10 "Dr. Phil" Mistakes That We Can Learn From
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- Опубліковано 20 тра 2024
- This video answers the questions: What can we learn from Phil McGraw? What is his therapeutic modality? Did he steal Dr. William Glasser’s Reality Therapy Model?
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It annoys me that he consistently says 'I'm the least judgemental person I know' then proceeds to judge, humiliate and belittle his guests
the problem with narcissist's is their striking lack of self awareness! they never even consider the possibility that they could be wrong! therefore they rarely can be helped or changed! it's sort of like the blind leading the blind and I feel he's damaging people far more then helping.
EXACTLY !! I don't Waste 60 precious minutes of my life watching his TV show. It's a Show & usually a shit show from the few I have seen ! He's Disgusting at the richest level.
Maybe he doesn’t know anyone?
Kind of like Trump saying, "I'm the least racist person on earth."
Very Trump-like, eh?
"Dr" Phil is rude, arrogant and narcissistic. I cannot watch his show because I get so angry with how he speaks down to people. He doesn't seem to care that he could be hurting them or worsening the situation they are there to get help for. I sometimes wonder why anyone would go on his show knowing how he treats people. Thanks for the wonderful analysis of a very entitled man.
You are damn right!
Yessssss, Lynda!
perhaps the guests get paid? Money talks always.
THANK YOU!
Phil McGraw not a Doctor--?
You touched on the main thing that made me so uncomfortable with him. He humiliates people on national television and I don't see how that can be helpful to these people's mental health
It is not
It's all about $$$$$.... The show, his never ending stack of books , he and son have the businesses together that continue with the farce of Physiatry, etc.. another source of biz for Opie W ( the biggest racist in the world)... Freak shows that make you laugh and feel very blessed not to be that messed up . And what happened to Robin?? Is it too much Botox like Uncle Joe Biden or tacky bad plastic surgery ... hahaha 😂... but they are laughing all the way to the bank 🏦
I noticed the SAME THING!
@@Taureanfitness Dr Phil is, to me, a grifter. He will do anything for 💰. He and his son run Doctor's on demand, an expensive therapy system which connects patients to therapists. Biggest problem is that many are just councillors, not trained Medical Therapists. His wife has a major lifestyle and cosmetics programme. The only honest McGraw is the son who's a talented singer and guitarist. He refused all offers of promotion from his father. He wants it all to be his own work.
Dr phill cares so much about his lovely family...
Thank you Dr. Grande. I thought I was the only one . He strikes me as a charlatan and a narcissist. Of course this is just my opinion for I have no degree in psychology, I just go by my gut or as others would say my intuition. Thanks again doctor I appreciate everything.
You have a well informed gut, I think.
Well said Marian serra. Dr Phil likes control and puts people " in their place " harshly , rudely and it's unnerving to me! Have you seen photos inside his home? Weird there are these weird stuffed cloth and dolls and almost every room and they almost look like his wife you're freaking weird
@@asyouwish8883 Thank you for the kind words but no,I have not seen photos of "Dr." Phil's home.; I don't think I would like too see it. Ugh!
I find it interesting that Oprah, the women of great wisdom and deep intellectual thought, would support a man such as he. ( I was being facetious when it came to Oprah,BTW )
People take this man seriously and I find that irresponsible of the management of the Station; I wish they'd shut him down. He's slightly more dignified than "The Jerry Springer Show" ( is it still on the air?) however, I'm just one person with an opinion about him and not a corporate sponsor. The quickest way to cripple his show is by contacting his sponsors. Maybe someone can post a list of them and then we can do what our Founding FATHER'S and Mother's did; BOYCOTT.
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@@barbarawarner4645 Thanks Barbara for the compliment ( it's 2 months old) I did not receive a notice you commented but did today ,(March 12, 2022) on another commentary.
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I luv Dr todd. Bur here he comes off as a bit jelly bout ole Dr phill.
ALSO, when he says “I’m the most non-judgmental person I’ve ever met” I want to rip my hair out. Dr. Phil needs to develop some insight of his own.
Does he say that? Wow. As a German I never saw a full episode, just from time to time short clips, mostly if it's shown on other UA-camrs' channels. I don't like him and I don't like the show. I don't like the sensational use of mentally ill people, even then when they don't want to be in his show. This was the worst, when I saw how one or two ran and just wanted out of the studios and the cameras didn't just follow but hunted them. If I were brought into this show under false expectations or even forced by my parents when I'd be a minor, I would never forgive them.
Although I saw stuff I thought he was right, or that he helped someone but the negative stuff outweighs these few moments far too much.
Whatever, he for sure is not not judgmental. Nobody can be this totally. I work voluntarily with people with mental health issues and similar and it's very hard to stay objective. Since my work is online and I can choose who I talk to it's easier for me. But even then, sometimes I just don't want, for example if someone is an abuser and thinks they're the victims, or something like this. And I would never trust someone who says they're always objective, I only trust some individuals if they say to me that they're objective about a specific topic.
And I know many professionals and no one of these I trust would ever say that, at least not to me.
No narcasism there.. Wink wink!
unschuldshascherl well said!
leeanne LOL right 😆
Angela Bennett I doubted he was a real doctor! Don’t they need so many hours of therapy themselves? It seems like he skipped out on his.
Yes. Not to mention that the humiliation factor can be detrimental to a person’s mental health.
I've often wondered why people want to be on his show. It doesn't seem like a good idea to literally have your problems on stage for everyone to see, yet people seem to continue wanting to be guests.
@Adrienne Gurge great point. Minors shouldn't be exploited, and their problems shouldn't be sensationalized.
@@caryulmer7063 They get a free trip, meals, other extras for coming to the show.
Especially when done on tv
@Joy Georgina The resources agree to provide the treatment in exchange for publicity on the show. Phil and his show do not pay for this treatment. There is no treatment for some of the person's mental health issues, like personality disorders or delusional disorders. Treatment for the affected family members is possible, though.
I don’t see how any real therapist can be a fan of Phil McGraw. He’s exploitive and in my opinion dangerous. I’ve watched very few episodes over the years but never been impressed and often shocked by his lack of ethics.
I am one. I loathe him. But the catfish episodes are pretty damn good. However. I cannot believe it when he has mentally ill guests on his show
Excellent analysis. My ex watched the show when we were together and it always bothered me, for many of the reasons you've mentioned. The one I noticed the most was how he couldn't deviate from the narrative. It was like he had a script in his mind, he had a conclusion he was leading to, and like he was a director of a play guiding the other performances where he wanted them to go. The more people tried to deviate and actually talk about their experience or the more (understandably) frustrated they'd get by his redirection of the narrative, the more bullying he'd become. He'd flat out tell them to stop talking, and then publicly shame them on national TV for their anger/uncooperative nature/lack of agreeableness, or use weaponized psychology such as throwing a term like "emotional confusion" as an insult to "put them in their place". It seems like a form of narcissistic abuse (ie demanding narcissistic supply, blaming/shaming/belittling those uncooperative with providing it, they react negatively, the narcissist feels validated that the other person is clearly the problem). The whole show and his attitude feels so exploitative and damaging.
Agree
That was an awesome assessment! Your verbal aptitude is impressive 👍
It's basically the jerry springer show with an infomercial about his wife's skin care line as an outro.
For Posterity 🤣🤣🤣 You pegged it, especially the skincare shilling.
@@DuskyJewel And at least the Jerry Springer show had the Final Thoughts part at the end of every show, which was better advise then Phil ever gave.
@@forposterity4031 yep!!
@@DuskyJewel all the money goes to charity
@@forposterity4031 not true. I've learned a lot from his show
As a former counsellor, I can’t believe how often he bullies his clients/guests.
Yes! I've noticed this particularly with guests with drug or alcohol problems. He really talks down to them and shows absolutely no compassion or understanding for what they're battling.
@@pffox Indeed. He seems to make personal judgements about addiction. He really is a poor “therapist”. But he’s no longer a registered psychologist. It’s the Wild West on his show. I don’t understand why people with problems go on his show.
Why former?
@@rickreynolds9306 I got sick of the psychos so I went back to university and became a researcher. I quit after the fourth firearm was put in my face.
@@MaxPower-js1sk who the hell were you counseling? I've been to a few over my lifetime and I've never heard of such. Not saying it doesn't happen, but certainly it has to do with demographics. I have had a counselor get in my face, and it worked. It's what was needed.. But anymore someone confronting another person's bullshit is pretty much considered "bullying". We are very tender these days it seems. That seems to be the root of many current issues. People have confused their opinions for fact and defend them as such.
But I thought "the psychos" was what it was about.
Maybe you just weren't a great counselor. More suited for the theoretical side of the industry.
I’ll never forget when he brutally yelled at a poor woman for being fat. You would’ve thought she had just burnt down an orphanage! Thanks, Oprah for sending us this shyster.
That makes me so upset. Ever notice how he is more gentle with men then he is with women too?
Oh I’m so glad finally someone agrees with me on ( Dr ) Phil and the many many mistakes he makes, and I refer to him as a narcissistic psychologist.!
10 mistakes that you’ve mentioned spot on.
I’m glad that he’s happily married, but sometimes he annoys me as to how perfect his wife Robin is, and yes she’s annoying too.
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Agreed. Rather nauseating.
I agree with you about Robin!!! OMG!! I thought I was the only one. I hate it when they cut to her face, and ahe's displaying a judgemental expression!!!
People who boast about how great their marriages are usually cheat on their partner
@@alejandrocurado5134 yes, I’ve noticed that, but with Dr Phil, the “love fest” between him and Robin was sickening. Like in your face to everyone who has a less than perfect marriage. Actually, too good to be true in my opinion if you’re talking a mutual love/respect relationship. If you’re talking mutual benefits behind the scenes that’s different. Lots of money and power to go around there!
@@juliekoszelak9918 I HATE that. And the cut out at the end of the show when they leave the stage
You know, he doesn't act like a doctor. He's more like a game show host.
Yes its about him and his super ego. He is exploiting poor people that cant afford a pro in hopes maybe they get help its very disgusting.
He's even worse than a game show host. I would rather watch Steve Harvey than friggin' Dr. Phil.
Lollll nice reference
Game SHow Hosts act very corgial and energetic to excite the Audience and players and wouldn't insult and dmean them.
Lol, totally! He'd be a good new Family Feud game show host.
Somewhere around 10 or 15 years ago, a friend of mine appeared on Dr. Phil's show. She reported later that her appearance was actually edited to make her look stupid or ill-informed about the topic, which had to do with child custody issues. They would preserve an out-of context stunned look on her face, but eliminate or severely edit her answers to questions to the point of being misleading. I suspect that dishonest editing is also a big piece of this show. Only including what he wants people to say, how he wants people to look. And cutting out anything which is at odds with his preconceived notions or overall agenda.
Fact is that all reality TV does that; The Apprentice & Celebrity Apprentice was big into that.
Sofia yes! and if people say that producers have told them to say something he gets PISSED
That's so wrong on Dr Phil's part
People forget to recognize that THIS IS A pure entertainment, a SHOW and only A SHOW. People who go on these kind of entertainment shows expect fairness, advice, etc. Im sure they get a free meal, hotel and travel costs if not more to be used on a show as “ puppets “. Im sure they sign documents as to how their appearance may or may not be altered to fit and suit producers agenda. I had an offer to appear in small claim court on so called tv show and I have declined. I would not put my face on tv to be used like this for no money. It appears that they have the whole “machine” of people looking up court cases in small court claims and contact plaintiffs to appear on their show. You would be surprised how many people would go on tv just for a chance to be on tv and have producers to pay for their free weekend in LA. People like your friend do that without thinking of consequences and than they complain that they have been humiliated.
thanks I always wanted to know how people felt after the show. I feel like this whole business needs a review.
Thank you. I believe he exploits & sometimes publicly humiliates or shames people.
Sometimes, he makes the good guys, bad and vice versa.
That's it, you just earned my full respect. I get so incredibly frustrated by his anti-mental health exploitation of truly sick people. What he did with Britney and Shelley Duvall was the opposite of what should have been done. He played into Shelley's delusions during an episode of worsened schizophrenia (previously diagnosed), and exploited her during a time that she needed help the most, and I think we all know what he did to Britney during her challenging period when she was in the hospital no less.
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I find Dr Phil to be more harmful than helpful. He is always promoting himself over needs of guests. He bullies the guests, that's not therapy.
Agreed! I have anxiety and ocd I feel worse bout my self after watching his show. I don’t dare watch it anymore.
Staci Jordan - I couldn't agree more. I'm able to sum my feelings and thoughts of Dr. Phil in this way. He's a few steps lower than a sleazy used car salesman. And in all likelihood has an arsenal of psychological and physical means of bullying men and women into his sewer.
And as is said at the beginning of the show, that being there as a guest is a safe place to be. Are you kidding me? For the rest of your life you are on UA-cam. One simple example is the boy who slapped his mother in the face. He will be about 20 now. But he is still to be seen on UA-cam. Very therapeutic!
Improvements for neurological disorders advancements for autism?
Yes! A bully!
MSW student-we were just talking about Dr Phil in my advanced practice skills class and you’re absolutely right, we discussed how Dr. Phil is a great example of how NOT to treat clients. I think the episodes that enrage me the most are the ones where he brings people with obvious delusional disorders and turns them into spectacles where the entire audience is just laughing at them. He doesn’t even address the disorder or explain delusions at all.
Well said
Dr G et alia, Dr P discovered at some point that he can exploit his quick wit and knowledge to produce entertainment! This is probably 95+% of his motive - fame and fortune. His 'guests' are carefully vetted through a formulaic production process too! No offense but isn't this all abundantly obvious??
Angela, you're trying to become a counselor or clinician?
T I’m not sure what you’re asking because often those terms are used interchangeably, and clinician is overarching. But I suppose that term fits more, as I plan to work in inpatient settings.
@@Forever_jung that's all I am trying to find out, what kind of career you are going into.
You really nailed it--identifying all the distorted and dysfunctional ways he interacts with guests including his lack of empathy and neutrality. After randomly watching about 4-5 episodes I've found myself [as a counselor as well] quite disturbed by his approach and tactics. I've had a visceral response to some of the ways he really humiliates guests. There is nothing therapeutic about his approach. I've often wondered how those guests walk away feeling about themselves after being on that show.
I really appreciate your direct, factual descriptions of behaviors of the people you review on your channel, as well as your transparency about how you feel about these folks. You do a great job of sharing that but also presenting a clear, concise and factual representation within your assessment
I remember around 2003 he had a segment called “Get Real” where he would dress mental health patients down military style. I could barely stand to watch even a couple minutes.
He can be so brutal it's hard to watch esp when you know how wrong & damaging this could be & likely is for those people. He gets sued quite often actually from what I've read incl his own employees he locked in a ballroom once & told them pyt their phones in baskets (to prevent filming). Between his abusive nature to people he knows aren't well & his ego I can't watch & no I don't need to see him hawking his wife's skin creams etc. Their bottom-line is all about the $$$$$$.
@@jenh6247 LOL! Do you know what actually goes on in a psych hospital? You have order every single day. You have structure every single day. why? Because the patients can't run around willy-nilly They don't understand their own behavior, so they are taught how to get by EACH DAY. LOL!
@@RainCloud848 how is that relevant to the comment you're replying to? You think treating patients as if they're in boot camp is related to the structure inside of a hospital? Is all structured activities the same in your eyes or are you just trying to argue with a totally unrelated point? Ridiculous.
@@lazydaisy2292 I'm still laughing at your comments. Boot camp...see why I am laughing?
I was on the Dr. Phil show and he humiliated me and did not ask about my background, I am diagnosed with CPTSD and am a Trauma survivor. I really believed in him, and that he could help me, and instead, he made everything look like it was my fault without getting to the root of the problem. I felt like I was fighting for my life. He is still showing me on the show which was aired 12 years ago. It still is humiliating and I do not know what to do. He really is terrible. He keeps the trauma alive and he puts himself in the best light. He cut off a lot of the things that I said in the show so that he looked good. After the show, I was dismissed like garbage and they had nothing else to say to me.
Oh I’m very sorry. 😢
Dr. Phil to guest: You're not that important, you need to stop talking.
Dr. Todd to us: I wonder if Dr. Phil is projecting and those ideas don't just apply to the person he's talking to...
🤣🤣 I'M DEAD 😂😂💀💀
Savage.
Dr Phil: You just want to talk about yourself all day You're delusional.
Also Dr Phil: So more than half the show is just me talking.
Dr. Phil was just using his canned statement when he's had enough of Oprah, "You're not that important, you need to stop talking."
@@DeactivatedCharcoal Oh the irony
Phil McGraw is Maury with a PhD. Several years ago, one of my friends from college was on the Rachael Ray Show. She had a rare eating disorder called Orthorexia, and she talked about it with Rachael Ray, whose background is in cooking. Anyway, after that, she received an appearance invitation from the Dr. Phil show. They wanted her to come on the show with her parents and siblings and rehash everything that they had already worked through in counseling and everything she had worked through and inpatient treatment for her eating disorder. At this point, she was almost 30 years old, and the Dr. Phil show wanted to bring her back on to discuss these issues she’d had in college. He wanted to HURT her family and publicly shame her for views. She turned down the invitation.
Good that she turned It down
When a man in conflict with a woman, the woman excused, the man accused. He is an entertainer, not therapist
This is so good. I have always felt uncomfortable with how Phil handled things on his show and this sheds so much light on why he seemed off.
In my opinion, you nailed it when you mentioned that Phil McGraw appears to have, "superficial charm". That is exactly why I have never been able to watch a full segment of anything he has ever talked about over the 2-3 times I have tried. I do not understand his popularity as I find him to be incredibly off-putting. To me, he appears to be some kind of a construct made for TV.
@@2rific_2 that explains it all 😹😹😹
He has called guests “broken”. No proper mental health clinician would ever say that to their patients!
Says who
@@kirkjohnson4569 - Note the word "proper" in the OP. Obviously some clinicians might do that, but they certainly *shouldn't* do this, and it's anything but proper!
@@Bike_Lion" says who" him.
@@kirkjohnson4569 - Says anyone with a bit of decency and common sense, LMAO!
@@Bike_Lion the doctor is stating his philosophy that he wouldn't call someone broken other doctors take a different approach
“Dr Phil” is not a PhD who happens to have a talk show, he’s a talk show host who happens to have a PhD.
Exactly!
Well said.
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Hey you dropped something oh wait it was knowledge
Words have never been truer!!!
I always sensed that the Dr. Phil show was just "Show Biz," where he always wins through using dominance and power over a pre-chosen victim. I found myself writhing in empathy for the worm that he quickly threaded on his hook and then paraded his crucified victim to the audience. He is just part of the celebrity crowd as far as I am concerned. I don't know why people would go on TV and display their dysfunctional relationships to millions of viewers. One might as well just show up naked. Have some privacy and dignity!
He loves to brag about his celebrity friends.
Great explication. As an aside, I have often wondered exactly what the legal waivers and confidentiality statements of these talk shows contain. It always seemed like the guests were being psychologically butchered on live television for entertainment value; modern day versions of gladiators.
"Im attempting to be fair, but puttin it out there that im not a fan"😃😃😃😃 best!
I will say that Dr. Phil in the early days of the show, there was actually some educational value and he got deeper into the psychology of his guests. The show was closer to actually being therapy.
The thing is now, he's become kind of a Jerry Springer reality show in the sense there's very little depth, there's way more drama and it's basically a free for all in terms of the subjects they cover.
@@dootdoot94xo44 hehe, thank you! 😊
Agreed.
I knew it wasn't therapy from the beginning. He's a tv host. That is it. He should be off the air...lots of people don't realize its an act. He causes harm and quite possibly has triggered a few if not several suicides. He should be banned and off the air now.
Nah
Nah never any education value. That is way too kind.
When someone like Dr. Phil works harder on self premonition than helping others, I become very skeptical.
Incredible, a very insightful analysis! You're coming from such a genuine and empathetic standpoint, here as a professional in mental health. As you point out the ethical considerations when treating patients, and the aim of what his show really is about, which is clearly gaining revenue at the expense of others in their worst states; I can see why this would be a concern to you. And it is very concerning that's for sure!
Dr Grande is growing on me! I love his subtle sense of humor.
I love his subtle sense of humour.
Same. When I started watching, his even tone didn't lock me in. Now I have a whole playlist of his videos I'm working on. His humor is what kept me tuned in. 😂♥️
@@DonnaLeigh My sense of humor is enhances by his lack of professionalism. He is absolutely a joke as a " therapist ".
He's good but not as good as ole pholl...
His subtle smirk,
Phil always came off to me as that guy who tells you to “just stop it” like he gave you a startling revelation that fixes all your problems. When the guest push’s back he attacks and mocks them because how dare you challenge his authority. After all, he’s the best person in the room, it’s his show.
I’ve often wondered if he’s a some kind of narcissist.
The "Just stop it" skit on the Bob Newman Show?
If a person could just stop it they would have but could not so they knew enough that they needed help and turned to Phil who says just stop it. .f me
"If you don't like green beans, don't eat them..."
Lol
@@jamesreagle245 😂💀😂💀 Your comment is 👌
*_"push's"?!_* There's no such word; it's "pushes."
Thank you for your videos and analysis! I find them credible and interesting. I love your work!
I really appreciate your analysis, Dr. Grande. Your analysis is level-headed and insightful. 🌹
Thank you for posting this. He was most offended when someone called his show a 'reality show' but that is exactly what it is. I think they looked at the Jerry Springer show and wanted to create something a little less dramatic but with a format that included people airing their dirty linen in public, because people want to watch that kind of thing. He certainly plays to the audience at the expense of the people on the stage. I found it most distressing when a man who had raped and abused his daughter over a long period was offered help, but the daughter who was obviously deeply traumatised was told that perhaps she could somehow get over it enough to have a relationship with her father and moreover, that was 'up to her'. I am sure that some people have been helped, but those with trauma such as the girl recently who repeatedly pretended to be pregnant and wished to give away her child in order to make contact with the outside world would, I suggest, have been further damaged by making this known to thousands of people. I find it interesting that in his office he is surrounded by photographs of himself.
Damn near perfect this comment is, im glad more and more ppl are recognizing it
I’m embarrassed that it took me, a health care professional, so long to catch on to his awfulness - just goes to show how slick he is and absolutely can’t be trusted. I think my first glimmer is when he has his very frail wife there for every single episode. I mean , what? Just to Dow her off or to torture her to bits....
I definitely don’t have STUPID printed on my forehead.
Spot on, Leigh! Too funny!
I think you missed out on mentioning how Phil McGraw’s wife is sometimes given her chance to advertise her own beauty products as they are all endorsed by Dr.Phil. I actually stopped watching Dr.Phil just because more and more episodes towards the end were slowly turning into a tv shopping channel.
What beauty? Robin McGraw's face, is tighter than Joan Rivers. 😔
And now his son’s ‘Doctor on Demand’ app ..
@@feleciagoldson2834 lol. Like a catcher’s mitt. Once he starts to pull his I’m daddy crap I’m out.
I agree, the show is all about promoting themselves. Robin was once a beautiful woman. Whoever did her plastic surgeries did an awful job. It’s actually hard to look at her now. 🤢🤮
It looks greedy
Dr. Grande, I gotta' say, I really find your videos very interesting! And I also very much so appreciate how you speak your mind, and intelligently articulate your thoughts "straight down the middle" very good content and great remarks all-around!!
you nailed it! "Dr. " Phil is a joke. As an ER nurse for 15 years I've seen hundreds of people having mental health issues and no way would we bully, intimidate or humiliate them. Phil McGraw lacks empathy and has no ethical compass .
I would pay anything to see Dr. Grande debate Dr. Phil!!!!!! Showdown of the century!
Personally, I don't think that would be particularly interesting. McGraw would just vacillate between bullying and self pitying behaviour and comments in an attempt to push buttons and dominate the stage. Meanwhile Dr Grande would become increasingly exasperated with Phil's petulant behaviour but remain professionally reserved.
@@Auriflamme how is Dr. Grande "professionally reserved" based on his videos? Most of his youtube content that I've seen is not very educational or professional, he's mostly just being salty and critical of people he makes videos about
I'll ring Vince Mcmahon.
Loren Fulghum more like a mental beat down . Dr Phil can not handle the heat .
@@wardaq7724 What are you referring to specifically?
I love that you don’t even call him “doctor”. Called him by his government name. 😂
He has a PhD so technically the title "Doctor" is still appropriate.
But you never told us whose theory or theories
you use, Dr. Grande. But yeah, there's just an
intangible "something" about Dr. Phil that puts
me off, so I don't usually watch his show.
And he certainly isn't a perfectionist, but I think
he may want to be! From just listening to him,
you realize that he has given a perfect 10 to
his wife, his sons and daughters-in-law, their
children, his house, seems like every aspect
of his life is, well, perfect!! There is just so much
of this braggadochio I can handle. I cannot say
my life has turned out to be a perfect 10! And I
don't believe anyone's is or ever has been. The
British Royal family is making the news about
a few lightweight, would-be scandals involving
Queen Elizabeth's kids and grandkids. So, even
within a royal family, people are still not perfect!
But Dr. Phil believes everyone and everything
he has or owns IS perfect - except himself. He
has an ingratiating humility before his guests
and his TV audiences. He admits, "I'm not God
but I'm here to help you." But, is he being sincere? I'm wondering if we'll get any reaction
from Dr. Phil? A friendly reaction would be very
nice to see from both sides of the fence!
@@kukalakana I think Dr Grande said in an earlier video that Dr. Phil didn't have a current license. So while he still may have his PhD, if he's not a legally practicing clinician, it could be a reason not to refer to him as a doctor in a clinical context. He mentions the absence of the license in this vid too.
@@lilypowell1123 narcissism is not a new condition. it's talked about more than ever now, but the diagnosis has existed for quite some time, and narcissistic, bullying, domineering behaviors have existed forever.
Such a good side burn 🤣👍
Yesss, thank you! I use to call him the Jerry Springer of psychology, and people would get so offended😂
Thank you so much for this insightful and balanced video. I uses to watch "Dr Phil" years ago in my twenties before I trained as a counsellor and couldn't believe the frankly egotistical and misguided "therapy" being meted out. Thanks for confirming my thoughts all these years later!
I completely agree with everything you said Dr Grande. When you mentioned control therapy, I remember that show being on and Phil McGraw said to one of his guests/clients, "It's my way or the highway. " when he was challenged by a quest. I turned that into a clinical setting and thought, no respectable psychological would ever say that to a client. I haven't watched that show since that day.
Thanks Dr Grande, I love hearing your interesting and diverse range of topics.
I've also stopped watching.
I also stopped watching. It's not all black/white as Phil pushes.
I don't think you can even consider them his clients. They are just guests on the show. I bet he pays them To be his guests. Insurance would never pay him for his work because it's not considered therapy.
yup I've ceased to stop watching also. I used to watch to make fun of his show n wife but its supporting his crap so no more.
@@lc4life369 He chooses guests on the basis of how controversial they will be. His staff are known to fear his outbursts if they can't persuade somebody to be on the show. I believe he's well past his sell-by date and should retire. His "reality TV" style show is not good for those who have real problems.
He always reminds us he's been doing this for 40 years. Every show.
It's him trying to convince you that he knows what he's doing.
He may have been making the same mistakes for fourth flipping years though.. XD
Wow Phill! That's a long time to be a narcissistic, parasitic, busy-body who uses people and screws up their lives. You must be getting good at that by now then. 🙄
HE SHOULD HAVE BEEN IN JAIL 41YRS AGO .
@@a_diamond and trying to convince himself against all input from the medical community as well as the look on the persons face he is speaking to
Absolutely!!
A young man who was an alcoholic was on the show. He said alcohol was made available to him. I was not watching the show but stopped on the channel as the young man was “assisted” on stage by two huge men because he could not walk on his own. He was in tears, red faced, and so ill that an ambulance was in order. Later hearing that alcohol was offered…made me sick to my stomach. I feel they could have killed him.
Your thoughts on Dr Phil are understandable, as the show has implied ties to your own field. A big thing to remember is that "Dr Phil" is a tv show; the real therapist was Phil McGraw, who voluntarily gave up his license to practice and instead continued as a tv talk show host. The income potential for tv hosts is much larger than forensic psychologists. He took what he had to work with such as the Dr. title, the Texas attitude, the years of learning psychological lingo, his success at "reading" people as a jury consultant, and a friendship with Oprah and turned it all into a highly watched show. The thought that licensed therapists would take away lessons from a tv show is as scary as Gordon Ramsey providing management training to culinary students.
(Edited to add this thought:
In case anyone misunderstands this, the statement"provide education" Dr Phil refers to is aimed at the home audience, not the professionals.)
One thing I've noticed with Dr Grande is that he never speaks with ego. He also shows empathy and realiatic points of view
Yes, it’s calming.
I've always thought of him as the "Jerry Springer" of psychology. Purely a SHOWMAN, not a therapist by ANY stretch of the imagination!!
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That’s it exactly!✊👍
Yes, I believe that is the road he has went down. So sad when he could be offering a much humane approach to his guests.
Yours may be the best reply on here. AND, people eat it up!
Dr Grande is growing on me. I find your videos more and more interesting.
So so good! Thank you for sharing this!
Phil is a legend in his own mind.
The guy has been on the TV for the last 20 years, his shows are on at least three times in one day, his net worth is $460M, he's the highest-paid host on daytime TV, he's written several bestseller books, he does his own podcast on the side, he's married with children and he's got his Ph d.
Now, granted, his methods may be questionable but that statement you made is 100% completely absurd.
What counts as a legend to you? Making 100B while being on every channel 24 hours a day while curing cancer, AIDS and Covid in one day? Come on now!
Ha! Ha!
And in the minds of millions of viewers; SCARY🤯🙀🤔
When you're that handsome, naturally you think highly of yourself.
Yes!! Yes!! I always said that.
You seem to be his opposite. From watching your videos I can see that you are one of the nicest, most professional and sincere therapists on social media. I always enjoy your videos.
I love your videos, but this is the first one where I see you very relaxed, chatty and confident. You're not just relaying the info, you're sharing it as if we were one on one. Your head movements and facial expressions are disarming, and make me want to keep listening! Is this because Dr. Phil is a well known topic for you? I'm a huge fan , thanks for your videos and analysis.
Excellent talk. I am looking forward to exploring this channel.
Dr. Phil's goal is to get ratings, not help people during the show. That's why there's this sensationalist aspect to the show. He belittles people, goes out of his way to make himself look good and smarter than the guest, etc. It's all about getting people to tune in and watch. If any help is given, it's after the show when people see a therapist Dr. Phil has referred them to.
I think he probably has a strong following of malignant narcissicists who use his tactics on their victims.
Agree 👍💯
Agreed. These shows are largely run by producers and the idea is to get ratings. They couldn't care less about helping people.
After being humiliated by Dr Phil I'm sure those people need therapists
@@helenshg4580 Quite possibly.
I don't envy Dr. Grande needing to watch so many Phil McGraw episodes in order to make this video.
He figured him out in one episode! 😂
The point about delusions really hit home for me! I had never considered why that was so problematic before but now that I’ve worked in psychosis, I can see how completely abhorrent it is.
Dr. Grande, you're 🤓 as fun 😁 and informative as I'm 🧐 looking at this video for the third time. Loves from Sweden. 🍀
I feel he sensationalizes people's pain and exploits for profit. I realize that is a strong statement. He is off-putting to me on several levels. I don't see him as a "safe" person because of the way he responds to people's comments; right or wrong, I believe maintaining another persons dignity is crucial not just as a professional, but also as a human. I'm an empath so maybe his approach just rubs me the wrong way, not sure; I just personally would run away from a person like this.
@@Peteyzee98 A professional what? He resigned his license to practice medicine/psychiatry over a decade ago! Ill grant you that hes a professional jerk and bully though.
I used to have a UA-cam channel that I hate watched and it took me a couple weeks to realize it was detrimental to my mental well-being, the person who owns the channel and the other people were commenting on it. After realizing I was acting like a middle schooler, I got over it and so should you! If hate watching and being awful in the comments gets you off, you should tend to your own mental health. Have a nice day!
He's a bully & know it all.
Absolutely, Even before any narc therapy there was a gut wrenching feeling every time I saw him. Had I followed his advise in raising a family with "issues" would have destroyed them for sure. Look at his history....how many times married....????? Physician heal thyself!!!!!!
No need for politineness, he's totally exploiting people's mental illness for profit. The premise of his show is to "tell it like it is" and to prove he's "The Man." It's a show about him, the guests are just props of the week. He's constantly being incredibly irresponsible and unethical with them.
We do need to be mindful of the fact that
he has been a staple daytime "star" for many
years now on TV. He's proven his longevity!
And that requires a certain edge to a person's
presentation. Dr. Phil is good for kicks, plus
some worthwhile lessons for all of us, as well.
He just demolished Phil in the smoothest calmest coolest way ever. There’s no way Philly is going to be able to clap back
Sure did. Dr. Phil is so overrated
Dr Phil doesn’t have to clap back to this megalomaniac on his little UA-cam channel. Dr Phil plays in the major league, as for this guy, never heard of him on the mainstream media
He always does. I love it the way he very calmly talks about things that most people would be hyped up about while talking it. Especially when he throws shade the same way.
@@suzymoroka297 because he doesn't belong on Mainstream and nobody ever claimed he did. Mainstream is what is over rated. A bunch of fake scripted drauma. Dr phill give me Jerry Springer vibes Everytime I see it. That's nothing to be proud of. He's caused alot of harm along the way too.
@@suzymoroka297 Just because Dr. Phil is mainstream doesn't automatically make him correct or immune to honest criticism
I'm a Dr Phil fan from the start but you make some very good points and observations! Thank you for enlightening us to just be aware. You are very interesting to listen to expertise on him and the show! Thank You!!!! I enjoy knowledge shared from people like you and Dr Phil!!
The only thing Dr. Phil and Dr. Grande have in common is the Dr in front of their name ! Integrity, honesty, compassion, non judgmental, non ego based = Dr. Grande 🙏🏼Much respect to Dr Grande!!
I really appreciate and respect your politeness and ability to use professional ‘constraint’, even when explaining someone or something you don’t necessarily agree with - such a good example, especially to those of us still working on emotional regulation and learning how to eloquently explain, without injecting personal emotion into the equation... and the result? A person who RECEIVES your information, thoughtfully, thoroughly, and accurately (and w/o the emotional attack or manipulation-persuasion!). Thanks again for your sound expertise.
Class act Dr. Todd is
I always thought Dr Phil looked underhanded. To quote Bill Burr "he looks like a crooked cop who would plant a gun on you". Dr Grande is providing an outstanding service with his channel and videos like this one. New Patreon supporter heading his way.
Brilliant, absolutely brilliant. Thank you for that.
Yes! Answered some questions about a crooked therapist I encountered; and it helped make me look at some of my own attitudes. Thank you!
As someone who has done therapy for many years and been helped enormously by it, I cringe when I see anything from “Dr. Phil”. He makes me really angry because what he does gives people the wrong impression of what therapy could/should really be like and I imagine turns people that might be otherwise helped by it off. He does the whole field a disservice. Thanks for calling him out.
Have you watched The Behaviour Panel? They all think Dr Phil is great. They also ' brag' about being ' Experts'
@@lorrainethomson8994 yikes! That sounds like a match made in hell
I agree! It took me a long time to get the therapy help I needed and the Dr Phil show, among other things, did give me a false impression that made me think therapy would be awful
Im not a therapist, Im just a geologist. And I also cringe when I see anything from Phil McGraw. I think that that most people can see through him and recognise that what he does is just not normal behaviour.
TY for your take. I really don't know Phil. Before your comment, I had no opinion one way or the other!
he often seems to take great offence when people don't agree with him...
He's very egotistical.
as do most doctors.
As we all do
I’ve been a licensed therapist for over 10 years and generally agree with you. I do think his approaches can be helpful with those who have substance use disorders due to the high level of denial and entitlement in those individuals. Broadly, some people need a dose of reality and a lot of people actually appreciate it. If guests follow through with the referrals that are made by Dr. Phil, they should be able to do the work with addressing their underlying issues.
I admire your ability to be straight forward, informative, insightful, honest, and fair without destroying or being rude to the person in your commentary. I first saw Phil McGraw on Oprah. Because Oprah liked him, I thought he was cool. Well, fast forward... I've lost all respect for him. There are times when Phil McGraw was being a bully on his show. Mr. Grande, you drew me in by your candor. You point out a person's good points as well as their mistakes(in your opinions). Thank you and I'm always interested in hearing what you have to say about anything or any one. Job well done!
"His incredible levels of knowledge about almost everything." Haha....spot on Doc!
He once said his wife was one of the world's foremost voices on domestic violence issues. Um... Who?
@@tranquilrabies I used to watch religiously and he said that bout his wife like all the time. I had the same reaction as you. He's a big liar about his life, marriage, kids. I don't trust him one bit.
@@tranquilrabies LOLOLOLOL! Was that a Freudian slip? Dr. Phil's wife and domestic violence...wonder if he bullies her like he does his clients.
Yeah...........
Such an insightful analysis of a pseudo therapist. I’ve also noticed that “Dr.” Phil seems to love any opportunity to pat himself on the back for his “efforts in the mental health community” limited as those efforts clearly are.
The show is just that, a show about Dr. Phil a covert narcissist if ever there was one.
But he is a real therapist, he has a degree and many years of practice. He is a terrible therapist but there’s no point in putting quotations around the doctor title bc he’s a real doctor and not all doctors are experts in their fields nor necessarily good at their job
@@Bettersucksaul Then he needs to ACT like a real doctor, with compassion and empathy! Until then, he's just another wealthy, nauseating jerk....as so many of them ARE.
@@jamescarrington5521 the worst are from the public sector, they are afraid of giving you meds you actually need, like benzos, which I am taking with responsibility, if you suffer from chronic pain don't even think about oxycontin nor methadone nor paracetamol with codeine, because they're very addictive, yes they are, and they will rather send you to a pain management facility or just the hospital, and public hospitals are very awful, terrible even. Not to mention doctors from the public sector are annoying, scary, mean etc.
My private psychiatrist understands my needs, what is happening to me, how awful I feel. But even here you can find bad apples, which I've seen more than once.
Public sector sucks immensely.
He's just a narcissist.
Love your analysis!!!!
This was a fantastic professional analysis on Dr Phil that puts you light years beyond him. This is just so jam packed w/ observant, intelligent, experienced, colorfully descriptive, interesting, helpful, & on the money point of views you have skillfully worded together. You're absolutely correct! I've only seen a few select episodes that I thought were actually helpful to a guest. A lot of it is entertainment, awareness, & somewhat educational, but there is plenty that is not helpful or downright counterproductive to someone's health. For me I kinda take things @ face value or a grain of salt when it comes to Dr Phil & many "psych experts", do my own research, implement critical thinking skills, & make my own calls
Wow!!! You’ve got my respect & a new sub. I have always felt this way about Phil but you’re the first professional I’ve ever seen to address this. I hurt for those clients that he roasts just to get applause from the crowd, especially when they’re genuinely admitting they’ve messed up and are there for help. Shameful.
It’s sinister that so many people become filthy rich off of the suffering of others. He’s a wolf in sheep’s clothing.
I also wonder why he has his wife in the audience of every show staring at him adoringly and nodding in agreement with everything he says.
It's all for the SHOW! How is this not obvious to people??
Me, too. I have wondered that as well.
Didn't Dr. Grande say McGraw gave up his license after having sex/inappropriate relations with a client? Maybe her being in the audience is her "reality therapy" (control?)
@@reeshot rest assured it's all for the show. She is a show prop - 100%
It’s weird almost like she doesn’t even have a life of her own I mean it probably takes hours a day
I'm glad that you expanded on the flaws of Dr. Phil in this video. I like your previous video on Phil McGraw, but I think you could have explored the flaws in how he handles therapy compared to how one should handle therapy in it.
As usual I really enjoy your lectures 🙂...
I love the contrast between an actual counselor saying "I'm not diagnosing anyone" as they are supposed to, versus a fake counselor who tells someone what they do or don't have
I do too
"Phil McGraw the TV show host". You are the best, Dr Grande.
Totally agree! Love the way you worded this. I've got 2 family members I have to be around pretty often. Although I don't believe they're too capable of self reflection this is perfect 😄
Brilliant! Dr. Grande! Greetings from northern Europe.
👏👏👏 You stood up against the almighty Phil 👏👏👏
I went to a taping of his show. During a commercial break the makeup artist came up behind him to powder his shiny bald head. I guess he didn't like being approached from behind because he reprimanded her. His response was significantly disproportionate to the offense, causing us audience members to give each other the side glance.
Is it me or does Dr. Phil seem like he has some narcissistic traits???
amen
1) breaking boundaries - he used his profession unethically to maintain a relationship with a client
2)self-aggrandizement - claims expertise in multiple fields with questionable vocabulary and credentials to back the claims to such expertise
3) excessive need for adulation (wife must gaze adoringly at him from the audience)
4) inflexibility, inability to go off script even in minor ways, inability to agree to disagree
There's more. Before I knew what malignant narcissism is, I knew that Phil McGraw would not be someone to whom I would go for help.
@@buyerbware25 omg he really told his wife that?
@@gensoumusic2145 I don't know if he specifically ordered her to do that, but it seems really "stagey" when she does it - other commentors, feel free to chime in here if you don't see natural flow of action and emotions when the camera goes to Phil McGraw's wife. Seriously, it's as if she is an actress on her husband's show.
@@buyerbware25 Oh I see! That sounds creepy! I haven't really watched Dr. Phil so am unaware
I completely agree with your analysis. Excellent video
Watching dr grande on dr phil
THANK YOU!!
Hello Doctor!
You did talk about shaming guests. But I was expecting that you talk about consequences of getting shamed on international television. I don't think TV is a place for any kind of mental illness treatment, especially if that involves belittling and humiliation.
People love drama, it sells. That's why the news is so depressing.
He does in the first point of not being careful of what he says in front of the audience. I am not really sure of the point you are making?
@@scootergirl3662 More elaboration. And sort of scientific research on the importance of therapy being "private". And consequences of the TV public shaming and so on.
Phil seems to shame people with serious illnesses, like the delusional. I don't see who this could possibly help. Asking an obviously delusional person questions about why they are delusional isn't going to work.
But hopefully anyone watching will at least pick up the habit of asking themselves if they are being delusional.... (conservative reaction)
....however, they might instead pick up the habit of accusing others of being delusional. (leftist reaction)
He is the star and he want it to be known. Its not about helping its about him seeming more intelligent than his guests. Typical narc behviour in my book.
I think Phil is delusional....lol.
There is room for the both of you! Dr. Phil and Dr. Grande😉
Phil has actually made me afraid to go to a therapist because I don’t want them to treat me like he treats his guests .
Dr Phil is an entertainer before he’s a therapist. Getting people to watch his show by being bombastic and unsubstantial is precedent over helping anyone.
Yes!
and he’s not even very entertaining....I’ll pass
I think he's more like Jerry McGuire...Show me the money!
Dr. Phil is no longer a therapist, but he plays one on TV.
There it is. That's it exactly. He is "playing" a therapist and he's "playing" his audience with his phony "no modality modality."
Can’t wait until you get one million subscribers Dr. Grande!
Another banger Dr G 😁💕
My daughter, my ex and I went to a taping. It was a sham. Once the camera is off he's cold and his wife, colder. We were seated next to her and she was completely rude to my daughter who tried to say Hi. Oprah fell hard for this charlatan.
Somehow I’m really not surprised by this ,I saw him snap back at a young girl with mental health problems and my heart went out to her he was so so wrong and I know it would have set her back
More like Oprah found a like-minded protégé.
She helped create this charlatan. She has promoted so much pseudo science, I doubt she knows up from down anymore....
Oprah: I finally stopped looking for excuses for her after watching and taking notes during her "interview" with Harry and the princess. Awful.
Can't stand Oprah she's just as fake.
Dr Phil-isms:
“I’m just an old country boy ... “ = I’m trying to disarm you.
“Uh huh” (while you’re speaking) = I don’t believe you, or I’m going to spring a “gotcha” in a few minutes. Wait and see.
“Do you want to be happy or do you want to be right?” = Right fighting is wrong, even though I have never once admitted on any show that I could be wrong. So do as I say, not as I do.
I’m sure you’ve found many more. I’ll start watching now.
All of these are examples of pandering to an audience to get viewers. His audience exists mostly of simpleton, low to average educated folks. These people embrace the “ah-shucks, I’m a simple country boy” act. Also keep things black:white, right/wrong terms because it’s easier for the audience. . Things that have gray-area or multiple variables relating to mental health conditions or a problem do not do well in a tv time slot, so keep it simple. Claiming to be the expert works because compared to everyone else watching and guests on the show he is MORE of an expert. Make sure to keep your audience dumb and get people on the show that are way to manipulate. And boom! You get ratings!
I agree with everything Dr. grande said regarding Phil McGraw. He is not a mental health therapist in this capacity, he’s a talk show host. If he had treated anyone of these people as a client they would’ve walked out of his office and never come back.
Spot on Dr Grande, spot on