10 "Dr. Phil" Mistakes That We Can Learn From
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- Опубліковано 8 лют 2025
- This video answers the questions: What can we learn from Phil McGraw? What is his therapeutic modality? Did he steal Dr. William Glasser’s Reality Therapy Model?
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American Psychiatric Association. (2013). Diagnostic and statistical manual of mental disorders (5th ed.). Arlington, VA: Author.
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Yes. Not to mention that the humiliation factor can be detrimental to a person’s mental health.
I've often wondered why people want to be on his show. It doesn't seem like a good idea to literally have your problems on stage for everyone to see, yet people seem to continue wanting to be guests.
@Adrienne Gurge great point. Minors shouldn't be exploited, and their problems shouldn't be sensationalized.
@@caryulmer7063 They get a free trip, meals, other extras for coming to the show.
Especially when done on tv
@Joy Georgina The resources agree to provide the treatment in exchange for publicity on the show. Phil and his show do not pay for this treatment. There is no treatment for some of the person's mental health issues, like personality disorders or delusional disorders. Treatment for the affected family members is possible, though.
Phil McGraw is Maury with a PhD. Several years ago, one of my friends from college was on the Rachael Ray Show. She had a rare eating disorder called Orthorexia, and she talked about it with Rachael Ray, whose background is in cooking. Anyway, after that, she received an appearance invitation from the Dr. Phil show. They wanted her to come on the show with her parents and siblings and rehash everything that they had already worked through in counseling and everything she had worked through and inpatient treatment for her eating disorder. At this point, she was almost 30 years old, and the Dr. Phil show wanted to bring her back on to discuss these issues she’d had in college. He wanted to HURT her family and publicly shame her for views. She turned down the invitation.
Good that she turned It down
When a man in conflict with a woman, the woman excused, the man accused. He is an entertainer, not therapist
This is disturbing.
What a creep.
Anything to turn a dime, including potentially undoing years of therapy. He's nasty.
He has always been a mean spirited self aggrandizing POS and now he's got the network off his back reigning him in now we see what a horrible man he truly is. Also the way he walked out clutching his wife like a possession and sit her nearby so he could brag how she ruled the roost whilst she sat there silently with a frozen smile then he'd bring up a "new topic" at the end like depression and say one cure was this miracle weight loss product or this incredible skin cream and the wife turned into an infomerical host selling their own products!!!. So creepy and manipulative
@@weegiewarbler Incredibly disturbing. To want to drag up past problems that someone had and has worked to overcome is reprehensible.
You touched on the main thing that made me so uncomfortable with him. He humiliates people on national television and I don't see how that can be helpful to these people's mental health
It is not
It's all about $$$$$.... The show, his never ending stack of books , he and son have the businesses together that continue with the farce of Physiatry, etc.. another source of biz for Opie W ( the biggest racist in the world)... Freak shows that make you laugh and feel very blessed not to be that messed up . And what happened to Robin?? Is it too much Botox like Uncle Joe Biden or tacky bad plastic surgery ... hahaha 😂... but they are laughing all the way to the bank 🏦
I noticed the SAME THING!
@@Taureanfitness Dr Phil is, to me, a grifter. He will do anything for 💰. He and his son run Doctor's on demand, an expensive therapy system which connects patients to therapists. Biggest problem is that many are just councillors, not trained Medical Therapists. His wife has a major lifestyle and cosmetics programme. The only honest McGraw is the son who's a talented singer and guitarist. He refused all offers of promotion from his father. He wants it all to be his own work.
Dr phill cares so much about his lovely family...
I was on the Dr. Phil show and he humiliated me and did not ask about my background, I am diagnosed with CPTSD and am a Trauma survivor. I really believed in him, and that he could help me, and instead, he made everything look like it was my fault without getting to the root of the problem. I felt like I was fighting for my life. He is still showing me on the show which was aired 12 years ago. It still is humiliating and I do not know what to do. He really is terrible. He keeps the trauma alive and he puts himself in the best light. He cut off a lot of the things that I said in the show so that he looked good. After the show, I was dismissed like garbage and they had nothing else to say to me.
Oh I’m very sorry. 😢
Because he’s a bully and nothing more
I believe that, I think he’s a charlatan.
I believe you and I’m sorry that happened. Please remind yourself that most people are aware of his style and patterns. You can see in the comments here that people realize that he sets people up for humiliation.
I agree nobody is a perfect counsellor but, from the many episodes i have watched, i get the impression that through his somewhat tough and confrontational responses to some of the people, he gets through to most of the people who are very resistant to help, and in a sense this opens and enables any therapy in the future to be able to be accepted by them. It doesnt always work and i havent seen any "follow ups" of what has happened to people on his show but i suspect that's partly because therapy of many deep problems takes time to resolve
You know, he doesn't act like a doctor. He's more like a game show host.
Yes its about him and his super ego. He is exploiting poor people that cant afford a pro in hopes maybe they get help its very disgusting.
He's even worse than a game show host. I would rather watch Steve Harvey than friggin' Dr. Phil.
Lollll nice reference
Game SHow Hosts act very corgial and energetic to excite the Audience and players and wouldn't insult and dmean them.
Exactly
It annoys me that he consistently says 'I'm the least judgemental person I know' then proceeds to judge, humiliate and belittle his guests
the problem with narcissist's is their striking lack of self awareness! they never even consider the possibility that they could be wrong! therefore they rarely can be helped or changed! it's sort of like the blind leading the blind and I feel he's damaging people far more then helping.
EXACTLY !! I don't Waste 60 precious minutes of my life watching his TV show. It's a Show & usually a shit show from the few I have seen ! He's Disgusting at the richest level.
Maybe he doesn’t know anyone?
Kind of like Trump saying, "I'm the least racist person on earth."
Very Trump-like, eh?
It's basically the jerry springer show with an infomercial about his wife's skin care line as an outro.
For Posterity 🤣🤣🤣 You pegged it, especially the skincare shilling.
@@DuskyJewel And at least the Jerry Springer show had the Final Thoughts part at the end of every show, which was better advise then Phil ever gave.
@@forposterity4031 yep!!
@@DuskyJewel all the money goes to charity
@@forposterity4031 not true. I've learned a lot from his show
The only thing Dr. Phil and Dr. Grande have in common is the Dr in front of their name ! Integrity, honesty, compassion, non judgmental, non ego based = Dr. Grande 🙏🏼Much respect to Dr Grande!!
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Dr.phil I truly believe should not be addressed as Dr
Yup...next up: Dr. Pepper and Dr. Suess
@@franklinshriver8441 don't forget the one and incomparable Dr. Death! My favourite!
Somewhere around 10 or 15 years ago, a friend of mine appeared on Dr. Phil's show. She reported later that her appearance was actually edited to make her look stupid or ill-informed about the topic, which had to do with child custody issues. They would preserve an out-of context stunned look on her face, but eliminate or severely edit her answers to questions to the point of being misleading. I suspect that dishonest editing is also a big piece of this show. Only including what he wants people to say, how he wants people to look. And cutting out anything which is at odds with his preconceived notions or overall agenda.
Fact is that all reality TV does that; The Apprentice & Celebrity Apprentice was big into that.
Sofia yes! and if people say that producers have told them to say something he gets PISSED
That's so wrong on Dr Phil's part
People forget to recognize that THIS IS A pure entertainment, a SHOW and only A SHOW. People who go on these kind of entertainment shows expect fairness, advice, etc. Im sure they get a free meal, hotel and travel costs if not more to be used on a show as “ puppets “. Im sure they sign documents as to how their appearance may or may not be altered to fit and suit producers agenda. I had an offer to appear in small claim court on so called tv show and I have declined. I would not put my face on tv to be used like this for no money. It appears that they have the whole “machine” of people looking up court cases in small court claims and contact plaintiffs to appear on their show. You would be surprised how many people would go on tv just for a chance to be on tv and have producers to pay for their free weekend in LA. People like your friend do that without thinking of consequences and than they complain that they have been humiliated.
thanks I always wanted to know how people felt after the show. I feel like this whole business needs a review.
"Dr" Phil is rude, arrogant and narcissistic. I cannot watch his show because I get so angry with how he speaks down to people. He doesn't seem to care that he could be hurting them or worsening the situation they are there to get help for. I sometimes wonder why anyone would go on his show knowing how he treats people. Thanks for the wonderful analysis of a very entitled man.
You are damn right!
Yessssss, Lynda!
perhaps the guests get paid? Money talks always.
THANK YOU!
Phil McGraw not a Doctor--?
I will say that Dr. Phil in the early days of the show, there was actually some educational value and he got deeper into the psychology of his guests. The show was closer to actually being therapy.
The thing is now, he's become kind of a Jerry Springer reality show in the sense there's very little depth, there's way more drama and it's basically a free for all in terms of the subjects they cover.
@@dootdoot94xo44 hehe, thank you! 😊
Agreed.
I knew it wasn't therapy from the beginning. He's a tv host. That is it. He should be off the air...lots of people don't realize its an act. He causes harm and quite possibly has triggered a few if not several suicides. He should be banned and off the air now.
Nah
Nah never any education value. That is way too kind.
That's it, you just earned my full respect. I get so incredibly frustrated by his anti-mental health exploitation of truly sick people. What he did with Britney and Shelley Duvall was the opposite of what should have been done. He played into Shelley's delusions during an episode of worsened schizophrenia (previously diagnosed), and exploited her during a time that she needed help the most, and I think we all know what he did to Britney during her challenging period when she was in the hospital no less.
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I think you missed out on mentioning how Phil McGraw’s wife is sometimes given her chance to advertise her own beauty products as they are all endorsed by Dr.Phil. I actually stopped watching Dr.Phil just because more and more episodes towards the end were slowly turning into a tv shopping channel.
What beauty? Robin McGraw's face, is tighter than Joan Rivers. 😔
And now his son’s ‘Doctor on Demand’ app ..
@@feleciagoldson2834 lol. Like a catcher’s mitt. Once he starts to pull his I’m daddy crap I’m out.
I agree, the show is all about promoting themselves. Robin was once a beautiful woman. Whoever did her plastic surgeries did an awful job. It’s actually hard to look at her now. 🤢🤮
It looks greedy
Thank you for posting this. He was most offended when someone called his show a 'reality show' but that is exactly what it is. I think they looked at the Jerry Springer show and wanted to create something a little less dramatic but with a format that included people airing their dirty linen in public, because people want to watch that kind of thing. He certainly plays to the audience at the expense of the people on the stage. I found it most distressing when a man who had raped and abused his daughter over a long period was offered help, but the daughter who was obviously deeply traumatised was told that perhaps she could somehow get over it enough to have a relationship with her father and moreover, that was 'up to her'. I am sure that some people have been helped, but those with trauma such as the girl recently who repeatedly pretended to be pregnant and wished to give away her child in order to make contact with the outside world would, I suggest, have been further damaged by making this known to thousands of people. I find it interesting that in his office he is surrounded by photographs of himself.
Damn near perfect this comment is, im glad more and more ppl are recognizing it
I’m embarrassed that it took me, a health care professional, so long to catch on to his awfulness - just goes to show how slick he is and absolutely can’t be trusted. I think my first glimmer is when he has his very frail wife there for every single episode. I mean , what? Just to Dow her off or to torture her to bits....
I definitely don’t have STUPID printed on my forehead.
Spot on, Leigh! Too funny!
Exactly he is another jermy kyle show.
I would pay anything to see Dr. Grande debate Dr. Phil!!!!!! Showdown of the century!
Personally, I don't think that would be particularly interesting. McGraw would just vacillate between bullying and self pitying behaviour and comments in an attempt to push buttons and dominate the stage. Meanwhile Dr Grande would become increasingly exasperated with Phil's petulant behaviour but remain professionally reserved.
@@Auriflamme how is Dr. Grande "professionally reserved" based on his videos? Most of his youtube content that I've seen is not very educational or professional, he's mostly just being salty and critical of people he makes videos about
I'll ring Vince Mcmahon.
Loren Fulghum more like a mental beat down . Dr Phil can not handle the heat .
@@wardaq7724 What are you referring to specifically?
You, sir, will never be known only as Todd Grande.
Thank you!
Dr.
(Now please do that Oz guy.)
I completely agree with everything you said Dr Grande. When you mentioned control therapy, I remember that show being on and Phil McGraw said to one of his guests/clients, "It's my way or the highway. " when he was challenged by a quest. I turned that into a clinical setting and thought, no respectable psychological would ever say that to a client. I haven't watched that show since that day.
Thanks Dr Grande, I love hearing your interesting and diverse range of topics.
I've also stopped watching.
I also stopped watching. It's not all black/white as Phil pushes.
I don't think you can even consider them his clients. They are just guests on the show. I bet he pays them To be his guests. Insurance would never pay him for his work because it's not considered therapy.
yup I've ceased to stop watching also. I used to watch to make fun of his show n wife but its supporting his crap so no more.
@@lc4life369 He chooses guests on the basis of how controversial they will be. His staff are known to fear his outbursts if they can't persuade somebody to be on the show. I believe he's well past his sell-by date and should retire. His "reality TV" style show is not good for those who have real problems.
Dr. Phil to guest: You're not that important, you need to stop talking.
Dr. Todd to us: I wonder if Dr. Phil is projecting and those ideas don't just apply to the person he's talking to...
🤣🤣 I'M DEAD 😂😂💀💀
Savage.
Dr Phil: You just want to talk about yourself all day You're delusional.
Also Dr Phil: So more than half the show is just me talking.
Dr. Phil was just using his canned statement when he's had enough of Oprah, "You're not that important, you need to stop talking."
@@DeactivatedCharcoal Oh the irony
He has called guests “broken”. No proper mental health clinician would ever say that to their patients!
Says who
@@kirkjohnson4569 - Note the word "proper" in the OP. Obviously some clinicians might do that, but they certainly *shouldn't* do this, and it's anything but proper!
@@Bike_Lion" says who" him.
@@kirkjohnson4569 - Says anyone with a bit of decency and common sense, LMAO!
@@Bike_Lion the doctor is stating his philosophy that he wouldn't call someone broken other doctors take a different approach
There is room for the both of you! Dr. Phil and Dr. Grande😉
"Im attempting to be fair, but puttin it out there that im not a fan"😃😃😃😃 best!
You seem to be his opposite. From watching your videos I can see that you are one of the nicest, most professional and sincere therapists on social media. I always enjoy your videos.
Dr Grande is growing on me! I love his subtle sense of humor.
I love his subtle sense of humour.
Same. When I started watching, his even tone didn't lock me in. Now I have a whole playlist of his videos I'm working on. His humor is what kept me tuned in. 😂♥️
@@DonnaLeigh My sense of humor is enhances by his lack of professionalism. He is absolutely a joke as a " therapist ".
He's good but not as good as ole pholl...
His subtle smirk,
Loved this! Such a treat to see Dr. Grande really dip into his area of expertise…the development of ethical, insightful and compassionate therapists. Importantly, his insights empower clients, for whom therapeutic alliance may be confusing or even somewhat disempowering due to perceived power imbalance between therapist and client. Thank you, Dr! 😊
McGraw apparently had no difficulty violating professional ethical behavior when he had a liaison with a prior client. Whether this was because he’s unencumbered by understanding of the possible damage to the client, or because his ability to FEEL empathy is inconstant, I don’t know. I’d guess that his need for control, validation and dominance may indicate great insecurity and low impulse control. But! I’m grateful he seems to know this at some level, and has found his niche. He can both dominate others and believe he “helps” them face “reality.”
I have noticed that he’s highly regarded by law enforcement and military interrogators!
I always thought Dr Phil looked underhanded. To quote Bill Burr "he looks like a crooked cop who would plant a gun on you". Dr Grande is providing an outstanding service with his channel and videos like this one. New Patreon supporter heading his way.
As a former counsellor, I can’t believe how often he bullies his clients/guests.
Yes! I've noticed this particularly with guests with drug or alcohol problems. He really talks down to them and shows absolutely no compassion or understanding for what they're battling.
@@pffox Indeed. He seems to make personal judgements about addiction. He really is a poor “therapist”. But he’s no longer a registered psychologist. It’s the Wild West on his show. I don’t understand why people with problems go on his show.
Why former?
@@rickreynolds9306 I got sick of the psychos so I went back to university and became a researcher. I quit after the fourth firearm was put in my face.
@@MaxPower-js1sk who the hell were you counseling? I've been to a few over my lifetime and I've never heard of such. Not saying it doesn't happen, but certainly it has to do with demographics. I have had a counselor get in my face, and it worked. It's what was needed.. But anymore someone confronting another person's bullshit is pretty much considered "bullying". We are very tender these days it seems. That seems to be the root of many current issues. People have confused their opinions for fact and defend them as such.
But I thought "the psychos" was what it was about.
Maybe you just weren't a great counselor. More suited for the theoretical side of the industry.
Phil always came off to me as that guy who tells you to “just stop it” like he gave you a startling revelation that fixes all your problems. When the guest push’s back he attacks and mocks them because how dare you challenge his authority. After all, he’s the best person in the room, it’s his show.
I’ve often wondered if he’s a some kind of narcissist.
The "Just stop it" skit on the Bob Newman Show?
If a person could just stop it they would have but could not so they knew enough that they needed help and turned to Phil who says just stop it. .f me
"If you don't like green beans, don't eat them..."
Lol
@@jamesreagle245 😂💀😂💀 Your comment is 👌
*_"push's"?!_* There's no such word; it's "pushes."
Wow Dr Grande! You cover everything in such a clear and thorough professional analyses! It helps makes sense to a layperson like me who can’t really pinpoint what bugs me so much about Phil McGraw beyond feeling he has limited and scattered abilities.
Excellent analysis. My ex watched the show when we were together and it always bothered me, for many of the reasons you've mentioned. The one I noticed the most was how he couldn't deviate from the narrative. It was like he had a script in his mind, he had a conclusion he was leading to, and like he was a director of a play guiding the other performances where he wanted them to go. The more people tried to deviate and actually talk about their experience or the more (understandably) frustrated they'd get by his redirection of the narrative, the more bullying he'd become. He'd flat out tell them to stop talking, and then publicly shame them on national TV for their anger/uncooperative nature/lack of agreeableness, or use weaponized psychology such as throwing a term like "emotional confusion" as an insult to "put them in their place". It seems like a form of narcissistic abuse (ie demanding narcissistic supply, blaming/shaming/belittling those uncooperative with providing it, they react negatively, the narcissist feels validated that the other person is clearly the problem). The whole show and his attitude feels so exploitative and damaging.
Agree
That was an awesome assessment! Your verbal aptitude is impressive 👍
And he made/makes $millions because millions watch him...
Ah! Life for the lazy..
This! 🏆
I think Dr Grande is green with envy !
I find Dr Phil to be more harmful than helpful. He is always promoting himself over needs of guests. He bullies the guests, that's not therapy.
Agreed! I have anxiety and ocd I feel worse bout my self after watching his show. I don’t dare watch it anymore.
Staci Jordan - I couldn't agree more. I'm able to sum my feelings and thoughts of Dr. Phil in this way. He's a few steps lower than a sleazy used car salesman. And in all likelihood has an arsenal of psychological and physical means of bullying men and women into his sewer.
And as is said at the beginning of the show, that being there as a guest is a safe place to be. Are you kidding me? For the rest of your life you are on UA-cam. One simple example is the boy who slapped his mother in the face. He will be about 20 now. But he is still to be seen on UA-cam. Very therapeutic!
Improvements for neurological disorders advancements for autism?
Yes! A bully!
I really appreciate and respect your politeness and ability to use professional ‘constraint’, even when explaining someone or something you don’t necessarily agree with - such a good example, especially to those of us still working on emotional regulation and learning how to eloquently explain, without injecting personal emotion into the equation... and the result? A person who RECEIVES your information, thoughtfully, thoroughly, and accurately (and w/o the emotional attack or manipulation-persuasion!). Thanks again for your sound expertise.
Class act Dr. Todd is
I’ll never forget when he brutally yelled at a poor woman for being fat. You would’ve thought she had just burnt down an orphanage! Thanks, Oprah for sending us this shyster.
That makes me so upset. Ever notice how he is more gentle with men then he is with women too?
Oprah is just the same!!
Dr Oz as well! Thanks
I wonder how much Phillip weighs . I bet he is not in the healthy range . He is a big boy .
Thank you Dr. Grande. I thought I was the only one . He strikes me as a charlatan and a narcissist. Of course this is just my opinion for I have no degree in psychology, I just go by my gut or as others would say my intuition. Thanks again doctor I appreciate everything.
You have a well informed gut, I think.
Well said Marian serra. Dr Phil likes control and puts people " in their place " harshly , rudely and it's unnerving to me! Have you seen photos inside his home? Weird there are these weird stuffed cloth and dolls and almost every room and they almost look like his wife you're freaking weird
@@asyouwish8883 Thank you for the kind words but no,I have not seen photos of "Dr." Phil's home.; I don't think I would like too see it. Ugh!
I find it interesting that Oprah, the women of great wisdom and deep intellectual thought, would support a man such as he. ( I was being facetious when it came to Oprah,BTW )
People take this man seriously and I find that irresponsible of the management of the Station; I wish they'd shut him down. He's slightly more dignified than "The Jerry Springer Show" ( is it still on the air?) however, I'm just one person with an opinion about him and not a corporate sponsor. The quickest way to cripple his show is by contacting his sponsors. Maybe someone can post a list of them and then we can do what our Founding FATHER'S and Mother's did; BOYCOTT.
You have a good weekend! 👋 🇺🇸
@@barbarawarner4645 Thanks Barbara for the compliment ( it's 2 months old) I did not receive a notice you commented but did today ,(March 12, 2022) on another commentary.
Thanks again, put your clock forward, ( unless you're AZ. Or from the Big and little Islands in the USA ) 🇺🇸 🇺🇦 ✌ 🇷🇺
I luv Dr todd. Bur here he comes off as a bit jelly bout ole Dr phill.
Wow!!! You’ve got my respect & a new sub. I have always felt this way about Phil but you’re the first professional I’ve ever seen to address this. I hurt for those clients that he roasts just to get applause from the crowd, especially when they’re genuinely admitting they’ve messed up and are there for help. Shameful.
It’s sinister that so many people become filthy rich off of the suffering of others. He’s a wolf in sheep’s clothing.
I've always thought of him as the "Jerry Springer" of psychology. Purely a SHOWMAN, not a therapist by ANY stretch of the imagination!!
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That’s it exactly!✊👍
Yes, I believe that is the road he has went down. So sad when he could be offering a much humane approach to his guests.
Yours may be the best reply on here. AND, people eat it up!
I truly value Dr. Grande’s perspective and agree with everything he has postulated here.
Phil is a legend in his own mind.
The guy has been on the TV for the last 20 years, his shows are on at least three times in one day, his net worth is $460M, he's the highest-paid host on daytime TV, he's written several bestseller books, he does his own podcast on the side, he's married with children and he's got his Ph d.
Now, granted, his methods may be questionable but that statement you made is 100% completely absurd.
What counts as a legend to you? Making 100B while being on every channel 24 hours a day while curing cancer, AIDS and Covid in one day? Come on now!
Ha! Ha!
And in the minds of millions of viewers; SCARY🤯🙀🤔
When you're that handsome, naturally you think highly of yourself.
Yes!! Yes!! I always said that.
I think this is my favourite video you have ever done, Dr. Phil is an opportunist, I don’t think he has any desire to help people, I’m not a therapist by any stretch of the imagination, but watching a careful and thoughtful therapist such as yourself call Dr. Phil out was fun to watch, and hopefully it will make people who are genuinely seeking help for their problems think twice about going on the Dr. Phil show.
Such an insightful analysis of a pseudo therapist. I’ve also noticed that “Dr.” Phil seems to love any opportunity to pat himself on the back for his “efforts in the mental health community” limited as those efforts clearly are.
The show is just that, a show about Dr. Phil a covert narcissist if ever there was one.
But he is a real therapist, he has a degree and many years of practice. He is a terrible therapist but there’s no point in putting quotations around the doctor title bc he’s a real doctor and not all doctors are experts in their fields nor necessarily good at their job
@@Bettersucksaul Then he needs to ACT like a real doctor, with compassion and empathy! Until then, he's just another wealthy, nauseating jerk....as so many of them ARE.
@@jamescarrington5521 the worst are from the public sector, they are afraid of giving you meds you actually need, like benzos, which I am taking with responsibility, if you suffer from chronic pain don't even think about oxycontin nor methadone nor paracetamol with codeine, because they're very addictive, yes they are, and they will rather send you to a pain management facility or just the hospital, and public hospitals are very awful, terrible even. Not to mention doctors from the public sector are annoying, scary, mean etc.
My private psychiatrist understands my needs, what is happening to me, how awful I feel. But even here you can find bad apples, which I've seen more than once.
Public sector sucks immensely.
He's just a narcissist.
Dr. Phil is a television show. Period. It's not a therapy session. He unfolds the problem then offers therapy or counseling at the end. It is a story about how these people get to where they are now. And it would be stupid to lie throughout the show. He is just a guy who is informative, humorous and very entertaining. Lighten up.
I was on his show and he actually is a very nice dude...I like him because I met him.
Thank you. It's entertainment, not therapy. Hmm, kinda like this guy, Grande, only much better lol.
I don't envy Dr. Grande needing to watch so many Phil McGraw episodes in order to make this video.
He figured him out in one episode! 😂
Thank you for making this video. I'm grateful that someone had the courage to address these issues.
"Phil McGraw the TV show host". You are the best, Dr Grande.
When someone like Dr. Phil works harder on self premonition than helping others, I become very skeptical.
Dr. Phil's goal is to get ratings, not help people during the show. That's why there's this sensationalist aspect to the show. He belittles people, goes out of his way to make himself look good and smarter than the guest, etc. It's all about getting people to tune in and watch. If any help is given, it's after the show when people see a therapist Dr. Phil has referred them to.
I think he probably has a strong following of malignant narcissicists who use his tactics on their victims.
Agree 👍💯
Agreed. These shows are largely run by producers and the idea is to get ratings. They couldn't care less about helping people.
@@helenshg4580 Quite possibly.
@@EdDunkle Exactly. If Dr. Phil were truly interested in helping these people, he wouldn't bring on TV and humiliate them.
I feel he sensationalizes people's pain and exploits for profit. I realize that is a strong statement. He is off-putting to me on several levels. I don't see him as a "safe" person because of the way he responds to people's comments; right or wrong, I believe maintaining another persons dignity is crucial not just as a professional, but also as a human. I'm an empath so maybe his approach just rubs me the wrong way, not sure; I just personally would run away from a person like this.
@@Peteyzee98 A professional what? He resigned his license to practice medicine/psychiatry over a decade ago! Ill grant you that hes a professional jerk and bully though.
I used to have a UA-cam channel that I hate watched and it took me a couple weeks to realize it was detrimental to my mental well-being, the person who owns the channel and the other people were commenting on it. After realizing I was acting like a middle schooler, I got over it and so should you! If hate watching and being awful in the comments gets you off, you should tend to your own mental health. Have a nice day!
He's a bully & know it all.
Absolutely, Even before any narc therapy there was a gut wrenching feeling every time I saw him. Had I followed his advise in raising a family with "issues" would have destroyed them for sure. Look at his history....how many times married....????? Physician heal thyself!!!!!!
No need for politineness, he's totally exploiting people's mental illness for profit. The premise of his show is to "tell it like it is" and to prove he's "The Man." It's a show about him, the guests are just props of the week. He's constantly being incredibly irresponsible and unethical with them.
We do need to be mindful of the fact that
he has been a staple daytime "star" for many
years now on TV. He's proven his longevity!
And that requires a certain edge to a person's
presentation. Dr. Phil is good for kicks, plus
some worthwhile lessons for all of us, as well.
"His incredible levels of knowledge about almost everything." Haha....spot on Doc!
He once said his wife was one of the world's foremost voices on domestic violence issues. Um... Who?
@@tranquilrabies I used to watch religiously and he said that bout his wife like all the time. I had the same reaction as you. He's a big liar about his life, marriage, kids. I don't trust him one bit.
@@tranquilrabies LOLOLOLOL! Was that a Freudian slip? Dr. Phil's wife and domestic violence...wonder if he bullies her like he does his clients.
Yeah...........
I don't think I've ever heard Dr Grande say he doesn't like someone, that was funny, right off the bat " I've never been a fan of Phil McGraw" ! Thank you for always being transparent and honest Dr. Grande!!!
I have a couple of friends that are therapists, and they can't stand Dr. Phil either.
I don’t see how any real therapist can be a fan of Phil McGraw. He’s exploitive and in my opinion dangerous. I’ve watched very few episodes over the years but never been impressed and often shocked by his lack of ethics.
I am one. I loathe him. But the catfish episodes are pretty damn good. However. I cannot believe it when he has mentally ill guests on his show
He’s a bully nothing more
I also wonder why he has his wife in the audience of every show staring at him adoringly and nodding in agreement with everything he says.
It's all for the SHOW! How is this not obvious to people??
Me, too. I have wondered that as well.
Didn't Dr. Grande say McGraw gave up his license after having sex/inappropriate relations with a client? Maybe her being in the audience is her "reality therapy" (control?)
@@reeshot rest assured it's all for the show. She is a show prop - 100%
It’s weird almost like she doesn’t even have a life of her own I mean it probably takes hours a day
I love that you don’t even call him “doctor”. Called him by his government name. 😂
He has a PhD so technically the title "Doctor" is still appropriate.
But you never told us whose theory or theories
you use, Dr. Grande. But yeah, there's just an
intangible "something" about Dr. Phil that puts
me off, so I don't usually watch his show.
And he certainly isn't a perfectionist, but I think
he may want to be! From just listening to him,
you realize that he has given a perfect 10 to
his wife, his sons and daughters-in-law, their
children, his house, seems like every aspect
of his life is, well, perfect!! There is just so much
of this braggadochio I can handle. I cannot say
my life has turned out to be a perfect 10! And I
don't believe anyone's is or ever has been. The
British Royal family is making the news about
a few lightweight, would-be scandals involving
Queen Elizabeth's kids and grandkids. So, even
within a royal family, people are still not perfect!
But Dr. Phil believes everyone and everything
he has or owns IS perfect - except himself. He
has an ingratiating humility before his guests
and his TV audiences. He admits, "I'm not God
but I'm here to help you." But, is he being sincere? I'm wondering if we'll get any reaction
from Dr. Phil? A friendly reaction would be very
nice to see from both sides of the fence!
@@kukalakana I think Dr Grande said in an earlier video that Dr. Phil didn't have a current license. So while he still may have his PhD, if he's not a legally practicing clinician, it could be a reason not to refer to him as a doctor in a clinical context. He mentions the absence of the license in this vid too.
@@lilypowell1123 narcissism is not a new condition. it's talked about more than ever now, but the diagnosis has existed for quite some time, and narcissistic, bullying, domineering behaviors have existed forever.
Such a good side burn 🤣👍
Dr. Grande, I gotta' say, I really find your videos very interesting! And I also very much so appreciate how you speak your mind, and intelligently articulate your thoughts "straight down the middle" very good content and great remarks all-around!!
He just demolished Phil in the smoothest calmest coolest way ever. There’s no way Philly is going to be able to clap back
Sure did. Dr. Phil is so overrated
Dr Phil doesn’t have to clap back to this megalomaniac on his little UA-cam channel. Dr Phil plays in the major league, as for this guy, never heard of him on the mainstream media
He always does. I love it the way he very calmly talks about things that most people would be hyped up about while talking it. Especially when he throws shade the same way.
@@suzymoroka297 because he doesn't belong on Mainstream and nobody ever claimed he did. Mainstream is what is over rated. A bunch of fake scripted drauma. Dr phill give me Jerry Springer vibes Everytime I see it. That's nothing to be proud of. He's caused alot of harm along the way too.
@@suzymoroka297 Just because Dr. Phil is mainstream doesn't automatically make him correct or immune to honest criticism
Dr. Grande, your videos are incredible. I wish there were more fact based content available to the public. This type of analysis is really important. Keep up the great work.
As someone who has done therapy for many years and been helped enormously by it, I cringe when I see anything from “Dr. Phil”. He makes me really angry because what he does gives people the wrong impression of what therapy could/should really be like and I imagine turns people that might be otherwise helped by it off. He does the whole field a disservice. Thanks for calling him out.
@Lorraine Thomson yikes! That sounds like a match made in hell
I agree! It took me a long time to get the therapy help I needed and the Dr Phil show, among other things, did give me a false impression that made me think therapy would be awful
Im not a therapist, Im just a geologist. And I also cringe when I see anything from Phil McGraw. I think that that most people can see through him and recognise that what he does is just not normal behaviour.
TY for your take. I really don't know Phil. Before your comment, I had no opinion one way or the other!
@Lorraine Thomson I unsubscribed because of that, also the way they let. Bill Gates off the hook. They laughed about people who would say they were paid off.
I'm a Dr Phil fan from the start but you make some very good points and observations! Thank you for enlightening us to just be aware. You are very interesting to listen to expertise on him and the show! Thank You!!!! I enjoy knowledge shared from people like you and Dr Phil!!
Hello Doctor!
You did talk about shaming guests. But I was expecting that you talk about consequences of getting shamed on international television. I don't think TV is a place for any kind of mental illness treatment, especially if that involves belittling and humiliation.
People love drama, it sells. That's why the news is so depressing.
He does in the first point of not being careful of what he says in front of the audience. I am not really sure of the point you are making?
@@scootergirl3662 More elaboration. And sort of scientific research on the importance of therapy being "private". And consequences of the TV public shaming and so on.
He always reminds us he's been doing this for 40 years. Every show.
It's him trying to convince you that he knows what he's doing.
He may have been making the same mistakes for fourth flipping years though.. XD
Wow Phill! That's a long time to be a narcissistic, parasitic, busy-body who uses people and screws up their lives. You must be getting good at that by now then. 🙄
HE SHOULD HAVE BEEN IN JAIL 41YRS AGO .
@@a_diamond and trying to convince himself against all input from the medical community as well as the look on the persons face he is speaking to
Absolutely!!
Phil seems to shame people with serious illnesses, like the delusional. I don't see who this could possibly help. Asking an obviously delusional person questions about why they are delusional isn't going to work.
But hopefully anyone watching will at least pick up the habit of asking themselves if they are being delusional.... (conservative reaction)
....however, they might instead pick up the habit of accusing others of being delusional. (leftist reaction)
He is the star and he want it to be known. Its not about helping its about him seeming more intelligent than his guests. Typical narc behviour in my book.
I think Phil is delusional....lol.
Thanks!
I love the contrast between an actual counselor saying "I'm not diagnosing anyone" as they are supposed to, versus a fake counselor who tells someone what they do or don't have
I do too
I don't like the idea of someone being on tv and having conversation that should have doctor patient privilege. There is no trust and a vulnerable person can easily be taken advantage of. In this situation it probably has happened
Exactly. And if he really cared about the people that come to see him, he could meet with them in a back room instead of broadcasting them. Because I'm sure a lot of them have no other choice but to go on National television cuz they are manipulated by him and think he is there to help, which could not be farther from the truth. Also it makes me so mad that he threatens to call LAPD against people if they don't go on camera pretty much. It's honestly disgusting and he needs to be shut down immediately especially after the Shelley Duvall interview. Actually that wasn't even an interview that was him being a predator.
I think most of his guests wants to appear on TV, that’s why people willingly participate.
That's what I hate the most, people with problems are being taken advantage of.
YES! This is the exact problem-- if you say you are a psychologist (practically a reality TV demigo, to themselves AND their fans) and ask broken, wounded, possibly suicidal or addicted people, as they are plummeting towards their "bottom" as it is, and you tell them they can be treated like royalty for a few days and be a star on tv as to boot... Well, there is NO WAY you will get a bunch of polite refusals like, “no, thank you, I'm headed to Paris that week for a stay at my pied a terre-- Ta!" No-- not a chance! It is FAR more likely that a bunch of mentally ill people who are SUFFERING in their own lives, will grab at any chance to escape from their own suffering. They may even KNOW that, EVEN THOUGH it is probably going to make their overall lives worse, at least getting pampered by Dr. Phil Show staff will make them feel better for a little while...
Dr.Phil.is.not.even.a.licensed psychologist. He cant.pratice.
Thank you. I believe he exploits & sometimes publicly humiliates or shames people.
Sometimes, he makes the good guys, bad and vice versa.
I love your videos, but this is the first one where I see you very relaxed, chatty and confident. You're not just relaying the info, you're sharing it as if we were one on one. Your head movements and facial expressions are disarming, and make me want to keep listening! Is this because Dr. Phil is a well known topic for you? I'm a huge fan , thanks for your videos and analysis.
Therapist in training here and I am thankful to my wonderful lecturers for setting the bar high enough that “Dr. Phil” never passed. Good job D. Grande for being fair in your assessment here and pointing out what not to do. 👏🏻👏🏻
Oh I’m so glad finally someone agrees with me on ( Dr ) Phil and the many many mistakes he makes, and I refer to him as a narcissistic psychologist.!
10 mistakes that you’ve mentioned spot on.
I’m glad that he’s happily married, but sometimes he annoys me as to how perfect his wife Robin is, and yes she’s annoying too.
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Agreed. Rather nauseating.
I agree with you about Robin!!! OMG!! I thought I was the only one. I hate it when they cut to her face, and ahe's displaying a judgemental expression!!!
People who boast about how great their marriages are usually cheat on their partner
@@alejandrocurado5134 yes, I’ve noticed that, but with Dr Phil, the “love fest” between him and Robin was sickening. Like in your face to everyone who has a less than perfect marriage. Actually, too good to be true in my opinion if you’re talking a mutual love/respect relationship. If you’re talking mutual benefits behind the scenes that’s different. Lots of money and power to go around there!
@@juliekoszelak9918 I HATE that. And the cut out at the end of the show when they leave the stage
Dr Grande
Your analysis was more than gracious! And detailed, beyond expectaion. You did more research for this one video here... than he does in a year.
McGraw's "modality" is manipulation, coersion & humiliation.
I am stunned that he has been able to maintain a presence on any TV network.... without having to be accountable for the weekly exploitation...of hundreds of vulnerable people. There is no question his lack of integrity hurts guests.
Not to mention, misguiding hundreds of thousands of viewers.
After watching him in action, why would anyone (unclear about the process) ...ever look to therapy as a positive option for themselves?
Worst of all... he demonstrates lack of awareness & concern over the impact of his "performances"... on innumerable levels.
Absolutely heartbreaking to watch.
Brilliant! Dr. Grande! Greetings from northern Europe.
What is Dr. Phil's therapy modality?... make as much money as you can off a TV show.
Yes! Same as nasty judge judy!!
It seems like a miracle to me to find somebody with your knowledge and integrity at a cesspool like UA-cam (or the Internet generally). Thank you for your immeasurably valuable work and the help you so graciously provide, Dr. Grande!
You really nailed it--identifying all the distorted and dysfunctional ways he interacts with guests including his lack of empathy and neutrality. After randomly watching about 4-5 episodes I've found myself [as a counselor as well] quite disturbed by his approach and tactics. I've had a visceral response to some of the ways he really humiliates guests. There is nothing therapeutic about his approach. I've often wondered how those guests walk away feeling about themselves after being on that show.
I really appreciate your direct, factual descriptions of behaviors of the people you review on your channel, as well as your transparency about how you feel about these folks. You do a great job of sharing that but also presenting a clear, concise and factual representation within your assessment
I remember around 2003 he had a segment called “Get Real” where he would dress mental health patients down military style. I could barely stand to watch even a couple minutes.
He can be so brutal it's hard to watch esp when you know how wrong & damaging this could be & likely is for those people. He gets sued quite often actually from what I've read incl his own employees he locked in a ballroom once & told them pyt their phones in baskets (to prevent filming). Between his abusive nature to people he knows aren't well & his ego I can't watch & no I don't need to see him hawking his wife's skin creams etc. Their bottom-line is all about the $$$$$$.
@@jenh6247 LOL! Do you know what actually goes on in a psych hospital? You have order every single day. You have structure every single day. why? Because the patients can't run around willy-nilly They don't understand their own behavior, so they are taught how to get by EACH DAY. LOL!
@@RainCloud848 how is that relevant to the comment you're replying to? You think treating patients as if they're in boot camp is related to the structure inside of a hospital? Is all structured activities the same in your eyes or are you just trying to argue with a totally unrelated point? Ridiculous.
@@lazydaisy2292 I'm still laughing at your comments. Boot camp...see why I am laughing?
Thank you so much for this insightful and balanced video. I uses to watch "Dr Phil" years ago in my twenties before I trained as a counsellor and couldn't believe the frankly egotistical and misguided "therapy" being meted out. Thanks for confirming my thoughts all these years later!
Dr Phil is an entertainer before he’s a therapist. Getting people to watch his show by being bombastic and unsubstantial is precedent over helping anyone.
Yes!
and he’s not even very entertaining....I’ll pass
I think he's more like Jerry McGuire...Show me the money!
The sarcasm in this segment is dropped in soooo smooth!! Love , Love , Love it !Hahaha...Dr. Grande im addicted to your channel!! So informative, balanced and fun to watch, it takes a lot of my stress and worries away for a bit... thank you!
Phil McGraw reminds me of the parents and teachers who mimicked this type of behavior. These people state that they wanted to "help" people, but they were quite hurtful and made no effort to kindly understand others. If I had to experience being on the Dr. Phil show, I'm sure it would have been extremely embarrassing. Kindness and understanding another person's perspective would be significantly more effective than force and manipulation.
you nailed it! "Dr. " Phil is a joke. As an ER nurse for 15 years I've seen hundreds of people having mental health issues and no way would we bully, intimidate or humiliate them. Phil McGraw lacks empathy and has no ethical compass .
I agree he’s a bully nothing more
Wow Dr. Grande....you just succinctly, clearly articulated what I have felt and thought any time I have watched that show....which is not too often. Thanx! I really enjoyed your analysis.
👏👏👏 You stood up against the almighty Phil 👏👏👏
I went to a taping of his show. During a commercial break the makeup artist came up behind him to powder his shiny bald head. I guess he didn't like being approached from behind because he reprimanded her. His response was significantly disproportionate to the offense, causing us audience members to give each other the side glance.
Dr Phil-isms:
“I’m just an old country boy ... “ = I’m trying to disarm you.
“Uh huh” (while you’re speaking) = I don’t believe you, or I’m going to spring a “gotcha” in a few minutes. Wait and see.
“Do you want to be happy or do you want to be right?” = Right fighting is wrong, even though I have never once admitted on any show that I could be wrong. So do as I say, not as I do.
I’m sure you’ve found many more. I’ll start watching now.
All of these are examples of pandering to an audience to get viewers. His audience exists mostly of simpleton, low to average educated folks. These people embrace the “ah-shucks, I’m a simple country boy” act. Also keep things black:white, right/wrong terms because it’s easier for the audience. . Things that have gray-area or multiple variables relating to mental health conditions or a problem do not do well in a tv time slot, so keep it simple. Claiming to be the expert works because compared to everyone else watching and guests on the show he is MORE of an expert. Make sure to keep your audience dumb and get people on the show that are way to manipulate. And boom! You get ratings!
As usual I really enjoy your lectures 🙂...
I’m so happy you have done this video. I stopped watching Dr. Phil at least 10 years ago as I was so disturbed by the way he was exploiting his guests and becoming so nasty and as you said always right, yet he says to his guests do you want to be right or do you want to be happy, he obviously doesn’t practice what he preaches. I also hate the way he turned his show into a infomercial for his wife and son. I really don’t understand why anyone would want to be on his show to be abused by him. As you can tell I’m not a fan of his show or him. Again thank you for speaking out.
I feel the same way. Spot on IMO
he often seems to take great offence when people don't agree with him...
He's very egotistical.
as do most doctors.
As we all do
This is so good. I have always felt uncomfortable with how Phil handled things on his show and this sheds so much light on why he seemed off.
Dr Grande is growing on me. I find your videos more and more interesting.
It seems his guests have to be humiliated publicly to finally get the “help” they need. People who are intelligent and nonjudgmental don’t ever have to brag about being experts and being nonjudgmental. He loves himself! He uses his sensational platform to sell his wife’s beauty products too!
Thank you for this truthful analysis!💕
A Narricistic,Judge-mental, Shaming,Bully! A misogynist, his production staff are all women, (that seem to be financially dependent on the show) allowing him to be a controlling &demanding PRICK! Having his wife sit in the audience is very disturbing! She is no doubt forced to be the " supportive lil southern wife" I just know he holds money,fame,( so called "power" over her head)oooo, He is
an insecure asshole that often reminds us of his education etc...lol ,While he manipulates his studio audience into Shaming unsuspecting,ppl at their most vulnerable...
Mayra Wellington he was one step up from Jerry Springer.
The majority of his guests are arseholes...
the ”i’m the least judgemental person i’ve ever met”-line is disgusting and he says it WAY to often
And we know that shaming people just makes them sicker...
I love when a highly intelligent person goes in on somebody.. it’s always so proper and precise 🤣💯 it’s like he burned him and explained exactly why he was burning him, while he was burning him, then told him what burned means 🤷🏼♀️
Hahahahahaha
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Truth
Brilliant!!!+ LMAO
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“Dr Phil”...... uses people with issues as “pawns” for his wise cracks and superficial humor. He uses people. I deeply dislike him and what he does... sad.
@Attie’s Mom In America, the land of the costly and home of the cowardly, capitalism rules, thus you get to enjoy such exploitative shows.
Dr. Grande, you're 🤓 as fun 😁 and informative as I'm 🧐 looking at this video for the third time. Loves from Sweden. 🍀
I'm so glad you explained all of that. "Dr." Phil was actually starting to make me feel like a bad parent when in actuality I've been told the opposite by those who know me.
Any parent is instantly villainized on the show. never mind the fact they're willing to run Phil's fierce gauntlet of abuse to get help for their child.
I really appreciate your commentary on Phil McGraw, he is so inept. I have never thought that he knows what he is doing, I have heard him say terrible things to guests in very delicate situations.
“Dr Phil” is not a PhD who happens to have a talk show, he’s a talk show host who happens to have a PhD.
Exactly!
Well said.
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Hey you dropped something oh wait it was knowledge
Words have never been truer!!!
I am a fan of Phil McGraw, and you make several excellent points. You’ve helped me pick up on some things I hadn’t before. Thank you.
One thing I've noticed with Dr Grande is that he never speaks with ego. He also shows empathy and realiatic points of view
Yes, it’s calming.
@@amyholman354omg! The man is egomaniacal
As someone who is still in school but also an adult, I am very glad that you made this video. His show is interesting and as such, is often on at work. Many of the people with whom I work genuinely say that they think that he is brilliant and helping families. I have often seen things like what you have described here and wondered how they fit in with APA ethics codes. After seeing this video, I now know that my initial reaction to him years ago is the correct one. Thanks!
Dr Grande i would like to thank you for all your videos. Succinct but informative in each case. I'm a big fan - many thanks !
This was a fantastic professional analysis on Dr Phil that puts you light years beyond him. This is just so jam packed w/ observant, intelligent, experienced, colorfully descriptive, interesting, helpful, & on the money point of views you have skillfully worded together. You're absolutely correct! I've only seen a few select episodes that I thought were actually helpful to a guest. A lot of it is entertainment, awareness, & somewhat educational, but there is plenty that is not helpful or downright counterproductive to someone's health. For me I kinda take things @ face value or a grain of salt when it comes to Dr Phil & many "psych experts", do my own research, implement critical thinking skills, & make my own calls
Another great video critiquing that charlatan. You approached it like a gentleman and these are the reasons I subscribe to your channel.
Thank you. I came across your channel as I am studying a double major in psychology and counselling and watched some of your videos for statistics.
I equate him with Jerry Springer.. I think he encourages drama from his guests. It's all about bogus 'reality' TV..
Yes I just wrote that and read this comment. Its entertainment and the most disgusting one.
These guests are often coached to exaggerate: leaning forward with head gyrating from side to side while mouthing off, etc.
Jerry Springer knows who he is and does not pretend to be anything other than what he is.
Well there is less drama on Phil than on Springer. He is more like a dramatist by telling the woman she is not important.
Jerry Springer is more genuine. He does his trash show and doesn't pretend it is anything but trash. He also has really great advice at the end of his shows. He is way better. I'd EASILY go to him for advice over Phil.
Excellent review. I've worked in psychiatry and there were times I would feel extremely uncomfortable at how he treated his "guest".
I have trouble understanding why people go to his show. I do think he offers good resources for some people in need who wouldn't otherwise be able to afford them.
Yeah, but they have to sacrifice privacy and possibly be subjected to humiliation to get the help they need.
Well said. Your analysis is spot on.