Court Marriage Process in India | My Experience | Special Marriage Act

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  • @aishbhatt
    @aishbhatt Рік тому +950

    I am married don’t intend to get married again. my husband is wondering why am I watching this video😂

  • @balakuntalamsridhar5789
    @balakuntalamsridhar5789 11 місяців тому +158

    My wife and I got married under the Special Marriages Act in 1974. We belonged to the same religion and our parents were witnesses. I would have expected the process to be more user friendly given all the changes over five decades. Unfortunately, the bureaucracy still makes it so challenging. The bureaucrats should be trained to be more courteous and encouraging of couples who are idealistic in that they are willing to think and act beyond their narrow walls of religion and ostentatious weddings. We do not want zealots and busybodies interfering with most personal of life's decisions. We have a long way to go.

  • @9119annie
    @9119annie Рік тому +470

    My husband and I got married in Special Marriage Act. We are both hindus but since we didn't plan on having any hindu ritual marriage, just a simple court marriage and a reception we had to opt for Special Marriage Act. We actually didnt have to go through all this hassle. We just went to a marriage registrar office one day and submitted everything and she took care of the rest. Then just one day we did the actual signing of the documents and its done. Received our marriage certificate within 1week via post.😀

    • @dishaahluwalia8957
      @dishaahluwalia8957 Рік тому +1

      Hi, I just wanted to know what sort of certificate u got?. Mine is a print out without any letter head just signatures and with title

    • @sakshijadhav5798
      @sakshijadhav5798 Рік тому +13

      I guess it didn't take that long because it wasn't inter religious marriage.

    • @sanjay4841
      @sanjay4841 Рік тому +7

      How much did the whole process cost?

    • @ssam7384
      @ssam7384 Рік тому

      If you are a woman then this is the most stupid decision of your life. You have no idea the kind of rights women have in matters of inheritance, custody and divorce under Hindu Marriage Act

    • @lisanyugenhascancer6332
      @lisanyugenhascancer6332 Рік тому

      Hello how can I do this?

  • @hansiparam7960
    @hansiparam7960 Рік тому +254

    Our marriage was solemnized by both hindu n christian rituals. We registered under this act. But it was in rural Tamilnadu as my husband's relatives arranged for everything. But when I went to sign, the registrar started making fuss that my parents also had to be there. They even took me separately to advice that love marriage doesn't work and i should go back to parents. My parents had taken a lot of leaves for both ceremonies and pre wedding, post wedding rituals and couldn't be there for registration. I had to show wedding pics, videos of my husband with my parents cutting cake and finally show my dad's passport proof and a call to get the registrar sign. Whew!
    It's difficult even if both sides are willing. That was 11 years ago!

    • @SatshyaTharien
      @SatshyaTharien  Рік тому +66

      Oh gosh! How disappointing that the officials came to give you “personal advice” 😅

    • @gmaxi360
      @gmaxi360 Рік тому +9

      How did you arrive at the religious rituals you would be following in your lives and what religion your children follow?

    • @nikusingh191
      @nikusingh191 Рік тому +3

      @@SatshyaTharien He gave good advice.

    • @yadavmayu7
      @yadavmayu7 Рік тому +11

      Hello, didn't know someone went through the same trouble a me. Me and my husband are both Hindus and we got married as per Tamil rituals in temple. But guess what, I am Maharashtrian and even with the wedding card, photos and temple receipt were we got married the registrar was not satisfied. Registrar asked for both my parents to be there. Only my mom had come with me as my dad is no more, after which he asked for my dads death certificate to prove that no one objecting our marriage. This was all despite my in laws and my mother being present. 😓. But we could finally get it registered.

    • @MK-lh3xd
      @MK-lh3xd Рік тому +2

      @@yadavmayu7 that is good due diligence on the part of the registrar.

  • @pravin9803
    @pravin9803 Рік тому +27

    Very informative video, done in a easy-to-understand way, without any legal terms. Loved it. And wish you a very happy married life.

  • @user-nn8jp4zg3g
    @user-nn8jp4zg3g 11 місяців тому +72

    Being an advocate I can confirm you explained it very well. Also the starting part where you mentioned how different religions have different marriage laws. Yes, in India there are few fields where religious personal laws are into force like the marriage, property inheritance and some land reforms and that's why the current govt is focusing on implementing uniform civil code i.e. one law across country that will cater all religions and sectors of people to ensure uniformity in process and low red tapism and remove the requirement of personal laws wherever possible under article 44 of the constitution. A nice way to educate your audience and promote court marriages as it is the most sensible thing. Just do a court marriage and maybe if you want throw a reception for all the fams and frnds. Also congratulations :)

    • @SatshyaTharien
      @SatshyaTharien  11 місяців тому +7

      Thank you :)

    • @gmaxi360
      @gmaxi360 10 місяців тому +4

      Current government is far right and it intends to insert majoritarian policies as u iform

    • @saumyapandey2372
      @saumyapandey2372 8 місяців тому +6

      ​@@gmaxi360LoL they aren't far right, if you don't know the meaning of far right search it.
      They're right leaning with socialist policies.

    • @gmaxi360
      @gmaxi360 7 місяців тому +5

      @@saumyapandey2372 I know what I am talking about, I don't intend to learn from you

    • @KejriwalBhakt
      @KejriwalBhakt 6 місяців тому

      ​@@gmaxi360Tell me you are stupid without telling me you are.

  • @hugedolphin4585
    @hugedolphin4585 Рік тому +6

    it's crazy how you look on videos and how you look without the purple hair showing and without the glasses and everything :00 AND CONGRATULATIONS!!!!

    • @SatshyaTharien
      @SatshyaTharien  Рік тому +3

      Hahah thank you! :) it’s a full incognito mode haha

  • @meghanapragna1299
    @meghanapragna1299 Рік тому +140

    My mother and father got married this way. And very few people know about this special married act! Although I knew a lot about how it works I loved seeing your video! Because in movies they make registered marriages seem very simple..

    • @SatshyaTharien
      @SatshyaTharien  Рік тому +13

      Thank you so much :) yes there’s a lot more to it than just showing up at court haha

    • @samyukthabhuvi7018
      @samyukthabhuvi7018 Рік тому

      @@SatshyaTharien mam i got a msg from ur telegram and join and get lucky prize bla bla

    • @stephen6644
      @stephen6644 Рік тому

      ​@@SatshyaTharien your christain???

  • @SanjayKumar-kb7mq
    @SanjayKumar-kb7mq Рік тому +5

    This was very informative and equally interesting to watch! 🥰 Loved it 👍

  • @amrithaashok2468
    @amrithaashok2468 Рік тому +72

    Wow! Surprisingly it is not this cumbersome in Bangalore ❤ it was quite smooth for me, just a few hours to file the application and another few hours to get married. Also we had a 60 day window after the 30 day’s notice.
    Just sharing in case anyone needs! Cheers to people who decide on having a legal marriage!! It’s simple and very very light on your pocket (we spent Rs. 100)❤️❤️😊😊

    • @amayakak530
      @amayakak530 Рік тому +1

      Do we get to select our date to get married ?

    • @amrithaashok2468
      @amrithaashok2468 Рік тому +1

      @@amayakak530 yes absolutely! You can do it anytime between the 30-60 day window

    • @stephen6644
      @stephen6644 Рік тому

      ​@@amrithaashok2468 nee araya kalayanam kayiche chekante per para??

    • @SatshyaTharien
      @SatshyaTharien  Рік тому +4

      That’s amazing! I’m so happy for you :)

    • @abhinavsingh2757
      @abhinavsingh2757 3 місяці тому

      Do the witnesses have to be local bangalore?? Or anyone will do?

  • @kajalkhatri1034
    @kajalkhatri1034 Рік тому +23

    I had no idea it blows my mind how difficult the process is especially when your details are put out for everyone to see i wanted to suprise my partner with a court marriage but i will have to drop it for now

    • @SatshyaTharien
      @SatshyaTharien  Рік тому +18

      Haha I don’t think you can surprise anyone with a court marriage since you will need both your documents and presence in person 😄 but it’s not too difficult a process :)

    • @gmaxi360
      @gmaxi360 Рік тому

      The religious demographics of our country mean that the majority community in different states is different. Any socio political Majoritarian radical group can use this notice board and the private information of inter religious couples to harrass them and this is happening irrespective of the identity of the Majoritarian group in question. I have seen people circulating pictures of these notices on Twitter, Facebook tagging extremist organizations and calling for stopping the wedding.Therefore we need to be more nuanced and make the system easier for all inter religious couples by weeding out such steps which expose consenting adults in front of radical extremist groups.
      Also the reason she didn't face any such harassment was because the socio political community in majority in Delhi didn't have any issue with the fact that a women of other faith was marrying into a favorable faith. All right wingers view women as transactional entity in such matters.

    • @MK-lh3xd
      @MK-lh3xd Рік тому +2

      Even in traditional weddings invites are sent to people with the details. Wedding is not just a deal between two people, it is a social institution. Your family, relatives, friends need to know about your marriage.

    • @gmaxi360
      @gmaxi360 Рік тому

      @@MK-lh3xd wedding is a deal between two people in case of special marriage act marriage. In the document only the signature of the couple and two witness are present. Indian laws don't need consent of family members for wedding. Also parents don't own the individual liberty and autonomy of their adult children. Just like all adults decide the future of the nation by voting, similarly adults decide their own future by chosing whom to marry. This right isn't owned by parents or relatives.

    • @MK-lh3xd
      @MK-lh3xd Рік тому

      @@gmaxi360 I didn't comment on autonomy. I was reacting to people saying it is a private matter.

  • @Christinacruise.
    @Christinacruise. 8 місяців тому +12

    Wishing you and your husband nothing but love and happiness. Stay blessed!
    I hope and pray that someday ppl who don’t have the courage to get the “inter religion”marriage done get the required coz honestly… it’s called living life only if it’s with the one you love !

  • @MystqStar
    @MystqStar Рік тому +183

    The video just cements my decision to never get married 😂
    Jokes apart, the display of private information publicly is indeed scary, and this video is indeed very informative... especially for inter-religious couples ..
    Also, congratulations!!

    • @Crazysummerdays
      @Crazysummerdays Рік тому +6

      There was a law passed that it’s not required to be published on a notice board but unfortunately the law is not followed and they are still doing the same old procedure.

    • @MystqStar
      @MystqStar Рік тому +2

      @@Crazysummerdays well that sucks!!!

    • @vamsikrishna3855
      @vamsikrishna3855 Рік тому

      @@MystqStarwell most parents accept after some nagging if couples from different faiths. The only exception is Muslims. They still live under the rock. Unfortunately.

    • @dOVERanalyst
      @dOVERanalyst Рік тому

      ​@@Crazysummerdays It is anywhich way published on their public website so that first wives can save their life and young girls can be saved of scams.

    • @rara-wg3qs
      @rara-wg3qs 10 місяців тому

      Privacy in today's world is just an illusion... If this seems scary to you, then all the apps taking your consent to obtain personal info is like a 100x more scary

  • @gpparama
    @gpparama Рік тому +3

    God bless both of you forever, Prayers for a happy married life.நல்லதே வரும்.

  • @mamtataneja1471
    @mamtataneja1471 Рік тому +9

    Congratulations. Wish you a very happy married life and successful career.

  • @beingmom_andbeyond7745
    @beingmom_andbeyond7745 Рік тому +2

    It is an very interesting topic and loved the way you spoke about it ❤

  • @priyadharshinim6607
    @priyadharshinim6607 Рік тому +7

    Wishing you both a Happy Married Life and thanks for this informative video.

  • @Suraj-Verma_
    @Suraj-Verma_ Рік тому +8

    Happy married life mam... you are the bridge between North and South because you are teaching us south Indian words.

  • @shashikanthm3290
    @shashikanthm3290 8 місяців тому +1

    Congrats @Satshya! Wish you a happy Wedded life!💫

  • @user-et3vr4zj5d
    @user-et3vr4zj5d Рік тому +3

    Thank you so much for this video! Bless you

  • @Kathakathan11
    @Kathakathan11 Рік тому +13

    Congratulations to both of you 🎉
    I am actually watching this for general information, thank you for sharing the process. Pata nahi future mein jarurat hogi bhi ya nahi. 😂

    • @SatshyaTharien
      @SatshyaTharien  Рік тому +2

      Hahah thank you 😊

    • @gmaxi360
      @gmaxi360 Рік тому

      The religious demographics of our country mean that the majority community in different states is different. Any socio political Majoritarian radical group can use this notice board and the private information of inter religious couples to harrass them and this is happening irrespective of the identity of the Majoritarian group in question. I have seen people circulating pictures of these notices on Twitter, Facebook tagging extremist organizations and calling for stopping the wedding.Therefore we need to be more nuanced and make the system easier for all inter religious couples by weeding out such steps which expose consenting adults in front of radical extremist groups.
      Also the reason she didn't face any such harassment was because the socio political community in majority in Delhi didn't have any issue with the fact that a women of other faith was marrying into a favorable faith. All right wingers view women as transactional entity in such matters.

  • @steffy007
    @steffy007 Рік тому +19

    Thanks Chechi for this...i always wondered how it's done court marriage about this specific Act...i learnt something new today

  • @shreyasingh3689
    @shreyasingh3689 3 місяці тому

    Thank you for this excellent video! You answered all my questions which I couldn’t find answers to when reading the rules online. Congratulations and thanks!

  • @natsmukherjee
    @natsmukherjee Рік тому +46

    I also got married by special marriage act. But my experience was different.. we signed a notice and and after 3 months of giving the notice we got married to a registers office.. which went very smooth..

    • @SatshyaTharien
      @SatshyaTharien  Рік тому +12

      Oh nice - interesting that you had a 3 month window 😄

    • @natsmukherjee
      @natsmukherjee Рік тому +3

      @@SatshyaTharien I married 6 years ago so maybe the rules has changed. Or may be it varies from state to state I don't know.

    • @gmaxi360
      @gmaxi360 Рік тому +2

      @@natsmukherjee The religious demographics of our country mean that the majority community in different states is different. Any socio political Majoritarian radical group can use this notice board and the private information of inter religious couples to harrass them and this is happening irrespective of the identity of the Majoritarian group in question. I have seen people circulating pictures of these notices on Twitter, Facebook tagging extremist organizations and calling for stopping the wedding.Therefore we need to be more nuanced and make the system easier for all inter religious couples by weeding out such steps which expose consenting adults in front of radical extremist groups.
      Also the reason she didn't face any such harassment was because the socio political community in majority in Delhi didn't have any issue with the fact that a women of other faith was marrying into a favorable faith. All right wingers view women as transactional entity in such matters.

    • @nikusingh191
      @nikusingh191 Рік тому

      Must be a mullah...

    • @exmuslim7241
      @exmuslim7241 Рік тому

      @@gmaxi360
      Hi leftist..
      Again the slaves come to defend their masters

  • @nisargpandya2909
    @nisargpandya2909 Рік тому +8

    Thanks for the informative video and congratulations to both of you 🎉
    I'm planning to get married to my gf through SMA this year 🥰

  • @kashishzaidi2982
    @kashishzaidi2982 Рік тому +18

    Still can't believe you're married! Congratulations ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

  • @adoumidriss6226
    @adoumidriss6226 7 днів тому +1

    Thank you Satshya it is very informative for me as foreigner who wish to marry in India

  • @ssingh3409
    @ssingh3409 Рік тому +2

    Love you for thisssss! I wanted an insight on this soo bad

  • @MrNikugu
    @MrNikugu Рік тому

    Thank you for sharing the process and your experience.

  • @sowmyamahesh9263
    @sowmyamahesh9263 6 місяців тому

    Hey this video is really helpful… Thank you for making it so detailed❤

  • @poofytocurly_tales7553
    @poofytocurly_tales7553 Рік тому +99

    Would be interesting to see a video on how you handle the religious differences within your marriage. Thank you for all the marriage content 😊

    • @shreysom2060
      @shreysom2060 Рік тому +1

      Yeah that' the main thing

    • @mukil371
      @mukil371 Рік тому

      Hindu man can marry anyone, the people who cry love jihad when hindu girl marries or goes with non hindu men will cherish when the guy is hindu and girl is non hindu.

    • @SatshyaTharien
      @SatshyaTharien  Рік тому +84

      Thank you 😄 I don’t think I’m ready to share that publicly since it involves details of someone else’s personal faith. Overall though I’d say the most important thing is to discuss everything ‘no matter how uncomfortable before you decide to get married, so you are both on the same page :)

    • @mukil371
      @mukil371 Рік тому +53

      @@SatshyaTharien Hindus won't have any problem when the guy is Hindu and the girl from non Hindu religion. Problem of moral policing occurs only when it's Hindu girl with non Hindu man. You definitely know this since you're a Mangalorean.

    • @anujpramanik1819
      @anujpramanik1819 Рік тому +26

      @@mukil371 Is there any point to discussing this here? Do you know them personally enough to understand whether they have a problem or not? Why do people feel the need to drag politics into everything.

  • @prekshasharma2951
    @prekshasharma2951 Рік тому +68

    Also, the biggest difference is that this notice clause is only for inter faith couples as per the Special Marriage Act - so it is quite discouraging and dangerous for a lot of couples!!!

    • @SatshyaTharien
      @SatshyaTharien  Рік тому +20

      Yeah! I hope that is removed soon

    • @gmaxi360
      @gmaxi360 Рік тому

      It is meant to act as a deterrent only. Very unfortunate to see this step.
      . The religious demographics of our country mean that the majority community in different states is different. Any socio political Majoritarian radical group can use this notice board and the private information of inter religious couples to harrass them and this is happening irrespective of the identity of the Majoritarian group in question. I have seen people circulating pictures of these notices on Twitter, Facebook tagging extremist organizations and calling for stopping the wedding.Therefore we need to be more nuanced and make the system easier for all inter religious couples by weeding out such steps which expose consenting adults in front of radical extremist groups.
      Also the reason she didn't face any such harassment was because the socio political community in majority in Delhi didn't have any issue with the fact that a women of other faith was marrying into a favorable faith. All right wingers view women as transactional entity in such matters.

    • @gmaxi360
      @gmaxi360 Рік тому +1

      @@SatshyaTharien great to see that despite not being personally affected by the invasion of privacy here you raised this issue

    • @nikusingh191
      @nikusingh191 Рік тому

      May you get a Mullah

    • @gmaxi360
      @gmaxi360 Рік тому

      @@nikusingh191 abe jealous kyo ho raha hai be. Khud mehnat kar, padhai likhai kro

  • @kajorimukherjee6919
    @kajorimukherjee6919 Рік тому +1

    Congratulations! 💐❤️ 🎉👏

  • @shubhamgondalia
    @shubhamgondalia Рік тому +3

    Congratulations on the Wedding!😃

  • @sabahfatema
    @sabahfatema Рік тому

    This was great! Thank you for it.

  • @LS-znpt0
    @LS-znpt0 Рік тому +1

    Personally,i don't like court marriage but m happy for u , always keep smile.

  • @ashishtonger
    @ashishtonger 11 місяців тому

    I am married why I watch entire video just because you're simply explained

  • @MrunaliniPatil98
    @MrunaliniPatil98 2 місяці тому

    Explained so beautifully 😊

  • @ku3455
    @ku3455 11 місяців тому +2

    Such a positive outlook. I have always wanted a very simple and minimalistic wedding. Thanks for the info

  • @Elizabeth0512
    @Elizabeth0512 Рік тому +17

    Hi Satshya, Congratulations.
    I have a question, when giving the notice, it is mandatory that both parties needs to be there? My fiance is from Ireland and it might be easier if the notice can be given by me alone or if not would this be possible through a lawyer??

    • @SatshyaTharien
      @SatshyaTharien  Рік тому +9

      Hi Elizabeth! Yes both parties need to be there because they need to verify your identity in person along with your documents :) but you can still double check with a lawyer

    • @moumitasantra9039
      @moumitasantra9039 Рік тому +1

      Hi...find the marraige registration ofc at your locality and rest of the formalities the register took care....ideally both parties dont need to be present when giving notice but bfr giving notice if your fiance is not Indian but a foreign citizen they hv to be living in d country for a minimum 30 days. So i guess if ur fiance is a foreign citizen he has to be present
      I got married in dec under the special marraige act in West Bengal....the process was not that cumbersome...my husband is a US citizen....he just needed his driver's certificate, passport, visa n birth certificate... and i needed adhar card, age proof, n also 2 passport size photograph

    • @Elizabeth0512
      @Elizabeth0512 Рік тому

      @@moumitasantra9039 thanks alot for your response

    • @ss17746
      @ss17746 Рік тому

      ​@@Elizabeth0512 : How was your experience? I am in same situation where we both live outside India and we are Indian

    • @shrutichouhan6762
      @shrutichouhan6762 Рік тому

      ​@@moumitasantra9039 Hi, can you tell me more about the process in WB? I'm planning to get married and my fiance lives in US as well

  • @babloovasu
    @babloovasu Рік тому +21

    How did you guys convince your parents or how did you manage to save the ordeal of convincing your parents and others to do this smart wedding plan instead of the tradition drum-roll thing . I know it depends on persons and family types , but yeah it would be helpful If you could share some light on that too .TIA.

    • @SatshyaTharien
      @SatshyaTharien  Рік тому +5

      Since we belong to different religions, this was the only way we could’ve gotten legally married in india so we had to do it anyway hehe :) but if you’re both from the same religion and want to avoid ceremonies I guess have a conversation with parents about why you don’t want to do it and want a simple thing instead :)

    • @julyarvide
      @julyarvide 10 місяців тому

      @@SatshyaTharien I went to india to get married and requested special marriage, despite of it the lawyer made a different process and now we are just realizing, not sure how to solve it, could you share the contact of a good lawyer please?

  • @pankajkarmakar7782
    @pankajkarmakar7782 Рік тому +2

    😬😬😢😢❤ Arre dil toot gaya mera.. 1 week se aapke video dekh raha tha random.. You are super cute and lovely but abhi aap married ho... 😬😬 Good content sister.. 😢😢hueee3eeeee

  • @sashaaery5535
    @sashaaery5535 8 місяців тому +4

    Hi Satshya, Thank you for this video, it is very helpful. I just wanted to clarify one thing regarding the witnesses. Not sure if I missed in the video. But do we have to take the witnesses both the time,
    first during the registration and then again during the day of declaration (after 30days) ? or it is only on the declaration and signature day that we have to take them with us? Thanks

    • @SatshyaTharien
      @SatshyaTharien  8 місяців тому

      Hi hi! No just the second time, that is on the day you are registering the marriage

    • @SatshyaTharien
      @SatshyaTharien  8 місяців тому

      Sorry, to confirm, not during application, but marriage registration (after 30 day period)

  • @Ahmad_9134
    @Ahmad_9134 Рік тому

    Damn! Congratulations!!!

  • @vishalakshishetty8420
    @vishalakshishetty8420 Рік тому +1

    Congratulations & Happy married life

    • @SatshyaTharien
      @SatshyaTharien  Рік тому

      Thank you 😄

    • @akankshshetty7710
      @akankshshetty7710 Рік тому

      Heyyyy, you have my mothers exact name, your name me put a smile across my face❤❤❤😇😇😇.

  • @ghufransharif3605
    @ghufransharif3605 Рік тому +8

    In 2015 I was a witness for a register marriage of my close friend and got a good reward of beatings by bride's dad and brothers,😂
    Today they have a wonderful married life.

    • @SatshyaTharien
      @SatshyaTharien  Рік тому +2

      Haah 😂

    • @indrijeetkumar8364
      @indrijeetkumar8364 11 місяців тому

      You should have burnt Quran and leave Islam before marrying her to console her parents that she won't be converted later on? Quran and Islam prohibit a muslim man/girl from marrying a Hindu.

  • @user-vd7rn6vo6o
    @user-vd7rn6vo6o 9 місяців тому +2

    This is such an informative video. Kuddos to you for sharing this and the cons that you shared, how little scary it is to share your personal detail in the public domain. You are absolutely right about this and I hope this system gets more comfortable for the applicants. Bdw congratulations you❤ wishing you a very happy married life❤ all the blessings to you❤❤

  • @Viralindia1111
    @Viralindia1111 Рік тому +1

    Thanks for giving this all information

  • @santhoshkumarsanthu5300
    @santhoshkumarsanthu5300 Рік тому

    Congratulation sister.....👍✨✨✨
    🎉😊👏😁👏😃🎉
    Congratulations!

  • @blackshadow3508
    @blackshadow3508 Рік тому +11

    The 14 year olds watching this 👁👄👁

    • @ankitadhar3501
      @ankitadhar3501 Місяць тому

      Still a good thing ...atleast they are learning something which may help in their future ...or just a general knowledge

  • @yousufparveez786
    @yousufparveez786 2 місяці тому

    Thank you for making such an informative video i got to know so many things which i didn’t know In sha Allah i am going to marry under this act. i am also from mangalore

  • @seethavijayakumar9067
    @seethavijayakumar9067 Рік тому

    Congratulations dear 🥰

  • @shashankkumar12
    @shashankkumar12 8 місяців тому +1

    Very very congratulations mama ❤🎉..
    Maine bhi socha tha special marriage act ka use krunga lekin usko mana nhi paya 😅😔...
    Aapki marriage video dekh ke acha lga bhot ❤

  • @shinodbm
    @shinodbm Рік тому +34

    Congratulations ❤
    The notice board display thing is so scary - similar to banns being read out in church but much more public.
    Q - do you think it would have been different based on the city you chose? Maybe Mangalore might have been different?

    • @SatshyaTharien
      @SatshyaTharien  Рік тому +18

      Thank you :) yeah I know! Atleast in church it’s among a community of people you know, but in a public space it’s quite scary 😟 regarding the second part - I don’t know, I’d like to think that all government offices are neutral & don’t make things difficult for people under the SMA. But it can be nerve wracking if one has for example, run away and trying to get married

    • @gmaxi360
      @gmaxi360 Рік тому +4

      The religious demographics of our country mean that the majority community in different states is different. The socio political power in the hands of for example the muslim community in srinagar would be very different from that in shimla just because of their percentage of population. Similarly the socio political power of a religious community xyz by virtue of their demography will be very different in meghalaya compared to say that in delhi because of their percentage in these states. Any socio political Majoritarian radical group can use this notice board and the private information of inter religious couples to harrass them and this is happening irrespective of the identity of the Majoritarian group in question. Therefore we need to be more nuanced and make the system easier for all inter religious couples by weeding out such steps which expose consenting adults in front of radical extremist groups.
      There are pictures of these notices circulated on twitter, Facebook tagging various right wing organizations calling for stopping these weddings between consenting adults. People need to speak out about this problematic step as it limits the free choice and privacy of adults.

    • @gmaxi360
      @gmaxi360 Рік тому +3

      @@SatshyaTharien well said and it was good to see you speaking out despite personally not being affected by this invasion of privacy. Also the fact that you had your parents as witness made it easier. That other man had to spend 25k because his wedding was the more "revolutionary" If I can say so. Just because of the socio political climate of the nation. Very unfortunate to see this. Hopefully this step will be eliminated sometime in future, I have seen so many pictures being circulated by radical people on social media of these notices calling for stopping the wedding between consenting adults.

    • @NArchean
      @NArchean Рік тому

      Its same for everyone. SMA is applicable for all India.

  • @espiritm9
    @espiritm9 11 місяців тому

    Congratulations! 🤗✨🙏🌹🥂🌟

  • @ohowomaniya
    @ohowomaniya Рік тому +2

    ❤️🤌 I love the way you just shared the whole experience like a true bestie in such a great manner ❤️

  • @varsh7430
    @varsh7430 Рік тому +15

    I love all ur videos 💕 even tho I'm still 19 and not getting married I watched the whole video 😄
    I just love the way u talk 🥰❤

  • @Roe-hj2lx
    @Roe-hj2lx Рік тому +5

    I'm planning to do this too cause I don't want unnecessary drama coming from the relatives and also save money to buy a house or something.

  • @anjupaul7756
    @anjupaul7756 Рік тому +1

    Love your unique content

  • @healermusic4734
    @healermusic4734 9 місяців тому

    You are Married😢. My heart almost stopped

  • @Therapisttocore
    @Therapisttocore Рік тому +3

    How many years does one have to be in the city to get it registered there?

  • @SumanthLazarus
    @SumanthLazarus 9 місяців тому +1

    My wish is to have a very simple marriage and super, duper Bollywood 25th Anniversary 🥳

  • @doobydoba
    @doobydoba 6 місяців тому

    Thank you for explaning it so well. And I agree with you, your details being disclosed on a board publically seems very unsettling. I understand the reasoning for it but to me, it seems scary.

  • @aishashikhawat9123
    @aishashikhawat9123 Рік тому +9

    I have lost all interest of getting married after this 😂😂

  • @aditimanna7889
    @aditimanna7889 Рік тому

    Woah!! She's married!!!!

  • @ngalahansel6066
    @ngalahansel6066 Рік тому

    Watching from South Africa and I could have sworn you were South African just from your name and looks lol. Interesting perspectives there

  • @Bombae_girl
    @Bombae_girl Рік тому +7

    Any couple can get them registered under the Special Marriage Act 1954…you just need to follow certain regulations which you have stated in this video…

    • @gmaxi360
      @gmaxi360 Рік тому

      The religious demographics of our country mean that the majority community in different states is different. Any socio political Majoritarian radical group can use this notice board and the private information of inter religious couples to harrass them and this is happening irrespective of the identity of the Majoritarian group in question. I have seen people circulating pictures of these notices on Twitter, Facebook tagging extremist organizations and calling for stopping the wedding.Therefore we need to be more nuanced and make the system easier for all inter religious couples by weeding out such steps which expose consenting adults in front of radical extremist groups.
      Also the reason she didn't face any such harassment was because the socio political community in majority in Delhi didn't have any issue with the fact that a women of other faith was marrying into a favorable faith. All right wingers view women as transactional entity in such matters.

  • @srim6241
    @srim6241 11 місяців тому

    Congratulations 🎊

  • @dishantmalhotra9818
    @dishantmalhotra9818 10 місяців тому

    Is there any documents we are supposed to take with us on the appointment date ? as my wife is a foreigner and after the whole process of submitting the documents the SDM itself gave us the appointment by writing on our documents the date which is almost 40 days but they didn't gave us any application number or slip or anything so I am just confused like what if we go there on the appointment date and nothing gets done so can you please tell me how was your experience on the appointment day.

  • @butterchickenisback
    @butterchickenisback Рік тому +2

    Your voice sounds so much like Deepika Padukone!

  • @akshathk3241
    @akshathk3241 Рік тому

    I just wish you both a happy and a peaceful married life

  • @punamlakra8892
    @punamlakra8892 8 днів тому

    Hey Satshya..really felt happy after watching this video of yours. Really got a ray of hope to marry the man I love. I am a christian and my bf is south indian hindu. I saw u had 3 types of marriage- court marriage hindu wedding and christian wedding. Can u please share ur experience on how u convinced ur parents and church for Interfaith marriage as my parents are completely against our relationship. And how do you manage mixing both the religion and culture to avoid any conflicts☺☺

  • @shaikmansoorilahi7397
    @shaikmansoorilahi7397 Рік тому

    Literally this happens in every government office all over India if we go without a broker

  • @ROSUJACOB
    @ROSUJACOB Рік тому

    I will be waiting for you,my dear and loving wife.I love you..

  • @nikitauday
    @nikitauday Рік тому

    Congratulations and thanks for sharing this!

    • @SatshyaTharien
      @SatshyaTharien  Рік тому

      Thank you 😄

    • @gmaxi360
      @gmaxi360 Рік тому

      The religious demographics of our country mean that the majority community in different states is different. Any socio political Majoritarian radical group can use this notice board and the private information of inter religious couples to harrass them and this is happening irrespective of the identity of the Majoritarian group in question. I have seen people circulating pictures of these notices on Twitter, Facebook tagging extremist organizations and calling for stopping the wedding.Therefore we need to be more nuanced and make the system easier for all inter religious couples by weeding out such steps which expose consenting adults in front of radical extremist groups.
      Also the reason she didn't face any such harassment was because the socio political community in majority in Delhi didn't have any issue with the fact that a women of other faith was marrying into a favorable faith. All right wingers view women as transactional entity in such matters.

  • @imrann7100
    @imrann7100 Рік тому

    Informative video.

  • @prakritigupta9020
    @prakritigupta9020 Рік тому +1

    Thanks for sharing. Were you able to solemnize your marriage on the first day itself you went to the court or did it take multiple iterations?

    • @SatshyaTharien
      @SatshyaTharien  Рік тому

      So the first day you go to court (the office) is to apply for it - and then they tell you when you can come to solemnise the marriage - it will be mostly a month after applying

  • @akhileshmachiraju1521
    @akhileshmachiraju1521 4 місяці тому

    Love is sacred according to Puranas, Abhimanyu's story and many of Lord Krishna's deeds are good examples of this. However, our last few previous generations considered it as sacrilegious.
    My only advice for Loving couples is to value their promises and don't ruin other bonds in the process. We are lucky to be born in India where family takes care of us while sacrificing their happiness. Remember that both our life partner and our parents are our responsibility and no reason can be given to escape from it.

  • @sudhanshukandpal
    @sudhanshukandpal 8 місяців тому +2

    Hi Satshya, a holistic video on the entire process. It was really informative. Thanks. I have a query! Could you please let me know how to book slots to give the notice (1st appointment)? I am planning for a marriage under the Special Marriage Act and I was told by the SDM Office in New Delhi that it is automatically a system generated date after we submit our application on the e-District Delhi government website.

    • @SatshyaTharien
      @SatshyaTharien  8 місяців тому

      Hi hi! From what I remember we went to the SDM office for the 1st time 1-2 days after submitting the application online. I don’t think you need a slot to go apply for the marriage registration but best to go within 3-4 days of submitting online application

    • @sudhanshukandpal
      @sudhanshukandpal 7 місяців тому

      Hi Satshya, thanks for the information. The website allows to choose the slot of any day within 10 days of submission of application.

  • @practicalknowledgeyt
    @practicalknowledgeyt Рік тому

    Thank you for sharing.

  • @Binu_Ramachandran
    @Binu_Ramachandran Рік тому +4

    Live in together 🙌

  • @arvee16
    @arvee16 8 місяців тому

    Will go through all the HOURS and running around but I just hope the Notice Clause display is done away with!! I did have a problem with it n then I thought it's the law damn... but I'm so glad you too feel the same way..

    • @SatshyaTharien
      @SatshyaTharien  8 місяців тому

      Yeahh I know!! I didn’t have an issue with societal issue since our families were supportive of us, I was just uncomfortable with home addresses displayed in a public spacd

  • @nikhilnagella5094
    @nikhilnagella5094 Рік тому

    God bless u dear

  • @supriyakumari7507
    @supriyakumari7507 Рік тому +2

    During document submission, both partners should be available and after the procedure, does the candidate receive a marriage certificate on the same day?

    • @SatshyaTharien
      @SatshyaTharien  Рік тому +3

      They upload it to the govt website in 2-3 days and you can download it from there :)

  • @kutty35
    @kutty35 8 місяців тому +14

    I wish every Indian parent would be as positive as yours for court marriages. It would save a lot of hassle, money and pressure.
    ❤ thanks for the video about your experience

  • @DhruvMalikk
    @DhruvMalikk Рік тому +25

    After watching this video i feel the traditional wedding is easier😂 anyway congratulations

    • @gmaxi360
      @gmaxi360 Рік тому +6

      But that isn't the option for couples of different faiths where they wish to retain their original religion post wedding as well

    • @shiprajoshi2618
      @shiprajoshi2618 Рік тому +2

      Yes the best!

    • @mathsreasoninglove3336
      @mathsreasoninglove3336 Рік тому +6

      @@gmaxi360 you are right Nagaraju of hydrabad lost his life because of that

    • @gmaxi360
      @gmaxi360 Рік тому +6

      @@mathsreasoninglove3336 you are right, and he wasn't the only one who lsot his life to the patriarchy of society which perceives its honor to be limited to the womb of women of that particular society. And when i say society I mean caste based society or religion based society.
      Whether it was nagaraju, or it was arbaz mulla of belagavi, karnataka who was beheaded on railway tracks. They were victims of honor killings, just like thousands of such caste based killings that happen every year in cases of inter caste marriages. Ultimately it is the role of the society to read Indian laws and come out of caveman era mentality

    • @NArchean
      @NArchean Рік тому +1

      This is more easier, you just need an experienced and good lawyer.

  • @sonalisingh3590
    @sonalisingh3590 11 місяців тому

    Hello Satshya,
    Is there any waiting time for the appointment at SDM office after you fill the application online or we can just directly show up there after filling application?

    • @SatshyaTharien
      @SatshyaTharien  11 місяців тому

      Hi, after filing the application online I think you can directly show up the next day or even the same day. I'm not sure if we got an appointment date (it will usually show up when you file the application) - but we went for the first SDM visit the very next day

  • @Allrounder05
    @Allrounder05 Рік тому

    i just came here to see you 😍

  • @rajhapriya6289
    @rajhapriya6289 Місяць тому

    I can understand how much you went through. In my case, his family wants to do nikah and my family is disappointed by their needs and place. We want to be together, it's seven years of being in a relationship

    • @bhanuprakash-vz9rr
      @bhanuprakash-vz9rr Місяць тому +2

      married to a guy from Islam??? trust me mam a lot problems you gonna face cultural wise in future :(

  • @deepikabalasubramanian5424
    @deepikabalasubramanian5424 4 місяці тому

    I am hindu and my husband is a Muslim.We got married under this Act in the presence of both of our parents.We didn't have any issue .

  • @Dheerajvasireddy
    @Dheerajvasireddy Рік тому

    You should’ve let us see your husband 😊 I’m a guy btw ready for marriage all the best

  • @ps-gh3hu
    @ps-gh3hu Рік тому

    Easyyyyy 💁🏻‍♀️

  • @omegaranger6654
    @omegaranger6654 Рік тому +1

    New suitcase ready

  • @xoxo3581
    @xoxo3581 Рік тому

    Easy😇😂,jokes apart, congratulations.

  • @mahalakshmis8215
    @mahalakshmis8215 Рік тому

    what about the marriage certificate,
    actually iam planning to get court marriage and i am not informing my parents ,so iam sacred ,what if the marriage certificate is sent thorugh post directly to my home address

  • @KoreanBahu
    @KoreanBahu 6 місяців тому

    Hey your video is very informative, my partner is a foreigner however he will be coming to India for 10 days only (not more than 10days due to work) to get married but for the first registration phase can I go alone to the office and on the 2nd appearance we both will come. Is that possible?

  • @omnislashadvent
    @omnislashadvent 11 місяців тому

    How long do you need to reside in a place to be able to apply for marriage there?

  • @rs5502
    @rs5502 10 місяців тому

    Guys I need help.. can anyone help? I’d like to do the court marriage now, same religion and after few months we’ll be doing our normal wedding. I want to know that during the normal wedding, in the Nikahnama will it be known about the court marriage?

  • @suhasinibv1240
    @suhasinibv1240 Рік тому +6

    11:44 The SDM said, "Easy!"

  • @sashajenyl5301
    @sashajenyl5301 Рік тому +4

    Congratulations ❤️ and you resemble Kat Dennings the American actress 😅