantic relationship however every time we would talk he would say I wanna take you here and do this or come visit with no intention of doing that. When I would confront him he would then blame me and say “you never said I could come over” which would be a bold face lie. The moment I would stop talking to him he would give it a couple of days and call to say “oh you don’t love me anymore “ and start the lie cycle all over again. I give up it has become very annoying at this point
I used to be really bad about pathological lying and it was because I hated myself and hated my life and it was a form of escapism from my reality to tell all sorts of lies and many of them were wild adventures and creating an alternative reality for myself. I never meant harm in them, I just wanted to create a different reality and be someone other than myself. However time went on, I got diagnosed with Autism and found a community of people like me. And that enabled me to accept myself and love myself as I am and be with people who are like me. Before my diagnosis, I felt like I was a total freak. I knew I was very different from those around me and no matter how much I tried to fit in, I always felt like an uncover alien observing the world cuz I was so socially clueless.
But being with other autistic people, I feel “normal” and i embrace my quirks and weirdness now. I have no more need to invent an alternate world to escape from myself.
Every person I’ve ever met who does pathological lying, i find there is a very shattered sense of self and deep self hatred and it’s a form of escapism. So my suggestion to fix it is to work on the root issues of self esteem and self concept.
This is how I feel. I just need some therapy
Being able to identify this in yourself is major, there is hope. My kids dad is a pathological liar and it’s extremely annoying.
It is very frustrating to be a friend to someone who tells lies. I use my strength in God to forgive them as God has always forgiven me.
I could’ve written this myself, I actually scrolled up to your username to see if it was me who wrote it lol! The alien part hit me so hard and I actually said the same thing in a post I made after being diagnosed. I’m happy for you that you’ve found a community and doing better now! Life without insane amounts of masking is so much better 🥺🩷
Parents of lying children...
Get that problem resolved ASAP.
My older sister lied CONSTANTLY when she was a child. Our mom actually grew to dislike her. All that lying made all of our lives miserable. As a child, I barely wanted to talk to her. Every time she opened her mouth, she would tell lies and sometimes, she would LAUGH as if to mock our exasperation. She would ditch school and lie about it. She would throw food out and lie about it. She would hide ROTTEN food under her bed and lie about it.
She's forty now.
No friends. Two cats. She lives alone in some sort of small town in the south. Supposedly, she might be homeless soon?
Parents, TALK to your kids. You don't want them to be like her.
No one likes a liar.
leave the cats out of this, they make great companions 🤣
I needed to see this!
Ever considered why she’s like this?
@@kikispsychie Gee. I wonder why someone would go out of their way to lie about everything??? She's going to be forty-one this year and she needs to get a grip. Sooner or later, she will have to wake up. She might hold onto excuses and labels, but honestly...no one wants to deal with excuses and labels. Excuses and labels don't pay the bills. They don't make people like you. They don't make anything easier.
(If anyone's wondering about an update, she is living with a distant relative(?) A relative who obviously doesn't like her. Maybe she's helping her out of pity? One cat died (sick?) and the other one was put out; the husband hates cats. She has no job. She insists, "I'm waiting on a call from the Dollar General." It's been almost a year. They are not going to call her. I hope they will, but...)
@@vintagepeace_nolove I think cats are autistic
Fantastic video! My ex partner is a pathological liar. He lies as he breathes. It's extremely difficult to have a relationship with such people
Yes! I agree! Lying to someone is a slap in the face. Even when you justify it as claiming you do it to protect them. When you lie you are basically telling the person #1 I don't respect you enough to tell you the truth, #2 I think you're stupid enough to fall for the lie, and #3 I don't think you are capable of handling the truth. It's very condescending, pretentious and disrespectful. I really wish pathological lying would have more study done on it so those people can get treated. I have had one of those people in my life and I HATED her. She was in my circle of friends in high school there's about 10 of us made up equally of boys and girls. And she would literally make up something to cry about every day for attention. Every single day. And everyone in my friend group would fall for it. Except me. I could clearly see she was doing it for attention because when anyone else was getting some attention because their parents were getting divorced or they got a good grade right after that she would start crying and needing attention and comfort. I f**king HATE her to this day. She drove me nuts. No joke she's crying every single day and every single day my idiot friends would fall for it. Like I would get angry on my friends behalf that she would suddenly start crying when my friend was trying to vent about how hard her parents divorce was. She was so irritating and cringy and I hope she has gotten over it or faced some serious consequences for her behavior by now.
They have something defective with them bc they will think their lies are truth
😂😂 he lies as he breathes
I've recently split up from my partner and your description "he lies as he breathes" is spot on!! 👌🏻 I've had 3 yrs of it & it's mentally draining...
It’s draining 😩
I was a "victim" of a pathological liar, and being a trusting, gullible person, it took me a very long time to put two and two together. Even when the "stories" were unbelievable, I wanted to trust this person! They lied 98% of the time and just for the sake of lying! Voluntarily lying with far-fetched stories. When questioned, this person would talk in circles so as to confuse me further. A circle talker. I was so ashamed and disappointed in myself that I "fell" for it. It also made me feel insecure about my judgment or lack thereof of people. I have thought about writing a fiction book based on the fabricated stories I was told. It would be quite entertaining!
Don't feel bad. I had a good friend who introduced me to her boyfriend. Soon after, they started living together. I and my friend, Lisa started hanging out with them. Going to lunch, to the movies, ect. Anyway, he started telling some very interesting stories about his life. And, as time went by, these stories became more intricate. He was obviously very intelligent. He said he grew up around dictionaries and encyclopedias and he was very adept with different languages as well. And if he couldn't speak these languages, he could copy the accents very well like an actor.
Anyway, at first myself and Lisa thought possibly these stories could be true. I mean, some people live crazy lives. So we gave him the benefit of the doubt.
But, soon afterward, the couple split up and his lying got worse. I honestly think, in his situation, he was very insecure and he felt like he was an important person by telling these fabrications. Also, I think he lied so much that he even began to believe his own lies. Myself and Lisa caught him in a few of these lies. And she was afraid to call him on it but not me: I called it and he got extremely angry trying to not only defend himself, but to also back his lies up one way or another. I just decided it was better to let it go than to start an argument. However, Lisa started to fall for him romantically. Even though he never showed any interest in her. And, btw, he still doesn't show any interest in her whatsoever and he even told me one day. So Lisa began believing his stories again. She believed him so much that when he split up with our friend, he got Lisa on his side and then Lisa would no longer have anything to do with her. He convinced Lisa that she was an absolutely terrible person. Which I never believed and still don't.
He used to tell me that someone should write a book about his life since, of course, it was so outrageous. He even wanted me to write the introduction to it. And I thought, you know actually I really don't think you would want that because, frankly I wouldn't make him out to look so good and to look so important.
So I know he's definitely a pathological liar. There's no doubt about that. It's a shame Lisa can still not see it. However, I just got to the point whereas I just couldn't stand all the lying and I considered it a toxic relationship. Not just because of the lying. But because he started trying to get stuff out of me and Lisa that he shouldn't have been asking for in the first place. For instance, he'd say they messed up his check at work and he needed money. Or that he had extreme back pain and 'would we please give him one of the pain pills we (me and Lisa) were prescribed?' It was really getting to be too much.
As for his biggest pathological lying, an example would be that he told us he had a mafia hit out on him. Somehow, to this day, the mafia have not made good on their supposed promise. He also tried to lure us in with stories that part of his family was in the mafia and he even went so far as to say that they made him kill someone and he felt guilty about it. Oh, and at that time, he asked for a xanax. Sorry, but I just don't buy any of it. He really did not act like he actually murdered someone. I think he actually wanted a xanax and a pain pill. Which he got from Lisa and he proceeded to squash both pills and then take a straw so he could snort them.
Luckily, I got away from him. But, also to this day, he still is in touch with Lisa and she still thinks he's a great friend to her. I asked her recently, "do you really see him as that good of a friend?" Unfortunately, she said yes.
So please don't feel bad. I have to admit this guy somehow really sounded legitimate. He is a wonderful con man at lying and getting people to believe his bs. For my own mental health, I felt the need to get away from him. Frankly, I have enough of my own problems and I don't make the time anymore to hear his lying problems. So just think of this as one of life's lessons. And, yes, be cautious of people like that. But don't let it bother you so much that you don't let new people into your life. Just be careful. That's my advice. I hope it helps you to know you are not alone and this can happen to anyone. Be strong and be safe. My best to you.🙂
@@lucakat9262 Thank you for sharing your story and for your supportive words. I have become bitter since my experience. But you're right that I should view it as a life lesson and be more cautious in the future. I'm glad you ended your toxic friendship and I hope your friend sees him for who he really is and gets as far away from him as possible.
@@patteegee9506 you're welcome. And yes, I hope my friend will get away from him too. And you know what? He really hasn't got any friends left. So maybe that is why he has latched onto Lisa so much. Idk exactly. But I know he has burnt a lot of bridges with his friends. For instance, he was actually in a rock band at one time. And since they broke up the band, he has lived off all of the band members at one time or another but they always seem to literally kick him out. So I'm sure they're most likely, sick of his lying too. He's living with his mother now and he hates it. So, to get away from her, he's been going over to see Lisa a lot. Plus, I think he still uses her for her prescription drugs.🙄 I hope she'll see the light one day.😳 But, of course, it's up to her if she wants to keep him around or not. She still tells me about him and his current circumstances. But I just avoid him.😏
Good luck to you! I sincerely hope that you will find someone who will be really good to you one day and not lie. But I know what you mean in the fact that it gets hard to trust people and, yes, one can certainly become bitter after knowing someone like that. But at least we can learn from our mistakes and to be careful not to make the same ones again.🤔Anyway, I wish you all the best life has to offer.🙂
If a pathological liar subjects someone else to significant lies, they are not just a pathological liar but probably a highly manipulative person with a personality disorder. They were probably gaslighting you, not just lying to you.
Most pathological liars are very annoying but rarely as harmful as it seems the person you have dealt with. They're similar to a hypochondriac really.
@@Bonzi_Buddy Wow! I read a bit about gaslighting and you're absolutely right! I was being gaslighted. The psychological trauma has been very damaging to my mental health. I can't even begin to understand why someone would do this to another person. I guess it's like narcissistic supply. It's empowering to the gaslighter. They take great pleasure in watching someone squirm.
I am just here trying to educate myself more on Pathological liars after watching the "who TF did i marry"series on Tiktok😭
Literally😂😂
Same here 💀😭
Sammme, especially cause im a psyh major haha
I was British for two years. I had a quite convincing accent. I said that I was from Bristol. Every day, I told people that I was from Bristol but had moved to the United States during my high school years. I felt dopamine every time someone thought I was from England. Unfortunately, dopamine isn't a lasting sensation, so I had to keep doing it in order to maintain the pleasure I was receiving from my deception.
Because I was so good at lying, I also pretended to have an England degree that I never had. I was on the verge of receiving this degree but being on the verge and really having it are two different things. I was a professional copywriter all my life, but with this degree (which I didn't truly have), I received better employment as a copywriter. Finally, I became an advertising copywriter, which seemed so natural since I was professionally manipulating people.
I suffer from both Bipolar 1 and OCD. According to what I've read, around 15% to 20% of individuals with Bipolar also have OCD. A manic individual desires goods and will typically go to any length to have them. I wanted money and a well-known title at a large corporation, so I devised a plan to get both. I want to know whether there's any evidence between bipolar disorder and pathological lying. The problem with dopamine is that it isn’t a very deep happiness. Pleasures are shallow naturally, which meant that I had to keep lying to keep the dopamine and the pleasure.
Too much dopamine may actually deplete serotonin, which is responsible for a far deeper level of happiness. Our stomach contains around 90% of our serotonin. Serotonin deficiency has been linked to both depression and anxiety. Dopamine is linked to all addictions, including social media and lying.
I had been from England for so long that I began to believe my own lie. By the end of those two years, it was easier to believe in these illusions than it was to accept responsibility for anything I had done. At the end of my second year, it got harder and harder to keep up with my lies, and I eventually lost everything. My actions caused me to lose my job and fall into a deep depression.
I now have a TBI (traumatic brain injury), and I had to relearn everything I know, including relearning English (aphasia). I finally saw that I needed to change. During the years I spent learning English and all the other skills I now have, I also paid attention to my mental health. With the help of cognitive-behavioral therapy, I was able to slow down my mind to the point where I could see my manic thoughts and choose not to use them. I still have manic thoughts daily, but for years I've been able to have them without acting on them. Because of this effort, I'm more stable, peaceful, and contented than I've ever been.
Thank you, Dr. Tracy Marks, for this video.
Hi that’s such an interesting story and I truly hope you feel better. Actually kudos to you to such a great self awareness and big effort to get better and change. Your story really rang bells with me. I had a friend (in my heart I still have friendly and caring feelings but for my sanity I had to distance) who I realised she was a pathological liar after one year of not so close friendship telling me suddenly about a supposed degree in IT she had, I mean till that point she could tell me she only finished high school doing a vocational program and all of a sudden she was a degree holder? My smart, not too interrogative questions really helped me to understand she was lying as she hadn’t prepared the story well at all for my level of knowledge (as a degree holder myself) so she gave some not so solid answers pretty convincing though but I knew that moment. Still I kept friends with her hoping she would change. Made me wonder for other things and stories she had told me and I remembered a very extreme story she told me the first 5 minutes she had met me , it was like a script perhaps she was using around the time a lot! She was forgetting some of the lies and had changed a few stories, I open pretending I hadn’t caught her out. Anyways she told me eventually in the 4th year of friendship that her grandma was diagnosed with bipolar (manic depression called back then) and they all got to get checked (all females of the family) and dr confirmed they all had it in different severity, more mild. She also told me she has ocd tendencies with cleaning tidying and having to keep everything in order and minimalistic. She’s the most materialistic person I know as I’m not so much buying too many things (she likes few good things but also some simple things if practical and cheap) but to save save save! She likes to say money, convinced her husband to get the most expensive package of life insurance and speaks with such confidence about how well off she will be with her kids if he dies. She would forget her wallet card etc trying to micro-taking advantage of me and others, she’s especially please if she got treated and would treated back the cheapest way possible, if that. Very greedy of money. I got hurt though because I realise she’s very shallow, we might have deep conversations and show compassion but she would ever do that extra mile for me and also I got tired of her supposedly not liking anyone but being friends with anyone and spend time with them and I supposedly her favourite person was always last in her list for doing things but first to call for gossiping, chit chat and throwing some stories in occasionally. She had it easier to lie on the phone and was smart enough to never text and write. I could feel it was very impulsive, coming out as storytelling. Looking back I do feel hurt as I was sincere, generous and honest and I also felt manipulated as she affected me with some observations and comments she made about some people from my circle and I took them from granted, she affected me negatively so much that relations broke down. But herself maintained relations with many people she had spoken bad about them, very strategically, changing the narrative overnight that they weren’t so bad etc.
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Pseudologia fantastica. Sounds like a Harry Potter spell
Ha ha I hadn’t thought of that! I guess that’s why I like saying it. 😃
@@DrTraceyMarks doctor I never been ill befor I drank overdose and that symptoms made that they diagnose me as a schizofreen am I schizofrenic just because of pills reaction. Please can you just clarify this to me please.
@@DrTraceyMarks doctor can tablets cause schizofrenia.
@@DrTraceyMarks cause I have the same symptoms as a schizofreen
In Spanish, fantástica means fantastic/wonderful/ amazing.
No matter what it’s lonely living with someone like this. They never ever really care about anyone but themselves.
I had a friend that I stopped being friends with because of the lies. Insane stuff like buying her house at 15, she lived in a relatives spare room. Saying she had been places she hadn’t. Making up really bad accidents that she or a member of her family had been in. That she was adopted, that her house caught fire and was being rebuilt. That she is in the “British mafia”. It was just too exhausting even to just ignore it. Latest I heard is she is telling people she is a doctor.
Have a friend like that right now he lies so much it’s just frustrating because they know you know they are lying and they still continue to tell their stories 🤷🏻♂️
What’s that former friend’s first name if I may ask? Those stories sound awfully familiar with a person I recently cut ties with.
As someone who used to constantly pathologically lie, I think that when I started taking adderall, stopping became significantly easier-there wasn’t really any urge at all.
Who tf I got marry to brought me here
I'm involved with someone who has a history of pathological lying. He used lies to manipulate, to tell tall tales, to appear higher status, for personal gratification, to garner sympathy and so so soooo much more.
He lies over stuff that can be easily verified. The biggest struggle/ frustration is when i have to get a 3rd party account by him - and rely on his testimony, account, story. He's not trustworthy, I really can't believe anything that that comes out of his mouth. Most or all of it might be true, but his track record for lying is so bad, you have to remind yourself this could be a bunch of BS. He has a history of heavy drinking, which made it easy to lie.
Dr what's a good resource to protect yourself from their lying if you have to live together. What's the best boundaries and precautions can I adopt to protect myself. Thank you.
Some of the “big” lies ought to depend on whether you’re dealing with narcissists etc.
Ding ding ding! Absolutely. A narcissist will lie often to manipulate, but they're not considered a pathological liar. They lie very specifically to accomplish their manipulations and will blast people with rude truths to manipulate them as well.
Every time I hear "pseudologia fantastica" I think about Georgina in "Girl, Interrupted".
I was thinking the same thing. My fav mental illness movie
Bangali Ni beh???
I was just watching that movie and that's why I ended up here lol
This channel is so interesting!!😍 You explain everything so well. (In every video) You really are such an unbelievably intelligent woman... Just wow!!
hope you're keeping safe and well 💕🇮🇪☘️
Thanks so much Bea! 😊
“Real Talk “ you rock and this junk all way
Fascinating!!!
Absolutely very interesting. Another thing I'd like to point out, this is a very beautiful woman.
Ik she is awesome at explaining...
ReesaTeesa brought me here.
same now im intrigued
Same
My sister is a pathological liar. She just likes to talk, and when she runs out of true things to talk about, she'll talk about little made up stories that are believable, just to fill the silence. I can always tell when she starts lying because she has her "tells", but other people wouldn't notice these things.
Your sister sounds awesome!
I have a sister like this too, but she has dark traits so she’ll make up stuff to embarrass me around cute guys or friends or family.
That’s so sad
The guy I was dating did it 24 hrs a day🤯🤯🤯
I do that as well. Only recently I have learned that people hate liars, and lies in general. I assumed it was normal never knew one c I ld feel guilty in the moment of the lie, oh well
i’ve only started actively trying to stop lying very recently, and it’s insane how much lying intertwined w my relationships. i’m better off now and much happier being honest to ppl
Covering for someone who stole 500 dollars doesn't seem like a small lie to me... and pretty unhealthy behavior to say the least.
Fr there's no one in the world I would cover for someone who took that much money
true and i feel like lying about liking someone is a little lie, not a big one
Absolutely agree
I lie almost 20 times a day. It’s gone to the point where I don’t know if anything about myself is real or not. I don’t know if anything I say is even true. I have no idea how to stop
You can seek professional and slowly work your way towards a life of honesty and being truthful. Sometimes speaking to a stranger and coming clean and being honest can be the first step you need to make things right 🤷🏽♂️
See a professional, now that you are aware you have to deal with it.
It also helps to feel what you say, like, immediately after saying something try and feel how that makes you feel and stay away from the bitter and sad ones
Right they just slip out my mouth
Cry out to Jesus to help you
May I ask what type of things do you lie about?
She always seems to upload just when I need it.
So glad we’re on the same page. 😊
That was very interesting. I have several people in my life who just lie all the time. it seems to come from a place of entitlement. They lie to get what they want, to control people, and to put forth a certain image of themselves.
@@grandmastermario3695 your a liar! Lol. I've never been dishonest to my children
The most common "normal" lie:
"I'm fine."
But is that a big or a small lie?
My ex was a pathological liar. He created a story from the very start of our relationship up to the end. I began to realize he was lying when 8 years later, it finally came out based on my questions. I was upset with myself for believing it for so long. It was then that I realized a lot of his stories were lies. I broke up with him the following week
I couldn't trust him anymore.
What can be the symptoms?
I feel you on that one. It sucks being on the other end. But hey we learned from it.
My mom has a habit of lying and it's very annoying. When you start to doubt her words she gets very angry but if you manage to make some really good points about what she said she goes quiet. Most of the time I don't even react to her lies and pretend I believe them because I can't be bothered to listen to her yelling.
Lying, when the truth would serve them better. Constantly. Great information. Makes me look at me.
You’re welcome all Iknow. Self-reflection is a great skill to have.
Thank you Dr. Tracey This is right on time. I needed to hear this. Have a good day 💙
You’re welcome glad you enjoyed it
@@DrTraceyMarks 😊💙
A LIE IS A LIE...
When I was younger I pathologically lied because I was scared and mentally abused by family member...
Now it’s ok, I try to remove this trauma and live my life in the best way
(Sorry for my English, I am from Poland)
How you are able to remove this.....?????
liar, notice how nobody cared? Did saying that make you feel better? Looking for empathy or attention? Need a hug? You still lie these days?
I was married to the love of my life for 20 years. He was also a compulsive liar and cheater. I finally crawled away and created a new happy life on my own. I wrote a book about it anonymously to heal and pay it forward.
*Quiet Little Mouse: How My Lying Cheating Huband Awakened My Inner Warrior by Mali Ponday* I'm not looking for fame or riches. Peace and love❤️
That's so great!
do you miss him? how did you get past that part?
Dr. Marks, I love your energy. You have helped me so understand so much with your videos which are just as entertaining as they are informative and well researched.
Oh awesome Kathryn. Thanks so much for that I appreciate hearing that.😊👍🏽❤️
I have to say Dr. Marks, your video quality has really improved! I love the new editing style and I really appreciate all the time you take to make educational and well made video about mental health.
When I was younger sometimes my mother would ask me the question "How do I look?" to which I would answer "What am I going to do, tell you the truth?"
And I like saying PSEUDOLOGIA FANTASTICA too.
Anyway, thank you for another excellent video Dr. Marks.
I like your answer to your mom 😊 thank you for showing up and watching. 👍🏽
"They've gotten so lost in their lies, they can't dig their way out." Correct.
I knew someone like that. He did have some mental health issues and brain damage from drug use but man he could come up with some windies! His name is James and he earned the nickname Scatter brain James because of his lying. I love your videos Dr. Marks. They are always so spot on. Are you accepting new patients? :) I have major depressive disorder with psychotic features but am being treated with Fluoxetine and that is really working great for me. I had tried so many meds prescribed by my doctor but nothing was working. It was looking like it was treatment resistant. But Lo and behold, My doctor introduces me to Prozac. I now have fantastic relief. I mean the depression is still there (I have suffered from it all my life) but it is so much easier to tolerate. For the psychotic features, he has me on Rexulti. The two medicines work fantastically. Sorry to ramble on Dr. Marks. I just appreciate your videos and your wisdom so much. Cheers from New Mexico.
Hi Scott thanks for the compliment. I’m so glad Prozac is working for you. I use Prozac a lot it’s still pretty tried and true. However I’m sure that Rexulti is doing some heavy lifting as well. I am taking new patients but I can only treat people who live in Georgia. Now that your doctor has your good combination, looks like things should be smooth sailing for you.
Fantastic presentation! My brother is a pathological liar.
He will tell stories that go on and on, with him being the tough guy, or the hero. It gets exhausting, and at times I get offended that he thinks people are actually that stupid to believe him. I know he is trying to give the impression of being important and, the odd thing is, he has accomplished many impressive things in his life. Military, impressive career, volunteering, yet he still lies. I have, only a few times, called him out during these stories because I just can't take it, and sit through his epic bs. I feel that his overbearing, manipulative wife makes it worse, and he feels like he needs to over compensate. Anyway, I try to be patient, but sometimes I just have to walk away.
He’s a danger to society
Yeah that has to be really hard just listening to that all the time. It really is a compulsion though that people just can’t seem to break away from. Your brother is a great example because he already has accomplishments, so the lies don’t really serve a good purpose.
Thank you very much, I've been online platonic friends with a woman for 5 years, all she's ever done is lie - make up stories and read/hear what she wants to believe.
She literally lies and/or fabricates stories over nearly anything, even when people prove to her how she is lying, she refuses to take responsibility.
This sounds insane, but she literally lies more than any human being I've ever known, thank you for posting your video.
I'm currently in a relationship with a Pathological liar. She always lie about her past, about who she is, she lies to the point that she believes her own lies, and to my perspective its hypocritical, like when she's dissing someone about their character or manners when in fact she acts like that or she is like that. And even when caught lying or cornered about her lies, shes going to admit some, but lies about almost 80% about what she's going to admit, it's an endless lies, it's like a Lie after Lie after Lie so and so on. Now my trust about her is almost non existent, I sometimes question everything she says in my mind if I should believe it or not. I don't want to ask her again about whether shes lying about something because she's also a master of mind manipulation, she can get in your head to the point like you will not see yourself as a victim but an attacker who destroys her peace. I developed way to defend myself about her lies and to whatever she has to say when asked or not asked, and that is to lower my expectations about her, and that includes trusting less, and doesn't care anymore to some of whatever she has to say. This Lies can really deteriorate a relationship or how you get along with each other, it's almost like the love is getting snared away along with trust when lies are kept repeated. And to anyone who was wondering why don't I just leave her, Answer is I can't, we have a baby, and I want my baby to have a complete family. Even if it cost me my peace.
God bless you for your sacrifice for your child. But if her lying behavior starts messing with your mental health. You need to leave because of your daughter. Because if you become totally distress over the lies, that too can affect your daughter. And trust me I know the feeling. I'm currently going through this with my husband and don't know if I could ever come to a point where I just don't care. Which means if it was to continue messing with my mental health I would have to leave. Because stress can cause major health problems. I pray for us both that we can make it in these relationships and/or if God sees it that we remove ourselves, that the Lord would give us strength & peace to do so. Amen!
I need to get a divorce.
Me too
My ex was like this it got to the point she lied about having cancer. Its a serious issue that needs looking into
I'm a recovering pathological liar and I get SO much anxiety when I slip up and tell a random lie for no reason. I'm trying so hard to stop, and I have done for the most part, but I still slip up every now and then. I never lie about important things, I'm actually painfully honest even when it makes me look bad or hurts my interests or when I could have hidden it and nobody would have known but somebody else would have been blamed, I only lie about stupid stuff that has no benefit to me or other reason to even justify it. When I slip up I beat myself up about it so much and get anxiety for days about it.
How did you stop?
Sometimes I feel like not saying anything is better than lying about something that you don't want to say anything about.
very informative! really loved the video! Also turns out that I am a Prolific Liar.
I'm gonna try and work on it, cause I feel really bad after I lie, but I still end up eventually doing it again. its like an addiction.
I am kinda like a pathological liar, but I always wait for the reaction and then I few seconds. They then say: Really? And I say: No, but it would have been cool. And everyone laughs.
Lame
Anyone else here from Reesateesa?
I don't know what I'm talking about but I'm gonna continue like I'm knowing what I'm talking about. Good job.
lmao I felt personally attacked about the calling out for a “mental health day” part
I liked the video, thanks. I struggle with this on some level. One thing you didn’t mention, and I’m not sure whether it would fit in with low level, or high level....telling a lie to avoid a certain situation. I have GAD, and Social Anxiety. I will make a commitment to attend a party, for example, and then at the last minute, find the thought of going so anxiety-producing and overwhelming, that I will make up something, such as a fictitious family concern, or a migraine, I always feel guilty afterwards.
I be feeling the exact same way
I think this would be considered pretty normal. You’re only lying because you don’t feel comfortable explaining your emotional well being. That’s no one’s business anyway. Now my guy… is a big ass liar!
I know someone who lies, then expects you to be onboard with them. They insist you back them up. The strange thing about it is there is no reason or threat involved to lie in the first place. It's almost a normal way of life. I had to distance myself because I refused to be a part of it.
I have so much trauma from my past and have PTSD and bipolar, and I struggle with lying.
Sometimes I don't even control what I'm saying, it just comes out.
And sometimes its fun to see if people believe me - I have been referred to a new psychiatrist as my doctor wants me on medicine.
Wish me luck, its taken me years to admit the problem and seek help.
I feel like because I'm so traumatized, I create my own reality and believe my own lies
Thank you, Dr., that clears up some complete bewilderment on my side. I appreciate your simple and easy-to-understand explanation.
You can easily tell if you are dealing with a pathological liar by their answers. They will literally have an answer to everything you question them on because unconsciously pathological liars don't think when they are being put on the spot. It's that simple. In order to save face a pathological liar will have an excuse or answer for everything because they are ashamed of admitting the truth thus by providing an answers to all your questions they believe they are convincing you that they're right.
Damn
I need the help on this?
I've been lying about having a father for the past 3 years to my friends...what kind of lying is that?
I love your robust description with the references. I’ve been enjoying your channel, thank you for being so thorough!
I'll admit I used to be horrendous with lying, reflection allowed me to see the endless damage it did.... but, lately though I just don't socialize, simply clam up or internally remind myself nothing is worth lying to any person for or about.
My new personal reminder "Remember. You gotta call a screw a screw, not a nail."
She is low-key roasting Trump.
LMAOOOOO! 😂🤣
There's a workmate of my wife's and she's constantly lying. Big lies like her being accused and arrested for murder and little lies about her lifestyle. She has told so many it's unbelievable. It's hard to socialize with her because of her constant lying.
She forgets her lies too. An example is when she said her dad poked the eye out of an ex boyfriend and then her dad gave it her as a gift. She forgot that lie and went and shown a recent photo of her ex with both eyes fine. When confronted she gets really angry when she's found out to the point where she's threatening violence.
Thanks for the video. Lying is going to ruin my relationships and I’m tired of disappointing my dad and my friend. It’s something I don’t even notice at times. I hope eventually after learning how to improve my memory I can catch myself when I’m lying and stop it
The most honest, comment section ever
You forgot the lie to keep the conversation short. For example, I have chronic pain and when people ask 'how are you today?', I don't tell them that half my body feels like it is on fire while also being crushed, I just say, 'i'm alright I guess'. If you say any more than that, you have to repeat the same conversation you have had to say untold times before, and it still doesn't change things as they will just say something like, ' I hope you feel better', when that in itself is a lie just to end the awkward conversation.
Relatable.
Being related to someone who is a pathological liar & having to deal with it on a daily bases, I feel it on so many levels
My husband and i got Married last year and we have been living happily for a while. We used to be free with everything and never kept any secret from each other until recently everything changed when he got a new Job in Texas months ago, we have been in a long distance relationship for some months, he has been avoiding my calls and i got suspicious of him cheating.I asked my husband about it and he told me that he is always busy and working ,We had a big argument about it, this went on for long until one day i decided to notify my friend about this and that was how she introduced me to Mr John a PI/Hacker who helped her when she was having issues with her Husband. I never believed he could do it but until i gave him my husband’s Mobile phone number. He proved to me by hacking into my husband’s phone. where i found so many evidence and proof in his Text messages, whatsapp,instagram and other social media including pictures that my husband has an affair with his co-worker. I have sent all the evidence to my lawyer. I just want to thank Mr John for helping me because i have all the evidence and proof for my lawyer, You can contact him on Gmail (ultimatehack003 ) or WhatsApp +17202954268, i Feel so sad about infidelity.
I can feel you
Pathological liars sometimes even get you thinking even tho you know it's a lie yet you still keep thinking it over
I would say I unfortunately fall into the pathological lying category, but I do it out of fear of being judged or to save someone’s feelings. Also, sometimes to get my own way. I’m not too proud to admit it, but I guess it’s easier to do in a somewhat anonymous setting. I hope one day I can fall out if this category.
I hope you’re doing better, I need to work on this as well
You better because pathological liars are annoying and y’all ain’t tricking anyone. We’re just respectful but we all know you’re lying
@@Walteralexander1 I’m working on it, but I wanna ask you this. Why do y’all condone it? Please, it these call these mofos out! I lie a lot, but lowkey I am someone who fears confrontation. Although I hide it well
@@awayoflife44 I don’t think I am. When I drink I’m more honest. I like me when I’m telling the truth, so I’ve been having more than I should. That’s been my new demon 🤦🏽♂️
@@supervert1491 I call it out respectfully. Plus, you just said it yourself. Pathological liars are soft and will cry or get angry if you call them out. Stop pathologically lying. It’s annoying
Can you talk about the relationship between lying and bipolar disorder? It’s not definite in the DSMIV but anecdotally seems to have a very strong correlation. Is this related to delusion/reality distortion, substance abuse, or something else? Thank you!
Thanks Dr Marks, something is concerning when prolific lying overcomes an individual's need or ability to cope or distinguish with the truth. Those filters people apply to incomming information often make an obvious distinction for their compulsion to lie, when and what they are compelled to lie about, what they hope to achieve. Yet as you get to know them it becomes less distressingly, less of a dissapointment (like someone didnt care or continued time and time again to let them get off the hook) and that is usually rooted in the conditions or failures in their upbringing/social networks. Development missed in trust, esteem, accomplishments repeal the integrity of the person, they might no doubt use it as fun or to deny/evoke feelings of shame and betterment. Being clever and outfitting, some might thrive over lingering feelings of betrayal.
Really looking forward to your analysis of Pathogical Lying, it might be bigger but in a real teany weeny way 🙏
Thanks again it helps me to understand the types of people I know who will not tell the truth
Thank you for the video. Would like to see your take on the connections between narcissism, NPD, neurological malfunction, confabulation and lying. In short, confabulation fills in the memory gaps caused by the malfunctioning (delusional) brain of a narcissist. Therefore, they never believe - nor are they capable of believing - they are lying at all.
Your professional opinion and research could probably expand this into an interesting topic.
Thanks again.
This is me. I don't really know where the lying stems from but I usually lie to impress people or to keep the status quo within my circle. Sometimes I lie when a situation becomes extremely uncomfortable to save myself and others from further argument. I'm in my 30s now and in a very bad state in terms of my mental health... the lying doesn't stop especially when it comes to my family and friends. It's eating me up and the whole situation has gotten out of hand where telling the truth would destroy me and I don't know if that's something I can take. Anyway, I hope more people learn the value of telling the truth and more families accept people for who they are. Whether or not they become successful or unsuccesful, I hope the metric for acceptance becomes attainable for every person. I hate myself so much and I really feel like a monster. I'm not an addict and I do love everyone around me to the point where I'm like a doormat at times. I just hope things normalize, whatever that means for me.
This video deserves million of views
I met a guy who lied about everything. I mean everything! His name, his nationality, his family. But it was funny because he didn't remember his lies. He told me his brother was a plastic surgeon in LA but then didn't remember telling me. He lied about his name 3 times. Then, he lied about changing the colour of his eyes. Or that he broke his leg in the military when, in actuality, he was in a car accident where the driver (perhaps him) was drunk. I also met a girl in university who claimed her father was a neurosurgeon just so that she could boost her story that a professor of ours was 'crazy'. Then, she introduced me to her father who managed a discount bookstore. I thought, either he's really down on his luck or she has two fathers. She told other people he was a neurosurgeon also. I had to correct them citing that she did, indeed, introduce me to a bookstore manager as her father. This seemed innocent at the time, until she became president of our university culture club (which she had no actual ancestry to tie her to) and used it to get a $10,000 donation that she would later use to treat herself and her friends to a trip to Europe. My brother in law at the time recognized there was something wrong and made sure I, as vp of the same club, took my name off as signing officer for the club's bank account. I'm glad I did, otherwise I would have been the fallguy for sure.
I wish she gave examples of pathological lying like she did with the other two types
LMAOO the lying at 2:41 was too funny I’m sorry
I'm still laughing at those little lies 😂
I love the Boogie Man one! 😂
those examples came a little too easy for me 😀
@@DrTraceyMarks 😂😂😂😂😂
Yes 👍 👍
@@ladybaabaa3294 same 😂😂
i used that many times and other scary situation and characters to save my wallet from my nephews and nieces 😂 sometimes works, but kids are way smarter nowadays 😂
I had a supervisor from work lie to me for about two years about where he lived. Then one day he was forced to invite me over to fix a piece of equipment. When he gave me the address it kind of blew my mind because it is not where he had been telling me. Then I caught him lying about work related matters. Now I avoid him and scrutinize everything he says.
My husband says many little lies the whole day: "I'm on my way"(he is just waking up). "I'm working on that document" (not even typed 2 words). "Yes, I'll be there at 2:00 PM" but shows close to 3 PM... etc etc. He does it many times every day. How this behavior can be classified as?
There isn't anything weird about that
@FADE Are you Y. Rivera’s husband?
@@safiyaNYC Hahaha. His behavior seems weird to me specially when he is very very religious and, of course, he knows better.
@@electricfishfan7159 - if he were an organized person, these little lies could be ignored. But he has ADD and his problems are always overlapping, many times because he organizes his activities non efficiently and then... is 2:00 AM and he still writing the document that he was supposed to deliver at 5PM the day before... This happens almost every week.
Sigh, my best friend of 7 years just lies non-stop. He lied a little when we met. It increased over the years until the only two friends he has, and his own family, don't even know him. He definitely even believes some of his own lies. Digging deep, those tend to be the ones where he knows he did something so horrible, he knows he can never let anyone know what he really did. Even he's afraid of the truth. So, he just recites the lie until the truth is gone. He's even told horrible lies about me to get attention from other women! It's really ruined his life and relationships. No one trusts or respects him anymore. Now that I know to look for lies, I've realized he really does lie so often, easily, and automatically that he does not realize he's lying before he does it and he does not think at all after to catch the lie. There's no filter process and no thinking over what he just did. Just lying and sticking to the lie no matter what. I know he has some signs of OCD, anxiety, depression, and codependency, and he's very insecure. I don't even know how to bring him back from the dark hole he dug himself into. He's put everyone in danger and lost tens of thousands of dollars from lying. This video may help a little. I can look for herbs that would cause similar changes in the body to the medicines used for OCD and anxiety. Beyond that possibly working, he will end up ruining lives forever and never be happy.
Same here I feel you man.. and I feel great after cutting her out of my life completely
First time watching your channel in my opinion, simply amazing! I appreciate your hard work Dr.
I was a pathological liar, I did it so I could be someone I wish I could be that I didn’t think I could become. I thought nothing of it, I thought it was harmless since I didn’t lie about my actual character. I still loved and cared for my friends but I didn’t know it would hurt as bad as it did. I betrayed my morals and my family. They know and I’ve even gotten death threats from one of them. I know I deserve it but I’ve stopped. I don’t want to hurt anyone anymore, I never wanted to hurt anyone in the first place. Now I’m seeing someone, and I haven’t lied to her and I never will. I want to tell her about what happened so I can be truly honest with her, I really do like her and the last thing I want to do is betray her trust. How should I break it to her?
Hey Doc, excellent video (as always!)
Where you mention people whose lying has more of a compulsion / anxiety aspect and thus may be alleviated or assisted by taking an antidepressant similar to those that would be prescribed for OCD...
I became curious as to whether there might be any benefit for people whose lying stems more from an addiction with regard to impressing people / storytelling / enhancing their own perceived self image / mental stimulation, and who might feel dull, bored, restless, depressed and empty if they DON'T lie...like maybe ADHD meds or the meds that can target issues relating to addiction (like the meds that seem to stop people having cravings).
Hi Lady Baa Baa. That’s a good thought. I don’t think we have enough understanding about what drives the compulsive lies enough to target areas in the brain with medications. Addiction is a different mechanism and therefore we target cravings with medications. But compulsive lying can be personality-based versus brain injury. And even in the people where it stems from a personality issue, The reason behind the lies still may be too complicated to target with a drug. That’s just my raw thoughts. it could be that someone is trying to find an addiction model for it. It’s still fairly poorly researched though.
So this answered the questions I've been asking to myself. I've been doing this since childhood. And it becomes worse until I grow up. I feel bad.
But I have a question, what if I begin to make a scenario/thought/character in my head and I begin to act like that, talked to myself in the mirror, or just to myself...I've been doing this for a long time now. And Im disturbed as hell.
can I ask what kind of character your talking to? I think I do something similar. I talk to my younger self. And whenever I’m said or upset or crying I hold my hand and say “what’s wrong/ I’m hear for you” because I’ve never had someone say that to me when I was younger and it helps a lot. So when I apply that to lying I ask myself “why did you lie?” like I’m talking to a child and it can bring so much clarity. I think it’s called Inner Child Work and I’m 16 but it’s never too early to start. it really helps & I recommend it :)
@@lilly2123 Oh I see. There are instances that I act like that but mine's just out of the blue, like unconsciously I begin talking to myself with no particular reason.
I do this too
Are you lying when you said you are disturbed?
Is it like playing a character, like acting?
Due to my constant masking, I'm sure I do a lot of the tiny lies whenever I have to deal with/talk to people.
Usually just stupid stuff, like, "I'll have to see if I'm available that day," because I need time to process their request, invite, or suggestion first, but mainly I need time to come up with a polite but assertive way of saying "no."
Which is usually another small lie, because "I just don't want to" or "I really can't stand you" would likely just cause more problems than it would solve.
Dr. Marks, You are simply terrific. A much needed explanation.
This was so interesting! I loved learning the 3 types of lies :)
“You can’t have that toy because it belongs to the boogeyman” 🤣 I’m using that lie on my 2 year old today!!
I read your comment JUST As she said it! I love when that happens 😆
I tell lies because I’d rather say what I wish the truth was
You really called me out with the mental health day
Living for that hair!! Rock it, gurl!! 😍
Thank you Jacqueline!😊❤️
I recently quit my job. There are a few times where I had to call in sick to stay home and have a metal health day. I wasnt physically sick but I was mentally suffering. I worked for a animal rescue and there where days and weeks that where so difficult. Not just with compassion fatigue with the animals but also difficult and mean staff members. At one point I was dealing with sexual harassment and a very toxic work environment. My father in law is a doctor and told me I needed to have a mental health day and take care or myself. I called into work sick and just focused on myself and relaxed. If I had called into work and told them I needed a mental health day it wouldn't have gone over well. It's so diffrent if you say mental health or you are physically sick. It's not excepted by many businesses to take mental health days.....so how do you go about taking a mental health day when it can make things worse at your job.??? But you have to take care of your health expesually in a toxic and emotionally draining work enviroment? I feel so bad that I lied but I thought it was ok because i was taking care of my mental health and it was none of their business giving that they where not supportive in the first place.... is it bad that I lied in this situation.????...😞
No, it’s okay. You have nothing to worry about. I’d do the same if I were you. You didn’t lie because you needed a break and it doesn’t matter which part of your body was suffering as long as you were suffering.
that i would put under a small lie. i hope youv'e found a job that you enjoy by now because it sucks you had to lie to avoid such terrible working conditions. so sad.
Excellent explanations. I met a pathological liar. This person was deceitful & had severe domestic violence issues. I would be very interested in seeing a video regarding the psychological background of a man who commits domestic violence.
That’s a great topic I’ve taken a screenshot of your question which is what I do to save questions and I’ll look into it. I have a feeling it’s fairly complicated though. Some people are violent for different reasons. Some people have anger management issues and the person at home is just the unfortunate victim because they are around. That’s a different kind of person from cycle of violence you see with men who abuse to break the person and dominate them. I’ll have to look into it. Thanks for the suggestion
All governments and all religions study this.Thank you for your input
I lie to protect and benefit myself. This makes me question mysef
When I was twelve I genuinely thought I was a bad liar until I realized how much I lied and got away with it... should I be worried...?
Awareness is a good place to start. Awareness brings a choice
Most liars wanna impress people with money, status, protect their ego/character & lies are a easy was to “attain”. One thing I find is liars speak more than necessary cause they want there story to sound believable. Also sometimes the truth is right in front of use don’t think about it to much remember if it’s to good to be true it probably isn’t….
Hey Dr.Tracey Marks,
I been dating this girl for 5 months now, and I been and recently noticed something wrong with her, and I cannot tell what kind of behaviour this can be!
When I saw her for her birthday few days ago, I noticed many things!
To begin, it was my first time formally meeting her mother!
During our conversations, I have spoken to her mom about how my girlfriend and I had a big connection, since we both been to Africa! Then her mom looked confused, and looked at my girlfriend and said “but you never been to Africa” Then my girlfriend said that she felt the relation, since her father used to work in Africa, and her half sister have been there! And my girlfriend had told me that she’s been to Africa, but then I find out from her mom that she never went!
A little detail, I remember when my girlfriend and I starting talking, she was the first one to bring up the topic about Africa, before I did! So that makes me confused, as to why her mom said that she never went!
Here are other things I noticed about my girlfriend!
1. I told her that her hair looked nice when it’s down, and asked if it’s her real hair, and she said yes. (Usually she wears extensions) and then she was sure that she wasn’t wearing any, when in reality she was. (Maybe she didn’t pay attention but that was strange to me how she was convinced that she wasn’t wearing any extensions and it was her real hair)
2. Then I told her mom how my sister in law is pregnant and will give birth in December, then my girlfriend says to me in front of her mom “Oh yeah I met her sister in law, she was super pregnant!” When in reality, she never met my sister in law, nor my niece! When confronted, she was still sure that she met my niece, and told me that she heard noises down stairs! Reality she never met them!
3. My girlfriend and I were hanging out in her room, cuddling and stuff, then I told her that we should be careful since her mom is in the backyard, then my girlfriend told me that no, her mom ain’t there, and left! When in reality, her mom was in fact in the backyard watering the plants! Then when she looked outside and saw her mom’s car parked in front the house, then she said “oh shit yeah, my mom is here!”
In all this I know that she suffered trauma before in her past relationship, and while I was dating her, there was 2 events that shocked her!
First one:
She told me that her ex boyfriend wrote a suicide note related to her because she didn’t want to get back together with him, and then he commit suicide!
Second one:
When she did a get away with her half sister, her sister met this guy at the resto bar, who ended up hanging out with my girlfriend and her half sister, and he ended up sexually harassing her (because she defended herself it didn’t go too far)
She also has a problem with alcohol, and been doing therapy and is on medication to control the drinking as well! Could the medication be playing with her mind or behaviour? Because I never seen her talk/act like that before, when we were having conversations us 2, or with other people!
I need help understanding what kind of behaviour this is? I thought about pathological liar, or Scisophrenia?
I like your hair :)
liar?
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Thank you. It was time for a little change up.