i was pregnant, and i had a miscarriage

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  • In my first trimester of pregnancy, I had a miscarriage at 7 weeks and lost the baby. Trying to conceive with PCOS had been a journey, and we want to have a baby so bad. But this is our miscarriage story, trying to make sense of losing my first baby.
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  • @SierraSchultzzie
    @SierraSchultzzie  4 роки тому +7604

    I tried filming this like 4 times, and am still very nervous about posting this video, but there’s no right or wrong way to grieve. There’s no perfect way to talk about this. Miscarriage has been the hardest thing we’ve ever experienced, and we’re still very much working through it. Thank you for all the love and kindness, and understanding of me stepping away from youtube for a bit. Right now I’m planning on taking a few more weeks off and should be back to my regular schedule near the end of March. 💕 love you guys.

    • @keiwiuniii5024
      @keiwiuniii5024 4 роки тому +39

      Sierra Schultzzie it’s okay Sierra, I’m sure you will get a baby when it’s the right time!.
      😁😁😁

    • @SanShine2309
      @SanShine2309 4 роки тому +22

      I feel so sorry for you.. Take some time to grieve xx Don't lose hope, it will happen!

    • @jessicaturner4895
      @jessicaturner4895 4 роки тому +13

      💕💕💕

    • @peachxtaehyung
      @peachxtaehyung 4 роки тому +33

      Sure of course Sierra please take your time. We will miss you but we just want you to be physically,emotionally and mentally healthy ok? We love you guys!

    • @the1ladytammy
      @the1ladytammy 4 роки тому +26

      I think the positive from this is you are able to get pregnant. That is wonderful. ♥️

  • @wine_mom_810
    @wine_mom_810 4 роки тому +2259

    One of my friends unfortunately suffered through 3 miscarriages, but now she has a happy, beautiful 10 month old baby girl. Please don’t give up 💕

    • @av950
      @av950 4 роки тому +56

      my mom had three miscarriages, and now she has me and my two sisters :) Sending you love sierra

    • @kackahorakova2397
      @kackahorakova2397 4 роки тому +13

      My mom too,and my friend. I'm here alive and healthy, and my friend has a 1 year old beautiful girl, healthy and full of energy. I know you can get threw it Sierra, you are one of the strongest person I know, you are inspiring. Sending ton of love.❤️

    • @MissGuidedMissi
      @MissGuidedMissi 4 роки тому +9

      I have had 3 myself, and now my baby girl will be here literally any day.

    • @haloolak
      @haloolak 4 роки тому

      My mom had two miscarriages but now she has me, my sister, and my 2 brothers :)

    • @maddinauss6474
      @maddinauss6474 4 роки тому

      Melissa Peckham just seeing this now but I hope everything went well and your sweet baby is healthy and spoiled with love ❤️

  • @Laura-rd6yg
    @Laura-rd6yg 4 роки тому +1278

    When you said “I will be a mom” I teared up. You’re so strong and I hope that you become a mother like you’ve always wanted to ❤️

    • @dixiemartin9874
      @dixiemartin9874 4 роки тому

      IT SOUND LIKE YOU WERE TALKING TO ME. DOCTOR ME I SHOULD BE LOOKING INTO ADOPTION. HE DIDNT THINK I CAN HAVE BABIES

    • @christianaxtiana3297
      @christianaxtiana3297 4 роки тому +9

      she is a mom.

    • @cates6431
      @cates6431 4 роки тому +3

      I did too. I know that feel. I have every faith that Sierra will be a bomb ass mama one day.

    • @MayaMoodle
      @MayaMoodle 4 роки тому +3

      When she said that I started bawling.

  • @jacquelineellis3951
    @jacquelineellis3951 4 роки тому +1052

    When Sierra said “I will be a mom” I was like “YES YOU WILL!” Stay strong. We all love you and are here to support

  • @lezaanvanwyk9202
    @lezaanvanwyk9202 4 роки тому +676

    Saw the title..
    *AND MY HEART LITERALLY BROKE...* 💔😢
    Honestly feels weird even liking the video.. 😔

    • @kathrinehmunk
      @kathrinehmunk 4 роки тому +14

      It is weird liking it because I don't like this video but I want it to give my feedback

    • @gfysysgsyzrnntenbipjeqw5035
      @gfysysgsyzrnntenbipjeqw5035 4 роки тому +2

      me too i am so sad for her 😭😢

    • @amylempkowski9887
      @amylempkowski9887 4 роки тому +4

      in my eyes, liking it is a form of supporting sierra and letting her know you love her and are behind her 💘

    • @lezaanvanwyk9202
      @lezaanvanwyk9202 4 роки тому +1

      @@amylempkowski9887 I get it.. Like I work with kids everyday and this is like my worst fear especially now that I'm getting married soon and thinking about a family. The title is just sad because I knw so many people who would love to have kids and then get crushed through miscarriages.. Sierra is so brave.. Ive said it before but il say it again. She's an amazing woman ❤️

  • @lacydanielle1248
    @lacydanielle1248 4 роки тому +476

    I plant forget-me-not flowers in my garden in honor of my loss. You find little ways.

    • @Hufflebear
      @Hufflebear 4 роки тому +32

      I was thinking this too. You might want to look at winter blooming jasmine. It blooms at the last frost of the year, people literally stop their cars to ask about ours. My grandmother would say when everything else is gone something will still bloom.

    • @Marianna6843
      @Marianna6843 4 роки тому +4

      Lacy Danielle I have a box that I keep a locket in with the date inscribed. It was a very early miscarriage so I don’t have much to keep.

    • @sstaj9945
      @sstaj9945 4 роки тому +1

      That's such a beautiful idea.

    • @jenniferwinters9810
      @jenniferwinters9810 4 роки тому +1

      That's such a beautiful thing to do @lacydanielle 💜

  • @threadrose524
    @threadrose524 4 роки тому +475

    I was only a few years old when my mom had a miscarriage, but I remember the two of us planting a tree together in our back yard. I think it was such a good way to grieve; we didn't talk about it every day, but whenever the tree grew noticeably bigger or was blooming in the spring it would open up a conversation about the sister I would have had. She was going to be named Lilly, so we called it the "Lilly Tree" and took great care in watching it grow. I think it was an outlet for my mom too, to see that she could grow be successful in growing Lilly in some way.

    • @Mahomies17
      @Mahomies17 4 роки тому +4

      Rosie Bauer that’s so sad yet so beautiful😭 thank you for sharing❤️

    • @mandyerickson6435
      @mandyerickson6435 4 роки тому +2

      That is an amazing thing to do. 💗

    • @mowganashwey
      @mowganashwey 4 роки тому +2

      This is so beautiful, thank you for sharing

    • @lilychiasson2890
      @lilychiasson2890 4 роки тому +3

      My mom did similar. She made a garden for who would’ve been my little sister and called it “Maia’s garden” ❤️

    • @shouldacomewithawarninh4974
      @shouldacomewithawarninh4974 3 роки тому

      That’s so amazing 🤩

  • @tahneejenkins9444
    @tahneejenkins9444 4 роки тому +450

    I just want to offer some encouragement. I miscarried twice and then I had my son who is now 2.5. Miscarried twice again, and now I am 23 weeks pregnant with twin girls conceived naturally! Miscarriage is very sad, physically & mentally very painful. Do not give up! One miscarriage does not mean that you cannot have children. Multiple miscarriages does not mean you cannot have children. Keep your spirits up! I was married for 5 years before we had our son, I was 27! I am 30 now. It may take you a little longer to carry full term, but it can and will happen!

    • @reader596
      @reader596 4 роки тому +4

      Wow you are so strong!!❤ You sound like a really good mom!❤💫

  • @Sarahnfarmery
    @Sarahnfarmery 4 роки тому +552

    I found out I had PCOS a few years ago. January 2019 I had my first miscarriage. Then in August 2019 I had another one. September 2019 we found out we were pregnant with our rainbow baby. Now I’m 7 months pregnant with my healthy baby girl. Miscarriages are devastating but you will get your little miracle baby too❤️

    • @christamarie3512
      @christamarie3512 4 роки тому +2

      Sarah Nicole 💜

    • @Babynameinspiration
      @Babynameinspiration 4 роки тому +4

      Congrats
      wishing you a healthy baby girl and a easy delivery💚

    • @ashleyn5068
      @ashleyn5068 4 роки тому +1

      🥺congrats on your little one , best of wishes to your new bundle of joy

    • @alisalaska1786
      @alisalaska1786 4 роки тому +1

      So sorry for your losses :(. I have PCOS as well and may not even try. I may just move directly to adoption and not worry about passing my diseases on and/or struggle to get pregnant. I also have the MTHFr gene mutation that causes miscarriages.

  • @tracig1529
    @tracig1529 4 роки тому +219

    I’ve had several miscarriages, got put on progesterone as soon as I got pregnant and just dropped my three little girls (10,9 and 6) off at school. My beautiful girl you will have your babies.

    • @andreashields6983
      @andreashields6983 4 роки тому +1

      Traci G same for me. I lost three & finally found a doctor that knew what was going on. I was put on progesterone with my son. He was born healthy. Ten months later I was pregnant again with my daughter.

  • @kirstinhettinger312
    @kirstinhettinger312 4 роки тому +216

    as someone also struggling to conceive, tired of single pink lines, timing sex, doctors appointments, guilt/worry/confusion, i hear you and i am with you.
    you will absolutely become a mother, an amazing one, and when that day comes, the struggle will just be part of the story. sending you and all the mommas to be out there all the love. ❤️❤️❤️

  • @annayako7992
    @annayako7992 4 роки тому +644

    I seriously dont understand why people would dislike this

    • @anasimpsonn
      @anasimpsonn 4 роки тому +49

      Anna Yako because their vision was blurred by their tears so they accidentally pressed the wrong button :)

    • @meganm9178
      @meganm9178 4 роки тому +30

      Max Shrapnel health has nothing to do with this

    • @nikkigerman9449
      @nikkigerman9449 4 роки тому +19

      @@maxshrapnel8998 what's "best health" considered?

    • @thatthomaslife195
      @thatthomaslife195 4 роки тому +21

      @Jeannette Howard Ummmm people can get pregnant on PCOS. Its just more common to have a miscarriage. It doesn't just go away. In no way is it OK to dislike a miscarriage video.

    • @lilacfaerie1619
      @lilacfaerie1619 4 роки тому +25

      Jeannette Howard PCOS isn’t something she can control. From the tone (and I could be wrong, please tell me if I am) it seems like you were insinuating that she was at fault for this

  • @cristydeming1465
    @cristydeming1465 4 роки тому +374

    2nd note: this topic should be a part of health education.

    • @kellybowker6466
      @kellybowker6466 4 роки тому +19

      Cristy Deming Agreed. I had NO idea how often this happened.

  • @leiaros3
    @leiaros3 4 роки тому +565

    I had a very similar experience. When I had a miscarriage, my baby was the size of a blueberry. We bought a blueberry ornament to hang on the tree at Christmas. Every year we hang that ornament and remember our little blueberry. All I can say is please please please be aware of grief, be aware of hormones, be aware of post partum. I got PTSD from my experience, and I brought that into my next pregnancy that festered into something very dark. I am not sharing this to scare you, I am telling you this because your emotional state is VERY important in the next pregnancy so take care of yourself and be gentle with yourself. I am thinking about you, and just know you are already a mom, just because you can't see or touch him/her does not take that away. They now hold a special place in your heart and you will cherish that forever! ❤️

    • @c3koz
      @c3koz 4 роки тому +9

      I was thinking the same - that she's already a mom. It's not childbirth, but love that does that. She wouldn't be grieving as she is if she didn't love as a mother.

    • @AtelierNayo
      @AtelierNayo 4 роки тому +3

      that so sad and full of poetry at the same time i'm just " ;____; " even if i'm not into child or whatever but being an emotional empathic that makes me so sad
      i hope you the best too

    • @VeganEmerald
      @VeganEmerald 4 роки тому +1

      leiaros3 this is wild but my very close friends had a miscarriage and they named their lost bb blueberry and had like a blueberry bush and everything. Wow wow wow 💜

    • @mariagarcia6707
      @mariagarcia6707 4 роки тому +1

      I had a miscarriage in 2018 and we also called our baby blueberry! This was nice reminder of my little blueberry ....I know I will one day meet him/her🥰🥰

    • @laurencenadon9746
      @laurencenadon9746 4 роки тому +1

      The blueberry ornament is so meaningful and beautiful ❤️

  • @BLHxglam
    @BLHxglam 4 роки тому +334

    People need to speak about this it’s so common for even “healthy” people to conceive let alone hide of us with medical issues, I’ve lost two babies myself before being diagnosed with with cancer, I’m two years past the last miscarriage and it gets easier but it’s still hard to this day, but I think sharing it will bring healing

    • @dirkjehoevenaars5347
      @dirkjehoevenaars5347 4 роки тому +4

      Briana Hendricks I hope you’re okay. You deserve all the good in the world! Sending you all my love and happiness

    • @shadowkissed2370
      @shadowkissed2370 4 роки тому +1

      I agree, you heal but that scar will always be there pulling and tugging reminding you but not hurting as bad as when the wound was fresh.

  • @abbeysroad6695
    @abbeysroad6695 4 роки тому +551

    “It’s okay if you’re not okay” - that was one of the most comforting things I was told so I hope it brings you some comfort. I’m 6 months out and it’s still hard for me sometimes. My mother-in-law is 30 yrs out and she still gets emotional about her miscarriage. It’s okay to not be okay all the time.

    • @haileyp320
      @haileyp320 4 роки тому +9

      Yes! Grief has no time line & I hope she doesn't put pressure on herself! Sending love to you and her!

  • @doug-chelsybiederman183
    @doug-chelsybiederman183 4 роки тому +448

    I know you said “I’m going to be a mom,” but know that You ARE a Mom! The day that test said yes you became a mom and will always be a mom to that precious angel.

    • @lllmall7372
      @lllmall7372 4 роки тому +10

      Very true. Your baby is just not ready to be earth side yet ❤❤

    • @TheSuefriend
      @TheSuefriend 4 роки тому +7

      This is very true. That little angel is just waiting on the other side for their Mommy and Daddy. Someday you'll all be together again.

    • @guciablueblack6140
      @guciablueblack6140 4 роки тому +6

      This made me cry oh my god
      God 😭☹

    • @Vi.wo13
      @Vi.wo13 4 роки тому +6

      Oh my god this made me cry

    • @eyachakroun8266
      @eyachakroun8266 4 роки тому +2

      I love this comment more than I love myself

  • @DandelionDream09
    @DandelionDream09 4 роки тому +358

    I think it's good she is talking about this so openly.
    And to Sierra:
    Take all the time you need! That's the least you can do. I'm sure you're gonna be one of the greatest moms ever one day. It's just a matter of when and how. You're so lovely, so caring. And eventhough it looks dark now, my mom always said: "Wenn du denkst es geht nicht mehr kommt von irgendwo ein Lichtlein her." (in English it translate something like: If you think there is nothing you can do anymore, there will come a little light to help you through...
    My translation skills are a little bit rough)
    And as I said you'll get through it. You can fight it. You can get better. And you still have your man on your side. I wish all the best to both of you.

  • @feebeci
    @feebeci 4 роки тому +886

    Coming from someone who’s had a whole heap of miscarriages . It’s totally normal . The good thing from this is that you can get pregnant! You’re baby is coming

    • @deemoney6145
      @deemoney6145 4 роки тому +28

      Wow that's a good point seriously never thought of it like that! Xxoxo

    • @dumbweeniegirl
      @dumbweeniegirl 4 роки тому +1

      Madeline May everyone should like this! i so feel like sierra needs to read this!

    • @kalis856
      @kalis856 4 роки тому +9

      According to the Wikipedia article on miscarriage/John's Hopkins/the NIH 30-50% of conceptions end in miscarriage, it's totally normal!

    • @mamamalet
      @mamamalet 4 роки тому +8

      Kali S it doesn’t heart less to know that. I’ve had a miscarriage yesterday and I can tell you that it’s not easy even knowing that it’s common.

    • @kalis856
      @kalis856 4 роки тому +12

      @@mamamalet I am sorry that happened to you. I think if more people are aware of the rate of miscarriage, less will feel like something is wrong with them or their body and they might be able to emotionally prepare before it happens and understand what it means when it does happen. ❤️

  • @nelle1899
    @nelle1899 4 роки тому +637

    sierra: “i’m going to be a mom one day” me: periodt

  • @katej7135
    @katej7135 4 роки тому +147

    I had a miscarriage with my first pregnancy also. Give yourself time to be sad and for your body to heal, but try to stay positive... I was convinced my body was against me and that it would never happen for me. 4 months later I was pregnant with my son and now I am 12 weeks with my second baby. Knowing pain makes the joy even greater, it will happen for you.

  • @kaitlin.88
    @kaitlin.88 4 роки тому +155

    Had I not miscarried 4 times prior, I would never have met my 2 sons who are my world. This is the hardest thing you will go through but you are strong and resilient. Praying for you 💙

  • @paolayepez7302
    @paolayepez7302 4 роки тому +186

    “I am going to be a mom.” You will Sierra!❤️

  • @jessnye26
    @jessnye26 2 роки тому +38

    “Show myself grace” 6:25 and you now have your beautiful grace 💜 I remember watching this when you first put this out but needed to hear this today and see where you are to help myself heal too 💜xx

  • @Andrea-ish
    @Andrea-ish 4 роки тому +236

    I have miscarried as well, it's definitely one of the hardest things i have ever been through. But many years later, I'm 30 weeks into my pregnancy. There is hope. My heart is with you.

    • @cora6434
      @cora6434 4 роки тому +2

      Congratulations love!

    • @Andrea-ish
      @Andrea-ish 4 роки тому

      @@cora6434 thank you. After miscarrying before though, my brain is still trying to process it. Even at 30 weeks, my brain can't believe it's happening lol

    • @maurae8779
      @maurae8779 4 роки тому

      Congratulations

    • @sydneyvixx6983
      @sydneyvixx6983 4 роки тому +1

      Did the fear of losing another baby ever go away for you ? :(

    • @punkybrewstar83
      @punkybrewstar83 4 роки тому

      Yay- congratulations x

  • @jaykaytherapy
    @jaykaytherapy 4 роки тому +122

    My little one would have been 3 at the end of this month. It does get easier to function...but baby never has to be forgotten. We planted flowers in "her" honor. They came up when she would have been born. SO it isn't a constant reminder but a beautiful thing we look forward to each spring.

  • @briannamacquarrie4009
    @briannamacquarrie4009 4 роки тому +311

    I had a miscarriage in September of 2019 and even though I didn’t have any ultrasounds and didn’t get to hear the heartbeat it was still devastating to us. It’s the hardest thing ever to deal with, especially when you haven’t announced it yet and therefore don’t have support that you sometimes need. I’m currently 14 weeks pregnant and I STILL get nervous every ultrasound, I try to stay positive but it’s so nerve wracking. I feel for anyone who has dealt with pregnancy loss

    • @fatash87
      @fatash87 4 роки тому +9

      Congratulations on your rainbow baby ❤️ sending well wishes for the rest of your pregnancy.

    • @samschamaun5784
      @samschamaun5784 4 роки тому +2

      Praying for you 🙏🏼

    • @toocoolforschools4529
      @toocoolforschools4529 4 роки тому +2

      Congratulations on your sweet rainbow baby! 🌈

  • @kaliaatwell6285
    @kaliaatwell6285 4 роки тому +352

    I miscarried almost 5 years ago at 19.
    From one angel baby mother to another: We may never have held them in our arms, but we will always hold them in our hearts. Stay strong, Sierra, you can do this.

    • @courtneythorsby1641
      @courtneythorsby1641 3 роки тому

      I miscarried at 10 weeks and watching this, and then watching your new pregnancy updates, gives me hope.

  • @ceecee9591
    @ceecee9591 4 роки тому +351

    I was 2 months pregnant and I too was due in October and miscarried 2 days ago 😞 I knew the emotional and mental aspect of this would hurt but I didn’t know how much it would hurt physically 😞💔 I’m still in pain and can’t stop thinking about this 😞 I was soooo excited and bought our baby’s first book and onesie and it hurts to look at it 😭 my hubby reassured me we will try again but i hope I will have the heart to try again! Idk if I’m ready to put myself through that again😞
    I love your videos Sierra and you are so relatable, but I’ve never related to you more than ever right now🥺 I know and believe this will happen for us 🙏🏻

    • @vampkitty1365
      @vampkitty1365 4 роки тому +5

      Sending you love, healing and strength. You aren't alone sister 💜

    • @cora6434
      @cora6434 4 роки тому +4

      Sending you lots of love and hope ❤

    • @peachxtaehyung
      @peachxtaehyung 4 роки тому +4

      Oh my gosh i am so so sorry for your loss

    • @sydneyvixx6983
      @sydneyvixx6983 4 роки тому +5

      So sorry girlie😢 stay strong your rainbow will come ❤️

    • @tamaramaria5867
      @tamaramaria5867 4 роки тому +2

      So sorry ❤️

  • @Dwilson167
    @Dwilson167 4 роки тому +378

    This absolutely crushes my heart. I can’t even finish this. Praying for you Sierra. Never knew I could be so devastated for someone I don’t even know

  • @allyhiggs
    @allyhiggs 4 роки тому +147

    I sobbed hysterically through this entire video.
    When I was 19, I had a miscarriage. I was in an extremely abusive relationship, both mentally and physically. Things got really bad and I ended up being pushed down a flight of stairs, he broke my shoulder and I ended up losing the baby. It was one of the hardest times of my life. So I completely understand what you're going through. It takes forever to even somewhat get through what happens. You never fully heal from a miscarriage. It takes a toll on your body and on your personal well-being. It will get easier day by day. Even now two years later I sometimes still think about it myself. But I feel as if I have healed a lot more than before.
    The two of you are such amazing people. I believe in both of you. I think that y'all will be amazing parents one day. You are so strong and passionate about this that I know it will work out for y'all.
    I can't wait until you are sharing with us about your rainbow baby. Prayers and love from me to you. 💕

    • @aliciasummers5048
      @aliciasummers5048 4 роки тому +6

      I'm so sorry, you had to go through such a horrific experience.

    • @cloehhg4102
      @cloehhg4102 4 роки тому +6

      I'm so sorry and You're so strong for getting through this and breaking free. Just keep going 👍🏻❤

  • @jennaeberlin8817
    @jennaeberlin8817 4 роки тому +141

    I know my friends mom had a stillbirth while growing up and they ended up planting a tree that blossoms around the time they found out about the baby which a very special way of honoring.

  • @mya2357
    @mya2357 4 роки тому +381

    My mom had misscarrages and had tried many times to get pregnant before I came. They tried for 7 years before I was born. You will get through this and will be ok. Don’t worry❤️❤️❤️🥰

    • @Saphira_29
      @Saphira_29 4 роки тому +1

      ERI Same with my parents and me finally arriving :)

    • @sanne2299
      @sanne2299 4 роки тому +5

      My parents tried for 6 years, did ivf treatment etc. I was supposed to have a non-identical twin but he/she miscarried. After that my mom had another miscarriage. I was basically a miracle

    • @mya2357
      @mya2357 4 роки тому

      sanne2299 yea my parents say I was a miracle too

    • @TheLizzyMorris
      @TheLizzyMorris 4 роки тому +2

      I know you mean well b it saying “you will be okay. Don’t worry” doesn’t help. FYI

  • @cortneychaput4827
    @cortneychaput4827 4 роки тому +238

    My heart breaks for you. It’s been 3 years since my miscarriage and I still tear up when I think about it. It does get easier. I thought I was never going to be able to smile or enjoy life again. But I do and I am. I was lucky and have been lucky to have had 2 healthy pregnancies and babies since then. Don’t say you’re not a mama! You were pregnant, you will always be a mama. To all the others dealing with a recent miscarriage, it’s not your fault, don’t ever think it was your fault! Don’t be afraid to show your emotions, love yourselves. It will get better. ❤️

    • @adisonlopez181
      @adisonlopez181 4 роки тому +3

      Cortney White yes I agree she was definitely a mom even though she hadn’t given birth yet and seen the baby face to face❤️

  • @Ana_reads
    @Ana_reads 4 роки тому +289

    “These things aren’t suppose to happen”
    They happen , people just don’t talk about it . Thank you for sharing . Been through this my self and it’s scary and shocking and an emotional rollercoaster all together. I wish you the best hun

  • @nannalundgaard6284
    @nannalundgaard6284 4 роки тому +102

    My aunt had a miscarriage in her third trimester, and since it was so far along, she had to give birth. This was in the late 50s, early 60s, and there wasn't even a funeral. It wasn't even something that was talked about then, it just got swepped under the rug. But her grief didn't.
    My mom had a miscarriage in her first trimester before I was born. This was in 1993. Still, there was this air of taboo about it. She felt very alone.
    Now, it's finally possible to break the taboo and talk about it, but it still must be so hard to talk about when you're experiencing so much pain and grief.
    I commend you so much for opening up and sharing your story. To talk about these feelings and the experience is going to help others cope, and if this ever happens to me someday, I'll know I'm not alone in my feelings, I'll know I can talk about it, and I'll know I can feel okay again.

  • @amelia3047
    @amelia3047 4 роки тому +212

    Miscarriage is so normal. I learned how often miscarriages happen in my developmental psychology class (if I remember correctly 17% of fertilized eggs become babies) but it doesn’t take away the pain you are feeling. It’s hard to have something so magical happen to you and then lose it in such a short period of time. I will keep you and Stephen in my prayers while you guys are on your journey

  • @msanchez1527
    @msanchez1527 4 роки тому +203

    I’ve once heard: “Let your pain become your purpose...” You have been in my prayers, hun! Love to you and Stephen! 💛

  • @jordybabe8795
    @jordybabe8795 4 роки тому +446

    I miscarried the day after Christmas 2019 an it’s really hard. Hung in there and don’t give up! Keep trying!

    • @faithcurtis3189
      @faithcurtis3189 4 роки тому +2

      Jordybabe87 !! I miscarried 2 days before Christmas in 2018

    • @youbelong2me
      @youbelong2me 4 роки тому

      I miscarried 2 days after Xmas 2009. ❤️❤️❤️ Hugs to you ladies.

  • @hopeharmony6895
    @hopeharmony6895 4 роки тому +85

    When she said “I will be a mom,” in my head I was like, you already are. Even though little one isn’t with you, they’re looking over you and they are going to take care of you as you continue on this journey 🤍

  • @tawneyemerick4120
    @tawneyemerick4120 4 роки тому +43

    He is like the sweetest husband. You're so lucky to have him by your side.

  • @Styledandorganized
    @Styledandorganized 4 роки тому +120

    Holy shit, I wasn’t even feeling like crying until you said “all I know is that I’m going to be a mom” 😭 of course you will, Sierra!! You have so much love to give and it shows! Stay strong! And remember that all the pain you feel for the loss of that baby only translate to how loved he or she was and will forever be even without you getting to meet face to face. You’ll be that baby’s mom forever 💕

  • @missmoniquejay
    @missmoniquejay 4 роки тому +277

    “These things aren’t supposed to happen” but they do girl! And I am so proud of you raising awareness and being so raw. I’m so sorry that you had to go through this and I hope you reach out to the correct sources for support. Lots of love

  • @alisalaska1786
    @alisalaska1786 4 роки тому +63

    10-15% of pregnancies end in miscarriage. That’s a lot of people experiencing it. It’s so good to see more people talking about it instead of secretly hurting.

  • @sarahbottoms6720
    @sarahbottoms6720 4 роки тому +59

    Having PCOS and having had 2 miscarriages, my heart goes out to you. I will never forget my first pregnancy but am so grateful for the 3 kids that I was able to bring to term.

  • @jacquelinecruz1126
    @jacquelinecruz1126 4 роки тому +246

    “I know that I am going to become a mom” 😢that made me tear up. Take all the time you need. You will definitely come out stronger. I’m so sorry this happened to you. I believe that you will become a mom no matter if the baby actually comes out of you body or not. You will both be amazing parents 🥺 stay strong 🖤

  • @karlieditter
    @karlieditter 4 роки тому +162

    Hi Sierra,
    Just wanted to send you my love! I had a miscarriage when I was 23 and 12 weeks pregnant. It ended in a dilation and evacuation. Almost exactly one year later, I found out I was pregnant again. Now, I’m typing this while I’m looking down at my 2 month old daughter.
    You will absolutely get through this and you guys will become parents. Everyone’s journey is different, please don’t get discouraged. Thank you so much for sharing.

    • @christamarie3512
      @christamarie3512 4 роки тому

      Karlie Ditter 💜

    • @mizbrkmn1
      @mizbrkmn1 4 роки тому

      💕💕💕

    • @arielr2431
      @arielr2431 4 роки тому

      Had mine at 13 and it ended in a D&C as well. My baby was supposed to be due May 22 2020. It’s heartbreaking getting closer to the date

    • @christamarie3512
      @christamarie3512 4 роки тому

      ariel r 💜

  • @MeghanCollins
    @MeghanCollins 4 роки тому +79

    I wasn’t educated on miscarriages before had one back in July 2019 and I blamed myself to the max and nobody talked with me about it cause it made them uncomfortable. It really does need to be talked about more. Luckily for me I got pregnant with my rainbow baby in September 2019. Now I’m 27 weeks and I’m still anxious about something happening. I hope you get your rainbow baby once you’re ready 🥺 🌈

  • @veritytreadwell
    @veritytreadwell 4 роки тому +164

    Anyone that has ever had a miscarriage, stay strong, your time will come and one day and you'll end up with a beautiful baby.
    If you need to talk, I'm here 😊

    • @AllTheCloudsArePink
      @AllTheCloudsArePink 4 роки тому +2

      And even if it doesn’t, you can still survive and have a happy life. The pain never goes away, but if you are lucky you find ways to manage it.

    • @AFamilyBrand
      @AFamilyBrand 4 роки тому +4

      After Ella we had 5 miscarriages it never goes away and you just get reminded everytime someone asked "don't you want more kids?"

    • @veritytreadwell
      @veritytreadwell 4 роки тому

      @@AFamilyBrand Don't worry, the main thing is that you still have a beautiful daughter x

    • @veritytreadwell
      @veritytreadwell 4 роки тому

      @@AllTheCloudsArePink Good advice xx

    • @AllTheCloudsArePink
      @AllTheCloudsArePink 4 роки тому +1

      Verity Treadwell ❤️❤️❤️

  • @caseymintzer
    @caseymintzer 4 роки тому +93

    Sierra, I cried when you said you know you will be a mom. That's so true. I was told I would have infertility issues at a very young age and it took me over 15 years of self destruction to realize that I could actually be a mom and there are options. I'm so happy you are steps ahead of me and already know this :) btw, I'm a mom.

  • @bethany5638
    @bethany5638 4 роки тому +233

    "We couldn't find a heartbeat" is the WORST most devastating thing to hear. I've experienced it twice and it stays with you and that sucks. I'm so sorry that you're going through this but I'm glad that you're talking about it and being open about it.

  • @IceNixie0102
    @IceNixie0102 4 роки тому +248

    Oh, honey, my heart breaks for you. Congrats on being a mom, even for just a few weeks. Because yes, you are a mom. Even if you never got to hold your baby, they were there, growing inside you. They existed, and their loss is unimaginable. This is so hard, and next time there'll be even more fear (so it'll get worse before it gets better) but I'm so hopeful for you

  • @niccimorrida6373
    @niccimorrida6373 4 роки тому +37

    I had a stillbirth at 35 weeks pregnant with my first child. He would be 7 this year. It's still so flipping hard to deal with. I do have 2 beautiful little girls since I lost him and those 2 pregnancies were terrifying for me, but they make it easier to deal with the pain.
    Also, you're a mom and your little one is in Heaven, you'll see him or her again one day. Sending you love.

  • @dawntucker1131
    @dawntucker1131 4 роки тому +155

    My daughter was stillborn 5 years ago when I was 7 months pregnant. My Aliyah would have been 5 years old on March 1st. My heart breaks every day, I miss her so much. She's the tiniest love of my life, and my only child. But she made me a mother, and I am so grateful for her. The day I birthed her was the day I said good bye to her, it was both the best and worst day of my life.
    First, I want to say I am so sorry for your loss. Second, you are a mother, don't ever let anyone tell you that you aren't. You carried a child, you and your husband are parents. Third, yes y'all will be ok, but 5 years from now if you're still crying, if you're still sad, know that you have every right to feel, and express that. Losing a child is a pain beyond any other, and no one can tell you how to grieve or that you've grieved too long.
    So much love to y'all. My heart is shattered for you, truly. Remember to love and lean on each other through this. You need each other more than ever right now ❤ much love and many hugs, sweet girl

    • @BatyBug
      @BatyBug 4 роки тому +5

      Dawn Tucker I’m so sorry. Much love to you 💕

    • @YoGirlMiamiChannel2
      @YoGirlMiamiChannel2 4 роки тому +3

      😓😓so sorry

    • @iselaherrera7405
      @iselaherrera7405 4 роки тому +2

      Prayers for Your broken hart

    • @alignthestars
      @alignthestars 4 роки тому +4

      Dawn, I know this comment is intended for Sierra, but I can't tell you how much I needed to hear this. I've had 5 miscarriages and no live births, and it's so heartbreaking how much you don't feel like a "real" mom or like you should hurt as much because the baby wasn't born living. We're still trying, but it's so, so hard. Thank you so, so much for sharing. It makes people like me feel less alone in the world

    • @dawntucker1131
      @dawntucker1131 4 роки тому +1

      @@alignthestars Sydney Heinert I am praying you get to bring home a little one soon. I've only ever had Aliyah, and never been pregnant besides with her. Her father and I divorced last year. He simply just wanted someone to take care of him, and me having another child would have gotten in the way of that, and he would have had to step up again during my pregnancy. I have since started dating, and have a great boyfriend, and he knows of my struggles through my marriage, and losing my daughter. I'm scared to death that if the day comes that I remarry, and the man I'm with wants a child that I may not be able to give that to him, and I don't want to have to go through losing another child. And the not feeling like a "real mom" Ugh! I can't tell you how much it hurts to have birthed a child, and be treated as if she never existed. I have several stories of people just being down right nasty to me during Mothers Day events, and family outings. To hear that my cousins child was the "first" great grandchild, or great niece tears my heart apart. My younger sister is the only person in my family who has made me feel like a mother, and I'm so grateful for her. I don't think I could go through this without her.
      If you ever need to talk or anything feel free to message me. And to anyone else who reads this, the same. I never want to know what it's like to go through something, and not support someone who went through the same or similar. And I'm sure you may know, but there are lots of Facebook pages if you ever need support, and most of them are private so you can post without outside comments. Much love to yall who read this, and thanks for the condolences

  • @tessaturner335
    @tessaturner335 4 роки тому +430

    “I will be a mom”
    You’re already a mom Sierra ❤️

    • @katie66990
      @katie66990 4 роки тому +6

      Tessa Turner sooo much love for this post! 10000% agree! ❤️❤️❤️❤️

    • @purplehair7224
      @purplehair7224 4 роки тому +4

      Yes. Already a mom 😊

    • @albernpanda621
      @albernpanda621 4 роки тому +1

      Yes!❤

    • @amandamercedes3480
      @amandamercedes3480 4 роки тому +2

      I was just about to say! This ^^^ exactly! All the love to you mamas! 💞

    • @gripitl6878
      @gripitl6878 4 роки тому +1

      Tessa Turner So true..

  • @meagandaniellemorse858
    @meagandaniellemorse858 4 роки тому +13

    I had a miscarriage the day before thanksgiving in 2017. I ended up conceiving again 3 months later. I’m currently laying in bed with my 16 month old son in my arms watching this video. I, as well as so many other moms, know your pain! Don’t lose hope!!💕❤️

  • @cirstie_crossing
    @cirstie_crossing 4 роки тому +98

    My miscarriage is still the hardest thing I have ever been through, and I’m a cancer survivor. I think it’s about the control. There’s things I could do to fight the cancer, there’s nothing you can do to prevent a miscarriage in most cases. I also have PCOS and since my miscarriage, I have carried on to have 4 beautiful healthy babies 🖤 I wish you the best in continued healing 🖤

  • @someoneawesome578
    @someoneawesome578 4 роки тому +225

    It’s so important to talk about miscarriage and the emotions that comes along
    Every year in May my mother became depressed, after a couple of years she realized it probably was because she had a miscarriage in may and after she started therapy it became better
    Lots of love to all ❤️
    So so so sorry of my English, it’s not my first language

    • @ThatOneLadyOverHere
      @ThatOneLadyOverHere 4 роки тому +14

      Your English is great! As in I never would have guessed that you weren't a native English speaker. Speaking another language is hard (I would know, I also speak Spanish) so props to you.

    • @mlmj1994
      @mlmj1994 4 роки тому +1

      Lol your formal writing is better than some native speakers 😂

    • @OfficialAshlynnBabb
      @OfficialAshlynnBabb 4 роки тому +1

      Your English is great!!! ✊🏻

    • @someoneawesome578
      @someoneawesome578 4 роки тому

      Kewtie Thank you! ^^
      People on the internet can be so grumpy if it’s not perfect -.-‘

    • @someoneawesome578
      @someoneawesome578 4 роки тому

      Marissa hahah 😂 yay thanks 🤪

  • @Allison_647
    @Allison_647 4 роки тому +382

    I had a miscarriage this Valentine’s Day. My heart aches with you, but we will get through this and eventually become what we were meant to be.

    • @DJoy222
      @DJoy222 4 роки тому +1

      💕😔💕

    • @BeautyLit
      @BeautyLit 4 роки тому +12

      Allison Hoffman I also miscarried that day. It was my second miscarriage, no love children yet. We keep trying until the pain of the loss overcomes the pain of not having children at all.

    • @felicitylittler
      @felicitylittler 4 роки тому +10

      Im only 15 but my cousin had 5 miscarriages but now she has 2 beautiful girls so even though its very tough but there is always hope

    • @JuliaSteindl
      @JuliaSteindl 4 роки тому +2

      Momma I feel for you. I had a miscarriage the same day. It was my worst nightmare. I was 10 weeks. I just had a little spotting, but as soon as I saw it i realized I haven't had nausea or any other symptoms. I was by myself when the ER doctor told me. My husband thought I was just overreacting. I dont want to celebrate valentines day ever again. Seeing everyone so happy... I wanted to just die that day.

    • @mapirojas
      @mapirojas 4 роки тому +1

      Allison Hoffman omg I’m so sorry I hope you are so brave you’ll get through this ❤️❤️🥺

  • @theeasydiy
    @theeasydiy 4 роки тому +90

    Someone has probably said this already, but I wanted to say it again.
    When you said “I will be a mom, just not from this pregnancy” I want you to know, Sierra you are a mom. You carried a baby inside of you. It might not have been a full term pregnancy, but you’re still a mom.

  • @sylviagonzalez954
    @sylviagonzalez954 4 роки тому +215

    I had a miscarriage late June 2019 and at first I just wanted to deal on my own and grief silently but I ended up posting on social media for the fact that not many speak about and I’m still working through it especially since my due date was March 20th but having family and friends help my husband and I process and share their stories were such a blessing. I know you will get through this and you continue to be in my prayers 🙏

    • @sharonsnipes8792
      @sharonsnipes8792 4 роки тому

      Sylvia Gonzalez I’m sorry!! Hope all is well!!

  • @laurelfish4985
    @laurelfish4985 4 роки тому +80

    One thing that my husband reminded me of when we miscarried 3 weeks ago was that we are still parents. Our baby passed away but that doesn't stop us from being parents to that child. So remember that YOU ARE A MOM. Don't forget that. Families are forever and don't lose the faith. God bless you.

  • @tasha4192
    @tasha4192 4 роки тому +169

    I’m so sorry Sierra. I can’t even imagine how you must be feeling. Take however much time you want off from UA-cam and media!

  • @jessicat5558
    @jessicat5558 4 роки тому +31

    As someone who’s experienced one on her first pregnancy as well, my heart goes out to you. I cried watching this because I remember those feelings and I would never wish them on anyone. It’s true what you said, how there’s always that piece of sadness, but learning how to live on from that. My heart goes out to you and your husband and I wish nothing but good things in the future for you both ❤️

  • @chend4924
    @chend4924 4 роки тому +161

    Take the time you need to grieve then when you’re ready try again. I had 2 miscarriages then my beautiful daughter, then another miscarriage and I’m now 33 weeks with another daughter. It’s without doubt the worst thing that I’ve ever gone through. Look after yourself and your husband and be strong,
    Also thank you for speaking openly about this. I felt so isolated and alone when i was going through it and even now I feel a lot of people don’t quite ‘get it’. Speaking openly is the only way to raise awareness and end the stigma x

    • @fencingjedi
      @fencingjedi 4 роки тому +3

      This gives me some hope. We had two miscarriages last year (my first two pregnancies). Docs put me on 3 months of progesterone therapy, so we'll see how it goes in April. Congrats on your baby girl! On all your babies, really =)

    • @chend4924
      @chend4924 4 роки тому +2

      I’m so glad it gives you some hope. It’s been a journey of ups and downs but we got there in the end. Good luck with your progesterone therapy, I hope it works for you x

  • @jess-tu6jc
    @jess-tu6jc 4 роки тому +45

    I miscarried less than a week before you.
    Thanks for stating a conversation on a topic that is soooo common but not talked about. I haven't watched the video yet, but I will later when I have time to be emotional (lol)
    Love you 💕

  • @sarahar4702
    @sarahar4702 4 роки тому +38

    that "I know I'm going to be a mom." ❤️
    definitely and you will be a great one

  • @pierskryslak6048
    @pierskryslak6048 4 роки тому +42

    It is so important to talk about this. Women need to know that they aren’t alone and a lot of women have miscarriages. Thank you for putting your story out there ❤️❤️❤️

  • @hopesutopia4458
    @hopesutopia4458 4 роки тому +181

    I miscarried in July 2019.... I think it’s good for you to come out and talk about it... I did the same on my social media. I didn’t know about it but after I talked about it a lot of my friends had had one. Nobody talks about it. It’s so sad like 1 out of 4 pregnancies end in miscarriage and no one talks about it. We need more awareness. Thank you for this video Sierra. I will pray for you and Steven ❤️ you guys are so strong and are there for each other ❤️❤️❤️

    • @MarinaKaFai
      @MarinaKaFai 4 роки тому +3

      I hope you are doing better.

    • @DeniseDCoy
      @DeniseDCoy 4 роки тому +1

      Same thing happened to me! I had a miscarriage August 2019. It took me a while to tell my friends and many of them had gone thru it and I never knew about it. It felt good to talk about it! Im finally getting ready to try again! I really want my daughter to have a brother or sister!!

    • @CorkyLG5889
      @CorkyLG5889 4 роки тому +1

      Same for me, July of 2019 and I was so surprised to hear of family and friends who had dealt with the same issue. So crazy sometimes to think about still...

    • @varriejohnson
      @varriejohnson 4 роки тому +1

      i miscarried in June 2019 and didn’t talk about it all. i cried and grieved for months. i still have the ultrasound photos and i just go through day by day. however there’s hope because i’m 12 weeks today with pregnancy #2. literally every time i wipe i check and thank God for not seeing any red. might be crazy but i’m so paranoid and it actually helps ?

    • @hopesutopia4458
      @hopesutopia4458 4 роки тому

      Marina Ka-Fai thank you! Yes I am doing better. I’ve come to terms with it.... it was hard because at first I kept blaming myself but there’s nothing I could’ve done to prevent it...

  • @brooklynnb1015
    @brooklynnb1015 4 роки тому +38

    Sierra, I know EXACTLY what you are going through. Having the same issues and countless ovulation strip boxes and dr appointments and still 2 miscarriages. But at the end of it all we still tried and finally got our rainbow baby that is perfect! Never give up and remember to never stay in the dark place after a miscarriage, your baby just needed to be in heaven earlier than expected

  • @jamie6318
    @jamie6318 4 роки тому +217

    I am so sorry, Sierra. This just breaks my heart. I can’t imagine how you and all the other mommies that go through this feel. You are so loved and have so many supporters. And you’re already a mom to that sweet baby that was once in your belly and I hope you find peace in that. Praying for you and your hubby. 💗

  • @abigailroy7577
    @abigailroy7577 4 роки тому +33

    I just can’t wait for when your children years down the road watch this and say wow look at how much my mommy loved me even before I was born or wow look at how strong my mommy is.

  • @ashleerivera
    @ashleerivera 4 роки тому +59

    I had my second miscarriage in November 2019, at 13 weeks. I'm now 8 weeks along with my (hopefully) second rainbow baby. I also had a miscarriage September 2016 before conceiving and successfully delivering my son in August 2017. My heart breaks for you. I just wanted to say though, that you ARE a mom. Just because you didn't get to bring that baby home, doesn't mean they didn't exist. Doesn't mean that they mean any less to you than any child you WILL bring home in the future. Don't let people who don't know first hand what you're going through, make you feel like that life didn't matter. Celebrate that little one, and always remember them. You are so strong!

  • @strings_better_left_to_fra9534
    @strings_better_left_to_fra9534 4 роки тому +85

    I also had a miscarriage. It was so hard.. I'm so sorry you had to go through this. Sending you love.

  • @hannah-mary
    @hannah-mary 4 роки тому +129

    You are incredible. You said that there was no good that could come out of this tragedy...so you MADE a good by sharing your story that will be a help to others. That is strength. I’m inspired by you.

    • @brinaf2857
      @brinaf2857 4 роки тому

      So true. She's amazing. ❤

  • @nalies13
    @nalies13 Рік тому +2

    Just went through my first pregnancy and it was a miscarriage. it’s hard not to feel sad and like I will never be a mom, but I loved how you said “I will be a mom” and I’m going to take that with me, thank you 🤍

  • @amandarogers3403
    @amandarogers3403 4 роки тому +20

    Something that I always say to myself when I am in a depressive state is "You will not have to do this exact day again". It brings me peace to know that tomorrow is a new day and I can try again for a good day. You are so strong. Thank you so much for sharing and always being open.

  • @kirapetersen987
    @kirapetersen987 4 роки тому +83

    I’m so sorry you’re going through this Sierra. My husband and I miscarried at 6 weeks last April. We’ve struggled with infertility for 4 years and losing our baby was devastating.
    I’m still trying to figure it out, and grief hits me at random times.
    I’m glad you have Stephen to support you. I will be praying for you both. 💛

    • @pvrpl313
      @pvrpl313 4 роки тому

      I'm so sorry for your loss ❤

    • @kirapetersen987
      @kirapetersen987 4 роки тому

      Chloe S. Thank you so much. 💛

  • @dorap6895
    @dorap6895 4 роки тому +151

    I’m so sorry that you and Stephen are going through this, you’re both very strong and very loving, just don’t give up

  • @katherinegouwens5769
    @katherinegouwens5769 Рік тому +2

    Sierra, I’ve been watching you thru my own 3 year journey to parenthood and going thru the miscarriage of my first right now, this video is incredibly comforting and helpful. Thank you for being so raw and vulnerable. You expressing this in the past has impacted me in the present and it is such a gift ❤

  • @RKasprzyk24
    @RKasprzyk24 4 роки тому +117

    I have two children and when trying for my third I miscarried twice, one being on Thanksgiving day. I had also not told many people that I was pregnant so I felt I had to suffer in silence. I still don't have the heart to try again after those two losses. Thank you for telling your story and im so sorry you had to experience this. You will help so many feel less alone. You are amazing!

    • @kopernik_elfka
      @kopernik_elfka 4 роки тому +1

      Give yourself some time. Not to much, but not to little.
      Maybe you should do some blood tests: you have two children, so it's rather not a matter of DNA, maybe some hormones? Don't give up, try to get up and grow strong :-). Good luck!

  • @mustbeinwantofawife
    @mustbeinwantofawife 4 роки тому +76

    Be kind to your body Sierra. You've been so brave, both to go through this and to speak so openly about it. I'm not quite religious but I don't think there's been a day gone by since you posted about the miscarriage that I haven't thought about you and Stephen. Sending you so much love 💛💛💛

  • @mimi-xx
    @mimi-xx 4 роки тому +117

    my heart goes out to you, and to everyone in the comments that has experienced something similar.

  • @amanda.elizabeth
    @amanda.elizabeth 4 роки тому +16

    honey, just remember that no matter “how far along” the baby is or was, it was still your baby and that made you a mom!! so even though that sweet child didn’t get to see the world or call you “mom”, you’re still a mom and that is something to celebrate!! 🤍

  • @samantharhodes8946
    @samantharhodes8946 4 роки тому +29

    Stephen's attitude during the beginning of this is so heartwarming ❤️ I've been there too, you're not alone ❤️
    Edit to add: you ARE a mom. You have an angel baby, and can absolutely say that you do have that baby in heaven. ❤️ It will get easier

  • @samantharuiz3543
    @samantharuiz3543 4 роки тому +115

    i can’t wait for the happiest outcome when you have a little rainbow baby

  • @madisonhanson2002
    @madisonhanson2002 4 роки тому +68

    im so glad that you are seeing a therapist that specializes in pregnancy loss. please grieve the way that YOU need to!!!! love you

  • @melissaborelli4868
    @melissaborelli4868 4 роки тому +10

    I had a miscarriage when I was newly married & didn’t even know I was pregnant. I then became pregnant two years later, I bled throughout that pregnancy but all the stress was worth it because I have an amazing 16 year old daughter! You WILL be a mom and an amazing one at that!!!

  • @meganpaintz4599
    @meganpaintz4599 4 роки тому +91

    Just to lighten the mood on this subject... When I was little my mom tried explaining to me that she “lost a baby” and I wrote a whole story in one of my classes how my mom lost her baby at Walmart and never found it. My teacher called my mom after she read it. 🤦🏻‍♀️

    • @Sammic1215
      @Sammic1215 4 роки тому +1

      I'm sorry that's funny

  • @jasmindee655
    @jasmindee655 4 роки тому +44

    I miscarried at 5 weeks after not even realizing I was pregnant and it was a horrific experience. I lost so much blood at the hospital that if I was just one unit lower I'd have been kept in. It was some of the worst pain (physically and emotionally) that I'd ever been through. My partner at the time was extremely abusive and I've accepted and am almost happy that I never bought a life into the lifestyle I was leading. I am now with the most beautiful, caring and incredible man and we're going to start trying next year and I can't wait. I also have PCOS and am worried about another miscarriage but there is nothing to do than keep going. You're so strong and brave and you're so young! You will survive this journey. ♥️

  • @odettepeters7493
    @odettepeters7493 4 роки тому +65

    Sharing this was hard but there so many women that feel so alone when this happens. Bless you both.

  • @tiffanyferg
    @tiffanyferg 4 роки тому +36

    All the love to you Sierra 💛💛💛

  • @barbiehightestes4076
    @barbiehightestes4076 4 роки тому +30

    Sierra, I’m praying for inexplainable peace for you and Steven and your family during this time... you are so loved and admired and you sharing your real experience is going to touch so many lives. Thank you for trusting us with your heart.

  • @danielachamorro8783
    @danielachamorro8783 4 роки тому +47

    When you said you couldn't imagine trying again, I felt that so hard and I'm not even a mom. My own mom miscarried twice before having my sister and I didn't understand or know for so many years, so thank you for talking about it. You will be a mom

  • @katquiroga
    @katquiroga 4 роки тому +102

    It broke my heart when you said you wouldnt be a mother through this pregnancy. Girl.. you are a mother juat cause your baby isnt i this world with us right now doesnt mean you arent 🥰

  • @marykathryn7584
    @marykathryn7584 4 роки тому +26

    Miscarriages happen A LOT and they need to be talked about so people feel less alone in their experience!

  • @calistanystrom
    @calistanystrom 4 роки тому +26

    My husband and I lost our baby girl at 20 weeks because of an unexpected premature labor. It doesn’t matter when you loose a baby. It could be at week 5 or week 38, a baby is a baby and it’s probably the hardest thing you’ll ever go through. Trust me I know. But thank you for bringing awareness. I feel like people don’t know how common miscarriages and infant loss really is. It needs to be talked about more.

  • @xobellasdavis
    @xobellasdavis 4 роки тому +50

    “All I know is I’m going to be a mom” 😭 you’re so strong!! You will get through this and when your time to be a mommy comes, whichever way you become a mom, you’re going to be a great mommy! ❤️

  • @lauren.13
    @lauren.13 4 роки тому +100

    I felt weird about hitting like on this video, but we are all so proud of you both for opening up about this!

    • @juliettagrey6678
      @juliettagrey6678 4 роки тому +2

      I just wished she would've taken more time for herself.

    • @Kayjillypoo
      @Kayjillypoo 4 роки тому +1

      I know social media makes it seem like you do, but you really don't have to "like" or "dislike" everything.

  • @christinamiller6011
    @christinamiller6011 4 роки тому +35

    As someone who went through 4 miscarriages in one year, one ending in a D&C, I turned to prayer and study of God's Word. No one and nothing else could fill the hurt and loss I felt. During that time, I found myself ministering to others who have also been through miscarriage. It is more common than we think because women don't really talk about it. I was going through fertility treatments at the time, so the blessing I have is an ultrasound of each baby I lost. They are framed and with photos of my daughter and son. My daughter knows she has brothers and sisters in heaven. ❤️